@@Dream.fm3 Imagine two people have a cold. one person has a sore throat, the other doesn't. one person tells the other that they're lying about having a sore throat because they have a cold but their throat is fine. that's you right now.
@@travisgoesthere Try lack of dopamine responses in the brain. You know the chemical imbalance that is caused by ADHD? Our brains struggle because they don't always work the same way.
The Bible is truth. The key is genuinely opening your heart and forgiving others. Please read at least three books of the Bible, Genesis Mathew and one you chose yourself. Jesus Christ is the way truth and life’
Where the hell did this young lady come from? It's not just the level of self-awareness that she has, it's her ability to articulate all the scenarios and traumas that people like us have to deal with. If I wasn't addicted to it, I would quit therapy and just watch her all the time❤❤
Im clinically diagnosed ADHD and I've never thought of it like this, but its 101% spot on. Like sometimes i rationalize it with procrastination but otherwise its just "preform the basic task that will take five seconds and solve a great deal of problems for you immediately" and my brain is like "no. I dont want to."
I have a hard time understanding this. I procrastinate a lot but I don’t think it is anything like this. I think I may just lack the discipline necesarry do something that is not absolutely necesarry in that moment. But I feel like if I try I can become more disciplined or I can stop consuming content that absolutely destroys my dopamine receptors making everything else unrewarding. Would these steps not also help for a person with ADHD? Is there really no way you can do something that you do not want to do?
I literally have to will myself 😭😭😭it's like ik I can do it but I don't have it in me to actually carry out the task until Im able to. For instance I'm great at math, but if u catch me in that moment I can't do simple calculations
@@crownedking_cj8890 sucks don't it . I also get side tracked easily like the amount of times I over Flow the sink at work good thing we clean the floor with a hose anyway 😜
my brain be like that, instead of replying the text and mails i need, i instead venture my self in solving engineering problems, quantum math, and commenting on youtube videos
❤ y'all are my ppl now ha I'm not sure if it's good that I personally felt a tiny better upon reading this and our quantum equation cohort and my new friend that's also lost friends to possibly the "reply text fully just sitting as a draft for a week cause I didn't hit send?!?! Again?!" 🥺I feel you and I still feel bad...but thanks for this y'all. I'm going to send a new reply on this one comment every day for the next 10 days...just to see how I do ha is this okay w u guy?
No one has ever understood why I can’t do things at times. I say ‘my brain won’t let me’ and they think I’m mad. I didn’t even understand it until 38 when I was diagnosed and stated to learn about it from other ADHD people!! Thanks for sharing, it’s so helpful xx
I take 90mg of adderall every day and it has changed my life, went from Straight F’s to Straight A’s and college classes while in high school, it was also gave my determination to finish my 60 pound weight loss journey, and I run on 2 hours of sleep a night ( because I work til 2am) but the adderall makes it so 2 hours of sleep is enough, I feel great actually!
@@clickbaitpolice1750 it’s basically saying try to turn a put your hand on the building stove you could but you just don’t and it’s saying that’s what it feels like to do simple tasks with ADHD. You know you can but you just don’t bring yourself to do it.
I'm in the same boat. When you've been told all of your life you're worthless and lazy and then you learn its not your fault, it's incredibly difficult to let go of those thoughts and replace them with new ones.
@clickbaitpolice1750 basically It's like ADHD Is about turning off Ur brain goin nighty night 🌙 meaning U want something It says we should watch Tv U want food U play games It skips the steps of okay let's do something then goes to sleep 😑
You see, the worst part about ADHD paralysis is there's no external indicator that you are trying. I will be having a mental war with myself trying to get up to do my homework and on the outside I'm just scrolling RUclips or something. You wouldn't know, so you would just think I was being lazy
Whenever something has the potential to be stressful, I often just can't make myself do it and have to be philosophical about it, feeling unhappy about not doing it NOW but knowing I will when I can.
@@whatgoesaroundcomesaround920 Absolutely yes. It's hard to accept, but it at least gives the feeling of hope if I can convince myself that I'm not procrastinating.
I am so happy to have found videos like these because until I even considered that I might have ADHD(waiting to get an appointment for a diagnosis) I just thought I was failing at being a basic human. It’s the worst feeling ever. Now I use videos like these to help explain to my mom what I’m experiencing
Same. Probably should go get a therapist and meds or whatever. I did see a therapist once for unrelated stuff and it was sooo uncomfortable. I just pretended I was perfectly fine for a year till she signed the papers I needed. I feel like tv show therapy, lying on the couch staring at the ceiling would be way better for being honest and talking than sitting in chairs and having to make eye contact. Not even a table inbetween us. How is anybody comfortable with that? Also i want to speak in English, English is so much better for talking about your feelings than my native language. Also my native language skills kinda deteriorated cause I do way too much stuff in English. Urgh. Maybe some day
U know what I am not diagnosed with ADHD but after watching this I feel I need to get tested. I already have nearly every other symptom of ADHD and this is just wow. It’s so accurate. My dad is always shouting at me for not doing things like tidying but in the tidying scenario I just can’t do it. It is impossible and when I try to explain it I say my brain won’t let me. :)
@@claraberg1214 yup. Today I manage to get myself to go buy water for the house and cook lunch, but the one thing I been telling my self to do (seep my room) I just exhausted myself for the day and for tomorrow it is
I say I can do it and then I never do cause I’m like nah actually I can’t I just hyped myself up for no reason and then randomly 1 or 5 years later I’m just do it for no reason
The induction stove in the video only burns metal, you can touch it for 10 minutes without being burned. not many people know this, mostly because people dont try it out 😂
Your videos are brilliant and so helpful for people family members trying to understand the ADHD brain. Thank you so much for all the work you put into making these.
anyone else be laying on the couch and you need to get up and you’re just like “okay what if i get up NOW” and just keep doing that but never actually get up
I don’t have ADHD but this is exactly what it feels like on one of my preoccupied bad depressive days. I stay in bed for hours and can’t fathom leaving bed, eating food, or doing anything. Not even something fun like playing a game, turning on a movie or drawing. I just can’t function
I feel you. Depression can be understand only by those who have experience it. People that didn't have it are clueless, even with all the knowledge on the palm of their hands
yeah, depression can do this too. My brother had (and still suffers a bit from) depression and I noticed that a lot. Unfortunately, as the middle child, my parents were quick to jump at him for ‘sitting instead of doing’
OMG, I haven't had my Adderall for 6 months. My new Dr refuses to prescribe it to me - I am 67 yo. It has been horrible. I can't get motivated to make phone calls to schedule appts, wash my dishes; I just turn off the alarm and go back to sleep, so I miss appts. I am a mess. I am seeing a new Dr so, I hope he will work with me. I am so glad to have come across this video...I couldn't describe it...I can use this. Thank you so much!!
I'm hoping the new doctor will work out for you. It should be malpractice if a doctor refuses to prescribe a medication that you've had before, and that worked well and is for the condition that you are diagnosed with - especially when you so obviously *need it* to function properly. I've had the same thing happen to me, but with Xanax. I've been taking it since I was 17, and without it I can't get out of bed because of *crippling* anxiety, suicidal ideations, paranoia and panic attacks. I can't shower. I can't eat. I can't meet people. I isolate myself. And then I got a new doctor who thought I shouldn't take it anymore. And I became a mess. It became 1 year in hell, completely isolated from the world (except my wonderful contact people at the Norwegian social services who came by with food and just to help me clean and stuff) until I got help to find a new doctor who understood that because of my complex PTSD, depression, Borderline personality disorder, panic attacks and extreme anxiety I simply cannot function without it. Together with my new doctor and my contact people in the Social Services we sent in a complaint against the doctor who took me off a medication that has saved my life (literally) since I was 17 (I'm 33 now). The doctor who refused to keep prescribing it knew my diagnoses, and heard from all of my contact people in Social Services here in Norway + my therapist, they told him how I didn't function without it, couldn't go out, eat, shower, sleep, nothing. But he still refused. So, it'll be "fun" to see what the medical board will say with all the evidence of his negligence towards me.
i wa without my meds for 3 weks and i wanted to eat nails. i cant imagine 6 months!!!! hope ur new doctor listens to you. good luck . tell us how it goes!!
im 62 and find once you get to a certain age..around 60..doctors treat you differently in terms of the meds theyre willing to prescribe. It does make you mad becuz at this point in my life i know what works better than some doctor half my age lol! Ive never tried Adderall. Im wondering how that would work for me. i have bad anxiety and fibro as well and take Cymbalta. Anyhow good luck ❤❤
there is a HUGE adderall and other ADHD med shortage everywhere in the world right now. it includes almost all ADHD medications. that might be the main contributor to why its super hard to get prescriptions, even just refills of already prescribed medication. they only want to prescribe to extreme risk patients, however sometimes doctors suck and want you to get in and out and never have to see them again. sorry you had that experience with your doctor. i myself just got a new doctor and i was finally listened to for the FIRST time in my life by a doctor! i got a very rare diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome super fast after i started seeing my new doctor and all i had to do was explain the same symptoms i have been for probably a decade now! good luck!
You dont know how many times my mother called me lazy when I was at school. This video makes me feel so much better. I am still not diagnosed, but I have other health issues that need to be dealt with first.
The most unrealistic part is that they apologised and understood lmao Everyone I know even the teachers and all know I have ADHD yet they’re like “just focus harder” “try more” HOW DID YOU THINK I SURVIVED UNTIL NOW??? IM TRYING MY HARDEST ALREADY
@@TrosheeWasTaken okay let me explain a way that adhd effects me so i have adhd and ocd and my ocd wants my room to be clean so i try my hardest to get that done but my adhd says no we are going to do this instead and so then its a never ending cycle of i need to clean my room and i want to clean my room buuut i could do this first and then its just a fight with myself and i get so drained that by the time that i can actually do anything im to exhausted to do anything and then i just start to panic about what I didn’t get done and it is the most overwhelming thing ever so dont say “just try harder“ because you dont know how much we want to get the thing done and how much we fight with our OWN brain to do it we already try our hardest but when people start saying stuff like “try harder” or “why cant you just get it done” then it makes us feel like we are just useless or at least thats how it is for me
@@TrosheeWasTaken yk things u don't understand, you shouldn't comment on you think he/she isnt trying? i have adhd and i can literally get distracted just by staring at a wall and i cant "try harder" to focus cuz I JUST CAN'T DO IT so maybe next time, don't comment shit if u dont understand stuff
How bad is it that I have adhd but I would still touch the hot burner for 100 bucks. Personally I could overcome anything for money but that's cause I'm broke af lol. Only issue is nobody offers me 100 bucks to do those tasks like clean 😭
@clickbaitpolice1750: She’s trying to portray what it’s like when someone with ADHD struggles to get to a task. The so-called “procrastination” is actually involuntary-even if they know they should and are capable-almost like an invisible force stopping them. The hot stove analogy was an odd comparison to draw from.
@@LM-is2ry it was odd for sure because why would anyone wanna put their hand on a hot stove? This sounds more like intrusive thoughts than it does ADHD.
@clickbaitpolice1750: 😄 You’re so right! That’s exactly what it sounds like. It’s like telling someone to jump in front of a moving vehicle, and they respond with, “I would, but I have ADHD.”
Normal scenario; I have to write a reply to someone in a conversation on discord. And that is how I cleaned 5 years of trash from my bedroom. Still need to write that 1 sentence reply to "how are you doing today?" Spend 10 hours sitting on my bed doing nothing, occasionally trying to fornulate ny reply to them. 2 weeks pass and I finally get the energy to send "gud, u?"
I thought there was something horribly wrong with me and I was the only one, I had so much shame over not being able to reply to emails, posts, etc. and being extremely overwhelmed the more people I have to reply to.
@@jw5386 Yup, I got a cavity because I'm not brushing often enough, but now I can't even call the dentist to make an appointment because of my fucking weird brain...
so are we all crying now? i didn't realize there was a name for this and it sucks because i know im not trying to be lazy, or not eat and im not trying to fail the semester on purpose :(
@@nicowithrow4390 this is littarly Me, I’ve been having adhd paralysis for like 2 years straight, it’s so exhausting, no one understands, like no I don’t lack motivation, nor am I lazy, like people don’t understand and it’s so frustrating.
At first I was gonna try and make a point of "Yeah, but you're aware that touching the burner will cause physical pain." Then I realized that paralysis causing you to avoid important tasks (for example, in my case, filing documents or making phone calls and meeting deadlines) will also have bad consequences. And it STILL doesn't make it easier to bring yourself to do. So, I understand this scenario 😂😭
@@Waterenjoyer1308 they are privileged adhd that's why lol I know cause I was a privileged adhd. I could sit around and be lazy and usually was able to get away with it. once you start going hunger for your choices you start to help your adhd brain to do what needs to be done lol 😂😂😂
I'm 35 and had undiagnosed ADHD for a huge part of my life and stuff like this makes me feel so seen and understood, to myself as well - I'm still learning about this neurodivergence, that I actually teared up.
*Exact* SaMe HeRe ->> had Never even given ADHD//ADD a second thought at *any* point in my life, but since I was a child I’ve been called “scatterbrained” // “lazy” // “rebellious” {ok, that last one is still *kinda* true 😆} due to the fact I *CONSTANTLY* Lose [every-] things, CONSTANTLY forget things [from recent conversations to important deadlines, from things I *needed* at the store to an ENTIRE LoaD of clothes at the laundromat - I mean, *HoW* ⁉️ I’m obsessed w my clothes, How does that even Happen?!?! 😂😫] & am RaReLy focused on something I’m doing long enough to get it Done… on the contrary, my mind will be going a hundred miles an hour about everything BUT the task at hand. 🙄 At some point in the last year, a “you could have this disorder if -“ came on a commercial as I was ‘watching’ something {honestly I was distracted aF, just happened to be listening} and I just *froze* for a few seconds….. was suddenly like a lightbulb💡went off, I even nudged my husband {who is a notorious skeptic} and even HE raised an eyebrow and said “🤨 y’Know…. That *Would* make a Lot of sense.” Since I’ve been researching all I can on the topic, and suddenly all my daily-struggles begin to make a little sense… still learning about it myself {AND how to deal with it}, but I’m hesitant to get a legitimate diagnosis simply bc the *only* medicine I’ve ever heard being used for ADD//ADHD, is an amphetamine - which is *not* something I personally believe will help me out at all.
@@PixelatedGypsythat’s how i felt at first too BUT specialists do prescribe stuff bc it works- so yes do your own research, but also don’t close off the idea that meds can legitimately balance the dopamine in your brain so you can complete your to-do list in a reasonable manner. also adderall isn’t the only medication for adhd if you still don’t like that. def talk to a doctor about it.
Im 43. Same. Got a diagnosis about 5 years ago. Meds help but they arent a cure-all. I was recommended to look at executive functioning coaches. Apparently thats a big thing nowadays. And ive been seeing vids like this one that completely reflect what Ive been dealing with for my entire life, with no clue that there are so many others out there just like me.
@Azimuth10000 I resonate with that totatlly! I'm 34 and just got dianosed (type 3), and it's nice to have community that understands the struggles and sees you for who you are instead of the explanations that seem like excuses!
56 here, diagnosed at 33, still struggling. Tried medications back then, not effective. I went to a CBT group and the most helpful thing was hearing how closely others' experiences mirrored mine. Knowing your not alone is priceless.
I had to tell my doctor that I am crying over the fact that I cannot force myself to work and am afraid of losing my job at this rate before actually giving me meds. When I tried to explain in a very mild manner before, they thought it wasn't that bad 🫠🫠🫠
@@lilmary110522 I put an underscore before and after the word I want italicized. The only thing you have watch out for is punctuation. It has to go inside the underscores, so if a word has a comma or a period make sure it is inside the underscores. You can use an * around words to make them *bold,* and use - to -strikethrough- the text.
Thank you so much for this. It's so bad that even things I REALLY REALLY want or need to do are impossible. Like getting ice cream from the freezer, or using the bathroom.
literally i will put off peeing for hours and i don’t even understand why, and i just sit there feeling painfully thirsty for hours instead of just going to get a drink really fast. why???????
@Ken Harris me too! Or on the toilet, or in the shower, sometimes literally standing in the shower with the water off! It's like someone put my avatar on pause!
Same. Age and everything. Those of us that are a bit older were at best put into programs to shuffle us along while explaining nothing. Some weird form of institutional gaslighting.
I can get pretty overwhelmed sometimes and I feel stuck like I can’t work on anything. Like my brain just shuts down and rejects whatever I need to work on.
Especially since she said "even if you just graze it." Certainly possible to do. Honestly this video is a bad example. Just makes it look like ADHD paralysis is very much possible to overcome with some mental strength, dicipline and a hint of stupidity.
My mother thought I was lazy or defiant. She would scream at me to do chores and homework. But on days she wasn't home I could do my tasks (out of order, and sloppy) but they got done.
I literally have like a lot of projects at school but my mind just says BYEBYE! When I try doing them.... It's like it HATES ME ABSOLUTELY!!!! I was able to do some of them but here I am again.... With one song to record, one brochure to do, notes to take, review for upcoming exams and oof it's overwhelming yet I don't wanna do anything at the same time because I just don't FEEL like doing it.... can someone tell me what's goin on??? Also does not help that I am one perfectionist alright.... (😃😃😀)
That's so real, like I have ADHD and sometimes I get ADHD paralysis when I'm supposed to brush my hair and I always get in trouble when I do that but my parent doesnt believe I have a mental disorder and always blames it on devices or "just being a kid". Same thing in school when I "couldn't" do my hand written work.
i come back to this video every few weeks, to help myself and give myself the reassurance that somebody understands EXACTLY TO THE DOT ...when people around me try to understand but aren't able to properly comprehend what it is :(
Normally one trick works on me. Maybe it helps you too: I try not to think about the awful thing that im gonna do for just a minute and ask myself do you manage to get off your bed and just stand up within 10 seconds? And then after i managed the first step i give myself the next challenge which is entering 10 minutes in my alarm just for planning exaclty what im gonna do (i love planning stuff so its not a big deal and motivates me a lot). After planning is done every task seems a little more managable since it contains small steps. Of course i plan a certain time for every task in which i try to finish one step (works like magic. Im way more focused if i know that i only have 10 minutes to do something). The whole thing doesnt work always becouse i tend to forget the time or trick myself by saying ‚nahh you still have 3 hours left to do your work and you could still stay awake longer’ or ‚I cant do it yet just lets watch one last video‘ or i get distracted during my work or something. But try it out anyway
@@relaxolotl834 Thank you so much for your suggestions! While I experience some of those very same things, I was referring to an inability to actually move and finish getting ready when I am going somewhere, even if it's pleasant. For some reason my body just wants to move really slowly, and I can't make decisions, and it takes me twice as long to do whatever I need to do to get out the door. It's a paralysis of some kind, but I don't know how to address it.
But it is not a fear of harm keeping you still, like the girl trying to touch the hot stove. She can't make herself do it for fear of being burned. ADHD paralysis doesn't keep you from doing things because you may get hurt, it's a neurological disfunction. This video is highly inaccurate.
The trick that always helps me clean my house is having an important looming deadline for something completely unrelated to cleaning my house. 10/10 never fails to get me cleaning.
heyy my gf has ADHD- idk how I can help her start studying, I know she wants to and I know she's very smart but she has to study for a very important exam... Idk how I can help her with it- she's just not able to start and I know it's not her fault
I wish I could send this to literally every person I know because no one understands Edit: thanks for the likes and I want to say that if you guys are gonna argue about this at least do your research because some of you guys don’t even know what ADHD stands for
Bro same I've been sitting at my table trying to do my schoolwork for 8 hours now but I've only gotten 5 sheets of work done and it's a huge struggle since my Adderall meds wore off 🤠
I love this explanation, makes it easier to be nicer to myself. Just like our bodies have difficulty regulating attention, emotions, etc, it makes sense that our protective instincts might not regulate well either. It takes away the "I'm failing to do X, I suck" and makes it "Oh brain, you are misfiring again. That is not a lion, the floor is not lava." I think when we try to make ourselves do stuff, the brain just doubles down on the "I will protect you!!" and we freeze even harder.
Because my adhd makes me forget… I keep forgetting a method I learned in health thinking behavioral therapy. I keep forgetting to split myself into another hypothetical person and do things for that person. People with ADHD feel emotions more strongly and are usually more compassionate that people without ADHD. So we have to use that for our advantage. No, not by tricking ourselves. We have to be fully aware and confident about our method to help ourselves so that we can be proud and gain even more confidence. Pretend you’re doing it for a friend. Talk to yourself as if you’re a friend outside of your body. Or help your future self, who is actually your friend. Then, have your other friend self l…compliment you for accomplishing your goal. This is to help you stand up for yourself instead of feeling ashamed for having to use a weird method just to accomplish something. Stand up for your self-friend from the bullying thoughts that enter your negative ADHD mind.
Part of ADHD is an inability to form habits. That includes routine things like taking meds, brushing teeth, and other things others people take for granted.
oh my god this explains it so well, not just for others without ADHD but for myself. even with all the "youre not lazy" ADHD pep talk i still thought i was lazy and stubborn, but now this perfectly illustrates the painful goddamn BLOCK i always feel when it comes to chores and tasks. thank you thank you thank you
@@samu-chan When you go to place your hand on a hot stove, most people experience a form of paralysis. As in, their muscles lock up and their brain physically will not let them do anything it considers harmful to them. It takes a great deal of will power for the average person to touch a hot stove for this reason. When you have ADHD, you experience this paralysis when doing non-dangerous tasks as well. Several times I've realised I needed to do a task, gone to do it, and locked up. The harder I push to just get out of my chair the more tired I feel, to the point where either I do something else (which usually happens when the task can be put off), or that's the only thing I'm doing for the next 4-6 hours because of all the physical effort I have to put in to just stand the fuck up- let alone doing the task itself!
something my old roommate would do would be like “okay, how about we do the dishes together?” and in this situation for me its like turning off the burner and then touching it. it makes it possible for me to get up and do it. We’d also study, do homework, and get coffee together. She was great.
I have ADHD and this happens to me if someone tells me to read a book. I hate reading because it makes me feel like I have to finish it and I get distracted easily and read something then forget what I read and the words dont form sentences if ykyk but if someone asks me to read a book, I will say no it feels just like this video and it makes me understand a bit more how I feel about it ❤
"just set an alarm" is one of my favorite piece of advice. I could have an alarm that punches me full in the face when it goes off and I still will hit the snooze and forget about the task.
I'll literally go get the things im supposed to do, set them right next to me, be staring at them and willing myself to just do the DAMN THING. And I still can't make myself do it
Same thing. I was taking too long to shower, so I brought this up with my therapist and she said "set an alarm" but like I'll turn it off. Other things I'l have on my to-do list and I won't do 'em even tho they're important. I hate myself for not doing the thing but I won't do the thing either 'cause I forget or I'm tired and leave it for another day (another day turns into next week). I appreciate that she doesn't shame me for "being lazy".
I use an app called "alarmy" for this very purpose. It has settings that make you do math problems, take pictures of specific items, etc before you can dismiss it which basically stops you from just hitting snooze. My favorite setting is the "wake up check" which requires you to snooze the alarm 30 seconds before it goes off to stop it or it'll keep going off every 5 minutes
@chocolatesugar-lovage9678 do you bring the phone with you in the shower? how are you turning off the alarm? just leave the phone in another room and you'll have no choice lol
this is what depression feels like too. something as simple as brushing your teeth or getting up to go to the bathroom feels like a physically impossible task
I know right but when I try to explain it my family there like stop blaming it on adhd but I'm not I'm just trying to be heard but instead they shout at me it makes me feel alone cause I feel like no one understands 💔
It's a symptom not a life sentence. You can get past it even if it seems like a comfortable excuse. Every person experiences this at times, even people without ADHD experience the same "symptoms" just less frequently.
I struggle with taking medicine I need to live on time or at all. What worked for me was having my pill box in my nightstand, a glass of water always topped up and two alarms. One to take them and go back to sleep and one to actually get up half an hour apart because the medicine needs to absorb for 30 minutes
This is probably the best analogy I’ve ever seen about ADHD paralysis, thank you! I recently said it’s like you’re at the traffic lights waiting for the lights to go green. Technically you could already cross the street but that’s not safe so you just sit there and wait until the lights finally turn green 😅 But this is actually so much better!
I have tried to explain this to my dad. He is a person who floated through school with not needing to study at all. when I say "I just can not do it" I think that it is so abstract to him that he can not even comprehend it.
I'm extremely lucky that I still get good grades while not being able to concentrate and revise. I just know that if I was 'worse' my entire life would be x5 harder
Even when I already know I'm running late, I still can't force myself to just go to the thing yet. If I try to rush out like a normal non adhd person, I always forget stuff, or lock myself out or something crazy
This isn't ADHD cuz, this is you lacking the maturity and self actualization to be punctual. If you are supposed to be somewhere at 2, be there for 1:50. Stop laying around. Get there.
Yes, dysfunctionality breeds dysfunctionality. If you have to be somewhere at 9, start getting ready at 8:30. If you have to start getting ready at 8:30, think about getting ready at 8:00 and have a plan. Start ahead and work backwards instead of working from behind and making excuses later.
It's the freaking mind blanks every 2 seconds between changing basic tasks... as soon as one task is done... the entire activity is forgotten about.... that's actually a documented and well studied medical part of ADHD.... not that anybody without ADHD would understand unless they actually asked before judging.
@@phant0mdummy Well you tried, but the problem with channels focusing on mental illness is that they breed cults of victims whether intentionally or not. I'll just post a simple reminder for the cult. If you have a mental illness, it is your job and your job alone to create and enact a plan to control it. If somebody is not willing to accommodate you, that does not mean you are a victim, it means YOU need to adjust your planned adaptation method.
this is almost exactly how it feels. except with adhd, there is no “bad thing” you know will happen, so it’s harder to explain. all i know is i /can’t/ do that thing yet. why? because it’s not “right”. it feels like being about to touch a hot stove, brain just says “no”
Yes! I was disgnosed in my late 20s and im 34 now. Tried meds but its a lot to keep up with appts. So im living life without em. Lol i love these channels.
@@millanferende6723 That's why I stay on the meds. I might even be better off Adderall, but I was always treading water and going nowhere... I'm still in my 20's but so many years were wasted without it nonetheless, I should be further developed as a person than I am now and a lot of what I missed is lost forever. Now, I am a dead man walking, going the only direction I can to improve myself, but it might not ever be enough. It doesn't matter either way, if I'm not enough then I know there is nothing for me here.
I’m 12 and I might have adhd. This has ben happening since I was maybe 4. But I’m not going to get diagnosed because my mom. She is probably going to blame my cousin with adhd for dropping me on the head when I was a little baby
As somebody with adhd. Let these videos show that you arent the only one. And don't do what i did in school and use it as a crutch or an excuse for true laziness
It’s one of the worst parts b/c sometimes it feels like you have no control over your body, except that you do. Not to mention it’s really difficult not to feel like you’re lazy despite the fact ADHD is literally a disability. Like you are a disabled person, hence why you are not ABLE to move your body sometimes.
One of the hardest parts of having ADHD for me is when I don't think before I speak. I am 52 and am constantly putting my foot in my mouth. I feel like I have to watch myself carefully so I don't say the wrong thing. It makes me come across as being too serious and not much fun.
yes freaking ssdi doesn't i don't THINK Identify it as one!!! not kidding - i think it took my dad who is my guardian (even at 44 YES) to tell them i have also (among MANY Many other "things" siiigh) a genetic disability/chromosome deletion syndrome before they'd even take me seriously!!!! HUGS
Another helpful way to explain how very very strange ADHD paralysis is, is that it happens all the time with peeing. Like omg I have to pee SOOO much, i need to get up and go to the bathroom, but my brain and body are just like "no" for HOURS. Thats not laziness, thats a medical condition lol
@@improvedalpaca3294 me too, i want to improve my eating because im borderline underweight but when im hungry im always like "hmmm i should go eat" and end up not doing it
I don’t have the medical insurance or money to get a diagnosis, but I’ve been like this with pee my whole life (i got a uti because of this). My body will physically tell me “Hey go pee. Hey go pee. Hey go pee.” And my mind will just be like “Okay, I could do that, but I could also just sit here too.” For HOURS. I dunno if I have ADD/ADHD but sometimes watching these shorts, I feel like I’ve noticed I do, not all, but a lot of what she and the comments here describe. :( I wish the American medical system wasn’t so fucked so I could just make an appointment and go get it taken care of.
"I just thought you were being lazy" is an interesting statement. Either you come to understand that this paralysis IS laziness and chance your view of laziness into a more positive light. OR you choose to not define this as laziness and thus accept that laziness as you define it DOES NOT exist. To everyone reading this, make sure to remember to live life with respect for others ✌️
Pretty much, yep. Despite me going "GET UP" in my head, there's this just... nothing. A way to put it is like we get a "You cannot do that here" Message in our brain whenever we try to do something and this kicks in
When I was younger, I used to just sit and be in my head, having a conversation similar to this. In complete silence, with no distractions or excuses, just telling myself to do an activity, stand up, or just simply move a limb. And yet, I wouldn’t move until somebody called me or I finally broke away. Maybe, I was in over my head during these times, but I had no explanation for it.
Im going through the same stuff right now, instead of going to get drugged up, make a set of goals every night of stuff you need done. Drink your coffee in the morning then start on them! At the end of the day you will feel like you accomplished something and your mental health will be 100% better. If i start watching videos and lose focus next thing i know 12 hours have passed and i try and go to bed feeling like a degenerate.
@@abolishthe19thamendment wow that's a great idea!! I would never have thought about a daily list of goals / tasks. I do like finishing a list it's like a game to see how fast I can finish things! What else you got?!
I would sacrifice my hand for one hundred dollars and then get a job as an active volcano tour guide, wear a fake hand, and say, "Be very careful near lava and don't do this" while dipping the fake hand into lava, except eventually I would end up saying as a follow up, "Oops wrong hand"
I saw this video a few months ago and it was the first time i ever even considered for a second that I might have ADHD because i related so hard to it. Fast forward to now, lots of research and a failed ADHD test later (why did they use a test from 30 years ago lol, research has advanced so far from the primarily male dominated diagnoses), I am almost certain that I have inattentive ADHD and am going to schedule an appointment to get tested by someone who knows what they are doing. It all started here. Thank you so much for all that you do to open the eyes of the community!
I wasn't diagnosed the first time either! I found myself downplaying my own experiences out of embarrassment, which I hear is common. Hope you get your diagnosis and definitely don't be afraid to lay it all out on the table! 🫶🏻
I know bipolar women who were just convinced they had adhd, they convinced doctors to give them the diagnosis and the drugs and now they are completely ruined because they needed a whole other treatment plan for a different illness.
@@NiaLaLa_VWith specialized medicine, there are no good diagnosticians anymore. The only way you're getting any diagnosis when you KNOW something is wrong, is by researching it and suggesting it to your doctor. It's not that you're trying to convince them, it's that we are left to be our own doctors because they refuse to be one Even a trip to the ER is a nightmare. They won't listen, don't believe you, don't want to be bothered, won't do tests, most importantly won't treat pain, unless you're bleeding out.
This!!!!! I'm screaming in my head and trying desperately to move aaaaaaaaaand, not even a finger twitch. Only lasts maybe 4-5 minutes (for me) but that doesn't make it any better.
@@RowanWasHereone thing that normally helps me is trying not to think about the awful thing im gonna do for one minute and ask myself do you manage to get off your bed within 10 seconds? Just stand up and nothing more like its a challenge. After that i plan in detail what im gonna do which makes the work seem a lot more managable since it containes small and easy steps.
@relaxolotl834 I'm glad you were able to find something that works for you, and in certain cases I'll go ahead and try that. It is a good idea, thank you for sharing. Unfortunately for me, most of the time when it happens there isn't one specific thing that I'm dreading that keeps me from moving, or even something to dread at all. I just. Can't move. I'll put every fiber of my focus into trying to send signals to my limbs to move, even just a little bit, and nothing happens. And there's no reason that I've been able to figure out for it. It has gotten a lot better/happened a lot less in the last year or so, but it's still anxiety-inducing, because I have no idea why it happens or how long it's going to last this time. There's a very small part of me that I try to ignore, that's scared of the possibility of it, one day, not ending. Though again, I tend to ignore that fear for the most part because, 1(I know it's somewhat irrational, and 2( I have too many other things to worry about. Still wish I knew what it was, though.
@RowanWasHere A voice assistant that can make voice calls can help in this scenario, to call for assistance as a last resort.. Not gonna lie that is a scenario that sometimes goes through my head and worries me too. I’ve set my Alexa up to be able to make calls for that very reason (and Siri/HomePod can do it too)
I hate that I know I do this. It doesn’t even matter if I actually am interested in it or not. Sometimes the sensation is almost like a physical aversion to doing something. I just can’t do it and I don’t understand why. So frustrating.
@@milannpizza you do realize that you went to a video about ADHD and then commented on a video that a person with ADHD should have more discipline. That’s a bad take. I mean, you do realise that ADHD impairs a person’s executive functions, right?
Well, and there starts the journey of self exploration. I had similar going on with me and I am 44 late diagnosed. I had a lot of childhood trauma...I was told I was lazy etc...my entire family environment was toxic as all get go. I wish it had been physical abuse but it was literally psycho terrorism in my household and manipulation tactics on end I suffered from severe teenage depression. My mom had an eating disorder and anxiety panic attacks but everyone just wanted to make like we were happy and normal. There was nothing "normal". In my 30ies I challenged the voices in my head...if there was a voice that said I couldn't do it...I would question it and rationalize it and debate it until I realized that voice that kept me from doing perfectly "normal" things...we're the negative echoes of my family environment that I had just internalized as my own. I still struggle a bit but not as much as I did 10 years ago because I now have learned to observe and recognize triggers etc. I am more hyper now than I have ever been but I navigate it because I lost so many years to depression and that paralytic anxiety that wasn't even mine...it were the fears and anxieties of my mother. Life has flipped for me and I live and love and accept myself no matter how erratic or quirky. I feel free being me ❤️. Hope this may inspire you and I wish you all the best on your journey. You're not invisible lol unless you wish to be.
@@aqua6613 I talked to my mum, when I was 18, about how I wasn’t okay. I started therapy after that and was told I am Autistic. Well actually it was the other term that isn’t used anymore. I was on monthly psychology appointments, but they are incredibly limited. Especially when the patient has no motivation and undiagnosed ADHD, because well, I wasn’t really going to actually do anything they suggested. Even if I wanted to, I wouldn’t keep it up. I also have home and family factors involved. Anyway, I now have fortnightly sessions, but I am going to have to find a way to make sure I am not left in the lurch during school holidays. Because I can’t get appointments for like a month or two because of them.
@@milannpizza you should know it's hard for people with ADHD, sure we can be disciplined in hyper focus mode but then we forget to drink water, eat food or take care of ourselves during that period.
Yes!! I’ve never connected those dots but that’s absolutely what it’s like. It’s also why distracting myself with music or podcasts or something can help trick me into doing it. The harder I push my brain, the harder it pushes back, the anxiety and aversion just escalating until I’m in tears and not doing anything at all. I don’t really know WHY my brain treats paperwork like it’s going to cause me physical injury, but it does, and I just have to work with it.
I heard that singing might help. Obviously you can't do anything serious while singing, but you can do all the preps, then start doodling and ease into writing and reading.
💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 Recently I realized that if something is actually top priority, I need to act like it doesn't matter at all, because otherwise it becomes damn near physically impossible to get it done.
@@karelsimek5871 Oh wow, who would have thunk it. The algorithm sends ADHD videos to a huge number of people who have ADHD. It's almot like recommendations are turned to your online activity
I relate to ADHD paralysis so much as a person with it. Today I went from 7:00am-11:00am without any food bc I could bring myself to do it. I have many more experiences of it as well.
@Erin Bathie-Moore annoyingly, yeah. Like today I was doing maths in class and just suddenly, my body refused to do the questions and I couldn’t bring myself to do them. It sucked bc I knew I could do them, my body just refused to.
This is adhd related story, I had a prescription to adderall during college and it helped me focus and get actual good grades, one time my prescription ran out and I was scrambling to get it refilled and my mom saw me panicking and just said “why can’t you just focus?” And I snapped back “if I could ‘just focus’ I wouldn’t need adderall”, she sat there in stunned silence, because people without adhd can’t comprehend why we are thr way we are
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The least realistic part of this scenario is getting an apology after explaining how it feels
excactly they just tell you youre exaggerating
@@Dream.fm3 that doesnt mean some people dont get it. just bc you dont doesnt mean it doesn't exist
True story. That part felt a little weird.
@@Dream.fm3 Imagine two people have a cold. one person has a sore throat, the other doesn't. one person tells the other that they're lying about having a sore throat because they have a cold but their throat is fine. that's you right now.
@@Dream.fm3 sounds like someone self diagnosed and think they know all about it 💀💀💀💀
It sometimes feels like I'm trapped in my body because I can't make myself do the things I need to do.
lack of self discipline
@@travisgoesthere Bro. Did you not watch the vid?!?!?!?
@@londondafunion0790stop blaming disorders instead of your own laziness
@@travisgoestherebro, are you depressed ? Lol you obviously looking to be demeaning towards others
@@travisgoesthere
Try lack of dopamine responses in the brain. You know the chemical imbalance that is caused by ADHD?
Our brains struggle because they don't always work the same way.
The irony is that I can totally bring myself to touch a scorching hot burner, but I can't bring myself to do my reading assignments
Me too
The Bible is truth. The key is genuinely opening your heart and forgiving others. Please read at least three books of the Bible, Genesis Mathew and one you chose yourself. Jesus Christ is the way truth and life’
@@jamesmayle3787 yeah, I read genesis and most of exodus, and that’s when I realized the whole thing was made up and became an atheist.
Lol relatable
@@jamesmayle3787 ur Joking right 😅
Where the hell did this young lady come from? It's not just the level of self-awareness that she has, it's her ability to articulate all the scenarios and traumas that people like us have to deal with. If I wasn't addicted to it, I would quit therapy and just watch her all the time❤❤
Im clinically diagnosed ADHD and I've never thought of it like this, but its 101% spot on. Like sometimes i rationalize it with procrastination but otherwise its just "preform the basic task that will take five seconds and solve a great deal of problems for you immediately" and my brain is like "no. I dont want to."
I have a hard time understanding this. I procrastinate a lot but I don’t think it is anything like this. I think I may just lack the discipline necesarry do something that is not absolutely necesarry in that moment. But I feel like if I try I can become more disciplined or I can stop consuming content that absolutely destroys my dopamine receptors making everything else unrewarding. Would these steps not also help for a person with ADHD? Is there really no way you can do something that you do not want to do?
You’re just lazy don’t worry
I resonate with this so much. I was lucky to be born with some decent intelligence cause work that will benefit me later is something i can't do
@@robert_theWalker that’s because you are lazy
@@benjaminglanville6515 -person who has never experienced this
i am replaying the last part cause an apology feels really nice to hear
@@davidrightpostI’m going to try this
My brain won't allow me this satisfaction, on the contrary it gets upset because how unrealistic it seems for my situation
They're rare as hell, I get what you mean.
“Get up. You need to get up and do the thing. Come on get up. Please get up. Please?” -me to myself anytime I need to do a chore.
Me toooo XC
Yah same some times I just can't will myself to do it no matter how much I want to
Same 😃🔫
I literally have to will myself 😭😭😭it's like ik I can do it but I don't have it in me to actually carry out the task until Im able to. For instance I'm great at math, but if u catch me in that moment I can't do simple calculations
@@crownedking_cj8890 sucks don't it .
I also get side tracked easily like the amount of times I over Flow the sink at work good thing we clean the floor with a hose anyway 😜
Omg i experience this so often, its like "i should go eat something" and then literally 3 hours later i have not moved from where i.was
Sending an email, replying to a text message, even the tasks that seem like they should be so simple can be so hard to do
my brain be like that, instead of replying the text and mails i need, i instead venture my self in solving engineering problems, quantum math, and commenting on youtube videos
It has cost me more than one valued friendship.
❤ y'all are my ppl now ha I'm not sure if it's good that I personally felt a tiny better upon reading this and our quantum equation cohort and my new friend that's also lost friends to possibly the "reply text fully just sitting as a draft for a week cause I didn't hit send?!?! Again?!" 🥺I feel you and I still feel bad...but thanks for this y'all. I'm going to send a new reply on this one comment every day for the next 10 days...just to see how I do ha is this okay w u guy?
Yup I hate responding to text messages. I keep my phone on silence because the ring would nearly give me a panic attack.
I can't even apply to jobs
No one has ever understood why I can’t do things at times. I say ‘my brain won’t let me’ and they think I’m mad. I didn’t even understand it until 38 when I was diagnosed and stated to learn about it from other ADHD people!! Thanks for sharing, it’s so helpful xx
I still don’t get this video.
I take 90mg of adderall every day and it has changed my life, went from Straight F’s to Straight A’s and college classes while in high school, it was also gave my determination to finish my 60 pound weight loss journey, and I run on 2 hours of sleep a night ( because I work til 2am) but the adderall makes it so 2 hours of sleep is enough, I feel great actually!
@@clickbaitpolice1750 it’s basically saying try to turn a put your hand on the building stove you could but you just don’t and it’s saying that’s what it feels like to do simple tasks with ADHD. You know you can but you just don’t bring yourself to do it.
I'm in the same boat. When you've been told all of your life you're worthless and lazy and then you learn its not your fault, it's incredibly difficult to let go of those thoughts and replace them with new ones.
@clickbaitpolice1750 basically It's like ADHD Is about turning off Ur brain goin nighty night 🌙 meaning U want something It says we should watch Tv U want food U play games It skips the steps of okay let's do something then goes to sleep 😑
You see, the worst part about ADHD paralysis is there's no external indicator that you are trying.
I will be having a mental war with myself trying to get up to do my homework and on the outside I'm just scrolling RUclips or something. You wouldn't know, so you would just think I was being lazy
That is so darn true 😓 Good luck! 🤗🍀
There is a thing known as discipline
Wow. The whole point just went right over your head, huh?
Whenever something has the potential to be stressful, I often just can't make myself do it and have to be philosophical about it, feeling unhappy about not doing it NOW but knowing I will when I can.
@@whatgoesaroundcomesaround920
Absolutely yes. It's hard to accept, but it at least gives the feeling of hope if I can convince myself that I'm not procrastinating.
I am so happy to have found videos like these because until I even considered that I might have ADHD(waiting to get an appointment for a diagnosis) I just thought I was failing at being a basic human. It’s the worst feeling ever.
Now I use videos like these to help explain to my mom what I’m experiencing
Yes! I seriously just thought I sucked at life for some reason.
Same. Probably should go get a therapist and meds or whatever.
I did see a therapist once for unrelated stuff and it was sooo uncomfortable. I just pretended I was perfectly fine for a year till she signed the papers I needed.
I feel like tv show therapy, lying on the couch staring at the ceiling would be way better for being honest and talking than sitting in chairs and having to make eye contact. Not even a table inbetween us.
How is anybody comfortable with that?
Also i want to speak in English, English is so much better for talking about your feelings than my native language. Also my native language skills kinda deteriorated cause I do way too much stuff in English.
Urgh. Maybe some day
U know what I am not diagnosed with ADHD but after watching this I feel I need to get tested. I already have nearly every other symptom of ADHD and this is just wow. It’s so accurate. My dad is always shouting at me for not doing things like tidying but in the tidying scenario I just can’t do it. It is impossible and when I try to explain it I say my brain won’t let me. :)
I literally go for like an hour saying to myself “you can do it, you can do it”
Or the entire dayyyy sometimes. Then I give myself permission to not do the thing until he following day... and it starts all over again😅😅
@@claraberg1214 yup. Today I manage to get myself to go buy water for the house and cook lunch, but the one thing I been telling my self to do (seep my room) I just exhausted myself for the day and for tomorrow it is
I say I can do it and then I never do cause I’m like nah actually I can’t I just hyped myself up for no reason and then randomly 1 or 5 years later I’m just do it for no reason
Damn now I’m realizing why The Little Engine That Could resonated with me so much
..and the you don't do it
“Do it.”
“Why?”
“Do it.”
“What about pain-“
“Do it.”
“Ok.”
I actually did it on the 69th try
ok.
The induction stove in the video only burns metal, you can touch it for 10 minutes without being burned. not many people know this, mostly because people dont try it out 😂
Ow owie 😢
"EEEEAAAAAAUGH!"
"Do it again."
"What? It hurts like Hell!"
"Do it again."
"No. I got second degree burns."
"Do it again."
"Ok."
The problem is that even if you explain it to someone like this, they'll still call you lazy.
Because they simply are
You are the burner can actually hurt u
bro if you had actual adhd you’d know otherwise 💀
@@majdxgames3328 quit playing games and go do something productive you cretin.
@@lolzforthewin3360i have it diagnosed and it is like this wtf
Your videos are brilliant and so helpful for people family members trying to understand the ADHD brain. Thank you so much for all the work you put into making these.
anyone else be laying on the couch and you need to get up and you’re just like “okay what if i get up NOW” and just keep doing that but never actually get up
Ikr I’m like : okay, now I’m going to get up : I don’t get up, I want to, I don’t. It’s the same thing
Me sitting on my couch saying I have to clean NOW: but how- who tol- are you spyin- 😵💫💀
I have that too and wasn't diagnosed with ADHD.
YES OMG
Yessss. Relatable af
I don’t have ADHD but this is exactly what it feels like on one of my preoccupied bad depressive days. I stay in bed for hours and can’t fathom leaving bed, eating food, or doing anything. Not even something fun like playing a game, turning on a movie or drawing. I just can’t function
As someone with both ADHD and depression, I understand this completely
or when i am just too focused on something
That makes sense, depression can impair executive functioning, which is the same thing that causes ADHD paralysis.
I feel you. Depression can be understand only by those who have experience it. People that didn't have it are clueless, even with all the knowledge on the palm of their hands
yeah, depression can do this too. My brother had (and still suffers a bit from) depression and I noticed that a lot. Unfortunately, as the middle child, my parents were quick to jump at him for ‘sitting instead of doing’
OMG, I haven't had my Adderall for 6 months. My new Dr refuses to prescribe it to me - I am 67 yo. It has been horrible. I can't get motivated to make phone calls to schedule appts, wash my dishes; I just turn off the alarm and go back to sleep, so I miss appts. I am a mess. I am seeing a new Dr so, I hope he will work with me. I am so glad to have come across this video...I couldn't describe it...I can use this. Thank you so much!!
I'm hoping the new doctor will work out for you. It should be malpractice if a doctor refuses to prescribe a medication that you've had before, and that worked well and is for the condition that you are diagnosed with - especially when you so obviously *need it* to function properly. I've had the same thing happen to me, but with Xanax. I've been taking it since I was 17, and without it I can't get out of bed because of *crippling* anxiety, suicidal ideations, paranoia and panic attacks. I can't shower. I can't eat. I can't meet people. I isolate myself. And then I got a new doctor who thought I shouldn't take it anymore. And I became a mess. It became 1 year in hell, completely isolated from the world (except my wonderful contact people at the Norwegian social services who came by with food and just to help me clean and stuff) until I got help to find a new doctor who understood that because of my complex PTSD, depression, Borderline personality disorder, panic attacks and extreme anxiety I simply cannot function without it. Together with my new doctor and my contact people in the Social Services we sent in a complaint against the doctor who took me off a medication that has saved my life (literally) since I was 17 (I'm 33 now). The doctor who refused to keep prescribing it knew my diagnoses, and heard from all of my contact people in Social Services here in Norway + my therapist, they told him how I didn't function without it, couldn't go out, eat, shower, sleep, nothing. But he still refused. So, it'll be "fun" to see what the medical board will say with all the evidence of his negligence towards me.
i wa without my meds for 3 weks and i wanted to eat nails. i cant imagine 6 months!!!!
hope ur new doctor listens to you. good luck . tell us how it goes!!
Same for me! Hugs and prayers
im 62 and find once you get to a certain age..around 60..doctors treat you differently in terms of the meds theyre willing to prescribe. It does make you mad becuz at this point in my life i know what works better than some doctor half my age lol! Ive never tried Adderall. Im wondering how that would work for me. i have bad anxiety and fibro as well and take Cymbalta. Anyhow good luck ❤❤
there is a HUGE adderall and other ADHD med shortage everywhere in the world right now. it includes almost all ADHD medications. that might be the main contributor to why its super hard to get prescriptions, even just refills of already prescribed medication. they only want to prescribe to extreme risk patients, however sometimes doctors suck and want you to get in and out and never have to see them again. sorry you had that experience with your doctor. i myself just got a new doctor and i was finally listened to for the FIRST time in my life by a doctor! i got a very rare diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome super fast after i started seeing my new doctor and all i had to do was explain the same symptoms i have been for probably a decade now! good luck!
You dont know how many times my mother called me lazy when I was at school. This video makes me feel so much better. I am still not diagnosed, but I have other health issues that need to be dealt with first.
The most unrealistic part is that they apologised and understood lmao
Everyone I know even the teachers and all know I have ADHD yet they’re like “just focus harder” “try more” HOW DID YOU THINK I SURVIVED UNTIL NOW??? IM TRYING MY HARDEST ALREADY
Well there not wrong just try harder
@@TrosheeWasTaken Thanks not like I have been doing it for years and that’s the only reason I’m keeping up with neurotypicals.
@@TrosheeWasTaken okay let me explain a way that adhd effects me so i have adhd and ocd and my ocd wants my room to be clean so i try my hardest to get that done but my adhd says no we are going to do this instead and so then its a never ending cycle of i need to clean my room and i want to clean my room buuut i could do this first and then its just a fight with myself and i get so drained that by the time that i can actually do anything im to exhausted to do anything and then i just start to panic about what I didn’t get done and it is the most overwhelming thing ever so dont say “just try harder“ because you dont know how much we want to get the thing done and how much we fight with our OWN brain to do it we already try our hardest but when people start saying stuff like “try harder” or “why cant you just get it done” then it makes us feel like we are just useless or at least thats how it is for me
@@TrosheeWasTaken yk things u don't understand, you shouldn't comment on
you think he/she isnt trying? i have adhd and i can literally get distracted just by staring at a wall and i cant "try harder" to focus cuz I JUST CAN'T DO IT
so maybe next time, don't comment shit if u dont understand stuff
@@NoThankYou444 well said
This is what the internet is for. Just Knowing you are not alone helps me
I still don’t get this video.
How bad is it that I have adhd but I would still touch the hot burner for 100 bucks. Personally I could overcome anything for money but that's cause I'm broke af lol. Only issue is nobody offers me 100 bucks to do those tasks like clean 😭
@clickbaitpolice1750: She’s trying to portray what it’s like when someone with ADHD struggles to get to a task. The so-called “procrastination” is actually involuntary-even if they know they should and are capable-almost like an invisible force stopping them. The hot stove analogy was an odd comparison to draw from.
@@LM-is2ry it was odd for sure because why would anyone wanna put their hand on a hot stove? This sounds more like intrusive thoughts than it does ADHD.
@clickbaitpolice1750: 😄 You’re so right! That’s exactly what it sounds like. It’s like telling someone to jump in front of a moving vehicle, and they respond with, “I would, but I have ADHD.”
Bro fr just explained my whole life in 29 seconds 💀
SAME like i feel this way daily
I showed it to my mom and now she understands how I feel when I can't get up.
just get the fuck up
Normal scenario;
I have to write a reply to someone in a conversation on discord.
And that is how I cleaned 5 years of trash from my bedroom.
Still need to write that 1 sentence reply to "how are you doing today?"
Spend 10 hours sitting on my bed doing nothing, occasionally trying to fornulate ny reply to them.
2 weeks pass and I finally get the energy to send "gud, u?"
Gworl. You are definitely not alone.
@@therealkoolaidandkale it's even funnier when the person on the other line has unmedicated adhd. They take even longer, so I don't feel as guilty.
Today, at 39 years old, I finally understand what is wrong with me
Nailed it 🔨💯
I thought there was something horribly wrong with me and I was the only one, I had so much shame over not being able to reply to emails, posts, etc. and being extremely overwhelmed the more people I have to reply to.
ADD here, I always need stress to do certain tasks like when I know I get guests I arrange the house at the last moment.
Scheduling visitors is the only way I KNOW I can get the house clean... It's exhausting.
@@cutiemama2913 Amazing, that is exactly like me! I schedule on purpose guests and ask my daughter to invite her friend overnight.
Same. I'm autistic and adhd and I usually can't even brush my teeth unless I'm going to see people.
@@jw5386 Yup, I got a cavity because I'm not brushing often enough, but now I can't even call the dentist to make an appointment because of my fucking weird brain...
@@nic12344 I'm sorry dude. Maybe you could ask someone else to call for you
I started crying while watching this because it feels like no one understands what it's like. Thank you for putting this into the world
Yeah, I cried too, I didn't quite know this yet but it makes soooo much sense
so are we all crying now? i didn't realize there was a name for this and it sucks because i know im not trying to be lazy, or not eat and im not trying to fail the semester on purpose :(
I knew that this was an adhd thing but actually listening to the explanation and seeing that someone understands me made me cry too.
@@nicowithrow4390 this is littarly
Me, I’ve been having adhd paralysis for like 2 years straight, it’s so exhausting, no one understands, like no I don’t lack motivation, nor am I lazy, like people don’t understand and it’s so frustrating.
Yes
At first I was gonna try and make a point of "Yeah, but you're aware that touching the burner will cause physical pain." Then I realized that paralysis causing you to avoid important tasks (for example, in my case, filing documents or making phone calls and meeting deadlines) will also have bad consequences. And it STILL doesn't make it easier to bring yourself to do. So, I understand this scenario 😂😭
It’s so nice someone’s out there explaining ADHD issues we face every day
Ikr
I have adhd and I don’t experience that at all, I just get things done.
@@Waterenjoyer1308 good for you 💀💀💀💀😭😭 Do you want a cookie or something ??
@@mr.theory5733 wow how nice of you. 😂
@@Waterenjoyer1308 they are privileged adhd that's why lol I know cause I was a privileged adhd. I could sit around and be lazy and usually was able to get away with it. once you start going hunger for your choices you start to help your adhd brain to do what needs to be done lol 😂😂😂
I'm 35 and had undiagnosed ADHD for a huge part of my life and stuff like this makes me feel so seen and understood, to myself as well - I'm still learning about this neurodivergence, that I actually teared up.
*Exact* SaMe HeRe ->> had Never even given ADHD//ADD a second thought at *any* point in my life, but since I was a child I’ve been called “scatterbrained” // “lazy” // “rebellious” {ok, that last one is still *kinda* true 😆} due to the fact I *CONSTANTLY* Lose [every-] things, CONSTANTLY forget things [from recent conversations to important deadlines, from things I *needed* at the store to an ENTIRE LoaD of clothes at the laundromat - I mean, *HoW* ⁉️ I’m obsessed w my clothes, How does that even Happen?!?! 😂😫] & am RaReLy focused on something I’m doing long enough to get it Done… on the contrary, my mind will be going a hundred miles an hour about everything BUT the task at hand. 🙄
At some point in the last year, a “you could have this disorder if -“ came on a commercial as I was ‘watching’ something {honestly I was distracted aF, just happened to be listening} and I just *froze* for a few seconds….. was suddenly like a lightbulb💡went off, I even nudged my husband {who is a notorious skeptic} and even HE raised an eyebrow and said “🤨 y’Know…. That *Would* make a Lot of sense.” Since I’ve been researching all I can on the topic, and suddenly all my daily-struggles begin to make a little sense… still learning about it myself {AND how to deal with it}, but I’m hesitant to get a legitimate diagnosis simply bc the *only* medicine I’ve ever heard being used for ADD//ADHD, is an amphetamine - which is *not* something I personally believe will help me out at all.
@@PixelatedGypsythat’s how i felt at first too BUT specialists do prescribe stuff bc it works- so yes do your own research, but also don’t close off the idea that meds can legitimately balance the dopamine in your brain so you can complete your to-do list in a reasonable manner. also adderall isn’t the only medication for adhd if you still don’t like that. def talk to a doctor about it.
Im 43. Same. Got a diagnosis about 5 years ago. Meds help but they arent a cure-all. I was recommended to look at executive functioning coaches. Apparently thats a big thing nowadays. And ive been seeing vids like this one that completely reflect what Ive been dealing with for my entire life, with no clue that there are so many others out there just like me.
@Azimuth10000 I resonate with that totatlly! I'm 34 and just got dianosed (type 3), and it's nice to have community that understands the struggles and sees you for who you are instead of the explanations that seem like excuses!
56 here, diagnosed at 33, still struggling. Tried medications back then, not effective. I went to a CBT group and the most helpful thing was hearing how closely others' experiences mirrored mine. Knowing your not alone is priceless.
Yes! That is _exactly_ how it is. I _know_ that I need to do something, and I literally cannot force myself to do it.
I had to tell my doctor that I am crying over the fact that I cannot force myself to work and am afraid of losing my job at this rate before actually giving me meds. When I tried to explain in a very mild manner before, they thought it wasn't that bad 🫠🫠🫠
How did you italicize some of your words?
@@tina1061that’s why I ALWAYS exaggerated my symptoms!
@@lilmary110522 I put an underscore before and after the word I want italicized. The only thing you have watch out for is punctuation. It has to go inside the underscores, so if a word has a comma or a period make sure it is inside the underscores. You can use an * around words to make them *bold,* and use - to -strikethrough- the text.
@@tina1061 de s😊p
Someone give this woman a cape! You're saving lives my friend 💗
I think the toughest part is when you realise these two are in your head, fighting and making you feel lazy
When you wait long enough, the encouraging one stops.
And TIRED 😅😢
Yea
This 😖
Yup and then there’s always the parent who refuses to admit you have adhd standing in front of you yelling at you as well as the inner conflict
Thank you so much for this. It's so bad that even things I REALLY REALLY want or need to do are impossible. Like getting ice cream from the freezer, or using the bathroom.
using the bathroom one is the worst. i physically cannot get up and do it until it's an EMERGENCY. So happy to hear I'm not alone.
literally i will put off peeing for hours and i don’t even understand why, and i just sit there feeling painfully thirsty for hours instead of just going to get a drink really fast. why???????
@@ellaizcool exactly!
@@selardohr7697 I know it's awful!!!
@Ken Harris me too! Or on the toilet, or in the shower, sometimes literally standing in the shower with the water off! It's like someone put my avatar on pause!
I cant tell you how much seeing these explains the last 35yrs of my life.
Why can’t you tell us? I’ll give you 100 bucks if you tell me. . .
@@jnnxlol
I sincerely hope that this info gave you some amount of peace. It did me. And I think it is something we deserve after struggling for so long.
Same.
Same. Age and everything.
Those of us that are a bit older were at best put into programs to shuffle us along while explaining nothing. Some weird form of institutional gaslighting.
This video helps me a great deal for a multitude of reasons. Thank you dearly, infinite gratitude.
I can get pretty overwhelmed sometimes and I feel stuck like I can’t work on anything. Like my brain just shuts down and rejects whatever I need to work on.
I feel the same way sometimes.
Same.
Same same heheh .
Me too man 💜
Everybody does
“I’ll give you a hundred bu-“
Me laying on the burner:
I would face plant a burner for 2 bucks.
@@StrakanDocrusReakal hospital bills gonna cost a lot more than that
Lol
LMFAOOOOO
Especially since she said "even if you just graze it." Certainly possible to do.
Honestly this video is a bad example. Just makes it look like ADHD paralysis is very much possible to overcome with some mental strength, dicipline and a hint of stupidity.
My mother thought I was lazy or defiant. She would scream at me to do chores and homework. But on days she wasn't home I could do my tasks (out of order, and sloppy) but they got done.
It is being lazy!!
@shieldb no its not being lazy it's ADHD
@@Who_Tao everybody has ADHD! And yes it is just being lazy!!!!
@@shieldbare you alright? Want me to call an ambulance? I think you should get your head checked up, youre talking nonsense.
@@shieldbi hope your ignorance brings you somewhere good instead of hurting people like this.
You're validating my entire existence. Thank you.
"go. Go.... Okay GO! .... GO!!! What's the matter with you?!"
-An ADHD brain to itself
Underrated comment
Exactly though
Real
I dont have adhd but im like this + afterwards i always think... ok 10 more mins
Ong tho 😭
I love how for me. ADHD is like never a casual thing. It's ALWAYS getting in the way of me needing to get stuff done
Same
Same
Yall need discipline. You were probably babies as a child
Same
@@humbledexrian Or maybe we need serious help ever thought of that?
This is a good reminder to be patient with myself… Still, paralysis is torture when you’re ambitious…
I literally have like a lot of projects at school but my mind just says BYEBYE! When I try doing them.... It's like it HATES ME ABSOLUTELY!!!! I was able to do some of them but here I am again.... With one song to record, one brochure to do, notes to take, review for upcoming exams and oof it's overwhelming yet I don't wanna do anything at the same time because I just don't FEEL like doing it.... can someone tell me what's goin on??? Also does not help that I am one perfectionist alright.... (😃😃😀)
@@Ian_Ignacio THIS IS SO RELATABLE HELP
Ambitious, perfectionist plus overachiever here... This paralysis shit causes me so much anxiety/ breakdowns.
If you let this get to you then you’re not ambitious
@@ImWithMe you clearly know no ambition yourself bud
That's so real, like I have ADHD and sometimes I get ADHD paralysis when I'm supposed to brush my hair and I always get in trouble when I do that but my parent doesnt believe I have a mental disorder and always blames it on devices or "just being a kid". Same thing in school when I "couldn't" do my hand written work.
Holy shit I never realised this was a symptom of my adhd
This makes too much sense
That’s what’s going on with me?!
You could definitely say it’s a symptom of depression too
its used as an excuse much too commonly, sure it hinders performance in a lot of things but adhd doesnt remove your free will
Same!
@@McMediaGroupyou made me worried until o read the last bit
"I'll give you $100-"
*aggressive sizzling*
Ngl same tho 💀
Ongod
Nah same though without any second thoughts
Alright people above me post a video and ill make it happen
I just touched it really just for moment tho. After that put my hand in warm water to coold down a little bit. It's actually not that bad
"just do it"
"I can't"
"You have ADHD paralysis?"
"NO I DONT HAVE HANDS"
oh didn’t notice sorry 💀
@@kfcccccxc nawww💀💀😭😭
My fingers are knives! Are you an angel, Sharon?
It must be hard having to type with two thumbs
Damn
i come back to this video every few weeks, to help myself and give myself the reassurance that somebody understands EXACTLY TO THE DOT ...when people around me try to understand but aren't able to properly comprehend what it is :(
It happens ALL THE TIME. Sometimes when I have to go somewhere and for whatever reason, I just can't make myself move. It's the weirdest feeling.
Normally one trick works on me. Maybe it helps you too: I try not to think about the awful thing that im gonna do for just a minute and ask myself do you manage to get off your bed and just stand up within 10 seconds? And then after i managed the first step i give myself the next challenge which is entering 10 minutes in my alarm just for planning exaclty what im gonna do (i love planning stuff so its not a big deal and motivates me a lot). After planning is done every task seems a little more managable since it contains small steps. Of course i plan a certain time for every task in which i try to finish one step (works like magic. Im way more focused if i know that i only have 10 minutes to do something). The whole thing doesnt work always becouse i tend to forget the time or trick myself by saying ‚nahh you still have 3 hours left to do your work and you could still stay awake longer’ or ‚I cant do it yet just lets watch one last video‘ or i get distracted during my work or something. But try it out anyway
@@relaxolotl834
Thank you so much for your suggestions! While I experience some of those very same things, I was referring to an inability to actually move and finish getting ready when I am going somewhere, even if it's pleasant. For some reason my body just wants to move really slowly, and I can't make decisions, and it takes me twice as long to do whatever I need to do to get out the door. It's a paralysis of some kind, but I don't know how to address it.
@@MiriamMillen Ive never experienced something like that. But im glad you appreciated my comment about how to handle procrastination :)
@@relaxolotl834
I will take any help I can get, LOL! Procrastination is a serious issue for me.
But it is not a fear of harm keeping you still, like the girl trying to touch the hot stove. She can't make herself do it for fear of being burned. ADHD paralysis doesn't keep you from doing things because you may get hurt, it's a neurological disfunction. This video is highly inaccurate.
I would literally have an easier time touching a hot surface than cleaning my house.
💩💩💩💩💩
Or me completing my tasks
The trick that always helps me clean my house is having an important looming deadline for something completely unrelated to cleaning my house. 10/10 never fails to get me cleaning.
@@altipathyoh man , you are not wrong! I'll do the bare minimum cause I can't start then renovate the house if I know someone is coming over!
heyy my gf has ADHD- idk how I can help her start studying, I know she wants to and I know she's very smart but she has to study for a very important exam... Idk how I can help her with it- she's just not able to start and I know it's not her fault
I wish I could send this to literally every person I know because no one understands
Edit: thanks for the likes and I want to say that if you guys are gonna argue about this at least do your research because some of you guys don’t even know what ADHD stands for
Sameee!!!
Absolutely!!! This is insane. Like she’s definitely in my head!!!
Yes
Dude fr
Yes oh my god
We need to be tougher on some folks and help those that really need it
“I’ll give you a hundred bucks”
Me: “aight bet”
* doesn't give you $100*
Sold
@@LS_on_YT :(
The trick is to hold your hand over the burner then smack it with your other hand.
Works with ADHD too, metaphorically.
@@MajorBubbledwhat’s the fucking metaphor 😂
This the exact explanation to why I am sitting on my couch even though I want to be productive but I'm still just here.
No, you're just lazy.
Same. I HAVE SO MUCH HOMEWORK. 😩
Go
Hey me too! 😂
Bro same I've been sitting at my table trying to do my schoolwork for 8 hours now but I've only gotten 5 sheets of work done and it's a huge struggle since my Adderall meds wore off 🤠
I love this explanation, makes it easier to be nicer to myself. Just like our bodies have difficulty regulating attention, emotions, etc, it makes sense that our protective instincts might not regulate well either. It takes away the "I'm failing to do X, I suck" and makes it "Oh brain, you are misfiring again. That is not a lion, the floor is not lava." I think when we try to make ourselves do stuff, the brain just doubles down on the "I will protect you!!" and we freeze even harder.
This feels like a real understanding of my daily experience, thank you a lot for making this :)
Because my adhd makes me forget… I keep forgetting a method I learned in health thinking behavioral therapy. I keep forgetting to split myself into another hypothetical person and do things for that person.
People with ADHD feel emotions more strongly and are usually more compassionate that people without ADHD. So we have to use that for our advantage. No, not by tricking ourselves. We have to be fully aware and confident about our method to help ourselves so that we can be proud and gain even more confidence.
Pretend you’re doing it for a friend. Talk to yourself as if you’re a friend outside of your body. Or help your future self, who is actually your friend.
Then, have your other friend self l…compliment you for accomplishing your goal. This is to help you stand up for yourself instead of feeling ashamed for having to use a weird method just to accomplish something.
Stand up for your self-friend from the bullying thoughts that enter your negative ADHD mind.
THIS MAY HELP ME!! I am a helper & WAAAAY more compassionate of others & forget myself 🫠 currently trying to figure out how to care for myself rn
I think this might help me thanks!
How about we start a helper club? 😉
I’ve been saying “Be a friend to your future self for a while now!” I had no idea I was inadvertently coming out to everyone (I am diagnosed) lol
Part of ADHD is an inability to form habits. That includes routine things like taking meds, brushing teeth, and other things others people take for granted.
oh my god this explains it so well, not just for others without ADHD but for myself. even with all the "youre not lazy" ADHD pep talk i still thought i was lazy and stubborn, but now this perfectly illustrates the painful goddamn BLOCK i always feel when it comes to chores and tasks. thank you thank you thank you
I didn’t get it
Same.. really helped
@@samu-chan When you go to place your hand on a hot stove, most people experience a form of paralysis. As in, their muscles lock up and their brain physically will not let them do anything it considers harmful to them. It takes a great deal of will power for the average person to touch a hot stove for this reason.
When you have ADHD, you experience this paralysis when doing non-dangerous tasks as well. Several times I've realised I needed to do a task, gone to do it, and locked up.
The harder I push to just get out of my chair the more tired I feel, to the point where either I do something else (which usually happens when the task can be put off), or that's the only thing I'm doing for the next 4-6 hours because of all the physical effort I have to put in to just stand the fuck up- let alone doing the task itself!
something my old roommate would do would be like “okay, how about we do the dishes together?” and in this situation for me its like turning off the burner and then touching it. it makes it possible for me to get up and do it. We’d also study, do homework, and get coffee together. She was great.
That‘s awesome! I need someone like that in my Life 😄
so glad there was someone there to support you!
This is called mirroring! I've heard it's actually quite effective as far as ADHD goes. Happy it works for you! :)
My roommate and I call that body doubling! We both have ADHD lol
That’s sounds awesome
I have ADHD and this happens to me if someone tells me to read a book. I hate reading because it makes me feel like I have to finish it and I get distracted easily and read something then forget what I read and the words dont form sentences if ykyk but if someone asks me to read a book, I will say no it feels just like this video and it makes me understand a bit more how I feel about it ❤
This made me cry because this young woman is so perceptive. Thankyou
"just set an alarm" is one of my favorite piece of advice. I could have an alarm that punches me full in the face when it goes off and I still will hit the snooze and forget about the task.
I'll literally go get the things im supposed to do, set them right next to me, be staring at them and willing myself to just do the DAMN THING. And I still can't make myself do it
Same thing. I was taking too long to shower, so I brought this up with my therapist and she said "set an alarm" but like I'll turn it off. Other things I'l have on my to-do list and I won't do 'em even tho they're important. I hate myself for not doing the thing but I won't do the thing either 'cause I forget or I'm tired and leave it for another day (another day turns into next week). I appreciate that she doesn't shame me for "being lazy".
sadly i forget alarms are a thing until after i need them
I use an app called "alarmy" for this very purpose. It has settings that make you do math problems, take pictures of specific items, etc before you can dismiss it which basically stops you from just hitting snooze. My favorite setting is the "wake up check" which requires you to snooze the alarm 30 seconds before it goes off to stop it or it'll keep going off every 5 minutes
@chocolatesugar-lovage9678 do you bring the phone with you in the shower? how are you turning off the alarm? just leave the phone in another room and you'll have no choice lol
this is what depression feels like too. something as simple as brushing your teeth or getting up to go to the bathroom feels like a physically impossible task
Oooooh my god. I can’t get over the fact that my life becomes more clear day by day, this explained my paralysis for MYSELF. Thank you🙏
As somebody with ADHD you have no idea how much willpower it takes to snap out of it for a second long enough to go do something productive
I know right but when I try to explain it my family there like stop blaming it on adhd but I'm not I'm just trying to be heard but instead they shout at me it makes me feel alone cause I feel like no one understands 💔
As someone without ADHD I'm just wondering why all these 16k comments are saying they have ADHD
@@CorbinOlson-zs9dlmaybe because they actually have it. Dunno, just sayin’…
@@CorbinOlson-zs9dl because people with ADHD are the main people that watch this? (I have ADHD myself 😌)
Yes
‘Go do your homework’
“But I cant”
‘Just do it’
“I CANTTTT”
You are just lazy
It's a symptom not a life sentence. You can get past it even if it seems like a comfortable excuse. Every person experiences this at times, even people without ADHD experience the same "symptoms" just less frequently.
Dude I have adhd and you guys are just lazy and use it as an excuse just do your fucking homework dude
@oeoeoeoeoeoeoeoe that’s a dumb question, would you burn your hand on the stovetop for a million?
@@bruce4476 hell fucking yea
Not me watching this at almost 3PM, after a few hours of telling myself "I really should get up, eat and take my medication" while still in bed-
I struggle with taking medicine I need to live on time or at all.
What worked for me was having my pill box in my nightstand, a glass of water always topped up and two alarms. One to take them and go back to sleep and one to actually get up half an hour apart because the medicine needs to absorb for 30 minutes
U can do it buddy!
Your just lazy, 2.5 percent of the population has adhd and your not that 2.5 percent most likely
I don’t take adhd meds but I feel you I wanted to get something to eat at 11pm it’s now 6:24 am…
Same
This is probably the best analogy I’ve ever seen about ADHD paralysis, thank you! I recently said it’s like you’re at the traffic lights waiting for the lights to go green. Technically you could already cross the street but that’s not safe so you just sit there and wait until the lights finally turn green 😅 But this is actually so much better!
I have tried to explain this to my dad. He is a person who floated through school with not needing to study at all. when I say "I just can not do it" I think that it is so abstract to him that he can not even comprehend it.
Fr that’s me too i literally tried telling a family member I have adhd and they didn’t believe me
I'm extremely lucky that I still get good grades while not being able to concentrate and revise. I just know that if I was 'worse' my entire life would be x5 harder
FRRRRRR
Literally how my mother acts
Nah you're just lazy
Even when I already know I'm running late, I still can't force myself to just go to the thing yet. If I try to rush out like a normal non adhd person, I always forget stuff, or lock myself out or something crazy
This isn't ADHD cuz, this is you lacking the maturity and self actualization to be punctual.
If you are supposed to be somewhere at 2, be there for 1:50. Stop laying around. Get there.
@phant0mdummy Thank you.. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your sage like advice. It never would've occurred to me otherwise 👍 👌 🆒️
Yes, dysfunctionality breeds dysfunctionality. If you have to be somewhere at 9, start getting ready at 8:30. If you have to start getting ready at 8:30, think about getting ready at 8:00 and have a plan. Start ahead and work backwards instead of working from behind and making excuses later.
It's the freaking mind blanks every 2 seconds between changing basic tasks... as soon as one task is done... the entire activity is forgotten about.... that's actually a documented and well studied medical part of ADHD.... not that anybody without ADHD would understand unless they actually asked before judging.
@@phant0mdummy Well you tried, but the problem with channels focusing on mental illness is that they breed cults of victims whether intentionally or not. I'll just post a simple reminder for the cult. If you have a mental illness, it is your job and your job alone to create and enact a plan to control it. If somebody is not willing to accommodate you, that does not mean you are a victim, it means YOU need to adjust your planned adaptation method.
Sometimes I literally have to argue with myself when I can’t get out of bed, because I literally can’t even though I can physically
Thats the best explanation
My dumbass burning my hand off for $100 😂😂😂😂
Fr me too
😂
Honestly same
Me totally because it’s an induction burner and it wouldn’t even be hot😂
I would do it for a ham sandwich
this is almost exactly how it feels. except with adhd, there is no “bad thing” you know will happen, so it’s harder to explain. all i know is i /can’t/ do that thing yet. why? because it’s not “right”. it feels like being about to touch a hot stove, brain just says “no”
Exactly
And pushing yourself hurts the brain & makes one unravel.
Yeah, and there's no way to make things feel right - that I've yet found
I wasn't diagnosed til I was 40. I'm 56 now, no meds ever. YES, she explains it so perfectly! Thank you!
How do you manage to get your long projects done without meds?
Yes! I was disgnosed in my late 20s and im 34 now. Tried meds but its a lot to keep up with appts. So im living life without em. Lol i love these channels.
meds don't work for everyone @@millanferende6723
@@millanferende6723 That's why I stay on the meds. I might even be better off Adderall, but I was always treading water and going nowhere... I'm still in my 20's but so many years were wasted without it nonetheless, I should be further developed as a person than I am now and a lot of what I missed is lost forever. Now, I am a dead man walking, going the only direction I can to improve myself, but it might not ever be enough. It doesn't matter either way, if I'm not enough then I know there is nothing for me here.
I’m 12 and I might have adhd.
This has ben happening since I was maybe 4.
But I’m not going to get diagnosed because my mom.
She is probably going to blame my cousin with adhd for dropping me on the head when I was a little baby
I think I have that because anytime I’m supposed to get off the couch and go do the dishes. My brain automatically tells me no.
As somebody with adhd. Let these videos show that you arent the only one. And don't do what i did in school and use it as a crutch or an excuse for true laziness
That’s exactly what it feels like! Even when I know I’ll feel better if I just do it my brains like, “Nope! Not today!”
Yep. Even if it's a really fun thing, like playing a game or making cookies. My brain is just like "Nah, too much" and won't do it.
Want to paint.... End up not doing it at all oof 😅😅😅
It’s one of the worst parts b/c sometimes it feels like you have no control over your body, except that you do. Not to mention it’s really difficult not to feel like you’re lazy despite the fact ADHD is literally a disability. Like you are a disabled person, hence why you are not ABLE to move your body sometimes.
One of the hardest parts of having ADHD for me is when I don't think before I speak. I am 52 and am constantly putting my foot in my mouth. I feel like I have to watch myself carefully so I don't say the wrong thing. It makes me come across as being too serious and not much fun.
@@corisamuelsonYes, yes. 😭
yes freaking ssdi doesn't i don't THINK Identify it as one!!! not kidding - i think it took my dad who is my guardian (even at 44 YES) to tell them i have also (among MANY Many other "things" siiigh) a genetic disability/chromosome deletion syndrome before they'd even take me seriously!!!! HUGS
@@corisamuelson HUGS ps working out when i CAN or MAKE myself siiigh and DANCING (grooving) MIGHT HELP
@@margaretsewall1096 thanks! I will have to give that a try.
Best explanation I’ve ever seen
"I'll give you a hundred bucks"
*Tsssssss*
My ADHD speaks figures if ya ask me
Fr
I'd do that shit for 10
Another helpful way to explain how very very strange ADHD paralysis is, is that it happens all the time with peeing. Like omg I have to pee SOOO much, i need to get up and go to the bathroom, but my brain and body are just like "no" for HOURS. Thats not laziness, thats a medical condition lol
I do this and I will be bouncing around all day and be in actual pain but I'm just "not ready yet".
Also with getting out of bed in the morning.
So hungry my stomach goes through multiple rounds of quezy hunger pains and i just sit there like hmm should eat soon
@@improvedalpaca3294 me too, i want to improve my eating because im borderline underweight but when im hungry im always like "hmmm i should go eat" and end up not doing it
As I sit here holding my pee. 😂❤
I don’t have the medical insurance or money to get a diagnosis, but I’ve been like this with pee my whole life (i got a uti because of this).
My body will physically tell me “Hey go pee. Hey go pee. Hey go pee.” And my mind will just be like “Okay, I could do that, but I could also just sit here too.” For HOURS.
I dunno if I have ADD/ADHD but sometimes watching these shorts, I feel like I’ve noticed I do, not all, but a lot of what she and the comments here describe. :( I wish the American medical system wasn’t so fucked so I could just make an appointment and go get it taken care of.
This reminds of the audio, “take it off”
“I can’t” “take it off” “I can’t” etc
“I. CANT. TAKE. IT. OFF.”
Take it off.
I can't.
"I just thought you were being lazy" is an interesting statement. Either you come to understand that this paralysis IS laziness and chance your view of laziness into a more positive light. OR you choose to not define this as laziness and thus accept that laziness as you define it DOES NOT exist. To everyone reading this, make sure to remember to live life with respect for others ✌️
So ADHD paralysis is basically just all of your action abilities are on cooldown
Pretty much, yep. Despite me going "GET UP" in my head, there's this just... nothing.
A way to put it is like we get a
"You cannot do that here"
Message in our brain whenever we try to do something and this kicks in
Or when the wizard runs out of mana.
@@zer0pointnothing sounds like an excuse every one of these I read I’m like really dude.
"Go get something to eat"
"Sorry that action is on cooldown rn"
@@johnjames2162 Ikr, sounds like my generation is running out of bullshit to spew.
When I was younger, I used to just sit and be in my head, having a conversation similar to this. In complete silence, with no distractions or excuses, just telling myself to do an activity, stand up, or just simply move a limb. And yet, I wouldn’t move until somebody called me or I finally broke away.
Maybe, I was in over my head during these times, but I had no explanation for it.
Im 45 and i still get stuck and lost in my head constantlly and cant get out of it..its torture at times
Every day I learn so much about ADHD! This feels so much better knowing that I am not just a crappy adult!
33 years with adhd...prioritized lists(important up top least important down low) and rouine(attempts) are all we got some days!
Im going through the same stuff right now, instead of going to get drugged up, make a set of goals every night of stuff you need done. Drink your coffee in the morning then start on them! At the end of the day you will feel like you accomplished something and your mental health will be 100% better. If i start watching videos and lose focus next thing i know 12 hours have passed and i try and go to bed feeling like a degenerate.
@@abolishthe19thamendment wow that's a great idea!! I would never have thought about a daily list of goals / tasks. I do like finishing a list it's like a game to see how fast I can finish things! What else you got?!
First good explanation I’ve seen. Thank you for this
"just stop watching RUclips shorts about ADHD paralysis and go do your homework"
Literally my life.
You’ll get better at time management Aaron, I believe in you
Bro I’m literally reading this while I’m holding off on my homework atm
Me right now
the concept makes sense but my dumbass would've touched the stove tbh
@@Zero11174 Same
"Ill give you a hundred bucks!"
*Brings down the hand of god on the burner*
An adhd friend tried this, I was mad about that 100, though, now I know where she got the idea
I would sacrifice my hand for one hundred dollars and then get a job as an active volcano tour guide, wear a fake hand, and say, "Be very careful near lava and don't do this" while dipping the fake hand into lava, except eventually I would end up saying as a follow up, "Oops wrong hand"
Bro I literally got second degree burns to prove this bitch wrong, worth it.
@@GabeS-jm1zg I don't think you'll need a fake hand over a burn on specifically the palm
Deal
Finally someone who understands how ADHD works-
This actually helps a lot
I saw this video a few months ago and it was the first time i ever even considered for a second that I might have ADHD because i related so hard to it. Fast forward to now, lots of research and a failed ADHD test later (why did they use a test from 30 years ago lol, research has advanced so far from the primarily male dominated diagnoses), I am almost certain that I have inattentive ADHD and am going to schedule an appointment to get tested by someone who knows what they are doing. It all started here. Thank you so much for all that you do to open the eyes of the community!
What happened with your diagnosis?
I wasn't diagnosed the first time either! I found myself downplaying my own experiences out of embarrassment, which I hear is common. Hope you get your diagnosis and definitely don't be afraid to lay it all out on the table! 🫶🏻
I know bipolar women who were just convinced they had adhd, they convinced doctors to give them the diagnosis and the drugs and now they are completely ruined because they needed a whole other treatment plan for a different illness.
Get checked for autism.
@@NiaLaLa_VWith specialized medicine, there are no good diagnosticians anymore. The only way you're getting any diagnosis when you KNOW something is wrong, is by researching it and suggesting it to your doctor. It's not that you're trying to convince them, it's that we are left to be our own doctors because they refuse to be one
Even a trip to the ER is a nightmare. They won't listen, don't believe you, don't want to be bothered, won't do tests, most importantly won't treat pain, unless you're bleeding out.
It can be genuinely scary when you find yourself unable to get off the couch or bed.
This!!!!! I'm screaming in my head and trying desperately to move aaaaaaaaaand, not even a finger twitch. Only lasts maybe 4-5 minutes (for me) but that doesn't make it any better.
@@RowanWasHereone thing that normally helps me is trying not to think about the awful thing im gonna do for one minute and ask myself do you manage to get off your bed within 10 seconds? Just stand up and nothing more like its a challenge. After that i plan in detail what im gonna do which makes the work seem a lot more managable since it containes small and easy steps.
@relaxolotl834 I'm glad you were able to find something that works for you, and in certain cases I'll go ahead and try that. It is a good idea, thank you for sharing. Unfortunately for me, most of the time when it happens there isn't one specific thing that I'm dreading that keeps me from moving, or even something to dread at all. I just. Can't move. I'll put every fiber of my focus into trying to send signals to my limbs to move, even just a little bit, and nothing happens. And there's no reason that I've been able to figure out for it. It has gotten a lot better/happened a lot less in the last year or so, but it's still anxiety-inducing, because I have no idea why it happens or how long it's going to last this time. There's a very small part of me that I try to ignore, that's scared of the possibility of it, one day, not ending. Though again, I tend to ignore that fear for the most part because, 1(I know it's somewhat irrational, and 2( I have too many other things to worry about. Still wish I knew what it was, though.
@RowanWasHere A voice assistant that can make voice calls can help in this scenario, to call for assistance as a last resort.. Not gonna lie that is a scenario that sometimes goes through my head and worries me too. I’ve set my Alexa up to be able to make calls for that very reason (and Siri/HomePod can do it too)
Or adversely, go to the couch or bed. I say as I haven't slept and decided to go to work because I might as well at this point.
I hate that I know I do this. It doesn’t even matter if I actually am interested in it or not. Sometimes the sensation is almost like a physical aversion to doing something. I just can’t do it and I don’t understand why. So frustrating.
you need discipline
@@milannpizza you do realize that you went to a video about ADHD and then commented on a video that a person with ADHD should have more discipline. That’s a bad take. I mean, you do realise that ADHD impairs a person’s executive functions, right?
Well, and there starts the journey of self exploration. I had similar going on with me and I am 44 late diagnosed.
I had a lot of childhood trauma...I was told I was lazy etc...my entire family environment was toxic as all get go.
I wish it had been physical abuse but it was literally psycho terrorism in my household and manipulation tactics on end I suffered from severe teenage depression. My mom had an eating disorder and anxiety panic attacks but everyone just wanted to make like we were happy and normal. There was nothing "normal".
In my 30ies I challenged the voices in my head...if there was a voice that said I couldn't do it...I would question it and rationalize it and debate it until I realized that voice that kept me from doing perfectly "normal" things...we're the negative echoes of my family environment that I had just internalized as my own.
I still struggle a bit but not as much as I did 10 years ago because I now have learned to observe and recognize triggers etc.
I am more hyper now than I have ever been but I navigate it because I lost so many years to depression and that paralytic anxiety that wasn't even mine...it were the fears and anxieties of my mother.
Life has flipped for me and I live and love and accept myself no matter how erratic or quirky. I feel free being me ❤️.
Hope this may inspire you and I wish you all the best on your journey.
You're not invisible lol unless you wish to be.
@@aqua6613 I talked to my mum, when I was 18, about how I wasn’t okay. I started therapy after that and was told I am Autistic. Well actually it was the other term that isn’t used anymore. I was on monthly psychology appointments, but they are incredibly limited. Especially when the patient has no motivation and undiagnosed ADHD, because well, I wasn’t really going to actually do anything they suggested. Even if I wanted to, I wouldn’t keep it up. I also have home and family factors involved. Anyway, I now have fortnightly sessions, but I am going to have to find a way to make sure I am not left in the lurch during school holidays. Because I can’t get appointments for like a month or two because of them.
@@milannpizza you should know it's hard for people with ADHD, sure we can be disciplined in hyper focus mode but then we forget to drink water, eat food or take care of ourselves during that period.
I hate how this is relatable.
Yes!! I’ve never connected those dots but that’s absolutely what it’s like. It’s also why distracting myself with music or podcasts or something can help trick me into doing it. The harder I push my brain, the harder it pushes back, the anxiety and aversion just escalating until I’m in tears and not doing anything at all. I don’t really know WHY my brain treats paperwork like it’s going to cause me physical injury, but it does, and I just have to work with it.
I heard that singing might help. Obviously you can't do anything serious while singing, but you can do all the preps, then start doodling and ease into writing and reading.
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Recently I realized that if something is actually top priority, I need to act like it doesn't matter at all, because otherwise it becomes damn near physically impossible to get it done.
As someone with adhd paralysis, this is spot on
same bru
My guy its just adhd
Its crazy how literally everybody in this comment section has ADHD
@@karelsimek5871
Oh wow, who would have thunk it.
The algorithm sends ADHD videos to a huge number of people who have ADHD.
It's almot like recommendations are turned to your online activity
@@pegasusrr3156 dude..
I relate to ADHD paralysis so much as a person with it. Today I went from 7:00am-11:00am without any food bc I could bring myself to do it. I have many more experiences of it as well.
It's always the Basic Needs things huh?
@Erin Bathie-Moore annoyingly, yeah. Like today I was doing maths in class and just suddenly, my body refused to do the questions and I couldn’t bring myself to do them. It sucked bc I knew I could do them, my body just refused to.
Uhhh is it possible to experience this without adhd because…
@@ketchuppacket2837 I know
RIP. I frequently go from 10:00 to 20:00 without eating cause I just can't get off my bed😢. I feel your pain.
This is adhd related story, I had a prescription to adderall during college and it helped me focus and get actual good grades, one time my prescription ran out and I was scrambling to get it refilled and my mom saw me panicking and just said “why can’t you just focus?” And I snapped back “if I could ‘just focus’ I wouldn’t need adderall”, she sat there in stunned silence, because people without adhd can’t comprehend why we are thr way we are