Spiritual Whistle Blower talks Identifying Narcissistic Partners, Parents, Family Members + More
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- Опубликовано: 7 июн 2022
- Spiritual Whistle Blower talks Identifying Narcissistic Partners, Parents, Family Members + More
On this episode DCMWG is joined by certified Life Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Expert Chanel Jasmin Clark, better known as Spiritual Whistle Blower. The two of them start with Chanel’s background in hip-hop journalism before tackling a series of narcissistic studies such as how to identify a narcissistic partner, narcissistic traits in parents/family, as well being an author. DCMWG gives her theories & experiences with narcissism, Darkside Of The DMs, voicemails & more.
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A quote I heard from Iyanla Van Zandt that changed my thinking, “ I forgive myself for believing I should have done better when I didn’t know how”. For you Damona.
Thank you I needed this. ❤️
Whoa, that part!!! That is a golden saying. Thank you
Powerful ❤
I really felt this episode! Black parents be wrong af but lack accountability and will make you suppress your feeling when they hurt you smh. They make you feel like your feelings and opinions don’t matter. They lack empathy too, they can’t do no wrong
And they think you owe them for choosing to bring you into their struggle.
Exactly
@@thevenusian1314 🤣🤣so true
Yup it’s so sad
I make this a point to articulately apologize to my three year old, especially if I know I wasn’t being patient or nice.
Broke up with my child's father, found out I was pregnant, and STILL stayed away. My pregnancy was so peaceful and had no issues. It's true to stay AWAY from narcissistic men idc what your situation is. Best decision God is good.
I applaud you ! I knew I didn’t want to have a baby by my bd , but I stuck beside him . My pregnancy was hell ! My baby came out so tiny bc he couldn’t grow properly from the stress . My son is almost 2 now and my bd still brings negativity to my & my kids life . I just now started to keep my son away from him & keep him and his evil ass away from us .
@@SimplySadeWorld 🥺 this makes me sad to even think about what you went through. Now is the time to let go completely. These men do not care or even put thought into what happens to you or your kid. Cut off all contacts. Your peace is important
Or maybe you can just close your legs. But apparently that's impossible for you women.
You. Are. Goals.
@@asshhdoll ❤️ God made it all possible. Strength courage ands wisdom
PLEASE BRING HER BACK!!! This was what everyone needed there is so much going on in this world and I believe this goddess is in alignment
🔥🔥🔥🔥Yes!!
Yes she is! Very honest and genuine
shes back they did a part two mona just didnt upload it yet
This information is SO important. We are not taught to identify these behaviors. I was with a narcissist for 10yrs from 16-26 & only now at 31 did I just begin to unravel what actually happened to me! If young girls can see this & learn this earlier in life it will literally save people from so much abuse & trauma!
Me too! I was married to one for 10 years and it was a living hell. He was physically, financially, & emotionally abusive. I did not educate myself on what he was until the 8th year, once that sunk in, I left and not looking back. Narcs are easily capable of killing you!
Chile!!! Yes, I have the same story! I'm 34 now. 9 year relationship. Started dating at 22 and until ALMOST 31! I was focused on my career. I was to focused to really notice until I got around 28 and started wondering.... Chile, I'm off in my own story now. LOL! Thank you for sharing this! Needed to see it!
Yessss!!!
SAMEEE GIRLLLLLL WTF ! Now idk if its GOD BUTTTT I FEEL LIKE IM IN THE DAMN TWILIGHT ZONE !!✨🌠🌌🌌
@ SAME!!!! It’s amazing how so many of us have the SAME stories!!!!
This woman is the sole reason why I recognized I was raised in a narcissistic household and was able to break free from the toxic loyalty.
Did you go no contact? I’m struggling to not feel guilty leaving them.
What she said about discernment was so true once you learn to identify these behaviors you cannot unlearn it. You start seeing it in different people and you know just how to move around them.
Yes, yes, yes!!!💯💯💯
My fiancé actively protects me from his mother and female family
Members. He’s traumatized by them, keeps his distance and advised me early on to do the same
Good man
I was advised the same at 19 and he ended up having his mask on very well as if he was different and No, he wasn't.. That was a huge red flag I felt could have helped me go in a different direction if it didn't go over my head
Smart man how old is he ?
I started my spiritual journey after getting out a relationship with a narcissist. I did my shadow work and realized I was an empath. It has been a hell of a journey. And I still have a lot healing to do.
Amazing, you keep The Faith!!!!
@@RockthestageNYC622 thanks babe. I will. Forward is the motion
My son was born without a leg, the disability is called PFFD, it happens from trauma or infection between 4-6 weeks gestation, I was abused really bad during my my first trimester and a part of my second, but the date I will always remember (April 12th 2019) was when I was about 5 weeks pregnant, my babyfather punched me in my stomach and caused me head trauma by repeatedly punching me in my face, I took a picture of the puddle of blood and sent it to his mother and she told me basically it didn’t happen, I didn’t allow him to see the baby so he took me to court, I proved that it wasn’t from my genetics (micro aray test) or my health, now my son is 2 and is displaying autistic symptoms.
The judge didn’t believe me at first because I’m a black woman and this man is white and his mother works for the government. Luckily I kept everything that was in writing and pictures of bruises.
To be honest, my social media is stalked by him so I shouldn’t even be typing this. I always wanted to start a platform to speak out and relate with other women but I don’t want the drama or disrespect that comes from him.
Sorry you went through that. It is true that abuse will affect a mother and the development of baby in the uterus. Hope you and your baby are doing well now!
@@prosperousk5477 he is doing good other than his disability but he has an appointment soon with a specialist about his developmental delays and the first question asked was if I was abused during my pregnancy, hopefully I can get a doctor to put it in writing that his father is the issue of this
Omg 🙏🏾 start a platform. There are so many others I'm can relate to you
This is the realest video on the internet. IDC. I don't comment on videos, but I needed to hear this from Black women (because too often our abuse is swept under the rug FROM PEOPLE WHO LOOK JUST LIKE US or we are told to move on/get over it with no reflection, no empathy...and hurt people do end up hurting people--everybody needs to be heard/seen and these narcissistic/sociopathic people need to be exposed--thank you). When she says LEAVE, LEAVE YALL. Don't ever let him come back. Don't ask him to come back before he asks to come back (because they always do)... LEAVE. RUN. You will end up MESSED UP if you don't. I wasn't even in a real relationship with mine and the toxicity has opened my eyes (for better and worse) to so many ugly truths in the world. I am now desperately trying to find beauty in humanity and life--I don't even talk to people anymore. Also, share videos like these if someone reaches out to you for help. A woman who was dealing with the same "man" actually put me on to the whistle blower and I am thankful as ever!! Everything she said has been true in my situation--from him being on the down low, to his mommy issues/hate/weird relationship, etc. He could give a d**n about any of his children and it is SICKENING. 0 stars, would not recommend, RUN... and whatever made you enmesh with the foolishness, GET TO KNOW IT...make peace with it ...and then kill it.
I have a BS in Psychology and this was absolutely validating of the horror show experience I had with my ex and his mother. I literally was being bullied by a frown as woman until I refused to talk to be in the same space as her. She was toxic and had a unhealthy relationship with her sons. I’m so thankful more women are talking about this because that Jezebel spirit runs deep in a lot of families.
Bitch i almost fought mines🤔🙄 ! GLAD IM UP OUT OF THERE HONEY ! ⚠️⚠️🔫⚡️
Jezebel KNOW not to play w a daughter of GOD
Having issues from trauma does not always mean they are narcs
@@joycomesinthemorning6721 if you did not experience it you wouldn’t know. If she spoke of it I’m pretty sure she knows what she dealt with
Yessss girllll 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😍
The way Mona explained her misunderstanding about exactly what a narcissist is and how we use words we don’t really understand only because we hear them a lot……that gave me chills because she articulated my own thoughts better than I ever could.
She’s lowkey a modern day philosopher as much as she’s a comedian.
This woman is so passionate about her message to women to stick up for ourselves
As a black women this is the best damn interview in the history of interview for us women thank you to both of yall for waking us women up.
Yessss!!!🙌🏽💯💯💯
💯💯💯💯
I am mixed white and asian and this was very true for me too! No one talks about the white baby daddies that fit this bill.
My mother is a huge narcissist and has alienated me from her side of the family. This is a great episode cause we do get so much shit for cutting parents off but they deserve it
wow..that's what happened to me too, though my mom has transitioned-I have absolutely zero communication with her side of the family. I haven't talked to any of them in years...YEARS!
I know how you feel! I've have no contact with my mom at all! People will try to guilt trip you into thinking that cutting your parents off is wrong, but it's not! Toxic is TOXIC!!!!
Real Talk 💯💯💯
Whew! She sugar coated NOTHING! RAW!!! I respect anyone speaking the truth and can also acknowledge she’s bitter. Truth can still come from a bitter mouth!
I’ve dealt w/ a narcissist. Love bombed me & got me into him heavy just to go back & forth between me & his BM. I knew he was a narcissist when I was crying my eyes out & his eyes looked happy. No empathy for me hurting & crying. Get the fuck outta there once you realize it’s a narcissist. They will have you up & down just b/c they wanna see you cry. And your heart will be broken but it’s just a game to them. I pray for his daughter still from time to time & it’s been 4 yrs since I stopped dealing w/ him.
This woman is a legend.
This episode here has showed me how much I have grown and how I am not wrong for the changes I have made in my life! I previously dated a Narcissist and It was a crazy experience but I'm so proud of myself that I got out fast!!! I worked on me and I am very happy with where I am today!!!
Toxic loyalty is real, friends, family, ect, I did a purge!! Only allowing on my terms!!!
she hit hard with a lot of her statements. literally as i’m watching i’m just like 😳. and so many people i know coming across my mind as she speaks ….just crazy
I didnt have a clue who she was but she spoke facts in this interview . Great interview
She’s been around for a long time
Follow her on Tik Tok!
Omg. I've been in tears watching this. I've dealt with 2 narcissists... both my baby daddies in different ways. They absolutely abandon the children when you don't want them anymore. I thought i was wrong; thought I was crazy 💪🏽 I needed this. Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Watching Mona get so invested in the conversation is gold!!!
I have my BS in psychology and masters in social work, considering pursuing my doctorate in psychology and just want to say that this was the BEST episode yet. Please have her come back and allow guests to ask her questions.
I agree with having her back on. Keep going for that doctorate! We may need YOU one day, to come back so we can ask YOU questions! Keep pushing, Catie Q
@@damikajones6446 Aw thank you. I work in psychiatry in Baltimore and sometimes get really discouraged from the population that I serve (severe mental illness clients). I needed those words today.
Be cautious about which area you get into for your doctorate in psychology. Make sure YOU are fulfilled in that specialty and it won't bring your mental health down AND it is profitable/employable where you live. I got my PhD in psychology and it has not afforded me much more than what a masters would. Not discouraging your progress, but be wise about it. Weigh the pros and cons for what your goals are and if the economy is setup for that. Having more knowledge is useful but often times, experience does that better and is free, in comparison to getting a degree.
@@ChristinaQueenHeart I appreciate your words of wisdom and advice. My husband is supportive of my goals but only wants me to get my doctorate if we don’t have to take out a huge loan, and I honestly can’t blame him.
Very proud of you, keep up the good work!
Mona given Charlie Baltimore vibes 😍
Wow this was so insightful ! Specially the part where you mentioned “ toxic loyalty “ . I struggle with this deeply with my mother for many many years . Although she loves me , it’s very evident she seeks pleasure in my pain ( words right out of her mouth ) . Thank you Mona for this 🙏🏽❤️.
Same
No fr that hit the head on the nail .
May GOD bless you
Same!
Same!!!!
Watching this episode really made realize that my ex was a narcissistic man ,and it's mind blowing because I watched this to look out for the signs only to realize I already been through it. So crazy and mind blowing
Spiritual WhistleBlower Is The Truth🔥🔥🔥
Yes Mam . ♒♒♒⚡⚡⚡💯
This interview was SO INFORMATIVE!! Ladies, pay attention for real! I’m a survivor of a narcissist & it took YEARS to heal from that. And as the SWB said, your discernment go way up & gets stuck and you DO look at folks with spiritual lenses. It’s crazy at first, but I’m so grateful for that gift! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Mona, I love you & thank you for another great episode! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I'm glad the whistle blower is healing and her therapy is helping people understand what's happening. I think she has a good heart and very genuine. An Empathic Gangster that's treading on these demonic entities. One Love♥️
This comment is so poetic.
@@96heyyall what's that suppose to mean
@@rowayne3555 it’s written very well, it reads like poetry.
This episode is SO good so far! Not even 10 mins in and I’m learning so much.
Nbs I’m only 5 minutes in
Same!!
On god
I didn’t know I needed this until I got it!! Being raised by a narcissistic mother and coming from a narcissistic family it made me realize I didn’t stand a chance when it comes to the toxic loyalty I have for my mom and battle that I was dealing with! Even recognizing my own narcissistic traits that I have this episode was definitely self reflection for me. Thank you for this💖💖💖💖
I strongly feel as though spirit brought me to the episode.. i use to skip over it cause im like wtf is a whistleblower But my higher self was always intrigued by the spiritual portion. I just cut off my narc ass ex boyfriend. Any time i expressed my feelings on how he made me feel he would always flip it on me, Always accusing me of cheating but you know how that goes, he was feeling GUILTY Bc thats most likely what he was doing. I had mentally left about a year ago But it feels SO DAMN GOOD to finally allow mysef to be free & physically leave!!!! Everything She said in this video is exactly what he does. Im in my healing process & i know that since i finally closed this karmic cycle that bigger & better blessings are Otw. BRING HER BACK!!!!!! Love you Mona💖💖💖💖
I have a narcissistic mother grandmother and baby dad. I have cut my mother and baby dad off completely! My grandmother I keep at a distance cuz she’s older. But I realized the ppl they were very early on cuz I realized the treatment I received from these ppl wasn’t right. I do believe in generational karma as well. And w me having a daughter now. I refuse to let my daughter receive their karma like I did. Ion let my daughter around them anymore cuz she’s only three months and I have to nip it in the bud now before I get older. My mom played my siblings against me I was the oldest. I be damned if she tries w my own child. Thank you for this!
Same situation. I had to cut grandma off tho because she played me and my sister against each other all of our lives. She is my dad's mother. He's one too. Never was there for us and abusive. Has kids all over the place, one died never even got to meet him. My grandmother would still push a narrative for us to take care of him and be there for him. She's so condescending when she talks to me. You'd think because she's older that she would be different, no She's evil. My spirit cannot take it I want to cuss her out all the time I'd just rather not bother.
I’m so proud of Chanel !!!! She literally help me at my lowest with my narcissist ex. Forever grateful ❤️
Same hear, talking to her is like talking with a friend you've had for years.
Protect this woman at all costs!!
toxicity loyalty/Trauma bond is for sure REAL !!!!!!!! Especially in our community ... it's so sad respectfully! I'm glad ya having this convo because people be acting oblivious to the sht that they be doing to people like yk what you are doing and acting !!! And when ya talk about toxicity in black parents especially the moms!!
I dated a narcissist and had to learn all about narcissism, I quickly realized my parents are narcissist.
Once I realized my parents are narcissist it was a relief, I no longer had to ask myself wtf is wrong with them? I kicked my Mother out of my home after 49 torture filled years of dealing with her insanity.
11 years of her staying in my home.
Every day was an argument and a religious rant from her it was utter foolishness.
She triangulated my children against each other and she is the sole cause of my anxiety.
I kicked her ass out and I don’t care if she lives or die because I’m at peace.
Do not feel compelled to deal with your parents 💩 go no contact and live your best life.
I think I can speak for myself and other women (and some men) when I say this episode was VERY VERY MUCH NEEDED!!!!!! It came at the PERFECT TIME!!!! So thank you Mona for bringing this beautiful black woman on here to put us all on to game 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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Wow neeeeeeded this podcast !!! Especially those mothers /sisters who be their cheerleaders instead of telling him when he’s wrong ! Sickening , hold your male relatives accountable.
You're not lying about that mama clip!! Narc free after 12 years of marriage. The mama was a tale tell and I ignored it.
My BD was asked to leave a session. They crazy!
My Gosh, 25 Min Into This I am In Tears Just Thinking About Things iEndured From Child Into The Present .. This Is Just Mind Blowing… 🥺😔
Thank you so much for this episode, my partner’s parents are Narcissists and abuse him on a daily, today I sent him this video and this prevented him from committing suicide. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
This should go viral. It’s so much information in this video that millions of people could learn from.
Not Mona saying "I feel like you in my business" 🤣🤣😂😂😂
"How you feel about the one with the cone head...🤔" LMAO bless it.
Side note: I'm so happy seeing another Black woman pursue her doctorate. Bless it!
I just ordered I can’t stand my mama! I just had a breakdown about how my narcissistic mom can catch these hands 🤦🏾♀️
I've been following her...glad to see she's blowing up
I absolutely love this convo! I'm going through this with my mom, sometimes you have to love from afar. Respect she's your mom but you have a right to be happy and not to be held hostage by their insecurities.
Yes! My baby has sensory processing disorder and possible autism and has 4x/week therapy and my babydaddy is a narcissist who psychologically abused me my whole pregnancy and left me in fight or flight, panicking. Smh. Shit is criminal and repulsive!
This happened to me too. You’re notaloneeee
Me too, except different disorders smh
Wow I'm sorry 😞 I understand you are not alone
Wow my son has the same! Sensory processing disorder and is in aba 4 days a week. Same drama with Narc bd. Left him when prego & still followed me sigh drama. Sending blessings! My son rages herbs from an Ayurvedic doctor & vitamins from my spectrum heroes.con
Damona’s energy is everything
This one of the best conversations I’ve heard in a long ass time.
A lot of toxicity to digest here but Mona’s vibe offered the perfect balance to get through this episode! 🙌🏾
Explain….what do you mean??
THANK YOU!!!! NO ONEEE and I mean no one, talks about this about parents. Thank you for being transparent.
I cried and chanted for 35mins prior to watching this episode bc I'm watching my son be an absolutely abusive narcissist. 😔 breaks my heart to watch and as an empath I feel completely responsible for his behavior.
How old is your son?
@@kayfeathers7209 20 on the 20th of this month
I love her!! Her content helped save me and my children.
This is giving she needs to make a weekly appearance on the show !! I love their energy together !!! 🥰🥰🥰
This episode spoke to me! My husband's mother (he has no contact with is father) and my father ( my mother died when I was a teen) are both narcissist and have in different ways really tried to hurt out relationship. But we are pulling through and going strong. Keep talking the truth and trying to help women!
Can’t believe how bad I needed every part of this episode. Especially the toxic mother portion bc that never is discussed in our community, making ppl
going through it feel like outcasts and wrong in some way. Thank you for this!!
Baby when she started talking bout the family!!! Whewwww
Therapy just gives a lot of men new terminology to gaslight you it’s wild 😩
Watching this after a break up with a narcissist is very refreshing but man I needed to see this some months ago
I love Chanel. She deserves to be on all platforms
It’s like she watched my last relationship on tv or some 🤯
Needed every bit of the video !!!!
Hearing these woman talk I appreciate my mother so much really she always tried her best to treat us equal and she worked her as off… like I really seen my mom breaking generational curses in my family like she really raised us different and I really see that shit everyday the more I’m around my family.
Been following her for a while!! Found her on RUclips. She goes off in the way that it’s needed. Nice to see her on this podcast! The point she made about the mothers is spot on!!
This was so insightful. I learned more about narcissists through Chanel's definitive breakdown. Thanks Damona for continually bringing us fire content and laughs!
A lot of this was so needed. Having multiple child's mothers or fathers doesn't, by itself, make you a narcissist but I get the point about not caring about having them in order to trap the woman/man and then moving on and doing it again. (and don't come at me, I don't have no baby daddies. I just know it's circumstantial) I pray everyone is loving and healing though.
I hate the Red Table Talk too. She did say her grandmother told her at 9 years old to masturbate. I think that's crazy especially since both of her grandparents were very educated and middle class.
Truest shit ever!!!! If I only knew what I know now back then I could have saved a lifetime
Wow Mona I can’t even tell you how much I needed this episode! I got so many answers to so many questions I didn’t even know I had! Thanks Mona 💕
A lot of relationships we are used to seeing are not normal y'all, especially those young serious relationships. I grew up in the hood and got the hell out early.. so I know.. Some people just won't get it and some will. Iykyk.. those ratchet relationships are deadly.. I do not recommend young romantic relationships, especially if you come from a broken family.. Live your life and make experiences!!
Exactly periodttttt, no shade Mona you look good af baby. Thank yall for this episode it was well needed
She is so beautiful. Love the Spirtual whistleblower! 💜
She is preaching a word..
That's why I be loving the aquarius mind she does all types of interviews
@SWB OMG!!!! I am screaming on the inside!!! FYI - I finally picked up the book I was afraid to buy! I have made it to the first page! 🤣 Bless you! I am so proud of you for staying on this! It was a blessing seeing you in Atlanta and I feel like, I can endure!
This episode is EVERYTHING 💯 no lies told
This episode should go down in the podcast hall of fame! I'm shook 🤯🙌🏾
Oh wow she definitely read my life chile. Definitely want more episodes like this. Mona y’all both look amazing too.
She’s talking facts at 14:47 - 15:30. I’ll share my personal story w/ y’all. My ex boyfriend is a narcissist and she’s correct. Once you see that first red flag, you get the fuck outta there! I experienced this same thing. W/ him saying he’d go to therapy, lying to me. Gaslighting me and manipulating me and everything. I tried to talk to him and change him and none of that worked seeing how he never took accountability for his own actions. On my birthday last year on June 21st, him and I got into a physical altercation and we went to jail because of his actions provoking me and that’s when I had enough. Wasting money on lawyers since it was TWO open cases behind the dumb shit he did from being obsessed w/ me. I had to take accountability since he couldn’t do what he did on his own. I had a part to play in that by continuing to give him “second chances.” When you see that red flag, LEAVE and do NOT look back. Do not get gaslighted or manipulated. I wish they made this pod cast before that day. Maybe I wouldn’t have made that mistake but hey. Life is about growth and learning lessons.
"if you don't cooperate" they'll abandon you & the child 💯 wish more people understood
Mannnn, I needed to hear this. I am truly going through this right now. This makes my heart hurt, but the truth hurts.
I absolutely loved this episode!!! This was very much needed confirmation. Plus how you read Derek for filth when he asked that question, I screamed. Cause yes, the man is the one that wants you and initiates everything in the first place.
I love ❤️ love the Spiritual Whistleblower!!! She is everything!!! She is teaching the masses to get their mind right!!! #BlackGirlMagic#GirlPower
I absolutely felt EVERYTHING she said!!!! I have done my research on what a Narcissist is and a lot of it hit home.
Whew! This episode shook me down to the health issues connected to narcissistic trams.
@23:04 I remember as a kid when I would play with my cousins over my grandma’s house, at some point in the day she would call all the girls inside to make lunch for the boys while they stayed outside and played. She said it was to mold us to be good wives.
Baby this interview was SO GOOD!!!! Dcmwg you are on the RISE!!!!!
WHOOOOOOOOOOO YALL SPEAKING!!!Never I’m my life like I’ll I call another man’s mother “ma or mom”. I got my own thanks 😊
Wowwww amazing episode. I dealt with a narcissist when I didn’t even know what it was… everything spoken in this episode was so true. Wow.
I lived through that grandma, mama, and sister.
Been following SW for three years! I love this collab! Two faves!
Yo she is on point!!!!! The accuracy!!
This is so sad to hear the truth we need healing in our community. Break the cycle of these toxic love and thinkin this acceptable
Resonates 1000% I’m soooooo proud of spiritual whistle blower she’s going to make it so far she already has 🥰🥰💋💋
Best Episode Yet!!!!!! The Self-Work journey is lonely. "Everyday I wanna be a better person!"
The energy was so messed up but when I took a family picture of my in-laws and I looked at the photo omg her eyes scared me.