Having lived in Korea for 14 years, I've always wondered what it would be like for me to marry a Korean in Korea. What do you all think about international marriages? Do they work?
Hello Francois! I lived in Seoul from 2011 to 2014 while stationed in Yongsan. My wife (who’s Korean) and I met in 2011, started dating in 2012, and got married in 2014. We’re currently living in the US and are still happily married to this day. Every year, we make it a point to travel to both Japan and Korea for vacation. As for international marriages, I can say from personal experience that they absolutely can work! Like any marriage, it takes effort, communication, and mutual respect. Cultural differences can sometimes be challenging, but they’re also an opportunity to grow and learn from each other. For us, it’s been an enriching journey that has bridged our two cultures in such a meaningful way.
@ChrisFitTaylor hey there!!! Thank you so much for this comment! I can actually feel the love you have for your wife and marriage in this comment! I'm glad you found the ideal situation. It also seems like you two took the time to get to know each other first before taking the plunge:) I really appreciate you sharing with me!!:)
I met and married my wife in Korea in 1982-83 (married 1983). It has been 42 wonderful years. We live in US and we go back to Korea all the time; typically twice a year.
I grew up in a military family, and many GIs ended up marrying foreigners. We were often stationed abroad, so I thought of international relationships as a natural situation :)
Firstly, thanks so much for the gift...omg. You always go above and beyond in supporting me:(. Secondly, I think coming from your military environment, international marriages would seem normal. Do you think the GI's married foreign women because of convenience or real love. I always wonder about this aspect of international marriages. Thank you, again!!
@@francoismarc3 lol, the marriages vary just like in any situation. Some last till death producing happy and successful families, while in other cases it's obvious that someone got used (usually the GI :) )
@@francoismarc3 Depending on the culture and Country. I worked on base in Korea and I noticed wherever there is a military base there are tons of opportunities for women to find husbands. Especially the nerdy guys because they don’t get the girls. Also men are chased down because of stereotypes about the military making lots of money. I think in Korea ( it’s changing a little) people marry for status and to improve their lives first. Love comes later. However for Americans and Europeans love comes first. I’m speaking about the working class mainly. Some marriages work. Others….
Well all relationships have tension and fights on a regular basis, if they didn't there would be no room for growth. It's how we handle those tensions and fights and what we learn from them that define what kind of relationship is possible with that person. And through these periods of ups and downs, it's also very crucial to remember what attracted you to this person in the first place. And also talk about and envision a possible shared future together, just like she said. Love and Marriage is the commitment to work on your relationship through thick and thin. You do not love someone if u are not ready to commit that's simply the truth. If you think you love someone but do not want to commit to them, then it's just attraction and desire.
as a korean, i have never considered hiring a cleaner to come to home a practicable option. i am not saying it is wrong, it is just kinda unfamiliar for koreans. or possibly only for me, since i am not as wealthy as she is.
Hahahah, we shall see lol. I loved both interviews as well! It was great to have an inside look into their marriages or the reason they chose international marriages!
Hey Francois. International marriages are hard work. I'm a Brit and I've been married to a Korean for 12+ years. You always have to be conscious about language because maybe for one partner they are not communicating in their native language and the translation can get muddled up which could lead to a misunderstanding.
Great point. I watched a video this morning where the host said, "You can't really understand the person unless you speak to them in their native language." It's similar to what you are saying.
to be perfectly honest, 2 people's experience isn't really enough to touch on the subject. haven't done it in a while but i had so much pressure from my dad to go on blind dates (arranged marriage type) so i did. i don't know if they even do that anymore? i can tell you some stories lol. one was about dog meat and another was about smoking. there was another when the person asked if i was ever mistaken for the wrong gender... i really should have left the restaurant when i saw 'her' enter XD
This is true, but I just wanted to hear from two married folks :) Wow, arranged dating! I think that sounds kind of cool, but sounds like your experience wasn't ideal lol. Thanks for sharing hahah
Francois...whats so wild, I am a brotha with two best friends, both Black, who both married Korean women and had kids. One of them currently lives in Seoul and been married for 12 years and has 2 kids. Whats wild is, he has the same personality as you to the tee...you both may be brothers lol.
I really liked this how this video played you. You interviewed some mature grown adults with great perspectives. I love how the video wasn’t focused on misogynistic gender roles that a women’s sole worth in marriage is to cook, clean, and be a housewife. I love that in both marriages both partners worked, compromised, and put into the marriage what they are able to give. At least it appears that way. Tired of hearing stories about women solely being expected to bend over backwards and do all the housework, sacrificing, communicating, and emotional labor in order for the marriage to work. Nobody wants to do that anymore. I also wish you were given the answer on how the ceremony would work since you don’t have family to join the wedding rituals if you had a traditional wedding. I hope you find the answers. Maybe try asking a Korean parent or grandparent these questions. The older generation might know.
Hey, thanks so very much for watching! I also liked how in both marriages, both partners were actively involved in the relationship, not just one doing all the work. And that's a good idea concerning the question I asked. I'll try:)
I would imagine language first. It's possible a person will always communicate more accurately in their native language, so miscues like jokes and/expressions being misunderstood could happen. That could lead to arguments and other conflicts in the relationship. That was a great question and I'm sure there are more answers.
@@canadianbird1185 It can be true for some women, but I guess the same can be said for some men as well. Men and women, we need to learn to respect each other and our unique abilities:)
Yeah, you're over thinking! If you meet someone you hit it off with you take a leap of faith and go for it, you will work out any differences along the way as with any relationship
Way too complicated. Absolutely too much work. Marriage is already difficult. Add kids? Add a language barrier? Add cultural differences? Sorry - not worth it. Beautiful Korean women won't stay Beautiful forever. And if they have money? Well, that can all change in an instant if her company goes belly up. Life long headache and struggle. Is the juice worth the squeeze? Stay single everybody
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Having lived in Korea for 14 years, I've always wondered what it would be like for me to marry a Korean in Korea. What do you all think about international marriages? Do they work?
Hello Francois! I lived in Seoul from 2011 to 2014 while stationed in Yongsan. My wife (who’s Korean) and I met in 2011, started dating in 2012, and got married in 2014. We’re currently living in the US and are still happily married to this day. Every year, we make it a point to travel to both Japan and Korea for vacation.
As for international marriages, I can say from personal experience that they absolutely can work! Like any marriage, it takes effort, communication, and mutual respect. Cultural differences can sometimes be challenging, but they’re also an opportunity to grow and learn from each other. For us, it’s been an enriching journey that has bridged our two cultures in such a meaningful way.
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@ChrisFitTaylor hey there!!! Thank you so much for this comment! I can actually feel the love you have for your wife and marriage in this comment! I'm glad you found the ideal situation. It also seems like you two took the time to get to know each other first before taking the plunge:) I really appreciate you sharing with me!!:)
I met and married my wife in Korea in 1982-83 (married 1983). It has been 42 wonderful years. We live in US and we go back to Korea all the time; typically twice a year.
Wow, you have been married as long as I have been alive. Congratulations!:)
I grew up in a military family, and many GIs ended up marrying foreigners. We were often stationed abroad, so I thought of international relationships as a natural situation :)
Firstly, thanks so much for the gift...omg. You always go above and beyond in supporting me:(. Secondly, I think coming from your military environment, international marriages would seem normal. Do you think the GI's married foreign women because of convenience or real love. I always wonder about this aspect of international marriages. Thank you, again!!
@@francoismarc3 lol, the marriages vary just like in any situation. Some last till death producing happy and successful families, while in other cases it's obvious that someone got used (usually the GI :) )
Lol, fair enough hahahah
@@francoismarc3 Depending on the culture and Country. I worked on base in Korea and I noticed wherever there is a military base there are tons of opportunities for women to find husbands. Especially the nerdy guys because they don’t get the girls. Also men are chased down because of stereotypes about the military making lots of money. I think in Korea ( it’s changing a little) people marry for status and to improve their lives first. Love comes later. However for Americans and Europeans love comes first. I’m speaking about the working class mainly. Some marriages work. Others….
@deborahmoore9308 Great point:)
Well all relationships have tension and fights on a regular basis, if they didn't there would be no room for growth.
It's how we handle those tensions and fights and what we learn from them that define what kind of relationship is possible with that person.
And through these periods of ups and downs, it's also very crucial to remember what attracted you to this person in the first place.
And also talk about and envision a possible shared future together, just like she said.
Love and Marriage is the commitment to work on your relationship through thick and thin.
You do not love someone if u are not ready to commit that's simply the truth.
If you think you love someone but do not want to commit to them, then it's just attraction and desire.
Great point. Thank you:)
Great video! 👏👏👏
Hey, I appreciate it so much!!!
as a korean, i have never considered hiring a cleaner to come to home a practicable option. i am not saying it is wrong, it is just kinda unfamiliar for koreans. or possibly only for me, since i am not as wealthy as she is.
Having a cleaner would free up a lot of time, but right, the trade-off is it is a little expensive:(
Very complex lol
But very sound points! Marrying someone from another culture involves a lot of adjustments and understanding indeed
I think so! Marriage in general looks difficult, so I can imagine international marriages...sounds complex indeed!!
Interesting subject . Enjoy the video
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Great video, I love both interviews... Soooooo when you getting married!?!
Kidding (mostly)
Hahahah, we shall see lol. I loved both interviews as well! It was great to have an inside look into their marriages or the reason they chose international marriages!
Hey Francois. International marriages are hard work. I'm a Brit and I've been married to a Korean for 12+ years. You always have to be conscious about language because maybe for one partner they are not communicating in their native language and the translation can get muddled up which could lead to a misunderstanding.
Great point. I watched a video this morning where the host said, "You can't really understand the person unless you speak to them in their native language." It's similar to what you are saying.
Make a life wherever you are and be happy with whomever connects well with you... good luck🤞
Great advice. Thank you for this:)
11:40 - LOVE the background this was filmed in. Also Femi - do we really have to film this outside, in KR cold, in JAN?! Lol.
Thank you:) I thought the backdrop would look nice for the video, but my feet were freezing hahaha
The women who was American Korean married true Korean, her marriage didn’t seem personal. Lack love.
Oh really? Why do you say this? I'm interested to know.
Yo Francois, good channel, how are you since The monday's basketball time? Love from paris bro
Benoit!!! Wow!! It's been a long time, bro! Comment va tu?! Ici, tout va bien :)
to be perfectly honest, 2 people's experience isn't really enough to touch on the subject. haven't done it in a while but i had so much pressure from my dad to go on blind dates (arranged marriage type) so i did. i don't know if they even do that anymore? i can tell you some stories lol. one was about dog meat and another was about smoking. there was another when the person asked if i was ever mistaken for the wrong gender... i really should have left the restaurant when i saw 'her' enter XD
This is true, but I just wanted to hear from two married folks :) Wow, arranged dating! I think that sounds kind of cool, but sounds like your experience wasn't ideal lol. Thanks for sharing hahah
Francois...whats so wild, I am a brotha with two best friends, both Black, who both married Korean women and had kids. One of them currently lives in Seoul and been married for 12 years and has 2 kids. Whats wild is, he has the same personality as you to the tee...you both may be brothers lol.
Hahahaha Is his name Francois as well?! Maybe we are the same person hahaha. But really, he's happy like me? Hahah
I really liked this how this video played you. You interviewed some mature grown adults with great perspectives. I love how the video wasn’t focused on misogynistic gender roles that a women’s sole worth in marriage is to cook, clean, and be a housewife. I love that in both marriages both partners worked, compromised, and put into the marriage what they are able to give. At least it appears that way. Tired of hearing stories about women solely being expected to bend over backwards and do all the housework, sacrificing, communicating, and emotional labor in order for the marriage to work. Nobody wants to do that anymore. I also wish you were given the answer on how the ceremony would work since you don’t have family to join the wedding rituals if you had a traditional wedding. I hope you find the answers. Maybe try asking a Korean parent or grandparent these questions. The older generation might know.
I really liked how this video played out *
Hey, thanks so very much for watching! I also liked how in both marriages, both partners were actively involved in the relationship, not just one doing all the work. And that's a good idea concerning the question I asked. I'll try:)
What are some specifics about the problems cultural differences cause?
I would imagine language first. It's possible a person will always communicate more accurately in their native language, so miscues like jokes and/expressions being misunderstood could happen. That could lead to arguments and other conflicts in the relationship. That was a great question and I'm sure there are more answers.
I'll say off the bat that most modern women anywhere usually have the same mindset. 💀
Oh, what kind of mindset is that?!
@@francoismarc3 they want a butler 🤣
@@canadianbird1185 It can be true for some women, but I guess the same can be said for some men as well. Men and women, we need to learn to respect each other and our unique abilities:)
It’s good to over think about marriage because divorce is costly and turns your life upside down.
Exactly this. Not to mention the amount of time and energy it takes to divorce and then find a new partner. It's not an easy decision for me.
Yeah, you're over thinking! If you meet someone you hit it off with you take a leap of faith and go for it, you will work out any differences along the way as with any relationship
Leap of faith hahaha Thanks for that:)
3 MONTHS OF DATING? WTFFFF
When it's love, it's love? Hahaha I've heard these things happen from time to time:)
Do you like Mongolia and South korea?❤
I like both!!!
@ oh thank you I’m Mongolia ♥️
I hate restrictions, so no for me.
What do you mean by 'restrictions'?
I don't cook
I don't clean
I'm not the best housewife
Ooooookaaaay ... moving on.
Looool, but she works!
You can try marrying your mom if she’s available since that’s what you like.
@@magnolia2😂🤣😎😎😎
Hi frans im macho come to mongolia plz
Hey!!! I'll come back soon!:)
:D
Seems like financial contract. Not a marriage.
What do you think a “marriage” is? Such a naive and unidimensional comment
I wonder if that is what the idea of marriage is at the root. Thanks for sharing!
Way too complicated. Absolutely too much work. Marriage is already difficult. Add kids? Add a language barrier? Add cultural differences? Sorry - not worth it. Beautiful Korean women won't stay Beautiful forever. And if they have money? Well, that can all change in an instant if her company goes belly up. Life long headache and struggle. Is the juice worth the squeeze? Stay single everybody
Thanks for sharing this!
I have dated a couple of Korean ladies in my lifetime i love them like i love Mongolian woman.