The Narcissist Pretends To Move On | Pep talk
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F them! Never again. Stay strong. That person you thought you loved NEVER EXISTED. That entity who took over that brain and body is NOT the person you thought they were. Run.
I divorced him after 31 years … divorced 2023 🙏
That person existed. That's the cold hard truth.
@@CharlyGonzalez-s4x no it was a shared fantasy they created in your mind you got duped cleverly. So stop being a cry bby
You cannot accept a narcissist back. If you do, you are telling them their actions are acceptable. Protect yourself!
I thought tha one that left me was special till I fount out she was a dope fiend
I’d rather deal with a junky slit than a drunk.
Of course neither are high on the list….
@@user-kcrpine 🤣
The childhood history is nonsense
Lol yeah I acceptor her back and a year later she did the samething she did the first time lmao I learned my lesson you can't accept a narcissistic person back especially one who think they're doing nothing wrong.
I gave a narcissist their own treatment. Discarded them and went completely no contact.
Same 😁
Same
Acting since then ..... 😂
You can't help a narcissist. These are childhood traumas....you can't change them. Only them can change them
We can change though...
NPD is treatable if they will realise they have it and go and have that treatment.
No it's no treatment only if you have traits .... it's a wrap if you have NPD for one you not gone admit it . Do your homework
@@filmedbymojo1503 it’s not do yours doof
An exorcism
The narcissist is a person looking for that missing side of them that their parents didn't give them.
Accurate description
They are busy finding their identity. They will pretend cuz they are a shapeshifter try to fit in any situation they are in.
Well, I think that can be the case sometimes. But I'm a Black Sheep & a lot of the time The Black Sheep Of The Family is actually an empath & the only light in their family.
@@wendywehner2320 I'm the black sheep in my family as well. The narcissist is probably giving clues about their childhood if you are paying attention. I wasn't really paying attention, but when it all came to a head, I could see where it all started and the reason was because one of her parents was a narcissist. This runs in families as a child is ignored by the narcissist parent and then actually becomes just like them.
Pathetic
After months and months of silent treatment she randomly showed up
And I gave her nothing, didn't acknowledge her presence, not a "hi", not even a nod, I literally pretended as if she wasn't even there. She left and I haven't heard from her since, this was 4 months ago.
It was the best feeling ever to literally not give her an ounce and pretend she doesn't even exist.
Don't give them anything, she had the nerve to say that she attempted suicide after our breakup. SHE DISCARDED ME!
How does that even make sense?
These people are monsters.
❤Unbelievable and good for you with staying strong!
I starve all of them out on a daily basis.
Beautiful! 😃💗🙏✌
Indifference - for the first time!
Well done and be proud of yourself. And being discarded as well - as it causes another layer of pain.
Her comment was just more manipulation at it's finest, and be able to project it onto you. You didn't take the bate! Way to go!
My ex told me he tried to commit suicide 3 times it was all for sympathy and when I realised what he was I never believed a word he was a pathological liar.
this is absolutely sickening. as if there wasn’t already enough evil in the world. dear lord help us 😔😭
Agreed…
I was in love with a narcissist for 13 months & she totally destroyed me and took everything ! My friends here in NYC are helping me heal thank god it's so hard now for me I am slowly rebuilding my life ! I was in love with an illusion she turned out to be the darkest person I have ever met ! This whole ordeal is just so EVIL!
I lived in Astoria, Queens for 5 years as an out-of-town transplant and let me tell you. NYC friends are great friends to have during rough times. You are in good hands, sir! My heart was also ripped in half by my ex narc. Her constant love bombing and affection for me was all an illusion and I fell for the okie doke. Sending you healing vibes and love from Chicago! ❤️
Trying being with one for 9 years
Yea but once you realize you can heal and we never will. Then you understand
@@user-rr4gb3wk3wYou must empath 😊
Same here. I was with my narc for 18 months. Lost everything , and been split up for 2 months now trying to move on and rebuild.
as an empath it was hard to let go because of the love and trauma bonding,,,this was my first experience with such a person and never saw it coming,,,,these kinds of people are dangerous and can do serious harm,,I am now a survivor and it took me some time to get my soul back but what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger,,,,,try to remember you are not alone even if you feel that you are,,,,better days are ahead and stay no contact
Thank you., I’m middle of the process, Still have contact. No Choice.. will go No contact. When time allows.. !
The discard is excruciating.. after years of full integrity from my side!
Empaths are just sensitive and maladaptive. That's all
Brilliant going through this @ the moment dated a bràsilian lady from Sao Paulo
She used me from day one for 10 months offered her everything ,she is a ungrateful B-- lost my job through stress
Being empath aswell it hurts still 2 months after the break up I'm still hurting
Things I loved about her I can't remove in my head 😡
Thank you I definitely needed to hear this!!!
Never think empath is a good thing. It comes from a rocky childhood. It's like the kid trying to keep his divorcing parents together. Narcs can smell your trauma.
I don’t care what he wants I left him and moved on. One bite of the apple was enough for me. It’s on us if we return
If you break-up with them they won't let go.
If they sense you what to break-up, they do it first and want to punish you after.
If they discard you, you need to thank God!
If you take them back, you will learn what hell is like.
What a terrifying condition for healthy people to be involved with.
Yes
No-contact for over a year now - best decision I've arguably made in my 30yrs of life
I guarantee mine won’t come back because I will not allow it, I will never go through the heartbreak and misery that I went through for 30 years ever again.
They are never really “WITH” anyone.
Yep phoenix rising
@@joshuaanzalone2060 My narc actually had a Phoenix rising tattoo!!!
So well put
Yea oh okey... Thier with everyone
Like my husband said, always have new friends but never an old friend by their side
My ex use to tell me “it is not that I don’t love you, i just don’t love who you are right now.” Didn’t realize this was used to just keep me lingering around. I was so pathetic.
Me too
He told me he didn't love me, he stayed for my money until I had no more money and left for another.
I had childhood trauma, but I'm not a narc. I grew up as an empath, compassion.
Exactly!! Never go back. Just move on with your life 👍💯
This is exactly what I went through with my wife for the last 12 years. She cheated on me over and over w several of her exes and always blamed me. Since I was married to her with a little girl I always wanted to try to work things out when she would come back. I've never been through anything so devastating in my life and had no idea these kind of people even existed until I learned about narcissists. Anyone who has ever gone through this has seen hell on Earth in my heart goes out to them. Great video in great explanation. Thank you
….just as much as they pretend to be human… their poor minds are in a hell of their own making. My empath heart still feel sad for them all - at a safe safe safe Distance
This video is spot on. It’s been over 2 years and it felt like I would never get here after the discard, but I am finally free. Videos like this helped me so much.
I can honestly say idc, I dont want him because I know I’m worth more. It took time, healing (Really receiving a new life in Christ), therapy..I laugh again, I act silly again, I’m ENJOYING myself when a couple of years ago, I was DEVASTATED.
I truly thank God and the help of people like Anoushka.
Amen! Jesus is the Answer. God bless you and take care..
@@freeyourselfoftoxicity Yes! Thank you. You as well.
It took you two years to get over the narcissist?!
I know the feeling! I'm happy for you! Keep living ✨️
How long have u been in therapy? What's helped the most? Its been over 2 yrs for me too?
I entered a relationship with someone who had been in a relationship with a narcissist. She knew that he was wrong for her… Yet she always went back to him.
Trauma bonded ....
It’s bursts of intense focus, attention and energy directed on you NOT love. It’s infatuation, limerence or flavour of the day.
HEAVY on the limerence!
Was married to the narc for 23 yrs 8 yrs ago he ran off and remarried, he told one of my daughters he needed a roof over his head, he also told her that he knows he 'fkd up' I'm so glad he left it truly was a blessing in disguise.
No contact, means no contact. Which include social media as well. Even if you're following them on social media and vice versa, it's an open door. This also sends a message of not being totally over with it. You have to be intentional and go cold turkey. Get your life back.
💯💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜
just get off social media period.its very narcasistic in itself.
Get involved with as many narcissists as possible keep giving them all supply sit back and watch what happens once you introduce them all to each other. It's a beautiful thing to experience.
What?
@@josievaccaro in 1992 I was dating 5 women at the same time all of them had overwhelming narcissistic tendencies not clinical but strong tendencies I didn't hide the fact that my choice was not to be in a Monogamous relationship this infuriated them because there love bombing wouldn't work they looked at me as they ultimate challenge I gave them all supply telling them all every day how beautiful they were though phone calls the women all plotted against each other with the most devious actions against each other I continued this for close to two years and it was the most wonderful time of my life mark my words within the next 10 year Psychologists will find out that women not men are the most narcissistic like gender on the planet the reason they don't have any figures is few clinical narcissists will ever go for treatment these women were chosen after I spent 7 years prior with a true clinical narcissist women that abused me for a large portion of my early adult life so this was my way of healing and I still look for female narcissists today and love dating them because I know from over 30 years of experience what to do to them!
Probably blow the roof off because of all the hot air! 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
@@elcee7800 😂😂😂😂
😂😂 oooh….. now that sounds divine. 😂
Narcissists have Attachment Disorders. We were Targeted and had to learn the hard way. Your videos bring so much awareness to help us understand and move towards living a much happier life, free from abuse and chaos. Thank you Anoushka!💕
BULLSHIT. Thier behaviour is NOT an illness.
Wow this is spot on,she discarded me 4 months ago , nothing said no closure completely ghosted .She just recently started making a .little contact she sent me a sad song at 3am and came by my house unannounced one day it's scary how many narcissistic box's she checked how did I survive 14 yrs
The reason for all this is the narcissist fears rejection. When they know you see through them that you grey rock them they go away. But they wonder nervously whether you're ready to take them back. So after a while they will try and find out if you've forgotten or forgiven all their previous transgression
Oh darn… I thought I’d be free of him forever. I gray rocked him and told him he had NPD, so I was hoping that would be enough to get rid of him forever. He has had a new supply for awhile.
Excellent video, thank you for explaining that they not only can’t attach, but they can’t detach either. That’s what is so confusing.
I put a stop to it, it’s been two years and despite us having a child together, he hasn’t contacted me since. I’ve never been more happier. I owe all my thanks to him genuinely, because had he not of treated us the way he did, I would have never ended up on the path of self discovery or self worth that I am now on.
This helps so much. My ex had moved on with her "situationship FWB" that I "shouldn't worry about" two months after I ended things (it was a reverse discard - making my life a living hell until I left, so she can be the innocent one).
I was devastated about it, but this video helped me realize that no, she hasn't actually moved on. She just can't stand to be alone. Makes me like her even less.
I have met many people call their ex's narcissists...it makes me wonder who has actually dealt with one and who has simply felt bitter coming out of a relationship that may have been toxic on some level. It's important to note that most people exude narcissistic behaviors...but it doesn't make that person a narcissist.
If you have 5 or more narcissistic traits & they go on for a long period of time, that makes you a narcissist.
Doesn't mean they are a narcassist full blown but they can have a lot of narcassistic traits and you see the red flags, the key is how the break up happens, if you are in a relationship with someone who is normal the break up will be amicable in most circumstances, it's nothing compared to what a break up with a narc is, the red flags are in what they say, they can't help it when they let the mask slip, they will say the most brutal things you can imagine and that's the tell tale sign because the things they say a normal person wouldn't, their excuse for this is this, it just come out of my mouth, but let's be honest nothing so brutal just comes out it's always in their minds and they are always thinking what they really say, I've been through this and am going through this right now, another thing I noticed is this, they will hold you to a much higher standard than anyone else, they all get a pass on things that are far worse than anything you have done but are giving a pass
I think the lack of empathy and inability to regulate their emotions and pathological lying are good signs....the rest is the stages they all do repetitively ...they are fake.
In my case, I knew about narcissism, but I didn’t know there was a subcategory called covert narcissism. I left the toxic relationship and he worked on me for months to try get me back. I had started counseling immediately after his discard and I finally told him I’d give him ONE chance for us to be together again. I told him, I’m in counseling and will stay with my counselor, you will get your own counselor, and we will get a joint one. We both have to be 100% committed to our individual and joint counselors and go EVERY SINGLE WEEK. He agreed. During the months of counseling, my counselor was pointing out his comments and behaviors, and labeled them for what they were. The lightbulb went off in my head and I asked for more info about how he could be a narc when he isn’t explosive and physically violent. She told me about covert narcissism and to research it. I was floored. I went to my next session, discussed with the counselor, then went to the next joint session and baldly labeled his behaviors. The joint counselor looked relieved and encouraged me to continue doing what I was doing. He told my ex what he had been saying all along-keep going to your individual counselor and Lee working on learning to recognize and appropriately express your emotions and take responsibility for them (and more). After that session, I completely withdrew, removed myself from any/all associations with him, and it’s been almost 3 years. I know from others and one direct hoover attempt, he would try suck me in and output me through the toxic, crazy meat grinder again. Never gonna happen. ZERO CONTACT FOREVER!
@@tonyconnor5691 My breakup with an ex was bad and a lot of mean things were hurled my way. I never thought he was a narc though....as his anger management issues were always present (but ignored by myself). I myself displayed some narc tendencies as I often played the victim and failed to apologize when things went wrong. The important thing is to self-reflect and improve over time. I don't think a true narc will ever able to realize that their behaviors are a problem. I hope you have better relationships in your future. :)
I ended 10 year relationship with malignant narc 5 months ago, 3 months full no contact. Broke trauma bond. I am sure he is with someone he was grooming while we were together. But I know I have caused him a very deep narc injury that will be a festering wound for the rest of his life. He will never heal. And I am doing the hard work of recovery. If you are struggling, you can do it. Hang on. It gets better.
How did you caused him injury when he was the narc? Help me understand.
@@kingbizzle1357 I took away his control in a calm calculated way. Broke it off without tears, without rage. I gave him zero supply. He tried every manipulation I had seen before. I was and continue to be indifferent. Being insignificant is poison to him.
Doesn't get any easier 3 years for me, first two years she made my life hell, past year im still recovering
Sounds like you are happy to inflict pain on another… sounds like you are the narc… females 😅
@@barneyrubble8839 sorry you are still suffering. Best of luck on your healing journey
This is so true!! I let him back in, not recognizing that he was a narcissist. He came back for his supply, but after 7 months found someone else to feed it - an old friend from HS that he reconnected with who was having trouble in her marriage. He became her “counselor” - just what he needed to fill his supply, while gradually pulling away from me. Even though I told him it hurt me, he still kept talking to her daily. When I realized his relationship with her was more important than his relationship with me, I knew I had to end it. 😢I’m having a hard time cutting him off completely, and now he sends me messages like he cares. He’s hoping I’ll be there later, I suppose. Listening to your video is giving me the strength to block him in every way. Thank you! ❤
Yes, don’t open the door again. They’ll only do something more heartless than the previous time when you closed the door.
I feel you. I went through something similar. I'm in the dumps.
You have people here with good minds on their shoulders. Go back to the nar = double triple broken unfortunately… or fortunately for you because u have this knowledge . Knowledge is power.
Get up, girl! U r a queen!
This is easily the best breakdown and explanation of what a narcissist does and why they do it, that I've ever heard. I've never heard it explained so simply and so completely before.
4:48 - 5:11 is so spot on. My ex was doing that all the time and when I told her that I can't understand why she feel need to keep in touch with her former partner because for me it's like giving yourself a backup plan. She got mad and accused me of beign insecure and told me I don't respect her. I shut the door and don't look back. Best part is this people can't see their fault cause they have such a montrous ego.
Do not give the any fuel, energy. You have to gain your strength & love yourself. They use sex as a tool because we all know a covert narcissist are good lovers. But you have to cut all ties else they will keep hurting you. No attention No contact will destroy them.
They gaslight you to make you feel guilty because they don't care about your feelings. Even when you point out that they would be uncomfortable if you were still talking to your ex. It's always unfair, double standards
Get out stay away never take them back its a lot worse second time I made that mistake and I paid a heavy price with my health they never changed just Get worse.
@@peterbradley2526 Yes same here, you will never be the only one they always have supplies lined up. I am NEVER taking him back Never!! They are wicked they will shave you down then grind you up like you don't even exist. 8 years I am pissed that I stay in that draining relationship. This time I gave him the best injury ever I disappered he does not exsist.
@peterbradley2526 same here. Excellent advice.
I was with a counsellor today, She told me in the 30 years of her Counselling married couples., 3 Men came back to their ex- Divorced partner and asked to come back!
All three ladies said No!
NO NO NO! No matter how I am doing he will never ever get one ounce of attention from me again. Took me two tries to leave for good and I’m not willing to let him ruin everything I’ve worked so hard to achieve.
Thank you Anoushka, you taught me that a long time ago
@Of the Refrain thanks for stopping by. Makes me feel better when I know you’re around
Yep Lori never again
@Of the Refrain I’m SO tired of the fight tonight E. Sorry. I’m just weary. No need to answer. Just comforting to know you’re out there.
@Of the Refrain Eric! Anoushka live soon. Be there or be ⏹. Hope to see you there!
12:47 This is the most accurate video I have ever watched regarding Narcissists. I have been in a living hell looking for answers on why my ex has left me for the second time, but won’t cut me out of her life for good. Every single aspect of this video was spot on. Now it’s my turn to become strong
its hard when the narcissist is absolutely beautiful in you’re eyes
You need to get used to being with and seeing beautiful woman so you can get used to seeing them as a human beings, And not do something stupid when the red flags show up. Learn from amber heard, beautiful on the outside, rotten on the inside.
Going through this @ the moment dated this stunning bràsilian lady & in the end of are relationship 2 months ago ,she just used me big time .And think now she was a full on narcissist going through a lot of recovery
Take it from me, spent years on and off with talking to her because she's a knockout. But you know ehat they say, the hotter the crazier
@@markbrookes6915 that's often the Brazilian culture. They are so likeable yet all pretent. Not sure that can be classified as narcissists. I am Brazilian But I keep away from them
I hear you. It’s very tough
I've been watching narcissist vids as a part of my healing for over 2 years! You have given that" BEST " explanation of this type of behavior. I've ever seen! Thank you!🥰🥰🥰
Same here, been learning about Narcissists ever since. It's reviving
I needed this today as he discarded me, cut me off & blocked me on FB & WhatsApp. He's left a few channels open to me so he can get back in touch when he sees fit to! I was so happy for a while with him & then it was abusive, financial, emotional & nearly physical. He kept threatening to unalive himself all the time, nearly every day to me if he didn't get his own way. I was so mind f**ked & heartbroken, I had to be nasty to him for him to finish it with me as I had tried to get away multiple times from him but he kept on & on with me & no let up. I went no contact after the last texts & I feel so much better now. I still feel hurt emotionally & the trauma bond was really bad at first but it does get better over time. I still want him to contact me at the moment but as time goes by, I'm starting to feel that I don't ever want to speak or see him ever again. like you say, Am I going to allow him back into my life to do worse this time! 2 chances he's had with me, I shouldn't allow him to tell me he doesn't want me again! Im such a fool.
You’re not a fool. It’s the good souls like you and I that get deceived. The discard is a blessing!!
I'm going to the same exact thing I was discarded and now on no contract. and got a new number
Exactly my story, this narcissist would have no answer used me for last 6 yrs until he is settled in his life whether its his job, financial and other ways but when I started asking him questions about commitment and marriage he denied saying that he never was attached to me and never felt love with me and never had any relationship with me as if I was fool not to understand what a relationship and general friendship means. After he moved with a different girl he cheated on me and he completely ignored me as the new supply was there , he showed me hate abuse physical and ignored me in a way which I never even can thought after all what I had done for him whereas this new girl just came into his life just 6 days before, he started harassing me by blocking and unblocking me and and will switch off his phone when he is with this new girl and all of a sudden I saw myself begging him to talk to me and that was it. With the support of my friends I finally took courage and blocked him from everywhere and Im still shocked with whatever I have gone through as I never knew these kind of personalities even exist as I feel he wasnt human as all. He showed me such a hate which I never deserved. I still feel i never was given answers but i feel better now, feel pity about this new girl as I tried explaining her that be careful but this girl blocked me . She is going to go through the same which Im happy about as she never listened to me
@travis what you on about? Defamatory remarks?
@oftherefrain9957 Thank you so much 💗
You are SPOT ON and they re sooo predictable with pattern.... I love your posts and you confirm soo much... Keep educating.. That attachment disorder is REAL...
yeah, it gets kinda funny and easy to predict
I see the pattern
My narcissist came back yesterday after 8 months turned up at my house said she’d had been thinking about me so came around I blanked her really dident say much said I was busy stayed about 20 mins I said I need to get to bed it was getting late so she left , cut story short she phoned next day after bout 16 hours and said I don’t think this is going anywhere and was back to normal she was the one that came around they are mental cases She actually thought we were still together wtf go figure that!
Lol.
Hahahaha really they are mental case , something wrong with there brain in the womb
Thank you so much anoushka💖
I really enjoyed every second of this video ! 👍👌👏
Narcissists are so arrogant and delusional for thinking we could love them again after us discovering WHO they are...! 😯
Once bitten, twice shy
Fool me once shame on you
Fool me twice shame on me...
NO CONTACT FOREVER my friends !!!
Not If you understand how some narcs are trying too fill a void from not feeling loved as a child. And you have been raised by a psycho narc. And you love them. It’s hard.
Great advice ! As I am going though it know ,only a week ago,and it all makes sense.The cloud is lifting and I can see clearly to the situation.thank you .❤
She moved him in 10 months ago, two weeks after she discarded me. I went no contact for myself.
You absolutely nailed it with this explanation!
You have lived it first hand.
I went back early doors and they punish you for 'abandoning' them.
When my ex came back after 6 months of no contact she said we just took a break. I did not know about NPD at that time, I knew she had issues because of they way she left, she had gaslighted me but I was still thinking about her. So yeah I took her back and this time I was loved and sex bombed thought I was on cloud 9 then after a wonderful vacation to Mexico we get home a week later she admits she slept with someone the discard lasted 6 more weeks. I was crushed.I'm in therapy and taking care of myself but I keeps wondering if she will come back again. No I will not take her back but the whole idea of being a person who can hurt someone and come back and pretend it was nothing is so scary to me.
Edward, that's exactly what they do! They are very delusional and live in a twisted world in their mind. Their rules apply to the world were they, themselves ,have no rules and you will be the one to blame for anything that happened...guaranteed. They are sick creatures. Live your best life NARC FREE ❤️🙏
my covert narc ex did this for 2.5 years..devalued me, discarded me, and did or allowed comebacks and would hurt me the same way again and again..my abandonment wound is still high & i hate to say it but i still miss “him” (i know it’s not really him, it’s the image he fed me at the start of the relationship) :( idk if i’ll ever heal enough to find love in someone else again.
but yeah i completely understand the fear of someone shamelessly & easily hurting you again & again as if nothing ever happened..it’s such a bizzare experience, it’s almost like an action oriented gas light, pretending everything is ok and nothing bad has ever happened. their emotional processing is warped..
Hoes. NPD hoes.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.. NPD is real
Are these people actually human?
No, they aren't. But you knew that.
That’s why you have to go and stay gone
No
Nope
😂
They can show up when ur fine years later.
He would check in every couple of years via social media. It's called breadcrumbing and hoovering He started watching my ig stories, and i realized he was toxic and blocked him. Don't let the narc orbit you. He doesn't deserve direct access to you.
My ex narc’s no longer with the new supply he cheated on me with. She’s been engaged to someone else for 2 years and my ex narc’s been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years. It still hurts because I believe he loved the new supply and her son more than he ever loved me. We’ve been broken up for more than 3 years, but it still stings.
they don't love us, so don't fall for the illusion that they loved them either. i hope you feel peace soon
I understand your pain 😔.
Mine left for his emotional affair partner, another Narc who was his childhood sweetheart. For our whole 22 year marriage it’s clear that he’s always wanted her, now he has what he wants.
Don't be silly
They never loved you or new supply
So just be happy and love your life ❤
It is all an act. Don't believe what you see . And be glad that person is no longer in your life. Heal and stop keeping up with their lives
This is a perfect description of my ex! He’s like a bad smell that keeps returning.
😂 a NARC fart!
😂
I was told he got attached to me. He cheated on me since the beginning and always tries to act like he is much happier than me etc like a competition. It’s ridiculous
they are ridiculous, absurd, comical if it wasnt so sad,read all the posts and its the same story, so they arent even unique, a dime a dozen, OLD COUNTRY WESTERN SONG, THANK GOD AND GREYHOUND YOUR GONE, SAYS IT ALL
Aretha Franklin song it best “ chain of fools”😅, that what narcissist always keep. A CHAIN of fools, and you’re just a link in their chain.
Yes I can see this with my ex. He hovered me 6 months after I went no contact. Showed up at my house acting all sad because he hadn’t heard from me. I didn’t take the bait as I had become well versed on narcissism. He was already involved with the woman he cheated on me with, but he was still denying it. He also keeps in touch with his ex wife who cheated on him with several men and his son’s mother who was his high school sweetheart. I won’t be a side piece ever! I continue to block him.
They hoard exs.
Woah. I needed this. Thank you. I had no idea I was being strung along for his sick game. Makes everything so clear. Been a month with no contact. Deleted my socials. No way for him to contact me. After seeing this vid I’m glad I did. Never looking back. Again thank you for this video. It’s been painful but not as painful as being strung along ❤️❤️❤️
I was breadcrumbed (strung along) too.
There will definitely be some times when you feel weak. It’s good to get the proper support to help you get through it. Stay strong. The longer you stay away, the quicker you’ll heal. Also, taking care of your own emotional and mental health is key.
I pray you have a speedy recovery.
Thank you sincerely for your kind words ♥️
bless you 🤍✨
I vow to entertain what’s for my highest good
Wishing for you abundance and good fortune to come your way 🤍✨
I’m just getting out of this after years of empty promises 😢
Right on point. My x did not have the attention from his mum because she die when he was 2 years old n he never had a dad.
Thank you for this explanation. I was in a relationship with one for a year and didn't realize it. Never dealt with anyone like this. He discarded me with no regard to my feelings whatsoever. It came out of nowhere Over the phone while he was on vacation. I was always looking for an answer. He told me he didn't feel the chemistry anymore. I was so confused. I now realize it wasn't me, it was him. He has moved on to his next victim. It doesn't seem to last more than a year. I wish I could warn her, so she will not endure what I went through. He has a supply of people that fo feed his ego. His ex and her husband live upstairs in his house. That is messed up. I dodged a bullet. It was a year of my time and not longer.
So fucked up. Similar situation with a parasitic roommate of his, both feeding off of me.
This is life changing....
I literally felt the pain in my heart begin to dissolve instantly
The questions he left unanswered, any feelings I CLEARLY had....completely disregarded....I felt broken, used.
Now I have an answer to my questions!
You gave me all the answers I needed in this bada** video of less than 13 minutes!!!
Much love ❤️ THANK YOU
This vid is 100% accurate. My ex has a new victim. I feel bad for him as I see what he is doing for her. He has 4 kids of his own (out of town) and does the driving for her and looks after her dog and works from her house to accomplish this. Poor guy. He has has it worse than I did. Edit: Great vid. I am still in the loop with our shared kids. She relies on EVERYONE to make her life work. I do everything myself and ask nothing from anyone. No closure, no answers. She just found the next victim.
This is so true. My partner had such as childhood. And every word you have said is not only true but also makes so much sense now.
I can’t thank you enough! This video gave me my closure & understanding as to the evil, selfish, narcissistic person & just much this has not been my fault!
Everything you explain, EVERY video, is SO SPOT ON....my narc gone for a month and I'm still recovering...my self-esteem is shot
If you play with fire 🔥 eventually you’re going to get burnt
Yep don't wrestle in the mud with pigs
Amen, I had a gut feeling of what I was getting into and went through hell
Thank you so much 💕
You are on point...
I'm 7 months out , I'm feeling me again. 💪🥰
23 yrs of marriage.. and if i would’ve known about narcissism.. I would’ve gotten my divorce a long time ago! 😢
I need to get my life back and feel great again! He’s with his new supply..and to be honest I also gotta realize that he’s now her headache.. and I’m free! I guess the trauma bond what ifs are the ones that are killing me!! Ugh! I’ve got to see the good side of this. I’m no longer gonna be controlled!
Wow its all starting to make sense.. she'll leave for months at a time and I wont get to see my daughter. This time she left because she needed her freedom and space after creating a family together. First it was a little space that she wanted until it got to the point I could physically feel that something wasnt right, I asked if everything between us was ok and it got turned round onto me saying I'm always quizzing her and her and my daughter deserve better.. I was there for her everyday for 4years and begged and cried for her to stay a number of times. Its becoming clear to me now that this is my opportunity to heal my trauma and unhealthy attachment styles. As much as I miss her every second of the day. I'm done with all the confusion as to why I'm not good enough. I feel worthless because of how I've been discarded. Never going to put myself in this situation again 🥺
i know it’s hard and how you feel 🥺 we aren’t worthless or unloveable; they’re just too broken to value ppl and love properly. everything is a performance or act with them to get something from us. they are truly energy vampires. i miss him too despite all the wrong he did me but it never gets better with narcs, only worse.. i pray we find ppl who value love & us for who we are.
Imagine 22 years married. .total BS...always nice to everyone else they meet...nobody knows him like his own wife and kids...where you going? What are you doing? When all along they are the sneaky ones.
Great piece. One of the best ways I’ve ever heard of narcissism explained. Resonated with me and I’m so glad I clicked. Thank you 🙏
My ex narc literally told me “ omg why are you mad that I cheated again ? You took me back the last time. You are still here with me right? Why are you complaining now?”
I was like O M G wtf did I do
Best comment yet!
The audacity 😒
Exactly my experience. My ex-partner has so many "friends" who she uses for different purposes, all unconnected to each other. I was shocked at how at her father's funeral almost no one knew each other, It was slightly bizarre. I think part of the idea is that if their friends know each other then they might compare notes and that can't be good for the narcissist.
Exactly!
Yes!
True. They compartmentalise. Mine doesn't acknowledge official girlfriends on social media because that would put off all other casual supplies who are his FB friends too, unbeknownst to them that they are part of his harem.
Bingo
@veral2274 well people don like deep roster
This vid is exactly what I needed to see. It explains my situation with my narcissistic ex so well and has helped me to understand what is actually going on here. Thank you so much for making and sharing this vid, it is very helpful.
I thank you for this and this by far the best videos about NPD ❤
Their attachment style and lack of honor, loyalty, integrity, morals, ethics, consideration, etc...which are all things very important to maintaining healthy relationships.. is why they cannot keep friends or family. My wife is BPD with high narcissism. Even her kids hate her because of how she has used them and betrayed their trust so many times. When your even your own kids don't like you and that doesn't make you rethink your life...there is something really wrong with you.
Spent most of my 30’s pursuing a narc. Worst feeling I’ve ever had after years of her worrying I would cheat and then she’s the one to do it. Gaslighting, lying, using me all these years and I waited. But it was all my fault. I didn’t “accept her for who she was,” “it’s not cheating if we aren’t in a committed relationship” even though she was married most of those years. I thought she loved me but I was just feeding her ego. No closure. No explanation. Through her entire “commitment” I had no idea. I’m sure she’s found another source of supply
That sucks bro, but... they're many of them like that, be careful and put yourself first.
Wow, this video hit all the issues I am going through. My pregnant wife left me after 7 months of living together. We lived in florida and she went to NJ. Now I am in agony dealing with having my first child with a women who only thinks about herself. The part where a narcissist will leave you totally drained is 100%. She left me at a point where I was thinking about jumping off a cliff. I am in a better place mentally now but still sad about not being able to see my baby’s birth or be in my child’s life.
You have parental rights
Glad I came across this.
If you're attentive to how people describe traumatic situations, or even pleasant ones that usually involve a lot of compassion/love and investment; they will make it about themselves, they lack understanding of the nuances of emotional connection. Everything seems so hallow in their descriptions, so it's pretending. People who have been through life, they understand how a healthy person with actual capabilities for humanity, will react in certain situations.
It's crazy how you explain exactly how I've been feeling!
They only want to detach if it affects you.
Listen
If you move on and are not affected they are offended.
They are not interested in who is interested in them bc they are trying to identify them.Find out who they are.
They are simultaneously annoyed someone wants to know AND paranoid someone exist who knows and doesn't want them around bc they might and will undermine thier validation.
So they seek control of everyone that knows and is not under thier control or thinks the way they do to get on thier team.
Recognizing it is like wetting toilet paper.Making them useless.
I am 69 years old. I’ve been to four marriages and four live in relationships over the years. I have never gone through what I went through with my 55-year-old boyfriend. It pushed me into five months of therapy. That’s how bad this man destroyed me as a woman, an older woman.
Four marriages? Karmic debt for you hurting in your past
Me 2, Sister. M a lovely 75 n had 11 years with 'charming' 63 YO narc man. I had numerous relationships n a marriage n never flew this close 2 the sun before n never want 2!! U can do this! I m 8+ months NC n so very hard.
Great advice, everything you said is absolutely true. I speak from a victim experience. I learned my lesson!
I, will never take my ex back! When I walked out, it was forever. Never giving her a second chance.
When young I was deprive of love too but i did not grow up disatify looking for supply and attention from other man. So its individual unlike a narc.
My ex was a narcissistic actor in Hollywood. His mother didn't give him the attention he demanded as a child so he demanded it as an adult and it was ceaseless.. He had dated over 300 women by the time he was 44 years old and yes he did give me a venereal disease which he tried to claim was my fault. They take no responsibility.
Wow, you really hit the target on this video, such clarity 💗💗
It's like you can read my relationship! Seven years, bells palsy and you are so correct!!!! A SHELL OF MYSELF!!!! Thank you so much!!!!!!
“Even though they have a partner etc they haven’t moved on“ sadist and best quote to a narc victim…the best because you find a greater and stronger self and worst because the Hoover gets more intense as time goes by …
These people actually not humans. THEY are from the side of the snake 🐍. The world full of snakes and this snake is 7 miles long 😅. Good eye opening 🎯
Yes, mine has been gone since August of 2021. He abandoned us & now has a new supply that he announced to his family in August that he is going to marry her. He convinced this girl to leave her job & go on. The run with him. Took my awhile to find him to serve him papers. He doesn’t show for Court. If he wanted to get married so bad he wouldn’t stall. He’s a MESS!
Nice work your right I stay far away from these ppl.
They don't attach
But
Can't unattach
You are really helping me a lot with your information. I am regaining strength, independence and most of all I’m gaining myself back. You are inspiring me and validation that I’m doing the right thing. Thank you so much. I’m glad I found you. God bless you
Thank you so much for your information ... even though this helps me with a relationship that was two years ago I now am understanding more about his behavior. Thank you so much
O M G! I will be listening to this every day for a while. Thank you so much! Amazing stuff! SPOT ON 💔 sadly
I just had this happen a couple weeks ago. I immediately went no contact bc it's been a decade and nothing changes, it gets worse. They are parasitic ppl. No longer will I be a victim of his. He abused me in everyway but I'm a very strong person. He hurr me, to where I felt I had no clue to who I was anymore bc I spent my life pleasing him. Nothing worked. Nobody, male nor female deserves this pain. I've blocked him from everything and he will nvr be in my life again. I have to get peace back into my life. He may have beat me down......but he will never break me 😊 I owe that to my lord and savior 🙏 my heart goes out to anyone on here like me who is going thru this or who is trying to heal ❤❤❤❤❤❤ remember love yourself and rip off the parasite. It's like a leach, pull it off bc its draining you. You all are beautiful people and deserve more. Dont discount your self worth
God this is my whole life situation right now . Thank you. He went away for rehab and found some new older chick n left me n his 3 kids over a 2 weeks period just crazy this video helped me alot
You are beautiful
And you save people
I had more than one narcissist in my life to deal with at the same time for years and years. The stress and chaos around me all the time caused me to have a stroke in my sleep, died in my sleep and came back to life. I have to have my own place and space to myself for my own sanity after everything I've been through in my lifetime.
This is so true ! Thank you !