Being of my introverted personality, i don't mind letting go of people who I feel that are toxic. I tried to being altruistic and reaching out to people who I considered friends. I realized that 90% of them were trying to use me for favors, manipulating me to help out their problems, or hanging around due to convenience. When I was struggling and feeling down, most of them would never lend me a helping hand. A lot of my so called friends would always gossip behind my behind and act very snarky and condescending when I talk to them. You have to really thick skinned and strong minded if you want to live the loner lifestyle. Most ppl are weak minded and want to be around a large crowd in order to feel accepted. I feel very comfortable having a very small circle of friend and I make sure that ppl want to form a friendship with me have to prove themselves before I open up to them. This world that we live in is very sick and evil and opening up to everybody puts you in a position where ppl can exploit you.
How can you keep up with that!? I feel the same about my friends and it really scarred me. I am afraid open up to anyone in the future. It's like my life is a practical joke.
I'm on your side because I'm more content rather than seeking short term happiness through friendship or nightlife. That shit is exhausting. Being alone doesn't mean lonely. It's reflective to oneself. In time, you'll began to develop friends in you. Recreating many types of personality in your own head. Once you achieved friending your own, it's going to feel weird wanting to have more people in your life. And it's fuckin 3am right now.
i understand what u mean most people want to be in a crowd because they feel reassured. Sometimes we enjoy company and sometimes when having dealt with loneliness at some stage in ones life. Makes them not want to be alone, when you see people's happy faces together enjoying good time with their friends. You want to be able to have that emotion of happiness. Sometimes I'm like, if I leave this person because they haven't been caring much about me. and I'm alone all the time I'll get bored and it's so dull and boring. of course it's good to have solitude sometimes (peace of mind). having the thought of support and you giving support gives u a warm happy feeling. of Love,sincerity and kindness. Of course we won't always be able to agree with the persons thoughts but are able resolve disputes with out involving drama or outsiders. And without leaving the other party upset, annoyed and vulnerable. And sometimes with humans our emotions we Let get the better of us. What I'd like to do or wish to do is not go talk to my other friends about a dispute or something they might not known they have done that has upset or offended me. Of course if I'm upset with the friend I would say what I'm upset with them about kindly as possible. But sometimes my mind will over think they'll take it the wrong way or go and back talk you. It's that fear, but like someone close to me, me knowing them and them knowing me I wouldn't be as worried. Confrontation is all about the friend how you'll think the friend will the respond. I used think I wonder how people remember what to write in their diaries for they're whole day. I figured out If I don't want to talk to another friend about how one friend annoyed me. And if I'm so eager and just to let it out (I can't concentrate on a task when thinking about something that might've annoyed me). Get any old paper and literally scribble what I'm thinking. when i mean scribble i mean it doesn't even count as handwriting. And I did that and I knew what I meant thenext scrunched it up and put in the bin. Afterwards I was able to relax and concernstrate. All I did is write who got me annoyed and how I feel (usually the person has probably done it more than once). And I thought to myself I could've told someone else this and they could've wrecked my friendship with that person because in that time I was annoyed. And I could have something mean. Later on that day my friend did the same thing that pi**ed me off before. And I told them that doing this is making me feel so and so. She apolgzed and explained her side and I forgave her. Forgetting whatever happened, without regret that I said anything that to other people. As it is between me and that person.
@@mydaysfilm3704 I understand that feeling to there are always going to be people who just like to provoke and upset you. But never let them stop u from where u are going to be in life. There's gonna be the most horrid people u come across in life and the most kindest people who should keep Close. It's ok if you can't fully trust people it just means your more aware, who knows maybe in time that kind person will gain your trust without u even knowing u trust them.
The best weapon that you can use against a fake friend is to be positive on life and do not get even with them just separate yourself from them one step at a time that means for yourself you make new friends
When I was 17 I had around 20 friends who I thought were real fast forward 6 years later now 23 I only have 1 real friend and a girlfriend that’s all I need tbh so watch out for those snakes who call themselves your friends 🐍
You have just proven that I have no friends just one family member/friend that is actually there for me because they WANT to be. Made me sad but I’m glad I know now.
sheena chante' don't go by that logic. It's only one person's perspective that's making you think you have no friends?? Here's my opinion; true friends help you when you're down... what ever their intention is. Point is they helped you. (We as non toxic people need to feel gratitude for that) We all feel jealous emotions because we are all humans. There is no such thing a s a non jealous animal; Non jealous mamal; non jealous humans. We all have that emotion. The thing that separates good people from toxic people is that good peopel are able to keep their jealousy in check in order to prioritise what matters to them most- the friendship; the people they love. I wanna ask you to put yourselves in these shoes: your best friend becomes a successfull billionaire overnight... Will u not feel intense stabs of jealousy? Especially initially? Who wouldn't? But the thing is we reason with those jealous emotions and keep them in check because we love our friends and that was supposed to be their destiny. They may need real friends more than ever now that they are going through a tumultuous cycle (everything that comes with being rich and successful) so how can we then point fingers at our best friends if they did feel jealous over our success? It's our job to be empathetic towards them and include them in our life and our success.
What ? ..... You said absolutely nothing and then tried to justify Your right to say it ..... Every Human Being on this planet judges everyone and everything around Them with every action They take ...... Think about it ..... You assumed My comment was meant in a negative connotation ..... That says a lot about You , in My opinion .......
After watching this I've come to realize that I have no real friends. Damn, all these years were a waste, but I'm glad to find out. Thank you for this, I really needed it!
@@neptunimidie267 facts expose they ass and they get mad and bring up everything but their actions and act like they did nothing wrong trying to pull others into the mix that really don't know anything themselves which is a headache I know how you feel
unless the government crippled you economicmy and you really don't have friends so they force you to hang out with people who used to be your friends but don't give to shits about you except about how you do everything Nd talk.because they think your cool and want to capitalize on you every time you take shit but don't pay you crap... and you hang out with them just to smoke.pot because they watch you and know what you want.. if they need you they'll keep.you homeless untill they milk every dime out of you. america
A real friend is someone who will walk the depths of hell with you and have the balls to fight alongside you and back you up. Unfortunately, I dont have anyone who is around like that. A friend is someone who responds and will work on projects with you and not leave you in the dust.
Tittle should be : “ How to unveil haters within your social circle” He hits this on the head, I’ve seen the results myself. Fakes will dissipate with almost every level of success you acquire. Keep your friend count low, they can be a distraction at times.
Yeah you're right. When i quit drinking several years ago I lost a lot of friends that I thought I would be friends with forever. It was disappointing but now I'm happy I don't have to deal with fake people.
This wasn't just another "cut off your haters" video. This video, Ryan actually made logical sense and you have thoroughly explained what a person should do to determine if their close associates are for you or not. You broke it down. Keep it up 👏
All my friends are fake, I knew since the beginning but I kept them because I can’t stand being alone. That means that I will surround myself with fake people and soon become a fake person.
Ryan it's so true. So many "friends" are just convenience, once you require an extra step (like making plans) to make it work, they are gone with the wind 😂
Yes. Most of it is convenience. Very few become really close friends and still is convenience because they like the same subjects or else. The only true friend you will ever meet is yourself. Besides each of us have their very unique dreams or accomplishments to build. We keep changing people that can add you or add to your goals. And if you get up or down in the capital social ladder you loose even family because the beliefs and values radically change.
Can't tell you how much this comment means being that I'm often misunderstood for just being who I am! Yes! I pride myself on being genuine, trustworthy, and keeping it real...so if that's what you're looking for you have the right channel! Thanks for the comment, welcome to the team! ✊🏽🙏🏽
Ryan David Thank you. Glad to be here! The power and courage of honest and clear people is misundersrood because chumps don't live this way. They live lies, so the truth is a foreign language to them, both verbal and non verbal. They often try to make it seem like you're wrong to reconcile those differences.
There's this girl that I have known for a while and she didn't really know me for my intelligence, we knew each other out of school, which I excel at. So this year we were put in the same class and she sees that I'm better than her in that class. She about cried at lunch because she was jealous of me. Whenever I get better marks than her, she gets VERY jealous. whenever she gets better makes than me, she gets extremely happy. this video was an eye-opener.
I feel this way about 95% of the people I know, nobody actually cares about what I do, all I hear is "good luck," and "nice job, that's pretty cool," then the conversation is over. For people my age its all about the latest videos or trends or bits of drama and crap, people today are so shallow and dry and finding people I can relate to and have meaningful friendships with are rare.
Great insight. Change is the ultimate litmus test of true friendship. I moved city for education and I barely got calls from people who spent 24*7 with me. That was 10 years ago and now we most of them are not my friends.
I noticed this a lot when I began working out avidly back in August 2017. Might seem weird, but I actually lost touch with a lot of "friends" through that change -- and I am not the least bit sad about it.
So true! I get the snide passive/ aggressive comments about me going to the gym lol. Plus I’m making a career change and back to studying. So my priorities are different nowadays. My time management has to be on point. The kiss of death for me and who I invite into my space is “It must be nice”. Anyone says that to me out of jealousy or regret for their personal decisions and I will not be breaking bread with them- I got better people to meet. ✌🏼
Amen, Ryan! Amen! 🙏🙏🙏 Been going through this exact scenario since the beginning of 2017 to the end of last year especially. I agree with many points you made.
So glad I came across this video; was much needed actually! Fake people make you question everyone around you especially when you supposedly know them for long time; who is real and who's not, who're my genuine friends anymore. And at some points, you start to question yourself and your worth. But you made great points in this video; just makes the whole thing less stressful. Thank you sir!
This guy speaks good advice! I don't know if it was bad luck, bad timing or bad whatever but in my life I've had only a few real friends yet a TON of fake friends. But that's okay; I look back and cherish my few real friends as blessings whereas the fake friends I look back at as lessons. If somebody really wants to have something to do with you they'll do their part and make an effort to be a friend. If they don't my advice is DON'T waste your time on them! Life is too short to burn your time and energy on someone who doesn't really care about you.....cut them loose and move on!
This is hands down the most insightful video I've looked at concerning this issue. Everybody and their momma keep dishing out the same painfully obvious signs of fake people, but what you touched on in this video is pure genius! And it's what I've been saying for years. Tough times don't usually bring out the envy in people. If anything, it strokes their ego when they see you go through things thy've had to go through, so it's almost like "haha you get to feel shitty too". They may be there for you because it's either satisfying them to see your discomfort and usher out their advice, or it pushes them into the bracket of "You owe me". Let's just say things start looking up for you and you get a well paying job, a decent partner, and a somewhat full-filled life, that drives them mad and suddenly, you're the person they can't stop comparing themself too. I've seen it happen, it totally sucks. It's really risky having friends.
Thus was so legit!! I recently cut a lot of ppl off cause of most of these things, still got a few ppl to cut out, it's hard losing friends you thought were real but they're actually fake sadist!! Cut them out!! You'll learn who's real when you're down and struggling!!
This is real when I dedicate more time for myself and my business... someone I thought was a friend after 20 plus years ghosted me !!! I had to remind myself on several occasions this is not happening to me it is happening for me because I know who I am today versus who I was I am totally a better version of myself and I’m so happy to be here and to continue on with what my soul needs me to be...
this is absolutely useful information. your points are relatable with my "fake friends". I just realize it now. how come three friends of mine soon to be fake friends, told me that I became more assertive and ferocious after I refuse to go partying with them, because I have to focus on improving my work, my income. Usually I just yes to them or obey them to please them! Now when I said No to them, they mock my work and trying to guilty trip me in any way. Bye Fake friends. I will see all of you from the TOP! Proost! Dank U Ryan David!!!
Beware of tho ppl that come too u talkin about everyone just too get ur thoughts just to flip it on u like ur the fake one when u been supportive the whole time too the friendship😶 cautions but kno that they really exposed they self in the process #boom
I've been friends with a few for years. A lot of times in a group setting I was observant. If I didn't say enough I wasn't being myself. I didn't care because, I knew it was always something messy going on. when I tried to stay away from it I end up back in it. These same people were also suppose to be my support when I was down. The same way I was for them, but it didn't happen that way. They took how I felt and used it against me. So I learned my lesson after so many years too late that I have only one good friend. That is my best friend I don't have more than one either. she told me for years stop saying you have friends not everybody is your friend. Call them your associates and I said well you're right. I love my best friend she is the only one that has honestly been there for me no matter what. I will never forget it. 👍😀 I will always love her for that after 24 years of knowing one another.
My best friend of 30 years showed me she is fake. Always weighing apples to oranges and never helped me when times were rough, so much so I showed her the door. I thought I would miss her but the fact is I have no time for fake friends. Thanks for this.
+TheLastCanthan Samurai Sometimes 2-3 real ones is all you need! Glad you were able to get some insight and clarity from this video, thank you so much for the feedback and kind words! 🙏🏼
👏👏👏 Well said!! And ft those that think they are alone, You Are Not! You have family that loves you + Real will recognize real & you will make real friends eventually, just Take that alone time to focus on you more 💯
This is the truest ever! I realised how both these things have already happened to me and I was trying to work it out and process it! People can change for the worst when you are successful
I appreciate you sharing that! Had a comment from a girl said, "you talk too much get to the point", I'm like, "Um, everything I'm saying is the point" smh. Thanks again 🙏🏽
soo when my friends started getting distant, I focused on myself instead of assuming they hated me and when I reached my peak they accused me of being self serving and only interested in using others. Now i'm wondering if I'm the fake... I only focused on myself because it hurt being ignored all the time, but then I did turn them away when i got busy too.
A lot of things changed with me when I got diagnosed lung cancer. The things I used to go out of my way and do for people I don’t do anymore. Suddenly don’t seem so important. Like I love people and when they need me I’m there. But the using me wanting me only to be there on their terms I can’t do anymore. Surprisingly when toxic people where gone I got more friends who where real like me. I got to have opinions and listen to theirs as well. Friendship should be like that. Meeting each other in the middle to a certain point anyway.
From the bottom of my heart I just wanted to say thank you! I don't really ever comment on videos but this just blew me away with how precise the timing of hearing this message is and just how true the message you are saying. I have been completely dumbfounded in my life recently as people who i used to call close friends from the casual retail employment I have, have seen me grow in my faith and therefore step into leadership positions. I have also recently completed my degree and have just gotten the best possible graduate job in my field of work and along with this a recent boyfriend who has completely blown me away and shown me his love in ways i never knew possible! With all these good things happenings, can you guess how these girls reacted to this news? Well for starters whenever i spoke to them about this future job or this new man their response seemed insincere and like they were not really happy for me, as i would be if the situation was reversed. Even though I have tried every effort to help them up and encourage them, not only have they not listened, but they have felt the need to create a scenario where an intervention seemed to be needed for me because of the times where I have tried to call them out on their behavior and help them up. They sat there and pointed fingers at me and told me all the ways I've hurt them and how I've been wrong and added an extra 2 people that were apparently needed for what seemed like moral support or someone to mediate the conversation when I've known these girls for about 2 years. I now know that they are just jealous and insecure and are not really there for me, but i never knew that i would figure this out when good times came about rather than the bad times. It's been a hard lesson but you've helped explain this mentality that has helped me heal that little bit more and I just want to thank you heaps again!
Ryan, thank you for this video man. Honestly the best advice I've ever heard for this. You touched on the fact that fake friends can be there when times are tough and that's do true. I have this friend that started acting weird when I started making steps to follow my dreams and whether its jealousy or the fact that I'm leaving the image they had of me, it became clear that they weren't my real friend. You got a new sub
When things got rough for me at one point, and I no longer had a car, so many people showed their true colors. But I like when people show their true colors and do me the favor of showing me how phony they are.
Thank u for your video Ryan David alot of youtube channels state that , fake friends will behave this certain way if something bad happens or they will behave this certain way it something good happens. But when u think sometimes you have friends that surprise u when something bad happened and they're there. But not celebrate your achievements so your then left confused. And the whole act of playing the detective is ever so tiring, trying to figure out are they good or not? I like how u said that instead of playing detective. Have something u want to improve on and when u have achieved that the people around do they celebrate with u, or leave u celebrate yourself. I just want to say thank you for the video it's making it clearer for me to make the decision in keeping a friend as friend.
This is so on point! Man I am usually nice to the guys I usually hang out with on college, and be someone who can they always count on and when they have bad situations I can be the man who will support them and be someone who they can tell their problems. But after I noticed that they usually do nothing if I had some bad situations so I thought I should back off a bit until I dont help them on they're bad situations unless they asked me personally. And that little change is just enough for me to know that 2 of them are awfully fake. Good thing I just graduated so i dont have to deal with them again.
This became a motivation for me to do better lol like I rarely have friends because of this change I had to go to another state for schooling and it made me realize how many ppl I so called friends hasn’t texted me or at least checked up on me like I did with them. The ones that dislike me always wanna know what I’m doing. Nice video
That may be our nature, I won't argue with you on that, but we have great potential. Don't dismiss our potential to be amazing and do great things! Start with you and be a light in a world of darkness!
omg this is the truest thing ever. i moved to a different country for almost 2 years and when i came back i expected all my "friends" to want to see me and catch up on life but literally only 2 people actually seemed to care for my arrival and for everyone else (to me it seemed) they acted like whatever and wasn't so eager to see me and it really hurt my feelings because the whole time while i was gone i missed them and couldn't wait to be reunited with everyone but they just took the souvenirs i bought them and never bothered hitting me up again....
I currently have a friend who I'm really getting tired of. Tonight I was running errands in the town I live in and my friend gave me a call saying he needed a ride home from his girlfriends place after I finished up running my errands. My friend doesn't drive. I call him up after I was done running errands and he says he be ready in about 15 minutes turns out almost 1 hour later I call to tell him I'm heading home and he goes I get a ride in the morning. I was so made and still ticked off about it right now.
I live in Jamaica and my people shipped me a barrel from New York, but before they did my landlord daughter asked me if I can have my people send some dryed fruits to make rum cake or whatever. Make a long story short, I know she don't like me cuz I'm good as in everything n she has it kinda hard. But since I been here, n since I grew up in a house full of woman, I respect all woman n try to help when I can, which I do. The barrel came, oh yeah forgot. She (the daughter) has a 16 year old daughter n she does good in school n Respect her parent, which I commend, cause living in NY kids doing what they want was the regular. So had a gift ( Polo hat ) sent for her in the barrel. Ok the shit came like two days ago. My peoples are good people so they sent a lot of fruit, I gave the fruits n gift to the daughter cause the mom was gone. The daughter was very thankful like a kid would n I positively know she gave her mom the fruits, but yesterday not 1 thank you..smh...today I seen her she seen me n still no thanks..shit crazy...I love it tho ( Kanye voice ) Stunt tommorow 😂
Arthaliel Aquart It's crazy that people spend more energy being negative than positive. When you do not feed into their negativity being directed at you. Then they will eventually come around and stop the ignorance. I read your comment and it's a sweet gesture. She might not have any real friends for the same reason she's treating you that way. I love the fact that you grew up around women and respect them as well. It is her lost and someone else's gain to see how special you are as a friend. 👌
So true I changed for the better and a lot of people like the old me better. Very few people are supportive of the new me . They like the person who was easy to take advantage of the person who never spoke up .
As I got rid of a 'friend' who is unhappy with his life - and wasn't going nowhere - it hurts, but I dropped him out of my life for good. My other friend, who I always admired and stuck close with her, was truly appreciative of me cheering her on with success and as I am getting better in my life, I realized that "friend" who was miserable - only wanted me to be miserable with him. Wasn't happening.
I just figured out that a friend from Middle School is talking to my other friend about me, and not wanting to br my friend because of my sexual orientation and this video genuinely helped. I thought they were a real one, and then they just pulled themselves outta my life when I needed the them. I absolutely hate fake people, and even though I thought they were a genuine bff, this gives me a different perspective and let's me grow. Thank God for growth, I hope she does too.
Thanks I needed to hear that from someone. Your channel is amazing! I am gonna work on myself and my first stop will be to get rid of my depression! Thank you so much! I thought I needed friends to move on but I actually need to be friends with myself!
Truth bombs being dropped allllll over this video. I've spent the past few days questioning some people's true natures at my work place. My initial instinct was anger followed by the detective thing. But now I'm going to change tactics. I've got plenty of things to be working on myself, growth wise. There's no better test than this. It IS ride or die. Bonus? Me bettering myself will be an even more satisfying 'Fuck You' than any plot to expose them will ever be.
I was told the truest statement years ago and it still rings true today "You can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand and have extra fingers left over."
Thank you. I am in dire need of guidance and I'm over forty yrs old and my whole life has changed. Friends I thought were friends are no longer apart of my life. My family members have betrayed me. I thought I was a good person or at least I've always tried to be to others. I look forward to watching more of your videos, and hopefully you can help me get back to me. Thanks again
This literally happened in my life, I used to spend a lot of time partying and drinking making mistakes and my friends were always there to laugh and giggle and enjoy the show, I started focusing on my goals, started working harder in my career and those very same people started treating me like crap, started picking fights with me and their whole demeanor changed all because I no longer carried myself the same. They even made comments about the fact that I hung out with co workers I met at my new job and things just got super messy, I ended up cutting an entire group of people off.
I can count the number of comments I've posted on youtube on 1 hand, an ant compared to the time I've spent learning from this format. I write this comment on behalf of the AMAZING music I've heard before the content even began. Now; after receiving the content. Yes I've recently had similar situation that exposed someone for who they REALLY. I wholeheartedly agree with the statement of this video. Thank you for your work and I wish for your continued success.
Hey Rayn.. this is my first time watching your video.. and whatever you said is true and happened with me. Your video just gave me confirmation. Thanks 😃 #lovelove
Bro when I say it hits different believe me I really mean it . Thank you so much for making this video. I was literally saying yes to everything you was saying like you here with me speaking to me! This crazy I was really in deep situation
My friends would always post pcitures of each other speak good abt each other and leave me out in everything. to a point they would only ask me if im okay if other pple who i dont know would ask me first. i dont even have 1 friend . look where life has taken me .....
+Stephanie Crystal Stephanie, those weren’t ever real friends...life has a funny way of teaching us what we need to know. Take that lesson and move forward while keeping in mind what you’ve learned from the past, as well as from this video! You have to take hold of Life or it will take hold of you, the choice is yours...and you don’t need friends to do that! I wish you all the best!
FitnessGoals! After all of this hatred and negativity ive made this defence guard above me where i dont trust people . it hurts so much because people think im anti social i think we put too much effort in people who arent worth it. Family doesnt really mean much till they realise they need you
I’ve been learning about this lately. People who I thought were on my side never were to begin with and just secretly want me to fail. It sucks because I want them to succeed just as much as I have and they don’t wanna do things for themselves at all but just hate on people who do
I may be forgetful at times, but I will never forget the people who are always there with me thru ups and downs especially when i fail, have slow progress or just nothing...when you finally succeed in life, invite those who were always there for you! Never be afraid to discard people my dear friends so you can enjoy life to the fullest! Sometimes, i want to fail bigtime to see who will be there for me in my lowest times!
There's a lot of talk about self nowadays and less sense of community and unity. This video is proof of that. That you need to dump your slow friends in order for you to succeed in your endeavors. I'm young but I get a feeling things haven't always been like this.
That is not what this video is about at all. This video is to help inform and educate people on how to assess their friendships in a way that empowers them to make helpful decisions as to who they invest themselves in an on going relationship with. As for talk about the self, if you watch any of my content about self improvement or personal growth, you will see and note that my philosophy and emphasis on the self is to self improve so that we can be the best version of ourselves so that we are best able to serve the community. You’re useless to the community if you’re inadequate or can’t even help yourself first. I did a whole video on the concept of self help from my perspective and how it is often misunderstood. ruclips.net/video/jXikTSk9fgY/видео.html
Hi Ryan. Thanks for taking time to reply. Hope you recognize I wasn't being bashful or anything. I guess what I wrote is just a general concern of mine regarding the overall energy that is around us. Individuality is slowly becoming something people turn to in order to get ahead. It is almost like there's a long checklist now of "what constitutes a good friend". And if someone doesn't tick all the boxes, then whoops, that's a fake friend. So they have to get cut off. At 4:30 you raise an interesting point that your friends might only be helping you when you're down so you owe them or out of guilt or whatever. Personally I don't really care what motivates a person to be or do good for me. As long as they felt the need to do it, we're good and I appreciate. Perhaps here you come from an assumption that people are innately good and therefore that is the only reason why they do good... because they are just good. But if that were the case then we wouldn't have to teach toddlers moral values like gratitude. Like how and when to say "thank you".They'd just know. So really what I'm trying to say is that actually people are innately selfish and all sorts of jealous. Of cause your friends are jealous of you because hey they're human. So is that a reason to cut them off??? No! Pluuuus what happens after I had made new friends that took me to some higher level and I reach their heights? Do I cut them off too to find new ones that I can use to climb??? *if you couldn't read the whole thing skip to here :)* In any case, I appreciate the vid man and actually learnt a lot where I agreed. Keep making them. And come visit Africa fam. One love
You like a young fine version of tony robbins 🖒🖒
By far the best YT comment ever!🙏🏽😭
Serena you have had some A1 comments as well!!! 🙏🏽
Nah, you’re good! #Grateful
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my first thought exactly!
"Pay attention to who doesn't applaud when you win!"
I love it!
Most fake people have no problem giving fake applause.
That's actually a good point...fake friends will probably applaud, it's more likely the haters that won't! #StayWoke
I got someone in my gym who NEVER applauded when i won and acts like my best friend in the gym. Any advice guys?
Drop him. He sounds pretty fake here.
Being of my introverted personality, i don't mind letting go of people who I feel that are toxic. I tried to being altruistic and reaching out to people who I considered friends. I realized that 90% of them were trying to use me for favors, manipulating me to help out their problems, or hanging around due to convenience. When I was struggling and feeling down, most of them would never lend me a helping hand. A lot of my so called friends would always gossip behind my behind and act very snarky and condescending when I talk to them. You have to really thick skinned and strong minded if you want to live the loner lifestyle. Most ppl are weak minded and want to be around a large crowd in order to feel accepted. I feel very comfortable having a very small circle of friend and I make sure that ppl want to form a friendship with me have to prove themselves before I open up to them. This world that we live in is very sick and evil and opening up to everybody puts you in a position where ppl can exploit you.
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How can you keep up with that!? I feel the same about my friends and it really scarred me. I am afraid open up to anyone in the future. It's like my life is a practical joke.
I'm on your side because I'm more content rather than seeking short term happiness through friendship or nightlife. That shit is exhausting. Being alone doesn't mean lonely. It's reflective to oneself. In time, you'll began to develop friends in you. Recreating many types of personality in your own head. Once you achieved friending your own, it's going to feel weird wanting to have more people in your life. And it's fuckin 3am right now.
i understand what u mean most people want to be in a crowd because they feel reassured. Sometimes we enjoy company and sometimes when having dealt with loneliness at some stage in ones life. Makes them not want to be alone, when you see people's happy faces together enjoying good time with their friends. You want to be able to have that emotion of happiness. Sometimes I'm like, if I leave this person because they haven't been caring much about me. and I'm alone all the time I'll get bored and it's so dull and boring. of course it's good to have solitude sometimes (peace of mind). having the thought of support and you giving support gives u a warm happy feeling. of Love,sincerity and kindness. Of course we won't always be able to agree with the persons thoughts but are able resolve disputes with out involving drama or outsiders. And without leaving the other party upset, annoyed and vulnerable. And sometimes with humans our emotions we Let get the better of us. What I'd like to do or wish to do is not go talk to my other friends about a dispute or something they might not known they have done that has upset or offended me. Of course if I'm upset with the friend I would say what I'm upset with them about kindly as possible. But sometimes my mind will over think they'll take it the wrong way or go and back talk you. It's that fear, but like someone close to me, me knowing them and them knowing me I wouldn't be as worried. Confrontation is all about the friend how you'll think the friend will the respond. I used think I wonder how people remember what to write in their diaries for they're whole day. I figured out If I don't want to talk to another friend about how one friend annoyed me. And if I'm so eager and just to let it out (I can't concentrate on a task when thinking about something that might've annoyed me). Get any old paper and literally scribble what I'm thinking. when i mean scribble i mean it doesn't even count as handwriting. And I did that and I knew what I meant thenext scrunched it up and put in the bin. Afterwards I was able to relax and concernstrate. All I did is write who got me annoyed and how I feel (usually the person has probably done it more than once). And I thought to myself I could've told someone else this and they could've wrecked my friendship with that person because in that time I was annoyed. And I could have something mean. Later on that day my friend did the same thing that pi**ed me off before. And I told them that doing this is making me feel so and so. She apolgzed and explained her side and I forgave her. Forgetting whatever happened, without regret that I said anything that to other people. As it is between me and that person.
@@mydaysfilm3704 I understand that feeling to there are always going to be people who just like to provoke and upset you. But never let them stop u from where u are going to be in life. There's gonna be the most horrid people u come across in life and the most kindest people who should keep Close. It's ok if you can't fully trust people it just means your more aware, who knows maybe in time that kind person will gain your trust without u even knowing u trust them.
The best weapon that you can use against a fake friend is to be positive on life and do not get even with them just separate yourself from them one step at a time that means for yourself you make new friends
Well said.
in my school thare are no real friends who you can find
@Vaas Gaming.Inc
That would make me like them, but someone is going to wish they didn't over step the mark
@@pavleljiljak8169 lol me too😭😭😭 high five 🖐
@@ahmadhussain103 same 😭😭
When I was 17 I had around 20 friends who I thought were real fast forward 6 years later now 23 I only have 1 real friend and a girlfriend that’s all I need tbh so watch out for those snakes who call themselves your friends 🐍
You have just proven that I have no friends
just one family member/friend that is actually there for me because they WANT to be. Made me sad but I’m glad I know now.
sheena chante' don't go by that logic. It's only one person's perspective that's making you think you have no friends??
Here's my opinion; true friends help you when you're down... what ever their intention is. Point is they helped you. (We as non toxic people need to feel gratitude for that)
We all feel jealous emotions because we are all humans. There is no such thing a s a non jealous animal; Non jealous mamal; non jealous humans. We all have that emotion.
The thing that separates good people from toxic people is that good peopel are able to keep their jealousy in check in order to prioritise what matters to them most- the friendship; the people they love.
I wanna ask you to put yourselves in these shoes: your best friend becomes a successfull billionaire overnight... Will u not feel intense stabs of jealousy? Especially initially? Who wouldn't? But the thing is we reason with those jealous emotions and keep them in check because we love our friends and that was supposed to be their destiny. They may need real friends more than ever now that they are going through a tumultuous cycle (everything that comes with being rich and successful) so how can we then point fingers at our best friends if they did feel jealous over our success? It's our job to be empathetic towards them and include them in our life and our success.
Its abiut friends that meeet you half way
Me too 😢🙀
If You have no TRUE friends it says a lot about YOU ........
What ? ..... You said absolutely nothing and then tried to justify Your right to say it ..... Every Human Being on this planet judges everyone and everything around Them with every action They take ...... Think about it ..... You assumed My comment was meant in a negative connotation ..... That says a lot about You , in My opinion .......
After watching this I've come to realize that I have no real friends. Damn, all these years were a waste, but I'm glad to find out. Thank you for this, I really needed it!
You're welcome...they weren't a waste if you learned anything!
@@TheRyanDavid thanks Ryan
sams thing with me
Ya but i would always by alone if i expose Them so it's better i keep that for me
@@neptunimidie267 facts expose they ass and they get mad and bring up everything but their actions and act like they did nothing wrong trying to pull others into the mix that really don't know anything themselves which is a headache I know how you feel
Yep, this actually exposed two people in my life. When you do well, watch their mood turn to hell.
They’re probably targeting you
no more toxic friendships in 2018
Good for you!
Yep.. I unfriend those fake and toxic friends on Facebook. The world was different when I experience those,on my highschool life.
5tonyvvvv I'm not even gonna answer to this
unless the government crippled you economicmy and you really don't have friends so they force you to hang out with people who used to be your friends but don't give to shits about you except about how you do everything Nd talk.because they think your cool and want to capitalize on you every time you take shit but don't pay you crap... and you hang out with them just to smoke.pot because they watch you and know what you want.. if they need you they'll keep.you homeless untill they milk every dime out of you. america
Lauras Chronicles 1 week later "i need new friends"
My personality type can spot fake ppl easy.
Am I fake or real
Same i can’t sense it some how.
Me to
Andrew Colin can you check my friend then lol
Andrew Colin me too lmao. I can get that gut feeling the first second I meet them
Completely ditching your friend who’s been their for you over a relationship. Now that’s fake
goduskychris Chris Godusky i’ve seen more fake women then i’ve seen fake men lol
A real friend is someone who will walk the depths of hell with you and have the balls to fight alongside you and back you up. Unfortunately, I dont have anyone who is around like that. A friend is someone who responds and will work on projects with you and not leave you in the dust.
Quality over quantity.... 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😍
Berenice Martinez yes u r right
But zero is zero tho... (◕︵◕)
Berenice Martinez ikr
@@5tonyvvvv Sexist bitch
Tittle should be :
“ How to unveil haters within your social circle”
He hits this on the head, I’ve seen the results myself. Fakes will dissipate with almost every level of success you acquire. Keep your friend count low, they can be a distraction at times.
Thanks for the comment Zach. Actually did a whole video on the Psychology of a Hater, check it out ✊🏽
Sometimes you are left with no support.
Stone Wall Research - budcat7 not always a bad thing
that’s me every day..
Yeah you're right. When i quit drinking several years ago I lost a lot of friends that I thought I would be friends with forever. It was disappointing but now I'm happy I don't have to deal with fake people.
That’s awesome Lindy, good for you! Thanks for sharing✊🏽
Lindy Peterson
A real friend will be with you all the time
People are only around for a good time i distances myself cause thats all my so called friends wanted to do was drink smh
They think that you think you’re better then them or they see their failure in your success. One or the other.
Good for you 👍
This wasn't just another "cut off your haters" video. This video, Ryan actually made logical sense and you have thoroughly explained what a person should do to determine if their close associates are for you or not. You broke it down. Keep it up 👏
You got it! Thank you, Diashae! 🙏🏼
Ryan David you're welcome!
All my friends are fake, I knew since the beginning but I kept them because I can’t stand being alone. That means that I will surround myself with fake people and soon become a fake person.
Same
Ryan it's so true. So many "friends" are just convenience, once you require an extra step (like making plans) to make it work, they are gone with the wind 😂
+Valerie Williams Definitely. Gotta be aware of that and continue to do you while focusing on the people who truly support you.
Ryan..I had this video minimized and thought you were a black man.
Yes. Most of it is convenience. Very few become really close friends and still is convenience because they like the same subjects or else. The only true friend you will ever meet is yourself.
Besides each of us have their very unique dreams or accomplishments to build. We keep changing people that can add you or add to your goals. And if you get up or down in the capital social ladder you loose even family because the beliefs and values radically change.
Yep. So true and actually most people are fake. That’s why I have no friends. People are fake , doesn’t matter what state your in.
Valerie W bec everybody humans r pos and only care bout themselves
Gotta love a guy who speaks on YT the same way he talks to his friends. Genuine and trustworthy. Subbed
Can't tell you how much this comment means being that I'm often misunderstood for just being who I am! Yes! I pride myself on being genuine, trustworthy, and keeping it real...so if that's what you're looking for you have the right channel! Thanks for the comment, welcome to the team! ✊🏽🙏🏽
Ryan David Thank you. Glad to be here! The power and courage of honest and clear people is misundersrood because chumps don't live this way. They live lies, so the truth is a foreign language to them, both verbal and non verbal. They often try to make it seem like you're wrong to reconcile those differences.
Thank you for those words my brother!
There's this girl that I have known for a while and she didn't really know me for my intelligence, we knew each other out of school, which I excel at. So this year we were put in the same class and she sees that I'm better than her in that class. She about cried at lunch because she was jealous of me. Whenever I get better marks than her, she gets VERY jealous. whenever she gets better makes than me, she gets extremely happy. this video was an eye-opener.
i agree definetly eye opener.😊
I feel this way about 95% of the people I know, nobody actually cares about what I do, all I hear is "good luck," and "nice job, that's pretty cool," then the conversation is over. For people my age its all about the latest videos or trends or bits of drama and crap, people today are so shallow and dry and finding people I can relate to and have meaningful friendships with are rare.
I had many friends last year, that I would always make plans with me, and then they were fake, leaving me with only like 2 real friends
+Matthew Forde2 sounds like you can relate. Stay focused on yourself and those few who support you. Thanks for sharing
those two real friends could be all you need.
This happens with me , everytime
This is so true and thank so much Ryan for this. Progression is key 🗝
Absolutely! You’re very welcome my friend 🙏🏼
I just have one friend ......... And if I stopped helping him in some money sometimes , he will disappear like others .. so damming truth.
E500 Tunes don’t let that trap you, let them go invest that money into yourself, enjoy and embrace loneliness friends will come in all due time
E500 Tunes he's a pos and only care bout themselves. If he wants ur money tell him to kiss ur ass and I give u $5. Wonder wht he will do.
You guys have the right idea!
Stay focused ✊🏽
+ROP S I don't have a girlfriend that makes me loneliness I've friends
I recently just found out my friend is fake
Great insight. Change is the ultimate litmus test of true friendship. I moved city for education and I barely got calls from people who spent 24*7 with me. That was 10 years ago and now we most of them are not my friends.
Good shit man. I've seen that in my life
Thanks for the comment my brother, glad you liked it 🙏🏼
Hey Alex, 🤗 good to see you here!
I noticed this a lot when I began working out avidly back in August 2017. Might seem weird, but I actually lost touch with a lot of "friends" through that change -- and I am not the least bit sad about it.
So true! I get the snide passive/ aggressive comments about me going to the gym lol. Plus I’m making a career change and back to studying. So my priorities are different nowadays. My time management has to be on point.
The kiss of death for me and who I invite into my space is “It must be nice”.
Anyone says that to me out of jealousy or regret for their personal decisions and I will not be breaking bread with them- I got better people to meet. ✌🏼
Amen, Ryan! Amen! 🙏🙏🙏 Been going through this exact scenario since the beginning of 2017 to the end of last year especially. I agree with many points you made.
Hang in there! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼😊
The realest speech ever......
+Exquisite Cato Yo I appreciate the love! 🙏🏼
I confronted my fake friend and said it straight to his face. I told him that he was a faker and he has been using me all these times
Way to go man, I done the same recently and he did not like it jajajajaja oh well fuck these snakes gotta cut the grass
So glad I came across this video; was much needed actually!
Fake people make you question everyone around you especially when you supposedly know them for long time; who is real and who's not, who're my genuine friends anymore. And at some points, you start to question yourself and your worth.
But you made great points in this video; just makes the whole thing less stressful.
Thank you sir!
You can tell who your real friend is when they NEVER take money from you. ❤👑👍
This guy speaks good advice!
I don't know if it was bad luck, bad timing or bad whatever but in my life I've had only a few real friends yet a TON of fake friends. But that's okay; I look back and cherish my few real friends as blessings whereas the fake friends I look back at as lessons. If somebody really wants to have something to do with you they'll do their part and make an effort to be a friend. If they don't my advice is DON'T waste your time on them! Life is too short to burn your time and energy on someone who doesn't really care about you.....cut them loose and move on!
This is hands down the most insightful video I've looked at concerning this issue. Everybody and their momma keep dishing out the same painfully obvious signs of fake people, but what you touched on in this video is pure genius! And it's what I've been saying for years. Tough times don't usually bring out the envy in people. If anything, it strokes their ego when they see you go through things thy've had to go through, so it's almost like "haha you get to feel shitty too". They may be there for you because it's either satisfying them to see your discomfort and usher out their advice, or it pushes them into the bracket of "You owe me". Let's just say things start looking up for you and you get a well paying job, a decent partner, and a somewhat full-filled life, that drives them mad and suddenly, you're the person they can't stop comparing themself too. I've seen it happen, it totally sucks. It's really risky having friends.
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Man the realest thing ive heard
Thank you my brother, means a lot 🙏🏼
Thus was so legit!! I recently cut a lot of ppl off cause of most of these things, still got a few ppl to cut out, it's hard losing friends you thought were real but they're actually fake sadist!! Cut them out!! You'll learn who's real when you're down and struggling!!
Good luck. Thanks for sharing!
True, when you grow and do better the people who are truly for you will be happy and support your growth. 😁🥰
This is real when I dedicate more time for myself and my business... someone I thought was a friend after 20 plus years ghosted me !!! I had to remind myself on several occasions this is not happening to me it is happening for me because I know who I am today versus who I was I am totally a better version of myself and I’m so happy to be here and to continue on with what my soul needs me to be...
You are 100 percent correct.
Am trying to grow up now and some of them leaving me. It means they are fake...thnx for opening eye
You got it. Keep doing your thing ✊🏽
this is absolutely useful information. your points are relatable with my "fake friends". I just realize it now. how come three friends of mine soon to be fake friends, told me that I became more assertive and ferocious after I refuse to go partying with them, because I have to focus on improving my work, my income. Usually I just yes to them or obey them to please them!
Now when I said No to them, they mock my work and trying to guilty trip me in any way.
Bye Fake friends. I will see all of you from the TOP!
Proost! Dank U Ryan David!!!
Beware of tho ppl that come too u talkin about everyone just too get ur thoughts just to flip it on u like ur the fake one when u been supportive the whole time too the friendship😶 cautions but kno that they really exposed they self in the process #boom
I've been friends with a few for years. A lot of times in a group setting I was observant. If I didn't say enough I wasn't being myself. I didn't care because, I knew it was always something messy going on. when I tried to stay away from it I end up back in it. These same people were also suppose to be my support when I was down. The same way I was for them, but it didn't happen that way. They took how I felt and used it against me. So I learned my lesson after so many years too late that I have only one good friend. That is my best friend I don't have more than one either. she told me for years stop saying you have friends not everybody is your friend. Call them your associates and I said well you're right. I love my best friend she is the only one that has honestly been there for me no matter what. I will never forget it. 👍😀 I will always love her for that after 24 years of knowing one another.
My best friend of 30 years showed me she is fake. Always weighing apples to oranges and never helped me when times were rough, so much so I showed her the door. I thought I would miss her but the fact is I have no time for fake friends. Thanks for this.
From what u said, I've lost alot of fake friends and still have a few I will know what's up soon. Thanks
You’re welcome! Stay focused 👍🏼
Man this video just gave me assurance that I was doing the right thing by just working harder and focusing on the people I truly love. Thanks man
You are absolutely amazing Ryan! Honestly deserve more subs for your efforts!
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 thank you!!!! 🖤
Wow, so happy I saw this video. Turns out I have 2-3 real friends out of the 40. This is very true. Thank you, Ryan! Keep up the good work :)
+TheLastCanthan Samurai Sometimes 2-3 real ones is all you need! Glad you were able to get some insight and clarity from this video, thank you so much for the feedback and kind words! 🙏🏼
👏👏👏 Well said!! And ft those that think they are alone, You Are Not! You have family that loves you + Real will recognize real & you will make real friends eventually, just Take that alone time to focus on you more 💯
Who doesn't have fake friends. You're true friend takes a bullet for you. I got that friend.
This really opened my eyes and helped me. Good on you, mate! You really know what you’re talking about 👍
Thanks for the feedback! 🙏🏽❤️
This is the truest ever! I realised how both these things have already happened to me and I was trying to work it out and process it! People can change for the worst when you are successful
Absolutely!
All of the content was clear and concise. No wasted talk at all.
I appreciate you sharing that! Had a comment from a girl said, "you talk too much get to the point", I'm like, "Um, everything I'm saying is the point" smh. Thanks again 🙏🏽
Wow.. Thank you so much for opening my eyes. I have seen the flaky, shade and fakiness signs of the so called friends or relatives..
soo when my friends started getting distant, I focused on myself instead of assuming they hated me and when I reached my peak they accused me of being self serving and only interested in using others.
Now i'm wondering if I'm the fake... I only focused on myself because it hurt being ignored all the time, but then I did turn them away when i got busy too.
nah u good, their accusations already show lmao if they were the real deal they would have done nothing but congratulated you
congrats on your achievements
Yeahhhh that’s them trynna gaslight you, been the same trust that your heart told you to focus on yourself for a reason!
The sweet feeling of making sure bad people get karma
Great message, you deserve way more views tbh
Thanks for the support Sean.
A lot of things changed with me when I got diagnosed lung cancer. The things I used to go out of my way and do for people I don’t do anymore. Suddenly don’t seem so important. Like I love people and when they need me I’m there. But the using me wanting me only to be there on their terms I can’t do anymore. Surprisingly when toxic people where gone I got more friends who where real like me. I got to have opinions and listen to theirs as well. Friendship should be like that. Meeting each other in the middle to a certain point anyway.
From the bottom of my heart I just wanted to say thank you! I don't really ever comment on videos but this just blew me away with how precise the timing of hearing this message is and just how true the message you are saying. I have been completely dumbfounded in my life recently as people who i used to call close friends from the casual retail employment I have, have seen me grow in my faith and therefore step into leadership positions. I have also recently completed my degree and have just gotten the best possible graduate job in my field of work and along with this a recent boyfriend who has completely blown me away and shown me his love in ways i never knew possible! With all these good things happenings, can you guess how these girls reacted to this news? Well for starters whenever i spoke to them about this future job or this new man their response seemed insincere and like they were not really happy for me, as i would be if the situation was reversed. Even though I have tried every effort to help them up and encourage them, not only have they not listened, but they have felt the need to create a scenario where an intervention seemed to be needed for me because of the times where I have tried to call them out on their behavior and help them up. They sat there and pointed fingers at me and told me all the ways I've hurt them and how I've been wrong and added an extra 2 people that were apparently needed for what seemed like moral support or someone to mediate the conversation when I've known these girls for about 2 years. I now know that they are just jealous and insecure and are not really there for me, but i never knew that i would figure this out when good times came about rather than the bad times. It's been a hard lesson but you've helped explain this mentality that has helped me heal that little bit more and I just want to thank you heaps again!
Yo Michelle, this comment made my week! Thanks for the taking the time to share! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Ryan, thank you for this video man. Honestly the best advice I've ever heard for this. You touched on the fact that fake friends can be there when times are tough and that's do true. I have this friend that started acting weird when I started making steps to follow my dreams and whether its jealousy or the fact that I'm leaving the image they had of me, it became clear that they weren't my real friend. You got a new sub
Thanks for sharing, and welcome to the team! 🙏🏽
When things got rough for me at one point, and I no longer had a car, so many people showed their true colors. But I like when people show their true colors and do me the favor of showing me how phony they are.
This helped me so much, not just to find out who's fake, but to help myself be better
This just confirms my new move..thank you.
thank you for being a person who spreads the message of people who are out to disrupt lives
You're welcome, Carolyn. Thanks for the comment 🙏🏽
You're smart, man. That's so accurate! Good job on that video! 👍
Thank you! 🙏🏼
This makes me feel better now I’ve got real friends and all the fake ones have pissed of from my life
New sub here! You hit the nail on the head and flawlessly explained what I've been dealing with. Thank you for your wisdom!
Thank you for your kind words and your feedback! Welcome to the team! 🙏🏽
Thank u for your video Ryan David alot of youtube channels state that , fake friends will behave this certain way if something bad happens or they will behave this certain way it something good happens. But when u think sometimes you have friends that surprise u when something bad happened and they're there. But not celebrate your achievements so your then left confused. And the whole act of playing the detective is ever so tiring, trying to figure out are they good or not? I like how u said that instead of playing detective. Have something u want to improve on and when u have achieved that the people around do they celebrate with u, or leave u celebrate yourself. I just want to say thank you for the video it's making it clearer for me to make the decision in keeping a friend as friend.
Currently dealing with fake friends and tryna figure out if they are really here for me or if it’s just for pretend 🙏🏾💯
This is so on point! Man I am usually nice to the guys I usually hang out with on college, and be someone who can they always count on and when they have bad situations I can be the man who will support them and be someone who they can tell their problems. But after I noticed that they usually do nothing if I had some bad situations so I thought I should back off a bit until I dont help them on they're bad situations unless they asked me personally. And that little change is just enough for me to know that 2 of them are awfully fake. Good thing I just graduated so i dont have to deal with them again.
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This became a motivation for me to do better lol like I rarely have friends because of this change I had to go to another state for schooling and it made me realize how many ppl I so called friends hasn’t texted me or at least checked up on me like I did with them. The ones that dislike me always wanna know what I’m doing. Nice video
Thank you! 🙏🏽 Stay strong, stay focused, and you'll attract people who deserve to be in your life.
Hola Renèe bec humans r pos and only care bout themselves
That may be our nature, I won't argue with you on that, but we have great potential. Don't dismiss our potential to be amazing and do great things! Start with you and be a light in a world of darkness!
omg this is the truest thing ever. i moved to a different country for almost 2 years and when i came back i expected all my "friends" to want to see me and catch up on life but literally only 2 people actually seemed to care for my arrival and for everyone else (to me it seemed) they acted like whatever and wasn't so eager to see me and it really hurt my feelings because the whole time while i was gone i missed them and couldn't wait to be reunited with everyone but they just took the souvenirs i bought them and never bothered hitting me up again....
I currently have a friend who I'm really getting tired of. Tonight I was running errands in the town I live in and my friend gave me a call saying he needed a ride home from his girlfriends place after I finished up running my errands. My friend doesn't drive. I call him up after I was done running errands and he says he be ready in about 15 minutes turns out almost 1 hour later I call to tell him I'm heading home and he goes I get a ride in the morning. I was so made and still ticked off about it right now.
Matthew Miller What a user.
Matthew Miller he's a gd pos and only care bout himself.
TRUTH! AND I LOVE THE BLOOPERS AT THE END..... which is why I decided to write. You are just being real! Thank you!!
Yes lol, you're welcome. Thank you! 🙏🏽
I live in Jamaica and my people shipped me a barrel from New York, but before they did my landlord daughter asked me if I can have my people send some dryed fruits to make rum cake or whatever. Make a long story short, I know she don't like me cuz I'm good as in everything n she has it kinda hard. But since I been here, n since I grew up in a house full of woman, I respect all woman n try to help when I can, which I do. The barrel came, oh yeah forgot. She (the daughter) has a 16 year old daughter n she does good in school n Respect her parent, which I commend, cause living in NY kids doing what they want was the regular. So had a gift ( Polo hat ) sent for her in the barrel. Ok the shit came like two days ago. My peoples are good people so they sent a lot of fruit, I gave the fruits n gift to the daughter cause the mom was gone. The daughter was very thankful like a kid would n I positively know she gave her mom the fruits, but yesterday not 1 thank you..smh...today I seen her she seen me n still no thanks..shit crazy...I love it tho ( Kanye voice )
Stunt tommorow 😂
Arthaliel Aquart It's crazy that people spend more energy being negative than positive. When you do not feed into their negativity being directed at you. Then they will eventually come around and stop the ignorance. I read your comment and it's a sweet gesture. She might not have any real friends for the same reason she's treating you that way. I love the fact that you grew up around women and respect them as well. It is her lost and someone else's gain to see how special you are as a friend. 👌
So true I changed for the better and a lot of people like the old me better. Very few people are supportive of the new me . They like the person who was easy to take advantage of the person who never spoke up .
Good stuff👍👍
Wow this relates to my life so well right now.... I soooo needed this. Thank you so much!
You're welcome! ❤️
This is so true. When your life takes a good turn, it is then that envy surfaces out
this is crazy because this method can Also work on family..
For sure, thanks for watching🙏🏽
As I got rid of a 'friend' who is unhappy with his life - and wasn't going nowhere - it hurts, but I dropped him out of my life for good.
My other friend, who I always admired and stuck close with her, was truly appreciative of me cheering her on with success and as I am getting better in my life,
I realized that "friend" who was miserable - only wanted me to be miserable with him. Wasn't happening.
Very entertaining and yet, so true. The beginning hooked me. The truth took me to the end. 😁
Will share with clients.
Thank you, Támara! 🙏🏼
💯!
I just figured out that a friend from Middle School is talking to my other friend about me, and not wanting to br my friend because of my sexual orientation and this video genuinely helped. I thought they were a real one, and then they just pulled themselves outta my life when I needed the them. I absolutely hate fake people, and even though I thought they were a genuine bff, this gives me a different perspective and let's me grow. Thank God for growth, I hope she does too.
Hey Ryan, you deserve more views and subscribers. Great message and a great video.
Hey Josephine, your comment means a lot, thank you so much! 🙏🏼
Thanks I needed to hear that from someone. Your channel is amazing! I am gonna work on myself and my first stop will be to get rid of my depression! Thank you so much! I thought I needed friends to move on but I actually need to be friends with myself!
ABSOLUTELY! It all starts with you, proud of you! ❤️👍🏽
Truth bombs being dropped allllll over this video. I've spent the past few days questioning some people's true natures at my work place. My initial instinct was anger followed by the detective thing. But now I'm going to change tactics. I've got plenty of things to be working on myself, growth wise. There's no better test than this. It IS ride or die. Bonus? Me bettering myself will be an even more satisfying 'Fuck You' than any plot to expose them will ever be.
Might rename my channel Truth Bomb TV cuz that's what I do! Thanks for sharing brother, stay focused! 🙏🏽
I was told the truest statement years ago and it still rings true today "You can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand and have extra fingers left over."
Solid vid bro! really honest and straight foward, and geniune.
Thank you my brother! ✊🏽💯
This helps me a lot! Now I can expose my fake friends and make them feel bad for being fake.
Thank you. I am in dire need of guidance and I'm over forty yrs old and my whole life has changed. Friends I thought were friends are no longer apart of my life. My family members have betrayed me. I thought I was a good person or at least I've always tried to be to others. I look forward to watching more of your videos, and hopefully you can help me get back to me. Thanks again
Hey Christie, thanks for sharing, I'll do my best! Start with the small things and take it one day at a time. Thanks for watching 😊
This literally happened in my life, I used to spend a lot of time partying and drinking making mistakes and my friends were always there to laugh and giggle and enjoy the show, I started focusing on my goals, started working harder in my career and those very same people started treating me like crap, started picking fights with me and their whole demeanor changed all because I no longer carried myself the same. They even made comments about the fact that I hung out with co workers I met at my new job and things just got super messy, I ended up cutting an entire group of people off.
U sound like obama and yes it's a compliment
Huge compliment! I'll take it, thank you! 🙏🏼
Haley Stone Obama is a piece of shit
bobi ll don't start because he isn't.
Mister M u dumb?
Thank you 🙏🏽
I can count the number of comments I've posted on youtube on 1 hand, an ant compared to the time I've spent learning from this format. I write this comment on behalf of the AMAZING music I've heard before the content even began.
Now; after receiving the content. Yes I've recently had similar situation that exposed someone for who they REALLY. I wholeheartedly agree with the statement of this video. Thank you for your work and I wish for your continued success.
Hey Rayn.. this is my first time watching your video.. and whatever you said is true and happened with me. Your video just gave me confirmation. Thanks 😃 #lovelove
You're welcome Joyce! Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate ya! 🙏🏼
Bro when I say it hits different believe me I really mean it . Thank you so much for making this video. I was literally saying yes to everything you was saying like you here with me speaking to me! This crazy I was really in deep situation
My friends would always post pcitures of each other speak good abt each other and leave me out in everything. to a point they would only ask me if im okay if other pple who i dont know would ask me first. i dont even have 1 friend . look where life has taken me .....
+Stephanie Crystal Stephanie, those weren’t ever real friends...life has a funny way of teaching us what we need to know. Take that lesson and move forward while keeping in mind what you’ve learned from the past, as well as from this video! You have to take hold of Life or it will take hold of you, the choice is yours...and you don’t need friends to do that! I wish you all the best!
FitnessGoals! I can totally relate but we have to go the long way and see where life takes us ... i cant wait to see where life takes us
FitnessGoals! After all of this hatred and negativity ive made this defence guard above me where i dont trust people . it hurts so much because people think im anti social i think we put too much effort in people who arent worth it. Family doesnt really mean much till they realise they need you
Stephanie Crystal those people r pos and only care bout themselves
I’ve been learning about this lately. People who I thought were on my side never were to begin with and just secretly want me to fail. It sucks because I want them to succeed just as much as I have and they don’t wanna do things for themselves at all but just hate on people who do
Amazing buddy!!!! Just amazing that's CRAZY on POINT
Thank you for sharing man I appreciate your kind words, glad you found it useful! 🙏🏼
Life is too short to wait for perfect friends. Make your goals your best friends.
His voice is so deep and cool satisfaction kind but the thumbnail made him loook like a scientist
Lol, well I am a social scientist! 🤷🏻♂️
Thanks for the comment 🙏🏽
Ryan David oh wow a comment from a semi successful RUclipsr Wow made my day
Semi successful lol, can't tell if you're being sarcastic...but if not then that glad I could make your day 😊
Ryan David omg no lol I’m for real I woke up ser comment and was like wow kinda made it wasn’t arianagrande or jakepaul
I may be forgetful at times, but I will never forget the people who are always there with me thru ups and downs especially when i fail, have slow progress or just nothing...when you finally succeed in life, invite those who were always there for you! Never be afraid to discard people my dear friends so you can enjoy life to the fullest! Sometimes, i want to fail bigtime to see who will be there for me in my lowest times!
No! Dabbing was so last year 😂 interest approach, I'll have to try it out. keep up the videos 👍
It was a throwback dab, my first one in public, maybe my last lol. Thank you!
anay gonzalez lol.. He looks crazy TRYING TO DANCE /DAB.... LOL
There's a lot of talk about self nowadays and less sense of community and unity. This video is proof of that. That you need to dump your slow friends in order for you to succeed in your endeavors. I'm young but I get a feeling things haven't always been like this.
That is not what this video is about at all.
This video is to help inform and educate people on how to assess their friendships in a way that empowers them to make helpful decisions as to who they invest themselves in an on going relationship with.
As for talk about the self, if you watch any of my content about self improvement or personal growth, you will see and note that my philosophy and emphasis on the self is to self improve so that we can be the best version of ourselves so that we are best able to serve the community. You’re useless to the community if you’re inadequate or can’t even help yourself first.
I did a whole video on the concept of self help from my perspective and how it is often misunderstood. ruclips.net/video/jXikTSk9fgY/видео.html
Hi Ryan. Thanks for taking time to reply. Hope you recognize I wasn't being bashful or anything. I guess what I wrote is just a general concern of mine regarding the overall energy that is around us. Individuality is slowly becoming something people turn to in order to get ahead.
It is almost like there's a long checklist now of "what constitutes a good friend". And if someone doesn't tick all the boxes, then whoops, that's a fake friend. So they have to get cut off.
At 4:30 you raise an interesting point that your friends might only be helping you when you're down so you owe them or out of guilt or whatever. Personally I don't really care what motivates a person to be or do good for me. As long as they felt the need to do it, we're good and I appreciate. Perhaps here you come from an assumption that people are innately good and therefore that is the only reason why they do good... because they are just good. But if that were the case then we wouldn't have to teach toddlers moral values like gratitude. Like how and when to say "thank you".They'd just know.
So really what I'm trying to say is that actually people are innately selfish and all sorts of jealous. Of cause your friends are jealous of you because hey they're human. So is that a reason to cut them off??? No!
Pluuuus what happens after I had made new friends that took me to some higher level and I reach their heights? Do I cut them off too to find new ones that I can use to climb???
*if you couldn't read the whole thing skip to here :)*
In any case, I appreciate the vid man and actually learnt a lot where I agreed. Keep making them. And come visit Africa fam.
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Oh yah I will definately check out the video you tagged. Thanks Ryan