And one of the point that is missing is: they do all of that EFFORTLESSLY. Because those of us who are able to do some of those items spend SO MUCH ENERGY AND DO IT SO MUCH SLOWER just to meet the same requirements.
And you'll get so anxious that you will forget. I get to remember and forget the same task multiple times a day. Even a timer or reminder doesn't always work if I can't react to it immediately 🫨 soon you'll walk around willy nilly to just check you haven't forgotten anything and the fear makes it harder to DO or experience something at all in life
Because in highschool (six years in Europe), door closed -> meant too late -> meant a trip to the secretary -> which meant having one hour detention that same day. Yep, I had a lot of alarms in the morning. 😅
My ADHD primary school child just discovered she can email questions to her teachers. It still stirs her anxiety, but not nearly as bad as having to raise her hand in class.
@LifetimeinWelding - kids should ask questions when they're unsure about something, making learning uncomfortable by not being able to clarify puts students off from even trying. If you can't ask the teacher, who _can_ you ask?
@@lazyperfectionist3978 its not so much that the teacher is the problem, its that the ENTIRE class is listening the second you get that chance to speak. not only listening, but also judging, at that age. I always found it infinitely easier to talk to teachers than the other kids though, still prefer talking to people older than me
@@DJL3G3ND - look, kids judge you regardless of whether or not you speak up (and no doubt you yourself are not immune to judging your fellow students either) so they're not gonna use you asking a question as an excuse if they already do not like you or think very little of you, that and that little temporary embarrassment aimed at someone like me indirectly helps others who may have been way more anxious to ask the same questions get their answers without risking embarrassment
I always leave my hot drink to go cold, then I heat it up in the microwave, try to sip it, realise it's too hot so I leave it to go cold again. For my birthday last year, my daughter bought me a mug warmer to sit on my little table next to my desk. it keeps my coffee just at the right temperature. It's a a total game changer.
Don't forget about putting it in the microwave to reheat it, forgetting about it and then finding it the next day when you go to reheat another drink you've let go cold. Mug warmer seems brilliant
Found very good thermosflasks and prépare 1 liter and à half each evening with a herbal tea, real tea and dome green ir maté type. Thenext morning I find them next to my bed with a mug . All day long I just tey to get in some fluide. I try to remember to bra o myself when Ifind all 3 flasks are empty by noon or 5 pm. Needless to say some weeks there's no bravos. But we're brave ascanbe!!! I now don't mind drinking cold or lukewarm, preferting to optimize hydration before considering prioritizing temperature. Perfection has to go out, fluide to flow ...in... I hate this video because Ifeel like there's so many clones of me out there, amazing folks you are. Tx for legitimizing all of us . All equal. All U- nique.
Everyone in my family is neurospicy. The only way I'm able to function is due to my severe anxiety, otherwise we'd all be screwed. I'm amazed we've all survived this long honestly.
I can relate to that. We are both neurospicy and we both have anxiety about different things so we use those to split the load but it’s still a miracle we are relatively alive.
Yep, it's how many women and introverts fly under the ADHD radar. And then we often end up in relationships with avoidant ADHD types who seem so chill because they just avoid/ignore/forget anything stressful. So we've gotta stress for two, and it's impossible to communicate with them when something bothers us, because their mind will just go lalala until we're acting happy again. Don't do it people, get yourself a partner who can do the emotional labor and invisible labor with you.c
@@RadishTheFool Ugh so true. My brother gets violent when I ask him to contribute the bare minimum. My mom kept us afloat for years and did all the executive functioning for my dad. It's exhausting.
The side quest one gets me HARD. I mean WHO doesn't feel absolutely compelled to do at least 3 side quests while they're in their way to do the main quest??
I gave up on completing main quests unless they happen by accident as side quests. Usually because I forgot what the main quest was days ago but I happen upon it later on my way to accomplish a different task.
Yep, and then forget what the main quest was, then immediately remember again once you start doing something entirely different, so it's still there, looming in the back of your mind.
I feel so much anxiety about the main quest that I have to do, regardless of what it is, even if I know it's something I'll enjoy doing, that I have to pep talk myself and just be like it's ok there will be side quests, let's just go for a wander.
This channel has helped a lot with impulsive spending. Didn't know I had ADHD until I recognised the symptoms shown on your videos and I realised that I've been dopamining instead of just buying what I need and didn't think too much about the price. Taking a step back and realising what's happening has helped stop from spending far too much, which is vital given the ridiculously high prices of basic items at the moment, so thank you!
I had 1 of my many psychiatrist say has anyone ever said you have ADHD? The next month I went back she was canned and I was told she didn't know what she was talking about. All my other diagnosis were agreed upon by all others across 20 years. I watch these videos and it resonated so hard I showed my husband and my adult kids and by the third one they were like this explains so much. So, yeah she is changing the world for people.
0:58 "I don't understand the question." Yeah, I live with a *very* neurotypical husband, and he literally cannot comprehend some of my challenges. They just plain don't compute for him. Bless him, he's very kind about it, but he simply doesn't understand the magnitude of the struggle it is for me to do certain things - he is genuinely baffled/puzzled by my inability to make phone calls, for example. What I wouldn't give to be able to brain swap with him for one day, just so he could have a frame of reference 😕
The inability to make phone calls is probably the issue that has the most pervasive effect on my life. Not only am I not able to fix my bank card being locked, because they will only take phone calls.. I can't even explain to other people who need me to get finances fixed, why I can't simply call them up and sort it out at any time. So I have bins to be paid for, a driving licence to apply for, no ability to top up my phone credit to make a call, without any transport. The situation is pretty bad, like living on a sinking ship, and it is all because I cannot get myself to make phone calls, or even remember to credit my phone to do so. It was nice to see your comment. To know I'm not going through that alone. that I'm not being as unreasonable as it feels from the rest of the world.
@@falls2shine712 I'm sorry to hear about your challenges. If I absolutely MUST make a call, I've found that if I put my phone on speaker phone, it's (very, very slightly) easier for me to have a phone conversation. I don't know why this helps (maybe because it feels less like a phone call since the phone isn't up against my ear?). But I wanted to share in case it's useful for you. Alternatively, if you have a supportive close friend or family member, have them join the call with you. My husband has done that on occasion, when I was worried the call would really confuse or disrupt me, just so he could help make sure the conversation stayed on track. (Since some places will ONLY speak to the individual, not a representative.) I wish someone offered a service where they would make phone calls for you. You could provide what you want the outcome of the call to be in an email, digitally sign something that gives them permission to act on your behalf with the call, and then just let them sort it out. I would literally pay money for that.
That is so awesome that he is kind about it. My husband had the gull to say to me everyone has "ADHD" I think he actually meant everyone can get distracted..I started to explain the difference between a neurotypical and a neurodiverant brain, he looked shocked. I told him I wish I had a brain like his. It's his choice if he wants to research this stuff but I believe he did that night because he hasn't made a comment like that since. This is still so new to so many. Like you said a brain swap would be very beneficial at times. 😮💨
Yeah can someone remind me how to make phone calls… is there a way? I’m guessing it involves waiting until I’m in a different state rather than trying to force it
@Littlelinden86 - write down what you want to ask/say and have it in front of you. Have a pen ready to write down what the other person says. I was taught this to help with my own inability to make phone calls as a kid
I’ve gotten so used to my coffee going cold, I just drink it that way. Can’t be bothered to reheat. The first 2-3 sips I get while it’s nice, comfy and hot, the rest is just stale, cold but necessary caffeine water. 😬🤷🏼♀️👍🏻
I've got an old Thermos mug, not that old maybe 5 years. So I make my coffee and let it sit a bit to cool and then out the lid on and it stays pretty warm the rest of the day.
Same, but with tea. I like it cold anyway. One cup lasts me hours. I think it makes life easier. When I see my mum she can't really comprehend it and keeps trying to throw my tea away so she can wash the cup up. I think "why are you making more work than it needs to be?" I'll just want to make another cup, which will also go cold!
I especially relate to the sidequests, lol. I will be for example, doing laundry, while I suddenly decide that I need to clean my cupboards. That then leads me to think that "hey, I haven't actually finished the game on Playstation yet". While playing, I suddenly pause the game and start a monologue about some topic that came to mind while playing the game (I will talk out loud, even those monologues) ,which then leads me to searching online of the said topic. This then leads me back to the "hey, did I finish doing the laundry?". Because of this I have learned to say out loud "okay, I will first do this task and after that I will do the second task" I have to say them out loud, multiple times otherwise it won't work. Because of this method I nowadays go on sidequests lot less than before, but I still do sometimes, sadly it's not 100 percent solid method 😅
I try to trick myself into useful sidequests. While at the loo I will frequently clean a bit here and there and then it saves me doing a big clean. Or while in the shower I clean a bit while my conditioner is working.
i was literally having a crisis and crying yesterday bc my dad was all like “i give up” on trying to make us “do things right” when in reality he just doesn’t understand how it is to deal with adhd…
I spent two weeks using my spare keys because I couldn't figure out what I did with my actual keys other than the vague sense of "Here is a safe place to put them - right here. I will remember this later." Found them in my miscellaneous small item doom box while completely overhauling my room.
Have a place for each important item, close to where its most commonly needed. So glasses are always left on the table by your sofa spot, keys are in a bowl near the mainly used exit. Have a pretty box for feminine hygiene in the bathroom - nicely hidden but handy when needed. Then routines and habits help. Always put your keys where they live before taking your coat off. Sunglasses live well next to the keys.
I am currently juggling at least 5 pairs of glasses. They all have different prescriptions as I don't seem to be able to throw away the outdated ones. 50% of them the frames are broken. They are lying all over the house and I pick them up randomly and hope I'll be able to see something through them. As I have one long sighted and one short sighted eye the prescriptions are interesting and some help me see close up others long distance. I have tried tethers and that can help, but often find that I have two pairs hanging around my neck and they get all tangled up. Last night I was trying to watch the footy (long distance for telly) and of course because I can't concentrate on it, was also trying to play a game on my phone (short distance) - Total effing nightmare. 🤣
This is sooooo relatable! When you asked him why he was on time again hahaha that really got me!! I used to watch my ex husband move through life with such ease and I was always struck by his ability to just be a person with such little effort hahaha. 😂😂😂 especially time management!
Lost a set of keys for an entire year. House, car and work all bundled together for convenience. Never remembered to let my work know. Mainly because I was never the first one there so I never had to unlock and my co workers learned long ago to make sure I left when they did or I'd still be there the next day. Kept forgetting to call a locksmith to change the locks at home so I didn't lock the house when I went out. And used all of the different hide a keys I had for my car because I lose those keys most often. For an entire year... One day I put my hand in my jacket pocket, a jacket that while I don't wear ever day I do wear often, and there they were. I obviously also didn't wash that jacket for a year.
This was so funny! It highlighted the way I, and I'm sure many other ADHD individuals, view neurotypicals. They're a bit odd, but mostly harmless after all.(Edited to fix awful typos.)
I think this video dissolves all of my last doubts whether I could be neurotypical 🙈 Who the hell can pour into a bottle that near to the cliff WITHOUT SPILLING? 😂 Also loved the "Why are you on time? You are alway doing that!"
I've learned to enjoy my lukewarm coffee XD Also floordrobes are great for remember what you've worn already; if it's hung up or put away how do you remember to sniff check it first? I also have a key bowl, and most of the time I use it. I've had to train it into my muscle memory so I don't need brain power to do the thing. But every now and then I forget to take them out of my door 😅 Thankfully I both live in a safe(ish) neighborhood and have trained another muscle memory reflex to always lock my storm door, so it's not like they're just in the open, but someone actually trying to break it could probably bust that lock pretty quickly 😅
Ha - yes, I often leave my key in the door by accident! Especially when I have to get toddler, baby, and then shopping indoors. Luckily we also live in a relatively safe neighbourhood!
Wait, my inability to pour liquids without spilling them is a neurodiverse thing!? I thought other people just had some secret technique I couldn't work out 😆
I have ADHD but my personal hygiene is good, I do all the laundry, and I make phone calls. My keys always go back in the same place. It's NOT effortless, but it happens. FWIW proper telephone training made the world of difference.
This is one of those videos that makes me go "Ooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh" - cause I would have most/all of those questions. And the "most" is because I've never encountered anyone taking laundry out the first time, so I don't know how I'd respond.
Everything you enact in your videos screams of ME yet despots having family members on both my maternal and paternal side of the family as well immediate, I never thought myself as having ADD. Well, until now that life hit me with a break and all my ADD traits I have kept down, bandaged, hid or tried to find logical excuses for fell out on the floor in a mess about a thousand times more intense than ever before that I am completely overwhelmed by it all.
It’s great! Make coffee at night, leave by the bed, wake up to cold coffee. Transfer it to a glass with some ice, great for a hot summer breakfast drink, courtesy of ADHD. You’re welcome!
This is all accurate except I have master the on time now cause I have a extreme fear of losing my job or having to pay for being late to a doctor appointment. Apparently now my doctors office will add a late fee for not being there on time for an appointment.
at what cost ?? I do side quests until it's time to leave and I arrive early planning some more distraction while it's time. On some occasions the second distraction is not necessary :p
Oh no, the spilling thing is ND, too? I work for an hour in a nursery eith toddlers every Sunday at church, and I let the kids help pour the water, because I feel like they don't spill much more than I do. 😂
Pure gold! I am 61 and I was only recently diagnosed as ADHD. It’s been wild discovering all these things I do are actually ADHD. Thanks for the Brilliant videos! ❤
My husband has ADHD and I have ADHD and Discalulia, he very frequently forgets his drinks and will often reheat them too hot, waits for them to cool and forgets them again. I always guzzle mine straight away, I need it to be the perfect temperature (and milk never tastes right once reheated). 😂
🤣😂OMG! THIS has got to be the best vid yet!!! 🎯The ‘laundry do-over’ 😂 and the, ‘not finishing a drink’ thingy! I didn’t know that my sister did the same as me, leaving coffee & tea cups to get cold all around the house until she & her husband came for a visit. Both our husbands pointed this out about how annoying it is to them.😂 Everyday, I hear my husband shout out, “ Oh! Surprise! Surprise! 😡Look! Your coffee cup in the microwave from this morning!!!” (I totally forget about it every single day😬 I even annoy myself😆)
The best washing machine I ever had allowed you to pause the rinse cycle at the start of the programme...then when my adhd brain remembered i was washing my clothes....i poured the fabric conditioner in and unpaused the cycle 😁👍 the clothes never crease and it only takes five hours to do one wash!!!
You two have helped me so very much! I have sent some of your short videos to family members and friends, saying see this is why I do these things. my mother still just thinks I am weird but the rest of my family and friends are pretty receptive and some of them say “oh that explains a lot”. 😂
Wow Im 42 years old and have always wondered where tidy people put their different piles of worn clothes. Ive always kind of looked around for a special shelf or rack they must have at their place. Even my dog understands I'm easy to distract, when I head to the washing machine to get it out of the machine she gets her ball😂.
Oh, the side quests... Even when I'm not looking to dig into the rabbit hole that is any random topic I don't fully understand at a glance. New window with just YT open? Auto 60 tabs open, that "I'll watch later" or go into the bookmarks memory hole. I also always finish my hot drinks. Most of the time by stone cold o' clock after I either forgot them or didn't think of them. Spilling has been ages, though.
Floordrobe 😂. I'm never sure if I should laugh or cry when I watch these. I relate to way too many of her 'quirks'. "Why don't you let it go cold like a normal person?!" 🥴 People always ask me why it takes 3 hours to drink one mug of coffee. 🤷🏻♀️ Just does.
While watching this video I went on a side quest to Google what a side quest is in ADHD instead of finishing the video itself first 😭 the worst part is I already knew what a side quest was, I just had to make sure I was remembering right for some reason
Dopamin items!!😮❤ Now I finally have a name for that.😂 Side quests are actually fun. I often start to search for something, and come across something that I wanted to order or tidy up a while ago. So that becoming my side quest until I find what I was looking for. And sometimes there are then 3 side quests in a row.😂 But not simultaneously! I hope it's not too frustrating with us "functioning" people. Damn, it's not like you are not functioning. Opposite actually, you do so much more than we do, just the timelines don't match. If we had to go through all those things with 5 different people talking to us all the time... we would soooooo loose every test. Watching this just made me feel kinda sorry for what you might feel when you see others doing stuff "easily".
My worst sidequest was running a bath and then for some reason feeling like it was a good idea to also make myself some eggs. The idea was that when I was done making them, I would turn off the bath and eat them really quick before getting in.... but instead I completely forgot the water was running and ate said eggs while watching a show. I was almost done with the episode before I remembered the water was still running. >w>
I got all of them The not Spiling and reheat drink got me so hard. For me is either , pouring so slowly looking so intense at the Jet the liquid and the thermos or glass or pour the water quickly without control and splashing everything. With hot drinks it drink it quickly in seconds or slip one time or two , hiperfocus and forget totally geting it cold and having to get up 3 or 4 times to heat it XD
Suspected Neurospicy here!Lol I always speedrun drink my hot drinks... I have a thing where I like my hot drinks ridiculous hot and my cold drinks ridiculous cold and there is no in-between 🤣 I drank my coffee once and asked my daughter to put the cup in the sink for me and she yelped when I handed her the cup because it was still that hot 🔥😬😅 and I don't usually spill when pouring due to years as a waitress, and I leave my keys in the same spot cuz I know I'll lose them otherwise.... I had to train pretty hard to appear typical 😭🤣🤷🏼♀️
This video reminded me to put the wet sheets in the dryer. Only problem is I forgot to turn the dryer on the last time I remembered to put the wet clothes in the dryer and now all the clothes are wet and in the dryer, so, thanks.
A couple of days ago I put the washing machine on a timer (for some reason I find it easier to put it on late at night, but that's not an acceptable time to wash clothes). When I remembered that the machine should have run and went to check it, the clothes were dry and the machine was off - I'd managed to put it on the right setting and set the timer, but I hadn't actually pressed start...
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And one of the point that is missing is: they do all of that EFFORTLESSLY. Because those of us who are able to do some of those items spend SO MUCH ENERGY AND DO IT SO MUCH SLOWER just to meet the same requirements.
I wish I could like this comment 10x
Is this actually true though or are we just nuts for caring too much that it takes effort? These are the questions that keep me up at night.
Seriously, it's basically a formula of "take a normal human amount of time, double it, and add half."
That’s why it’s hard being paid by the hour.
And you'll get so anxious that you will forget. I get to remember and forget the same task multiple times a day. Even a timer or reminder doesn't always work if I can't react to it immediately 🫨 soon you'll walk around willy nilly to just check you haven't forgotten anything and the fear makes it harder to DO or experience something at all in life
“Why are you on time?? You always do this! 😡” i laughed
Same!!! 😝
That part was great 😅
No, really...I had to laugh before I cried. This is 100% me and my husband.
Because in highschool (six years in Europe), door closed -> meant too late -> meant a trip to the secretary -> which meant having one hour detention that same day. Yep, I had a lot of alarms in the morning. 😅
My ADHD primary school child just discovered she can email questions to her teachers. It still stirs her anxiety, but not nearly as bad as having to raise her hand in class.
@@LifetimeinWelding I think the point was that the child had a question and was too anxious to ask for clarification.
@LifetimeinWelding - kids should ask questions when they're unsure about something, making learning uncomfortable by not being able to clarify puts students off from even trying. If you can't ask the teacher, who _can_ you ask?
I had this exact problem all of my years in school, save for maybe a couple of teachers I actually felt moderately comfortable asking questions to 😅
@@lazyperfectionist3978 its not so much that the teacher is the problem, its that the ENTIRE class is listening the second you get that chance to speak. not only listening, but also judging, at that age. I always found it infinitely easier to talk to teachers than the other kids though, still prefer talking to people older than me
@@DJL3G3ND - look, kids judge you regardless of whether or not you speak up (and no doubt you yourself are not immune to judging your fellow students either) so they're not gonna use you asking a question as an excuse if they already do not like you or think very little of you, that and that little temporary embarrassment aimed at someone like me indirectly helps others who may have been way more anxious to ask the same questions get their answers without risking embarrassment
I always leave my hot drink to go cold, then I heat it up in the microwave, try to sip it, realise it's too hot so I leave it to go cold again.
For my birthday last year, my daughter bought me a mug warmer to sit on my little table next to my desk. it keeps my coffee just at the right temperature.
It's a a total game changer.
Ah that's a good idea , I just know to check the microwave because I heated it up some time ago and it went cold again.
Don't forget about putting it in the microwave to reheat it, forgetting about it and then finding it the next day when you go to reheat another drink you've let go cold. Mug warmer seems brilliant
Sometimes I open the microwave only to remember I already moved my tea back to my desk back to wherever I was sitting.
Found very good thermosflasks and prépare 1 liter and à half each evening with a herbal tea, real tea and dome green ir maté type. Thenext morning I find them next to my bed with a mug . All day long I just tey to get in some fluide. I try to remember to bra o myself when Ifind all 3 flasks are empty by noon or 5 pm. Needless to say some weeks there's no bravos. But we're brave ascanbe!!! I now don't mind drinking cold or lukewarm, preferting to optimize hydration before considering prioritizing temperature. Perfection has to go out, fluide to flow ...in...
I hate this video because Ifeel like there's so many clones of me out there, amazing folks you are. Tx for legitimizing all of us . All equal. All U- nique.
Yes to all of this! Love a mug warmer
Everyone in my family is neurospicy. The only way I'm able to function is due to my severe anxiety, otherwise we'd all be screwed. I'm amazed we've all survived this long honestly.
I can relate to that. We are both neurospicy and we both have anxiety about different things so we use those to split the load but it’s still a miracle we are relatively alive.
Yep, it's how many women and introverts fly under the ADHD radar. And then we often end up in relationships with avoidant ADHD types who seem so chill because they just avoid/ignore/forget anything stressful. So we've gotta stress for two, and it's impossible to communicate with them when something bothers us, because their mind will just go lalala until we're acting happy again. Don't do it people, get yourself a partner who can do the emotional labor and invisible labor with you.c
@@RadishTheFool Ugh so true. My brother gets violent when I ask him to contribute the bare minimum. My mom kept us afloat for years and did all the executive functioning for my dad. It's exhausting.
neurospicy ❤
My family is various flavours of neurospicy and the chaos has just entropied since we all left home
The side quest one gets me HARD. I mean WHO doesn't feel absolutely compelled to do at least 3 side quests while they're in their way to do the main quest??
I gave up on completing main quests unless they happen by accident as side quests. Usually because I forgot what the main quest was days ago but I happen upon it later on my way to accomplish a different task.
Yep, and then forget what the main quest was, then immediately remember again once you start doing something entirely different, so it's still there, looming in the back of your mind.
I feel so much anxiety about the main quest that I have to do, regardless of what it is, even if I know it's something I'll enjoy doing, that I have to pep talk myself and just be like it's ok there will be side quests, let's just go for a wander.
This channel has helped a lot with impulsive spending. Didn't know I had ADHD until I recognised the symptoms shown on your videos and I realised that I've been dopamining instead of just buying what I need and didn't think too much about the price. Taking a step back and realising what's happening has helped stop from spending far too much, which is vital given the ridiculously high prices of basic items at the moment, so thank you!
I had 1 of my many psychiatrist say has anyone ever said you have ADHD? The next month I went back she was canned and I was told she didn't know what she was talking about. All my other diagnosis were agreed upon by all others across 20 years. I watch these videos and it resonated so hard I showed my husband and my adult kids and by the third one they were like this explains so much. So, yeah she is changing the world for people.
0:58 "I don't understand the question." Yeah, I live with a *very* neurotypical husband, and he literally cannot comprehend some of my challenges. They just plain don't compute for him. Bless him, he's very kind about it, but he simply doesn't understand the magnitude of the struggle it is for me to do certain things - he is genuinely baffled/puzzled by my inability to make phone calls, for example. What I wouldn't give to be able to brain swap with him for one day, just so he could have a frame of reference 😕
The inability to make phone calls is probably the issue that has the most pervasive effect on my life.
Not only am I not able to fix my bank card being locked, because they will only take phone calls.. I can't even explain to other people who need me to get finances fixed, why I can't simply call them up and sort it out at any time.
So I have bins to be paid for, a driving licence to apply for, no ability to top up my phone credit to make a call, without any transport.
The situation is pretty bad, like living on a sinking ship, and it is all because I cannot get myself to make phone calls, or even remember to credit my phone to do so.
It was nice to see your comment. To know I'm not going through that alone. that I'm not being as unreasonable as it feels from the rest of the world.
Some days, a permanent brain swap is appealing.
@@catlifechannel3886 Agreed!
@@falls2shine712 I'm sorry to hear about your challenges. If I absolutely MUST make a call, I've found that if I put my phone on speaker phone, it's (very, very slightly) easier for me to have a phone conversation. I don't know why this helps (maybe because it feels less like a phone call since the phone isn't up against my ear?). But I wanted to share in case it's useful for you.
Alternatively, if you have a supportive close friend or family member, have them join the call with you. My husband has done that on occasion, when I was worried the call would really confuse or disrupt me, just so he could help make sure the conversation stayed on track. (Since some places will ONLY speak to the individual, not a representative.)
I wish someone offered a service where they would make phone calls for you. You could provide what you want the outcome of the call to be in an email, digitally sign something that gives them permission to act on your behalf with the call, and then just let them sort it out. I would literally pay money for that.
That is so awesome that he is kind about it. My husband had the gull to say to me everyone has "ADHD" I think he actually meant everyone can get distracted..I started to explain the difference between a neurotypical and a neurodiverant brain, he looked shocked. I told him I wish I had a brain like his. It's his choice if he wants to research this stuff but I believe he did that night because he hasn't made a comment like that since. This is still so new to so many. Like you said a brain swap would be very beneficial at times. 😮💨
I promised id make a phone call today and miraculously i remembered but i still can't make myself do it. 😭
Yeah can someone remind me how to make phone calls… is there a way? I’m guessing it involves waiting until I’m in a different state rather than trying to force it
@Littlelinden86 - write down what you want to ask/say and have it in front of you. Have a pen ready to write down what the other person says. I was taught this to help with my own inability to make phone calls as a kid
Why you not spilling that? Had me LOL 🤣🤣🤣
It was the automatic "I don't understand the question" for me 😂
I didn't even know that was an adhd thing. I'm constantly slightly overfilling or dripping when I pour drinks.
Yup
So much spill, all the time
Fr. Somehow even if I’m not pouring anything, just drinking it and it spills all on my shirt.
I’ve gotten so used to my coffee going cold, I just drink it that way. Can’t be bothered to reheat. The first 2-3 sips I get while it’s nice, comfy and hot, the rest is just stale, cold but necessary caffeine water. 😬🤷🏼♀️👍🏻
Yes I agree
I've got an old Thermos mug, not that old maybe 5 years. So I make my coffee and let it sit a bit to cool and then out the lid on and it stays pretty warm the rest of the day.
Same, but with tea. I like it cold anyway. One cup lasts me hours.
I think it makes life easier. When I see my mum she can't really comprehend it and keeps trying to throw my tea away so she can wash the cup up. I think "why are you making more work than it needs to be?" I'll just want to make another cup, which will also go cold!
@@jennygoodhand7843 Exactly! 🤷🏼♀️🙂👍🏻
@@AKcess_Dnied Great example of accepting your ways and finding new ways around it. I like it. 🙂👍🏻
I especially relate to the sidequests, lol. I will be for example, doing laundry, while I suddenly decide that I need to clean my cupboards. That then leads me to think that "hey, I haven't actually finished the game on Playstation yet". While playing, I suddenly pause the game and start a monologue about some topic that came to mind while playing the game (I will talk out loud, even those monologues) ,which then leads me to searching online of the said topic. This then leads me back to the "hey, did I finish doing the laundry?". Because of this I have learned to say out loud "okay, I will first do this task and after that I will do the second task" I have to say them out loud, multiple times otherwise it won't work. Because of this method I nowadays go on sidequests lot less than before, but I still do sometimes, sadly it's not 100 percent solid method 😅
I like to say my internal monologue isn't always so internal. Somehow, by speaking things out loud, they can become more solidified in my brain.
Same.
I try to trick myself into useful sidequests. While at the loo I will frequently clean a bit here and there and then it saves me doing a big clean. Or while in the shower I clean a bit while my conditioner is working.
Same here too 😊
I swear you guys are the cutest couple on RUclips.
Yes!!, 😊😊❤ its that " seek to understand " to each other. I / we see the care.
These are so relatable. Especially floordrobe xD
"It was the only thing on the list." 😂😂😂
Never happened. Not ever 😂
i was literally having a crisis and crying yesterday bc my dad was all like “i give up” on trying to make us “do things right” when in reality he just doesn’t understand how it is to deal with adhd…
I’ve learned to just give myself grace for all the times I’ve spilled drinks or shoke something while forgetting I opened it already 😂
Shook
Or shaken the can of nitro coffee 🤦♀️
I love the reverse perspective! Brilliant!
I’m currently searching everywhere for my far seeing eyeglasses. Of course I set them down 2 weeks ago that made sense at the time. Panic mode.
I spent two weeks using my spare keys because I couldn't figure out what I did with my actual keys other than the vague sense of "Here is a safe place to put them - right here. I will remember this later." Found them in my miscellaneous small item doom box while completely overhauling my room.
I love the idea of far seeing eyeglasses. They sound like a magical item from a fairy story, to go with Seven League Boots.
Have a place for each important item, close to where its most commonly needed. So glasses are always left on the table by your sofa spot, keys are in a bowl near the mainly used exit. Have a pretty box for feminine hygiene in the bathroom - nicely hidden but handy when needed. Then routines and habits help. Always put your keys where they live before taking your coat off. Sunglasses live well next to the keys.
I am currently juggling at least 5 pairs of glasses. They all have different prescriptions as I don't seem to be able to throw away the outdated ones. 50% of them the frames are broken. They are lying all over the house and I pick them up randomly and hope I'll be able to see something through them. As I have one long sighted and one short sighted eye the prescriptions are interesting and some help me see close up others long distance. I have tried tethers and that can help, but often find that I have two pairs hanging around my neck and they get all tangled up. Last night I was trying to watch the footy (long distance for telly) and of course because I can't concentrate on it, was also trying to play a game on my phone (short distance) - Total effing nightmare. 🤣
@@ronbee8525Found mine in the fridge once.
This is sooooo relatable! When you asked him why he was on time again hahaha that really got me!! I used to watch my ex husband move through life with such ease and I was always struck by his ability to just be a person with such little effort hahaha. 😂😂😂 especially time management!
That key bowl is really cool 🤌
Love his constant confusion.😄
Lost a set of keys for an entire year. House, car and work all bundled together for convenience. Never remembered to let my work know. Mainly because I was never the first one there so I never had to unlock and my co workers learned long ago to make sure I left when they did or I'd still be there the next day. Kept forgetting to call a locksmith to change the locks at home so I didn't lock the house when I went out. And used all of the different hide a keys I had for my car because I lose those keys most often. For an entire year...
One day I put my hand in my jacket pocket, a jacket that while I don't wear ever day I do wear often, and there they were. I obviously also didn't wash that jacket for a year.
This was so funny! It highlighted the way I, and I'm sure many other ADHD individuals, view neurotypicals. They're a bit odd, but mostly harmless after all.(Edited to fix awful typos.)
Mostly harmless ❤
I think this video dissolves all of my last doubts whether I could be neurotypical 🙈 Who the hell can pour into a bottle that near to the cliff WITHOUT SPILLING? 😂
Also loved the "Why are you on time? You are alway doing that!"
Nah I'd rather reheat it 4x and put it in my side quest list 😂
@@LifetimeinWelding for water, yeah, but noodles for example?😅
Lmao wow thank you for being you and helping me to accept me more through you :)xox ❤😂
I've learned to enjoy my lukewarm coffee XD Also floordrobes are great for remember what you've worn already; if it's hung up or put away how do you remember to sniff check it first?
I also have a key bowl, and most of the time I use it. I've had to train it into my muscle memory so I don't need brain power to do the thing. But every now and then I forget to take them out of my door 😅 Thankfully I both live in a safe(ish) neighborhood and have trained another muscle memory reflex to always lock my storm door, so it's not like they're just in the open, but someone actually trying to break it could probably bust that lock pretty quickly 😅
Ha - yes, I often leave my key in the door by accident! Especially when I have to get toddler, baby, and then shopping indoors. Luckily we also live in a relatively safe neighbourhood!
Wait, my inability to pour liquids without spilling them is a neurodiverse thing!? I thought other people just had some secret technique I couldn't work out 😆
I just gave up!
Love the skull key pot💕💀💕
I have ADHD but my personal hygiene is good, I do all the laundry, and I make phone calls. My keys always go back in the same place. It's NOT effortless, but it happens.
FWIW proper telephone training made the world of difference.
Agree, a lot of telephone practice does take the edge off!
I'm proud of you
This is one of those videos that makes me go "Ooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh" - cause I would have most/all of those questions.
And the "most" is because I've never encountered anyone taking laundry out the first time, so I don't know how I'd respond.
I'm a weird one I'm not late I'm usually really early cuz if I'm not I'm a big ball of nerves. I love your videos
Everything you enact in your videos screams of ME yet despots having family members on both my maternal and paternal side of the family as well immediate, I never thought myself as having ADD. Well, until now that life hit me with a break and all my ADD traits I have kept down, bandaged, hid or tried to find logical excuses for fell out on the floor in a mess about a thousand times more intense than ever before that I am completely overwhelmed by it all.
Haha I always spilled. It took me 30 years to stop spilling while eating 😂😂😂
I’m not diagnosed ADHD (yet?), but man, always letting my hot drinks go cold is a thing I didn’t realize other people struggled with too.
It’s great! Make coffee at night, leave by the bed, wake up to cold coffee. Transfer it to a glass with some ice, great for a hot summer breakfast drink, courtesy of ADHD. You’re welcome!
I didn't even know it was a thing!
ADHDer not diagnosed yet here too, you're not alone.✨️
I dint know others did it too! Undiagnosed but this channel's content is such a hard relate!!
Got called out on that one too lol, not diagnosed with anything either
It’s usually due to hyper focus.
I love the floordrobe so much!
This is all accurate except I have master the on time now cause I have a extreme fear of losing my job or having to pay for being late to a doctor appointment. Apparently now my doctors office will add a late fee for not being there on time for an appointment.
at what cost ?? I do side quests until it's time to leave and I arrive early planning some more distraction while it's time. On some occasions the second distraction is not necessary :p
Oh no, the spilling thing is ND, too?
I work for an hour in a nursery eith toddlers every Sunday at church, and I let the kids help pour the water, because I feel like they don't spill much more than I do. 😂
Can you please get out of my head, Rox? It’s eerie how you know what I’m feeling and thinking all the time!! 😉♥️
FINISHES HOT DRINKS I'm dying LOL! 😂FACT
I'm about to reheat my tea for the third time...... Yea, that's weird.
Pure gold! I am 61 and I was only recently diagnosed as ADHD. It’s been wild discovering all these things I do are actually ADHD. Thanks for the Brilliant videos! ❤
You are SO funny! I love you two! You are a big part of my dopamine intake!
I’m in love with both of these wonderful people 😂❤
I find myself with everything I do the voice in my head has this accent 😂 Thank You ❤
My husband has ADHD and I have ADHD and Discalulia, he very frequently forgets his drinks and will often reheat them too hot, waits for them to cool and forgets them again. I always guzzle mine straight away, I need it to be the perfect temperature (and milk never tastes right once reheated). 😂
Yeah I microwave the same mug of coffee till it's probably radioactive. Shit I might have ADHD.
Shared to four people. .. and countibg!
🤣😂OMG! THIS has got to be the best vid yet!!! 🎯The ‘laundry do-over’ 😂 and the, ‘not finishing a drink’ thingy! I didn’t know that my sister did the same as me, leaving coffee & tea cups to get cold all around the house until she & her husband came for a visit. Both our husbands pointed this out about how annoying it is to them.😂 Everyday, I hear my husband shout out, “ Oh! Surprise! Surprise! 😡Look! Your coffee cup in the microwave from this morning!!!” (I totally forget about it every single day😬 I even annoy myself😆)
There wasn’t one of these that I didn’t relate to 😂🤩🥰 thanks for making me laugh and feel seen!!
The best washing machine I ever had allowed you to pause the rinse cycle at the start of the programme...then when my adhd brain remembered i was washing my clothes....i poured the fabric conditioner in and unpaused the cycle 😁👍 the clothes never crease and it only takes five hours to do one wash!!!
“Why aren’t you spilling that?”🤣 and its close cousin: “why aren’t you dropping & breaking the glass?”😖😅
💯 facts , on point as usual guys hahaha
You two have helped me so very much! I have sent some of your short videos to family members and friends, saying see this is why I do these things. my mother still just thinks I am weird but the rest of my family and friends are pretty receptive and some of them say “oh that explains a lot”. 😂
Wow Im 42 years old and have always wondered where tidy people put their different piles of worn clothes. Ive always kind of looked around for a special shelf or rack they must have at their place. Even my dog understands I'm easy to distract, when I head to the washing machine to get it out of the machine she gets her ball😂.
Adorable, dog with a job :)
You guys make being AuDHD … fun!!! I smile and laugh everytime 😂🎉❤
I love these type videos yall do. They make me smile and go "yup" at both sides of each item. Much love ❤️
Oh, the side quests... Even when I'm not looking to dig into the rabbit hole that is any random topic I don't fully understand at a glance.
New window with just YT open? Auto 60 tabs open, that "I'll watch later" or go into the bookmarks memory hole.
I also always finish my hot drinks. Most of the time by stone cold o' clock after I either forgot them or didn't think of them. Spilling has been ages, though.
I need this person😂🤣 But, I don't think they'd tolerate me😅😅
This is so wholesommmmmme!
Every question you asked him, I get it all. I do it all. How can people do these things differently to me?????
I just love you both, you are absolutely wonderful
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The spilling. Oh my gosh the never ending spilling!!!!!!
The whole video was great and the ending was chosen perfectly. ❤ Thanks for producing it!
I had to look up body doubling. I didn't know there was a term for that!
That last one topped it off in hysterics! 😂
"dopamine items" was the thing that sent me lol, imma steal that
My floordrobe is my laundry that’s wearable hamper is definitely not straight to the wash while playing music
Never occurred to me that my crippling fear of making phone calls could be ADHD as well.
I leave always a bit Coffee in my mug, I never ever finish hot drinks...now I understand my father always complained about it😅
Lmao... the effortless way the work gets done 😢😅
I do most of these things though, just with great effort and so much pent up anxiety that it nearly killed me.
Hilarious, thank you.
Love this angle you're taking! :-)
I don't even drink hot drinks except hot chocolate in the winter anymore. Saves the trouble lol
The worst is when I forget where I’ve put my glasses, and can’t see to find them 😂
THE KEYS I RELATE SOOO HARD OMG
Love this opposite POv video! 😂🩵
Just diagnosed with ADHD at 31😅🎉 and now all this suddenly makes sense to me!! I feel so called out with the drink going cool lol 😂
I'm back and forth on this one. Side quests yes. Talking on the phone ewwwe. But keys have a place. They must be in their place.
“Why aren’t you working all weekend to keep up with the expectations of your neurotypical coworkers?!”
That was actually so relatable😂😂😂.
Or I'm doing most of these things as an autistic with adhd...lol XD it's all different for everyone, though! Love your videos!
AHAHHAHA the finishing warm drinks took mf out
Thank you for my reminder to take the washing out.
Leaving the hot drink (or parts) till it is cold is perfect accurate
Number 7 blew my mind.
Floordrobe 😂. I'm never sure if I should laugh or cry when I watch these. I relate to way too many of her 'quirks'.
"Why don't you let it go cold like a normal person?!" 🥴 People always ask me why it takes 3 hours to drink one mug of coffee. 🤷🏻♀️ Just does.
Exactly how I see NTs through my ADHD eyes 😂
While watching this video I went on a side quest to Google what a side quest is in ADHD instead of finishing the video itself first 😭 the worst part is I already knew what a side quest was, I just had to make sure I was remembering right for some reason
And here I thought I was the only who didn’t finish hot drinks 😂
Dopamin items!!😮❤ Now I finally have a name for that.😂 Side quests are actually fun. I often start to search for something, and come across something that I wanted to order or tidy up a while ago. So that becoming my side quest until I find what I was looking for. And sometimes there are then 3 side quests in a row.😂 But not simultaneously!
I hope it's not too frustrating with us "functioning" people. Damn, it's not like you are not functioning. Opposite actually, you do so much more than we do, just the timelines don't match.
If we had to go through all those things with 5 different people talking to us all the time... we would soooooo loose every test.
Watching this just made me feel kinda sorry for what you might feel when you see others doing stuff "easily".
I cried after watching this. I don't wanna be like this anymore, I refuse it. I know there's no cure but I'm gonna find a way.
My worst sidequest was running a bath and then for some reason feeling like it was a good idea to also make myself some eggs. The idea was that when I was done making them, I would turn off the bath and eat them really quick before getting in.... but instead I completely forgot the water was running and ate said eggs while watching a show. I was almost done with the episode before I remembered the water was still running. >w>
I didn’t watch all of yalls shorts and now about to watch all of yalls videos, while it’s 2AM I should be sleeping right now 😅
Does anyone else think that he kind of looks like Gale on BG3? 🤔
BTW, I love the videos that you and your husband do! ❤
🤣🤣🤣You're my favorite!
I got all of them The not Spiling and reheat drink got me so hard. For me is either , pouring so slowly looking so intense at the Jet the liquid and the thermos or glass or pour the water quickly without control and splashing everything. With hot drinks it drink it quickly in seconds or slip one time or two , hiperfocus and forget totally geting it cold and having to get up 3 or 4 times to heat it XD
Suspected Neurospicy here!Lol I always speedrun drink my hot drinks... I have a thing where I like my hot drinks ridiculous hot and my cold drinks ridiculous cold and there is no in-between 🤣 I drank my coffee once and asked my daughter to put the cup in the sink for me and she yelped when I handed her the cup because it was still that hot 🔥😬😅 and I don't usually spill when pouring due to years as a waitress, and I leave my keys in the same spot cuz I know I'll lose them otherwise.... I had to train pretty hard to appear typical 😭🤣🤷🏼♀️
I think the only thing that I don’t do I don’t spill things. I’m overly careful.
This video reminded me to put the wet sheets in the dryer. Only problem is I forgot to turn the dryer on the last time I remembered to put the wet clothes in the dryer and now all the clothes are wet and in the dryer, so, thanks.
A couple of days ago I put the washing machine on a timer (for some reason I find it easier to put it on late at night, but that's not an acceptable time to wash clothes). When I remembered that the machine should have run and went to check it, the clothes were dry and the machine was off - I'd managed to put it on the right setting and set the timer, but I hadn't actually pressed start...
Realisation hits... 😅