Weddings Around the World | Culture Cuddles #1
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- Опубликовано: 22 ноя 2024
- Hi everyone, we have a podcast now! In our first episode, we discuss intercultural relationships, wedding traditions in Germany, India, Thailand and Vietnam, and various superstitions and rituals. Tell us about your experiences of living and loving between cultures in the comments or on culturecuddles.com. We hope you enjoy it!
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Ever felt like a fish out of water in a new country or stumbled through a conversation in a language you barely speak? Oh, you have? Then you’re in the right place! From cultural misunderstandings that’ll make you cringe to romantic gestures that get lost in translation - Uyen Ninh and her German Husband (to be) are trying to make sense of it all.
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Culture Cuddles is produced by Uyen Ninh and her German husband-to-be, with production support from YilmazHummel. The producers are Niklas Stündel and Freerk Sitter.
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Did you guys use a wise person like a monk to pick your date?
In Mexico, consulting fortune tellers before weddings is not a common practice, though I believe some Indigenous communities may still have those traditions. However, we do have an abundance of delicious food at weddings! It’s quite common to serve a whole pig or other animals, such as goat or cow, depending on the geographical zone and the size of the guest list. There’s usually plenty to eat, so guests often take home leftovers. Traditional weddings are open to friends, family, and even acquaintances, which makes for a lively celebration.
We love to dance to traditional songs, and there are beautiful customs to wish the newlyweds a happy and prosperous life. Most couples tie the knot in Catholic ceremonies, where they first go to church and then celebrate at a reception. It’s a big deal-after the ceremony, there are lots of photos, and guests throw rice at the couple as a sweet symbol of abundance for their future together.
While this is the classic way to celebrate, many couples are now blending new traditions and ideas that reflect their personalities. Another fun aspect of Mexican weddings is the dress code; everyone dresses up! I find it surprising that in the U.S., some people might show up in pajamas to a wedding. That’s quite a big difference! In Mexico, women typically wear a white dress for both the civil wedding and the church ceremony. Men usually wear a tuxedo or a traditional mariachi suit; mariachi bands are also common for singing during the ceremony, though some people opt not to hire them for the entire party due to the expense.
I once had a wonderful Australian boyfriend, and I fell head over heels for him. His family was so kind to me, but we struggled with the long-distance relationship, as flights from Mexico to Australia can be really pricey. After some time, I decided to move to the United States at 34 and ended up marrying a gringo (US citizen or as you called them "Americans" but America is a continent so we called the gringos, it's not an offensive term) because I fell deeply in love. I didn’t think to consult a fortune teller or anything like that, and unfortunately, things didn’t work out well. There’s so much more to a relationship than just love; sharing ideas and plans is extremely important, which can be a big challenge for intercultural couples.
It’s interesting to see how similar customs can be across North America. I’ve noticed that mothers-in-law here can be quite protective and controlling of their sons, and many people hold on to conservative not good values in the Northwestern U.S. like racism, etc.
By the way, Unyen, would you mind sharing any information about the fortune tellers you’ve used? I’d love to know how to ask the spirits if my next love will be the right match for me. I hope to avoid any more bad luck in love, LOL! I love watching your videos and hearing about your experiences living in different cultures. You remind me so much of a friend I had when I was in college in Mexico; I lost touch with her; I enjoy seeing your videos, guys; I love them. You are the best Vietnamese and German couple 💕🌵🫶🏼🇲🇽🤓🇺🇸
PD. I love your glasses frame 😎
The priest picking the wedding date and the time is very common in India as well. My wedding was also organised within 3 days and more than 250 people showed up. I also received gold. One of my friend ( guy) also got arranged with a girl, he didn’t like his bride after they spoke during courtship period, so he wanted to call it off but his family didn’t allow him as that will damage their reputation and relationship with brides family. So this guy started behaving weird, acting as if he is crazy and possessed. So brides family organised some evil fighting priests. They made the set up with lemons, chillies, fire and started beating the groom with holy brooms. At last he was so beaten up, that he agreed to marry the bride. The ghost buster priest told them that now the evil spirits are in the lemon. Guys family should throw the lemon at some roundabout on the street and wait until a car or two wheeler crushes it. That way the evil spirits will move on. I often wonder when my husband acts weird, if he crushed some lemon with his Audi, then I tell myself, it’s Germany, lemons are too expensive to waste here. Lol
German boyfriend feels uncomfortable showing his face but is definitely not ashamed to sit so comfortably on the couch xD
That’s the biggest cultural difference haha
He's so cute!
The couch does look sooo comfy!! 😂
I wasn't sure if he was sitting there comfortably or if he was trying to position himself for the scene, because the whale in the background also looks very placed 🥰 But super cute
It's his home why he wouldn't be comfortable
I am imagining that when you two get married, the minister/priest refers to German boyfriend as 'German Boyfriend'. 😂
And when it's finally time for the final "with the power vested in me" or however it is orchestrated, I now pronounce you "German husband" and wife!! 🥺🩷
@@caitydestroyz lol
Well Of course, that's his name! 😋
Yeah, he'll have to change HIS name.😂
"I now pronounce you, German husband and wife"
I say we hide with face with Uyen's crocheted creations
Good idea
Crocheted wrestling mask!
Hahaha imagine a balaclava with octopus tentacles on top or something
@@hello1868Perfect!
Oooh! Brilliant idea! \o/ 😄
Uyen's mismatched socks fit well with the laid-back vibe. This podcast is so much fun.
Mismatched socks is lifestyle ❤
@@ChericeGraham honestly i didnt even notice
One of her socks is matching german boyfriends tshirt ❤
@@jackyb.2338 And together they're matching the shark.
Isn’t that what gen z does?
"Soon my name will be German Husband." 😂❤
Sooo dang cute! ❤
I dated an English guy when I was studying in the UK. The cultural differences were crazy. I am Iranian and because of our culture with poems/literature (persian), love is a very fantastical thing. Showing love is always super romantic & dramatic. Like you would tell someone you'd die for them (in different ways) at least 3 times a day. Even outside a romantic relationship, you'd tell a close friend ,family member or children that "I'd get sacrificed for you" in casual conversation or even as a form of saying thank you. eg: sister: "do you want me to make more coffee for you?" me: "no honey, I'd die for you".
Even typing it in English sounds ridiculous but it's so enmeshed in our culture that we're used to it. We use it as a term of endearment and almost never think of the meaning. Now imagine me, from this culture, dating a very practical and logical English guy. I was 16, away from family for the first time and I just felt my bf didn't love me because AT MOST he'd just say I love you. I got used to it eventually but the first few months were terrible. The funny thing is, I'm now married to someone from my own culture but my time in the UK has made me cold from the point of view of onlookers because I'm far less dramatic in love
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Yeah, that is pretty dang dramatic with the dying for even the smallest things. LOL
@@doodahgurlie yeap.. the relationships get kinda toxic ngl 🤣
@@niloofardordahan6915it seems like limerance not love
@@niloofardordahan6915 words like 'sadaqa' n 'qurban ' are weigh too pure . i believe that these words are extremely effective and effervescent into the soul of lovers. As these words are not meant to carry the negative effect like ( death).
Come to the USA AND MAKE A TV SHOW
About breaking things: in Poland it's common that the weeding couple is throwing Champaign glasses on the floor, and then they clean it together - like a symbol of the normal, daily stuff that happens.
Lol😂
In other slavic countries + often in Hungary, too.
😂polterabend in germany
The same with obstacle course! Some guests dress up in funny costumes and the bride and groom have to complete small challanges or bribe them with alcohol or cakes.
A nie kieliszki pod wódce?
In Vietnam it is true that we don't have proposals. But when you take your boy/girl friend to meet your family and every one started asking, to your face, behind your back, to your parents, to your siblings, to your nieces/nepthew... when are you two gonna get married before you even think about it. If your partner doesn't flat out deny it, that's when you realize you're getting married.
That's a very ... alarming way to learn something that I would consider very important to know.
I'm Brazilian, married to a Swede, living in Sweden, we got married in Sweden because weddings in Brazil are usually huge and we didn't had the money for it. One Brazilian tradition I did was to write the names of my friends that were single on the underskirt of my dress, I took a picture lifting my skirt up to show the names for my friends who couldn't attend, there were a lot of side eyes from my Swedish guests.
That’s such a cute tradition
cara realmente casamento no brasil é muito caro ne kkkkk
Too funny
That's actually so cute ❤
I'm Brazilian with a Dutch fiancé, we decided we'll get married in both countries so both our families can be with us. But both will be small intimate events, nothing like the usual Brazilian thing..
A not so happy intercultural relationship story: I am from the U.S., and in grad school, I started dating a grad student who was from south India. I enjoyed learning about his culture and meeting his friends. It was about 6 months into the relationship that one of his friends explained to me that I was just the girlfriend to be had until my boyfriend was pressured by his family to marry someone they arranged for him. I confronted my boyfriend, and he confirmed it. I wouldn’t have let the relationship get that far if I knew there was no chance of us getting married, but he never mentioned it, and I didn’t know enough to ask.
That would upset me immensely as you were just used until the "right" girl comes along. Especially as he knew this going into the relationship. Then again, you probably should have been more aware of Indian culture...parents play a big part in dictating their children's marriages.
Don't feel bad -- been there, done that. I had no idea either -- definitely even in the states with US-born folks of Indian heritage you need to check out up front or at least very early on if the potential partner/family are planning on an arranged marriage. Sometimes they even send the adult child (more often the groom to be) back to the homeland to get introduced to potential brides and get engaged with plans to get married and then bring the bride back to the states. Very easy to get blindsided by this.
I'm sorry that happened to you. Must have been upsetting at the time
I had a friend (in the UK) who was very happy in a relationship that was secret from her parents. As soon as she had a marriage arranged she accepted it and broke up with her girlfriend.
I was quite shocked but my friend seemed to accept the arrangement quite casually. We haven't spoken since, so I don't know how the marriage worked out.
I’ve heard of this. It’s so misogynistic and racist really. People in the o outside group don’t deserve the respect people in their group get, apparently
He should have been honest with you
Uyens honesty about her rough origin was so awesome. She is so cute and full of light when she talks about all things, good or bad. I appreciate her good energy.
Been doing long-distance with my Dutch partner for almost 5 years and we're finally closing off the distance! Watching you guys living your best life happily together gives me a lot of hope and joy!
Are you coming to the Netherlands (in which case, welkom in Nederland!) or is your partner moving to you? 😊
Either way, congratulations on closing the distance!
I love the community Uyen has built that loves to enjoy the content she produces while respecting the privacy of her German boyfriend.
She and Stephanie Soo have gotten some amazing human beings as followers and I really love to be the part of this community.
Agree, they're both lovely people and so are their communities☺️
I’m East Indian from East Africa Tanzania. I moved to Canada in 1989.. I met my German husband who is from Berlin Germany in 1993. Well he was around and I knew him very casually but I began to date him in 1993. We’ll have been together now for 29 years. We have twin daughters who are 13 yrs old. He is by far the love of my life and the best person in the whole wide world ( along with my mom. She’s also my fav person). I have a good feeling about you both. You are both adorable.
I am an American and have lived in Germany and Vietnam. This Fall I am invited to a wedding in Vietnam. The bride is a dear friend and I know her entire family. I have never been to a wedding in Vietnam. Of course I am so excited, but realize this is to me an unfamiliar part of the culture. Your podcast came at a perfect time. Still I have many questions, but you guys answered many of them.
I love your RUclips videos! Thank you, hạnh phúc und Freude 🎉
She has some videos on her regular channel about Vietnam weddings.
Weddings in Vietnam are varied. It is better to ask your friend how they celebrate it and all your remaining questions. We love to share our culture with foreigners ☺️
I literally freaked out when german boyfriend read my comment 😅
Yes i said a whole lemon 🍋 ...its to be kept hidden but it will absorb all "negative energy"
Oh hii 😆 thanks for the lemon comment!!
@@uyenninhhi Uyen! Just woke up to your podcast, cant wait to join the next one!
@@uyenninhas a hispanic it's just good to keep a lemon in your living spaces and if their negative energy the lemon will brown so quickly it is honestly disgusting
@@mercedesvelasquez8781 primera vez que escucho eso. ¿En que país lo hacen?
Just hide a lemon in the house?
I LOVE the story of how you met. Amazing story of how destiny works. You guys are awesome ❤
Absolutely love your videos Uyen! So excited for the future content!
I am from the US, married to an Egyptian man that grew up in Oman. We met in 2012 and after 10 days of being together in person (1 month long distance), we got married. It has been 12 years now. Intercultural relationship can be difficult, but I find it very rewarding as well ❤
A man who prizes his peace and privacy yet still compromises for their loved ones, truly a man of culture.
OMG! You had me at 0:01 ... I love this already
Hahaahhahaha
Kinda love this channel ngl. Personally, my bf is Korean. I learn languages as a hobby, and he is monolingual. I've never left Texas for longer than a week let alone been outside the US. He wasn't born here and has traveled a lot. In the south intercultural relationships are not common let alone ones of the same gender. It is a wild experience, and it is really cool to see a podcast/channel cover these things. From picking up a new phrase to table manners its cool to see another couple document the quirks. Can't wait to see this where this goes!
How did you meet and do you plan to live together?
@Weirdforces-rk9qs So we knew each other in high school through friends/boyscouts, but were never close other than some games here and there. Then we reconnected on Discord about 2-3 years back. We started hanging out more outside of games and started dating soon after. After a while, we ended up pretty much being inseparable and have lived together as a couple for coming up on a year and a half now. About a year ago, we got priced out of our home city and moved to a nice little place nearby. Was really random how it all happened. We actually have the same first name too, lol.
these two can do no wrong in my eyes. protect them at all costs
Not married but black american: it's common in some black american families, after the wedding ceremony the bride and groom will jump the broom - a literal broom. This is from slavery when enslaved people were not allowed to be married bc you could not separate married Christians. Jumping the broom was the ceremony that was allowed to announce their wedding to everyone while not anger the masters. Some families practice this tradition after the wedding ceremony and it's fun because the higher you and your partner can jump the stronger your marriage will be. One side of my family does this regularly but the other doesn't so not everyone celebrates it but it's an important tradition that shouldn't be forgotten.
Thanks for sharing!
this isnt common at all at lest where im from in the us
I never knew this, thank you for sharing.
As a Black American from the Southern US, I plan to jump the broom with my partner at our wedding, too!
Interesting to learn about the height-marriage strength correlation
@@MegaCorazon96 congrats! Idk that's just what i was told growing up so we jokingly made it really tall to piss the bride n groom off lol. I'm from the north and we kept some traditions alive ❤
I usually listen to everything on 2x speed, but your voices and relaxed demeanour made me slow down and enjoy it real time
I Love hearing the rough stuff from the village! Don’t ever sugar coat things for the internet- we love your truths ❤😊
Agree -- Uyen you keep telling us your truth...
Culture Cuddles is the cutest podcast name ever.
Two good-hearted people living their love. ❤
I must say German boyfriend-soon-husband, I'm very touched to hear the way you empathize with believing people and how their belief impact their lives even without believing in those things yourself. You have a kind heart
My wife grew up in the Philippines - half Chinese and half Pinay and when we became engaged her parents asked about my birth information to go to a fortune teller? to see if we were compatible. We were married twice - first in the US with a simple civil ceremony and then 10 months later a massive Church wedding in the Philippines 27 years ago!
I did not know i could live these 2 any more than i did!!!! This is an amazing idea and cant wait for more episodes!!!
I’m so happy for you two. This channel has grown in so many incredible ways! I’m glad German Fiancé is getting more comfortable in the channel as well. This podcast will be a huge milestone for the two of you. Congratulations!
omg german boyfriend shifting to german husband eventually is great 🥺💜
you guys are so wonderful ❤ this is so soothing. maybe someday you can read stories from your childhood or something, like how i grew up with dutch stories!
I'm from Austria and in my region the bride stealing event at the wedding party is very common. The bride and groom would book a second wedding venue (usually a bar or restaurant) and late in the evening, the person who managed to steal the bride's wedding bouquet without being caught, would "steal the bride" and bring her to the second wedding venue while the groom has to "rescue her" by going after her (nowadays the bride and groom appoint the person who is to "steal the bride" before the wedding and leave the wedding bouquet unattended for them, when it's time for the event). When the bride is moved to the second venue by the "abductor" the younger adult guests and their close friends and family usually follow. In this way the wedding party is devided into two groups with the elderly guests, and families with young children staying at the main venue where it is quieter and the younger people getting really drunk and singing traditional drinking songs forcing the other guests and the bride and the groom to down one shot after another. A wedding usually starts around 10 (sometimes earlier, sometimes later) in the morning and ends at midnight when the father of the bride "passes" her to the groom one last time and they go home together as a married couple.
In Germany (my region, ie southwest) bride stealing works differently. The bride is taken away by friends and taken to different pubs. The groom and his friends follow and look for the bride in the various pubs and the groom has to pay for drinks for the guests in the pub and for his helpers until he has found his new wife!
I love that tradition! It's pragmatic and yet fun.
@@elkewoll2950 I'm also Austrian and I just know this version of yours :)
I actually feel this has such a sexist undertone too it (from Austria myself) - I‘d get drunk myself too haha
I refused to be stolen at our wedding (in Austria) because I knew that it would be super confusing for the British group of the guests and honestly I don't enjoy it that much to be at a wedding where then so many people (incl bride & groom ) are really drunk
this was great! i love your shorts but it was so nice to see your dynamic together in a longer form video:)
I used to work with an Indian couple and they were married by an arrangement. They agreed to it, and have grown kids and are still together. Their son, actually asked them to help them arrange a marriage for him. She was a wonderful soul, the wife. I worked with her longer and knew her better. She totally put up with me asking about her country and her culture, because I'm a curious soul and want learn and find it all fascinating. She guided me and my mom when it came to cultural clothes (went to a festival with them). Talked with us about food, because you know, yummy. Bless her.
OH MY GOOOOSHHHH!!! I feel sooooo much better being in a mixed culture relationship for almost 7 years and we are not married yet. As an American in a mixed culture relationship I have friends telling me that its weird we haven't taken the next step yet. Thank you for sharing! It truly help me adjust to a better sense of normalcy and ignore my American friends.
Uyen and German boyfriend doing a podcast together just made my month!!!❤
I love seeing how Uyen looks at German fiancé with a smile on her face🥹❤️
I am British an I met my German husband July 18th 2023 on a video game called dayz , 8 months later on the 21st of march we got married in Denmark, they say when you know you know and this was our case 😊
Hi uyen, ngl i was dealing with breakup and felt hopeless but after watching your videos, i felt calm and happy. Your soon to be husband and you have a very relaxing and positive vibes. Thanks I'm feeling much better ❤😊
I’m so proud of you girl 🥹I hope you always get better^^
@@Baby_breadd Thankyou so much for your kind words ❤️❤️☺️☺️
I'm English and I moved to New Zealand when I was 22 fully expecting to meet a kiwi guy and get married. I'd had enough of English guys and was glad to never have to date one again. I ended up meeting an English guy from the town next to mine in England and falling in love and marrying him. I think the only thing you can guarantee about love is its never what you expect.
My parents decided to move from one city to another in the same state..the cities were quite opposite culturally. I remember that in high school I had a feeling in my heart that I would meet and be with a guy that was of my own ethnicity. At the same my thoughts told me "what are you expecting,there's no one of that race around here but your own family". Sure enough, a few years later I met my now husband in the same city and we married shortly after.❤❤ 24 years of marriage so far❤❤❤❤
Well said! I went to Iceland and everybody told me that I will meet a viking icelander there. But instead I ended up finding an Italian guy! 😅 I never EVER thought even about dating an Italian.
Yeah, expect the unexpected, was Napoleon's motto.
Love the podcast! Also love the whale on the couch 🐋 it somehow brings me joy
i thought u were makin fun of em till i saw the literal whale on the couch 😭
The whale is giving Attorne Kim Young Woo awwww
You can unzip it's mouth and put things inside (I have one of these whales).
To me too 🥰
it all looks so informal and cozy. Love that German Boyfriend is showing so much of himself. I love the hamster emoji over his face too.
Singaporean Chinese here! My family is Buddhist/agnostic while my husband’s family is Catholic. Even though we’re both Singaporean Chinese there was already some differences in wedding practices. Like choosing an auspicious timing/date and having an engagement ceremony (guo da li) was really important to my family. While for his family it is important that we get married in a church. Planning a wedding can be stressful and it will have some clashes or differing expectations among family elders, if there’s mutual respect, communication and compromise you both will be alright 😊 and don’t forget to enjoy the actual day!!!
the conversation about the wedding being postponed because of superstition was so awesome i love how german bf was immediately like “oh two days no problem” while uyen is like “nooo my day would be ruined”. i am just excited for german bf to be german husband ❤️ you two are so lovely together
Intercultural relationships are awesome! My mum is the child of one, my gran is Ashkenazi and my grandfather was Palestinian and Moroccan. I'm also the child of one, because my dad's Puerto Rican. My parents fully planned to elope because their mothers were both beyond pissed bout them marrying not only outside of the culture but their respective religions. My grandfathers asked them to just hunker down and wait until the hurricane that was coming passed and in the meantime threw them a backyard wedding on the day that they had planned to elope. My dad's dad had even tricked my grandmother into making my mum's wedding dress weeks in advance as a dress for another big event that was coming up! Very sneaky of my grandfathers. They even managed to get a priest AND a rabbi to officiate
Such a cool mix, my neighbor is Palestinian and ashkenazi Jewish as well from Hungary!
You need a PO box do we can send wedding gifts!
I like your rough village comments 😊 some of us had it rough too!❤ i would love to hear more about life in your village!!!!
Regarding the Polterabend/smashing dishes:
In German there is even a saying „Scherben bringen Glück“ which translates to shards are lucky ❤
I have a personal theory about "Polterabend". I think each marriage has a set (pre-ordained by spirits) amount of crockery that will be broken during the marriage. The plates and cups smashed during Polterabend are deducted from this amount. So: the more fragments on the Polterabend, the less crockery smashed during the couple's life together!
i actually love his voice it's so calming.
In India, if there's something like getting married would kill the spouse because of the date of birth thing, we get them married to a tree first so that technically the tree is the spouse and then they get married to their partner
So if the spouse has to die, it's the tree and the partner lives!
That's perfect!
Incredible galaxy brain solution lmao 💯💯
Hahahahaha
@@sup4818 wow.. great work around
😂that's so practical, I love it. ❤ better than breaking up!
Culture Cuddles is the cutest podcast name only worth of you guys❤❤❤❤❤
the teasing is adorable, it's always been a personal sign of a good relationship for me!
Paying the fortune teller for cutting through the Spirits blessing red tape. Really gave me a chuckle and I thought about the different things in life that seem to happen like that.
😂German boyfriend wants more lighthearted convo after talking about evil spirits…I love Uyen’s response! 😂
I want to hear more about this though, Uyen! Totally interesting!
Yes! More of this topic. I'm curious 😊
OMG thank-you Uyen & German boyfriend (soon to be husband)!!
Congrats on all accounts. You guys are moving onward and forward! 💕
OH MY GOD OH MY GOD !!! I am so excited to see you are doing a podcast ! I don't even want to start listening to this first episode because I'll probably won't be able to wait before the next one 🤣
I’m settling in with coffee and my 3DSXL (playing Super Mario World), and ready to listen to you guys! ❤ from the Caribbean! 🇹🇹
Just a recommendation, if you continue to post this podcast on YT, it would be really cool to provide on screen captions. The auto captions that YT provides aren't very accurate. Ik it would be a lot more editing work, but with on screen captions your videos would be much more accessible. Love you❤❤❤❤
Just bumping this up. Adding accurate captions would do wonders for the videos' accessibility 😊
I love how comfy, cozy and laid back the set up is!
After listening to different experiences such as breaking up because of the prediction that one might die is so relevant even in Indian culture as well. Obviously youngsters do not follow it that much, but the similarities among the south asian and southeast asian countries is so striking. I think that Indian weddings are full of colors. We are not restricted to certain colors such as white dress. We get to experiment a lot like crazy! Indian wedding is like a festival, even the small scale ones that don't make to tik tok or Instagram.
Fun fact about wedding in my rural Hungarian town:
It is customary for newlyweds to get in their cars (along with the entire guest list), go to the boulevards (which basically go in a giant circle) during the day and honk their horns like a bunch of ducks the entire time LOL
Also, 'wedding challenges' are part of EVERY Hungarian wedding. The groom has to complete crazy tasks (such as trying to shave a balloon with a sharp razor without making it pop) in order to get his 'kidnapped' wife back and marry her
Sounds fun but the honking would definitely make me go crazy😭 it's way too noisy
"do you want know how we fight evil spirits? A knife" 🤣💀 I choked on my water that was so funny
I was also not prepared to hear that 😂
I loved seeing you two so casually sitting together chatting about weddings. Its lovely seeing you both looking so relaxed. This is the first podcast I have ever listened to. Thank you guys, it was fascinating. I look forward to seeing more of these podcasts.
As VNese, one thing i impress the most in Vietnamese wedding is they karaoke so much. Even in the 8pm, there are some close friends and relatives singing songs. I remembered in my uncle wedding they sang from 4pm to 9pm. 😅😅😅
They also over do it. Karaoke is super loud there and often goes on far too long. It happens in public areas where it's a shared space. It happens late in the night or early in the morning. It's ridiculous.
@@doodahgurlie i agree with this. honestly though, it adds life to the city/town. it's depressing in america sometimes, but you get tired of the karaoke real quick. especially if you've been dealing with it your entire life
@@khangaroo8166 Too much of anything makes it annoying. That's why there's a saying about moderation.
I was invited to a wedding last summer. I loved the decorations: dried wild flowers. And the guest gifts were selfmade marmelade and a little pack of wildflower seeds. Not typical for Germany but still super nice to see the flowers bloom this summer :D
This sounds like a lovely idea for bombonniere
not a wedding thing but I am Mexican American and my husband is all White (we are in the USA) and the hardest thing and still comes up is our differences in time. For him, time is very linear and done by appointments and for my family time is just there. For example, a birthday is at 2 but don't arrive at 2pm because you will be helping to clean and set up. but for his family, if the event starts at 2pm, the food and everything will be ready and set up at 2pm. and they have end times, where my family events don't really have end times unless there is a venue end time involved.
I relate as a Cuban American when living outside of Miami. I was invited to a 2pm party once and invitation gave 430pm for end time and zi was like whhhhaaa?
I loved the comfy vibe, fascinating cultural marriage custom content and your personal takes. Love and culture for the win, great first show!!!
I think it makes more sense to just discuss it and decide to get married. Instagram worthy proposals are more for social media than life
I'm from India and in all these videos I love how similar Indian and Vietnamese cultures are. Even in India we go to a pandit which I guess can be thought of as Hindu version of the monk and he tells when's the most auspicious day and time to get married according to the couple's birthdays as well and that's when we do it :) And our zodiac is also based on year and time
Why can't he show his face
I absolutely love the two of you. You make me believe in true love. Both of you are absolutely adorable together ❤
Love y’all! I love how humble y’all are with constructive tips y’all give to each other!
I'm from Greece where big weddings are the thing, and planning a whole wedding in 2 days is so crazy, in Greece you wouldn't be able to even find a church to book so fast!
Give the papa a nice donation and have the wedding in the xopio after the liturgy. If you believe it can happen then it can happen. ( for our xeno friends Xopio = village) ❤😊
If you’re anything like me I know you have a crazy aunt that can spread the news in 30 min or less. 😂⛪️🔔 Party at the nearest taverna 🎉❤
Χωριό not Xopio. Also it’s ξένοι in this case as it is plural. Anyway most people in Greece/Cyprus don’t do village weddings anymore as it isn’t considered classy 😅
Otherwise I have been planning my wedding all year and we are now almost 2 months away from it. Mine is multicultural too (Im Cypriot, fiancé is not) and it has been a difficult journey but we are excited!
Am guessing there are a lot more monks available in SE Asia, than priests or ministers in Europe. To meet a 2 day notice of a wedding.
I married in Greece. My husband is Greek and I'm German. The bureaucracy was a nightmare. And my husband got actually asked at the δυμαρχείο why he couldn't find a nice greek girl. I stood beside him, I speak and understand Greek. And a church wedding would have been impossible as I'm protestant. They seriously wanted to baptize me again. So taking into the equation one person being a foreigner, no way having a wedding in 2 days in Greece😂 But to be fair, neither in most countries in Europe.
I really like that you started this new podcast. Sometimes people think it's rare that cross cultural couple exists. But its not, it's quite normal. I am german and my husband is burundian. We are married soon 5 years.
Its the LOTR blanket for me XD, bring that to sit on both your laps to up the cuddle vibes. super cozy
I have a family memeber who is Indian and he married a Moroccan woman. Their wedding has been happening for over two years!!!!! Because they had one in India, one in Morocco and one in the country we and they live in now. This is because, like for your family i believe, travelling is hard and difficult but also really expensive. Its crazy. Plus they have around 6 wedding functions that typically last around 2 to 3 weeks.
My husband is from Australia 🇦🇺 and I’m Canadian 🇨🇦. The two countries are quite similar but there are definitely a lot of differences too. The most interesting to me is the different foods (which is why I love watching your food videos!!), and the different words or phrases used to call things. We’ve been married 33 years. I think the most important thing is to be understanding of each other’s differences. I have a friend who is Canadian and her husband is from Indonesia. They have been together 37 years - but sadly the husband’s family refuses to accept the White wife. His family in Indonesia refuse to accept their children as well. When the wife and children are around, they are ignored or insulted by his family members.
So sad
Time to walk away from the family then. You tell me who I can/cannot love and I tell you to get lost.
@@ekaterini2957 - my white friend has actually helped support the Indonesian parents - bringing them to Canada 🇨🇦 and providing money to live on. Still they refuse to talk to her, make fun of her children, and tell her husband that he needs a proper Chinese wife to cook for him and the care of him. It’s so sad because they really are a happy couple and obviously get along as they’ve been together for 37 years.
@@lostcontrol1981 no no no😥 if her husband were really love her, he would stop his family. Why he get married if he is not any power to be a real husband. AND SHE SPEND HER MONEY FOR THEM. Well, how can a loving husband waste her wife's hardwork on ppl who make fun of their children. Like what??? I cannot 😢 and his family is soo shameless.. like she did everything for them. And how a man let anyone to look down on his children. And how can a married man let his family to speaking about other women to marry?? He doesn't deserve this lovely lady...
"Low budget exorcism"💀🤣🤣🤣🤣 nearly spat my tea out
I m indian and i can confirm its traditional tinder especially in the south. We get to choose who we get married to and if dont want to then we move on to next guy. Parents only set it up but the decision is the brides and grooms.
To ward of evel spirts we use slippers near head under the bed, lemon is crushed in front of the person. During marriage in some cultures wen the rituals start like 2days b4 marriage, the bride carries sharp objects or stones until marriage day. I think it's for protection.
I was not expecting Uyen to say "dressed to the nines". That is such a British expression! I loved this podcast ❤️
Sounds like family & friendship are top priority in Vietnam! ❤
This is literally the first and only podcast I've ever watched, most importantly the only one I care to tune into. I often joke that equipment should be more expensive because everyone and their mom has a boring podcast these days... but this is a fun new take on the concept with two people that make me smile. This is the podcast the internet needed to heal tbh, wholesome, informational, and fun!
I really like this podcast, it's a feel-good listen. Just like your videos, they're a feel-good watch and I get to learn stuff about Germany and Vietnam culture. I look forward to more episodes 🥰
I'm actually so happy he now feels the confidence to show himself, there was a time that even this would be too much for him
I’m so happy about this podcast! You two are so fun together, and I love hearing more from GB
This
this is such a good podcast, I love how laid back and casual it is. ❤
This was very enjoyable you guys!
And for the haters dissing German Boyfriend for not wanting to show his face, DONT WATCH. Respect others wishes😊
Literally who?
Have not seen anyone do that
I'm indian and yes we have to dress up really nicely in weddings, if you don't get dressed nicely people think you have some kind of beef with family or you're just egotistical or jealous of them, dressing up nicely is a symbol of showing your happiness for family, sometimes the parents of bride and groom if they have good finances even buy dresses and jwellery for close relatives
8:49 I'm honestly surprised to hear German Boyfriend be so understanding of the power of superstition, it's really cool.
Being from Bangladesh, I was always amazed with how careful people from other countries were about relationship. Normally, when people get into relationships, they immediately think about getting married one day, cause that's the ultimate goal. There's no point in a relationship if you're not getting married. We don't have grand proposals either, it's very formal. Also, arranged marriages are still very common.
You two are absolutely smashing. Uyen is fantastisch and GB always makes me chuckle too!
They like each other so much. It's all so nice :)
Viel gluck!!!!!
My relationship was with a Vietnamese guy from Vancouver, and ill forever miss him and his mom. Sadly i dont think things were meant to be with us, but it is a great memory and im grateful for it happening
It was a very cute podcast! English is a foreign language for me, but your pace and pronunciation made listening super comfortable. Thank you, I'm waiting for the upcoming episode
Thanks Uyen and the german boyfriend, I found your voices are so comfortable to listen when I go for a run! And learning about other cultures is SOOOO helpful. It was such a productive workout 👍👍👍
Vi auguro il meglio, siete una coppia deliziosa. 😊
I would love to hear an episode about any language miscommunication between you two. I know a couple here in the US who met in Belgium during an exchange program in high school and got to know each other while speaking French, but the girl's native language is English and the boy's is Portuguese. I think the idea of getting to know and fall in love with someone all through a language that isn't either person's native tongue is fascinating, and I'd love to hear your perspectives on it or any funny or notable language barrier issues you'd like to share! (As for the couple I know, they both now live in the US, are married with two children, and seem very happy.)
26:27 I'm from Nordrhein-Westfalen, which is the west side side of Germany and my uncle did this on his wedding too aswell as I saw pics of my grandparents getting married who did this too, aswell as my grandparents repeated it when celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary, so maybe it was more common in the past and is now out of style, IDK
omggg i’m glad i’ve found your channel in time for the start of this journey❤😌
Such a cute podcast! My brother didn't have a monk predict their wedding (lol) but i remember he basically eloped. My dad got a call one day from my brother who was like "uh hey you know that trip to visit my girlfriend.... well we're married!" My Sister in law is Thai but from New Zealand snd my brother is from the US and specifically grew up Mormon and he flew to New Zealand to elope with her. Mormons stereotypically get married very quickly lol (myself included, i was proposed to in December and married in March the following year) but my brother is going on 20 years this year being married and has two beautiful kids and this year was my 5th wedding anniversary ❤
Such a cool story! I'm glad they can be happy in NZ despite the local hate for American
@furlough2327 they actually decided to move back to the US. They only lived in New Zealand for less than a year after getting married before coming back to the US lol.