The TRUTH About Trans
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- It's time to talk about the truth about the transgender ideology. I know that this video is quite long and I suggest watching it in parts if you're someone who doesn't like watching long-form content.
That all being said, thanks for watching the video to the end if you did and I've spoken my peace.
𝐑𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐓𝐨 𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨
▶ TT Exulansic ~ www.youtube.co...
(Explains about SRS complications in much more detail)
▶ GNC Centric ~ www.youtube.co...
(Gives an explanation on how young lesbians who were growing up in the 2010s can become susceptible to trans ideology)
▶ Waffling Willow ~ www.youtube.co...
(Young detransitioner who explains more about how kids can be susceptible to trans ideology)
▶ Shape Shifter ~ www.youtube.co...
(Detransitioner who goes into explanation about what living with SRS is really like)
▶ Peak Trans ~ www.youtube.co...
(Feminist who tackles all kinds of misinformation and lies spread by TRAs)
▶ King Critical ~ www.youtube.co...
(Gender Critical guy who tackles all kinds of misinformation and pinpoints fallacies about gender ideology)
▶ Meghan Murphy (her interview) ~ • Meghan Murphy intervie...
Hey there everyone. So here it is, the truth about the transgender ideology and my unbridled thoughts on it. I'm being 100% honest in what I said in this video and it is what it is. I understand that this video is quite long, definitely the longest video I've ever done but I had no choice, I wanted to go over every angle I possibly could to make sure I addressed many of the various angles in this topic and the funny thing is it could've been much longer but I tried to boil it down to the key important factors.
If you're someone who doesn't like long-form videos like this but still want to watch, I highly suggest watching it in parts to make it more digestible as I enabled the chapters function that should make it easier to keep track of.
That all said, thank you all for watching the video if you did and until then, I'll catch ya later. Take care!👋
🌟Insightful videos worth checking out
▶ruclips.net/video/JnuKtGQzmj4/видео.html
(Lisa Michele, "Womanhood is NOT a feeling")
▶ruclips.net/video/uphZ0PLXbEw/видео.html
(Magdalen Berns, "Why do you hate Transwomen?" Oldie but goldie)
▶ ruclips.net/video/GmQyc-MHbpE/видео.html
(Meghan Murphy interview on "Trans Awareness".)
▶ ruclips.net/video/-yawM1CRWxE/видео.html
(Meghan Murphy, "Does Trans Activism Negatively Impact Women's Rights?" Debate)
▶ruclips.net/video/HhfCnqtE5iA/видео.html
(A Slightly Twisted Female, "LUPRON: Blocking the Puberty & Development of Children")
▶ruclips.net/video/7B8Q6D4a6TM/видео.html
(Germaine Greer, "Transgender women are not "women")
▶ruclips.net/video/HeQ_GJn3q1w/видео.html
(Vanessa Vokey, "Pronouns are Rohypnol" song)
🌟Recommended Channels to look into
▶ 𝐓𝐓 𝐄𝐱𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐜 ~ exulansic.substack.com/
(Explains about SRS complications in much more detail)
▶𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐊𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐢𝐧', 𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭? (Karen Davis) ~ ykright.substack.com/
(Used to be on RUclips until her channel got banned. She speaks out against trans ideology while highlighting inconsistencies, lies, and SRS realities. She's pretty blunt and straight forward with a kick of snark and sarcasm.)
▶𝐌𝐚𝐠𝐝𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧 𝐁𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐬 ~ www.youtube.com/@MagdalenBerns/featured
(Despite her passing (RIP), her content holds up pretty well and is worth watching if you haven't already)
▶ 𝐆𝐍𝐂 𝐂𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐜 ~ www.youtube.com/@GNCCentric/videos
(Gives an explanation on how young 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐛𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐬 who were growing up in the 2010s can become susceptible to trans ideology)
▶ 𝐖𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 ~ www.youtube.com/@WafflingWillow/videos
(Young detransitioner who explains more about how kids can be susceptible to trans ideology)
▶ 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐞 𝐒𝐡𝐢𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫 ~ www.youtube.com/@shifterofshape/featured
(Detransitioner who goes into explanation about what living with SRS is really like)
▶ 𝐏𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬 ~ www.youtube.com/@PeakTrans
(Feminist who tackles all kinds of misinformation and lies spread by TRAs)
▶𝐌𝐫𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐨 ~ www.youtube.com/@mrmenno
(Fellow gay man speaking out against gender ideology)
▶𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐂𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 ~ www.youtube.com/@kingcritical4703/videos
(Gender Critical guy who tackles all kinds of misinformation and pinpoints fallacies about gender ideology)
▶𝐄𝐥𝐥𝐚 𝐀𝐧𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐨𝐛𝐢𝐚 ~ www.youtube.com/@EllaAndrophobia
(Feminist who speaks out and highlights certain aspects of trans ideology, especially that targeted at children)
▶𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐚 𝐌𝐢𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐞 ~ www.youtube.com/@LisaMichele/featured
(Feminist who covers aspects of trans ideology)
We exist. I hope you can come to terms with that at some point. It obviously shifts your equilibrium, maybe it has something to tell you?
PS. This comment was inspired by the replies that Alok Vaid Menon writes to hate comments like yours. They are such a wonderful being! DS
You covered a lot of familiar ground, but it's always good to have another voice of reason. You might also like the videos of Maria MacLachlan (who has a series debunking bad TRA arguments) and Exulansic (who is in a class by herself and the rightful heir to Magdalen Berns' throne).
Very well done video! Much thought and hard truth (for some) in it
@Archpope already aware of Maria, her content is great. I actually linked to her channel in the description 😊
@@mahavishnustravinskij Jesus existed too, but his identity as "the son of god" didn't. Likewise. Bruce Jenner exists, but his transgender identity doesn't. Atheists don't hate Jesus, & feminists don't hate men.
I worry for kids these days who seem to think if you don't fit a cookie cutter conventional gender role then you must be trans or NB. Instead of accepting their body and what it can do, and expressing themselves however they like without worrying about labels.
I agree with you, and I have always been reluctant to share this point of view out of fear of being ostracized from the goth community. It is comforting to know others in the community see eye to eye. Thank you for speaking up. 🖤
That's understandable. I'll be honest, when I came out with my fews on this subject, I did face a massive (for myself) backlash in the online goth scene where I got banned from a few popular goth groups and got badmouthed in them and I couldn't defend myself since I was blocked. I also got dropped by pretty much most of my friends in the scene as well.
So yeah, there is roughly a 98-99% chance that you will get ostracized from the goth scene if you go against trans ideology.
But nonetheless it does make me feel a little better knowing that there are others in the scene who can see the truth about the reality of the trans ideology because for a moment there, I was beginning to think that I was the only one haha.
Totally.. .These are my feeelings too
I'm also black and a goth and I know I would be attacked by both groups if I go against the trans ideology. Unfortunately I can't risk it cause I'm poor so I just keep my distance and stay silent.
@@KaiDecadence No shit you got banned. You're literally spouting propaganda from terfs and conservatives about an extremely marginalized group of people. A lot of these talking points would have literally been about you a few years ago.
Same here with the punk community
I remember when I was a kid, I used to have thoughts about wanting to be a girl because I had crushes on guys during my elementary school years. I always felt weird that I was a boy liked other boys. I felt like if I was a girl, it would make more sense and life would be better. I used to even have these thoughts in middle school. I remember being picked on by my brother's friends in elementary. They were calling me gay, a sissy, and said that when I grow up I shouldn't be with a man. During the 6th grade, it was a rumor going around in my 1st & 2nd period that I was gay. One girl in my class was bold and walked up to the board and wrote my name on the board saying, "Kajon is gay". I remember this boy in my class had asked me and I denied it. I remember in 8th grade these two straight guys in my class were friendly to me and they asked was I gay and I said yeah and they started acting funny towards me. They would barely interact with me after that lol. My female cousins would make fun of me for being feminine. Looking back, it's weird asf because we literally have a whole cousin who's a lesbian and she's butch they never said anything about her sexuality or her being masculine. I guess since she was an adult and we were kids. That's something that always bothered me. How normalized lesbians are, but gays are demonized. Even as an adult, I'm still dealing with BS. My aunt has kids and one day her daughter told me that her brother said that I'm gay. This happened like two years ago. The crazy thing is their grandma is butch, but I guess that's normal to them. Homophobia is just weird asf to me. Even through all this pain I still love being a man. Me changing my gender isn't going to magically make things easier.
Ah so you're another person who exhibited homosexual attraction in younger age lol No hate because it was the same for me and many other gays and lesbians I've met which is why I believe you really are born homosexual, we just learn about it later in life since homosexuality isn't typically talked about towards kids. Anyway I'm sorry you dealt with that bullying growing up, I can only imagine how annoying that must've been but I'm happy that you didn't fall into the trap of thinking you can be the opposite sex and just learned to accept yourself as is because you're right, attempting (and failing) to change your sex would only add more mental anguish to yourself since you're trying to do something that is impossible.
As for the treatment towards lesbians vs gays, it's mainly because lesbians are fetishized by straight men and while it may look like acceptance on the surface, it's mainly because some of these straight men fantasize about being with a lesbian and "turning her straight" or having a threesome with a lesbian couple. Lesbians have had to deal with people not taking their sexuality seriously which can be really annoying. Meanwhile gay men, we can get treated like crap on the offset by straight men because they simply cannot fathom how two men can be sexually attracted to each other and if the gay man is feminine presenting, that makes them even more uncomfortable because we're going against the (socially constructed) gender norms. and so because they don't know how to process this, that's why they can be just awful to us at times.
And honestly with butch women , I think the reason why on the surface they aren't as scrutinized as feminine presenting men is because there have been gender nonconforming women in the public eye for decades now whereas with gender nonconforming men, we're a rarity. The public has just gotten used to seeing butch/masculine women so that's why it doesn't have as much shock to it. Because think about it, how often do you see men in dresses/skirts and makeup with long(er) hairstyles out in public? And that's why the public just isn't used to feminine presenting men outside of LGB specific events and hangouts.
@@KaiDecadenceunder patriarchy, male coded behavior is also exalted while female coded behavior is derided. A woman who emulates what is expected of men in a culture may be more accepted because of that on the surface, although she is sure to face discrimination or harassment because of her sex nonetheless.
Oh the other hand, men performing female coded behavior under patriarchy is seen as undermining male dominance. Why would a man want to be like a woman? Men feel compelled to force other men not to break ranks by behaving in gender non conforming ways. bell hooks talks about how this system crushes men’s souls and ability to express themselves in one of her books.
Based vid bro. You really went through all the points 👌. I hope some people actually listen to the video rather than be lazy.
Thanks a lot!
Why are you against adults transitioning? Are you against people doing what they want with their bodies?
@@RiddelV when did I say that?
Been looking forward to this video, and I wasn't disappointed! Love seeing other GCs in art/fandom/creative communities! I'd like to leave a deeper comment, but I am about to crash so I'll have to come back later haha.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video so far and right on! That's actually part of the reason why I decided to come out with my views all those years ago because I was tired of this narrative that people in the creative world have to blindly support such an absurd ideology that has definitely taken over the scene sadly.
I might be late but your video helped me realize i was just a girl not non binary, esp when you talked about masculinity, femininity and androgyny. It hit me that the only reason i thought i was non binary was because my thoughts were literally like "oh i don't wanna dress feminine all the time, guess i must be non binary!" but now i know that i was just wanting to seek androgyny in my look.
Another reason was when i still thought i was non binary, i dated a trans male who only liked non binary ppl and men. So I was trying to push away my femininity because i was afraid to lose someone dear to me. And i had also "come out" to some of my friends and now it makes this a whole lot harder.
Sorry for the ramble! All i wanted to say was that your video cleared some stuff up and helped me figure out smth so thank u
No need to apologize for the ramble, that's what the video is for! Anyway I'm happy that the video helped you in some way and helped you understand that just because you don't conform to socially constructed stereotypes, it doesn't cancel out your sex and you can present yourself however you prefer without having to believe that you are something you are not. 😊
You’re amazing and this makes me happy for you. You are a wonderful human being and I felt very similarly to you in my teenage years. Your best friend will never make you try to be something you’re not. ♥️
Great video I totally agree and this is much needed. I've thought the same things but I found out some things I didn't know. I just found your channel through a MrMennos comment section. You said you were posting a video and I clicked the day you uploaded lol. I've always had more feminine male friends. Much love from a tomboy autistic female.
Oh wow, what a coincidence (Because I've been working on this video for 2 years, some were thinking I was never gonna finish and post it haha). But nonetheless welcome to the channel and I'm glad you enjoyed the video :)
I also want to bring these up, who says women can't enjoy sports? That's why they have their own space in sports. This goes back to girls in school. There's girl's volleyball, girl's tennis, girl's badminton, girl's basket ball, Girl's soccer team and powderpuff football. My girlfriend at the time would sit down and watch football with her father. As a matter of fact there's a lot of women who go to the football stadium with their brothers, husbands, cousins, brother in laws, fathers, father in laws, grandfathers, grandfather in laws. Great grandfathers, great grandfather in laws, uncles, great uncles, second cousins and/or long distant cousins to watch the game. So how does enjoying sport equal men? Not only does it sound stereotypical, but it also sounds sexist, how do these people of the trans community and the people who support them in defense not think about this? Again, these people who claim they don't contribute to gender stereotypes end up contributing it.
The only people who really think sports are for men are very sexist traditionalists who think that women who enjoy and/or play sports (specifically hard contact sports like MMA and Football) are "trying to be men".
@@KaiDecadence Well they be mistaking, but it certainly wouldn't be competitive to put them together, which we've already seen time and time again with men wanting to be women. In the 90's there's a video where there were several women of different sizes taunting and mocking this male boxer for his size and thought they could take him down. He proved all of them otherwise and he did not backdown. The referee was being very politically incorrect by shit talking him while obliterating the female boxers.
@@davevampireknight9778 Tale as old as time, there will always be a physical different between men and women and they should never be put together in competitions like that no matter what.
Indeed
I just wish transwomen could deconstruct the pre-trans male privilege that they have become accustomed to before they demand entry into female spaces. Some transwomen understand this and discuss it on their platforms, but I've seen several transwomen on TikTok seem to actually enjoy bullying women. And yes, Kai I am a woman not a bleeder, breeder, vagina owner, birthing person, etc. That language is so dehumanizing!
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And that is something that will never happen because men will never know what it's like to be a woman. We can sympathize and try to understand and listen but as far as just knowing what it truly feels like? I just don't think that will happen. And yes, some trans-identifying men enjoy bullying and talking down to women because they feel they have the right to do so because according to them, they are just like you and have the authority to do so (which is just a hinting of their male privilege).
"male privilege" is feminist bullshit.
im a transsexual man and i agree, i understand that im a female i just want to and am happier living my life as a male
@@KaiDecadence There is no male privilege.
This is the most honest comprehensive analysis of the whole “trans” movement I have ever seen. The fact that you’re a gender non conforming male just makes it all the more credible. EVERYONE in the transcult needs to see this.
Thanks a lot. I don't think if will make too much of a difference with the trans cult because they're too stuck in their ways but if this helps at least some others who are struggling with the things I shared in the video, that's enough for me.
@@KaiDecadence RUclips keeps censoring my reply...it's weird because I've said MUCH more offensive/ controversial things 😂I'll try again later.
I’m a gay man and agree 100%. Excellent work, Kai!
It is neither honest nor comprehensive. There is no engagement here with anything written by or about trans people (other than by transphobes). It’s basically just every “gender-critical” thought-terminating cliche and strawman crammed into one video. It is a shallow, tedious piece of propaganda which was created to tell people like you (people who have hallucinated a “trans cult”) what they want to hear.
yay you did it :)
great video, was worth the wait.
Thanks!
@@KaiDecadence watching it again. shared it. you know the history and you covered all the main points and added some very valid ones only someone in your position would be able to talk about with authority. sorry men don't like you, they're wrong. if i was gay and successful and attractive i'd marry you and give you everything you want. if i was your mum i'd be proud af. sorry i'm not.
@@connie_d I'm glad you enjoyed the video! And yeah I do think anyone willing to speak out against the ideology is valid and deserves to be heard. But I had a feeling that hearing it from someone who is unironically gender nonconforming and has been for a long time, it might help give some extra insight on the matter as well since we live the reality that trans-identified people (particularly the homosexual ones) fear.
On the whole children transitioning thing, Something I’ve noticed is there is a HUGE overlap between women that identify as trans (so have gender dysphoria) and women that have eating disorders (body dysmorphia).
Idk why that is but just ask anyone in the ED community. Regardless when it comes to any type of body image issues (gender or body dysmorphia) in children, it’s hardly ever stand alone, it’s usually comorbid with other mental health issues.
Which is why it baffles me that DRs trained medical professionals are willing to transition kids so easily, when if you treat some of the kids underlying mental health issues (like depression, autism, OCD, trauma, anxiety, etc) the gender dysphoria will improve without medical intervention (aka gender affirmation).
Right I have actually noticed that as well and more often than not, a lot of the issues that trans-identifying women overlap with each other. The most consistent one I've seen is poor body image (usually the woman or girl is a bit overweight) and suffer from depression that can be linked to it and if they have autism as well as aren't particularly interested in being super feminine, it can make them super susceptible to trans identity (this includes "nonbinary" as well).
Either way you're right that it's horrid that these doctors are so quick to push the gender dysphoria nonsense instead of actually trying to help treat the child's legit issues that you mentioned in your third paragraph. Like if you listen to these people explain why they feel the way they do, you're guaranteed to hear a clue that is most likely the culprit behind their ill feelings towards themselves.
Of course they overlap. Many young trans men take hormones because they transfer fat. Also wanting to have "top surgery" is because big breasts are equated with being fat. Not to mention a flat chest is more youthful and we are society thats puts so much emohqsisi on touth=beauty. I am a woman who has struggles with an ED and absolutely HATE my big breasts. Tbh if i could have them gone i would. I hate to admit that but its the truth. I've come a long way with accepting my body but my breasts make me feel dysphoric... not because of my gender but because of my ED.
Hi Kai! Glad to see you've finally posted your magnus opus. I'm looking forward to watching and listening.
Courageous attitude. I admire the West, but many, many Westerners have come to have such a shallow definition of womanhood. In Latin America, for example, women have such a connection with nature that we literally know since kids that women's cycles are nature's cycles. Mothers are literally kissed and hugged all the time because women do need that.
So, of course no man can imitate that. And in South America we do have a cultural space for very feminine gay men. Young gay men here will use tight jeans, colorful crop tops, long hair, hoop earrings and makeup. They go chase straight-identified masculine partners and they will still be considered men, albeit *feminine* men. It's only when that gay man has a poor and homophobic family that he will take hormones.
We've heard about what happened to KJK in New Zealand and we are saddened and angry about it. Gender ideology has arrived here, but it's not procceding at full throttle yet, even though LGBs and feminists have already been alerted by our foreign counterparts.
I don't think feminine males have a very large romantic/sex partner pool in the West, why do you think is different in Latin America? And what do you mean by "women's cycles are nature's cyles"?
@@kevinbaxter931 It actually began with the Indigenous/African myth that mentrual cycles matched the moon waxing/waning cycles, which is not totally true. Still, all the three phases of the menstrual cycle are repetitive, consistent and predictable and that's why femaleness has been associated with internal centrality and stability.
As for avowedly hetero men seeking guys, it's because the dynamics between men and women in Brazil, at least, are a little different. Grandmothers and mothers instill in younger women the importance of protecting virginity before marriage (it's related to Christianity but it is perhaps also a form to prevent marketization of their bodies in prostitution and pornography under men's pressure).
So straight-leaning bisexual men with high libido who almost always dress with restraint and moderation will seek the opposite in males partners: exhuberance, creativity and abandon. In a sense, these effeminate guys are exactly that, effeminate in an artistic way, not "feminine" and nurturing like women are.
You made so many excellent points in this video! I hope more people get to see it and finally see trans ideology for what it truly is. I recently peaked and it feels so liberating, but I also wonder why I allowed myself to be so brainwashed for many years. I also love how you included the song 'Sabbath' from Saya no Uta. That game still haunts me to this day. lmao
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• 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬?
- I care because I've been seeing what's been happening with this ideology and the people who get wrapped up in it. Seeing obvious gay & lesbian youths getting wrapped up in the ideology feeling like they must be the opposite sex because of gender nonconformity and growing pains of the childhood to teenhood experience what with how alienated they can feel because of their sexuality and gender nonconforming ways. There's no doubt that if I were growing up today being the way I am, I would've found myself being suckered into the ideology as well but knowing what I do ow and all the problems that come with it, I want to be a voice out there that helps gay & lesbian youths in this desperate time because if I was a child or teenager in this day, I would want someone to be up honest with me to keep me from doing damage to my health in the long run.
I also care about how this ideology has been negatively impacting women and girls spaces. I don't care what a man "identifies" as, he has no business being in a women and girls only space. If they were advocating for their own spaces, I wouldn't have anything to say about that but that simply is not happening and we've already seen the reality of what happens with self-ID negatively effecting women and girls from physical violence, harassment, and sexual assault and for that, I am speaking out.
And lastly there is this annoying saying that the only people who are against trans ideology are right-wing conservatives. Aside from that not being true as plenty of women who aren't conservative have been speaking out against the ideology, I also wanted to add my voice to the fight to show that just because you're goth (or alternative in general), it doesn't mean that you have to blindly go with the trans ideology like what is to be expected. As much as I don't like to use identity politics, as a black, homosexual, gender nonconforming, goth guy, I do not support trans ideology, it's a regressive, absurd ideology that hurts people in the long run.
• 𝐒𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧?
- Not believing in trans ideology is 𝐧𝐨𝐭 a conservative thing, it's just acknowledging biology and material reality.
• 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐠𝐚𝐲? 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭?
- Sexual orientation and trans identity are not the same thing. One is rooted in material reality (obvious sexual attraction indicators - make of that what you will-) and the other is rooted in a nebulous concept that is based on superficial, socially constructed stereotypes. Furthermore, Homosexual people are not demanding society to bend to our demands (example: proclaiming that straight people should be gay and date us) nor are we demanding society to lie about reality. The only thing homosexual people want is to be able to live without being persecuted for being same sex attracted and that doesn't impede on anyone else's life but our own.
• 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐝 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐬?
- We black people still live in material reality. We just have biological darker skin pigmentation. Trans is not rooted in biology, it's a nebulous concept based in stereotypes. And to put it blunt, we black people cannot change our skin color, and facial features whereas "trans" people have the choice to accept reality of their biology or not, it's just not the same thing period.
• 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟?
- My question to you is 𝐡𝐨𝐰 are you surprised? It should be obvious why a person like myself can see right through the ideology when I'm a man who doesn't make any effort to conform to masculinity. The only difference between a trans-identified man and myself is that I have the sense to know that me being interested in femininity doesn't make me a woman because I know that women are not some "identity" or concept that is created in someone's head or a "feeling".
• 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐉𝐚𝐳𝐳 𝐉𝐞𝐧𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬?
- Yep I am very aware of jazz Jennings and I feel absolutely awful for him. If there's ever been any reason why we should let children be "transitioning" with hormones and SRS, he's the leading example of why. The puberty blockers delayed his puberty to where certain aspects of his brain never fully developed which is why he comes off as a little kid despite being in his 20s and it's not because he was sheltered but because that part of his brain never got to go through puberty and adapt and settle.
And his genital mutilation is self-explanatory in and of itself. Poor Jazz will never know what it's like to have true adult intimacy and it seems like he's getting closer to the realization with each passing year. His parents are absolutely awful and it was more than clear from the very first episode of his show that they didn't want to have a gender nonconforming, possibly gay son. For those who don't remember, the "sign" that his parents say that showed he was "trans" was when he was 6 years old and wanted to wear a leotard style bathing suit which they refused to let him wear and instead of just letting him wear it when he kept bringing it up, they threw him into the "trans" pipeline and the rest is miserable history.
In short, I'm very aware of Jazz and what's happened to him is absolutely despicable and shame on his parents, especially his attention-seeking mother. EVERYONE around him failed him to the nth degree. I definitely recommend following Exulansic's "I Am Jazz's Waking Nightmare" series because she brings up so many awesome observations about this situation.
> exulansic.substack.com/
• 𝐈 𝐬𝐚𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐃𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐊𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐢𝐧' 𝐑𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭? 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐬𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐆𝐍𝐂 𝐦𝐞𝐧?- I support Karen in fighting for women's rights and spaces and speaking out against trans dogma. Yes she can be very blunt but I understand and where she's coming from as she is simply fed up with what has been happening to women. As far as her views on Gender nonconforming men to where she thinks it should banned from the public? I obviously don't agree with her here as a feminine gender nonconforming man myself who is not doing it for fetishistic voyeurism. That said, I again understand why she feels the way she does about gender nonconforming men considering what she's had to deal with where she's at.
That all said, I have had pleasant interactions with her back when she was on RUclips and it was all fine and good.
• 𝐈 𝐬𝐚𝐰 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐊𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐞-𝐉𝐚𝐲 𝐊𝐞𝐞𝐧 (𝐏𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐞 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐤𝐞𝐫), 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐞? 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐞𝐬?
- As far as Kellie-Jay Keen goes, I support her fighting for women's rights and spaces and I think she's brave for organizing the #LetWomenSpeak events to give women a platform to voice their thoughts, concerns, and solidarity for women and the LGB against on the trans madness.
I have heard accusations of her being racist but I have not seen any proof of this outside of her not wanting to distance her organization from the Proud Boys. I don't agree with her on this but I understand why she doesn't feel the need to do that when her concern is getting as many voices together to speak out against trans dogma. So while I don't agree with the actions of the Proud Boys and I'm not keen on Kellie's stance involving them, I do not think that makes her racist and I still support her overall goal of organizing events to let women speak.
• 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 #𝐋𝐞𝐭𝐖𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬?
I am aware of certain events that have happened at these events and more importantly, the violence was not coming from the women there, it was coming from the TRAs.
• 𝐘𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨𝐨 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠, 𝐈'𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭.
- I'm sorry but that sounds more like a "you" problem. As I suggested in the description, you can always watch it in parts. Aside from that, I don't know what more to tell you.
@blub thanks!
What do you think about trans men being in female only spaces? Because trans men obviously do experience sex baeed sexism like cis women do and shouldn't be denied the support. And if you believe that trans men should be allowed in female only spaces do you believe that when they reached a certain point in transitioning that they shouldn't be allowed anymore? Or should every trans man regardless of transition status be allowed in places that discuss things that are exclusive to biological women?
@@salamipiranha3249 Trans-identifying women being in women only spaces is fine because they are women no matter what they choose to style themselves as.
If a trans-identified woman makes herself look so masculine to the point that she gets annoyed when she gets questioned while accessing women only spaces, the choice is up to her on whether she wants to continue using the correct space.
I care about it is because it is harmful, most of it is irreversible, and they’re letting minors make these life-altering choices. The majority of people who do fully transition have extremely bad side effects to the surgeries and cross sex hormone therapy.
I heard of you initially from Brittany and you were mentioned in a thread by a subscriber. Thank you Kai, you have gotten another subscriber and I hope more youth will watch this video, and realize there's nothing wrong with being you and loving who you love. They don't need to do all these unnecessary things to themselves 👏💚🫂
You’re seriously brave for this, lots of respect to you for speaking out. I hope people who disagree with you will at least hear you out and consider a thoughtful response instead of jumping straight to the slander and censorship. 😩
Hey ! I have no words to express my gratitude.
I had been in doubt about this for a while, but a few months ago, it was your video (actually the last few minutes of it) that ultimately peaked me. It helped rid me of the moral guilt I was feeling.
I thought you might like to know 😉 Thank you so much... 😭
Love from France
No problem, I'm glad the video helped!
This video is so informative and well explained, you can see the root of the problem that are the gender stereotypes and homophobia... i have seen different people pointing about how bad is the trans ideology but it's never adressing the real issues like it does here..! It's really like only gay gnc people can truly and fully see throught it because we are top targets of the trans ideology, any gnc kid in general too. Thank you for making this!
Thanks a lot! You're right that when people talk about the problems with trans ideology, a lot of the attention is usually targeted towards the Autogynephiles/AGPs but not so much the "HSTS" angle. I figured that someone like me would be the best candidate to spread some light and awareness on the other half of the ideology and how it targets gender nonconforming homosexual people considering I am one. I mostly got inspired by the GNC lesbians who were speaking out against it and noticed how there were next to no GNC feminine presenting gay men talking about it
And yes, we GNC gays and lesbians are the biggest targets for the ideology for sure and it's why our voices can help bring more awareness to the reality of trans dogma since we disprove the claims that they make out rejection of stereotypical gender norms.
@@KaiDecadence yeah i see the trans crowd on twitter trying to trans the gnc gay and lesbians all the time.
Saying shit to gay gnc men like you have internalised "gender dysphoria" and you need to take estrogen and telling lesbians to take testosterone.
They really are trying to trans the gay gnc and lesbian gnc people away
Definitely love the actual facts are being used here, since I genuinely hate how often these get ignored to just push an a flimsy agenda.
It's not only flimsy but also dangerous.
What an amazing, insightful, intellectual, factual, well-researched and well-argued take! Love it!
Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed the video :)
@@KaiDecadence it is literally one of the best explanations of what is going on with the gender ideology out there! Totally book worthy. I am so happy I discovered you. Thank you for your work!
sounds great! can you post a link
I am about 4 minutes into the video and I agree completely that the brain sex argument is invalid. Unfortunately, academia is pushing the idea that brain sex is real, despite the lack of evidence, and like you said, despite small sample sizes being taken. This is especially concerning to me as an aspiring psychiatrist, that affirmation overrides the list of factors such as personality, mental state, the patient's background, societal/environmental expectations, etc. that should be taken into account before coming to a conclusion. In some states, psychologists and psychiatrists alike are not allowed to analyze the origin of the patient's gender dysphoria, otherwise they will be thrown into jail for... transphobia.
And that is what is so frustrating about this. How it's being used by the medical system (and public school education) that this stuff is indoctrinating people and the professionals cannot give a truthful diagnosis without risking their license/job.
Thats scary, jail? For figuring something out?
has anybody been sent to jail because of transphobia.
Hi Kai, i just want to say thank you for opening up my mind earlier. You may remember me debating with you on the Blair White video where i was saying we should make an exception for her. But as the months went on, one of my cousins who is a femine gay man fell trap to this gender ideology by his friends and even mom. Unfortunately he has gone down so far into that ideology that he plans on getting SRS soon. He also believes anyone that disagrees with him is a "transphobe". I myself am a gay man who use to be gender non-conforming when i was a pre-teen but grew out of it due to having more accepting parents than him and me just find differentways of expressing myself. I realize that me wanting to be "nice" was what led him to this path. I used to believe this woke ideology and thought that it would be easier if he was a woman becauseof how extremely feminine he looked. Boy was i wrong. Not speaking out is led to this mess. After watching this video in it's entirety after questioning whether or not I should still use preferred pronouns even if they pass and watching Megyn Kelly's preferred pronoun video. I realized this excessive coddling is what led to everyone being afraid of speaking out biological truth. To the point where anyone can get fired or expelled from school for saying this just because "misgendering" is an act of "violence".
This has put me in a tough spot because i am not sure what to say to him without sounding, "transphobic". Maybe sharing this video with him will help because you are the first femine gay man that i have seen(besides Jefree Star) who is publicly against this ideology.
The only gays that i have seen that are against gender ideology are super masculine and gender conforming. Unfortunately, many of them are unaware that they are partially responsible for pushing femine gays away. Many of them even make fun or taunt femine gays because most of the fem gays are woke.
Luckily i found a few youtube channels that speak out against this like Dangerous Rhetoric which is a podcost channel consisting of two gay men who have various guests speaking out against the trans cult. Though they are slightly conservative, they bring up many good questions and are open to any guest no matter how much of their opinions differ.
Anyway just wanted to thank you for opening my perspective and helping other GNC gays feel comfortable in their own bodies. We need more people like you.😊
Another reason I was so defensive about Blaire White and "true" trans people is because I got to know a fellow intern that was a "trans man" during my summer internship. She was nice and looked like a teenage boy. She didn't mention she was trans until I was talking about some of my conservative views and how children are getting HRT and puberty blockers too early. She then adnitted she is trans as I seemed to be saying "transphobic" things in front if her. So I apologized and learned to continue using her preferred pronouns. Everyone referred to her as a man. Nobody else knew she was really a woman except me. I guess she trusted me because though I had conservative views, she understood that I don't have hatred for anyone. I'm somewhat politically in the middle with some classical liberal views.
Because of her being nice and friendly with me and not a raging woke person, I felt conflicted during that time and obviously I didn't want to lose my internship. Also she was really nice and u didn't want to ruin the working relationship. I was trying to be nice instead of kind.
Anyways, I learned she came from a a family that was not accepting of her bisexuality and her gender non-conforming (GNC). So I guess she felt she could just become a boy. She actually admitted she hates being trans because of all the hormones she has to constantly take and knowing she can never truly be a man. That is why I defended people like her because her anatomy gives her the biggest discomfort unlike the AGPs and transtrenders who do it for popularity. But like you said, they are all mentally unwell and are struggling on the inside. They need actual therapy to learn how to be comfortable with their bodies and themselves.
Hey, glad the video helped in some way despite it's length. When talking about this, it was important that I was thorough covering everything I could because no one else had actually done a full-on analysis on the HSTS aspect and being the gender nonconforming gay man that I am, I figured I'd be perfect to get that started.
Yes, coddling the younger generation with this stuff is what also contibuted to this mess we're in now. It's no coincidence to me that you hardly ever see openly gender nonconforming gays and lesbians since many of them are being pushed into the trans and nonbinary ideologies believing that they aren't the sex that they are because of superficial and arbitrary stereotypes and enough is enough, it's time for push-back.
As for your cousin, I seriously hope he doesn't go through with the SRS, it's gonna bring nothing but nightmares for him when he realizes what he's done to himself. Tell him to check out RUclipsrs Shape Shifter, Ex Isle, and heck, even Karen Davis who go over about the realities of SRS. He's setting himself up for failure if he goes through with it, it never turns out good despite what the blind TRAs say (and lie). Ad sure, have him watch this video, it might help . In the meantime, try asking him why he feels like he's the opposite sex and see what he says.
@@fusionspaceart3690 I understand all of this, especially when it comes to job situations. In situations like that, it's more of a time and place type of thing but at the end of the day, this is not about politics or being "good" or "bad", it's about reality and indulging in the belief that one can change sex (or that it's possible) is just toxic rhetoric that leads many mentally compromised people down a path of self-destruction as the drugs (HRT) slowly poison the body and the "surgeries" rot the body from the inside out. As explained, excluding the fetishists, many of these people are just self-hating gays and lesbians (and some bisexuals) who are confused and don't realize what they are doing to themselves until it's too late. This is why speaking out is important and must happen to prevent furthermore of these atrocities and glorified eugenics. It's not about "good" or "bad", it's about principle and if it means having to be the "bad guy" that will help these people reconsider and think about what it is they want to do, so be it.
@fusionspaceart3690 But the "transgender" individual/intern you mentioned didn't hate their genitalia or biological sex. You said their family didn't accept their sexual orientation and gender non-conforming ways and so the intern decided to transition. That is a unusual reason to take dangerous hormones and have elective plastic surgery to look more like a biological male.
They literally did it so their family would be ok with the way they dressed and their sexual orientation and now they will have potentially life long medical problems. You don't see something unusual with the intern's rationale on this?
@@9395gb I do now and I didn't back then. She even told me that puberty was one of the worst things she could go through when I talked about why transing children is dangerous. I believe she met a woke crowd and they affirmed her early on. My guess is they manipulated her into thinking that sex and gender are two different things. I even told her if I had kids, I would accept them in any way even if they dressed in a gender nonconforming way. She still believed she would be trans if she was raised to be comfortable as a masculine woman.
Ahhh Welcome Back!!!!! Much needed video as a lesbian it's great too see. I've been quiet as I don't want to be seen as hateful. The brain sex is so insulting as for years people claimed that gay men are like women and lesbians are like men.
Most gay men are like straight men, masculine
i believe these two things two be different as while that was a theory for a long time, once neurology progressed it was proven false because we have the ability now to map the brain and see that it fundamentally is false. this also means we've been able to map the brain to find neurological differences between males and females, and have been able to see that a transgender person's brain has the neurological traits of the sex associated with their identified gender. basically, the gay = female brained and lesbian = male brained thing wasn't based in actual neurological differences because we didn't know what the differences were and instead the theory was based in societies bigoted notions of sexuality, whereas now we actually have science to back up the idea that transgender people's brains are more akin to their identities.
@@tisteatime didnt the video already adress why those studies werent good?
Dude, I stayed on this video listening the whole time while working at my job. I gotta say, you were very informative and spot on, because I quit supporting the trans ideology a year ago or two and I've been saying these things like you've said, but you've said it way better than I could with more facts. Thank you for coming out with this and I gotta say, I respect you more than ever before, because it's sad on what's going on with this world and how it's severely dividing people at this day and age.
No problem and I'm glad you enjoyed the video. It's just nice to finally have it out in the open because even though I peaked back in 2018, I made it a mission to do a video like this so i didn't have to keep typing out paragraphs explaining why I felt the way I did haha. Nonetheless, thanks again for watching!
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While I will always support trans people and such, I’m so glad someone brought up these issues ESPECIALLY the racism part! As a black woman, I have experienced these issues when dealing with trans people and trans activists. And it pisses me off still. Thanks for the vid!
>”While I always support trans people”
Why? That’s like saying “While I always support alcoholics” or “While I always support self harmers”
I do hope with time you'll come to understand that you can support gender nonconforming people for who they actually are (not being "trans" because well.. It's not a thing) but I'm glad you still enjoyed the video :)
@@Orange-ut5rk If you think it's okay to mutilate unborn babies, what right do you have to dictate that adults can't have hormones? It's called bodily autonomy.
I come back to this video a lot and I wanted to say my experience and my story as a detransisioner
Hi I'm Nour I was a trans male at one point of my life I went by Eddy they/he and I transitioned by wearing different clothes having my hair shorter and socially transitioning. I was trans for around 5-8 months and then I realized how horrible I felt. I binded and wanted Top surgery and I was at the lowest point of my life. I had an identity crisis every day, I was always mad and I just lost myself completely. I only transitioned because I hated myself and I didn't want to be me. I'm a lesbian and I have had a hard time coping with me being a lesbian. I have a mental disability (adhd, anxiety, depression, ptsd) and I saw people glamorizing being trans and how it's a way to feel joy. When I look masculine now I literally get gender dysphoria because it triggers the time I was trans.
I'm now trying to detransision mentally and deal with my triggers of looking masculine.
Hey there, I'm happy to hear that you found your way back to reality but I understand the difficulty of working through the cognitive dissonance. If I can recommend a channel that I feel might help, check out GNC Centric, I think her content might help because she went through a similar thing.
> www.youtube.com/@GNCCentric/videos
@@KaiDecadence thank you so much Kai
This video is a breath of fresh air. I wish more people thought critically like you do!
Thanks!
Wow, all the research you did for this video is fantastic. This honestly needs more views, for those who not only believe in this ideology, but for those who believe in the true trans narrative. Thank you for putting yourself out here and for being authentically you ❤
Great video. You may want to read "Homosexualities" by Stephen Murray, Kai. He talks about the "third gender" males. In the past, non-Western families pushed these boys into that category for many bad reasons.
One of the reasons was they were deemed too dreamy and too artistic for training men's occupations (war, heavy work, construction, hunt, etc.). Also, older women would give them girls' names, dress them in girls' clothes with girls' hairstyles, etc.. It was like a social transition in my opinion.
When they grew up they would seek (and be sought by) many masculine men as sexual partners in civilizations where heterosexual extramarital sex was forbidden. But since they obviously could not birth kids, there was not such thing as marriage for them. What is interesting is that they had no gender dysphoria whatsoever.
"Gender dysphoria" seems to be a modern medical construction that came with the availability of exogenous hormones and transsexual medicine.
I think many of these men would stop identifying as a "third gender" these days. Humans are living longer than we ever did. You can't possibly limit yourself for more than 30 years to a social identity group that will give you no long-term relationships.
I'll add that book to my list, it sounds interesting.
I honestly agree. While I do think who you are s*xual orientation is at least somewhat biological, masculine and feminine personality traits are not.
I think as a society we need to realize that “masculine” and “feminine” do not exist in material reality and their meanings are determined by society and time.
For example, long hair used to be an androgynous thing with it being common for both men and women to have their hair long. But, due to social shifts in what’s socially acceptable long hairstyles are mostly worn by women, so we classify long hair as feminine in western society in current time. But go back a few hundred years or go to another part of the world and it’s a different story.
We as a culture just need to realize that masculinity and femininity isn’t real. It’s just descriptors we use to help us communicate how a person acts. These words don’t have any bearing on material reality unlike “man” and “woman” which is why s*x is the only thing that should matter because no matter the time period, culture, how you individually were raised or born, male and female will always be an observable biological reality.
oh my god!! Can’t believe I didn’t get the notification.😢 I’m so excited to watch this (been waiting for it FOREVER!) just commenting to boost the algorithm 😃
Haha thanks and yep, finally finished and it only took like 2 years lol
100% truth. As someone who lived as a transwoman for years before detransitioning, the basis for my identity as a girl stemmed from past trauma, internalized homophobia, stereotypes and generalizations.
Ironically, I came across your video on a trans forum where some were arguing that you must be trans-in-denial because you have an avatar with a "female fat distribution." That mentality shows how regressive trans ideology is: "if you're a man who likes looking at all feminine, then you're actually a transwoman."
I'm a biological male who's 5'4",
I guess I shouldn't be surprised that my video is probably being posted in trans forums since it's one of the most comprehensive ones out thee but yeah, the way it's being perceived thinking I'm "trans indenial" is just a cope on their end. It's okay to be a feminine man and a masculine woman and hopefully with time, they will understand that.
Just finished watching. Loved the video. Thank you very much!
Thanks!
I've been watching your content for a few years now (via your gaming channel) and it was honestly refreshing to hear that you're gender critical. I would also bring up the idea of ROGD (Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria, coined by Lisa Littman) because of the 4000% increase of young girls being transitioned and having their healthy breasts removed. It is particularly harrowing to me as an autistic woman because many of these young girls have or had undiagnosed autism (which is another issue in itself), especially since I've had a 'boy' phase which wasn't genuine in the slightest and was instigated by grooming. I pushed my closest friends away and had a lot of internalised misogyny, it obviously didn't help that I was told stuff like how cleavage was 'disgusting' and I felt like I had to hide it. Nowadays, I'm completely happy the way I am with all my essential body parts intact.
I think it's also refreshing to come across gender critical people in fandoms because the main reason I left most of them is due to this trans pipeline. Even in the fandoms I do inhibit, it's still difficult to find people to interact with. Not too long ago, I was blocked by somebody on Twitter (and left afterwards because Twitter's not real lol) because I expressed my gender critical views. In that Tweet, I compared gender ideology to the pro-ana movement because both have Tumblr origins and both encourage self-destructive behaviours, but the difference was that pro-ana wasn't condoned (rightfully so).
If any adult wants to identify as whatever, then they can - they can't demand others to play along though. Nobody's entitled to respect, everyone should be held to the same standards, and everyone has the right to exercise their freedom of judgement.
Same here, regarding fandom spaces. I used to be in various fandoms but quit Twitter+Tumblr about 3 yrs ago due to the sheer amount of TRAs I would encounter online. It's mainly autistic women who are ensnared into gender ideology... hell, if I had to make an estimate, about 90% of my (past) online friends were some flavor of trans-- and what was the common denominator between all of them? They were all autistic women. I really don't think it's worth it having to weed through Twitter and Tumblr accounts to find at least one person who is critical of gender ideology. Literal needle(s) in a haystack.
Comparing the gender ideology to the pro-ana movement is such an interesting way of looking at it! But yeah it does make sense.. yikes
@@vikkistar3104 If they invade women's spaces and force gay people to sleep with them then yes.
This needs to go viral!
We shall see what happens
I agree!! It's one of the most thorough videos on this subject. And I really appreciate Kai sharing his experience as a feminine, GNC gay man and what's behind HSTS wanting to be women. Even as someone who has been researching this topic for years I learned something new! Kai's analysis of Blaire White too...wow...I've been watching his videos and had appreciated his change in tone in recent years (from the super 'anti feminist' and quite sexist videos initially, to being more in defense of women's rights), but at the end of the day, Kai is totally correct. We really NEED more LGB people, especially gay men, speaking out on this topic.
@@aquarius1986 I'm glad that the video helped give you some new information because yeah, I too noticed the lack of analysis on HSTS in comparison to the AGP and I felt that someone like myself was the right kind of person to shed light on this aspect of transgender ideology. I don't think the video will go viral because of how long it is. Not many people willing to watch an hour+ long video but I have no regrets with this decision because you simply cannot talk about this subject in under 10 minutes and I wanted to be as thorough as I possibly.
That said I do hope that more LGB people will speak out against this ideology and do so with no pretenses.
Got recommended this by my sister, and as a male who used to love long hair and wearing dresses. I remember how hard it was having to stop when I grew older because of society pushing against me. I wish I could still do it, but I developed such bad social anxiety that even in my own home I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this. Since I have such a masculine and conservative christian father.
I can understand the hesitance, especially if you have a controlling parental figure but I mean, assuming you live on your own, your father doesn't have to see it in the privacy of your own home if you're that concerned about what he'll think.
Nightgowns/dresses are great. You don’t have to deprive yourself in your own home. You are free to dress as you wish. You’re still masculine. You just like comfortable clothing.
Wow 16:30 You were describing my own experience in this mess. (I am male, but gender non conforming and straight. So I break the stereotype that males don't wear makeup, have long hair, or wear makeup, and that such boys that do such are gay. (I have never been interested in men).
Yeah I knew it was something worth mentioning
Prince, Rick James, Steven Tyler, Trent Reznor, Johnny Depp, Marilyn Manson, Dennis Rodman etc The 80s and 90s this was a thing and never an issue. Most of these guys were considered artsy or creative types.
Not sure how it got to the point were it has been conflated with clinically diagnosed gender dysphoria, which is a psychiatric disorder.
@@9395gb and one that is over diagnosed too.
It's nice that people are talking about "HSTS" because 8 times out of 10 people talk about AGP and nobody else when they talk about transsexual males. It seems that some people don't even care about adult homosexual people transing out (more so if they are very GNC).
I'm a gay man who likes doing many, many things straight guys like and I don't even think I rejected pre-HSTS before they rejected men like me. I think they rejected us first. Why? Because HSTS (and some feminine gay men) tend to not even believe there is a type of gay man that is relatively masculine.
But perhaps calling out gay men's level of masculinity or gay men's "cishood" (hate that term) into question is HSTS' way to punch the community of people who accept the sexual orientation of which they hate being?
I think Blaire is obviously a self-hating gay man but, somehow, I don't feel he's particularly homophobic. His best friend is another gay man, JC Monduix, and JC apparently takes sh1t from no one. From what I've heard from people that have known them both, he would not hang around with Blaire if Blaire was spilling hateful things about the gayz.
Yeah AgP/Autogynephila has been covered quite a bit so I figured as a gay man, a gay man who is also feminine and nonconforming could help shine some light on the other part of trans ideology involving HSTS.
I'm not sure what you mean by "before they rejected men like me"? And just so we're clear, HSTS are still feminine gay men, they're not women or any variant of one at all.
And nah, I don't think Blaire is homophobic, his homophobia is internalized, especially when you learn about his upbringing what with his family on his father's side being super conservative traditionalist and had been disapproving of Blaire since he was a pre-teen.
would you be attracted to a pre op trans woman physically if they identified as a man? are you into the look of that romantically?
@@principality543 No. What I'm saying is that there are gay guys who are physically transitioning to have sex with a different type of men. These guys don't want to have sex with gay men and that's one of the reasons they are transitioning, in my view.
BABE WAKE UP KAI FINALLY POSTED HIS GENDER CRITICAL VIDEO
And it only took 2 years haha
Yep and I'm doxing all terfs behind your back I got your Facebook page you better watch yourself
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Copying the secondary characteristics of people of the opposite sex is trying to be seen as something you are not. That is *deceiving* . Women didn't let us know they are women by saying it. We looked at their secondary characteristics and we knew it. Their secondary characteristics informed their sex.
People always knew this way of informing sex and now some are trying to use it to give a false impression of themselves. Saying you are a male is at odds with trying to look like a female and vice versa. Nobody would accept a white man trying to look like a black man, but many are ok with a male trying to look like a female.
Looking like a female doesn't involve clothes and makeup, of course. I'm talking about secondary sex characteristic or copies of them.
Which I still think is the biggest argument against transgenderism and nobody is really using it.
FOUND IT YALL-
The argument is swinging right back to conservative logic and taking peoples rights away and imposing the same bs that every should force themselves to look like their stereotypical gender regardless how they look naturally.
Alot of the gender critical people are uncomfy with trans with or without surgery being passable and attractive and it freaks them out secretly so they advocate for shit like this.
See this is where these gender critical people are trying to push the argument further.
Males can be naturally feminine and look just like women naturally. I look just the females in my family. I’m not trying to be anything I’m not. I’ve seen males have the same secondary sex characteristics as women all the time including breasts.
And even if they don’t- I and most people believe in bodily autonomy and that people can do whatever they want with their bodies. Even extreme things. At what point do you start to be authoritarian?
@@erica111b how does this make any sense? Males can look just females and be naturally beautiful and feminine even after puberty so your main argument is basically saying that people shouldnt be allowed to change their own body and if they are naturally fem they should force themselves to look and dress as a stereotypical image of their gender. That is straight BS…
And all this and a video of Kai who doesnt even look like a stereotypical man how ironic….It’s in direct clash with the video creators aesthetic.
You people are sick in the head trying to control people.
@@principality543 You can dress however you like, but you should not take hormones to pass as something you are not. People that try to pass as something they are not should be shamed. It's like lying.
And why do you hate gay men SO MUCH that you want to destroy their images with surgeries and hormones?
By "image of gay men" I mean "gay men looking what their DNAs are coded for them to look, even if they do women's things"
it's decieving in the same way taht someone dyeing their hair a different colour is decieving to society. if soemone who was born a brunette changes their hair to blonde, are they technically decieving society?
Great job on breaking down this baseless ideologically it's disturbing that these people are obsessed with being something that are not only they risk own health but risk the health and safety of children to prove a ideologically that's is not real as gay man myself I question this ideologically 11 years ago when I was 16 I'm 27 now
Thanks and yeah, it really goes to show when you actually think critically, the whole ideology falls apart and makes no sense and can even be life destroying health-wise.
@@KaiDecadence agree trans ideology have done nothing but negative impact society regarding women and children as well as gay and lesbians
Thank you for sharing! I am also goth and bisexual and wholeheartedly agree with your analysis.
Thanks! And it's always nice to find more goths who don't buy into this ideology
Yes, it's almost as if being goth means you are tied to this delusional ideology which is definitely not the case. People should not be made to feel bad or ashamed for what they believe in as long as it's not hurting anyone! And I would say the trans ideology has DEFINITELY become harmful especially to young people, a lot of them alternative, who just want to fit in somewhere.
I would say is in short form in my age older than 40: Dont lose yourself in the inside, and the outside, and stay to yourself, what you be, want and feel. And thats more important, when there is more and more and so much in the outside that wants and feels for you.
Good that you talk about social constructed stereotypes. Good arguments about what men ore women can do, be interested, ore look like.... and social presure pro ore contra aspects.
How is it your business if someone transitions?
@@inkrahek3802 because maybe they are cng instead of being trans.
Great rundown. The homophobia of it all is really stark and depressing.
Yep, it's one of the underbellies of the trans-ideology.
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I hope you enjoy the video! And to anyone who sees Shape Shifter's comment, CHECK OUT HIS CHANNEL, it's very informative.
You know you would never have detransitioned if your SRS hadn't been botched. I'm sorry for you, but that is not the reality of most primary transsexuals.
Also, you're not that passable. You could never be tricking men into sex as you planned. You transitioned for the wrong reasons, baby.
If you're going to fully embrace the LGB community, start by looking like a gay man again... oops, then you boyfriend would leave you, right?
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I hate when people attack him, he was being understanding and clear about why some people think the way they do
I think if you listen to people out there, very few take a black and white position on sex and gender. This guy downright denies that transgenderism is a thing. I can't fathom how anyone can go against what even the medical community says.
@user-kk2pc7ik7t you bet your behind that i don't support trans ideology and have no problem calling out how mindless it all is. The simple fact of the matter is this; human beings cannot change sex, biological sex in the human species is immutable and cannot change, humans are sexual dimorphic. And that objective fact shuts down the belief of trans ideology,, especially when you realize that it falls back on arbitrary, shallow stereotypes to operate.
You finally post it ♥️
I've never heard of "corrective rape." What an awful thing to do to someone. How can someone think that is ethically ok to perform? How does someone even get an erection to go through with that?? (I think I know the answer...it's probably about some sick power fantasy). You can't "cure" someone by traumatizing them against their will and creating more problems for them.
Anyway, this was a fantastic video, and I sat through EVERY minute of it. I don't know why I thought you just now released it. Apparently, you published this 3 months ago LOL. This video is a necessary addition to help combat the BS mainstream narrative.
You pretty much got it, these sick men who do the corrective r@pe more than likely get off on the power and control and that is what gets them going to do such a heinous thing.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video and yeah, I published it a few months ago so it's been up awhile now but hey, it's never too late to watch. :)
Man, respect for your really thorough smart breakdown of the whole topic.
A non gender conforming male here: i was always so disappointed by other gay people who wanted to perpetuate the weird power relations between men and women within same sex relationships. I naively thought gay people at least could treat each other as equals.
Thank you
thank you so much for this informative video! i have been recently following gender critical and radical feminists spaces but this vid has put everything together so nicely.
Thanks a lot, I'm glad you enjoyed it!
First of all. "Glad to see you back! I missed you"
I was not expecting this video but, coming from an art school, the subject became a real struggle to adress.
Very well put video. Hope to see you more often.
Thank you. It's definitely not an easy thing to talk about but at this point in time, enough is enough and it's time to speak out, at least the way I see it anyway.
• 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐌𝐚𝐭𝐭 𝐖𝐚𝐥𝐬𝐡? (𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬)
- I first caught wind of Matt when he went on Dr Phil and debated against two TRAs and I thought it was great to see someone debating TRAs in person on national television and showcasing how ridiculous transgender ideology really is when the two of them refused to define what a woman is and were using meaningless circular definition. So my first impressions of him were generally positive.
However I did learn a little more about him and how he is a staunch traditionalist conservative and the views he holds on homosexuality and women's rights. With homosexuality while he hasn't outright stated this, it's pretty clear that he more than likely finds it objectionable. I also find his commentary on gay representation in media overreacting. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those people who thinks "all representation is good representation" and a lot of gay & lesbian characters tend to be written quite poorly in my opinion, however I don't think the concept of having a gay or lesbian character existing in a show is automatically "woke" or "pushing a gay agenda" (just write them as characters, not talk-pieces please lol). And I just have a feeling that he thinks gender nonconformity, especially with men, is immoral and that he's one of those people who thinks that socially constructed stereotypes do define men and women and should never be broken.
And with women's rights, I disagree with him on abortion and he clearly uses "liberal feminism" (not real feminism) to define and describe actual feminism (women's rights & liberation). From what I've seen on his channel, he only makes videos on "liberal feminists" which again is not true feminism (considering they push for "trans rights" = the rights of trans-identified men access to woman/girls only spaces). But even with that in mind, he does come across as someone who really dislikes women who speak their mind and don't conform to traditional "woman's roles" in society.
The biggest thing that showed me how disingenuous he is though is when he did his "What Is A Woman?" documentary and how in it, he made sure to NOT include gender critical feminists and it was clear that he was trying to spin the narrative that ALL feminists (and leftists in general) are in total support for trans ideology and that to me was just totally manipulative, especially since radical feminists and gender critical feminists have been speaking out against transgender ideology for decades.
In short, I don't like Matt Walsh and I think he's a manipulative man. He's also part of the reason why I decided to come out with my stance on trans ideology because I wanted to show that not everyone who is against trans ideology is a conservative which seems to be the ongoing argument that many TRAs make to manipulate leftists into supporting and advocating for their misogynistic and homophobic "cause".
@@ittsX I don't agree with a lot of what the DailyWire posts. The only thing that I agree with is whe they expose stories involving the trans cult that mainstream media ignores and pretends doesn't exist. But that's as far as it goes for me personally.
Thank you for this! As an old middle aged Goth who was a baby bat back in the late eighties, I hate the modern trans movement. Back in the day sexuality, gender, fashion, it was all so free and fluid and transgressive! I look at ‘da kids’ nowadays and it’s like they all have forgotten what fun is! Everything has to be some political statement or backed up with some science or healing some trauma! Do none of these modern ‘trans’ types even remember how to have fun anymore? They are obsessed with forcing their beliefs on normies, who gives a shit what the normies think? I loved being underground, in the shadows, the hidden children of the Goddess lol! These lost kids need to get off Tik tok, stop whining about politics and science and just go out into the night and be queer or whatever the hell they want to be! Leave the normies alone!
I do agree with this but the reason why these kids are being insufferable is because they're trying to push things into legislature with the older TRAs and we're seeing the consequences of this what with the women sports, prisons, and shelters situation.If these people just stayed in their lane, there really wouldn't be as much issue.
@@KaiDecadencetrans women ( feminine men how you call) do not deserve to stay with straight men in prisons. Women won t be killed or raped by men, but trans women would
41:45 this is such a good point, in a sea of other good points you made. I really appreciate this video Kai, every voice speaking out against this is so important! And it’s not an easy thing to do nowadays, so I really applaud your bravery! I’m glad you took the time to point out the racism within trans ideology as well, it’s a key part, along with the rampant misogyny and lesbophobia/homophobia, of what makes the gender cult so toxic and harmful.
I'm glad you enjoyed the video, thanks! And yeah I especially had to include the racist aspects because I was unaware of it and how bad it was until I looked into more of it last year. Absolutely appalling.
So being transgender is racist now too? Care to back that up? By that logic, being gay is also racist, because I think think of a huge amount racism in gay spaces, along with misogyny. Being trans and 'trans ideology' aren't the same thing.
@@RiddelV Dude we said it was an aspect within the ideology, not the only thing about it. And hate to break it to you but "trans" centers around the ideology hence why it's called "trans ideology" and even if a trans-identifying person doesn't join in with TRAs, they still believe in the same (ridiculous) concept that is that they can change their sex.
Thanks for taking the time to share your experience. There is more diversity in thought on these issues in the LGBT community than many people realize. GNC people are now being marketed to by pharmaceutical companies - it seems like a lot of pressure. They are also being “othered” - told that they are outside the sex binary if they don’t conform. It’s a challenging culture and I appreciate you sharing your perspective.
Yes that is pretty much what is going on. If I had a dollar for every person that told me I am "trans but in denial", I'd be pretty rich but I'm not, and no one else is either no matter how desperately they want to believe it.
@KaiDecadence as a trans guy i am really sorry about presumably other trans people telling you you're trans but in denial, the whole thing that especially younger trans people have created around being trans in denial/"egg" culture is really fucking disappointing amd detrimental to the trans community (both to the members since it also ends up causing trans people to push gnc trans people out of the community as posers/"trenders" and the to the perception of the community and people's opinions of it) and the gnc community, and i'm hoping this culture goes away
@@tisteatimedamn didint know its this bad
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Excellent analysis Kai
Thanks!
I’m a gay man and I agree with you 100%. Excellent review of the trans phenomenon.
Also, is the sound effect at 37:28 from Spyro?
Thanks and yep, that sfx is from Spyro the Dragon haha.
@@KaiDecadence I knew it! That game was my childhood
Brilliant dissection of this ridiculous ideology, bravo you beautiful person!
Thanks!
Honestly at first I wasn’t going to agree with this but decided to watch the video before commenting…ngl it really made me question what it actually means for someone to be transgender. Like…what does it mean to “feel like a woman” or to “feel like a man”. It all does feel like a social construct. When I was younger I’ve had moments in my life where I wish I was a man.That maybe I was trans because of certain things I leaned into. Growing up I was a tomboy and often felt like I was disconnected with woman. I thought that maybe because I didn’t connect with feminine things that meant that I wasn’t a girl. Many years later I realize that a lot of it had to do with how our society still clings to gender roles and stereotypes. I’m still not sure how I feel about this but I really appreciate this video. You made a lot of very good points. Thank you!
Going off what you said, I suspect that the reason why you didn't "feel like a woman" is because you didn't meet much of any other women in your personal life who were gender nonconforming. Femininity is pushed onto girls, it's part of the arbitrary socialization I mentioned in the video ("girls have to do this and that", "boys have to do this and that"). I'm not sure how old you are but if you're around my age or older, I'm sure you may have realized that seeing gender nonconforming kids was not very common and this only intensified the alienation of feeling like some sort of anomaly because you had no interest in conforming to femininity (wearing dresses, having long hair, maybe even shaving, etc). And because you may have connected more with boys because we aren't socialized into femininity, it made you feel more relatable to boys than girls because you hardly met girls who were like you who weren't concerned about practicing femininity.
I mean the internet has brought a lot of people together and I'm gonna assume you've some across more GNC women. How does that make you feel? Do you feel less alone when you meet other women who are not about practicing femininity?
I still remember having this odd dream where I saw myself as a man and I liking it. It took me a while for me to realize that I was once a man in my past life, and *not* because of my gender identity.
I know it has nothing to do with this discussion, but I felt so confused about my dream. You've explained these biggest issues so well, cause I feel like the "trans" community and their ideology has gotten worse than before, or even toxic.
As someone whose an autistic feminine black woman, I'd rather be true to myself, than to live up with social expectations.
Well at least you know your reality even if you had that dream and that is good and will save you from ruining your body and health for an unobtainable goal.
Haven't watched the full video yet (I'm about 20 mins in) but your bravery in putting this out there is very admirable and your points are well-made. It's great to get the voices of gender-nonconforming men in this discussion, I've noticed more and more of us speaking out lately.
First, Kai, same-sex attracted men are attracted to femininity too. I would gladly date a nurse, a primary teacher, a painter, a florist, etc. I am a homosexual man, so i am attracted to the normal range of (adult) male expression they do via fashion, activities, and so on. Very often so called "feminine gay" men are more interested in attracting bisexual than masculine homosexual men. That's why they crossdress and pose like Kardashians to the mirror, and so on.
Also, I could bet the group of "feminine gay" men has higher prevalence of promiscuity, drug abuse, non-monogamous behavior, support for trans and queer ideologies, misogyny, superficially, limiting beliefs, attention-seeking behavior, and p3dophilia. This group tend to believe men not attracted to women are either women themselves or something else than men. And that these men should be shamed as "performers" when we reject the "gay" male culture.
It takes HSTS to decide not to transition. Nobody should babysit them or promise them sex. I'm more worried about protecting women and kids (like you are) than making peace with drag queens.
>𝐅𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭, 𝐊𝐚𝐢, 𝐬𝐚𝐦𝐞-𝐬𝐞𝐱 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐭𝐨𝐨. 𝐈 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐠𝐥𝐚𝐝𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚 𝐧𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞, 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐫, 𝐚 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫, 𝐚 𝐟𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐭, 𝐞𝐭𝐜. 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐚 𝐡𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐚𝐧, 𝐬𝐨 𝐢 𝐚𝐦 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥 𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐟 (𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭) 𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐯𝐢𝐚 𝐟𝐚𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐨𝐧.
- I notice you mentioned jobs that are stereotyped as feminine but I'm talking gender nonconforming in the appearance sense. I still don't believe most gay men are attracted to femininity (The whole "no fems" thing has been a mantra in gay dating ever since online dating became a thing) but I was especially pointing towards the gay men who don't make the effort to look masculine neither. Long hair, makeup, blouses, dresses, etc. (And it not being done in some fetishistic way neither). That's more where I was getting at when I said that most gay men are not attracted to that level of gender nonconformity in men.
>𝐕𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 "𝐟𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐠𝐚𝐲" 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐡𝐨𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐱𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐞𝐧. 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭'𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐜𝐫𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐊𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐚𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐫, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨 𝐨𝐧.
- Maybe for some, particularly the ones that try to look like sex dolls or Kim Kardashian types but that's not true for many in the sense of why some men like to dress femininely, it certainly isn't for me. Some of us just simply like to experiment and feel more likeness in more feminine style without being about getting male attention, especially when most gay men aren't into it anyway because most masculine gay men are not attracted to gender nonconforming feminine men.
@@KaiDecadence Language never really captures what we think and feel about other people. Our concepts of what "femininity" is are very different. Montgomery Clift was a gay man who did not need to mimic female mannerisms or fashion to be feminine. He spoke very softly and was very emotional and caring. Empathy and an inability of disconnecting from people's feelings are femininity, in my opinion. Still, Most people attracted to men would be attracted to Montgomery Clift. Sure, Montgomery's beauty increased his attractiveness but I know lots and lots of gay men who are not as beautiful and are as interesting as he was.
Many self-identified "femmes" are the opposite in my opinion. They are loud, obnoxious, dominant, and superficial. They are more masculine than Montgomery Clift was in many ways. Their looks are highly pornified, shocking or too excentric. They dislike masculine gay men and don't respect any gender conformity in us. They just cannot see there's a whole world beyond gay male culture, straight men, pop music, women's clothes, cultish speech patterns, cultish terms ("slay", "yas, queen", etc.).
Nobody should transition, but if an adult does, that's exclusively their decision (and their doctors'). Campy dudes must develop language to explain that manhood includes their gender dissonance. Even then, gay men will probably not be attracted to them if they act swishy for deep seated psychological reasons and that's ok. No one owes others sex.
@@truthtellingtiki u sound femmephobic as fuck…. like the delusions are insane. Not all femmes are catty bitchy nasty stereotypical queenz. You can be physically femme and a good empathetic person.
Also if someone wants to chnage their look to be more stereotypically feminine then they can. Thats basic bodily and social autonomy but i knew yall would be pushing this argument further towards this idea that “men should stay stereotypically men and women the same” So predictable
@@supremelymontgomeryclift3453 Supporting women and girls and their right to keep their spaces free of men is a priority for me and that's just the way it is. And sure, straight men can be assholes to men who aren't masculine but that's not the fault of women, men should stop treating each other like crap. In short it's a men's issue, not a women's issue and it's stupid to blame them for a problem that the class of men have created for ourselves.
@@KaiDecadenceYou're awesome ❤
I think we should direct our attention to educating people about gender non-conformity and be more accepting of this instead of doubling down into stereotypes just so people don't get offended. I still accept transgender people, but I think a lot of the trans ideology is rooted in misogyny and homophobia as you said.
I agree. What we need is more acceptance and understanding with gender nonconforming men and women which we were slowly making progress with in the 1980s but then the trans nonsense went completely mainstream in the late 20000s and exploded into madness in the 2010s backtracking all the progress we were making prior. In order to see true progress, we need to stop validating trans ideology or at the very least, get it the hell out of legislation and the public school education (get rid of the "gender unicorn" and/or "genderbread" person).
gender non-conformity is disgusting and unnatural, women and men act in mostly set or expected ways, and whoever doesn't align with that is a naturally undesirable individual. THESE ARE NOT "sexist" stereotypes, these are the characteristics that have been good and desirable for society since humans could be called humans.
That's why I kinda see mome merit in trans ideology than people who look like this Kai dude who expect that society accepts that this is how a man should look and behave.
@@Marceelinho09 Then you're apart of the problem if you think it's wrong to not conform to stereotypes if one doesn't want to.
This was so well done and needed to be said! All the points you made were so accurate. I think it's amazing that you're brave enough to speak on this topic. I 100% agree.
Thanks a lot!
Thank you Kai for being a real man and standing up for us women . 🙏
The problem I have with the research is that most of the studies do not control for sexual orientation, even though it's such an obvious predictor of cross-gender conformities. The other problem is how Westerncentric/insular the studies are. For instance, "gender dysphoria" doesn't even exist outside the West, & science uses "GD" & "transgender identity" synonymously.
The concept of gender identity within American psychology was coined by Robert Stoller, who studied children with a supposed cross-gender identity. Along with Money, they both believed these children to have a type of intersex condition, which "normalising" surgeries were meant to be the treatment for. Stoller admits in his book on the subject (the same book that American, 2nd wave feminists adopted the "sex & gender are different" quote from) that all the children he studied were exclusively same-sex attracted, i.e. gay. It's this continued refusal to acknowledge the role of homosexuality that produces this concept of "transgender identity" as separate from its homosexual roots. It seems, "transgender" is the last "intersex condition" still treated the old fashioned way.
At the same time, gender identity (possibly called "sex-identity" at the time) was also coined by Lawrence Kohlberg, within developmental psychology. This concept is basically the sociological view: gendered socialisation leads to a gendered identity, meaning, a cross-gender identity would have to be the result of a cross-gendered socialisation - like in the case of CAIS. The gendered behavioural trends among male & female trans-identified people are concordant with their socialisation, & discordant with their identification, e.g. in crime.
33:18 - 33:20 In other cultures "gay" is a noun, which is why it may seem homophobic to us when these cultures emphasise the "gay" part, over the "man" part, when describing a gay man. Interestingly, some of them use a similar word for non-GNC gay men (there are the two different variations on the word "muxe", for instance, one for the "masculine" ones & another for the "feminine" ones).
TRAs should consider the following:
• Non-Western cultures are more tolerant of "trans people"
• "Transgender" populations outside the West are homosexual & male
• None of these homosexual males are called “women” in their respective languages
In practical terms, that means: if you’re not homosexual & male, you’re not "transgender", & if you *are* transgender, you are not a woman.
"Black women are women" is a tautology. A comprehensive statement is: black women are women of African descent. Other comprehensive statements of fact include: women are adult human females, transwomen are adult human males who want to be adult human females.
"ignoring trans-identified females" just proves that feminists are not "trans-exclusionary", but "male-exclusionary" (which is kind of the point of SINGLE-sex spaces).
If the detransition rate is "too low" to justify reconsidering transition as the only option, then the much lower trans suicide rate cannot be used to justify transition as the only option.
The suicide ideation rate among trans teens is the same as the one among gay teens - the majority of the former desist & realise that they were gay all along, meaning the "trans suicide rate" is just another hijacked gay issue.
Exactly. The fact that these studies don't take into account sexual orientatio (especially among other factors that I mentioned in the video), the "Studies" are meaningless because they just skip right over it when it's been shown that homosexuality can cause certain developmental structures of the brain.
No. Most gay men consider themselves men. Why would we not? Trans people are attracted to the opposite-sex mostly, and a lot of societies don’t have such dim witted terminology for homosexuals. In the past in Europe the term sodomite was often used for example but they were not seen as ‘trans’ and even Blanchard acknowledged there were TWO types of trans indentified males and autogynophiles are one type. You’re just swapping one dumb social idea for another. What about feminine straight men who don’t consider themselves manly or want to be women? You’re encouraging bullshit and spreading the myth that there is a direct correlation between GNC/trans and same-sex attraction which there isn’t. Most same-sex attracted people aren’t GNC and a lot of GNC ‘gay men’ like Tommy Dawrfman only adopt the label gay as a social identity and means of fitting in and later realise it doesn’t suit them. I have never thought I was anything other than male and don’t give a fuck about what some clown thinks about that. And masculine homosexual males married to women who identify as straight would be in for a rude awakening if they sought GNC males in such societies for sex as most are repulsed by men lmao
Thank you, thank you very much for this analysis so complete and brilliant, Kai! It’s nice not to feel alone
Thank you!
This video should have more views than it does !
Thanks lol
This video PERFECTLY describes everything I've thought about revolving around this baseless and ridiculous ideology. Thanks for your excellent analysis, Kai.
Thanks a lot. It really is ridiculous when you sit and actually analyze what the ideology really endorses and it's just rotten and diabolical at it's core as it hurts many people.
Found you in magdalens comment sec! Great vid!
Thanks!
37:34 That’s a perfect point Kai Decadence. You can be a male and wear dresses and heels.
do a video on elliot/ellen page
Think you so much Kai. You're beautiful, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I admire your bravery in being feminine in a world where femininity is despised. Protecting women and kids is also part of femininity. You do that, my boy.
Thank you and yes, it's just totally unfair what is happening to women and children with this dangerous ideology and I just wish more people would look into it to see the truth.
@@KaiDecadenceyou are gay and feminine, but mock down trans women...
@@Sheshini No such thing as a "transwoman", these are trans-identifying men. And if me stating biological reality is "mocking" and calling out the (many) problems that come from wrong sex hormones and egregious genital mutilations disguised as "surgery" is "mocking", so be it.
@@KaiDecadence if these men want a surgery, what is the problem?
@@Sheshini If these men want to mutilate their genitals and suffer from necrosis and potentially die from it, they have every right to do that no matter how horrifically crazy it is. However, they should understand that mutilating their genitals does not make them any kind of woman.
I wish you could talk about trans men more. Most of the video is about trans women or you mentioned autogynephilia but not autoandrophilia
The main reason why I didn't talk about trans-identifying women ("transmen") as much is because at the time I felt it wouldn't be right if I did and that it would be better to hear about their experiences from a woman which is why I linked to GNC Centric and Waffling Willow, two women who do lots of videos cover the "transman" side of the discussion while using their own experiences and observations.
Considering that Kai is a man, he probably has greater insight into the male side of things and thus can speak more thoroughly on it. But I do agree that trans-identifying women need to be discussed more because holy hell, this population of people can be quite deranged. As I unfortunately found out on tumblr.
U are actually not wrong Kai becauze, I begin to feel theze thingz are wrong to. I never waz born to be attracted to tranzwomen...uzed to be attracted but now that reality dawnz on me...I don't like it anymore.
I realize that I will alwayz only be attracted to women...even though I prefer to be androgynous. I only like femalez...not none femalez.
I'm not a lesbian per say, I prefer to not really label myself when it vomes to sexuality, but if you want to go with the whole LBGTQIA+ logic, I am basically bisexual, tho itd that or taking the "no label" flag wich doesn't make any fucking sense to me one bit lmao
As a teen I definitely belived for a while I was a lesbian, forced myself for a while to be straight, was groomed by older men (and women) online, wich probably put me in a even more vulnerable position.
As I child I loved dolls, and dresses, and princesses, for a bit I was interested in makeup, I also loved action figures, and wolfs, and toy cars and played a lot of "girly" ds games while also loving more "violent male" video games lol I loved motocycles too. For a while wanted to be a ballerina and a bit older I wanted to be a rapper...as in a more "male rapper" despite beign a girl lmao
I have allways been both very feminine and a bit of tomboy at the same time! I'm recently as of now getting into makeup actually, and love multiple of femenine, tomboyish or even androgynous fashion in general! :3
My up bringing wasn't good one bit..I basically have mommy issues, daddy issues and even sibling and step parent issues lol
There were a few times were I was bullied because of my appearance wich im sure has made me feel very unfeminine throughout the years and has made me see my tomboy side as a "bad trait" in general. I definitely have body dismorphia, and sometimes even suffer from a but of gender dysphoria because of s/a and just feeling like life would be way better if U was just a bisexual guy. I just sometimes dont feel like a women, but I know that its just a purely trauma response and coming from the posible ides of "If I was a man my s/a wouldn't have happened" wich I know its not true at all and its comepletly illogical, but I noticed it is indeed something that I think about subconsciously
My dad used to shame me for my taste in fashion, specially dresses and my mom on the other hand hated it whenever I wore something more "masculine" so thats probably why even to this day I sometimes still have problems accepting both my masculine and femenine side because well..I was shamed upon both, and it should be ok for me to just accept both and everything about myself
I also still have a lot of internalized homophobia, I still cry thinking about how in going to hell for my sexual preference. As of now I have a boyfriend, who is also gender non conforming I might add, and sometimes even doing stuff with him, a male, can feel extremely sinful.
It's hard for me to also just move on from this or just "stick with one" because I have BPD, and one of the symptoms of BPD is just this feeling that you have no true identity, you feel like a social chameleon that needs to comform to others needs or even views that they have of yourself..and that just feeds into said feeling of having no identity and just not knowing who you are and what you need you are unable to accept it..
This has made me noticed how a lot if people like me, both that jave BPD and/or are gender non conforming, are easier to manipulate so thag they believe they are trans or non binary. I sure fell for it when I was younger, I believed for month to an enture yesrs that I was "agender" when I was like 12 lol I am definitely glad that it was just a short and tiny phase on my life
I know my experience might be way too different from other people, but I kind of just wanted to add to ghe conversation in a way!
Edit: Since you are a goth yourself, how do you feel about the goth scene just becoming a playground for this mess? I love alt fashion and music, but won't go to said communities or actively be part of it being well...its a mess, its bot only goth but the alternative scene in general, I've been looking at the rest of your videos, and have noticed you've been in this for s long time and wanted to ask about it :3
Thank you for sharing your experience. Your situation is definitely an interesting one but it does seem like you did get a grasp on reality despite how hard it can be because of your family and just the growing pains of being GNC in society. You seem young though and I can assure you that while it may not get easier in the sense of having people accept your non-conformity, it does get easier in the sense of your mental self-awareness Though if you haven't already, definitely seek some therapy in the future if you can as that can definitely help bring even more perspective provided you find an open-minded enough therapist.
Also I suggest looking into GNC Centric's channel. She's a young GNC lesbian who talks about all kinds of things about solidarity for gender nonconforming lesbians and even though you're not lesbian, I feel her content can still be of help.
Also to answer your question on how I feel about the goth scene being a "playground for this mess" (lol), I think it's awful for sure. There's no doubt that trans ideology has ensnared a lot of alternative subcultures to the point where you'll be ostracized if you don't go along with it and it's disheartening because the ideology is so toxic and life destroying (the use of prolonged wrong sex hormones and the "surgeries" as I've shared in the video).
However despite being ostracized from the online goth scene what with being banned from certain groups and badmouthed by some people in them, I still have love for goth music and I still listen to it to this very day. But like you, I'm not really active in the scene like I used to be because of how so many goths are TRAs. And even when I did try to explain myself, they just wouldn't listen and still call me every name in the book and in the end, I felt it was pointless to bother trying with them. So yeah, as far as actively taking part in the scene by communicating with other goths? I don't do this anymore. I still plan on making more goth-related content while again, listening to the music because I genuinely enjoy it but that's the extent of it.
It's said because whenever I would see alternative people whether they were goth or not, I would always be excited but nowadays? I'm just "eh" because I have a 98% feeling that they're going to be a TRA and/or a "gendie" themselves 😔
On a silver lining though, I haven't lost complete faith as there are some goths who don't buy into trans ideology and can see just how harmful it actually is and some of them have commented on this video which has helped give me some hope haha.
This is just an idea of mine i came up to understand why the third gender exists.
For me personally the idea that a third gender is purely constructed out of homophobia and an intolerance towards GNC people seems a bit reductive, maybe there were some who would like to be referred to as the other gender too, since societies for the most part tend to deal with those things with denial, erasure or murder.
so its simple solution to the question of gender roles instead of actually making society more inclusive and simple societal roles/rules tend to last longer.
Yep that's really all it was. It was the culture's way of othering GNC people instead of just merely accepting it.
Love your videos and your tone.
Thank you
Kai is this seriously the reason why all other goth youtube channels are against you???
Pretty much
@@KaiDecadence did adrienne lavey, random goth couple, madi danger or cemetary confessions negatively come after you???
Im extremely upset now. Especially with angela bennedict because i remember watching the video where she talked about you but didnt pay too much attention. Plus i dont think she said anything along the lines of elitist joe, what an asshole that guy is. Didnt mention why that i remember. But she said she wasnt associating with you anymore. Well, she WAS my favorite goth youtuber. She started it all for me. I feel very dissappointed. Shocked. Any word you can think of really... you should do more content Kai.
Oh and Orphea and black friday too, did they negatively come after you???
@@christophercollins6629 No I don't believe any of them did but as for Angela, all I'll say is I understand why she reacted the way she did because she was getting harassed by a TRA (as they do) and she doesn't know about the inner workings of the trans ideology and the subsequent community compared to someone who has looked into and followed it for years. I have no ill will towards her and I just hope with time she will understand where I was coming from with my views on this matter.
Perfectly explained👏. We need voices like yours, Thanks!
Thak you, glad you enjoyed the video :)
@@KaiDecadence thanks to you✌️
Enjoyed that, Kai - a very thorough journey and I learned a lot. Thanks for all the hard work you put into it.
One caveat: male puberty induces body hair, beard/five o clock shadow, broad shoulders. A man who looks feminine is the oddity not norm. Even most twinks are really just late bloomers and after 25 they start to develop masculine characteristics. If these men have to go through a lot of procedures to look a certain way, like electrolysis or laser hair removal, is this in principal different than transitioning and taking estrogen to look more feminine? Sort of like altering your appearance to the extreme. A feminine guy like james charles (who got full body and beard hair removal) is going to get away with it and get WAY less hate than a hairy man who wants to wear make up and look pretty.
(e.g. Sam smith). Nowadays I'm starting to see more GNC men like Johnathan van ness or the ulta hairstylist David lopez who are breaking the stigma.😊
The difference is that feminine men don’t infringe upon people’s rights by being feminine men. Meanwhile trans identifying people infringe upon EVERYONE’s rights, from the right to freedom of speech (pronoun policing) to the rights of women and girls in our sex based spaces such as bathrooms and locker rooms, and our opportunities in women’s sports. They destroy our lives to it’s very essence by demanding we reject reality and truth to cater to their ideology which was created by a pedophile named John Money.
@ OnlyRespectD_E_A_D_TERFs Right back at you groomer.
As a regular heteroflexible woman I was very respectful of trans people. I always used and still use the pronounses they prefer, I always tried to correct my partner when he was referring to trans people with the wrong pronounses. But for the last months I started to question trans ideology. One of the reasons was discovering some detransitioners in internet, another reason was listening to trans people's childhood and teenage stories. Those stories are often full of homophobia, internal homophobia, bullying, misoginy, internal misoginy, sexual assaults, sometimes even r*pe.
The most weird thing I heard from Russian trans woman was her thoughts on feminine men and masculine women. She said that for her all feminine men are somewhere on transgender spectrum even if they don't wanna transition! She said that butch lesbians for her are somewhat nonbinary trans... That felt so wrong.
I strongly believe that if we as a society would stop labeling some looks and activities as "boy's" and "girl's" - we would have waaaay less people who transition. The same with homophobia.
"Heteroflexible", so just bisexual. Okay. Anyway I'm not surprised about the Russian Trans-identifying man's thoughts consdering that homophobia is heavily rampant in that country.
@@KaiDecadence Heteroflexible is like 90% straigt. Such people prefer opposite sex, so it's actually far from real bisexual or pansexual. The same with bicurious people.
As far as I know there are homoflexible people too.
Sometimes "correct" labels are important not to confuse ourselves and others 😊
@@Slava232 If you're saying that you can be attracted to both sexes, that is bisexuality regardless of whether you lean towards one or the other sex more.
And I would say the same to someone calling themselves"homoflelxible", it's personally nonsense to me.
What you describe as heteroflexible sounds like literally every person who says they are bisexual I have ever met and especially in the last decade.They like to say they are bi but every single one is in opposite sex relationships.@@Slava232
Kai, I'm a lot like you (from what I know of you) except for orientation. I'm heterosexual and have never been attracted to men or masculinity. I honestly think the world would be SO MUCH BETTER if we would just toss aside most gender rules, limits and stereotypes about how to be men or women. I am attracted to what is called Femininity, and sexually attracted to women born as women.
You can just say "women", women are adult human females. Let's just keep it real here. But yeah part of the solution is just reminding people that there is no right or wrong way to be the sex that you are born as.
Omg hi kaiii!!
Hey lol
This is the first video of yours that I've had time to watch. I really enjoyed the info and look forward to listening to more when I'm at home cleaning and doing art and stuff. THANKS!
Thank you, I hope you enjoy the rest~
Completely agree. Great video, Kai!
Thanks!
Great analysis, you are ahead of your time. How about deep dive into the WPATH file report?
Honestly this topic has taken a huge toll on me to where it gets hard wanting to keep talking about this stuff. The WPATH report is interesting and I may look into that but at this time, I don't see myself touching that subject anytime soon.
i think something that should be said, as a trans men who is gender nonconforming, is that not all trans women are feminine, not all trans men are masculine, and not all nonbinary people are androgynous. i myself am relatively feminine despite being trans, because my dysphoria doesn't stem from presentation but rather a disconnect between my bodily features and my sense of self. i do believe there to be an issue even within the trans community, however, of people believing gender identity to be synonymous with gender presentation, which, obviously like you're saying, it isn't. i believe this misunderstanding to be a reason some people who at one point identify as trans detransition because this misconception is prevalent throughout society. i think that it being taught that it's ok to be gender nonconforming and gender stereotypes being deconstructed is in the best interest of everyone in society, trans people included.
>𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐚 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐲 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟
Now see, this is where I would ask you to be more specific. What do you mean by this?
@KaiDecadence it's really kind of hard to explain, but features such as my breasts and voice, for example, don't feel like they're mine and as of started doing things such as wearing a chest binder and doing vocal training that disconnect has been somewhat mended
the feeling of the disconnect is something i wish i could better explain, but unfortunately i don't really have the words to. it's almost like a feeling of dread related to the features, i guess? prior to puberty the disconnect wasn't really related to physical features, but rather a disconnect between how i was viewed and who i was (i used to constantly daydream and in these otherwise pretty average daydreams referred to by the name i go by now and being referred to as a boy. other than this, everything about me was the same). this feeling, as i'm sure you can probably guess by it stemming to pre puberty, existed even prior to having any clue what transness was, so i don't really think knowledge of the community affected my perception of self. hopefully this is somewhat decently explained.
@@tisteatime body dismorphia can start at any age practically, so sorry you deal with that.
@@tisteatimeyou could call it a mind body disconnect.
@@JordansSpearsis it just that or something more?
This was such an eye opener. I knew about the surgery, misogyny, and child related aspect, but I never knew the reason why men cling on to the trans ideology video. Really well informed! Also 40:30 thanks for the nicknames I can tease my husband with 😂
Excellent video, thank you for your research
Kai, I have enjoyed your comments on other creators’ videos, and I am glad your video came up on my RUclips feed. Your video is very well thought out.
Thanks a lot
I’m so glad for you and your channel.
I’ve always gravitated towards gender non conforming but since the trans ideology took over, i pretty much forgot you exist.
Thsnks a lot and yeah, it's so sad how this trans nonsense did a number on the authenticity of gender nonconformity but hopefully we can return back to that some day.
@@KaiDecadencei still think its as authentic as it has been, its just really drowned out.
@@yeetman4953 I don't really know about that because it seems like anytime I come across a gender nonconforming person, especially a woman, they're all "identifying" as "trans" or "nonbinary".
@@KaiDecadence You could just hint them the possibility that they might be gender nonconforming.
@yeetman4953 I've tried in the past and they get super angry and defensive lol
fantastic!
Thanks!
I just thought of something to ask you Kai. What's your opinion on, non-binary, asexual, or demisexual? Honestly for me, they don't seem like legit things.
I kinda talked about that in my "Unpopular LGBT Opinons" video but to recap.
- Nonbinary = It's just rebranded androgyny but with ridiculous logic thinking that because they don't conform to gender stereotypes of their sex, it means that they're essentially a nothing which is just silly.
- Asexual = I think it's very rare but I think most people who claim to be asexual are not. What I've noticed is that a lot of teen girls and early 20s girls say this and it's just because they haven't had their sexual awakening yet (some people don't have those feelings until after high school) and/or they have low sex drives which is also fine but doesn't make them asexual. Asexual means no sex at all and it's annoying how (let's be real), a bunch of young people destroyed the term.
- Demisexual = Just a response to hookup culture. At the end of the day most people are "demisexual" as most people would prefer to have sex and/or be in relationships with people they have a bond with. I just believe that this term came about as a reactionary response to the hookup culture of the 2010s which clearly has had some negative fallout as you have more people lonelier than ever when they participate in hookup culture.
@@KaiDecadence Wow, interesting stuff. Thanks for the response!
@@Mister_Don888 No problem. Check out the unpopular opinions video if you want to hear more.
They don't seem like legit things because they are not legit things. Met far too many girls/women with the brains of girls who called themselves "demi/ace", it's clearly a response to something else because they all experienced some form of attraction.
Finallyyyyyy
Being an asexual trans women… where to I fit between hsts and agp? I felt gender dysphoria from an early age around 3-4yo and it was consistently distressing until I transitioned. I have dated 1 cis women, 1 trans women, 1 cis man, 1 trans man. I just feel like even if your arguments were applicable to the majority of trans women, they don’t for me. Even if women were the larger and more masculine sex with all the masculine stereotypes I would still prefer to seen my society as a woman.
There are lots of asexual AGPs, we just don’t hear as much from them
You are a bisexual man
> Being an asexual trans women
> I have dated 1 cis women, 1 trans women, 1 cis man, 1 trans man
You say you've dated all these people and still call yourself "asexual"? Do words even have meaning anymore?
> I would still prefer to seen my society as a woman
And I would like to be seen by society as a beautiful billionaire but we don't always get what we want in the world. And you cannot control how people see them, nor force them to lie.
@@twocanplay7976 so, fun fact ace people still have relationships. I’m guessing you are not familiar with that? And well good news for me I don’t force anyone to see me as anything, people naturally see me as a woman regardless of my wishes.
@@residentdoom1 "ace people still have relationships" I've had the misfortune of encountering many "asexual" people back when I was in fandom, so unfortunately I am more than aware that you and they use these sort of nonsensical arguments. If you are into relationships, you are not ace. If you are truly "asexual", then those are not relationships, they are friendships. Long story short, the term "asexual", much like tr@nsgender, has no meaning whatsoever.
"People naturally see me as a woman" Nah they don't, they just lie to you so they don't face retribution. Congrats on being another pawn in the tr@ns industry, I guess.