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I’m starting tomorrow with my 20 month old daughter and this video is literally perfect. I’m hyped up, I’ve simplified it in my mind, I’m not watching any other video or reading about it. Like you said, we can do it! Wish me luck!!!
Awesome! Good luck! And yes it can be done if you have in your mind that you can do it! Can’t remember if I mentioned it in the video, but they are looking to us as the parent to guide them so if you are confident, they will follow that!
This was super encouraging! I'll be chatting with my husband tonight to see what he thinks about starting potty training with our son this upcoming week. He's just over 18 months old and we have another little one on the way, due at the end of the year. Having him potty trained would be the best scenario when the little one arrives. We have a large rug that covers a majority of our living room floor, that I'm thinking we might want to take up for the time being (it has a lot of white space), but we'll see. Thanks so much for the tips and for explaining everything so simply! :)
Thanks so much for watching and good luck!! And I HIGHLY recommend removing the rug, it will 100% absolutely get pee or poop on it, no question about it.
Thanks for sharing! My boy just turned 15 months and we have been talking about the potty, modeling, he knows the sign etc. He squeals when seeing other people use the toilet and likes to take a turn as well, sometimes he pees and sometimes not :) Anyway, thanks for giving me the confidence to try to potty train him now. We're going to give it a try!
Thank you for this video! My son turned 11 months today and for the last few days he has been consistently using his potty when he’s not in a diaper. All the other videos make me feel like he still won’t be fully potty trained until closer to 2. So this video gives me hope and lets me know our new found goals are achievable especially since I took his ques in starting this journey.
That’s awesome! Just keep it up and know there will be setbacks but if you keep going the skills will be retained! There are even setbacks 2-3 years down the line, but it is totally normal and doesn’t mean they weren’t fully trained, they are just relearning how long they can hold it as they get older!
When I was growing up, the standard was to train when kids could walk. It was even that standard when I started babysitting in the 90s. Now all the kids are in daycares so it has changed.
@@analyticalchick3064 all of the kids in my family even the younger generation are potty trained by 2. I would say we typically start potty training them by 18 months. With my son I started at 11 months because he was giving cues that he was ready already since he wasn’t one and just learning to walk everybody tried to tell me it was too soon. He’s 16 months now and he has a potty that goes over ours with stairs for him to get up there himself. He loves it and has been doing a great job of using it. So although I was a bit nervous since he wasn’t even one yet I’m glad I listened to my instincts. I believe he’ll be fully potty trained by 18 months instead of starting around then.
We’ve been using elimination communication for the past few months (my son is 11 months). We use diapers, but I observe him and keep track of time and “catch” lots of pees and poop everyday, especially upon waking and after meals. Once he starts walking we plan to begin potty training.
I started this with my baby at 7-8 moinths and shes been pooping in the potty every morning since! we catch a few pees through out the day too. it is good to get them in the habit of using the toilet early so they understand it's use conceptually
I’m Peruvian and it’s true! Diapers are too expensive… but I’ve been in the US a long time and now I’m also nervous to potty train my 17 month old so I clicked on this video for encouragement 😂
I’m right there with you, this video was about my 2nd but my 4th is 17 months old now but my first boy, so I am working up the nerve to train him and hoping he is as easy to train as my girls 🙏 I’ve heard boys are harder though lol so we’ll see!
Quite a few valid points there... Confidence and just do it... I potty trained my first at 2 and half coz wasnr commited my second at 2 and just started with my third, i hate to see a toddler with a nappy and oversized poop... and deffy thinks this wait till ready ideology isnt very valid.. Coz some kids do resist so badly to a point of getting infections when they r over 2 and a half. Great video.
Thanks for this video! I just found out Im preggas with baby number 2 so definately want to potty train my toddler soon so I’m not changing two sets of diapers! 😅
Make note when you give them something to drink. Just like when you're training a puppy dog you restrict fluids to know that after you give them a drink, that you know 15 to 20 minutes after they need to go to the potty. WHEN you go to the potty, put them on the potty. One more thing that helped me immensely. Purchase a cheap gumball machine. Put Cheerios or puffs inside. Or you don't have to put anything in but have something on the side to give them. ***Now it isn't receiving something from the machine, it is actually Putting the Penny in the Machine that they get so excited about. My twin brother told me about it and I used it with my kids. It works wonderfully. You can leave gumballs inside but when it rolls out you give them something else for it. You tell them they can't eat the ball (since you don't want to give a toddler a gumball) but they love putting the penny and turning it. They only get a penny when they poop or pee in the potty. Oh, and I also kept an entertaining book that they could look at in case they got bored. 😊
You reminded me that I have to potty train my toddler lol. I think I’m going to invest in one of those little pottys just because I can use it later (some people end up having them in the car).
Thanks, this was super helpful. I potty trained my daughter at 20 months on the big potty. With my second I want to start earlier but may need to use the small potty like you suggest! When did you switch to the big potty?
She was pretty scared of the big potty for a while, but after about 2 weeks of potty training she would use the big potty in public but still not at home. Eventually I think it was about a month when we phased out the little potty and just kept it in the car.
We tried potty training at 18 months for two weeks and she didnt get it at all. We are now trying again at 21 mo for over a week, and still nothing sad 😢
I just subbed. I enjoyed your personality a lot, I think you and I would be friends in real life haha. You deserve more followers for sure. I started infant potty training at 2 weeks old and it was GREAT until about 1 year old and she got constipation and became afraid of the potty. So I've been looking around for some tips and different experiences to glean some new ideas to solve it. Thanks for sharing!
My mom told me she potty trained all her kids around 12 months. Meanwhile all my friends have 2 and 3 years olds that are still not fully potty trained. At first I thought maybe my mom just didn't remember correctly and that was too early to potty train but this video helped clear up any confusion about when to start. My little is 18 months now and I've got baby #2 coming soon so I wanted to get her trained before new baby comes.
I read somewhere that until 10 or 20 years ago, kids were trained as soon as they could walk. I remember slipping into a public toilet at a restaurant when I was really little. I leaned back too much and slipped through the hole. My shirt got wet. I was walking out with my wet shirt in the back and felt like people were looking at me and I just announced to them that I fell right in and chuckled. I'm pretty sure I was about 1.5 to 2 because my parents got divorced when I turned 2 and we no longer could afford to eat at restaurants. I'm 48 so this was in the late 70s. The whole not train them until 2 thing in the West is because all the moms work and kids are in daycares. A lot of daycares do potty training from 2 to 3 (idiotic since they also behave worse and the ratios are more kids).
Update: I spoke to my pediatrician about it and she advised me not to potty train until 2.5-3 years old. I was shocked. She said they usually regress and have a harder time if you do it too early and it wasn't a good idea. Idk what or who to believe. Everyone is telling me something different.
I like to stay home for the first few days, even up to a week just to make sure they have the hang of it before I try having them go outside of the house. When we do start going places, we always go before leaving and I keep the baby potty in the car with me. At that point, I have never run into problems with using the toilet in public and my kids will tell me. I’m not sure how it goes if your child can’t talk because both of my kids were able to express to me with words that they had to go. I imagine signing would be useful here if your child can’t talk yet. At first they definitely do have a preference on which potty they want to use, but I wouldn’t say they were confused. At first there can be a lot of pushback with using the big potty, but if you get a cute one with a familiar character that they like or is just something that interests them, it’s a lot easier to get them to use the big potty.
I have a super important question, so my oldest is 8, so I haven't done this in a while. We have a schedule because her older brother goes to school. Can this method be done with consistent having to go out in the middle of the day? I think this is amazing btw and I appreciate you putting your info out there for people like me :)
Yes, this can work if it is a nap time for them and you know for sure they will fall asleep, or you just aren’t going to be gone that long, or they don’t have to pee/poop that often. It is kind of a risk you take but it’s not impossible. It usually takes about 3 days so in the situation you had to go somewhere I’d make the first day be a Saturday so by the time you are going somewhere it is not the very beginning.
My 1.3 month old already wants to do what she wants to do, carrying her to the potty results in screaming. She seems to understand the words being used but doesn't care.
@@daisydaisy3383 wait until she’s about 16 months. Remember you’re in charge and if she’s having a bad moment then then fine but you aren’t going to respond to it. When my daughter does that I leave her to it. I make it clear we don’t respond to silly behaviour. Once she’s done I say, “ok can we talk now you’re done?” And we be sure to have a Lovely time. Thus rewarding the nice behaviour with good easy moments and bad behaviour is never rewarded with a response. Kids learn ‘ok that didn’t work’ and they do what does work.
I bought a gumball machine for my children 35 years ago. The exciting part was putting the penny in the gumball machine. I also let them run around without a diaper or underwear on but I did to find them to the TV room right next to the bathroom. When they have underwear on they forget and think they have a diaper on. The second thing I did was to draw their favorite characters on the front of their underwear. You can find underwear with your favorite character. But let her pick out which one she wants to be a big girl. But don't forget to tell her that she'll always be your baby. ❤
Hi, thank you for the video. You have given me confidence to start potty training with my 17 month old! I know you mentioned you stayed in for about a week which I will do the same. When you did go out did you put your baby in a diaper? Or were you confident enough that baby would let you know they need to go? Also, did you have to do any training to show baby how to push down their underwear etc? Many thanks!!
Thanks for watching! I would personally not put a diaper on until they have shown that they consistently will poop in the potty. Very often they are able to hold it in for a few days so you want to make sure that they aren’t just waiting until they get a diaper on to go poop (same goes for underwear as they can cause the same problem). But once you’ve seen them poop on the potty about 3-4 times they will probably be just fine with a diaper. I don’t typically use diapers in public anymore at that point (just finished potty training my 19 month old so I may be doing things *slightly* different than what I did in this video, which was about my 2nd child. I usually would use training underwear which have a little bit of a plastic lining in them like diapers except it lets them know that they are wet and it’s uncomfortable. If you’re going somewhere that it would be really bad if pee got through, I’d opt for the diaper but if you’re just going to a park or something the underwear would be a better bet. At the beginning because they’re so young, they really can’t push down their underwear and shorts or even go to the potty independently for at least a few months (in my experience anyway even when I potty trained my oldest who was 2 at the time) but it seems like something they pick up on their own after a while. I hope this helps!
Thank you so much for your reply! I have a really good idea how to get started now! I am planning to put diapers on my daughter for nap and bedtime in the beginning. Or do you suggest the training pants for nap/ bedtime too? Did you have to do any separate nighttime training? Or they just learned how to stay dry at night from the overall training?
@@lesleybrice8203 so the first day I would definitely use a diaper because if they are holding in their poop on the first day because they’re afraid to use the potty, they may end up pooping in their sleep. For me personally, I put all of my children to bed in underwear on the first day and then after they fell asleep I would switch it to a diaper. Every time I have started potty training though, they were all waking up with a dry diaper every time so they were just night trained from the start. Of course you can just do things however you want, but putting the diaper on when they are aware of it might cause them to think they can just hold it in until bedtime and then let it all out in their diaper
@@megandelli1 thank you very much for the time to reply and your tips! I went to ikea today so I am all stocked up on potties and ready to start next weekend! Thanks again for making such a great video ❤️
She really explains this in the video. Once children are conscious that they are in control of peeing then they don’t do it unconsciously or when asleep. They learn that they are in control. Plus keep them in underwear not pull ups so that they are aware of when they have a mess. Always sit them in the potty before bed so they are empty. Don’t have drink right before bed. Talk to them about how they can go potty any time they need to. Once potty training was gone through (one week) we literally had zero accidents at night. The body/mind learns. Zero bed wetting ever if you do it early enough.
I am rewatching videos potty training my second. My first potty trained at 2 through threat of cartoons. 😂 My youngest seems ready a lot earlier. So cartoons don’t mean much in this case.
Hi my baby is almost 17m and we just started potty training, but we are struggling with teaching him to push his own pants down and sit on the potty by himself (like he doesnt get how to sit down facing forward) Did you start with bottom less or start taking diaper off but with pants? How do you teach the toddler to push the pants down, as well as sitting on to the potty? Or do you always help them pull the pants off and put them on the potty when you start potty training and they figure out how to sit there by themselves and push off their pants eventually? How long for them to acquire the skill to take their own pants off and sit on the potty by themselves? Thanks!!
Hi! I do not teach that until much later. One of my children has been potty trained for about a year now and she still doesn’t take off the pants herself. I do a method where there are no pants or underwear until pottying is learned. In my opinion adding all that makes it too complicated and they don’t want to do it. They will probably need help using the restroom for a long time, until probably 3.5 at least in my experience. Other people may do it differently though!
My children are in their thirties now but when I did potty training just let them sit on the potty at first with all their clothes on. Usually I did it before they got in the bath. Back then they didn't have underwear with their favorite character so I drew a character on each of their underwear. But most of the time I let them run around without any underwear on at first because as soon as they felt the urge then they could run right to the potty. Otherwise, sometimes having underwear on confused them and they would pee in them. Although, my son was very good about not doing anything with his underwear on. He liked Ninja Turtles, so I drew a Ninja Turtle head on the front of his underwear. At first, at night, would put a pull-up on, especially if we went somewhere.
May I ask you: what do you do with public bathroom? I can’t finish potty training my toddler simply because I do not know how he will sit on a dirty, large, high toilet bathroom! It grosses me out just to think about it. We’re going on an international trip in a month and I’m really nervous to potty train him before then for that reason.
On amazon you can find a foldable potty seat and they sell these huge covers that cover the entire toilet that are disposable. Usually the ones in the bathroom only cover the seat but these cover the seat and the entire base so no part of their body touches the toilet
We have been trying with my 2.5 year old for while started slow with little potties and got the step one too(which he is afraid of on the toilet, off the toilet nope) 😅 And with my work schedule I can't do it in a fast way without taking out of work. So we are trying to look for new tips. Want him done with diapers by 3. That would be nice.
So I've been doing this for a week now. She knows what the potty is when I ask her where it is but for the life of me I can not catch her in the act and sit her on the potty. I know she will go soon so I ask her and sit her on the potty. She refuses to go until I take a few second away from her and then she goes. Every time. She also has not caught on to puddle of pee on floor goes in potty. Any tips?
Is she wearing undies/pants when you are doing this? Also how old is she? It sounds like she may not be quite ready yet and could benefit from a 6 week ish break, which is totally fine.
@@megandelli1 nope. We don't have the luxury of a washer and dryer at home nor enough undies to go through a whole day of accidents so she's got nothing on like what was suggested in the video. She is 14 months
@@ShapeShifterKibayo ok 14 months is suuuuuuuuuper little. Some of my opinions have changed, so please forgive me for some of what I said if it is different than what I am saying now, but I only had 2 kids in this video and now I have 4! I tried potty training my son at 15 months and it was completely not working and pretty much went as you said it was going with your daughter. I would wait until closer to 18 months when they have greater understanding of what is going on. My son is 18 months old now and I am going to be training him very shortly and he is much more willing to do what I am telling him to do and he was definitely just not ready at 15 months. Of course I don’t really believe in a child being “ready “ in the emotional sense, what I am meaning by that is developmentally ready. A 14 month old is likely not developmentally ready. Other countries do like gradually train them and just get rid of the diapers all together but in the western lifestyle we live in and the sanitation we expect it just isn’t feasible to do that really!
@@megandelli1 awesome. Thank you. I think I will try to keep doing it but staggered so that it slowly becomes the norm for her as she is able to comprehend more. Rinse and repeat right? Thank you for taking the time to help me to the best of your abilities. I really appreciate it! Sending lots of love and I pray you have success with potty training your next baby. 🥰
In my experience, after about 2 weeks it is pretty engrained in them on when they need to use the bathroom. If she is able to communicate clearly and the people who work the daycare are willing to listen to your child and take her when she says she needs to go it will probably work out well.
@@megandelli1 thank you! That may be the catch, I'm not sure how they take the little ones to the bathroom with staffing. It will be my first and a learning experience for me.
I feel a little stuck with my 17 Month old. Long story short, im training him and he sees when he goes on the floor so I sit him on the potty and congratulate him. He smiles when he goes in the potty but, he doesn’t bring himself to sit down on his own. I use the right words “pee pee” “poo poo” “potty” etc. He will sometimes even hide to pee. He will touch his pe*** alot before he goes, walk slightly backwards and tighten up.
In that situation I would just take a few days to solely devote to potty training and catch him every single time you see him peeing. It's ok if you miss a few but if you are super consistent he will probably get the hang of it and start going in the potty. If possible, try to get dad involved. Boys are much more likely to be willing to imitate their dads going to the bathroom than their moms. (I know it's hard. For me I don't know if it would be possible personally but I have heard and read that it helps people who are stuck where their sons are willingly refusing the potty.) Good luck to you!
Did yours have tantrums during potty training? I had some time off and tried to start potty training as well. But don't see how it's easier before 18 months. Let me start by saying we did easy catches (transitions) around 12 months, and looking back I wish I did EC before that. But as he got older, I found he started resisting more. Even giving them privacy didn't seem to work. Now he's 15.5 months, and like you I tried taking off the diaper and once he started to pee on the floor, I would guide him to the potty and say "pee goes in the potty" (btw, we have been saying pee and poo goes in the potty and watch us for months now). But every single time he started to pee on the floor he had huge tantrums (so bad I didn't even do it a full day), even when he wasn't sitting on his potty. I don't actually know the cause of his tantrums either. I never yelled at him or anything like that. I guess he may have been screaming because I was interrupting his play. The reason I don't understand why it would be was easier at 15-16 months as opposed to say 18-20 months is, I would think by then their language and clothing manipulation is better. My boy isn't talking yet even though he understands a good bit of language (it seems) and he can't push or pull his pants down (I have tried to teach but he's not interested). I will try first week of April; hopefully he will be taking some by then.
I would wait too if it is becoming a problem. You definitely don’t want to force it because turning it into a bad experience will make it nearly impossible. My kids never really threw tantrums or refused to reason with me, I’m not sure why but I think it may be that they are all girls and girls just don’t tend to have as much anger as boys can have at times. I hope it goes well for you! I am currently potty training my third and I am hoping it goes as smoothly as it did when I did my second. But, that being said every kid is different and some kids just aren’t willing or ready and that is ok!
I agree it’s an intense watching haha! Ok my baby boy is 18 months now i will start this on Sunday! 6/2 or before let’s see how it goes! 😅 and thanks for the realness you gotta accept poop and pee 😭
Hey great video. I'm starting EC with my twins but they are not walking yet 11 months. Do you recommend starting the potty training hard when they can walk? So as not to have then crawling through pee etc. Thanks
When I would recommend it more depends on their ability to communicate rather than their ability to walk. I personally have never tried EC. So I wait for basic ability to say single words with a meaning (not just repetition). Hopefully that makes sense!
When they can communicate and you have helped them understand that only babies wear diapers / nappies. Wearing fabric nappies/diapers makes it much much easier. Talk about it loads for weeks before starting so that they understand. Every baby can be potty trained by 2 so long as they are walking already (ie not disabled). If you do it once the baby is 2 years old then they go through an oppositional phase and do not want to do what you say … so you will be waiting until they have gone through that which might be over a year! So definitely start at about 16-18 months. Maybe 20-22months for a boy.
12-18 months is perfect. They can tell you. Use sign language etc. Below this age is elimination communication - you are in control not them. Above 18 months is disgusting and unheard of in Eastern countries.
Sorry! You’re right it is distracting. I definitely want to redo this video one day because I have potty trained more children now and I was pregnant in this video and the heavy breathing drives me insane 🥲
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I’m starting tomorrow with my 20 month old daughter and this video is literally perfect. I’m hyped up, I’ve simplified it in my mind, I’m not watching any other video or reading about it. Like you said, we can do it! Wish me luck!!!
Awesome! Good luck! And yes it can be done if you have in your mind that you can do it! Can’t remember if I mentioned it in the video, but they are looking to us as the parent to guide them so if you are confident, they will follow that!
This was super encouraging! I'll be chatting with my husband tonight to see what he thinks about starting potty training with our son this upcoming week. He's just over 18 months old and we have another little one on the way, due at the end of the year. Having him potty trained would be the best scenario when the little one arrives. We have a large rug that covers a majority of our living room floor, that I'm thinking we might want to take up for the time being (it has a lot of white space), but we'll see. Thanks so much for the tips and for explaining everything so simply! :)
Thanks so much for watching and good luck!! And I HIGHLY recommend removing the rug, it will 100% absolutely get pee or poop on it, no question about it.
Thanks for sharing! My boy just turned 15 months and we have been talking about the potty, modeling, he knows the sign etc. He squeals when seeing other people use the toilet and likes to take a turn as well, sometimes he pees and sometimes not :) Anyway, thanks for giving me the confidence to try to potty train him now. We're going to give it a try!
Thanks so much, this is very helpful!! Exactly what I wanted to hear. 👍
Thank you for this video! My son turned 11 months today and for the last few days he has been consistently using his potty when he’s not in a diaper. All the other videos make me feel like he still won’t be fully potty trained until closer to 2. So this video gives me hope and lets me know our new found goals are achievable especially since I took his ques in starting this journey.
That’s awesome! Just keep it up and know there will be setbacks but if you keep going the skills will be retained! There are even setbacks 2-3 years down the line, but it is totally normal and doesn’t mean they weren’t fully trained, they are just relearning how long they can hold it as they get older!
When I was growing up, the standard was to train when kids could walk. It was even that standard when I started babysitting in the 90s. Now all the kids are in daycares so it has changed.
@@analyticalchick3064 all of the kids in my family even the younger generation are potty trained by 2. I would say we typically start potty training them by 18 months. With my son I started at 11 months because he was giving cues that he was ready already since he wasn’t one and just learning to walk everybody tried to tell me it was too soon. He’s 16 months now and he has a potty that goes over ours with stairs for him to get up there himself. He loves it and has been doing a great job of using it. So although I was a bit nervous since he wasn’t even one yet I’m glad I listened to my instincts. I believe he’ll be fully potty trained by 18 months instead of starting around then.
We’ve been using elimination communication for the past few months (my son is 11 months). We use diapers, but I observe him and keep track of time and “catch” lots of pees and poop everyday, especially upon waking and after meals. Once he starts walking we plan to begin potty training.
I think doing it gradually like that is the best way to go!
Hi! How do you do this?
Elimination communication? There are lots of resources on RUclips for this. Andrea Olson’s book Go Diaper Free was a very helpful guide.
I started this with my baby at 7-8 moinths and shes been pooping in the potty every morning since! we catch a few pees through out the day too. it is good to get them in the habit of using the toilet early so they understand it's use conceptually
@@monicafu6705 Woah! That's awesome! I still don't understand how this works exactly. Any tips?
I’m Peruvian and it’s true! Diapers are too expensive… but I’ve been in the US a long time and now I’m also nervous to potty train my 17 month old so I clicked on this video for encouragement 😂
I’m right there with you, this video was about my 2nd but my 4th is 17 months old now but my first boy, so I am working up the nerve to train him and hoping he is as easy to train as my girls 🙏 I’ve heard boys are harder though lol so we’ll see!
Quite a few valid points there... Confidence and just do it... I potty trained my first at 2 and half coz wasnr commited my second at 2 and just started with my third, i hate to see a toddler with a nappy and oversized poop... and deffy thinks this wait till ready ideology isnt very valid.. Coz some kids do resist so badly to a point of getting infections when they r over 2 and a half. Great video.
Thanks for this video! I just found out Im preggas with baby number 2 so definately want to potty train my toddler soon so I’m not changing two sets of diapers! 😅
Love Love Love how super practical you are !!!!
Thanks for this video
@@anitadiener2307 thank you!!! ❤️ and thanks for watching!
Make note when you give them something to drink.
Just like when you're training a puppy dog you restrict fluids to know that after you give them a drink, that you know 15 to 20 minutes after they need to go to the potty.
WHEN you go to the potty, put them on the potty.
One more thing that helped me immensely.
Purchase a cheap gumball machine.
Put Cheerios or puffs inside.
Or you don't have to put anything in but have something on the side to give them.
***Now it isn't receiving something from the machine, it is actually Putting the Penny in the Machine that they get so excited about.
My twin brother told me about it and I used it with my kids.
It works wonderfully.
You can leave gumballs inside but when it rolls out you give them something else for it.
You tell them they can't eat the ball (since you don't want to give a toddler a gumball) but they love putting the penny and turning it.
They only get a penny when they poop or pee in the potty.
Oh, and I also kept an entertaining book that they could look at in case they got bored. 😊
This video was very helpful, thank you!
You reminded me that I have to potty train my toddler lol. I think I’m going to invest in one of those little pottys just because I can use it later (some people end up having them in the car).
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Thanks, this was super helpful. I potty trained my daughter at 20 months on the big potty. With my second I want to start earlier but may need to use the small potty like you suggest! When did you switch to the big potty?
She was pretty scared of the big potty for a while, but after about 2 weeks of potty training she would use the big potty in public but still not at home. Eventually I think it was about a month when we phased out the little potty and just kept it in the car.
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We tried potty training at 18 months for two weeks and she didnt get it at all. We are now trying again at 21 mo for over a week, and still nothing sad 😢
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I started infant potty training at 2 weeks old and it was GREAT until about 1 year old and she got constipation and became afraid of the potty. So I've been looking around for some tips and different experiences to glean some new ideas to solve it. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks so much! I have never tried infant potty training before but it is so true that bad experiences can derail a lot of hard work 😵💫
very helpful details. Thank you
Thank you so much for this video!
You're video was interesting. Thank you. My son is 18 mo old and I want to see what is out there for help.
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@@joeydelgaudou2681 I've not heard of that. What's that?
My mom told me she potty trained all her kids around 12 months. Meanwhile all my friends have 2 and 3 years olds that are still not fully potty trained. At first I thought maybe my mom just didn't remember correctly and that was too early to potty train but this video helped clear up any confusion about when to start. My little is 18 months now and I've got baby #2 coming soon so I wanted to get her trained before new baby comes.
I read somewhere that until 10 or 20 years ago, kids were trained as soon as they could walk. I remember slipping into a public toilet at a restaurant when I was really little. I leaned back too much and slipped through the hole. My shirt got wet. I was walking out with my wet shirt in the back and felt like people were looking at me and I just announced to them that I fell right in and chuckled. I'm pretty sure I was about 1.5 to 2 because my parents got divorced when I turned 2 and we no longer could afford to eat at restaurants. I'm 48 so this was in the late 70s.
The whole not train them until 2 thing in the West is because all the moms work and kids are in daycares. A lot of daycares do potty training from 2 to 3 (idiotic since they also behave worse and the ratios are more kids).
My 10 month old ja going to be trained before 12 month she tells me when she needs to go
Update: I spoke to my pediatrician about it and she advised me not to potty train until 2.5-3 years old. I was shocked. She said they usually regress and have a harder time if you do it too early and it wasn't a good idea. Idk what or who to believe. Everyone is telling me something different.
Great video!!
How do you potty train out of home? How do they let you know? And is it confusing to them by using a baby potty and then seeing an actual one
I like to stay home for the first few days, even up to a week just to make sure they have the hang of it before I try having them go outside of the house. When we do start going places, we always go before leaving and I keep the baby potty in the car with me. At that point, I have never run into problems with using the toilet in public and my kids will tell me. I’m not sure how it goes if your child can’t talk because both of my kids were able to express to me with words that they had to go. I imagine signing would be useful here if your child can’t talk yet. At first they definitely do have a preference on which potty they want to use, but I wouldn’t say they were confused. At first there can be a lot of pushback with using the big potty, but if you get a cute one with a familiar character that they like or is just something that interests them, it’s a lot easier to get them to use the big potty.
Choose three days to a week when you barely leave the home. Get the use of the potty well established before you start taking it with you.
I have a super important question, so my oldest is 8, so I haven't done this in a while. We have a schedule because her older brother goes to school. Can this method be done with consistent having to go out in the middle of the day? I think this is amazing btw and I appreciate you putting your info out there for people like me :)
Yes, this can work if it is a nap time for them and you know for sure they will fall asleep, or you just aren’t going to be gone that long, or they don’t have to pee/poop that often. It is kind of a risk you take but it’s not impossible.
It usually takes about 3 days so in the situation you had to go somewhere I’d make the first day be a Saturday so by the time you are going somewhere it is not the very beginning.
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My 1.3 month old already wants to do what she wants to do, carrying her to the potty results in screaming. She seems to understand the words being used but doesn't care.
Please tell me how you went about it coz my daughter acts the same
I think it's very hard at that age. I would just introduce the idea but not force it at that point.
@@daisydaisy3383 wait until she’s about 16 months. Remember you’re in charge and if she’s having a bad moment then then fine but you aren’t going to respond to it. When my daughter does that I leave her to it. I make it clear we don’t respond to silly behaviour. Once she’s done I say, “ok can we talk now you’re done?” And we be sure to have a Lovely time. Thus rewarding the nice behaviour with good easy moments and bad behaviour is never rewarded with a response. Kids learn ‘ok that didn’t work’ and they do what does work.
I bought a gumball machine for my children 35 years ago.
The exciting part was putting the penny in the gumball machine.
I also let them run around without a diaper or underwear on but I did to find them to the TV room right next to the bathroom.
When they have underwear on they forget and think they have a diaper on.
The second thing I did was to draw their favorite characters on the front of their underwear. You can find underwear with your favorite character.
But let her pick out which one she wants to be a big girl.
But don't forget to tell her that she'll always be your baby. ❤
Hi, thank you for the video. You have given me confidence to start potty training with my 17 month old! I know you mentioned you stayed in for about a week which I will do the same. When you did go out did you put your baby in a diaper? Or were you confident enough that baby would let you know they need to go?
Also, did you have to do any training to show baby how to push down their underwear etc?
Many thanks!!
Thanks for watching! I would personally not put a diaper on until they have shown that they consistently will poop in the potty. Very often they are able to hold it in for a few days so you want to make sure that they aren’t just waiting until they get a diaper on to go poop (same goes for underwear as they can cause the same problem). But once you’ve seen them poop on the potty about 3-4 times they will probably be just fine with a diaper. I don’t typically use diapers in public anymore at that point (just finished potty training my 19 month old so I may be doing things *slightly* different than what I did in this video, which was about my 2nd child. I usually would use training underwear which have a little bit of a plastic lining in them like diapers except it lets them know that they are wet and it’s uncomfortable. If you’re going somewhere that it would be really bad if pee got through, I’d opt for the diaper but if you’re just going to a park or something the underwear would be a better bet. At the beginning because they’re so young, they really can’t push down their underwear and shorts or even go to the potty independently for at least a few months (in my experience anyway even when I potty trained my oldest who was 2 at the time) but it seems like something they pick up on their own after a while. I hope this helps!
Thank you so much for your reply! I have a really good idea how to get started now! I am planning to put diapers on my daughter for nap and bedtime in the beginning. Or do you suggest the training pants for nap/ bedtime too? Did you have to do any separate nighttime training? Or they just learned how to stay dry at night from the overall training?
@@lesleybrice8203 so the first day I would definitely use a diaper because if they are holding in their poop on the first day because they’re afraid to use the potty, they may end up pooping in their sleep. For me personally, I put all of my children to bed in underwear on the first day and then after they fell asleep I would switch it to a diaper. Every time I have started potty training though, they were all waking up with a dry diaper every time so they were just night trained from the start. Of course you can just do things however you want, but putting the diaper on when they are aware of it might cause them to think they can just hold it in until bedtime and then let it all out in their diaper
@@megandelli1 thank you very much for the time to reply and your tips! I went to ikea today so I am all stocked up on potties and ready to start next weekend! Thanks again for making such a great video ❤️
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This was great do you have a video on night training ?
I don’t but maybe I should make one!
She really explains this in the video. Once children are conscious that they are in control of peeing then they don’t do it unconsciously or when asleep. They learn that they are in control. Plus keep them in underwear not pull ups so that they are aware of when they have a mess. Always sit them in the potty before bed so they are empty. Don’t have drink right before bed. Talk to them about how they can go potty any time they need to. Once potty training was gone through (one week) we literally had zero accidents at night. The body/mind learns. Zero bed wetting ever if you do it early enough.
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I am rewatching videos potty training my second. My first potty trained at 2 through threat of cartoons. 😂 My youngest seems ready a lot earlier. So cartoons don’t mean much in this case.
Hi my baby is almost 17m and we just started potty training, but we are struggling with teaching him to push his own pants down and sit on the potty by himself (like he doesnt get how to sit down facing forward) Did you start with bottom less or start taking diaper off but with pants? How do you teach the toddler to push the pants down, as well as sitting on to the potty? Or do you always help them pull the pants off and put them on the potty when you start potty training and they figure out how to sit there by themselves and push off their pants eventually? How long for them to acquire the skill to take their own pants off and sit on the potty by themselves? Thanks!!
Hi! I do not teach that until much later. One of my children has been potty trained for about a year now and she still doesn’t take off the pants herself. I do a method where there are no pants or underwear until pottying is learned. In my opinion adding all that makes it too complicated and they don’t want to do it. They will probably need help using the restroom for a long time, until probably 3.5 at least in my experience. Other people may do it differently though!
My children are in their thirties now but when I did potty training just let them sit on the potty at first with all their clothes on. Usually I did it before they got in the bath.
Back then they didn't have underwear with their favorite character so I drew a character on each of their underwear. But most of the time I let them run around without any underwear on at first because as soon as they felt the urge then they could run right to the potty. Otherwise, sometimes having underwear on confused them and they would pee in them.
Although, my son was very good about not doing anything with his underwear on.
He liked Ninja Turtles, so I drew a Ninja Turtle head on the front of his underwear.
At first, at night, would put a pull-up on, especially if we went somewhere.
May I ask you: what do you do with public bathroom? I can’t finish potty training my toddler simply because I do not know how he will sit on a dirty, large, high toilet bathroom! It grosses me out just to think about it. We’re going on an international trip in a month and I’m really nervous to potty train him before then for that reason.
On amazon you can find a foldable potty seat and they sell these huge covers that cover the entire toilet that are disposable. Usually the ones in the bathroom only cover the seat but these cover the seat and the entire base so no part of their body touches the toilet
I keep mine potty in my car when we are in public
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@@megandelli1 oh my goodness really that’s amazing. Can you link it please
@@iyabomarvel8506it’s in the description! Listed as “public toilet seat covers!” 😊
We have been trying with my 2.5 year old for while started slow with little potties and got the step one too(which he is afraid of on the toilet, off the toilet nope) 😅 And with my work schedule I can't do it in a fast way without taking out of work. So we are trying to look for new tips. Want him done with diapers by 3. That would be nice.
So I've been doing this for a week now. She knows what the potty is when I ask her where it is but for the life of me I can not catch her in the act and sit her on the potty. I know she will go soon so I ask her and sit her on the potty. She refuses to go until I take a few second away from her and then she goes. Every time. She also has not caught on to puddle of pee on floor goes in potty. Any tips?
Is she wearing undies/pants when you are doing this? Also how old is she? It sounds like she may not be quite ready yet and could benefit from a 6 week ish break, which is totally fine.
@@megandelli1 nope. We don't have the luxury of a washer and dryer at home nor enough undies to go through a whole day of accidents so she's got nothing on like what was suggested in the video. She is 14 months
@@ShapeShifterKibayo ok 14 months is suuuuuuuuuper little. Some of my opinions have changed, so please forgive me for some of what I said if it is different than what I am saying now, but I only had 2 kids in this video and now I have 4! I tried potty training my son at 15 months and it was completely not working and pretty much went as you said it was going with your daughter. I would wait until closer to 18 months when they have greater understanding of what is going on. My son is 18 months old now and I am going to be training him very shortly and he is much more willing to do what I am telling him to do and he was definitely just not ready at 15 months. Of course I don’t really believe in a child being “ready “ in the emotional sense, what I am meaning by that is developmentally ready. A 14 month old is likely not developmentally ready. Other countries do like gradually train them and just get rid of the diapers all together but in the western lifestyle we live in and the sanitation we expect it just isn’t feasible to do that really!
@@megandelli1 awesome. Thank you. I think I will try to keep doing it but staggered so that it slowly becomes the norm for her as she is able to comprehend more. Rinse and repeat right? Thank you for taking the time to help me to the best of your abilities. I really appreciate it! Sending lots of love and I pray you have success with potty training your next baby. 🥰
This gives me hope to start early, but I'm worried about how it will go when she has to go back to daycare in a month.
In my experience, after about 2 weeks it is pretty engrained in them on when they need to use the bathroom. If she is able to communicate clearly and the people who work the daycare are willing to listen to your child and take her when she says she needs to go it will probably work out well.
@@megandelli1 thank you! That may be the catch, I'm not sure how they take the little ones to the bathroom with staffing. It will be my first and a learning experience for me.
I feel a little stuck with my 17 Month old. Long story short, im training him and he sees when he goes on the floor so I sit him on the potty and congratulate him. He smiles when he goes in the potty but, he doesn’t bring himself to sit down on his own. I use the right words “pee pee” “poo poo” “potty” etc. He will sometimes even hide to pee. He will touch his pe*** alot before he goes, walk slightly backwards and tighten up.
In that situation I would just take a few days to solely devote to potty training and catch him every single time you see him peeing. It's ok if you miss a few but if you are super consistent he will probably get the hang of it and start going in the potty. If possible, try to get dad involved. Boys are much more likely to be willing to imitate their dads going to the bathroom than their moms. (I know it's hard. For me I don't know if it would be possible personally but I have heard and read that it helps people who are stuck where their sons are willingly refusing the potty.) Good luck to you!
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Thanks 😊
Did yours have tantrums during potty training? I had some time off and tried to start potty training as well. But don't see how it's easier before 18 months.
Let me start by saying we did easy catches (transitions) around 12 months, and looking back I wish I did EC before that. But as he got older, I found he started resisting more. Even giving them privacy didn't seem to work. Now he's 15.5 months, and like you I tried taking off the diaper and once he started to pee on the floor, I would guide him to the potty and say "pee goes in the potty" (btw, we have been saying pee and poo goes in the potty and watch us for months now). But every single time he started to pee on the floor he had huge tantrums (so bad I didn't even do it a full day), even when he wasn't sitting on his potty. I don't actually know the cause of his tantrums either. I never yelled at him or anything like that. I guess he may have been screaming because I was interrupting his play. The reason I don't understand why it would be was easier at 15-16 months as opposed to say 18-20 months is, I would think by then their language and clothing manipulation is better. My boy isn't talking yet even though he understands a good bit of language (it seems) and he can't push or pull his pants down (I have tried to teach but he's not interested). I will try first week of April; hopefully he will be taking some by then.
I would wait too if it is becoming a problem. You definitely don’t want to force it because turning it into a bad experience will make it nearly impossible. My kids never really threw tantrums or refused to reason with me, I’m not sure why but I think it may be that they are all girls and girls just don’t tend to have as much anger as boys can have at times. I hope it goes well for you! I am currently potty training my third and I am hoping it goes as smoothly as it did when I did my second. But, that being said every kid is different and some kids just aren’t willing or ready and that is ok!
I agree it’s an intense watching haha! Ok my baby boy is 18 months now i will start this on Sunday! 6/2 or before let’s see how it goes! 😅 and thanks for the realness you gotta accept poop and pee 😭
It’s a huge accomplishment! Even adults have accidents lol
Hey great video. I'm starting EC with my twins but they are not walking yet 11 months. Do you recommend starting the potty training hard when they can walk? So as not to have then crawling through pee etc. Thanks
When I would recommend it more depends on their ability to communicate rather than their ability to walk. I personally have never tried EC. So I wait for basic ability to say single words with a meaning (not just repetition). Hopefully that makes sense!
When do I start potty training?
When they can communicate and you have helped them understand that only babies wear diapers / nappies. Wearing fabric nappies/diapers makes it much much easier. Talk about it loads for weeks before starting so that they understand. Every baby can be potty trained by 2 so long as they are walking already (ie not disabled). If you do it once the baby is 2 years old then they go through an oppositional phase and do not want to do what you say … so you will be waiting until they have gone through that which might be over a year! So definitely start at about 16-18 months. Maybe 20-22months for a boy.
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12-18 months is perfect. They can tell you. Use sign language etc. Below this age is elimination communication - you are in control not them. Above 18 months is disgusting and unheard of in Eastern countries.
The noise in the background doesn't let me concentrate 😢
Sorry! You’re right it is distracting. I definitely want to redo this video one day because I have potty trained more children now and I was pregnant in this video and the heavy breathing drives me insane 🥲
I'm sorry but I am against potty training