Hello my name is Veronica i started watching your videos. I want to say that I struggle saying no! Question what should you say when someone wants to coach you. When your just having fun. And I said that and they said when I made a good shot said oh wow that was a good shot even though you can’t see well. It was upsetting
A quick and simple no without any explanations works like a charm. I never give a reason why I can't do something. Just say no, as once so famously said.
I'm grateful for the shares and humbled that you'd share this training with clients. If you'd send me your email, I'd like to share something with you.
I love the comebacks 😂! Our mother was the Queen of criticism. It’s an entire extended family maternal issue. I’m always speechless as she thanks me then immediately looks for what is wrong. 😂 Graduate Phi Theta Kappa? Her comment was “ Just think someday you’ll graduate Phi Beta Kappa or class Valedictorian.” as she is adjusting my cap. I was speechless again, knocked down to size. I obtained a nursing license. She began bragging about a friend”s daughter graduating from MGH Harvard NP program. She does the same to my sister and my cousin receives it from her Mother. Now we will have a comeback instead of standing dumbfounded! Yea! Thanks Dan!
Youre incredible and your lessons are amazing. You helped me quit my job like a pro. I'll be starting cosmetology school in the end of August and I will definitely continue to watch your videos! Thank you so much!
Thanks Nicole, and as you beautify your customers, don't forget to tell them about ME! :) They can start by going to danoconnortraining.com and from there to my RUclips channel. How about that?
I like that you actually care about the other people, not just gaining power by giving smarty one-liners. I have a older sibling I MUST deal with concerning an aging parent, and they are always wanting their way with no grace given but always expected when they need it. Thank you for what you do. Would like MORE on tips with friends or family members taht you can't or do not want to cut ties with, (dangling participle).
First--I believe in the dangling participle. Sometimes IT JUST FLOWS BETTER, much to the consternation of English teachers who would like to hang us with that dangling participle. Second, I will bear your dilemma in mind--difficult people with whom you can't or don't want to cut ties.
Please consider exploring this subject matter of how to appropriately respond to someone who continues to pressure one with PTSD to go out when they are not in a good headspace that day to do so: Being largely homebound due to the pronounced symptoms of PTSD is a daily reality for me. Through time, I've learned to judiciously decide when it's conducive to my well-being to step out, preferably with trusted family members. Yet, it becomes distressing when someone assumes I can merely 'snap out of it' or 'go with the flow', suggesting I should venture out more often. Such expectations highlight a lack of empathy and an understanding gap regarding the PTSD-triggered world many of us navigate. As a veteran, the weight of addressing this topic is often compounded by societal stigmas. Nevertheless, I've grown to establish clear boundaries, resisting the pressure to relent just to meet another's expectations or to give them a sense of achievement. Most of my family understands this - but there is always that one. I believe your expert advice can assist many like me who struggle with this issue. Thank you and much respect.
Norma, I say this with love when I say: please look for help. I also had PTSD and it is treatable. Look for professionals who specialize in PTSD and EMDR.
Dear Wizard of Words,Thank you so much. I am still struggling to fully stop people pleasing. Very helpful and less stressful number of ways to say no😂🌸
Mother in law who made passive aggressive statements on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and stormed out on New Years Eve after yelling at me has requested to stay in our home for 3 nights next week because her house is having the furnace repaired. How do i tell her.... if you sleep here ill have to check into a hotel? If you sleep here I could die? I'd like to say it nicely. BTW, thank you Dan! after the big fight and the silent treatment, she had texted "I hope to come over this weekend and apologize to you in person" to which I responded "we are not having any visitors this weekend, i need time to process and we will get back to you" .....the only reason I said this is thanks to DAN!!! She is intrusive and overbearing, she was shocked!!! She emailed me right away and I ignored it for now because I'm still processing. I will keep watching your channel!
Loved the video!! I always feel like I’m being mean when I say No even if it’s for a good reason!! Thank you for reminding me that my ME TIME is OKAY!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
It's funny because, while I listen to you, I always try to translate the phrases in my (Serbian) language in the most adequate way so that I can use them- It's like a mini-multitasking😁 Jokes aside, I wish I could encounter more often people like you- with grace, serenity, intelligence, humor but aswell radiating incredible warmth and empathy that I can feel even through screen. I wish you a day where you smile on the street for no reason, those are the best😊
Milena thank you so much for those kind words. Today I will smile as I walk around my house (don't go out much lately because of Covid-19) and think of you!
Great lesson!! I watch all of your videos. You make me laugh while I’m learning. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 16 years and you help me feel more confident while I start my job search. 💕
Watch for a program I'm developing about how best to leave your job and find a new one, Cecelia. In the meantime, I'm happy to help build your confidence through my videos.
Hello from Guadalajara Mexico and Fargo North Dakota, Aleksey! Happy to be in touch with you--and together we can truly change the global dialogue one conversation at a time. :)
Your advice/skills are changing my LIFE. I have been sharing your channel with SOOO many of my clients and friends who are "people pleasures" I own a hair salon in Providence RI A chronic illness has crippled my aready pathetic self-esteem...(lol) I have been implementing your strategies, and have seen IMMEDIATE results. Thank you.
Candice, did my mother pay you to write this? Thank you so much for affirming my work; everybody needs an ego boost from time to time and you just gave me mine for the month. I hope plenty of people in your life give you a boost from time to time as well. You work on that self esteem because you are clearly a lovely person as evidenced by what you took the time to write to me. You didn't have to take that time, but you did. Dan
Then you're going to love some of the new content I'm posting on my Kajabi site. I'll be posting a few unedited videos. After watching, you'll see why I spend a good deal of time editing. :)
Yes! Thank you for being the most informative, quick, simple, logical video on saying, No. Love the 'I simply can't' broken record response. I'm going to watch this every day until I got it. Lifesaver 💕
One of the more enjoyable & comically well produced lessons I have watched of Dans. While presenting Five phrases & Four key tactics of kind ways to sat No with simple break down steps. Always helpful & enjoyable videos! Thank you
People are constantly asking for my time. Friends, family, coworkers, etc... the list goes on and on. I have always struggled with telling people "No", but it seems that lately the consequences for me telling them "yes" are more and more severe of a detriment to me. "Could you come look at the brakes on my car quick and help me figure out what's wrong" turned into several hours of me helping them find, buy, and install the replacement parts on their car (for free, mind you). Can't wait to follow your advice and practice saying "No" a lot more.
Saying "no"doesn't make you selfish, Brandon. You'll know the right time to say "yes," but it sounds as though people just might be taking advantage of your good nature, and perhaps it is time to learn to say "no." :)
I like this presentation far better than all the "How To Make People LIKE You", items on the internet. Time for the other side to get some respect. You just got PLENTY!!!!
Thanks for your comment, Joan. And if you ever want to take a deep dive into training, which will make you HYSTERICAL for a lifetime :). go to danoconnortraining.com
Lmao! Will use these on my mom!! She asks me to do things on my working time. I always give in because she and my oldest sister are very sick. I might be next to get sick too. I HATE it. I cry out of frustration.
Thank you and greetings from Riga, Latvia! As always it's so much fun to listen how you deliver valuable, practical content!! The examples are just fun and emphasise the issue/solution. Thank you, always looking forward to your videos. 😁🙌☀️
Thank you so much! Latvia, huh? I wonder what it's like there. I'm going to walk the streets on google maps to find out. Can you recommend any particular neighborhood? I appreciate your comments, and your taking the time to watch...I'm hoping to come out with another soon! Dan
@@TheWizardOfWords How exciting to hear a reply from you! And thank you for paying a visit via Google to our rather small yet beautiful country placed on he shore of the Baltic Sea. If shortly to describe our place - loads of nature, people still pick berries and mushrooms in the woods :) We are used to it. It's becoming a trend again :) Here are few places to look up in Riga: - Our Art Nouveau District or we call it Riga Quiet centre. You might look up on the map Elizabetes street 35, and then walk on Antonijas, Alberta Street. - Old Town , called Vecrīga. Here a good starting point is Doma laukums, Central District, Riga, and walk though the streets like. There is an option to take an instant view @ Doma laukums, Riga, Latvia | Instant Google Street View - Many find interesting to see one of the largest marketplaces in Eastern Europe and one of the most visited markets - Riga Central Market, Nēģu iela, Latgale Suburb, Riga With best regards and hoping you enjoy the virtual walks though Riga :) And please do share , what did cought your attention. Regina
This video has an amazing flow to it that makes it very enjoyable and satisfying to watch. At no point did i find myself wanting to skip to the awnser to my question, but it helped that the answer was delivered so quickly :)
Hi Angelica Schmitz ! Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment. i appreciate it and I look forward to hearing from you again soon.. 👋 Let me know if there's anything I can help with, and please keep in touch, OK? Thank you!
Dan, you are so funny too! And helpful- as a person who is always saying YES (yes so many useless causes that won't go anywhere), I am so grateful for this.
When I was growing up my mother used the broken record frequently and I lost whatever battle I was waging. Although I took it as a loss, I also took note of its effectiveness and that is why you see it in my teaching videos. Thanks Mom. You could be strict, but you were always right. DAMMITALL!!!
Thanks for all the great techniques! You are super helpful and very funny too! You have a great attitude and positive outlook on life.You are a great inspiration! Will you be doing any live streams soon? Ive caught a couple a while back and enjoyed them immensely!
Hi Miranda: I am trying to find the time to do a live stream, and also trying to get a couple videos up each week, as well as work on new training programs. It's good to be busy but sometimes I don't get done what I would like to do!
Thank you for your coaching on saying “no.” I often want to help ppl and sometimes I overcommit. I know how to say “no,” but I underestimate the time and energy that it will take when I say “yes.” Could you possibly make a video about spreading oneself too thin?
Hey dan Your tips helped me when i was at work I used the power phrase :i simply cant. Which bloody closed the conversation..awesome content man keep going.😁👍
I always try to have a big heart and that makes me happily say yes almost all the time. You are right about the fact that me doing this teaches others the same. However, it has occurred to me that it isn't healthy for myself mentally and physically to say yes almost all the time. I am learning to love myself more now and it is showing a ripple effect on the people who are looking up to me as well. What you said is 100% true.
Hi Luke. I am a past-Minnesotan, but my brother Marty is a current Saint Paulite. My links to Minnesota are strong. And boy do I miss Al Franken who helped my father get his veteran's benefits ASAP when we told Al my father was dying of cancer from Agent Orange in Viet Nam. What a guy . . . . He made a huge difference in the last two years of my father's life and I will be forever grateful.
This video is great and very relevant to what I struggle with. I lead a department and I am always saying yes but recently someone who was promoted to a high level position will email me late at night asking me to do a presentation for the next day which completely throws off my day. I block off my calendar but the individual fails to check it. I said no today but my anxiety is making me want to cancel my other appointment and lead the call because if I can't do it then it falls on a colleague of mine and I don't want my no to affect my colleague.
Brandon--learn to say NO to this guy, and your colleague will have to learn to say NO as well. Also, you might ask the individual to restrict emails to work hours. You shouldn't have to be checking your phone when you're at home, unless you are paid to do so. Does that mean you are always on call? I hope not.
Myself. My time, my support, my emotional engagement, and all to support them; yes, the particular them is a very important them in my life and my personal growth, but now that them is asking me to compromise my comfort, principles, and honestly not just my mental health, but the finite bit of physical health that I occasionally have. Balancing those two things SUCKS
MY work.! They refuse to look at our availabilities. When I applied for my job, had to let them know what days, time, shift wanted to work. I have worked with this Agency for over a year., and they are always ignoring my schedule and consistently bothering me to work more hours and is always interrupting my other job. This type of behavior has been stressful and hard to deal with. I feel like I'm dealing with two-year-olds or selfish people that cannot listen. I do try to be workable with them but sad to say, it never seems to help. They always expect more.
Brenda, you might tell them that you work two jobs and would REALLY appreciate it if they'd stick to the available times you both agreed to when you took the job.
"Saying 'yes' to yourself is a big deal." ♡
Yes it is Tara.
Hello my name is Veronica i started watching your videos. I want to say that I struggle saying no! Question what should you say when someone wants to coach you. When your just having fun. And I said that and they said when I made a good shot said oh wow that was a good shot even though you can’t see well. It was upsetting
Hi Dan, you crack me up 🤣. I loved the ¨I simply can´t¨
Glad you enjoyed it
Phrases to anyone regarding their financial situation.
" thats just not in my budget " . 👍
Your sense of humor makes learning these new tools enjoyable.
A quick and simple no without any explanations works like a charm. I never give a reason why I can't do something. Just say no, as once so famously said.
This is truly a form of "verbal etiquette," which is sorely needed in today's world. Great lesson!
You are the best. I am a therapist and I frequently share your channel with my clients. Thank you so much for what you do!
I'm grateful for the shares and humbled that you'd share this training with clients. If you'd send me your email, I'd like to share something with you.
I love the comebacks 😂!
Our mother was the Queen of criticism.
It’s an entire extended family maternal issue. I’m always speechless as she thanks me then immediately looks for what is wrong. 😂
Graduate Phi Theta Kappa? Her comment was
“ Just think someday you’ll graduate Phi Beta Kappa or class Valedictorian.”
as she is adjusting my cap.
I was speechless again, knocked down to size.
I obtained a nursing license. She began bragging about a friend”s daughter graduating from MGH Harvard NP program.
She does the same to my sister and my cousin receives it from her Mother.
Now we will have a comeback instead of standing dumbfounded! Yea! Thanks Dan!
this video should have 1 mil views... so much value in those 23 mins
Well please spread the word, Euroshala!
Whatever ur going through " say it in a loving way " ..
" they deserve that " & so do you "
I'd prefer not to say...lovely polite way to deflect very impolite questions.
You, sir, have a future in STAND UP! Brilliant. Cant wait to say Noooo!
How about.."Do you want to round up for....." grrrrr
Thanks, Millwall. :) :)
Youre incredible and your lessons are amazing. You helped me quit my job like a pro. I'll be starting cosmetology school in the end of August and I will definitely continue to watch your videos! Thank you so much!
Thanks Nicole, and as you beautify your customers, don't forget to tell them about ME! :) They can start by going to danoconnortraining.com and from there to my RUclips channel. How about that?
Absolutely! Thanks so much!
Wishing you all the success in your new business!!! Way to go! 💪
The different voices are funny...teaching with laughter is the best method.
Your work is so valuable!!! Thanks so much
You are so welcome!
You're a treasure. This should be taught in Jr. High.
Can't thank you enough Dan. Thank you.
I like that you actually care about the other people, not just gaining power by giving smarty one-liners. I have a older sibling I MUST deal with concerning an aging parent, and they are always wanting their way with no grace given but always expected when they need it. Thank you for what you do. Would like MORE on tips with friends or family members taht you can't or do not want to cut ties with, (dangling participle).
First--I believe in the dangling participle. Sometimes IT JUST FLOWS BETTER, much to the consternation of English teachers who would like to hang us with that dangling participle. Second, I will bear your dilemma in mind--difficult people with whom you can't or don't want to cut ties.
Please consider exploring this subject matter of how to appropriately respond to someone who continues to pressure one with PTSD to go out when they are not in a good headspace that day to do so: Being largely homebound due to the pronounced symptoms of PTSD is a daily reality for me. Through time, I've learned to judiciously decide when it's conducive to my well-being to step out, preferably with trusted family members. Yet, it becomes distressing when someone assumes I can merely 'snap out of it' or 'go with the flow', suggesting I should venture out more often. Such expectations highlight a lack of empathy and an understanding gap regarding the PTSD-triggered world many of us navigate. As a veteran, the weight of addressing this topic is often compounded by societal stigmas. Nevertheless, I've grown to establish clear boundaries, resisting the pressure to relent just to meet another's expectations or to give them a sense of achievement. Most of my family understands this - but there is always that one. I believe your expert advice can assist many like me who struggle with this issue. Thank you and much respect.
Norma, I say this with love when I say: please look for help. I also had PTSD and it is treatable. Look for professionals who specialize in PTSD and EMDR.
I used your "would you like that?" a couple times at work already!
Thanks Tiffany, I think that makes it YOURs now! I appreciate you letting me know, and please do keep me updated, OK?
This is so true, the pushiest are the least deserving but most likely to get their way.
Dear Wizard of Words,Thank you so much.
I am still struggling to fully stop people pleasing.
Very helpful and less stressful number of ways to say no😂🌸
You can do it, Sara :)
Thank you so much🍀🍀🍀🍀
Dan, love this video so educational and it has me cracking up. “People probably think I’m crazy sitting by myself and laughing out loud”
@ Kay Kue : People just think you on your phone. Which you are. Also, people don't think...
Mother in law who made passive aggressive statements on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and stormed out on New Years Eve after yelling at me has requested to stay in our home for 3 nights next week because her house is having the furnace repaired. How do i tell her.... if you sleep here ill have to check into a hotel? If you sleep here I could die? I'd like to say it nicely.
BTW, thank you Dan! after the big fight and the silent treatment, she had texted "I hope to come over this weekend and apologize to you in person" to which I responded "we are not having any visitors this weekend, i need time to process and we will get back to you" .....the only reason I said this is thanks to DAN!!!
She is intrusive and overbearing, she was shocked!!! She emailed me right away and I ignored it for now because I'm still processing.
I will keep watching your channel!
Martha, can you afford to put her up in a hotel? If so, tell her very nicely that you'd like to treat her and then DO IT.
I love the humour as much as I love your lessons and I'm so prepped for my responses because reactions are not working for me
No matter what they are asking for, that always includes my time.
Thank you. This was a great lesson and a great video!
You are more than welcome Cap'n Ash.
Dan
Loved the video!! I always feel like I’m being mean when I say No even if it’s for a good reason!! Thank you for reminding me that my ME TIME is OKAY!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
You are so welcome!💜
It's funny because, while I listen to you, I always try to translate the phrases in my (Serbian) language in the most adequate way so that I can use them- It's like a mini-multitasking😁 Jokes aside, I wish I could encounter more often people like you- with grace, serenity, intelligence, humor but aswell radiating incredible warmth and empathy that I can feel even through screen. I wish you a day where you smile on the street for no reason, those are the best😊
Milena thank you so much for those kind words. Today I will smile as I walk around my house (don't go out much lately because of Covid-19) and think of you!
Thank you so much Dan!
My pleasure!
No is the best word I’ve ever learned, but I see that it can be finessed. Thank you - this is going to be fun.
Have fun, Jaime. :)
I'm so happy I found you. I'm learning how to say no and stand up for myself. It's hard but you are helping me. Thank you very much. B.
Barbara, I am very happy to be of help. Please keep watching because there is much more to come. Dan
They ask me to exceed my limits; thereby, they deny me my life in order to satisfy their life.
Yes, Margaret--sometimes that is the case. Other times, it's thoughtless people who haven't reflected on how pushy they are.
I wish I had this information a few years ago, but I have it now & that is very important
Thanks, G Nelson!--again.
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Great lesson!! I watch all of your videos. You make me laugh while I’m learning. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 16 years and you help me feel more confident while I start my job search. 💕
Watch for a program I'm developing about how best to leave your job and find a new one, Cecelia. In the meantime, I'm happy to help build your confidence through my videos.
Hello from Russia! Thx for sharing with us your knowledge!
Hello from Guadalajara Mexico and Fargo North Dakota, Aleksey! Happy to be in touch with you--and together we can truly change the global dialogue one conversation at a time. :)
@@TheWizardOfWords hahaha let's do it!
This would be good if Putin and Zelensky new about these skills
Your advice/skills are changing my LIFE.
I have been sharing your channel with SOOO many of my clients and friends who are "people pleasures"
I own a hair salon in Providence RI
A chronic illness has crippled my aready pathetic self-esteem...(lol)
I have been implementing your strategies, and have seen IMMEDIATE results.
Thank you.
Candice, did my mother pay you to write this? Thank you so much for affirming my work; everybody needs an ego boost from time to time and you just gave me mine for the month. I hope plenty of people in your life give you a boost from time to time as well. You work on that self esteem because you are clearly a lovely person as evidenced by what you took the time to write to me. You didn't have to take that time, but you did.
Dan
I just CACKLED at the outtakes! Thank you!
Then you're going to love some of the new content I'm posting on my Kajabi site. I'll be posting a few unedited videos. After watching, you'll see why I spend a good deal of time editing. :)
Yes! Thank you for being the most informative, quick, simple, logical video on saying, No. Love the 'I simply can't' broken record response. I'm going to watch this every day until I got it. Lifesaver 💕
You are eternally welcome, Karen :)
Thank you so much! This is needed as we often dont learn this at home
I'm fortunate that I actually did learn much of this at home. :)
One of the more enjoyable & comically well produced lessons I have watched of Dans. While presenting Five phrases & Four key tactics of kind ways to sat No with simple break down steps. Always helpful & enjoyable videos!
Thank you
Many many thanks, Andrew. I hope you share these videos from time to time.
Dan
You are the most entertaining communications coach I have ever had the delight and pleasure to learn from, thank you.
Thank you, Kimberly, and don't forget to consider my more extensive programs in the store at danoconnortraining.com :) :)
You are so funny and wise!
This is so helpful!
I appreciate the time and effort put into this, and the humor is icing on top!
Thanks, Lioness; it does take a little time to put these together. It is worth it to me and I'm happy to hear it's worth it to you!
People are constantly asking for my time. Friends, family, coworkers, etc... the list goes on and on. I have always struggled with telling people "No", but it seems that lately the consequences for me telling them "yes" are more and more severe of a detriment to me. "Could you come look at the brakes on my car quick and help me figure out what's wrong" turned into several hours of me helping them find, buy, and install the replacement parts on their car (for free, mind you). Can't wait to follow your advice and practice saying "No" a lot more.
Saying "no"doesn't make you selfish, Brandon. You'll know the right time to say "yes," but it sounds as though people just might be taking advantage of your good nature, and perhaps it is time to learn to say "no." :)
Love love love your videos! So helpful! Real life-changing strategies!
Thanks, Mette. Please like and share!
I like this presentation far better than all the "How To Make People LIKE You", items on the internet. Time for the other side to get some respect. You just got PLENTY!!!!
Thanks, Fred :)
I appreciate your comment about surround yourself with people who care about you and love you. That is really good advise.
Thanks, Dean. It makes life much easier and far more enjoyable than the alternative.
Dan, I can listen to you all day!! Not only are your skills so freaking amazing but you are funny as hell and I crack up as I get educated😜❣️
Thanks for your comment, Joan. And if you ever want to take a deep dive into training, which will make you HYSTERICAL for a lifetime :). go to danoconnortraining.com
This is pure gold! Better then therapy!💜
Cheaper too :) :)
Lmao! Will use these on my mom!! She asks me to do things on my working time. I always give in because she and my oldest sister are very sick. I might be next to get sick too. I HATE it. I cry out of frustration.
I am so glad to have discovered your channel. I love your personality and the way you present.
Thank you so much! Join us for the live show today at 4:00 Central, Anum.
Thank you and greetings from Riga, Latvia! As always it's so much fun to listen how you deliver valuable, practical content!! The examples are just fun and emphasise the issue/solution. Thank you, always looking forward to your videos. 😁🙌☀️
Thank you so much! Latvia, huh? I wonder what it's like there. I'm going to walk the streets on google maps to find out. Can you recommend any particular neighborhood? I appreciate your comments, and your taking the time to watch...I'm hoping to come out with another soon!
Dan
@@TheWizardOfWords How exciting to hear a reply from you! And thank you for paying a visit via Google to our rather small yet beautiful country placed on he shore of the Baltic Sea. If shortly to describe our place - loads of nature, people still pick berries and mushrooms in the woods :) We are used to it. It's becoming a trend again :) Here are few places to look up in Riga:
- Our Art Nouveau District or we call it Riga Quiet centre. You might look up on the map Elizabetes street 35, and then walk on Antonijas, Alberta Street.
- Old Town , called Vecrīga. Here a good starting point is Doma laukums, Central District, Riga, and walk though the streets like. There is an option to take an instant view @ Doma laukums, Riga, Latvia | Instant Google Street View
- Many find interesting to see one of the largest marketplaces in Eastern Europe and one of the most visited markets - Riga Central Market, Nēģu iela, Latgale Suburb, Riga
With best regards and hoping you enjoy the virtual walks though Riga :) And please do share , what did cought your attention.
Regina
What a Delightful dad story! I really enjoyed your helpful presentation🌈☺️
This video has an amazing flow to it that makes it very enjoyable and satisfying to watch. At no point did i find myself wanting to skip to the awnser to my question, but it helped that the answer was delivered so quickly :)
Glad you enjoyed it!
YES, !! THERE is different " nos" to different people. !! "
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Wonderful video as usual. Don’t know why I found this so hilarious! Much needed advice. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful, Z Shell-Thoms--and apparently funny (icing on the communication cake?)
@@TheWizardOfWords Indeed
Wow! This is becoming my favorite RUclips channel! 💗💖💕💖
Wonderful, and please stay tuned and please spread the word.
Communication training PLUS laughs AND a blooper reel !!! It doesn't get any better than Dan O'Connor!
Hi Angelica Schmitz ! Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment. i appreciate it and I look forward to hearing from you again soon.. 👋 Let me know if there's anything I can help with, and please keep in touch, OK? Thank you!
Dan, you are so funny too! And helpful- as a person who is always saying YES (yes so many useless causes that won't go anywhere), I am so grateful for this.
Happy to help, Shilakasim.
Omg….you are such a natural ….you crack me up!!! Also, thanks for great , awesome content. So helpful !
The broken record! Gold!
When I was growing up my mother used the broken record frequently and I lost whatever battle I was waging. Although I took it as a loss, I also took note of its effectiveness and that is why you see it in my teaching videos. Thanks Mom. You could be strict, but you were always right. DAMMITALL!!!
Love the humor. Keep up the great content.
Thanks Abhinav; please share the videos that have meaning for you.
Dan
Thank you. I needed this 20 years ago!
I absolutely needed these videos for work! Just bought one of your books, and I cannot wait to read it.
Thank you Jennt 🙂
Great advice!
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for watching and commenting!
Thanks for all the great techniques! You are super helpful and very funny too! You have a great attitude and positive outlook on life.You are a great inspiration! Will you be doing any live streams soon? Ive caught a couple a while back and enjoyed them immensely!
Hi Miranda: I am trying to find the time to do a live stream, and also trying to get a couple videos up each week, as well as work on new training programs. It's good to be busy but sometimes I don't get done what I would like to do!
Thank you for your coaching on saying “no.” I often want to help ppl and sometimes I overcommit. I know how to say “no,” but I underestimate the time and energy that it will take when I say “yes.” Could you possibly make a video about spreading oneself too thin?
What a gem! A nugget of knowledge. I always try to be liked and find it hard to say no.
I know what you mean, Mike; however, you'll be surprised that saying "no"won't affect your likeability factor. I PROMISE.
I have sent some of your greatest lessons to friends in Italy and Egypt as well as USA...you are awesome...
Thank you, Gigi. And that's what is meant by changing the global dialogue one conversation at a time. Together, we're doing it.
This is very helpful! Thank you very much!!! I’m sending you all the best!❤️
Hey dan
Your tips helped me when i was at work
I used the power phrase :i simply cant.
Which bloody closed the conversation..awesome content man keep going.😁👍
Thanks for letting me know, Tevita.
The humor you deliver in your message is hilarious! It also helps me to retain the information.
Thank you. My mother never thought I was funny. It damaged me for life. I AM JUST KIDDING!!! Well, I'm kidding about the damaged part :)
These are GREAT, I know just who I will be using these on
Happy to help, Shannon.
I always try to have a big heart and that makes me happily say yes almost all the time. You are right about the fact that me doing this teaches others the same. However, it has occurred to me that it isn't healthy for myself mentally and physically to say yes almost all the time. I am learning to love myself more now and it is showing a ripple effect on the people who are looking up to me as well. What you said is 100% true.
Sometimes you have to say No, and I hope I helped you formulate a way to do that mindfully.
My mom knew the power of 'BECAUSE!' and 'NO!' 😂😂 And she wielded them like a warrior.
Grey Poupon LOL
Mothers are natural teachers, and if we're lucky, they do it by example.
I love your content! This is probably my favorite thus far! Thanks for sharing! ❤🎉
Lmfaooooooo!!!!! That first situation was everything 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
:) :) :)
You'r videos are outstanding. Thank you!!
Thank you for your comment, Michelle, and please share these videos.
I love how you teach us to be assertive and tactful. Your videos boosts my confidence all the time. Thank you Dan!
My pleasure, Carol, and please pass these videos around when you have a chance.
@@TheWizardOfWords yes I definitely will share your videos with my friends. Keep up the great work!!
Thanks very much for another great video Dan
My pleasure, AmberK.
My biggest weakness. Thank you for this!!!
Happy to have helped, Sarah with an H.
Thanks very much Dan, this was a great video, very informative and fun to watch 👌
Glad you enjoyed it, Not So.
Wow, this is super helpful, thank you so much.
Favorite channel lately ❤️
👍 For the algorithm
Great. I hope you stick around for much more, Lily.
Dan
I wish I had listened to this before my meeting today. I feel like I struggle to advocate for myself.
Thank you for these video's, they are helpful when I am struggling with understanding communication with others.
You are so welcome, Xenedraa. :)
So helpful for my job✅
Fellow past Minnesotan, love your videos
Hi Luke. I am a past-Minnesotan, but my brother Marty is a current Saint Paulite. My links to Minnesota are strong. And boy do I miss Al Franken who helped my father get his veteran's benefits ASAP when we told Al my father was dying of cancer from Agent Orange in Viet Nam. What a guy . . . . He made a huge difference in the last two years of my father's life and I will be forever grateful.
This channel is sparkling gold!! 😍🤩
Hahahahaha how can you be so funny and educational?! Always great!
Thanks, Jerel. Now if you'd spread the word to your friends, I would be grateful. So would my mother. :)
Thanks Again;
for your Helpful Videos! !!!
My pleasure!
Thank you for this!
You're welcome, Naamerley!
This video is great and very relevant to what I struggle with. I lead a department and I am always saying yes but recently someone who was promoted to a high level position will email me late at night asking me to do a presentation for the next day which completely throws off my day. I block off my calendar but the individual fails to check it. I said no today but my anxiety is making me want to cancel my other appointment and lead the call because if I can't do it then it falls on a colleague of mine and I don't want my no to affect my colleague.
Brandon--learn to say NO to this guy, and your colleague will have to learn to say NO as well. Also, you might ask the individual to restrict emails to work hours. You shouldn't have to be checking your phone when you're at home, unless you are paid to do so. Does that mean you are always on call? I hope not.
you are amazing, thank you!!!! so helpful!
Dan great video some good advice really helpful and hope you got rid of that pesky fly 😄🦟
Thanks Jonathan, and he finally died of loneliness, I think.
Myself. My time, my support, my emotional engagement, and all to support them; yes, the particular them is a very important them in my life and my personal growth, but now that them is asking me to compromise my comfort, principles, and honestly not just my mental health, but the finite bit of physical health that I occasionally have. Balancing those two things SUCKS
MY work.! They refuse to look at our availabilities. When I applied for my job, had to let them know what days, time, shift wanted to work. I have worked with this Agency for over a year., and they are always ignoring my schedule and consistently bothering me to work more hours and is always interrupting my other job. This type of behavior has been stressful and hard to deal with. I feel like I'm dealing with two-year-olds or selfish people that cannot listen. I do try to be workable with them but sad to say, it never seems to help. They always expect more.
Brenda, you might tell them that you work two jobs and would REALLY appreciate it if they'd stick to the available times you both agreed to when you took the job.
There's only one Dan O'Connor. Great advice as usual 👍
Well there may be several, but my mother feels that one was more than enough.
@@TheWizardOfWords hehe, well if you were anything like my 3yr old when you were young, then I get where your mother is coming from 😂😉❤️
It is always a pleasure to sit and learn from you. 👍🏽
Thank you Liz. It's always a pleasure to hear that! :)