I remember I read qoute that said "If you fall in love with two people always choose the second one because if you truly loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen in love with another."
Johnny Grande it’s very true love is a connection with two people not 3 4 5 6 if you truly loved someone there would be the space to love anyone else because you are giving them your entire heart
NasalaEdItS シ, how about if that "person" who fell "in love", with two people, really don't know what love is, and instead is LUSTING. There's no such thing as falling "in love" with multiple people. To be truly in love is to not think of another in the way you love that person. There's a difference of being in love, and just loving someone because you care about them, or attracted to them. Know the difference.😒😏😌😆
I just really can’t wrap my head around how people can be in a relationship with more than one person and the other people are just cool w it. Call me traditional all you want but I just can’t get w it
Sierra Lyons it's called keeping ur options open. I've never tried it before, but I am planning on doing so from now on. That's of course given that u both know that ur nor exclusive.
I don't think that necessarily makes you traditional, it just means you don't get the situation and tbh I don't either, like is only one person seeing two people or are all of them seeing different ppl, and if y'all are all seeing different ppl, is it just a casual or open relationship, like everybody just messing around. It doesn't seem like y'all are really satisfied in the relationship if you gotta find love everywhere else, it's just confusing(and unhealthy) to me like where are the boundaries
It works for some. you have to have a stable and mature relationship though because boundaries have to be in place (is it going to be 3 people in a monogomous relationship, a romantically open relationship where you can go on dates and flirt with other people or a sexually open relationship) there has to be constant conversation about whether your still comfortable in that situation, jealousy has to be less of a thing. Also people usually assume its just the guy benefiting but i think situations like that work best when youre both doing the same thing. Its for sure not for everyone but its becoming more and more popular
Not just Africa, Asia including the Middle East, most Arab countries actually the only people who don't are Europeans Polygamy is actually the norm more often than not since theirs actually more people around the world that practice it but Eurocentrism aka White Supremacy will have you thinking otherwise
I think she might have just been annoyed with the other hosts or not feeling the topic. But who knows, maybe someone said something that put her down or maybe she's going through something. She acts this way every once in a while it seems
Loni and Jeannie are living. They are realistic to knowing many things instead of being pressure to one source of so many. Do what works for you at times but know that every choice comes with responsibility. Live your truth shamelessly because we are all just learning. All ladies look Great btw.
Love is when you love that person with yr mind and soul and you choose to love their flaws. Loving 2 people is when your in love with the IDEA of the person , I agree with Adrienne 💖💖
I think you can love multiple people at once. Similar to loving multiple kids, parents, siblings, and friends. I don’t think romantic love suddenly becomes different than other types of love. However, Love isn’t the most important thing in a romantic relationship. You should ask yourself whether you both have the same views on marriage, religion, child rearing, money, where you want to live, have families that get along, etc. Usually, one person is more compatible than the other and that’s the one you choose.
when it comes to what is in the best interest of the children, then yes, views on marriage, religion and stuff are absolutely important. But when it comes to love, there's no way to pick cause the heart wants what it wants. I agree with loni, rather than conforming to society's expectations, love them both, just as long as it doesn't cause you harm, or them.
I disagree. I think romantic love is different. If I love you like family (I.e I love you the same way I love my mom, brothers and sisters) then you are just family. If I love you like a friend then you are just a friend. Romantically speaking, the person I chose to love is neither my friend nor my family, however over time, I can love them like my friend and my family. But then where's the romance in that? I understand what you are saying though....love is love in the sense of the word. Btw your comment very much resonates with the "school of life" channel
It is different, the love u have for your child is different from your spouse, you love your cousins differently then your kids, your parents different as well too
There is a difference between having love for someone and being in love with someone. Being in love with someone happens over time and involves getting to know the person, complete with flaws and differences. Having love for someone like Tamera said, is usually infatuation. Infatuation is like fools gold. It mimics the real thing.
Tamera did a really good job of explaining the difference between love and infatuation. A lot of people, including myself, have gotten the two mixed up and suffered dearly because of it.
blognewb Girl it's 10 months actually. It would be 9 months in April. You can't tell me no damn different because my son literally shares the same birthday with Jeannie and plus my birthday is in December so I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about 🙄
I saw a quote that is supposedly by Johnny Depp that said: “ if you’re in love with two people at the same time, choose the second person, because if you were really in love with the first person, you would have never fallen in love with the second one”
Honestly, I personally think Loni, Jeannie, and Tamera are the best. I think Adrienne is ok. Loni is the type that brings the humor. She is also that person that can give you advice based on events that are happening in society. She also thinks from both views. Tamera is the type of person where is just plain honest. She going to be real with you, but she going to be soft. She the type of giving you advice based on her own mistakes. Jeannie is the total package. She is personally my favorite. Jeannie is probably the wisest out of all of them, probably the most educated.
Honestly... This is The REAL... sometimes we THINK we are in love because we think these people both have something to offer... when in reality one probably has more red flags than the other and etc. because we feel infatuated with the fact that hey both of them of like me... what do I do? And you're stuck with a broken heart either way because you could be choosing " the love of your life " but you wasted time trying to see which guy or girl was the one! There shouldn't even be another person to CHOOSE with anyway...
Loni is right. People keep bashing her but she is telling the truth. No where is it written that you have to be in love with one person for the rest of your life. There are billions of people and yoy mean to tell me that you're only going to fall in love with one?
Beinglively I'm sorry but society has fooled so many people when it comes to love and relationships. They have taught us that there is only one person out there for us and that is certainly not true. You can have more than one love of your life. People come into our lives for different reasons. We are constantly growing and maturing. The person who you think is your soulmate now you may not want to be with 5 or even 10 years from now
Beinglively To each is own. Everyone doesn't have the same journey. Not everyone wants to be tied down to one person. Just because they sleep with anyone doesn't mean they're lost
I'm with Loni. Tell them both. You either date both or the first one to say something like: "no, I can't be with you if you love someone else" makes the decision for you.
100% agree with Loni. This dumb girl was arguing with me about children in open relationships and I kept giving her statistics that bringing women/men into and out of a child's life CONSTANTLY is not good for the child. It becomes a problem for them emotionally, they have trouble at school ect. Yes Divorce does happen and some of these may still apply but no one CHOOSES to get divorced, these people are CHOOSING to put their children through this. Do not bring a child into this open relationship environment.
Nikkita DAVIS I agree. Plus an open marriage and polyamory are different things with polyamory typically being a consistent unit. Plus very few studies have been done on children from poly families and the ones that have show they may be more well adjusted than kids in monogamous families
Be with neither... Be alone for a while, figure yourself out, and then once you’re ready and defined, go for it... But usually it’ll come when least expected.
Loni was acting different today but she looks BEAUTIFUL !! Her makeup and hair looks amazing. & that orangey-red shade compliments her complexion so well. 😍😍😍
Adrienne has good advice. I think it is impossible that you love two people at the same time. In Order for you to have a peace of mind, you need to choose who of the two you want to stay with for the rest of your life and be happy with the decision you’ve made.
Lol..I am currently in love with 2 people and I'm absolutely sure it's true love with both. It has to do with the different traits of each and the fact I've loved them both for over 10yrs..lol. Eventually i just became best friends with one as we decided our timing was always off(ACTUAL friends,no hanky panky..lol) & got into a 6yr relationship with the other..but things get sticky once you never lose true love type feelings for either person. one was my 1st bf and the other my 1st gf..so im sure that plays a huge part. I've wanted to be in a poly relationship since childhood...but you know..tradition..lol..so im single now and working through it with both of them...it seems to be about staying honest at all times, weighing pros and cons of each and like Loni said ..looking at a future with kids and how it will all play out. It's a really really hard situation to be in and I don't recommend it to anyone..lol..but it can happen.
Yo I believe that "love" is a kinda feeling that you get to FEEL ONCE.... Cuz it's "love" and if you TRULY love someone, you ain't going to fall in love at the same time with another... Like it doesn't work people.!!
I agree with Loni. There are people happily in poly relationships that fully love all people concerned. It's possible to truly love more than one person at a time. Felt like this was really closed minded of the other girls but I like how they all respected each other's opinions.
You can't fall in love with two people at the same time. If your feelings are strong and you are trully in love with a person, then how can you fall in love with someone else? That is a very selfish thing!
I agree with Loni. There is the ability to love more than one person at a time. The reason many people don't agree is because when it comes to love, most people think of romantic love. But love is multifaceted and it not only about romance.
If you are in love with two people... choose the second one because if you were really in love with the first person... you would not have thought about the second one.Though it is different for everyone. But like Tam said... know the difference between love and infatuation.
Love is an emotion and it doesn't stop once you say you love a person. There are different levels of love: friend love, romantic love, etc., and I think its possible to love many people at the same time.
Adrienne needs to stop with the looks of disbelief and astonishment, how quickly she forgets the situation she is in. Going by her credence, her husband hasn't fall in love with multiple people when in fact he has.
I've never been in love with 2 people at the same time. My feelings just don't split like that. If you are the one, then you are just that- THE ONE. If someone else comes along, and I like them, then they become THE ONE and the other person is just out and done with 🤷🏾♀️
You can't be in love with two people at the same time. When you're in love you give that person your absolute best. When you divide your absolute best it's no longer that.
I’ve been in love with 2 ppl at the same time. Like REALLY IN LOVE! I told them both that they we shouldn’t be hanging anymore. So it was kinda like a breakup but I don’t wanna call it that cus be weren’t together. ..... but basically they both stopped speaking to me (as I requested) and at that moment I knew I loved one more because I was the saddest over him. I called him back and told him that and let him decide if he wanted to do this. I also called the other guy and told him that I actually felt sadder over the other dude. It felt weird saying that to him but I thought it was necessary for closure on both sides I guess. PS: I was never in a relationship with two men. I was friends with both of for a long time. One I new since we were 9-10. (Im 26) the other I knew from uni. They knew about each other just from random conversations but they never really met. To keep a long story short... I still got a man and a best friend. And we all chilling till this day (this happened in 2015)
Go with the person who you know is going to be there for you on the porch holding hands when you are 80yrs old...someone that will make your end of life decisions💜
Just because it is out there and people are doing it , doesn't mean it is right. True love is misunderstood by people that do not really know God, who is the creator of LOVE. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking (Loni!!), it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. Modern isn't always right. God is coming soon and people love to assume and have their own ideas but at the end of the day, it is what GOD SAYS! PERIOD!
Some people are SO selfish.Just hav one Love, dedicate your all to them!! I believe some people are more in love with the drama and excitement tht comes with it thn the people actually involved. 😒
Truth is True Love doesn’t happen only once in a life time. True love is real, however it is also a delusion we constantly talk ourselves into because our hearts hurt if we were to lose that love. The truth is Love comes in many shapes and forms. Especially True Love. It’s not only romantic, it’s friendship also, it’s family. The challenge here is, I would commit yourself to one, perhaps and keep the other as a genuine friend. Good people are hard to find these days, AND if you TRUELY love each other you both would respect the boundaries you’re both setting, no matter what tempts you. And be honest with your partner about what you feel. And your partner won’t say “I don’t want you talking to him/her again.” They’ll talk, and also respect what precedent you have already set. And the other isn’t going to be like “oh you’re with the wrong person, choose me.” If those words come out of their mouth. Then they are not a true love. True love wants you to be happy, sure there are sacrifices, but that sacrifice shouldn’t hurt you or the other person.
I remember I read qoute that said "If you fall in love with two people always choose the second one because if you truly loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen in love with another."
NasalaEdItS シ hmm interesting
Interesting theory
Johnny Grande it’s very true love is a connection with two people not 3 4 5 6 if you truly loved someone there would be the space to love anyone else because you are giving them your entire heart
Johnny Grande how?
NasalaEdItS シ, how about if that "person" who fell "in love", with two people, really don't know what love is, and instead is LUSTING. There's no such thing as falling "in love" with multiple people. To be truly in love is to not think of another in the way you love that person. There's a difference of being in love, and just loving someone because you care about them, or attracted to them. Know the difference.😒😏😌😆
I just really can’t wrap my head around how people can be in a relationship with more than one person and the other people are just cool w it. Call me traditional all you want but I just can’t get w it
preach
Sierra Lyons it's called keeping ur options open. I've never tried it before, but I am planning on doing so from now on.
That's of course given that u both know that ur nor exclusive.
Sierra Lyons same
I don't think that necessarily makes you traditional, it just means you don't get the situation and tbh I don't either, like is only one person seeing two people or are all of them seeing different ppl, and if y'all are all seeing different ppl, is it just a casual or open relationship, like everybody just messing around. It doesn't seem like y'all are really satisfied in the relationship if you gotta find love everywhere else, it's just confusing(and unhealthy) to me like where are the boundaries
It works for some. you have to have a stable and mature relationship though because boundaries have to be in place (is it going to be 3 people in a monogomous relationship, a romantically open relationship where you can go on dates and flirt with other people or a sexually open relationship) there has to be constant conversation about whether your still comfortable in that situation, jealousy has to be less of a thing. Also people usually assume its just the guy benefiting but i think situations like that work best when youre both doing the same thing. Its for sure not for everyone but its becoming more and more popular
Everybody laughed when Loni spoke, but she wasn’t joking.
In many countries in Africa, polygami is a thing. Several wives -
Not just Africa, Asia including the Middle East, most Arab countries actually the only people who don't are Europeans Polygamy is actually the norm more often than not since theirs actually more people around the world that practice it but Eurocentrism aka White Supremacy will have you thinking otherwise
@@christinadahlo1536 So fuuny how you can only think of countries in Africa when basically every non-European country are into polygamy
actually Europeans too, especially if they follow certain religions like Mormonism
Ricky Franc is mormonism a thing in Europe? Sorry if I sound stupid
I am loving Adrienne’s hair😍 All the ladies look beautiful as always🔥💯
Sehare Shezad LOVE this hairstyle on her!!!
Y’all leave Loni alone. We all have our off days she’s human. She listened and give her input.
dashaun thompson nobody bashing her people are just saying she’s not acting her normal self and acting sad
It’sQuan Channel I understand but we can’t just assume she’s mad or irritated.
dashaun thompson NOBODY assumed we just said she doesn’t look herself damn
Exactly and she gave damn good input.
Wow! Loni made a good point I didn’t even consider. Asking if they are into polyamory or an open relationship is a valid question.
StingingwithqueenC agreed
It really is.
Polyamory
I think you can fall in love with people in different ways
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Yes. That's y we end up inlove with 2 or 3 different ppl
Asdhjfjfkf Askkfkflflf could be messy, but I agree. But in this case I don't think it would be called love. Infatuation is a better word for this.
Asdhjfjfkf Askkfkflflf good point
You can love two different people but never at the same level
I know
With a straight face, “I don’t understand why you have to pick.” 🤣🤣🤣
Loni doesn't seem herself here..
rosie delray the producers probably told her to chill out or put her in her place..thats what usually happens
she does this sometimes, so annoying.
She doesn’t seem herself lately 🤨
She was hitting snooze on the topic loll
I think she might have just been annoyed with the other hosts or not feeling the topic. But who knows, maybe someone said something that put her down or maybe she's going through something. She acts this way every once in a while it seems
Loni and Jeannie are living. They are realistic to knowing many things instead of being pressure to one source of so many. Do what works for you at times but know that every choice comes with responsibility. Live your truth shamelessly because we are all just learning. All ladies look Great btw.
I think Loni had to rephrase her answer because of Adrienne's situation and her being married to a guy that already has children.
Our hearts are decietful...ask Our Lord to put a Godly man in your path..when they serve and love our Lord..they will know how to love you..
kimmi w THANK YOU!
Amen.
Peopl honestly love to confuse Lust with Love.....people are always "inlove" in the first year, but time and actions may tell them otherwise
Adrienne spoke some real truth. and then it wouldn't be love.
They've had this topic before... But adriannes hair looks bomb
Nikira Carter All their topics are recycled 😂🤣😂
Nikira Carter true
I said this, Tamera has a story about this she’s told more than once
she looks hot
Loni is OVER it lol
Keke Jay August lol 🤣
The pros and cons list is what got ross in trouble on friends😂😂don't do it man
Joy Amifor 💀🤣🤣🤣
I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT
mhmmm talkin bout shes "just a waitress"
I WAS ABOUT TO SAY THAT!! 😅🤞🏾🔥
WHEN I TELL YOU I WAS SEARCHING FOR THAT COMMENT👏🏾🤣
I agree with Adrienne and Tam. Drop em’ both. “In love”. Love is used too loosely. It’s a choice not a butterfly in your stomach.
Loni dida good job reeling it back in with reality, and notthe fantasy that others think they live in.
This is my fave look on Adrienne!! Always has been! Natural wavy hair and bronze skin and makeup!!! 😍😍😍
Loni is always beautiful but she was so gorgeous this episode! That is her color and she's getting skinty huney 😍
Love is when you love that person with yr mind and soul and you choose to love their flaws. Loving 2 people is when your in love with the IDEA of the person , I agree with Adrienne 💖💖
I think you can love multiple people at once. Similar to loving multiple kids, parents, siblings, and friends. I don’t think romantic love suddenly becomes different than other types of love. However, Love isn’t the most important thing in a romantic relationship. You should ask yourself whether you both have the same views on marriage, religion, child rearing, money, where you want to live, have families that get along, etc. Usually, one person is more compatible than the other and that’s the one you choose.
when it comes to what is in the best interest of the children, then yes, views on marriage, religion and stuff are absolutely important. But when it comes to love, there's no way to pick cause the heart wants what it wants. I agree with loni, rather than conforming to society's expectations, love them both, just as long as it doesn't cause you harm, or them.
Auj G I actually agree with you. My original post was advice for the person that wants to be with one person/ wants to choose.
i agree.
I disagree. I think romantic love is different. If I love you like family (I.e I love you the same way I love my mom, brothers and sisters) then you are just family. If I love you like a friend then you are just a friend. Romantically speaking, the person I chose to love is neither my friend nor my family, however over time, I can love them like my friend and my family. But then where's the romance in that? I understand what you are saying though....love is love in the sense of the word. Btw your comment very much resonates with the "school of life" channel
It is different, the love u have for your child is different from your spouse, you love your cousins differently then your kids, your parents different as well too
There is a difference between having love for someone and being in love with someone. Being in love with someone happens over time and involves getting to know the person, complete with flaws and differences. Having love for someone like Tamera said, is usually infatuation. Infatuation is like fools gold. It mimics the real thing.
I thought Adrienne was going to say pick the second one followed by some cliche Instagram bullshit
Tamera did a really good job of explaining the difference between love and infatuation. A lot of people, including myself, have gotten the two mixed up and suffered dearly because of it.
"I don't understand why u have to pick" Loni tho😂😂😂😂
Love jeannie she so real n always preaching
*JEANNIE IS TURNING 40 IN 9 MONTHS. Can you believe it?*
blognewb Actually she turns 40 in 10 months lmao I would know that because her and my son have the same birthday January 4th
blognewb She looks really young like at least 27.
BITCH GIMMIE THE TEA it's less than 10 months that's why I said 9 months. It's 9 months and 16 days
blognewb Girl it's 10 months actually. It would be 9 months in April. You can't tell me no damn different because my son literally shares the same birthday with Jeannie and plus my birthday is in December so I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about 🙄
BITCH GIMMIE THE TEA Fact: *January 4th 2019 is EXACTLY 288 days from today, 291 from the time of my first comment, or 9 months and 17 days.*
I saw a quote that is supposedly by Johnny Depp that said: “ if you’re in love with two people at the same time, choose the second person, because if you were really in love with the first person, you would have never fallen in love with the second one”
Family Boaz mmm... that’s interesting take on it
That’s a whole ass mess lmao
Queen Beyoncé 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽thank you
Queen Beyoncé yes😂
Adrienne bae your winning here!! Everyone use to play down adrienne but spiritally shes winning keep going adrienne
Honestly, I personally think Loni, Jeannie, and Tamera are the best. I think Adrienne is ok. Loni is the type that brings the humor. She is also that person that can give you advice based on events that are happening in society. She also thinks from both views. Tamera is the type of person where is just plain honest. She going to be real with you, but she going to be soft. She the type of giving you advice based on her own mistakes. Jeannie is the total package. She is personally my favorite. Jeannie is probably the wisest out of all of them, probably the most educated.
I would have loved to live like Adrienne, she really sounds like she has lived her life perfect.
Honestly... This is The REAL... sometimes we THINK we are in love because we think these people both have something to offer... when in reality one probably has more red flags than the other and etc. because we feel infatuated with the fact that hey both of them of like me... what do I do? And you're stuck with a broken heart either way because you could be choosing " the love of your life " but you wasted time trying to see which guy or girl was the one! There shouldn't even be another person to CHOOSE with anyway...
THANK YOU LONI for using your voice 💗 more one family households in the future please xx
I love the cohesiveness of the outfits today so pretty ladies ✅
Loni is right. People keep bashing her but she is telling the truth. No where is it written that you have to be in love with one person for the rest of your life. There are billions of people and yoy mean to tell me that you're only going to fall in love with one?
Beinglively I'm sorry but society has fooled so many people when it comes to love and relationships. They have taught us that there is only one person out there for us and that is certainly not true. You can have more than one love of your life. People come into our lives for different reasons. We are constantly growing and maturing. The person who you think is your soulmate now you may not want to be with 5 or even 10 years from now
Beinglively To each is own. Everyone doesn't have the same journey. Not everyone wants to be tied down to one person. Just because they sleep with anyone doesn't mean they're lost
Kisha McCormick I bet you don't know of a book called The Bible
The Bible has nothing to do with this
@@kisha4040 you may like to love more men but I doubt you would be willing to share your man with an other woman
I'm with Loni.
Tell them both. You either date both or the first one to say something like: "no, I can't be with you if you love someone else" makes the decision for you.
I live for Loni’s expressions
I love Loni’s look on this episode! The hair, the makeup, the color of the blouse!! Perfecto 👌🏾
Thank God for Loni.
Tamara's laugh is so goofy, I just love it. 😂😂😂
100% agree with Loni. This dumb girl was arguing with me about children in open relationships and I kept giving her statistics that bringing women/men into and out of a child's life CONSTANTLY is not good for the child. It becomes a problem for them emotionally, they have trouble at school ect. Yes Divorce does happen and some of these may still apply but no one CHOOSES to get divorced, these people are CHOOSING to put their children through this. Do not bring a child into this open relationship environment.
Book Bag Having an open relationships doesn't mean that you have multiple people in a child's life.
Nikkita DAVIS I agree. Plus an open marriage and polyamory are different things with polyamory typically being a consistent unit. Plus very few studies have been done on children from poly families and the ones that have show they may be more well adjusted than kids in monogamous families
Book Bag 100% agree with you, my parent we’re poly and it had a bad affect on me and my siblings
Wow for once i agreed with Loni' commentary. I like how she brought up the untraditional ways to be in love
Adrienne 😍 those beach curls. Yasss sis
Be with neither...
Be alone for a while, figure yourself out, and then once you’re ready and defined, go for it... But usually it’ll come when least expected.
I wonder if tia ever pretends to be tamera on the show 🤔
Kylah B me toooo
@@beea6155 never! They look completely different
LOL no u can tell the differenceTamera has moles in her face and Tia doesn’t Tia is the one that acts on the game ..... take a good look and u’ll see
I don’t want to see anymore complaints about the length of clips anymore. They’re hooking us up!!!
Adrienne’s hair 😍😍😍😍 that style looks great on her
Loni: “I don’t understand why you have to pick” LMAOOO😂😂😂😂
*JEANNIE LOOKS SO GOOOD 😍😍😍😍*
Loni was acting different today but she looks BEAUTIFUL !! Her makeup and hair looks amazing. & that orangey-red shade compliments her complexion so well. 😍😍😍
Adrienne has good advice. I think it is impossible that you love two people at the same time. In Order for you to have a peace of mind, you need to choose who of the two you want to stay with for the rest of your life and be happy with the decision you’ve made.
I always love when they start a conversation and everyone is talking while loni is quiet and at the end says it all with few words
Yep, if you were truly in love with someone, you wouldn’t be in love with another person.
Adrienne looks good with this hairstyle❤
Lol..I am currently in love with 2 people and I'm absolutely sure it's true love with both. It has to do with the different traits of each and the fact I've loved them both for over 10yrs..lol. Eventually i just became best friends with one as we decided our timing was always off(ACTUAL friends,no hanky panky..lol) & got into a 6yr relationship with the other..but things get sticky once you never lose true love type feelings for either person. one was my 1st bf and the other my 1st gf..so im sure that plays a huge part. I've wanted to be in a poly relationship since childhood...but you know..tradition..lol..so im single now and working through it with both of them...it seems to be about staying honest at all times, weighing pros and cons of each and like Loni said ..looking at a future with kids and how it will all play out. It's a really really hard situation to be in and I don't recommend it to anyone..lol..but it can happen.
How did this end up for you? I’m in a similar situation now
Watching Loni is hilarious...
Yo I believe that "love" is a kinda feeling that you get to FEEL ONCE.... Cuz it's "love" and if you TRULY love someone, you ain't going to fall in love at the same time with another... Like it doesn't work people.!!
I agree with Loni. There are people happily in poly relationships that fully love all people concerned. It's possible to truly love more than one person at a time. Felt like this was really closed minded of the other girls but I like how they all respected each other's opinions.
You can't fall in love with two people at the same time. If your feelings are strong and you are trully in love with a person, then how can you fall in love with someone else? That is a very selfish thing!
There is a saying that I read, “go with the second because if you really loved the first the second wouldn’t be an option”
That's dumb af though who made that dumb ass quote ?
Love isn’t all Disney. Stuff happens and people fall in love with other people sometimes
I actually love this Loni. This Loni is speaking SENSE!!!
I agree with Loni. There is the ability to love more than one person at a time. The reason many people don't agree is because when it comes to love, most people think of romantic love. But love is multifaceted and it not only about romance.
I say pick the second person cause if you truly loved the first one then you wouldn't have fallen in love with the other..or just throw both away
Loving Adrienne curls.
If you are in love with two people... choose the second one because if you were really in love with the first person... you would not have thought about the second one.Though it is different for everyone. But like Tam said... know the difference between love and infatuation.
Love is an emotion and it doesn't stop once you say you love a person. There are different levels of love: friend love, romantic love, etc., and I think its possible to love many people at the same time.
Thank you loni. Sometimes the viewpoints on this show are so basic. You can love two people live your life. Be healthy.
I love Adrienne’s hair this episode it’s what my natural hair looks like and I usually never see people on tv that have my same kind of hair
Adrienne needs to stop with the looks of disbelief and astonishment, how quickly she forgets the situation she is in. Going by her credence, her husband hasn't fall in love with multiple people when in fact he has.
Seriously.
He's probably in love with someone else right now we just don't know yet
Why do y'all keep pushing this? He fell in love with her after his marriage was over. Stop trying to make her something she is not
+asdfg77 lmaooo
can people stop bringing Adrienne man in every situation it's getting old like the things he did in his life is his business 😒
Shoot me but I’m a traditional kind of girl
Tariro makoni *pow pow*
Same
I totally agree with Adrienne here. If you are truly in love, you will know
You can only be in love with one person....if you loved the first person their wouldn’t be a second.
WRONG
I agree with Adrianne 💯 Get rid of them both because if you really loved someone, there wouldn’t be that question in your heart on who to choose
Watching Loni throughout this segment was HILARIOUS 😂
She's probably hungover
Adrienne needs to let people finish their thoughts, and not drag stuff out for the sake of applause.
THANK YOU, LONI!! You had the most sense in this segment. 😄
Adrienne's hair is looking gorgeous!
loni. just say what u wanna say we ain't judging your thoughts the point of Girl Chat is to get a variety of ppls REAL opinions #keepitreal #muchlove
Life/ Feeling are complex. Commitment matters. No situation is perfect. Choose best life. Yes, true luv cancels out any other.
I've never been in love with 2 people at the same time. My feelings just don't split like that. If you are the one, then you are just that- THE ONE. If someone else comes along, and I like them, then they become THE ONE and the other person is just out and done with 🤷🏾♀️
You can't be in love with two people at the same time. When you're in love you give that person your absolute best. When you divide your absolute best it's no longer that.
Loni doesn't seem herself this year...something is up.
I’ve been in love with 2 ppl at the same time. Like REALLY IN LOVE! I told them both that they we shouldn’t be hanging anymore. So it was kinda like a breakup but I don’t wanna call it that cus be weren’t together. ..... but basically they both stopped speaking to me (as I requested) and at that moment I knew I loved one more because I was the saddest over him. I called him back and told him that and let him decide if he wanted to do this. I also called the other guy and told him that I actually felt sadder over the other dude. It felt weird saying that to him but I thought it was necessary for closure on both sides I guess.
PS: I was never in a relationship with two men. I was friends with both of for a long time. One I new since we were 9-10. (Im 26) the other I knew from uni. They knew about each other just from random conversations but they never really met. To keep a long story short... I still got a man and a best friend. And we all chilling till this day (this happened in 2015)
FRE ALVA STILL GINA which is that one that u chose? i mean the uni guy or childhood guy
Always love seeing Adrienne’s hairstyle like this, reminds me so much of the Cheetah days.
Chuchie doesn’t age at all!
The person you love will be the person you still love even after the “in love” high fades away.
Go with the person who you know is going to be there for you on the porch holding hands when you are 80yrs old...someone that will make your end of life decisions💜
As a young person, “the bloom of youth” is real. Our actions tend to based on sexual impulses. But that’s just something we all gotta work on . 👌🏾
Just because it is out there and people are doing it , doesn't mean it is right. True love is misunderstood by people that do not really know God, who is the creator of LOVE. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking (Loni!!), it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. Modern isn't always right. God is coming soon and people love to assume and have their own ideas but at the end of the day, it is what GOD SAYS! PERIOD!
Some people are SO selfish.Just hav one Love, dedicate your all to them!! I believe some people are more in love with the drama and excitement tht comes with it thn the people actually involved. 😒
oh so you choose who you love now, interesting. And people are to blame for their feelings.
When you are really in love with one person, no one else comes along
Lonis face expressions are the best when the other girls are talking :)
Loni is bored with these topics lol.
I loved loni’s opinion on this! People don’t realize that Loni is the oldest woman at the table and she is much more open to many perspectives.
Tamera looking soooooo soooooo STUNNING
I think true friendship in a relationship is more than the feeling of love!
Truth is True Love doesn’t happen only once in a life time. True love is real, however it is also a delusion we constantly talk ourselves into because our hearts hurt if we were to lose that love. The truth is Love comes in many shapes and forms. Especially True Love. It’s not only romantic, it’s friendship also, it’s family. The challenge here is, I would commit yourself to one, perhaps and keep the other as a genuine friend. Good people are hard to find these days, AND if you TRUELY love each other you both would respect the boundaries you’re both setting, no matter what tempts you. And be honest with your partner about what you feel. And your partner won’t say “I don’t want you talking to him/her again.” They’ll talk, and also respect what precedent you have already set. And the other isn’t going to be like “oh you’re with the wrong person, choose me.” If those words come out of their mouth. Then they are not a true love. True love wants you to be happy, sure there are sacrifices, but that sacrifice shouldn’t hurt you or the other person.