Having some go-to lines can be very useful, but how can you adopt canned lines without being too gamey or artificial? How do you know how much is enough, and how do you calibrate to the situation? This video outlines a simple process for implementing this, or any new skill in game. systembytodd.com for more.
Prime example of one of those rationalisations that help nobody. At the end of the day, you still have to approach and you're still socially "needy" in that situation.
@@jackbrady9738 His point still applies Due to her timer, an 8 can be desperate enough to go with a 6. The amount of levels they're willing to downgrade decreases though, like always.
Watching your videos has helped me gain the confidence to talk to girls. I lost my virginity when I was 27 years old it was another seven years without having sex after that. At 34 I met a girl much older than me and we had a relationship off and on for about a year but I wasn't happy in the relationship. I'm 36 now and I recently met a 20 year old dime piece whose personality absolutely blows my mind. We get along together swimmingly. We have slept together a couple times and now gone on a few dates. My life feels like a dream now. I view myself and life itself vastly different now. Todd and rsdmax were and are the pickup artists whose style and personality resonated with me the most. I just want to let all of the incels out there who have a very cynical outlook, it's not over until it's over. I never in my wildest dreams thought I would be living the life that I'm living right now. There's always hope. Believe in yourself. Thank you Todd
Messaging someone you don't know obviously puts you at a slightly needy disadvantage, so I would say write as little as possible. A big paragraph explaining why you want to talk will make you look like a psycho. It depends on the context, whether it's a cold approach via Instagram or you're adding a girl you've seen work at your local Starbucks and spoken to a couple of times or whatever. Just hey and something you noticed about them (something tasteful) then maybe a question about it or where they're from. If it's the social media route you better have a decent profile. For a text it entirely depends on the circumstances, but don't exceed 2 sentences. If you're talking about a girl you've opened in person, watch videos on text game for advice. Reference the conversation you had, see how responsive she is and take it from there. Have a goal in mind like meeting her somewhere, you don't want to be texting to nowhere without a plan or she will think this guy is not very horny or doesn't have any sort of plan.
About 4 days ago, I bumped into a waitress in a hotel I was at and decided to talk to her (keep in mind Im 22): I froze and didn't have anything to say. She turned out to be 30, married and has a 6 year old kid! I was not expecting that at all! 😐
Hi Todd, game with European girls is different from US. Have you said it yourself too. The biggest issue we get is after even a good interaction and number exchange. Often girl writes first or after initial greeting - sorry but I have a boyfriend. I feel like this is a fundamentally European thing as comfort and stability (don’t want to loose what they have, they actually even write that sometimes) more important than value here. What are you thoughts and how to go about it?
I've gamed in multiple countries, and it really depends what parts of Europe. Western Europe is pretty much identical to American girls, same with Australia. Eastern Europe is a bit different. The whole "I already have a bf" thing probably doesn't mean nothing special though, and that she does indeed have a bf and you didn't bring enough value to the table for her to consider monkey branching. I also believe that value pretty much always Trump's comfort at first, but that's only the case if you truly bring value.
There are so many things I gotta work on... but things I still dont understand.. How do you tease and create sexual tension when you NEVER had any sexual experience before? How do you work with a below average size? How do you control yourself from fidgeting/anxious behaviors in conversation? Are there ways to practice game with girls you see everyday? (Problem with me if anybody wants to hear it) Everyday I'm ovethinking, thinking about a certain girl who I really want to connect with that I've known for a year. We're friends but we never had a conversation were any sexual vibe had been created. Shes had a bf for a while but hes gone off the picture for reasons. She rarely shows her emotions to me or anyone cause that's the way she is. She doesnt really talk to anyone, but when she does she can talk for hours. When we're together she does most of the talking. She mostly talks about her life. She tends to make anything she talks about pretty casual. I'm not trying to ask her to be my gf off the spot but I want to tease with her correctly without making her feel uncomfortabe. Shes never really seen that side of me. I want to know how to take my time with her and lead the conversation the way it should have been intended months ago. I wont see her for 3 weeks so I have time to practice and gain confidence with myself. The day I see her again is also the last day I might possibly see this girl for a while. We had a plan a couple months ago into getting an apartment together (back when she had a bf but her bf isnt around). Then for certain reasons she moved an hour away. Now shes telling me she's thinking about settling in that new area. I dont want to get too ahead of myself but my goal is for us to gain a better connection. Maybe if the night goes well, we can create more future plans together. If you Todd or anyone has advice, I'd gladly appreciate it. Thank you (: more things : we used to work together, we're both potheads, we've only ever hugged 4 times, shes had a really rough past but shes really good at controlling her emotions in situations where she feels like she shouldnt show it.
Too much stuff to address in just one post, but one of the holy commandments of game is Oneitus is the un-doing of good game. Good game is like Poker. It is impossible to win 100% of the time, but a good Poker player knows if the hand he has been dealt is something he can work with and what he can't and when to throw in the towel and ask for a new hand. An unskilled Poker player has no concept of how good the hand he has been dealt is, or bad, and can get lucky and occasionally make optimal moves, but perhaps the most important thing about a skilled Poker player is they have the confidence to know even when they lose a bar hand, a good hand will come up and they are skilled enough to capitalize. A non-skilled player will put too much investment in one shitty hand and blame himself for losing that one hand... Investment in a hand is ok if you've already doubled down, tripled down, etc. on said hand. As this applies to game, it's ok to invest in a girl you already know you have chemistry with. But almost nothing good comes from Oneitus on a neutral hand. The solution is move on and plays more hands and when you're more skilled come back and evaluate if the neutral hand is worth doubling down over.
@@ingloriousfilx4975 so we actually got drunk that night and we slept with eachother, then 4 days later she came back around my town and we did it again. Haven't seen her since cause shes far from me now, and of all of this corona virus shit. Might see her soon, might not. I'm not obsessed over her anymore, pretty much moved on. But I still would sleep with her again lol.
QUESTION FOR A FUTURE VIDEO How do you typically navigate interactions and/or dates, with women who know you’re in an open relation, without lying? For instance, they ask if you have a girlfriend or it comes up some other way. It seems to throw the interaction off track a bit in my experience. There must be a smoother way to handle it.
Lio Looks I have a friend who has 3 girlfriends. The longest one he had (several years) knows about the others and keeps being with him. So in my opinion before there is strong bond don’t tell about the other ones.
Bro That’s not exactly what I’m asking. My girlfriend and I are in a well established open relationship. We live together, have a child, all that. So if I’m in an interaction with another woman and she asks if I have a gf or who I live with, I’m not going to lie about it. I’ve just noticed that when a woman who isn’t familiar with that lifestyle hears that information, they don’t really know how to respond. Todd is actually in the exact same situation from my understanding so I’m just curious on his perspective of how he navigates those types of interactions when they come up.
Hey Todd! I updated my Tinder account and now I get more matches than I can and want to spend time on. Is there a system to get them on a date without investing much time?
Best advice I got recently is to send special notes as a letter and not a text.. I use this app Text a letter to send real letters so I guess its still basically like texting idk #teamlazy
a 3bet against an open? in game that's the equivalent of a girl giving you shit right off the open, so you double down and hit her with another strong opener
How can I better communicate my value to make me look more compelling such that the girl feels the want to please me or the need not to lose me because I’ve marketed myself as a win for her
i like to think this way...i'm the buyer... let me find out if you re actually as cool as you look like..im curious about how your vibe is..i mean i was intrigued by you but, im not completely won by you... yeah you are attractive but i hope you're not boring ..
Man, what is all this technical shit, I just want a gf and a friend told me that wold help, but it just makes me more nervous..... Does every mf with a girlfriend out there actually use this shit?
Actually a great video for such a clickbait title. (Search "How to Never Run Out of Things to Say" for at least 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘯 videos with that title, including no less than three from Todd)
Just game girls shorter than you. I'm a tall guy with a short girl fetish (my favorite height is 5'2" - 5') and most of these girls are actually hard for me to acquire because I'm prob too tall and I see them date shorter guys. What guys fail to realize, is size is relative. To a very tiny woman, it is not hard to be hyper masculine. If the woman is huge, the threshold becomes much higher. Despite being tall and large, I actually don't particularly like tall women because I don't feel as big compared to them and I like being highly dominant. Being a height deemed positive by society statistically helps with the broadest range of women, but there are plenty of short girls where an average to below average guy is "tall" to her.
@@MajesticFerret I'm like 5'6 but tbh I just don't like short girls. I'm only like game for women who are around the range of 5'3 -5'8 lmao. Yeah plus like you mentioned it's a height positive society and I'm really at a disavantage. But I guess not so given I'm in an Asian country, which brings a whole new problem cause day game isn't even like socially acceptable here? Idk. I hope Todd actually covers content on how to day game especially in countries where things are still conservative.
@@Wompthe25th So you live in an Asian country where women are predominantly short, are very picky to the point where you only want to date women who are quite tall which is very rare in Asian society, and you yourself are short...why? Do you like getting rejected? Studies show that 90% of women want to date a man taller than them...not tall...just taller than THEM. The problem isn't your looks, it sounds like you have a strong case of "I want what I can't have." It's going to be very difficult for you to ever date some super tall girl, but you have tons of other eligible short girls that would be fine with your height. Stop having Oneitus and go find a hot girl who is compatible instead of dwelling on girls that aren't compatible with you. No guy is ever going to be attractive to 100% of girls.
Todd game is super LAG on showdown, that's why he never gets LMR. If i played him HU, I'd AMOG him by adjusting to TAG. In the System, in the "leveling" section, you said that could spend hours discussing leveling behaviours, down to "itching your nose" a certain way. Can you please do a series on leveling behaviour? Down to the minushia. Gj
Hey Tod :) ! How can u tell when a girl says " I have a boyfriend " that this is a shit test, or genuinely she does have a boyfriend. I had great interaction with her. Twice. Nice vibe, push and pull, eye contact, flirting etc. But in the end she said that.
hi, its because every mind evolves in its way, so something working from one dude could not work for other, but memorizing lines is the worse, cause then spontaneity is lost, could i ask your honest opinion about a smart assistant im planning to address the dating hell problem
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Having some go-to lines can be very useful, but how can you adopt canned lines without being too gamey or artificial? How do you know how much is enough, and how do you calibrate to the situation? This video outlines a simple process for implementing this, or any new skill in game. systembytodd.com for more.
Hey Todd, what are the phases or steps of successful game?
Aaaaaaaaaa
A book shelf, bass guitar, medieval sword and christmas lights. Looks like Project Manhattan is going along well.
"The purpose of the open is to get in a conversation where it's forgotten that you ever opened"
THAT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE! Use the canned lines when she isn't reacting or giving feedback! OMG!
Her need or neediness is actually greater than yours in that her clock is ticking a lot faster.
Not if U level urself to a 6 and she's looking for an 8
Prime example of one of those rationalisations that help nobody. At the end of the day, you still have to approach and you're still socially "needy" in that situation.
@@jackbrady9738 His point still applies
Due to her timer, an 8 can be desperate enough to go with a 6.
The amount of levels they're willing to downgrade decreases though, like always.
The Gheist a girl in her early to mid 20s isn’t thinking about her biological clock, not even on a subconscious level
@@rainofkhandaq6678 nope
as an ex poker proffesional poker player I just enjoy listening to this so much.
Watching your videos has helped me gain the confidence to talk to girls. I lost my virginity when I was 27 years old it was another seven years without having sex after that. At 34 I met a girl much older than me and we had a relationship off and on for about a year but I wasn't happy in the relationship. I'm 36 now and I recently met a 20 year old dime piece whose personality absolutely blows my mind. We get along together swimmingly. We have slept together a couple times and now gone on a few dates. My life feels like a dream now. I view myself and life itself vastly different now. Todd and rsdmax were and are the pickup artists whose style and personality resonated with me the most. I just want to let all of the incels out there who have a very cynical outlook, it's not over until it's over. I never in my wildest dreams thought I would be living the life that I'm living right now. There's always hope. Believe in
yourself. Thank you Todd
How do you start a conversation with somebody you don’t know via text?
Without being creepy or needy...
push pull, be curious about her but don't flirt to much...try get her number and baby step her outside the phone...
Messaging someone you don't know obviously puts you at a slightly needy disadvantage, so I would say write as little as possible. A big paragraph explaining why you want to talk will make you look like a psycho. It depends on the context, whether it's a cold approach via Instagram or you're adding a girl you've seen work at your local Starbucks and spoken to a couple of times or whatever. Just hey and something you noticed about them (something tasteful) then maybe a question about it or where they're from. If it's the social media route you better have a decent profile. For a text it entirely depends on the circumstances, but don't exceed 2 sentences.
If you're talking about a girl you've opened in person, watch videos on text game for advice. Reference the conversation you had, see how responsive she is and take it from there. Have a goal in mind like meeting her somewhere, you don't want to be texting to nowhere without a plan or she will think this guy is not very horny or doesn't have any sort of plan.
Don't do that. It's way to nerdy. Communicate in person.
Sebi Sociopat how do you text her if you don’t have her number?
Joseph Izzo I’m talking bout instagram
About 4 days ago, I bumped into a waitress in a hotel I was at and decided to talk to her (keep in mind Im 22): I froze and didn't have anything to say. She turned out to be 30, married and has a 6 year old kid!
I was not expecting that at all! 😐
Explore17 practice is practice
Tracking results by what makes someone reactive, genius.
Hi Todd, game with European girls is different from US. Have you said it yourself too. The biggest issue we get is after even a good interaction and number exchange. Often girl writes first or after initial greeting - sorry but I have a boyfriend. I feel like this is a fundamentally European thing as comfort and stability (don’t want to loose what they have, they actually even write that sometimes) more important than value here. What are you thoughts and how to go about it?
Do you really think they would be trying to find things out about you if they weren't looking for anything but validation?
@@richardhunter9779 can you elaborate more on what you mean?
I've gamed in multiple countries, and it really depends what parts of Europe. Western Europe is pretty much identical to American girls, same with Australia. Eastern Europe is a bit different.
The whole "I already have a bf" thing probably doesn't mean nothing special though, and that she does indeed have a bf and you didn't bring enough value to the table for her to consider monkey branching.
I also believe that value pretty much always Trump's comfort at first, but that's only the case if you truly bring value.
@@MajesticFerret Did you game in Portugal?
@@bra1nless712 never been to Portugal. Heard mixed reviews. How about yourself?
There are so many things I gotta work on... but things I still dont understand..
How do you tease and create sexual tension when you NEVER had any sexual experience before?
How do you work with a below average size?
How do you control yourself from fidgeting/anxious behaviors in conversation?
Are there ways to practice game with girls you see everyday?
(Problem with me if anybody wants to hear it)
Everyday I'm ovethinking, thinking about a certain girl who I really want to connect with that I've known for a year. We're friends but we never had a conversation were any sexual vibe had been created. Shes had a bf for a while but hes gone off the picture for reasons. She rarely shows her emotions to me or anyone cause that's the way she is. She doesnt really talk to anyone, but when she does she can talk for hours. When we're together she does most of the talking. She mostly talks about her life. She tends to make anything she talks about pretty casual.
I'm not trying to ask her to be my gf off the spot but I want to tease with her correctly without making her feel uncomfortabe. Shes never really seen that side of me. I want to know how to take my time with her and lead the conversation the way it should have been intended months ago. I wont see her for 3 weeks so I have time to practice and gain confidence with myself. The day I see her again is also the last day I might possibly see this girl for a while. We had a plan a couple months ago into getting an apartment together (back when she had a bf but her bf isnt around). Then for certain reasons she moved an hour away. Now shes telling me she's thinking about settling in that new area. I dont want to get too ahead of myself but my goal is for us to gain a better connection. Maybe if the night goes well, we can create more future plans together. If you Todd or anyone has advice, I'd gladly appreciate it. Thank you (:
more things : we used to work together, we're both potheads, we've only ever hugged 4 times, shes had a really rough past but shes really good at controlling her emotions in situations where she feels like she shouldnt show it.
Too much stuff to address in just one post, but one of the holy commandments of game is Oneitus is the un-doing of good game.
Good game is like Poker. It is impossible to win 100% of the time, but a good Poker player knows if the hand he has been dealt is something he can work with and what he can't and when to throw in the towel and ask for a new hand. An unskilled Poker player has no concept of how good the hand he has been dealt is, or bad, and can get lucky and occasionally make optimal moves, but perhaps the most important thing about a skilled Poker player is they have the confidence to know even when they lose a bar hand, a good hand will come up and they are skilled enough to capitalize. A non-skilled player will put too much investment in one shitty hand and blame himself for losing that one hand...
Investment in a hand is ok if you've already doubled down, tripled down, etc. on said hand. As this applies to game, it's ok to invest in a girl you already know you have chemistry with. But almost nothing good comes from Oneitus on a neutral hand. The solution is move on and plays more hands and when you're more skilled come back and evaluate if the neutral hand is worth doubling down over.
@@MajesticFerret Thank you, reading that helps a bit. Still really like this certain girl, but I'm willing to go out and meet different girls.
hi, could i ask your honest opinion about a smart assistant im planning to address this issue
@@yeahokay5434 Would love to know how things are panning out with her in the times of this pandemic with social distancing as a major hurdle...
@@ingloriousfilx4975 so we actually got drunk that night and we slept with eachother, then 4 days later she came back around my town and we did it again. Haven't seen her since cause shes far from me now, and of all of this corona virus shit. Might see her soon, might not. I'm not obsessed over her anymore, pretty much moved on. But I still would sleep with her again lol.
Highest pick up level!
Highest poker level.
QUESTION FOR A FUTURE VIDEO
How do you typically navigate interactions and/or dates, with women who know you’re in an open relation, without lying? For instance, they ask if you have a girlfriend or it comes up some other way. It seems to throw the interaction off track a bit in my experience. There must be a smoother way to handle it.
Lio Looks I have a friend who has 3 girlfriends. The longest one he had (several years) knows about the others and keeps being with him. So in my opinion before there is strong bond don’t tell about the other ones.
Bro That’s not exactly what I’m asking. My girlfriend and I are in a well established open relationship. We live together, have a child, all that. So if I’m in an interaction with another woman and she asks if I have a gf or who I live with, I’m not going to lie about it. I’ve just noticed that when a woman who isn’t familiar with that lifestyle hears that information, they don’t really know how to respond.
Todd is actually in the exact same situation from my understanding so I’m just curious on his perspective of how he navigates those types of interactions when they come up.
@@liobrown8371 yeah i understood your case correctly. Indeed would be cool to hear this from Tod.
Field test everything
Did you have to use the sword in the background?
sinbrega ~ right!? It almost nullifies his teachings.
slaying the dragon of approach anxiety.
I SEE BASS I SLAP LIKE
I HEAR TODD I SLAP LIKE ALSO
Hey Todd!
I updated my Tinder account and now I get more matches than I can and want to spend time on. Is there a system to get them on a date without investing much time?
Tinder is for hooking up just go straight for the date
the scientific method
Is there a list of canned lines?
There’s plenty out there, but it’s best that you come with or choose some that feel natural to you.
Todd has a video called Steal My Lines
I love the poker-discipline example!
Best advice I got recently is to send special notes as a letter and not a text.. I use this app Text a letter to send real letters so I guess its still basically like texting idk #teamlazy
Finally a poker reference - any personal preflop ranges in Hold ‘Em?
And out of curiosity what does a three bet v open raise look like in game?
a 3bet against an open? in game that's the equivalent of a girl giving you shit right off the open, so you double down and hit her with another strong opener
Bro I think you have a cool hairstyle is it possible for a video on how you do your hair
How can I better communicate my value to make me look more compelling such that the girl feels the want to please me or the need not to lose me because I’ve marketed myself as a win for her
i like to think this way...i'm the buyer... let me find out if you re actually as cool as you look like..im curious about how your vibe is..i mean i was intrigued by you but, im not completely won by you... yeah you are attractive but i hope you're not boring ..
she will value the guy which she needs to put in the work for
@@Seductive15 alright cool i think i get it now thanks
Love the books
Whats up with the Sword and Bass?
hi todd, can you talk about the point of no return please? thanks
Right on time
Man, what is all this technical shit, I just want a gf and a friend told me that wold help, but it just makes me more nervous..... Does every mf with a girlfriend out there actually use this shit?
Actually a great video for such a clickbait title. (Search "How to Never Run Out of Things to Say" for at least 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘯 videos with that title, including no less than three from Todd)
Todd, any advice on shorter guys on game or is it the same thing for everyone?
Just game girls shorter than you. I'm a tall guy with a short girl fetish (my favorite height is 5'2" - 5') and most of these girls are actually hard for me to acquire because I'm prob too tall and I see them date shorter guys.
What guys fail to realize, is size is relative. To a very tiny woman, it is not hard to be hyper masculine. If the woman is huge, the threshold becomes much higher. Despite being tall and large, I actually don't particularly like tall women because I don't feel as big compared to them and I like being highly dominant. Being a height deemed positive by society statistically helps with the broadest range of women, but there are plenty of short girls where an average to below average guy is "tall" to her.
@@MajesticFerret I'm like 5'6 but tbh I just don't like short girls. I'm only like game for women who are around the range of 5'3 -5'8 lmao. Yeah plus like you mentioned it's a height positive society and I'm really at a disavantage. But I guess not so given I'm in an Asian country, which brings a whole new problem cause day game isn't even like socially acceptable here? Idk. I hope Todd actually covers content on how to day game especially in countries where things are still conservative.
@@Wompthe25th So you live in an Asian country where women are predominantly short, are very picky to the point where you only want to date women who are quite tall which is very rare in Asian society, and you yourself are short...why? Do you like getting rejected?
Studies show that 90% of women want to date a man taller than them...not tall...just taller than THEM.
The problem isn't your looks, it sounds like you have a strong case of "I want what I can't have." It's going to be very difficult for you to ever date some super tall girl, but you have tons of other eligible short girls that would be fine with your height. Stop having Oneitus and go find a hot girl who is compatible instead of dwelling on girls that aren't compatible with you. No guy is ever going to be attractive to 100% of girls.
As in trading, let your winners run, based on market conditions. Thanks for the vid 😎👍🏻
Todd game is super LAG on showdown, that's why he never gets LMR. If i played him HU, I'd AMOG him by adjusting to TAG.
In the System, in the "leveling" section, you said that could spend hours discussing leveling behaviours, down to "itching your nose" a certain way. Can you please do a series on leveling behaviour? Down to the minushia.
Gj
That sword almost nullifies your knowledge. 😂 Geek level 100 or because the swords there and your the lead PU artist, bad ass level 1000.
Bruh said a whole bunch of nothing
Hey Tod :) !
How can u tell when a girl says " I have a boyfriend " that this is a shit test, or genuinely she does have a boyfriend.
I had great interaction with her. Twice. Nice vibe, push and pull, eye contact, flirting etc. But in the end she said that.
bro said nothing for 5 mins
How to use canned lines... doesn’t give any examples, this is what I hate about these channels they don’t actually equip you they just talk in riddles
hi, its because every mind evolves in its way, so something working from one dude could not work for other, but memorizing lines is the worse, cause then spontaneity is lost, could i ask your honest opinion about a smart assistant im planning to address the dating hell problem