"They are not designed to love you." This is so true and why on earth did it take me so long to understand this??? Men really are the romantic ones, not women.
@@98gmc1500This. Women like to consume it, and some do write it. But, if you notice, they are ALWAYS about the early formation of a relationship. You don't see any romance where the majority story is in the long term. That's boring to them.
@@george-trad they are programmed for procreation not relationships or marriage they are programmed to toot That Azz Up and let a evolutionarily advanced male high octane fill it up
#1-10 in summation, she doesn't care about you, it's about her, she's always looking for a better option, and if she senses you are giving 100 percent effort she will assume she can do better because you are willing to try so hard.
Damn bro, I still try to have hope. Like the end of rocket Queen on appetite. I just met a amazing girl I'm talking to. Being careful, but I get it. Take care man
That moment when you nod through the entire video because he addresses the exact same points you experienced with women and you know its just straight facts 👑
Women who don’t wear makeup or do their nail and hair on a daily routine, are better picks for relationships from my observations. Less is more still applies here too.
One ex-gf told me "Men always end up wanting to replace their girlfriend with a younger girlfriend." While it's not unthinkable, I don't think that's the default or natural mental state for all men. At the time, I was not thinking this way at all. But I took that statement as evidence of herself being damaged. Or perhaps she was projecting her understanding of her own female nature. Hard to say!
Fear of loss via replacement. Propably experienced that in her life or friend circle. So, she thinks all men are like that, so her view on men may be damaged - and she understands the female nature herself.
We live in society of illusion. Mostly everything is working exactly opposite of what we all being told and brainwashed: women - need sex more, cheat more, change partners more, start sex life earlier, have no empathy, don't know what long term love and commitment is, are selfish, are lazy, are dirty. There are exceptions, truly good women out there and we should protect them at all costs and try to raise our daughters just like that, but in general it's true.
Even when that kind of thing happens, man doesn't want to replace his wife. Usually she's just not very sexual with him anymore so he wants to get a sidepiece. Has no intention of divorce, but she will force the issue despite causing the problem in the first place.
9:10 and this is why men need to STOP FOCUSING ON WOMEN and focus on YOUR PURPOSE. Once you are focused on that, you will most likely become a high value to satisfy hypergamy. When you meet up, you have a good time AND PULL BACK. Do NOT EVER be more interested nor do more for her than she does you, THAT IS NOT HOW HYPERGAMY IS SATISFIED. You stay along this route FOREVER and she may FOREVER stay with you because hypergamy is satisfied, she is with the highest value male FOR HER & OFFSPRING SURVIVAL and then you have a great relationship.
high value to satisfy hypergamy🤣 you mean a mark to be taken advantage of for your financial resources? You mean getting fake interest while she bangs chad on the side? you guys are comedians man
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
It only works if BOTH spouses want to save it. That's the issue: only one spouse can end it, at any time. And since nowadays there's so little pushback, especially on women, to save the relationship, and women are way more fickle, let's be real here, women end most relationships. It's stats, not theory.
It is very tough not to hate women after watching this but lesson learned : NEVER make a woman a priority in your life and you'll get an alright relationship as a result.
And as Casey correctly says you could be beyond the top of what she can legitimately get and she will still try to replace you. And then wonder for years why she has successive shitty relationships and never look back and say man maybe that was the guy. Maybe I should’ve, been more reasonable
So to break this down fellas, Casey just gave us 10 GREAT REASONS to GET TO YOUR BAG AND QUIT TRYNA GET THESE BROADS. THEY DONT CARE BOUT YOU. THEY ARE ABOUT THEMSELVES. GET. THE. FUCKIN. MONEY!!! 🏧💰
It’s so much better if you focus more on yourself and your needs and your wants instead of on her because she truly doesn’t care about you everything he just said came true for me
The more I consume this content that explains relationships and how women work, the more grateful I am that my first girlfriend became my wife and the love of my life. I couldn't even imagine how dating must be like now, with apps and profiles and social media, and thousands of voices telling you how to live your life. But I am glad there are people out there speaking out for men and laying out the hows and whys, which was missing when I grew up. I mean, I got lucky, but luck is not a strategy.
That'd great for you honestly I know some people Been married for almost 50 years and 27 30 plus years and you right I think is all about luck and how good woman really cares about a.man I do agree with you
To be fair, it WAS much easier a few decades ago. What changed: WOMEN. They have no social pressure to stay in a relationship anymore, even the opposite in fact, and with social media, dating apps and smart phones, the illusion is that 1000s of men are now available. They are, as hookups, but very few as potential spouses. But this illusion combined with women' s natural hypergamy and the "you go girl" no accountability mindset, and men of today have zero chances for a real LTR. Better to just live the now and forget the rest. Sad. We men are builders but why waste your efforts building a house on a shaky ground?
@@DarynSmith955 - Remember though, that while there are many marriages that are lasting for 10, 20, 50 years, most of them are not that happy. Probably only 10% of the ones "making it" are actually happy. Though most of them will pretend and put on a good show for their social media pages.
@@IKARIANOFFICIAL I do agree with haft what you say but at same time when comes to soical media pages they guntie show how much they love their partner on there but I don't necessarily means they pretended they care or anything like that if people not happy they should tell what's going on the people who do actually love each other going to make out if my grandparents didn't past they would be alive for 60 years some people I know married 20 30 40 50 60 because is how you deal with each other
I'm 6'5, NW is almost $2MM, 30 years old, run my own business, jacked, and have a decent following on social media (this is my burner lol). The testing from women is either super higher level, while some women test very minimal b/c they know I'll cut them off/have other options. While I have done very well with women, I will run into a woman every once in a while who takes pleasure in rejecting me and trying to put me in the friendzone, even if we are perfect on paper and have great chemistry. Kinda insane.
you guys still don’t understand that the most important thing is your face and bone structure…keep running that rat race, no amount of money or muscles will save you. And let’s not forget the consequences of feminism and the effects of the ongoing gender wars on women’s minds these days…all the way from teenagers. So good luck, you’ll find that unicorn man😁
But men have always wanted sex more than they want a long term relationship. It’s already scientifically proven that women perfer long relationships more than men do lol
David park is absolutely correct^ what you need to understand is that sex as a man is something you get in your system not out. You genuinely do not want to be making more than 1 to 2 intense psychological connections like that with partners in your life unless your in like a cult or some shit
One day an academic girlfriend started crying because she felt deep sympathy for a paedophile on TV, who was forbidden to approach toddlers and schoolboys, so he could never experience 'real love' nor corporal satisfaction. I left her.
@@HopeFaithExpect77 I wanted her back for the longest time, but by now (9 months later) I don't want her back anymore. She was incredibly disrespectful to me, and there's definitely a better woman out there for me than that.
@@micahrutland9021 good youve gotten to that realization. I was down a couple weeks myself then got shit together. Started dating bout 3 mos ago. Found a nice respectful good one over 4th July.
1. Her mating thought process is designed to replace you. 2. Expect her to try to "ruin" a good thing. (Testing) 3. They thrive off tension and problems to solve. 4. Shes constantly seeking male attention (consciously or not). 5. Her nature is survival, and the best man for this task is up to her judgement. 6. They play games to gain psychological advantage to get you attached. 7. Women will act out of emotion, in the current moment. Now is more important than future. 8. She feels she has easy access to high level guys through social media. 9. She puts her personal needs first. 10. You are mainly a facilitator for her needs, and her future children.
Yup they're only loyal to their feelings "right now". For her what she had done was not cheating but rather a divine message that she met the guy for a reason😅 a leap of faith for a better future. Survival instinct
This video ties in so well with Mike Sartain’s thoughts on evolutionary psychology. We can try to make society as fair as possible but the truth is only the strong survive and some men won’t mate! As much as a woman hates her innate instincts…everything inside her body tells her whether a man is a good fit for mating or not. She instinctively knows this. Bottom line if a man cannot protect and provide for a woman the hurtful truth is she doesn’t want you and her instincts tell her you’re not worthy to be a father. Gentlemen women will test…it’s nature’s way of filtering out the weak!
It’s not if a man can protect and provide. She will leave that man in a heartbeat. It’s the man that she knows she has to chase. But as soon as the chase is over then she’ll spit you out. That’s why you gotta play the long game. Have them chasing for 10 years
My experience is way too much of a mirror of the things that you hear online. I’m a 50-year-old. I’ve been married twice 14 years apart, and I’ve dated long-term and short. When I act like a dick, the women come flocking. If I act like my normal decent self, it doesn’t take long before they leave or that I don’t even get in the front door. in my experience, women will leave 90% of what they want for 10% that they think they’re missing rather than work on that 10%. Or just recognize there’s no saying as 100% of what you want. I don’t like my mirrors. But I know a lot of other guys who have the same experiences, so there’s some level of truth to
This information saves you a lot of stress bro with dealing with women💯 Casey Zander is great man I can’t lie. Every time I listen and internalize your videos it makes my life way easier when I comes on to dating and understanding women.
There’s nothing to feel bad about or pain for regarding this information. All it means is you’re free. You have an unprecedented chance to solely focus on yourself and see what comes through. It’ll probably be shockingly satisfying to witness.
I never needed anyone to tell me this and when I allowed it to happen to me as a teenager (almost 20) with a woman I wanted to marry, that was it for me ever being serious about women again. Never would have been able to do all the great things I’ve done, been all over the parts of the earth I wanted to see and do it on my own terms. It’s been a life I wouldn’t change for any woman.
I landed a top job. Was seeing a Lady for over a yr. Planned a epic 3 dayweekend romantic holiday. I was tested and the holiday ruined. I paid for every thing. Fk there tests. Stay single. 👎
It doesn’t matter what the test was, just that you learned from it. Nobody ever learned anything useful sitting at home. You got out there and achieved wisdom. Well done, son!
The downside is not having people to do stuff with. When all your friends are married, eventually they tire of the third wheel. As do you. And you have single friends, but if you’re above a certain age and below different age, they probably have kids. Like I have a female friend that I’m not interested in dating but she’s also single be cool to go do something but her kid while her youngest kid is a whiny pants. Always sick. So that’s off the table. No matter what anybody says nobody wants to spend their life alone.
4:55 LMFAO.......... COMPLETE TOTAL FACTS!! Guys, DO NOT GET TRICKED if/when they say they are ok with you being jealous... THEY ARE NOT. Hypergamy makes it impossible because she will start to think you are insecure (which is why they say this A LOT), you are NOT CONFIDENT.... YOU SMV IS LOW, that guy and maybe even her are higher value than you are, THEN SHE IS GONE. If she is "ok" with you jealous, SHE IS JUST PLAYING AROUND WITH YOU JUST FOR YOUR VALIDATION. She WILL be gone as soon as higher value man is available to her.
I used to show these videos to my ex. She would do most of the things on this list. She would get so angry when I’d listen to you. Too bad I was too attached with what she would tell me. Learned a valuable lesson. The things this man says are 100% correct from My experiences
@@Nekk0las women need to put aside their ego to fully understand these videos. It actually benefits them if they do. No one ever benefits from denying reality.
@@Nekk0las Even if they understand this type of videos, it won't help them anyway. I had an ex, she was extremely smart. She understood her nature. Logically explaining to me everything that she does. And still she could not help but repeat herself. They NEED an outside control. Their instincts are muuuuch stronger than their logic.
My ex sabotaged a 12 year relationship by constantly going on about an old girlfriend of mine from 25 years previous. It didn't make sense, she was looking for any reason to wind herself up, and annoy me in the process. The day I laughed at her was all the reason she needed to end the relationship. She was 65 years old, so it's not just the dating girls, go figure.
A good question is what is our nature as men? How should the average man act when dating in order for him to be happy. We know what satisfies women now but I personally don’t want to keep adjusting my behaviour and actions like a chess game every time I date. Is a man happier when he doesn’t commit to any woman? I’ve been following his advice for months now and it does work surprisingly well. I found that the more toxic and more trauma the woman has the more Casey’s advice works but I got to the point where it all feels fake and hookups ain’t even fun anymore.
There are still "Good women" out there and yes, they also have this spooky nature Casey describes, they just cant help it. If you work on yourself and learn how to play the game correctly you will be surprised with the quality of women you can get, its never about the girls its about us becoming the best we can. The problem with modern sociery is that what constitutes the "Bsst mating option" is quite a schizophrenic choice because there are many ways to achieve "Success" and be a respected man. The only solution to all this confusion might be religious, and again that will come down to us, men.
Your nature is to not give a fuck what they or anyone wants or thinks..you’re meant to export and broadcast the innate love of the universe that is only generated via man.. yes I know society had you convinced they were the keepers of love.. nope men are the lovers.. this is why they are fascinated by it because they only receive or choose it. “ They are not wired to like us.” Is so profound of a reality check. When u see how we’ve been trolled my the universe and understand survival strategies it becomes clear. They will be on their best behavior when u demonstrate high value.. and other woman in your life. A massive CAVEAT needs to be added to all this info.. this is contemporary info. If you are leveraged 100x above her and have other woman in your life.. about 80 % of this info goes into the trash.
a buddy of mine JUST got divorced by his Japanese wife last month. they did the whole ceremony in Japan and USA and she moved all they way to Vermont and they bought a home. 4 year later.. lmao game over . relationships or marriages are just pure Deception and perception to please our egos and others
This stuff is amazing. Especially when you view anything you in this modern world you do in the context of what men evolved for, bringing home meat and fighting off outsiders.
What this video has reaffirmed for me personally is that it's better to be single and avoid the drama that I so incredibly despise. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. At least not for me.
First time watch .. second time thought & analysis.. 3rd time in total agreement .. Great Vid Casey , regards from Australia. .. a place sorely needing this truth !
Ah I wish I had been told this when I was 20 I spent most my life bitter and confused at this but it’s basically their nature to try to destroy the relationship got it wtf how are you supposed to live with that peacefully
I’ve always thought most of your stuff was just a little out there. I agreed with the ideas of being your absolute potential best. But today this video hit me like a hammer. I see it
“They often times don’t look into the future they look at the now” I can’t believe how true this is and I thought this was done only by women that aren’t very smart or that are impulsive or glutinous and stingy by personality traits. Turns out almost every woman is like this, and so was my ex. I am shocked when I hear Casey note this.
@@consciouselite4294 The difference is that men if they want to - they can control their nature. (The problem is most men are weak and don't want to control themselves) Women, on the other hand, even if they want to control themselves - they can't. The need an outside control. That is a huge difference.
Men nature is simple we just want sex and peace. . . One girl could easily provide this! most men cheat because of lack of sex or peace. . . Women cheat cus they get bored because they have given their bodies away so much normal sex isn't exciting to them. exciting for them comes from actually cheating only way some of them can actually be aroused is by doing something they shouldn't be doing
Totally agree man, as men our biological imperative is to reproduce. Environmental imperative...to build. Social imperatives to protect and provide. But evolution is setting every outcome extremely challenging. So...let´s give it our best hits and wish for the best.
I never have tried any of your tips or heard about what you have for tips for men, but I agree with this whole video. It's been my experience, too, with dating. I totally agree with the whole theory that women act out of survival and it seems selfish, and that's because it is.
OMG bro this is so accurate especially @12: 12 when you're talking about she cares about what you put in front of her, that's so freaking accurate, like many times with my partner where she definitely knows that I have money in the bank but it will take a one day or an extra day to withdraw that money she still feels that we're broke, that's insane like there is money but it's not in front of her. But that's the part where she needs to grow from childish nature.
Correct! And I'll take it a step further. I've seen this type of behavior with female employees, daughters, even my mother. As soon as you show cincere emotions or perceived weakness, they will use it against you eventually.
You never can think everything is alright when with a woman. They always have something to say. There's always a but. And if they can't win currently, they'll bring something up that happened years ago.
It is amazing just how much trouble our eyes can get us into and just how useless our eyes are for evaluating a woman. We must use our insight, not our sight. However, that's easier said than done. BTW, one of his best videos. These points are absolutely correct. I have seen this in my own long-term relationship.
Let me summarize it a bit. Are you trying to say you should show her interest but not enough interest which may influence her to lose interest in you? When she starts playing these evil games, behave as if you are unaffected. In short, have her invest more into the relationship than you. Have her place more effort in the relationship than you. Is this what you are trying to say? In a sense, have her pursue you more than you pursue her.
I'm 53 and my girlfriend is 48 and we both have adult children. The game changes when you are older and different rules and psychology apply. I'd be interested on your take on dating in middle age.
I've been with a pretty good amount of women in my life. Some were just for fun some were in the interest of a relationship. I Definitely live by the phrase now, she's not yours it's just your turn. Because women at their core go through life thinking like children do that's how you got to treat them. I always remember when you get with one. The chances are high that there will be a sunset to that relationship or happening. If you're what they want at that moment and you like them, why then, by all means, give it to them, but always keep one foot out the door. If you catch feelings.. and you show it too much, they will catch a cab
That really inspires me to NOT get someone who really doesn’t care about a man. Wonderful advice. Sadly … you’re probably right. I know they start off feeling like they want that but inevitably their hypergamy takes over and it becomes all about them. The man can be getting beat up by 3 dudes and she’ll run away hoping he filled out those life insurance papers.
With the case of her scrolling through the hot guy's IG, how are you supposed to not be moved emotionally by it, and also not be disrespected? Tell her in a cool detached tone that you won't put up with it? Or is that showing too much emotion already??
I have a friend and he is older so she's like 59. It probably was always this way but growing up even as a Gen x person like me it didn't seem that women were this way. They probably always were but they didn't have the internet and the access to be able to do all this so in some ways it was a lot better. Now my friend grew up you know being taught treat women a certain way and do all this stuff and it doesn't work at all. He wants love he wants someone to be with and it's pretty sad because he basically has given up because he says he'd rather just die alone than to not ever really care for a woman
This sh*t just happened to me again haha... I simply said, like all women you have zero accountability, after, for no reason, she asked if I was scamming her ... that was it and I blasted her immediately and it was over. Dating, having a GF, is beyond a nasty business. Was so much different 30 years ago.
Another reliable statistic from another video is that no matter your quality as a man 70% of women will flake on you at some point. During a break up a man isnt just dealing with her decision to leave, but hes dealing with emotional instability.
"They are not designed to love you." This is so true and why on earth did it take me so long to understand this??? Men really are the romantic ones, not women.
I often forget this but all romantic text was written by men, romance is a man fantasy not women.
@@98gmc1500This. Women like to consume it, and some do write it. But, if you notice, they are ALWAYS about the early formation of a relationship. You don't see any romance where the majority story is in the long term. That's boring to them.
BINGO
@@mikerude5073 every love tale that is popular amongst women ever notice the women cheats in the movie?
She may thrive off turmoil & tension, but problemSOLVING is not in their nature at all. Problem creation is.
Very clear and concise explanation of female nature.
Problem creating....
Exactly. We work so hard for the relationship and they work against us.
@@george-trad they are programmed for procreation not relationships or marriage they are programmed to toot That Azz Up and let a evolutionarily advanced male high octane fill it up
@@george-trad They view it as "making you prove you care". Completely twisted.
Women thrive on drama because they get bored easily. Once a relationship becomes routine and predictable then it's all downhill from there.
Tough luck child whose life prospects have just been slashed by mummy...
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Nailed it dude.
They need real life to kick them hard because they’re in a fairy tale
@jeffreyexposito3803_yep. Like a child. So many female traits are basically like a child. Men make the mistake of thinking of them as an equal.
This is why it should be YOU creating the drama. YOU should be the somewhat toxic one, they will stick to you like glue.
#1-10 in summation, she doesn't care about you, it's about her, she's always looking for a better option, and if she senses you are giving 100 percent effort she will assume she can do better because you are willing to try so hard.
Damn I struggle with this, I hope there's some that don't do this
@@erick440unless you plan on forcing her to stay inside like a kidnapper, which is wild…she’s going to do this. give up
Damn bro, I still try to have hope. Like the end of rocket Queen on appetite. I just met a amazing girl I'm talking to. Being careful, but I get it. Take care man
That’s 99% of the population anyways, men or women.
@@erick440be careful bro. Good luck
This is why many men including myself have just given up on relationships altogether and just enjoy casual flings.
It’s because men like you and these red pill losers don’t understand women
I'd rather just be MGTOW. .I have tried the casual hooking up. Wasn't for me. Sleeping with someone you don't even love doesn't fulfill me
@@jameshumphries5059hello simp and part the problem
@@puertoricanprince7690MGTOW? tf is that
Men going their own way@@alejandrouribe5426
That moment when you nod through the entire video because he addresses the exact same points you experienced with women and you know its just straight facts 👑
Exactly 💯
My head is coming off
100%
Women who don’t wear makeup or do their nail and hair on a daily routine, are better picks for relationships from my observations.
Less is more still applies here too.
Don't you love make ups, nails and hairs? You cheat with such "made" women and for the relationship you want boring hen😂😂😂
...and as for tats, piercings and blue hair.........................
You have a much better shot with the Plain Janes
Don't let them fool ya.
One ex-gf told me "Men always end up wanting to replace their girlfriend with a younger girlfriend."
While it's not unthinkable, I don't think that's the default or natural mental state for all men.
At the time, I was not thinking this way at all. But I took that statement as evidence of herself being damaged.
Or perhaps she was projecting her understanding of her own female nature.
Hard to say!
Nothing stings a woman more than seeing you with a woman that's younger and more attractive. Women competitiveness is DIABOLICAL.
Fear of loss via replacement. Propably experienced that in her life or friend circle.
So, she thinks all men are like that, so her view on men may be damaged - and she understands the female nature herself.
We live in society of illusion. Mostly everything is working exactly opposite of what we all being told and brainwashed: women - need sex more, cheat more, change partners more, start sex life earlier, have no empathy, don't know what long term love and commitment is, are selfish, are lazy, are dirty. There are exceptions, truly good women out there and we should protect them at all costs and try to raise our daughters just like that, but in general it's true.
Even when that kind of thing happens, man doesn't want to replace his wife. Usually she's just not very sexual with him anymore so he wants to get a sidepiece. Has no intention of divorce, but she will force the issue despite causing the problem in the first place.
Of course its projecting! That's how she knows it's a thing, because if she thinks if she would do it, she would, obviously you would too.
They think with their emotions so they don’t think in the future and doesn’t serve them in the long run💯
Exactly. They weren't taught to reign in their emotions and use logic and reasoning to balance it out.
@@lokidarkbeard2647that’s why they always regret losing good men. They never see the bigger picture even if your are trying to let them see.
@@evaldowhitehorne3387 they were taught all this in the past at finishing schools and by their mothers and fathers. Not anymore.
Leave them to become 🐻 snack. 🤷🏻♂️
Men, I mean, s imps, think with their emotions even more lol.
Crazy thing is that no one else will tell you these information especially your family, friends or loved ones. Grateful for Casey Zander’s platform
Cause they’re all simps too. Only a few get it.
@@justinw3765 that’s true
S1mp. really boil my blood. They created this mess. Some men know the truth, but a lot of them are just like cypher from the matrix.
9:10 and this is why men need to STOP FOCUSING ON WOMEN and focus on YOUR PURPOSE. Once you are focused on that, you will most likely become a high value to satisfy hypergamy. When you meet up, you have a good time AND PULL BACK. Do NOT EVER be more interested nor do more for her than she does you, THAT IS NOT HOW HYPERGAMY IS SATISFIED. You stay along this route FOREVER and she may FOREVER stay with you because hypergamy is satisfied, she is with the highest value male FOR HER & OFFSPRING SURVIVAL and then you have a great relationship.
high value to satisfy hypergamy🤣 you mean a mark to be taken advantage of for your financial resources? You mean getting fake interest while
she bangs chad on the side? you guys are comedians man
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
It only works if BOTH spouses want to save it. That's the issue: only one spouse can end it, at any time. And since nowadays there's so little pushback, especially on women, to save the relationship, and women are way more fickle, let's be real here, women end most relationships. It's stats, not theory.
It is very tough not to hate women after watching this but lesson learned : NEVER make a woman a priority in your life and you'll get an alright relationship as a result.
This is pretty much the conclusion I've come to after 39 years on this earth.
@@zacfromArkansasalmost 39 here. Same shit.
"Her whole thought process is designed to replace you." So basically a woman thinks like a Corporation?
Worse. Corporations make rationial decisions. Corprations discuss and play through potiential outcomes
@@SD-mi2vc true... at least CEO's are usually highly trained for years for the position with a successful track record in the industry.
And as Casey correctly says you could be beyond the top of what she can legitimately get and she will still try to replace you. And then wonder for years why she has successive shitty relationships and never look back and say man maybe that was the guy. Maybe I should’ve, been more reasonable
"Men are in love. Women are in business."
@@anonymissed3611 until we got the MGTOW,red pill update
So to break this down fellas, Casey just gave us 10 GREAT REASONS to GET TO YOUR BAG AND QUIT TRYNA GET THESE BROADS. THEY DONT CARE BOUT YOU. THEY ARE ABOUT THEMSELVES. GET. THE. FUCKIN. MONEY!!! 🏧💰
It’s so much better if you focus more on yourself and your needs and your wants instead of on her because she truly doesn’t care about you everything he just said came true for me
The more I consume this content that explains relationships and how women work, the more grateful I am that my first girlfriend became my wife and the love of my life. I couldn't even imagine how dating must be like now, with apps and profiles and social media, and thousands of voices telling you how to live your life. But I am glad there are people out there speaking out for men and laying out the hows and whys, which was missing when I grew up. I mean, I got lucky, but luck is not a strategy.
That'd great for you honestly I know some people Been married for almost 50 years and 27 30 plus years and you right I think is all about luck and how good woman really cares about a.man I do agree with you
To be fair, it WAS much easier a few decades ago. What changed: WOMEN. They have no social pressure to stay in a relationship anymore, even the opposite in fact, and with social media, dating apps and smart phones, the illusion is that 1000s of men are now available. They are, as hookups, but very few as potential spouses. But this illusion combined with women' s natural hypergamy and the "you go girl" no accountability mindset, and men of today have zero chances for a real LTR. Better to just live the now and forget the rest. Sad. We men are builders but why waste your efforts building a house on a shaky ground?
70% chance you're perfect wife has a side piece. Don't be naive
@@DarynSmith955 - Remember though, that while there are many marriages that are lasting for 10, 20, 50 years, most of them are not that happy. Probably only 10% of the ones "making it" are actually happy. Though most of them will pretend and put on a good show for their social media pages.
@@IKARIANOFFICIAL I do agree with haft what you say but at same time when comes to soical media pages they guntie show how much they love their partner on there but I don't necessarily means they pretended they care or anything like that if people not happy they should tell what's going on the people who do actually love each other going to make out if my grandparents didn't past they would be alive for 60 years some people I know married 20 30 40 50 60 because is how you deal with each other
I'm 6'5, NW is almost $2MM, 30 years old, run my own business, jacked, and have a decent following on social media (this is my burner lol). The testing from women is either super higher level, while some women test very minimal b/c they know I'll cut them off/have other options. While I have done very well with women, I will run into a woman every once in a while who takes pleasure in rejecting me and trying to put me in the friendzone, even if we are perfect on paper and have great chemistry. Kinda insane.
A woman tried to put me in the friendzone and I told her no thanks it was nice knowing you
you guys still don’t understand that the most important thing is your face and bone structure…keep running that rat race, no amount of money or muscles will save you.
And let’s not forget the consequences of feminism and the effects of the ongoing gender wars on women’s minds these days…all the way from teenagers. So good luck, you’ll find that unicorn man😁
They all have a hypergamous nature. All of them
You prob like her way more than she likes you.
maybe you aren't such got shizz as you think you are, you might be physically strong/fit but spiritually you are a noodle and they can sense that
This to me might as well be "10 reasons why you should forget about long term relationships and just pay for sex".
Nah that demoralizes you in the long run
But men have always wanted sex more than they want a long term relationship. It’s already scientifically proven that women perfer long relationships more than men do lol
David park is absolutely correct^ what you need to understand is that sex as a man is something you get in your system not out. You genuinely do not want to be making more than 1 to 2 intense psychological connections like that with partners in your life unless your in like a cult or some shit
Choices have consequences buddy . It will eat your soul .
@@Gdhdjejgfsbh same goes for just dating tons of women with no intention of ever comitting
Yeah it still stings learning what the nature of women are.
This is exactly why I gave up on dating or even going out with women period because of how they treated me
One day an academic girlfriend started crying because she felt deep sympathy for a paedophile on TV, who was forbidden to approach toddlers and schoolboys, so he could never experience 'real love' nor corporal satisfaction. I left her.
WTF?
My last ex girlfriend sabotaged a great relationship. Her loss.
Mine of 8yrs did same 8mos ago. Lame.
@@HopeFaithExpect77 I wanted her back for the longest time, but by now (9 months later) I don't want her back anymore. She was incredibly disrespectful to me, and there's definitely a better woman out there for me than that.
@@micahrutland9021 good youve gotten to that realization. I was down a couple weeks myself then got shit together. Started dating bout 3 mos ago. Found a nice respectful good one over 4th July.
Neeeext
1. Her mating thought process is designed to replace you.
2. Expect her to try to "ruin" a good thing. (Testing)
3. They thrive off tension and problems to solve.
4. Shes constantly seeking male attention (consciously or not).
5. Her nature is survival, and the best man for this task is up to her judgement.
6. They play games to gain psychological advantage to get you attached.
7. Women will act out of emotion, in the current moment. Now is more important than future.
8. She feels she has easy access to high level guys through social media.
9. She puts her personal needs first.
10. You are mainly a facilitator for her needs, and her future children.
Yup they're only loyal to their feelings "right now". For her what she had done was not cheating but rather a divine message that she met the guy for a reason😅 a leap of faith for a better future. Survival instinct
😂😂😂
Nothing is good enough. They always have something to say no matter what.
My wife is the same way.
The truth will set you free.
Fear is the mind killer
This video ties in so well with Mike Sartain’s thoughts on evolutionary psychology. We can try to make society as fair as possible but the truth is only the strong survive and some men won’t mate! As much as a woman hates her innate instincts…everything inside her body tells her whether a man is a good fit for mating or not. She instinctively knows this. Bottom line if a man cannot protect and provide for a woman the hurtful truth is she doesn’t want you and her instincts tell her you’re not worthy to be a father. Gentlemen women will test…it’s nature’s way of filtering out the weak!
Reality sucks sometimes. But, it never benefits anyone to suppress or ignore reality. Might as well accept it and just deal with it the best you can.
It’s not if a man can protect and provide. She will leave that man in a heartbeat.
It’s the man that she knows she has to chase.
But as soon as the chase is over then she’ll spit you out.
That’s why you gotta play the long game. Have them chasing for 10 years
@@ninjanickysveganwellnessWhat happens after 10 years?
The weak or dangerous that is…..
Theses are the reasons why Casey Zander is the best dating coach on the internet !
My experience is way too much of a mirror of the things that you hear online. I’m a 50-year-old. I’ve been married twice 14 years apart, and I’ve dated long-term and short. When I act like a dick, the women come flocking. If I act like my normal decent self, it doesn’t take long before they leave or that I don’t even get in the front door. in my experience, women will leave 90% of what they want for 10% that they think they’re missing rather than work on that 10%. Or just recognize there’s no saying as 100% of what you want. I don’t like my mirrors. But I know a lot of other guys who have the same experiences, so there’s some level of truth to
The 10 - 90 rule well explained.
Totally true 💯
This information saves you a lot of stress bro with dealing with women💯 Casey Zander is great man I can’t lie. Every time I listen and internalize your videos it makes my life way easier when I comes on to dating and understanding women.
There’s nothing to feel bad about or pain for regarding this information. All it means is you’re free. You have an unprecedented chance to solely focus on yourself and see what comes through. It’ll probably be shockingly satisfying to witness.
Basically enjoy yo turn lmfao
Facts 🎉😂😅
If you have an iota of self-respect, why would you "enjoy your turn"? Eating from the trash is the favorite pastime for many men.
Holy cow. Where was this information 20 years ago?
I never needed anyone to tell me this and when I allowed it to happen to me as a teenager (almost 20) with a woman I wanted to marry, that was it for me ever being serious about women again. Never would have been able to do all the great things I’ve done, been all over the parts of the earth I wanted to see and do it on my own terms. It’s been a life I wouldn’t change for any woman.
I landed a top job. Was seeing a Lady for over a yr. Planned a epic 3 dayweekend romantic holiday. I was tested and the holiday ruined. I paid for every thing. Fk there tests. Stay single. 👎
Why did you failed test?
What was the test and how’d you fail ?
It doesn’t matter what the test was, just that you learned from it. Nobody ever learned anything useful sitting at home. You got out there and achieved wisdom. Well done, son!
This just happened to me..3day birthday weekend in WV mountains airbnb
Yeah might as well stay single
Basicially
Exactly all that just to realize damn you really just wasting time lol
use it as an advantage, not for putting yrsl down
😂
The downside is not having people to do stuff with. When all your friends are married, eventually they tire of the third wheel. As do you. And you have single friends, but if you’re above a certain age and below different age, they probably have kids. Like I have a female friend that I’m not interested in dating but she’s also single be cool to go do something but her kid while her youngest kid is a whiny pants. Always sick. So that’s off the table. No matter what anybody says nobody wants to spend their life alone.
Casey and Dr. BoA are the top two when it comes to understanding female nature
4:55 LMFAO.......... COMPLETE TOTAL FACTS!! Guys, DO NOT GET TRICKED if/when they say they are ok with you being jealous... THEY ARE NOT. Hypergamy makes it impossible because she will start to think you are insecure (which is why they say this A LOT), you are NOT CONFIDENT.... YOU SMV IS LOW, that guy and maybe even her are higher value than you are, THEN SHE IS GONE. If she is "ok" with you jealous, SHE IS JUST PLAYING AROUND WITH YOU JUST FOR YOUR VALIDATION. She WILL be gone as soon as higher value man is available to her.
True love does not exist it’s just about tolerating a narcissist then
Yup 👍
I used to show these videos to my ex.
She would do most of the things on this list.
She would get so angry when I’d listen to you.
Too bad I was too attached with what she would tell me.
Learned a valuable lesson.
The things this man says are 100% correct from
My experiences
Women need to be very intelligent and reflective to understand these videos
@@Nekk0las women need to put aside their ego to fully understand these videos. It actually benefits them if they do. No one ever benefits from denying reality.
@@Deron8564 i always say: TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE
@@Nekk0las Even if they understand this type of videos, it won't help them anyway. I had an ex, she was extremely smart. She understood her nature. Logically explaining to me everything that she does. And still she could not help but repeat herself. They NEED an outside control. Their instincts are muuuuch stronger than their logic.
@@troobix_s They are women after all
My ex sabotaged a 12 year relationship by constantly going on about an old girlfriend of mine from 25 years previous. It didn't make sense, she was looking for any reason to wind herself up, and annoy me in the process. The day I laughed at her was all the reason she needed to end the relationship.
She was 65 years old, so it's not just the dating girls, go figure.
A good question is what is our nature as men? How should the average man act when dating in order for him to be happy. We know what satisfies women now but I personally don’t want to keep adjusting my behaviour and actions like a chess game every time I date. Is a man happier when he doesn’t commit to any woman? I’ve been following his advice for months now and it does work surprisingly well. I found that the more toxic and more trauma the woman has the more Casey’s advice works but I got to the point where it all feels fake and hookups ain’t even fun anymore.
We dont play the game
There are still "Good women" out there and yes, they also have this spooky nature Casey describes, they just cant help it. If you work on yourself and learn how to play the game correctly you will be surprised with the quality of women you can get, its never about the girls its about us becoming the best we can. The problem with modern sociery is that what constitutes the "Bsst mating option" is quite a schizophrenic choice because there are many ways to achieve "Success" and be a respected man. The only solution to all this confusion might be religious, and again that will come down to us, men.
Dump them and do things you actually enjoy.
Your nature is to not give a fuck what they or anyone wants or thinks..you’re meant to export and broadcast the innate love of the universe that is only generated via man.. yes I know society had you convinced they were the keepers of love.. nope men are the lovers.. this is why they are fascinated by it because they only receive or choose it. “ They are not wired to like us.” Is so profound of a reality check. When u see how we’ve been trolled my the universe and understand survival strategies it becomes clear. They will be on their best behavior when u demonstrate high value.. and other woman in your life.
A massive CAVEAT needs to be added to all this info.. this is contemporary info.
If you are leveraged 100x above her and have other woman in your life.. about 80 % of this info goes into the trash.
a buddy of mine JUST got divorced by his Japanese wife last month. they did the whole ceremony in Japan and USA and she moved all they way to Vermont and they bought a home. 4 year later.. lmao game over . relationships or marriages are just pure Deception and perception to please our egos and others
As an older man, it took most of my life to realize this. Its all true .
This stuff is amazing. Especially when you view anything you in this modern world you do in the context of what men evolved for, bringing home meat and fighting off outsiders.
What this video has reaffirmed for me personally is that it's better to be single and avoid the drama that I so incredibly despise. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. At least not for me.
Somebody give Casey a Nobel Prize!
Casey does not hit the bullseye he is the bullseye.
First time watch .. second time thought & analysis.. 3rd time in total agreement .. Great Vid Casey , regards from Australia. .. a place sorely needing this truth !
Ah I wish I had been told this when I was 20 I spent most my life bitter and confused at this but it’s basically their nature to try to destroy the relationship got it wtf how are you supposed to live with that peacefully
I’ve always thought most of your stuff was just a little out there. I agreed with the ideas of being your absolute potential best. But today this video hit me like a hammer. I see it
“They often times don’t look into the future they look at the now” I can’t believe how true this is and I thought this was done only by women that aren’t very smart or that are impulsive or glutinous and stingy by personality traits. Turns out almost every woman is like this, and so was my ex. I am shocked when I hear Casey note this.
One of the best breakdown and explanations I’ve come across.
Yes. Thank you for emphasizing that women can’t help it. No need to hate women. Know the game.
Nah I call bogus they can help.
There is also a cold truth in men as well, you need to understand that, your own nature deep down inside.
Facts! (As a man I totally agree)
This video is too divisive in my opinion.
We all have our own nature that's the beauty of duality.
Ying Yang ☯️
@@consciouselite4294 The difference is that men if they want to - they can control their nature. (The problem is most men are weak and don't want to control themselves) Women, on the other hand, even if they want to control themselves - they can't. The need an outside control. That is a huge difference.
Men nature is simple we just want sex and peace. . . One girl could easily provide this! most men cheat because of lack of sex or peace. . .
Women cheat cus they get bored because they have given their bodies away so much normal sex isn't exciting to them. exciting for them comes from actually cheating only way some of them can actually be aroused is by doing something they shouldn't be doing
@@consciouselite4294yin*
Totally agree man, as men our biological imperative is to reproduce. Environmental imperative...to build. Social imperatives to protect and provide. But evolution is setting every outcome extremely challenging. So...let´s give it our best hits and wish for the best.
Cheers for the vid man. Really does make sense to me based on my recent experiences.
Have a good time with them. Pull back and make them chase. Quality over quantity. Have options on options…
I hit it and quit it. Not giving up my resources to women
Everything he stated here is a FACT, guys learn a lesson before you're angry and alone, because these are clear and pure facts
I never have tried any of your tips or heard about what you have for tips for men, but I agree with this whole video. It's been my experience, too, with dating. I totally agree with the whole theory that women act out of survival and it seems selfish, and that's because it is.
After watching Casey’s videos, it’s like pulling teeth for me to pay on a date now. I just won’t go unless she agrees to get us food.
Ha, I told a girl the other day I don’t have any money and she paid
@@moheganson me too! I been selfish spending my money on me and tattoos. Never been happier.
I’d rather just be FWB forever with lower to mid value 7’s
Same i be getting attached though. I never pulled so once I started pulling nice looking girls. I be forgetting to satisfy hypergamy
I love this type of Casey's videos
If women thinks like this it's better to be a player than a lover.
OMG bro this is so accurate especially @12: 12 when you're talking about she cares about what you put in front of her, that's so freaking accurate, like many times with my partner where she definitely knows that I have money in the bank but it will take a one day or an extra day to withdraw that money she still feels that we're broke, that's insane like there is money but it's not in front of her. But that's the part where she needs to grow from childish nature.
Just noticed today that I've never subscribed 😞 this channel is just gold
This is why you NEVER marry them and always treat them like a side chick.
Correct! And I'll take it a step further. I've seen this type of behavior with female employees, daughters, even my mother. As soon as you show cincere emotions or perceived weakness, they will use it against you eventually.
Yep, ditto.
Yep, my ex 10:55 literally was like that. I was soft for her. She had no respect for me.
You never can think everything is alright when with a woman. They always have something to say. There's always a but. And if they can't win currently, they'll bring something up that happened years ago.
This also a general advice when dealing with women at work. Especially female managers and team leads!
Female managers are the absolute worst individuals - lazy, dishonest, incompetent, thieving. Some exceptions exist but not many. Trash floats.
As an app creator, this is actually how I see prospective users too. Interesting parallels with effective marketing and branding techniques.
"She can't help this" lol serial killers can't help it either lol
Love u bro they ain't no one like u on ytube keep it flowing u doing great 👍
It is amazing just how much trouble our eyes can get us into and just how useless our eyes are for evaluating a woman. We must use our insight, not our sight. However, that's easier said than done.
BTW, one of his best videos. These points are absolutely correct. I have seen this in my own long-term relationship.
FACTS. They have to believe they like you more than you like them. Sad but true
Let me summarize it a bit.
Are you trying to say you should show her interest but not enough interest which may influence her to lose interest in you? When she starts playing these evil games, behave as if you are unaffected. In short, have her invest more into the relationship than you. Have her place more effort in the relationship than you. Is this what you are trying to say? In a sense, have her pursue you more than you pursue her.
Depending on the woman, I believe, this does seem like logical advice.
I'm 53 and my girlfriend is 48 and we both have adult children.
The game changes when you are older and different rules and psychology apply. I'd be interested on your take on dating in middle age.
Spittin' facts got you a sub.
Women have it on easy mode if they'd let it. But they don't.
Hard truths,but it needs to be said.Thanks Casey for opening my eyes about women.God bless you.
I've been with a pretty good amount of women in my life. Some were just for fun some were in the interest of a relationship. I Definitely live by the phrase now, she's not yours it's just your turn. Because women at their core go through life thinking like children do that's how you got to treat them. I always remember when you get with one. The chances are high that there will be a sunset to that relationship or happening. If you're what they want at that moment and you like them, why then, by all means, give it to them, but always keep one foot out the door. If you catch feelings.. and you show it too much, they will catch a cab
these broada are nuts
That’s why the older generation is much better and stronger. They stayed traditional even against instincts
However, What you say in fundamental basics is ABSOLUTELY 💯 SPOT ON.
Truest words ever spoken.
Excellent video 💯
The cold truth keeps a man informed. Nothing stung here.
That really inspires me to NOT get someone who really doesn’t care about a man. Wonderful advice. Sadly … you’re probably right.
I know they start off feeling like they want that but inevitably their hypergamy takes over and it becomes all about them. The man can be getting beat up by 3 dudes and she’ll run away hoping he filled out those life insurance papers.
She runs the risk of you saying get lost with those instinctual behaviors. It's made me do that for sure!
Absolutely fantastic , 👏🏾 Methodical analysis of the game 🙏🏾✊🏾
Acting out of emotion is what killed my last relationship😮💨
With the case of her scrolling through the hot guy's IG, how are you supposed to not be moved emotionally by it, and also not be disrespected? Tell her in a cool detached tone that you won't put up with it? Or is that showing too much emotion already??
Ignore it, if she keeps doing it, ditch her or use her for recreational use only but don't get attached. Remember, you need to be outcome independent
I have a friend and he is older so she's like 59. It probably was always this way but growing up even as a Gen x person like me it didn't seem that women were this way. They probably always were but they didn't have the internet and the access to be able to do all this so in some ways it was a lot better. Now my friend grew up you know being taught treat women a certain way and do all this stuff and it doesn't work at all. He wants love he wants someone to be with and it's pretty sad because he basically has given up because he says he'd rather just die alone than to not ever really care for a woman
Casey dropping truth bombs again. Great work brother
Pure savage truth.
Powerful insights amazing content very interesting thank you Casey! 👏
This sh*t just happened to me again haha... I simply said, like all women you have
zero accountability, after, for no reason, she asked if I was scamming her ...
that was it and I blasted her immediately and it was over. Dating, having a GF,
is beyond a nasty business. Was so much different 30 years ago.
These facts are quite large
allright.this video goes against very many earlier statements
Just like women though. Contradicting. I think these videos are for uses of certain times and keeping it straight is not easy.
Another reliable statistic from another video is that no matter your quality as a man 70% of women will flake on you at some point. During a break up a man isnt just dealing with her decision to leave, but hes dealing with emotional instability.