My Experience with Therapy in the Netherlands
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- Hello Know-It- Alls. Since mental healthcare in the Netherlands and the world is on the rise, I thought it would be a good time to share my experience with it. I over share a bit, but I think it helps to understand my situation. I would love to hear your thoughts on the topics and how y'all are doing.
Some General Information:
Welcome to my channel, “Knowing the Netherlands.” My name is Brinn, Thanks for coming by!
I started this channel in order to help other newcomers to the Netherlands to avoid the mistakes I have made and to share my experiences as an expat living in the Netherlands so that people will have a chance to get to know more about the Netherlands. I am an American, and I have only lived in the Netherlands since March 1st, 2019, arriving here from Seoul, South Korea, so I am very new to the Netherlands. However, I have already learned a lot about the Netherlands although I know that I have only scratched the surface. I really hope sharing my journey about living in the Netherlands will help and entertain those near and far. I would love it if you joined me on this journey to getting to know the Netherlands. If you ever have any questions, please reach out to me through the RUclips comments or on your favorite social media platforms. Below are my social media links and other RUclips Channels:
Facebook: / knowing-the-netherland... Instagram:@KnowingtheNL
Twitter:@KnowingtheNL
Other RUclips Channels:
Daily for a Year: / channel
Brinn Binges and BodyBuilds: / channel
Some additional Information about myself: As previously mentioned, I moved to the Netherlands from Seoul, South Korea, where I taught English for 3 years. So, this is not my first experience living abroad. While in Korea, I was constantly growing, learning, and adjusting to the Korean culture; I met my partner, Bret; and I had quite the experience when I was hit by a taxi while riding my bike, which led to leg surgery and a 6 week stay in the hospital. I actually moved to the Netherlands 2 weeks after I stopped using my crutches and still had trouble walking. The experiences I had in Korea and the hindsight I now have from them have really changed me as a person, and I am interested to see how the Netherlands will play a role in furthering my personal development, and I am excited to share it with y’all!
Well, I wish you all the luck in the world! I don't envy you though. I discovered I even had a psyche when I was 50 when my wife divorced me, I got Asperger's diagnosis, I lost my job because budget cuts,, a good friend died suddenly, my father died and I was suddenly in severe financial trouble all in a few months. A few years later, when I solved the most urgent troubles I got a dislocated disc that is with me for the rest of my life, I can barely walk. What saved me, is that I like myself a lot. I thank my deceased parents for that every day. I now cannot believe that I lived 50 years being oblivious of anything else but the material world. I am internally richer (f.e. I can cry now a lot easier sometimes even suddenly because of a song, or a situation). But, do I like the emotions? No, maybe because I am an Aspie. Generally, I am content, sometimes a little bit more up and sometimes a little bit more down. Dull, huh?
You have a lot of resilience. The little ups and little downs remind me of my partner, I call him beige. Beige comes in many colors, but all of them quite neural. However, beige is a solid color, goes well with a lot of things.
Emotions aren't fun. I am not sure how I feel about them 😂🙄
I decided last year to go to therapy , but due to the covid lockdown it was put on hold, because I am really uncomfortable with talking over phone or video call... but I will pick it up when the pandemic is dealt with.
Veel sterkte met Chubby.
(I don’t know an equivalent of this in English)
I completely understand not wanting to do phone/video calls for therapy. Privacy cannot be guaranteed I hope you get to go soon and that you are handling everything while you wait.
Thanks for the supportive words.
Feel awful about Chubby (and you). I really hope it's not something bad.
I'm glad therapy helps you. Didn't do anything for me, especially cognitive behavioral therapy was - for me - a waste of time.
Hope this helps you to get on top of things again.
Best wishes from both of us.
I tried (cognitive behavioural) therapy once. Didn't help me either. In retrospect, I think I was too headstrong, and I kept rationalising as a means to ward off practical application.
Should I choose to try it again, I'll probably need to find a shrink that's able to 'corner' me with all my rationalisations and not let me escape. I won't like that at all even though it might be necessary in that case :)
Brinn, good luck with Chubby. Hope it doesn't prove serious.
@@RH-ro3sg If you think it might help if you try again - do it! Give it another shot. If it prevents the need for medication... just do it.
And rationalizing is actually part of the process; part of this therapy is stolen from RET (Rational Emotive behavioral Therapy).
I had this in group sessions and although there was an obvious need by individuals for talking about their feelings and experiences, it was not allowed during the sessions. Elaboration was not appreciated, even cut of mid sentence.
So we talked amongst ourselves during the breaks. That wás helpful and for me and some of the others the only reason we kept going there.
That therapy group you were in sounds terrible! I would not even call that therapy . Thanks for sharing, sorry to hear it wasn't good.
Hey Brinn, It helps if you can share. And we are anonymous :-) I have no experience what so ever with professional mental care. But I do have had my share of unhappy and stressful moments. Yes there was youth issues. A lot and severe. And I have the feeling only NOW I can understand things and accept things. I had to make some unpopular choices like disconnecting with some of my closest family. And I had to prove to myself I am worthly.
Now I am in a better part of my life. And I have support that I don't doubt.
And I had to accept I am not perfect. By far not perfect.
So it is good to have found a therapist that works for you. I think mental support can not "fix" things. But it can help you to do the necessary work. To structure your past and present life and to give a positive outlook on what is to come. It can help you to accept the past and move on.
It can help you to find your positives and motivation to go on.
It is not the time for warm real-life hugs but I give one mentally sent hug. :-) You have beautiful eyes btw. Some shade of green?
It's difficult to disconnect from family, I've done that too. I am so glad that you were able to make it over that difficult period and to a much better and solid place. *hugs*
Therapy certain doesn't "fix" things, people have to put in the work. It's not fun, but it's worth it.
Thank you. My eyes are hazel. They are typically some shade of green, but they will turn grey sometimes.
Sterkte met Chubby!
Thank you