I get told by the narcissists flying monkeys that "life's too short to be holding grudges." I'm not holding a grudge, I'm setting a boundary that these people can't seem to respect.
Let's stop them. We can't allow emotional mental and psychological abuse to conquer the world. anyone. We can't stop what happened to us then that's fine but I can't see someone else hurting the way I did. An innocent victim just like us? I can't see this. It just keeps growing and torturing. This whole world will be of all fcked up people. This is becoming a huge problem. I can't start an organization on my own But I'm in the right direction, but I'm not Einstein either. So we will just leave it as "I care" but I can't do anything about it 😮😅 bye now
They never ever get away karma comes for everyone. They end up old and miserable with no moral compass to direct their life as people distance themselves away from them.
I come from a family of 6 kids. I have 2 family members who are all of this. Sadly but healing, I've gone no contact from them forever. This is the only way I can heal because I've excepted they will never change. So I change myself & enjoy being myself without hindrance from them. No contact is the only thing that works, out of all the strategies I've tried. Everybody is different tho, and what works for each individual could be different. Do what works for U, Is the advice I would give. Thank U for listening ❤😢😅
Is my mother. Very difficult relationship and only learned a month ago it is NPD, which was so relieving but emotional as I really have to walk away - this has been life long… time to move on - sort of a grieving process…but I have to protect myself. I’m 51! Wish I’d known about this way earlier…life. On we go.
Unfortunately, I was in a car with one of these monsters during a road rage episode. Really thought I might die. That did it for me. He showed me how little regard he had for life, his, mine, or others.
My father used to wait until the road was empty (pre-cctv days) then speed up and aim straight for a big pole then swerve away at the last minute. Sick basket.
I used to have to take anxiety medication before I went in a vehicle with, and I would have to stay engaged with my phone the whole time!!! Scary AF!!!😓
Back in 2009, I was 21 years old and my very first boyfriend was a complete narcissistic sociopath and a total pathological liar & master manipulator, I swear. He started physically, sexually, and mentally abusing me around 3 weeks into the relationshit. It didn't end until I finally sent his ass to jail for domestic battery after he literally tried to kill me one night in summer 2010. After that I vowed to actually truly love myself enough to NEVER EVER let that happen to me again. Narcissists have an uncanny ability to sniff out partners who already struggle with feelings of very low self worth; I decided to no longer make myself a target.
Honestly they also attract people who just fall for their charm. Which they usually have a bucketload of. I thought my boyfriend was the best and most attentive guy I'd ever met. Until he wasn't.
Good for you. Wishing you nothing but Peace and Prosperity. Jesus Loves You. Go to him. He will heal you from all that traumatic experience that you endured. GOD IS GOOD. ALL THE TIME. And Jesus Is Lord. Go To Him. HE LOVES YOU. 🙏✝️📖🎓🎶🙂❤️
Book by Lundy Bancroft "Why Does He Do That?" explains what is going on and what you need to know to keep yourself safe from these people. As Dr C says, "Know what you're dealing with and make your adjustments accordingly." Educate yourself and learn the skills you need to recognise warning signs before it becomes dangerous. Go slow in a new relationship and test the person by not agreeing with something and see if they react reasonably, kindly, or angrily. If anger at a different opinion or choice, get away fast.
Married this kind of man. Got stuck in it for 20 years, and I lost my sense of self, my voice, and I got smaller and smaller to the point where my anxiety was so high I couldn't even sit next to him anymore. He started to do the same to our kids, making their voice smaller and manipulating, lying and gaslighting them to the point where they were confused and constantly anxious. I had enough and am trying to get out. It's the most nightmarish, horrible process to get away from him, going on two years. Don't put up with them. Just run. Quietly. Run far far away.
I’m so sorry to hear about the experiences listed below. These situations are sadly the way things end sometimes. I posted my comment because it is frustrating that my ex - the narc; never took accountability for his actions or what could have been a « accidental murd@r » if there is such a thing as that; I hope people who see this messages and yours will realize that they should get out of these toxic relationships before the ending is made for them!!!
*IF* you live through their abuse. Now that is the truth! Stay with one of these monsters and there is no guarantee you will survive... Literally you could end up dead!
Dr Carter, congratulations to your first short video 🎉🎉🎉 Good job 👏👏👏 and it's even like you are sitting right across from me 😅 Hope Gus 🐶 is feeling better 🙏
Me too I’m trying now I’m officially done with all of them n this gangstalkinh they’re doing will come bk to them 20 fold the tables will turn n when they look up I won’t be there
My son married a covert narcissist. I am estranged from him and my young grandchild! Laws need to be changed regarding this destructive abuse/coercion/brainwashing!! I am living an absolute NIGHTMARE!
@d0v3Tai1 death by a thousand cuts...he literally put glass in my soup and sabotaged my car...it's scary sh__ man...I am so done and out of there. Blessings to everyone who has ever gone through, and may still be having to find their way out of another's psychotic behavior patterns. May you find the strength, power, faith, and resolve to get yourself (and children if necessary) out of harms way. I can see now, at 56 years of age, the patterns and behaviors that perpetuated since childhood...Once it becomes clear we can choose to make different choices, develop healthier relationships, and choose self-love as an indicator of True North on our compass in life. With Blessings 💗🙏🦋
Stayed initially because of the brief moments of kindness. That never lasts long. Total disregard of empathy. Struggled by myself through two deaths and multiple hardships, he took advantage of my finances. Total need for admiration, he is hooked on social media for attention. In the end I learned a valuable yet hard lesson. They never change. They move on to the next source and inevitably will show their true colors to them as well. The pattern is there.
My mother is a covert sociopathic narcissist. Dealing with her is quite the tap dance. She is 95, and when she is gone, all I will feel is relief. In the meantime, I have learned to emotionally insulate myself and treat our interactions like a job that I don't like very much.
Worked for a narcopath for only a couple of months but that experience gave me a lot of trauma I'm still healing from years later and destroyed my confidence. They created a lot of turnover for that company and should have quit when the first two red flags went up. Not surprisingly, I found out this former boss has a criminal record after leaving. These people can by dangerous. Do not engage with their games, leave asap and go no contact.
Describes my nephew to a T. Get away from these people. They are extremely dangerous. Best revenge is to live your best life and be happy. And yes they will check up on you behind your back and get really mad 😡 when they learn just how well you are doing. 😂
Exactly 💯 but don't give up. Stay no contact because U know if U give in one tiny inch, they will abuse for miles & miles. Just remember, ya don't want anymore of their bs & let that fear keep U in No contact for your healing & peace( which they disregard very much) Happy Healing everyone ❤
When Dr. Carter said narcissists have an absence of love and are emotionally illiterate that's when I got a bit more clarity about a confusing situation with narrcaisstic family members. I see this and know it to be true.
I delt with one, about 7 years ago, he spy on me, park outside my home and watch me, if he get near me , he will go to jail. He has done enough damage in my life. Enough is enough!
I've been in a relationship with a narcissist for 10 years now. My life has been chaotic, mostly with brief periods of normalcy. Normalcy never stays around very long. I have been lied to, abandoned, created on many times, beat on, and every kind of abuse a human can take. I have lupus, and I can not currently support myself. My disability won't pay because he makes too much. I'm to my wits end. I can't stand to be around him for very long. He makes me feel physically ill. I have lost all of my family due to me staying with him. I know I got myself into this, but I have no idea how to get out. I was a very strong person before meeting this man. The abuse has changed me in so many ways. I just want out.
There are apartments for seniors and people on disability. Your rent will be much cheaper. I'm kinda in the same boat. I'm so sorry for what your going through
Would a shelter be an improvement? My family worked at keeping me unbalanced. I had to stop talking to them to start becoming a real person again. Take care of yourself. No one else will.❤
My mother. It's sick how destructive these sick parents abuse children. It's beyond immature; my mom is sadistic, vengeful, nasty and the biggest phony tou can ever know.
I work with a narcissist. Now i work in a different division (different floor) but I see her sometimes. After experiencing the cycles, where she love bombs then devalues, I am now Totally ignoring her like she doesn’t exist. It’s wonderful. I can see from my peripheral vision she is perplexed. I didn’t even know there could be people like her until I met her. Thank God there is information about people like her. And thank God I stopped being her rug to be walked on. This situation taught me a lot about myself and the healing I needed to go through. If you met and worked with her you would be astounded how her behavior ticks off all the descriptions of a narcissist. I mean it’s a marvel to behold 😮
Exactly how my ex was. I’ve been contact-free for 1 year and I celebrated that anniversary last week ❣️The Lord helped me escape that horrible situation. These people are highly mentally abusive and if you don’t act according to their wishes or challenge them and they can’t control you the physical abuse will then start. I saw my ex punch his small dog in the face right in front of me because he wouldn’t stay off the couch. The ex promised he wouldn’t do that again but I witnessed multiple abusive acts to the poor dog. The trauma bonds can be very strong with these dangerous people because it’s so emotional and mentally traumatic being with these types. Walk away!! Stay away!!! Thank you Doctor for highlighting these types of people. They’re highly dangerous and you have no idea what you’re getting into with them until later. Learn the red flags and protect yourself. God bless ❤✝️
One year brings you safety, relief, and a whole mountain of wtf to work through. In five years, you will have recreated a life you never knew you could live. Bliss. Rock'n'roll!
You described my ex-huband so well in this short. He is a sociopathic narcissist . When I filed for divorce from him, stuff really hit the fan. Once he was out of my house, I quickly found that I was no longer walking on eggshells due to the mood swings and anger that he exhibited. It was very freeing to know that I didn't have to live with him anymore. I hope that this video and my post helps someone living with a person that is a narcissistic sociopathic.
You videos have helped alot with what I've been forced to go through from ppl I thought cared but have proven otherwise... Keep up the good work and thank u
We need someone like you in politics....Calm, reasonable, sane.....with the mantra of: Dignity, Respect, Civility.....God help the United States of America. 🙏
Thank you for helping me realize what I have lived with for 28 years. I just thought he was the way he was. I am very exhausted and worn out and am making the next steps which will not be fun. But needed. hugs
It didn’t end well. But thats just how it has to be. Boundaries and outing of the toxic behaviour. I will not allow my oldest sons disdainful contempt filled remarks and behaviour towards me any longer. The military took my son and made him into a heartless killer. Who married an elitist. I wish my grandchildren a good life. I wish their father , my son ,to get the treatment he needs. Be good humans. ❤ Be Kind , show compassion .xoxo forever in my heart 💜
I see this toxic behavior happen to my niece and nephews and my heart breaks again and again. I’ve been warned several times by family members to watch out. I realize im in danger but it’s more than I can do to cut ties with these young people.
You described my sister exactly, Dr Carter ☀️ Hearing this from you helps me see her more clearly and makes me feel less intimidated by her. As always, thank you! ❤️ ☮️
Everything is true. My ex-husband was the mixture of these two. For years it confused me and just messed with my mind because he was a pastor, would go street witnessing, he would cast out demons and prayed to heal the sick. He left me within 4 months married a missionary and started his own church.
My first husband is this. Unfortunately, so is my sister, who's 2 years older than me. They became friends, but i didn’t realize they stayed friends after my divorce. He didn’t want my boys to succeed. I fought this for decades, but together, they have retold history and twisted it so bad, well, I have had to walk away. I miss my kids and grandkids. I am growing as a person, and that's good. I pray that the truth be revealed.
You just described My first husband. Marriage ended after a year, and he aggravated me and my second family for the next 22 years... still calls periodically to rant on my message machine... it's been 34 years!
B-I-N-G-O Dr C! compassionate empaths w/o a good discerning radar can lose A LOT getting sucked in...preacher.....choir...listen to this teaching compassion ppl!!
I had a soon to be ex husband, who "tested positive" for: Narcissism, psychopath, AND sociopath. All the affairs (a good number right in front of me) did NOT satisfy him. I told him in a therapy session "did it ever occur to you that had you stayed home, kept the intimacy between just us, that maybe..just maybe...you'd have had ALL the admiration you really needed?". Let me tell you, he really (for once) THOUGHT on that! NONE of his affairs were at all "satisfactory" to him, so he kept going and going and going..NEVER getting from ANY of guys...what he USED to have/get WITH ME. But people like them will NEVER BE SATISFIED!! Best to those dealing with them.
Where have you been all these years... Your so very right, "it's not going to end well"... It ended horribly... 7 years of insane mood swings, lies, and cheating... My moral compass tossed aside all, From a woman who pretends to be a member of a upscale community... Highly attractive but diabolical. All things that lie beneath the Mask... Thank you for your dedication to this site.
This is educational and valuable, thank you Dr Carter! Narcs are pretty hard to deal with but the sociopaths & psychopaths are seriously dangerous. Like many movie villains, stalkers, and real life serial killers. Insipid!
My undoubtedly narcissistic ex once told me that while in college (sociology - criminal justice) he kept thinking he might be a sociopath… I’m sure that was designed so that I would tell him he’s absolutely not but I tried to keep it neutral and curious. That still haunts me and was a harbinger of things to come that he was putting in place even then.
I got rid of the minster, last summer, we were together about 8 months We were bike riding and he ran over a small child and didn’t look back to help he acted like nothing happened
100% true… Dr C, you’re a blessing, I wish your channel had been around decades ago so I could have saved myself from decades of marriage to the type of person you describe in this video. It ended catastrophically for me.
It’s not going to end well for anyone hanging on to the most famous narcissist in the world, especially those who have tied their fortunes to him. They have all been warned so many times by psychologists & psychiatrists. What can friends and family do to help them break away?
As I was leaving my former employer, his parting words to me were, “I believe, you believe, those things to be true.” I didn't really know what gaslighting was at the time but I do now.
@@well_weathered paraphrased as "flee from all appearance of evil." This phrase is found in the New Testament, specifically in 1 Thessalonians 5:22 (King James Version), which says, "Abstain from all appearance of evil." (From ChatGPT)
@@pacsx Isn't that the problem. They can seem anything other than evil. It's the workings behind the scenes. The abused are the ones who appear evil in their actions.
@@well_weathered It certainly can be an issue. My ex is exactly like this. Many people think she's a fun person. After I told people what happened, some simply do not care ... but many were either not questioning my version, or said they always suspected something. Perhaps the narcissist can appear more successful in fooling people than they really are. I suppose for the victims it is easy to react to this, and appear the mad persons themselves.
EXACTLY.. ypu got me away from the malignant narcissist. I recently got put into a job that was managed by a narcissist...she has no cicept if reality and is vindictive and cruel. I seem to attract SOCIOPATHIC NARCISSISTS
Let me introduce you to my father 🙄 he used to love gripping the back of my neck to the point I'd scream and drop to the floor crying. If I spoke or the attention was on me in front of others, he'd put his hand on the back of my neck and squeeze to shut me up. It looked like he was being affectionate to outsiders. It's only recently that it finally clicked that I was being abused in plain sight
Mine is 95 yrs and the same . When they said they never change. I didn’t believe, I held out hope and still do. BUT HERE IT IS IN NOW TIME : She NEVER CHANGED. All the crap a life of abusing : still there.
This was my ex husband. Instead of wild mood swings though he would use the lowest of lows to get gratification. When he couldn’t lean on those immoral things, then he would have the unpredictable mood swings.
Just moved out after living with a diagnosed sociopath for 9 months. I’m not easily manipulated and am very cynical but he got me. He started off so friendly but I also knew exactly what he was capable of. Then he started making rules for me like “do not come in the kitchen when I’m in there. I get paranoid and if you make me jump I might hit you by accident”. Then a few months later he got into an argument with a van man who wouldn’t move his van over, and ended up going back into the house for an axe. Then he said I could decorate the house because he wants to make a home for the first time in his life. Well, it soon got terrifying for me when he realised his house is no longer just his. When he realised I’d completely changed the place (all with his full knowledge, consideration, input and consent), he really started to let his true self show. I had to sit at the complete opposite side of the living room, I had to tell him if I was on the phone and who to, he was manically changing the furniture round. In the end we got into an argument and he said “where’s my knife? I’m going to stb you”. I packed up and moved out
I stayed to care for the kids until she threw me out because I openly called her inappropriate demand. I’m out but the dependent- inpaired- kids are still there.
I get told by the narcissists flying monkeys that "life's too short to be holding grudges." I'm not holding a grudge, I'm setting a boundary that these people can't seem to respect.
Indeed 👍
They are like Putin’s invading army; misguided criminals
Narcissists don't understand why other people's boundaries would ever apply to them! - they're special 🤪
You >Correct< their cheap bullshit by saying "life's too short to not keep better company".
Superb 👍
The worst part is they can ruin your life and get away with it
true.
The karma always comes.. I'm witnessing it now in our family.
Yes, for many years, but eventually, the dominoes start falling one by one ❤
Let's stop them. We can't allow emotional mental and psychological abuse to conquer the world. anyone. We can't stop what happened to us then that's fine but I can't see someone else hurting the way I did. An innocent victim just like us? I can't see this. It just keeps growing and torturing. This whole world will be of all fcked up people. This is becoming a huge problem. I can't start an organization on my own
But I'm in the right direction, but I'm not Einstein either. So we will just leave it as "I care" but I can't do anything about it
😮😅 bye now
They never ever get away karma comes for everyone. They end up old and miserable with no moral compass to direct their life as people distance themselves away from them.
Exactly! These people are dangerous. Keep yourself safe!
I come from a family of 6 kids. I have 2 family members who are all of this. Sadly but healing, I've gone no contact from them forever. This is the only way I can heal because I've excepted they will never change. So I change myself & enjoy being myself without hindrance from them. No contact is the only thing that works, out of all the strategies I've tried. Everybody is different tho, and what works for each individual could be different. Do what works for U, Is the advice I would give. Thank U for listening ❤😢😅
Peter Huntoon
I'm 75 so he knows my energy level. A level which gets crushed. By his behind the scenes doings.
I need legal protection. A truck to drive me away.
Is my mother. Very difficult relationship and only learned a month ago it is NPD, which was so relieving but emotional as I really have to walk away - this has been life long… time to move on - sort of a grieving process…but I have to protect myself. I’m 51! Wish I’d known about this way earlier…life. On we go.
Unfortunately, I was in a car with one of these monsters during a road rage episode. Really thought I might die. That did it for me. He showed me how little regard he had for life, his, mine, or others.
I dated one for four months. How did I know he was a sociopath? He told me he used to be one 😂
My father used to wait until the road was empty (pre-cctv days) then speed up and aim straight for a big pole then swerve away at the last minute. Sick basket.
I used to have to take anxiety medication before I went in a vehicle with, and I would have to stay engaged with my phone the whole time!!! Scary AF!!!😓
Back in 2009, I was 21 years old and my very first boyfriend was a complete narcissistic sociopath and a total pathological liar & master manipulator, I swear. He started physically, sexually, and mentally abusing me around 3 weeks into the relationshit. It didn't end until I finally sent his ass to jail for domestic battery after he literally tried to kill me one night in summer 2010. After that I vowed to actually truly love myself enough to NEVER EVER let that happen to me again. Narcissists have an uncanny ability to sniff out partners who already struggle with feelings of very low self worth; I decided to no longer make myself a target.
Honestly they also attract people who just fall for their charm. Which they usually have a bucketload of. I thought my boyfriend was the best and most attentive guy I'd ever met. Until he wasn't.
So absolutely true!
Good for you. Wishing you nothing but Peace and Prosperity. Jesus Loves You. Go to him. He will heal you from all that traumatic experience that you endured. GOD IS GOOD. ALL THE TIME. And Jesus Is Lord. Go To Him. HE LOVES YOU. 🙏✝️📖🎓🎶🙂❤️
@@mrrobert6173curb your dogma.
Book by Lundy Bancroft "Why Does He Do That?" explains what is going on and what you need to know to keep yourself safe from these people. As Dr C says, "Know what you're dealing with and make your adjustments accordingly."
Educate yourself and learn the skills you need to recognise warning signs before it becomes dangerous. Go slow in a new relationship and test the person by not agreeing with something and see if they react reasonably, kindly, or angrily. If anger at a different opinion or choice, get away fast.
Thanks for not sugar-coating it, Dr! They get away with too much of that.. that's how in many situations, their abuse persists!
They get away with the most evil things-including killing others slowly.
True ! From the spiritual point of view they are dark entities!
That's a good name for them.
Married this kind of man. Got stuck in it for 20 years, and I lost my sense of self, my voice, and I got smaller and smaller to the point where my anxiety was so high I couldn't even sit next to him anymore. He started to do the same to our kids, making their voice smaller and manipulating, lying and gaslighting them to the point where they were confused and constantly anxious. I had enough and am trying to get out. It's the most nightmarish, horrible process to get away from him, going on two years. Don't put up with them. Just run. Quietly. Run far far away.
I quietly ran. Sanest thing I've ever done.
I'm living this , life with my kids... nightmare!
Ya'll GOT THIS!!!
I we endure thier b.s. we can
Endure getting out!
WE ARE STRONG 💪 ❤
Truth! Gooo!!
They are dangerous and will end up physically hurting you, if you live though it 😢
💯 this statement can save lives.
He will never live n my home n be next to my son
My mother didn't live through it. As well as the domstic violence, refused to let her have round 2 of chemo. She died.
I’m so sorry to hear about the experiences listed below. These situations are sadly the way things end sometimes. I posted my comment because it is frustrating that my ex - the narc; never took accountability for his actions or what could have been a « accidental murd@r » if there is such a thing as that; I hope people who see this messages and yours will realize that they should get out of these toxic relationships before the ending is made for them!!!
*IF* you live through their abuse. Now that is the truth! Stay with one of these monsters and there is no guarantee you will survive... Literally you could end up dead!
Truth!!!
That’s why I went no contact with seven out of eight family members!!!!
This happens to be my mother. Extremely sociopathic narcissist. Describes her perfectly, she's 87 now and meaner than ever. I pray for her daily.
It may seem heartless, but I'm relieved of my mothers passing
If you've known one well, you recognize this description immediately! Thanks, doc! ❤
So true!!
Dr Carter, congratulations to your first short video 🎉🎉🎉
Good job 👏👏👏 and it's even like you are sitting right across from me 😅
Hope Gus 🐶 is feeling better 🙏
Thanks, Roxy. We decided to give this a go!
Dignity. Civility. Respect.
Team Healthy : )
I had to remove myself from my family members 24 years ago... Staying in that kind of dysfunction would have sent me to an early grave....😢
Me too I’m trying now I’m officially done with all of them n this gangstalkinh they’re doing will come bk to them 20 fold the tables will turn n when they look up I won’t be there
Same here, glad I took that difficult step ☺
Some are truly Adult toddlers.
Exactly! left @ 25yrs ago, but it was the worst experience of my life... Tho I rose from the ashes. ❤
My son married a covert narcissist. I am estranged from him and my young grandchild! Laws need to be changed regarding this destructive abuse/coercion/brainwashing!! I am living an absolute NIGHTMARE!
You are not alone. My heart goes out to you. The more you learn about this subject the stronger you will become.
Sending blessings your way 💗🙏🦋
I am escaping this right now. It was a "friendship" where I was living for 1 year. Unimaginable crazy covert abusive behavior. 💗🙏🐦
I'm so sorry I am going through the same thing. It's a nightmare!
@d0v3Tai1 death by a thousand cuts...he literally put glass in my soup and sabotaged my car...it's scary sh__ man...I am so done and out of there.
Blessings to everyone who has ever gone through, and may still be having to find their way out of another's psychotic behavior patterns. May you find the strength, power, faith, and resolve to get yourself (and children if necessary) out of harms way. I can see now, at 56 years of age, the patterns and behaviors that perpetuated since childhood...Once it becomes clear we can choose to make different choices, develop healthier relationships, and choose self-love as an indicator of True North on our compass in life. With Blessings 💗🙏🦋
Stayed initially because of the brief moments of kindness. That never lasts long. Total disregard of empathy. Struggled by myself through two deaths and multiple hardships, he took advantage of my finances. Total need for admiration, he is hooked on social media for attention. In the end I learned a valuable yet hard lesson. They never change. They move on to the next source and inevitably will show their true colors to them as well. The pattern is there.
My former partner was diagnosed as a sociopathic narcissist and post breakup stalked me daily for 4 years. Life was about living in fear.
Scary! Glad you got out of that situation. Surprised he/she was diagnosed since most refuse therapy or even the opportunity to be evaluated.
Fear is his blood. My fear that is.
My mother is a covert sociopathic narcissist. Dealing with her is quite the tap dance. She is 95, and when she is gone, all I will feel is relief. In the meantime, I have learned to emotionally insulate myself and treat our interactions like a job that I don't like very much.
Worked for a narcopath for only a couple of months but that experience gave me a lot of trauma I'm still healing from years later and destroyed my confidence.
They created a lot of turnover for that company and should have quit when the first two red flags went up. Not surprisingly, I found out this former boss has a criminal record after leaving. These people can by dangerous. Do not engage with their games, leave asap and go no contact.
Describes my nephew to a T. Get away from these people. They are extremely dangerous. Best revenge is to live your best life and be happy. And yes they will check up on you behind your back and get really mad 😡 when they learn just how well you are doing. 😂
Exactly 💯 but don't give up. Stay no contact because U know if U give in one tiny inch, they will abuse for miles & miles. Just remember, ya don't want anymore of their bs & let that fear keep U in No contact for your healing & peace( which they disregard very much) Happy Healing everyone ❤
@@teresadvorak6145 Amen 🙏🏻
When Dr. Carter said narcissists have an absence of love and are emotionally illiterate that's when I got a bit more clarity about a confusing situation with narrcaisstic family members. I see this and know it to be true.
I delt with one, about 7 years ago, he spy on me, park outside my home and watch me, if he get near me , he will go to jail. He has done enough damage in my life. Enough is enough!
I've been in a relationship with a narcissist for 10 years now. My life has been chaotic, mostly with brief periods of normalcy. Normalcy never stays around very long. I have been lied to, abandoned, created on many times, beat on, and every kind of abuse a human can take. I have lupus, and I can not currently support myself. My disability won't pay because he makes too much. I'm to my wits end. I can't stand to be around him for very long. He makes me feel physically ill. I have lost all of my family due to me staying with him. I know I got myself into this, but I have no idea how to get out. I was a very strong person before meeting this man. The abuse has changed me in so many ways. I just want out.
There are apartments for seniors and people on disability. Your rent will be much cheaper. I'm kinda in the same boat. I'm so sorry for what your going through
Would a shelter be an improvement? My family worked at keeping me unbalanced. I had to stop talking to them to start becoming a real person again. Take care of yourself. No one else will.❤
My mother. It's sick how destructive these sick parents abuse children. It's beyond immature; my mom is sadistic, vengeful, nasty and the biggest phony tou can ever know.
Shut up
I work with a narcissist. Now i work in a different division (different floor) but I see her sometimes. After experiencing the cycles, where she love bombs then devalues, I am now Totally ignoring her like she doesn’t exist. It’s wonderful. I can see from my peripheral vision she is perplexed. I didn’t even know there could be people like her until I met her. Thank God there is information about people like her. And thank God I stopped being her rug to be walked on. This situation taught me a lot about myself and the healing I needed to go through. If you met and worked with her you would be astounded how her behavior ticks off all the descriptions of a narcissist. I mean it’s a marvel to behold 😮
Exactly how my ex was. I’ve been contact-free for 1 year and I celebrated that anniversary last week ❣️The Lord helped me escape that horrible situation. These people are highly mentally abusive and if you don’t act according to their wishes or challenge them and they can’t control you the physical abuse will then start. I saw my ex punch his small dog in the face right in front of me because he wouldn’t stay off the couch. The ex promised he wouldn’t do that again but I witnessed multiple abusive acts to the poor dog. The trauma bonds can be very strong with these dangerous people because it’s so emotional and mentally traumatic being with these types. Walk away!! Stay away!!! Thank you Doctor for highlighting these types of people. They’re highly dangerous and you have no idea what you’re getting into with them until later. Learn the red flags and protect yourself. God bless ❤✝️
I'm glad you got away and I hope he never finds you
@@dovie2blueThank you so much! It’s been my prayer that God keeps me hidden from the ex. God bless! ❤✝️
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One year brings you safety, relief, and a whole mountain of wtf to work through. In five years, you will have recreated a life you never knew you could live. Bliss. Rock'n'roll!
Gotta rescue that poor dog too! This guy is sickening.
You described my ex-huband so well in this short. He is a sociopathic narcissist . When I filed for divorce from him, stuff really hit the fan. Once he was out of my house, I quickly found that I was no longer walking on eggshells due to the mood swings and anger that he exhibited. It was very freeing to know that I didn't have to live with him anymore. I hope that this video and my post helps someone living with a person that is a narcissistic sociopathic.
That was my mother. She passed in 2012. I never shed a tear, much less missed her for a single heartbeat.
Great to see you on a short Dr C and you still said a lot! Complete!
Mandy🇨🇦
I thought I was seeing things and I was- you! 🙂
Thanks, Mandy! This is my first one. We're going to go with a new one each M/W/F afternoons and see what happens.
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this iPhone has a tendency to be ‘ narcissistic ‘ too- it changes what I have actually said 🥴
When you see someone screaming and yelling. With bubbles of spit forming in the corners of their mouth, pay attention, this not a human being.
Thank you for educating us Dr. Carter!
Glad it was helpful!
@@SurvivingNarcissism it’s not just helpful, it’s life changing!
You videos have helped alot with what I've been forced to go through from ppl I thought cared but have proven otherwise... Keep up the good work and thank u
Ditto😢 🤗
We need someone like you in politics....Calm, reasonable, sane.....with the mantra of: Dignity, Respect, Civility.....God help the United States of America. 🙏
I wish...politics is overrun with high dominant people. I'd go nuts in an environment like that.
Run for your life! Been there! The damage is beyond immense to my children!
Thank you for helping me realize what I have lived with for 28 years. I just thought he was the way he was. I am very exhausted and worn out and am making the next steps which will not be fun. But needed. hugs
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@@suejohnson3972 thank you :)
It didn’t end well.
But thats just how it has to be. Boundaries and outing of the toxic behaviour.
I will not allow my oldest sons disdainful contempt filled remarks and behaviour towards me any longer. The military took my son and made him into a heartless killer. Who married an elitist.
I wish my grandchildren a good life. I wish their father , my son ,to get the treatment he needs.
Be good humans. ❤ Be Kind , show compassion .xoxo forever in my heart 💜
They will try moving you away from your family or anyone who will help you
I see this toxic behavior happen to my niece and nephews and my heart breaks again and again. I’ve been warned several times by family members to watch out. I realize im in danger but it’s more than I can do to cut ties with these young people.
1st I've heard someone can be both. It totally fits the person I went no contact with 6 years ago. Very helpful, thanks.
You described my sister exactly, Dr Carter ☀️
Hearing this from you helps me see her more clearly and makes me feel less intimidated by her. As always, thank you! ❤️ ☮️
Everything is true. My ex-husband was the mixture of these two. For years it confused me and just messed with my mind because he was a pastor, would go street witnessing, he would cast out demons and prayed to heal the sick. He left me within 4 months married a missionary and started his own church.
It didn't end well, but I dodged a bullet although I required healing...Thank you Father.
My first husband is this. Unfortunately, so is my sister, who's 2 years older than me. They became friends, but i didn’t realize they stayed friends after my divorce. He didn’t want my boys to succeed. I fought this for decades, but together, they have retold history and twisted it so bad, well, I have had to walk away. I miss my kids and grandkids. I am growing as a person, and that's good. I pray that the truth be revealed.
You just described My first husband. Marriage ended after a year, and he aggravated me and my second family for the next 22 years... still calls periodically to rant on my message machine... it's been 34 years!
B-I-N-G-O Dr C! compassionate empaths w/o a good discerning radar can lose A LOT getting sucked in...preacher.....choir...listen to this teaching compassion ppl!!
Yep he wrecked my finances and turned people against me
My mother and my daughter - same personality. My mother blamed me for being born after she had an affair. These clips have helped me so much.
Perfectly well put, as usual 👏 😅😢😊OH my...They're exhausting.
Yes they are
It's very difficult when one of your children turns out like this. He was born like this.
I feel like it's my fault my daughter is like this. Is it?
@@susankruse9796 Hard to say. It would depend on your family dynamics. My child flew out of the womb and has been difficult ever since day one.
I’m so glad to see you again. I haven’t been able to find you for a while. It’s good to have you back.
X to a T. So happy I got away. Very dangerous indeed. Thank you for sharing these characterisrics.
I had a soon to be ex husband, who "tested positive" for: Narcissism, psychopath, AND sociopath.
All the affairs (a good number right in front of me) did NOT satisfy him. I told him in a therapy session "did it ever occur to you that had you stayed home, kept the intimacy between just us, that maybe..just maybe...you'd have had ALL the admiration you really needed?".
Let me tell you, he really (for once) THOUGHT on that!
NONE of his affairs were at all "satisfactory" to him, so he kept going and going and going..NEVER getting from ANY of guys...what he USED to have/get WITH ME. But people like them will NEVER BE SATISFIED!!
Best to those dealing with them.
Where have you been all these years... Your so very right, "it's not going to end well"... It ended horribly... 7 years of insane mood swings, lies, and cheating... My moral compass tossed aside all, From a woman who pretends to be a member of a upscale community... Highly attractive but diabolical. All things that lie beneath the Mask... Thank you for your dedication to this site.
Diabolical... That's a great word to describe them
@@Kelly-oe8kr she tortured me with her Envy always wanting, glad it's over, stay safe
Listen carefully to this doctor! He speaks the truth!
I married a covert malignant narcissist.. He liked to do reactionary abuse. He never had the mood swings or yelled.
Yep & these people do such a great job of looking like a calm & steady human & that’s part of how we get hooked.
@@cup_o_TMarie true. That is so true.
I hadn't previously thought of my narc father as sociopathic too but this describes him very well.
😂 yes, he just described my oldest child. Horrific!
No limit to how much they will take .
Their attitude of entitlement knows no bounds and there is no low they will not sink to to destroy their victims
👍 glad to see your presence & are still shedding the all important light on the subject! 👏 👏
This is educational and valuable, thank you Dr Carter! Narcs are pretty hard to deal with but the sociopaths & psychopaths are seriously dangerous. Like many movie villains, stalkers, and real life serial killers. Insipid!
My undoubtedly narcissistic ex once told me that while in college (sociology - criminal justice) he kept thinking he might be a sociopath… I’m sure that was designed so that I would tell him he’s absolutely not but I tried to keep it neutral and curious. That still haunts me and was a harbinger of things to come that he was putting in place even then.
I got rid of the minster, last summer, we were together about 8 months
We were bike riding and he ran over a small child and didn’t look back to help he acted like nothing happened
100% true… Dr C, you’re a blessing, I wish your channel had been around decades ago so I could have saved myself from decades of marriage to the type of person you describe in this video. It ended catastrophically for me.
It’s not going to end well for anyone hanging on to the most famous narcissist in the world, especially those who have tied their fortunes to him. They have all been warned so many times by psychologists & psychiatrists. What can friends and family do to help them break away?
I KNOW A FEW OF THESE..... everything you say is TRUE..... thank you! ❤
As I was leaving my former employer, his parting words to me were, “I believe, you believe, those things to be true.” I didn't really know what gaslighting was at the time but I do now.
My brother is a covert narcissist. Ive taken his abuse all my lfe. Until this past Christmas 2023. I educated myself and ran away.
They lie when it is not even needed!!
I was targeted by one its a nightmare one crucial step to keep yourself safe is not to give information especially to people associate with them
Short snd very much to the point. Well said 👏
They have no empathy even if they make you 😢
How dare you cry, you're stealing their limelight
💯 % TRUE!!! RUN.
They have gone overboard in this area with me by gangstalking me and trying to take every part of my life and turn it upside down
Narcopaths ! This what i had.. a total beast
If you even suspect this, do what the bible says. Flee all appearance of evil
Where does it say that?
@@well_weathered paraphrased as "flee from all appearance of evil." This phrase is found in the New Testament, specifically in 1 Thessalonians 5:22 (King James Version), which says, "Abstain from all appearance of evil." (From ChatGPT)
@@pacsx Isn't that the problem. They can seem anything other than evil. It's the workings behind the scenes. The abused are the ones who appear evil in their actions.
@@well_weathered It certainly can be an issue. My ex is exactly like this. Many people think she's a fun person. After I told people what happened, some simply do not care ... but many were either not questioning my version, or said they always suspected something.
Perhaps the narcissist can appear more successful in fooling people than they really are. I suppose for the victims it is easy to react to this, and appear the mad persons themselves.
Your GAWD made them🤷🏻♀️
EXACTLY.. ypu got me away from the malignant narcissist. I recently got put into a job that was managed by a narcissist...she has no cicept if reality and is vindictive and cruel. I seem to attract SOCIOPATHIC NARCISSISTS
My mother lies all.of the time. It does not matter what it is. Like a teen. She's 88😢 with dementia
Had a manager like this at work. Had to go on strike and now I have him blocked 10 months. Man, does this video nail it! 🎉❤😂😢😅
If you are unlucky enough to have married or have children with these individuals, life is going to be very hard.
I really like these Dr. Carter (DRC = Dignity, Respect, Civility) YT shorts.
Thank you for telling the truth!!! 👍
Great you are uploading shorts!
Thank you for the too the point description👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
They are ALL bad news my husband has thoughs traits and trust me he threateneds me all the time with SERIOUS crimes against me!
And their everywhere and spreading like wildfires
True. He tormented, lied, manipulated and neglected myself and our kids.
That is soooo SPOT ON!
Let me introduce you to my father 🙄 he used to love gripping the back of my neck to the point I'd scream and drop to the floor crying. If I spoke or the attention was on me in front of others, he'd put his hand on the back of my neck and squeeze to shut me up. It looked like he was being affectionate to outsiders. It's only recently that it finally clicked that I was being abused in plain sight
I really think you followed me for the past 30 yrs and yes all the above he and his family all of the above and more
My lawyer went from seeming ok to abusive. Followed the pattern you describe about manipulative behavior. M
This is my mother. She is 86 and I am sick to death of it.
Mine is 95 yrs and the same .
When they said they never change. I didn’t believe, I held out hope and still do. BUT HERE IT IS
IN NOW TIME : She NEVER CHANGED. All the crap a life of abusing : still there.
This was my ex husband. Instead of wild mood swings though he would use the lowest of lows to get gratification. When he couldn’t lean on those immoral things, then he would have the unpredictable mood swings.
This is so validating!
Just moved out after living with a diagnosed sociopath for 9 months. I’m not easily manipulated and am very cynical but he got me. He started off so friendly but I also knew exactly what he was capable of. Then he started making rules for me like “do not come in the kitchen when I’m in there. I get paranoid and if you make me jump I might hit you by accident”. Then a few months later he got into an argument with a van man who wouldn’t move his van over, and ended up going back into the house for an axe.
Then he said I could decorate the house because he wants to make a home for the first time in his life. Well, it soon got terrifying for me when he realised his house is no longer just his. When he realised I’d completely changed the place (all with his full knowledge, consideration, input and consent), he really started to let his true self show. I had to sit at the complete opposite side of the living room, I had to tell him if I was on the phone and who to, he was manically changing the furniture round. In the end we got into an argument and he said “where’s my knife? I’m going to stb you”. I packed up and moved out
I stayed to care for the kids until she threw me out because I openly called her inappropriate demand. I’m out but the dependent- inpaired- kids are still there.
Really fun when it’s your parents- and they’re in their 90’s and there’s no end in sight 😫😵💫
my mom is one
but the worst thing now i feel that my youngest daughter has her genes