Look, everyone in life has been dealt some bad cards. Yes, according to some, I might be not bad looking, I might have hair, I might have manly hands (seriously, that was a comment), but I too have been dealt bad cards in life. You have probably not lost your dad when you were 3 years old. You probably do not live with a chronic heart disease that causes all sorts of problems in your life, such as living with an ICD inside you. You probably haven’t lived with suicidal thoughts for six years… Look, everyone has something. No one in this life gets to escape it without any struggles, problems, and adversities. The trick in life is to learn to dance with these problems, to learn to see obstacles as opportunities for learning, and to optimize the good cards you have been given while taking less note of the bad ones you have. I seriously hope you will try the three practical tips I have provided in this video. Let me know in the comments what you think and if you have any other tips on how to get out of this victim mentality and develop a strong mindset. If you haven’t seen the first video I created where I provide 12 tips on being a short guy, you can find it here: ruclips.net/video/g-BijPlatBg/видео.html
This video is a pile of shit. The worst kind of elaborate coping mechanisms. All these people you mentioned had not any issue they didn't had control over. Apply that mondest is dumb because it does not resolve anything.
@@JellisVaes it has been proven that short guys not only have more difficulties to get hight level jobs due to their height since they are not considered enought to be leaders, but they get less money even compared to normal-height guys doing the ir same job. How can you say that this is victim mentality if society is actively and sistematically discriminating against shot men? Dating is only the tip of a bigger iceberg. Your way of thinking is what keep society not recognise its problems, since people like you hide the real responsibles of this discrimination.
@@SpaceOcelot4548ehhh don’t want to be a dingus , but this one doesn’t count only because this is the one you can actually do something about it and actually change , race, sex, height is eternal
Thank you for this video. I'm 5'5 and used to be insecured about my height. I am trying to accecpt it and focus on the positive things of my life. Also I think this channel is underrated. You make great videos. Good luck!
Important to mention that certain comments about physical traits come from very insecure people who always need a target. What confuses these insecure people is when you display confidence and acceptance in yourself. They hate it because they want you to be as insecure or more insecure than them.
I’m 26 standing at 5’2-3. I use to be really insecure about my height, especially throughout high school, getting bullied and made fun of made me tougher and stronger, not in a vengeance kind of way but as in solidifying my emotions kind of way. I no longer allow people to rent space inside my head. A negative mindset (no matter how tall you are) could and can destroy you.
Thanks Jellis, "positivation" of being short. Just like in the previous video where you presented it as a gift to detect and screen people...Keep it up, you truely are inspiring positivity!
Thanks for the advice and for being open about your life, I know its not easy. I really think that only short guys can relate to other short guys. So many people will gaslight you or virtue signal. For example, whenever I see a post made by a guy who is like 5'3 complaining about his problems, a lot of people will just blame his personality. Most people believe life is a meritocracy, and even people who believe life is unfair like communists and feminists will never extend that thought to being short. The problem about being short is almost 100% social. Many of the best athletes, musicians, thinkers, CEO's, politicians, etc. were short. The issue is that short guys get treated like 2nd class citizens by a sizable part of the population and there's no weight you can lift, book you can read, or dollar you can make that will change that. If your a halfway normal short guy who believes your social shortcomings are due to something like your haircut or your fashion, your probably delusional. Yeah man, the reason why you got bullied in school by the 6'2 football players had nothing to do with your size. Yeah man, the reason the girl doesn't like you is because you don't respect women, not the fact that your 5'7 and her last 2 boyfriends were alcoholic giants. Having a strong mindset as a short guy is really important. It feels like mentally your like Atlas holding up the weight of the world. When you're constantly playing on hard mode and against odds, you really do end up much different.
I must thank you for videos you posted, from the previous one to this one. Now i can live peacefully without thinking about my height anymore. A little story: I'd been insucure for my height for ten years. When i was 17 i travelled to Belgium, France, and The Netherlands. This is where my insecurity got worse since i realize how short i am (158 cm). It all changed when i typed "being a short guy" on my search and suddenly i found your video. You really helped me to change my mindset, Jellis
That's just a way of coping. The only way to escape the depression is to get an attractive girlfriend, then you will not care about other girls rejecting you socially, you will not care about people who tells you that you're short because you reached validation by a hot female. Still the chances to find a hot girlfriend is close to 1%. but still possible.
@@ha-il9bdyeah gg being short and socially awkward it’s over that’s how I am I have anxiety depression from years of bad social experiences a lot wouldn’t have happened if I was tall but the thing is personality really doesn’t matter it’s just if you have height and or looks your good but if you deficits and don’t have that it’s done it’s like you have to have all these other things to just get a chance if your short or not good looking
How about you stop being a punk. Take pride in your height sb fucks with you for it? Crack jokes with em such as "all the missing length went somewhere 🙃" a lot a short guys are easily bullied bc how insecure they are
Great advise! I saw a short documentary where Robert Reich was asked a few questions about his height, (i belive he was 149 cm tall) and how it had affected his life. In this interview he gave his advise to young people that were unhappy with their height. His advise was that you shouldn't let your height stop you from doing anything you want to do with your life. I think it's a really good advise and I always try to remember that instead of using my height as an excuse.
Hi bro...Im 5ft 5inch. One problem I have is always subconsciously comparing my height to the taller person standing next to me. I also keep checking myself in the mirror(idk why i do that). Any suggestions to manage this problem?
Hey mate, what I would say is become conscious of your unconscious thoughts by catching yourself when you are comparing yourself to taller men. That is step one. Becoming aware of your thoughts. Step two is to change the story in your head. Now your story is “Oh, that person is taller and therefore better than me.” Your inner dialogue is negative and self-destructive. You need to change it to something positive and empowering. “Oh, that person is taller. Good for him. Life would be too easy for me if I would be tall as well." (Just an example of an inner dialogue I used to use. Put together some inner dialogues that feel empowering to you.) Step three is to simply practice step one and step two over and over again. There could be many reasons why you might check yourself in the mirror. It might be to confirm if you are still the same height or if you have grown. Or to check your looks. By now it might have also simply become a habit.
@@JellisVaes I suspect the victim mentality manifests in many short men because they are victims. You can't fight a rising tide. If women want taller-than-them-men because of biology and the Pareto Distribution nearly guarantees 9O% will go to the top-1O-or-less% then the inevitable trend will be women will want more and more and more from the already preposterous laundry-lists they have of male requirements. That, coupled with the "grass-is-always-greener" mentality of the West due to social media conditioning and the lack of adversity and survival pressures also tends to make women's requirements climb even more ridiculously high. As well, there is subjective rationalizing. Like that idiot @technologycansuchit8156 who commented above in this thread about "giving short guys a chance" as well as "ugly" guys and a plethora of other Greek tragedies she had to "settle" for. She claims the short guys were all "crazy", "controlling" and "mean" yet she herself admitted she never wanted to give any of the men she dated a chance but she did so begrudgingly so she wouldn't seem shallow or vapid as she obviously is. The point is, those men were likely nowhere near as "problematic" as she claims, the short ones or the ugly ones or the skinny ones etc. She is projecting because she resisted her shallowness for several relationships but it ultimately won out. She is now subjectively rationalizing to make herself look less vain, cruel and solipsistic and foisting the "blame" onto the men... because that is what all women do. I'd venture a guess many, many, many women operate like this. They have understandable biological urges but then let the confluence of their own hypergamy and the insane keeping-up-with-the-Jones mentality snowball to mammoth, unreasonable proportions... then try to justify it rather than introspecting and taking some accountability. No one can force themselves to be attracted to something they are not. But there is a difference between being receptive to a wide variety with some caveats and rejecting everything that is outside a stupidly large list of requirements which will inevitably result in a more stupidly small pool of options. Short men are in fact victims of a cruel and hypocritical paradigm we are living in. They shouldn't act like victims and should gut check any asshole or bitch who tries to make them feel lesser... but, in point of fact, they are victims.
I'm 5'5" guy. My fiancé is taller than me about two inches and I must confess that in some point of our relationship I just start to feel insecure about that. Specially in some occasions when she use heels, and I just can't stop to compare myself with other guys so much taller than me. I know that she loves me but in the other hand I'm feel so opressed. Do you have any advice? Greetings from Brazil.
Hey Alexandre. You mention that you started to feel insecure at some point in your relationship. It's a bit personal to talk about this on RUclips, but if you think back, can you recall the exact moment when you started to feel this way in your relationship? Just trying to understand the situation to provide a better answer. If you don't, let me know and I'll go over to something else that might be helpful.
Too easy to develop a short guy victim mentality. I might recommend being around someone who has a legitimate handicap to get a better perspective on life.
I have accepted my reality. I'm short and there's nothing I can do (safe from some very painful, expensive and somewhat dangerous surgery, which would only cause more questions than answers around those who deal with me on a daily basis in case I diced to do it). It took me almost half a century to "abandon all hope and surrender to reality" because I spent almost all my life "fighting against the pitiful tide". I refused to let my short stature define me. In the beginning of my adolescence, I physically fought taller men (lost as many times as I won), and attempted to date very attractive girls (looking back, I had waaaaay more success in this than I should have had, because in addition to being short, I was also ugly but still was able to have relations with many a fine girl, which only comes to prove that your attitude is as important as height) and as a full-grown adult, I never stooped, always walked with a sense of confidence (many times faked) with my chest open and my back straight, made lots of eye contact and held strong yet sensitive (and well justified) opinions. Aware of my literal shortcomings, I tried to compensate by being successful. I focused on both physical and academic prowess, like the ancient Greek ideal, and tried to groom myself as much as possible. Fully aware that I was fighting an uphill battle, swimming against a tsunami or climbing a vertical mountain side, at about 36 years old - when my physical prowess began to slowly dwindle - I understood that defeat was inevitable. My false-self of apparent confidence became harder to maintain. Looking at the mirror became ever more painful and for my own sake I decided to abandon all falsehood and just accept that I was a short and absolutely plain man and be done with it. Strangely, this self-acceptance did raise my well-being - together with other aspects, like a steady work life and a positive relationship with a great girl - but when at 45 my hairline started to recede, all those feelings of inadequacy returned. I also lost a lot of my physical shape (became somewhat fluffy) and my body hair did the opposite of my head hair and decided do turn me into a monkey. Growing old sucks! Growing old as a short, average-looking guy sucks even more. Woe life... I'm a 5'9" tall 47 years old European in a continent were the AVERAGE height of a man is 6" with an absolutely average face which has broaden over the years and I feel like the best years of my life are already behind me and now only death awaits me at the end of this road. Sigh...
1 Samuel 16:7. But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for the Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.
Bro I hate when short guys bitch and whine about "NoBoDy WaNtS uS iTs JuSt NaTuRe" I'm 5'0 and sure some shallow women will say "fuck the fact that you are smart, wrestle, weight lift, have a decent personality you are just too short" but there's also hella good in being short. One of my favorites is that I don't attract shallow women I don't have to worry about being left for the "next best thing" a woman with shorter dude are less likely to cheat imo, kinda like how women stay with broke "bums" but cheat on rich Johny for even richer Jared. We also (believe it or not) have less to be insecure about, we already know most people are taller than us, stronger, and bigger in general so we *shouldn't* being freaking out about something we already know. I hate when short guys can't see any good in themselves learn to crack joke and take pride in it you'll get way further 🤷🏾♂️
I'm 5'2. I dated short guys before because I had listened to men complain for so long about women being so trivial that I settled. I didn't want to discriminate. I dated short guys, fat guys, overly skinny guys, even a dude with a crooked nose. Never ones I 100% wanted because I got it in my head that my attractions were "wrong." And that dating someone you're attracted to on the outside was bad. I thought they really were just under dogs and maybe they were better than every other guy because they had to develop more personality, but nah. All crazy. I don't think that it's a coincidence that all 3 of my short exes were crazy, angry at everyone, and obsessed with me. Even over 7 years later. I have 2 that are still trying to contact my family. They all had extremely different looks and personalities too. Looking back they were just self conscious short guys, over compensating or trying to keep me away from the rest of the world so I wouldn't leave. Happy with the man I'm with right now who's got like a foot on me. But the deciding factor wasn't his height it was his personality. I just got attacked by a bunch of "short kings" online for saying this. And it just proved me right. As a woman you can't do a thing right for those men because lots of them are perpetual victims.
How do you think short men get like that you are right about everything you said but your also gaslighting I knew you where gonna say you ended up with tall man I see comments like this all the time it’s never they are dating one maybe married to settled down and use the short guy for whatever reason but you really do show how wm view us it’s not your fault attraction is attraction but don’t shame us for how we feel when all we know is rejection and being be little literally by other men it should be a surprise when your treated horribly because of something you can’t control that’s why those men where trying to hold onto their relationship with you cause it makes life bearable for them and they become needy cause that little bit of hope gives them energy to keep going
Classic comment you can’t make this up I swear every wm comments this it’s always the same exact story I don’t fault wm for being attracted to taller men but don’t shame short men of how they should feel when their whole life is a nightmare for something they can’t change you get treated badly by society men and can’t attract anyone because of it that’s why short men feel the way they do your right but your wrong for gaslighting the way they feel
Look, everyone in life has been dealt some bad cards. Yes, according to some, I might be not bad looking, I might have hair, I might have manly hands (seriously, that was a comment), but I too have been dealt bad cards in life. You have probably not lost your dad when you were 3 years old. You probably do not live with a chronic heart disease that causes all sorts of problems in your life, such as living with an ICD inside you. You probably haven’t lived with suicidal thoughts for six years… Look, everyone has something. No one in this life gets to escape it without any struggles, problems, and adversities.
The trick in life is to learn to dance with these problems, to learn to see obstacles as opportunities for learning, and to optimize the good cards you have been given while taking less note of the bad ones you have.
I seriously hope you will try the three practical tips I have provided in this video. Let me know in the comments what you think and if you have any other tips on how to get out of this victim mentality and develop a strong mindset. If you haven’t seen the first video I created where I provide 12 tips on being a short guy, you can find it here: ruclips.net/video/g-BijPlatBg/видео.html
thanks for sharing man! i really appreciate it! all the best!
This video is a pile of shit. The worst kind of elaborate coping mechanisms. All these people you mentioned had not any issue they didn't had control over. Apply that mondest is dumb because it does not resolve anything.
@@anselmococco3810 Thanks for being another example of what a victim looks like. Stop finding excuses. Start working on your mindset.
@@JellisVaes it has been proven that short guys not only have more difficulties to get hight level jobs due to their height since they are not considered enought to be leaders, but they get less money even compared to normal-height guys doing the ir same job. How can you say that this is victim mentality if society is actively and sistematically discriminating against shot men? Dating is only the tip of a bigger iceberg. Your way of thinking is what keep society not recognise its problems, since people like you hide the real responsibles of this discrimination.
Being a very short man is one of the most powerful social stigmas that exists and it is rarely denounced.
Yup, not ok to laugh on race, sex and religion. Ok to laugh on povery and shortness
@@Zerionweight too
@jibrijibri4548 you can change your weight wtf. Get out of here with your fat acceptance bs
@@SpaceOcelot4548ehhh don’t want to be a dingus , but this one doesn’t count only because this is the one you can actually do something about it and actually change , race, sex, height is eternal
I'm 20 and 5.2''' (160cm). Recently accepted reality & your video has really helped correct my mindset. Thanks so much!
Very happy to read John ;)
How is your dating life bro?
Bro life is hard when u are short man no one accepting me…
Thank you for this video. I'm 5'5 and used to be insecured about my height. I am trying to accecpt it and focus on the positive things of my life.
Also I think this channel is underrated. You make great videos. Good luck!
Thank you! I really appreciate your comment. Good luck my friend, you are not alone in this.
Important to mention that certain comments about physical traits come from very insecure people who always need a target. What confuses these insecure people is when you display confidence and acceptance in yourself. They hate it because they want you to be as insecure or more insecure than them.
this is 100% correct
Well said indeed.
I’m 26 standing at 5’2-3. I use to be really insecure about my height, especially throughout high school, getting bullied and made fun of made me tougher and stronger, not in a vengeance kind of way but as in solidifying my emotions kind of way. I no longer allow people to rent space inside my head. A negative mindset (no matter how tall you are)
could and can destroy you.
5'5" gang??????
Ayyy
Thanks Jellis, "positivation" of being short. Just like in the previous video where you presented it as a gift to detect and screen people...Keep it up, you truely are inspiring positivity!
Cheers mate! Glad you liked the video :)
Thanks for the advice and for being open about your life, I know its not easy.
I really think that only short guys can relate to other short guys. So many people will gaslight you or virtue signal. For example, whenever I see a post made by a guy who is like 5'3 complaining about his problems, a lot of people will just blame his personality. Most people believe life is a meritocracy, and even people who believe life is unfair like communists and feminists will never extend that thought to being short. The problem about being short is almost 100% social. Many of the best athletes, musicians, thinkers, CEO's, politicians, etc. were short. The issue is that short guys get treated like 2nd class citizens by a sizable part of the population and there's no weight you can lift, book you can read, or dollar you can make that will change that. If your a halfway normal short guy who believes your social shortcomings are due to something like your haircut or your fashion, your probably delusional. Yeah man, the reason why you got bullied in school by the 6'2 football players had nothing to do with your size. Yeah man, the reason the girl doesn't like you is because you don't respect women, not the fact that your 5'7 and her last 2 boyfriends were alcoholic giants.
Having a strong mindset as a short guy is really important. It feels like mentally your like Atlas holding up the weight of the world. When you're constantly playing on hard mode and against odds, you really do end up much different.
I must thank you for videos you posted, from the previous one to this one. Now i can live peacefully without thinking about my height anymore.
A little story:
I'd been insucure for my height for ten years. When i was 17 i travelled to Belgium, France, and The Netherlands. This is where my insecurity got worse since i realize how short i am (158 cm). It all changed when i typed "being a short guy" on my search and suddenly i found your video. You really helped me to change my mindset, Jellis
Love it! Lots of respect to you for not letting your height beat you down. Stay strong my friend. You are a real warrior🔥.
Awesome video about the topic, congratulations!
thanks for your support
Thank u for ur advice.
İ am 18 and my height is 165 or something and it makes me really sad and depressived…
change your mindset bro
That's just a way of coping. The only way to escape the depression is to get an attractive girlfriend, then you will not care about other girls rejecting you socially, you will not care about people who tells you that you're short because you reached validation by a hot female.
Still the chances to find a hot girlfriend is close to 1%. but still possible.
I want one but I'm 5'4 and socially awkward
@@ha-il9bdyeah gg being short and socially awkward it’s over that’s how I am I have anxiety depression from years of bad social experiences a lot wouldn’t have happened if I was tall but the thing is personality really doesn’t matter it’s just if you have height and or looks your good but if you deficits and don’t have that it’s done it’s like you have to have all these other things to just get a chance if your short or not good looking
But I can't stop being bullied and rejected for being a short guy. I can't ignore it. How about people start acknowledging sizeism.
How about you stop being a punk. Take pride in your height sb fucks with you for it? Crack jokes with em such as "all the missing length went somewhere 🙃" a lot a short guys are easily bullied bc how insecure they are
Great advise! I saw a short documentary where Robert Reich was asked a few questions about his height, (i belive he was 149 cm tall) and how it had affected his life. In this interview he gave his advise to young people that were unhappy with their height. His advise was that you shouldn't let your height stop you from doing anything you want to do with your life. I think it's a really good advise and I always try to remember that instead of using my height as an excuse.
Love it! 100% agree :).
Reich is a crazy communist.
5'7 gang
5'8 here
Not short
Hi bro...Im 5ft 5inch. One problem I have is always subconsciously comparing my height to the taller person standing next to me. I also keep checking myself in the mirror(idk why i do that). Any suggestions to manage this problem?
Hey mate, what I would say is become conscious of your unconscious thoughts by catching yourself when you are comparing yourself to taller men. That is step one. Becoming aware of your thoughts.
Step two is to change the story in your head. Now your story is “Oh, that person is taller and therefore better than me.” Your inner dialogue is negative and self-destructive. You need to change it to something positive and empowering. “Oh, that person is taller. Good for him. Life would be too easy for me if I would be tall as well." (Just an example of an inner dialogue I used to use. Put together some inner dialogues that feel empowering to you.)
Step three is to simply practice step one and step two over and over again.
There could be many reasons why you might check yourself in the mirror. It might be to confirm if you are still the same height or if you have grown. Or to check your looks. By now it might have also simply become a habit.
@@JellisVaes Thank you for that elaborate answer. I will implement the steps. Regards :)
me too at 5'8
@@JellisVaes I suspect the victim mentality manifests in many short men because they are victims.
You can't fight a rising tide. If women want taller-than-them-men because of biology and the Pareto Distribution nearly guarantees 9O% will go to the top-1O-or-less% then the inevitable trend will be women will want more and more and more from the already preposterous laundry-lists they have of male requirements. That, coupled with the "grass-is-always-greener" mentality of the West due to social media conditioning and the lack of adversity and survival pressures also tends to make women's requirements climb even more ridiculously high.
As well, there is subjective rationalizing. Like that idiot @technologycansuchit8156 who commented above in this thread about "giving short guys a chance" as well as "ugly" guys and a plethora of other Greek tragedies she had to "settle" for. She claims the short guys were all "crazy", "controlling" and "mean" yet she herself admitted she never wanted to give any of the men she dated a chance but she did so begrudgingly so she wouldn't seem shallow or vapid as she obviously is. The point is, those men were likely nowhere near as "problematic" as she claims, the short ones or the ugly ones or the skinny ones etc. She is projecting because she resisted her shallowness for several relationships but it ultimately won out. She is now subjectively rationalizing to make herself look less vain, cruel and solipsistic and foisting the "blame" onto the men... because that is what all women do. I'd venture a guess many, many, many women operate like this. They have understandable biological urges but then let the confluence of their own hypergamy and the insane keeping-up-with-the-Jones mentality snowball to mammoth, unreasonable proportions... then try to justify it rather than introspecting and taking some accountability.
No one can force themselves to be attracted to something they are not. But there is a difference between being receptive to a wide variety with some caveats and rejecting everything that is outside a stupidly large list of requirements which will inevitably result in a more stupidly small pool of options.
Short men are in fact victims of a cruel and hypocritical paradigm we are living in. They shouldn't act like victims and should gut check any asshole or bitch who tries to make them feel lesser... but, in point of fact, they are victims.
I'm 5'5" guy. My fiancé is taller than me about two inches and I must confess that in some point of our relationship I just start to feel insecure about that. Specially in some occasions when she use heels, and I just can't stop to compare myself with other guys so much taller than me. I know that she loves me but in the other hand I'm feel so opressed.
Do you have any advice?
Greetings from Brazil.
Hey Alexandre. You mention that you started to feel insecure at some point in your relationship. It's a bit personal to talk about this on RUclips, but if you think back, can you recall the exact moment when you started to feel this way in your relationship? Just trying to understand the situation to provide a better answer. If you don't, let me know and I'll go over to something else that might be helpful.
@@JellisVaes I can recall the exactly moment, the trigger that change everething, but is not helping me. I could discribe how it was but not here.
Too easy to develop a short guy victim mentality. I might recommend being around someone who has a legitimate handicap to get a better perspective on life.
Love this. I agree.
This is funny “short guy victim mentality” their is nothing they can do but accept their genetic makeup.😔😔😔😔
@@Tigist-j6h if god wanted them to have sex: he'd have made them tall.
Can I measure my height with a tailoring measuring tape ?
Why would that not be allowed?
Nope.
Abandon all hope.
Only way to cope.
You optimist.
@@JellisVaes at least it rhymes
I have accepted my reality. I'm short and there's nothing I can do (safe from some very painful, expensive and somewhat dangerous surgery, which would only cause more questions than answers around those who deal with me on a daily basis in case I diced to do it). It took me almost half a century to "abandon all hope and surrender to reality" because I spent almost all my life "fighting against the pitiful tide". I refused to let my short stature define me. In the beginning of my adolescence, I physically fought taller men (lost as many times as I won), and attempted to date very attractive girls (looking back, I had waaaaay more success in this than I should have had, because in addition to being short, I was also ugly but still was able to have relations with many a fine girl, which only comes to prove that your attitude is as important as height) and as a full-grown adult, I never stooped, always walked with a sense of confidence (many times faked) with my chest open and my back straight, made lots of eye contact and held strong yet sensitive (and well justified) opinions. Aware of my literal shortcomings, I tried to compensate by being successful. I focused on both physical and academic prowess, like the ancient Greek ideal, and tried to groom myself as much as possible. Fully aware that I was fighting an uphill battle, swimming against a tsunami or climbing a vertical mountain side, at about 36 years old - when my physical prowess began to slowly dwindle - I understood that defeat was inevitable. My false-self of apparent confidence became harder to maintain. Looking at the mirror became ever more painful and for my own sake I decided to abandon all falsehood and just accept that I was a short and absolutely plain man and be done with it. Strangely, this self-acceptance did raise my well-being - together with other aspects, like a steady work life and a positive relationship with a great girl - but when at 45 my hairline started to recede, all those feelings of inadequacy returned. I also lost a lot of my physical shape (became somewhat fluffy) and my body hair did the opposite of my head hair and decided do turn me into a monkey. Growing old sucks! Growing old as a short, average-looking guy sucks even more. Woe life... I'm a 5'9" tall 47 years old European in a continent were the AVERAGE height of a man is 6" with an absolutely average face which has broaden over the years and I feel like the best years of my life are already behind me and now only death awaits me at the end of this road. Sigh...
@@JellisVaes optimism is for losers and copers. In this video you're selling snake oil.
go to therapy
1 Samuel 16:7. But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for the Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.
Is 5’6 at 18 short?
Edit: I’m 5’8 now
yes. anything under 5'8 is short
@@CarloFuller what about 5ft 11
@Frozen Giant13 when I was 18 that was my last growth spurt went from 5ft 9 to 5ft 11
@@CarloFuller I'm 5'8 and I feel short in my short coubtry..
NO.
Iam a girl......who is short......good luck to you friend......Lots of love from India.
Short girl in India is not a big deal. Problem to sirf ladko ko hai.
Bro I hate when short guys bitch and whine about "NoBoDy WaNtS uS iTs JuSt NaTuRe" I'm 5'0 and sure some shallow women will say "fuck the fact that you are smart, wrestle, weight lift, have a decent personality you are just too short" but there's also hella good in being short. One of my favorites is that I don't attract shallow women I don't have to worry about being left for the "next best thing" a woman with shorter dude are less likely to cheat imo, kinda like how women stay with broke "bums" but cheat on rich Johny for even richer Jared. We also (believe it or not) have less to be insecure about, we already know most people are taller than us, stronger, and bigger in general so we *shouldn't* being freaking out about something we already know. I hate when short guys can't see any good in themselves learn to crack joke and take pride in it you'll get way further 🤷🏾♂️
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I'm 5'2. I dated short guys before because I had listened to men complain for so long about women being so trivial that I settled. I didn't want to discriminate. I dated short guys, fat guys, overly skinny guys, even a dude with a crooked nose. Never ones I 100% wanted because I got it in my head that my attractions were "wrong." And that dating someone you're attracted to on the outside was bad.
I thought they really were just under dogs and maybe they were better than every other guy because they had to develop more personality, but nah. All crazy. I don't think that it's a coincidence that all 3 of my short exes were crazy, angry at everyone, and obsessed with me. Even over 7 years later. I have 2 that are still trying to contact my family.
They all had extremely different looks and personalities too. Looking back they were just self conscious short guys, over compensating or trying to keep me away from the rest of the world so I wouldn't leave.
Happy with the man I'm with right now who's got like a foot on me. But the deciding factor wasn't his height it was his personality. I just got attacked by a bunch of "short kings" online for saying this. And it just proved me right. As a woman you can't do a thing right for those men because lots of them are perpetual victims.
You're a terrible person.
How do you think short men get like that you are right about everything you said but your also gaslighting I knew you where gonna say you ended up with tall man I see comments like this all the time it’s never they are dating one maybe married to settled down and use the short guy for whatever reason but you really do show how wm view us it’s not your fault attraction is attraction but don’t shame us for how we feel when all we know is rejection and being be little literally by other men it should be a surprise when your treated horribly because of something you can’t control that’s why those men where trying to hold onto their relationship with you cause it makes life bearable for them and they become needy cause that little bit of hope gives them energy to keep going
Classic comment you can’t make this up I swear every wm comments this it’s always the same exact story I don’t fault wm for being attracted to taller men but don’t shame short men of how they should feel when their whole life is a nightmare for something they can’t change you get treated badly by society men and can’t attract anyone because of it that’s why short men feel the way they do your right but your wrong for gaslighting the way they feel
So you never were attracted to them?
@@KennethFabritius She is entitled to her dating choices, it's her life.
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