Thanks to Andrew! It has been 9 months with no contact .I changed my phone number. And I am a type of person that once I throw away my old pair of shoes in the dumpster I don't go back and pick them up again. So Thanks Andrew for all the great information you give people like me.God be with you. With love from Corpus Christi Texas.
If you take your narcissist back their coming back for revenge they haven't forgiven you for the last time they were with you. Remember they don't forget anything! It's not worth it!
Yep when mine started hoovering immediately when the divorce was final that was exactly the feeling I got. She was upset with the little she had got out of me, and the fact that I was still alive.
"Where you place your attention is where you place your energy. Don't place it on the narcissist. Move forward. Place your energy on yourself." Very good advice! Thanks Andrew!
And when you think that was the worst things can possibly go. Trust me, they WILL find a lower low to transgress with you. Theres always worse, never forget that, you allow them to expose you to the next circle of hell each time you let them back.
Yes. They want to come in and ruin your blessings. Stand firm, don't look back. They are trying to sell you false dreams. They have nothing but destruction to offer you. Even if you are single and have times you feel alone, You will meet someone healthy and it's worth waiting for. I have not found that person yet but , I'm attracting that into my life . I myself know my worth, what I have to offer. I will not enter into a relationship where there is no equal give . My energy, time and Love is so valuable.
Wow Andrew, my ex came back into my life after 22 years. And I found out why. I just retired and I’m now receiving my pension. Can you believe she had the guts to ask me for $15,000. Unbelievable!!! Haven’t talked to her since in anyway. It’s just crazy how dumb they think we are. Thank you Andrew for your help.
Wow 22 years, that’s crazy. And still entitled. All the evidence you need that these people are seriously messed up. To be honest, once you do the work on yourself, you wonder how you ever allowed these con artists into your life
@@MrPistolpete1234 agreed, these people are messed up. Wish we were aware or taught about them in school. I’m a freaking narcissist magnet. But not any more. I now can smile and turn away.
One day I just lay in bed in despair and thought how could I ever get out of this relationship and suddenly out of the blue I had an epiphany, that the guy I'm in a relationship with is actually a narcissist! From that moment I started researching the issue and suddenly everything became clear to me and from that moment I realized that actually everything was a fake and I was in love with a mask, with a pretender and this realization helped me start my healing, and since then he can only "dream about me"!!!! There is no way I will return to him, Never!!! Everything is clear now.......and when you understand the situation, it becomes much easier to detach and move on, I believe that God sent me this insight and really saved me from the vicious circle I was in and I thank God for that every day .
I've been no contact for 3 years. When the 1 time in that period I got a random text from him happened, I felt like my stomach dropped to the floor. Blocked and deleted again. It's crazy how my body reacted even though I feel like I'm as healed as I am going to be. Love your videos my friend ❤
When the narc has burned through all their ‘friends’ expect them to come back with a sob story hoping that you have forgotten how badly they treated you. My memory is LONG!
The whole relationship with a Narc, when you are unaware/uneducated is you had no idea you were in a game of sick madness one of which they had full game control and loved the fact you didnt hold a copy of the rule book. You full of anxiety, second guessing your own self worth and sanity.. When you become awakened, you are handed a brand new shiny book of what was missing the whole time... "the rules of engagement".. The narc has multi players all at multi stages of point of play, playing across multi screens/platforms and fields... Choose player exit. Such a wonderful gift, to be awakened. Thanks Andrew. Kia Haka (NZ)
I just realized something. I loved her more than she loved herself. Think about that for a minute! There in “lies” the problem. A black hole of love so strong that I actually came out the other side of it. All the laws I thought I knew didn’t exist. I tried to make them fit. And they never could. As I got sucked past the event horizon. I thought my weight would crush me. Only to find that a whisper saved me and casted me from the distorted vortex into the galaxy of stars where I now sit in awe. Miracles happen. Thank you Andrew and family. May light always shine upon those who live in balance and peace and seek not to take but give and know the difference between love and abuse and those who use “love” to abuse- perhaps the cruelest lie a human being could ever do to another.
I can confirm this. She came after me multiple times. Even when i blocked her, she created new accounts to stalk and contact me. These demons never stop. Be aware, even when you block and move on, they will appear again.
Like vampire....they wait till you fatten back up, then come back, in hopes, to suck the life out of you! ...with the cross in my hand,and all accesses block and locked, Iam going to say " no" vamp(Narc) you are not allowed in my newly remodel ,happy,peaceful home!
You need to change your email then she will not come after you. Sick that she is making new accounts. I had to block some people on Facebook as that. Avoid stalkers they are dangerous. I had to delete Instagram. I had a social circle with friends.
ITS A GAME! YOU WIN BY NOT PLAYING!!! They will suck all the rest of the energy out of the room! It feels like darkness with immense stress and when they start their tactics it feels like you’re being sucked into a black hole. Allow that Hoover and they will take from you the rest of your energy your finances your health your looks your self-worth your self-esteem your time, and anything else they can because they have become more angry and injured. NO THANK YOU! 🥶😭😱 Thank you Andrew! Enjoy your evening in beautiful Costa Rica! The birds sound tropical 🌴
My narc mother showed up again love bombing in texts. She offered to send me “some documents and pictures” that I’d asked for in the past to try to lure me into starting the cycle again. I declined but thanked her for the offer and bid her goodbye. Sure enough the abusive texts came accusing me of being ungrateful; the facade dropped remarkably quickly. I ignored the insults, didn’t respond and blocked her. To my amazement, I felt indifferent and went about my day.
The constant barrage of narcissistic behavior has the greatest toll on the integrity of your very soul, because in time they will make you as jaded as they are if you don't block the flying monkeys... Walk away don't look back.
Yeah speaking from experience I went back into those chat rooms today I haven't participated in them for weeks but they are still talking crap about me don't look back they just bait
It's hard when you've been part of something for 6 years and that is your community and you mission yourself with a greater purpose, only to see the same principles infiltrate and be employed in the virtual world, gaslighting and straw man to the max🔥what they call you is what they actually are 👊and they do a really good job of painting with a broad brush😢 to make it seem so of course if you try to defend yourself that just further plays into their hand as well🚫 it really is a no-win situation they are silencing everyone today, I think it was Voltaire who said 'when you label me you negate me'... let us all stop labeling our fellow man, I know it's getting exponentially easier to judge a book by its cover these days, but we've got to start looking deeper and see what salvageable... God bless🙌 namaste.
I went back, believed in giving 2nd chance like he would change and he got far worse than before and after breaking it off the 2nd time the games he has played is beyond pathetic. To think I wasted 3.5 yrs on him....ugh. i should have listened to ppl sooner who knew from day 1 he was not good news. Smh.
So true! The ex tried to appear after 4 yrs! Some of them will hunt you down, so beware. I told him to hit the road Jack and don’t come back! There’s a song in there…🤔🎶
Thanks so much Andrew. I divorced my narcissist husband 2 years ago. When we were married he spent $20,000-$30,000 per year on his hobbies! One of the reasons I left. He's dated at least multiple women before our divorce was even finalized. His girlfriend now that he started seeing close to a year ago he bragged to me how she is rich. And he was always treated me mean until the last few months. He has even said he is thinking about wanting to reconcile with me. But then he said he was going to have to go back to work because he needed money. I'm now sure that his new supply won't give him her money. So he is love bombing me to get me back for my money.
Before I realised that nothing was going to change I fell for the hoover way too many times; when he said he missed me and wanted a second chance, that he thought I was the best thing that ever happened to him - you know all that shit. I felt I was in the middle of a dark maze surrounded by mayhem, and I couldn't find a clear way out. I had shed way too many tears and I was sick of all his toxic energy. The verbal violence soon turned into psychal. He kicked me out and kept all my stuff - everything! He ran his own company and I was office admin, 2IC. He has a lot of material items - so what! He's a loser! I intend on bettering myself everyday. It's not easy to stay positive all the time but that is a part of life. I feel like I am starting to breathe and live again. Thank you Andrew for helping me to "Wake TF Up!"
Agreed at this point. It’s incredibly important to be selective. Just one person can throw your whole life into a blunder. This community has been helping with the healing process. We’re not alone.
I've had 3 of these 2-legged devils turn up again sniffing around for another chance with me in 2022 but I've simply ignored each one and strengthened my resolve to not engage with these types. Life is for living xx
I was a people pleaser in the past. I would do things, because I wanted people's approval. I'm a slow learner. I let people use me. I couldn't say no. People would take advantage of me. I found that people would have an expectation of me, to do things for them. If I did happen to say no, on occasion. I was made to feel guilty that I had turned them down. This went on for a long time. Now I'm aware of what I was doing, and im no longer anyone's dogs body. I have learnt to decide when to say NO. I choose what I want to do. My welffare and wellbeing comes first.
That’s very sweet… and very TRUE! It’s sad that many people do not take negative/ tragic things that have happened to them and turn them into positives the way Andrew has here! I think the world would be a MUCH better place if they did. It ends up helping COUNTLESS others that find themselves in the SAME situations and feel helpless/ hopeless. Thank you, for this Andrew! ☺️🙏 you have touched more lives than you could EVER have imagined… because you CHOSE to OVERCOME! 💪😁👍 You. Are. AMAZING! Everyone here who is educating themselves and CHOOSING NOT to let their narcissistic abusers get them down, you are ALL AMAZING!!! 💪😊🙌
Andrew really is amazing. One of a kind, not many people like him. When you see the much earlier videos, Andrew still determined to help others even with tears in his eyes. The way he has changed our thinking around is tremendous and no wonder the folk throughout the whole world love him so much and he is worthy of it all. Thank you Jennifer 💕💕
Beautifully said! I’ve learned so much from this channel. If I am to be honest, I’d still be with a narcissist, and still believing things between us will get better. Boy was I dumb!
Andrew really has awakened us and made us all aware of what was really going on with these pathetic people. Good for you in getting well away from that person.
After 39 years of marriage I just got my first Hoover. It lasted three days where I allowed him to temporarily live here. Then his ‘girlfriend’ chaos started on day two. Day three something different girlfriend supply chaos. He literally set me back three months of healing. I booted him out & unfortunately can’t go no contact because we own a business together. I choose me & not that P0S. Thank you Andrew. You have helped me and so many other survivors so very much
I’m placing my energy in myself!!! That hurtful relationship is waaaaayyyy in the past. At this point of my healing journey he couldn’t get me to tell him what time it is! He’s invisible. Non-consequential, BLOCKED from my heart, my thoughts and my life. The feeling of freedom is like finding out, I no longer have a major illness. All symptoms are gone and I’m free to live a full and rewarding life. It has taken seven, no make that eight years to get through this ordeal. NOTHING will ever cause me to regress into that dark shadow of an existence. Thank you Andrew for being a shepherd leading the way.
Awesome, great message! Love ❤️ it! 💯 with this message 👏 👌 Divorced 9 months, I divorced him, no contact in everything but he popped up at 6 months, 9 months this month packages-sent back returned to sender 2 package, he called my job- I didn't answer. He dosen't have my new #, went cold with everything possible!!! Everything in this video is so 🔥 on fire! I'm healing 😌 I remember the bad in everything, no desire to see or be with him! Thanks for your help 👍 and great advice!
Never again Andrew . After I finally went no No Contact !! It brought me to my senses !!! He can never return to me. At me or For me !!! Not near Me. I had to learn the hard hurt devastating way . When you get out. Runn! 👌🙏🙏💯🙌💪
And you were right. She keeps coming back, every second week she miss me or thinks about me. I just keep my doors closed!! Cause im already healed and my love for her turned into not being interested
What I’m doing right now I’m sitting in my car with the air conditioning on waiting for my laundry to wash and I’m relaxing listening to this and I’m at peace
His videos have helped me in my healing process for sure. When everyone else seems to be there for the drama part with the narc and then disappear when need them most it is awful. Theses vids I truly appreciate it bc helps me understand a lot more and to connect with others who have gone through the same is huge in healing as well to know not alone. TY Andrew!
After all the years that passed, and a new phone number, new address, and no more Social Media, I feel like a million dollars! He had no friends, so no flying monkeys are in the picture. It will be 12.8 years next month, and I feel safe. I said many times, I have a plan in case I ever run into him. There are no coincidences, however I am prepared to carry out my plan. He will not get near me bcse I will be gone. Keep walking and do not stop. If he touches/grabs me, he will be sorry. Oh, nothing violent, just a strong message. Keep on walking. GREAT TOPIC ANDREW...❤
If you’ve made it to andrews channel it was for a reason! This is one step along our journey to learn to not dismiss the messages and signs guided to you. I highly suggest to those who’ve dealt with similar turmoils of narcissistic abuse out of other channels. Andrew is genuine and as an empath I feel, listen, educate with what he says, and he will show up in divine timing! Trust me, trust you. God bless you Andrew! Thanks so much for all you’ve done to help me and so many others. You rock!✨🙏🏼
I remember having the question of - HOW do I start setting boundaries and I already knew the answer. You start with one (which is easiest when you are separate from the narcissist)... for example, when they call, tell them before they get started - you can only call for this specific reason(s) during these specific hours. If at any time you talk to me with disrespect, I'll end the call and you'll be blocked for 48 hours... And when you do that and stick to it, they get mad at first but they learn you aint foolin around. You mean what you said.
Andrew is my favorite male name. I named my son Andrew, I came upon you channel I'm an empath and I loved a narc and he beat me and was so cruel triangulation. Your channel popped up out of no where I love it you bring me peace you energy is calm and steady . Thank you!
Whenever he entered a room he was always the centre of attention. Girls gravitated toward him because he was handsome, funny and charismatic. A drummer and singer in a rock band. He'd flirt outrageously yet I was only a few feet away. The whole night I would be totally ignored. His excuse....'I see you all the time, get over it.'
@@aqua6613 yes. When anyone showed interest in me he would quickly come and plant a kiss on my cheek, like a dog, marking his territory. Gosh i was so naive.
@@Teal_Moon agreed. I went to a funeral and have been clean of him and his toxicity for 7 years now. Hes much older, looks about 120kg and has lost his lustre. I replied to him a 'Hi' but that was all. As i turned and walked away i felt i had reclaimed all my power and self-worth . All i feel for him now is pity.
Andrew they do keep coming back over and over until we break the bond. I’m so glad to have the understanding of how they operate! I know we have power when we go no contact. It’s great because they have taken so much from us! But never again, we’ve learned, are healing and have healthy boundaries now!! And that’s a hard pill for them to swallow… guess that’s true Karma! Thank you for reminding us to be ready for the return!!💚💚💚💚
"Here you come again Just when I've begun to get myself together You waltz right in the door Just like you've done before And you wrap my heart 'round your little finger"--Here You Come Again, Dolly Parton
The narc reappearing in my life simply affords me the opportunity to demonstrate how I feel/think/view the narcissist. I will ignore her and if that isn't possible I will laugh in her face. She's subhuman as far as I'm concerned. All narcissists are subhuman and that's a fact. Treat them as the cockroaches they are and spray them with bug spray or step on them and squash them metaphorically speaking of course. Live your best life and continue to heal. Wishing all of you the best. Much love and respect!
I lost my mind trying to figure hers out, I searched all through RUclips, you're by far the best influencer out there. This wasn't our fault. We have to love ourselves again.
Andrew, I'm the mother of an adult daughter who is highly narcissistic. I'm also an empath and HSP. So, I've been exposed to this toxic energy for years; she wasn't like this until she married her husband..he has always strongly disliked me and my son (her brother). Now, she has cut off her brother and his family; has minimal contact with me. This means I rarely see my beloved grandchildren. You can imagine how painful this has been for the past 8+ months. Thanks for all you do. 🙏🏻
I don't know your personality or manner in which you approach your daughter but perhaps 180 the way you do. What I mean is change the way you speak to your daughter becoming a new creation. Being super kind. Humble yourself. Maybe even explain you want to be respectful of her new life and marriage but still want to be part of her life. Again, I do not know you but maybe she has pulled away for a reason. Die to yourself and be the first to make it right. Let her know you want to be there for her if she needs you but will remain respectful to allow her to live her life as an adult apart from her. I hope I am coming across in love when I write she may have pulled away for reasons you may not know. Ask her if there is anything you are doing which has been offensive. Tell her you don't want to be that way if I causes grief or you to not be a part of your innocent grandchildren's life. Respectfully, Alexis
That’s interesting. Narcissists, for the most part, are biproduct of histrionic mothers. The eternal “victims” of life, circumstances and people, cunning, cowardly and highly manipulative. You somehow mentioning that “she wasn’t like that until she met her husband” - stopped being convenient, lives her own grown life and has that one villan in her life that turned the supplly away. The problem with histrionics, they will make you die on a railway trying to prove they’re selfish liars, yet they will keep on believing and claiming you have to admit you are the problem and not them.
Knowing all this hurts more knowing that I was abused and knowing that I was used. I think that I will never overcome this. They say that you can with time but this is the worst thing has ever happened to me when you give your whole heart and soul to someone and all they did was use you call it Supply call what you want the narcissists are evil Point Blank
Everybody on this site has been there, where you are, to lesser or greater degrees! We're all in one stage of healing or another. The toxicity in our souls has to GO! There is a big or small kernel of HOPE in each and every comment we find here - even in your seemingly hopeless one. Yours makes me look at the little progress I've made and rejoice that I'm one small bit better than I was yesterday! THIS is a very GOOD place to be, to heal, as I am, incrementally. Some days are more promising and healing than others. Some days are still a fog for me. I think you'll find that, too. The human person was created to be whole. We were made to be self healing, physical wounds as well as those that are soul deep. Where there is life, where there is God, where there are wise and caring travelers with us in this journey of life, there IS healing. It's not just for the rest of us. It's for YOU! YOU'LL GET THERE one tiny step, one fleeting moment at a time. We're in this TOGETHER! BLESSINGS dear sister!
@lillian I know you think you won't recover, but you will...be glad you found Andrew's channel. Andrew is very wise...it takes someone that's been "through it," to help others. It takes time to heal...my advice to you would be NEVER GO BACK...no matter what, keep moving forward and trust God.
Uhg. Calling and dropping by my home when I have said no. I find myself closing the blinds and hiding. He has never been in this home and I do not want him here. 🥴 This too shall pass. I have a new job new place and him and his friend want to destroy that. Creepy. 💖Thank you. It helps to not feel so alone and you have brought me some peace.
How did she get that way? Who raised and educated her? Narcissistic personality disorder is said to usually start very young because of insecurities created. Also, teenagers can show higher levels of narcissism that can be changed as they age if you talk to them about the behavior. How old is your daughter?
I’m so glad this time he has not come back. 3mths no contact. I tightened my boundaries so much. And I agree they can sense your energy, he always came back all the other times because I was still confused. Hurt. Missing him. This time I feel none of those things. I know deep in soul I did all I could. Nothing I did was wrong or right. It’s nothing but chaos and pain. I chose myself this time and while sometimes I feel lonely, I don’t miss him. Not in the least.
Thank you Andrew, your advice is priceless. She actually came around yesterday and said to me, " You know that you love me ". I was ready to throw up the stop sign at the slightest sign of disrespect or attempt to devalue me. We spoke for about fifteen minutes and then she left. Guess she wanted to feel me out. I can't thank you enough for making people like me aware of the very real struggle with narcissists and their purpose to destroy people like us, empaths. Will always stay tuned to your messages.
Thank you, Andrew. The negative energy of the narcissist is something you definitely don't want to have anything to do with again once you have left and are on the healing path. Namaste.
I was so traumatized by this narcissistic man, I will NEVER get in another relationship and I will never answer any calls or messages from them. I'm healing and living my life and will never trust anyone to be honest. The love bombing is a real thing, Andrew. I would have never believed it was possible, before him, but, I can see it now. Im blocked on social media but a few months back, his name appeared on the list of people I may know, and his best friends named appeared the next day. You can't see someone's name or profile, unless you had been unblocked for a second. As I'm sure everyone knows so I know I was being watched. Our anniversary is coming up on Sept 6, and it's a stressful time, but I'll continue to heal. Thank you Andrew
The second you saw him and his friend, you should have rushed and blocked them before they get a chance to reblock you. That way, they can't block-n-unblock you anymore - you'll have the power-n-control.
Love that a new found SUPER POWER. It has been over a year and things have been done to try to get to me. I knew I better not see him in my neighborhood or come to my house. NO CONTACT and he better not try it.
The narc never, ever let's go of YOU, and what they think is their possession. Sibling sent her neighbor over again after 1yr/6mo total no contact to bring a Christmas gift, and in the card the neighbor (my sister) states: "Jayne, we think of you often, without any friends we know you're lonely" I mean you cannot make this stuff up. I have to move out of state, possible name change to get away from her and the rest of the "family" aka flying monkey's.
Perfect timing! This happened this week and I can not believe that this person even tried to come back like nothing ever happened. I'm glowing up big time, and it's crazy that this person could sense that. So toxic and devious.
I'm still not healed as I kicked her out.now I have to deal with her responsibility her stuff she hasn't picked up..moving company.she left cats here n being a animal lover yah got 6 to take care of.bills she didn't pay.some days don't know if I can keep going.shes with new supply lucky him n yah I'm the villain she's the victim. My plate is full.
Andrew today I was helping my mom and dad help my grandpa move she is so proud of me and every time people would call me I would not answer it because I had a job to do which was helping my mom move my grandpa closer to me I am so proud of myself Andrew
I have been free for 30 days now after three decades of abuse. My life is amazing yet also strange. There are moments it feels like something bad is going to happen. The engine in my vehicle blew up the day after we were in court. He is a licenced mechanic, doesn't feel like a coincidence. He did try to hoover but I will never ever go back, lesson learned. Smear campain in full swing with flying monkeys. All the joint 'friends' stuck with him. Even my sister, she is a malignant narc, so no loss there. Not everyone you lose is a loss. You help me every day Andrew, keep doing what you are doing.
We all need to blind them with our silence, or be prepared to respond to their evil play. They love the holidays to play💯 Thank you for looking out for us, Andrew. Love you too and tribe. Hope everyone has a safe, peaceful, shielded weekend. Happy Labor Day weekend, USA, long weekend. Namaste❤❤❤🇨🇷🇺🇲🌟
@@janicedeeter577 Thank you, Janice, two kinds of people in this world us and the evil them, we have to move forward, staying the beautiful, loving people we are, they will never win in the end. Love to you, always❤💫
I dont know what it is...I have several syndacated channels i turn to but I cant go without Andrew. I feel like he is the big brother I never had. Thanks Andrew, you may never know how much your videos mean to us. I havent had the hoover yet. I feel it in my bones though in the worst way. At least I know that I am prepared for it.
Oh, yes, that feeling in the bones! Ready, yes, we are! Letting the feeling play gently like the sensitive ears of a watchdog. Not giving my peaceful present moment to the toxic one!
Oh Andrew, this is really spot on for me. Last year in september mister Ex rang my doorbell after 4,5 year. (I had already blocked him in every possible way. Each year he had send me a parcel, but I greyrocked him totally.) He lives in a different place of Holland than me and I had not expected it at all! Luckely we spoke through the intercom and I did not see him. He wanted to talk ('after all those years?!' I yelled with laughter...). I answered that I didn't want any contact with him. I even added: 'So, now you can go straight back home'. Afterwards I was totally puzzeled: how did he know I was on my own track again (even feeling so free and happy)... we don't share the same friends... But I guess he needed me back into his life (I was his sun, he often said... that I became totally drained and lost myself was of course of no importance...), and he must have sensed it. But I was stunned and answered totally honest. (I had no time to think...) I see it as if life gave me an exam, and I passed it so well!!!
Yes, Andrew, what pearls! Each one so precious because it was formed by the pain of narcissism you went through. Thank you for being the oyster! God bless you abundantly!
Andrew your videos have helped me out of the fog. Had no idea what I was dealing with . This video hit home Those days are over the ones in the fog, you can’t unsee it once you understand, you really are a true teacher and have so much understanding in this
This! Yes she showed back up. Has sent messages apologizing for the things she did and said. I'll admit I replied civilly but I try to avoid her as much I can but the anxiety goes off the charts still
Just J, next time, unless it’s a “must answer” situation (like someone is going to DIE if you don’t) leave whatever question or comment she is sending you hanging like a fruit bat. Pretend like you Never saw it,delete it immediately without looking. If you must answer, keep it as brutally short as possible. “Yes” “No” “I know” . . . you get my picture. Be at peace my friend.
You dont even know how much you have helped me to understand my ex Gf she had come back in 3 years like 6 times and 3months ago we broke up again then we tried to move slowly again and she send me tex messege 1 week ago saying im done so lets see if she comes back im DONE WHIT HER!
Thanks to Andrew! It has been 9 months with no contact .I changed my phone number. And I am a type of person that once I throw away my old pair of shoes in the dumpster I don't go back and pick them up again. So Thanks Andrew for all the great information you give people like me.God be with you. With love from Corpus Christi Texas.
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If you take your narcissist back their coming back for revenge they haven't forgiven you for the last time they were with you. Remember they don't forget anything! It's not worth it!
So true, Revenge or finish the job they did not finish, and that is to destroy you!
Yep when mine started hoovering immediately when the divorce was final that was exactly the feeling I got. She was upset with the little she had got out of me, and the fact that I was still alive.
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Thanks that's a timely reminder for me.
Wow so true.
They don't forget, and they don't forgive. Never
Don’t let them suck you back in and try and finish you off. Block, ignore, delete.
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It's the only way
Narcissisists still can have supply when they hoover but they hate to lose!!! It's all about winning to them. It's all about power and control.
"Where you place your attention is where you place your energy. Don't place it on the narcissist. Move forward. Place your energy on yourself." Very good advice! Thanks Andrew!
Welcome 🙏😉💪
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Like this wisdomthank you
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DON’T EVER LET THEM BACK IN. It’s worse the next time. And even worse the third. Trust your gut, show yourself respect, and move on forever!
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And when you think that was the worst things can possibly go. Trust me, they WILL find a lower low to transgress with you. Theres always worse, never forget that, you allow them to expose you to the next circle of hell each time you let them back.
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Scary! @@6AxisSage
When the narcissist appears again I just yell, "AHHH UGLY."
Block them.. heal.. don’t bother fixing or wondering if they’ll change or they miss u.. u live once.. time is precious
yes. their lives are not your beef. you have your own life.
Yes. They want to come in and ruin your blessings. Stand firm, don't look back. They are trying to sell you false dreams. They have nothing but destruction to offer you. Even if you are single and have times you feel alone, You will meet someone healthy and it's worth waiting for. I have not found that person yet but , I'm attracting that into my life . I myself know my worth, what I have to offer. I will not enter into a relationship where there is no equal give . My energy, time and Love is so valuable.
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Wow Andrew, my ex came back into my life after 22 years. And I found out why. I just retired and I’m now receiving my pension. Can you believe she had the guts to ask me for $15,000. Unbelievable!!! Haven’t talked to her since in anyway. It’s just crazy how dumb they think we are.
Thank you Andrew for your help.
When My FAMILY SAID, "NO CONTACT"..........I took it Seriously 🤣🤣. 5 yrs 💪💪💪💪. LEAVE Me ALONE, ............ THANKYOU 👍👍🤣
WOW! ....emigrate to another country 🤔....they are like wood worms - out of sight chewing away at any foundation available.
Wow 22 years, that’s crazy. And still entitled. All the evidence you need that these people are seriously messed up. To be honest, once you do the work on yourself, you wonder how you ever allowed these con artists into your life
@@MrPistolpete1234 agreed, these people are messed up. Wish we were aware or taught about them in school. I’m a freaking narcissist magnet. But not any more. I now can smile and turn away.
They really are assholes. Me, me, me. That's all they think about. No doubt if they come back in your life it's to benefit them and to harm you.
One day I just lay in bed in despair and thought how could I ever get out of this relationship and suddenly out of the blue I had an epiphany, that the guy I'm in a relationship with is actually a narcissist! From that moment I started researching the issue and suddenly everything became clear to me and from that moment I realized that actually everything was a fake and I was in love with a mask, with a pretender and this realization helped me start my healing, and since then he can only "dream about me"!!!! There is no way I will return to him, Never!!! Everything is clear now.......and when you understand the situation, it becomes much easier to detach and move on, I believe that God sent me this insight and really saved me from the vicious circle I was in and I thank God for that every day .
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No Contact!!! You Win❤
Same exact thing for me, the narc video came out of nowhere, I believe it was God!
@@Beholder777 Our Father knows his sheep!!! 🙌❤️✝️🤗
@@Beholder777 Our Father knows His Sheep!! 🙌❤️✝️🤗
I've been no contact for 3 years. When the 1 time in that period I got a random text from him happened, I felt like my stomach dropped to the floor. Blocked and deleted again. It's crazy how my body reacted even though I feel like I'm as healed as I am going to be. Love your videos my friend ❤
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Yes, I can relate to what you're saying, loud and clear. Mine tried to come back, I got physically sick from it. We have to be always moving forward.
Just because you had a reaction doesn't mean you are not healed. Your feelings are messengers.....! The message was danger!!!!
When the narc has burned through all their ‘friends’ expect them to come back with a sob story hoping that you have forgotten how badly they treated you. My memory is LONG!
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I can't wait to get out of the ruminating on them. Blocked him for my own mental health.
Whyopen up a same book when you know what the ending is going to be the same ending over and over again
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You are 100% right!
Very true!
Run people run...your life depends on it. Thank you Andrew. Really appreciate your daily knowledge. It really helps.
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How can you run if narc is your own mom??
If you are kid, there is no way. If you are an adult, stop any contact with here. I did.
With her
a narcissist is nothing but a person that “seek out people that like drama” in their life”
The whole relationship with a Narc, when you are unaware/uneducated is you had no idea you were in a game of sick madness one of which they had full game control and loved the fact you didnt hold a copy of the rule book. You full of anxiety, second guessing your own self worth and sanity.. When you become awakened, you are handed a brand new shiny book of what was missing the whole time... "the rules of engagement".. The narc has multi players all at multi stages of point of play, playing across multi screens/platforms and fields... Choose player exit. Such a wonderful gift, to be awakened. Thanks Andrew. Kia Haka (NZ)
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Right on👍,thanks for sharing your comment, and bringing more clarity!
WOW.. love that description! 🕹⏳🎭
@Truth Teller Talks how do they watch us? And through what app?
How do the narcissist have the memory capacity to keep up with each deceptive, fake,created personna for each victum/ prey/or player?
I just realized something. I loved her more than she loved herself. Think about that for a minute! There in “lies” the problem. A black hole of love so strong that I actually came out the other side of it. All the laws I thought I knew didn’t exist. I tried to make them fit. And they never could. As I got sucked past the event horizon. I thought my weight would crush me. Only to find that a whisper saved me and casted me from the distorted vortex into the galaxy of stars where I now sit in awe. Miracles happen. Thank you Andrew and family. May light always shine upon those who live in balance and peace and seek not to take but give and know the difference between love and abuse and those who use “love” to abuse- perhaps the cruelest lie a human being could ever do to another.
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I can confirm this. She came after me multiple times. Even when i blocked her, she created new accounts to stalk and contact me. These demons never stop. Be aware, even when you block and move on, they will appear again.
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Like vampire....they wait till you fatten back up, then come back, in hopes, to suck the life out of you!
...with the cross in my hand,and all accesses block and locked, Iam going to say " no" vamp(Narc) you are not allowed in my newly remodel ,happy,peaceful home!
You need to change your email then she will not come after you. Sick that she is making new accounts. I had to block some people on Facebook as that. Avoid stalkers they are dangerous. I had to delete Instagram. I had a social circle with friends.
These people are wicked it is so horrible
When my email and phone were blocked, my ex started contacting my elderly parents!
No such thing as a second chance, nope, not gonna happen!
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ITS A GAME!
YOU WIN BY NOT PLAYING!!!
They will suck all the rest of the energy out of the room! It feels like darkness with immense stress and when they start their tactics it feels like you’re being sucked into a black hole.
Allow that Hoover and they will take from you the rest of your energy your finances your health your looks your self-worth your self-esteem your time, and anything else they can because they have become more angry and injured. NO THANK YOU!
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Thank you Andrew! Enjoy your evening in beautiful Costa Rica! The birds sound tropical 🌴
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Wise words.
My narc mother showed up again love bombing in texts.
She offered to send me “some documents and pictures” that I’d asked for in the past to try to lure me into starting the cycle again.
I declined but thanked her for the offer and bid her goodbye. Sure enough the abusive texts came accusing me of being ungrateful; the facade dropped remarkably quickly. I ignored the insults, didn’t respond and blocked her.
To my amazement, I felt indifferent and went about my day.
The constant barrage of narcissistic behavior has the greatest toll on the integrity of your very soul, because in time they will make you as jaded as they are if you don't block the flying monkeys... Walk away don't look back.
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Yeah speaking from experience I went back into those chat rooms today I haven't participated in them for weeks but they are still talking crap about me don't look back they just bait
It's hard when you've been part of something for 6 years and that is your community and you mission yourself with a greater purpose, only to see the same principles infiltrate and be employed in the virtual world, gaslighting and straw man to the max🔥what they call you is what they actually are 👊and they do a really good job of painting with a broad brush😢 to make it seem so of course if you try to defend yourself that just further plays into their hand as well🚫 it really is a no-win situation they are silencing everyone today, I think it was Voltaire who said 'when you label me you negate me'... let us all stop labeling our fellow man, I know it's getting exponentially easier to judge a book by its cover these days, but we've got to start looking deeper and see what salvageable... God bless🙌 namaste.
I was weak, i went back just to observe, it didn't serve me just them, helpless feeling cancel culture is the worst
I went back, believed in giving 2nd chance like he would change and he got far worse than before and after breaking it off the 2nd time the games he has played is beyond pathetic. To think I wasted 3.5 yrs on him....ugh. i should have listened to ppl sooner who knew from day 1 he was not good news. Smh.
So true! The ex tried to appear after 4 yrs! Some of them will hunt you down, so beware. I told him to hit the road Jack and don’t come back! There’s a song in there…🤔🎶
Thanks so much Andrew. I divorced my narcissist husband 2 years ago. When we were married he spent $20,000-$30,000 per year on his hobbies! One of the reasons I left. He's dated at least multiple women before our divorce was even finalized. His girlfriend now that he started seeing close to a year ago he bragged to me how she is rich. And he was always treated me mean until the last few months. He has even said he is thinking about wanting to reconcile with me. But then he said he was going to have to go back to work because he needed money. I'm now sure that his new supply won't give him her money. So he is love bombing me to get me back for my money.
Hahaha but you know better!
This sounds like my story!!!
Before I realised that nothing was going to change I fell for the hoover way too many times; when he said he missed me and wanted a second chance, that he thought I was the best thing that ever happened to him - you know all that shit. I felt I was in the middle of a dark maze surrounded by mayhem, and I couldn't find a clear way out. I had shed way too many tears and I was sick of all his toxic energy. The verbal violence soon turned into psychal. He kicked me out and kept all my stuff - everything! He ran his own company and I was office admin, 2IC. He has a lot of material items - so what! He's a loser! I intend on bettering myself everyday. It's not easy to stay positive all the time but that is a part of life. I feel like I am starting to breathe and live again. Thank you Andrew for helping me to "Wake TF Up!"
Angel Conley is a Narc
Congratulations!! So happy you got out!
Just so you know, legally you can stay like 30 days. Or at least legally get you stuf with cops if necessary.
Andrew, You are one of the few people I have daily contact with. I am very blessed for the positive input you give to my life every day. Namaste 💗🕊️
Same here. We are stronger when we learn from him. We will win.
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I agree with you Laurie Elliott 💟
That statement may be true for many of us.
Agreed at this point. It’s incredibly important to be selective. Just one person can throw your whole life into a blunder. This community has been helping with the healing process. We’re not alone.
I've had 3 of these 2-legged devils turn up again sniffing around for another chance with me in 2022 but I've simply ignored each one and strengthened my resolve to not engage with these types. Life is for living xx
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I laughed when I read his "hover" email. I saw right thru him. I am stronger for having the education. Grateful, Andrew, very grateful.
I was a people pleaser in the past. I would do things, because I wanted people's approval. I'm a slow learner. I let people use me. I couldn't say no. People would take advantage of me. I found that people would have an expectation of me, to do things for them. If I did happen to say no, on occasion. I was made to feel guilty that I had turned them down. This went on for a long time. Now I'm aware of what I was doing, and im no longer anyone's dogs body. I have learnt to decide when to say NO. I choose what I want to do. My welffare and wellbeing comes first.
I am praying hard, God please keep him away.
Please God keep him away. Thank you
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And all because one man discovered his calling and devoted himself to it lives are being changed today. You are that man Andrew. Thank you so much 🙏❤️
That’s very sweet… and very TRUE! It’s sad that many people do not take negative/ tragic things that have happened to them and turn them into positives the way Andrew has here! I think the world would be a MUCH better place if they did. It ends up helping COUNTLESS others that find themselves in the SAME situations and feel helpless/ hopeless. Thank you, for this Andrew! ☺️🙏 you have touched more lives than you could EVER have imagined… because you CHOSE to OVERCOME! 💪😁👍 You. Are. AMAZING! Everyone here who is educating themselves and CHOOSING NOT to let their narcissistic abusers get them down, you are ALL AMAZING!!! 💪😊🙌
Andrew really is amazing. One of a kind, not many people like him. When you see the much earlier videos, Andrew still determined to help others even with tears in his eyes. The way he has changed our thinking around is tremendous and no wonder the folk throughout the whole world love him so much and he is worthy of it all. Thank you Jennifer 💕💕
I thought you were actually talking about Jesus
Beautifully said! I’ve learned so much from this channel. If I am to be honest, I’d still be with a narcissist, and still believing things between us will get better. Boy was I dumb!
Andrew really has awakened us and made us all aware of what was really going on with these pathetic people. Good for you in getting well away from that person.
After 39 years of marriage I just got my first Hoover. It lasted three days where I allowed him to temporarily live here. Then his ‘girlfriend’ chaos started on day two. Day three something different girlfriend supply chaos. He literally set me back three months of healing. I booted him out & unfortunately can’t go no contact because we own a business together. I choose me & not that P0S. Thank you Andrew. You have helped me and so many other survivors so very much
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I’m placing my energy in myself!!!
That hurtful relationship is waaaaayyyy in the past.
At this point of my healing journey he couldn’t get me to tell him what time it is!
He’s invisible. Non-consequential, BLOCKED from my heart, my thoughts and my life.
The feeling of freedom is like finding out, I no longer have a major illness.
All symptoms are gone and I’m free to live a full and rewarding life.
It has taken seven, no make that eight years to get through this ordeal.
NOTHING will ever cause me to regress into that dark shadow of an existence.
Thank you Andrew for being a shepherd leading the way.
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Take the door off the cage
Keep flying❣️🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
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Awesome, great message! Love ❤️ it! 💯 with this message 👏 👌 Divorced 9 months, I divorced him, no contact in everything but he popped up at 6 months, 9 months this month packages-sent back returned to sender 2 package, he called my job- I didn't answer. He dosen't have my new #, went cold with everything possible!!! Everything in this video is so 🔥 on fire! I'm healing 😌 I remember the bad in everything, no desire to see or be with him! Thanks for your help 👍 and great advice!
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Never again Andrew . After I finally went no No Contact !! It brought me to my senses !!! He can never return to me. At me or For me !!! Not near Me. I had to learn the hard hurt devastating way . When you get out. Runn! 👌🙏🙏💯🙌💪
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I runn as fast as I could
Post made me LOL
Run…
And you were right. She keeps coming back, every second week she miss me or thinks about me. I just keep my doors closed!! Cause im already healed and my love for her turned into not being interested
What I’m doing right now I’m sitting in my car with the air conditioning on waiting for my laundry to wash and I’m relaxing listening to this and I’m at peace
Don't even think about them. Now that is truly no contact.
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Really needed to hear this tonight Andrew. 5 months on and your channel is the best therapy. ❤
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RUN baby RUN......in other words GET OUT!!!!
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Andrew is bestowing healing grace to anyone listening….
No words needed. 💜
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His videos have helped me in my healing process for sure. When everyone else seems to be there for the drama part with the narc and then disappear when need them most it is awful. Theses vids I truly appreciate it bc helps me understand a lot more and to connect with others who have gone through the same is huge in healing as well to know not alone. TY Andrew!
The opposite of love is not hate it's indifference.
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It's just a game for them. They don't realize we are on to them and their BS.
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Thx for your education.
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After all the years that passed, and a new phone number, new address, and no more Social Media, I feel like a million dollars! He had no friends, so no flying monkeys are in the picture. It will be 12.8 years next month, and I feel safe. I said many times, I have a plan in case I ever run into him. There are no coincidences, however I am prepared to carry out my plan. He will not get near me bcse I will be gone. Keep walking and do not stop. If he touches/grabs me, he will be sorry. Oh, nothing violent, just a strong message. Keep on walking. GREAT TOPIC ANDREW...❤
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Negative aura around a narcissist, makes sense now. This is very true
Omg yes it's a surge of dark energy when a narcissist comes around everyone feels uncomfortable. I'm soooo happy you said that
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If you’ve made it to andrews channel it was for a reason! This is one step along our journey to learn to not dismiss the messages and signs guided to you. I highly suggest to those who’ve dealt with similar turmoils of narcissistic abuse out of other channels. Andrew is genuine and as an empath I feel, listen, educate with what he says, and he will show up in divine timing! Trust me, trust you. God bless you Andrew! Thanks so much for all you’ve done to help me and so many others. You rock!✨🙏🏼
One hasn't reappeared, and he won't. I consider myself blessed. Happy healing tribe.❣️
My gosh, WHERE are all the good folks at??? I KNOW I am not alone, but where are you guys?? 😆
They tried to kill me, but it only made me MUCH 💪
I remember having the question of - HOW do I start setting boundaries and I already knew the answer. You start with one (which is easiest when you are separate from the narcissist)... for example, when they call, tell them before they get started - you can only call for this specific reason(s) during these specific hours. If at any time you talk to me with disrespect, I'll end the call and you'll be blocked for 48 hours... And when you do that and stick to it, they get mad at first but they learn you aint foolin around. You mean what you said.
Put them in your rear view like I finally did & unsubscribe to their tricks. Another awesome video, Andrew. 💚
Andrew is my favorite male name. I named my son Andrew, I came upon you channel I'm an empath and I loved a narc and he beat me and was so cruel triangulation. Your channel popped up out of no where I love it you bring me peace you energy is calm and steady . Thank you!
Welcome to the community 🙌🙏💯😊
"THE NARCISSISTS JUST DON'T KNOW" AND YES I THANK YOU GOD JESUS YES"🙏🙏🙏
Whenever he entered a room he was always the centre of attention. Girls gravitated toward him because he was handsome, funny and charismatic. A drummer and singer in a rock band. He'd flirt outrageously yet I was only a few feet away. The whole night I would be totally ignored. His excuse....'I see you all the time, get over it.'
With time, his ugliness will show and all of those redeeming qualities will be meaningless
Oh but if you ever dared to dish out the same treatment 😆
@@aqua6613 yes. When anyone showed interest in me he would quickly come and plant a kiss on my cheek, like a dog, marking his territory. Gosh i was so naive.
@@Teal_Moon agreed. I went to a funeral and have been clean of him and his toxicity for 7 years now. Hes much older, looks about 120kg and has lost his lustre. I replied to him a 'Hi' but that was all. As i turned and walked away i felt i had reclaimed all my power and self-worth . All i feel for him now is pity.
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Ty so very much Andrew
Andrew they do keep coming back over and over until we break the bond. I’m so glad to have the understanding of how they operate! I know we have power when we go no contact. It’s great because they have taken so much from us! But never again, we’ve learned, are healing and have healthy boundaries now!! And that’s a hard pill for them to swallow… guess that’s true Karma! Thank you for reminding us to be ready for the return!!💚💚💚💚
RUN FORREST RUN !! And that's all I gotta say about that.
I wouldn’t go back the experience is branded in my brain the trust factor has been broken!
"Here you come again
Just when I've begun to get myself together
You waltz right in the door
Just like you've done before
And you wrap my heart 'round your little finger"--Here You Come Again, Dolly Parton
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The narc reappearing in my life simply affords me the opportunity to demonstrate how I feel/think/view the narcissist. I will ignore her and if that isn't possible I will laugh in her face. She's subhuman as far as I'm concerned. All narcissists are subhuman and that's a fact. Treat them as the cockroaches they are and spray them with bug spray or step on them and squash them metaphorically speaking of course. Live your best life and continue to heal. Wishing all of you the best. Much love and respect!
I lost my mind trying to figure hers out, I searched all through RUclips, you're by far the best influencer out there. This wasn't our fault. We have to love ourselves again.
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Andrew i wanna give you a compliment your brown eyes are amazing we should never give narcissistic people a second chance ever we are survivors
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Like I always say, he IS DEVASTATINGLY handsome! 🥰
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone sorry Andrew! We’re all in love with you!😘
They will not leave you in peace.. Run 🏃♀️
Andrew, I'm the mother of an adult daughter who is highly narcissistic. I'm also an empath and HSP. So, I've been exposed to this toxic energy for years; she wasn't like this until she married her husband..he has always strongly disliked me and my son (her brother). Now, she has cut off her brother and his family; has minimal contact with me. This means I rarely see my beloved grandchildren. You can imagine how painful this has been for the past 8+ months. Thanks for all you do. 🙏🏻
Sending healing energy 🙏💯🙌
I don't know your personality or manner in which you approach your daughter but perhaps 180 the way you do. What I mean is change the way you speak to your daughter becoming a new creation. Being super kind. Humble yourself. Maybe even explain you want to be respectful of her new life and marriage but still want to be part of her life. Again, I do not know you but maybe she has pulled away for a reason. Die to yourself and be the first to make it right. Let her know you want to be there for her if she needs you but will remain respectful to allow her to live her life as an adult apart from her. I hope I am coming across in love when I write she may have pulled away for reasons you may not know. Ask her if there is anything you are doing which has been offensive. Tell her you don't want to be that way if I causes grief or you to not be a part of your innocent grandchildren's life. Respectfully, Alexis
That’s interesting. Narcissists, for the most part, are biproduct of histrionic mothers. The eternal “victims” of life, circumstances and people, cunning, cowardly and highly manipulative. You somehow mentioning that “she wasn’t like that until she met her husband” - stopped being convenient, lives her own grown life and has that one villan in her life that turned the supplly away. The problem with histrionics, they will make you die on a railway trying to prove they’re selfish liars, yet they will keep on believing and claiming you have to admit you are the problem and not them.
Blessings to you with prayer!
This is so true. They keep coming back to drain more of your energy. Misery loves company.
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Knowing all this hurts more knowing that I was abused and knowing that I was used. I think that I will never overcome this. They say that you can with time but this is the worst thing has ever happened to me when you give your whole heart and soul to someone and all they did was use you call it Supply call what you want the narcissists are evil Point Blank
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........Lillian...your sun will shine again....believe...time does heal...be strong...blessings...
Everybody on this site has been there, where you are, to lesser or greater degrees! We're all in one stage of healing or another.
The toxicity in our souls has to GO! There is a big or small kernel of HOPE in each and every comment we find here - even in your seemingly hopeless one. Yours makes me look at the little progress I've made and rejoice that I'm one small bit better than I was yesterday!
THIS is a very GOOD place to be, to heal, as I am, incrementally. Some days are more promising and healing than others. Some days are still a fog for me. I think you'll find that, too.
The human person was created to be whole. We were made to be self healing, physical wounds as well as those that are soul deep. Where there is life, where there is God, where there are wise and caring travelers with us in this journey of life, there IS healing.
It's not just for the rest of us. It's for YOU!
YOU'LL GET THERE one tiny step, one fleeting moment at a time. We're in this TOGETHER!
BLESSINGS dear sister!
@lillian I know you think you won't recover, but you will...be glad you found Andrew's channel. Andrew is very wise...it takes someone that's been "through it," to help others. It takes time to heal...my advice to you would be NEVER GO BACK...no matter what, keep moving forward and trust God.
Uhg. Calling and dropping by my home when I have said no. I find myself closing the blinds and hiding. He has never been in this home and I do not want him here. 🥴 This too shall pass. I have a new job new place and him and his friend want to destroy that. Creepy. 💖Thank you. It helps to not feel so alone and you have brought me some peace.
I am struggling with my Narcissist daughter; she’s now gotten to the point she’s betrayed me and I have been devastated to say the least. 😩
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Mine hasn't spoken to me for over a year. I'm actually at peace with it. She is all drama.
Let her go.
You lost your daughter the day she became a narcissist. Sorry to say it but it's the truth. Accept it and move on. All the best for you!
How did she get that way? Who raised and educated her? Narcissistic personality disorder is said to usually start very young because of insecurities created. Also, teenagers can show higher levels of narcissism that can be changed as they age if you talk to them about the behavior. How old is your daughter?
I’m so glad this time he has not come back. 3mths no contact. I tightened my boundaries so much. And I agree they can sense your energy, he always came back all the other times because I was still confused. Hurt. Missing him. This time I feel none of those things. I know deep in soul I did all I could. Nothing I did was wrong or right. It’s nothing but chaos and pain. I chose myself this time and while sometimes I feel lonely, I don’t miss him. Not in the least.
Thank you Andrew, your advice is priceless. She actually came around yesterday and said to me, " You know that you love me ". I was ready to throw up the stop sign at the slightest sign of disrespect or attempt to devalue me. We spoke for about fifteen minutes and then she left. Guess she wanted to feel me out. I can't thank you enough for making people like me aware of the very real struggle with narcissists and their purpose to destroy people like us, empaths. Will always stay tuned to your messages.
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Spot on Andrew. I do not want anything to do with the narcisists dark energy.Thank you. God bless you.
Thank you, Andrew. The negative energy of the narcissist is something you definitely don't want to have anything to do with again once you have left and are on the healing path. Namaste.
Namaste 🙏
Blood, soul sucking energy stealers. I swear ex had a black cloud over him. Just his presence is evil.
So true. It happened to me. Draining and depressed. Lost of time.
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I was so traumatized by this narcissistic man, I will NEVER get in another relationship and I will never answer any calls or messages from them. I'm healing and living my life and will never trust anyone to be honest. The love bombing is a real thing, Andrew. I would have never believed it was possible, before him, but, I can see it now. Im blocked on social media but a few months back, his name appeared on the list of people I may know, and his best friends named appeared the next day. You can't see someone's name or profile, unless you had been unblocked for a second. As I'm sure everyone knows so I know I was being watched. Our anniversary is coming up on Sept 6, and it's a stressful time, but I'll continue to heal. Thank you Andrew
The second you saw him and his friend, you should have rushed and blocked them before they get a chance to reblock you. That way, they can't block-n-unblock you anymore - you'll have the power-n-control.
Love that a new found SUPER POWER. It has been over a year and things have been done to try to get to me. I knew I better not see him in my neighborhood or come to my house. NO CONTACT and he better not try it.
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The narc never, ever let's go of YOU, and what they think is their possession. Sibling sent her neighbor over again after 1yr/6mo total no contact to bring a Christmas gift, and in the card the neighbor (my sister) states: "Jayne, we think of you often, without any friends we know you're lonely" I mean you cannot make this stuff up. I have to move out of state, possible name change to get away from her and the rest of the "family" aka flying monkey's.
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Lol I was just thinking that exact same thought.
"Rear their ugly Head"
LOL
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Hoovering, yes they do come back like a bad sequel.
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Gm Andrew. They r toxic evil. Ty for shareing your truth n guidance you r God's Angel. Hugs n Prayers. Lots of Smiles. 🐼💖🙏
Perfect timing! This happened this week and I can not believe that this person even tried to come back like nothing ever happened. I'm glowing up big time, and it's crazy that this person could sense that. So toxic and devious.
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Juanita, they are MONSTERS! Take care of yourself. ♥️⚘️
It's always as nothing happened. Or - let's forget about it, it's in the past 😅
Thank you for helping me.
I'm still not healed as I kicked her out.now I have to deal with her responsibility her stuff she hasn't picked up..moving company.she left cats here n being a animal lover yah got 6 to take care of.bills she didn't pay.some days don't know if I can keep going.shes with new supply lucky him n yah I'm the villain she's the victim. My plate is full.
Andrew today I was helping my mom and dad help my grandpa move she is so proud of me and every time people would call me I would not answer it because I had a job to do which was helping my mom move my grandpa closer to me I am so proud of myself Andrew
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Good job!
Sweet Steve!
I have been free for 30 days now after three decades of abuse. My life is amazing yet also strange. There are moments it feels like something bad is going to happen. The engine in my vehicle blew up the day after we were in court. He is a licenced mechanic, doesn't feel like a coincidence. He did try to hoover but I will never ever go back, lesson learned. Smear campain in full swing with flying monkeys. All the joint 'friends' stuck with him. Even my sister, she is a malignant narc, so no loss there. Not everyone you lose is a loss. You help me every day Andrew, keep doing what you are doing.
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No everyone you lose is a lost!
Poetic….
Think I’ll write that one down!
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We all need to blind them with our silence, or be prepared to respond to their evil play. They love the holidays to play💯 Thank you for looking out for us, Andrew. Love you too and tribe. Hope everyone has a safe, peaceful, shielded weekend. Happy Labor Day weekend, USA, long weekend. Namaste❤❤❤🇨🇷🇺🇲🌟
my goodness Stacey; I'm thinking the same. Lovely comment. Sending you love
@@janicedeeter577 Thank you, Janice, two kinds of people in this world us and the evil them, we have to move forward, staying the beautiful, loving people we are, they will never win in the end. Love to you, always❤💫
@@1Tmally3 - AGREE 💯🔥 ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. WE SHALL KEEP RUNNING 🏃🏃 AND NEVER ALLOW THEM TO WIN. LEAVE THEM SUFFERING WITH THEIR OWN EVIL WAYS👺
Your a good man Andrew.
Peace from Australia.
I dont know what it is...I have several syndacated channels i turn to but I cant go without Andrew. I feel like he is the big brother I never had. Thanks Andrew, you may never know how much your videos mean to us. I havent had the hoover yet. I feel it in my bones though in the worst way. At least I know that I am prepared for it.
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Yes I feel it in my bones as well, but I am so prepared. We are so prepared cuz I am not alone
Oh, yes, that feeling in the bones!
Ready, yes, we are!
Letting the feeling play gently like the sensitive ears of a watchdog.
Not giving my peaceful present moment to the toxic one!
Oh Andrew, this is really spot on for me. Last year in september mister Ex rang my doorbell after 4,5 year. (I had already blocked him in every possible way. Each year he had send me a parcel, but I greyrocked him totally.) He lives in a different place of Holland than me and I had not expected it at all! Luckely we spoke through the intercom and I did not see him. He wanted to talk ('after all those years?!' I yelled with laughter...). I answered that I didn't want any contact with him. I even added: 'So, now you can go straight back home'. Afterwards I was totally puzzeled: how did he know I was on my own track again (even feeling so free and happy)... we don't share the same friends... But I guess he needed me back into his life (I was his sun, he often said... that I became totally drained and lost myself was of course of no importance...), and he must have sensed it. But I was stunned and answered totally honest. (I had no time to think...) I see it as if life gave me an exam, and I passed it so well!!!
All of this wisdom you are pouring into us, did not come cheap. Thank you for turning your pain into purpose.
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Yes, Andrew, what pearls! Each one so precious because it was formed by the pain of narcissism you went through. Thank you for being the oyster!
God bless you abundantly!
Andrew your videos have helped me out of the fog. Had no idea what I was dealing with . This video hit home Those days are over the ones in the fog, you can’t unsee it once you understand, you really are a true teacher and have so much understanding in this
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You truly CANNOT unsee or unhear. Once you do, lock in and remember. It will keep you from ever going back again.
Thank you!
This! Yes she showed back up. Has sent messages apologizing for the things she did and said. I'll admit I replied civilly but I try to avoid her as much I can but the anxiety goes off the charts still
Just J, next time, unless it’s a “must answer” situation (like someone is going to DIE if you don’t) leave whatever question or comment she is sending you hanging like a fruit bat. Pretend like you Never saw it,delete it immediately without looking.
If you must answer, keep it as brutally short as possible. “Yes” “No” “I know” . . . you get my picture.
Be at peace my friend.
@@AAXS-op1vo Thank you for this!
You dont even know how much you have helped me to understand my ex Gf she had come back in 3 years like 6 times and 3months ago we broke up again then we tried to move slowly again and she send me tex messege 1 week ago saying im done so lets see if she comes back im DONE WHIT HER!
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Preach Andrew!!!!
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