UPDATE: My Conflict With My Daughter | Why I Went To Jail
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Many are asking for an update and more details on what's happening between me and my daughter. My hope is this video helps dads who are going through divorce, might be divorced, or are heading toward divorce. I hope this video helps dads avoid the many mistakes I made.
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With more than 3,000 comments here, I wish I could answer each of your personally -- well 98% of you. Actually, I wish I could hug most of your in person. I had no idea this video (or several videos) would strike such a chord with folks. Many of you have been abused by the system much worse than I have. The only difference between me and you is I'm telling the story (or some of it) in public. Most just suffer in silence and are beaten down.
Maybe I'll host a gathering sometime soon in some central location, and we can all just hang out for a few days and get to know each other.
What do you think about that idea?
Not just family court,the entire system abuses so many people the latest bs besides the city abusing my property rights,since I speak up they put a cop car across the street with high beems at my house down my driveway. Among other ways they are trying to intimidate me,its crazy.
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I live in PA. If you can get near here I wouldn't mind meeting up.
Ben… sorry to say but you may need an attorney now to obtain an injunction to cease any continued defamation/libel from your ex and unfortunately your own daughter….💯❤️
You are one stand up dude, a better man than most of us.
I want to thank you all for the (99%) very supportive and constructive comments here. You should also know that story on my ex is actually waaay more insane than what I've told here. I've held a lot back -- which I'll bring out later if necessary. I can't respond to you all individually right away because there are so many comments.
I will say I have a great wife now. We've been married for 18 years. No issues. She's not steeped in America's entitled culture. She's a Laotian immigrant who escaped Communism.
After the Communists conquered Laos in 1975, Wanda's mom and oldest sister planned the family's escape in 1978. This is a story similar to KILLING FIELDS.
Being the youngest daughter, Wanda went with her mom. Other family members took different routes out. The dad stayed in Laos.
Wanda and her mom made their escape through the jungle. Made it across the Mekong River to Thailand in the dead of night. Wanda and her mom got separated. Wanda (age 13) walked for 5 days and nights before reaching the refugee camp.
Stayed there for 18 months before making it to America, arriving in November of 1979 in San Francisco with 2 dresses and 1 pair of sandals.
This story is actually way more insane than this. This is just the outline.
I've never met a tougher more resilient person. Wanda's mom suffered a stroke soon after arriving in America. So Wanda essentially had to raise herself, though also had an older brother who became the father figure.
Wanda was put in 9th grade in Maryland, not knowing any English. She got through high school with a B average. Took some classes at Community college, including desktop publishing and typing classes.
She got hired by GEICO to do data entry and layout the corporate newsletter. She took more community college classes on how to be a legal secretary. She applied and was moved to GEICO's legal department.
She was "Employee of the Month" for the whole corporation 5 times.
On weekends, she worked as an assistant for a big realtor. She learned about real estate investing and started buying rental properties to rent out. She was doing very well -- on the way to getting rich before we met.
She mocks the victim mentality so many Americans have, who complain about how tough life is.
Again, thank you all for caring enough to comment.
BASED DAD
❤ two stories of perseverance
Hi Ben, I have been the worlds highest profile man defending the rights of men and boys since 2008. Its good to have you on board. Maddie is redpilling a lot of young men.
Let’s not forget this is not a way to smear his daughter and make her a villain. He genuinely loves his kids and you can see it in his face he hates that this is so public but he has to protect himself too. Kids are like clay, they can be molded into monsters but whose hands molded the clay?
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Shame on that judge… the judge is a disgrace to our judiciary system.
Most of them are.
@@MatthewC137 Especially these past 3 years.
@@MatthewC137facts
A lot of them are 🤦♂️
Many of them are biased against men and in favor of women.
Imagine paying $1.8M + $144k/year to raise your children and put them through college, just to have them turn around and call you a deadbeat in front of millions of people for clout.
Couldn't be me. I'd disown them and provide receipts in a heart beat. I get he loves his daughter, but still. He's keeping people who shouldn't be in his life, in his life. The prisoners sound like way more pleasant people than his ex wife and daughters.
Look at me me me!!!
He should have lawyered-up. Do not give $1.8 million for nothing. Have your lawyer negotiate. He should have gotten half.
the ending of a beta provider sadly.
only 1 out 4 kids, the rest are normal.
There is zero excuse for the ex to be trying to contact his current clients. This alone tells me everything i need to know.
The ex is a POS.
The daughter is following in her footsteps.
every divorced father knows this story, without having to hear a word
@@asdfbeaufacts
Yup
Demonized without refutation for 18 years. I feel for him.
theres just something about older spoiled whi... women they're literally the worst
Madi simply wants to be a victim sooo badddd. She is a trust fund baby.
Yea I said the same. She's using the typical victimhood angle to get clout(because she's not pretty enough to get big numbers so she went this route to get followers. And not trying to be mean, she's just kind of weird looking and needs to go the victim route).
Some dude out there is lucky she didn't pull the typical false sexual assault allegation we see all the time with social media females today. But still dude here didn't deserve this.
you really do not understand human. Go back to stomach@@GamerLaval43
@@GamerLaval43 you really think so?
Take a read of his expressions behind the smile
He sure ain't look like he is having fun doing this...
@@GamerLaval43 I think that's only partially true. there's still real damage though.
being known as a deadbeat dad and having Ben's clients read this feud does not at all go with the idea that this is about views entirely.
@@GamerLaval43 You might be correct but the dad appears to be very straight forward and even told us the audience that if Madi worked with him on this it could become something useful. I think it started authentic but it could be morphing into reality TV. Either way I am team Ben.
This daughter is a ungrateful spoiled brat... imagine getting all that money for school? I know millions of kids would love to have that money for school.
I rather have a present father. You can put a price on college, but not that.
I think he was present for the kids to the extent possible.
@@DoppleGanger-tk6og
Based on the evidence it seems he was rather involved as a father.
@@DoppleGanger-tk6og you’ve got to be the daughter or the mother. You’ve commented on nearly every comment I’ve read. All you’ve got in your “ to whinge about is the fact he wasn’t sure of her birthday. You’re literally the only person on here that the dad is a deadbeat even though he’s produced receipts to prove otherwise. Maybe she should have spoken to the dad in private to sort out some of her issues instead of going on TikTok. He might be her dad but he’s also a human being with a life and business. Your birthday comment is pathetic compared to what this man has been through.
Mommy probably spent it a lot of it on herself, and these truths are poking holes in the lies she's believed from her mother...
Hey Ben, I'm the son of the father who was exactly in your situation. My entire upbringing he fought tooth and nail in the courts to see us, supported my family with child support, only for us children to be brainwashed by our mother growing up that he was some evil man. Most of us didn't fall for it, or at times, only briefly. Visitation was often used as a bartering chip for more child support and there would be years that would pass that I wouldn't be able to see my father. I remember the exact situation of him getting a house down the street just to stay near to us only to not be able to see us while my mother brought other men around.
Speaking with him as an adult now regularly, he opened about the amount of pain he endured at losing the chance to raise his children. As I have gotten older, I've realized just how much work he put in from afar to make sure I was in a good house, had good food, and went to good schools. I appreciate you speaking up on behalf of all men that have been forced out of their children's lives by courts and divorces. I'm sure your daughter will realize what a great dad you've been in spite of the divorce.
Great video and love the kindness you still show your daughter in spite of the accusations of being a deadbeat dad.
I hope you stayed away of your mom after learning the pain she inflicted on your dad for no reason.
I wouldnt show her my kids.
And have you talked to your mother?
im the son of a father who did the opposite. they got divorced when i was 7 and he moved 1 hour away. 1 hour. and from 8 to 18 you know how many times i saw him? TOTAL ? 12. twelve times in 10 years, and he lived 1 hour away.
He also didnt have any money and never gave any money. the agreement of the divorce was that he would give the title of the house to my mother, and neve rpay any child support. the house had a value at the time of about $250k and the total equity was only about 60k. ie there was still a mortgage with 190k on the house which my mother took complete ownership of and it took her another 20 years to pay it off (which she didnt actually achieve, she ended up moving, at the time sold the house for 320 but owed 95 or so so she only got about 200 before paying the realestate agents and taxes.
my father who lived an hour away never paid for anything for me. not my school trips, nothing. he spent maybe $150 a year on presents for my birthday and christmas. which 9 out of those 10 years simply came in the mail.
again, he lived just 1 hour away.
for the last 5 years of my life, i have been COMMUTING TO WORK one hour each direction.
also for anyone wondering, they divorced because he was a raving alcoholic who often got violent and screamed and yelled and acted like a child and refused to stop drinking. one time he actually climbed under my moms truck during an argument and attempted to kick the drive shaft off the truck. needless to say this man was and likely still is a complete fucking moron. i believe he is still alive and still lives in the same place. which by the way, the place he moved 1 hour away: His mothers house. where he still lives to this day, 30 years later. i think he is in his 70s now and i often think about what i am going to do IF i ever receive a letter/phone call about going to his funeral. should i even go? should i piss on his corpse? would he even bother to leave me any money from the value of his Moms house ? lol.
what i know for certain is the girl in this video is an entitled fucking bitch and everyone should boycott every script/movie she ever rights. fuck that bitch she has no fucking clue what abandonment is. just a narcissist, just like her garbage mother.
Same happened to my siblings.
Judge needs to be removed, disbarred, and sentenced for abuse. Her assets seized and given to her victims.
Of course the judge was a woman lmao
Thats what you get living in a blue state. Look what happened to Trump in NYC. The whole system is rigged! Its so bs...
She's retired.
@regulariousweedimaximus9495
Marxist street walker*
There it's fixed.
When you say woman, did you mean a venom dripping feminista with a position of power? Cause the picture I saw she did not look like no woman. There are some people, men and women, tho qualified, who should never be in charge of making judicial decisions over people. @@regulariousweedimaximus9495
Betsy is toxic. The judge is toxic. The daughter is turning into just like them. Dad did what he could and made the best decisions he could at the time. Did he make mistakes too? Probably. But the worst pain is helplessly seeing your own kids turn against you after being poisoned by the mother.
Yes he did, he displayed weakness to a woman. That´s the ONE thing that turn women into rabid dogs going for the jugular.
This is an insane thing to say but it´s the truth.
Wait . Can you hear it ? The sound of silence. When you shut up that toxic spoiled rotten UNGRATEFUL little lier ! Truthfully he shouldn't of spared the rod ! Just a opinion but omg she's not worthy of him EVER!
We call them feminazis. Such a shame because her father is so chill and understanding even after going through all thaty he did. He did not deserve any of that hateful BS. He took it like a man and did everything he was supposed to do and she's still an ungrateful little brat. Living her best life cause of her DAD not cause of her MOTHER who was a vampire and tried to suck him DRY. Good people like Ben always win.
It was/is Parental Alienation. Unfortunately, her and other moms like her are rarely held accountable for their actions/toxic behaviours. The court routinely are chilled from holding mom accountable, however won’t blink twice holding a dad to the coals…including putting them in jail.
Madi has been turned away from the father. By her mother whose God is the devil.
This is SHAMEFUL the way men are treated in divorce! The Ex-wife, daughters, and the judge is disgraceful!
The fact only 11 likes proves NO ONE GIVES A FCK about men. We are blamed for everything.
Well, it ain't just the men. My judge for taking away my ex's custody had just got divorced from his wife and was still hating women. Thank God the children were allowed to speak to the judge in chambers. I took away his shared custody because of his wife's abuse BUT I didn't get a penny to help raise the kids. I didn't care. I was just happy to get the 3 kids away from the step-mother. So, no, IT'S NOT JUST MEN treated unfairly in court. Found out much later that the step-mother has a bad case of Bipolar Disorder. She is very smart, but very bipolar. She abused the kids AND me with her very thought out and twisted ways. My ex-husband is a coward whose balls are tightly held by an actual crazy person. He stopped talking to the kids when they wanted to live with me. Now they're grown and he still chooses to love his 2nd set of kids and ignore his first 3. It hurts them. They don't understand why he's like this. Grown kids still want love and attn from both parents. I only wish I could give them a loving father, instead, they've got a dickhead. MOST WOMEN RAISE THE CHILDREN ON THEIR OWN, MANY WITHOUT A CENT FROM THE FATHER, but the wife and judge here are completely wrong for this. Too bad Ben's daughters are so short-sighted. How stupid to be so spoiled to not want a relationship with a decent father. Shame on their mother.
Sometimes women get scalded too. At this point I think judges just do whatever is in the worst interest of the children.
@@lorielizabethwade7505 Maybe they`ll become smarter with time...but I wouldn`t bet the house on it.
@@lorielizabethwade7505 Yeah sometimes it works the other way but rarely overwhelmingly the boot goes to the dad and they dont get your option to "take away" shared custody. They get nothing but a legal duty to pay their spouse whether they were abused or not. Imagine having to pay your abuser and have no legal remedy to cut ties with them.
His girls are only seeing a story of hate and lies, and this man just keeps sending them love and truth.
I hope they see it. ❤
Really messed up. So many of us would love to have financially secure father that loves and provides. This is crazy. These kids are privileged brats.
His daughters grew up in the top 1% of the world.. not America, the world. Living better than 99% of the 8 billion people out here and still have the entitlement and selfishness to pretend like they suffered and struggled. Smh
Like who even goes to skiing trips lmao that’s some rich people activity 😂 those brats where spoiled rotten
Bro its 0.01 percent
Yup
It's almost as if they weren't raised properly...whose fault is that?
@@MrFreeGman this is a complex situation that can’t be simplified and blamed on one person. There are a whole bunch of problems in this situation if you think about it critically.
This mans daughter absolutely refuses to take accountability.
These women are trying to destroy this man or it’s a clever way to blackmail him or try to extract more money.
All opposite of men refuse to take accountability.
And this simp dad is absolutely do not want to teach her beach daughter a lesson.
@@genechristiansomoza4931 do you make so much to even simp like him? simping is bad. but this guy is doing something else, dude...
That's how you know if they're liberal feminists
After hearing that Maddie’s a Hollywood script writer and “influencer” and then after hearing her speak, I heard all that I needed to know.
Yes she is still wearing the Corona mask!
Well to be fair she likely gets those skills from her father.
And has hairy pits... Usually tells you all you need to know.
@@CS-xg2xh Rainbow follower.... no lineage for her.
@@CS-xg2xhman that and the interviewer told me everything i needed to know
As a gang prevention intervention counselor and advocate for the homeless and their animal companions it is extremely sad to see such a wealthy young lady grow up to become so negative towards her father. I work with young men and woman who have never experienced one second of her blessed life. You are a great father.
It is a sad reality that we often take for granted that which we are born with, even if by other people’s standards we are living a life of luxury.
Sometimes you have to explore other people’s way of life or go through some turmoil to appreciate the simple things that make our lives much better.
Lacking money can make you have problems and be very unhappy, but having lots of money doesn’t mean you are happy and don’t have problems.
Oftentimes, unhappiness is harder to solve if you are wealthy. If you are poor and unhappy, more money might improve your life and make you happier. if you are rich and unhappy, more money probably won’t solve your problems as they aren’t money related.
Look at maddis eyes. She's a legitimate sociopath
I can't believe she's gettign hate comments like "Your dad is awesome" something no gen z girl ever wants to hear.
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I know, right? Those nasty "Republican hate circles" can be so vicious...😂
Haha! For real! "I'm melting, I'm melting!!!" At the utterance of "You have a great father". I love that
loud shrieking
😂😂
Forget about the father-daughter relationship, what his ex and the judge did was CRIMINAL.
Agreed. Judge and the Ex should face prison time
@@cybermuse6917 Is it possible to file a motion against judge? These days it's really hard for judges to give goofy sentences, because if the sentencee files a motion back, they will lose the state a ton of capital through reinbursement.
I wonder how many people are still serving sentence today thanks to that judge's spite.
He agreed to terms where his family could move wherever his ex wants, instead of having them stay put where he could have had a recurring time to claim his children. His ex would be unable to refuse this.
He wanted his ex to be a stay at home mom, she didn't need to move for employment. He could "make money anywhere". Giving his family over 1.5 million right after the divorce is commendable.
He couldn't pay all of the support he agreed to. Recieved a sentence from a man hating judge and learned some life lessons from Big Daddy and the cell block after that.
He got out and found out an immigrant woman at a karaokee bar. Maxed her credit card and his own in an effort to build himself back up. Successfully building an online business. Big Daddy and the cell would be proud.
He attempts to reconnect with his family, who live in a different place. He drops his family off at his Ex's house. He steals his Ex's Ipod and retreats into his car, as his Ex chases him and her property. His Ex physically makes contact with him and enters the vehicle. He removes her from his vehicle and leaves with her stolen property. Later throwing it out of his window at the homestead. Big Daddy would not have approved, because there may have been evidence on the stolen Ipod.
He took some de-escalation classes. However, his Ex attempts to remove his right of visitation and is unsuccessful. He moved closer to the family and would see them once a week for a while. Exercising options he conceded the first time.
The kids are teens at this point and his daughters are uninterested in hanging out with him. He has pictures of himself with the family, almost all at a vacation or graduation. He takes up break dancing as a way to stay fit, becoming financially successful along with it. He then invests and champions a crypto currency he can hide from his Ex.
His entitled daughter grows up and critiques his life choices in an online video. He responds like his de-escalation class taught him and both become online characters.
We gotta replace juries with AI
Your ex wife is a gold digging sorry excuse for a woman and a mother. For her to go to those extremes to stick it to the father of her children is beyond any good moral character. Not only did she try to ruin you, your reputation and your business but she tried to come between you and your children. The later is unforgivable. She undoubtedly has filled your girls heads with stories of how terrible she wants them to think of you. She’s a nightmare. Her current husband better watch his back now as any false move and she’ll be after him to.
The judge is a whole other horror story. She never should have been on the bench. In fact, they should investigate all of her divorce cases for possible misconduct toward men.
She's definitely bitter . And loves money
It shows you the amount of awareness that she was willingly attacking the man that was paying her alimony and throwing the man in jail who pays the damn bills. Women truly are delusional and have no idea how things actually work.
"Your ex wife is a gold digging sorry excuse for a woman and a mother"
So a standard opposite of man then.
Lesson. Men must never get married. Marriage is a lose, divorce is a bigger lose.
There is absolutely no way anyone will ever investigate anything related to this judge .
This IS the system working exactly as intended . There thousands just like her across the country given the power to wreck people's lives for spite , fun and whimsy . The fact that they are referred to as "Honorable" is part of the entire con job in the first place 🤦🏻♂️
some women... my mom cheated on my dad, which led to their separation and eventually my half-brother, and then falsely accused my dad of sexually molesting my sister and me almost immediately after the separation. finally, because i used to cry all of the time due to missing my dad and the other half of the family while my mom was pregnant with my half-brother, my mom singled me out and shipped me off to a foster home hours away on an island... my dad went broke trying to resolve the situation, get me out of there, and get custody of me. luckily, there was a family business on my dads side of the family, otherwise i might still be living in a foster home to this day... so many women are completely psychotic nowadays
Most women are psychotic. The ones that seem like they aren't just hide it better.
That's pretty inhuman.
reminds me of my mothter. i feel you friend you arent alone
@@joebazooks sounds like what my brother has gone through minus the foster. Blows me woman have the ordacity to do such crazy things. I feel the woman acts with their heart and men will analyse it and not just shift all the blame to partner.
I could have been just like you. I was able to escape my mom's custody and live with my dad. My sisters all stayed with her and all of them are messed up. And yes, one began to accuse my dad of SA at the beginning. She quickly rescinded it when my dad asked her about it openly in front of the whole family. She said that she never said this and that mom had made it up.
All I can say is that our dads somehow overlooked some serious red flags considering our mothers are so evil. It isn't something a guy can take likely, and that's the mistake they made. It ruined my dad's life and I mourn for that every day.
🚩 Within the first 2 minutes here she’s gaslighting the hell out her story. Saying that the video she made about dad was “very funny, tongue and cheek” as if it was meant to be light hearted and fun- yet her real motive was to out dad for “abandoning” the family and garner attention and sympathy. She then goes on to manipulate by blaming cult republicans for the bad reputation she’s giving herself. And this is only 2 minutes in. Wtf.
I’m sorry to tell you dad but your daughter has some serious personality flaws.
Nope. All opposite of men are like this.
Then goes on to say she’s been working on a screenplay about it for months.
@@apersonontheinternet8006 The crazy and sad thing is she trashing her father. He paid for her University and gave her money to set up in California.
Not only that, when you look at her response to his first video (where she's in the green tank top) she back peddles, if not flat out contradicts herself, four times in the first four minutes. He didn't live down the street... or if he did. We didn't see him for years... saw him maybe every few months. Never paid turned into not knowing the particulars of the financial arrangements. Never covered medical bills became well, a couple times in college (as an adult, omitting that it was grief counseling over a break up).
The insertion of the fake party divide was very revealing of her manipulative and narcissistic side.
She has never struggled even remotely. Now she wants to fit in with people with real problems and struggles. So she makes this shit up. You are a great dad and a inspiration. ❤
They don't have real problems either. They're all like this
Facts as a person who actually had to cut off their father I find it extrodarly upsetting to behave like this kid just down right immature
@@loris-bismarstay single not that will be hard for you empathy is kind of a requirement for healthy relationships
@@Skim_beeble7125 Okey random person on RUclips. I will probably not listen to your unsound advice, but I thank you for taking an interest in my dating life. You are correct though, I do lack empathy for a bunch of entitled rich kids in Hollywood this young lady surrounds herself with.
And to keep of the facade by buying her own BS. SMH.
This man is unbelievably positive and patient about this nightmarish experience. You can tell he’s a good dude.
Maybe thats the reason she keeps trying to harm him...she somehow learned that were "ok"....well not ok but accepted.
@@skagenpige88 She's a sick woman!
i could not do that.. i would delete myself. as sad it sounds.
@@skagenpige88 True. Nothing infuriates a bitter woman you’ve been in a relationship with more than seeing you living a happy life without her.
That is why no matter what he continues to succeed.
As a son who had his dad taken to jail for a year over child support after he lost his job and wasn't being able to immediately pay child support this really opened up some old wounds for me. Many nights I cried thinking about my dad in jail and I was forced to live 24/7 with the parent who put him there while being forced to obey/respect them or face their wrath but the worst part was hearing her gloat about how she was the better parent just because she had the money. Judges do not care about the damage they do to the children who just want a parent to be present, children don't care about how big their bank account is. The system isn't being used to help children, its being used to enrich angry spouses and the lawyers. It really bums me out to know this all still goes on to this day. Something needs to change and I thank you for making this video.
It sadens me to hear that my friend. I learned after the fact of my dad's passing that he was our guardian angel the whole time and i rejected him while he was with me like a dumbass retard and it broke his heart. Knowing it wasn't my fault for thinking like that and missing all the valuable lessons he could have taught me to become a good man, i carry a bit of guilt. But knowing death is not a divider between us i thank him for everything he did for me. I hope you're a father or will become one with a wife respecting you. Hail our Dad's
My parents passed us back and forth - my sister ran away before graduating and I moved so much that I changed schools 13 times. This girl is complaining about you not being there 100% of the time? She is the definition of "privileged". The only thing I've learned is that privileged people get more than everyone else and the only thing they regret is that they couldn't take more.
Yup I bounced around to at least 13 myself. Parents were alcoholics. One went to prison half my life for dwis. She has no idea what a rough childhood or absent parent is.
The exact same thing happened to me
Nine different schools here..
Privileged as it gets. She’s a trust fund baby who needs clout so she can sell her movie script.
I am sorry about everyone's childhood here, this is why I am afraid of marrying the wrong person.
Deadbeat dad qualifications:
✓ $2 million in divorce settlement
✓ $18k/month in child support
✓ Medical insurance
✓ Out-of-pocket medical bill payments
✓ $600k in college funds
✓ $5000 to get her set up in LA
✓ Co-sign lease for her apartment
✓ $2500 for her car
✓ $250/week allowance when she was unemployed
✓ Refuse to pay for "grief counseling" after a breakup
Refuse to pay for "grief counseling" after a breakup
I'd like to point out the qualification requires the child to not be a child anymore but an adult who already earns her own money. Otherwise I would revoke the deadbeat father stamp.
Oh boy ... dead beat dad qualification is simply ...
X wife said so.
Throwing money at your children doesn't make you a good parent, being present in their life to raise and influence them positively makes you a good dad.
Jesus Christ... I'd have been lucky to get JUST $2500 for a car. So fucking entitled.
I'm trying to figure out how to get adopted by him
shoutout to peter, his only child speaking to him, he knows what's going on, and he is sticking with dad.
He seems to be quite smart
@@maikigr9560he could see through mum's bs. She looks like a right piece of work.
I'm sure kids talk at school - two sets of parents is the norm these days. He picked up early on that his dad isn't that bad.
He is a guy..he knows how it is...if only by instinct.
This is awesome. I relate to his son, Peter. I’m the only one who talks to my dad. I’m here listening to this because it’s similar to my family’s story.
He is the one that stayed by his father's side while the others are (hopefully soon to be) the prodigal children.
Also I want to just say something from my personal experience as a kid from the same age group (born in 2000) who also had divorced parents. My dad for a time worked as a tankerman on the Mississippi. We lived in east Texas so he would leave for months then come back to Texas for a couple of weeks. Some would say "Oh he is a terrible father for prioritizing work over his children like that!" But the reality was that he had to pay child support and alimony while also trying to scrounge up enough money to buy us presents and take us to places like NASA, which I fondly remember. He also had us as dependents on his insurance, so payment for medical expenses ultimately came from him. All of this takes allot of money and unlike Ben here, he did not have a business or a high paying corpo job, he was just a regular working class guy. Later he worked in the Texas Prison system mainly so we could get better insurance while he also worked on getting a retirement. Seeing this the judge tried to give him a somewhat 'reasonable' rate of child support. But my mom was not satisfied, so she accused him of child abuse of the... unsavory kind. Fortunately the judge saw through her crap with both her demeaner and solid evidence against her claims. The judge promptly lowered the amount needed to be payed in alimony. Of course I did not learn any of this until I was much much older, but I will say that my mother did do one thing right by me and my sister as she did not feed us lies about our father. I think she deep down wanted us to have a healthy relationship with him and so today all of us get along just fine. I currently live with my dad as I get a more stable job while my sister lives with her husband and 3 daughters whom often visit and are under the care of my mother and her mother whenever my sister and brother-in-law are working. We are not perfect, we have our problems but looking back it has all been uphill. Though we may have scars, we don't resent each other for what happened. I believe that is what Ben is trying to achieve, harmony. I believe that because my father has never shown anger toward me or my sister, he may have been disappointed at times but he always says "Don't let it bother you, we will make it work." People do stupid things when they are upset and I myself am most certainly no exception. The best way forward with Bens family is for all sides to simply, stop. Have one evening to talk and let bygones be bygones. Though that may sound like a demand, I say more like advice as it has worked for us. I hope Ben and his family will be able to work out their issues and be a family. An unbroken family is a family is a family yet broken, a broken family is a family yet mended and a mended family is a family.
I had a dead beat dad. I’m so sorry you went through this situation. Some people would love to have a father like you! Stay strong and God bless you!
Literally 99% of people wish they had the opportunities this man provided for his children. I know I do. You’re enough Ben, know that you’re appreciated and matter.
Literally! My dad tried to get me to smoke crack with him in his trailer. Never paid a cent towards my life or child support. This chick is so disgusting.
Benough 😅 I'll see myself out
The overwhelming thing now is the point that someone has gone viral and someone has made the choice that bad publicity is better than no publicity. When you are in the public eye a person is gonna have to do what they need to defend themselves. This is what happens when screwing over your ex becomes the most important part of your life even when it is to your children's and your own detriment.
Most kids don’t know how good they had it growing up compared to others.
You are a great Dad… when she grows up into a woman and has children of her own, she will look back on her childhood and realize it. I hope that your love for her will give her the ability to be a great mom some day
I like how the daughter CLEARLY has major financial interest riding on her side of the story.
Like most modern women choices 😅❤😂🎉
She's a little 304
She calls her dad bizarre and crazy for breakdancing and being conservative and then says “yeah I’m actually writing a screenplay about all of this.” Girl. Publicizing and profiting off your “trauma” is the weird move here. The world never asked for your side of the story ! Just HAD to steal some of Dad’s spotlight. Little jealous rich kid.
Money.
@@SaveDaDrama4YoMoma You people really don't get out much and interact with real people in the real world do you?
As a father of two children, I'm behind you 100 %.
That Judge and your ex are despicable little women.
It just speaks to a greater rot between women & men in western civilization.
Well, at least he had all that white privilege to help him out.
Punk ass RUclips deleting and shadowbanning comments again.
What'sa matter RUclips? You allow white supremacists to use the word "black" however they want, but when I wanna say "white" there's a problem?
Well, at least he's got his white privilege to help him.
It's crazy that your daughter was inspired to write a screenplay from her perspective when yours felt like a cinematic epic. Listening to your story secondhand was like hearing about legendary feats and insurmountable challenges. If she truly wants her screenplay to resonate, it might do well to pivot and center on your narrative. After all, you endured the hardship of being imprisoned, the daring escapes across state lines, the clash against a corrupt judge, and the devastation of your business at the hands of an aggressive ex. On top of all that, you faced physical attacks, had to rebuild your life repeatedly, and amidst the turmoil, miraculously found love. What a saga to tell!
Thet's the daughter's claim to fame?.... Another daddy issues tale?
@@Tycho77 Except, in reality, it's a mommy issue.
Dad came with the RECEIPTS 🔥 So glad he’s setting the record straight and standing against the brainwashing that had clearly taken place with his children.
He came with nice looking paperwork and made the accounting/numbers very clear and easy to follow. If he isn't providing online training on that, he should. I would hire this guy as a consultant for business development and marketing.
Ask yourself the question, what if he didn't have the receipts? Even though he is telling the truth...
Nothing to do with brainwashing in lying about family. That comes from within.
it;s not so much as manipulation, that's called (CAP), Even young women can be selfish, and greedy, not just for money. but for attention and the appreciation of the sisterhood. we're over feeling sorry for enemies these days. especially when that enemy is an enemy on their own accord. I hope yous know what you're doing. it.s not going to get better... due to selfishness.
@@dyecaster9341then he'd be screwed once again 💀 everything in court is favored towards women unless you have hard evidence to protect yourself
Shame on Judge Leslie Alden. 🤬😡
💩 that should face the same sentence. What a piece of 💩
She needs to be thoroughy investigated and an ethics complaint needs to be filed with the Virginia Bar.
I need to find her personally just to say hi of course 😊😐
That corrupt judge needs to be held accountable.
Clearly you aren't aware that In the USA the supreme court is bought and paid for. there is no fair judge in The USA. this is why the venue is so important so you don't end up with a womanist judge that can ruin your life. Jury is the safest way to argue in front of sane people. this is the reason Big corporations make you sign arbitration to avoid a jury that can see how corrupt they potentially are.
The is no evidence of corruption, but she is definitely biased towards man.
Biden admin and the demonrats actually support suppressing and killing white males, none is touching her, if anything she is getting a raise lmao.
@@mikhailkh8560 Ummmmm....deliberate bias is corruption. Anytime a judge places a personal belief or agenda ahead of the equal application of the law, it is the exact definition of corruption.
Maybe, but 99.99999999% of the population considers corruption to have to do with bribes. A better term for that witch would be activist. She is a mad feminist activist @@chuckschillingvideos
The breakdancing at the end is just too perfect! You're the man ben, you've handled this beautifully. Much love from Australia
This man is practising an unimaginable amount of patience and resilience and I don't think people realize it.
I couldn't do it. I admit that. I have to give him much respect for his great forgiving attitude
Probably can do it after what he went through in the past in regards to having to figure out ways to pay back his ex-wife at the same time being short on money and no longer having a business
His story absolutely broke my heart 😢
that's what it means to be a good person. No matter what other people are doing to him, he stays true to himself and his ideals, and tries to be a better person. When somebody wrongs a person, some people will consider the victim a looser for not fighting back, but is it always worth it fighting back and getting dirty? In the end of the day, you are not a worse person if somebody is bad to you, it's that person, not you. He is very delicate in this situation and protects his daughter while he clears his name. His defends himself without harming the ones that he loves. What a Chad.
@user-bn8ty9mf7w Have some empathy. He didn’t know any better. This was the early 2000s
Can we appreciate his new wife?!
Holy hell, she still stands by him after all this, after everything from the past.
She even agrees with letting him move NEXT to his children.
Both Ben and his wife are wonderful people. It sounds like she encouraged him to be next to his family.
You don’t just see people like that who have no resentment.
We need more people like these 2 in the world.
Ahhh yes, villifying a man as being a deadbeat dad, is just lighthearted tongue-in-cheek fun!
When I saw the first video, I could tell the divorce was really fugged up because he had BTC shirt lol
Pays 1.7 million dollars. Something something deadbeat dad...
Exactly. The daughter is just trash. Enjoying ruining her dad's life. See you next Tuesday.
Absolutely one hundred percent disgusting. His X-Wife is insane 😳.
But he ONLY paid them 1.8 million... LOL
Dude, your patience and understanding of the whole situation is nothing short of impressive. Strong man right here. Yo, and Wanda, what a woman!!
The daughter should be super embarrassed at this point, but I doubt she is capable of feeling embarrassed. The self entitlement is strong in this daughter!
If she can't shave her armpits for an interview then I doubt she feels embarrassed about much
Perhaps she’s a narcissist. She’s able to forget all the family trips that were recorded and put in its place is her version of never seeing her dad. All of that just to get attention. Narcissists love being the victim.
It's not like that, women are very good at denying reality and affirming the reality that suits them. This girl wanted to victimize herself with a biased story and she doesn't like the truth.
A lot of yall are being super rude regarding this young woman. I blame BOTH parents who divorced and now have their children in the middle of this mess!!
@@kayemendi4501You don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out who cheated first and who has a personality disorder in this story. I hate it when people assume fault is always 50/50. It very rarely is.
The young woman should be GRATEFUL for what she has because of HIM and that he still stayed in her life despite everything her mother did to him. But you know what? To the entitled, normal treatment feels like oppression.
My ex wife had me arrested half a dozen times, she had my realtor license cancelled and now 20 years later my only daughter, who is now married and pregnant doesn't communicate with me.
My gift from God, my daughter ...
That's brutal.
Sorry. Hope she can eventually reach out to try hear your side 😢
Deeply sorry to hear that. Keep brave.
Brother, I am so sorry this hs happened to you.
That's sad.
His daughter is so mad her break-dancing dad is much more famous than she will EVER be. She should be proud she grew up well taken care of.
I kinda love the fact Madi wanted to be a RUclips star, made a video slamming her dad, and made him a star instead. Gotta love irony.
@@PocketPoe its actually more beautiful. she stated her dream in the video. he did everything in his power to make her realize ALL her dreams. from creating videos and making money through it to getting a university degree to getting her dream job
she owes him everything.
but its hard to confront the person you learned to hate about being wrong and yourself and your past and especially the person who was so close to you and lied to you for all these years...
I hope she will find the courage one day to face that reality. For boths sake I truly hope sooner than later
She may be as famous in liberal circles as Ben is in conservative circles. But he is not only famous, he is respected and admired. Of course it is possible that he is twisting the facts and he is a deceiver and if that is the case there will be some drama at some point. But if he is as honest as he appears to be, then all we can blame him for is being lovable to the point of naivety.
Lol no. That entitled brat has over a million followers. Ben only has 25k
Mr. Hart, this is hands down the craziest story I've ever heard - I honestly cannot fathom this level of injustice.
I appreciate you sharing it and I wish you all the best with your family and business 🙏
Many fathers go through this. My son was told a similar story. Somehow he hasn't figured out how he lived blocks from the ocean with a mother who never worked. I paid for everything .
Isn’t that the truth. Who pays for the nice things the kids have…that they don’t realize. My ex does lashes but somehow lives in a 700k house w/ a 3 car garage.
Sad just terribly sad 😔
that is so true... and I knew this going into the divorce. I just pay and stay out of the way. I'm going to be trashed anyway. Why fight and try to defend myself with receipts over female emotions... thank God my son saw through the BS early on, and stays neutral.
That daughter doesn't deserve a father like you sir.
Being I lost my daughter also and she is an adult 10yrs now, I could not agree more with your post.
I had so much love to share, and it was wasted because of her mothers poison.
@@TKA322 - You’d be surprised at how many of us men have gone through that. Women leave 90% of the time and everything is everyone else’s fault. They miss a bill, it’s their job’s fault. They borrow your car and back into someone, it’s the other person’s fault. Your daughter is miserable, it’s your fault.
Doesnt deserve a father at all
Fathers around the world are with you BEN HART
And Mother's.
@@deesmith9540 Not enough mothers. And certainly not this man’s x.
And for the mothers who are with Ben, do the right thing and talk to your fellow mothers out there. They won’t listen to good men or their own children.
One of the coolest things about this story is to hear how men from all walks of life sympathised with you and your situation and saw that it was unjust. In their own way they all came together to try and help a fellow man who had been wronged and was just trying his best.
I hope your situation with your children gets better mate, all the best from Australia!
I'm a dad with no relationship with my daughter. Parental alienation is a real thing. My son's, I'm very close to.
Here here.😢
Sorry to hear man, i hope you are allowed to rekindle your relationship with your daughter in the future
I got alienated. The advice I’d give any dad is to protect yourself first but do whatever you can to always let your kids know you’re there if they need you and you love them. It may not work but at least you’ve tried. I’m lucky that my son came back to me and my other two never believed what their mum told them.
Happened to my Brother in Law, his daughter (my sisters step daughter) severed all contact. It is brutal
And you didn't give them 5 mil.
So this guy is really getting fucked lol
My dad ACTUALLY abandoned me. I haven't heard from him in 17 years. You're doing great, Mr. Hart. I'm very sorry that your daughter is doing this. I'll be praying for both of you. God bless. 🙏
are you sure about that,did your mother and or grandparents say that? or did they what they could, to avoid him seeing you,daughters have a nasty tendency,to trust their mother blindly.
Me too...
How OLD are you? Are you sure he didn't just move on with his life as an adult like YOU should've? I'm not saying that's the case. I'm really just asking because you look a bit up there in age. No offense.
No. That is made up. She wants to get a Role in the New James Bond.
your dad did not abandon you, he abandoned your mom. Dads love their children, they just cant handle the women they have children with, just like this story.
this is the worst absent father in history, hes out here pulling all the stops being emotionally present, going to graduations and supporting his kids in all he can.
Its insane how many mothers poison their children after divorce even when they cheated first. And its insane how the daughters always side with the mother even when facts are laid out to them. I know of another similar case where the daughters protect and side with their cheater mother but the son sides with the dad who did nothing wrong. Crazy world we live in!
Ikr.. Jeez 😖
@@kenyandramaI know a guy from Church who's wife cheated, took the kids and half the assests and left him a broken mess. Fast forward ten years and he's built himself back up, remarried and the kids are slowing come over to his side. The cheating wife lives with her Mom, is single and broke, because, well.... Karma.
Truly a failure to deadbeats. 🤣🫶
How DARE he!
As a person who grew up in foster care I'd like to say you are a great father! God bless you man!
‘I blame my ex wife, her mom. Betsy!’ Flashes picture. GOLD! F Betsy!
hahaha, and different pictures of her, too! Good on him, shes trying to destroy him again!
short haircut says everything you have to know
I caught that and I laughed. Less than a split second
For some reason her daughter reminds me of Rachel Zegler talking.
Don't forget the judge!
Victim Olympics is one heck of a competition. Congratulations Maddy on your gold medal!
“This guy wouldn’t pay my medical bills!” 😂 that was her dismount
Sorry, but this whole fiasco reeks of YT privilege, and I want no part of hearing this anymore. Especially the dad's "time in prison," complete with massages from the warden himself. 😂😂😂
🤷♂️ I’m not sure which is worse:
The fact that millions of children are lied to by a vindictive mother
Or the fact that many will still choose the lies when presented with the truth from their fathers
parental alienation as it is called is at true plague that courts should be required to combat by law.
the problem with admitting it now is she wont want to hit her ego that hard or question her relationship with her mother that hard.
far easier to play the victim and demonize the people who don't immediately take her side.
No. That is made up. She wants to get a Role in the New James Bond.
@@trentkelly2303 Of course
Glad my mom wasn’t this way, she let me and my brother meet our father after he was released from prison( 7 years) and let us decide if we wanted a relationship with him or not. She was graceful despite having to be the one to put him in prison for domestic violence and kidnapping when we were toddlers. I don’t talk to my dad anymore simply because he cut contact and he felt like a stranger every time we talked. Every child deserves to know the truth about their parents and when old enough decide the terms of their relationship. Glad my mom offered that, she still talks her crap but usually joking or coping with what happened to her. This girls dad sounds like a dream.
So many people wish they could have a dad like you! 💯
I hate this story. Not because I don't believe it, but because I grew up as the child in a situation like this. My mother turned me and my sister against my father. Always talking bad about him and men in general. As you could imagine that did wonders on my self-image growing up trying to figure out how to be a man without a father figure. Every time we called our father, my mother told us to ask him for money. It made me imagine him as an ATM. I hated the women he dated as any little time I spent with him I never wanted to share with anyone else. He eventually remarried and I didn't treat his new wife very well. This was only exacerbated by my mothers encouragement. Eventually I grew up and got a "real job", and moved on with my life. No longer dependent on either parent I was able to see the situation more clearly. When he died of cancer, I was 35 years old with a young family myself. I was able to tell him a month before he passed about how sorry I was and that I wish I had grown up living with him instead of my mom. That also made me appreciate his "new" wife, my step-mother much more because in that moment of his death I realized she too loved my father.
That judge mentioned in this video should be in jail, btw.
Very sad indeed and I can partially relate.
At least you were able to tell him before he moved on, i'm sure that meant everything to him.
Your daughter refuses to take accountability in her own life sponging off others Sympathy. You're a good dad. You did everything you can more than most dads that are living in the house. Hold your head high.❤
She’s trying to use her father to get fame
This is absolutely insane, your ex wife stripped you down completely. And poisoned the kids against you. Massive respect for sticking up for yourself and doing these videos 💪
she is a liar and ungrateful ... adopt me ... kuz she needed to be viral and lied on her dad.. he gave millions and paid for all 4 colleges...
he has videos from young to adults with the kids n maddie lies n says he was never in her life....videos dont lie
Indeed
This is really unfortunate 😢 I know firsthand how this goes, just in a much smaller level.
@@PIMPSTREZZ-DNA-FAM haha yes I’ll be his very low maintenance daughter, pls adopt me! My dad passed in early 2019 I miss him so much
Sorry this happened to you, man. You are a patient soul to go through all this and still come out in one piece.
Hope your relationship with your daughter improves.
This is a scarier story than any horror movie for men. This man is living a nightmare because of that woman that is his ex wife. The kids are easily poisoned, except for the son. He seems to know what's up
This is definitionally "cruel and unusual punishment". No reasonable person would think otherwise.
When their system crumbles down around their strident stupid heads, nobody will be left to save them -- the smart men have exited stage left.
I lucked out. If I went through what that guy did, there would not be a possibility that the W would be able to have an open casket.
I know me. I have no sense of self preservation when I think someone is trying to trap me. If someone literally trapped me, I'd go to the ends of the Earth to end them.
Fun fact: when we were having those harassment trainings at work. One of my female "friends" said, "I should false accuse you of harassment". With a grin, I said, "Go ahead, do it. See what happens."
I continued, "That kind of accusation can destroy a man's life -- everything he's built. That's precisely how I see it."
With my jaw tightening, I added, "If you take everything from me, I'll take EVERYTHING from you. Go ahead, test me. This is not a bluff -- I'm not a good liar."
She kind of acted like she thought I was half joking. I said, "Go ahead. Do it. See what happens."
This is among the many reasons I'm not with anyone. They would've tested me long before I married them and I would've dumped them. If I had gotten married, and someone put me through what his vvife did, I wouldn't be able to get over my ruined reputation. I'd rather the world see me as a an "ender of spouse" than a cuck.
This is proably happening every day in the US but news won't cover it because they want men to think marriage is still about love or family or generational wealth. It's not. It's a state extortion scheme which nobody asked for. Men don't realized what it is until they're in the jaws of it.
The only winning move is to refuse to play. Once refusal to play isn't enough, it's kinetic war against any agent of the state in any costume they care to wear.
Our government is no longer legitimate. They don't follow any form of law which has been set down by the West. They're no longer representatives of the People -- they're parasites upon the people -- that's what taxes are. The proportion of your disposable income they take from you is the proportion of legitimacy they merit. For me, that's about 90% illegitimate... which we can just round up to 100.
Your mileage may vary. You get the government you tolerate. Men have become tolerant of more indignities than any of our founders would've permitted.
The son seems to be using logic and common sense, same can't be said for the women mentioned here.
His mistake was marrying his ex. Daughter after her mother is as expected.
This man name-dropping the judge was a bold move, I wouldn't be surprised if she tries to go after him. Stay strong, Ben! We all know you've got a good heart. Ex wives are capable of weaving nasty lies and making out any decent man to be a villain!
She is a public servant (cough cough) and there is no need to hide the truth as to who the judge was in any court case. He stated exactly what she said, which is legal.
@@chakkakon Yes, but any woman with a shred of authority, when presented in a negative way, will ALWAYS aim to retaliate. I’m more-so concerned that she’ll weasel her way through the law to find SOME REASON to go after him, out of spite. She definitely looks like the kind of person to do that.
It should be public record but yes women in positions of power tend to miss use it
@@thisdamnguyagain4450that’s why the 19th is a mistake
She won't care or even see this.
It's QUITE telling when even "Big Dogg" in prison has INFININTELY more sympathy and empathy for Mr. Hart than his ex-wife and that judge. SMH. Thanks for the update, sir!
My mother spent 16 years manipulating me, my brother and 2 sisters . Then I when I was old enough I went and lived with my dad for 6 years and found out all the nasty stuff my mother was doing to my father behind the scenes. Its sickening the amount of manipulation and lies I was fed growing up from my mother.
Women can be so cruel and evil, especially with a man's children.
My mom tried to poison my mind against my dad. I was a precocious kid and I never believed her. I only considered the few precious moments I had with him growing up which was a kind and gentle father.
💔
My mom also did this with me and my brother. Just sickening how many women play this card against the Dads after divorce. I'm the end my Dad took me and brother in at ages 5 and 6, raised us at young age and my mom has never returned to my life. Shame on these types of moms.
My dad did this to me against my mom. he is extremely manipulative. Honestly, sociopath level… my mom left when I was 16 I had two older siblings and three younger ones. And in a very short time, he convinced us all to shun her.. it wasn’t until I was 27 that I finally reunited with her. I had since gotten married and had three kids. Everything he told me was a lie. but it was also masterfully curated for me to believe . The length he went to lie is astounding..It was the most earth shattering realization for me.. and after I reconnected with my mom, he then came after me and tried to character smear me, and tried to ruin my husband, business and emotionally harm my children. I have since gone no contact for one year and it’s been the happiest I’ve ever been. Although I do miss my younger brother so much, who, despite having practically raised him myself, now won’t talk to me..
Giving her everything was the greatest insult. She’s still never gotten over you winning ever again. You were supposed to disappear and be the deadbeat she always told them you were. You have refused to be silenced and I applaud it.
Well said
My wife died. The mother-in-law was the poisoner. My daughter came to visit 2 years ago. She asked what really happened. I showed her the shoe-box (all the paperwork of trying to fight for custody). Four hours later she turns to me and said, "So all this time you were the ONLY one who told the truth?"
I said yes, but I wanted you to see for yourself. I am lucky. My daughter does not even have social media any more. She is a well adjusted adult.
I kept all my documents in a binder and was able to present it to one of my kids at age 22. She was shocked to see actual proof of all the lies. The other one hasn’t spoken to me in years.
You're much stronger than I could ever be. Thank goodness she was able to get over herself and accept facts when presented to her.
Hello Father-Hero! From all Soviet Russia we give our respect to you. Years we watch what happens with our American friends and we totally cant understand this. You is strongest really American character, we wants America consists only your-like man. Respect to son!
This guy is the definition of resilience! A lot of men would have broken down and rightfully so, but you stayed positive the whole time. God blessed you with a good woman, and it kills your ex-wife that she couldn't break you.
That judge woulda broke me for sure. Straight to dangling
that video is the reason why hell is filled with broads
I wonder if the new husband has figured out yet what a lying jerk this woman is?
Wow, Judge Leslie Alden is evil and should be in jail or lose her job at the very least.
Ben, on top of being a great father you are a better man than most
There are millions of judges just like her. Her to avoid her? Never get married and have kids out of the country.
Shes retired but is still on retainer i already looked her up easy to find !!!! and she has an email if you so choose to use it lol
The fact he’s not bitter is testament to his character 👏👏
@@DoppleGanger-tk6og yup forgetting a birthday for one your kids that you don’t have access to makes his situation deserved i guess
@@DoppleGanger-tk6ogboth my parents forgot my birthday once. This younger generation is WEAK.
Picking his wife and the mother of his children is really the most important choice a man makes in his lifetime
yes, THE most important " "
Gotta be a fortune teller to know if it’ll work out. Good luck 😂
Oh yeah the infamous "You picked the wrong guuuuuurrrll." Thats what the problem is sure..
Excellent comment, you better be very sure about the woman you marry and have children with, because they can destroy you
Noun is missing in your comment.
Most important what?
How does everyone know what you are talking about. Am I crazy
If I could choose a father, you would be at the top of my list.
You did a great job, and as best as possible, based on the circumstances.
Imagine getting a few million in a divorce proceeding, and still wanting more money and then trying to deny the other parent access to the kids, and then lying to the kids about their dad.
And once again, family court system is demonstrated as an absolute terror for the common man.
The real question is why do American men still get married to western/American women even though you guys know how the system screws you guys over? American men must really love pain, huh?
Should have gone MGTOW.
I cannot believe she subpoenaed his clients...
The only thing keeping good men down and destroying generational wealth
Smart men don’t marry for a reason
Man's dropping ALL the receipts.
It's absurd for his daughter's to ignore this information and not start to question their mothers honesty.
Most of his claims could easily be researched if his daughters actually aren't biased.
Doesn't matter how many receipts he post. For matti will just alter her story again.
@@thisshouldbeentertaining3386 Between her politics and gender, facts don't stand a chance.
@@MatthewC137unfortunately
@@thisshouldbeentertaining3386 you're probably right, but at the very least the truth is out there.
This daughter needs to grow up. Her father has clearly helped her so much in her life and for her to continue to put him down is just disgusting.
& shave her armpits while at it.
The daughter is old enough to sift through all the bullshit her mother is feeding her. She should see that her mom clearly has an ax to grind against her Father for no real reason. Her Mom’s only objective is to make her Father’s life as miserable as possible. Now that she can’t collect alimony or child support any longer, she’s on a campaign to destroy his life and alienate his children against him. I’m sorry, but his adult children should be questioning the motives of their Mother. He supported his children in an upscale lifestyle and participated in their lives. THEY are making a choice to not examine the evidence and punishing their Father for no good reason.
Her mother's brainwashing has been reinforced pay college system see how many times she mentions her father's politics as though it's somehow useful information😂
You're a model for what being a father truly is. I applaud you sir, and all my prayers are with you.
There's 3 things people need in this world.
1. Food
2. Water
3. Someone to blame.
The weak ones
There's three things ▒▒▒▒ women need in this world.
That’s women.
Everyone is blaming in this video, including the dad
@@lizliz4186 and there is the deflection and redirection
Madi: He was a completely absent father!
Dadi: RECEIPTS!!
$5 MILLIONS
Idk I'm still conflicted cos money doesn't make up for not having a full time Dad there as you grow up. Kids of divorced parents do have it pretty rough, even if they live in a mansion or whatever. Granted, he sounded sincere and genuinely wanted to maintain a relationship with them, but that isn't good enough imo. If you have kids (which is already a pretty selfish thing to do given they have no say in being born), then you're obligated to hang around full time and help raise them until they're at least 18. Anything less is irresponsible and self-serving greed. Obviously there are exceptions, for example if the wife is threatening your life or the lives of your kids (which doesn't sound like the case here). If the wife wanted to get divorced, then it's on her, but as a man, you don't walk away from your kids in any way, shape or form. From this perspective, I have less respect for Ben and it logically follows he is part of the reason his daughter is an unhinged, attention seeking nutcase. Were he there to help raise her on a daily basis. things could've been different.
Nah, the dad says up front that the money and the small time spent does not make up for the lack of dad in the house all the time. And he's right. That's what madi is upset about. Many people don't understand what that's about. But it will cause daddy issues etc. etc.
@@NoEvidenceForGod Omg cry more. Maybe if the mother wasn't such a PoS he would have been around more. If you dullards are still defending the slander against him while hes shown the receipts on why it all happened then there is no saving you from your own stupidity.
@@grantwithers Omg cry more. Maybe if the mother wasn't such a PoS he would have been around more. If you dullards are still defending the slander against him while hes shown the receipts on why it all happened then there is no saving you from your own stupidity.
THIS MAN is actually an inspiration. HE actually managed to do the most he could as a father while BATTLING so many cases. His will and love for his kids must be immensely great
No. That is made up. She wants to get a Role in the New James Bond.
What an admirable attitude you have, sir.
To talk with such calm and even humour about your hardship is something i want to strive for.
I would love to hear more about the lessons you've learned through your life!
Any business that dropped Ben gets the BUD LIGHT treatment while any business that hires Ben I'll support 100%
That's very woke of you.
@@shitfer It's just voting with your dollar. Some would say it's capitalism.
Capitalism to a T. “Woke” has nothing to do with it.
Voting with our wallets is the only real power we have with companies now.
@@shitfer nah. It's the opposite. It's informed consumers "voting with their wallets" against companies that don't support their values. Woketards hate it when when this happens because the silent majority is waking up.
I believe this guy. He doesn't really have a reason to lie. He was obviously present in their lives and he worked hard to provide a good life for his kids.
No. That is made up. She wants to get a Role in the New James Bond.
And he has receipts. Pictures, documents. This little girl just wanted some victim clout. Such a loser.
He seems to not be learning his lesson. He keeps getting shit in by the women in that family. He should just tell his story and wipe his hands of them that choose to use him for thier own gain. Thats all this is, his ex wife his daughters, everyone is just using him and he needs to bail on them honestly. Sounds harsh but as a father you have to teach your children that they will end up alone if they mistrest you an that's what is happening. I show my daughter and son this various ways whe they mistrest each other or thier friends or thuer mom and I l. It's unacceptable and parents do need to be brave to teach these lessons, your not your kids friends and if you don't make thw sacrifice to teach them this then they will abuse everyone in thier lives for their own selfishness.
@@thetritones3848 ?
And he has video proof. She doesn’t, she just spews out woke entitled brainwashed BS.
This man is my hero. I'm bald from getting cancer while married. I'm no longer married. The lies that get told are unimaginable. My son's mothers telling me that "cancer isnt an excuse" so many times. Men are under attack in unimaginable ways. The lies that we have easy lives and have everything given to us. End the lies please.
I wish you kindness and healing. I can't imagine going through my cancer without love and support, you don't deserve to be alone or mistreated while struggling and stressed and sick. I hope you find comfort and wellness.
I survived stage four cancer myself. It was hard. I still suffer from side effects of treatment. But, guess what? I didn't allow anyone to make me any sicker than I already was. I impart that wisdom unto you. PLEASE don't allow anyone to stress you out during this time. Perhaps the best thing that ever could've happened was you separating from your ex. Especially now. I pray for your recovery and remission. It's an uphill battle. But, always remember, no matter what happens, everything is going to be alright. I honestly believe that. Good luck, soldier. 🫡 You got this.
" I'm bald from getting cancer while married. I'm no longer married"
As a light note : is et right to think you no longer have cancer either ?
@@nlight8769 at this point I’ve been through chemo three times and I’ve had eight surgeries. I have a type that’s incurable.
@@ryansmith2772 I hope you don't believe that.
As someone that hasn't seen or heard from their dad in about 15 years, I wish this guy was my dad. Some people just dont know how good they have it.
I love the way that the worst of society have more compassion than the judge and the ex-wife.
Because they're men, so they probably have a feeling of sympathy for the struggles of another man. Even a well-to-do man from an entirely different side of society.
Ummm, maybe you have it backwards? I'm kinda sure the judge and the ex are some of the worst.
@@gramajan4 worst of society = the criminals, have more compassion that the judge and the ex-wife.
LOL @ her claiming it's all Republicans who are following your story. I'm a liberal and a woman. My dad died at 51 years old, when I was 17, my heart is still broken. Your kids need to be grateful to have you in their lives period, let alone the INSANE amount of financial support you've doled out, thanklessly! They have NO idea how lucky they are! More power to you, Ben. I hope your kids realize which parent is the honest one and how hard you've fought to continue to be a father to them, against all odds. For their sake and yours, they need to wake up and enjoy their relationship with you... parents don't live forever.
Thank you!
Yes. This has nothing to do with Republican or Democrat. I am friends with many Democrats, many on the liberal-left. I am very active in the world of Hip Hop. I teach workshops to kids in juvenile detention on how to lead a productive life and avoid gangs.
I'm sorry Ben but it seems like a case of personality disorder and thats something very very hard to fix. You provided and sacrificed all u could but at this point no contact is the only option because people with npd/bpd will never ever stop once their true colours were exposed. Their enflamed rage to get revenge is truly scary and very dangerous. Your two videos cleared out any negative inaccuracies they claimed - you are a true inspiration for men who get into this situation and usually get financially destroyed but u were able to invest and put in the work and get out on the winning end and spent as much quality time with your kids as you were able to. You provided, you sacrificed and tried your best. Im glad not all kids are against you which also shows you are a great human being and loving dad. People without a political agenda and true human empathy will agree that u definetly arent the person in the wrong - u admited many times that u also made mistakes that u wish to protect your kids while the other party hasnt and will never ever do - its their mental health state that doesnt allow them to. Personality disorders are super hard to fix and it takes a lot of self-questioning, accountability and years of healthy therapy but they will avoid it with all their might and put the blame on anything and anyone till the very end. Im so sorry u have to go through this i truly am.
Liberals are the most racist category of people I have ever met.
@@benhartcommentariesI'm sorry you had to spend so much time in county jail... it's horrible.. most people will never understand just how bad it is lol.
@@benhartcommentaries Making it about being conservative or liberal is the current tend. EVERYTHING is about politics today. Even when it's not.
Cherish ur son... he's smart and he's clearly seeing through the fog and knows his mother is messed up.
women are so easily brainwashed / propagandized…WILD
Boys usually are
I'm sorry, man. You're taking this in stride and handling it far better than I would. It's hard enough dealing with young adult daughters without it also being broadcast to the world.
Thank God this man is still alive to defend himself. Thank God.
Just imagine if he hadn’t been there, we would all be treating him as a deadbeat dad.
I’m now thinking of all the ex-partners in general who sadly didn’t the chance to set the record straight during their lifetime. 🤧
I'm a dad too, and it would break me, so I'm really sorry to say this man, I'm really sorry, but Madi doesn't care about you, she is just amazed by the likes. It's not your ex-wife fault. Madi is a grown woman, buddy. She knows what she is doing.
These kids are not "grown" man.
@@Max_Ohm They are physically grown, not mentally grown. Happens with trust fund kids. I knew some from college like that.
@@bobknob8440 separation of mental and physical growth into arbitrarily divided categories I think is a bad Western problem.
When someone has spent their whole lifetime "poisoning the well" and doing everything to make said person look bad, it takes a long time to undo all that brain conditioning, regardless of age...
Please Madi is a spoiled brat! Many really do have a horrible abuser parent like myself. I would never want social media likes for attention🙄She is following mommies nasty ways!
One of my biggest fears in life is becoming a father, giving everything to my child, and then having them turn around and slander me because they ended up becoming arrogant, toxic, and adverse to taking accountability. Like none of us are perfect, but Madi seriously is privileged to have you as a father, and the ex wife is just awful.
Incredibly common and almost nothing you can do about it
@@PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho
incredibly common
perfect wording
I had the same fear. I realized most of that is do to the fact that they get sent to public school where they get brainwashed into being hard core radical leftists. You raise your kid perfectly for them to be brainwashed in 4 years of college. Happened to my own family. My brother was perfectly normal until he went to college, comes back an insane person. I wouldn't let your kids go to school anymore, not even prior to college, it's all about LGBT Bs now. Home school and pray that they don't get brainwashed. I will say if you have a daughter, you're probably F'd. The women are way more sheepish than the men and just fall in line usually. Best bet is to move. idk im just rambling, it's tough, society is so messed up atm.
@@PhantomFilmmaker-jd9ho There is something he can do about it, though from a demographics standpoint it can be catastrophic in the long term. Do what the dad in the video did, find an asian woman to marry, granted south east asian is probably even less risky. They are less prone to the emotional dictates and social capital seen by the western woman, and the kids tend to be fairly based, depending on how and where you raise them.
@@deuswulf6193 it helps being a big dick crypto-daddy. Couldn't hurt :)
Madi, you will never heal and never be fulfilled until you see the perfection within your relationship with your father. There’s no way around that. God bless you.
Madi is a grifter and her dad seems pretty cool.
She admitted she’s writing a screenplay about it, she obvi has no abilities of her own and must ride this indoor pool wave all the way to the wall.
@@KatrinaRoseT Too bad I can only give one like. "Indoor pool wave"! Very good description of her. The dad should be the one writing the story since whatever Madi produced would be wrong and very limited. Look how much more interesting Ben's story is so far and he is the one who suffered the most not her.
@@KatrinaRoseT right, she’s trying to get a movie out of this. Too bad since she thinks all republicans are on dads side, the common sense side, she doesn’t realize Hollywood is dead and no one watches movies anymore, unless they’re oldies. No one is going to watch her woke, privileged life movie.
The fact that this guy doesn’t even want to blame his daughter is so revealing as to his character. Truly a great guy and Dad who loves his daughters very much
He does seem like a good guy, there's so much he held back but they forced it out
And that's the problem, that's how these narcissistic monsters are encouraged and emboldened, nobody is holding them accountable for anything.
It's not noble, it's bad parenting. He might be a great guy, but it is not a great lesson for the child to teach them you won't resent them or judge them for anything.
@@overlord1995 absolutely, you said what had to be said
society treats women with kid gloves, if fathers give them their way if they pout and stomp their feet, that's a problem in the future
but it's the women teaching their daughters they can pull this shit even worse.. they know what they're doing, testing and trying...
from my experience, in a good upbringin with 2 parens, women look up to their fathers, and men love their mothers, that's the litmus test for me lol
my mom has given me plenty of ass whoopings when i crossed the line as a kid, more than my sister,s but hey, boys respond better to physical consequences,
their antics tend to be a bit more physical in nature too which just makes them an easier target compared to the manipulative thigns of women
girls can be punished by taking away their contact, and timing out for a bit lol, the old silent treatment :D
still love my folks
@@dutchdykefinger I think it's usually fathers being far more lenient with daughters, at least in my experience. Mothers know girls better, they don't fall for their emotional manipulation so readily.
Absolutely accurate on women looking up to the fathers, whole men love their mothers. But the fathers need to know it's their duty to be strict in some regard, they have to instill discipline. It's not their job to be best friends.
My parents have 8 kids together, we can all agree dad was very strict when we were kids, and we even feared him. Today we all have a good relationship with him, even if we recount stories of unjust punishments. And since I have such a big family, I can tell you what a drastic difference there is between the eldest and youngest sibling
The younger ones are far more spoiled, because he got softer over the years, they're also much less grateful for everything provided to them. Those of us who were treated the harshest are the most grateful ones and have to tell them to shut up and realise they're not owed anything.
@@dutchdykefinger My mother always says she'd rather have 8 boys than the girls. (We have 4 of each)
I love that all the inmates of all different backgrounds rallied together to brainstorm getting this obvious innocent man out of jail.
They were all amazed and dumbfounded by a very clear injustice done this man that even the most dense among them could realize lol
Truly the most glorious thing about humans. The vast/grand majority, nearly all humans are wonderful and glorious. That's why ultimately humanity continues climbing up and up, because the few bad apples are infinitely outweighed by the gloriously wonderful side to humans. The good of humanity be praised and magnified forever and ever we pray and one day to arrive at that perfect day by it. 😍👍💯
Him saying Big daddy had me rolling😂😂
if you're a guy who has lost all hope and has no where left to turn.
this judge is still out there.
Godspeed.
When ladies come ask why men don't want commit anymore, this story will explain all.
So sorry to see you through this situation, sir. I hope you can beat all of this struggle. After all chaos comes the reward.
This is the kind of stuff they should be showing in schools, real situations that show the real price paid (actual and emotional) when assuming you are "doing the right thing" for the family, only to be taken advantage of and treated like a criminal while having your time and resources taken from you. And they wonder why men aren't getting married anymore...
Well you can see his story as one of hope too. After all he has a wife that respects him and was there for him through those ordeals. But you are right, the landmines are extremely scary and deter a lot of people from stepping into the battlefield. When faced with similar disasters, a lot of people are broken and cannot build back their life after like Ben was thankfully able to in this story.
Holy shit if i ever get married definitely hiding some assets
His daughter is the prime reason why most parents are enjoying their retirement and using all their assets before they die instead of passing it down.
We will likely do this. Depends how the kids behave. Peter has been good.
This seems to be happening more and more lately. Kids these days are little brats.
have you considered leaving US. Might buy you enough time to pay it off and return. But talk to a lawyer first.@@benhartcommentaries
@@benhartcommentaries You should Sir n thank God Peter's eyes are opened. More blessings to you
@@benhartcommentariesDo yourself a favor and take care of yourself. Your kids will always paint you as the villain, they are adults and nothing is going to change their minds.
Moral of the story. The internet is awesome but social media is toxic.
WELL SAID.
Moral of the story: Don’t get married or have a family in a downfalling world.
This is actually wonderful because without social media, so many people would not know the injustices that are perpetrated against men in the American family court system.
The level of understanding and patience this guy shows tells me that he’s not what his daughter is trying to say