Dad was Sundowning and I came home from a walk to a very confused scared man. This is my attempt to ease his mind. These are very difficult interactions for me.
Dan, thanks for taking such good care of your Dad. My neighbor had dementia and sometimes he would get out of the house without his wife knowing. I would see him walking down the street “to go home to Texas.” I would get my car and ask him if he needed a ride. He would get in and we would drive around the block and then go “home.” He was always so happy to be home. You and your wife are such a blessing to your dad. God bless you! 🙏🏻
It sure is!! Sometimes it can be an agitated reaction or lots of anger and that can be especially hard. You give such good reactions for others to learn from ❤️
It’s tough and I can’t imagine how frustrated and confused he is. You are doing a great job. Imagine being 92 and thinking your parents are alive. This is a cruel disease.
My mom took care of her 90 year old aunt. She never was married or had children. And at 91 she started calling out to her mommy. And crying. It was so sad. And my mom was a nurse and she did so well with her
Hello Dan, I've been watching your channel for a good while now and I've never commented here before. Today I felt compelled to leave a comment. Dan, I was in the healthcare field for about 11 years as an army medic and clinical technician. I have dealt with, interacted with and cared for many patients in one aspect or another. In all that time I've never come across a caretaker as devoted and effectual as you are. Your situational awareness and ability to remain calm under that kind of emotional strain is truly something to behold. What you demonstrated here with your father by tracking where your fathers triggers are, staying on point and talking him through the bind by offering a timeline is nothing short of spectacular. Your interaction with Ed is so fluid it reads like a screenplay. You know where to stand, when to take cues what triggers to look for and how to avoid them. You gracefully guided Ed from a scary place to a more comfortable one. I can feel the love you have for your Dad through the screen on my phone. Well done my friend because that is what it means to be human and we all should take notice to better our lives and the people we interact with.
You did a better job of expressing praise than I could have. I had similar conversations with my dad and it's not easy. They need to have a point of memory that they can identify with so that they can get a handle on where they are today. Making sure they know they are safe and well taken care of is very important for them. Great job!
I’m a Nurse & Caregiver for over 35yrs to patients with Dementia & Alzheimer’s & it’s very important to just redirect when you’re dealing with an issue like this. There’s NO WAY to “reason” with this disease. Their mind is compromised & they PHYSICALLY CANNOT UNDERSTAND the words that you’re saying to them. I’ve had to do things that don’t make sense to the normal mind to redirect them to get over their obstinance, like when they start wanting to go “home”, in THEIR mind, they are back when they were younger. I’ve had to get them in the car & drive around for usually 30 minutes or so & then drive back “home” & they are SO GRATEFUL that you’ve “helped” them. They don’t comprehend that their parents & other family members are passed on. You have to just reassure them that they’re ok & not home right now. Nothing makes sense to OUR NORMAL mind. Keep doing a great job, Dan!
EXACTLY! CNA here reality orientation has been proven in the 80s to not work. You’re agitating him more. You need to go to his world. Make things up, redirect. Engage him in past interests such as music from his era, tinkering with cars etc. tell him his parents are at work and he can visit them when they get home. Or they are on vacation etc.
My mom passed in March at 91. I was her caregiver for the last several years. She started showing signs of dementia at around 2013. Its the most horrible thing to watch your parent lose every part of who they once were. You two are doing hard work, my other siblings have no idea what ive been through. Its had profound impacts on my physical and mental body.
You did a great thing caring for your mom it sounds like none of the siblings were there to help you and l am sure it was challenging at times! but love ovecame! and now you must look after yourself! for your own health sake you have a right this time is for you now! God bless you❤
@@Alexis-b17 thank you, yes, I am starting a new chapter. I love my family very much. Sometimes there's only one that doesn't have something else to do.
I’m going thru the same. My mom is currently 90. She was officially diagnosed in 2017 but showed signs in 2015. Almost going on 10 years. She lives with me and it feels like she’s pulling me into the grave with her.
That "Thank you, Dan" at the end is all I need to hear to know you did your job. You calmed him down and eased his mind, and he is expressing that. You did as good as you could've Dan ❤
❤❤❤ Yes 🖐🏻 💯 I agree 👍🏻😍 I ❤ seeing Pops n Dan 😀😊😅, although 💔 to 👀 Pops 😔 worried about his parents n Feeling Lost 😭❣️... Dan Does take Good 👍🏻 Care of Him, I cared for a Lady in her 60"s n Cried 😢 for her Daddy Every evening after her husband went home 🏡 to eat dinner 🍽️ After feeding her, n get some sleep 🥱😴 ❣️ It hurts My ❤💔 to sit with Her Till she went to 😴 herself 😭 n he'd be 🔙 in the morning 🌞 this was Every Day 👍🏻💯❣️... My Dad had 😢 spells at night 😉💭 when he'd get tired 😩 🥱❣️... It's So 💔😞😢 Sad 💯😭, I wish I could help them ln have time with my dad n my Mom But, It Be Greedy 😔 to want to keep them Here 😩😢❣️.,..
When he starts Saying he has "seen" his mom and dad and any other siblings that have passed. This could be the time they are coming to help Ed back home.
@@I-AM-Awsome-Toothat is what I was thinking. I have heard it is common they speak of going home or need to go somewhere. My mother-in-law kept circling the kitchen island in her wheelchair because she said she needed to go somewhere but wasn't sure how to get there. She didn't want to go to the bathroom, food, or bed. The next day she was bedridden and died a week later. My grandfather kept saying his brother that had died decades earlier was there to get him and take him home.
That was my favorite part ❤ He felt relieved. I believe Dan’s way of repetitious daily conversations brings familiarity to grandpas mind, and therefore brings him peace.
My father went thru this. It ALWAYS helped, when he went thru this, to ask him to tell me stories of the distant past (ones hes told a 1000 times) it soothed him and got his mind off things. Another very powerful thing that help was music from his time. He loved it!! NEVER, NEVER, NEVER underestimate how horrible they are feeling during anxiety attacks, which are different than this. They CANNOT control them, they arent the cause of them and they should always be treated quickly with whatever the doctor has perscribed for them. These attacks are the most dibilitating things on planet earth. (In my opinion)Treat them as such, PLEASE!!
I’ve been home health aide a CNA for over 40 yrs. You handled that better than a lot of people I know keep up the good work and thank you for keeping your father home with you as long as possible
@cmaldonado3389 thank you for the job you do! People like you are far under-appreciated. I take care of my momma 24/7. So I get what you do, and it’s not easy. 🙏❤️🤗🙏
@@RoniShawnme, too 😞😔🙏🏼💖 and God bless you, too ❤ I have been doing the same for mumma off and on for 12-13 years now, and we just unexpectedly painfully lost my daddy & it’s all I can do to keep living for my mom…..
@@ChalNjurshEp oh my goodness darling. I’m so sorry! Sending you prayers, love, hugs and condolences 🙏🤗❤️💐🙏. Yes it’s very tough. And you’ve been at this nearly 13 years! A long time! I’ve been at it 5 in November.
I am utterly terrified that I may suffer this when I reach such an age, and if I do, I hope I will have such a loving and caring family to keep me safe and reassure me.
❤❤❤ Yes 👍🏻 Agree 💯❣️... So Sad 😢 to 🚫 know 1 Minute to the Next, n miss his parents n 🚫 understand you've lived n married n had children n Retired from being in podiatry for all Those years n 🚫 remember anything but names n your parents 😢😮💔😭❣️
Please don't doubt yourself, Daniel. You brought your dad's emotions from frantic to "when is dinner?" in about five minutes. It was a masterclass in dealing with sundowning. Ed is in excellent hands with yourself, Danielle, and Mark.
I am 80 yrs. old now & live with my youngest daughter, and am so blessed to have my family who cares about me. I watch everything you post and see that Ed is so blessed , too, and just wanted to tell you that you and your family do such a good job taking care of Ed. There are good people out there in this world that take wonderful care of family. And I applaud you for it. Great fun watching you all, Ed makes me smile ! Big hugs !
Your an amazing son! The patience you showed while listening and giving him reassurance, security, confirmation and love was very respectful and sweet. Don’t forget to take care of yourself as well. It’s heartbreaking to watch a parent especially a dad of strength be so vulnerable. He is very blessed to have you. You did a GREAT job!!!
The best approach I found when dealing with my Dad"s dementia was to pretty much agree to what he said and tell him his relatives would be coming soon to visit or we would visit them. These thoughts are only retained for seconds anyway so pretty much forgotten as they are spoken. I became quite adept at dodging his questions but in the moment it calmed him down. I found it best not to overload with reality and information - it was overwhelming to him but "playing the game" worked the best.
@@AzDesertFoxx I too experienced this way of coping with my dad ,he was in another country but I managed to see him once a month and he would ask me about things that happened years ago but to him they were in his reality now , eventually he stopped asking questions ❤️
My mom was 92 from dementia she became very angry and would yell at me and my kids. It was difficult and heartbreaking but I never gave up on her. My heart goes out to you and you’re doing an amazing job. Stay strong.
You’re a Great son. You calmly explain things to him over and over understandably. Wish I had a daughter or son to help me out when I need it! Thanks for being there for pops
@@dsalnorcal1434have you tried giving your dad. more meat, eggs and all keto diet? Or mushrooms to help brain regrow his cells? Lionmane is top supplement for dementia
he's thinking about his parents and how they're old (in his mind) and how he wants to take care of them 😢 Grandpa has such a kind soul and heart. God please have mercy on these good people ❤
I have experience working with people with Alzheimer's and the Best way to deal with them is to go with their reality at first and as they calm down then do the explaining!! You did great!! God Bless you for your Love and Kindness to your Dad!❤
I am a caregiver for an ederly woman with the dementia that has moments where she is very mean. She refuses to take meds, refuses to let anyone help her go to the bathroom and change her pullup, some days refuses to get out of bed... some days are ok, but I have been told that she was not a nice person when she was younger and that she always thought she was "better" than everyone else. I have only been a caregiver for the ederly for about 8 years mostly with dementia and hospice patients BUT this lady I have been with for about 3 months and she is the hardest I have had to help.... Be thankful he is so sweet... always saying thank you and I appreciate that lol.... I think yall do a wonderful job
Me to ,even though I have siblings who I'm still close to.But I fly solo and have been since 2005. Into the home straight on the pension ladder 3,4 year's away. Presently I'm trying to think of something to do so I don't wither on the Vine. I'm in fairly good nic for my age and past life decisions. One of the enemies, procrastination. Trying to feel enthusiastic about what's ahead is difficult. The mind barriers get overblown and we get stuck in the negativity. Have a good day everyone ✌️☘️
Well it's a bit different for him you guys, he literally has timelines missing in his head that's scary. & To have to relive the fact you're learning all over again that your parents passed away. Got to be tougher than just being a caring person. I see your point, but I don't think we ourselves know how it feels unless we're in his shoes.
Amazing how you informed him that his parents are gone - without saying it bluntly - you let him figure it out…Your dad is one of the few lucky ones who are with family at this stage and this age - not alone in a “facility care”… Blessings and strength to you -אמן 🙌
Such a cruel disease long story short I was employed as a cook for an elderly priest ( I am not religious) but needed a job , I accepted the job only to find out that he had Alzheimer’s. Again long story short I soon realised that the job entailed much more than just cooking 😅. I ended up staying for 4 years . I became extremely close to Father Dan and was with him until the end . I also ended up as his caregiver ( not just a cook ) I see so many similarities with your dad like the rubbing of his eyebrows, they are trying to make sense of a very confused state of mind . The dipping in and out of reality and of course the constant reminding. I was with him the day he passed and even though those 4 years were tough I consider it a privilege to have looked after him . He called me his atheist Angel , and I get that in his lucid moments he would confide in me , in his non lucid moments it was a struggle. There are many funny and strange stories I could tell ( most I wouldn’t) but one was he had a very old and very smelly dog called Heinze , Father Dan had to attend Mass at our local nunnery every day , this one particular day Heinze had escaped and I know had to deal with a very distraught Priest and an escaped dog , we found the dog on his way to very busy road . Couldn’t take the dog home because that would have made Father Dan late for Mass ( huge conundrum) . Father Dans Angel came up with the only solution and that was to use Father Dans belt of his rain mack and use it as a lead for the dog and that my friends is how the Priest , the dog and the atheist arrived at church that morning 😂
I took care of my grandmother for 6 months. She had Sundowners dementia and it was a struggle. She thought I had rented my room out to pregnant women so they could have their babies on my bed. She thought I used the phone to call H men (not sure what she meant by H men). She saw children crawling on the walls. After 6 months, we had to put her in a nursing home. She was a remarkable women, but watching her fade was a valuable lesson in life. Never underestimate how much time you have left. Love the people around you. Take care of your family, because someday you'll need them to take care of you.
Awwww. Dan, you did a great job with Grandad 👌🏽👌🏽❤️ Grandad was quite calm, considering he was confused 🌹 "what time is dinner?" That tickled my tear duct 💧 then at the end the "Thank you Dan" 💝💝💝💝
That, “thank you, Dan” was so beautiful to hear. You could hear the ease take over as the conversation progressed. If I am ever dealt that deck of cards in life I could only hope and pray that my children would as loving and caring!❤️
“What time is dinner?” That’s the perfect sign you’ve done a great job right there 😀 - Ed’s such a brave and caring man. I can see exactly where you get it from Dan. Bless you all!
Hi Dan, I work in a Nursing Home and I see and engage with this on a daily basis as well as personally. You managed to diffuse what could've been a negative situation. Keep doing what you are doing!❤
No one should judge you for how you take care of your father, until someone walks in your shoes for one day and see what you the son goes through on a daily basic there should be only positive comments , there is days that will be great but in those few seconds they go back to their childhood and get confused , you and your family are doing amazing taking care of your dad , he reminds me of my grandpa , he has moments where he has me laughing and then there's times where I cry, . Your father is blessed to have a son as loving as you are . May God give you strength to continue to be strong for your father .
How devastating it must be to swing into and out of lucidity. Dan .....you are phenomenal at reassurances and making your dad feel safe. You have the patience of a saint!!!!
Awww.... Grandpa made me 😢 at the end when he so lovingly said "Thank you Dan" ❤ Dan, I really appreciate you shaing these videos...both the good and not so good. You are an Awesome son! 💯🙏
Fantastic job, Dan. Never once did I hear anything but kindness and patience in your voice, even though he talked about the same thing over and over again. I'm sorry Dan this cannot be easy.
Hello from New Zealand guys. Every time I watch Ed he gives me a smile. His good-natured acceptance of circumstances shows he's one in a million. All the best!
I think this is why it is important to take care of your loved ones if you are able. Strangers cannot bring up memories to help remind them,and calm them down. It is so very difficult and frustrating for you at times and everyone should appreciate your patience. Hang in there as long as you can❤
Yes, it’s the best option but it’s extremely difficult with Alzheimer’s. I know my grandma got packed up every morning for six months in her Alzheimer’s unit, ready to go home because she didn’t know what she was doing there. Then she latched on to a man who resembled Grandpa, and I had never seen her smile so big in her life, it was so girl-like. She hadn’t been a particularly happy wife and mother, she apparently had bigger ambitions, so I hope she had some kind of happiness at that time.
Dan it is okay to allow him to think he is going home tomorrow. It will quite him down, you are wearing yourself out. Allow him remember. He is not going to remember what you are saying. Allow him to think then you can divert him to a different subject. You are a wonderful son. God bless you.
I disagree but only because Dan is able to calm him down by telling him the truth. I think everyone should be given the dignity of being told the truth until the point that lying is the only thing that calms him down. I would do the extra bit of work to tell him the truth
@@christopherwilliams7905 it’s called compassionate lying- no need for the person who is suffering from dementia to re-live the experience of being told a loved one is deceased over & over because they are experiencing hearing that information as if it were the first time being told that, only they are grieving again over & over, each & every time.
It,s like playing a game did so with my mom , it really helped her to know I was there and would go talk to those who were harming animals . Of course there wasn’t any thing going on but in her mind it was .
Dan, I love how you LOVE your dad!! You owe no explanation about how you take care of him! You are amazing and a wonderful loving son. Keep going and thank you so much for sharing with us all❤
My mom goes through this with my grandma every day. God bless you for having your dad in your home still. That is a very difficult thing. Much love to you all.
What do you want her to do? How did you treat her growing up and now? There's usually something 🤔 you did to cause such a rift. She doesn't owe you anything. No one owes you anything except your parents when you're a child. Other than that, you're responsible for you.
This brings back so many painful memories as my late mother, who had Dementia that progressed very quickly would often talk about 'going home to see her mom' all while no longer recognizing me as her daughter. She was 86. It has been hypothesized that general anesthesia in the elderly can speed up mental decline, and for my mother who had 2 hip surgeries and 2 knee replacements (all general) within about 8 years, this probably played a part. Sundowning, if you don't experience it first hand can be hard to explain, but this video is a classic depiction. At the same time as they are living in the past, they are also frightened about the future. You are doing an admirable job of caring for your dad.
You did a great job Dan. I took care of my parents, both with dementia. Until they passed in their own bed. They passed 6 weeks apart. I remember their them regressing to the point where they thought they were children again. A constant asking to go home and see mom and dad and sibs. They think that they will feel safer with their mom and dad. At one point they would not even recognize themselves in the mirror. My mom would conversations with her image in the mirror thinking she was talking to her sister. I send prayers and comfort to all of you. Music was a huge pleasure.
I miss my dad. He used to go through these sundowning moments too until he became non verbal. By which I mean he had the ability to talk he just didn't anymore and that was closer to the end of his life. I appreciate you and your wife making these videos because they are of service to those that are experiencing the same issues with their loved ones as well as opening the eyes of those that don't have to deal with these health issues. You are all very blessed. Thank you for doing these videos.
“You’re 92 years old now”. “I am?”. Best thing I’ve heard all day. This wasn’t hard to watch at all. A son doing right by his father is a wonderful thing that doesn’t happen enough anymore. The bliss in having to be told you’re as old as you are….Good on you both, and rest easy in your son’s care old timer. You’ve earned it.
My grandfather had dementia, he lived right next door to me. One time I had to go through this exact same thing. He was trying to leave and said “he was going home” and that his parents would be worried about him. He had lived in the same home for over 60 years, and his parents had been dead for many many years. I was able to calm him and he came back to reality. You did great IMO
Grandpa probably thinks he is younger and he still lives with his siblings and parents 😢 what a horrible desease but he is so blessed to have Dan and Danielle that take care of him and give him lots of love ❤
What a hard conversation to have with pop.i was a hairdresser in a retirement community. I witnessed a lot of changes in people . The onset of living away from loved ones. They always are going home. After13 years of this at the end they usually are bedridden and I saw with my own 👀 eyes, them go to a fetal position before they pass. God willing they are calling home sooner than that. Dan you are amazing son to go through this day in and day out.. remember to take your wife and get away some weekends. For your rest and sanity. God bless 😇😇😇
You can tell what an amazing father you had. He raised you to be an amazing human. You handle your dad so well with love, empathy, compassion, and patient. He’s so lucky to have you as a caregiver. It’s such a tough job seeing your parents go through this. This is what people need to do for their parents! ❤
Dan, I think if you just agreed and said ok, I will be taking you home in the morning your Dad would be content and have forgotten completely ten minutes later. Reasoning with someone who has dementia is not possible. Make things comfortable and easy. Can’t find your keys? Let’s go for lunch and then we will look for the keys. Forgotten, no worries. Searching his memories which are fading fast must be exhausting,and soon will be impossible. It’s the immediate anxiety that needs to be helped. Just my opinion. I love your Dad and think you are the best son.❤️
I took care of my Grandma and was with her every day until her last breath in my arms. My mom just recently started showing signs of dementia and I look to you my guy to inspire me to be a great daughter and support for my ma as she ages. You are inspiring and never feel like talking your dad through a tough time with his memory is wrong or pointless. Your dad ALWAYS seems to feel so good when you spend the time to explain he is home, safe, and loved. ❤
you done a great job reminding him of familiar times and places to ground him during a confusing moment for him. Pay no attention to the know it all's Dan.
It’s so sad 😢I lost my mam with dementia and it’s so cruel to watch , can you imagine everything is so real to them , they get so anxious. Hope one day the terrible disease can get fixed . ❤
I was the head nurse on a dementia unit for many years also worked it as a nurses aid I have even had my foot broke and skull fracture from my violent dementia patients. I have to tell you your doing a great job with your father,this disease is heart breaking for the families. Keep up the good work .
Pops you are safe, you are loved, you are blessed. Thank you Dan for sharing your Dad's story with us. You and Danielle are beautiful people. You did a great job explaining everything to your dad 💜
You're doing an excellent job with you Dad. I lost my mom in 2022 she was 69 years old to the same disease. I miss my mom everyday. She was confused but couldn't make words to talk and she struggled but I will always remember feeding her near the end. Bless you for all that you are doing
I understand this too well. My Mother had a breakdown last night over why the savings account was separate from her bank account. It took me an hour and a half to try to explain it all. Then she started crying which breaks my heart. She started falling apart when she wanted to write a check for a bill. So now I pay them online. I never dreamed this would be her fate as no one in our family has had dementia 🥺
Your video reminds me of my time with my dad. He passed away 12/19/23, he had dementia and I remember living through these difficult conversations. My dad fell and had to go in a rehab for strengthening. While there, he caught Covid from his nurse & passed away. Keep your physical strength up. Just in case of a fall or injury you can keep him home. I wish I would’ve been able to keep dad home. You’re doing a wonderful job. Thank you ❤
I think you did a terrific job! Most people would be going bonkers having to repeat themselves so often and loudly so he can hear ..... And you do it with an amazing amount of patience and love❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️
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This made me cry. I’m 90 & fortunate to not have dementia. Getting old is difficult tho. Thankfully Ed has family to help him. You do a good job. ❤
90 wow God bless you. ❤🙏
This made me cry too.
Take care❤
Well bless the Lord ❤❤❤
I read a saying somewhere that said, “getting old is not for the weak”
@@elizadawne3896 Some of us may be weak though.
"Do you have any more questions?" "What time is dinner." Hilarious.
😅😂❤
Ed never forgets his grumbling tummy.
That made me chuckle - back to normality!
God bless this sweet man. You have been a very dutyful son to your dad., Dan❤
@@mysteriousplankton exactly, it made me laugh so loud. I love him so much
Dan, thanks for taking such good care of your Dad. My neighbor had dementia and sometimes he would get out of the house without his wife knowing. I would see him walking down the street “to go home to Texas.” I would get my car and ask him if he needed a ride. He would get in and we would drive around the block and then go “home.” He was always so happy to be home. You and your wife are such a blessing to your dad. God bless you! 🙏🏻
That was so kind of you to go the extra mile for your neighbor!!
He's very gentle even though he gets confused. That is a blessing in itself.
It sure is!! Sometimes it can be an agitated reaction or lots of anger and that can be especially hard. You give such good reactions for others to learn from ❤️
Truly ❤
YES. MY GRANDFATHER WOULD GET VERY ANGRY
@@bigbongo1736 caps lock button is sticking, huh
It’s tough and I can’t imagine how frustrated and confused he is. You are doing a great job. Imagine being 92 and thinking your parents are alive. This is a cruel disease.
The cruelest 💯💯💯
Good job Dan ❤
My mom took care of her 90 year old aunt. She never was married or had children. And at 91 she started calling out to her mommy. And crying. It was so sad. And my mom was a nurse and she did so well with her
It's even sadder that Dan has to repeatedly inform him that his younger brother is deceased.
@@cjhoward409😢
There is no WAY you're feeding him too much information. Damn...you made ME feel like I live with you and that I'm safe. You're a great son!
Also...I was born in Seattle but grew up in NorCal (Sacramento, Sunnyvale, Amador County...etc) Keep up the great work, homie!
@@1airdrummerlocal here, too
Growing old isn’t easy for anyone. This is pure ❤! Your Dad is blessed.
That's for certain. It's not for sissies.
Hello Dan,
I've been watching your channel for a good while now and I've never commented here before. Today I felt compelled to leave a comment. Dan, I was in the healthcare field for about 11 years as an army medic and clinical technician. I have dealt with, interacted with and cared for many patients in one aspect or another. In all that time I've never come across a caretaker as devoted and effectual as you are. Your situational awareness and ability to remain calm under that kind of emotional strain is truly something to behold. What you demonstrated here with your father by tracking where your fathers triggers are, staying on point and talking him through the bind by offering a timeline is nothing short of spectacular. Your interaction with Ed is so fluid it reads like a screenplay. You know where to stand, when to take cues what triggers to look for and how to avoid them. You gracefully guided Ed from a scary place to a more comfortable one. I can feel the love you have for your Dad through the screen on my phone. Well done my friend because that is what it means to be human and we all should take notice to better our lives and the people we interact with.
THIS!! Spot on. Good job, Dan. You're a pro at this. Big hugs via the ethers to you, Pops & Danielle🍷🍹🍸 cheers
I don't think what you said could be said any better. WOW!!! 🙏 Blessings!
And Danielle... she gets stuck with doing lots for her father in law too. They need to make sure their marriage doesn't suffer.
You did a better job of expressing praise than I could have. I had similar conversations with my dad and it's not easy. They need to have a point of memory that they can identify with so that they can get a handle on where they are today. Making sure they know they are safe and well taken care of is very important for them. Great job!
👆 YES
Your Dad is an angel. My mom is 81 and now she is our baby. She is like a little child. We enjoy her as You enjoy your Dad.
"Thank you, Dan."😢 I think you really comforted him.
I agree. I know this has to be difficult for him and you, but I really take comfort from your tone and patience.
I’m a Nurse & Caregiver for over 35yrs to patients with Dementia & Alzheimer’s & it’s very important to just redirect when you’re dealing with an issue like this. There’s NO WAY to “reason” with this disease. Their mind is compromised & they PHYSICALLY CANNOT UNDERSTAND the words that you’re saying to them. I’ve had to do things that don’t make sense to the normal mind to redirect them to get over their obstinance, like when they start wanting to go “home”, in THEIR mind, they are back when they were younger. I’ve had to get them in the car & drive around for usually 30 minutes or so & then drive back “home” & they are SO GRATEFUL that you’ve “helped” them. They don’t comprehend that their parents & other family members are passed on. You have to just reassure them that they’re ok & not home right now. Nothing makes sense to OUR NORMAL mind. Keep doing a great job, Dan!
Poor Dad is going to fizzle out. No need to reorient in these moments.
EXACTLY! CNA here reality orientation has been proven in the 80s to not work. You’re agitating him more. You need to go to his world. Make things up, redirect. Engage him in past interests such as music from his era, tinkering with cars etc. tell him his parents are at work and he can visit them when they get home. Or they are on vacation etc.
@@Loriburnettoh. I need to learn more about this. Can this help for Delirium?
@@Freshpraise777 this really sucks yeah! 👍
@@Loriburnettand is that proven to work or be ok were they are not more confused ?
My mom passed in March at 91. I was her caregiver for the last several years. She started showing signs of dementia at around 2013. Its the most horrible thing to watch your parent lose every part of who they once were. You two are doing hard work, my other siblings have no idea what ive been through. Its had profound impacts on my physical and mental body.
You did a great thing caring for your mom it sounds like none of the siblings were there to help you and l am sure it was challenging at times! but love ovecame! and now you must look after yourself! for your own health sake you have a right this time is for you now! God bless you❤
@@Alexis-b17 thank you, yes, I am starting a new chapter. I love my family very much. Sometimes there's only one that doesn't have something else to do.
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You are so compassionate with your wonderful dear Dad. 😇🙌🏼 Kent UK
I’m going thru the same. My mom is currently 90. She was officially diagnosed in 2017 but showed signs in 2015. Almost going on 10 years. She lives with me and it feels like she’s pulling me into the grave with her.
That "Thank you, Dan" at the end is all I need to hear to know you did your job. You calmed him down and eased his mind, and he is expressing that. You did as good as you could've Dan ❤
❤❤❤❤ Yes 🙌🏻❤️🙌🏻❣️., This is my words of Comfort n Peace knowing Dan is doing a Awesome 👍🏻 job 😁 taking Care of Pops 🏡❤❤❤💯❣️
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That part.
just typing the same thing. He is so lucky to have his family!
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Dan and Danielle, you both take wonderful care of Grandpa, and may God bless you both for everything you do. You are wonderful folks!
Love you 2!! Very difficult but you are so patient! He is good 😊...love yous so much! Thanks 😊
❤❤❤ Yes 🖐🏻 💯 I agree 👍🏻😍 I ❤ seeing Pops n Dan 😀😊😅, although 💔 to 👀 Pops 😔 worried about his parents n Feeling Lost 😭❣️... Dan Does take Good 👍🏻 Care of Him, I cared for a Lady in her 60"s n Cried 😢 for her Daddy Every evening after her husband went home 🏡 to eat dinner 🍽️ After feeding her, n get some sleep 🥱😴 ❣️ It hurts My ❤💔 to sit with Her Till she went to 😴 herself 😭 n he'd be 🔙 in the morning 🌞 this was Every Day 👍🏻💯❣️... My Dad had 😢 spells at night 😉💭 when he'd get tired 😩 🥱❣️... It's So 💔😞😢 Sad 💯😭, I wish I could help them ln have time with my dad n my Mom But, It Be Greedy 😔 to want to keep them Here 😩😢❣️.,..
May God bless them richly 🙏🏼
They are sweet angels 😇 here on earth!!
@@Lola-ip6yi Hi Lola
I love that he is such a caring person! Still thinks about feeding his kids and providing for them! He's an amazing man!
I literally laughed out loud in delight feeling so peaceful that grandpa Ed is back when he asked 'what time is dinner?' . It made me soo happy
His favorite question! ❤
Same here lol
A lot of dementia or alzheimer patients talk about "going home." It breaks my heart! You are amazing Dan!
When he starts Saying he has "seen" his mom and dad and any other siblings that have passed. This could be the time they are coming to help Ed back home.
Yes , my thoughts exactly
I think "going home" could be their childhood home or their heavenly home, either one being a good thing in their mind. ❤
@@I-AM-Awsome-Toothat is what I was thinking. I have heard it is common they speak of going home or need to go somewhere. My mother-in-law kept circling the kitchen island in her wheelchair because she said she needed to go somewhere but wasn't sure how to get there. She didn't want to go to the bathroom, food, or bed. The next day she was bedridden and died a week later. My grandfather kept saying his brother that had died decades earlier was there to get him and take him home.
You are so right-I’ve seen that so many times ❤
Dan, You are doing a fantastic job in gently helping your Dad remember things. You make him as comfortable.
What a tender moment, “ Thank you Dan” , it brings tears to see when a parent truly appreciates their child
your Dad loves his family so much❤️🌞
That was my favorite part ❤ He felt relieved. I believe Dan’s way of repetitious daily conversations brings familiarity to grandpas mind, and therefore brings him peace.
Dan, you did an EXCELLENT job calming down your father. Peace and blessing to you and your family!
My father went thru this. It ALWAYS helped, when he went thru this, to ask him to tell me stories of the distant past (ones hes told a 1000 times) it soothed him and got his mind off things. Another very powerful thing that help was music from his time. He loved it!! NEVER, NEVER, NEVER underestimate how horrible they are feeling during anxiety attacks, which are different than this. They CANNOT control them, they arent the cause of them and they should always be treated quickly with whatever the doctor has perscribed for them. These attacks are the most dibilitating things on planet earth. (In my opinion)Treat them as such, PLEASE!!
I’ve been home health aide a CNA for over 40 yrs. You handled that better than a lot of people I know keep up the good work and thank you for keeping your father home with you as long as possible
@cmaldonado3389 thank you for the job you do! People like you are far under-appreciated. I take care of my momma 24/7. So I get what you do, and it’s not easy. 🙏❤️🤗🙏
@@RoniShawnme, too 😞😔🙏🏼💖 and God bless you, too ❤ I have been doing the same for mumma off and on for 12-13 years now, and we just unexpectedly painfully lost my daddy & it’s all I can do to keep living for my mom…..
@@ChalNjurshEp oh my goodness darling. I’m so sorry! Sending you prayers, love, hugs and condolences 🙏🤗❤️💐🙏. Yes it’s very tough. And you’ve been at this nearly 13 years! A long time! I’ve been at it 5 in November.
That’s why they have such a bad reputation.
8:00 Dan you could see Ed’s breathing slow as you talked …Extremely well done💜💜💜💜
I am utterly terrified that I may suffer this when I reach such an age, and if I do, I hope I will have such a loving and caring family to keep me safe and reassure me.
You did a great job Dan bringing your father back around to a state of calm and reason.
Bless his kind heart ❤️ wanted to see his parents. I am sure he was the kindest person and still is……😀😍
❤❤❤ Yes 👍🏻 Agree 💯❣️... So Sad 😢 to 🚫 know 1 Minute to the Next, n miss his parents n 🚫 understand you've lived n married n had children n Retired from being in podiatry for all Those years n 🚫 remember anything but names n your parents 😢😮💔😭❣️
@@KenIvywood❤❤❤ yes 💯 agree 👍🏻 it 💔😢❣️
Please don't doubt yourself, Daniel. You brought your dad's emotions from frantic to "when is dinner?" in about five minutes. It was a masterclass in dealing with sundowning. Ed is in excellent hands with yourself, Danielle, and Mark.
That was fantastic. You handled his fright and worry with patience and love!!
The last thing Ed said in this video was "Thank you, Dan". That shows how well Dan does to sooth him and take away his anxieties, etc.
Ed is so clueless 😂😂😂
I am 80 yrs. old now & live with my youngest daughter, and am so blessed to have my family who cares about me. I watch everything you post and see that Ed is so blessed , too, and just wanted to tell you that you and your family do such a good job taking care of Ed. There are good people out there in this world that take wonderful care of family. And I applaud you for it. Great fun watching you all, Ed makes me smile ! Big hugs !
Thanks for sharing. This comment made my night. Solidarity bump with your daughter 🤛. ❤️❤️❤️
Your an amazing son! The patience you showed while listening and giving him reassurance, security, confirmation and love was very respectful and sweet. Don’t forget to take care of yourself as well. It’s heartbreaking to watch a parent especially a dad of strength be so vulnerable. He is very blessed to have you. You did a GREAT job!!!
Amazing conversation, excellent job of explaining every detail to him. Nobody knows until they walk a mile in your shoes.
The best approach I found when dealing with my Dad"s dementia was to pretty much agree to what he said and tell him his relatives would be coming soon to visit or we would visit them. These thoughts are only retained for seconds anyway so pretty much forgotten as they are spoken. I became quite adept at dodging his questions but in the moment it calmed him down. I found it best not to overload with reality and information - it was overwhelming to him but "playing the game" worked the best.
Agreed. That's the best way. Trying to MAKE them live in reality isn't good for any of them. Go with their flow is the best policy.
@@AzDesertFoxx I too experienced this way of coping with my dad ,he was in another country but I managed to see him once a month and he would ask me about things that happened years ago but to him they were in his reality now , eventually he stopped asking questions ❤️
Going to try that. Thank you!
My mom was 92 from dementia she became very angry and would yell at me and my kids. It was difficult and heartbreaking but I never gave up on her. My heart goes out to you and you’re doing an amazing job. Stay strong.
Dan, you did amazing , poor Pop was having a bad spell , but we can tell he felt calmer after you talked to him x Hugs you all xxx
You do so well at redirecting and ensuring safety. I wish half of my patients' families on the memory care unit did as well.
Show them Dan’s videos. It’s a master class in comforting the Alzheimer’s patient.
He should have be place under your care nurse! 😊
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You’re a Great son. You calmly explain things to him over and over understandably. Wish I had a daughter or son to help me out when I need it! Thanks for being there for pops
Dan, you handled your Dads confusion with love ❤️ and understanding. Your Dad is so blessed to have you and Danielle.
❤️💜 thanks for the words
He's a rare gem😊
@@dsalnorcal1434have you tried giving your dad. more meat, eggs and all keto diet? Or mushrooms to help brain regrow his cells? Lionmane is top supplement for dementia
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he's thinking about his parents and how they're old (in his mind) and how he wants to take care of them 😢
Grandpa has such a kind soul and heart.
God please have mercy on these good people ❤
I have experience working with people with Alzheimer's and the Best way to deal with them is to go with their reality at first and as they calm down then do the explaining!! You did great!! God Bless you for your Love and Kindness to your Dad!❤
I am a caregiver for an ederly woman with the dementia that has moments where she is very mean. She refuses to take meds, refuses to let anyone help her go to the bathroom and change her pullup, some days refuses to get out of bed... some days are ok, but I have been told that she was not a nice person when she was younger and that she always thought she was "better" than everyone else. I have only been a caregiver for the ederly for about 8 years mostly with dementia and hospice patients BUT this lady I have been with for about 3 months and she is the hardest I have had to help.... Be thankful he is so sweet... always saying thank you and I appreciate that lol.... I think yall do a wonderful job
Grandpa is and always has been a very responsible man and I can understand how he feels because I don't depend on anyone but myself.
Me to ,even though I have siblings who I'm still close to.But I fly solo and have been since 2005. Into the home straight on the pension ladder 3,4 year's away. Presently I'm trying to think of something to do so I don't wither on the Vine. I'm in fairly good nic for my age and past life decisions. One of the enemies, procrastination. Trying to feel enthusiastic about what's ahead is difficult. The mind barriers get overblown and we get stuck in the negativity. Have a good day everyone ✌️☘️
Well it's a bit different for him you guys, he literally has timelines missing in his head that's scary. & To have to relive the fact you're learning all over again that your parents passed away. Got to be tougher than just being a caring person. I see your point, but I don't think we ourselves know how it feels unless we're in his shoes.
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@@mytruthmylife8725🩵🩶🩷 re-living that horror that your parents passed on
Amazing how you informed him that his parents are gone - without saying it bluntly - you let him figure it out…Your dad is one of the few lucky ones who are with family at this stage and this age - not alone in a “facility care”… Blessings and strength to you -אמן 🙌
No one should be judging you.. each person with dementia is different..your love and dedication is immeasurable ❤
As a daughter who took care of both parents and a nurse you did a great job 👍🏾💯
Such a cruel disease long story short I was employed as a cook for an elderly priest ( I am not religious) but needed a job , I accepted the job only to find out that he had Alzheimer’s. Again long story short I soon realised that the job entailed much more than just cooking 😅. I ended up staying for 4 years . I became extremely close to Father Dan and was with him until the end . I also ended up as his caregiver ( not just a cook )
I see so many similarities with your dad like the rubbing of his eyebrows, they are trying to make sense of a very confused state of mind .
The dipping in and out of reality and of course the constant reminding.
I was with him the day he passed and even though those 4 years were tough I consider it a privilege to have looked after him . He called me his atheist Angel , and I get that in his lucid moments he would confide in me , in his non lucid moments it was a struggle.
There are many funny and strange stories I could tell ( most I wouldn’t) but one was he had a very old and very smelly dog called Heinze , Father Dan had to attend Mass at our local nunnery every day , this one particular day Heinze had escaped and I know had to deal with a very distraught Priest and an escaped dog , we found the dog on his way to very busy road . Couldn’t take the dog home because that would have made Father Dan late for Mass ( huge conundrum) . Father Dans Angel came up with the only solution and that was to use Father Dans belt of his rain mack and use it as a lead for the dog and that my friends is how the Priest , the dog and the atheist arrived at church that morning 😂
Hahahaha yes. I understand this so well. I do this for a living for 20yrs now,and oooo the stories, some very funny and most quite sad.
My father would cry because he wanted his mother it was heartbreaking to watch 😢
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@@sos9020try keto pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31996078/
I took care of my grandmother for 6 months. She had Sundowners dementia and it was a struggle. She thought I had rented my room out to pregnant women so they could have their babies on my bed. She thought I used the phone to call H men (not sure what she meant by H men). She saw children crawling on the walls.
After 6 months, we had to put her in a nursing home. She was a remarkable women, but watching her fade was a valuable lesson in life. Never underestimate how much time you have left. Love the people around you. Take care of your family, because someday you'll need them to take care of you.
You are a good son to your Father. We should all be so lucky to have Family like yours.❤
Those golden years aren’t always golden:-(. You do an exceptional job taking care of your Dad♥️.
@@marlenemanion9776 I don’t think they should be called Golden Years! They’re more like lead!
TRUE STORY 😢💔❣️
Awwww. Dan, you did a great job with Grandad 👌🏽👌🏽❤️ Grandad was quite calm, considering he was confused 🌹 "what time is dinner?" That tickled my tear duct 💧 then at the end the "Thank you Dan" 💝💝💝💝
That, “thank you, Dan” was so beautiful to hear. You could hear the ease take over as the conversation progressed. If I am ever dealt that deck of cards in life I could only hope and pray that my children would as loving and caring!❤️
“What time is dinner?”
That’s the perfect sign you’ve done a great job right there 😀
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Ed’s such a brave and caring man.
I can see exactly where you get it from Dan.
Bless you all!
I lost my father when I was 31 . He was 55. Your lucky to have your father. Cherish him he's a sweetheart. ❤❤
Hi Dan,
I work in a Nursing Home and I see and engage with this on a daily basis as well as personally.
You managed to diffuse what could've been a negative situation. Keep doing what you are doing!❤
No one should judge you for how you take care of your father, until someone walks in your shoes for one day and see what you the son goes through on a daily basic there should be only positive comments , there is days that will be great but in those few seconds they go back to their childhood and get confused , you and your family are doing amazing taking care of your dad , he reminds me of my grandpa , he has moments where he has me laughing and then there's times where I cry, . Your father is blessed to have a son as loving as you are . May God give you strength to continue to be strong for your father .
How devastating it must be to swing into and out of lucidity. Dan .....you are phenomenal at reassurances and making your dad feel safe. You have the patience of a saint!!!!
Pop: "Thank you Dan".
Dan: " You're welcome Dad".
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Awww.... Grandpa made me 😢 at the end when he so lovingly said "Thank you Dan" ❤
Dan, I really appreciate you shaing these videos...both the good and not so good. You are an Awesome son! 💯🙏
Bless his heart! I hear this everyday at work. My residents in their 90's in Memory care. Love them. Love him ❤️❤️
Fantastic job, Dan. Never once did I hear anything but kindness and patience in your voice, even though he talked about the same thing over and over again. I'm sorry Dan this cannot be easy.
Hello from New Zealand guys. Every time I watch Ed he gives me a smile. His good-natured acceptance of circumstances shows he's one in a million. All the best!
I think you did a fantastic job of being patient and just helping to redirect your dad when he was getting confused. Well done sir !!!
I think this is why it is important to take care of your loved ones if you are able. Strangers cannot bring up memories to help remind them,and calm them down. It is so very difficult and frustrating for you at times and everyone should appreciate your patience. Hang in there as long as you can❤
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So true Sherry. Bless you.❤
Yes, it’s the best option but it’s extremely difficult with Alzheimer’s. I know my grandma got packed up every morning for six months in her Alzheimer’s unit, ready to go home because she didn’t know what she was doing there. Then she latched on to a man who resembled Grandpa, and I had never seen her smile so big in her life, it was so girl-like. She hadn’t been a particularly happy wife and mother, she apparently had bigger ambitions, so I hope she had some kind of happiness at that time.
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Dan it is okay to allow him to think he is going home tomorrow. It will quite him down, you are wearing yourself out. Allow him remember. He is not going to remember what you are saying. Allow him to think then you can divert him to a different subject. You are a wonderful son. God bless you.
Good advice.
I disagree but only because Dan is able to calm him down by telling him the truth. I think everyone should be given the dignity of being told the truth until the point that lying is the only thing that calms him down. I would do the extra bit of work to tell him the truth
@@christopherwilliams7905 it’s called compassionate lying- no need for the person who is suffering from dementia to re-live the experience of being told a loved one is deceased over & over because they are experiencing hearing that information as if it were the first time being told that, only they are grieving again over & over, each & every time.
I think that's what I would do, but I think Dan is doing a good job too. If someone had died, I wouldn't try to convince the person constantly.
It,s like playing a game did so with my mom , it really helped her to know I was there and would go talk to those who were harming animals . Of course there wasn’t any thing going on but in her mind it was .
I love how he finally connects and thanks you by calling your name Dan. He is such a gracious man.
"Thank you Dan" When Grandpa Ed said that at the end, ooo that tugged at my heart ❤
❤❤❤ 😢 Yes 👍🏻🤚🏻 Agree 💯😉💭❣️
You’re his rock. It’s good he has access to you in times like this. To just help him settle and remain calm.
“I’m your son, I love you, you’re safe”. 😭😭😭. What a wonderful family!🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜
I look after my 90 year old step dad. It’s hard but rewarding. You’re doing a great job Dan and Danielle.
You and your 90 year old -step- dad are blessed.
Dan, I love how you LOVE your dad!! You owe no explanation about how you take care of him! You are amazing and a wonderful loving son. Keep going and thank you so much for sharing with us all❤
My mom goes through this with my grandma every day. God bless you for having your dad in your home still. That is a very difficult thing. Much love to you all.
What a Wonderful Son you are Dan!!! I'm 76, my Daughter does not help me at all. You are so Blessed!!!!❤❤❤❤
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Why not?
What do you want her to do? How did you treat her growing up and now? There's usually something 🤔 you did to cause such a rift. She doesn't owe you anything. No one owes you anything except your parents when you're a child. Other than that, you're responsible for you.
@@pennyp7382That,s not what the book says , but I guess it,s a matter of believing .!
This brings back so many painful memories as my late mother, who had Dementia that progressed very quickly would often talk about 'going home to see her mom' all while no longer recognizing me as her daughter. She was 86. It has been hypothesized that general anesthesia in the elderly can speed up mental decline, and for my mother who had 2 hip surgeries and 2 knee replacements (all general) within about 8 years, this probably played a part. Sundowning, if you don't experience it first hand can be hard to explain, but this video is a classic depiction. At the same time as they are living in the past, they are also frightened about the future. You are doing an admirable job of caring for your dad.
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You did a great job Dan. I took care of my parents, both with dementia. Until they passed in their own bed. They passed 6 weeks apart. I remember their them regressing to the point where they thought they were children again. A constant asking to go home and see mom and dad and sibs. They think that they will feel safer with their mom and dad. At one point they would not even recognize themselves in the mirror. My mom would conversations with her image in the mirror thinking she was talking to her sister. I send prayers and comfort to all of you. Music was a huge pleasure.
I'm so sorry. It's a cruel disease, but you did a great job with your Dad. I can't imagine a more difficult task emotionally.
I miss my dad. He used to go through these sundowning moments too until he became non verbal. By which I mean he had the ability to talk he just didn't anymore and that was closer to the end of his life. I appreciate you and your wife making these videos because they are of service to those that are experiencing the same issues with their loved ones as well as opening the eyes of those that don't have to deal with these health issues. You are all very blessed. Thank you for doing these videos.
“You’re 92 years old now”. “I am?”. Best thing I’ve heard all day. This wasn’t hard to watch at all. A son doing right by his father is a wonderful thing that doesn’t happen enough anymore. The bliss in having to be told you’re as old as you are….Good on you both, and rest easy in your son’s care old timer. You’ve earned it.
My grandfather had dementia, he lived right next door to me. One time I had to go through this exact same thing. He was trying to leave and said “he was going home” and that his parents would be worried about him. He had lived in the same home for over 60 years, and his parents had been dead for many many years. I was able to calm him and he came back to reality. You did great IMO
Pop is precious. You can tell Pop was always a kind and caring man. Bless his heart. Always thankful for any kindness shown to him.
" They're all family and they're all concerned and they check in on you every day " That's reassuring true
Grandpa probably thinks he is younger and he still lives with his siblings and parents 😢 what a horrible desease but he is so blessed to have Dan and Danielle that take care of him and give him lots of love ❤
What a hard conversation to have with pop.i was a hairdresser in a retirement community. I witnessed a lot of changes in people . The onset of living away from loved ones. They always are going home. After13 years of this at the end they usually are bedridden and I saw with my own 👀 eyes, them go to a fetal position before they pass. God willing they are calling home sooner than that. Dan you are amazing son to go through this day in and day out.. remember to take your wife and get away some weekends. For your rest and sanity. God bless 😇😇😇
You can tell what an amazing father you had. He raised you to be an amazing human. You handle your dad so well with love, empathy, compassion, and patient. He’s so lucky to have you as a caregiver. It’s such a tough job seeing your parents go through this. This is what people need to do for their parents! ❤
I love how he is relieved and looks better, sending my kudos for how well it turned out.
Dan, I think if you just agreed and said ok, I will be taking you home in the morning your Dad would be content and have forgotten completely ten minutes later. Reasoning with someone who has dementia is not possible. Make things comfortable and easy. Can’t find your keys? Let’s go for lunch and then we will look for the keys. Forgotten, no worries. Searching his memories which are fading fast must be exhausting,and soon will be impossible. It’s the immediate anxiety that needs to be helped. Just my opinion. I love your Dad and think you are the best son.❤️
Agree 1000%!
Reasoning is not possible? It looks possible to me.
@@Bronte866 It is exhausting and becomes less and less possible, believe me I’ve been there.
I took care of my Grandma and was with her every day until her last breath in my arms.
My mom just recently started showing signs of dementia and I look to you my guy to inspire me to be a great daughter and support for my ma as she ages.
You are inspiring and never feel like talking your dad through a tough time with his memory is wrong or pointless.
Your dad ALWAYS seems to feel so good when you spend the time to explain he is home, safe, and loved.
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you done a great job reminding him of familiar times and places to ground him during a confusing moment for him. Pay no attention to the know it all's Dan.
He's such an awesome individual. Even during this sickness, he's always worrying about his children and wants to help pay bills.
Omg, When He Said "Thank You, Dan", I Teared Up. Bless Them Both🙏
I love Dad! And Dan you did fantastic! Love how he doesn't forget to Thank you Dan❤❤
It’s so sad 😢I lost my mam with dementia and it’s so cruel to watch , can you imagine everything is so real to them , they get so anxious. Hope one day the terrible disease can get fixed . ❤
I was the head nurse on a dementia unit for many years also worked it as a nurses aid I have even had my foot broke and skull fracture from my violent dementia patients. I have to tell you your doing a great job with your father,this disease is heart breaking for the families. Keep up the good work .
How special it is seeing the love of a son!! Thanks Dan and Daniel!
Pops you are safe, you are loved, you are blessed. Thank you Dan for sharing your Dad's story with us. You and Danielle are beautiful people. You did a great job explaining everything to your dad 💜
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You're doing an excellent job with you Dad. I lost my mom in 2022 she was 69 years old to the same disease. I miss my mom everyday. She was confused but couldn't make words to talk and she struggled but I will always remember feeding her near the end. Bless you for all that you are doing
I could just hug him!! And you for your love and patience!
Thank you so much.
I understand this too well. My Mother had a breakdown last night over why the savings account was separate from her bank account. It took me an hour and a half to try to explain it all. Then she started crying which breaks my heart. She started falling apart when she wanted to write a check for a bill. So now I pay them online. I never dreamed this would be her fate as no one in our family has had dementia 🥺
Don't ever question yourself. You did an amazing job. It was heart-warming!
Dan u did great w/ helping grandpa Ed…..u made it clear to him he is safe & he seems to truly feel that❤
I want to live with someone like you when I’m old and scared. You are so good at reassuring him! Bless you, Dan.
Absolutely 😊
Your video reminds me of my time with my dad. He passed away 12/19/23, he had dementia and I remember living through these difficult conversations. My dad fell and had to go in a rehab for strengthening. While there, he caught Covid from his nurse & passed away.
Keep your physical strength up. Just in case of a fall or injury you can keep him home. I wish I would’ve been able to keep dad home.
You’re doing a wonderful job. Thank you ❤
I think you did a terrific job! Most people would be going bonkers having to repeat themselves so often and loudly so he can hear
..... And you do it with an amazing amount of patience and love❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️