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This Is a highly UNDERRATED video. Probably one of the few useful videos on RUclips about this topic. There’s way too many so called self help gurus these days
soul brain pretty much the majority of self-declared “self help gurus”. self help is a very American type of industry. Yes, an industry. It exploits people who are vulnerable and profits. If someone is very serious about changing himself/herself, he/she could easily read the classics such as tao te Ching, the stoics (Seneca, Aurelius, etc), nietzche but the language is dense and it takes a lot of patience. They’re classics for a reason and influenced movements and massive populations. Self help gurus just “translate” (not always correctly) and rehash these classics and they’re not even credible themselves. The people who created the secret profited off its production; they didn’t become wealthy as whatever the job they had prior yet that’s what they’re selling.
@@dbsk06 just because these take time to learn = doensnt meant the key and important ideas cannot be transmitted to a wider market. You dont need to be a book worm to enjoy the fruits of great minds. Solution is to watch Jordan Peterson videos and do some reading, put ideas into practice, and reflect. Its more useful to think of this kind of infomation as liberating and helpful opposed to only for elitists, while critical of the capitalist motivtions behind the source of the information on here.
I think different people just are able to connect with different people and then are able to learn from them. What or who helps one might not be “the one” to all.
This should be learnt in all schools. Kids need to be more aware of this so they can be the best versions of them selves and for the next generations to come.
Why would a school want to empower students? Then they won't obey authority, and therefore won't obey government. Students should be kept dumb and unaware of reality of course, then they can be easily controlled. How else will we have worker drones to serve the higher ups? Of course there should only be 1-3% of individuals in power, and the rest must be their servants! We can't be servants if we're empowered, duh!
No no no we need to have outdated 200 year old educational model from the industrial revolution and at least 13+ years of subjects such as Geography, Maths or Chemistry :DD (saying this as frustrated 18 year old)
Brilliant, watched this several times now over the past few days and it’s really helping me understand myself better and target where I need to shift my mindset.
I feel like I've hacked into my brain too much for too long. I went in again and realized I don't have nearly as much negative thoughts and beliefs anymore and there is no point to going into myself and rewiring the good I have built. This stuff works. With this exercise, I realized I now have positive beliefs and emotions that serve me well. So just know there are times when it is unnecessary to re-engineer yourself.
@@yasmine2579 watch videos on gratitude and acceptance of self to change the emotions you associate with yourself and those beliefs. And do as he said and refrain from believing those thoughts. You do that by asking questions. A lot of times those thoughts are extreme so when you find yourself thinking “ I am a loser” for example ,ask yourself: “does everyone see me as a loser?” And then remind yourself that someone at some point in time has liked you. This is how you become the skeptic of that belief like he said the more you practice the more you will realize that the belief is extreme and sometimes irrational and the more you realize that it is not a full representation of who you are. It is just a perspective. Then through gratitude you’ll change the emotion associated with that belief and with how you see yourself
You just summarized very beautifully and clear what took me years to figure out myself - even more than that. I think that is the best video on the topic. More therapist should apply your principles. Together with working with first principles I believe that is the most powerful technique for lasting change and happiness. And it works sooo fast, once you look for evidence that doubts your believes. Hope to hear you spread this knowledge!
I feel like this video should have WAY more views! This is some of the most useful, in-depth material on belief systems that I've come across! So many self help/success/motivational speakers go on about how beliefs create reality but few give you the necessary details to actually change them! This is the missing piece in that puzzle.
Great Video! Thank you Gary!! I work as a therapist with EMDR and EFT supporting people changing there beliefs. It is the most important work we need to do! Your Video is gem :-)
Five years of wasted time in psychotherapy; and I discovered these exact principles years later...by myself. I liken early adoption of (negative) core beliefs to imprinting...a very visceral and deeply held programming. I still need help to understand how to completely reprogram my remaining negative core beliefs. They are tenacious. I will buy your book this week.
@@petzzz5900 - It all depends on the quality of the communication bond between patient and therapist. A good therapist MUST be a good diagnostician... to help bring the patients issue(s) to resolution. I did not have that quality of therapist.
I'm in a terrible emotional state right now, as I hate feeling like a weakling that people can bully, especially physically. I have people that can lay down their lives for me, and even be my body guard. But I really hate the thought of that deep down inside me. I relish the thought of being a hero that can fight to the death, but feel very bad when my fear of being hurt takes over. It makes me feel lesser and not good enough. I hate to fill like a coward that can't fight. This has made me feel emotionally overwhelmed for days now, as people can see through it that I'm a coward, and only mouth off about doing wicked things to them if they mess up. This has made them see me as a toothless bulldog, and make them misbehave to me in profound ways I can't imagine. What can I do about this Gary?
I learned the hard way that I don't have to be right and it was super hard but now it's as if I don't even care it was the most irrelevant thing. I hope your brother heals from this
I enjoyed listening and learning what was expressed in this presentation. It was clearly and logically expressed. I agree with everything except the EMDR. I know it's application has been successful for some people. However, it did not work for me. I'm extremely intuitive and was not able to process my childhood neglect and abandonment issues. So, I will attempt to become skeptical and neutral. That part made more sense to me. Thank you for the great info. Chuck
EMDR does not work for developmental trauma, so it is unlikely to be of benefit in your situation where it was an environment of that for a long period of time. Since trauma and attac;hment level changes happen at the nervous system level you will need to explore approaches that change the regulation of the nervous system.
so many are more worried/concerned about being right than they are being happy. even if it causes division and hate, something this country (US) is in no shortage of. how fitting this topic is of current events. :)
I wish I would've watched this video sooner! I agree with several others here - this is the best video on this topic on YT. No one else has competently explained and addressed HOW to change limiting beliefs. It has been a source of frustration for me for quite some time. Thank you for this! I will be looking more into this work!
For me the hard part is the skepticism and doubt. In my mind, all of my (self-defeating) beliefs are anchored in hard facts, and the counter evidence seems to me to be flimsy and uncompelling. Ask anyone else and they'll see it the exact opposite of how I do, but I haven't been able to budge in that respect even after decades of trying.
Hmm. I wonder what you mean by hard facts. Past events might have facts to them, but the beliefs created, points of view, and emotions attached to those events are all changeable. Have you combined the two?
Thanks, good info here! Personally I'd submit that folks who tend to have 'belief' issues are largely ones who lack a strong sense of awareness. Perhaps it is an inability to be able to hold an idea before the mind long enough to subject it to critical thinking. I find that a lot of the frustration I have experienced, trying to hold intelligent discussions on lets say politics or religion, come because folk cannot seem to access their skeptical brain, but remain largely entrenched in their conditioned, habitual state. Almost as if having a reflective thought has never occured to them.
This hit too close to home with me. I'm always worried that other people think I'm stupid and I never want to be wrong. I try not to engage with people just in case I say something stupid, or get interrupted which makes me feel like I'm not important/being valued. I was also talking to my wife yesterday about how I would find it hard to change how I feel when the kids are crying. I was trying to explain that I have a physiological response when they're crying. I often get angry in these circumstances and I'm not sure why. But I know it's better for me to leave the room when it's happening because my response is very hard to control and it completely unhelpful.
I have put my energy into writing the articles for my website, and more recently for the Self Mastery Communtity which you can join for free selfmastery.mn.co/ And more effort into my courses for those that really want to get the inner work done. I have an idea or two for other books, but they are time consuming and I haven't pulled the trigger on the commitment yet.
love this video. i wish you could a series like this video with other negative behaviors and reactions. taking offense, anger, fear of failure ect... i have to order the book. hope its also in audio format.
I feel for my beliefs about myself to truly change, I need to do regular exercises routinely on a daily basis to train my brain into changing these beliefs. Just hearing this alone is not enough. I need to intentionally work on this daily for there to be real change. Do you have any recommendations say for a 15-30min excercise where I can intentionally work on changing these thought patterns? I know it’s been a while since you had posted this, but here’s hoping youre still around.🙏
we all have faith invested in different concepts. Capitialism, socialism, banking, and the post office all work as systems because people have faith in them. Liars and can also have faith in their lies. The insecure person has faith that they aren't good enough, and the confident person has faith that they are. We all use faith every day in some way. The difference is how.
EMdR and Somatic Experiencing are the two most documented. Neurofeedback is another. Psycho-motor therapy, communal rhythm and synchrony and healing touch work are most common. It is a relatively new are of treatment, and so new explorations and discoveries are being made. Not all people respond the same. you may have to do some trial and error work to find the one, or combination of therapies that work best for you. The practitioner that you work with using that method can make a difference. Not all therapists are the same. As a Psychiatrist friend once told me. Sometimes it is better to have no therapist than a bad therapist. So look around and don't give up because your first attempts don't bear fruit. It the long game, the changes will be worth it.
Get Free Practices To Change Your Negative Beliefs And Emotions In The Self Mastery Intro Course.
Click The Link Below To Learn More:
pathwaytohappiness.com/courses/self-mastery-course-free/
This Is a highly UNDERRATED video. Probably one of the few useful videos on RUclips about this topic. There’s way too many so called self help gurus these days
soul brain pretty much the majority of self-declared “self help gurus”. self help is a very American type of industry. Yes, an industry. It exploits people who are vulnerable and profits. If someone is very serious about changing himself/herself, he/she could easily read the classics such as tao te Ching, the stoics (Seneca, Aurelius, etc), nietzche but the language is dense and it takes a lot of patience. They’re classics for a reason and influenced movements and massive populations. Self help gurus just “translate” (not always correctly) and rehash these classics and they’re not even credible themselves. The people who created the secret profited off its production; they didn’t become wealthy as whatever the job they had prior yet that’s what they’re selling.
@@dbsk06 just because these take time to learn = doensnt meant the key and important ideas cannot be transmitted to a wider market. You dont need to be a book worm to enjoy the fruits of great minds. Solution is to watch Jordan Peterson videos and do some reading, put ideas into practice, and reflect. Its more useful to think of this kind of infomation as liberating and helpful opposed to only for elitists, while critical of the capitalist motivtions behind the source of the information on here.
you may like leo guraa
I think different people just are able to connect with different people and then are able to learn from them.
What or who helps one might not be “the one” to all.
@@gingerindian1141 Jordan Peterson is not a well person.
This should be learnt in all schools. Kids need to be more aware of this so they can be the best versions of them selves and for the next generations to come.
Unfortunately school teachers and parents create a lot of these negative beleifs in kids 😂
Why would a school want to empower students? Then they won't obey authority, and therefore won't obey government. Students should be kept dumb and unaware of reality of course, then they can be easily controlled. How else will we have worker drones to serve the higher ups? Of course there should only be 1-3% of individuals in power, and the rest must be their servants! We can't be servants if we're empowered, duh!
No no no we need to have outdated 200 year old educational model from the industrial revolution and at least 13+ years of subjects such as Geography, Maths or Chemistry :DD (saying this as frustrated 18 year old)
Not in the systems best interest.
This guy's work is one of the only that has changed my mindset, beliefs and life!
Well I hope it helps me
@@pantyPrinceas same
Brilliant, watched this several times now over the past few days and it’s really helping me understand myself better and target where I need to shift my mindset.
I feel like I've hacked into my brain too much for too long. I went in again and realized I don't have nearly as much negative thoughts and beliefs anymore and there is no point to going into myself and rewiring the good I have built. This stuff works. With this exercise, I realized I now have positive beliefs and emotions that serve me well. So just know there are times when it is unnecessary to re-engineer yourself.
How did you do it ? Which exercizes ?
Very underrated comment yey very insightful Thank u
@@yasmine2579 watch videos on gratitude and acceptance of self to change the emotions you associate with yourself and those beliefs. And do as he said and refrain from believing those thoughts. You do that by asking questions. A lot of times those thoughts are extreme so when you find yourself thinking “ I am a loser” for example ,ask yourself: “does everyone see me as a loser?” And then remind yourself that someone at some point in time has liked you. This is how you become the skeptic of that belief like he said the more you practice the more you will realize that the belief is extreme and sometimes irrational and the more you realize that it is not a full representation of who you are. It is just a perspective. Then through gratitude you’ll change the emotion associated with that belief and with how you see yourself
I'm so glad I was led to this channel. This is perhaps the best video I've watched in a while. Please keep making more.
This is the best video on youtube for improving mental health 🍃
Thank you very much
I think this Is the best change beliefs blueprint I have seen.
You just summarized very beautifully and clear what took me years to figure out myself - even more than that. I think that is the best video on the topic. More therapist should apply your principles. Together with working with first principles I believe that is the most powerful technique for lasting change and happiness. And it works sooo fast, once you look for evidence that doubts your believes. Hope to hear you spread this knowledge!
I feel like this video should have WAY more views! This is some of the most useful, in-depth material on belief systems that I've come across!
So many self help/success/motivational speakers go on about how beliefs create reality but few give you the necessary details to actually change them! This is the missing piece in that puzzle.
Beliefs are so powerful that discipline is secondary to it. You have to master your beliefs...
Absolutely. But there is a discipline to use to change our beliefs.
@@garyvanwarmerdam1206wow! This is so powerful. Thank you
@@VriEvolutionTarot888 you are welcome
Great Video! Thank you Gary!! I work as a therapist with EMDR and EFT supporting people changing there beliefs. It is the most important work we need to do! Your Video is gem :-)
Thank you Barbara. You might want to check out my book MindWorks. It's a step by step process with practical exercises.
SUPERB video, hits the nail on the head about this subject - way too much fluff and psychobabble on this subject on RUclips and online.
Gary...thanks for this. It's the best breakdown of beliefs and belief change I've ever seen. Very powerful. KUDOS!
You're very welcome
@@garyvanwarmerdam1206 I dont know weather it works, if it works, I will appreciate you for whole life... 😃😃😃❤❤❤❤❤❤💕💕💕💕💕💕
Five years of wasted time in psychotherapy; and I discovered these exact principles years later...by myself. I liken early adoption of (negative) core beliefs to imprinting...a very visceral and deeply held programming. I still need help to understand how to completely reprogram my remaining negative core beliefs. They are tenacious. I will buy your book this week.
@steve c does psychotherapy works or not?
@@petzzz5900 - It all depends on the quality of the communication bond between patient and therapist. A good therapist MUST be a good diagnostician... to help bring the patients issue(s) to resolution. I did not have that quality of therapist.
@@petzzz5900 No
@@stevec404 I met much more awful therapist
I'm in a terrible emotional state right now, as I hate feeling like a weakling that people can bully, especially physically. I have people that can lay down their lives for me, and even be my body guard. But I really hate the thought of that deep down inside me. I relish the thought of being a hero that can fight to the death, but feel very bad when my fear of being hurt takes over. It makes me feel lesser and not good enough. I hate to fill like a coward that can't fight.
This has made me feel emotionally overwhelmed for days now, as people can see through it that I'm a coward, and only mouth off about doing wicked things to them if they mess up. This has made them see me as a toothless bulldog, and make them misbehave to me in profound ways I can't imagine.
What can I do about this Gary?
do the practices in my Self Mastery Course, it will reveal them, and give you the skills to change them, pathwaytohappiness.com/courses/
🤓Totally resonating with this.
THANKS! With gratitude from a senior citizen without access to regular psyche help.
My pleasure
Brilliant!!! Never heard this expressed with more clarity! 🍀💜 Thank You. 💗🙋
Thank you very much
I am speechless 😶 wow. Thank you very very much! I have to watch it over and over again. Gratitude for u 🎉🌹💝
This advice sinks in and makes a useful connection to me right away. Very useful and clear.
Wow thank you so much for this video, I know this must be done to change our core beliefs, working on it NOW!!!
Your awesome!
This is amazing !! Thankyou for putting this together and helping society.
My pleasure
this is excellent, thank you for the simplified breakdown so we can all relate. Thank you for breaking down the layers! god bless
Thanks Gary thats a much more detailed explanation and deeper understanding than we usually get from other sources.
Excellent info! I so see my brother needs this, there's nothing more important to him than being right and it's affecting his heart.
I learned the hard way that I don't have to be right and it was super hard but now it's as if I don't even care it was the most irrelevant thing. I hope your brother heals from this
I enjoyed listening and learning what was expressed in this presentation. It was clearly and logically expressed. I agree with everything except the EMDR. I know it's application has been successful for some people. However, it did not work for me. I'm extremely intuitive and was not able to process my childhood neglect and abandonment issues. So, I will attempt to become skeptical and neutral. That part made more sense to me. Thank you for the great info. Chuck
EMDR does not work for developmental trauma, so it is unlikely to be of benefit in your situation where it was an environment of that for a long period of time. Since trauma and attac;hment level changes happen at the nervous system level you will need to explore approaches that change the regulation of the nervous system.
so many are more worried/concerned about being right than they are being happy. even if it causes division and hate, something this country (US) is in no shortage of. how fitting this topic is of current events. :)
edward bernays, "crystallizing public opinion",1923, seems to fit current events of late too. actually mentions the court of public opinion
Thanks for breaking it down into pieces. Love it
I wish I would've watched this video sooner! I agree with several others here - this is the best video on this topic on YT. No one else has competently explained and addressed HOW to change limiting beliefs. It has been a source of frustration for me for quite some time. Thank you for this! I will be looking more into this work!
and check out how I apply this process in a session with a client
pathwaytohappiness.com/blog/podcast/83-how-to-change-a-belief/
For me the hard part is the skepticism and doubt. In my mind, all of my (self-defeating) beliefs are anchored in hard facts, and the counter evidence seems to me to be flimsy and uncompelling. Ask anyone else and they'll see it the exact opposite of how I do, but I haven't been able to budge in that respect even after decades of trying.
Hmm. I wonder what you mean by hard facts. Past events might have facts to them, but the beliefs created, points of view, and emotions attached to those events are all changeable. Have you combined the two?
Thanks, good info here! Personally I'd submit that folks who tend to have 'belief' issues are largely ones who lack a strong sense of awareness. Perhaps it is an inability to be able to hold an idea before the mind long enough to subject it to critical thinking. I find that a lot of the frustration I have experienced, trying to hold intelligent discussions on lets say politics or religion, come because folk cannot seem to access their skeptical brain, but remain largely entrenched in their conditioned, habitual state. Almost as if having a reflective thought has never occured to them.
This hit too close to home with me.
I'm always worried that other people think I'm stupid and I never want to be wrong.
I try not to engage with people just in case I say something stupid, or get interrupted which makes me feel like I'm not important/being valued.
I was also talking to my wife yesterday about how I would find it hard to change how I feel when the kids are crying. I was trying to explain that I have a physiological response when they're crying. I often get angry in these circumstances and I'm not sure why. But I know it's better for me to leave the room when it's happening because my response is very hard to control and it completely unhelpful.
Stop people pleasing
Changed my core beliefs yesterday wowza
Congratulations.
One of the good explanations for core beliefs.
This is a wonderfull video. Clearly explained with helpfull illustrations. A hugely important and life changing understanding. Thanks Gary
Thank you.
@@garyvanwarmerdam1206 @Gary van Warmerdam I tried very very hard to buy your book, do you have Chinese versions of your books? only in English?
i love the wheel diagram! flows so well! good job
This is high quality video on mind topic! Very well said sir
My pleasure
Wow, wow, wow. Thank you for helping me understand so many confusing parts of myself.
Amazing presentation bro💗
Thank you RUclips for recommending me
Yes, thank you RUclips.
I just found your channel, Gary. SO well done! EXACTLY what I needed to reclaim MY LIFE! Thank YOU!
Wonderful! You might also like this one ruclips.net/video/1U1zmGtYTxU/видео.html
@@garyvanwarmerdam1206 @Gary van Warmerdam I tried very very hard to buy your book, do you have Chinese versions of your books? only in English?
Thank you collective universal concious 🙏
Took the introductory class, your Gratitude exercise is wonderful!
Excellent excellent excellent .... please look at this info graphic and listen to it over and over
Excellent explanation thank you!
My pleasure
Thank you for this great video! You explained everything very well and I learned a lot from it.
This is a great presentation on limiting beliefs. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Amazing vid! Thank you so much!
My pleasure
Thank you! Amazing work!
Thank you Gary van Warmerdam for this information very helpful.
glad I could help
This is just amazing, really eye opening..
What a brilliant video!! Thank you. 🙏🏽
Really I was very grateful the way you teach us ❤❤❤.
It's my pleasure
Brilliant video. Calm and soothing voice too. I calmed down just listening to it. Thank you.
My pleasure.
Thank you for details and support
You're welcome.
Loved the way you broke it down mate.
Thank you.
Great video! The best one I've found to share with my patients.
This video was very well done, thanks Gary.
Thank you Brian
Great information Gary!
Thank you
this should be seen by millions wow man
Thanks man, awesome work here.
Thank you so much for this information ❤️ really life changing
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much for your video Gary, so meaningful and helpful, please keep making more!
I am uploading content more consistently now, my pleasure.
Thank you so much for this video
You're welcome
those give me more insight than therapy session I've been. Thank you Gary
You are welcome
Thank you very informative!
Thank you so much for sharing this video!
You are welcome.
Thank you for this video , its information is precious
It's my pleasure
Thank you so much for this video!
Gary, I just want to thank you because your book literally has changed my life!!
Do you have any other works from your authorship?
I have put my energy into writing the articles for my website, and more recently for the Self Mastery Communtity which you can join for free selfmastery.mn.co/
And more effort into my courses for those that really want to get the inner work done.
I have an idea or two for other books, but they are time consuming and I haven't pulled the trigger on the commitment yet.
@@garyvanwarmerdam1206 I tried very very hard to buy your book, do you have Chinese versions of your books? only in English?
This is a very good explanation
Thanks
love this video. i wish you could a series like this video with other negative behaviors and reactions. taking offense, anger, fear of failure ect... i have to order the book. hope its also in audio format.
use my book, MindWorks, or my Self Mastery Course
I feel for my beliefs about myself to truly change, I need to do regular exercises routinely on a daily basis to train my brain into changing these beliefs. Just hearing this alone is not enough. I need to intentionally work on this daily for there to be real change. Do you have any recommendations say for a 15-30min excercise where I can intentionally work on changing these thought patterns? I know it’s been a while since you had posted this, but here’s hoping youre still around.🙏
Ah, I will check out your course and book.🙂
Life saving video!!
Agree with this video, however I think it's important to understand that we choose to belief what we believe. We are not the victim of them
Unless you have beliefs you are unaware of.
Very well explained 👏
Thank you
Thanks a lot ...great explaination
Great channel. May I ask what is the software you are using?
Brilliant video, thanks.
Thank you very much
Excellent information 🤞👍🏼
Glad it was helpful!
You are amazing so happy I found this video
Fantastic video ❤👌👌👌
Thanks 🤗
I need this. 💯💙
Amazing video thanks!
really really great work
Wow! I love the illustrations along with the pace of your explanation. It really sunk in for me. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
These illistrations are fucking geniouse
Under most beliefs are shame beliefs as cover ups.
The chicken 🐔 example is great !
Thank you so much
I am Right for Me and if EveryOne else is Stupid..it is ok. That Works too!
Thank you that was so useful
Glad it was helpful!
So that means that the righteous live by faith
we all have faith invested in different concepts. Capitialism, socialism, banking, and the post office all work as systems because people have faith in them. Liars and can also have faith in their lies. The insecure person has faith that they aren't good enough, and the confident person has faith that they are. We all use faith every day in some way. The difference is how.
A mind can help you or can destroy you.....
THANK YOUUUUUU
Hi Gary, very very great stuff! can you let me know which tool you use to create these animations?
thank Ernesto. cheers from switzerland.
i hired an animator so I don't know what they used.
@@pointofperception thank you so much
Very very helpful
What other methods are there to change how nervous system respond? Thanks.
EMdR and Somatic Experiencing are the two most documented. Neurofeedback is another. Psycho-motor therapy, communal rhythm and synchrony and healing touch work are most common. It is a relatively new are of treatment, and so new explorations and discoveries are being made. Not all people respond the same. you may have to do some trial and error work to find the one, or combination of therapies that work best for you. The practitioner that you work with using that method can make a difference. Not all therapists are the same. As a Psychiatrist friend once told me. Sometimes it is better to have no therapist than a bad therapist. So look around and don't give up because your first attempts don't bear fruit. It the long game, the changes will be worth it.
TRE exercises
this video is amazing
Thank you.