Bunch of borsesh1t. Not taking accountability for your own free Will and will power is insane. Blaming some imaginary disease for not being able to stop doing something is taking accountability from your own mind and own life choices and saying it’s because of this etc. perhaps the problem is after taking one, you choose to not care anymore, he lowers his inhibitions and practices his free Will of not stopping.
@@maxwellokafor1071 ever had a voice in your head telling you non stop to drink water because you are very thirsty and you can't cope without... welcome to alcoholism or any drug addiction
How brave was Mathew Perry... Not only did he contend with the negative and discouraging and disparaging dialogue and comments of Hitchens, but he stood up and bravely confessed his own failings. R.I.P. Mathew. God bless you.
@@gbbarn Hey! that’s true. The withdrawal symptoms go away and are temporary. That’s what I meant. You won’t suffer forever through the dts or shakes or terrible feelings that come with it.
Sad for Matthew. He clearly knew what a huge problem he had. He clearly had to fight EVERY DAY, to NOT take a drink, or take a drug. I suppose this happens after the body/brain becoming conditioned to habitually being overindulged with alcohol/drugs. I think the time to PREVENT this from happening, is as a YOUNG person. I think when a person USES these drugs to EXCESS---repeatededly---as a young person---they are CREATING the ADDICTION, which they then have to FIGHT against, the rest of their life. Young people BEWARE, it is NOT COOL, AT ALL, to get drugged or drunk HABITUALLY, or you will be CONTROLLED by your ADDICTION. Sad, but PREVENTABLE.
I’m an addict and alcoholic. Black out drunk with no shut off point but to black out. And did ICE for 7 years total it ran its course. But proud to say I’m 41 months sober Now.
Even that level of control, although it sounds nice and it’s a good mindset to build a healthy lifestyle that takes precaution very seriously - thus highly increasing the likelihood of staying sober, is not necessarily true. I sort of think that the same mental process that makes using seem like not a choice once you have the first one (and no one can explain exactly why that’s the case) is the same thing that one might go through when exposed to enough emotional stress. It like free will isn’t really a thing. But there are things you can do nonetheless to reduce the likelihood of a certain outcome (using), to a degree.
@@sly9263that's why it doesn't originate from addicts, it originates from peer researched journals and clinical tests. the understanding of which is above your paygrade, it doesn't need to make sense to you.
@sly9263 addiction is a compulsive mental obsession. No different that people who smoke or speed or eat too much. You can say it's just lack of self control, ans it is. But it's way more cunning than that.
@@olualafe3577Not quite. With drugs, the government does everything humanly possible to destroy your life. The only way to possibly come back is to become a cheerleader for the drug war
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. My thoughts will be on my new associations, people who are not using and who have found a new way of life. So long as I follow that way, I have nothing to Fear!
I have more experience the Mr Perry .. There are 1000s of alcoholics who can have 2 or 3 even 4 then stop.... So that's you have control.... It's that first thought of drinking say at noon or 3 pm.. thats control it self discipline. A self discipline problem . Typical liberal making excuses... its weak and backwards
Working in a decade sober. My wife was sent to me 14 years ago and through her love patience and really hard work she’s (we) turned my life around. Without her I wouldn’t have made it. I remember every single time I look at her how lucky I am. Stay strong out there and find your rock to anchor yourself.
Asking for and receiving help is a life skill. For all the tough guys out there who want to comment about not being tough enough or whatever, to an actual alcoholic, quitting is impossible to do alone. Most things in life are impossible to do alone, and if you think otherwise, just re-examine yourself.
Good for you for recognizing her and respecting her enough to change. I too was saved by an amazing woman mine was opiates for 26 plus years but she was patient loving and truly cared for me and in seeing that this person was not going to leave me so I needed to either die faster to help her or fix myself. It's an amazing thing finding the love to break the cycles. Awesome to read what you wrote. Ty for sharing. Have a positive day
Your lucky you have a compassionate wife, cuz let me tell you...many women today would see you as a burden or problem weighing their life down and leave. I'm glad you had her.
At the end of the day it's you. I used to drink nearly half a bottle of Jameson a night. And decided I wanted to stop. Haven't drank since. Tired of grown ass people who can't take accountability for their actions. It's 100% on you.
@@vitald8796 Nothing you say will matter. Your addiction wasn't as bad as theirs, or you were lucky you could stop, etc, etc... It's all the same denial that they made a choice to use, and to become an addict.
@@notusingmyrealname15 idc. Stop making excuzed cause you aren't grown up yet to stop doing what you know is killing you. Your a grown ass adult, no one to blame but yourself. It's your own fault.
He understood it decently, but in fact as an alcoholic he actually doesn't have a choice even in using. He implied that his loss of choice comes after first taking it, but the fact is that he actually had no control over staying sober. That's the crux of the issue and one that, unfortunately, gets lost in the rooms of AA quite a lot.
Rip Matthew. I understand how people say u have a choice but like Matt said after that first drink and you’re an addict/alcoholic, there is almost nothing that will stop u from keeping it going for that night, even if u realize u hate what ur doing and will regret it in the morning
@@MyKarva It’s obvious you’ve never been there or you wouldn’t have made this comment. It makes perfect sense if you’re an alcoholic. And yes, of course drinking daily or habitually would classify you as an alcoholic.. but the premise behind the quote is the ability to quit once you’ve started, which if you’re an alcoholic, is nearly impossible to do.
My dad passed about 21 years ago a month before my 10th birthday. He died from liver failure from all the drinking he'd done in his life. He didn't have an easy life so I don't blame him for what he did but seeing him slowly turn yellow and then be confined to the very bed he would die in made it so that I would never pick up an alcoholic drink in my life. Those who experience addiction and overcome it are some of the strongest people in the world. I'm sorry your father wasn't able to break his addiction in time. You never really know the battles that others are fighting.
Man,i fucked everything in my life because of gambling.Lost my wife,lost my job,made problems for my whole family and have a lot of debts.I need help cause i can't quit it alone.I am MONSTER and i am at the edge to do suicide😢🤮😭
I think gambling is harder to break out of than alcohol. There were cases when ,,one more,, solved temporarily some debts, problems, gives you a high of being well off. I never heard of one more bottle helping someone. I hope you and your brother are better now
I agree with them both … I drank for over 10 years every day, and I decided one day to quit and that’s what I did And to this day, I can go out once a month. I have three drinks and go home. You do make the choice you choose to take that first drink knowing it’s gonna be hard not to take the second. You can choose to go home and not drink. It is a choice.
@JasonFelton-rm1rx Congrats man. I like to hear about people that can still enjoy it with control. I used to drink very heavily every day. The lady I married asked me to only drink on my weekends and to tone down how much I drank, after several incidents of me acting like a total douche. I've been doing that ever since, just drinking on days off, and not on my sunday. I dont drink a full day before work so I have a day of rest. I had to quit telling myself that I had to get drunk, or that I needed to get drunk. It was so childish. Now sometimes I drink water inbetween my beer to stay hydrated, lol. I cant do hangovers anymore. I like that the older I get, the less I feel that I need it, and I enjoy my sober days a lot more than I used to.
@@TheWayIsPeace try and sit with that empty feeling and really understand the shape of it. What exactly do you feel is missing? When you understand that you can then start building yourself back up everyday with positive small steps and affirmations directly addressing that feeling. Hang in there
Yes, Perry was very authentic and relatable. And correct. The first drink was his choice, and he had to probably had to move Mountains to make sure that he was never in a place where he really wanted to have a first drink.
That's why hes dead. Im an addict as well and this isnt skmething u choose to be but it is somwthing u choose to do! Self accountability and responsibility is everything in rehabilitation
@@Goldo97This is so true,My brother has been clean 7 months now & I know he has a long way to go..His daughter & I literally saved him from dying back in December nothing but bones no color to his face 120 lbs Now he's healthier,got rid of Hep-C,& is 185lbs. There is a God!!
It's def not true it's called not taking accountability for your actions only the 1st drink is his fault then the ones he drinks after isn't his fault is the dumbest thing I ever heard
I’ll never understand why people write entire books that make it clear they either haven’t read, or have read and ignored, all scientific findings about the topic of the book.
@@jenrich111 Poor guy for sure. By ignorance I mean he convinced himself and fully believed something that wasn't true. If he understood that he DOES have the power to stop, then perhaps he would have felt some hope to recover. One always has the power of choice. Always. To believe otherwise is dooming oneself.
@@js7127 People who believe they can become a millionaire have a better chance of becoming one than someone who doesn't. When it comes to life and death, it's wise to adopt the mentality that will enable you to live.
@@daytondane1617it’s common sense truth. If you’ve ever been addicted yourself or know someone who has come out of it , they will usually agree. They just had to make the hard choice and be honest
"So genuine" he was a multi millionaire who couldn't get it together with everything handed to him. Then he's here on tv giving excuses as to why he can't control himself. Yeah what a great guy lol
My father’s whole family are alcoholics. He doesn’t drink at all for that reason. Growing up when we went to dinner parties and seeing him being the only adult not drinking, I always felt so proud of him. He said he wanted to set a good example for me. ❤
You'll see that only the junkies and alcoholics are agreeing with perry. Addiction is a choice. And weak people always blame their bad choices on everything but themselves.
Hitchens missed the point that Perry was choosing to not take the first drink. It doesn't matter whether he could choose to take the next or not. Why did Hitchens want so badly for Perry to drink?!
@@watamatafoyuhe didn’t. And didn’t say that either. You do have a choice whether it’s the first drink or the second. If you didn’t you’d be murdering people to get alcohol after a few sips if it wasn’t available. Just because it’s a strong pull towards craving doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice. The science is that the urge is strong not that you literally don’t have free will, which is why addict talk is so nauseating.
@@amostlyreasonableguyI take it you’re a “normie”? Here the deal, imagine if you chose to have an anesthesia that put you into a partial comma where you don’t remember what you’re doing and are severely impaired as well. Pretty much in a “trance” The decision was sober and conciliation but what happens during the impaired period is foggy and you lost control of your actions. Taking more of the drug is not a conscious act. The trance has taken over and the “spirit” of the addict is no longer making the decisions, it’s the drug doing it for the addict. Maybe this analogy helps ?
Wow. My dad was an alcoholic. Once he took one drink he would be on a drinking spree for the next several months. I did not know that this was a common trait. My dad stopped drinking and got immersed in church and never touched alcohol again until died. The latter 20 years of his life was a blessing for him and our entire family.
Amazing story. He realized that he needed to never touch alcohol again, once he accepted that, he moved on with his life. I believe it’s a choice, a choice to stay away from bars and the liquor store.
Everything always starts with a choice. Don’t ever let anyone attempt to use emotion to claim otherwise. I used to be a drunk. I didn’t start drinking till I was 30 and for ten years I would give up shifts at work to have time off to drink. Hell, I would even pay people to take the shift. Can’t have no call no shows and keep a job. For about 5 years I worked enough to pay my bills and drink. I ate poorly, was out of shape. But thankfully my mind is strong and I was able to quit cold turkey. I thank God every day. I share the same addiction but he has other things that also contribute to that extreme bender after having one drink. It’s definitely common for some alcoholics to get paid Friday and not be seen again for a week. Most of us don’t know how to use our brain to help us. Humans over think the wrong way and pollute our thoughts. If we can cut through the BS and stop lying to ourselves we can all fight our demons. I was so bad that I’d go to sleep with 3 beers on the table and if I woke I’d pound one. Then the next if I woke again. Some nights I woke at 4 am in cold January and started drinking all day. Those were all choices made by me. If you have a hard time finding that inner you, talk to someone. It’s there it just need to be woken up. God bless anyone struggling
If you want to learn more read the Doctor’s Opinion from the AA big book, it’s interesting whether or not it applies to you. Sounds like your dad got all he could out of the program, great to hear.
I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time. May I ask if you've been through any trauma during your life? If you don't feel comfortable sharing, I totally understand.
I am an alcoholic I consciously choose every day not to buy alcohol or accept if offered. This is not easy for me but I feel good when I wake up in the morning.
@@bushraa6527 no thanks That's not healthy for me it's all about health and staying strong sometimes I will get a beer and can't help myself but it's better than drinking a gallon every nite
My father is a recovering alcoholic and his sentiment is the same as Matthew Perry’s. He would tell me “one drink was too many and a thousand was never enough.” He’s 37 years sober and I’m so proud of him. Addiction is a deadly disease and the addicts in our life need our tough love and support ❤
As a addict all i have to add is how much i admire him for being able to say "im a drug addict" on tv. It seems easy, but to make that declaration not in your mind but on tv is very brave
Some people have different pain tolerances and some people have different addiction tolerances. Technically you could walk on a broken ankle but most people cant fight through pain like that. You can't blame someone for having a different limit then you might personally have.
I come from a family of addicts. I’ve chosen to keep away from everything because of that. I chose to not drink because of the fear it could destroy my life.
I applaud Matthew Perry's courage to openly admit his addictions. He is absolutely right. I have 12 years clean, and to this day, I still make a conscious effort to avoid people, places, and things that could possibly lead me to that first drink or drug
Matthew Perry was a celebrity crybaby trying to get attention any way he could by preying on the very sentiments you're expressing here. It's not brave. It's airing your dirty laundry for attention.
@@mattmarzula I disagree. I believe many people with addictions will be helped if they can speak about it, share their experiance. It may encourage others to quit too, or to hang in there staying clean. It can help if you hear others go through same. What you are saying is that people should not speak about their problems, and keep it to yourself. That is not healthy. He had enough attention, he really didn't need to beg for it.
@@mattmarzula smh. You clearly know very little about addiction. At the end of the day, you are entitled to your opinion, even if it is wrong. Then there are some people who just want to disagree for no reason
Ive been an addict (def worse than most of y’all) and depressed and both were a choice. The only time where it’s slightly logical to claim otherwise is when physically addicted.
BS. As someone who knows numerous recovered addicts it's 100% a choice. That's not to say we should vilify or shame addicts but Perry is pretending like he had absolutely no agency over his choices. I had always heard that he got sober, which was obviously a choice, and that fact alone destroys his victim mentality. I wonder if he seriously believed it was good messaging to tell young people that existing as an addict isn't a choice and there's no point in trying to quite?
Hold on kids. Can’t bash something you’ve never experienced. Alcohol is PROVEN to lower inhibitions, and give you a high. The mind of an addict is structured so that when the limbic system is activated when consuming alcohol, they almost completely lose their ability to regulate their decisions. It’s all about feelings at that point. You idiots have no clue what being an addict means. People don’t get to that point without feeling like shit about the decisions they make, yet they lose the ability to regulate their decisions once they are high. It is what it is, nobody likes it and there is no point arguing what an addict goes through. Yes an addict has physical control over the act of drinking, but the mind rationalizes the behavior until lives are destroyed.
My Dad once asked me a trick question about drinking limits. It was "how do you know when you're drunk?" And he said "it's when you want another drink".
I’ve never been around this debate, perhaps because I don’t drink. But I am familiar with the notion of agency, and how some choices begin to take away your agency. For example, deciding to play around with sex, and then getting pregnant, leads you to less agency for whether or not you want a kid. Some people believe that killing the baby is a feasible choice, while others realize that adoption or parenting are feasible choices too. Drinkers seem to think that drinkers only have one choice after the first drink - to drink more. No, they also have alternative choices that they are able to make. They just don’t want to do the hard thing. It’s hard to parent, it’s hard to give up a kid for someone else to take care of, but it’s easy to just kill it before ever having to meet it. Next I’m gonna hear how abortions are just part of a sex addiction.
@@godlygamer911it’s an expression it doesn’t literally have to mean his ghost leaves from his body and goes to heaven or something. A soul is just the personality or qualities the person has that control their body.
He's not special there's literally hundreds of millions of people on earth who struggle with this exact problem and don't get to disclose it on TV and actually face major consequences for it so in reality you should feel happy for him because he's better off than most
Actually, he was lying about being clean & died of a drug overdose. I was disappointed to find that out. I think he wanted to be the guy got clean & saved people from the hell he went through & saved other families from the hell he put his family through. I absolutely respect the fact that he used his fame & platform to try & help; I wish he had succeeded.
Much respect for what? For delcaring is dependence? Nobody is born unable to stop drinking; if today he's addicted it's because he choose in the past, several times.
Before I had even realized I had a substance abuse problem, I felt for this man. Even after knowing the consequences from people telling me time and time again how life crushing addiction will be, my curiosity still overcame my will power. After going through my decades of struggle I’m now 3 years sober and eternally grateful for those who showed me how. Knowing the mental battle drugs can have on a person, I truly hope Matthew Perry is at peace.
After I realized that I was addicted, I told myself I could stop but it just got worse and worse and worse. Hiding it was so exhausting. I finally almost died and I can't go back. 11 years sober. Congrats to you and thank you for sharing your story! ❤
Dont ever give in! I know how lucky I am.. I dont have an addictive personality. And I at 66 years old have lost too many friends to addiction, as well as way too many enemies. I would rather have them here fighting me or fighting alongside me.
@@nancymcnally7849I did all kinds of stupid stuff that resulted in my own misery but accepted my responsibility and stopped. The actual problem was you only told yourself to stop. Not that you actually did. All that one last time, I can stop anytime but I chose not to, I'll stop tomorrow, addiction is the only disease you can cure by a pragmatic outlook and staying home. The truth in my opinion is that opium addicts are why the gooberment makes it hard for people legitimately suffering from chronic pain to get opiates. Alcohol and nicotine kill more people than opiates but those seem to be acceptable losses. If you're diabetic you may find ozempic, wegovy, mounjaro, etc difficult because overweight lazy denialists need it to lose weight while diabetics have to scramble to switch to whatever they can get. The overweight people won't die without those drugs but diabetics could. What happened to Adderall for all the people with ADHD going into mental crisis because the dea limits how much can be made and so went into mental crisis because they couldn't get it for over a year and still can't. No wonder America has become such a shit show. No one admits to having any responsibility. If Donald Trump ends up in jail or Biden ends up in jail it will be their own fault. Quit accusing everyone else for your own inadequacies. Sack up.
My brother lost his battle with alcoholism after he struggled to come to terms with 2 family deaths within a year , one of which was my 18 year old son . My younger brother and I found him face down on his bed after he had chocked on his own blood following a esophageal rupture ( burst throat stripped by alcohol ) he was the 3rd death our family had in 18 months . My son died 18 , my brother 44 and my father 63 . I’m sitting here aged 57 with a heavy heart and struggle daily with depression which sometimes includes laughter , some days I want to live and some I don’t .
Sorry for your loss, hoping you continue to find things in life that bring you joy comfort and remembrance of the loved ones youve lost. Keep fighting there’s always something to live for
I came from a large family At 40 I had no deaths in the family Then 5 deaths in 4yrs. Mom dad 2 brothers and one sister in law. Life is messy. I don’t drink or do drugs Ever. I go to church and ask God for help. Much love from Coleman TX
Hitchens is perfectly right. Perry said so himself....."I'm in control of the first drink". It's about responsibility, we have too many adults who hate responsibility.
I feel bad that he passed but there are millions that struggle with addiction whether it's eating gambling porn smoking drinking drugs only difference between him and most of world he's famous and people make excuses for him
I dated an alcoholic for 3 years. She would drink listerine if there was no alcohol in the apartment and she didn’t have money. She destroyed everything in her life including our relationship. Addiction is real
I’m an alcoholic with a short stint so far in recovery and I can completely relate to her. Pretty much lost everything in my life twice because of it and legal issues too. Alcohol is terrible and I hope she’s doing better now. Sorry you had to go through that, I know what I’ve put my significant others through.
@@jeffreybouche3817 hope you´re feeling better now, every person has more than one chance in life, if you are self-aware it´s more than 95% of the addicts can do, masive respect for that and good luck with your journey, believe in it :)
No one’s arguing it’s not real it’s just that it’s not a disease or some uncontrollable thing. It’s like anything else in life you can give in to, you can also not give into it
Betty Ford once said something similar to what Mr. Perry said. She said, "My control waivers, my decisions falter, after the first sip of anything with alcohol in it."
Bullshit....... you are in control EVERY A TIME THROUGH YOUR ADDICTION..... you make your own choices people... it's NOBODY ELSE'S FAULT....... it's your fault.... it's NOT CHEMICALS CONTROLLING YOU... it's you controlling yourself..... face the truth and grow
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Here's the deal, if he says he took Step One knowing there is "no effective mental defense against the first drink" but then he says he just has the power of choice, in his mental defenses, then he was a walking contradiction. Get it? Step One in AA is up to page 43 in their book, describing this problem. With no booze in his body it seems he was Powerless, beyond human aid. Yet here he was using human aid and his mental defenses against the first drink. Again, humbly I say most of the members have no idea that being Powerless against the first drink means WITHOUT any alcohol in your body at the time. Otherwise it's just like any other person, if you shouldn't drink then DONT DRINK... no illness, no alcoholism. But the people who understand the Step One admission , this minority of the alcoholics become WILLING... TO DO WHATEVER. . it takes. They go through the recovery program without having to be reminded to do so, without encouragement, KNOWING they MUST become recovered or else they'll drink against their own will. Matthew drank even though he chose to NOT DRINK.
Really, if the tox report comes back saying his body just gave out, I wouldn't wonder. He lived through a hellish emergency a few summers ago, and they thought he was done then. He may have already outlived what life his body had left in it. 💔
He handled that with such grace. Some people will never master the art of having a civil conversation with someone they disagree with but this man had it down.
It's a lot easier when the other person isn't constantly interrupting, talking over him, or screaming. It takes two people to have a civil conversation.
He was taking a real teaching moment. I love it. I think his point is so important that people don’t understand. It’s always the 1st you’re in control of then it’s literally chemistry.
I would say he knew he had no choice BUT to have that conversation because he didn't much want to go there again. 😢 He actually seemed very determined, at last. Rest in peace, Matthew.
@thomashovgaard3134 Actually, I suspect it's ill fitting dentures from tooth loss and a somewhat haggard appearance from all the years of substance abuse.
It’s most likely related to an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex (adhd/autism spectrum disorder). The executive function is greatly impaired resulting in poor decision making and it doesn’t stop there. If you are interested or curious, I recommend researching the topic and making an appointment with a good therapist/psychologist (or whoever diagnoses and treats these issues). If you are adhd or autistic, Just learning about the disorder(s) will help anyone who suffers. There are a lot of good resources available today to help with stuff like this. Almost every addict I’ve known (including myself) is neurodivergent.
Someone literally can't even have alcoholism and sit here on camera and say how week they are and enable the making a good choice without you bringing a politics does that say something about your f****** b******* man
Was so lucky to meet Matthew Perry, in a business context. I introduced myself in such a dorky way: “Hi, I’m Jesse from Canada.” The rest of the meeting Mr. Perry teased me, in a good natured way. “Nice to meet you, Jesse from Canada. What do you think, Jesse from Canada?” He kept everyone laughing and loose. He was just like his character on Friends, but with more kindness and less snark. It was a celebrity encounter I will always cherish .
My sobriety date is December 1st 2010, which is also my daughter’s birthday. I was so broke and broken it was the only gift I could give her that year. A promise of sobriety! My car was repossessed, I had an eviction notice on my door and no job. By the grace of God I got sober that day. Matthew is absolutely correct! I could never have just one drink! Once the phenomenon of craving kicks in after that first drink I couldn’t stop! The allergy he talks about! It’s real, I know, I’ve been there. One is too many and a thousand is not enough! Ask any alcoholic or drug addict. I don’t know if I’ll ever drink again, I just know that I’m not going to drink today! I take it one day at a time!
If you go and have a drink today..... you're making a choice to do so. "Allergy" or not, if you take that 2nd drink, you've still made the choice. No doubt addiction is dysfunction. But lets never take the road you choose out of the equation.
I've never struggled with alcohol but have other addictions. As an addict I am powerless but have a choice. I know I probably won't develop a drinking habit if I have one drink, but why take the chance. I must never allow myself to compromise my choice to someone who just cannot understand the mind of an addict.
Mate, how you said "it was the only gift I could give her" brought me to tears. That's beautiful and the fact you did it for her is even more beautiful. That's a real Father and Dad. I hope you've stayed strong and gained so many beautiful memories with your daughter. Family is everything 🤜🤛💗
@torrel8074 it is brave because society teaches us to be strong and not fidget in front of temptations...weak people are strong when they admit their weakness and demons...he articulated the problem quite well
As a former heroin addict agree with the doctor. Notice I say former. To condemn yourself to always be an addict because you were 20 years ago is one of my issues with the 12 step program. The rigid rules and simplified understanding of addiction is much more useful than the nuanced science of addiction, tolerance and abstinence. Useful doesn't mean factually honest.
Good comment. Ive tried convincing my drug addicted family of this kind of thinking. I think people are far too willing to cast blame anywhere but themselves.
It’s extra sad when the victim of addiction is outspoken and is well aware of it, and how powerless said addiction can make them feel. RIP Matthew Perry
Gambling is another horrific addiction! I've seen many people unable to control it. Like Matt said, the most willpower comes before the first drink or before the first bet, after that the addiction takes over!
@@printingwithpeek4897It take some dignity to not lie to ourselves and to others. It's not a pretty thing to admit that you are an addict, in a national television broadcast. It is an act of courage, at least he's facing, or openly talking about a difficult subject.
@@peopletakepicturesofeachother No one is saying that he isn't keeping his dignity by doing that, but so say that he didn't get there by choice from the start is a stupid statement
Thank you, I am very blessed, and I am also empathic. I don't have to go through something to understand the severity of it. I can not imagine not being able to stop drinking, I think God I don't have a problem with alcohol. I hear Matthew saying he can control that first drink, and that is a choice, but after the 1st drink, the choice is taken away, and you lose control of the situation. I don't think anyone chooses to be an addict, and not everyone who tries a vice becomes addicted...
@@TerreiaHamer-mp5ws very true. I would certainly never have chosen to be an addict. But I can tell you this, and many may not understand, but I'm glad that I am. I live a program now that not only helps me stay off drugs, but it has changed everything else about me as well. I wouldn't be the person I am today (admittedly, flawed) without this program and where I started.
Not that blessed. I had a severe depression about ten years ago. Now the apathy in me is so strong I don't feel desire for anything in this life including drugs and alcohol.
Teaching people that it’s understandable to be degenerate alcoholic because medical science says it’s not your fault. What a beta cuck. Rip bitchboy chandler bing
@@MineisbiggerHow did he not? He wrote about it, became clean and helped others that had an addiction. He was a savior for many. He quit ALL drugs and Alcohol, how did he not fight at his fullest against it?
My dad always said “when I have a drink, I feel like a new man, the problem is that this new man also wants a drink”.
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Great line! 😅
Wise man 💯💯
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“First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.” - F. Scott Fitzgerald
What did Scott Fitzgerald do to you?
Bunch of borsesh1t. Not taking accountability for your own free Will and will power is insane. Blaming some imaginary disease for not being able to stop doing something is taking accountability from your own mind and own life choices and saying it’s because of this etc. perhaps the problem is after taking one, you choose to not care anymore, he lowers his inhibitions and practices his free Will of not stopping.
@@OngoGablogian73he wrote a book
@@AnonymousF11but why f. him?
@@maxwellokafor1071 ever had a voice in your head telling you non stop to drink water because you are very thirsty and you can't cope without... welcome to alcoholism or any drug addiction
How brave was Mathew Perry... Not only did he contend with the negative and discouraging and disparaging dialogue and comments of Hitchens, but he stood up and bravely confessed his own failings. R.I.P. Mathew. God bless you.
2.5 years sober here. Was so hard to get past that first few months. If you’re reading this and struggling, it goes away one day.
As an alcoholic, how did you do it???
No it doesn't, it's a life-long struggle. You might think you're over it, that you have been sober for over a decade. But you only need one bad day.
@@gbbarn Hey! that’s true. The withdrawal symptoms go away and are temporary. That’s what I meant. You won’t suffer forever through the dts or shakes or terrible feelings that come with it.
Proud of you
Sad for Matthew. He clearly knew what a huge problem he had. He clearly had to fight EVERY DAY, to NOT take a drink, or take a drug. I suppose this happens after the body/brain becoming conditioned to habitually being overindulged with alcohol/drugs. I think the time to PREVENT this from happening, is as a YOUNG person. I think when a person USES these drugs to EXCESS---repeatededly---as a young person---they are CREATING the ADDICTION, which they then have to FIGHT against, the rest of their life. Young people BEWARE, it is NOT COOL, AT ALL, to get drugged or drunk HABITUALLY, or you will be CONTROLLED by your ADDICTION. Sad, but PREVENTABLE.
I'm 62 days sober
Stay strong bro. Working on a decade rn.
I’m sober since 6/6/24 after a three month relapse! Glad to be here!
@@petetownshend5297that's like 10 days ago lololol
Get it you got this
🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’m an addict and alcoholic. Black out drunk with no shut off point but to black out. And did ICE for 7 years total it ran its course. But proud to say I’m 41 months sober Now.
Good job!!
41 years sober. Congratulations. 🙏
By choice?
That’s great! Congratulations 🤗
Well done you 👏 😊
41 months? That’s absolutely amazing. Really. I am a complete stranger but I’m absolutely delighted for you. Live well, my friend. ❤
"I have control of the first drink..."
That's wisdom speaking right there!
Even that level of control, although it sounds nice and it’s a good mindset to build a healthy lifestyle that takes precaution very seriously - thus highly increasing the likelihood of staying sober, is not necessarily true. I sort of think that the same mental process that makes using seem like not a choice once you have the first one (and no one can explain exactly why that’s the case) is the same thing that one might go through when exposed to enough emotional stress. It like free will isn’t really a thing. But there are things you can do nonetheless to reduce the likelihood of a certain outcome (using), to a degree.
😂😂😂
You can see the pain and anger on Matthew's face. Its heartbreaking.
Easier to call it a disease than your lack of self control
@@sly9263facts.
@@sly9263easier to blame the person for a lack of self control than it is to admit it's a complex problem and they need help from a support network
@@sly9263that's why it doesn't originate from addicts, it originates from peer researched journals and clinical tests. the understanding of which is above your paygrade, it doesn't need to make sense to you.
@sly9263 addiction is a compulsive mental obsession. No different that people who smoke or speed or eat too much. You can say it's just lack of self control, ans it is. But it's way more cunning than that.
“One drink is too many and a thousand never enough.”
My brother
Same as drugs.
@@olualafe3577Not quite. With drugs, the government does everything humanly possible to destroy your life. The only way to possibly come back is to become a cheerleader for the drug war
@@nonyabeeswax7111 real schizo hours
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. My thoughts will be on my new associations, people who are not using and who have found a new way of life. So long as I follow that way, I have nothing to Fear!
Matthew was vulnerable, honest and sincere. He'll always have a place in my heart.
Sincere perhaps, but it's not "proved" what he's saying.
I have more experience the Mr Perry ..
There are 1000s of alcoholics who can have 2 or 3 even 4 then stop....
So that's you have control....
It's that first thought of drinking say at noon or 3 pm.. thats control it self discipline. A self discipline problem . Typical liberal making excuses... its weak and backwards
@@tayzk5929As an x addict, FACTS.......
He was also known to visit Epstiens Isalnd
And he has a hole in his heart from being max vaxd
Working in a decade sober. My wife was sent to me 14 years ago and through her love patience and really hard work she’s (we) turned my life around. Without her I wouldn’t have made it. I remember every single time I look at her how lucky I am. Stay strong out there and find your rock to anchor yourself.
Asking for and receiving help is a life skill. For all the tough guys out there who want to comment about not being tough enough or whatever, to an actual alcoholic, quitting is impossible to do alone. Most things in life are impossible to do alone, and if you think otherwise, just re-examine yourself.
Good for you for recognizing her and respecting her enough to change. I too was saved by an amazing woman mine was opiates for 26 plus years but she was patient loving and truly cared for me and in seeing that this person was not going to leave me so I needed to either die faster to help her or fix myself. It's an amazing thing finding the love to break the cycles. Awesome to read what you wrote. Ty for sharing. Have a positive day
I'd like to get to know your wife 😉
Your lucky you have a compassionate wife, cuz let me tell you...many women today would see you as a burden or problem weighing their life down and leave. I'm glad you had her.
Sent to you? Thai bride from Ebay?
For those who don't know what he talking about, consider yourself lucky, addiction is real and it'll tear the best down, rip Matthew
At the end of the day it's you. I used to drink nearly half a bottle of Jameson a night. And decided I wanted to stop. Haven't drank since.
Tired of grown ass people who can't take accountability for their actions. It's 100% on you.
@@vitald8796 if you can stop on your own you aren't an alcoholic mate
@@vitald8796night? So you in reality didn't Have a major problem becouse you werent drinking all Day.
@@vitald8796 Nothing you say will matter. Your addiction wasn't as bad as theirs, or you were lucky you could stop, etc, etc...
It's all the same denial that they made a choice to use, and to become an addict.
@@notusingmyrealname15 idc. Stop making excuzed cause you aren't grown up yet to stop doing what you know is killing you. Your a grown ass adult, no one to blame but yourself. It's your own fault.
He had a clear understanding of his personal issues and was very honest, truthful and willing to share. RIP.
He understood it decently, but in fact as an alcoholic he actually doesn't have a choice even in using. He implied that his loss of choice comes after first taking it, but the fact is that he actually had no control over staying sober. That's the crux of the issue and one that, unfortunately, gets lost in the rooms of AA quite a lot.
He appeals for help.. The control is to stay away from the 1st drink.
He is definitely drunk in this interview!
Rip Matthew. I understand how people say u have a choice but like Matt said after that first drink and you’re an addict/alcoholic, there is almost nothing that will stop u from keeping it going for that night, even if u realize u hate what ur doing and will regret it in the morning
look up MTHFR gene mutation
The fact that he accepted his situation not trying to hide it and worked towards it deserves recognition
Damned if you do damned if you dont.
Yes but also removes accountability and Blame
@@davidtrujillo146 and no need to do anything about it. This is what undeserved money do to you. Just like winning the lottery
NO.. Deserves correction... I am drinking.. Oh because the 1st drink mad me is not an excuse..
Bro he died ☹️
Thank you Mathew for sharing.
RIP Matthew 🙏 . Glad you went there. Well done.
Glad he went where? He never stopped and it killed him.
I Love this,ihope I get it,heartbroken for this good man.
@Urszula-tl5zk very much yes he and his friends the best of all times.
My wife's uncle once told me, "Being an alcoholic is not how often you drink. It's not being able to stop when you do." True words.
Hands down…. Shit is no joke if it ever gets ahold of you. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Agreed. Also applies to gambling with bankroll, Perhaps even porn pending your … load 😅 , And weed is weed 😊
Actually it's consistently drinking every day without fail... if you have 1 glass of wine per day your classed as an alcoholic.
??? That's a double negative and makes no sense 😕.
@@MyKarva It’s obvious you’ve never been there or you wouldn’t have made this comment. It makes perfect sense if you’re an alcoholic.
And yes, of course drinking daily or habitually would classify you as an alcoholic.. but the premise behind the quote is the ability to quit once you’ve started, which if you’re an alcoholic, is nearly impossible to do.
Please stay strong people. My dad just passed away because of his addiction. If you are sober, keep going!
Sorry for your lost!! My uncles passed from addiction to Crystal and Alcohol
My dad passed about 21 years ago a month before my 10th birthday. He died from liver failure from all the drinking he'd done in his life. He didn't have an easy life so I don't blame him for what he did but seeing him slowly turn yellow and then be confined to the very bed he would die in made it so that I would never pick up an alcoholic drink in my life. Those who experience addiction and overcome it are some of the strongest people in the world. I'm sorry your father wasn't able to break his addiction in time. You never really know the battles that others are fighting.
I buried my life long friend because of alcoholusm last saturday and i'm also alcohlic. We were only 35, he was younger than me.
@@metsatrollI'm sorry😢 how often did he drink and what? I'm struggling with alcoholism currently and need help 😢 I'm 43
@@metsatrollI'm truly sorry for your loss. 😢
My alcoholic brother could never understand why I had a gambling problem. He once remarked " just don't gamble"
Wow!!
Man,i fucked everything in my life because of gambling.Lost my wife,lost my job,made problems for my whole family and have a lot of debts.I need help cause i can't quit it alone.I am MONSTER and i am at the edge to do suicide😢🤮😭
I think gambling is harder to break out of than alcohol. There were cases when ,,one more,, solved temporarily some debts, problems, gives you a high of being well off. I never heard of one more bottle helping someone. I hope you and your brother are better now
@@damiangaazka7570 thank-you...appreciate it.
It’s really that simple…Just don’t gamble…It cannot be more simple…Never really understood lack of self control
I’m 3 months sober and out of all the shit I’ve done over the years alcohol has been my toughest battle
13 years sober from drugs❤ Rest in peace Matthew ❤
That's awesome! Drugs are awesome. Until they're not 😮 I should really think about going stone sober like you. Probably for the best
I agree with them both … I drank for over 10 years every day, and I decided one day to quit and that’s what I did
And to this day, I can go out once a month. I have three drinks and go home.
You do make the choice you choose to take that first drink knowing it’s gonna be hard not to take the second. You can choose to go home and not drink. It is a choice.
@JasonFelton-rm1rx Congrats man. I like to hear about people that can still enjoy it with control. I used to drink very heavily every day. The lady I married asked me to only drink on my weekends and to tone down how much I drank, after several incidents of me acting like a total douche. I've been doing that ever since, just drinking on days off, and not on my sunday. I dont drink a full day before work so I have a day of rest. I had to quit telling myself that I had to get drunk, or that I needed to get drunk. It was so childish. Now sometimes I drink water inbetween my beer to stay hydrated, lol. I cant do hangovers anymore. I like that the older I get, the less I feel that I need it, and I enjoy my sober days a lot more than I used to.
Congratulations ❤
@@TheWayIsPeace try and sit with that empty feeling and really understand the shape of it. What exactly do you feel is missing? When you understand that you can then start building yourself back up everyday with positive small steps and affirmations directly addressing that feeling. Hang in there
Rest in Peace Mr. Perry. He was honest. May you be remembered for your honesty, kindness and generosity. Gone way too soon :(
Maybe he didn’t have a choice over the first one
@YTSFACTS4444yes, he died last week. Its only been global.news.....
& the laugh he provided all of us
Yes, Perry was very authentic and relatable. And correct. The first drink was his choice, and he had to probably had to move Mountains to make sure that he was never in a place where he really wanted to have a first drink.
@YTSFACTS4444
Yes, he died about a week ago .
Never a truer word.R.I.P. Mathew.
Matthew* but yes I do agree with him as well. RIP Matthew
That's why hes dead. Im an addict as well and this isnt skmething u choose to be but it is somwthing u choose to do! Self accountability and responsibility is everything in rehabilitation
@@Goldo97This is so true,My brother has been clean 7 months now & I know he has a long way to go..His daughter & I literally saved him from dying back in December nothing but bones no color to his face 120 lbs Now he's healthier,got rid of Hep-C,& is 185lbs. There is a God!!
Nah big hick is right on this one tbh
It's def not true it's called not taking accountability for your actions only the 1st drink is his fault then the ones he drinks after isn't his fault is the dumbest thing I ever heard
I’ll never understand why people write entire books that make it clear they either haven’t read, or have read and ignored, all scientific findings about the topic of the book.
admire his honesty and understanding of himself
You admire the ignorance that lead to his death?
@@dcsnare315x The cause of his death is really none of our business - poor guy. Explain what you mean by ignorance?
@@jenrich111 Poor guy for sure. By ignorance I mean he convinced himself and fully believed something that wasn't true. If he understood that he DOES have the power to stop, then perhaps he would have felt some hope to recover. One always has the power of choice. Always. To believe otherwise is dooming oneself.
@@dcsnare315x Evidently you are a millionaire because you believe yourself to be so. If you are not it must be pure ignorance that you are not one.
@@js7127 People who believe they can become a millionaire have a better chance of becoming one than someone who doesn't. When it comes to life and death, it's wise to adopt the mentality that will enable you to live.
Addiction hurts everyone. Yesterday, today and for many days to come and go. Rest in peace Mathew
you said a mouthful!
He did it to himself. Sad.
This is definitely a truth i've never heard before
Mathew lost big time!😮
@@daytondane1617it’s common sense truth. If you’ve ever been addicted yourself or know someone who has come out of it , they will usually agree. They just had to make the hard choice and be honest
I love matthew perry rest in peace. A truly amazing soul ❤
As a former Addict. It’s still your choice.
In your opinion...being a recovering addict doesn't make it true or false
As an alcoholic myself, I am truly impressed by his honesty and openness on that topic.
when you have not exhibited self control for as long as Matt did, there is no shame only excuses.
you always have a choice. you just looking for excuses
I don't drink anymore. But I will always be an alcoholic. @@sumonnostelga9369
Read his book. It's heartbreaking accountability. 💔
It’s not honest when you admit to saying your first drink is a choice, and then refuse to believe it was your choice.
The lip shake and pause after he said “can’t stop” was so genuine, RIP Matthew
Wow it's almost like he CHOSE to end up there
"So genuine" he was a multi millionaire who couldn't get it together with everything handed to him. Then he's here on tv giving excuses as to why he can't control himself. Yeah what a great guy lol
@@23Butanedione ah yes because money can solve all problems… ffs you sound like a child
Dear GOD please have mercy on us!!!
@@23ButanedioneI think he explained the situation. Maybe see if you can turn on the captions?
11.5 years sober from heroin, my last go woke up to my friend all blue. Was a wake up call. RIP Gal Babich
He actually admitted that he is in control of the first drink, thus having the ability to make a choice NOT to take the first drink.
My father’s whole family are alcoholics. He doesn’t drink at all for that reason. Growing up when we went to dinner parties and seeing him being the only adult not drinking, I always felt so proud of him. He said he wanted to set a good example for me. ❤
You'll see that only the junkies and alcoholics are agreeing with perry. Addiction is a choice. And weak people always blame their bad choices on everything but themselves.
Hitchens missed the point that Perry was choosing to not take the first drink. It doesn't matter whether he could choose to take the next or not. Why did Hitchens want so badly for Perry to drink?!
Stunning and brave
@@watamatafoyuhe didn’t. And didn’t say that either. You do have a choice whether it’s the first drink or the second. If you didn’t you’d be murdering people to get alcohol after a few sips if it wasn’t available. Just because it’s a strong pull towards craving doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice. The science is that the urge is strong not that you literally don’t have free will, which is why addict talk is so nauseating.
@@amostlyreasonableguyI take it you’re a “normie”? Here the deal, imagine if you chose to have an anesthesia that put you into a partial comma where you don’t remember what you’re doing and are severely impaired as well. Pretty much in a “trance” The decision was sober and conciliation but what happens during the impaired period is foggy and you lost control of your actions. Taking more of the drug is not a conscious act. The trance has taken over and the “spirit” of the addict is no longer making the decisions, it’s the drug doing it for the addict. Maybe this analogy helps ?
Wow. My dad was an alcoholic. Once he took one drink he would be on a drinking spree for the next several months. I did not know that this was a common trait. My dad stopped drinking and got immersed in church and never touched alcohol again until died. The latter 20 years of his life was a blessing for him and our entire family.
Amazing story. He realized that he needed to never touch alcohol again, once he accepted that, he moved on with his life. I believe it’s a choice, a choice to stay away from bars and the liquor store.
That's what Hitchens is trying to say. Personal responsibility is not popular in our postmodern culture
Everything always starts with a choice. Don’t ever let anyone attempt to use emotion to claim otherwise. I used to be a drunk. I didn’t start drinking till I was 30 and for ten years I would give up shifts at work to have time off to drink. Hell, I would even pay people to take the shift. Can’t have no call no shows and keep a job. For about 5 years I worked enough to pay my bills and drink. I ate poorly, was out of shape. But thankfully my mind is strong and I was able to quit cold turkey. I thank God every day. I share the same addiction but he has other things that also contribute to that extreme bender after having one drink. It’s definitely common for some alcoholics to get paid Friday and not be seen again for a week. Most of us don’t know how to use our brain to help us. Humans over think the wrong way and pollute our thoughts. If we can cut through the BS and stop lying to ourselves we can all fight our demons. I was so bad that I’d go to sleep with 3 beers on the table and if I woke I’d pound one. Then the next if I woke again. Some nights I woke at 4 am in cold January and started drinking all day. Those were all choices made by me. If you have a hard time finding that inner you, talk to someone. It’s there it just need to be woken up. God bless anyone struggling
If you want to learn more read the Doctor’s Opinion from the AA big book, it’s interesting whether or not it applies to you. Sounds like your dad got all he could out of the program, great to hear.
I’m happy you were able to have your father at the end. It’s good that he stopped. I wish the same for mine.
Thank you Matthew Perry. Courage in the face of intelligent ignorance.
Unless you have been there, you won't get it. I've been battling this demon for 15 years now and still slip.
I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time. May I ask if you've been through any trauma during your life? If you don't feel comfortable sharing, I totally understand.
"Dont ask why the addiction, ask why the pain" - Dr Gabor Matè
🎯❗️
Nah ask why the addiction for sure
100 percent!!
@@braidynchapman5103The answer to your question is always gonna be pain. Whether it's physical, mental, emotional etc..
Now ask why the pain
this this this this this...
I am an alcoholic I consciously choose every day not to buy alcohol or accept if offered. This is not easy for me but I feel good when I wake up in the morning.
try fasting and stopping for the sake of GOD, love GOD more than your desires
@@bushraa6527 no thanks That's not healthy for me it's all about health and staying strong sometimes I will get a beer and can't help myself but it's better than drinking a gallon every nite
God bless u my brother 🙏🏼 stay strong 💪🏼
I'm proud of you. You are powerful and strong. You've got this friend. :)
Sounds like you're doing all the right things.
Keep doing what you're doing.
I been sober for five years…. And this is true…. Once you start you can’t stop…. Rest in peace Matt
EVERYONE HAS CHOICES.
But not everyone the ability to choose.
Does a drugged person have the ability to choose not to have sex with the person at the bar?
Too many of you lack nuance and try to sound stoic.
He knew what he was.
An addict.
My respect for his honesty and his struggle.
Rest well.
The biggest defeat is to accept what you are and never struggle for change, That is the biggest failure.
Respect for his honesty? Do you have that respect for a pedophile that comes out and admits his "addict"?
Man stfu
@@hewadsaad1378addiction is lifelong even if you aren't currently using. You don't change addiction, you can only change your behaviors.
I was here men do this alot.
Yup and to be the big man and acknowledge that, and for the third party to lay attack after is bullshit, matt handled his ass
My father is a recovering alcoholic and his sentiment is the same as Matthew Perry’s. He would tell me “one drink was too many and a thousand was never enough.” He’s 37 years sober and I’m so proud of him. Addiction is a deadly disease and the addicts in our life need our tough love and support ❤
Good luck!!
It's so hard to stay on the right track now days..
I fight it everyday.
The man takes a drink, the man takes to the drink, the drink takes the man.
Fornication music Intoxication Devils 3 tools since Adam
Cancer is a disease. Addiction is a choice. You can't just choose to not have cancer. How do you bear addiction? You choose to
That's why. Make alcohol haram end of...
As a addict all i have to add is how much i admire him for being able to say "im a drug addict" on tv. It seems easy, but to make that declaration not in your mind but on tv is very brave
I'm an addict. And I don't think it's a disease. Saying you don't have a choice is very convenient.
You're illiterate.
Anyone who downplays addiction doesn't know what it is. Period.
Weakness. The result speaks for itself
@@SettG4moron
@@SettG4 Ignorance. Your comment speaks for itself
Lmao average andrew tate fan@@SettG4
Some people have different pain tolerances and some people have different addiction tolerances. Technically you could walk on a broken ankle but most people cant fight through pain like that. You can't blame someone for having a different limit then you might personally have.
I come from a family of addicts. I’ve chosen to keep away from everything because of that. I chose to not drink because of the fear it could destroy my life.
love that, and I’m just the same. Sobriety is a choice whether you’re an addict or not.
Smartest thing you will ever do!!!!! ❤
why screw with the enjoyment of sober thinking - i like reading , chess…
The thing is, not everyone is privy to this information before they take that first drink. Then it's too late.
@@PMSSTOOGE Not everyone's privy to free will? what on earth...
5 years 9 months 20 days here I couldn’t stop for 28 years ❤
As an ex addict its 1000% your own choice. People who cant take responsibility love mental gymnastics.
I applaud Matthew Perry's courage to openly admit his addictions. He is absolutely right. I have 12 years clean, and to this day, I still make a conscious effort to avoid people, places, and things that could possibly lead me to that first drink or drug
Stay strong! ❤️❤️❤️
Matthew Perry was a celebrity crybaby trying to get attention any way he could by preying on the very sentiments you're expressing here. It's not brave. It's airing your dirty laundry for attention.
@@mattmarzula I disagree. I believe many people with addictions will be helped if they can speak about it, share their experiance. It may encourage others to quit too, or to hang in there staying clean. It can help if you hear others go through same. What you are saying is that people should not speak about their problems, and keep it to yourself. That is not healthy. He had enough attention, he really didn't need to beg for it.
@@JackyHeijmans thank you!
@@mattmarzula smh. You clearly know very little about addiction. At the end of the day, you are entitled to your opinion, even if it is wrong. Then there are some people who just want to disagree for no reason
7 years sober here, one day at a time. RIP Matthew. 🙏 We miss you.
Congratulations
Congratulations, you are a conqueror and my prayers for thousands of days more 🙏
U will return. Weak minds always allow a substance to control them. Yeah congrats on being an adult and doing the right thing.
Congratulations 👏
Hi. I am over 3 yrs sober 🙏
To drink or not to drink is a choice.. it’s not like cancer, it’s not a disease. Take accountability
Absolutely 💯
Finally somebody with some common sense and a spine.
He is brutally honest about who he is
Addiction, like depression is something you don't really understand until you go through it.
Ive been an addict (def worse than most of y’all) and depressed and both were a choice. The only time where it’s slightly logical to claim otherwise is when physically addicted.
@@samb202 it's a choice to keep the way it is. It's a choice when you can fight against against by seeking professional help.
not true but your entitled to your own opinion at least in the USA
Yess
I went through addiction it is a choice. I've also been miserable most my life until I decided I could be happy.
What a special gift for him to share this type of humility. So needed in not just Hollywood but the world.
@wills. X 186,000. 🌺
What f****** humility? He's lying to everybody's face saying he can't control his arm bringing alcohol to his mouth. Give me a f****** break
What humility? He's not taking personal responsibility, that's what he's doing.
BS. As someone who knows numerous recovered addicts it's 100% a choice. That's not to say we should vilify or shame addicts but Perry is pretending like he had absolutely no agency over his choices. I had always heard that he got sober, which was obviously a choice, and that fact alone destroys his victim mentality. I wonder if he seriously believed it was good messaging to tell young people that existing as an addict isn't a choice and there's no point in trying to quite?
Hold on kids. Can’t bash something you’ve never experienced. Alcohol is PROVEN to lower inhibitions, and give you a high. The mind of an addict is structured so that when the limbic system is activated when consuming alcohol, they almost completely lose their ability to regulate their decisions. It’s all about feelings at that point. You idiots have no clue what being an addict means. People don’t get to that point without feeling like shit about the decisions they make, yet they lose the ability to regulate their decisions once they are high. It is what it is, nobody likes it and there is no point arguing what an addict goes through. Yes an addict has physical control over the act of drinking, but the mind rationalizes the behavior until lives are destroyed.
My Dad once asked me a trick question about drinking limits. It was "how do you know when you're drunk?" And he said "it's when you want another drink".
Incredibly polite was Matthew Perry.
So impressed by the way Matthew handled himself. He stayed calm, didn't raise his voice, and was totally frank.
Well obviously he's weak😂😂
He died and Hitchens was right
And now he's dead
I’ve never been around this debate, perhaps because I don’t drink. But I am familiar with the notion of agency, and how some choices begin to take away your agency. For example, deciding to play around with sex, and then getting pregnant, leads you to less agency for whether or not you want a kid. Some people believe that killing the baby is a feasible choice, while others realize that adoption or parenting are feasible choices too. Drinkers seem to think that drinkers only have one choice after the first drink - to drink more. No, they also have alternative choices that they are able to make. They just don’t want to do the hard thing. It’s hard to parent, it’s hard to give up a kid for someone else to take care of, but it’s easy to just kill it before ever having to meet it. Next I’m gonna hear how abortions are just part of a sex addiction.
What did hitchens say that was right?@@persona8991
I always felt a profound sadness for this man in life. I really, truly hope his soul is at peace.
It is, because souls aren't real and he's dead
@@godlygamer911it’s an expression it doesn’t literally have to mean his ghost leaves from his body and goes to heaven or something. A soul is just the personality or qualities the person has that control their body.
@@mattfuentes4678theyre real alright and unfortunately his didnt go anywhere good
He's not special there's literally hundreds of millions of people on earth who struggle with this exact problem and don't get to disclose it on TV and actually face major consequences for it so in reality you should feel happy for him because he's better off than most
Truly hope he accepted Jesus as Lord and savior 🙏
I just broke my leg while riding the bicycle drunk.
So sad, he was a Talented young Man. 1 drink is too many & a million aren't enough. RIP Mathew.💔😢
Rare to see a celebrity not spouting some prepared script, but being an open, honest human being. Much respect ❤
Actually, he was lying about being clean & died of a drug overdose. I was disappointed to find that out. I think he wanted to be the guy got clean & saved people from the hell he went through & saved other families from the hell he put his family through. I absolutely respect the fact that he used his fame & platform to try & help; I wish he had succeeded.
And look what they did to him.
@@southbug27And you believe that?
The whole diatribe was pre-scripted by the 12-step bullshit society.
Much respect for what? For delcaring is dependence? Nobody is born unable to stop drinking; if today he's addicted it's because he choose in the past, several times.
Before I had even realized I had a substance abuse problem, I felt for this man. Even after knowing the consequences from people telling me time and time again how life crushing addiction will be, my curiosity still overcame my will power. After going through my decades of struggle I’m now 3 years sober and eternally grateful for those who showed me how. Knowing the mental battle drugs can have on a person, I truly hope Matthew Perry is at peace.
Amen
may you stay blessed and sober
After I realized that I was addicted, I told myself I could stop but it just got worse and worse and worse. Hiding it was so exhausting. I finally almost died and I can't go back. 11 years sober. Congrats to you and thank you for sharing your story! ❤
Dont ever give in! I know how lucky I am.. I dont have an addictive personality. And I at 66 years old have lost too many friends to addiction, as well as way too many enemies. I would rather have them here fighting me or fighting alongside me.
I would say look at William Burroughs but maybe you're just a cautionary tale.
@@nancymcnally7849I did all kinds of stupid stuff that resulted in my own misery but accepted my responsibility and stopped. The actual problem was you only told yourself to stop. Not that you actually did. All that one last time, I can stop anytime but I chose not to, I'll stop tomorrow, addiction is the only disease you can cure by a pragmatic outlook and staying home. The truth in my opinion is that opium addicts are why the gooberment makes it hard for people legitimately suffering from chronic pain to get opiates. Alcohol and nicotine kill more people than opiates but those seem to be acceptable losses. If you're diabetic you may find ozempic, wegovy, mounjaro, etc difficult because overweight lazy denialists need it to lose weight while diabetics have to scramble to switch to whatever they can get. The overweight people won't die without those drugs but diabetics could. What happened to Adderall for all the people with ADHD going into mental crisis because the dea limits how much can be made and so went into mental crisis because they couldn't get it for over a year and still can't. No wonder America has become such a shit show. No one admits to having any responsibility. If Donald Trump ends up in jail or Biden ends up in jail it will be their own fault. Quit accusing everyone else for your own inadequacies. Sack up.
A person who takes a drink and can't stop is an alcoholic.
I commend Matthew in this moment, rip ❤️ that he kept his cool and a great example of professionalism
I feel so much better when I don’t drink. It doesn’t mean the body never craves it. R.I.P Matthew.
I’m 27 and I’m starting to notice drinking doesn’t make me happy anymore… it makes me feel so bad everytime and I’m not talking about hangover.
@@seveneyes77I’m the same age and feel the same
Fr bro im only 20 and after a noght out i just feel like i wasted my time and money
❤🙏
ngl drinking looks so fun sometimes, but seeing how my family acts when alchol gets involved, I'll stick to my arizona tea
My brother lost his battle with alcoholism after he struggled to come to terms with 2 family deaths within a year , one of which was my 18 year old son . My younger brother and I found him face down on his bed after he had chocked on his own blood following a esophageal rupture ( burst throat stripped by alcohol ) he was the 3rd death our family had in 18 months . My son died 18 , my brother 44 and my father 63 . I’m sitting here aged 57 with a heavy heart and struggle daily with depression which sometimes includes laughter , some days I want to live and some I don’t .
Sorry for your loss, hoping you continue to find things in life that bring you joy comfort and remembrance of the loved ones youve lost. Keep fighting there’s always something to live for
@antoniopalmero4063. I’m so touched by your story, I’m sorry for what you have been through, please accept love, peace & empathy from me.
Been there as well...brother, father and best friend, who I grew up with, gone within a year!
Hang in there buddy...keep yourself busy!
That’s rough you have my condolences
I came from a large family
At 40 I had no deaths in the family
Then 5 deaths in 4yrs.
Mom dad 2 brothers and one sister in law.
Life is messy. I don’t drink or do drugs
Ever. I go to church and ask God for help.
Much love from Coleman TX
Hitchens is perfectly right. Perry said so himself....."I'm in control of the first drink".
It's about responsibility, we have too many adults who hate responsibility.
Miss him😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤
You can see how he is emotionally fighting against the inner rage. I wish someone could had helped him to gain strength. 😢 I miss you, Matthew!
God bless you and one day I hope too see you in heaven
I feel bad that he passed but there are millions that struggle with addiction whether it's eating gambling porn smoking drinking drugs only difference between him and most of world he's famous and people make excuses for him
He died from Drug Overdose….
He unfortunately had bit to many LINES
@@user-ux1bi4sy9she did not!
He definitely looks like a mess. I thank God I Never got famous! The Devil is real. Look at Hollyweird!
I dated an alcoholic for 3 years. She would drink listerine if there was no alcohol in the apartment and she didn’t have money. She destroyed everything in her life including our relationship. Addiction is real
I’m an alcoholic with a short stint so far in recovery and I can completely relate to her. Pretty much lost everything in my life twice because of it and legal issues too. Alcohol is terrible and I hope she’s doing better now. Sorry you had to go through that, I know what I’ve put my significant others through.
@@jeffreybouche3817 hope you´re feeling better now, every person has more than one chance in life, if you are self-aware it´s more than 95% of the addicts can do, masive respect for that and good luck with your journey, believe in it :)
No one’s arguing it’s not real it’s just that it’s not a disease or some uncontrollable thing. It’s like anything else in life you can give in to, you can also not give into it
@@eliasspeed5882 Some people literally can't.
@@eliasspeed5882 you just argued it’s not real lmao
Betty Ford once said something similar to what Mr. Perry said. She said, "My control waivers, my decisions falter, after the first sip of anything with alcohol in it."
You can see the weight and pain of it in his eyes when he talks about it 🫤 happy he's finally free
His confession is beautiful.
yes may he rest in ^peace
Bullshit....... you are in control EVERY A TIME THROUGH YOUR ADDICTION..... you make your own choices people... it's NOBODY ELSE'S FAULT....... it's your fault.... it's NOT CHEMICALS CONTROLLING YOU... it's you controlling yourself..... face the truth and grow
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BEAUTIFUL???
Lol. Beautiful cause you want to follow in on his footsteps. Drink thenpn say its3not your faulr1😂. Useless hmans
I have respect for people who tell truth instead of all lies
Perry didn't understand Step One. He was under the impression he was in control. He missed it, he died as a result.
@@406MenaceRacecar i guess taking drugs is a form of lying to yourself . I would know . 12 years down the drain. all friendships and ex's all gone . .
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Here's the deal, if he says he took Step One knowing there is "no effective mental defense against the first drink" but then he says he just has the power of choice, in his mental defenses, then he was a walking contradiction. Get it? Step One in AA is up to page 43 in their book, describing this problem. With no booze in his body it seems he was Powerless, beyond human aid. Yet here he was using human aid and his mental defenses against the first drink. Again, humbly I say most of the members have no idea that being Powerless against the first drink means WITHOUT any alcohol in your body at the time. Otherwise it's just like any other person, if you shouldn't drink then DONT DRINK... no illness, no alcoholism.
But the people who understand the Step One admission , this minority of the alcoholics become WILLING... TO DO WHATEVER. . it takes. They go through the recovery program without having to be reminded to do so, without encouragement, KNOWING they MUST become recovered or else they'll drink against their own will. Matthew drank even though he chose to NOT DRINK.
Me too. I prefer that, that those who think are better because they have never been in that position like the other interviewer.
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Matthew's first mistake was calling it an "ideology" rather than admitting he has a drink problem.
"if you discount me deciding having the first drink then I cannot control my drinking"
Man, the 90s kid and the alcoholic in me is grieving for the loss of this mans life 😔
He was special 💔💔💔 Hope he’s never forgotten
Really, if the tox report comes back saying his body just gave out, I wouldn't wonder. He lived through a hellish emergency a few summers ago, and they thought he was done then. He may have already outlived what life his body had left in it. 💔
He handled that with such grace. Some people will never master the art of having a civil conversation with someone they disagree with but this man had it down.
That's what you do when you don't want to just make a point but have people understand and embrace it 😊
Yes, I agree with the lady the mother of my kids as one of them would never agree.
Yes indeed! What the world needs now: communication bridges!!
It's a lot easier when the other person isn't constantly interrupting, talking over him, or screaming. It takes two people to have a civil conversation.
He was taking a real teaching moment. I love it. I think his point is so important that people don’t understand. It’s always the 1st you’re in control of then it’s literally chemistry.
God Bless you Matthew for your honesty and courage ❤ Thank you for setting the record straight ❤
I knew that guy looked familiar. Its Christopher Hitchens brother.
Say what you want but he was very brave to be this open about his issues, I know most of us would be too embarrassed to have this conversation
I would say he knew he had no choice BUT to have that conversation because he didn't much want to go there again. 😢
He actually seemed very determined, at last. Rest in peace, Matthew.
brave? hes drunk
Brave is not a word here when he is denying being able not make a choice to stop being an addict. Difficult? For sure, but not brave.
@thomashovgaard3134 Actually, I suspect it's ill fitting dentures from tooth loss and a somewhat haggard appearance from all the years of substance abuse.
@@thomashovgaard3134: Right. He is either drunk or high on something.
Rest in peace, my friend many of us suffer from addiction. You will be missed.
Right here, my man. We work every day to stay away. Rip Matthew. I feel this 100%
It’s most likely related to an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex (adhd/autism spectrum disorder).
The executive function is greatly impaired resulting in poor decision making and it doesn’t stop there. If you are interested or curious, I recommend researching the topic and making an appointment with a good therapist/psychologist (or whoever diagnoses and treats these issues). If you are adhd or autistic, Just learning about the
disorder(s) will help anyone who suffers. There are a lot of good resources available today to help with stuff like this. Almost every addict I’ve known (including myself) is neurodivergent.
He wished death on Keanu Reeves in his book. he's a T W A T
Matthew is dead??
You knew him?
Once you realize… the first drink is your choice. 17 years sober.
He was well aware of his vunerability. His candid admission is commendable. If only our politicians were so open and honest. RIP Mr Perry.
He was retarded, you always have the choice, rest in piss lol
This really has nothing to f****** do with politics you low IQ f****** minion
It's so baffling that the world has controlled your mind
Someone literally can't even have alcoholism and sit here on camera and say how week they are and enable the making a good choice without you bringing a politics does that say something about your f****** b******* man
@@frozensunsetHow has it? Elaborate or your words mean nothing
Was so lucky to meet Matthew Perry, in a business context. I introduced myself in such a dorky way: “Hi, I’m Jesse from Canada.”
The rest of the meeting Mr. Perry teased me, in a good natured way. “Nice to meet you, Jesse from Canada. What do you think, Jesse from Canada?” He kept everyone laughing and loose. He was just like his character on Friends, but with more kindness and less snark. It was a celebrity encounter I will always cherish .
Wow, Jesse from Canada, what a delightful story
From Tony from England
Cool story bro. Canada is a good country and you’re a good man.
He sounds annoying.
You need to lighten up@@johnnysins4158
I appreciate you sharing this good story with us, Jesse from Canada! What a great memory!
5 years sober and I know without a doubt that one drink will ruin me. Every day I choose not to take that first drink.
Rest In Eternal Peace❤️🙏🏽
My sobriety date is December 1st 2010, which is also my daughter’s birthday. I was so broke and broken it was the only gift I could give her that year. A promise of sobriety! My car was repossessed, I had an eviction notice on my door and no job. By the grace of God I got sober that day. Matthew is absolutely correct! I could never have just one drink! Once the phenomenon of craving kicks in after that first drink I couldn’t stop! The allergy he talks about! It’s real, I know, I’ve been there. One is too many and a thousand is not enough! Ask any alcoholic or drug addict. I don’t know if I’ll ever drink again, I just know that I’m not going to drink today! I take it one day at a time!
May god show you the right way mate. The reason you quit it for is the best reason why you won’t go back at it again. Stay strong brother!
If you go and have a drink today..... you're making a choice to do so. "Allergy" or not, if you take that 2nd drink, you've still made the choice.
No doubt addiction is dysfunction. But lets never take the road you choose out of the equation.
Praise God. Amen. Glad you’re better
I've never struggled with alcohol but have other addictions. As an addict I am powerless but have a choice. I know I probably won't develop a drinking habit if I have one drink, but why take the chance. I must never allow myself to compromise my choice to someone who just cannot understand the mind of an addict.
Mate, how you said "it was the only gift I could give her" brought me to tears. That's beautiful and the fact you did it for her is even more beautiful. That's a real Father and Dad. I hope you've stayed strong and gained so many beautiful memories with your daughter. Family is everything 🤜🤛💗
When a man is speaking the truth, he is not a coward, and will walk through the fire. Rip Matt
It's not brave to admit a problem and then say its not his fault
❤
@torrel8074 thats not what hes saying....
@torrel8074 it is brave because society teaches us to be strong and not fidget in front of temptations...weak people are strong when they admit their weakness and demons...he articulated the problem quite well
@@torrel8074r:woosh
As a former heroin addict agree with the doctor. Notice I say former. To condemn yourself to always be an addict because you were 20 years ago is one of my issues with the 12 step program. The rigid rules and simplified understanding of addiction is much more useful than the nuanced science of addiction, tolerance and abstinence. Useful doesn't mean factually honest.
One day at a time. A daily reprieve.
Good comment.
Ive tried convincing my drug addicted family of this kind of thinking.
I think people are far too willing to cast blame anywhere but themselves.
RIP Matthew. You brought a lot of joy to people’s lives.
He's dead?
Like you know him personally or something. So shallow.
@@5222kthey meant him being on friends brought a lot of joy to people, not necessarily himself. which is true a lot of people loved that show
It’s extra sad when the victim of addiction is outspoken and is well aware of it, and how powerless said addiction can make them feel. RIP Matthew Perry
Don't smoke anything, that people tells you it just makes you lose weight
Hypnosis cures all addictions
Ditto to Chandelier
Gambling is another horrific addiction! I've seen many people unable to control it. Like Matt said, the most willpower comes before the first drink or before the first bet, after that the addiction takes over!
@@BST-lm4po why not get hypnotized?
"The difference is, you drink until you're drunk. I drink until I'm fuckin homeless."
Me-just now. 😂
What an articulate way to say I won't not drink 😂😂😂
Massive respect for honesty and courage.
Honesty and courage of what? He admits that he chose to lead a path that he placed himself in to begin with.
@@printingwithpeek4897It take some dignity to not lie to ourselves and to others. It's not a pretty thing to admit that you are an addict, in a national television broadcast. It is an act of courage, at least he's facing, or openly talking about a difficult subject.
as a drug addict myself i agree with the guy that says its a choice😮
@@peopletakepicturesofeachother No one is saying that he isn't keeping his dignity by doing that, but so say that he didn't get there by choice from the start is a stupid statement
@@printingwithpeek4897shut up fool thats an illness just like the one you'll certainly die one day
For those of you who don't understand Matthew, you are blessed.
For those of us who do understand, remember, we do recover.
29 years, 4/23/1994.
Thank you, I am very blessed, and I am also empathic. I don't have to go through something to understand the severity of it.
I can not imagine not being able to stop drinking, I think God I don't have a problem with alcohol.
I hear Matthew saying he can control that first drink, and that is a choice, but after the 1st drink, the choice is taken away, and you lose control of the situation.
I don't think anyone chooses to be an addict, and not everyone who tries a vice becomes addicted...
@@TerreiaHamer-mp5ws very true. I would certainly never have chosen to be an addict.
But I can tell you this, and many may not understand, but I'm glad that I am. I live a program now that not only helps me stay off drugs, but it has changed everything else about me as well. I wouldn't be the person I am today (admittedly, flawed) without this program and where I started.
32 years 4.30.91
Some do, some don't obviously.
Not that blessed. I had a severe depression about ten years ago. Now the apathy in me is so strong I don't feel desire for anything in this life including drugs and alcohol.
Almost 3 years without a sip of booze. When i used to drink i’d always say my limit is one more
Ain’t no friends here
I am exactly the same. One drink is too many, and one drink is never enough. I have been completely sober for 7 years.
And how did you stop? You just one day said to yourself that you're done with drinking? Or was it step by step?
Great job! Keep it up!
Good for you.
Wishing you continued strength. ❤
Me too
Matthew Perry helped people learn what addiction can do to ANY life. He fought as hard as he could.
Teaching people that it’s understandable to be degenerate alcoholic because medical science says it’s not your fault. What a beta cuck. Rip bitchboy chandler bing
Nope he didn't fight as hard as he could have
Absolutely 💯% FACT
@@MineisbiggerHow did he not? He wrote about it, became clean and helped others that had an addiction.
He was a savior for many.
He quit ALL drugs and Alcohol, how did he not fight at his fullest against it?
@@Mineisbiggeron what basis do you say that?