Sorry, but my experience, you can't be friends with your ex and start a new healthy relationship. It just doesnt work. Doesn't matter how it ended with that Ex, there will always be feelings there.
Yeah, from personal experience when ex's remain good friends it usually means someone's not over the relationship, or could possibly be remaining close just incase if they can't find anybody else in the future then they'll have a back up ready just in case. An EX shouldn't be a "threat" if it's really over. An ex is only a threat if your bf/gf isn't over them. Ex's usually remain close when there's unfinish business between the both. But once it's done and there's nothing left to hang onto anymore and both parties know that it's really over then they have no reason to remain close anymore bc it'll only hurt their future happiness. Unless there's kid's, or property involved, it's best to move on from one another. Can't go to the next chapter while remaining on the same page. The EX should have already lost the moment that the other party moved on. Nothing to compete if it's the past. Past is DEAD. there's a reason why they're the EX. They already lost.
Also 99% of people have no idea who their first love even is. The guy I thought was my first love could never ever ever compete with the guy I love now.
Exactly! I care about my exes the same way I care about anyone else I know. But just because I care about someone doesn't mean the new guy isn't better. If I'm dating someone new, my ex already lost the competition. If I'm constantly calling, texting them or even thinking about them, I might as well be with them.
Exactly! All all my ex's don't mean sh*t to me anymore. I wish them well, but if any of them ever came back i'd gladly send them back back on their way. The man I'm with today, he's it for me. So I'm done looking. Ex's only have a hold on YOU if you allow it. They shouldn't have any effect on you if you really did move on.
@@Bella-Mae0422 I agree and there's nothing wrong with that approach. I feel like some people are judgmental if you say you don't want to be friends with your exes. It's nothing personal, it's just healthier (for me, personally) to move on. I've found that some people don't have a lot of friends outside relationships, and I think that's part of why they remain close with their exes. I have a best friend who I talk to every day so I don't need an ex for that.
@@Wft-bu5zc I really do understand what you're saying. I do believe myself that there are exceptions on certain ex's remaining friends. It's just from personal experience with MY boyfriend whenever an ex tried coming back into the pic it wasn't for good reasons. Two of his ex's tried coming back while dating me thinking he was going to be a possible 'back up' for them until they were finally blocked after rejecting their offer. It really depends on the type of relationship, and why it even ended. Some ex's can't stay friends bc they either have too much damage between them, or they never really were friends to begin with. Some people are just not capable of remaining just "friends" with a person who they use to have romantic feelings for without jealousy and the feeling of being 'replaced' once you see your ex moving on to someone else.
If someone is that close to their ex, they obviously still have feelings, and they need to work that out. And also, yes what you’re saying is true but if two people decide to be together and work to build a successful relationship, then they too will have that “history” that you speak of at some point. That’s just how life is. People grow, people move on. It happens.
Absolutely. Can't turn the page if you stay on the same chapter. Every relationship you get into with somebody will be unique and different in its own way. But the ex shouldn't be that much if a threat unless someone didn't want to end it, once it's over it's pretty much over. And ex is an EX for a reason, they lost their place in the relationship when they became the EX! that EX already lost. Just need to let it go now. If y'all are going to remain close then maybe the break up shouldn't have ever happened then.
Ex's are that for many reasons!!! Nobody should ever compete over each other because regardless all of us are different that goes with the relationship status
This is doesn't even make sense. Not everyone does have an ex, and not everyone who does have an ex has an ex who they're friends with or still have feelings for, or even an ex who treated them decently. I think this should be the OTHER way around... Your ex can't compete with the person you find who truly treats you right and is "the one".
I love your mindset. Ex's shouldn't be a threat if your bf/gf is already over them. They're the EX, they already lost. You are what they moved onto. An ex is an EX for a reason. I don't see where the "competition" is suppose to be. Unless there is still unfinished business between the two there's no reason why they should be any threat. The real threat is the person they move onto. Not an ex that was crossed out from the past. I don't think ex's have any reason to remain in touch or super close unless there are children or property involved then the ex shouldn't be in their relationship at all. All it will do is hurt someone along the way.
if i ever dated someone n they said they didn't want me to continue to be friends w my ex i would just simply tell them to get used to it. he was my best friend and he knows me better than anyone i can say that confidently. we come to each other about our new relationships for advice and encouragement, i just was there for him when he just had his wisdom teeth pulled out. he'll always be in my life, no way around that. he is family to me now. though i would never date him again i will love him for life
Baby GIRL YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY AS SOON YOUR EX IS THERE. IF YOUR EX IS SO IMPORTANT THEN BE WITH HIM AND DONT BE WITH A BOY JUST FOR PUTTING HIM ON THE SECOND PLACE. ITS GONNA BE A CRUCIAL MOMENT WHEN YOU WILL NEED TO DECIDE TO LET GO. OR HE COULD FIND A PARTNER AND LET U GO. THAT WILL BE AWESOME. FOR YOU SO YOU LEARN ABOUT KARMA
@@linarusakova7244 I don't believe you can be friends with an ex. Anything can happen anytime. Usually they get jealous of each others bfs gfs... I don't trust that. It shows they care about each other. I can't accept that. So if they care about each pher perhaps they shouldn't be exploring and dating others.That's how I see it
Sorry, but my experience, you can't be friends with your ex and start a new healthy relationship. It just doesnt work. Doesn't matter how it ended with that Ex, there will always be feelings there.
Yeah, from personal experience when ex's remain good friends it usually means someone's not over the relationship, or could possibly be remaining close just incase if they can't find anybody else in the future then they'll have a back up ready just in case. An EX shouldn't be a "threat" if it's really over. An ex is only a threat if your bf/gf isn't over them.
Ex's usually remain close when there's unfinish business between the both. But once it's done and there's nothing left to hang onto anymore and both parties know that it's really over then they have no reason to remain close anymore bc it'll only hurt their future happiness. Unless there's kid's, or property involved, it's best to move on from one another. Can't go to the next chapter while remaining on the same page. The EX should have already lost the moment that the other party moved on. Nothing to compete if it's the past. Past is DEAD. there's a reason why they're the EX. They already lost.
Also 99% of people have no idea who their first love even is. The guy I thought was my first love could never ever ever compete with the guy I love now.
Exactly! I care about my exes the same way I care about anyone else I know. But just because I care about someone doesn't mean the new guy isn't better. If I'm dating someone new, my ex already lost the competition. If I'm constantly calling, texting them or even thinking about them, I might as well be with them.
Exactly! All all my ex's don't mean sh*t to me anymore. I wish them well, but if any of them ever came back i'd gladly send them back back on their way. The man I'm with today, he's it for me. So I'm done looking. Ex's only have a hold on YOU if you allow it. They shouldn't have any effect on you if you really did move on.
@@Bella-Mae0422 I agree and there's nothing wrong with that approach. I feel like some people are judgmental if you say you don't want to be friends with your exes. It's nothing personal, it's just healthier (for me, personally) to move on. I've found that some people don't have a lot of friends outside relationships, and I think that's part of why they remain close with their exes. I have a best friend who I talk to every day so I don't need an ex for that.
@@Wft-bu5zc I really do understand what you're saying. I do believe myself that there are exceptions on certain ex's remaining friends. It's just from personal experience with MY boyfriend whenever an ex tried coming back into the pic it wasn't for good reasons. Two of his ex's tried coming back while dating me thinking he was going to be a possible 'back up' for them until they were finally blocked after rejecting their offer. It really depends on the type of relationship, and why it even ended. Some ex's can't stay friends bc they either have too much damage between them, or they never really were friends to begin with. Some people are just not capable of remaining just "friends" with a person who they use to have romantic feelings for without jealousy and the feeling of being 'replaced' once you see your ex moving on to someone else.
"You need to pull up a seat and get broke down" haha! I love it! :-)
If someone is that close to their ex, they obviously still have feelings, and they need to work that out. And also, yes what you’re saying is true but if two people decide to be together and work to build a successful relationship, then they too will have that “history” that you speak of at some point. That’s just how life is. People grow, people move on. It happens.
Absolutely. Can't turn the page if you stay on the same chapter. Every relationship you get into with somebody will be unique and different in its own way. But the ex shouldn't be that much if a threat unless someone didn't want to end it, once it's over it's pretty much over. And ex is an EX for a reason, they lost their place in the relationship when they became the EX! that EX already lost. Just need to let it go now. If y'all are going to remain close then maybe the break up shouldn't have ever happened then.
can’t compete with history or someone’s first lovee byeeee ✌️
it’s sad tho that sometimes you might be someone’s first love & you’ll never know
This video is like therapeutic.
An "ex" like that, is a friend.
Oooh no honey let go of all of it u only choose what happens and who is in your life
an ex is an ex for a reason, doesn't mean you can't be close with them just means you're no good with them
This is Awesomesauce Therapy!!
Ex's are that for many reasons!!! Nobody should ever compete over each other because regardless all of us are different that goes with the relationship status
This is doesn't even make sense. Not everyone does have an ex, and not everyone who does have an ex has an ex who they're friends with or still have feelings for, or even an ex who treated them decently. I think this should be the OTHER way around... Your ex can't compete with the person you find who truly treats you right and is "the one".
I love your mindset. Ex's shouldn't be a threat if your bf/gf is already over them. They're the EX, they already lost. You are what they moved onto. An ex is an EX for a reason. I don't see where the "competition" is suppose to be. Unless there is still unfinished business between the two there's no reason why they should be any threat. The real threat is the person they move onto. Not an ex that was crossed out from the past. I don't think ex's have any reason to remain in touch or super close unless there are children or property involved then the ex shouldn't be in their relationship at all. All it will do is hurt someone along the way.
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Everybody has an ex?
This is so true!! My and ex are just like this
I love him but that's called a friend.
Hillary duff first bf was Aaron carter......yikes
But tomato is a fruit
that mean
if i ever dated someone n they said they didn't want me to continue to be friends w my ex i would just simply tell them to get used to it. he was my best friend and he knows me better than anyone i can say that confidently. we come to each other about our new relationships for advice and encouragement, i just was there for him when he just had his wisdom teeth pulled out. he'll always be in my life, no way around that. he is family to me now. though i would never date him again i will love him for life
Creepy people don't want you to be friends with your x there up to nothing good!!! Unity!!
Baby GIRL YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY AS SOON YOUR EX IS THERE. IF YOUR EX IS SO IMPORTANT THEN BE WITH HIM AND DONT BE WITH A BOY JUST FOR PUTTING HIM ON THE SECOND PLACE. ITS GONNA BE A CRUCIAL MOMENT WHEN YOU WILL NEED TO DECIDE TO LET GO. OR HE COULD FIND A PARTNER AND LET U GO. THAT WILL BE AWESOME. FOR YOU SO YOU LEARN ABOUT KARMA
I would never date you if I was aman. Its not acceptable for me
@@melinademinova5417I don’t want ex’s around!! He even went back to her and cheated on me after using me. I want karmic justice!
@@linarusakova7244 I don't believe you can be friends with an ex. Anything can happen anytime. Usually they get jealous of each others bfs gfs... I don't trust that.
It shows they care about each other. I can't accept that. So if they care about each pher perhaps they shouldn't be exploring and dating others.That's how I see it