Yes, your subconscious blocked or was numbed by the Pavlov effect in this case not a 🔔 but Sweeties. P.S Short Story. People that bought our home and lived downstairs while we were living there without Dad etc They do... they know ...as I sat on my steps he exposed himself ..no physical but, part of the reason I engaged in sex at an early age...They look for victims. My College friends Grandfather had 7 sons all Sexually abused went on to grandchildren and the Great Grand by a Grand child ...as using his own cousin. Oh and yes Both of their parents were NARCS though younger daughter still can't see to this day and blames her older sister while she needed to Blame on part her NARC Mom let it happen...now the Mom works in the Children's library System ...of all places not that she did anything physical she still was complicit or plain stupid) sry). I know I wrote a lot... Anyway...n Wheeewww
deareast dr. danesh. am so sorry for your pain. my personal experience has shown that parents are also 'groomed.' in fact, the criminal justice system is so corrupt they, created the word definition 'groomed' because, it makes manipulation seem like a good thing because, grooming is good and should be taught to kids. they even created the word 'trigger.' because, it makes victims appear as aggressors rather than, traumatized. 7 years of college in criminal justice/human services has taught me that CHILDREN ARE HUMAN SERVICES. the u.s. has created a literal cage for children. they provide supply for many abusers. sending prayers to heal you as you heal others. ty so much😇
I see why your family wanted to shut you up. I am so sorry you had to endure that. I'm glad you are able to use your pain to help others. No one should have to experience such horrors💔❤️
Agree 100% ! I just discovered yiur channel Danish but have been so blessed by your kind and truthful insights! You are a very special soul; thank you for being brave to use your pain to help heal others! God bless you ❤
It is so hard to admit that this has happened to you. When you are not the first in the family, all sorts of things can happen to you. I can't recall my abuse eighter, and it was a victimization that has followed me all my life. Few people understand what happened unless it happened to them. The journey to health is a lifelong battle. At times, I wish that this never happened or l never was told. But reality has been telling me another story, and l do not contact my family too. I was raised to smile at everyone to help them, too. Healing is a process that will make you feel better about yourself. Never forget what you have suffered from. You can't trust these people. Sometimes,you have to move away from your roots to make your life better again. I consider this a meeting for Narq Abuse Survivers. If someone can get help from my history, and l wish you the best. Blessings be to everyone. 💚 👶💌🙏🙏🌟🌟💖💖💖❣️❣️👎🏵💗🌹🐅💕💕💕🪻❤️🌹🐅🐅🐅🪻🪻🐅🐇🕺💃💃🪷💌👶🙏🌸🏵🐅🪻🪻❤️💟💜🧡🧡🧡🌼🌼💜💚❤️💜💜💜💜🩵🩵
@@Jepse89yes exactly npand that's what am about to do no I won't cut ties tho but I'm about to take revenge on my siblings then sell the property and go to live my life
My older sister went through this with our dad. What did our mom do...nothing! My heart goes out to you Danish. Thank you for being you and bringing us on your healing journey.
You are not alone. I am female. My mother was my abuser. My dad walked in and it stopped. It went on until I was about 4 1/2. You are seen, you are understood, you are valuable, you are whole♥️
My mum ignored me being abused. When i spoke out i was evicted from my family and called a home wrecker and liar. He was her husband since i was 2 years old. Thank you for being brave and speaking out
I'm sorry about that for you, me too. Just recently punched my dad up for doing this to me as a child. In full drug recovery for a year and a half now and I make myself learn the dynamics of these horrible people so I don't make a good victim anymore.
I know the type. I cannot stand self righteous couples who say things revealing what they are thinking while wondering about why you choosing to be without a partner. Like while acting like they need to educate you all over again about the birds and the bees. After during the same encounter bragging about how many years they have been married as way to rub that in the face of anyone who is divorced while remaining single.
You are absolutely right when you say that worst than the sexual abuse was the lack of support from family members, especially our parents . But it was due to their negligence that we were abused in the first place. Abusers are cowards and preys on children they see are unprotected by an adult
I was sexually abused by my father. My sister was too. It primed me for marrying my ex. Total narcissist. My heart breaks for you. You are such a wonderful person and have helped me more than you will ever know. Sending love and support your way.🤗❤
My grandmother molested me for my entire childhood, with full knowledge of my parents. God heals all wounds. Thanks for letting people know that all families are not as they seem. Be blessed, and thanks for your work.
I saw the caption and burst into tears. A fine wonderful young man who is giving me strength and help, not as a RUclips sensation, but rather showing me that in this world of bad and horrible people there is a true and brave person that has overcome horrific torture as a child and somehow solely parented himself into the great person he is today. Thank you Danish for this video.
I felt the same when I read the video’s caption. So proud of Danish and his inner strength, he is the Light in this world and sometimes darkness attacks such light from a very early age. Stay strong, Danish. Healing inner child is essential and you’ve overcome so much. Proud of your resilience.
Whoa. I am that daughter of a narc mother, and the perp was my dad. She outcast me from the family, by telling lies about me when she found I was talking with my youngest brother about the sexual abuse all 6 of us children blocked. I was feeling so alone today. But this vid helped me see that I am person of strong and beautiful soul, like you, Danish, and there are many of us.
Speaking about sexual abuse, especially from family, is already extremely difficult, and men are shamed or dismissed even more than women for it... Your bravery and strength are immense. Sending love and healing 🩷
Dearest Danish, I'm so gutted, so sad to know this abomination was forced on you so young. You were just a baby! And as u said, it is the sick response of ur parent to this heinous crime that drove the twisted dagger into ur heart even more deeply. You're a walking miracle and your ability to survive and share this deeply horrendous experience is a testament to ur high intelligence and will to live! You are the bravest among humanity and ur healing work is shattering the silence that this demonic perpetrator forced on you when u were most vulnerable. The isolation you must have felt is soul crushing. How lucky we are to know you and hear your daily healing words so we may in turn help ourselves. My deepest condolences for all you have suffered, Danish, and gratitude with congratulations for the beautiful person you have become. We love and cherish you more each day; ur our forever hero! Warm hugs ❤ 😢
Darling Danish, I can’t explain how sad and horrified I am this happened to you. Or what I imagine happening to these people, I’m so angry I’m shaking. I’m the age that I could have been your mother. I wish I could have taken you away from there before any of these things happened to you, before your father took you on that bike ride with the books and raised you on a different continent where you were loved, cared for protected and listened to. Tarey said it so much better than I could. I want to second her words.
Amen. Danish you are truly precious and your testimony is saving lives. So many have suffered abuse from evil people. My dear Danish, you were just a baby when the abuse started and completely helpless. It’s a miracle you are the wonderful person I see and hear in your videos. I love you from a far and I will always keep you in my prayers.
Being molested by a Narcissistic father, is torture, but you are right the fakery & invalidation from a covert Narcissistic mother is worse. I am so sorry we endured this injustice of sexual abuse. My heart goes out to you. You are so brave & a real hero to me. May our healing continue.
I was sexually abused by narcissistic relatives. My Mother did nothing bc she had been sexually abused. My sister and I were taken away from our Mother and I was sexually abused in different foster homes. My first marriage to a narcissist lasted 15 years and he sexually abused me. My second marriage to a narcissist lasted 10 years and he was constantly unfaithful to me. We're STILL going through a rough divorce bc he turned everything around on me. I'm so sorry you went through this Danish. You are SEEN & You are HEARD!!! 🤘✌🏽💜💜💜
Danish, I am old enough to be your mother and I cannot tell you enough how proud I am of you-your courage, your strength, your resilience, and your personal truth, power, and authenticity. You are a force, and I stand by you 200%-for both parents you never had. I was raised by a single mother who had her own unresolved demons, projected onto me my entire childhood and as I’ve written to you before, married into a narc cult family; my husband is a malignant covert, enmeshed incestuously with his vulnerable communal altruistic malignant narc mother, and his carpet-riding useless feigned religious siblings. Now, my only teen son has drank the monetary Koolaid and I feel I’ve lost everything. I am working on my way out of this nightmare now. Again, your courage gets a standing ovation from me, from all of us who follow you, of this I am sure. Never give up 💪💪
Don't bother about adults who are your family and are narcs....get away from them....or throw them out of ur house....and give urself a beautiful life .bcos God made u beautiful
A Lot of kids are sexually abused, a LOT MORE than we think. I'm a sexual abuse survivor & I am finding out Most of the people I know Are😔! I don't think ppl have a Clue how prevalent child sexual abuse is. Thank You for sharing this Important Topic, Thank You Danish 👍❤️
I was just talking about that this morning. I feel like it's literally 1 in 2 adults who were victims of csa. I'm so sorry you went through that. You are incredibly strong and deserve everything good in life for having endured such unspeakable horror. Be blessed. ❤
I know, it's crazy right? I'm of the mind nowadays, that if someone HASN'T been sexually abused - I almost don't believe them! Not a healthy way to view the world, I agree. But shows how prevalent it is and what SA does to your mind.
My narcissist ex husband did the same. He, unbelievably, maintained (and tried to force me to maintain) a relationship with my childhood sexual abusers. I never had a child with him because I could not trust him to keep my children safe. Now I am divorced and hope to have a child away from all abusers - including my ex.
My heart bleeds for you, Danish, your early years was a living hell.. You couldn't escape .. No child should experience such 'killing', Yes I call it killing! Thank you a thousand times for all your knowledge, comfort, advices, healhtbringing 'lessons' here , I listen almost daily.. And right now I am happy to say that I am free from 'my' narc, he is defeated! ❤
Dear God...Danish I was sexually violated from ages 2-3. I also had/have repressed memories from those events. It has taken me a lifetime to overcome all the damage. Thank you Danish for sharing with this community such a vulnerable story🙏💜
In our narcissistic household, sexual abuse was unfortunately a common occurrence, although it wasn't directly perpetrated by my parents themselves. It was actually their friends who were involved. When we finally mustered the courage to tell our parents about it, they would dismiss our claims and make us feel like we were fabricating stories or even going crazy. I vividly remember the first time I woke up and realized that my mom's friend was undressing in front of my brother. As a young child, around five years old, I didn't fully comprehend what was happening, and I just remember thinking that they were undressing together. It didn't make sense to me at the time. But as the years went by, they tried to engage me in inappropriate activities or convince me to play along with them, and I always resisted. I have a memory of one particular friend who had a big screen TV and would let us watch Playboy, followed by offering us a small alcoholic beverage, perhaps to lower our inhibitions. These encounters usually took place in the morning after her husband had left. I would often catch her with my brother. He tried to rationalize it to me, saying it felt good or seemed cool, but deep down, we both knew it was not okay. Now, at 42 years old, my family still denies that any of this ever occurred and continues to portray me as a liar or a mentally disturbed child.
The Truthteller is always the one who fares best by getting away. I wonder how your brother has evolved thru the decades, he being of a weaker constitution?
You are not crazy. The people who did this ARE! Children are sacred. You didn't deserve this! No child does. I wish I could comfort you beyond mere words. Please get help therapy, whatever you can afford.
I am so sorry you experienced this as a child. I’m so glad you are intentional about your healing. I thank you for your vulnerability & courage to share. You are an inspiring man.
This happened with me for 12+ years thru both my parents and elder brother. I had/have no one to talk to because nobody believes me. Only who have gone thru this belief others who have gone thru it. So happy for your bravery and speaking up about your sexual abuse. You are so courageous!🎉
The first time I was sexual abused, I was confused but later told my mother. She did nothing about it for 2-3 years. When I went to kindergarten, the golden child was alone and vulnerable because I wasn't around to abuse anymore. My mother finally told my grandfather what was happening because it looked like it was going to be the golden child's turn. That's when something was done. I learned my lesson that I had no value to them. Later when I was sexually abused by another person, I told no one. Later when I was raped, I told no one. Who would care? Not my parents.
You don't know me, but I Care, & Thank You for Trusting me/this group w/ part of your story;; that was probably hard to write😘. I'm Here for You & this group is too❤️👍❤️
Unfortunately I understand your pain. Listening to your story and many on this thread is heartbreaking. If I may baby you are more valuable than you can fathom. I too felt this way and at times struggle with it but not to the depth as before. I prayed and cried put to Christ as I was so broken and felt that no on loved me. He revealed Himself to me. He showed me an image and how broken He was for what had been done to me. I pray that you seek Him that he shows you and you encounter His love for you. I know it might not feel that way but He will wrap you in His arms His love has no words. I pray this for you in Jesus name.
Just so you know there are authentic people out there who DO care.. They are far and few in between but they do exist.. I am one. Have hope Trust the Lord first and he will reveal people of truth to you throughout your precious life. 💕 Hugs..
Oh Danish. I’m so sorry. I seriously cannot believe your strength to not only talk about this, but to share it with all of us, to help us. My heart sends you the biggest hugs and much love
Danish, I feel sorry about It. I was sexually abused by my stepfather. When I told my narc mother, she had the same reaction as yours, and after she acted as yours too, as If nothing had happened. Even after she separated from him, they continued being friends. You are a great man for coming at tell your story. A big hug from Brazil .❤
Danish, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that total mindf*ck. She knew exactly what she was doing with that photograph. You are one of the strongest people to have survived so many layers of betrayal. Thank you for sharing your story.
Your channel is God sent. When you are a neglected child, for lack of better words, you have a ghost on your image that attracts abusers. They can tell you are unloved and they show you a little attention to bait you and abuse you more. The predators are good opportunistic observers. It's the silence of the victim that keeps the abuser thriving while the poor victim chips away their entire being. It's sad that I feel a burning sensation in my shoulders and arms as I type this coz it's bringing sad memories back.
I was abused to from 6 to 12 years old...when i told my narcissistic family when i was 6 they ignored me and i had no choice but to suppress for years. Thank you for sharing Danish ❤ You’re an angel and a truly good friend to humanity.
Thank you Danish, this feels so validating 🙏💕 this happened to me also, for 8 years. Abuser was a family friend. He took his life with a shotgun. My parents were more upset about that than the abuse he put me through. Thank you for talking about your mother, mine is the very same. 😢❤
My step father is a pedophile, my mother is a narcissist. She told me that it was my fault and lied the police in order to protect him. I understand you, Danish. I've been there. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this nightmare 😢! Take care of you! ❤️
It is absolutely heartbreaking for a mother not to protect their child. They actually fail as a parent. Cannot think of a worse pain for a child. These mothers must be broken themselves not to show natural maternal protective instinct which comes from a loving heart. So sad.
@denisegansermiller6300Well said. I am unsure about whether if my narc stepdad traumatized me more through abuse or my enabler codependent mother through betrayal.
I just knew this was coming. In all your videos it always felt there was more, like you were holding back something 😢 This is gonna help a lot of souls walking around both young and old who have been through a similar experience. You are full goodness and purity.
I always thought it was a probability that Danish had been abused in this way. As a survivor myself, I feel there is a certain fragility present there. Also, the something "more" inside that we generally hide - not because we are ashamed, but because the world is generally not a kind place to survivors of this type of abuse.
Hello Danish, As I listened to you I thought this guy is a super hero for having survived all this and having the courage to talk about it. Till this day, and am in my 30's now I haven't talked about my own experience. I once told a friend who shortly after that ghosted me. I just decided to stay silent -forever hold my peace. Thank you for your courage in sharing this. May be one of these days I shall find the strength to do the same.
You realise why they behaved that way after telling your story? They either don't believe you, or they think it must have been your fault in some way. Either way, friends like that are not friends, not worth having around. Utube is a great way to share your pain or gain. You find many like-minded people with similar, if not exactly like your experience of life. And by sharing your journey/testimony with others, you find healing in helping others. Love and blessings for your journey.
All my female friends were gather at one of my friends houses, there was about 8 of us there, they all told me they had been sexually abused, I was shocked, but I wouldn’t for one minute ghost them, or blame them or not believe them, that is not a true friend. It may be that it’s happened to her and you scared her off because she doesn’t want to open up about her own abuse. I don’t understand what anyone has to benefit by holding on to secrets.
Danish - Thank you from all of us for speaking about your experience. Many don't know how common it is to be s*xually abused in narc extended families, and therapists often only see it as two distinct traumatic events, but it's not. Narc families don't have morals or boundaries and so they decide how to inflict pain on us - whether physical, emotional or s*xual. And this is why you are one of the most important voices of our times on making sense of it all and I am so grateful to have found you. I applaud your courage and thank you for being you. Love you Danish. 🧡
Wow, dude You are so nornal and good person. Many people at your place would do not make it and end badly. You are so strong. Its not shame to talk about it. You are a true hero.
We are so similar...my father started when I was three....very violent and perverted. My mother and siblings scapegoated and gaslit me. I have been a suicidal mess my entire life. Just now healing. I'm so sorry for us.
Thank you Danish.💕 I found out later after my divorce with my narcissist ex husband that he targeted one of my sons during our turbulent marriage. To this day he he denies doing what he did, and acts like he is the victim.. My son told me he did this to him when he was around 9... These people use the cover of relationships to carry out evil..
How terrible for you and your family. I am so sorry. I know people don't need to be kept down by bad experiences. I hope everyone in your family is thriving! ❤
I always knew there was something special about you Danish. I am mortified that you had to experience this and offered no protection from those who should have protected and even just listened. The only positive thing that came out of this is the fact that your experience molded you into the man you are today. It gave you an empathy and compassion needed to help all of us females and males alike with the trauma we our experiencing. No other Narcissistic Recovery Specialist has delved into this topic the way you have. I learn more and more and more from you everyday. You are blessed and highly favored and from all of us we love you with a perfect love!
Danish, I am devastated to know this. Know that you have turned your pain into a guiding force of healing and light for so many of us. Love and healing prayers Danish. - Nidhi
Danish I am so sorry for what happened to you. It is remarkable how after so much trauma and suffering you have the strength and the will to help others. Thank you so much for your kindness and love .God has truly made you a light., a beacon of hope for people who have suffered narcissistic abuse and child sexual abuse. I truly hope that you have found peace in your life. You deserve to be cared for and loved. Just know that so many of us who follow you appreciate everything you are doing. You are helping us cope with all the pain we feel on a daily basis. Thank God you are here . Thank you for being so open and honest about your own personal experience. You are a true friend and an exceptional human being.
Yeah, mine denied it happened too, even insinuated that I may have liked it. When I brought it up later in life she started shouting, *"DID YOU EVER THINK ABOUT MEEEE? HOW IT MADE MEEEE FEEL?"* When I look back at her response, the absurdity makes me actually chuckle a little. She's just pitiful, like one would pity Gollum. If you know what I mean....so broken that there is no humanity left inside her. Now being on the other side of healing and no contact for over a decade.....I find myself feeling that I was blessed to have made it thru all that. I stopped feeling like I was cheated. The depth in understanding of human beings is now like a superpower. And the ability to see the pain, even in "evil" people, is priceless. They really don't know how to do humanity. It's so sad.
I'm so sorry, Danish. That was not OK, and you didn't deserve it. I'm so glad that you have healed as much as you have. Your are a test to the toughness of the human spirit and soul. My covert narcissist female biological didn't make me feel better about it, and she didn't say I was lying. I told her and I expected love and compassion. Maybe even a hug and to cry on her shoulder. Instead, she just called me a whore and left me there. I had to find another ride to my own home after a harrowing rape at 15 years old. She never, ever, ever mentioned it again and I never brought it up again either. I was too humiliated and shame bound. F--- THE NARCISSIST! Bless you Danish for sharing these things with us and helping us not to feel absolutely crazy. 😊
Thank you for being so open and honest. Just know you gave me the courage to leave my covert narc husband of 20 yrs. I thought I was crazy. What an insane 3 yrs trying to sort all this out. Your bravery and videos have helped me more than you would ever know. I think it takes a very kind human to come out of this and still be kind and help people. You are one of those people. Thank you so much.
You have been through a lot of pain, agony and suffering as a child Danish and I can truly understand your feelings. My daughter went through the same pain for seven years since age five and guess who the predator was ??? Her own biological father , my husband. I am glad I took a stand for her and sent my husband to Jail. I don't need such a basterd anymore in my life. Have faith in yourself, love yourself as you are a wonderful human being who is doing quite well for himself. You are helping so many people by sharing your experiences. I would pray for all those people who went through any kind of abuse emotional, physical or sexual by a narcessist, including you and my daughter. You all are brave survivors.
Me too brother ❤ It was my step dad, my mother reacted poorly as well and saw me as the other woman. Keep speaking, more men need to feel safe to speak. So proud of you ❤
I was born in a narcissistoc family, I was physically by my narcissistic brother and my covert narcissistic mother allowed it and blamed me and kicked me out of her house instead of stopping the monster
You are the greatest example of surviving to thriving. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I went through sexual and narcissistic abuse for many years. I am still healing every day and I am 70 yrs of age. I hope to understand the dynamics better and your sharing gives me hope for more healing to come.
Blame beatings and verbal abuse were my parents answer to finding out about my experiences of sexual abuse. I feel your pain and I see your struggle to heal. My compassionate empathy flows out to you. You sharing your story gives me hope.
The only person who can heal your inner child is your. Don’t expect a parent to understand or help you heal. They won’t. You are the healing angel you need. Embrace your strength!!!! And journal. Writing is so therapeutic!!! Get it out. Get it all out.
I had a narcissistic husband & his sister and was emotionally, sexually and physically abusive. I have a son now he is in his 20 and believe me he took away the most precious person in the World from my life. My SON HE IS The APPLE OF MY EYES, MY HEART & MY LIFE. Praying to GOD to forgive forgive both of them for what they have done to me 😢
I am sorry this happened to you. My sexual abuse happened outside of my family. My father was cruel, insane, my mother was the narcissist but one thing that helped me to move on was telling myself that at least they did not sexually abuse me. You are strong and intelligent and put together. I would have never thought this happened to you. I have learned that sexual abuse is very common. It ruins lives. I am thankful you were able to transcend the abuse. Sorry if I didn't express that right. Such a delicate subject. Thank you for all you do. May you know joy and peace the rest of your life.💖
Danish, I see you. I see what a magnificent man you are. You survived a horror of a childhood. You didn’t destroy yourself or those who caused you to suffer. Instead, you chose healing. Then you turned around to help others. You did not perpetuate the abuse you lived through. Instead, you chose to spread your insight and the wisdom like no one could do unless they have been through the abuse and healing. You are a remarkable man. I honor you so very much! God is so pleased with your beautiful heart. I am so grateful for your videos. I am so grateful that you are helping me and others. God bless your life! God bless your dreams! God bless your very bright future! The best is yet to come for you! I truly love you and will meet you one day online for an appointment for my healing too. I’m so delighted for all that you’ve overcome! God bless your socks off!!! 💝
Danish. You are a beautiful soul with empathy. You are so brave and are helping so many of us heal from traumatic abuse from narcissists. Im so very sorry for what you went through and what so many of us went through. The cortisol and anxiety has been a constant in my life and so many others as well. I too had a Narcissistic mother. My father was too. I have adult children who are also narcisdistic. They choose to continue to follow the darkness. That too has been painful beyond words. 💔 Thank You Danish for the healing work you do and sharing your story with us. Love and light to you and all of us
Your story is the same as mine... Even these days, my mother in those pictures near to her "happy" relatives... But at the end is just her mask of false victim because I realized she is a narcissist and always she was... I took distance from these family members also...and I started to feel myself really liberated ❤
My child abuser was my moms brother in law she chose him till his death. Her betrayal was painful and traumatic she called me a liar and was very disturbingly loyal to him.
Danish, I respect you for sharing your past. It takes a real man to be as courageous as you. And thank you for dedicating your life to free people from the psychological prisons implanted by our abusers. May you be blessed with greatness, inner peace, and kind warmth.
Thank you, Danish for sharing this. Tears were streaming from my eyes as I listened to your words. I'm so sorry that happened to you. My abuse started at age 5+ went on into my teens. He was my parents' friend.
I’m so sorry Danish! ❤😢 I spoke up at 22 years old, there was no reaction really. I was only 7 years old. My abuser knew how my home life was, used it to silence me. I never felt safe anywhere as a child. I took matters into my own hands when I was 22 yrs old and confronted my molester in person while he was at work. He ran from me.
You are a rock...a rock star. 😢 Confronting an abuser is difficult but you tried to do it yourself. 😮 Not many can do that. Of course there is no undoing the damage; no way to make it disappear. 😢
@@LauraHalvar Thank you! ❤️I was fueled by rage, the lack of support. People are afraid because they’re not supported, discredited and always asked “ why did you wait so long? Abusers select victims who they can scare and who have no support. I was terrified as a child.
@@jacalynanderson1340 I know the day will come when causing narc damage will be punishable by law as abuse. When that day comes, it will take down the support system the sexual predators have now. Narcs support all the lies and corruption, even at the top level of justice.
Thanks for sharing, very strong!! My parents are narcissistic I suffered many years I recognise the signs now They feel threatened over my reactions now
Sickened. Weeping. Danish, only within days did I discover your channel, this is so intensely enraging to hear, that some monster robbed you of all they could, stole your well being, your innocence, your trust, all of it. They violated a vulnerable child, there is only one place for them. There seem to be no answered prayers. That you are here today as a healer teaching self respect to others who have been dragged through the pits of hell for the pleasure of these narcissists. You are the embodiment of a blessing.
When I revealed my ‘history’ as an adult to a psychiatrist and my husband during an unfortunate episode of postpartum depression, I realized ultimately that no one really believed me. I was viewed as psychopathic by definition because I verbalized it-saying the unspeakable out loud. I was seen as being motivated to “give my husband a scarlet letter” and he hated me for that. I learned my lesson. I have a lot of regrets, but it forced me to reckon with where that history fits in the overall picture of living your best life in spite of it.
You’re such a brave guy for sharing this. Thank you. When I told my mother that my cousin sexually abused me, she said absolutely nothing. Years later I found out she had repeatedly molested this cousin when he was very young, and then memories came back of her molesting me and my little sister too. Instead of apologising when confronted, she instead smeared me everywhere saying I have schizophrenia. Hideously evil woman. Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child.
I am soooo sorry Danish...😭. You are strong, brave and a true role model how we don't have to be the victims of our past abuse. Lots of love and prayers brother❤🙏
I am so very proud of you Danish , you are the voice for so many victims of abuse . Opening up about this must have been really hard and getting the response that you did must have been really horrible. I experienced much the same when I revealed some things about my childhood, just moments after it had happened , even when I revealed things that happend in my 20's I was blamed . Its the way you dress, you were asking for it, its your fault , if you dont act like how you do nobody will do anything to you . Most of us just want somebody to actually listen , but it seems like we have gotten the really bad end of the stick .Sending you hugs ♥️
Yes, my brother.... No one ever checks in with "you"- the child is for all intents and purposes is invisible. I was chided, "Children are to be seen and NOT heard!" My heart aches with your heart.
My narcissist was abused, and his parents were very neglected with their children. So far, I know that both of his sisters were also abused. I feel awful for him.
I can relate to your dreams. Basically I have a childhood trauma about my own dad. I keep having nightmares about him. You're such a brave guy Danish. Thanks from all the abused children out there. ❤
I am so sorry to hear this, Danish! Also glad for your healing and recovery! Ten years ago I gathered the courage to tell my mother what happened to me 30 years ago. "This is a lie, you're faking it for attention, I don't believe you!" she said. And I can't forget that empty, soulless look in her eyes. She never talked or ask me anything about that. Like I never told her about my horrible experience...I resonate with you...💯...
You need to tell an adult... teacher, principal, counsellor, neighbor, friend's parent, SOMEONE. If the first person you tell does not believe you, tell another person. Or another.
Honey, it sounds like you're Trauma bonded to your abuser, & I hope there is Someone you can go to for help & support. This Group is Here for Help & Support too, don't be afraid to ask for Whatever you need, you Will get Some answers & Compassion Here👍❤️
Dear Danish you are such a beautiful person. In spite of being hurt so deeply, you are helping so many of us in our healing journey. I could see the pain you have gone through. We are a family and truly love you.❤️
The repulsiveness of their actions, the sheer evil is incomprehensible. I am so sorry for your suffering but so grateful that you have the heart to help others who have suffered in many ways at the hands of narcissists. I am in the thick of things and trying to get out. Your knowledge and experience, both personal and professional is helping many like me to escape. Thank you.
My mother did kind of the same thing to me! She abused me for being raped by my father! She blamed it on me! I was the one who wanted it, she would say! She beat me horribly for it! Every time my father would rape me, she would beat me for it! 😢😡👿 Much peace to all of us who've been victimized this way! 👣🙏♥️
@hautecouture2228 Thank you so much. Thank you all! They have passed on, but I still try to forgive, but it really gave me a hard life! I still struggle at 58!
Thank you so much for sharing. I can understand how hard it might be to share this, but you did it. Thank you for sharing for all of us. All the things you mention, my mother said to me when I told her I was abused and then she turn things around didn’t believe me, that I was lying. Danish, I’m so sorry for what you went through, and so happy you sought help. Thank you for becoming a recovery abuse professional and helping others. You make a world of different. I wish you healing and peace. ❤️
Giving you big hugs,❤❤ I hate that you experienced that abuse and was not protected, I was so hurt😢 listening to your story, but I see that you are healed and that God has his hands on you my brother, I pray that you continue living your life at your highest potential, in high vibrations to continue to allow God to use you and your story to help us 🙏🏾 You are Loved ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story ... I never knew what a narcissist is until I saw your videos, I understand lots now, thanks to you ❤️🙏🏾
I am very very sorry you experienced this abuse 😢thank you for drawing from your own pain to help others heal. I suffered molestation as a child. Left alone w/ relatives from my fathers side. As an adult, finally being able to process the trauma, I shared w/ both my parents what I experienced. My dad said nothing. My mom had the audacity to try and justify it. Both my parents as well as those who molested me All left here prematurely. I will say that because of my experience I was very protective of my own kids and taught them to tell me if they ever felt uncomfortable around anyone. God answered my prayer to protect them. I wish you continued healing and thank you for being brave enough to share🫶🏾
The fact that you were treated so very poorly so young and dealth with it and came out the other side without turning into a complete basket case is a miracle and testimony to your utter Strength and Character.❤❤
All my thoughts to you Danish. It is very brave of you to share this horrible abuse. I was also sexually abused. It was my mother. I know how you feel. I decided to file a plaint and sue my progenitor even though I don't know the outcome of it.
how don't you know the outcome of your own lawsuit? you dont sue people when they rape you , you ficking run to the cops or someone that will hurt them very bad if not kill them, and never enter such home again. My mom always taught me to immediately tell so I truly do not understand kids that do not tell, it is like there s something wrong with them UNLESS they have no parents there like poor Danish didnt 😭😭😭 that would be terribly hard.
@@rossqm369THESE ABUSED CHILDREN AND ADULTS weren't TAUGHT, and WHO WOULD LISTEN ? I understand. They were abused emotionally as well as physically and spiritually too. Cognitively they were hurt.
@@rossqm369 I think you are right. I was trying to tell my thoughts, but I didn't get them across right. I'm sorry you were abused as a young person. I'm truly 😞 sorry.
@@bernitacenteno1326 thank you I appreciate it, I was abused most of my life from 5 years old to 57, I had many happy years too but got sexually abused and violently hit by several men that is why I could never have another.
Thank you for this video, it's inspiring to see you taking such a horrific experience and turning it into a way to help other people. I went through things that were similar- my narc mother didn't protect me, she actually put me in harm's way. When she found out about one incident she screamed at me saying could I imagine how awful it was for her to have to deal with this? Recently she took everything I had confided in her, twisted it around to make it all my fault and me the abuser, and told everyone. I've lost all my family, all family friends, and almost all of my own friends. She has even reported me to the police and other agencies. The whole time she is playing the abused victim and has made me out to be the monster. She's even hacked into my accounts and stolen my mail for things to use against me. She's more of a psychopath than just a narcissist but never underestimate what a narcissist will do to maintain their image.
Link to my best resources:
linktr.ee/narcabusecoach
Sending... Healing ...it's interesting how we become then The Healers.
Mom might be a NARC omg (haven't listened as yet)
Movie 🎥 Monsoon Wedding yep.
Yes, your subconscious blocked or was numbed by the Pavlov effect in this case not a 🔔 but Sweeties.
P.S Short Story.
People that bought our home and lived downstairs while we were living there without Dad etc
They do... they know ...as I sat on my steps he exposed himself ..no physical but, part of the reason I engaged in sex at an early age...They look for victims.
My College friends Grandfather had 7 sons all Sexually abused went on to grandchildren and the Great Grand by a Grand child ...as using his own cousin. Oh and yes Both of their parents were NARCS though younger daughter still can't see to this day and blames her older sister while she needed to Blame on part her NARC Mom let it happen...now the Mom works in the Children's library System ...of all places not that she did anything physical she still was complicit or plain stupid) sry).
I know I wrote a lot... Anyway...n
Wheeewww
deareast dr. danesh. am so sorry for your pain. my personal experience has shown that parents are also 'groomed.' in fact, the criminal justice system is so corrupt they, created the word definition 'groomed' because, it makes manipulation seem like a good thing because, grooming is good and should be taught to kids.
they even created the word 'trigger.' because, it makes victims appear as aggressors rather than, traumatized. 7 years of college in criminal justice/human services has taught me that CHILDREN ARE HUMAN SERVICES. the u.s. has created a literal cage for children. they provide supply for many abusers. sending prayers to heal you as you heal others. ty so much😇
Can we talk to you ?
I see why your family wanted to shut you up. I am so sorry you had to endure that. I'm glad you are able to use your pain to help others. No one should have to experience such horrors💔❤️
To endure as much evil as you have, but still be such a wonderful, empathic, helpful human being. You are a beautiful and strong soul, Danish.
Your healing gives me hope.
Agree 100% ! I just discovered yiur channel Danish but have been so blessed by your kind and truthful insights! You are a very special soul; thank you for being brave to use your pain to help heal others! God bless you ❤
Amen. Thank Danish for sharing your story. I am so sorry for everything you went through.
Inner Integration and Batel Skater here on RUclips. Real sad stories but also overcame insane family lifes
I agree. You are powerful and strong. Much respect. God bless you. You are changing the world.
‘’ if you are born into a narcissistic home you are doomed to suffer’’ truer words have never been spoken.
True to the point you run away cut ties and let yourself free
It is so hard to admit that this has happened to you. When you are not the first in the family, all sorts of things can happen to you. I can't recall my abuse eighter, and it was a victimization that has followed me all my life. Few people understand what happened unless it happened to them. The journey to health is a lifelong battle. At times, I wish that this never happened or l never was told. But reality has been telling me another story, and l do not contact my family too. I was raised to smile at everyone to help them, too. Healing is a process that will make you feel better about yourself. Never forget what you have suffered from. You can't trust these people. Sometimes,you have to move away from your roots to make your life better again. I consider this a meeting for Narq Abuse Survivers. If someone can get help from my history, and l wish you the best. Blessings be to everyone. 💚 👶💌🙏🙏🌟🌟💖💖💖❣️❣️👎🏵💗🌹🐅💕💕💕🪻❤️🌹🐅🐅🐅🪻🪻🐅🐇🕺💃💃🪷💌👶🙏🌸🏵🐅🪻🪻❤️💟💜🧡🧡🧡🌼🌼💜💚❤️💜💜💜💜🩵🩵
@@Jepse89yes exactly npand that's what am about to do no I won't cut ties tho but I'm about to take revenge on my siblings then sell the property and go to live my life
@@gunjanoberoi3137 take care and good luck
It's true to me. Thank God I survive it.
Healing your inner child is the key to moving on. I'm so proud of you Danish.
My older sister went through this with our dad. What did our mom do...nothing! My heart goes out to you Danish. Thank you for being you and bringing us on your healing journey.
Danish,I am so sorry for what that horrible person did to you. It's very common for narcissists to sexualy abuse others, especially helpless children.
Unfortunately it's so true
Yeah they are extremely down low.
I'm so sorry 💔 😓
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You are not alone.
I am female.
My mother was my abuser.
My dad walked in and it stopped.
It went on until I was about 4 1/2.
You are seen, you are understood, you are valuable, you are whole♥️
This is actually quite hard to hear. It's really a great feat how you became the person you are today, despite such trauma. You've helped many people.
Isn't he a gift..I'm grateful for his transparency and willingness
My mum ignored me being abused. When i spoke out i was evicted from my family and called a home wrecker and liar. He was her husband since i was 2 years old. Thank you for being brave and speaking out
Thank You for being brave & speaking out Too❤️👍
I'm sorry about that for you, me too. Just recently punched my dad up for doing this to me as a child. In full drug recovery for a year and a half now and I make myself learn the dynamics of these horrible people so I don't make a good victim anymore.
I'm sorry 😐 for what happened to you. I'm glad you healed and help others. Remain strong and blessed
I know the type. I cannot stand self righteous couples who say things revealing what they are thinking while wondering about why you choosing to be without a partner. Like while acting like they need to educate you all over again about the birds and the bees. After during the same encounter bragging about how many years they have been married as way to rub that in the face of anyone who is divorced while remaining single.
I can relate. Hugs
You are absolutely right when you say that worst than the sexual abuse was the lack of support from family members, especially our parents . But it was due to their negligence that we were abused in the first place. Abusers are cowards and preys on children they see are unprotected by an adult
Thanks for the last sentence, on point
I was sexually abused by my father. My sister was too. It primed me for marrying my ex. Total narcissist. My heart breaks for you. You are such a wonderful person and have helped me more than you will ever know. Sending love and support your way.🤗❤
My grandmother molested me for my entire childhood, with full knowledge of my parents. God heals all wounds. Thanks for letting people know that all families are not as they seem. Be blessed, and thanks for your work.
That's horrible....can't even imagine.
Am so sorry for that. ❤
My god, I am deeply sorry for what happened to you, Danish. Here's to us all recovering from growing up with these monsters!
I saw the caption and burst into tears. A fine wonderful young man who is giving me strength and help, not as a RUclips sensation, but rather showing me that in this world of bad and horrible people there is a true and brave person that has overcome horrific torture as a child and somehow solely parented himself into the great person he is today. Thank you Danish for this video.
Great comment 💯
Amen. Danish you are truly a hero and a generous soul. May God bless you abundantly in the life and in the next. I will be praying 🙏 for you.
Am so sorry love ....u had to go thru this....love from india
I felt the same when I read the video’s caption. So proud of Danish and his inner strength, he is the Light in this world and sometimes darkness attacks such light from a very early age. Stay strong, Danish. Healing inner child is essential and you’ve overcome so much. Proud of your resilience.
Whoa. I am that daughter of a narc mother, and the perp was my dad. She outcast me from the family, by telling lies about me when she found I was talking with my youngest brother about the sexual abuse all 6 of us children blocked. I was feeling so alone today. But this vid helped me see that I am person of strong and beautiful soul, like you, Danish, and there are many of us.
I relate to your experience tremendously. The only difference is I am an only child.
Going no contact saved me.
I wish you a lifetime of peace.
Speaking about sexual abuse, especially from family, is already extremely difficult, and men are shamed or dismissed even more than women for it... Your bravery and strength are immense. Sending love and healing 🩷
Dearest Danish, I'm so gutted, so sad to know this abomination was forced on you so young. You were just a baby! And as u said, it is the sick response of ur parent to this heinous crime that drove the twisted dagger into ur heart even more deeply. You're a walking miracle and your ability to survive and share this deeply horrendous experience is a testament to ur high intelligence and will to live! You are the bravest among humanity and ur healing work is shattering the silence that this demonic perpetrator forced on you when u were most vulnerable. The isolation you must have felt is soul crushing. How lucky we are to know you and hear your daily healing words so we may in turn help ourselves. My deepest condolences for all you have suffered, Danish, and gratitude with congratulations for the beautiful person you have become. We love and cherish you more each day; ur our forever hero! Warm hugs ❤ 😢
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Well said..this was a beautiful post💕
Darling Danish, I can’t explain how sad and horrified I am this happened to you. Or what I imagine happening to these people, I’m so angry I’m shaking. I’m the age that I could have been your mother. I wish I could have taken you away from there before any of these things happened to you, before your father took you on that bike ride with the books and raised you on a different continent where you were loved, cared for protected and listened to.
Tarey said it so much better than I could. I want to second her words.
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Amen. Danish you are truly precious and your testimony is saving lives. So many have suffered abuse from evil people. My dear Danish, you were just a baby when the abuse started and completely helpless. It’s a miracle you are the wonderful person I see and hear in your videos. I love you from a far and I will always keep you in my prayers.
Being molested by a Narcissistic father, is torture, but you are right the fakery & invalidation from a covert Narcissistic mother is worse. I am so sorry we endured this injustice of sexual abuse. My heart goes out to you. You are so brave & a real hero to me. May our healing continue.
1000% agree, a true hero.💪🏾💛
I was sexually abused by narcissistic relatives. My Mother did nothing bc she had been sexually abused. My sister and I were taken away from our Mother and I was sexually abused in different foster homes. My first marriage to a narcissist lasted 15 years and he sexually abused me. My second marriage to a narcissist lasted 10 years and he was constantly unfaithful to me. We're STILL going through a rough divorce bc he turned everything around on me.
I'm so sorry you went through this Danish. You are SEEN & You are HEARD!!! 🤘✌🏽💜💜💜
I also suffered this abuse three years. I’m 80 and still ache over this from my childhood. Very sorry for you.
Danish, I am old enough to be your mother and I cannot tell you enough how proud I am of you-your courage, your strength, your resilience, and your personal truth, power, and authenticity. You are a force, and I stand by you 200%-for both parents you never had. I was raised by a single mother who had her own unresolved demons, projected onto me my entire childhood and as I’ve written to you before, married into a narc cult family; my husband is a malignant covert, enmeshed incestuously with his vulnerable communal altruistic malignant narc mother, and his carpet-riding useless feigned religious siblings. Now, my only teen son has drank the monetary Koolaid and I feel I’ve lost everything. I am working on my way out of this nightmare now. Again, your courage gets a standing ovation from me, from all of us who follow you, of this I am sure. Never give up 💪💪
God bless & strength to you..🙏🏽❤️🖤
I feel your pain! I’m praying for you, beloved. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your precious son.
I feel you. I'm sorry for what you've experienced, and admire your strength. May one day come all your loss become showers of blessings❤
Don't bother about adults who are your family and are narcs....get away from them....or throw them out of ur house....and give urself a beautiful life .bcos God made u beautiful
@@dariusrao2536 🙏🏼😇🙏🏼
A Lot of kids are sexually abused, a LOT MORE than we think. I'm a sexual abuse survivor & I am finding out Most of the people I know Are😔! I don't think ppl have a Clue how prevalent child sexual abuse is. Thank You for sharing this Important Topic, Thank You Danish 👍❤️
1 in 4 girls and 1 in 5 boys, are sexually abused by age 21.
hope you get help
I was just talking about that this morning. I feel like it's literally 1 in 2 adults who were victims of csa. I'm so sorry you went through that. You are incredibly strong and deserve everything good in life for having endured such unspeakable horror. Be blessed. ❤
I know, it's crazy right? I'm of the mind nowadays, that if someone HASN'T been sexually abused - I almost don't believe them! Not a healthy way to view the world, I agree. But shows how prevalent it is and what SA does to your mind.
My narcissist ex husband did the same. He, unbelievably, maintained (and tried to force me to maintain) a relationship with my childhood sexual abusers. I never had a child with him because I could not trust him to keep my children safe. Now I am divorced and hope to have a child away from all abusers - including my ex.
My heart bleeds for you, Danish, your early years was a living hell.. You couldn't escape .. No child should experience such 'killing', Yes I call it killing! Thank you a thousand times for all your knowledge, comfort, advices, healhtbringing 'lessons' here , I listen almost daily.. And right now I am happy to say that I am free from 'my' narc, he is defeated! ❤
Dear God...Danish I was sexually violated from ages 2-3. I also had/have repressed memories from those events.
It has taken me a lifetime to overcome all the damage.
Thank you Danish for sharing with this community such a vulnerable story🙏💜
In our narcissistic household, sexual abuse was unfortunately a common occurrence, although it wasn't directly perpetrated by my parents themselves. It was actually their friends who were involved. When we finally mustered the courage to tell our parents about it, they would dismiss our claims and make us feel like we were fabricating stories or even going crazy. I vividly remember the first time I woke up and realized that my mom's friend was undressing in front of my brother. As a young child, around five years old, I didn't fully comprehend what was happening, and I just remember thinking that they were undressing together. It didn't make sense to me at the time. But as the years went by, they tried to engage me in inappropriate activities or convince me to play along with them, and I always resisted. I have a memory of one particular friend who had a big screen TV and would let us watch Playboy, followed by offering us a small alcoholic beverage, perhaps to lower our inhibitions. These encounters usually took place in the morning after her husband had left. I would often catch her with my brother. He tried to rationalize it to me, saying it felt good or seemed cool, but deep down, we both knew it was not okay. Now, at 42 years old, my family still denies that any of this ever occurred and continues to portray me as a liar or a mentally disturbed child.
Ur “family” is crazy !
These stories are exactly why you have to cut out the whole damn family.
The Truthteller is always the one who fares best by getting away. I wonder how your brother has evolved thru the decades, he being of a weaker constitution?
You're not a liar. You stand in your truth.
You are not crazy. The people who did this ARE! Children are sacred. You didn't deserve this! No child does. I wish I could comfort you beyond mere words. Please get help therapy, whatever you can afford.
Narcissist parents put their children in very dangerous situations and then deny it.
I am so sorry you experienced this as a child. I’m so glad you are intentional about your healing. I thank you for your vulnerability & courage to share. You are an inspiring man.
This happened with me for 12+ years thru both my parents and elder brother. I had/have no one to talk to because nobody believes me. Only who have gone thru this belief others who have gone thru it. So happy for your bravery and speaking up about your sexual abuse. You are so courageous!🎉
You are courageous and powerful
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I AM SORRY.....ALL OF YOU WHO SUFFERED THAT....😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
God loves you always and we love you too ❤
My goodness❤
The first time I was sexual abused, I was confused but later told my mother. She did nothing about it for 2-3 years. When I went to kindergarten, the golden child was alone and vulnerable because I wasn't around to abuse anymore. My mother finally told my grandfather what was happening because it looked like it was going to be the golden child's turn. That's when something was done. I learned my lesson that I had no value to them. Later when I was sexually abused by another person, I told no one. Later when I was raped, I told no one. Who would care? Not my parents.
You don't know me, but I Care, & Thank You for Trusting me/this group w/ part of your story;; that was probably hard to write😘. I'm Here for You & this group is too❤️👍❤️
Unfortunately I understand your pain. Listening to your story and many on this thread is heartbreaking. If I may baby you are more valuable than you can fathom. I too felt this way and at times struggle with it but not to the depth as before. I prayed and cried put to Christ as I was so broken and felt that no on loved me. He revealed Himself to me. He showed me an image and how broken He was for what had been done to me. I pray that you seek Him that he shows you and you encounter His love for you. I know it might not feel that way but He will wrap you in His arms His love has no words. I pray this for you in Jesus name.
take care of yourself..in such situations we are our best friends , now you are the most important person of your life and give yourself the best life
Just bobbit them. Don't need to think twice if u don't have children. JUST BOBBIT THEM.
Just so you know there are authentic people out there who DO care.. They are far and few in between but they do exist.. I am one. Have hope Trust the Lord first and he will reveal people of truth to you throughout your precious life. 💕 Hugs..
You're a pure and a brave soul Danish bhaiya. We love you ❤
Oh Danish. I’m so sorry. I seriously cannot believe your strength to not only talk about this, but to share it with all of us, to help us. My heart sends you the biggest hugs and much love
Danish, I feel sorry about It. I was sexually abused by my stepfather. When I told my narc mother, she had the same reaction as yours, and after she acted as yours too, as If nothing had happened. Even after she separated from him, they continued being friends.
You are a great man for coming at tell your story. A big hug from Brazil .❤
Danish, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that total mindf*ck. She knew exactly what she was doing with that photograph. You are one of the strongest people to have survived so many layers of betrayal. Thank you for sharing your story.
Your channel is God sent. When you are a neglected child, for lack of better words, you have a ghost on your image that attracts abusers. They can tell you are unloved and they show you a little attention to bait you and abuse you more. The predators are good opportunistic observers. It's the silence of the victim that keeps the abuser thriving while the poor victim chips away their entire being. It's sad that I feel a burning sensation in my shoulders and arms as I type this coz it's bringing sad memories back.
I was abused to from 6 to 12 years old...when i told my narcissistic family when i was 6 they ignored me and i had no choice but to suppress for years. Thank you for sharing Danish ❤ You’re an angel and a truly good friend to humanity.
God loves you and we love you too❤❤❤
@@greatlook10 ❤️ Thank you my friend.
Thank you Danish, this feels so validating 🙏💕 this happened to me also, for 8 years. Abuser was a family friend. He took his life with a shotgun. My parents were more upset about that than the abuse he put me through. Thank you for talking about your mother, mine is the very same. 😢❤
My step father is a pedophile, my mother is a narcissist. She told me that it was my fault and lied the police in order to protect him. I understand you, Danish. I've been there.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through this nightmare 😢! Take care of you! ❤️
It is absolutely heartbreaking for a mother not to protect their child.
They actually fail as a parent.
Cannot think of a worse pain for a child.
These mothers must be broken themselves not to show natural maternal protective instinct which comes from a loving heart.
So sad.
@denisegansermiller6300Well said. I am unsure about whether if my narc stepdad traumatized me more through abuse or my enabler codependent mother through betrayal.
I just knew this was coming. In all your videos it always felt there was more, like you were holding back something 😢 This is gonna help a lot of souls walking around both young and old who have been through a similar experience. You are full goodness and purity.
I always thought it was a probability that Danish had been abused in this way.
As a survivor myself, I feel there is a certain fragility present there. Also, the something "more" inside that we generally hide - not because we are ashamed, but because the world is generally not a kind place to survivors of this type of abuse.
Hello Danish, As I listened to you I thought this guy is a super hero for having survived all this and having the courage to talk about it. Till this day, and am in my 30's now I haven't talked about my own experience. I once told a friend who shortly after that ghosted me. I just decided to stay silent -forever hold my peace. Thank you for your courage in sharing this. May be one of these days I shall find the strength to do the same.
You realise why they behaved that way after telling your story?
They either don't believe you, or they think it must have been your fault in some way.
Either way, friends like that are not friends, not worth having around.
Utube is a great way to share your pain or gain. You find many like-minded people with similar, if not exactly like your experience of life.
And by sharing your journey/testimony with others, you find healing in helping others.
Love and blessings for your journey.
Or it happened to them too and didn't want to think about it.
@@laurawhite4118
Or share it?
All my female friends were gather at one of my friends houses, there was about 8 of us there, they all told me they had been sexually abused, I was shocked, but I wouldn’t for one minute ghost them, or blame them or not believe them, that is not a true friend.
It may be that it’s happened to her and you scared her off because she doesn’t want to open up about her own abuse. I don’t understand what anyone has to benefit by holding on to secrets.
Danish - Thank you from all of us for speaking about your experience. Many don't know how common it is to be s*xually abused in narc extended families, and therapists often only see it as two distinct traumatic events, but it's not. Narc families don't have morals or boundaries and so they decide how to inflict pain on us - whether physical, emotional or s*xual. And this is why you are one of the most important voices of our times on making sense of it all and I am so grateful to have found you. I applaud your courage and thank you for being you. Love you Danish. 🧡
Wow, dude You are so nornal and good person. Many people at your place would do not make it and end badly. You are so strong. Its not shame to talk about it. You are a true hero.
Thank you for being so brave to share your story.
My heart aches ,I strongly wish and believe a law has to be enforced on Narcissist Abuse, similar to domestic abuse!
We are so similar...my father started when I was three....very violent and perverted. My mother and siblings scapegoated and gaslit me. I have been a suicidal mess my entire life. Just now healing. I'm so sorry for us.
So sorry Jesus is my healer
I pray that you receive the healing and wholeness needed to live in Joy and Peace
@@lindac2554 Thank you...I rely on Jesus also. Bless you.
God loves you and we love you too❤❤❤
Thank you ...God Bless all of us.@@greatlook10
Did you escape them now?
Thank you Danish.💕
I found out later after my divorce with my narcissist ex husband that he targeted one of my sons during our turbulent marriage. To this day he he denies doing what he did, and acts like he is the victim.. My son told me he did this to him when he was around 9...
These people use the cover of relationships to carry out evil..
How terrible for you and your family. I am so sorry. I know people don't need to be kept down by bad experiences. I hope everyone in your family is thriving! ❤
I always knew there was something special about you Danish. I am mortified that you had to experience this and offered no protection from those who should have protected and even just listened. The only positive thing that came out of this is the fact that your experience molded you into the man you are today. It gave you an empathy and compassion needed to help all of us females and males alike with the trauma we our experiencing. No other Narcissistic Recovery Specialist has delved into this topic the way you have. I learn more and more and more from you everyday. You are blessed and highly favored and from all of us we love you with a perfect love!
Danish, I am devastated to know this. Know that you have turned your pain into a guiding force of healing and light for so many of us. Love and healing prayers Danish. - Nidhi
Danish you are an AMAZING MAN
and your so brave ❤
Your family does NOT deserve you!
Oh my fkg god Danesh my heart is broken for you. So brave to share and the work you’ve done on yourself is mind blowing. I am so so so sorry 😢
Danish I am so sorry for what happened to you. It is remarkable how after so much trauma and suffering you have the strength and the will to help others. Thank you so much for your kindness and love .God has truly made you a light., a beacon of hope for people who have suffered narcissistic abuse and child sexual abuse. I truly hope that you have found peace in your life. You deserve to be cared for and loved. Just know that so many of us who follow you appreciate everything you are doing. You are helping us cope with all the pain we feel on a daily basis. Thank God you are here . Thank you for being so open and honest about your own personal experience. You are a true friend and an exceptional human being.
Yeah, mine denied it happened too, even insinuated that I may have liked it. When I brought it up later in life she started shouting, *"DID YOU EVER THINK ABOUT MEEEE? HOW IT MADE MEEEE FEEL?"*
When I look back at her response, the absurdity makes me actually chuckle a little. She's just pitiful, like one would pity Gollum.
If you know what I mean....so broken that there is no humanity left inside her.
Now being on the other side of healing and no contact for over a decade.....I find myself feeling that I was blessed to have made it thru all that. I stopped feeling like I was cheated. The depth in understanding of human beings is now like a superpower. And the ability to see the pain, even in "evil" people, is priceless. They really don't know how to do humanity. It's so sad.
You are incredible. Going through so much long term abuse in your life and you are now here helping us. The universe knows. 🙏
I'm so sorry, Danish. That was not OK, and you didn't deserve it. I'm so glad that you have healed as much as you have. Your are a test to the toughness of the human spirit and soul. My covert narcissist female biological didn't make me feel better about it, and she didn't say I was lying. I told her and I expected love and compassion. Maybe even a hug and to cry on her shoulder. Instead, she just called me a whore and left me there. I had to find another ride to my own home after a harrowing rape at 15 years old. She never, ever, ever mentioned it again and I never brought it up again either. I was too humiliated and shame bound. F--- THE NARCISSIST! Bless you Danish for sharing these things with us and helping us not to feel absolutely crazy. 😊
Thank you for being so open and honest. Just know you gave me the courage to leave my covert narc husband of 20 yrs. I thought I was crazy. What an insane 3 yrs trying to sort all this out. Your bravery and videos have helped me more than you would ever know. I think it takes a very kind human to come out of this and still be kind and help people. You are one of those people. Thank you so much.
You are so brave to talk about this Danish. Thank you. ❤
You have been through a lot of pain, agony and suffering as a child Danish and I can truly understand your feelings. My daughter went through the same pain for seven years since age five and guess who the predator was ??? Her own biological father , my husband. I am glad I took a stand for her and sent my husband to Jail. I don't need such a basterd anymore in my life. Have faith in yourself, love yourself as you are a wonderful human being who is doing quite well for himself. You are helping so many people by sharing your experiences. I would pray for all those people who went through any kind of abuse emotional, physical or sexual by a narcessist, including you and my daughter. You all are brave survivors.
Me too brother ❤
It was my step dad, my mother reacted poorly as well and saw me as the other woman.
Keep speaking, more men need to feel safe to speak.
So proud of you ❤
I am so sorry for the pain you went through, physically, mentally and emotionally. I can understand you're distancing yourself from all them.
I was born in a narcissistoc family, I was physically by my narcissistic brother and my covert narcissistic mother allowed it and blamed me and kicked me out of her house instead of stopping the monster
You are the greatest example of surviving to thriving. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I went through sexual and narcissistic abuse for many years. I am still healing every day and I am 70 yrs of age. I hope to understand the dynamics better and your sharing gives me hope for more healing to come.
Blame beatings and verbal abuse were my parents answer to finding out about my experiences of sexual abuse. I feel your pain and I see your struggle to heal. My compassionate empathy flows out to you. You sharing your story gives me hope.
The only person who can heal your inner child is your. Don’t expect a parent to understand or help you heal. They won’t. You are the healing angel you need. Embrace your strength!!!! And journal. Writing is so therapeutic!!! Get it out. Get it all out.
I had a narcissistic husband & his sister and was emotionally, sexually and physically abusive. I have a son now he is in his 20 and believe me he took away the most precious person in the World from my life. My SON HE IS The APPLE OF MY EYES, MY HEART & MY LIFE. Praying to GOD to forgive forgive both of them for what they have done to me 😢
I am sorry this happened to you. My sexual abuse happened outside of my family. My father was cruel, insane, my mother was the narcissist but one thing that helped me to move on was telling myself that at least they did not sexually abuse me. You are strong and intelligent and put together. I would have never thought this happened to you. I have learned that sexual abuse is very common. It ruins lives. I am thankful you were able to transcend the abuse. Sorry if I didn't express that right. Such a delicate subject. Thank you for all you do. May you know joy and peace the rest of your life.💖
Danish, I see you. I see what a magnificent man you are. You survived a horror of a childhood. You didn’t destroy yourself or those who caused you to suffer. Instead, you chose healing. Then you turned around to help others. You did not perpetuate the abuse you lived through. Instead, you chose to spread your insight and the wisdom like no one could do unless they have been through the abuse and healing. You are a remarkable man. I honor you so very much! God is so pleased with your beautiful heart. I am so grateful for your videos. I am so grateful that you are helping me and others. God bless your life! God bless your dreams! God bless your very bright future! The best is yet to come for you! I truly love you and will meet you one day online for an appointment for my healing too. I’m so delighted for all that you’ve overcome! God bless your socks off!!! 💝
Danish. You are a beautiful soul with empathy. You are so brave and are helping so many of us heal from traumatic abuse from narcissists. Im so very sorry for what you went through and what so many of us went through. The cortisol and anxiety has been a constant in my life and so many others as well. I too had a Narcissistic mother. My father was too. I have adult children who are also narcisdistic. They choose to continue to follow the darkness. That too has been painful beyond words. 💔 Thank You Danish for the healing work you do and sharing your story with us. Love and light to you and all of us
I can so relate to your history, my mother was the same. Thank you Danish ❤
I also have gone no contact with my entire narcissistic family Danish...I feel your pain. I thank Jesus for you and your channel.
That makes two of us.
Oh Danish 😢Thank you for your courage to speak up and share this! I pray you get your complete freedom and healing!❤
Your story is the same as mine... Even these days, my mother in those pictures near to her "happy" relatives... But at the end is just her mask of false victim because I realized she is a narcissist and always she was... I took distance from these family members also...and I started to feel myself really liberated ❤
My child abuser was my moms brother in law she chose him till his death. Her betrayal was painful and traumatic she called me a liar and was very disturbingly loyal to him.
Dear U have gone through so much hell 😢
Danish, I respect you for sharing your past. It takes a real man to be as courageous as you. And thank you for dedicating your life to free people from the psychological prisons implanted by our abusers. May you be blessed with greatness, inner peace, and kind warmth.
Amen 🙏
We were left out of years of family events while they celebrated with the abuser; changed my course of life
Thank you, Danish for sharing this. Tears were streaming from my eyes as I listened to your words. I'm so sorry that happened to you. My abuse started at age 5+ went on into my teens. He was my parents' friend.
I’m so sorry Danish! ❤😢 I spoke up at 22 years old, there was no reaction really.
I was only 7 years old. My abuser knew how my home life was, used it to silence me. I never felt safe anywhere as a child.
I took matters into my own hands when I was 22 yrs old and confronted my molester in person while he was at work. He ran from me.
You are a rock...a rock star. 😢 Confronting an abuser is difficult but you tried to do it yourself. 😮 Not many can do that. Of course there is no undoing the damage; no way to make it disappear. 😢
I'm so proud of you for that
@@LauraHalvar Thank you! ❤️I was fueled by rage, the lack of support. People are afraid because they’re not supported, discredited and always asked “ why did you wait so long? Abusers select victims who they can scare and who have no support. I was terrified as a child.
@@jacalynanderson1340 I know the day will come when causing narc damage will be punishable by law as abuse. When that day comes, it will take down the support system the sexual predators have now. Narcs support all the lies and corruption, even at the top level of justice.
You are a very brave lady.
This is just terrible. I am so sorry you went through this! So sorry.. 😮
As Marcus Aurelius said: "We might not controll what happens around us, but we controll how it effects us"
Thanks for sharing, very strong!!
My parents are narcissistic
I suffered many years
I recognise the signs now
They feel threatened over my reactions now
Sickened. Weeping. Danish, only within days did I discover your channel, this is so intensely enraging to hear, that some monster robbed you of all they could, stole your well being, your innocence, your trust, all of it. They violated a vulnerable child, there is only one place for them. There seem to be no answered prayers. That you are here today as a healer teaching self respect to others who have been dragged through the pits of hell for the pleasure of these narcissists. You are the embodiment of a blessing.
When I revealed my ‘history’ as an adult to a psychiatrist and my husband during an unfortunate episode of postpartum depression, I realized ultimately that no one really believed me. I was viewed as psychopathic by definition because I verbalized it-saying the unspeakable out loud. I was seen as being motivated to “give my husband a scarlet letter” and he hated me for that. I learned my lesson. I have a lot of regrets, but it forced me to reckon with where that history fits in the overall picture of living your best life in spite of it.
You’re such a brave guy for sharing this. Thank you.
When I told my mother that my cousin sexually abused me, she said absolutely nothing. Years later I found out she had repeatedly molested this cousin when he was very young, and then memories came back of her molesting me and my little sister too. Instead of apologising when confronted, she instead smeared me everywhere saying I have schizophrenia. Hideously evil woman.
Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child.
I am soooo sorry Danish...😭. You are strong, brave and a true role model how we don't have to be the victims of our past abuse. Lots of love and prayers brother❤🙏
I am so very proud of you Danish , you are the voice for so many victims of abuse . Opening up about this must have been really hard and getting the response that you did must have been really horrible. I experienced much the same when I revealed some things about my childhood, just moments after it had happened , even when I revealed things that happend in my 20's I was blamed . Its the way you dress, you were asking for it, its your fault , if you dont act like how you do nobody will do anything to you . Most of us just want somebody to actually listen , but it seems like we have gotten the really bad end of the stick .Sending you hugs ♥️
Yes, my brother.... No one ever checks in with "you"- the child is for all intents and purposes is invisible. I was chided, "Children are to be seen and NOT heard!" My heart aches with your heart.
My narcissist was abused, and his parents were very neglected with their children. So far, I know that both of his sisters were also abused. I feel awful for him.
I can relate to your dreams. Basically I have a childhood trauma about my own dad. I keep having nightmares about him. You're such a brave guy Danish. Thanks from all the abused children out there. ❤
I am so sorry to hear this, Danish! Also glad for your healing and recovery! Ten years ago I gathered the courage to tell my mother what happened to me 30 years ago. "This is a lie, you're faking it for attention, I don't believe you!" she said. And I can't forget that empty, soulless look in her eyes. She never talked or ask me anything about that. Like I never told her about my horrible experience...I resonate with you...💯...
I went through sexual abuse as a teen n I am compelled to live with that person even now after a brief period of relief
You need to tell an adult... teacher, principal, counsellor, neighbor, friend's parent, SOMEONE. If the first person you tell does not believe you, tell another person. Or another.
Talk to someone outside your family... they might see for what it is and help you
Honey, it sounds like you're Trauma bonded to your abuser, & I hope there is Someone you can go to for help & support. This Group is Here for Help & Support too, don't be afraid to ask for Whatever you need, you Will get Some answers & Compassion Here👍❤️
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Dear Danish you are such a beautiful person. In spite of being hurt so deeply, you are helping so many of us in our healing journey. I could see the pain you have gone through. We are a family and truly love you.❤️
The repulsiveness of their actions, the sheer evil is incomprehensible. I am so sorry for your suffering but so grateful that you have the heart to help others who have suffered in many ways at the hands of narcissists.
I am in the thick of things and trying to get out. Your knowledge and experience, both personal and professional is helping many like me to escape. Thank you.
My mother did kind of the same thing to me! She abused me for being raped by my father! She blamed it on me! I was the one who wanted it, she would say! She beat me horribly for it! Every time my father would rape me, she would beat me for it! 😢😡👿 Much peace to all of us who've been victimized this way! 👣🙏♥️
Sick demons
I send you a virtual hug… because god knows no one deserves that
That's horrible and sick. Im so sorry.
I can hardly read this. My stomach turns. Hope you got far away from those demons and found some peace 🙏🏻
@hautecouture2228 Thank you so much. Thank you all! They have passed on, but I still try to forgive, but it really gave me a hard life! I still struggle at 58!
Thank you so much for sharing. I can understand how hard it might be to share this, but you did it. Thank you for sharing for all of us. All the things you mention, my mother said to me when I told her I was abused and then she turn things around didn’t believe me, that I was lying. Danish, I’m so sorry for what you went through, and so happy you sought help. Thank you for becoming a recovery abuse professional and helping others. You make a world of different. I wish you healing and peace. ❤️
Giving you big hugs,❤❤ I hate that you experienced that abuse and was not protected, I was so hurt😢 listening to your story, but I see that you are healed and that God has his hands on you my brother, I pray that you continue living your life at your highest potential, in high vibrations to continue to allow God to use you and your story to help us 🙏🏾 You are Loved ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story ...
I never knew what a narcissist is until I saw your videos, I understand lots now, thanks to you ❤️🙏🏾
I am very very sorry you experienced this abuse 😢thank you for drawing from your own pain to help others heal. I suffered molestation as a child. Left alone w/ relatives from my fathers side. As an adult, finally being able to process the trauma, I shared w/ both my parents what I experienced. My dad said nothing. My mom had the audacity to try and justify it. Both my parents as well as those who molested me All left here prematurely. I will say that because of my experience I was very protective of my own kids and taught them to tell me if they ever felt uncomfortable around anyone. God answered my prayer to protect them. I wish you continued healing and thank you for being brave enough to share🫶🏾
The fact that you were treated so very poorly so young and dealth with it and came out the other side without turning into a complete basket case is a miracle and testimony to your utter Strength and Character.❤❤
All my thoughts to you Danish. It is very brave of you to share this horrible abuse. I was also sexually abused. It was my mother. I know how you feel. I decided to file a plaint and sue my progenitor even though I don't know the outcome of it.
how don't you know the outcome of your own lawsuit? you dont sue people when they rape you , you ficking run to the cops or someone that will hurt them very bad if not kill them, and never enter such home again. My mom always taught me to immediately tell so I truly do not understand kids that do not tell, it is like there s something wrong with them UNLESS they have no parents there like poor Danish didnt 😭😭😭 that would be terribly hard.
@@rossqm369THESE ABUSED CHILDREN AND ADULTS weren't TAUGHT, and WHO WOULD LISTEN ? I understand. They were abused emotionally as well as physically and spiritually too. Cognitively they were hurt.
@@bernitacenteno1326 tell me something I dont know please, I was abused, and I was taught to counterattack , both.
@@rossqm369 I think you are right. I was trying to tell my thoughts, but I didn't get them across right. I'm sorry you were abused as a young person. I'm truly 😞 sorry.
@@bernitacenteno1326 thank you I appreciate it, I was abused most of my life from 5 years old to 57, I had many happy years too but got sexually abused and violently hit by several men that is why I could never have another.
Thank you for this video, it's inspiring to see you taking such a horrific experience and turning it into a way to help other people. I went through things that were similar- my narc mother didn't protect me, she actually put me in harm's way. When she found out about one incident she screamed at me saying could I imagine how awful it was for her to have to deal with this? Recently she took everything I had confided in her, twisted it around to make it all my fault and me the abuser, and told everyone. I've lost all my family, all family friends, and almost all of my own friends. She has even reported me to the police and other agencies. The whole time she is playing the abused victim and has made me out to be the monster. She's even hacked into my accounts and stolen my mail for things to use against me. She's more of a psychopath than just a narcissist but never underestimate what a narcissist will do to maintain their image.