She is emotionally intelligent, and a very effective communicator. She takes ownership for her mistakes, and is obviously ready for a healthy relationship. I like her!
I wonder why they don’t chase anymore. Not even chase but put forth the effort. Sitting back and waiting for things to happen or being passive seems to be a feminine trait.
Yes!!! I say this all the time! She allows some people to talk too long! Even on the dating show she allows individuals to go on and on with their responses and I’m like, Arlette, please take the mic and move a long to the next person in line, please!
I think this is a genius ideal. Everyone would love to know what happened to the two parties after the show. sometimes people don’t match up and why they don’t. Please continue to do it.
“When people say they’re gonna do things and they don’t, it really throws me off and it’s a big trigger for me.” HEARD SIS 🗣️ and I concur!!! That first impression is really everything!
These speed dating shows don't typically work. You have a limited amount of time to impress someone and it is very superficial. However, it is very entertaining to watch
That’s why I’m confused so many of these people say they’re coming on to actually find love. It’s unrealistic, you may find a date but you have no clue who these people are from a few questions. Especially on camera where ppl tend to lie and act differently knowing they’re being watched.
It could possibly work however the thing is the ppl coming on the show ain't looking for love seriously they tryna be on camera and be rude. if their was an episode where they screen the people for at least a few weeks and get like minded ppl in it could work but yeah most times it won't 4
I think she lost interest when she noticed that he was a lil bit aggressive and he was right to back off when he noticed that she no longer seemed to be that interested. My advice to him would be to put that aggressiveness aside when it comes to relationships, it will only bring misfortune to him and to whoever is with him.
I was about to disagree.....but then I heard him say ,, ""life happens "" yesss it does....but if he was really interested....life happens would not be a Obstacle.
@@WarriorMichelle57 The way he talks, like he is about to hit someone. The words he says are good, but they are said in an aggressive way, imagine when he is really upset with you.
All he had to do was set up a date. It don't take all these excuses. After he take her on the date, gauge her interest from there and handle her accordingly. He trying to get it for the free, stalling her out, thinking his personality and wordplay is gonna be enough to catch her.
if his text messages are as long winded as his talking....I can see why it took her so long to respond, she had to take her time to read through them. This dude is a CHATTER!
@@dsanders799 the dark skinned man that skipped over the dark skinned women and gave an exception to the light one for the piercing? Lol he's trash to me and we will continue to judge him and all the men like him
Basically he felt she wasn’t as interested in him so he didn’t have urgency with going on a date. She felt when he said he was going to call and missed the whole day to follow through she was a little thrown off. I understand both, but he is thinking a little too deep in my opinion. I date women, & I make sure I follow through & move with urgency if I’m interested.
Same, in todays time a woman could lose interest fast if you prolong that first date & lack communication. I agree with him as well to an extent but I think he tried to play it too cool by waiting to see if she would chase.
2 people can be right and He isn't wrong though, if women wants a man, they will make it known that they are interested and not have him playing a guessing game.
@@ProdSaikohonestly it just looks like he was dating with a little more intention then she was and due to the different schedules , the expectations were a little off
Outsmart? First and foremost I never claimed to be smarter than her or demeaned her in anyway. I clearly talked about my experience with her. Not one time I called her wrong or told anything on camera that happened behind the scenes because that’s how much respect I have for women.. But from the outside looking in I can understand why you would say that.. You may not be use to an intelligent man who knows his value and his worth and have morals… So of course me knowing myself and who I am can be foreign to others who don’t experience men that can speak for themselves with confidence without being arrogant… 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💯💯 Get u a Me 🌹💯💯💯
@@official510jimmybrown7you you are only making excuses. There's nothing intelligent about your responses and you bicker too much. As a man you should have chased her and I bet you she would have reciprocated the energy. You just don't like her like that so just keep it moving!
@@buzzbabe1901 As a man I should have chased a woman who doesn’t show interest? You sound like a Simp and someone who can’t keep a Man/Woman.. You make no sense.. Your logic is very one sided and premature… 👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿
Ladies, a man who WANTS you will never make an excuse for not making time FOR you. He will always go after and secure what he wants. Simple. Glad she recognized what it was and left him alone.
Man when he said distance I thought he was talking about 2 or 3 hours at minimum 😂 but 30-40 mins maaaaan he could have taken this young lady out a few times in 3 weeks.
Neither of them are from AZ, just transplants, so it seems like they estimated. I live inChandler where she lives. It’s around 40-50 miles from buckeye. 70 minute drive with light traffic. Hour and a half to two hours with heavy traffic.
They were both honest and held each other accountable. It was an adult conversation. No need for complications, insults, etc. Kudos to both, wish them the best.
This is childish. This show gave y’all a chance to meet someone after pre-screening them to ensure mutual interest…and yall can’t even plan a date afterwards?!? Too much overthinking. Get out of your head and plan. “Hey, wanna go rock climbing this Saturday at 3pm?”…how hard is that smh
@@belladamma2345well listening to them both I think the problem here was miscommunication and misunderstanding with each other. She felt like he never planned a date but he felt a certain way and felt she wasn’t really feeling him cause she took a long time to respond to his messages so he thought why plan a date if she not really interested. I think both were at fault here
Babyyyy. This man can TALKKKK! 😂 She has a lot of patience and communicates well. I do understand his mindset with intent and interest but I believe a lot of their issue was miscommunication. Also, If he had texted me “vibrations” I would’ve been pissed off 😂😂😂😂
As a man, you set up the time day and place we are going to meet. All this “patience” stuff is cool however as a woman, if too much time passes we feel you not interested enough and keep it moving.
You paying attention. These men are too sassy. She said call me at another time.. it’s hard to hear you and he was triggered from there. So he skips days and not call.
@@babyrheas I'm and hour and 20 from my BF and I am cool with that. Really not that far for those of us in major cities. Not sure how it is where they live.
He felt she wasn't really into him and he didn't want to act desperate...she felt he wasn't really into her, and she didn't want to appear desperate. They drifted away from each other.
Sounds like that’s exactly what happened. She turned flaky. If people were just up front and honest from the beginning this type of thing can be avoided. It’s childish to expect someone to read your mind. Women can’t expect men to be mind readers. If you show men interest, 9 times out of 10 a man will act.
Agree, I think when people should stop allowing their mind lead their actions when it comes to seeming "weak" or "desperate". The sooner you cut through BS and see who really is looking for what you are looking for.
He is talking in circles and making excuses. She’s calm and gave him all the time to talk as much as he wanted. She seems like a really patient, calm and understanding woman.
This is a good example of why dating is so terrible these days. One wants their energy reciprocated, while the other ego's too big to communicate efficiently which prevents both from meeting in the middle.
My guy needs a lot of affirmation. But he doesn't seem to realize, that's why he distanced himself emotionally. Talking in circles trying to justify it in a mature sounding way.
As a woman, I don’t want someone that I don’t know texting me “love and vibrations” every day, with no action to talk, go out, meet up, and get to know one another. It gets annoying when you’re texting daily and no follow up action.
Dude!!! I said the same on another episode. Watching this show has definitely made my marriage stronger. People are crazy now. They don't want love, they want exposure (social media age)
Yea I still think there is potential for them to work it just seem like they have different expectations on the timing of how things should progress and miscommunication.
Bro didn’t set up a date soon enough, and she was turned off by that.. SIMPLE.. That love and vibration shit don’t mean nothing with no actions.. You gotta lead brother
Exactly! Plus, she was put off by him not calling when he said that he would. Women don't like feeling like an option. Plus, he was a little too sensitive to me, but that was jus my perspective, sooo...
I say it goes both ways. She said she's used to dudes setting up dates within a few days of meeting but where has that gotten her? He also called her and spoke about the gym date. She regularly replies in text 8 hours later even when he texts her positive affirmations. It's plain to see the communicative energy here wasn't reciprocated.
Communication is KEY 🔑. Communication is hard. Patience is a virtue, but EGO keeps us from being our best selves. Sometimes, we have to get out of our own way and listen more, speak more, and not hide behind our walls.
This is what you get when you overly preach equality and men think they should be treated like women. Equality isn’t a bad thing and women deserve equal rights but traditionalism in relationships is a good thing.
@@Christian-eq6pqThat’s a bit of a contradiction. Either there’s equality or none. Plus, she admitted that he double-texted her, and it seemed he definitely made more of an effort to see her. This is what it means to be a help-mate. If there are scheduling issues and you sit back and wait for the other person to plan everything, then that shows you’re not that interested in the first place.
did you listen at all? he is saying that 8 hours to respond to a message it too much and he is right. When men & women are interested in each other they look out for messages. I don't buy into this crap that I'm not a texting person. She is a business owner & I'm sure she checks her inbox daily for client messages.
Fellas!!! I say this with love! It’s time we Heal!! I can see and hear the trauma in all of his explanations! If you want that woman, go get her! Take her out and take the initiative! No excuses! If she says yes! Set it up!!!!!
He keeps telling her she needs patience, yet he’s expecting her to treat him like a lover with the intimate texts , only 3-4 weeks in, with no date 😂. THEN says “if someone wants to get to know you, they’ll show it/make the time” , but never called her back when he said he would, and complained about a 40 minute drive. 🤔 I can’t with him.
@@jadongoldsmith2595 I think he remained very respectful throughout this interview. They both did. But I agree they may not be made for each other but that’s ok. Things don’t always work with these type of thing. I love this show can’t wait for more
Did noone notice that he said she needed patience but her not answering him within an 8hr period was unacceptable?! I just knew the host was going to question his butt 😂
There isn’t a person in this world who isn’t on their phone for an entire 8 hours unless they’re asleep. He wanted to see if her interest was truly there. If you heard he said that she would post on her story within that 8 hours and go out and see others but not respond to a simple text for 8 hours. Atp it seem like she wasn’t interested. Don’t be dense
@@tinablecherr if you aren't under 30yrs old...then you are definitely over emotional, suffer from anxiety and have been in his shoes. Watch your mouth calling me dense. My statement was clearly regarding reciprocity. It's clear to me that they both don't have alot of interest in one another. Any man I know wants to see a woman in person and 35mins ain't ish of a drive. Also, in the spirit of not being interested...many don't respond immediately to text because a conversation usually ensues and his texts, I am sure are too damn long. Bye.
This is exactly what I was thinking like huh. You the first one not showing interest because you not taking her out on a simple date, that’s why she not texting you back fast. Yall only 35 minutes away like take some initiative dude
Bro said "if you really want something, you will make time for it" .... and sis is like "Exactly, and its been 3 weeks and you still haven't taken me out!?!?"😂😂
Facts that’s the most effective way to really get to know someone, what’s the point of talking and texting like we in highschool. I’m tryna vibe and see if we connect on a physical level it’s hard to do that over the phone without losing interest at some point.
I wish humans could trade positions (married, single, rich, poor, middle financial standings). I'm married and sometimes wish I could go back to single days. However, after seeing this show and how dating is more stressful than not, I'm happy to be married for 16 yrs.
I don't necessarily agree. He's not saying what he exactly felt. What he's saying is, he wasn't quite sure if she was genuinely into him so he wanted to see by giving a little what she'd do as a follow up. He just doesn't wanna seem too thirsty so, he's letting her chase a little. A man just wants to know if the woman actually likes him is all.. that girl wanted him to chase on her part too. What girl isn't always on her phone texting? I call cap.
I’m in the NYC area. It takes 30mins to driving around the corner😅 30 mins is not long distance . At least they both talked this out with calm, cool and collective energy 👏🏽
She is so beautiful. Omg, her face is perfectly symmetric if I said that right. She seems like a sweetheart also. I wish they will get the chance to go on a date and see how things work.
@timlynch6271 Uhhh, no, I'm good. I'm just expressing my thoughts on this video posted for everyone to give input if they want. I appreciate you being concerned, though.
The interest just wasn't strong enough to clear up miscommunication and tiny grievances. And that's on both ends. They should be honest. When you're interested you push a little more for communication and stretch a little more to understand
@@chocolateearrings How silly do u sound... A man is expecting a woman to actually be & feel like a woman. Just like wut ur expressing as an expectation. But clearly, ur femininity is conditional...as was hers, (from his perspective). Hence: nothing from nothing left them w/ nothing.
This the type of dude that will never shut up about anything While I understand man need to express ourselves,he’s doing to much.. Guys we must always take the initiative to get the first date out the way then go from there.. Arlette you guys keep doing what you doing loving the shows.. Just let the ppl coming on be clear ago they’re reason for being on the show….keep up the great work
Idk why the comments always diss the guys, Ciara to me didn’t show any initiative and basically wanted him to chase her down while ignoring his texts. I don’t think she liked him from the beginning she just wanted to have a match and I think most the girls do that. They don’t want go on a show and not get chose at all so they just go with whatever.
@@CosmicJournee no if you listened to everything he said, he expected gf duties from her without even taking her on a 1st date and she replied back ti him, but it wasn’t as fast as he wanted it to be.
He tryna talk that “on my purpose” talk. He saying too much. She wanted to date and you playing. She seems very patient sitting there listening to you sit there and say all that stuff. He contradicting saying she can’t delay a text response but he wants her to be patient and wait around for phone calls that don’t happen. He was on point about a few things though. She was intentionally playing I’m not gonna text back until later games.
& THIS is the perfect example of modern dating. Everyone has been done greasy to the point no one takes a risk. The both of these two are saying the same thing & behaving the same way. They felt like they put themselves out there enough. Meanwhile, the other feels like they haven't & both took it as rejection & pulled back & went back inside. Imma give more of the owners on him bc we're men. Rejection shouldn't be a deal-breaker for something we want. ..At the end of the day they both gave a: "meh, I can take it or leave it" attitude w/ each other.
She is emotionally intelligent, and a very effective communicator. She takes ownership for her mistakes, and is obviously ready for a healthy relationship. I like her!
💯💯 she just waiting for my man to plan physical date and follow through...... Make time and room fur her
@@originalceo
I think she has realized that he simply isnt a good match for her. They both seem like decent people, just not right for each other
He wants to be chased. She isnt going to do that.
He needs to find someone who will chase him. This will never work.
And she’s fine.
@@pkp6791THANK YOU!!! Ding ding ding. We know this game baby.
Couldnt plan a date but both parties made time to return for this follow up😅😂
Right I thought that also!
😂 facts
They love the attention of the internet
lol I stil have faith in this version lol but slowly losing it
That’s funny😂😂
This one gorgeous woman.
Her smile and voice 🫠🙌🏾
Her face in general is gorgeous. She's a pretty woman.
She has plenty of patience. She listened to him talk in circles 10 min straight without interrupting! Lol
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And without making any sence
Jangelo is soo petty.
What is all this back and forth about call and text
😂😂 fr tho
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Phewwww......iam exhausted listening to this guy go on and on. She is so patient i love her
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He's a narcissist. He likes hearing himself speak clearly.
Yessssss! He went on snd on ……totally exhausting!
This is why we say that new school guys are more like women...talking about love languages, energy, etc
He wants someone to run behind him...
Men dont want to chase anymore..
This woman totally has a nurturing spirit.
I wonder why they don’t chase anymore. Not even chase but put forth the effort. Sitting back and waiting for things to happen or being passive seems to be a feminine trait.
Yep, he wants someone to run behind him.
It was a mix up in communication.
That’s why r&b is dead because of artists like this. Smh
He's too BIG for that!! LOL
Bro took us to church with each response, full blown sermon
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A lot of space fillers tho.
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He is a manipulator
he did the mostttt!!! arlette you gotta know when to cut them off 😭!
This!!
Thank you!! I was wondering when she was gonna cut him off😫
Bhoo this is a catch up ….. so there still tryna get to know each other , let’s pls use common sense!!😘💘
Yes!!! I say this all the time! She allows some people to talk too long! Even on the dating show she allows individuals to go on and on with their responses and I’m like, Arlette, please take the mic and move a long to the next person in line, please!
@@ashcat314especially when everybody was going back & forth with the dentist 😩
😂 everytime he mentioned 'patience' and began his explanation, again, I died a little.
Arlette asked a question and this man answered for like 10 mins. Dang. I washed dishes and he was still talking
Ha🤣
I thought someone in the studio was telling them to tell him to wrap it up! 🤦🏽♀️
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These follow ups have stolen my joy for that 'It's a match' moment!
I think this is a genius ideal. Everyone would love to know what happened to the two parties after the show. sometimes people don’t match up and why they don’t. Please continue to do it.
I feel you
You have to watch the follow up episode where one of the couple’s gets engaged. Some do have happy outcomes
I’ve literally only seen so far one couple prosper after 😅like wtf
I agree because I have not seen a good one yet.
“When people say they’re gonna do things and they don’t, it really throws me off and it’s a big trigger for me.” HEARD SIS 🗣️ and I concur!!! That first impression is really everything!
These speed dating shows don't typically work. You have a limited amount of time to impress someone and it is very superficial. However, it is very entertaining to watch
Exactly... Mugs writing think pieces about speed dating lmaoo
That’s why I’m confused so many of these people say they’re coming on to actually find love. It’s unrealistic, you may find a date but you have no clue who these people are from a few questions. Especially on camera where ppl tend to lie and act differently knowing they’re being watched.
It could possibly work however the thing is the ppl coming on the show ain't looking for love seriously they tryna be on camera and be rude. if their was an episode where they screen the people for at least a few weeks and get like minded ppl in it could work but yeah most times it won't
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@@lonelyyychilddd7911 true
I mean it’s up to them to keep up the dating afterwards
Phewwww......iam exhausted listening to this guy go on and on. She is so patient i love her😢
Made my head hurt
“That’s just me…from my perspective” 😂 he said this way too many times
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Dude needs to continue to heal cause he's not ready for her
women never want to hear men be vulnerable.
😂😂😂right
I would hate to read an essay from him.
That boy is not ready for love , hes on that show to promote his music . Period!! You gotta put in more work dude!! Good luck!!
I disagree. I think they’re both living their lives and waiting for a reason to really give someone else their time and energy. It’s pretty sad.
I think she lost interest when she noticed that he was a lil bit aggressive and he was right to back off when he noticed that she no longer seemed to be that interested. My advice to him would be to put that aggressiveness aside when it comes to relationships, it will only bring misfortune to him and to whoever is with him.
I was about to disagree.....but then I heard him say ,, ""life happens "" yesss it does....but if he was really interested....life happens would not be a Obstacle.
@@WarriorMichelle57 The way he talks, like he is about to hit someone. The words he says are good, but they are said in an aggressive way, imagine when he is really upset with you.
@@depitrius That's why he needs a rotation of women. He will become less needy. She wasn't on his program on to the next one.
She was such a lady! Very intellectual! Keep pushing love!
She’s well spoken. I completely understand where she is coming from and I like that she took responsibility for her shortcomings
All he had to do was set up a date. It don't take all these excuses. After he take her on the date, gauge her interest from there and handle her accordingly. He trying to get it for the free, stalling her out, thinking his personality and wordplay is gonna be enough to catch her.
Exactly! Exactly!
All his talking and no action.
Thank you for calling this out. I personally believe that some people are just looking to perfect their "game" and practice their lines.
Its giving: I don’t want to pay for a date
@@IllIlll Well, why should he pay for who isn't keen on him?
if his text messages are as long winded as his talking....I can see why it took her so long to respond, she had to take her time to read through them. This dude is a CHATTER!
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And ain't talking about nothing. I hope she don't fall for this nonsense. Ma'am please trust your first mind.
Im glad she didn’t go on a date with him. He talks in circles and she’s well articulate and patient.
That is foolishness he seems like a humble guy stop buying into a 10 minute show to judge the dark-skinned man enough is enough
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@@dsanders799 the dark skinned man that skipped over the dark skinned women and gave an exception to the light one for the piercing? Lol he's trash to me and we will continue to judge him and all the men like him
@@edj2045😂😂😂
I like her. She’s incredibly patient and poised!
Her complexion is so pretty. Perfect bronze tanned skin
She's so gorgeous and her hair color goes so well 😍
@@raquel7675 literally!
That’s one beautiful woman.She articulates herself like a very mature person
Basically he felt she wasn’t as interested in him so he didn’t have urgency with going on a date. She felt when he said he was going to call and missed the whole day to follow through she was a little thrown off. I understand both, but he is thinking a little too deep in my opinion. I date women, & I make sure I follow through & move with urgency if I’m interested.
Same, in todays time a woman could lose interest fast if you prolong that first date & lack communication. I agree with him as well to an extent but I think he tried to play it too cool by waiting to see if she would chase.
Ong if you want it you go get it. But at the same time he probably don’t want to look too thirsty.
That's great that you have follow through. I love it!
2 people can be right and He isn't wrong though, if women wants a man, they will make it known that they are interested and not have him playing a guessing game.
@@ProdSaikohonestly it just looks like he was dating with a little more intention then she was and due to the different schedules , the expectations were a little off
He tried to outsmart her he is EXHAUSTING. She can move on. He is not ready. Beautiful lady
Very crazy man
Outsmart? First and foremost I never claimed to be smarter than her or demeaned her in anyway. I clearly talked about my experience with her. Not one time I called her wrong or told anything on camera that happened behind the scenes because that’s how much respect I have for women.. But from the outside looking in I can understand why you would say that.. You may not be use to an intelligent man who knows his value and his worth and have morals… So of course me knowing myself and who I am can be foreign to others who don’t experience men that can speak for themselves with confidence without being arrogant… 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿💯💯 Get u a Me 🌹💯💯💯
@@official510jimmybrown7you you are only making excuses. There's nothing intelligent about your responses and you bicker too much. As a man you should have chased her and I bet you she would have reciprocated the energy. You just don't like her like that so just keep it moving!
@@buzzbabe1901 As a man I should have chased a woman who doesn’t show interest? You sound like a Simp and someone who can’t keep a Man/Woman.. You make no sense.. Your logic is very one sided and premature… 👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿
Still with the long essay😅
He trying to convince himself of his own BS😂😂😂. Arlette was patient to listen to his BS and rambling.
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This man sparks me as someone who talks a lot of nothing. I could be wrong, but I'm right 😂😂
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Definitely right Sis
I know right😂
I didn't see this working out at all! They weren't a match from just looking at them on the show.
❤Luv the follow-ups on each 'Match'!❤
Ladies, a man who WANTS you will never make an excuse for not making time FOR you. He will always go after and secure what he wants. Simple. Glad she recognized what it was and left him alone.
Same vice versa, don’t do that, if a woman actually likes you she’s going to be doing the exact same thing smh it takes 2 not 1
@@2teezyTvshe was more than patient with bro. He made excuses the whole time and talked in circles about patience.
Man when he said distance I thought he was talking about 2 or 3 hours at minimum 😂 but 30-40 mins maaaaan he could have taken this young lady out a few times in 3 weeks.
Neither of them are from AZ, just transplants, so it seems like they estimated. I live inChandler where she lives. It’s around 40-50 miles from buckeye. 70 minute drive with light traffic. Hour and a half to two hours with heavy traffic.
That’s far including traffic
Right I’m like 30 mins that ain’t nun 😂
30 min is nothing!
30 minutes ain’t shit
An hour ain’t shit to me either lol
Anything over that is pushing it
I NEED MOOORE ARELETTE!! Love the show ❤
He’s quite argumentative. He likes to argue and he wants to be right all the time.
U women is something else when a man speak why u say argumentative.men can’t speak their mine ,stop it.
" that's just me from my perspective" x100000 😂😂
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"That's just me" 🤣😂🤣
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They were both honest and held each other accountable. It was an adult conversation. No need for complications, insults, etc. Kudos to both, wish them the best.
I’m glad she follows up. Now this dude is trifling. Sis, you deserve better!!
Im dizzy their convo went round & round and round.. and round in circles. She is patient! I would have walked away
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Nah frrr ahahaha
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This how my bandy daddy make excuses 😂
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This is childish.
This show gave y’all a chance to meet someone after pre-screening them to ensure mutual interest…and yall can’t even plan a date afterwards?!?
Too much overthinking. Get out of your head and plan.
“Hey, wanna go rock climbing this Saturday at 3pm?”…how hard is that smh
😂😂😂 so true! Some people just don't put enough effort in. Overthinking to the core and possibly indecisiveness on both ends. Just ridiculous!!
Right! If he was serious he would have picked a day time and spot. She wanted to go out with him. He didn’t follow through.
Most women would call that suggestion cheap and low effort.
@@belladamma2345well listening to them both I think the problem here was miscommunication and misunderstanding with each other. She felt like he never planned a date but he felt a certain way and felt she wasn’t really feeling him cause she took a long time to respond to his messages so he thought why plan a date if she not really interested. I think both were at fault here
@@edk487only if you are dating women who are not matched to you. Seek out who like you and what you like
Babyyyy. This man can TALKKKK! 😂
She has a lot of patience and communicates well.
I do understand his mindset with intent and interest but I believe a lot of their issue was miscommunication.
Also, If he had texted me “vibrations” I would’ve been pissed off 😂😂😂😂
They’re sitting separated. You know what that means
😂😂😂
😂😂😂 bruh, edge of my seat
Right lol
😂😂😂 came to make this same comment
Peep game LOL!
As a man, you set up the time day and place we are going to meet. All this “patience” stuff is cool however as a woman, if too much time passes we feel you not interested enough and keep it moving.
FACTS!!!
EXACTLY!!!
I definitely agree!
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Yea i agree
Dude got way more energy in this segment than his 1st time on the show. Two different personalities 😅😂
All he needed to say after she was finished explaining was “and that is why I’m gonna take you out this afternoon!” Done! 🤩
Yet they both took the time to come back on the catch up show. Go figure.
Done dada…!
You paying attention. These men are too sassy. She said call me at another time.. it’s hard to hear you and he was triggered from there. So he skips days and not call.
When he said “ I don’t mind using her for his projects” and the camera man zoomed in on her 😂😂😂. GIVE THAT MAN A RAISE NEEEEEOOOWWWWW
Pissed me off when he said tht
Not using her for his project 💀💀
Now I gotta watch it back
She’s a classic beauty and very poised. I pray she finds her match 🤍
Wow, 34 minutes away from someone is considered far or long-distance? That’s wild.
Wild!!!
That’s the next city over. Gas and parking yeah it can be a long distance
That's not that far at all. I'm shocked they said that! I was thinking 2 hours or more. That's bananas!!
@@babyrheas I'm and hour and 20 from my BF and I am cool with that. Really not that far for those of us in major cities. Not sure how it is where they live.
@@knowbeonekanobe5672no
He felt she wasn't really into him and he didn't want to act desperate...she felt he wasn't really into her, and she didn't want to appear desperate. They drifted away from each other.
Sounds like that’s exactly what happened. She turned flaky. If people were just up front and honest from the beginning this type of thing can be avoided. It’s childish to expect someone to read your mind. Women can’t expect men to be mind readers. If you show men interest, 9 times out of 10 a man will act.
Gotta shoot your shot!!!
Exactly.
Agree, I think when people should stop allowing their mind lead their actions when it comes to seeming "weak" or "desperate". The sooner you cut through BS and see who really is looking for what you are looking for.
Right but none of them are bridging the gap to plan something even at the recap. But they’re both there again.
He is talking in circles and making excuses. She’s calm and gave him all the time to talk as much as he wanted. She seems like a really patient, calm and understanding woman.
She was smart. Let him talk himself into a clown. 😂😂😂😂
He talking about texting Goodmorning, chileeeee😂😂😂
35 mins away is right down the street.
Yea that ain’t bout nothing. You can see each other everyday if u wanted to
facts
Riiight!! He's acting like she's on the East Coast. Smh
Depends where you're from. A New Yorker would never.
@guccigucci456 I'm from New York and I'd go from Queens to Brooklyn or LI. I'm not going to the Bronx though 🤣🤣🤣
This entire video made my head hurt 😅
This is a good example of why dating is so terrible these days. One wants their energy reciprocated, while the other ego's too big to communicate efficiently which prevents both from meeting in the middle.
She was ready and willing to take the ride my boy didn’t know what he was doing
Great comment
🎯🎯🎯 as the last commenter stated, very good comment
Absolutely...the guy is sitting high on his ego
@@willb3299She replied days later to his text. But he also waited weeks to follow up. Both were slacking.
He overexplained tooo much to where it can seem like BS. Idk lol
Word vomit at certain points. He went on & on defending himself made him look a little unhinged 😂😂 just saying
he’s understandably nervous, and overly concerned about coming off as anything but a good guy
Ikr!!! He he full of ish!!!
My guy needs a lot of affirmation. But he doesn't seem to realize, that's why he distanced himself emotionally. Talking in circles trying to justify it in a mature sounding way.
He hit all points but yall hoes be talking too much in circles lol
As a woman, I don’t want someone that I don’t know texting me “love and vibrations” every day, with no action to talk, go out, meet up, and get to know one another. It gets annoying when you’re texting daily and no follow up action.
When Arlette is INBETWEEN the couple is NOT A THING!!
Well there seems to be no success stories.
This method barely ever works sadly .
@@tmcurlyI agree doesn't seem to work for anything long term
@@blakedawg8242 It's entertainment. What yall expect?😂
Facts
I think the one woman with 50 dogs was dating her match still
Honestly, I'm so thankful I'm married cause getting caught up on the smallest of things is crazy to me.
Yo fr!
Dude!!! I said the same on another episode. Watching this show has definitely made my marriage stronger. People are crazy now. They don't want love, they want exposure (social media age)
Homie wack should've set up the date she was feeling you...he talking bout patience without making any moves 😂😂😂
Two weeks is crazy lol
Love how neither bashed the other, just spoke from their own vantage point. Very mature. I hope they give it another shot 😩😩
Yea I still think there is potential for them to work it just seem like they have different expectations on the timing of how things should progress and miscommunication.
No, they aren’t compatible
@ashleydominique6832 agree! She is ready for a grown ass man! He is being a child about the whole thing.
@@ashleydominique6832 I agree
@@ProdSaikoNo potential there. Their miscommunication is by design
Bro didn’t set up a date soon enough, and she was turned off by that.. SIMPLE.. That love and vibration shit don’t mean nothing with no actions.. You gotta lead brother
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FACTS! That’s all he needed to understand!
Exactly! Plus, she was put off by him not calling when he said that he would. Women don't like feeling like an option. Plus, he was a little too sensitive to me, but that was jus my perspective, sooo...
I say it goes both ways. She said she's used to dudes setting up dates within a few days of meeting but where has that gotten her? He also called her and spoke about the gym date. She regularly replies in text 8 hours later even when he texts her positive affirmations. It's plain to see the communicative energy here wasn't reciprocated.
@@Nestle245 it ain’t no both ways be a man take the lead and set the tone and get out your feelings, men are stoic
35-45 Minutes Away????? Man the way he was talking I thought they were a few hours apart from each other! 😂🤣 He ain't serious about taking her out!
😅😂 right ...cannot listen to him
I think he don't got it like that because ain't no way you wouldn't pursue her she the truth he gotta be broke or intimidated
He’d be a successful gospel preacher 😆 all wordplay
Literally!
😂
Like.. for real!!!
Well, it depends on which gospel and which preachers you've been listening to.
😂 I literally said the same thing he acts like an old man who’s in his 60’s
Communication is KEY 🔑. Communication is hard.
Patience is a virtue, but EGO keeps us from being our best selves.
Sometimes, we have to get out of our own way and listen more, speak more, and not hide behind our walls.
How does ego come into play…¿
You meant, listen more, and speak less
W comment
Cause everybody wants that satisfaction of getting their point across. But ya gotta let go. Then it becomes clear.
Best comment fr
Compromise work on your weaknesses as a team and bring out the best with each other
Love these 2 ❤❤😊
Love these two, they are so personable ❤❤ continued success in everything
Where’s the next episode of pop the balloons 😭 I’ve been bored!
Im telling you! 😂
They too slow with this.
She posts every 2 weeks I think lol. So this week should be a new one!
@@NayNayH9 thank youuuu
Really thou!!!…. I found this page, binge watched & been looking for a new episode everyday since! Please keep it coming
Im 17 mins in… it’s difficult for me to continue to listen to him go on and on… ARLETTE, interview skills on point, girl!
He seemed like more of a wellness coach then she do 😂
Listening to his rambling is making my ass unwell
Bro 😂
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😂😂😂😂😂
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He wanted her to chase him. Ain't no woman gonna chase you, dude.
Right! He's the girl 🙄🤦🏾♀️.
This is what you get when you overly preach equality and men think they should be treated like women. Equality isn’t a bad thing and women deserve equal rights but traditionalism in relationships is a good thing.
@@Christian-eq6pqThat’s a bit of a contradiction. Either there’s equality or none.
Plus, she admitted that he double-texted her, and it seemed he definitely made more of an effort to see her.
This is what it means to be a help-mate. If there are scheduling issues and you sit back and wait for the other person to plan everything, then that shows you’re not that interested in the first place.
Yes. I get that.
did you listen at all? he is saying that 8 hours to respond to a message it too much and he is right. When men & women are interested in each other they look out for messages. I don't buy into this crap that I'm not a texting person. She is a business owner & I'm sure she checks her inbox daily for client messages.
He is an entertainer; he needs confirmation of adoration. That sends good vibes and give him energy.
That’s insightful. I feel like you’re the translation button. Because that was too longwinded of a matter.
Fellas!!! I say this with love! It’s time we Heal!! I can see and hear the trauma in all of his explanations! If you want that woman, go get her! Take her out and take the initiative! No excuses! If she says yes! Set it up!!!!!
Say it louder @TheGentlemensCutLuxury
As a woman I love this!
THANK YOU.
Thank you.
As a man facts ❤
He don’t want patience, he want pressure. He need to relax, talk less, and show up more. I think he can do it!
This was exhausting to watch 😮💨😩
Damn, I fast forwarded the clip, and he was still talking. Lol
😂😂
😂
🤣 I know it's exhausting
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He seems to be Very!!! Self-Absorbed He didn't take the Initiative to Press in, even for a one on one Date. Peace and Blessing
Aries are like that it’s take it or leave it
Very
Exactly 😆
He keeps telling her she needs patience, yet he’s expecting her to treat him like a lover with the intimate texts , only 3-4 weeks in, with no date 😂. THEN says “if someone wants to get to know you, they’ll show it/make the time” , but never called her back when he said he would, and complained about a 40 minute drive. 🤔 I can’t with him.
All I hear from is chatter and excuses. He talking forever and in circles. In the words of Marlo Stanfield: do it or dont
Typical Aries my love, a lot of games.😊
Right, contradictory
🎯🎯🎯🎯 because what
All this!
She look like Jada in Shame she's gorgeous
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A woman who doesn’t have a natural, genuine smile is not gorgeous but that’s for me.
@@timlynch6271 wait who doesn't have a natural smile? And I said she's gorgeous facts lol
Yes
Facts. She can hit me up if this dude ain't applying the right pressure lol
Oooo chillle… he’s long winded eh?! lol I cleaned my kitchen and washed the dog and he’s still saying “his perspective! 😂
I don't like the way he's talking. She dodged a bullet.
The video is 34 minutes long and you commented before its even finished. Let people talk before you judge
I was just about to comment this!! The best word I can use to describe him is "dodgy". There's a dishonesty there...
And she's corny for reverting everything back to "feminine and masculine energy." They just were not made for each other. And that's ok.
@@jadongoldsmith2595 I think he remained very respectful throughout this interview. They both did. But I agree they may not be made for each other but that’s ok. Things don’t always work with these type of thing.
I love this show can’t wait for more
Did noone notice that he said she needed patience but her not answering him within an 8hr period was unacceptable?! I just knew the host was going to question his butt 😂
Exactly. Which one is it? Pick a side. 😂
Yup, I caught that too. But in general he seemed to use a lot of words while saying nothing
There isn’t a person in this world who isn’t on their phone for an entire 8 hours unless they’re asleep. He wanted to see if her interest was truly there. If you heard he said that she would post on her story within that 8 hours and go out and see others but not respond to a simple text for 8 hours. Atp it seem like she wasn’t interested. Don’t be dense
@@tinablecherr if you aren't under 30yrs old...then you are definitely over emotional, suffer from anxiety and have been in his shoes. Watch your mouth calling me dense. My statement was clearly regarding reciprocity. It's clear to me that they both don't have alot of interest in one another. Any man I know wants to see a woman in person and 35mins ain't ish of a drive. Also, in the spirit of not being interested...many don't respond immediately to text because a conversation usually ensues and his texts, I am sure are too damn long. Bye.
This is exactly what I was thinking like huh. You the first one not showing interest because you not taking her out on a simple date, that’s why she not texting you back fast. Yall only 35 minutes away like take some initiative dude
Out of all the the couples these two seem very genuine , hope they give it a real shot
Bro said "if you really want something, you will make time for it" .... and sis is like "Exactly, and its been 3 weeks and you still haven't taken me out!?!?"😂😂
Exactly lol
Damn fam you was supposed to set up a time, date and place off the first phone call.
I agree
True you gotta have that dog on you at the beginning of the chase 💯
Facts that’s the most effective way to really get to know someone, what’s the point of talking and texting like we in highschool. I’m tryna vibe and see if we connect on a physical level it’s hard to do that over the phone without losing interest at some point.
3 weeks of talking and no 1st date, as an adult, was generous tbh. 😂 They both were very unserious.
@@strickdawg2991Yup. Then you dump her.
these 2 could be perfect on a youtube series of just them
But 3 week bruh??!!! You drop the ball!!! You didn't try your best to take that girl out bruh. Your deflecting bruh
When people are interested they make time plain and simple
watching this makes me appreciate being single
I wish humans could trade positions (married, single, rich, poor, middle financial standings). I'm married and sometimes wish I could go back to single days. However, after seeing this show and how dating is more stressful than not, I'm happy to be married for 16 yrs.
As far as I’m concerned, sis dodged a bullet. He’s one of those “I’m the prize” men.
I agree! Seems like he wanted her to chase him
I don't necessarily agree. He's not saying what he exactly felt. What he's saying is, he wasn't quite sure if she was genuinely into him so he wanted to see by giving a little what she'd do as a follow up. He just doesn't wanna seem too thirsty so, he's letting her chase a little. A man just wants to know if the woman actually likes him is all.. that girl wanted him to chase on her part too. What girl isn't always on her phone texting? I call cap.
Yep, he's the girl.
He is the prize lol tf
@@planettiktok3258 then he's the woman. Men aren't the prize 😒.
I’m in the NYC area. It takes 30mins to driving around the corner😅 30 mins is not long distance . At least they both talked this out with calm, cool and collective energy 👏🏽
This man went on the show to promote his music. He was never looking for love. He talked as this was a breakfast club interview.
She is so beautiful. Omg, her face is perfectly symmetric if I said that right. She seems like a sweetheart also. I wish they will get the chance to go on a date and see how things work.
Relax
I love her cheek bones!
Relax
@timlynch6271 Uhhh, no, I'm good. I'm just expressing my thoughts on this video posted for everyone to give input if they want. I appreciate you being concerned, though.
She is very pretty
Shortie is a cutie pie.
Even the colors they wearing looks ❤
I’m so glad she posts the throw backs because so can not recognize these people half the time.
The interest just wasn't strong enough to clear up miscommunication and tiny grievances. And that's on both ends. They should be honest. When you're interested you push a little more for communication and stretch a little more to understand
Perfectly said!
Great summation.
Well said. ..You also move from rigid positions you stand on. They didn't seem to be willing to do the either. Too risky.
I also feel he was saying that if you are interested, then you would reach out...
@@chocolateearrings How silly do u sound... A man is expecting a woman to actually be & feel like a woman. Just like wut ur expressing as an expectation. But clearly, ur femininity is conditional...as was hers, (from his perspective). Hence: nothing from nothing left them w/ nothing.
This the type of dude that will never shut up about anything
While I understand man need to express ourselves,he’s doing to much..
Guys we must always take the initiative to get the first date out the way then go from there..
Arlette you guys keep doing what you doing loving the shows..
Just let the ppl coming on be clear ago they’re reason for being on the show….keep up the great work
Idk why the comments always diss the guys, Ciara to me didn’t show any initiative and basically wanted him to chase her down while ignoring his texts. I don’t think she liked him from the beginning she just wanted to have a match and I think most the girls do that. They don’t want go on a show and not get chose at all so they just go with whatever.
You make a lot sense
Idk it just seem like he expected too much from her toon soon and they didn’t even have a 1st date yet. I can only imagine how he’ll be if they were
@@reese85 all he expected was communication. Why would you take someone out who doesn’t reply to you on a date?
@@CosmicJournee no if you listened to everything he said, he expected gf duties from her without even taking her on a 1st date and she replied back ti him, but it wasn’t as fast as he wanted it to be.
@@reese85 what gf duties did he expect?
We need more content!!! Please ❤
Facts
I believe the slow feed is due to a bigger move.... I could easily see this show on television network....
@@No1sProfit I’ll definitely watch if she comes on the big screen! But if it’s someone else prob not 😒
@@KekeEspo yes only if it's her
She need regional host partners who will carry her style across the nation! East Coast, South, West Coast etc
I was really rooting for these two 😢, they are soo mature and respectful and you can see they care for each other , shame it went down like that .
He tryna talk that “on my purpose” talk. He saying too much. She wanted to date and you playing. She seems very patient sitting there listening to you sit there and say all that stuff. He contradicting saying she can’t delay a text response but he wants her to be patient and wait around for phone calls that don’t happen. He was on point about a few things though. She was intentionally playing I’m not gonna text back until later games.
& THIS is the perfect example of modern dating. Everyone has been done greasy to the point no one takes a risk. The both of these two are saying the same thing & behaving the same way. They felt like they put themselves out there enough. Meanwhile, the other feels like they haven't & both took it as rejection & pulled back & went back inside. Imma give more of the owners on him bc we're men. Rejection shouldn't be a deal-breaker for something we want. ..At the end of the day they both gave a: "meh, I can take it or leave it" attitude w/ each other.
Yep pretty much
Yep this is exactly what happened
Onus* not owners but i agree.
@@DinaDeen5610 You honestly believe autocorrect didn't produce that typo?
@@Mr.Oct___ how would i know? I don’t assume people’s level of intellect. Just helping out because i saw it.