Healing The Ruptures In Your Relationship - Sarah Baldwin | Mark Groves
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- #324: How to Somatically Rewire Your Past to Create Secure Attachment with Sarah Baldwin
Today I welcome back Sarah Baldwin for the third time - Sarah’s last two podcasts have the most downloads out of any of my episodes! Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and expert in the field of trauma resolution. She’s a member of the world-renowned Polyvagal Theory training team and has trained clinicians around the world in nervous system interventions.
In this episode, Sarah explains how we can use our nervous systems to rewire our past experiences to create secure attachment, deepen intimacy, and ultimately have better relationships. She brings light to the core needs resulting from our childhood experiences that drive our adult behaviors, and how understanding the connection can help us identify the root causes of ruptures in our relationships. She also guides us through somatic regulation techniques to foster more genuine connections, gently expand our comfort zones, and finally heal the traumas of our past so we can be the best version of ourselves today. Nervous system regulation is some of the most important work we can do, so dive right in to learn more!
- Sarah’s Instagram @sarahbcoaching: / sarahbcoaching
-Sarah’s Website: sarahbaldwincoaching.com
-Sarah’s Amazing Course - You Make Sense: programs.sarahbaldwincoaching...
Chapters:
0:00:00 Intro
0:08:34 The Importance of Feeling Safe in Our Nervous System
0:13:02 Unconscious attraction resulting from childhood experiences
0:14:00 Disconfirming Experiences
0:18:42 Internal Co-regulation: Changing Autonomic Tones for Self-Healing
0:21:41 How to help others regulate without becoming dysregulated
0:27:33 Meeting our own needs and creating internal secure attachment
0:31:01 Nervous System Responses in Relational Dynamics
0:38:35 Avoidant attachment and the human need for connection
0:42:12 The struggle of avoidance and the desire for connection
0:45:18 Building capacity for good things in life and overcoming overwhelm
0:48:25 Shifting from posturing to desiring genuine connection
0:52:08 Taking tolerable steps towards connection and expanding comfort zone
0:56:08 The Power of Relationships in Motivating Change
1:00:47 The Nervous System and the Impact of Media and Propaganda
1:05:10 The Impact of Nervous System Healing on Relationships
1:08:37 Nervous System Regulation in Every System for a Better World
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I love this!! I love all that Sarah shares and I love that she continues to share the nuances of this work. One thought I had was that in naming that as we become adults it is our responsibility to find healing and do the work so our childhood trauma doesn't present in adulthood... is that many people are living in survival... they don't have the time or energy outside of work to do this kind of work... our culture doesn't support it... there is a lot of grief in that
Agreed. Our culture doesn't prioritize nervous system health... and ultimately, the news is not trauma informed.
This was so eye opening . The challenging thing for me, recently, was opening up my heart and having those fulfilling , expansive conversations - for both- and the other backed out and went dark. Disappeared . I know he is doing the best he can at this point in time, but it’s taking a bit for me to know it’s a good thing for me and to not now shut down when the chance with another arises. Life .... whew!
And to recognize when another can't hold depth, it's not a failure of our depth, but a failure of their capacity.
Love love love this! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you so much! Listening for third time already!
The foundation of life, is never looked into...and then all are lives, are spent on controlling, hacking and fixing the system...both internally and eternally.
This information is SO IMPORTANT AND HELPFUL !!! So many more people should hear this!!
This episode was amazing. The part that resonated with me most was the reaching out segment, the child raising their hands made me cry because I'm experiencing this feeling as an adult and hearing this gave me a sense of calm. Thank you.❤️
I witness you in what you're navigating. Sending you love. ❤
Thank you for this!! I remember the first episode which I shared with my partner. Four months later I took one of Sarah’s two month courses which have radically changed my life!! Love this so much!!
Amazing to hear!! Sarah is amazing!
Listening again it was so powerful on every level ❤
There are So many vids on this. So hard & so awesome so hard😂 and we keep going 🙂
This was amazing! So articulate. Thanks so much
Yes an interview on parts would be amazing 😊
First of all, this is a fantastic talk. Thank you both so much for bringing this discussion to us. We all need as much information on how we operate on a deep level so we can work towards a more integrated and optimal society.
2nd, Mark, I didn't feel as if you were annoying or talking too much on your podcast. It felt like you were processing info in real time, during a real discussion and I felt like that made it more genuine and digestible.
Again, thanks to you both!
This is an incredible episode thank you so very much. .
Let me know which part resonated most!
Sarah is the best! Thank you so much for interviewing her! Would love to hear more❤😍 episodes with her!
Incredible!
So good This 😊
This is so powerful! Thank you to you both. I will be listening a few times & sharing ❤
What was your favourite part?
Regulators Mount Up
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When we are triggered and are in a child like state, how do we get back into our adult self fast enough to soothe and rewire the child?
I know this is the Mark Groves Podcast, but it was too much Mark Groves in this one 😂 Like bro let this woman finish her sentence. Still found it really useful though!
Appreciate the feedback :) I get excited when she shares! I will be more mindful.
Gregg Braden true facts about global warming and how to find answers. 🇺🇲
I love this episode but please stop talking over her so much. Even if its just 1 or 2 words it’s really annoying.
Thanks for the feedback!
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