What do you want to hear?
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- Опубликовано: 28 июл 2015
- Part two of 'How do I know what to say?'
I generally speak for the benefit of others. You can help me out by letting me know what you want to hear.
Also see part 1: How do I know what to say? ( • How do I know what to ... )
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“I don’t know what you want to hear”
Just keep talking, because thát sentence is something I say so often. Relatability is very important and I’m so happy to have found your channel. I could listen to you all day!
Thank you! :)
I want to hear exactly what you want to say, because they are maybe things that I never thought about or knew, and I feel a sense of belonging when people in blogs telling about themselves also talk about me. I do not think you have talked about yourself in a narcissistic way you have explained ad given advice based on your own expertise. I don't want anything specific to be honest, because then I could just make my own blog as I also have a thousand things to say.
thanks +anne
As a NT, i just decided to watch your earliest videos and your just as cool then as you are now.youre so good at talking and relaying what you mean that you teach the viewers like myself soso much this is one of my favourite channels on YT
It's not narcissistic to only talk about yourself in your tube channel, why? Because it's your RUclips channel and it should be all about you! By you talking about you that helps so many people like myself so keep being you and thanks for what you do!
Just keep talking. 🐕💕🐾
I'd love to know more about being a pattern thinker. I'm a visual one.
+jjpeste thanks for the suggestion. I'll keep it in mind :)
I second that. I’ve tried to find information regarding pattern thinking that is meaningful. But I haven’t yet found much. You give information in such an all-encompassing way that if I’m sure you could describe it thoroughly, if anyone can.
I just found your channel. Personally, as someone who was also diagnosed as an adult, I'd like to hear your "story". What caused you to seek a diagnosis? What kinds of challenges, (or advantages), did your Asperger's cause; growing up and in finding a partner? (Or whatever) :)
I am loving your videos. I get to see a real person who has some of the quirks and oddities that my own family dismissed. I love how you're being honest without pander or whimsy to societal norms that show shallowness or lack of experience or lack of reality.
I find that I quite often just say random thoughts out loud, especially when I'm nervous. People usually respond by laughing and saying how weird I am. Do you experience anything similar? I don't know whether to explain that I'm an Aspie or just laugh with them and let them think that I'm just joking around. I'm wanting to be my authentic self because it is exhausting to keep pretending I'm something that I'm not, and I can't keep the act up anyway.
I want to hear more! :)
I think it's fine if you (just) talk about yourself, since that's what you know the most of: your own experiences. Besides, it's your youtube channel so you can do what you want.
Great. Thanks for the feedback :)
+Miriam Korver
You're the first person I can relate to, at least for that big part of me
I love to hear you talk, I feel that relates to me, like your videos. If you do long videos with your natural thinking line im sure i'll see the whole video. Or hear it. Cause i've learned to learn how I Learn and I am better listening than seeing or reading a person. I am grateful to this channel cause I don't feel alone anymore, I am not diagnosed yet but relate to more than 90% of a lot of your videos. Saludos desde México
I think to neurotypical people your videos probably do sound very narcissistic because they cant relate to what your saying and probably just come across as self centred whinging. To me and probably most autistic people (especially those of us who are late diagnosed) it is very therapeutic to hear you talking about yourself because your just speaking out loud exactly how we feel (for me your videos were the first time i ever heard someone who i can relate to). For me at the very least, your “narcissism” makes me feel like im not alone in the world
“I like your video.”
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You are doing great Paul! Continue to share anything related to what it is to be an Aspie and anything related to what you have learned in our journey to getting to know yourself as an Aspie. The information you are sharing is invaluable. In fact have you ever considered helping Aspies through counselling work? Your channel contains the kind of information that Aspies can really use to navigate life. I think you would be an amazing counselor. I obtained a Diploma of Counselling a few years ago before I knew I was an Aspie. I never did anything about it because I don't do too well with face to face interaction. But I had lots of fun when studying the course. I did it distance learning with TAFE.
I do like your video(s)! I feel like these two videos hit the nail on the head. Most of the time when I speak or write to people I overthink so much I end up giving the short answer because I feel like I'm wasting their and my time.
I like them and I appreciate what you are doing.
Thanks Heather :)
Just found your channel, Thank you for sharing. I also have no idea how to respond, there are just way too many variables and factors to take into consideration to disern their meaning, so I just say something and if it was wrong they just think that im funny or move on to something else. I always thought i was weird.
Feel this deeply. Always guessing and analyzing - definitely prefer bluntness.
How do you know that you are a "pattern thinker"? Where did that come from? How do I find out what kind of thinker I am?
I think I am fairly self-aware, but when I don't have succinct words like that to describe my experience/way of being, it makes it very challenging to a) communicate who I am to people and b) understand my identity in a wholesome way. Does that make sense?
There is a lot of people for sure! If I could meet you I would ask you about your dreams and their significance, whether they guide you any.
I like hearing this stuff and occasionally watching your mannerisms. I'm trying to better understand neuro-diversity. Including my own which I'm questioning just how well I was diagnosed. Maybe they got mine way wrong. I'm definitely not neuro-typical.
Hahaha this is so my brain. I like this video. Why did you take your dreads off? I love dreads. Always wanted some but not sure I could do it. I could pull it off but finally after years have longer hair. I'm a guesser and a pattern thinker.
We think very alike.
I observed that, wherever the room in which you're recording this is, it's in a building that's on a road either near a stop sign or a on a semi-busy road. Since your surroundings were brought up, you didn't need to mention it✌🏼️
❤ 💙 💜 what do you want ❤ 💙 💜 I don't know what you want to hear ❤ ❤ ❤ the specifics are irrelevant... all I need to know is how it [communication] works ❤ 💙 💜 if you ant to hear something, tell me ❤ 💙 💜 otherwise, I will just keep guessing ❤ 💙 💜 help me out ❤ 💙 💜
Hi, thank you for sharing your (!) side of things. This is what I was searching google for - to understand Asperger's better, from the inside. Please answer this question, if you can: I keep reading/hearing that ppl with Asperger's have difficulties maintaining friendships and other contacts, primarily because they do not call/text/email - basically, because they do not initiate nor keep those contacts. Why don't you? Is it because you are not really interested in other ppl (something like: theoretically, I want to have this person as a friend, but in reality, I do not want to see them/ talk with them today/tomorrow/ etc.? ) Sorry, I hope it does not sound rude, it is a genuine question. What exactly prevents you from keeping those contacts? Please answer if you can. Thank you in advance!
Am I not interested? I am interested. I do want my friends in reality.
What prevents me from contacting? Anxiety. Stress, difficulty initiating. Being forced into difficult communication styles (e.g. sms). I want to see my friends (not chat with them online). Also, sometimes I need a break (a short time to myself) and others see that as a rejection.
Also see my video on maintaining relationships:
ruclips.net/video/n_t8xvk5_p8/видео.html
Hi Paul. Thank you for answering, and the videos, the old and the new one from 2 days ago! May I ask you something else then - if you like someone romantically :), is it possible that you would NOT answer emails, invitations, etc? How would the person know if you like them?
From what the videos show, you are a very likeable person, by the way, and I hope this should help you in your contacts with other people.
If I want to connect with someone I will. It might be hard (via sms or txt for example), but I'd hopefully overcome that. I've learned that even a bad attempt is better than nothing. If someone is interested in talking to me then they'll reply and we'll work it out - even if I have no idea where to start.
thank you!