When he talks about how the quality of life is better but people are unhappier, well I think of Maslow's hierarchy of needs . The higher up the pyramid you go the more introspective you get and most people have no clue who they are or what they stand for so they use society for clues and in a society that glorifies percieved perfection people get stuck in a rut of frustration that combined with a weak sense of self is the reason people are more negative regardless of having the best life quality in modern times.
Totally agree. Also, I'm old enough to remember when people had real connections with the people they called friends. I now see a strong reluctance to engage at a truly intimate level. Most people avoid any deep discussion, unable to handle disagreements with any measure of respect.
I really enjoyed his books and it’s equally fun to listen to him. I like how he has a constant smile on his face that matches his brilliant sense of humor and wit.
I hope you're not suggesting that he was in any way a part of the PUA industry? His dating advice, esp his first book, actively disparages such 'methods'.
@@callumt98 Regardless if he was against the general PUA trends at that time, he was still part of the PUA/online dating community. (And yes, I read Models and liked how it was almost the antidote to PUA at that time).
I'm socially awkward, suffer from low self esteem and have no experience with girls. and want to change that. I want something that will help me genuinely form spontaneous and honest connections, and not lead to to manipulate people. Hence I'm avoiding PUS stuff (I did get into it a bit in the past but now I'm avoiding that ) Any recommendations? Like, something that helps me with changing myself, becoming more comfortable with socializing, especially with girls, helps me with gaining confidence. So basically pua stuff, but with no manipulation.
@@PRATIK1900 try to put yourself into as many social situations as you can. Go to meetups, find a hobby where you are in a group of people. Ask strangers random questions (even if you know the answer). The lady that works in the supermarket has these nice earrings? Compliment her about them and ask her politely where she got them "because you want to get a present for your mom, sister, aunt". If you feel awkward about it, go ahead and actually say it! "Sorry for the possibly awkward question, but...." The idea is to develop a "muscle" of social interaction. The ability to just start a conversation with any stranger whenever you want (provided they don't have the look of a serial killer on their face). Some people will be rude, some people will be dismissive and you will learn to ignore it...but most people are nice or at the very least - civil. Just my 2 cents. Hope it helps.
*Choose* your commitments, because it gives you freedom. It liberates you from all the *unnecessary* things life throws at you. Mark *Manson* It's important to identify each other's blindspots and use them to grow as individuals. I hope this helped.
Has anyone noticed the moderator /facilitator? He didnt follow what Mark mentioned in his story, though Mark did a fantastic job in coming back to his flow of stories from time to time. The facilitator just wanted to skim through his list of questions.
Lol. Indeed. The moderator didn't put more attention of mark's book. He just skipped the essential points of the book itself which is talking about how to fix our life become better.
Of course, what Mark says is antithetical to what Google is about as a business. If everyone heed Mark's advise, Google's very purpose will be challenged. It actually says something about the moderator's business sense, I'd hire him as my PR guy if I ever own a company.
Great man ,revolutionary talk and views ,one must have self confidence ,first story of CHARLES BUKOWSKI and NEVER TRY written on his grave and NOT DEDICATED to any body is good ,started reading today ,taking to the golf club after golf will read it
I love what he says about giving people the answer vs letting people get to the answer themselves. Someone that ik is smarter than me can give me an answer and I will know that they are probably right but I will keep doing my thing until I come to that answer myself, usually, because ik that's the only way that i will truly KNOW tje answer and not have a falling out of that answer later down the road....if that makes any sense.
this man is *FUCKING* genius , his books are so *FUCKING GOOD* like you don't wanna stop reading it. he knows what to say , he understands being a hopeless millennial fighting depression & anxiety in this *WORLD* yet he *CAN MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER* read his 2 books were *FUCKING* amazing , *LOVE HIM* ❤
Thank you very much for the author and the publisher and everybody involved in creating this masterpiece, previously I was having A LOT on my plate with friendships, toxic family interactions, work, my posts on social media, my appearance, my income, and WHAT PPL THINK ABOUT ME and I was drowning and suffocating in all of the shit and I was depressed and pessimistic and thought "everything sucks", but after reading this book I've been feeling there's weights lifted off my shoulders, I still struggle with the amount of information and situations and problems I'm carrying but I'm practicing NOT GIVING A FUCK anymore, it is a training for me cuz if I let my mind wonders it starts to deal with crazy shits. Also I love how not-boring this book is! Reading this books helped me focus because it's not typical boring book, it grabbed my attention throughout and while reading this book I was released from the burden I was totally "in the moment" that was a freaking amazing experience.
I know this guy is for real and lived through what he says, isn’t just talking talk, because I wanted to stand up and clap every minute or so, around 20 minutes into the video, and was constantly surprised when people didn’t give him an ovation at ‘happiness is what you give up,’ ‘there’s a diminishing return to options,’ and so on. This guy is saying shit that resounds not only with my successful experiences with life, but all the failures too
Great Talk!! ..my 2 cents....do something very few others do. That's how I conquered my loathing of competition. And keep the Arts important by creating Things that can't be duplicated by A.I. "The Day" is returning😉
Read a lot of books but Mark Manson's books are the ones that connects to me emotionally and logically. Usage of neat humor - it is quite unique and engaging
As I am listening to this I wonder how many people have the read the books "Wild at Heart" & "The 5 Love Languages" I have read them both and they have helped me to understand women and myself a lot more than if I had not read them at all. I also listen to many different speakers on RUclips talking about relationships, finances, purpose, a lot of insightful and life changing attitude adjusting material..I would recommend checking the material out and judging for yourself if it is beneficial or detrimental to your current life situations. May help may not can't hurt to know. God Bless You All!
@@efrasworld7290 Not yet. I was asking because there is a concept that if you eg. reading a book over and over again, then the thoughts are reshaping your subconcious mind and creating a paradigm shift through repetition.
He called the first part "The Uncomfortable Truth" because to understand hope, you gotta start with a place with no hope. The starting sure is depressing.
@@saadzamir9327 Yes, I see it now that I finished reading it. It was a very good read. Thank you. I'm going to get his first book he wrote, which I heard is just as good.
Write a book called fuck your money and talk about community. Ive had money and lost it all during sad times and been happier having true friends around me for me and not for what I have or own. Simple life is best life. 3 things. Hope purpose community well spoken Mark
"Other books sucks, so I write a book which don't suck". At first I thought it was quite arrogant way of saying it. But really, the book never sucked. It changed the way I think, and I had my times unlearning what I did in the past. Just that, I don't think Mark fits in speaking out loud he's best at his writing to be honest.
Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law. It ain't about career folks. Considering true will as a Career is a big mistake, and can be detrimental to one's development.
He talks about meditation in the book, and how difficult really is to do, and encourage people to do it. He is not a religious person, as far as I know (even though he talks about a lot of "religions" but not in the traditional way) , but you can tell he likes Buddhism.
When I read a book. And it says that in modern times it's safe and all... No wars, etc :-) I am like... shit... this book is not for me. I am in Ukraine... I liked it by title though... it expressed how i feel
38:40 Russian version of title has a slight profanity.. It says хреново... it's similar to f*cked. But it could be even more emotional than f*cked if it said пиздец pizdec...
Hey Mark I had a confusion, hope you or anyone can clear it for me, in everything is f*cked there's a whole chapter where u say self control is an illusion, but then in the same book in the 2nd half of it in the chapter pain is the universal constant, u say antifragility is synonymous with growth and maturity, that the more antifragile we become the more control we exercise over ourselves, care to elaborate??
Self control is absolutely an illusion. Bcoz nowadays the self help industry and many influencers are marketing self control strategies. And we tend to believe that there's no self control within us, subsequently following those stupid ideas and losing hope within ourselves. This is what he's trying to tell us. Self control is not something that can be achieved by watching some random self help videos or reading dozen books. It's something that happens naturally without noticing. And he also suggests not to focus on self control since it is an illusion, instead focus on something meaningful.
32:46 He *almost* understands what he's talking about. He *almost* gets it. He says throughout history things have always been F-CKD, but then he adds this exception: global warming is worse than anything previous generations experienced. Seriously? You've got to be kidding. Maybe he should read his own book again. There are NO EXCEPTIONS. Compared to generations of people who came before us, we are not exceptional. We need to get past this kind of self-centered infantile thinking.
His sense of humor in his books made me a fan of him 😍
When he talks about how the quality of life is better but people are unhappier, well I think of Maslow's hierarchy of needs . The higher up the pyramid you go the more introspective you get and most people have no clue who they are or what they stand for so they use society for clues and in a society that glorifies percieved perfection people get stuck in a rut of frustration that combined with a weak sense of self is the reason people are more negative regardless of having the best life quality in modern times.
......I love you.
You speak my mind.
I can buy that.
Well put!
Totally agree. Also, I'm old enough to remember when people had real connections with the people they called friends. I now see a strong reluctance to engage at a truly intimate level. Most people avoid any deep discussion, unable to handle disagreements with any measure of respect.
I really enjoyed his books and it’s equally fun to listen to him. I like how he has a constant smile on his face that matches his brilliant sense of humor and wit.
Awesome to see Mark evolve from the PUA/dating days and kicking so much ass. Enjoyed it a lot.
I hope you're not suggesting that he was in any way a part of the PUA industry? His dating advice, esp his first book, actively disparages such 'methods'.
@@callumt98 Regardless if he was against the general PUA trends at that time, he was still part of the PUA/online dating community. (And yes, I read Models and liked how it was almost the antidote to PUA at that time).
I'm socially awkward, suffer from low self esteem and have no experience with girls. and want to change that. I want something that will help me genuinely form spontaneous and honest connections, and not lead to to manipulate people. Hence I'm avoiding PUS stuff (I did get into it a bit in the past but now I'm avoiding that )
Any recommendations? Like, something that helps me with changing myself, becoming more comfortable with socializing, especially with girls, helps me with gaining confidence. So basically pua stuff, but with no manipulation.
@@PRATIK1900 try to put yourself into as many social situations as you can. Go to meetups, find a hobby where you are in a group of people. Ask strangers random questions (even if you know the answer). The lady that works in the supermarket has these nice earrings? Compliment her about them and ask her politely where she got them "because you want to get a present for your mom, sister, aunt". If you feel awkward about it, go ahead and actually say it! "Sorry for the possibly awkward question, but...." The idea is to develop a "muscle" of social interaction. The ability to just start a conversation with any stranger whenever you want (provided they don't have the look of a serial killer on their face). Some people will be rude, some people will be dismissive and you will learn to ignore it...but most people are nice or at the very least - civil. Just my 2 cents. Hope it helps.
@@PRATIK1900 "Models" by Mark Manson. I don't make my two sons do much, but I made them read Models. Worth it.
Chose your commitments, because it gives you freedom. It liberates you from all the necessary things life throws at you. - Mark Mason
*Choose* your commitments, because it gives you freedom. It liberates you from all the *unnecessary* things life throws at you. Mark *Manson*
It's important to identify each other's blindspots and use them to grow as individuals. I hope this helped.
Has anyone noticed the moderator /facilitator? He didnt follow what Mark mentioned in his story, though Mark did a fantastic job in coming back to his flow of stories from time to time. The facilitator just wanted to skim through his list of questions.
Lol. Indeed. The moderator didn't put more attention of mark's book. He just skipped the essential points of the book itself which is talking about how to fix our life become better.
Of course, what Mark says is antithetical to what Google is about as a business. If everyone heed Mark's advise, Google's very purpose will be challenged. It actually says something about the moderator's business sense, I'd hire him as my PR guy if I ever own a company.
Great man ,revolutionary talk and views ,one must have self confidence ,first story of CHARLES BUKOWSKI and NEVER TRY written on his grave and NOT DEDICATED to any body is good ,started reading today ,taking to the golf club after golf will read it
I love what he says about giving people the answer vs letting people get to the answer themselves. Someone that ik is smarter than me can give me an answer and I will know that they are probably right but I will keep doing my thing until I come to that answer myself, usually, because ik that's the only way that i will truly KNOW tje answer and not have a falling out of that answer later down the road....if that makes any sense.
Mark: talks*
Googles's interviewer: Extraordinary
this man is *FUCKING* genius , his books are so *FUCKING GOOD* like you don't wanna stop reading it.
he knows what to say , he understands being a hopeless millennial fighting depression & anxiety in this *WORLD* yet he *CAN MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER*
read his 2 books were *FUCKING* amazing , *LOVE HIM* ❤
Can you tell us the titles of said books?
He has a deep understanding of philosophy
So True
@@Ramanhere468 the subtle art of not giving a fuck and everything is fucked
@@ramzyaissaq1698 thanks
Thank you very much for the author and the publisher and everybody involved in creating this masterpiece, previously I was having A LOT on my plate with friendships, toxic family interactions, work, my posts on social media, my appearance, my income,
and WHAT PPL THINK ABOUT ME and I was drowning and suffocating in all of the shit and I was depressed and pessimistic and thought "everything sucks",
but after reading this book I've been feeling there's weights lifted off my shoulders, I still struggle with the amount of information and situations and problems I'm carrying but I'm practicing NOT GIVING A FUCK anymore,
it is a training for me cuz if I let my mind wonders it starts to deal with crazy shits.
Also I love how not-boring this book is! Reading this books helped me focus because it's not typical boring book, it grabbed my attention throughout and while reading this book I was released from the burden I was totally "in the moment" that was a freaking amazing experience.
Mark Manson is Awesome- Counterintuitive
I know this guy is for real and lived through what he says, isn’t just talking talk, because I wanted to stand up and clap every minute or so, around 20 minutes into the video, and was constantly surprised when people didn’t give him an ovation at ‘happiness is what you give up,’ ‘there’s a diminishing return to options,’ and so on. This guy is saying shit that resounds not only with my successful experiences with life, but all the failures too
The ladies love me and the guys wanna get with me
Great Talk!! ..my 2 cents....do something very few others do. That's how I conquered my loathing of competition. And keep the Arts important by creating Things that can't be duplicated by A.I. "The Day" is returning😉
This guy needs to get on Joe Rogans podcast ASAP.
second this
Been looking for him for a long time.
Read a lot of books but Mark Manson's books are the ones that connects to me emotionally and logically. Usage of neat humor - it is quite unique and engaging
Google employees are afraid to lie and raise their hand because they know, Google knows ..
As I am listening to this I wonder how many people have the read the books
"Wild at Heart" & "The 5 Love Languages"
I have read them both and they have helped me to understand women and myself a lot more than if I had not read them at all. I also listen to many different speakers on RUclips talking about relationships, finances, purpose, a lot of insightful and life changing attitude adjusting material..I would recommend checking the material out and judging for yourself if it is beneficial or detrimental to your current life situations. May help may not can't hurt to know. God Bless You All!
Mad respect absolutely love this guy!
I read his book while in prison.. after reading for 7 yrs..lol my perspective change. Models really change my life
You have been reading it for 7 years?
@@kairos106
Lol, no through out my time in prison, that book has been one of many that I read while in there.
Have you read it??
@@efrasworld7290 Not yet. I was asking because there is a concept that if you eg. reading a book over and over again, then the thoughts are reshaping your subconcious mind and creating a paradigm shift through repetition.
Ok, this is one of those kind of books.
Basically it corrects you in many ways in life it self. A lot of doubts start to make more sense.
When I moved to another country I didn't base my choice on what I could gain, I based it on "with what downsides can I live?"
The subtle art of not giving a fuck. Loving it
Just read the first chapter of this book, and man am I depressed! I'm going to continue reading and Hope for the best.
He called the first part "The Uncomfortable Truth" because to understand hope, you gotta start with a place with no hope. The starting sure is depressing.
@@saadzamir9327 Yes, I see it now that I finished reading it. It was a very good read. Thank you. I'm going to get his first book he wrote, which I heard is just as good.
22:00 .. this guy won.❤️
Looking great mark!
Write a book called fuck your money and talk about community. Ive had money and lost it all during sad times and been happier having true friends around me for me and not for what I have or own. Simple life is best life. 3 things. Hope purpose community well spoken Mark
Perfect timing for the effed 3rd book. Ahahah i want to
Meet that man.
"Other books sucks, so I write a book which don't suck". At first I thought it was quite arrogant way of saying it. But really, the book never sucked. It changed the way I think, and I had my times unlearning what I did in the past. Just that, I don't think Mark fits in speaking out loud he's best at his writing to be honest.
This pairs well with the mindfulness book "30 Days to Stop Giving a Shit" by Corin Devaso.
Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law. It ain't about career folks. Considering true will as a Career is a big mistake, and can be detrimental to one's development.
How about spiritual connection/heart connection important to feel happy. Are people doing this enough? It can bring a lot of happiness.
He talks about meditation in the book, and how difficult really is to do, and encourage people to do it.
He is not a religious person, as far as I know (even though he talks about a lot of "religions" but not in the traditional way) , but you can tell he likes Buddhism.
18:45
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Google Talks - You really dropped the ball on this one.
Adult was a also child,so they must be free First own trauma,problem.Bec Kids looking for good mentor .
just wondering what else i could find in the 2nd book i like his ideas and vision about life I hope he isn't just writing the same thing to make money
"YOU CAN'T S€££ IT IF IT'S SP€££€D OUT" @37:36
When I read a book. And it says that in modern times it's safe and all... No wars, etc :-) I am like... shit... this book is not for me. I am in Ukraine... I liked it by title though... it expressed how i feel
cool
38:40 Russian version of title has a slight profanity.. It says хреново... it's similar to f*cked. But it could be even more emotional than f*cked if it said пиздец pizdec...
Hey Mark I had a confusion, hope you or anyone can clear it for me, in everything is f*cked there's a whole chapter where u say self control is an illusion, but then in the same book in the 2nd half of it in the chapter pain is the universal constant, u say antifragility is synonymous with growth and maturity, that the more antifragile we become the more control we exercise over ourselves, care to elaborate??
you should join r/markmanson on reddit and post this question, or maybe buy the subscription on his website markmanson.net
@@fsukk8499 oh okay sure thanks
Self control is absolutely an illusion. Bcoz nowadays the self help industry and many influencers are marketing self control strategies. And we tend to believe that there's no self control within us, subsequently following those stupid ideas and losing hope within ourselves. This is what he's trying to tell us. Self control is not something that can be achieved by watching some random self help videos or reading dozen books. It's something that happens naturally without noticing. And he also suggests not to focus on self control since it is an illusion, instead focus on something meaningful.
You sir are what I am being exposed to on internet. I'm good!?
mark when you say our human mind it does seem you are implying some other mind exsisting aside
Find meaning in stuggles
I know what I am but what are you...☺☺☺...????
too much "preaching" in today's self help literature
I can't stand the moderator
32:46 He *almost* understands what he's talking about. He *almost* gets it. He says throughout history things have always been F-CKD, but then he adds this exception: global warming is worse than anything previous generations experienced. Seriously? You've got to be kidding. Maybe he should read his own book again. There are NO EXCEPTIONS. Compared to generations of people who came before us, we are not exceptional. We need to get past this kind of self-centered infantile thinking.
I think he was just saying that climate change is a problem that people havent faced before...
I feel like he is majorly influenced by Jordan Peterson.
take medz
This guy has a severe negatude.
Huh ? What's this crap ?
Ah, got it.Subjects like this are better shared in person ,not on video in my opinion. Sorry.
Not good.
@@1aadam - Why? That’s rhetorical. Please don’t answer.