Are Koreans or any other people group supposed to like you when moving to their country? Who is responsible for how you react to people not liking you?
I am Korean living in Korea but went to school in the states back then. Totally agree with your perspective. Wherever is basically same. People are people. There are good people , kind people, assholes and dumbs wherever you go. There's a funny phrase in Korean especially commonly used during military service in Korea, "law of conservation of byungshin(f***ers)". That means there's at least one f***er wherever you are hahaha. And I wanted to tell you that most Koreans actually do have a thought that there should not be too many foreigners living in Korea. It does not mean that they hate foreigners or other races but most Koreans pursue 'mono-ethnicity'. The idea is probably from our culture and history(maybe specifically in politics). Can't say the idea is bad but there are both good things and bad things from it for sure.
What a wealth of information! I liked the part about there always being a f@@@@ wherever you go lol. I think this is a good video topic about Koreans wanting to maintain mono-ethnicity. How did you find Korea when you returned after studying abroad? Thanks so much for this comment!!
@francoismarc3 No. No. These days Koreans are changing a lot. You can see RUclips 👀 But old people want mono-ethnicity every country you can see them. Old people are so conservative 🙄 😒 😑 🤣
just treat foreigners who like korea or who work and help the country well. I think korea treats foreigners well, obviously it's not perfect, but koreans have always treated me well when I traveled. isolated cases do not represent the totality.
Ah, this video is so positive! You're absolutely right it’s all about how we choose to react and what we focus on. You can't control other people's perceptions, but you can control your own mindset and actions. Different cultures bring different challenges, but we need to respect that. Always look on the positive side. Not everyone needs to like you. What they believe to be right isn’t necessarily wrong it’s just their perspective.
My friend! Thank you for adding value to the topic! Yes, I have found that having a positive mindset brings, at least for me, more opportunities and more positive and good people into my sphere of influence as opposed to being negative all the time. People also have the right to be negative and it's not always about ME. People have things going on in their lives that I don't know about. If their actions don't cause me harm and don't prevent me from eating, having a roof over my head, and clothes on my back, so be it. Thanks for dropping by as always:)
But you can bring your problems to America? We accept you and black people who have been in our country for longer than you accept you. But you don't accept them in your country?
사람 사는 곳은 다 똑같은 것 같아요. 한국사람들도 한국에 온 외국인이 한국을 좋아하는지, 한국인을 좋아하는지, 나에게 친절한지가 중요하고 또 바로 느껴집니다. 그리고 한국을 좋아하는 사람, 우호적인 사람들에게 결국 친절하게 대할 수 밖에 없는 것 같아요. 그 반대의 경우는 다를 수 있고요. 사람은 자신을 좋아하는 사람을 좋아합니다. 제 생각엔 Francois (or Marc)씨는 굉장히 마음이 열려있고, 긍정적인 마인드셋을 가지고 계신 것이 너무 보여서, 한국인들 입장에서는 정이 가고 잘해주고 싶을 것 같아요. 어쩌면 인종차별이 아니라 태도차별 아닐까 합니다. 그건 세계 어느 나라를 가도 같을듯 해요.
great video and topic.. I think the issue a'lot of people are guilty of is they romanticize these other countries and they do not understand there is good and bad in EVERY country. Another thing is I feel people have an arrogance about themselves like deep down they envisioned they would be "popular" or have lot of "attention" because natives are so in awe that there's a foreigner there. I think if you plan to live in a new country you have to have thick skin and you should first learn to love yourself and allow natural relationships to arise.
Thank you for you valued insight. I've been hearing a lot these days about the arrogance of Americans when traveling abroad. Do you know where this arrogance comes from? And right, there is good and bad in every country...we romanticize other countries to our own detriment, I think. It seems like you have a wealth of experience living abroad. Are you currently in Korea or an expat outside of your country?
Korean coffee culture looks super amazing. I always wonder how is it affordable for so many people to open coffee shops? how can they all survive? I like your attitude. YOu seem so above all the cliche about Korea and found your happiness by observing and spending time to understand the culture, people, environment so instead of fighting it, you seemed to properly absorb it and took control of your own happiness. Kudos to you. Very nice and smart attitude.
The coffee culture here is on another level hahah. I'm trying my best to control what I can control and not to worry about what I can't. I'll just continue to mind my own business and thrive wherever I can:) Thanks for the comment and the support!!:)
What a great question "is it Korea's... Responsibility to be nice to you"? Is it the world's responsibility to like anyone? I feel you would be had a positive experience if you stayed in France or went to Spain or anywhere in the world because of who YOU are. You're just a whole person not requiring anything (apart from a job) from anyone to validate your worth. I really feel the world mirrors your attitude and what you project is what you get. You have such a positive attitude Francois and that's why not just Koreans, but the whole world shines back on you. I know those negative comments, especially those threats, affected you but you don't focus on that. It's troubling no doubt but you pushed through it and found it created even more strength and resiliency. It does make me so sad when I come across people of color who have negative experiences and almost no positive ones but I also have to think they must be attracting that negativity or they are hyper focusing on it because honestly, no where on earth could be THAT bad. I'm glad you are addressing this because it does need to be discussed. I've wondered why these people don't just leave. They're not being held against their will. Instead they produce a year's worth of content condemning an entire nation and culture. God gives us what we need, not we want. You go Francois.
Thank you so much for the wonderful comment and compliment. While each person is different, I do feel as if there are vastly more positives to living in Korea and abroad than negatives. I learned at a very young age that job contracts do not include a clause where the employer should like you. I'm here to do a job and receive a salary. People can have problems at work, but I think this a global human issue and not a Korea one. No need to make videos lambasting Korea for an isolated incident. Thank you always for your support:)
Foreigners do not expect another country that you visit/work to bend over to accommodate your lifestyle that you have in your country. Every country has it's own sets of lifestyle imbeded into it's people and country as a whole. Do not even go there if that country does not live up to your standards. Peace.
The world needs more people like you! with that beautiful way of thinking and a kind and nourishing perspective. I believe we as humans are selfish and tend to think everything revolves about us at some point, that's why I think some people might feel like that. Lately with the hallyu wave Korea and Koreans have been too romanticized, they are people too, like you say, good, bad, nice, rude, empathetic or not, just regular ordinary people . Thanks for sharing! great reflections and thoughts!
Hey, so many wonderful words and great insight into how you feel about this topic! I appreciate you taking time to watch and comment:) Again, thanks so much!
Very handsome and very wise. I remember when I was stationed in Germany there were guys who said the hated Germany but never went off the base except for a nearby lowlife bar.. They did not want experiences that would challenge their ideas.
I understand what you mean. There are foreigners here who have never left Seoul or any of the big metropolitan cities. Korea is more than Seoul and it could be that city people are vastly different from people in the countryside (which I think is true). Thank you for this aside:)
I think people can be prone to putting more weight on their experiences abroad than they do on their experiences in their home country. I'm sure there's a cognitive bias at play there. I treat my negative experiences in Korea the same way I treated them in America: I assign the blame to myself or the parties involved as appropriate and then get on with things. I'm not going to view them as indictments of the country or its people. On a side note, Ben's Cookies are good, but they taste even better in the UK!
I like how you handle your issues at home and when abroad:) Good point about there being a cognitive bias there somewhere. This whole comment is gold. It was my first time to eat Ben's Cookies. I thought they were only here in Korea hahaha.
a korean here. korea will constantly try not to make mistakes that we cannot take it back. one of those are ethnic homogeneity. once we accept an excessive ratio of immigrants, it would be impossible to recover korean homogeneity unless we expel them. you guys might have serious discussions about the pros and cons of homogeneity, but most koreans put a high value on the korean homogeneity. you guys are struggling for local peace in terms of differences from race, ethnicity, discrimination, language or something in your countries. but koreans dont have and dont need to do the kind of struggling since all koreans are one. if koreans should fight for their local peace, foreigners could be the adversaries. i believe koreans are mostly kind to abroad tourists, but on the other hand koreans would not be kind to immigrants. as for you foreigners, making effort to be assimilated into korea and to show you guys are not harm to korean homogeneity is the only way you can be here without any issues. pls consider my english is bad and i am bad at speaking english gently. it could be readable in grammar i think.
@@natashahyung5585 from what i know, you americans use the word 'foreigner' carefully, dont you? because it causes tention up just by bring up the word. 외국인(foreigner) in korean language has totally different feeling from the word 'foreigner' in english. are koreans in america really regarded as foreigner? when the Virginia Tech massacre happened and korean government officially said sorry, did the US civils felt it normal? or felt awkward? the apology was genuine. moreover aside from it, logically, koreans in america are not a group in homogenenous country. because america is not homogenenous country. among developed countries on same level as korea, how many countries are as homogeneous as korea is? korea is really different from your common sense. you are not supposed to say that so simple.
@@natashahyung5585 what do you think about the apology from korean government when the virginia tech massacre. it was not a political or strategic apology. that time, koreans really felt sorry meanwhile americans felt awkward for the apology. dont they? it is not same.
@@natashahyung5585 there are no 'other countries' as homogeneous as korea among countries developed at the same level as korea. korea is really different from your common sense. you are not supposed to say it so simply.
I think Korea is great, I'm just trying to make some Korean friends on my phone while I'm studying foreign languages on hello talk, Hilokal, Maum social apps 😅, i only have like 2 Korean friends every day.
It can be difficult to make Korean friends, but eventually you will! Once Koreans become close to you, it's hard for the friendship to end, in my experience! And you already have! It's quality over quantity!:)
Sorry, this is off the topic, but I find myself distracted by how pretty your route is, especially with so many trees showing their fall colors! Could you please let me know what neighborhood you’re walking through? 고마워요. And, yes, there’s no reason anyone is obliged to like you. Instead, I regard it as great luck and a blessing when you “connect.” Anyway, you are a sweetheart!
Thanks so much for the lovely comment. I'm trying to find nice places to film content:) You always support me and the channel so well! Hope you are well these days!
@@francoismarc3 - yes, 덕분에, I’m doing well, though missing Korea and looking forward to my next visit. It’s great as always to see your beautiful smile! Take care, Francois!
I agree. Korean people laugh and cry watching Hollywood films and dramas. Americans nowadays do the same watching Korean movies and dramas. What people think and feel is same. I hear a lot of foreigners criticizing "Korean" beauty standard but where did that come from? What people think of as Korean beauty standard... skinny, tall, small head... that's Western runway model standard. Plastic surgery? Every plastic surgery procedure is invented in the West. About 300,000 American women have breast augmentation each year.
You make many valid points!! I like how you thinking! I didn't know that foreigners criticize Korean beauty standards? I wonder why this is? What are your thoughts?
@@francoismarc3 It's just from watching other RUclips videos criticizing Korea. That Koreans only think skinny girls are pretty and they can't fit in because they're not skinny blah blah blah... which is absolutely not true. Many beauty standards exist in Korea and skinny runway model type is just dominant because of Korean female genetics. But whenever there are glamorous idols such as 효성 or 유이, they are far more popular. Koreans think Scarlett Johansson is beautiful, Margot Robbie is beautiful, Zendaya is beautiful... just like most Americans do. Beauty standard is same everywhere but they just like to blame their unpopularity to external factor just like you mentioned.
@@francoismarc3 It's just watching other RUclipsrs criticizing Korea. That they can't fit in because they don't fit into Korean beauty standard which is absolutely not true. It is true most Korean celebrities and idols are skinny runway model type but that's because that's what Korean female body type is closest to. Whenever there are glamorous idols such as 효성 or 유이 they are far more popular. Koreans think Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful, Zendaya is beautiful, Margot Robbie is beautiful just like Americans do. Beauty standard is same everywhere but some foreigners just like to blame their unpopularity to external factor just as you mentioned.
handsome indeed! 😊you are more korean than i am. 😂 your attitude is everything. it is a cultural misunderstanding and people's different personalities. you have a GREAT attitude. 💯😀
Hahahah I'm happy you watched that part lol. I was laughing a lot watching that part while editing hahaha. Cultural understandings, not to mention people are tired, hungry, and all that...so many variables to consider besides "they don't like me..." thanks for supporting and laughing at my attempt at levity hahaha
I've never felt a difference in 'empathy,' between any Koreans and others, honestly, the most 'empathy' I saw was travelling in the developing Islamic world where they visibly seem to give more money to homeless people. But that's all a cause of different types of social structures and government systems, etc. In Korea, they have this thing called 'jeon' which is like a tight relation you have with others, but I think it may apply to individuals you know.
is it true that people work 16/18 hours there? i saw that the weekly limit is 52 hours, so how can ppl work 16 hours a day? is the law not respected? wouldn't the normal workload be 8 to 10 hours?
I looked through the comment section up and down. You were replying to every comment written by a Korean, lmao. Seems like you're really interested in Korea, but also bad at math. As you said, the weekly limit is 52 hours. If you work 9 hours per day for 6 days (including Saturday), that's 54 hours a week. Koreans work less than that.
@MoonAuth are you korean? i'm not that bad at math, but I don't know if in korea they work on Saturdays, or if the time on saturdays is the same as the other 5 days
@@pedro34543 You commented on my comment where I said I am Korean. I thought you read it and knew I am Korean. Yeah, it’s usually 8 hours. 8 hours times 6 days equals 48 hours in a week. Even if Koreans don’t work on Saturday, it would be close to 10 hours a day to reach 52 hours. That’s not even close to 16 hours a day. I don’t understand what you’re missing. It’s not that difficult to calculate.
@@MoonAuth you didn't understand. I said that because I saw a lot of videos talking about it on social media. seems like they're making up a lot of lies.
I agree, when there are humans human issues and harmonies be experienced. What was the name, there is a phenomenon in the brain that what you seek you can find examples. If kindness is spotted it’s easy to account all of that. Then if you seek disharmony then the brain can quickly point those out. So wherever possible keep note of the kindness. It’s hard to choose always the positive and can be tiring. Enjoy your cookie. 🍪
Mdr, merci beaucoup! Ca fait 20 ams depuis vous êtes en France? Wow, est-ce-que que ça roule là-bas? Et oui, vous avez raison. Pour les étrangers partout qui, il faut pas être offensé par tout qui se passes pendant qu'on habite à l'étranger. Gracias por the comment!!!:):)
Go to New York City as foreigner (preferably non white for best experience) and come to Korea. You will instantly get the answer. By the way, if everyone was like Francois, I would welcome him with all my heart, I would buy him lunch, dinner, and drinks if he drinks.
I was following along with your thoughts until you said that Koreans aren't less welcoming to foreigners because of their skin color than other places. There are actual person-on-the-street videos where young Koreans in Seoul openly admit that their culture is highly discriminatory because of skin color. The young people even say they don't like the situation and hope it will change one day. But then these same young people admit they don't seek out foreigners for friendships so the cycle continues. Your experience isn't typical of 99% of videos on this subject. You slipped through the filter. Be grateful for the acceptance by Korean people and leave comments about the experiences of others alone. TY. PS. The severity of this skin color problem seems unique to Korea. Videos done by darker skinned individuals living in Japan, China, and Thailand are much less likely to mention a skin color barrier when talking about their positive and negative experiences living and working in these countries. Please check out videos from these other places. Again, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
So many of these channels are making a living by just complaining. They over exaggerate everything because they know it’s brings in the views. But even with all the negative stuff about Korea I feel like the good outweighs the bad. I suppose it comes with the territory when a country is popular.
The good definitely outweighs the bad here. As foreigners we have so many privileges in this country. Yes, there may be discrimination against skin color sometimes, but as most of us are English teachers, it's very easy to find another job quickly that won't discriminate against us. At least for me, finding a job quickly in the US would be so difficult, and then there is the discrimination issue. The positives in Korea are top.
They're extremely racist especially towards Southeast Asian or someone with darker skin tone. But generally they don't talk to stranger so in real life so you will not get harassment often.
@pedro34543 I literally experience it myself often. I'm from Philippines working in SK for 14 years as a dentist. They're more cruel towards Indian. If you have American accent you will not get much harassment, maybe just some kids shouting n word at night then run away.
what are we talking here? are koreans cold or do we/they hate foreigners? firstly i'm not sure i can be considered korean? it is chilly but i prefer cold over heat and humidity any day. i look the part. after all, both my parents are korean. i can only say that within my family, we do not hate foreigners. ok. my dad hated a white gf but that's another thing. noonchi? it's like when your dog gives you the old side eye lol. it means people are judging you...
Oh, did your dad hate you gf because she wasn't Korean? I'm sorry:( Noonchi means when the dog is giving you a side eye hahahah Thanks for the laugh lol
I lived in Germany for five years and the most awkward thing I found was that I had to smile when I made eye contact with a stranger on the street. In Korea, on the contrary, you have to turn your head away when you make eye contact with a stranger, so it took me a while to adjust, but eventually I realized that different cultures have different ways of showing empathy and respect :)
I didn't even know looking the opposite way after eye contact was a sign of respect in Korea...huh, I learned something new:) Exactly right. Each culture has their own way of doing things. As visitors, we have to find where we fit in. Thanks for this comment!
@@francoismarc3 Of course, just because I'm Korean doesn't mean I know all the ins and outs of Korean culture, so this is just my opinion, and of course it depends on the situation, but in general, if you make eye contact with a stranger on the street and you smile, it could be misinterpreted as a sneer. Avoiding eye contact in this situation is thought to mean that I am not overly intrusive in your business. At least, that's been my experience. For a while after I moved back to Korea from Germany, people looked at me strangely because of my habit of smiling to strangers🤣
I was here for a good while in 1997 during the IMF "ordeal" (for the lack of a better word), and what jumped out at me at that time that no longer seems to exist after I returned later is humility. Took some getting used to, because I felt a kindred spirit in those early days but no longer do to that extent. I would be surprised if your younger audience members could understand, having not been here.
Oh wow, OG! Why did you leave? Someone said that time was good for the exchange rate with the USD. Do you think humility among foreigners or Koreans has diminished?
@@francoismarc3 As the saying goes, I didn't know what I had until it was gone. If I could do it again I would have at least stayed a few more years to give it a chance. The problem for many foreigners is that getting paid was quite difficult in those days. It wasn't my reason for leaving, but many did leave during those days because of not receiving a paycheck.
You’re not a colored immigrant though. You can pass for a white woman so congratulations on not experiencing any racism. Just because you didn’t experience anything it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. It’s only about to get worse after inauguration next week.
Are Koreans or any other people group supposed to like you when moving to their country? Who is responsible for how you react to people not liking you?
bring your own sunshine that would help you
@jungaeryum1913 love it:)
Francois, it's your positive attotude you give to people. If you carry negative attitude, they will not like you.
I am Korean living in Korea but went to school in the states back then. Totally agree with your perspective. Wherever is basically same. People are people. There are good people , kind people, assholes and dumbs wherever you go. There's a funny phrase in Korean especially commonly used during military service in Korea, "law of conservation of byungshin(f***ers)". That means there's at least one f***er wherever you are hahaha.
And I wanted to tell you that most Koreans actually do have a thought that there should not be too many foreigners living in Korea. It does not mean that they hate foreigners or other races but most Koreans pursue 'mono-ethnicity'. The idea is probably from our culture and history(maybe specifically in politics). Can't say the idea is bad but there are both good things and bad things from it for sure.
What a wealth of information! I liked the part about there always being a f@@@@ wherever you go lol. I think this is a good video topic about Koreans wanting to maintain mono-ethnicity. How did you find Korea when you returned after studying abroad? Thanks so much for this comment!!
@francoismarc3 No. No. These days Koreans are changing a lot. You can see RUclips 👀
But old people want mono-ethnicity every country you can see them. Old people are so conservative 🙄 😒 😑 🤣
just treat foreigners who like korea or who work and help the country well. I think korea treats foreigners well, obviously it's not perfect, but koreans have always treated me well when I traveled. isolated cases do not represent the totality.
Ah, this video is so positive! You're absolutely right it’s all about how we choose to react and what we focus on. You can't control other people's perceptions, but you can control your own mindset and actions. Different cultures bring different challenges, but we need to respect that.
Always look on the positive side. Not everyone needs to like you. What they believe to be right isn’t necessarily wrong it’s just their perspective.
My friend! Thank you for adding value to the topic! Yes, I have found that having a positive mindset brings, at least for me, more opportunities and more positive and good people into my sphere of influence as opposed to being negative all the time. People also have the right to be negative and it's not always about ME. People have things going on in their lives that I don't know about. If their actions don't cause me harm and don't prevent me from eating, having a roof over my head, and clothes on my back, so be it. Thanks for dropping by as always:)
Let me put it this way, we don't want our country to have the problems that plague the EU, namely in France, Germany, and the UK.
Thanks for sharing!
But you can bring your problems to America? We accept you and black people who have been in our country for longer than you accept you. But you don't accept them in your country?
yes, but those who cause these problems in europe are immigrants supported by public money, predominantly men and muslims or hindus.
let's just get the christians out of it.
늘 긍정적이고 목소리 톤도 좋아서 공부하기 지치고 힘들때마다 듣기 너무 좋아요
Thank you so much for the wonderful comment:) I'll try to speak more clearly in every video:)
사람 사는 곳은 다 똑같은 것 같아요. 한국사람들도 한국에 온 외국인이 한국을 좋아하는지, 한국인을 좋아하는지, 나에게 친절한지가 중요하고 또 바로 느껴집니다. 그리고 한국을 좋아하는 사람, 우호적인 사람들에게 결국 친절하게 대할 수 밖에 없는 것 같아요. 그 반대의 경우는 다를 수 있고요. 사람은 자신을 좋아하는 사람을 좋아합니다. 제 생각엔 Francois (or Marc)씨는 굉장히 마음이 열려있고, 긍정적인 마인드셋을 가지고 계신 것이 너무 보여서, 한국인들 입장에서는 정이 가고 잘해주고 싶을 것 같아요. 어쩌면 인종차별이 아니라 태도차별 아닐까 합니다. 그건 세계 어느 나라를 가도 같을듯 해요.
참 길게도 쓰셨네요. ㅎㅎ^^ 이 채널은 처음인데, 다른 영상은 못 봤지만, 그냥 산책하면서 누가 옆에서 나한테 이야기 하는거 같아, 산책 겸 명상 역활을 하네요. 좋은 시간 보내세요 ^_^
in ireland, people from my country are being attacked and having their legs broken. this wouldn't happen in korea.
"Attitudinal discrimination". Interesting concept! 정말 감사합니다!!!:)
great video and topic.. I think the issue a'lot of people are guilty of is they romanticize these other countries and they do not understand there is good and bad in EVERY country. Another thing is I feel people have an arrogance about themselves like deep down they envisioned they would be "popular" or have lot of "attention" because natives are so in awe that there's a foreigner there. I think if you plan to live in a new country you have to have thick skin and you should first learn to love yourself and allow natural relationships to arise.
Thank you for you valued insight. I've been hearing a lot these days about the arrogance of Americans when traveling abroad. Do you know where this arrogance comes from? And right, there is good and bad in every country...we romanticize other countries to our own detriment, I think. It seems like you have a wealth of experience living abroad. Are you currently in Korea or an expat outside of your country?
Thanks for sharing with great experience, waiting for new ones ❤
Thanks so much watching faithfully!:) New ones are on the way!♡♡♡
You're such an optimistic person ❤
Hey, thanks so much! Life is too short for me to think negatively. Appreciate you!
Korean coffee culture looks super amazing. I always wonder how is it affordable for so many people to open coffee shops? how can they all survive? I like your attitude. YOu seem so above all the cliche about Korea and found your happiness by observing and spending time to understand the culture, people, environment so instead of fighting it, you seemed to properly absorb it and took control of your own happiness. Kudos to you. Very nice and smart attitude.
The coffee culture here is on another level hahah. I'm trying my best to control what I can control and not to worry about what I can't. I'll just continue to mind my own business and thrive wherever I can:) Thanks for the comment and the support!!:)
What a great question "is it Korea's... Responsibility to be nice to you"? Is it the world's responsibility to like anyone? I feel you would be had a positive experience if you stayed in France or went to Spain or anywhere in the world because of who YOU are. You're just a whole person not requiring anything (apart from a job) from anyone to validate your worth. I really feel the world mirrors your attitude and what you project is what you get. You have such a positive attitude Francois and that's why not
just Koreans, but the whole world shines back on you. I know those negative comments, especially those threats, affected you but you don't focus on that. It's troubling no doubt but you pushed through it and found it created even more strength and resiliency. It does make me so sad when I come across people of color who have negative experiences and almost no positive ones but I also have to think they must be attracting that negativity or they are hyper focusing on it because honestly, no where on earth could be THAT bad. I'm glad you are addressing this because it does need to be discussed. I've wondered why these people don't just leave. They're not being held against their will. Instead they produce a year's worth of content condemning an entire nation and culture.
God gives us what we need, not we want. You go Francois.
Thank you so much for the wonderful comment and compliment. While each person is different, I do feel as if there are vastly more positives to living in Korea and abroad than negatives. I learned at a very young age that job contracts do not include a clause where the employer should like you. I'm here to do a job and receive a salary. People can have problems at work, but I think this a global human issue and not a Korea one. No need to make videos lambasting Korea for an isolated incident. Thank you always for your support:)
Foreigners do not expect another country that you visit/work to bend over to accommodate your lifestyle that you have in your country. Every country has it's own sets of lifestyle imbeded into it's people and country as a whole. Do not even go there if that country does not live up to your standards. Peace.
No need for me to add to this. Thanks so much.
The world needs more people like you! with that beautiful way of thinking and a kind and nourishing perspective. I believe we as humans are selfish and tend to think everything revolves about us at some point, that's why I think some people might feel like that. Lately with the hallyu wave Korea and Koreans have been too romanticized, they are people too, like you say, good, bad, nice, rude, empathetic or not, just regular ordinary people . Thanks for sharing! great reflections and thoughts!
Hey, so many wonderful words and great insight into how you feel about this topic! I appreciate you taking time to watch and comment:) Again, thanks so much!
Very handsome and very wise. I remember when I was stationed in Germany there were guys who said the hated Germany but never went off the base except for a nearby lowlife bar.. They did not want experiences that would challenge their ideas.
I understand what you mean. There are foreigners here who have never left Seoul or any of the big metropolitan cities. Korea is more than Seoul and it could be that city people are vastly different from people in the countryside (which I think is true). Thank you for this aside:)
I think people can be prone to putting more weight on their experiences abroad than they do on their experiences in their home country. I'm sure there's a cognitive bias at play there. I treat my negative experiences in Korea the same way I treated them in America: I assign the blame to myself or the parties involved as appropriate and then get on with things. I'm not going to view them as indictments of the country or its people. On a side note, Ben's Cookies are good, but they taste even better in the UK!
I like how you handle your issues at home and when abroad:) Good point about there being a cognitive bias there somewhere. This whole comment is gold. It was my first time to eat Ben's Cookies. I thought they were only here in Korea hahaha.
Mature and balanced take on life.... ❤
Thank you so much for watching and your support:)
a korean here. korea will constantly try not to make mistakes that we cannot take it back. one of those are ethnic homogeneity. once we accept an excessive ratio of immigrants, it would be impossible to recover korean homogeneity unless we expel them. you guys might have serious discussions about the pros and cons of homogeneity, but most koreans put a high value on the korean homogeneity. you guys are struggling for local peace in terms of differences from race, ethnicity, discrimination, language or something in your countries. but koreans dont have and dont need to do the kind of struggling since all koreans are one. if koreans should fight for their local peace, foreigners could be the adversaries. i believe koreans are mostly kind to abroad tourists, but on the other hand koreans would not be kind to immigrants. as for you foreigners, making effort to be assimilated into korea and to show you guys are not harm to korean homogeneity is the only way you can be here without any issues. pls consider my english is bad and i am bad at speaking english gently. it could be readable in grammar i think.
Same to you Koreans in America and other countries.
@@natashahyung5585 nah no plans of moving to yours so really doesn't matter
@@natashahyung5585 from what i know, you americans use the word 'foreigner' carefully, dont you? because it causes tention up just by bring up the word. 외국인(foreigner) in korean language has totally different feeling from the word 'foreigner' in english. are koreans in america really regarded as foreigner? when the Virginia Tech massacre happened and korean government officially said sorry, did the US civils felt it normal? or felt awkward? the apology was genuine.
moreover aside from it, logically, koreans in america are not a group in homogenenous country. because america is not homogenenous country. among developed countries on same level as korea, how many countries are as homogeneous as korea is? korea is really different from your common sense. you are not supposed to say that so simple.
@@natashahyung5585 what do you think about the apology from korean government when the virginia tech massacre. it was not a political or strategic apology. that time, koreans really felt sorry meanwhile americans felt awkward for the apology. dont they? it is not same.
@@natashahyung5585 there are no 'other countries' as homogeneous as korea among countries developed at the same level as korea. korea is really different from your common sense. you are not supposed to say it so simply.
I think Korea is great, I'm just trying to make some Korean friends on my phone while I'm studying foreign languages on hello talk, Hilokal, Maum social apps 😅, i only have like 2 Korean friends every day.
It can be difficult to make Korean friends, but eventually you will! Once Koreans become close to you, it's hard for the friendship to end, in my experience! And you already have! It's quality over quantity!:)
Sorry, this is off the topic, but I find myself distracted by how pretty your route is, especially with so many trees showing their fall colors! Could you please let me know what neighborhood you’re walking through? 고마워요.
And, yes, there’s no reason anyone is obliged to like you. Instead, I regard it as great luck and a blessing when you “connect.”
Anyway, you are a sweetheart!
Thanks so much for the lovely comment. I'm trying to find nice places to film content:) You always support me and the channel so well! Hope you are well these days!
@@francoismarc3 - yes, 덕분에, I’m doing well, though missing Korea and looking forward to my next visit. It’s great as always to see your beautiful smile! Take care, Francois!
목소리가 차분하시고, 다정한데 시끄럽지 않고, 듣기에 거북하지가 않아요. 끝까지 시청했어요.
저도 직장 다니면서 대화 않하는 동료들 많아요 😂😂😅
Hahahaha we don't need to talk to colleagues hahaha. They are just workers like us. Thank you so much for the kind and wonderful words:)
I agree. Korean people laugh and cry watching Hollywood films and dramas. Americans nowadays do the same watching Korean movies and dramas. What people think and feel is same. I hear a lot of foreigners criticizing "Korean" beauty standard but where did that come from? What people think of as Korean beauty standard... skinny, tall, small head... that's Western runway model standard. Plastic surgery? Every plastic surgery procedure is invented in the West. About 300,000 American women have breast augmentation each year.
You make many valid points!! I like how you thinking! I didn't know that foreigners criticize Korean beauty standards? I wonder why this is? What are your thoughts?
@@francoismarc3 It's just from watching other RUclips videos criticizing Korea. That Koreans only think skinny girls are pretty and they can't fit in because they're not skinny blah blah blah... which is absolutely not true. Many beauty standards exist in Korea and skinny runway model type is just dominant because of Korean female genetics. But whenever there are glamorous idols such as 효성 or 유이, they are far more popular.
Koreans think Scarlett Johansson is beautiful, Margot Robbie is beautiful, Zendaya is beautiful... just like most Americans do. Beauty standard is same everywhere but they just like to blame their unpopularity to external factor just like you mentioned.
@@francoismarc3 It's just watching other RUclipsrs criticizing Korea. That they can't fit in because they don't fit into Korean beauty standard which is absolutely not true. It is true most Korean celebrities and idols are skinny runway model type but that's because that's what Korean female body type is closest to. Whenever there are glamorous idols such as 효성 or 유이 they are far more popular.
Koreans think Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful, Zendaya is beautiful, Margot Robbie is beautiful just like Americans do. Beauty standard is same everywhere but some foreigners just like to blame their unpopularity to external factor just as you mentioned.
@BrianHSC Thanks for the clarification:)
handsome indeed! 😊you are more korean than i am. 😂 your attitude is everything. it is a cultural misunderstanding and people's different personalities. you have a GREAT attitude. 💯😀
Hahahah I'm happy you watched that part lol. I was laughing a lot watching that part while editing hahaha. Cultural understandings, not to mention people are tired, hungry, and all that...so many variables to consider besides "they don't like me..." thanks for supporting and laughing at my attempt at levity hahaha
Would you say it's less stressful than the USA?
Hmmm, stressful in which ways?
I've never felt a difference in 'empathy,' between any Koreans and others, honestly, the most 'empathy' I saw was travelling in the developing Islamic world where they visibly seem to give more money to homeless people. But that's all a cause of different types of social structures and government systems, etc. In Korea, they have this thing called 'jeon' which is like a tight relation you have with others, but I think it may apply to individuals you know.
Woah, thanks for that tidbit of knowledge!!
is it true that people work 16/18 hours there? i saw that the weekly limit is 52 hours, so how can ppl work 16 hours a day? is the law not respected? wouldn't the normal workload be 8 to 10 hours?
I looked through the comment section up and down. You were replying to every comment written by a Korean, lmao. Seems like you're really interested in Korea, but also bad at math.
As you said, the weekly limit is 52 hours. If you work 9 hours per day for 6 days (including Saturday), that's 54 hours a week. Koreans work less than that.
@MoonAuth are you korean? i'm not that bad at math, but I don't know if in korea they work on Saturdays, or if the time on saturdays is the same as the other 5 days
@@MoonAuth so 8 hours?
@@pedro34543 You commented on my comment where I said I am Korean. I thought you read it and knew I am Korean.
Yeah, it’s usually 8 hours. 8 hours times 6 days equals 48 hours in a week. Even if Koreans don’t work on Saturday, it would be close to 10 hours a day to reach 52 hours. That’s not even close to 16 hours a day.
I don’t understand what you’re missing. It’s not that difficult to calculate.
@@MoonAuth you didn't understand. I said that because I saw a lot of videos talking about it on social media. seems like they're making up a lot of lies.
I agree, when there are humans human issues and harmonies be experienced. What was the name, there is a phenomenon in the brain that what you seek you can find examples. If kindness is spotted it’s easy to account all of that. Then if you seek disharmony then the brain can quickly point those out. So wherever possible keep note of the kindness. It’s hard to choose always the positive and can be tiring. Enjoy your cookie. 🍪
Wow....you said a lot in a little space! Thanks for sharing!!:)
Yes, you ARE handsome. Dominican living in France since 20 year ago. You should never take things personally as a foreigner.
Mdr, merci beaucoup! Ca fait 20 ams depuis vous êtes en France? Wow, est-ce-que que ça roule là-bas? Et oui, vous avez raison. Pour les étrangers partout qui, il faut pas être offensé par tout qui se passes pendant qu'on habite à l'étranger. Gracias por the comment!!!:):)
Go to New York City as foreigner (preferably non white for best experience) and come to Korea. You will instantly get the answer. By the way, if everyone was like Francois, I would welcome him with all my heart, I would buy him lunch, dinner, and drinks if he drinks.
i'm from brazil and i was well received in korea.
Hey, thanks so much for the kind words. I would appreciate any gesture of kindness from you:)
I was following along with your thoughts until you said that Koreans aren't less welcoming to foreigners because of their skin color than other places. There are actual person-on-the-street videos where young Koreans in Seoul openly admit that their culture is highly discriminatory because of skin color. The young people even say they don't like the situation and hope it will change one day. But then these same young people admit they don't seek out foreigners for friendships so the cycle continues. Your experience isn't typical of 99% of videos on this subject. You slipped through the filter. Be grateful for the acceptance by Korean people and leave comments about the experiences of others alone. TY.
PS. The severity of this skin color problem seems unique to Korea. Videos done by darker skinned individuals living in Japan, China, and Thailand are much less likely to mention a skin color barrier when talking about their positive and negative experiences living and working in these countries. Please check out videos from these other places. Again, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thank you!:)
in japan this doesn't exist? you must be joking.
So many of these channels are making a living by just complaining. They over exaggerate everything because they know it’s brings in the views. But even with all the negative stuff about Korea I feel like the good outweighs the bad. I suppose it comes with the territory when a country is popular.
The good definitely outweighs the bad here. As foreigners we have so many privileges in this country. Yes, there may be discrimination against skin color sometimes, but as most of us are English teachers, it's very easy to find another job quickly that won't discriminate against us. At least for me, finding a job quickly in the US would be so difficult, and then there is the discrimination issue. The positives in Korea are top.
you are so nice
Sometimes, to my own detriment, but thank you kindly!:)
They're extremely racist especially towards Southeast Asian or someone with darker skin tone. But generally they don't talk to stranger so in real life so you will not get harassment often.
generalization. isolated cases. I know several black people from my country who lived and visited there and never reported anything
@pedro34543 the culture in south Korea is to never report anything even if you're sexually abused it will just bring yourself problem.
@pedro34543 I literally experience it myself often. I'm from Philippines working in SK for 14 years as a dentist. They're more cruel towards Indian. If you have American accent you will not get much harassment, maybe just some kids shouting n word at night then run away.
You are so creative and exaggerated.
@j.k1371 nope. From experience. They called me "seamonkey"
what are we talking here? are koreans cold or do we/they hate foreigners? firstly i'm not sure i can be considered korean? it is chilly but i prefer cold over heat and humidity any day. i look the part. after all, both my parents are korean. i can only say that within my family, we do not hate foreigners. ok. my dad hated a white gf but that's another thing. noonchi? it's like when your dog gives you the old side eye lol. it means people are judging you...
Oh, did your dad hate you gf because she wasn't Korean? I'm sorry:( Noonchi means when the dog is giving you a side eye hahahah Thanks for the laugh lol
@@francoismarc3yes but he hated all my gf's so i don't think it was really racial
@jerrycho9869 lol I understand this hahaha
So you worked for a couple weeks at your 1st job and never got paid? Just quit and never fought for back pay?
I didn't think it was worth it. Better to cut my loses and move on.
I lived in Germany for five years and the most awkward thing I found was that I had to smile when I made eye contact with a stranger on the street. In Korea, on the contrary, you have to turn your head away when you make eye contact with a stranger, so it took me a while to adjust, but eventually I realized that different cultures have different ways of showing empathy and respect :)
I didn't even know looking the opposite way after eye contact was a sign of respect in Korea...huh, I learned something new:) Exactly right. Each culture has their own way of doing things. As visitors, we have to find where we fit in. Thanks for this comment!
😂? Smiling when making eye contact with Strangers on the streets? That is not German at all.
@@francoismarc3 Of course, just because I'm Korean doesn't mean I know all the ins and outs of Korean culture, so this is just my opinion, and of course it depends on the situation, but in general, if you make eye contact with a stranger on the street and you smile, it could be misinterpreted as a sneer. Avoiding eye contact in this situation is thought to mean that I am not overly intrusive in your business. At least, that's been my experience. For a while after I moved back to Korea from Germany, people looked at me strangely because of my habit of smiling to strangers🤣
As korean, i can't agree more. I don't like.have eye contacts on the street. 😅😂
German people don't smile at strangers. You got that wrong. @@finchbird1738
You just made me want to eat a chocolate chip cookie
Lol I'll eat another one today lol
To join the Squid Game is no matter Where are you from....
Deep!!!
Adapt or perish😊
Exactly! Hahaha
I was here for a good while in 1997 during the IMF "ordeal" (for the lack of a better word), and what jumped out at me at that time that no longer seems to exist after I returned later is humility. Took some getting used to, because I felt a kindred spirit in those early days but no longer do to that extent. I would be surprised if your younger audience members could understand, having not been here.
Oh wow, OG! Why did you leave? Someone said that time was good for the exchange rate with the USD. Do you think humility among foreigners or Koreans has diminished?
@@francoismarc3 As the saying goes, I didn't know what I had until it was gone. If I could do it again I would have at least stayed a few more years to give it a chance. The problem for many foreigners is that getting paid was quite difficult in those days. It wasn't my reason for leaving, but many did leave during those days because of not receiving a paycheck.
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Dog attacks hahaha
Korea sounds ideal ...whereas Americans tend to have negative prejudices against both foreigners and Native Americans, so that's a thing
Why do you think Americans have this prejudice and Natives and foreigners? Personally, I never understood why Americans don't like Narives:(
@francoismarc3 because we're a complex and petty animal who hates nuance and loves things that go boom!
You’re not a colored immigrant though. You can pass for a white woman so congratulations on not experiencing any racism. Just because you didn’t experience anything it doesn’t mean it’s not happening. It’s only about to get worse after inauguration next week.
(I think you already have Korean permanent residency) You are so~ close! Learn street korean--> take the korean citizenship test --> be a korean
I don't have it:( If I take it, I will lose my US citizenship:(
I would love to go korea🇰🇷 aswell
You would absolutely love Korea...Fantastic country and culture.
보면 볼 수록 매력이 넘치는 잘 생긴 청년!
우와! 정말 감사합니다:) Thank you for your wonderful comment:)