4 Steps to Mastering Your Emotions | Your Negative Attitude Blocks Your Blessings

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  • Опубликовано: 25 июл 2024

  • My GIRLS! I absolutely loved making this video for you, and I know it's going to help so many of you. To get what you want in life, to receive what you pray for, and to attract beautiful things into your life, you will need to learn to understand and control your emotions. The importance of controlling your emotions cannot be overstated. What is in your heart is the truth; you can consciously choose to think, 'I am grateful,' but until you feel grateful and your body is in that same state, you will not know the benefits of gratitude. To 'become,' your mind and body must be in the same state, meaning you have to think and feel abundant, successful, and grateful to then experience that in your life. The power of controlling your emotions lies in the ability to direct your thoughts and feelings towards positivity. When you gain control over your emotions, you can navigate through challenges with resilience and maintain a positive mindset.I genuinely hope you enjoy this video and that it brings you benefits in every possible way! Much love to you all! ✨🧚🏽‍♂️
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    ♡ Contents Of Video ♡
    00:00 - Intro
    00:44 - Why I made this video
    04:30 - “Just think positive” DOESN'T WORK
    05:49 - Why is this important?
    14:20 - How we get stuck in negative cycles
    20:14 - Proof that change is possible.. Even if it doesn't feel like it
    22:51 - Understand Emotions
    25:01 - How to control your emotions - 4 Steps
    34:11 - Benefits
    34:49 - Get out of a negative headspace
    39:43 - Outro
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Комментарии • 158

  • @ThatDopeChickErin
    @ThatDopeChickErin 6 месяцев назад +120

    I did this the other day! I got some “bad news”. Spoke to God about how I felt about it, cried and starting planning around an alternative solution (while crying lol) & there was a blessing right around that corner 🤗!

    • @divineexchange8006
      @divineexchange8006 5 месяцев назад +1

      Yeah what God say? How does God sound? Female voice man voice? I'm curious 🤔

    • @bentabuuhaa9132
      @bentabuuhaa9132 5 месяцев назад +8

      ليس كمثله شئ وهو سميع البصير،،،

  • @gwendolyn954
    @gwendolyn954 6 месяцев назад +80

    Yes! Rumination is so hard to deal with, but it’s important not to let those negative experiences prevent you from growing.

    • @shyanne5670
      @shyanne5670 4 месяца назад

      You lol like 😅👍🏽 love 💕😅ll😅😅😅ol😅😅😅😅lo😅😅lot o😅l😅😅l

  • @mayaa7396
    @mayaa7396 6 месяцев назад +35

    I used to be so ruled by my emotions… thank God for self realization 😌💕

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +3

      Yes yes yess!! I love this so much for us 🥹 it truley is freeing

  • @_Gontse
    @_Gontse 6 месяцев назад +30

    Finding your page is one of the best things that has happened to me this year, please don’t stop sharing your knowledge & wisdom. You have no idea how impactful & helpful it is ❤

  • @menaa22
    @menaa22 6 месяцев назад +33

    you’re so gorgeous allahumabarik, may Allah protect you from evil eye 💛

    • @ll-lx8in
      @ll-lx8in 11 дней назад +1

      Ameen ❤❤❤

  • @chhf08765
    @chhf08765 6 месяцев назад +35

    The fact that this video popped up in my feed seconds before I got out of iMessage ranting to my best friend about how hopeless I am about my life 🤣😭💀
    Bahja you are a hero habibti ✨

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +3

      I love you with all my heart 🥺 may Allah make it easy for you, never lose hope 🫂

  • @SMS7272
    @SMS7272 6 месяцев назад +12

    i want to recommend the book, 'the gap and the gain', which may be read to get more into depth about the topic tbh, but i find that if you implement this short belief into your daily life, that should be enough. so it essentially summarises to the idea that you need to measure your current self against the progress you have already made, going backwards in time. and not measuring yourself against your ideals, as this may lead to lack of motivation, burn out, self-doubt, etc. its honestly something that bahja has alr said but if anyone likes books, go ahead lol.

  • @destineypowell3647
    @destineypowell3647 6 месяцев назад +28

    Bahja never fails to come through with the perfect message! Exactly what I needed at the exact time I needed it! Thank you!❤

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +3

      all praise is due to god! how beautiful is it that so many of us needed to hear this same message 🥹🫶🏾

  • @xyzza
    @xyzza 5 месяцев назад +1

    Wrote 5 pages worth of notes on my journal while watching this because this time I really wanna change. I'll start with step 1 you mentioned. And yes journaling is the best thing I chose to do this year. I didn't start from the first day of January because of my studies, but I still did it. We also don't have to journal every single day. We can do it weekly depending on our time. But I'll make sure to make for myself 5-10 mins daily to feel better through journaling.

  • @loomsinator
    @loomsinator 6 месяцев назад +3

    I started monitoring and noticing my emotions and where they stemmed from. I started journaling it out and I have noticed such a difference already. For some it may take time but it is an amazing feeling. Jazakallah Bahja for these amazing videos! Your my number one fave RUclipsr at this point. Learnt so much from you. May Allah (s.w.t) continue to bless you so that you may flourish and continue to help us flourish and grow. ❤

  • @manelbouaziz2478
    @manelbouaziz2478 6 месяцев назад +8

    You are a blessing, that's exactly what i was dealing with today, i go home and you're talking about exactly what I was feeling, I'm so grateful for you

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +1

      🥺 I'm so glad this is what you needed, I'm grateful for youuu! And I pray Allah makes your journey easier 🤍

  • @keaishahd9920
    @keaishahd9920 6 месяцев назад +13

    God is so strategic. He been on me heavy lately about this & working on becoming emotionally mature & i unintentionally ended up stumbling across this video. like this is real good. sooo perfectly said !! 🫶🏾🫶🏾

  • @soulmatesis1
    @soulmatesis1 6 месяцев назад +7

    These are the khutbah we all needed.

  • @xyzza
    @xyzza 5 месяцев назад

    Watching this and taking notes rn 📝. I'm half-way through this and I gotta say thank you girlll❤

  • @Unejemenfoutiste
    @Unejemenfoutiste 5 месяцев назад +1

    This video open my eyes on how i can mastering my emotions becaus;e.Every single time when i was mad,people keep saying to me:Oh,focus on yourself,oh you are too sensitive,oh just think positive.But i didnt know how to doing this.I will follow this steps tysm may Allah bless you!

  • @mystiqueday-ge7ie
    @mystiqueday-ge7ie 6 месяцев назад +1

    may Allah continue to bless you, you don’t know what your words did my heart and soul. thank you so much bahja ❤

  • @Dp_modesty
    @Dp_modesty 6 месяцев назад

    This video is EVERYTHING

  • @PhetogoNoore
    @PhetogoNoore 6 месяцев назад

    The timing of this❤

  • @Dp_modesty
    @Dp_modesty 6 месяцев назад +1

    Alhamdulillah I’m so happy I found your RUclips. I literally have to rewatch this video because subhanAllah this is me.. JazakAllah Khair

  • @user-zv5rb5hy9j
    @user-zv5rb5hy9j 6 месяцев назад

    Thanks Bahja sm for posting videos walahi you don’t understand how much mentally they help me may Allah reward you ❤

  • @MariamKamara.
    @MariamKamara. 6 месяцев назад +5

    As always thank you for the words of advice ! One that really stuck out to me was around 18mins when you spoke about how the same situation will keep happening until you choose to react differently. I never thought of things that way and now I will try and be more mindful when I’m in certain situations because I will remember it’s a test, honestly it was truly an eye opener thank you ❤️❤️

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад

      I love this and I'm glad that stuck out to you 🥹🫂

  • @icecream2290
    @icecream2290 6 месяцев назад

    bahja always speaks the truth! a godsend ❤

  • @f.fhr0
    @f.fhr0 6 месяцев назад +2

    Bahjaaa your glowing too much Allahumma Barik 😫😫🙌🏻 your honestly exploding positive energy through out this whole video. Love you bahja!! your so loved :)) ❤️❤️🫶🏻

  • @user-xn1xr8gn9k
    @user-xn1xr8gn9k 6 месяцев назад +1

    Bahja i must say you blow me away in each video with ur knowledge,beauty and passion. Your a true role model for me as ur not only muslim but somali too. I really love your channel and vibe we love you bahja

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад

      I love you more 🥹🫶🏾

  • @mirandarios2437
    @mirandarios2437 6 месяцев назад

    Needed this so much!!! Love you

  • @JP-mb3td
    @JP-mb3td 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you habibti for this video. I came across it in suggested and after a tiring day it was what I needed to hear 🙌🏽

  • @YoHLaNG
    @YoHLaNG 6 месяцев назад

    Helllooo I’ve needed this sooo much, thank you so much Bahja ❤

  • @Noname11196
    @Noname11196 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you Bahja truly great advices and growth 😊

  • @tarynrattliff
    @tarynrattliff 3 месяца назад

    I needed to hear this and you came in a way that I needed to hear this. Thanks sis

  • @aylaa4774
    @aylaa4774 Час назад

    This is a great video. Thank you. 🌸

  • @aishaabdirahman1510
    @aishaabdirahman1510 6 месяцев назад +1

    We’re so proud of you abayo❤

  • @menaa22
    @menaa22 6 месяцев назад +1

    needed this video ep 2 of adulting 🥳 thanks babe!!

  • @nocymaduba6523
    @nocymaduba6523 5 месяцев назад

    Love and Love your content ❤

  • @SoulBey
    @SoulBey 5 месяцев назад +2

    This is so good I’m going to watch it until I get this concept habitually

  • @SabinaBinche
    @SabinaBinche 4 месяца назад

    Thank you!

  • @xyzza
    @xyzza 5 месяцев назад

    Bahja, you opened my eyes on sooo many things with one video.

  • @munafaisal6775
    @munafaisal6775 5 месяцев назад

    mashallah Abayo i really appreciated this segment it just ignited a sense of change in me! ive been quite stagnant and delayed in achieving specific goals

  • @user-th8zj2yv2d
    @user-th8zj2yv2d 6 месяцев назад +1

    The way you never fail to convince and change my mind is understandable. i really believe that this will change my mind and help me with my emotions. may Allah keep blessing you

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  5 месяцев назад

      Allahumma ameen. You absolutely can, may Allah make it easy for you my love 🥹🩷

  • @LillyVibes
    @LillyVibes 6 месяцев назад

    I needed to hear this today

  • @ntombisiro
    @ntombisiro 6 месяцев назад +2

    The guilt of not being okay🙁

  • @aj__love5919
    @aj__love5919 5 месяцев назад

    We can do this, we will do this, and we will Succeed 💫♥️ JazakAllah Bahja! Boost goes a long way and I love all your advice

  • @Wendy-gc1vf
    @Wendy-gc1vf 3 месяца назад

    Needed that AGAIN 😊

  • @Arielannee
    @Arielannee 6 месяцев назад

    Came across this video at the perfect time. I’ve been working through releasing my negative mindset for a while now but I was feeling stuck and this video gave me the clarity I needed💕✨

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  5 месяцев назад

      I'm sooo glad! All praise is due to god, he always sends you the right things at the right time. I'm rooting for you love 🥹🫶🏾

  • @lovelylavendertea4714
    @lovelylavendertea4714 6 месяцев назад

    thank you for all your hard work love

  • @tyjuannarudd2661
    @tyjuannarudd2661 6 месяцев назад

    yes,,, Thank you

  • @blueblingnails8538
    @blueblingnails8538 5 месяцев назад

    First time watching 💕😊 LOVED YOUR ADVICE! Subscribe

  • @atiyahpetersen3137
    @atiyahpetersen3137 5 месяцев назад

    I needed this

  • @Wendy-gc1vf
    @Wendy-gc1vf 3 месяца назад

    Thank you I needed that ❤

  • @munaibamahmood5519
    @munaibamahmood5519 6 месяцев назад +6

    This was such a perfect video that I was looking for to help me with my mindset and emotions. You honestly couldn't have put it better. Thank you Bahja. May Allah continue to bless you in all ways. Allahhumma Ameen

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +1

      Allahumma ameeen! My heart is so full 🥹🩷

  • @ghadvtbasydufgaw5680
    @ghadvtbasydufgaw5680 6 месяцев назад +1

    EVERYTHING I NEED AND MORE

  • @Luvhy4
    @Luvhy4 5 месяцев назад

    I love your videos Bahja ❤️ I needed thisssss Thank you

  • @jessicamontoya_d
    @jessicamontoya_d 6 месяцев назад

    Thank You Bahja!

  • @Istahil1
    @Istahil1 6 месяцев назад +2

    Loved your videos so much they're all so informative, that nowadays i don't even need to read titles click and watch 😇🥰

  • @thelightoftrinity
    @thelightoftrinity 5 дней назад

    thankh you for this video sis

  • @shamilahahmed
    @shamilahahmed 5 месяцев назад

    Bahja girl your videos are saving my life 🥹. May Allah keep your sweet soul blessed and in abundance 💗

  • @healwmimi
    @healwmimi 6 месяцев назад +4

    Bahja I love your style ma shaa Allah. please do a video of how you’ve landed to your current fashion sense. how do we find our personal style? what helped you, etc! help us out 💝

  • @Joaaribah
    @Joaaribah 6 месяцев назад

    😊 I was not expecting this video tonight lol i was the crew waiting for it to drop at 6 ❤

  • @healwmimi
    @healwmimi 6 месяцев назад +6

    Bahja you are such an amazing girl. I pray Allah always covers and protects you from every harm and evil in this world. you change my life and inspire me to work through my uglies so I can show up as the best version of myself every day 🥺 may Allah continue to bless you abaayo 🩷

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад

      Allahumma ameen 🥹 this comment makes me so emotional! I'm so so proud of you. May Allah protect and guide you and may he bless you endlessly. Ameen ya raab 🩷🩷

  • @saywhaaanisa5427
    @saywhaaanisa5427 5 месяцев назад

    Love the neuroplasticity concept!!!

  • @user-mi3cp6cp5q
    @user-mi3cp6cp5q 6 месяцев назад

    Congrats on 100k sweetheart ❤🎉

  • @nadhiasaleh9426
    @nadhiasaleh9426 6 месяцев назад

    JazakAllah khairun sis xxx

  • @blueblingnails8538
    @blueblingnails8538 5 месяцев назад

    I have watched the same video 3x already 🙌🏽❤️

  • @Judy122550
    @Judy122550 6 месяцев назад

    God a lot of times only gives us what we need not what we want ! Wanting those things & we do not get them we learn what is most important it is not the material things in life that makes us happy ! I found your channel thru Remi Clog I am a new subscriber Have a lovely day !

  • @izy2302
    @izy2302 5 месяцев назад

    This video made me feel relieved!!!

  • @Nasrasheikh_12
    @Nasrasheikh_12 6 месяцев назад

    Thanks byo it's really helpful nd beautiful ❤❤much appreciated ❤❤

  • @SiyanSonda-jq9ls
    @SiyanSonda-jq9ls 5 месяцев назад

    This is very useful thanks

  • @hannanmohamed6920
    @hannanmohamed6920 6 месяцев назад

    I’ve meaning to fix it and I just didn’t how and when I needed the most❤

  • @DedeAbdeena-we4ws
    @DedeAbdeena-we4ws 17 дней назад

    Listening to you always feels great and empowering

  • @Bekind-ve8vu
    @Bekind-ve8vu 6 месяцев назад +5

    Masha Allah. I'm absolutely thrilled to see you again with a great topic. Your modesty, mindset and also your manners are incredible. May Allah prevent you all bad things insha Allah.
    Btw, you look somalis by appearance, and your name sounds like somalis lool. Are you somali?

  • @Deby_xxo
    @Deby_xxo 6 месяцев назад

    You’re really an impact ❤

  • @bintibinti30
    @bintibinti30 5 месяцев назад

    HI HI! New here…This came onto my fyp and I needed to hear this. Thank you for this beautiful. May Allah reward you for these beautiful words you’re sharing with us. 💖

  • @xyzza
    @xyzza 5 месяцев назад

    I also pray for your success❤

  • @Lifeptsd
    @Lifeptsd 5 месяцев назад

    YOU JUST FILLED A LANE NO ONE HAD

  • @user-ff7hq1fg5v
    @user-ff7hq1fg5v 6 месяцев назад

    Allahummah bhareek 😊❤

  • @atiyahpetersen3137
    @atiyahpetersen3137 5 месяцев назад

    Jzk ghairan sister I appreciate your content ❤❤

  • @24sunsetss
    @24sunsetss 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for making this video, I was hoping you touch on this subject! Trying to get out of a negative mode of being is challenging but with the steps you've shared, I can see it's very much possible to transform into a positive person. Thank you so much again, this was very much needed ❤

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +1

      Baby steps and I promise you'll get there, I'm so glad you found this video helpful 🥺 feel free to reach out with topics you'd like for me to cover, I'm always so happy to hear from y'all 🫂

  • @chinwemueller6535
    @chinwemueller6535 4 месяца назад

    This was a fantastic video. Perfect timing for getting out of an emotional slump.

  • @Ryanlynn222
    @Ryanlynn222 6 месяцев назад

    Love this needed this ❤ your so beautiful keep being you

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад

      Awe thank you sooo much angel 🩷

  • @aminatule2614
    @aminatule2614 6 месяцев назад

    Love your videos mashallah ❤

  • @Skethit
    @Skethit 5 месяцев назад

    Ty sooooooooooo much

  • @lovefromsidd9896
    @lovefromsidd9896 6 месяцев назад +1

    I love love you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom gal❤❤

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад

      I luv luv luvvv you moreeee

  • @Ramla22
    @Ramla22 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you I needed to hear this today may Allah bless you ❤

  • @hikmahsultan
    @hikmahsultan 5 месяцев назад

    Yeah thank you luv may allah bless you sis❤

  • @amina2072
    @amina2072 6 месяцев назад

    How is it your videos appear when I need it the most 😊

  • @Aisha_Manate
    @Aisha_Manate 6 месяцев назад +3

    Bahjaaayyyy u speak to my soul and i swear i just count the days of when u gonna post next, naa alaha ku barakeeyo oo qayrkaa haka saraysiiyo laandheere ayad tahay anagana wad nadhaqaajise🤍

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад

      Allahumma ameen. Thank you soo so much for the kind words and constant support 🥹 may Allah allow us to heal and grow together, ameen 🫂

  • @FatmaaAmour-cm9lf
    @FatmaaAmour-cm9lf 6 месяцев назад +2

    Am from Tanzania and it's 05:34 and this video you'll bahja made my day ❤

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +2

      Awee I'm sending you all my love 🥹🫶🏾

  • @saf.081
    @saf.081 6 месяцев назад

    your hijab in this looks immaculte by the way, and I love the new featuring jacket you showed us before xx

  • @user-ko6gc8nl3r
    @user-ko6gc8nl3r 6 месяцев назад +1

    Hi sisy doin great. Can we get a video on how to script our dream self or WT ever we desire.. and hope u hit 100k before Jan💥✨

  • @AzeezahAlshaair-to9wu
    @AzeezahAlshaair-to9wu 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you sis! I needed this! I love you for the sake of Allah! Allahuma Barik❤

    • @BahjaAbdi
      @BahjaAbdi  6 месяцев назад +1

      I love you so much more for the sake of Allah 🥹🫂

    • @AzeezahAlshaair-to9wu
      @AzeezahAlshaair-to9wu 6 месяцев назад

      @@BahjaAbdi 🫶🏽🫶🏽

  • @periria1414
    @periria1414 6 месяцев назад

    It is very difficult to constantly control, shift your thought and focus. And even harder to do so with emotions. But it’s definitely the most important thing.

  • @Cecred586
    @Cecred586 6 месяцев назад

    You going through something right now & still posting ; THIS IS FLAT INSPIRATION, THIS IS RAW ~Dir. DR. Jerusalem Lung

  • @fauziahassan-sg1il
    @fauziahassan-sg1il 6 месяцев назад

    Can we all appreciate how good she looks mashallah. I love ur abaya, can you give me some advice on how to discipline my NAF?

  • @MrsIceTea93
    @MrsIceTea93 5 месяцев назад

    you look amazing (:

  • @Sochima393
    @Sochima393 2 месяца назад

    I love you so much ❤

  • @unicornisland7918
    @unicornisland7918 6 месяцев назад +3

    In Bahja we trust wow❤️Amazing video spitting gems for us all once again😭
    I love when you edit & write down the key points on the screen it’s so helpful I be using them down as journal prompts.
    P.s. Day 22 of journaling going strong, it’s literallyy the best🌚

  • @xyzza
    @xyzza 5 месяцев назад

    28:03 your starting point is my starting point too

  • @Salma0704
    @Salma0704 5 месяцев назад

    I know when it comes to bad days or when I’m haveing a hard time I can just write my feelings down to get it off of my chest, but how about everyday things (other than journaling about how I’m feeling and what I’m thinking about)

  • @sm4907
    @sm4907 6 месяцев назад

    Your outfits always slay allahuma barik!! Where is your abaya from btw

  • @junienosile2017
    @junienosile2017 6 месяцев назад

    Just started investing in my business and I’m trying hard to trust in God and believe in him

  • @naemacali4685
    @naemacali4685 6 месяцев назад +2

    Bahja pls u need to have ur own podcast girls actually need to hear this u are healer may allah protct u from evil eye and may allah bless u sweetheart ❤🙏🙏keep up what u are doing for our sisters out there