Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by: 1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing. 2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways 3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant mission. Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.
Do they love unconditionally in return? There are people that no matter what you do they will always be who they are. It is so hard to be in a relationship where you no longer who you are.
The whole purpose of learning to love unconditionally is "selfish" because it brings tremendous rewards, but not from others. It is the true self-fulfilment we all seek.
Deliberate n guiltless in cheating. Integrity is sold. How to forgive such a man who doesnt acknowledge that cheating is wrong. Are you Rationalising cheating?
As difficult as it might be to step out emotional outrage and humiliation it is what one must do to progress. I don't condone cheating on any level but we want a great marriage not a condemnation and you cannot have both
My husband keeps on cheating on me and everytime I forgive him and I take him back so easily. This time I wonder that maybe I should just leave because it felt like he just do what he wants because he can. He never felt the consequence of his actions. Im really confused. He knows I love him a lot but when do you set boundaries? How will he understand that what he was doing isnt ok and is deeply hurtful?
@@TheMarriageFoundation I've been reflecting on what you said for many months and it is only now that I am understanding the wisdom behind it. When you trust in God, in His timing and justice, there is no fear.
@@j4blaser Everyone has free will. Of course anyone is free to leave anything and anyone but she seemed like she was seeking help to stay . If she wanted to leave she wouldn't be seeking videos and asking questions. Most people and media would tell her to leave. She can find that advice anywhere. She seemed like she was seeking advice to attempt to make her marriage work. Not all marriages can be saved but doesn't mean she should give up if she wants it to work without trying to make it work. I don't know if her marriage worked but she seems to have found some peace within herself ,which is never a bad thing.
@@sweetpea7362 So sorry I just saw your comment. Yes he did stopped. I have prayed for him incessantly. He doesnt pray before but now he even initiates praying with me.
I am glad you asked because the concept of unconditional love is so misunderstood and most people think they do indeed love their partner unconditionally,, and are trying to demonstarte their love, but are not. The easiest "tests" are 1. You never feel resentment or disappointment because of his errors... because your love for him is greater than those. 2. You are swimming in joy regardless of anything in your outer world. Learning to love unconditionally is a path, a process, and heals your connection.
I hear what your saying and understand just found out my husband of 26 years has been cheating for 23 of those years. What happens next that's the 6 milion dollar question.. STAY STRONG
What a fantastic video…I mean the content. It is soul stirring and touching. I am working on your advice and things are surely falling in place. Your words are spiritual and you have given marriage this beautiful spiritual dimension which has gone missing in our mundane world.
I have been married for 18 years found out my husbad had an affair for almost 2 years he says he want to stay in the marriage but keeps telling me that i control him and am checking up on him. I gave him his space back i mean i have no social media with him no password or anything that has to do with him. Is this another red flag thay i should not keep trying to make my marriage work?
The truth, and our experience, is that when you change yourself you change the dynamic of your marriage and start fresh. Giving up is a bad idea. Use the course for women.
PS. Wonderful insight in this message, thank you, Paul Friedman. It is so empowering to be shown how to manage ourselves better before we shift the focus to others. 💎
Perhaps, but I like to answer in different ways in different videos especially for those who won't read one of my books or take a course so they start to get a feel for how to live in a happier marriage through self-work.
Whether one is gay or streight loyalty is the highest law and the response to cheating should first be an acknowledgement that the marriage is not functioning. Learn how to be married. 🙏
I may be wrong but seems like what some commenters are overlooking is this is for people who want their marriage to work. Not ones who have given up. If both have given up then it probably can't be helped at least not by one video. If only one has given up the other can still do the work to fix it. Not all marriages can be fixed. I've never seen the claim by anyone but many can and don't need to end in divorce. If you're watching a video to find out how to Make your marriage work then you haven't given up. If you're watching a video to find ammo against your spouse and proof you're right and he is wrong then it probably isn't going to help. Again, I may be off base on all or some of my statements. I'm certainly not a counselor nor an expert in anything.
Please correct me if I’m wrong. When someone cheats, aren’t they demanding the end to the relationship? If someone is aware that infidelity will ruin their relationship, then cheating is someone making a series of conscious decisions to betray their spouse. At that point they have decided that after careful consideration that cheating is definitely worth risking the relationship. That said, should everyone involved seek to terminate the relationship?
People are not so strategic. We all act mostly out of habit and "go with the flow". What they are 'saying' is "I'm not getting my needs met" and so I am desperately seeking elsewhere. Learn to love, unconditionally! Get the marriage help course so your efforts are effective.
It is usable and practical but bear in mind that hearing about the path to take isn't enough, You need the course for women to truly benefit from this perspective because there is a lot you must now do if you want your husband back themarriagefoundation.org/
Pastor or bricklayer, it doesn't matter what role we play in life. Unless we know how to create a deep union every day everyone is susceptable to temptation
Now that you have gone through this the options exist for you to uplift yourself and move positively into love and learn how to be married so you can restart your marriage.
Sorry, but NO! Cheating is an act they do so they don't just cheat. The question is whether you will say "what can I do?" or "oh, well" Make your marriage amazing, even after that.
Ive been married 40 years. And have cheated,this is so true what he says. I have gone years then slipped. I feel very bad, and dont want to slip again.
I suggest that you need the course for men...themarriagefoundation.org/system/ it will give you the tools so you CAN achieve more than just the selfcontrol (SEW technique) but have a marriage that is wonderful.
Loving unconditional is godly and if your husband admits he might wanted to have sex with his whatever you might call that it hurts.. married for 20yrs
@@standground7956; She’s been with him for years. She’s riding it out for her own reasons. Some women get to the point they don’t care . My spouse works out of town. I love being by myself. The money helps..oh yea, he cheated..No more tears here
Become the greatest dish he has ever had, and yes, it takes intention, a system (ours works, I'm glad you found it), and definite action. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction and I am happy for you both.
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@@TheMarriageFoundation 🙏🏽Thanks! You are SO POSITIVE✨✨✨🤣😂! I am getting there, it's gonna take patience, love, and work👍🏽❤😘
Hii ... My husband cheating on me since from past 2 years... I come to know that and i was questioned him so he left me once ... After 8 months he came back and he convinced for me to live together... And we have been together from past 3 months but again i have noticed that he is cheating on me with other girl .... When I am asking to him he is trying to hide and telling some stories which i can't trust him again... What to do in this situation i am totally confused and i love him alot... But i couldn't able to accept him ... Can you please help over this ...
Only healing the marriage as a whole will change the dynamics, so I would recommend the course for women, and if wishes, but don't push him, he can always choose to take the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/
Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by:
1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing.
2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways
3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant mission.
Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.
When the man keeps on cheating again and again it makes you feel less as a wife
That is one of the effects but its also a signal to you that yyou caan and need to make changes that will recreate your marriage.
Do they love unconditionally in return? There are people that no matter what you do they will always be who they are. It is so hard to be in a relationship where you no longer who you are.
The whole purpose of learning to love unconditionally is "selfish" because it brings tremendous rewards, but not from others. It is the true self-fulfilment we all seek.
Yes men suck
I would suggest you work on being an amazing woman, filled with understanding an compassion rather than slip into negative spaces.
They still suck
I'm just so devastated. 10 years and still suffering idk what to do anymore 😢
This will help you themarriagefoundation.org/system/
Deliberate n guiltless in cheating. Integrity is sold. How to forgive such a man who doesnt acknowledge that cheating is wrong. Are you Rationalising cheating?
As difficult as it might be to step out emotional outrage and humiliation it is what one must do to progress. I don't condone cheating on any level but we want a great marriage not a condemnation and you cannot have both
My husband keeps on cheating on me and everytime I forgive him and I take him back so easily. This time I wonder that maybe I should just leave because it felt like he just do what he wants because he can. He never felt the consequence of his actions. Im really confused. He knows I love him a lot but when do you set boundaries? How will he understand that what he was doing isnt ok and is deeply hurtful?
Setting boundaries on unconditional love is not what we teach. Nor do we teach expectations of others. Learn to love, unconditionally.
@@TheMarriageFoundation I've been reflecting on what you said for many months and it is only now that I am understanding the wisdom behind it. When you trust in God, in His timing and justice, there is no fear.
@@j4blaser Everyone has free will. Of course anyone is free to leave anything and anyone but she seemed like she was seeking help to stay . If she wanted to leave she wouldn't be seeking videos and asking questions. Most people and media would tell her to leave. She can find that advice anywhere. She seemed like she was seeking advice to attempt to make her marriage work. Not all marriages can be saved but doesn't mean she should give up if she wants it to work without trying to make it work. I don't know if her marriage worked but she seems to have found some peace within herself ,which is never a bad thing.
Sorry
@@sweetpea7362 So sorry I just saw your comment. Yes he did stopped. I have prayed for him incessantly. He doesnt pray before but now he even initiates praying with me.
If you loving him unconditionally and he is cheating what else is next?
I am glad you asked because the concept of unconditional love is so misunderstood and most people think they do indeed love their partner unconditionally,, and are trying to demonstarte their love, but are not.
The easiest "tests" are 1. You never feel resentment or disappointment because of his errors... because your love for him is greater than those.
2. You are swimming in joy regardless of anything in your outer world.
Learning to love unconditionally is a path, a process, and heals your connection.
I hear what your saying and understand just found out my husband of 26 years has been cheating for 23 of those years. What happens next that's the 6 milion dollar question.. STAY STRONG
@@TheMarriageFoundationif only he would love me that way
You can love him that way but it is not reflected in your words. Its not your fault! We must learn to cultivate the flowers of the soul.
Very good advice i am going to try it god bless you
Thank you and God bless you, too 🙏
Thank you for the topic you have sharing us.very interesting.
and thank you, too. The world improves when ouur marriage improves.🙏
Mine has cheated for the past 7 years
It is not something to just live with but it is up to you to briing more love into your marriage. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
This was beautiful
Thank you, that which is love-based in your marriage is that whiich will help both of you. 🙏
I found this just in time.
I love how often we hear those words! In God's time...🙏
Thank you I'm doing my best to store my marriage
Perhaps we can help yyou with our marriage help course. Come, visit our website themarriagefoundation.org/ 🙏
Well done
Now, you have a real way to turn things around...use the course!!!!
What a fantastic video…I mean the content. It is soul stirring and touching. I am working on your advice and things are surely falling in place. Your words are spiritual and you have given marriage this beautiful spiritual dimension which has gone missing in our mundane world.
I don't know why this has been "hidden" but I was also blown away by what I discovered. It changed my life!
Thank you so much for this video. I am thankful for your advice and will do it 🙂
What we offer works so if you also need the marriage course for women don't hold back.
Thank you so much
I have been married for 18 years found out my husbad had an affair for almost 2 years he says he want to stay in the marriage but keeps telling me that i control him and am checking up on him. I gave him his space back i mean i have no social media with him no password or anything that has to do with him. Is this another red flag thay i should not keep trying to make my marriage work?
The truth, and our experience, is that when you change yourself you change the dynamic of your marriage and start fresh. Giving up is a bad idea. Use the course for women.
I will definitely try this thank u so much.❤
Most welcome 😊
Does this apply to where a man focuses on his work / career or anything else over and above his marriage / spouse / family?
PS. Wonderful insight in this message, thank you, Paul Friedman.
It is so empowering to be shown how to manage ourselves better before we shift the focus to others. 💎
Perhaps, but I like to answer in different ways in different videos especially for those who won't read one of my books or take a course so they start to get a feel for how to live in a happier marriage through self-work.
I'm in the same boat!!
I am in the same boat
What if his gay ?
Whether one is gay or streight loyalty is the highest law and the response to cheating should first be an acknowledgement that the marriage is not functioning. Learn how to be married. 🙏
I’m single but got curious.. for future reference! Thank you so much! 😇💪😍
Stop and think (change your mindset)
Which opens your heart!
Opening your heart is not automatic. We need to cultivate our love
I may be wrong but seems like what some commenters are overlooking is this is for people who want their marriage to work. Not ones who have given up. If both have given up then it probably can't be helped at least not by one video. If only one has given up the other can still do the work to fix it. Not all marriages can be fixed. I've never seen the claim by anyone but many can and don't need to end in divorce. If you're watching a video to find out how to Make your marriage work then you haven't given up. If you're watching a video to find ammo against your spouse and proof you're right and he is wrong then it probably isn't going to help. Again, I may be off base on all or some of my statements. I'm certainly not a counselor nor an expert in anything.
*Wisdom*
Please correct me if I’m wrong. When someone cheats, aren’t they demanding the end to the relationship? If someone is aware that infidelity will ruin their relationship, then cheating is someone making a series of conscious decisions to betray their spouse. At that point they have decided that after careful consideration that cheating is definitely worth risking the relationship. That said, should everyone involved seek to terminate the relationship?
People are not so strategic. We all act mostly out of habit and "go with the flow". What they are 'saying' is "I'm not getting my needs met" and so I am desperately seeking elsewhere. Learn to love, unconditionally! Get the marriage help course so your efforts are effective.
You made me follow you after you said that why would you have a burger in the street if you have a Buffet at home I love that
Thanks 🎉it’s a unique advise
It is usable and practical but bear in mind that hearing about the path to take isn't enough, You need the course for women to truly benefit from this perspective because there is a lot you must now do if you want your husband back themarriagefoundation.org/
Very beautifully said indeed
Can you create testimonials? Would be great to have that extra gas from others.
They are on our website
Ss
God bless you too..
Thank you 🙏
When you do all of that and they still cheat. Consider a pastor cheating. You were not expecting it.
Pastor or bricklayer, it doesn't matter what role we play in life. Unless we know how to create a deep union every day everyone is susceptable to temptation
😢😢😢
One's marriage is meant to be a great aspect of their life but one must know how to be married. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Am heart broken
Now that you have gone through this the options exist for you to uplift yourself and move positively into love and learn how to be married so you can restart your marriage.
Thanks 🙏
At your service
Sometimes they just cheat.
Sorry, but NO! Cheating is an act they do so they don't just cheat. The question is whether you will say "what can I do?" or "oh, well" Make your marriage amazing, even after that.
Ive been married 40 years. And have cheated,this is so true what he says. I have gone years then slipped. I feel very bad, and dont want to slip again.
I suggest that you need the course for men...themarriagefoundation.org/system/ it will give you the tools so you CAN achieve more than just the selfcontrol (SEW technique) but have a marriage that is wonderful.
Loving unconditional is godly and if your husband admits he might wanted to have sex with his whatever you might call that it hurts.. married for 20yrs
@@standground7956; She’s been with him for years. She’s riding it out for her own reasons. Some women get to the point they don’t care . My spouse works out of town. I love being by myself. The money helps..oh yea, he cheated..No more tears here
Isn't anyone concerned about all the sexually transmitted diseases from their cheating husbands?
I want to be a buffet, lol. I guess it takes time, effort, and the course for me. lol 🙏🏽
Become the greatest dish he has ever had, and yes, it takes intention, a system (ours works, I'm glad you found it), and definite action. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction and I am happy for you both.
@@TheMarriageFoundation 🙏🏽Thanks! You are SO POSITIVE✨✨✨🤣😂! I am getting there, it's gonna take patience, love, and work👍🏽❤😘
Hii ... My husband cheating on me since from past 2 years... I come to know that and i was questioned him so he left me once ... After 8 months he came back and he convinced for me to live together... And we have been together from past 3 months but again i have noticed that he is cheating on me with other girl .... When I am asking to him he is trying to hide and telling some stories which i can't trust him again... What to do in this situation i am totally confused and i love him alot... But i couldn't able to accept him ... Can you please help over this ...
Only healing the marriage as a whole will change the dynamics, so I would recommend the course for women, and if wishes, but don't push him, he can always choose to take the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/
Sex is the 1st reason 😢
Thaat is far from true
I was shocked…unconditional love for your spouse? First time I heard that…definitely will have to start with the mind 😅
It may not be easily understood or easy to go that way. But it does transform marriages.