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Listen to this man. He is dead on. People can only fake the funk before the real deal shows up. Recognize this person for what they are and RUN FOR THE HILLS!
This message is true. I was in a verbally abusive relationship that turned physical. The red flags were all over the place, but I ignored them. Never ignore the red flags!
The problem is many of us get lost in love and we lack discernment! Many men will show you who they are in the first month but many women won’t realize the red flags until it’s too late!
Sometimes we see the red flags, and we even address them, but we have already built up a fantasy in our minds that we have become loyal to. I saw all the red flags of a bad relationship. They even worried me, but I was too loyal to verbalize it and call a spade a spade. We need to learn to stop fantasizing and stop dealing with our hearts until a man has properly been vetted, observed, and shown consistency over a long period of time.
Wowwwww, i wonder if my ex husband thought the same thing. “Oh you a Christian, y’all don’t believe in divorce”.,. Honey he looked up and i was gone too ✌🏾
Yeah that is just a trick of the enemy. Divorce is necessary in some cases, and the good Lord knows that. So people need to stop misconstruing the scripture when it comes to divorce.
Girl same here! My soon to be ex husband actually ADMITTED to trapping me in the relationship because he knew I would honor my vows. Long story short, I DIPPED! ✌🏾👉🏾🏃🏾♀️. Thought he was about to have him a whipping post. Naw naw naw
Death is an unknown just like life without the toxic relationship. The latter you get to make a new life and you have a future. The former once it's over it's over there is no future.
I think it's hard sometimes for people to recognize red flags because we've decided that certain behavior is "normal". Nope!! I would had few pleasantries with a guy from time to time. Then we had a longer conversation in person and he asked me out. EVERYTHING in my spirit said "No!!! Run!!! Exit!!!" But I ignored it. He didn't say anything necessarily "wrong" during that conversation...so I gave him a chance. (even though it didn't sit right in my spirit) After I spoke to the guy on the phone for the first time something seemed off. I asked a friend's advice and she said I was being overly judgmental. Guess what...3 months later I was getting a restraining order on him. Listen to your God-given intuition. God gives us discernment for it to be used not ignored.
I just left situation like this yesterday just because I wouldn’t have sex with him when he wanted to and he got mad said I’m going home ok he tried flip it as I was having bad week and I was like naw you just mad cause I didn’t want have sex and I was tryn sleep when I say this man flip and became physical that’s a Nono I grab my taser tase him so no this so call relationship is over I want accept abuse at all last time I dealt with situation like this I almost ended up in pen I keep notice red flags 🚩 and speakn on them but he would try convince me he’s a good man into yesterday after 11 months the truth finally came out so I’m good don’t need bad energy in my life I will not put up with this behavior from nobody I mean nobody period and I block all access where he can’t contact me
Mrs Moss I know thats right. He betta be glad thats all you did was light his ass up. He dont have any buiness put his hands on you and nobody else. I would've shocked the hell out of his ass too then threw some cold water on him. I dont like violence but he started.
Yup....ex told me that if I left him he would find me and kill me, the new man (there wasn't one- he was very insecure) and himself.....GOT TO GOOOO!!!!!🏃🏾♀️....No contact ever since- over 10 years! 🙏🏿
Wow...I actually almost stayed in my abusive relationship. We looked good together. But I didn't make it a secret that there was abuse. Still, the hardest part was realizing people were just waiting for the relationship to fall apart... nobody was there to support me after the break up, yet they egged me on to leave him. If you want me to leave, be there for me for the aftermath
@@taghazoutmoon5031 @Taghazout Moon Is your staying or leaving about them or about you? Be there for yourself. Get remunerated support ), ie therapy, if need be given that theirs is not freely available.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 True, your support system/friends should've been there for you after you made the decision to leave him. If they were planning on your relationship to fail from the start from an envious standpoint then those aren't truly your friends. I'm hoping they wanted it to fail because they knew he was abusive & that you deserved better. Ultimately, your best support to rely on is GOD and yourself first on knowing what's wrong or best for you.
@@DynamicallyDC I think they were envious because my ex was very handsome and charming and overall I was pretty successful... that's why they weren't there after the breakup. Not real friends. I could feel it... have you ever felt the evil eye and just knew she was envious? I could see it so clearly after the breakup.
People need to stop letting people come all up in their lives too soon...like, coming to your house and introducing them to your family. I learned this the hard way. No one should know where you live any time soon unless you have put in the time to vet them and know that they're solid. You can pick up a stray dog who will destroy your life. It's really real out here...
My apologies for the long comment. Thanks for this message. Ladies and gentlemen, please listen and take heed. I’m alive today because I got away from my husband. He didn’t show any signs while we were courting. Two weeks after marriage, the abuse started. Physical, emotional and verbal. I went to our church leaders, they did nothing, and advised me not to go to the police as it would bring reproach on God. Don’t believe that, God is higher than man. He doesn’t approve of violence and will not condone it. Finally, my family stepped in and I’m grateful. Oftentimes people of this sort hide behind religion, please be watchful, as they are often manipulative and will gaslight you into thinking they’re within their rights. Be vigilant, when you see a red flag, prepare yourself to take action, once it starts, it will get worse. Please, pay heed and save your life and the lives of your children. May God bless you always.
Left my last relationship because everything he did pointed to him escalating to physical abuse. He insisted on trying to come back until i threatened to call the police. I live in an area where the DA 🚔 will push for jail time no matter what. He left me alone. I think he suffered from PTSD but that cant be my problem, me first! AMEN 🙏
My God!! I just went through this after a 2 1/2 year relationship. Once you put your hands on me I'm done because it will only get worse... Thank you for your wisdom..
i’m so glad i found you at such a young age i’m 16 but i want what is best for my future and i’ve seen my mom go through a lot so i wanted to figure out how to avoid all of that. i watch your videos almost everyday and i have learned quite a lot. thank you tony have a great day
Don't have sex until marriage!!! I wish I had followed that...protects you from most problems. If you get to know someone well enough to be ready for marriage, then you are safe. Biggest mistake is to sleep with someone and bond with him within knowing him and no commitment.
So proud of you! When you get older, you will understand how much of a blessing it is to live a straight life! I went the hard route and I'm still paying for it. Continue listening to Tony and check out Pastor Darby.
That’s amazing lady! I’m 23 & I wish that I was watching videos like this. Focus on yourself and your future !! If I could take anything back, I would’ve put effort into myself instead of an abusive situation for the clout
Tony give wise advice and its quite good. I am living in misery bc i married a grownboy who gambles, drunkard, smokes, do illegal street drugs and etc. These are all bad quality but it came after we got married so i never saw it coming. Keep watching his video and i hope you made a better choice in a mate.
@@nikkyshamz2696 you know a lot of time it Don't work.he does not care.he has already been to prison for murder.I went and got me a gun .thanks for the advice
This is soo true pray for discernment ladies. I had to file a restraining order against a nutcase that kept stalking/ harassing me & we weren't even exclusive or in a serious relationship
Tony thank you for your insight!!! I was married to a covert- narrisst and didnt know that he was abusing me because it became normal!!! My dad was an alcoholic and abusive so I didnt know the difference! 1 out of 4 women are abused everyday! My ex husband abused me financially, sexually, mentally, physically and then God woke me up and said walk out and I walked out after 30 years! Then he abused me through the court system!!! There is a trauma bond that makes you continue to be in the relationship! Your brain releases oxytocin from the bond. They say its easier to get off crack- cocaine than to leave a abusive relationship! I have done the research!!! I was disabled from his abuse!!! God is going to completely heal me!!!
Candy Wilkins please pray for me as I am praying God gives me the same set of instructions one day to know that I’m released from my marriage. The abuse is subtle and now he even denies it happened. I know I’m not losing it. I use the kids and my financial situation as excuses. I just need to get up and go. Please pray for me. Peace and blessings
Look up Narcissistic abuse recovery that’s a start in learning what you are dealing with and how to deal and or approach the situation. I pray for you and wish the best and safest outcome.
Wow..I can relate and it's sadly refreshing to know I"m not alone! It truly is addictive, it's hard to describe! After every fight, or temper tantrum! He'll act as if NOTHING has ever happened! I told myself I was doing what's best for the kids for a long time! Now, that I've given myself distance im starting to realize (O must completely cut ties) the kids are going to be alright..Candy Wilkins thanks for sharing!
Also be able to recognize psycho crazy people who are well known in society by (family, friends, buisness associates etc) and are accepted by society at the same time are well educated. Everyone speaks highly of the person, but behind closed doors its a totally different story. These individuals are able to speak and act in such a manipulative way that allows them to trap and control their significant other. Literally, a person is stuck and afraid to make a move. They go from 0 to 300 in nano secs over little things.... They are unpredictable and play alot of mind games. They are ticking time bombs and its only a matter of time before they become violently physical.
Ladies, please be willingly to leave your man if he abuses you in any way even if you have kids. Just make sure to have a safe exit plan . You might think your relationship isn’t that bad even though your partner abuses you here and there; however, when that day comes when the devil is in him for whatever reason you might lose your life!
When I was in my early 20s I dated a man who became extremely jealous and controlling. Where I went, who was there, what I was wearing etc. meanwhile all his friends were the same and they were all also cheating on their girlfriends so birds of a feather... anyway it finally proceeded to him putting hands on me. That was it... that one time and I was out! Not proud to say that I pushed him back when it happened. It didn’t matter how much he apologized, sent flowers, tried to drag me down and call me out my name.. the whole range. I was done. I’m glad I had the strength and ability to walk away. Some people are so worn down emotionally and mentally or are financially bound to their abuser that it’s not as simple as it was for me. I pray for all who are no those situations that they may be able to escape and find a healthy spiritually rooted relationship but most importantly self love.
I've moved away from him and stopped "laying on my back"..that's when I start being able to 👂 and see clearly!! It's so true that sleeping with a man before marriage isn't just (being religious)...it's fact! A woman can't hear and see (character) as clearly once she becomes (One) with a man, bc we receive his Spirit! Tony you're like a part of my family, talk about you to my girls! I truly appreciate you " Daily overcoming the devil", in order to be mentally, spiritually, and emotionally to speak into the lives of women!!! This video gives me more Food for 💡 thought!! Prayers to the fam n friends of the young lady that sadly lost her life 🙏
Toxic or tumultuous relationships never end well. Folks would rather kill- take a life of another human being- rather than leave it and move on. But there is always a root causing this type of behavior- it's always coming from somewhere. A person would rather take a life than see that person move on without them. That's the one that feels the need to be in total and complete control.
Mann Tony is like Big Brother..Your message speaks volumes..Met new dude ..told everyone.. them he curse me.out over something simple.. I was like uhhh let me get rid of his butt.. Adios .. Had to get gone.. First flag for me..
A!so if you go out n a date with someone that you just meet and they're mainly are talking about themselves during the whole conversation and haven't asked you any questions about your life that's a huge red flag.
I moved out of my apt, where I was paying all the bills. This dude picked physically fight for no reason. I was sleeping in my car with my dog at grocery store parking lot. My brother got his ass out!
The craziness goes beyond the people in the relationship..2 years ago my daughter called me crying..she had took her 1 year old son and left the guy she was with...he couldnt accept it..he had located her n one day while she was putting baby in carseat,he came out of nowhere n attacked her in front of my grandson..she sent me pics of her..I started to cry she was unrecognizable...she came home...we thinking it was over, he followed her from another state a few weeks later n the nightmare began..he started harassing me with phone calls n texts...sitting outside my house raising engine..police was called numerous of times...he broke the windows outta her car, took babys carseat..police called again..he started showing up at my younger daughter's job, calling her, contacting on fb..he would rant n rave on live professing his love for her, he put my number on fb having someone calling me snapping about something I was unaware of, pulling up beside me at stop signs, playing with me in his car on the road. He even had her name tattooed across his chest live!!!! Still police did nothing until I threatened to do harm if he came near us again...finally got a hearing date...he was a no show...got another date. He showed up...it went in our favor....a couple days later I'm looking through my blocked messages n he had offered to pay me to drop charges🤨..o yeah, I'm sitting in church..look around there he is...he has never been to my church...NEVA...got so bad I had to talk with my pastor..he offered to get involved...but he didnt have to because a few days later the guy went live shooting at someones home n someone ended up dead...he got arrested..I had come to the conclusion that something was wrong before these things happened ..his aura wasn't right...they say follow your first mind
Wow 😳 so sorry you and your daughter had to go through that! I have seen women be so naive about the character of a man! Praise God she made it out alive!
@@montricec8795 he sent my daughter a letter from jail talking about how he loves her n to pray for him...the mention of his name gives me chills..literally makes the hair stand up on body...hes talking as if nothing has happened...my daughter has nightmares sometimes..I didnt know my grandson had memories of it until 2 months ago out of nowhere he said mommy crying...I'm thinking she was right then..I'm like huh what she crying for...he said (NAME) whip her with shoe...I want you to whip him wit yo shoe...my mouth hit the floor..I told her to make a doctors appt...he said the same thing about 3 weeks ago...people forget about how this may affect the kids
“You Trapped “ ooh No I’m not i got up and left just like Sheri. Man stalked me for months. Had to put a restraining order on him. Thats how he knew i was not no ordinary woman. I meant what i say and the actions to back it up. Had to GO!!
I recognised the red flags early: Within 4 weeks begging me to take out my contraception. Said he didn't want to marry me Infront of his family member. Yet, he would state that women who were married before children are well respected. When I was on my monthly cycle, he forgot to buy toilet rolls but remember to buy 2 bottles of whiskey. (He would drink 2 bottles off within 4-5 hours). When I stayed at his home, I was ordered to charge his gas card to generate heating in his home. (I refused because I have my own apartment). I would have to buy my own food shopping. Given the fact, I would stay over at his home once a week, my groceries I bought were eaten by him (Never again did I buy separate food). Early on he would make comments, such as; what is his, is mine and what belongs to me is his (that was concerning for me) I never shared my money with him, I noticed he was reckless. He made comments that he would obliterate my friends to challenge their intelligence. This all happened within 2 1/2 months of dating. I left because he got irate over not cooking dinner on time. He called me names ordered me to clean his kitchen before cooking. I didn't say a word, just packed my bags, and left.I left some things behind which I could not carry and never looked back. It's been almost a year. So yes red flags are most definitely there in the beginning. We just have to observe closely. Oh and he would always say he's the best man ever and I was lucky to meet him.
I would always feel trapped when I would go back and embarrassed, and finally I became brave. Courage is nessasry to get away from a narc, b very careful about your exit plan.
You're so right Tony. I was in a verbally abusive relationship & he had all the signs....flying off the handle, raising his voice, cursing. After 5yrs I finally walked away. Thank God he protected me from being killed. God bless you brother Tony.
I am in this situation right now and been taken verbal abuse for as long as I could take and decided to slap the other person. And this other person knows the situation is toxic and they are children involved and the other person doesn't want to leave but is not paying for anything. Now I have to break my lease and take my children because of this... It's not worth staying in toxic relationships they only get worst. Please Pray For Me!!!
Happy Monday!! I see the subscribers going up🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽 hey luvs, this week will be a blessing. Speak everything positive over your life. #blessedtribe #positivevibes #lifecoach
Went 7 years and so glad I'm still alive! Last time I saw him he said that he might want to do some that's going to finish me for real. His face changed the expression and I will never forget how scary it became. That's when it hit me real bad and I woke up to the reality of our relationship: it was going to kill me. That's when I knew I have no right to let a single sound from him to reach my ears. Ladies! It's a sin to play with your life in the hands of crazy! Get outa this soul tie and wake up! Learn from examples like mine for God's sake! 🙏🙏🙏
I totally agree!! The last guy I dated Carried a gun. In the back of my mind I always thought, this dude just might use it one day. I didn’t trust him. Nope, no way..
I have learned so much from you .. The first red flag I pull a hamstring I dont have time to warm up , if it's their mouth I check him on it first if it continues I'm done , I have been able to weed them out and I'm dating correct 😊.. God willing I'll be able to take advantage of the life coach certification course while it's on sale .
Man... Character is very important. My existence character is just everything but positive. It's almost like he is allergic to doing the right thing. He literally does whatever he wants to do. Takes no accountability and my dumb self stayed out or fear because I call myself loving him. He doesn't care anything about love. He just wants to create soul ties with a bunch of women. I know that it doesn't serve me. Im capable of so much more than this and I know it. He was starting to irritate me and turn me off. I didn't have the same respect I initially had for him. NONE OF THIS WAS LOVE. He was a liar, a cheater, a GROWNBOY. Omgnesss Jesus help us stay on the right path. Thank you!
I had one that lied and cheated and I kept going back like I enjoyed this treatment. One part of me thought it was me. I couldn't understand why the girl he was cheating with all these years was still hanging on quietly. She has known about me for 3 years. I have known about her since August and I have been raising he&$ ever since. She seems to be ok with it. Then again, he is 18 years older than her. He is 46 and she is 28 and it looks and feels creepy to me, because I have a 15 year old daughter and I'm wondering if he ever looked at her, since he likes the young ones. My mind plays a lot of tricks on me. Last night, I called a prayer warrior. I asked her to please pray me out of this relationship/situationship/entanglement and she prayed on the phone. I'm in a good support group of ladies. I have to let this man go!! For good!! This is not love. If she wants to stay, so be it but I know I deserve better.
@LadyD Whatever he is, I'm still going through the motions of his mess. I often blamed me. Sometimes i still do. I still have to heal and more work to do. I'm praying to be delivered everyday.
You have no idea for you to speak this message on this particular morning. You are inspired and you confirmed a message that I received of the spirit this morning
Been watching your videos for 6 months now and purchased two books. Hands down you saved my life I just got tested like this with the physical , “Got tuh go” , 8yrs and a baby .......goodbye !
The sad thing is that there are women out here who truly believe that if a man puts his hands on her he loves her. It’s a sick mindset and it also shows that the woman doesn’t understand what real love truly is. A man that loves you, wouldn’t even think of putting his hands on you.
In Bojack they said. When you wear rose colored classes all the red flags just look like flags. Don't ignore the flags. Wear different colored glasses or take them off. I stayed in a situation for longer than I should have. I ignored the flags and it almost cost me my life. Trust your gut. Don't ignore the signs. Do what you have to to get out. And don't look down and beat yourself up over being in that situation. For letting it happen. Forgive yourself and acknowledge what that also means. For me it meant that I know that I am loyal. And I will try and I won't give up easy but when I'm done. I'm done. I realized I'm a lot stronger than I think and I deserve a lot more than what I think too. Stay safe. Stay blessed
Mental abuse was my red flag as a female i brought it to the table as well as they gas lit me to be narcissist to him which was a hurry up and leave but i stayed to long thank god i know the difference no love lost just free loving me
This will safe someone's life. Listening to things like this is a reality check of what I escaped out of. Thank you for putting this out there. This helps keep his horrible features in the forefront and therefore I'll remain hidden from him.
Thank you Tony for your care and protection of all of us, your sisters in Christ! May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY AND PROTECT You Tony and Your Family members on all areas of your lives IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
Ran away from a situation like this 3 years ago! I was going to hang with a friend and my ex chased me down. He followed my friends car and blocked us from getting out of the parking lot of the complex. He sent a rock flying towards the windshield and I was convinced I would die that night. My ex would always let his demons get the best of him. I ran away that night with just me and my dog. I stayed with my parents for 2 years after that so I could get on my feet. He was a toxic, sick and possessed person. He only worsened over the years that we were together. Leave NOW. I promise it gets better!
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I hope everyone views this video. Social media is enhancing this Jodi Arias mindset. Had to block someone over the weekend. The woman imagined scenarios just through a harmless liked post. The experience was the starting plot of a Lifetime movie. People you are connected with may be connected to mentally unstable individuals.
Any form of Ab**e I'm out, and I'm not saying it just for the comments. I live by this and left. I've only one life and it's my responsibility to safeguard it. I can replace a man not my life.
Thank you Tony for always being real with us girls even though I have brothers none of them would tell me the stuff that you're telling us so I thank you for enlightening us always and lifting us up always and caring for us always and be truthful with us thank you for being another brother from a different mother God bless you
If they belittle, degrade or put shame on your name to make themselves feel good and u insecure then u feel bad & start to ❓ yo self like is it me am i not good enough or am I not worth it you are worth it u are good enough it's them leave outta that toxic relationship get out of that situation u found yo self in it's an early red flag
I don't tolerate no form of abuse period - It doesn't matter how well he can provide & protect. How about the RED FLAGs on flame STOP, DROP & ROLL OUT don't play with it early detection
Thank you Tony!! I had to watch this again. I have never been physically abused, but I have been emotionally abused. You are absolutely right too!! There are red flags!! We just have to get out of "La La Land" and pay attention.
Also Tony when someone I feel hurt by acts this bullshit way is when I lash out in real mean ways and I can be really really mean so that’s why I cut things off with him today. Now I’m trying to figure out my next move.
My best advice is .. the things that you don't like about a person in the beginning but brush it off will magnify times a thousand when you get deeper in the relationship. It'll be the reason you leave so nip those red flags early on
Thank you so much Tony for this message! We all must find the strength to leave this type of situation and understand that the love for yourself is stronger than staying in a relationship that doesn't serve you!! Please stay strong!!
I find it better to love yourself to better yourself then have fake love or pull off a fake persona act they love u but they really don't it's a red flag
This topic reminds me of the movie « The perfect guy » with Sanaa Lathan, Morris Chestnut and Michael Ealy. The girl opened her legs too quickly to a psychopath. You gotta be very careful about that!
We all have to take time to pay attention to all the red flags early. I learned my lessons and trying not to ignore the red flags agains. I only went on two dates with this guy and i saw all the red flags because i prayed and asked God to show me who this guy is God showed me all the red flags. The guy knew to that i wasnt feeling his vibe. I tolded him he right not feeling his vibe so i stopped talking to him. Thank you God for answering my prayers. The big red flags are there for a reason dont ignore them it can save your life. Thank you Tony for always keeping it real. God bless everyone.🚩🚩🚩👏👏👍👍
He decided to ruin my Birthday by being late, making up some lame story, and when I confronted him about it I could tell he was upset and he said, “But it took me two hrs to get here” Was showing him last night where I used to live and he said something like, “you don’t know where you lived?” He keeps doing little things like this and dismissing my feelings so I’m done. I just told him I won’t be there to help him serve at church I’m more important. Men need to learn to step up and deal with their own emotions but I’m so done and that’s okay. And woman need to deal with their emotions also but yeah I’m so done. I’m seeing way too many red flags in this relationship.
This is so true, I was doing this and people started telling me to give someone a chance, ect..and trust me, it has gotten me no were...I'm going back how God lead me, red flag, bye bye
This is why I lOVE watching your videos! You are real and to the point with NO BULLSHIT! It's like we on the porch sitting back drinking a 40 and smoking an L just talking and shit and my dumb ass ask you questions about relationships and you just tell it like it is...And I be there looking at you like Word! You feel me !?! That's how I see you b/c you remind me of my peoples. Thats all we be doing. HOllA!
I never see someone lost her life because he ( she) stay single but I see the people’s lost her her life because they got married. My father says love is not blind. If you live with someone nothing goes well . No waste your time. Kiss and says good bye.god is provider .
People need to quit thinking crazy behavior is cute or flattering.
When those Red Flags start to keep you up at Night, you Have Got to Go.
I feel like that inner voice is God...
Yes, queen. :)
Yesssssss
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Some people rather have a warm body in their bed rather then building themselves up so they ain't acting thirsty.
I recognize red,blue, yellow and green flags. I watch everything and everyone!!!!!
Right Janice! Those flags come in many colors, watch them all just saying...
@@esalaymonae4246 That's right!!
Lol I know that’s right
Listen to this man. He is dead on. People can only fake the funk before the real deal shows up. Recognize this person for what they are and RUN FOR THE HILLS!
This message is true. I was in a verbally abusive relationship that turned physical. The red flags were all over the place, but I ignored them. Never ignore the red flags!
EXACTLY NEVER IGNORE THE RED FLAGS ✔💯💯
Yup, same here I ignored so many red flags!!! .. Never again !!!!
“You can’t play with it because you are desperate for a relationship.” TG
The problem is many of us get lost in love and we lack discernment! Many men will show you who they are in the first month but many women won’t realize the red flags until it’s too late!
That WHOLE part🤔💯
Exactly show who they are in the 1st month
So true
Sometimes we see the red flags, and we even address them, but we have already built up a fantasy in our minds that we have become loyal to. I saw all the red flags of a bad relationship. They even worried me, but I was too loyal to verbalize it and call a spade a spade. We need to learn to stop fantasizing and stop dealing with our hearts until a man has properly been vetted, observed, and shown consistency over a long period of time.
Thee Caribbean Princess Nad we romanticize situations that aren’t actually the way we see them. And yes. Lack of discernment as well!
Wowwwww, i wonder if my ex husband thought the same thing. “Oh you a Christian, y’all don’t believe in divorce”.,. Honey he looked up and i was gone too ✌🏾
Yeah that is just a trick of the enemy. Divorce is necessary in some cases, and the good Lord knows that. So people need to stop misconstruing the scripture when it comes to divorce.
“He looked up and I was gone” 😂👏🏾
@@ladennayoung2939 sister your right, cause I'll leave you in a minute, heck I will leave before it got to that point.
Praise Him
Girl same here! My soon to be ex husband actually ADMITTED to trapping me in the relationship because he knew I would honor my vows. Long story short, I DIPPED! ✌🏾👉🏾🏃🏾♀️. Thought he was about to have him a whipping post. Naw naw naw
Got to go!!!! Good word. Don’t stay because you fear the unknown. Trust God and move forward
Death is an unknown just like life without the toxic relationship. The latter you get to make a new life and you have a future. The former once it's over it's over there is no future.
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I think it's hard sometimes for people to recognize red flags because we've decided that certain behavior is "normal". Nope!! I would had few pleasantries with a guy from time to time. Then we had a longer conversation in person and he asked me out. EVERYTHING in my spirit said "No!!! Run!!! Exit!!!" But I ignored it. He didn't say anything necessarily "wrong" during that conversation...so I gave him a chance. (even though it didn't sit right in my spirit) After I spoke to the guy on the phone for the first time something seemed off. I asked a friend's advice and she said I was being overly judgmental. Guess what...3 months later I was getting a restraining order on him. Listen to your God-given intuition. God gives us discernment for it to be used not ignored.
Discernment is real, I've had to learn the hard way
Glad u are ok !!!
I just left situation like this yesterday just because I wouldn’t have sex with him when he wanted to and he got mad said I’m going home ok he tried flip it as I was having bad week and I was like naw you just mad cause I didn’t want have sex and I was tryn sleep when I say this man flip and became physical that’s a Nono I grab my taser tase him so no this so call relationship is over I want accept abuse at all last time I dealt with situation like this I almost ended up in pen I keep notice red flags 🚩 and speakn on them but he would try convince me he’s a good man into yesterday after 11 months the truth finally came out so I’m good don’t need bad energy in my life I will not put up with this behavior from nobody I mean nobody period and I block all access where he can’t contact me
Mrs Moss I know thats right. He betta be glad thats all you did was light his ass up. He dont have any buiness put his hands on you and nobody else. I would've shocked the hell out of his ass too then threw some cold water on him. I dont like violence but he started.
God bless you
Great that you were able to get away unharmed. Never look back..... they get worse the longer you stay. Blessings 💜
I'm glad you are ok and was able to get out of that situation.
M.p
Yup....ex told me that if I left him he would find me and kill me, the new man (there wasn't one- he was very insecure) and himself.....GOT TO GOOOO!!!!!🏃🏾♀️....No contact ever since- over 10 years! 🙏🏿
I wish I known about you sooner, wouldn't have married my husband! When you know better you do better!💯
God bless you
@@CaramelKissez thank you ❤
I am married and its quite miserable bc he refused to help with bills.
If you stay in an unhealthy relationship, stunting and fronting online not wanting to let your haters win, can cost you your life!! 🙌🏾💯
Wow...I actually almost stayed in my abusive relationship. We looked good together. But I didn't make it a secret that there was abuse. Still, the hardest part was realizing people were just waiting for the relationship to fall apart... nobody was there to support me after the break up, yet they egged me on to leave him. If you want me to leave, be there for me for the aftermath
@@taghazoutmoon5031 @Taghazout Moon Is your staying or leaving about them or about you? Be there for yourself.
Get remunerated support ), ie therapy, if need be given that theirs is not freely available.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 True, your support system/friends should've been there for you after you made the decision to leave him. If they were planning on your relationship to fail from the start from an envious standpoint then those aren't truly your friends. I'm hoping they wanted it to fail because they knew he was abusive & that you deserved better. Ultimately, your best support to rely on is GOD and yourself first on knowing what's wrong or best for you.
@@roseaduke8835 Agreed! Rely on yourself but if needed try to find other sources of support that is reliable when in doubt that you can't do it alone.
@@DynamicallyDC I think they were envious because my ex was very handsome and charming and overall I was pretty successful... that's why they weren't there after the breakup. Not real friends. I could feel it... have you ever felt the evil eye and just knew she was envious? I could see it so clearly after the breakup.
People need to stop letting people come all up in their lives too soon...like, coming to your house and introducing them to your family. I learned this the hard way. No one should know where you live any time soon unless you have put in the time to vet them and know that they're solid. You can pick up a stray dog who will destroy your life. It's really real out here...
My apologies for the long comment. Thanks for this message. Ladies and gentlemen, please listen and take heed. I’m alive today because I got away from my husband. He didn’t show any signs while we were courting. Two weeks after marriage, the abuse started. Physical, emotional and verbal. I went to our church leaders, they did nothing, and advised me not to go to the police as it would bring reproach on God. Don’t believe that, God is higher than man. He doesn’t approve of violence and will not condone it. Finally, my family stepped in and I’m grateful. Oftentimes people of this sort hide behind religion, please be watchful, as they are often manipulative and will gaslight you into thinking they’re within their rights. Be vigilant, when you see a red flag, prepare yourself to take action, once it starts, it will get worse. Please, pay heed and save your life and the lives of your children. May God bless you always.
Religion does not give immunity nor does is prevent death.
Right on, Br Gaskins! When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them; they ain't pretending.
Left my last relationship because everything he did pointed to him escalating to physical abuse. He insisted on trying to come back until i threatened to call the police. I live in an area where the DA 🚔 will push for jail time no matter what. He left me alone. I think he suffered from PTSD but that cant be my problem, me first! AMEN 🙏
My God!! I just went through this after a 2 1/2 year relationship. Once you put your hands on me I'm done because it will only get worse... Thank you for your wisdom..
I left my last situation because of emotional abuse.
i’m so glad i found you at such a young age i’m 16 but i want what is best for my future and i’ve seen my mom go through a lot so i wanted to figure out how to avoid all of that. i watch your videos almost everyday and i have learned quite a lot. thank you tony have a great day
Don't have sex until marriage!!! I wish I had followed that...protects you from most problems. If you get to know someone well enough to be ready for marriage, then you are safe. Biggest mistake is to sleep with someone and bond with him within knowing him and no commitment.
Keep up the good work young lady and stay the course. Continue to learn God's word and stay off of your back until you're married. PERIODT!!!
So proud of you! When you get older, you will understand how much of a blessing it is to live a straight life! I went the hard route and I'm still paying for it. Continue listening to Tony and check out Pastor Darby.
That’s amazing lady! I’m 23 & I wish that I was watching videos like this. Focus on yourself and your future !! If I could take anything back, I would’ve put effort into myself instead of an abusive situation for the clout
Tony give wise advice and its quite good. I am living in misery bc i married a grownboy who gambles, drunkard, smokes, do illegal street drugs and etc. These are all bad quality but it came after we got married so i never saw it coming. Keep watching his video and i hope you made a better choice in a mate.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Dont ever overlook the red flags because of being blinded by love or lust.
Sometimes the woman or man will leave and the aggressor will trick them into coming around then kill them because they left them
You are so right my ex tried too kill me on several occasions.
Pamela Gardner hope you have a restraining order on him
@@nikkyshamz2696 you know a lot of time it Don't work.he does not care.he has already been to prison for murder.I went and got me a gun .thanks for the advice
@@pamelagardner8581 you are welcome sis, stay safe out there please.
This is soo true pray for discernment ladies. I had to file a restraining order against a nutcase that kept stalking/ harassing me & we weren't even exclusive or in a serious relationship
GREAT message Tony!! There ARE a lot of CRAZY men & women out here!! No one is worth your LIFE!! Preach Tony PREACH!!
Tony thank you for your insight!!! I was married to a covert- narrisst and didnt know that he was abusing me because it became normal!!! My dad was an alcoholic and abusive so I didnt know the difference! 1 out of 4 women are abused everyday! My ex husband abused me financially, sexually, mentally, physically and then God woke me up and said walk out and I walked out after 30 years! Then he abused me through the court system!!! There is a trauma bond that makes you continue to be in the relationship! Your brain releases oxytocin from the bond. They say its easier to get off crack- cocaine than to leave a abusive relationship! I have done the research!!! I was disabled from his abuse!!! God is going to completely heal me!!!
Candy Wilkins please pray for me as I am praying God gives me the same set of instructions one day to know that I’m released from my marriage. The abuse is subtle and now he even denies it happened. I know I’m not losing it. I use the kids and my financial situation as excuses. I just need to get up and go. Please pray for me. Peace and blessings
Look up Narcissistic abuse recovery that’s a start in learning what you are dealing with and how to deal and or approach the situation. I pray for you and wish the best and safest outcome.
I pray healing and renewal over your life right now! God is able to do just what he said he would do! He is your shelter in the storm!
Wow..I can relate and it's sadly refreshing to know I"m not alone! It truly is addictive, it's hard to describe! After every fight, or temper tantrum! He'll act as if NOTHING has ever happened! I told myself I was doing what's best for the kids for a long time! Now, that I've given myself distance im starting to realize (O must completely cut ties) the kids are going to be alright..Candy Wilkins thanks for sharing!
Wiwwww
Also be able to recognize psycho crazy people who are well known in society by (family, friends, buisness associates etc) and are accepted by society at the same time are well educated. Everyone speaks highly of the person, but behind closed doors its a totally different story. These individuals are able to speak and act in such a manipulative way that allows them to trap and control their significant other. Literally, a person is stuck and afraid to make a move. They go from 0 to 300 in nano secs over little things.... They are unpredictable and play alot of mind games. They are ticking time bombs and its only a matter of time before they become violently physical.
Ladies, please be willingly to leave your man if he abuses you in any way even if you have kids. Just make sure to have a safe exit plan . You might think your relationship isn’t that bad even though your partner abuses you here and there; however, when that day comes when the devil is in him for whatever reason you might lose your life!
Some people will do all three abuses...verbal, mental, and physical 💯
That is so true..
When I was in my early 20s I dated a man who became extremely jealous and controlling. Where I went, who was there, what I was wearing etc. meanwhile all his friends were the same and they were all also cheating on their girlfriends so birds of a feather... anyway it finally proceeded to him putting hands on me. That was it... that one time and I was out! Not proud to say that I pushed him back when it happened. It didn’t matter how much he apologized, sent flowers, tried to drag me down and call me out my name.. the whole range. I was done. I’m glad I had the strength and ability to walk away. Some people are so worn down emotionally and mentally or are financially bound to their abuser that it’s not as simple as it was for me. I pray for all who are no those situations that they may be able to escape and find a healthy spiritually rooted relationship but most importantly self love.
You NEVER need to apologize or feel bad for trying to protect yourself.
Praise God!! You got away from him. One and done!! Blessings to you.
I've moved away from him and stopped "laying on my back"..that's when I start being able to 👂 and see clearly!! It's so true that sleeping with a man before marriage isn't just (being religious)...it's fact! A woman can't hear and see (character) as clearly once she becomes (One) with a man, bc we receive his Spirit! Tony you're like a part of my family, talk about you to my girls! I truly appreciate you " Daily overcoming the devil", in order to be mentally, spiritually, and emotionally to speak into the lives of women!!! This video gives me more Food for 💡 thought!! Prayers to the fam n friends of the young lady that sadly lost her life 🙏
Toxic or tumultuous relationships never end well. Folks would rather kill- take a life of another human being- rather than leave it and move on. But there is always a root causing this type of behavior- it's always coming from somewhere.
A person would rather take a life than see that person move on without them. That's the one that feels the need to be in total and complete control.
Mann Tony is like Big Brother..Your message speaks volumes..Met new dude ..told everyone.. them he curse me.out over something simple.. I was like uhhh let me get rid of his butt.. Adios .. Had to get gone.. First flag for me..
A!so if you go out n a date with someone that you just meet and they're mainly are talking about themselves during the whole conversation and haven't asked you any questions about your life that's a huge red flag.
I moved out of my apt, where I was paying all the bills. This dude picked physically fight for no reason. I was sleeping in my car with my dog at grocery store parking lot. My brother got his ass out!
Be Strong!! You deserve Respect!😊💜 There are some good men out there.. Focus on Self love ❤️
The craziness goes beyond the people in the relationship..2 years ago my daughter called me crying..she had took her 1 year old son and left the guy she was with...he couldnt accept it..he had located her n one day while she was putting baby in carseat,he came out of nowhere n attacked her in front of my grandson..she sent me pics of her..I started to cry she was unrecognizable...she came home...we thinking it was over, he followed her from another state a few weeks later n the nightmare began..he started harassing me with phone calls n texts...sitting outside my house raising engine..police was called numerous of times...he broke the windows outta her car, took babys carseat..police called again..he started showing up at my younger daughter's job, calling her, contacting on fb..he would rant n rave on live professing his love for her, he put my number on fb having someone calling me snapping about something I was unaware of, pulling up beside me at stop signs, playing with me in his car on the road. He even had her name tattooed across his chest live!!!! Still police did nothing until I threatened to do harm if he came near us again...finally got a hearing date...he was a no show...got another date. He showed up...it went in our favor....a couple days later I'm looking through my blocked messages n he had offered to pay me to drop charges🤨..o yeah, I'm sitting in church..look around there he is...he has never been to my church...NEVA...got so bad I had to talk with my pastor..he offered to get involved...but he didnt have to because a few days later the guy went live shooting at someones home n someone ended up dead...he got arrested..I had come to the conclusion that something was wrong before these things happened ..his aura wasn't right...they say follow your first mind
Wow 😳 so sorry you and your daughter had to go through that! I have seen women be so naive about the character of a man! Praise God she made it out alive!
Now, he is in jail and that is exactly what he needed. I hate someone lost their life, but God fixed him! Let's hope he stays in there!
@@a1xluv sometimes we see what we want to see...we be in denial
Lord have Mercy he sounds like a Character from a Horror Movie
@@montricec8795 he sent my daughter a letter from jail talking about how he loves her n to pray for him...the mention of his name gives me chills..literally makes the hair stand up on body...hes talking as if nothing has happened...my daughter has nightmares sometimes..I didnt know my grandson had memories of it until 2 months ago out of nowhere he said mommy crying...I'm thinking she was right then..I'm like huh what she crying for...he said (NAME) whip her with shoe...I want you to whip him wit yo shoe...my mouth hit the floor..I told her to make a doctors appt...he said the same thing about 3 weeks ago...people forget about how this may affect the kids
“You Trapped “ ooh No I’m not i got up and left just like Sheri. Man stalked me for months. Had to put a restraining order on him. Thats how he knew i was not no ordinary woman. I meant what i say and the actions to back it up. Had to GO!!
Before ge could finish "you trapped," I said "I'm never stuck." Had to show many people better than I could tell them.
maebeacook INDEPENDENT Ladies who Love themself know when to say enough is enough 👍🏾👑conscious
I recognised the red flags early:
Within 4 weeks begging me to take out my contraception.
Said he didn't want to marry me Infront of his family member. Yet, he would state that women who were married before children are well respected.
When I was on my monthly cycle, he forgot to buy toilet rolls but remember to buy 2 bottles of whiskey. (He would drink 2 bottles off within 4-5 hours).
When I stayed at his home, I was ordered to charge his gas card to generate heating in his home. (I refused because I have my own apartment).
I would have to buy my own food shopping. Given the fact, I would stay over at his home once a week, my groceries I bought were eaten by him (Never again did I buy separate food).
Early on he would make comments, such as; what is his, is mine and what belongs to me is his (that was concerning for me) I never shared my money with him, I noticed he was reckless.
He made comments that he would obliterate my friends to challenge their intelligence.
This all happened within 2 1/2 months of dating. I left because he got irate over not cooking dinner on time. He called me names ordered me to clean his kitchen before cooking.
I didn't say a word, just packed my bags, and left.I left some things behind which I could not carry and never looked back. It's been almost a year. So yes red flags are most definitely there in the beginning. We just have to observe closely. Oh and he would always say he's the best man ever and I was lucky to meet him.
The moment you get hint of any red flag(big/small), get up & get gone for good!
I would always feel trapped when I would go back and embarrassed, and finally I became brave. Courage is nessasry to get away from a narc, b very careful about your exit plan.
Yes that is good advice as well. They will take you out at times. If they think you are trying to leave them.
Good for you!
Your so right Tony ❤️ Recognize the red flags early. That even start from the approach of a man.
You're so right Tony. I was in a verbally abusive relationship & he had all the signs....flying off the handle, raising his voice, cursing. After 5yrs I finally walked away. Thank God he protected me from being killed. God bless you brother Tony.
I am in this situation right now and been taken verbal abuse for as long as I could take and decided to slap the other person. And this other person knows the situation is toxic and they are children involved and the other person doesn't want to leave but is not paying for anything. Now I have to break my lease and take my children because of this... It's not worth staying in toxic relationships they only get worst. Please Pray For Me!!!
Happy Monday!! I see the subscribers going up🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽 hey luvs, this week will be a blessing. Speak everything positive over your life. #blessedtribe #positivevibes #lifecoach
Happy Monday to you too, Caramel Kissez, enjoy your day!!
@@quanettaanderson3079 you as well luv🤗
I have watched numerous
Movies about Spousal
Abuse and they all had
The same story line!.
Until you get tired
Of the abuse it will never
Stop!.
8 dislikes= 8 guilty of these crazy traits
Went 7 years and so glad I'm still alive! Last time I saw him he said that he might want to do some that's going to finish me for real. His face changed the expression and I will never forget how scary it became. That's when it hit me real bad and I woke up to the reality of our relationship: it was going to kill me. That's when I knew I have no right to let a single sound from him to reach my ears.
Ladies! It's a sin to play with your life in the hands of crazy! Get outa this soul tie and wake up! Learn from examples like mine for God's sake! 🙏🙏🙏
I totally agree!! The last guy I dated Carried a gun. In the back of my mind I always thought, this dude just might use it one day. I didn’t trust him. Nope, no way..
I have learned so much from you .. The first red flag I pull a hamstring I dont have time to warm up , if it's their mouth I check him on it first if it continues I'm done , I have been able to weed them out and I'm dating correct 😊.. God willing I'll be able to take advantage of the life coach certification course while it's on sale .
When a women's fed up.. It ain't nothing you can do about it.😉
Man... Character is very important. My existence character is just everything but positive. It's almost like he is allergic to doing the right thing. He literally does whatever he wants to do. Takes no accountability and my dumb self stayed out or fear because I call myself loving him. He doesn't care anything about love. He just wants to create soul ties with a bunch of women. I know that it doesn't serve me. Im capable of so much more than this and I know it. He was starting to irritate me and turn me off. I didn't have the same respect I initially had for him. NONE OF THIS WAS LOVE. He was a liar, a cheater, a GROWNBOY. Omgnesss Jesus help us stay on the right path. Thank you!
I had one that lied and cheated and I kept going back like I enjoyed this treatment. One part of me thought it was me. I couldn't understand why the girl he was cheating with all these years was still hanging on quietly. She has known about me for 3 years. I have known about her since August and I have been raising he&$ ever since. She seems to be ok with it. Then again, he is 18 years older than her. He is 46 and she is 28 and it looks and feels creepy to me, because I have a 15 year old daughter and I'm wondering if he ever looked at her, since he likes the young ones. My mind plays a lot of tricks on me. Last night, I called a prayer warrior. I asked her to please pray me out of this relationship/situationship/entanglement and she prayed on the phone. I'm in a good support group of ladies. I have to let this man go!! For good!! This is not love. If she wants to stay, so be it but I know I deserve better.
@LadyD Whatever he is, I'm still going through the motions of his mess. I often blamed me. Sometimes i still do. I still have to heal and more work to do. I'm praying to be delivered everyday.
Verbal abuse is one step away from physical abuse. Thank you for sharing this very important message.
You have no idea for you to speak this message on this particular morning. You are inspired and you confirmed a message that I received of the spirit this morning
Me too! I’m in awe 🤯
@@bubblegumpop88 this is why I keep up with his videos because I am able to understand my worth from his videos
Me too in a sense. An abusive ex is trying to come back into my life.
@@ladennayoung2939 Same thing with me
Been watching your videos for 6 months now and purchased two books. Hands down you saved my life I just got tested like this with the physical , “Got tuh go” , 8yrs and a baby .......goodbye !
The sad thing is that there are women out here who truly believe that if a man puts his hands on her he loves her. It’s a sick mindset and it also shows that the woman doesn’t understand what real love truly is. A man that loves you, wouldn’t even think of putting his hands on you.
In Bojack they said. When you wear rose colored classes all the red flags just look like flags. Don't ignore the flags. Wear different colored glasses or take them off. I stayed in a situation for longer than I should have. I ignored the flags and it almost cost me my life. Trust your gut. Don't ignore the signs. Do what you have to to get out. And don't look down and beat yourself up over being in that situation. For letting it happen. Forgive yourself and acknowledge what that also means. For me it meant that I know that I am loyal. And I will try and I won't give up easy but when I'm done. I'm done. I realized I'm a lot stronger than I think and I deserve a lot more than what I think too. Stay safe. Stay blessed
Mental abuse was my red flag as a female i brought it to the table as well as they gas lit me to be narcissist to him which was a hurry up and leave but i stayed to long thank god i know the difference no love lost just free loving me
This is a good one, thanks Tony!
This will safe someone's life. Listening to things like this is a reality check of what I escaped out of. Thank you for putting this out there. This helps keep his horrible features in the forefront and therefore I'll remain hidden from him.
Thank you Tony for your care and protection of all of us, your sisters in Christ!
May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY AND PROTECT You Tony and Your Family members on all areas of your lives IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!!
AMEN!!!!
Ran away from a situation like this 3 years ago! I was going to hang with a friend and my ex chased me down. He followed my friends car and blocked us from getting out of the parking lot of the complex. He sent a rock flying towards the windshield and I was convinced I would die that night. My ex would always let his demons get the best of him. I ran away that night with just me and my dog. I stayed with my parents for 2 years after that so I could get on my feet. He was a toxic, sick and possessed person. He only worsened over the years that we were together. Leave NOW. I promise it gets better!
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I hope everyone views this video. Social media is enhancing this Jodi Arias mindset. Had to block someone over the weekend. The woman imagined scenarios just through a harmless liked post. The experience was the starting plot of a Lifetime movie. People you are connected with may be connected to mentally unstable individuals.
Any form of Ab**e I'm out, and I'm not saying it just for the comments. I live by this and left. I've only one life and it's my responsibility to safeguard it. I can replace a man not my life.
I am happy you are educating people about healthy relationships
These videos have changed my outlook on relationships and my life.
Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Gaskins!!!!
Thank you Tony for always being real with us girls even though I have brothers none of them would tell me the stuff that you're telling us so I thank you for enlightening us always and lifting us up always and caring for us always and be truthful with us thank you for being another brother from a different mother God bless you
Luv that Flowda accent...you preach ole skool wisdom Bro!Preach from experience!And it is a mirror of dysfunction inside....polish the mirror 👍🏽🌞
If they belittle, degrade or put shame on your name to make themselves feel good and u insecure then u feel bad & start to ❓ yo self like is it me am i not good enough or am I not worth it you are worth it u are good enough it's them leave outta that toxic relationship get out of that situation u found yo self in it's an early red flag
Yessss I’ve been waiting for this one Aaaaamennnnn 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I ran for my life...The beatings and dragging was beyond crazy... I didn't think I'd ever leave...
Praise God you had the strength and ability to leave ❤️
Amen!🧡
My God happy you survived 🙏🏾
God gave you the strength! Blessings for your new and better future
Thank you all! God is awesome. It pays to be obedient to the signs...
I don't tolerate no form of abuse period - It doesn't matter how well he can provide & protect. How about the RED FLAGs on flame STOP, DROP & ROLL OUT don't play with it early detection
I know what that is like trying to prove stuff to ur haters and not letting ur family down💯please God not people fr
Thank you for this timely word 🙏🏾
These signs are also relevant with toxic family members.People are always telling on themselves, your only job is to listen! Then ACT,NOT OBSERVE
Just started watching but just want to say *THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO TONY!!*
Thank you Tony!! I had to watch this again. I have never been physically abused, but I have been emotionally abused. You are absolutely right too!! There are red flags!! We just have to get out of "La La Land" and pay attention.
Also Tony when someone I feel hurt by acts this bullshit way is when I lash out in real mean ways and I can be really really mean so that’s why I cut things off with him today. Now I’m trying to figure out my next move.
I got out. Thanks be to God. God saved me and his word keeps filling my cup up more and more.
Hey Tony gaskins txs for giving them a message that will save there life please remember people love don't hurt God bless you all
My best advice is .. the things that you don't like about a person in the beginning but brush it off will magnify times a thousand when you get deeper in the relationship. It'll be the reason you leave so nip those red flags early on
Haven't heard oddy body (odd shaped body) in a loooong time...lol....
My personal red flag is cursing when I'm angry. I'm working on it!
Thank you Tony. This was right on time. Sending my Blessings to you and your family.
Thank you so much Tony for this message! We all must find the strength to leave this type of situation and understand that the love for yourself is stronger than staying in a relationship that doesn't serve you!! Please stay strong!!
I find it better to love yourself to better yourself then have fake love or pull off a fake persona act they love u but they really don't it's a red flag
This topic reminds me of the movie « The perfect guy » with Sanaa Lathan, Morris Chestnut and Michael Ealy. The girl opened her legs too quickly to a psychopath. You gotta be very careful about that!
PREACH 💯 YOUR SPEAKING FACTS KING GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY 💙
We all have to take time to pay attention to all the red flags early. I learned my lessons and trying not to ignore the red flags agains. I only went on two dates with this guy and i saw all the red flags because i prayed and asked God to show me who this guy is God showed me all the red flags. The guy knew to that i wasnt feeling his vibe. I tolded him he right not feeling his vibe so i stopped talking to him. Thank you God for answering my prayers. The big red flags are there for a reason dont ignore them it can save your life. Thank you Tony for always keeping it real. God bless everyone.🚩🚩🚩👏👏👍👍
Tony I have a killer inside of me, but I choose to let God take over and be lead by the Spirit. I just walk away from situations and stay to myself
Thank you Man of God for your wisdom and enlightenment. Be blessed.
He decided to ruin my Birthday by being late, making up some lame story, and when I confronted him about it I could tell he was upset and he said, “But it took me two hrs to get here”
Was showing him last night where I used to live and he said something like, “you don’t know where you lived?” He keeps doing little things like this and dismissing my feelings so I’m done. I just told him I won’t be there to help him serve at church I’m more important. Men need to learn to step up and deal with their own emotions but I’m so done and that’s okay. And woman need to deal with their emotions also but yeah I’m so done. I’m seeing way too many red flags in this relationship.
This is so true, I was doing this and people started telling me to give someone a chance, ect..and trust me, it has gotten me no were...I'm going back how God lead me, red flag, bye bye
Every time my friends told me to "give someone a chance" it was hell. You know you better than anyone
This is why I lOVE watching your videos! You are real and to the point with NO BULLSHIT! It's like we on the porch sitting back drinking a 40 and smoking an L just talking and shit and my dumb ass ask you questions about relationships and you just tell it like it is...And I be there looking at you like Word! You feel me !?! That's how I see you b/c you remind me of my peoples. Thats all we be doing. HOllA!
Great and very informative video.
Present!! Let's go Tony!
Second Verse same as the first!. A Woman will stay
In a Bad relationship with
A man!. But others won't
Start a good relationship
With a man!.
Also saw a comment on here that said, “when they don’t ask you any questions then that’s a red flag” he never asks me any questions really.
I never see someone lost her life because he ( she) stay single but I see the people’s lost her her life because they got married. My father says love is not blind. If you live with someone nothing goes well . No waste your time. Kiss and says good bye.god is provider .
People are out here insane. It’s so sad. I see it too. People have no control over their emotions and are clueless about managing their emotions.