monserrat soto You're absolutely right. She is a hypocrite as are any of the other people in that room that agree with her, think like her and find her sass funny.
But would she INTERRUPT their conversation, because that's the REAL issue here . You can justify his sister all you want, but I bet if someone was that openly rude to YOU, that's when it would be wrong . THINK B4 U POST !
+monserrat soto. Soyons réalistes, les Hispanophones ne l'aiment pas quand les gens vous disent de ne pas parler Espagnol. Mais, vous faites la même chose avec d'autres personnes qui parlent d'autres langues. Et, vous pensez que vous en avez le droit.
@@Summer21. Hypocrite? Regardez qui parle? Soyons réalistes, les hispanophones ne l'aiment pas quand les gens vous disent de ne pas parler espagnol. Mais, vous faites la même chose avec d'autres personnes qui parlent d'autres langues. Et vous pensez que vous en avez le droit.
For those that don't understand Spanish ... Adrienne said "but for me, I feel that when i want to speak Spanish, i can do it, because it is my first language and because I'm latina, I feel that (yes,) I can speak Spanish when I want , when I .. whenever I feel like it" In the other part she says "Yes I want french toast and also eggs"
+Lucy Krystal Thank you I was hoping that someone would have translated what she said. I agree she should be able to speak when she wants but notice she doesn't do it on this show except for when Julissa was on I hear. She would never be able to carry on a conversation with her co hosts if did truly exercise her right to speak it whenever she wanted. I just think the person that asked the question of the hosts she has a legitimate beef. Her boyfriends' sister high-jacked the conversation and purposely excluded her. In that scenario it was rude. I don't think it is rude in general.
+Teapot S That was not fast at all! You have to keep up because I've heard people talk at least twice as fast lol (but when they do I can't keep up either)
Krystal She Poppin but let’s be real, when we grow up speaking Spanish and we also know English, we know have to say it in a different way. It’s not perfect translation, but we get the idea across pretty well. I always say “so it’s THIS, but with a little bit of THIS at the same time”. Lol
A LOT of languages don’t have easy translations in English. Whether it’s a word, a phrase or a whole sentence, somethings don’t carry over into another language.
I think everyone is misunderstanding, what makes it rude is the sister interrupting the girlfriend and brother in a language the girlfriend couldn't understand. Not the fact that she was speaking Spanish in the house but that she was excluding the girlfriend from the convo.
Aminah Yahya sometimes people can't seem to find the right words in English so they end up speaking another language though, its not their intention to be rude
You can speak Spanish all you want, but it is disrespectful to make someone feel left out if you are having a conversation with them. Yo puedo hablar espanol cuando me da la gana, but I would hate if someone did that to me. Truth.
Sorry but as a native speaker I was taught to speak Spanish to your counterparts that are native unless you agree otherwise. My best friend is Colombian and her husband is American. He doesn't feel bad when we speak Spanish because I have only spoken Spanish to her since she moved to the USA.
Americans have so much anxiety that whenever they hear someone speaking another language different from English they instantly feel they're probably coming after them lol
No it's about consideration and basic manners. I speak three languages but wouldn't purposely exclude someone out in a conversation. Use the most common language that everyone can understand. If someone doesn't understand I'd translate to make that person feel involved/interact in the conversation. If it's a private conversation that that's a different situation, I'm referring to an open conversation.
@@shiloh8734 of course I was referring to the ones that believe being "American" is just being an English speaker, those who would come at you at a restaurant even if you're tables away just because you are flexing your languages skills.
@@dreamgladiatrix This is true. It is about manners. I am bilingual and I try to speak Spanish with this one friend because she feels more comfortable in Spanish. But once our American friend joins us we only speak English. Because we don't want to leave her out. I went hiking with my friend and her husband once. Never again...Everyone was Chinese and only spoke Mandarin. Only her and her husband would use English. Everyone knew English so it wasn't like they didn't. But I felt so left out. I was hanging with Japanese acquaintances once and suddenly they started to speak in Japanese. They paused one minute and apologized to me. They spoke English the rest of the day. Same situation where I didn't speak the language but one group was respectful and the other one left me out. And the Japanese group knew that I understood some Japanese but were still considerate that I wasn't fluent and couldn't keep up.
The thing about Latino households is that some siblings are not accustomed to speaking english with their siblings and are taught "hablen español para que no se les olvide" (speak spanish so you won't forget it). I used to speak english with my cousins but when my brother would come along I would immediately switch to spanish because I felt awkward talking to him in english. It varies for each family, but that was the case for me
Based on the description I can't tell whether the sister is doing it with rude intentions. It could be that she's not comfortable speaking english with her brother, as was I, if that's the case it's nothing to be offended about. However she should ask her boyfriend, away from the sister, if she's saying or is giving the impression that she dislikes her. Then it's something to be offended about. Hopefully the brother would be honest in their relationship and inform her what is being said in spanish
Theona Hinds I speak patois with my family and proper english with everyone else, even when they are both present, i just switch between the two. not on purpose though
omgitstracey HOSPITAL SETTING: I work w/many filipinos who do the same thing. At the hospital, when the patients were given a questionnaire/survey of their stay ( at time of discharge) , THAT was the number ONE complaint ( filipinos (staff) speaking their language in front of /around the patient to each other). The patients found it rude, disrespectful and inconsiderate. It became such an issue that the administration had to address the issue. In the envelope of our paycheck a MENO read on this order: Being bilingual is a blessing (some employees are multilingual which is a triple blessing) but, speaking any language (other than English) in front of/around patients who DO NOT speak the “other” language that you are speaking can be seen as DISRESPECTFUL. Please be mindful of THIS ( it’s about our patients and NOT ABOUT US) let’s help to make our patient’s stay less stressful. Now this may NOT BE THE EXACT WORDS OF THE MEMO BUT IT WENT ALONG THOSE LINES. To each floor was sent this memo as well and asked for the CHARGE PERSON to meet w/staff and enforce this rule. Well, it lasted for a while....but it still exist. To me, if a person come to reside in America, ENGLISH is the language that should be spoken when you choose to be EMPLOYED here.Your native tongue is allowed on your lunch break and OFF DUTY but when you are dealing w/the public ENGLISH should be spoken ( there are SOME EXCEPTIONS to this rule of course). 10/9/2019.
Try living in a household where everyone speaks a different language. I speak three, I had learned German in order to communicate with my aunt. I also know Spanish and English. My sister learnt French from our grandfather and she’s my translator when we talk to him[he knows a bit of Spanish, but my grammar sucks]. The next sibling speaks Spanish, English, and Italian. My youngest brother speaks only English and hates Spanish. Ah before I forget, my mom speaks French, Italian, and Spanish[My Grandfather is French and my Grandmother is Italian] My dad speaks English and Spanish.
As a Spanish-speaker myself, I'm very proud of my roots, but I do think it's incredibly rude to interrupt her own conversation and just take it over like that. I would never do that. I was always taught that if you're spoken to in Spanish, you respond in Spanish and visa versa. That sister should know better. She is being rude as hell in trying to exclude the girlfriend. I'd be pissed. On the other hand, I don't feel the need to cater to people outside my conversation. If it doesn't involve you, you don't get to make the rules for my private conversations.
Exactly! If the sister wanted to have a private conversation then she should of gone "can I borrow him for a moment?" In English and then had her conversation in Spanish.
I agree that it is rude to take over the conversation and speak Spanish but it’s not about catering to people in my opinion. It’s about letting them know and helping them out. The girl wouldn’t know if it’s a private conversation or not because she doesn’t speak the language. I don’t see the need to have private conversations in front of company who don’t speak Spanish but to each their own. I would help translate.
@Christina Prado I totally agree with you. There's a time and a place, and I definitely think if the girlfriend got the vibe that they were trying to exclude her, it's probably because they were. I was just meaning that if I'm having my own conversation in my own right, in whichever language I choose, others don't get to dictate how I do that if it's none of their business, but in this case it is the gf's business since it was her conversation to begin with.
I think it's rude if it's done intentionally to leave someone out of the conversation. I hate when people do this because you don't know if they're talking about you and you can't defend yourself if you don't know what they're saying
You know, the exact same thing happens here in France. There s a lot of africans here and one time, in the subway, an old african woman insulted a young man in her native language (lingala). Little did she know that this young man understood and spoke that language too. Cant tell you how happy I was when he talked back to her. Her jaws dropped. I just hope she learnt her lesson. It s never ok to say mean things about someone right in front of them in a different language.
As a bilingual person, sometimes you do change your language without noticing because that is what we do, especially if the other person speaks the same language. Although if it's intentional then it's really bad.
+45mo4528 With regards to that lady insulting that other boy in her language. Well that's actually quite normal in a way, because usually when one gets angry, they get angry in their native language. So that might be the cause of her native language outburst.
+John-Otto Nirvana true. I have to admit my mom does it too. whenever she gets angry she starts yelling in her native language (lingala). force of habit, I guess.
Im biligual and out of respect for whoever Im hanging around with I speak the language everyone in the room understands. I just think its the polite thing to do.
Nah fam. I mean if you are conversing in a group then yes but is sounds as if when they are in a group and she has other people to talk to they started speaking spanish between the two. That's fine. But also if it is someone else's home they should speak the language they are comfortable. I think it is rude to expect people to accommodate you especially when you are trying to integrate yourself in the family as in you are in a relationship with one. Now when I had friends over mom spoke english unless she was speaking only to me. But they werent around alot. A girlfriend and boyfriend hanging out wither needs to learn and ask or just start a different conversation with someone else. Especially if they werent part of the conversation before hand. Now if she is alone and then being left out that's messed up. But in a group where there are other people you could and should converse with ..... you dont need privy to every conversation or comment. Also as far as Tamar's comments go. Why do people who dont speak the language assume we are talking about them. Yeah that happened but not every time and definitely not in front of them. At least not in my Mexican experience. Its under breathe in spanish or in another room.
Yes, but here's what you MISSED of what she was saying . She said his sister always butts into HER conversation with her boyfriend to speak Spanish in front of her . It would be different if SHE was the one butting into his sister's conversation with her brother, but that wasn't the case . That said, anytime you see a conversation already going on, the POLITE thing to do is keep YOUR mouth shut until their conversation is over .
@Madeline Tramantano you right, they do speak english in this country, however is not the main language... as a matter of fact there is no official language for this country since there is almost 500 languages... commonly english but now the difference if you go for example to mexico of course you have to speak spanish cause guess what.. is the official language.. but in the US it is not mandatory cause there is no official language... welcome to the land of the free. 🤣
But it's a form of respect if you just walk in I not a room and just start speaking speaking while a person who speaking English language and just budge in without a heads up that woukd be very rude
Jose Gray Adrienne lives in America and ENGLISH ( or what I call “Americanese” is spoken here). She can not use Spanish “whenever/WHEREVER she like” here. It all boils down to RESPECTING EACH OTHER.
@@JESUSISLORDforevermore888 If I am not addressing you on my conversation....WHY would I need to address you in English, if you are not part of the conversation? Mind your own business....and stay out of other people's conversations unless you are invited into it....and that IF I want to invite ...same with anybody else speaking any other language around me other than English. How am I or her not respecting you...Are you part of the conversation? That is just being NOISY.
Jose Gray You wrote in this COMMENT SECTION period not addressing anyone particularly. Soooooo, I wrote my opinion. If you had wrote that you were only addressing SOME ppl and named the ppl, then I probably would not have responded. Okay, Jose, I will not write any more in “your”comment section. I will RESPECT your wishes/adios
This just happened today in my Spanish class. These two girls are Spanish speakers and have always talked in Spanish about the other Spanish students this school year whenever we have to present in Spanish. Today this girl was presenting and one of the girls started speaking Spanish and my teacher heard and understood what they were saying. Let's just say her ass is in detention lol.
+Gabby Avery That's nothing. My friend (whose black) was raised in Texas and she learned spanish growing up and was in the store one day and this Mexican girl and her mom was talking about how big she was in spanish. She turned around and cussed both of them out.
What Adrienne said: "... but for me, I feel that when I want to speak Spanish, I can do it, because it's my first language and, because I'm latina, I feel I can speak spanish whenever I want it, when I feel like it."
I would only feel offended if I am speaking to someone in english then someone else comes along and starts speaking to them in another language, but they both speak english well. THAT'S RUDE!
Tyler Mauga I mean in a situation where you are speaking with someone who speaks only English, then someone you know comes along who speaks English and also another language, you immediately switch over and speak in your native language infront of the other person who has no idea what you are saying. That can offend some people
+Tyler Mauga in the situation that the viewer had mentioned, it was beyond rude. She was having a conversation with someone and the sister comes over and starts speaking in Spanish, knowing damn well that the viewer didn't speak it and basically kicked shorty out her own conversation. That's rude. You're making someone feel uncomfortable and like they don't belong. No one is saying don't speak our native tongue, just don't do it around company who can't understand.
I grew up in Buffalo NY & lived in Vegas for 13 yrs. I had to learn that when Latinos spoke english around me, they were being nice. Period. Their right to speak Espanol is protected by the first amendment.
If he is really that important in her life, I think that learning about each other's culture is really important, if one of you speaks a different language then it's on you to learn that language. Or, be okay with the fact that they are going to have conversations, not necessarily ones where they're saying anything negative - around you, and you're not going to understand it. I am Chicana, my language is English. if I was to see somebody, especially if they were significant to me, and they spoke Spanish or another language...I would do whatever I needed to to learn the language. To appreciate their culture is showing that person that they are important enough to me, that I want to learn. I know plenty of Chicanas that married somebody whose first language is Spanish, and they learned it. It didn't happen all at once but now they can speak it fluently. And, if they are planning someday to have children, more than likely their children will speak Spanish.
My husband is white and im Puerto Rican. My family speaks spanish but we also try to teach him so he doesnt feel left out. Even my family who dont speak english try to learn a couple things in english to communicate with my husband
@Hannah Walmer just so you know US LATINOS are not obsessed with race by segregating ourselves bc of the color of our skin, we tend to differentiate by countries and regions within those countries, is very ignorant when you know nothing about Latinos. let's make it very very clear LATINOS COME IN ALL SHAPES, SIZES, AND SHADES, no matter what other people think, it is not the color of your skin what makes you LATINO
See that’s nice I have to learn on my own I think my boyfriend family don’t like me because I’m Jamaican sometimes they treat me like I’m his pet they ask him if I want more food when I’m sitting right next to him or they say it in Spanish it makes me uncomfortable because I’m sitting right there and nobody ask me to my face they will ask him for me
Yeah, the gf is just extra offended for nothing. You cant change a bro and sis bond even if its within your convo. It means the sis is comfortable with the gf for doing that and the gf is overacting. Imagine speaking to your bro in french, when you jave speaking to him all your life in english, just for the sake of a french gf? That's cringy.
When you say mind your business, you just told me that you are talking about that person or you don’t want that person in your group. I have gotten to the place I just walk out when people start switching to another language. They will stop and ask me why I left. I’ll be like so now I’m part of the conversation. I used to ask for translation but I would get told if I wanted you to know, I would speak English. I now stay away from people who mainly speak other languages now. I used to try to learn the language but that just made people mad. Most Americans want to feel a part of a group. We are a very noisy group of people because we are very friendly. I mean people from other English speaking countries find us loud and too friendly. We like to get to know everyone. Also if you want to have someone mind their business, call that person later.
Yes! The issue is always with spanish. Bitch i’ll speak whatever I want if i’m not talking to you. I’ve yet to hear people have this problem with other languages. I’ll wait.
I don't think the issue is another language. The girl said they could be talking having a regular conversation then the sister will just switch languages our of nowhere pushing the gf out her own conversation basically. I would think she was talking about me or saying something smart too. Why did you just randomly need to switch languages when we were all talking
I speak Spanish and my co-workers speak Russian, Haitian Creole, Yoruba, Bengali and Hindi right in front of me every day and I don't get offended nor do I think they're talking about me. It's called, speaking your native language. Why can't Americans get that?
There’s nothing wrong speaking in your native language. The problem is that they were having a one to one convo in a group convo and they just happen to be speaking a language that the lady didn’t understand which makes it even more rude so obviously the woman would feel upset and left out
Valeria Hernandez but you know whats funny tho? That if theres one english speaking guy among 60 people, people will bend backward to acomodate the english guy.
Valeria Hernandez yes ..true..i felt offended all the time when my colleagues speaks mandarin among them while i’m in the middle of conversation and definitely they talked something about me since i’ve heard my name too ..for me , that’s rude!
In front of you and with you is completely different. I don’t get offended either if people speak their language in front of me but I do find it rude when your in a group like out drinking and everyone starts speaking Spanish knowing that I don’t speak Spanish, it’s almost like if your with someone and their own their phone instead of speaking to you
the fact that people think “don’t speak that Spanish around me” speaks levels on their sense of entitlement like why should one language dominate the other in the US we are a beautiful melting pot of many cultures, backgrounds, and languages so if someone feels much more comfortable speaking something other than English it shouldn’t be a problem
I think that the issue is when your in a group with people who speak Spanish and English and then there’s that one friend who only speaks English. Especially if your going out with your friends that’s just disrespectful. Your actually leaving that one person out the conversation because one that would entail your not talking to them and two they can’t understand what your saying.
This is what Adrienne was saying by the way "I feel that when I want to speak Spanish, I can because it's my first language and being that I'm Latina I feel I should be able to speak Spanish when I want, when I feel like it."
soapqueen2008 how it it rude and disrespectful? The sister probably feels more comfortable speaking Spanish or her English isn’t too good. If you want to know so bad what someone is sayin in a different language, learn it.
LMFAO Adrienne, this was a cute segment. However, whoever puts these videos up, can you just take my comment in consideration and see if y'all can just upload a FULL clip of the whole segment of "Girl Chat"? Y'all never respond when we ask that. Could you at least let us know if that's possible or not?
If you date a person who is bilingual, you can't say, "don't speak among ur fam". If they join and then change YOUR convo, that's just rude, even if you understand them. IF you join a convo, that's different.
Better yet, Tamar says "Boo, do you want some French toasts" Adrienne says "Do you want some French toasts" in Spanish, to which Tamar replies "I don't know what you 're talking about"
No tamar, "the sister is not trying you". don't be ignorant! I happen to speak Spanish as well, and just because I speak another language in front of you doesn't mean im talking about you. If I'm in my house I will speak the language that I wish to speak whether you like it or not. If you happen to have an issue with it you can leave, that's how I feel
+subomi seun-fadipe no I completely disagree, what a lot of people don't understand about being bilingual is, that a lot of times it's easier for us to speak the language that we speak instead of English sometimes it just comes out in another language it doesn't mean that we are speaking about you, it's simply just easier
I think it's rude because if I'm trying to hold a conversation with you and one other person and you switch to Spanish, that excludes me. like wtf? I am here. it's one thing if you and another person are already talking but when its my conversation also, don't just act like I'm not there
The sister and the boyfriend were really rude . You know she doesn't speak Spanish , so why would you switch off English unless your saying something you don't want her to hear . What's so important that you can't say it in English ? That is so rude
+Monae Jones I see what you are saying. However, sometimes it's not so simple. I saw an episode of Scrubs where the hispanic girl was engaged to an African American husband, and her brother came to visit. Because they left to America at a later age, she wanted to continue speaking Spanish with her brother because it helped them stay connected to each other, especially since their Mom died - in essence, it was something they shared together. As much as we want to acknowledge others for feeling left out, I do believe there are reasons for someone to speak Spanish other than throwing shade. Second, many Latino cultures believe it is part of maintaining their culture and respect by continuing to regularly speak in Spanish "if you don't use it, you lose it." Imagine, if you will, if someone said it was too much for African American women to wear weaves and wigs in the office because someone had an OPINION about their appropriateness for the workplace. Not only is it your general perogative on what to wear, but consider how significant hair care really is valued in the African American community (and others, obviously). Would you think a woman wearing a weave or wig, even tasteful, should be called 'rude' by others in this instance?
+Big Z I'm not saying never speak Spanish , when your in the presence of non speakers . For example if you , me and a third person are talking and all of a sudden me and the third person just starts speaking Russian knowing that you don't speak it , is that not rude ? Like why couldn't I wait till you left to start speaking some other language . What was so important that I couldn't say it in English ?
THat part I got, and as many people said, the sister was somewhat rude because she inserted herself into the conversation. We just feel that Tamar presuming they're talking shade and DEMANDING they speak English in front of her on this basis implies some sense of insensitivity. I also wanted to highlight the point that, in absence of actually knowing the sister, some Spanish speakers still do this because 1) it's something they share with their family/part of their culture; 2) it's an unconscious reflex, like they are doing it without thinking, and here we have talked shade about it instead of confronting her. Both of these reasons have nothing to do with trying to shade someone or exclude them. I recommend she confront the sister and talk about it.
+Daisy Burgos I understand that but how would you feel if you and I were having a conversation in Spanish and some third person joins the conversation and I start speaking to her in a language that you don't speak ? Even though you know the third girl speaks Spanish as well ? Why did I suddenly start speaking to her in a language that you don't speak or understand , when I could of spoken to her in Spanish .l? What's so important that it couldn't wait till you left if we didn't want you to hear ?
Idk, Tamar sounds really intolerant of difference... "You have to speak English around me"...uh ok " asi que me toca hablar en ingles cuando estoy en tu presencia? get real, nobody has that kind of power, and its just plain ignorant. I mean to assume that all of the sudden the conversation is about her is ludicrous. I mean maybe the sister wanted to say something personal that she did not want NON FAMILY MEMBERS to know, I mean if it were so bad then why didn't the boyfriend just reply in English then. Geeze, chicks are so petty!
Well said, totally agree, she does sound a little ignorant and is sprouting the wrong advice if that didn't turn out to be the case. Also, if you are accustomed to speaking a certain language sometimes you don't realise it when you switch languages, let families preserve their cultures and what languages they choose to also speak!
true, but in a way i also kind of get what Tay Tay was saying. But if it is intentionally to talk bad about the other person, they shouldn't be caring because either way your partner is still with you no matter who is talking bad about you. So...
foreal like i would speak spanish in front of you on purpose if you ever feel like someones talking about you in spanish ask yourself wtf am i doing wrong and if you aint doing none wrong stop being a nosey bitch they probably commenting on that bomb ass outfit you got on
Y’all keep forgetting this girl said “they say certain things in Spanish” which means small word or phrases as they having the conversation and that’s how bilingual people speak so… And if she feels self conscious speak up
As a Spanish speaking person, I feel as though in public, if I am not around Spanish speaking friends, I will not speak Spanish. It's rude in my opinion. There's a time and place for everything and every language. Pero al mismo tiempo, si tu te sientes como ellos hablan de ti en español, pues di algo. (but at the same time, if you feel like they're talking about you in Spanish, speak up) Don't just get upset and get annoyed, I dated a guy that had a French-speaking family, I didn't learn French, but I knew a few words and I'd answer back in English if I could. I probably didn't make sense, but you kinda get it.
Yo tanbien yo soy Latina but it's for example you know how u guys do ur nails with the chinese people and they start speaking Chinese it annoys u right so also to me it's pretty rude to me so like if u agree and comment
This is where monolinguals are made annoying. Not everyone has to speak your language in front of you, your own insecurities are your problem. Its by far easier to blend and mix languages than just stick to one, theres some things that just don't translate well and for you to be ignorant and be like "he cant speak to his own sister in their native language in front of me." Nah, grow up. If you wanna know so bad, learn the language. Otherwise hush.
But the thing is, I'm Somali is not about Spanish language or any other foreign language. Its about speaking directly between 2 people if you have a 3rd person, even if you speak the same language. So, just wait or excuse the person gently and respectfully, or drop the third wheel forever, or say it together. But never ignore the 3rd wheel. Never. Its disrespectful.
+Bilenaire Ignoring the "third wheel" yes I 100% agree thats disrespectful. But i don't find it disrespectful to say something to one person in one language and the other in another all in one conversation. As long as its equal and you're not pushing somebody to the side who doesn't understand then no I don't find a problem with it. I've done it plenty of times when both of my friends understand english but one may not understand something in their native due to translation or anything and ive had to completely stop speaking in English to re explain the situation or a different situation to them in their native. Idk the comments on this video rubbed me the wrong way and for someone who has friends of multiple different languages I have never felt excluded from a convo just cause the language changes.
+Bilenaire Also in this case, its a brother and a sister. Some people don't feel comfortable speaking english and thats okay. Its just his sister, she's allowed to talk to him in their native if thats what they are used to.
Ty Monae ♡ you are 100% right! I learned Portuguese because I didn't want to be left out of my spouse's family conversations, etc...best decision I could have ever made. Do the work and quit your cryin'! People don't want to take the time to learn the language, but if you are planning to be with that person for a long time, you really should.
I think a lot of persons misunderstood what was said: 1) They're (the couple) already having a conversation 2) The sister inserts herself and changes the language 3) The girlfriend is left out I speak 4 languages and honestly the language switching happens naturally. I've gone in a circle with all of my friends speaking to me in different languages without missing a beat. However, there's always a part of me that's conscious of persons who don't speak the language. If I'm with my Italian friends and bring an English speaker, I don't care what someone says to me, in whatever language I will respond in English because I've been that person who didn't understand.
+M. Williams I love it a considerate person. Like I have said umpteenth times today on this topic. I don't have a problem when someone speaks their language. I have a problem when you exclude me from the conversation when you could easily include me by speaking English or by translating when you are done. Which doesn't happen most times. I am sure if her boyfriend had translated or explained what they were discussing she would not have felt left out. If it was something private he could also tell his girlfriend sorry didn't mean to do that but it was something that could not be discussed generally because of its nature. She could understand.
4daluvofnikki I think that may be her problem also, the fact that he didn't take a half of a second to include her or explain to her what his sister is saying. It shows that there may other problems in communication between them even though that's neither here nor there.
To me it depends. My in laws are Russian and will primarily speak in English in front of me but speak it with an accent and not too fluent. However there will be situations when they need to convey what they feel and can't really express it in English and will speak to my husband in Russian. That's not rude to me. My parents are the same. They speak in Spanish but if something is hard to say in English they will say it in Spanish in front of my husband. It's fine. Now, if my parents were to be perfectly fluent in English and decided to speak in Spanish in front of my husband anyway that would be rude in my book. People should analyze the situation first instead of jumping in to conclusions that's something is rude.
I'm french, and my brother's girlfriend is Canadian and doesn't speak french. When we're having a conversation together with her we speak English, but sometimes if i come into the room to tell my brother something even if she's there, the natural thing i'm gonna do is speak french. It's different though if you were speaking with them and THEN she starts speaking spanish and leaves u out.
Amélie Sirois yes it is an official language in canada but she might be from toronto where there is more commonly english speakers then in montreal where it is mainly/only french speakers
Why do people get so insecure when others around them speak a different language that they do not know?? The ego on some people, thinking that we only speak another language to talk crap about them. What's the point of knowing multiple languages if we can't use it? It's beautiful to know English, Spanish, Vietnamese, etc, etc. Stop making things about you and leave bilingual people alone. It's not rude. (Unless they are talking mad 💩, because in that case it is rude).
Stop pretending that bilingual people dont say certain things in front of English speakers in english because they dont want them to know 🥴 that's a load of crap.
@@youknowwhatflav9916 She/he's not pretending that this doesn't exist stop twisting the OP's narrative to fits yours. We all know that ppl talking about one person in a language that they don't understand happens sometimes, but to assume that this happens EVERY TIME is SO paranoid and malicious. All that she/he's saying is that majority of the time ppl be having big egos when it comes to speaking in another language. Ppl are so paranoid and when they're not, they're arrogant and think that everybody should speak english to make them feel comfortable, that's entitlement, that's not being ""respecful"", i'm sorry but that's the real truth.
I agree with Tamar, it's rude, sometimes intentionally & sometimes unintentionally. It'd be better just to have the convo in English that way no one gets upset
It's not done to be disrespectful, that's just what Latinos do. There are some words or sayings that don't exist is English that do in Spanish. So there.
We are not being rude..but i also stop and think if people spoke another language infront of me i did understand i will feel left out and find it a bit rude..
Vicky Fernandez I actually said to someone if your around me you don’t speak Spanish because I don’t know enough to have a conversation in Spanish also it’s not ok to be having an intense conversation in public in another language because it freaks people out also it’s flat out rude if you know English to be speaking Spanish to someone who clearly ether doesn’t know Spanish or knows very little
For those of you who think what his sister did was ok, consider this . The issue ISN'T that they're speaking a different language . The issue is that his sister butted into HER conversation with HER boyfriend to rudely speak to him in a different language . I don't care who you are or WHAT language you choose to speak in, it is VERY RUDE to interrupt someone's conversation, but even more BLATANTLY RUDE to interrupt by speaking a different language . And if you ever did it to me, I would make SURE to call you out for being so rude and disrespectful . Like Tamar said, his sister did that PURPOSELY and lots of bilingual people are just as rude . I don't care that you speak 2 or even 7 different languages, if you interrupt my conversation, I'm going to make sure you're feeling JUST as uncomfortable as you're TRYING to make me feel . Count on it !
Venomilly16, EXACTLY!!!! But they who are defensive and being tart with their responses know exactly what this is about! The scenario that was given on The Real is what should be the focus, but some of these ppl are commenting the way they are because they themselves would conduct themselves in the very manner that the boyfriend’s sister did. And he possibly could’ve told her to stop being so rude... in their language...to spare his girlfriend the drama...Who knows. I know I would have. But i wouldve also translated for my mate after such an exchange. Especially if they’ve already told me that such makes them uncomfortable.
+Tae Okonma She was, and yet surprisingly quiet. Plus, did she nod when Tamar said the sister is trying her? I know Tamera is not on that kinda paranoia train...
Adrienne needs to have a seat. Had it been another language, like chinese, she wouldn't be acting like this. I remember a segment when the ladies were talking about how they thought the chinese women at the nail salon were talking about them and they didn't like it. Idc what anyone says, if you are around people of whom you know don't speak nor understand a certain language, have the respect to just speak the language everybody understands. I can understand why the girl would feel offended by the sister
y se le olvido mandarlas al carajo too naturalmente hablamos espanol mix with english si no te gusta tapate los oidos este pais es libre para hablar el idioma que uno prefiera
colorful gaming este pais es libre, si, but I was raised with manners. So if my brother and his gf are having a conversation, I was raised with enough decency to not walk into THEIR conversation and start speaking to ONLY HIM in a language I know she doesn’t understand. Cause it’s rude as hell. But hey, stay proud boo boo. Que dios de bendiga, amorsito❤️
Is it weird that even though I'm not Latina and I don't speak Spanish, that I could completely translate everything Adrienne just said?... I absolutely love Spanish lol.. .It's my goal to speak it fluently one day...
+jodiii122 her Spanish isn't that good anyway, you can tell she is not as good as native speaker who was born and raised in a Spanish-speaking country, and that she just picked it up from her parents, but never really practiced or used it much
@T South When that happens to me I don't get upset because they have a right to speak whatever language they want. Only someone with a power complex would want to control them and make them speak English. People like that have issues. Btw if you moved to another country and had to learn that country's language, if you met another English speaker there I'm sure you would speak to them in English. Is it to talk about other people secretly? No it's because that's what you're comfortable speaking. Get a grip
Adrienne what you mean ask " Girl, what are you saying, teach me?" If she wanted you to know in the first place she would have said it in English #girlbye
+Jodie K I think she meant that its natural for someone to speak in their native tongue so they may not realize they are doing it. (as a bilingual person myself) I mean cutting someone off to start a separate conversation is rude ANYWAY & I would have a problem with that lol but other than that, sometimes you forget. Especially if shes talking to her brother, theres no need to be formal, spanish may be her first choice.
+Jodie K Nah, it aint all about you. if we're used to speaking spanish at home why we gonna 100% switch jus cuz u come round n think u special. ppl with an attitude who don't even learn to say hello in their boyfriend's language...that's rude...don't matter if u in america....u in someone else's house! it's spanish, not the theory of relatively. #unilingualllame
People who don't have a language that they speak at home don't understand. no matter what my parents will always speak to me in somalie if there are people with us or not. My maternal language always comes before learned languages in my house.
tototi95 my bestfriend of 13 years is somali and her family doesn't do that with non somalian speaking people. Even her grandmother who didn't "speak" English would look to my best friend to make sure she translated for me. it's rude to have a full blown conversation in front of someone as though they're not there. the same goes with different languages.
we never have full blown conversations in front of my friends. But if we are at the supermarket with strangers my mom's never going to speak to me in something other than somalie
tototi95 well that is what the topic was referring to, or were not paying attention? the woman's boyfriend's sister would deliberately speak Spanish having a full blown conversation that she was very much a part of. which is very rude. so saying someone is intolerant because they don't like the feeling of exclusion when they should feel comfortable is ignorant in itself.
FEARLESSly MIACAMICHELLE and how are people like Tamar not ignorant? Making stupid ass assumptions which were completely wrong trying to create drama, you will never understand why this happens if you are not bilingual
@@yassqueenyass1850 "I don't know about you, Jeannie, pero, para mí, yo siento que cuando yo quiero hablo en Español. ¡Yo lo puedo hacer! Porque es mí primer idioma. Y cómo yo soy latina. Yo siempre que así puedo hablo en Español cuando comoquiera." (the part after that was inaudible to me) By the way, I'm not a Spanish speaker and no formal training in the language, so, what I typed might be wrong. Someone please correct me
Me too even tho my native language isn't spanish. My native language is portuguese but SO MANY words are similar sounding and have the same meaning in portuguese too, that's why i understood what she said. Question out of curiosity: since i (portuguese speaker) can understand 90% of spanish, can spanish speakers understand a little bit or many portuguese too? (sorry for my english, my english grammar is still a little bit poor)
Some people in this world really lack understanding! I'm going through the comments and so many people are saying things like "what's wrong with speaking a different language". Darling who the hell said simply speaking it was wrong? This is a very specific situation and there is no way to deny that making someone unable to understand a shared conversation is impolite or in other words, RUDE! It's the same thing as whispering to 1 person in a multiple person conversation! You may well be saying something normal that may or may not be private between you and that 1 person, but whispering when there are others participating is rude. The better thing to do would be 1. save the convo for when the two of you are alone or 2. if it's important, simply ask for excuse to speak. You cannot have a 3 person conversation where only 2 can understand and not expect the LEFT OUT person to feel offended. Absolutely no one is telling you not to speak your language, but the SPECIFIC situation being addressed was indeed rude! NB I was a bit aggressive in my comment because I'm just a tad annoyed by some of the other comments.
C Fas Exactly! You have no choice but to be saddened by their level of reasoning. They bring to the table things that have absolutely nothing to do with the topic at hand. Thank goodness I didn't see the ones about racism, which is a whole other ball game. Matter of fact, language isn't exactly synonymous with race...so where did that come from? looll
I can remember when i was in Suriname, i went with my cousin to hang out with her friends. I didn't understand a word of Dutch and they could've barely spoken english. They abandoned their language and tried their best to speak my language so i wouldn't feel left out and i really appreciated it ❤
Currently having that same problem and it is rude, Dont jump in my conversation and start speaking Spanish then start laughing and walk off. Makes me feel left out and it's a little unnerving when they just start laughing outta nowhere. But my boyfriend tries not to do that after I brought it to his attention. Besides he even confirm that on a few occasions, I was being 'tried'. Do what I did girl and say something
No shade to Spanish speakers but i have realised that they do this a lot. I live in a foreign country that is non-Spanish speaking and the first thing i noticed about Spanish speakers is that they are perhaps the only ones who would just out of the blue speak Spanish to each other without translating to you and even laugh. Other people from different countries would pardon themselves and speak their language and then tell you what they were talking about. I find it rude but now i have accepted that Spanish people are just like that. They love their language and dont really consider people who cant speak it.
Spanish speakers are insecure. They love their language yet they never move to Spain. They always move to Spanish - speaking countries. They are also ignorant.
+latina7292 Freak no!! it's not rude to speak my native language. How would she feel if they told her to speak Spanish only around here. That's not her place to make people speak a different language just to make her feel comfortable she is in their territory.
+Mloveblacque always it's not rude to speak your native language but it is kind of rude to do it in front of people who don't understand especially when you know they don't understand. That's just what I was taught from a very young age. And not just Spanish either. That really goes for all languages.
+VSX sara I really don't have a problem with it because I speak Spanish obviously but the people who don't speak your language don't know your not talking about them at that's the first thing that comes to mind. I mean there are always going to be people who complain so what are we gonna do.
+latina7292 It is definitely wrong if it is done intentionally to be rude to someone behind their back. Also, I think that foreigners moving to a new country should try their best to assimilate to that country's customs by speaking the native language. However other than those two instances, I have no problem with foreigners communicating in a different language, even in front of native speakers. I think languages are a part of what makes us who we are, and people shouldn't feel like they have to hide their culture in order to accommodate someone's insecurity.
x Jsc2004 x Spanish people come to your country-been in the country for ages!... Still don’t want to speak the language of the Land they came to live in at 🤦🏾♀️, but they want others to speak their language instead! Say what! No we don’t need to learn Spanish unless we want to. How about y’all focus on learning the native language of the new land y’all came to start a new life in 😒! And, then! They want you to translate for them! No $££¥£! You learn the language just like I €%#£€€£ did! They’re so ungrateful! Always talking bad about America when America saves their £€%##!!! I have a problem with these people for real! Get on my nerve!!!
Y'all. I can not. Are you guys really that culturally unaware. If someone has family that only speaks spanish they're obviously going to speak spanish with them not english,also usually if that's someone's first language regardless if they're family speaks english as well they're still going to speak their first languages with family. hey maybe if you wanna be apart of the convo learn some spanish instead of being stuck in one language? and btw idk why y'all think everyone's talking bad about just when they speak in another language around you,get over yourself.
Same things goes for the "family" who only speaks Spanish. Learn some damn English! Especially if you live a predominantly English speaking country. You get over yourself, it's rude to speak another language and exclude someone from a convo when you know the language of the person being excluded. Jesus, at least translate the words being said by the person who doesn't know the language so they can be in the know or give input....that's only if you are a empathtic person who cares, though 🤷🤷🤷
@@oddly.alright529 Funny thing: how come Spanish speakers don't get mad at English speakers, and they don't say English speakers are talking bad about them secretly in English? But English speakers always think the Spanish speakers are somehow talking mess? Spanish speakers don't care what language you speak. They speak Spanish to each other. End of story. The only ones who care are people like you. If you have a problem with it, that's your problem. They don't need to learn English. They are able to prosper in this country even without knowing English. Why would they want to learn English anyway when the people they would then be able to talk to would just be unpleasant biggoted people as demonstrated by your comment? You're the one with the problem so the burden is on YOU to fix YOUR problem, not them.
Hsh1234 Agree with you to a certain extent. Spanish speakers are definitely very accommodating and if I speak my limited Spanish they tell me it’s ok and don’t worry if I make mistakes but at the same time...I live in Washington heights which is in the upper west side of nyc. It’s predominately Latino here and if you go to a supermarket all you hear is Spanish and a lot of times people address me in Spanish and I’m.....black. I’m just not very dark so they think I’m Dominican. But I’ve had some people get mad at me because I don’t understand them and then I say “I don’t speak Spanish” and then they get embarrassed...the problem is they shouldn’t assume everyone knows Spanish, especially in the USA. I remember once a guy was unconscious on the floor and everyone was panicking. I called 911 and the operator asked me vital questions like his age, if he’s breathing, etc and when I asked the people with him they didn’t know English...even in an emergency I couldn’t help them. Thank god one person ended up knowing English....but people have to remember English is the predominant language here
@Tyree That's the thing, you just described how thousands of spanish speakers feel when nobody understands them...so the real question is, why don't you learn spanish since you live in a place predominated by that language? Spanish speakers HAVE to learn english even when in there surroundings it ins't necessary. I get that if you live in a place that has a different laguange to yours you should try and learn it, but why be so hard and rude with those who don't...english speaking people just assume you have to know bc it's easier for them.
Im from Kenya 🇰🇪 .. And my English is mixed with my native language Swahili. So i just find my self speaking SHENG a combo of this two languages😊. Mama Africa anyone relate???? 😂😂 Wakenya oeeeee😂
It is a very common thing with people whom english is not their first language. We try to learn how to communicate with people who speak only English but the problem with these English speaking people is they are so stuck up and want you to learn a language to make them feel comfortable.
it's very rude to speak another language in front of someone. luckily I speak spanish so if someone is talking crap about me they will know. Especially here in Dallas people think I am a regular black girl but no boo boo.
ehh... If I'm just going to ask my brother whether he took out the trash or not, I'm not switching languages because someone else in the room doesn't understand our native language. Yes, it'd be rude to interrupt someone else's conversation and start a conversation in another language, but if I just have something quick to say and it doesn't regard the other person, I'm not going to go through the trouble of speaking another language than the one I'm used to speaking with my fam. But you're right, being multilingual is the fucking best. No one's going to talk about me without me understanding lol.
It depends on the situation, but in general if the conversation doesn't include me, I don't care what language someone else is speaking in. If I'm speaking in Spanish to someone and the conversation doesn't include you, don't worry about it and carry on with your own business.
Being bilingual, my mom always told us to avoid doing that around others . If you know english perfectly and there are others around you, especially if it's only a few people, I believe it's best to speak the language everyone knows. My mom use to compare it to whispering, you wouldn't say it in the different language unless it's something you don't want others to here, so it is kind of rude.
I think it's very rude. His sister knows that she doesn't understand what she's saying but she doing it anyway and intentionally leaving her out. It is a big deal and it's rude!
sanggurl16 nah. people tend to switch between languages without even realizing it. Either way, unless you're insecure or have done something wrong, you shouldn't think they're talking trash about you. Also, if theyre not speaking directly at you then mind your own business!
joanna sav It's her conversation that she's being left out of! Its rude! It's not okay that she's being left out of her own conversation. Mind her business?! It is her business! They said when she and her boyfriend are talking the sister will join in and speak Spanish. Why? To make her feel left out. If it's not done intentionally as you say then his sister could just as easily say it in English!
Ignore mi ultima declaracion. Estaba cansado. Mi teclado no esta en Espanol. Ahh. Aqui hay otro sonador al que no le gusta Estados Unidos. No podia esperar hasta que dejaras mi nacion. No hay ingratos en esta nacion.
Honestly Spanish isn't hard to translate depending on how fast you speak. My hubby can figure out what I am saying most of the time but then I also do tend to speak span-glish!
Jahnaia McGee I can’t stand when people speak Spanish and English if you need to know how to say something in English people can always ask us we have no problem translating as long as we know what your saying
soapqueen2008 Some People Find Jt More Comfortable To Talk In Their HOME language abd tbey shouldnt have tovadjust just because you dont know thier language
i speak two other languages beside english but its really rude talking one of these languages in front of somebody who i know doesn't speak that language because i think its rude cause that person might be thinking I'm talking about them when I'm really not
~ Ooooooooh, puuuhlease!! I freaggin' hate people whom "feel some type of way" just because they're not in on something. Its called being an INSECURE BASIC BITCH. Because why? You're that important that automatically because someone is speaking a language you dont understand than that has to mean they're talking about you? NOOOO. If you want to know soooo bad, then I say tell them to learn it like you did. So you go on with your bad trilingual self. 😀😀😀 Dont let anybody tell you how you should express yourself.
i’m a native spanish speaker and i find it disrespectful to speak a language in front of someone that doesn’t understand it. my brother tries to speak english in front of my non-english speaking family sometimes and i always check him. i’ve been victim of that too and it makes me feel so left out.
Some hardcore American ignorance coming through on this clip. I'm disappointed in Tamar. Wow. I live in Canada where there are 2 official languages: English and French. I speak French and if someone ever told me NOT to speak French in one of the English provinces, I would shut them DOWN. Just because you don't know the language or what they're saying doesn't mean they're talking about you. People are so egocentric nowadays. I'm not saying it never happens that people will try to get away with it, but damn! If you don't know the language, LEARN IT. Especially if you live in the southern US where Spanish is very commonly spoken. Stop giving yourselves the right to remain ignorant while blaming everyone else for it.
Honestly I don't care what you speak and where you speak it but if we are having a conversation and just randomly start speaking another language with a third party that's super rude. If it just slips out I understand but at least fill me in.
I speak Spanish and I feel like if I’m speaking with someone and Spanish and the conversation is not about you or it’s not your problem I will keep speaking Spanish because I’m not just going to speak your language so you could understand what I’m saying because the conversation it’s not even about and Spanish it’s my first language and I can speak Spanish when ever I want.
Tamera's laugh is so contagious 😂😂 Her laugh is so unique i love it!! Every time she had a peekaboo of laughter in between Tamar's comment I had to laugh along. she made it even funnier 😭
Yes very rude! I hate going to the Vietnamese nail salon and when I say something the ladies turn to each other and say something in Vietnamese and laugh. It makes it seem like they are laughing at me...
@@anataliasantana1315 that doesn't necessarily mean she has insecurities nine times out out of 10 usually if you go into those types of salons in the women are talking and laughing under their breath they're most likely talking about you
Adrienne has a point, if my couple doesn't know spanish but I talk to my sister, I would talk to her in spanish! It's just comes out like that it's natural! It's how we speak everyday with eachother we ain't being rude its just comes out like that and if my couple wants to know then he asks and I'd be like: oh sorry we said blablabla but we don't do it to tease or offend, i think it's natural
U MAD ? Why so defensive? It's rude in my opinion. I'm fluent in 3 languages, and although I may not recognize it at that time, I feel bad whenever I speak to someone in a different language while someone is in the same conversation/room as me. I've been in the same boat where most people speak another language in front of me, and you kinda feel uncomfortable because you don't really know what they're saying. It's petty to tell someone to go learn your language, especially one that takes a while to master. Be considerate.
Adrianne tried it lol. As a bilingual myself if I’m talking to someone else mind you’re business but if it’s a group conversation like the girl said that it’s plain rude 🙄 I wouldn’t do that to anyone because I know how it feels
Let's be real, if Tamar knew a second language she'd be using all the time to talk smack
monserrat soto You're absolutely right. She is a hypocrite as are any of the other people in that room that agree with her, think like her and find her sass funny.
Preach
But would she INTERRUPT their conversation, because that's the REAL issue here . You can justify his sister all you want, but I bet if someone was that openly rude to YOU, that's when it would be wrong . THINK B4 U POST !
+monserrat soto. Soyons réalistes, les Hispanophones ne l'aiment pas quand les gens vous disent de ne pas parler Espagnol. Mais, vous faites la même chose avec d'autres personnes qui parlent d'autres langues. Et, vous pensez que vous en avez le droit.
@@Summer21. Hypocrite? Regardez qui parle? Soyons réalistes, les hispanophones ne l'aiment pas quand les gens vous disent de ne pas parler espagnol. Mais, vous faites la même chose avec d'autres personnes qui parlent d'autres langues. Et vous pensez que vous en avez le droit.
For those that don't understand Spanish ... Adrienne said
"but for me, I feel that when i want to speak Spanish, i can do it, because it is my first language and because I'm latina, I feel that (yes,) I can speak Spanish when I want , when I .. whenever I feel like it"
In the other part she says
"Yes I want french toast and also eggs"
+Lucy Krystal Thank you I was hoping that someone would have translated what she said. I agree she should be able to speak when she wants but notice she doesn't do it on this show except for when Julissa was on I hear. She would never be able to carry on a conversation with her co hosts if did truly exercise her right to speak it whenever she wanted. I just think the person that asked the question of the hosts she has a legitimate beef. Her boyfriends' sister high-jacked the conversation and purposely excluded her. In that scenario it was rude. I don't think it is rude in general.
+Lucy Krystal I understood about 50% of it! I was really proud...but she went entirely too fast for my slow ears
+Teapot S That was not fast at all! You have to keep up because I've heard people talk at least twice as fast lol (but when they do I can't keep up either)
thank you! I had no clue lol
+Lucy Krystal I understood the first three words and when she said I want
When you grow up speaking Spanish. Some words just don’t have an English translation
Krystal She Poppin but let’s be real, when we grow up speaking Spanish and we also know English, we know have to say it in a different way. It’s not perfect translation, but we get the idea across pretty well. I always say “so it’s THIS, but with a little bit of THIS at the same time”. Lol
A LOT of languages don’t have easy translations in English. Whether it’s a word, a phrase or a whole sentence, somethings don’t carry over into another language.
Not everyone grew up speaking Spanish AND English that’s a big assumption. I know I didn’t, Spanish is my 1st language
I felt this
then use that specific spanish word alone? you don't need go have an entire conversation in another language to get your point across
when Adrienne started speaking in Spanish I was like YASSS QUEEN
ummm no
Sorry but in reality she does not speak spanish so well.
The part where she says ayyy nena tu quieres french toast y tambien wuevitos😂😂😂😂
I know right
Monique Civicchoni yes she does speak Spanish well ugh people
I think everyone is misunderstanding, what makes it rude is the sister interrupting the girlfriend and brother in a language the girlfriend couldn't understand. Not the fact that she was speaking Spanish in the house but that she was excluding the girlfriend from the convo.
pues una buena hermana me dicen
Aminah Yahya you said exactly what i was gonna 👏👏👏👏👏
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Aminah Yahya sometimes people can't seem to find the right words in English so they end up speaking another language though, its not their intention to be rude
Aminah Yahya yes but it’s also rude even if she didn’t interrupt their convo. Speak English
Sometimes Spanish just comes out without realizing it especially when you’re around someone you usually speak Spanish around
Madeline Tramantano But what happens if you barley can speak English? Are they just not supposed to say anything?
Lol I get that, it's just weird to speak another language with your sisters
@@babedavis1263 sometimes u don’t realize that.
Spanish comes out for me mostly when I'm mad I will start off speaking English and about five words in Spanish comes out.
@@agnieszkavanheirreweghe5837 it’s ur family wym
i wish jeanie woulda also broken out with vietnamese i would be on the floor lmao
Lmmfao
iceblinkk 😂 I really like that.
iceblinkk 😂😂😂
4real like she never really speak it unless she with her mama.
ICONICC! LIKE YESS BOO CONFUSE ME OUI OUI QUACK QUACK
You can speak Spanish all you want, but it is disrespectful to make someone feel left out if you are having a conversation with them. Yo puedo hablar espanol cuando me da la gana, but I would hate if someone did that to me. Truth.
I, m Spanish and I agree with you
But a lot of us speak Spanglish, sorry for them. Not gonna stop.
Sorry but as a native speaker I was taught to speak Spanish to your counterparts that are native unless you agree otherwise. My best friend is Colombian and her husband is American. He doesn't feel bad when we speak Spanish because I have only spoken Spanish to her since she moved to the USA.
Alondra H agree
Alondra H EXACTLY!!!! I work around many Filipinos who do that
Americans have so much anxiety that whenever they hear someone speaking another language different from English they instantly feel they're probably coming after them lol
No it's about consideration and basic manners. I speak three languages but wouldn't purposely exclude someone out in a conversation. Use the most common language that everyone can understand. If someone doesn't understand I'd translate to make that person feel involved/interact in the conversation. If it's a private conversation that that's a different situation, I'm referring to an open conversation.
@@dreamgladiatrix period
Bilingual people can be American. American is a nationality. I think you mean that non-certain language speakers have anxiety.
@@shiloh8734 of course I was referring to the ones that believe being "American" is just being an English speaker, those who would come at you at a restaurant even if you're tables away just because you are flexing your languages skills.
@@dreamgladiatrix This is true. It is about manners. I am bilingual and I try to speak Spanish with this one friend because she feels more comfortable in Spanish. But once our American friend joins us we only speak English. Because we don't want to leave her out. I went hiking with my friend and her husband once. Never again...Everyone was Chinese and only spoke Mandarin. Only her and her husband would use English. Everyone knew English so it wasn't like they didn't. But I felt so left out. I was hanging with Japanese acquaintances once and suddenly they started to speak in Japanese. They paused one minute and apologized to me. They spoke English the rest of the day. Same situation where I didn't speak the language but one group was respectful and the other one left me out. And the Japanese group knew that I understood some Japanese but were still considerate that I wasn't fluent and couldn't keep up.
The thing about Latino households is that some siblings are not accustomed to speaking english with their siblings and are taught "hablen español para que no se les olvide" (speak spanish so you won't forget it). I used to speak english with my cousins but when my brother would come along I would immediately switch to spanish because I felt awkward talking to him in english. It varies for each family, but that was the case for me
Based on the description I can't tell whether the sister is doing it with rude intentions. It could be that she's not comfortable speaking english with her brother, as was I, if that's the case it's nothing to be offended about. However she should ask her boyfriend, away from the sister, if she's saying or is giving the impression that she dislikes her. Then it's something to be offended about. Hopefully the brother would be honest in their relationship and inform her what is being said in spanish
+Koala completely true. I'm jamaican and I could never speak proper English with my family till this day. It's just awkward.
+Alix Graham So what do you speak? Genuine question.
Theona Hinds I speak patois with my family and proper english with everyone else, even when they are both present, i just switch between the two. not on purpose though
Alix Graham Oh okay thanks! I kinda figured but I asked to make sure. Big up yuhself #CaribbeanPeopleSweetSo #Barbados #Jamaica
Adrienne is crazy lol Tamar was too heated I was like take a breath homie haha
Right lol
That's how she probably felt about Adrienne
+TalushaEssence no. its called humour people, get some!
+immi's snow globe what? wtf are you talking about.
TalushaEssence insinuating that there is beef/animosity between them, when there isn't.
+immi's snow globe Beef? No One Said That. I just said she probably doesn't like when Adrienne speaks Spanish around her, that's it.
I was raised in a Spanish only household but I think it’s rude to speak Spanish if someone in the group doesn’t understand Spanish. 🤷🏻♀️
omgitstracey HOSPITAL SETTING: I work w/many filipinos who do the same thing. At the hospital, when the patients were given a questionnaire/survey of their stay ( at time of discharge) , THAT was the number ONE complaint ( filipinos (staff) speaking their language in front of /around the patient to each other). The patients found it rude, disrespectful and inconsiderate. It became such an issue that the administration had to address the issue. In the envelope of our paycheck a MENO read on this order: Being bilingual is a blessing (some employees are multilingual which is a triple blessing) but, speaking any language (other than English) in front of/around patients who DO NOT speak the “other” language that you are speaking can be seen as DISRESPECTFUL. Please be mindful of THIS ( it’s about our patients and NOT ABOUT US) let’s help to make our patient’s stay less stressful. Now this may NOT BE THE EXACT WORDS OF THE MEMO BUT IT WENT ALONG THOSE LINES. To each floor was sent this memo as well and asked for the CHARGE PERSON to meet w/staff and enforce this rule. Well, it lasted for a while....but it still exist. To me, if a person come to reside in America, ENGLISH is the language that should be spoken when you choose to be EMPLOYED here.Your native tongue is allowed on your lunch break and OFF DUTY but when you are dealing w/the public ENGLISH should be spoken ( there are SOME EXCEPTIONS to this rule of course). 10/9/2019.
Thank you. 💜
Same.
As a Latina, I think it is rude too.
Try living in a household where everyone speaks a different language. I speak three, I had learned German in order to communicate with my aunt. I also know Spanish and English. My sister learnt French from our grandfather and she’s my translator when we talk to him[he knows a bit of Spanish, but my grammar sucks]. The next sibling speaks Spanish, English, and Italian. My youngest brother speaks only English and hates Spanish.
Ah before I forget, my mom speaks French, Italian, and Spanish[My Grandfather is French and my Grandmother is Italian]
My dad speaks English and Spanish.
As a Spanish-speaker myself, I'm very proud of my roots, but I do think it's incredibly rude to interrupt her own conversation and just take it over like that. I would never do that. I was always taught that if you're spoken to in Spanish, you respond in Spanish and visa versa. That sister should know better. She is being rude as hell in trying to exclude the girlfriend. I'd be pissed. On the other hand, I don't feel the need to cater to people outside my conversation. If it doesn't involve you, you don't get to make the rules for my private conversations.
Jessica Cordova PREACH👏🏻👏🏻
Exactly! If the sister wanted to have a private conversation then she should of gone "can I borrow him for a moment?" In English and then had her conversation in Spanish.
I agree that it is rude to take over the conversation and speak Spanish but it’s not about catering to people in my opinion. It’s about letting them know and helping them out. The girl wouldn’t know if it’s a private conversation or not because she doesn’t speak the language. I don’t see the need to have private conversations in front of company who don’t speak Spanish but to each their own. I would help translate.
@Christina Prado I totally agree with you. There's a time and a place, and I definitely think if the girlfriend got the vibe that they were trying to exclude her, it's probably because they were. I was just meaning that if I'm having my own conversation in my own right, in whichever language I choose, others don't get to dictate how I do that if it's none of their business, but in this case it is the gf's business since it was her conversation to begin with.
I think it's rude if it's done intentionally to leave someone out of the conversation. I hate when people do this because you don't know if they're talking about you and you can't defend yourself if you don't know what they're saying
You know, the exact same thing happens here in France. There s a lot of africans here and one time, in the subway, an old african woman insulted a young man in her native language (lingala). Little did she know that this young man understood and spoke that language too. Cant tell you how happy I was when he talked back to her. Her jaws dropped. I just hope she learnt her lesson. It s never ok to say mean things about someone right in front of them in a different language.
As a bilingual person, sometimes you do change your language without noticing because that is what we do, especially if the other person speaks the same language. Although if it's intentional then it's really bad.
+45mo4528 With regards to that lady insulting that other boy in her language. Well that's actually quite normal in a way, because usually when one gets angry, they get angry in their native language. So that might be the cause of her native language outburst.
+John-Otto Nirvana true. I have to admit my mom does it too. whenever she gets angry she starts yelling in her native language (lingala). force of habit, I guess.
+45mo4528 I know. It happens every day in the subway here. #mairie de montreuil #porte 9
Im biligual and out of respect for whoever Im hanging around with I speak the language everyone in the room understands. I just think its the polite thing to do.
I know this is years later. But sometimes the second language just pops out.
That's one thing in a general sense, but to expect that with family is not ok. ESPECIALLY in their home.
Nah fam. I mean if you are conversing in a group then yes but is sounds as if when they are in a group and she has other people to talk to they started speaking spanish between the two. That's fine. But also if it is someone else's home they should speak the language they are comfortable. I think it is rude to expect people to accommodate you especially when you are trying to integrate yourself in the family as in you are in a relationship with one. Now when I had friends over mom spoke english unless she was speaking only to me. But they werent around alot. A girlfriend and boyfriend hanging out wither needs to learn and ask or just start a different conversation with someone else. Especially if they werent part of the conversation before hand.
Now if she is alone and then being left out that's messed up. But in a group where there are other people you could and should converse with ..... you dont need privy to every conversation or comment.
Also as far as Tamar's comments go. Why do people who dont speak the language assume we are talking about them. Yeah that happened but not every time and definitely not in front of them. At least not in my Mexican experience. Its under breathe in spanish or in another room.
Oh ok the only bilingual person in this comment section with any common sense 😂
THANK YOU SIS
Leave bilingual people alone. They can talk how ever they want, whenever they want. If you don't like it, tune them out or learn. Period.
Yes, but here's what you MISSED of what she was saying . She said his sister always butts into HER conversation with her boyfriend to speak Spanish in front of her . It would be different if SHE was the one butting into his sister's conversation with her brother, but that wasn't the case . That said, anytime you see a conversation already going on, the POLITE thing to do is keep YOUR mouth shut until their conversation is over .
Madeline Tramantano only if they are part of the friend group or convo, if they’re strangers than they have no business knowing what you’re saying
Your defiance is a tacit admission that you use another language to talk badly about others in their faces without them knowing.
@Madeline Tramantano oh hell no...
@Madeline Tramantano you right, they do speak english in this country, however is not the main language... as a matter of fact there is no official language for this country since there is almost 500 languages... commonly english but now the difference if you go for example to mexico of course you have to speak spanish cause guess what.. is the official language.. but in the US it is not mandatory cause there is no official language... welcome to the land of the free. 🤣
"Cuando me da la gana 💁🏽"
Jaja 😂
Yesss
2-D lmao right
What does it mean?🤔
Gloria Mudany whenever i want, but “cuando me da la gana” its more sassy, more idgf about your opinion
Like Adrienne said....I would speak Spanish whenever and where ever I feel like it. Deal with it or don't. Yes Queen.
But it's a form of respect if you just walk in I not a room and just start speaking speaking while a person who speaking English language and just budge in without a heads up that woukd be very rude
Jose Gray Adrienne lives in America and ENGLISH ( or what I call “Americanese” is spoken here). She can not use Spanish “whenever/WHEREVER she like” here. It all boils down to RESPECTING EACH OTHER.
@@JESUSISLORDforevermore888 If I am not addressing you on my conversation....WHY would I need to address you in English, if you are not part of the conversation? Mind your own business....and stay out of other people's conversations unless you are invited into it....and that IF I want to invite ...same with anybody else speaking any other language around me other than English. How am I or her not respecting you...Are you part of the conversation? That is just being NOISY.
Jose Gray You wrote in this COMMENT SECTION period not addressing anyone particularly. Soooooo, I wrote my opinion. If you had wrote that you were only addressing SOME ppl and named the ppl, then I probably would not have responded. Okay, Jose, I will not write any more in “your”comment section. I will RESPECT your wishes/adios
@@JESUSISLORDforevermore888 Hasta la vista..... You tried it.
This just happened today in my Spanish class. These two girls are Spanish speakers and have always talked in Spanish about the other Spanish students this school year whenever we have to present in Spanish. Today this girl was presenting and one of the girls started speaking Spanish and my teacher heard and understood what they were saying. Let's just say her ass is in detention lol.
+Gabby Avery
ROTF! LLMBO! IIT!
+Gabby Avery lol oh my
she tried it! 😉
+Gabby Avery That's nothing. My friend (whose black) was raised in Texas and she learned spanish growing up and was in the store one day and this Mexican girl and her mom was talking about how big she was in spanish. She turned around and cussed both of them out.
+osimeon00 just walk away, have class, you don't have to cussed back at them, makes your friend at bad at them..
Like the chinese people at a nail salon lmfaoo who lowkey be talking about your toes with the other employees
+Francine Destouches more likely Vietnamese than Chinese xD
+Wynne Lee lmfaaooo they're not slick at all either.
lmao that's all I could think about during this clip
+Moonwalking Rocky Lmao theyre vietnamese but its funny
She says u look so pretty💅🏽😄
What Adrienne said: "... but for me, I feel that when I want to speak Spanish, I can do it, because it's my first language and, because I'm latina, I feel I can speak spanish whenever I want it, when I feel like it."
I would only feel offended if I am speaking to someone in english then someone else comes along and starts speaking to them in another language, but they both speak english well. THAT'S RUDE!
+Lashaun Gordon I am sorry but how is that rude. I speak my native language all the time. Why do people think its offensive. I dont get it.
Tyler Mauga I mean in a situation where you are speaking with someone who speaks only English, then someone you know comes along who speaks English and also another language, you immediately switch over and speak in your native language infront of the other person who has no idea what you are saying. That can offend some people
+Tyler Mauga in the situation that the viewer had mentioned, it was beyond rude. She was having a conversation with someone and the sister comes over and starts speaking in Spanish, knowing damn well that the viewer didn't speak it and basically kicked shorty out her own conversation. That's rude. You're making someone feel uncomfortable and like they don't belong. No one is saying don't speak our native tongue, just don't do it around company who can't understand.
VONiiE8 but how is it rude. I'm. trying to find that out. I mean I don't find it rude when people talk Spanish around me. I think its pretty cool.
***** thank you!!!! I feel the same way. I speak samoan fluently and I will speak samoan when I want. Dont know why they think its offensive smh
I grew up in Buffalo NY & lived in Vegas for 13 yrs. I had to learn that when Latinos spoke english around me, they were being nice. Period.
Their right to speak Espanol is protected by the first amendment.
thats not what the first amendment says lmao
Some b talking trash
If he is really that important in her life, I think that learning about each other's culture is really important, if one of you speaks a different language then it's on you to learn that language. Or, be okay with the fact that they are going to have conversations, not necessarily ones where they're saying anything negative - around you, and you're not going to understand it. I am Chicana, my language is English. if I was to see somebody, especially if they were significant to me, and they spoke Spanish or another language...I would do whatever I needed to to learn the language. To appreciate their culture is showing that person that they are important enough to me, that I want to learn. I know plenty of Chicanas that married somebody whose first language is Spanish, and they learned it. It didn't happen all at once but now they can speak it fluently. And, if they are planning someday to have children, more than likely their children will speak Spanish.
Amen to that👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼it’s not that we speak Spanish to be disrespectful but to most Latinos that is our primary language
You have no self esteem. That is VERY pathetic.
My husband is white and im Puerto Rican. My family speaks spanish but we also try to teach him so he doesnt feel left out. Even my family who dont speak english try to learn a couple things in english to communicate with my husband
Natalie Ricketts ... Interesting, why he does not speak Spanish?
Awwwwwww how sweet ❤
Honey, you're white too
@Hannah Walmer just so you know US LATINOS are not obsessed with race by segregating ourselves bc of the color of our skin, we tend to differentiate by countries and regions within those countries, is very ignorant when you know nothing about Latinos. let's make it very very clear LATINOS COME IN ALL SHAPES, SIZES, AND SHADES, no matter what other people think, it is not the color of your skin what makes you LATINO
See that’s nice I have to learn on my own I think my boyfriend family don’t like me because I’m Jamaican sometimes they treat me like I’m his pet they ask him if I want more food when I’m sitting right next to him or they say it in Spanish it makes me uncomfortable because I’m sitting right there and nobody ask me to my face they will ask him for me
I believe if you're spoken to then you should be spoken to in the language you understand. If I'm not talking to you mind your business.
but its a group conversation so they should speak in the language everyone understands.
Elisha B which is English...
Yeah, the gf is just extra offended for nothing. You cant change a bro and sis bond even if its within your convo. It means the sis is comfortable with the gf for doing that and the gf is overacting. Imagine speaking to your bro in french, when you jave speaking to him all your life in english, just for the sake of a french gf? That's cringy.
When you say mind your business, you just told me that you are talking about that person or you don’t want that person in your group. I have gotten to the place I just walk out when people start switching to another language. They will stop and ask me why I left. I’ll be like so now I’m part of the conversation. I used to ask for translation but I would get told if I wanted you to know, I would speak English. I now stay away from people who mainly speak other languages now. I used to try to learn the language but that just made people mad. Most Americans want to feel a part of a group. We are a very noisy group of people because we are very friendly. I mean people from other English speaking countries find us loud and too friendly. We like to get to know everyone. Also if you want to have someone mind their business, call that person later.
Jessica Freda that paragraph about how you’re a spineless sissy has made no difference
Monolinguals have the most to say about people speaking other languages-especially their anger with Spanish in particular....very interesting.
Yes! The issue is always with spanish. Bitch i’ll speak whatever I want if i’m not talking to you. I’ve yet to hear people have this problem with other languages. I’ll wait.
I don't think the issue is another language. The girl said they could be talking having a regular conversation then the sister will just switch languages our of nowhere pushing the gf out her own conversation basically. I would think she was talking about me or saying something smart too. Why did you just randomly need to switch languages when we were all talking
It is not their fault. The school system does not allow native English speakers to learn foreign languages.
Sometimes it’s just jealousy tbh🤷🏾♀️
@@SuperRip7 how so?
Tamera is looking Beautiful today, that MANE!
Agreed!
She is gorgeous 😍😍
***** Oh, Thank You =)
+Irene Nwankpa I want her to wear her hair like that all the time!
Her laugh is so contagious! Lmao!
I speak Spanish and my co-workers speak Russian, Haitian Creole, Yoruba, Bengali and Hindi right in front of me every day and I don't get offended nor do I think they're talking about me. It's called, speaking your native language. Why can't Americans get that?
There’s nothing wrong speaking in your native language. The problem is that they were having a one to one convo in a group convo and they just happen to be speaking a language that the lady didn’t understand which makes it even more rude so obviously the woman would feel upset and left out
Valeria Hernandez but you know whats funny tho? That if theres one english speaking guy among 60 people, people will bend backward to acomodate the english guy.
jsphat81 I’m not offended but it’s extremely rude and disrespectful especially if you know English
Valeria Hernandez yes ..true..i felt offended all the time when my colleagues speaks mandarin among them while i’m in the middle of conversation and definitely they talked something about me since i’ve heard my name too ..for me , that’s rude!
In front of you and with you is completely different. I don’t get offended either if people speak their language in front of me but I do find it rude when your in a group like out drinking and everyone starts speaking Spanish knowing that I don’t speak Spanish, it’s almost like if your with someone and their own their phone instead of speaking to you
the fact that people think “don’t speak that Spanish around me” speaks levels on their sense of entitlement like why should one language dominate the other in the US we are a beautiful melting pot of many cultures, backgrounds, and languages so if someone feels much more comfortable speaking something other than English it shouldn’t be a problem
Madeline Tramantano why you literally in every comment on this vid😂. You’re really just one angry hateful bitch ain’t ya
I think that the issue is when your in a group with people who speak Spanish and English and then there’s that one friend who only speaks English. Especially if your going out with your friends that’s just disrespectful. Your actually leaving that one person out the conversation because one that would entail your not talking to them and two they can’t understand what your saying.
Simple as that queen
It’s a melting pot but it isn’t beautiful
@@offgun6466 the country may not be beautiful for how it looks or treats people but the fact that its a melting pot makes it beautiful
This is what Adrienne was saying by the way "I feel that when I want to speak Spanish, I can because it's my first language and being that I'm Latina I feel I should be able to speak Spanish when I want, when I feel like it."
Joshua LeonardoASMR quick question are you from the US ? Because if you are it’s rude and disrespectful to speak Spanish if you know English as well
soapqueen2008 how it it rude and disrespectful? The sister probably feels more comfortable speaking Spanish or her English isn’t too good. If you want to know so bad what someone is sayin in a different language, learn it.
She became 10x more attractive when she started speaking Spanish 😍😍
@@soapqueen2008 if someone’s mother tongue offends you, that’s a personal problem
LMFAO Adrienne, this was a cute segment. However, whoever puts these videos up, can you just take my comment in consideration and see if y'all can just upload a FULL clip of the whole segment of "Girl Chat"? Y'all never respond when we ask that. Could you at least let us know if that's possible or not?
+CianoXoC They've replied on countless comments that it's not possible! They will only be uploading short clips...
+CianoXoC l remembered last year they've replied to me about the same question. Unfortunately it's not possible to upload the full episode.
+Pooja Kh I'm trying to figure out how is it not possible? The Wendy Williams show does it all the time with Hot Topics.
JadaFan4life I was wondering the same thing
Pooja Kh ohhh okay thank you, Jennifer too. Thanks for letting me know.
If you date a person who is bilingual, you can't say, "don't speak among ur fam". If they join and then change YOUR convo, that's just rude, even if you understand them. IF you join a convo, that's different.
What if you tell them you are interested in learning their language, but they refuse to help?
Adrienne speaks Spanish
Tamar: I don't know what that means. sit down
+Tuan-Jae Neysmith lmao she's like have several seats
Better yet, Tamar says "Boo, do you want some French toasts" Adrienne says "Do you want some French toasts" in Spanish, to which Tamar replies "I don't know what you 're talking about"
Tuan-Jae Neysmith vngjhikglmvngibmmhij9khkjjbbvnvb ighbcbbv cbc c n Jon .h . Please
Lol thats probably why she got fired! Cause she can be ignorant and annoying asf sometimes!
Adrianne does not speak spanish THAT well!
No tamar, "the sister is not trying you". don't be ignorant! I happen to speak Spanish as well, and just because I speak another language in front of you doesn't mean im talking about you. If I'm in my house I will speak the language that I wish to speak whether you like it or not. If you happen to have an issue with it you can leave, that's how I feel
Agree!
She's actually trying it because there's no reason to just randomly switch to Spanish in the presence of a guest. It's rude.
+subomi seun-fadipe no I completely disagree, what a lot of people don't understand about being bilingual is, that a lot of times it's easier for us to speak the language that we speak instead of English sometimes it just comes out in another language it doesn't mean that we are speaking about you, it's simply just easier
+Aashiana Edwards I'm bilingual as well and I understand that it is easier However, that doesn't change the fact that it's rude.
I think it's rude because if I'm trying to hold a conversation with you and one other person and you switch to Spanish, that excludes me. like wtf? I am here. it's one thing if you and another person are already talking but when its my conversation also, don't just act like I'm not there
I love it when Adrenaline speaks Spanish I think it’s such a beautiful language 🤗💜❄️
Thank u honey! I agree! I'm bilingual in Spanish so I can say it is a very beautiful language. 😊☺️
😍 Adrenaline 😍
@@wet_jojo1015 😭😭😭😭
The sister and the boyfriend were really rude . You know she doesn't speak Spanish , so why would you switch off English unless your saying something you don't want her to hear . What's so important that you can't say it in English ? That is so rude
+Monae Jones I see what you are saying. However, sometimes it's not so simple. I saw an episode of Scrubs where the hispanic girl was engaged to an African American husband, and her brother came to visit. Because they left to America at a later age, she wanted to continue speaking Spanish with her brother because it helped them stay connected to each other, especially since their Mom died - in essence, it was something they shared together. As much as we want to acknowledge others for feeling left out, I do believe there are reasons for someone to speak Spanish other than throwing shade. Second, many Latino cultures believe it is part of maintaining their culture and respect by continuing to regularly speak in Spanish "if you don't use it, you lose it." Imagine, if you will, if someone said it was too much for African American women to wear weaves and wigs in the office because someone had an OPINION about their appropriateness for the workplace. Not only is it your general perogative on what to wear, but consider how significant hair care really is valued in the African American community (and others, obviously). Would you think a woman wearing a weave or wig, even tasteful, should be called 'rude' by others in this instance?
+Big Z I'm not saying never speak Spanish , when your in the presence of non speakers . For example if you , me and a third person are talking and all of a sudden me and the third person just starts speaking Russian knowing that you don't speak it , is that not rude ? Like why couldn't I wait till you left to start speaking some other language . What was so important that I couldn't say it in English ?
THat part I got, and as many people said, the sister was somewhat rude because she inserted herself into the conversation. We just feel that Tamar presuming they're talking shade and DEMANDING they speak English in front of her on this basis implies some sense of insensitivity. I also wanted to highlight the point that, in absence of actually knowing the sister, some Spanish speakers still do this because 1) it's something they share with their family/part of their culture; 2) it's an unconscious reflex, like they are doing it without thinking, and here we have talked shade about it instead of confronting her. Both of these reasons have nothing to do with trying to shade someone or exclude them. I recommend she confront the sister and talk about it.
BECAUSE HISPANICS SPEAK SPANISH IN THEIR HOUSE!!!!! ITS NOT JUST BECAUSE THE GIRLFRIEND IS THERE! WHITE PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND
+Daisy Burgos I understand that but how would you feel if you and I were having a conversation in Spanish and some third person joins the conversation and I start speaking to her in a language that you don't speak ? Even though you know the third girl speaks Spanish as well ? Why did I suddenly start speaking to her in a language that you don't speak or understand , when I could of spoken to her in Spanish .l? What's so important that it couldn't wait till you left if we didn't want you to hear ?
Idk, Tamar sounds really intolerant of difference... "You have to speak English around me"...uh ok " asi que me toca hablar en ingles cuando estoy en tu presencia? get real, nobody has that kind of power, and its just plain ignorant. I mean to assume that all of the sudden the conversation is about her is ludicrous. I mean maybe the sister wanted to say something personal that she did not want NON FAMILY MEMBERS to know, I mean if it were so bad then why didn't the boyfriend just reply in English then. Geeze, chicks are so petty!
Well said, totally agree, she does sound a little ignorant and is sprouting the wrong advice if that didn't turn out to be the case. Also, if you are accustomed to speaking a certain language sometimes you don't realise it when you switch languages, let families preserve their cultures and what languages they choose to also speak!
true, but in a way i also kind of get what Tay Tay was saying. But if it is intentionally to talk bad about the other person, they shouldn't be caring because either way your partner is still with you no matter who is talking bad about you. So...
All she has to do is say No Hoblo Espanol...Ingles Por Favor....
foreal like i would speak spanish in front of you on purpose if you ever feel like someones talking about you in spanish ask yourself wtf am i doing wrong and if you aint doing none wrong stop being a nosey bitch they probably commenting on that bomb ass outfit you got on
no if you come into someone's Convo you go by their rules. why not speak in English?? its RUDE when you do it because she may be throwing shade.
Y’all keep forgetting this girl said “they say certain things in Spanish” which means small word or phrases as they having the conversation and that’s how bilingual people speak so…
And if she feels self conscious speak up
As a Spanish speaking person, I feel as though in public, if I am not around Spanish speaking friends, I will not speak Spanish. It's rude in my opinion. There's a time and place for everything and every language.
Pero al mismo tiempo, si tu te sientes como ellos hablan de ti en español, pues di algo.
(but at the same time, if you feel like they're talking about you in Spanish, speak up)
Don't just get upset and get annoyed, I dated a guy that had a French-speaking family, I didn't learn French, but I knew a few words and I'd answer back in English if I could.
I probably didn't make sense, but you kinda get it.
same
Eso mismo
Yo tanbien yo soy Latina but it's for example you know how u guys do ur nails with the chinese people and they start speaking Chinese it annoys u right so also to me it's pretty rude to me so like if u agree and comment
Xiomara Greene Bien dicho
J. R. muchas gracias
This is where monolinguals are made annoying. Not everyone has to speak your language in front of you, your own insecurities are your problem. Its by far easier to blend and mix languages than just stick to one, theres some things that just don't translate well and for you to be ignorant and be like "he cant speak to his own sister in their native language in front of me." Nah, grow up. If you wanna know so bad, learn the language. Otherwise hush.
But the thing is, I'm Somali is not about Spanish language or any other foreign language. Its about speaking directly between 2 people if you have a 3rd person, even if you speak the same language. So, just wait or excuse the person gently and respectfully, or drop the third wheel forever, or say it together. But never ignore the 3rd wheel. Never. Its disrespectful.
+Bilenaire Ignoring the "third wheel" yes I 100% agree thats disrespectful. But i don't find it disrespectful to say something to one person in one language and the other in another all in one conversation. As long as its equal and you're not pushing somebody to the side who doesn't understand then no I don't find a problem with it. I've done it plenty of times when both of my friends understand english but one may not understand something in their native due to translation or anything and ive had to completely stop speaking in English to re explain the situation or a different situation to them in their native. Idk the comments on this video rubbed me the wrong way and for someone who has friends of multiple different languages I have never felt excluded from a convo just cause the language changes.
+Bilenaire Also in this case, its a brother and a sister. Some people don't feel comfortable speaking english and thats okay. Its just his sister, she's allowed to talk to him in their native if thats what they are used to.
Ty Monae ♡ you are 100% right! I learned Portuguese because I didn't want to be left out of my spouse's family conversations, etc...best decision I could have ever made. Do the work and quit your cryin'! People don't want to take the time to learn the language, but if you are planning to be with that person for a long time, you really should.
Ty Monae ♡ yesssss
Depending on the situation it can become rude. It isnt rude to speak the language u prefer
Nah, I'm going to speak Spanish when I feel like it.
gurl bye
geminidaprince84 is there a problem?
do you
ga be how is it ignorant to speak another language? Please explain.
ga be I still don't understand how it's rude and disrespectful to speak a language other than English?
I think a lot of persons misunderstood what was said:
1) They're (the couple) already having a conversation
2) The sister inserts herself and changes the language
3) The girlfriend is left out
I speak 4 languages and honestly the language switching happens naturally. I've gone in a circle with all of my friends speaking to me in different languages without missing a beat. However, there's always a part of me that's conscious of persons who don't speak the language. If I'm with my Italian friends and bring an English speaker, I don't care what someone says to me, in whatever language I will respond in English because I've been that person who didn't understand.
+M. Williams I love it a considerate person. Like I have said umpteenth times today on this topic. I don't have a problem when someone speaks their language. I have a problem when you exclude me from the conversation when you could easily include me by speaking English or by translating when you are done. Which doesn't happen most times. I am sure if her boyfriend had translated or explained what they were discussing she would not have felt left out. If it was something private he could also tell his girlfriend sorry didn't mean to do that but it was something that could not be discussed generally because of its nature. She could understand.
4daluvofnikki I think that may be her problem also, the fact that he didn't take a half of a second to include her or explain to her what his sister is saying. It shows that there may other problems in communication between them even though that's neither here nor there.
To me it depends. My in laws are Russian and will primarily speak in English in front of me but speak it with an accent and not too fluent. However there will be situations when they need to convey what they feel and can't really express it in English and will speak to my husband in Russian. That's not rude to me. My parents are the same. They speak in Spanish but if something is hard to say in English they will say it in Spanish in front of my husband. It's fine. Now, if my parents were to be perfectly fluent in English and decided to speak in Spanish in front of my husband anyway that would be rude in my book. People should analyze the situation first instead of jumping in to conclusions that's something is rude.
I'm french, and my brother's girlfriend is Canadian and doesn't speak french. When we're having a conversation together with her we speak English, but sometimes if i come into the room to tell my brother something even if she's there, the natural thing i'm gonna do is speak french. It's different though if you were speaking with them and THEN she starts speaking spanish and leaves u out.
Emma Domenech pourtant le français est une des deux langues officielles du Canada. Remind her of that sometimes. 😂
Amélie Sirois yes it is an official language in canada but she might be from toronto where there is more commonly english speakers then in montreal where it is mainly/only french speakers
The question should have been "Is speaking your native language in front of non-speakers rude".
No but if I’m talking to my friend and someone interrupts in another language then that’s very rude because I can’t understand u
Why do people get so insecure when others around them speak a different language that they do not know??
The ego on some people, thinking that we only speak another language to talk crap about them. What's the point of knowing multiple languages if we can't use it?
It's beautiful to know English, Spanish, Vietnamese, etc, etc. Stop making things about you and leave bilingual people alone. It's not rude. (Unless they are talking mad 💩, because in that case it is rude).
Stop pretending that bilingual people dont say certain things in front of English speakers in english because they dont want them to know 🥴 that's a load of crap.
If its a strainger then its not rude but if you know the person it kinda is
The school system does not allow English speakers to become bilingual.
@@youknowwhatflav9916 She/he's not pretending that this doesn't exist stop twisting the OP's narrative to fits yours. We all know that ppl talking about one person in a language that they don't understand happens sometimes, but to assume that this happens EVERY TIME is SO paranoid and malicious. All that she/he's saying is that majority of the time ppl be having big egos when it comes to speaking in another language.
Ppl are so paranoid and when they're not, they're arrogant and think that everybody should speak english to make them feel comfortable, that's entitlement, that's not being ""respecful"", i'm sorry but that's the real truth.
I agree with Tamar, it's rude, sometimes intentionally & sometimes unintentionally. It'd be better just to have the convo in English that way no one gets upset
It's not done to be disrespectful, that's just what Latinos do. There are some words or sayings that don't exist is English that do in Spanish. So there.
Yes exactly! We aren't being rude.
We are not being rude..but i also stop and think if people spoke another language infront of me i did understand i will feel left out and find it a bit rude..
I speak Spanish and yeah one or two words but whole sentences nah
Vicky Fernandez I actually said to someone if your around me you don’t speak Spanish because I don’t know enough to have a conversation in Spanish also it’s not ok to be having an intense conversation in public in another language because it freaks people out also it’s flat out rude if you know English to be speaking Spanish to someone who clearly ether doesn’t know Spanish or knows very little
Vicky Fernandez well it’s very disrespectful to speak Spanish if you know English also if you don’t know how to say something in English just ask us
For those of you who think what his sister did was ok, consider this . The issue ISN'T that they're speaking a different language . The issue is that his sister butted into HER conversation with HER boyfriend to rudely speak to him in a different language . I don't care who you are or WHAT language you choose to speak in, it is VERY RUDE to interrupt someone's conversation, but even more BLATANTLY RUDE to interrupt by speaking a different language . And if you ever did it to me, I would make SURE to call you out for being so rude and disrespectful . Like Tamar said, his sister did that PURPOSELY and lots of bilingual people are just as rude . I don't care that you speak 2 or even 7 different languages, if you interrupt my conversation, I'm going to make sure you're feeling JUST as uncomfortable as you're TRYING to make me feel . Count on it !
Stfu bitch, you’re just jealous that your stupid ass can only speak one language.
Venomilly16, EXACTLY!!!! But they who are defensive and being tart with their responses know exactly what this is about! The scenario that was given on The Real is what should be the focus, but some of these ppl are commenting the way they are because they themselves would conduct themselves in the very manner that the boyfriend’s sister did. And he possibly could’ve told her to stop being so rude... in their language...to spare his girlfriend the drama...Who knows. I know I would have. But i wouldve also translated for my mate after such an exchange. Especially if they’ve already told me that such makes them uncomfortable.
When you only speak one language problems^
But y'all not gonna talk about how on fleek Tamera is today? Y'all tried it!
She is always gorgeous 😍
+Tae Okonma She was, and yet surprisingly quiet. Plus, did she nod when Tamar said the sister is trying her? I know Tamera is not on that kinda paranoia train...
Adrienne's so much more attractive when she starts speaking Spanish lol OR IS IT JUST ME 😂
No you’re right 😍🙃
When the Asians say things in the nail salon no one said anything but when Latinos do it everyone sais something
Honey I speak up and ask what they talking about and know a bunch of others who does the same
Liyah's Life 😂
I be wanting to laugh and learn things as well Haha that
They were starting something about Asians in the top comment😭
Better go to another shop who speaks only English then
Adrienne needs to have a seat. Had it been another language, like chinese, she wouldn't be acting like this. I remember a segment when the ladies were talking about how they thought the chinese women at the nail salon were talking about them and they didn't like it. Idc what anyone says, if you are around people of whom you know don't speak nor understand a certain language, have the respect to just speak the language everybody understands. I can understand why the girl would feel offended by the sister
+Candy Stone why dont you learn another language first then maybe you can have an opinion.
Ann Amg Honey I speak multiple languages and I have the respect to not speak another language infront of people I know
y se le olvido mandarlas al carajo too naturalmente hablamos espanol mix with english si no te gusta tapate los oidos este pais es libre para hablar el idioma que uno prefiera
colorful gaming este pais es libre, si, but I was raised with manners. So if my brother and his gf are having a conversation, I was raised with enough decency to not walk into THEIR conversation and start speaking to ONLY HIM in a language I know she doesn’t understand. Cause it’s rude as hell. But hey, stay proud boo boo. Que dios de bendiga, amorsito❤️
colorful gaming te*
Is it weird that even though I'm not Latina and I don't speak Spanish, that I could completely translate everything Adrienne just said?... I absolutely love Spanish lol.. .It's my goal to speak it fluently one day...
& This whole segment was freaking hilarious!!!
+jodiii122 her Spanish isn't that good anyway, you can tell she is not as good as native speaker who was born and raised in a Spanish-speaking country, and that she just picked it up from her parents, but never really practiced or used it much
It's not weird. It means you love Spanish and are studying it on your own.
I’ll speak any damn language I want.
@T South When that happens to me I don't get upset because they have a right to speak whatever language they want. Only someone with a power complex would want to control them and make them speak English. People like that have issues. Btw if you moved to another country and had to learn that country's language, if you met another English speaker there I'm sure you would speak to them in English. Is it to talk about other people secretly? No it's because that's what you're comfortable speaking. Get a grip
T South shut the f up we will speak our own language whenever we want idc who’s getting offended that’s none of my business
You're rude
2jw who is?
Exactly and when someone says something bad about you in another language you dont know you just ignore it right? People make life seem so hard.
Adrienne what you mean ask " Girl, what are you saying, teach me?" If she wanted you to know in the first place she would have said it in English #girlbye
Lol girl Adrienne extra defensive bout that spanish
EXACTLY...😚😚
+Jodie K I think she meant that its natural for someone to speak in their native tongue so they may not realize they are doing it. (as a bilingual person myself) I mean cutting someone off to start a separate conversation is rude ANYWAY & I would have a problem with that lol but other than that, sometimes you forget. Especially if shes talking to her brother, theres no need to be formal, spanish may be her first choice.
My mum breaks in and out of Italian and English without realising it
+Jodie K Nah, it aint all about you. if we're used to speaking spanish at home why we gonna 100% switch jus cuz u come round n think u special. ppl with an attitude who don't even learn to say hello in their boyfriend's language...that's rude...don't matter if u in america....u in someone else's house! it's spanish, not the theory of relatively. #unilingualllame
People who don't have a language that they speak at home don't understand. no matter what my parents will always speak to me in somalie if there are people with us or not. My maternal language always comes before learned languages in my house.
tototi95 heyyy somali here😉
tototi95 my bestfriend of 13 years is somali and her family doesn't do that with non somalian speaking people. Even her grandmother who didn't "speak" English would look to my best friend to make sure she translated for me. it's rude to have a full blown conversation in front of someone as though they're not there. the same goes with different languages.
we never have full blown conversations in front of my friends. But if we are at the supermarket with strangers my mom's never going to speak to me in something other than somalie
tototi95 well that is what the topic was referring to, or were not paying attention? the woman's boyfriend's sister would deliberately speak Spanish having a full blown conversation that she was very much a part of. which is very rude. so saying someone is intolerant because they don't like the feeling of exclusion when they should feel comfortable is ignorant in itself.
FEARLESSly MIACAMICHELLE and how are people like Tamar not ignorant? Making stupid ass assumptions which were completely wrong trying to create drama, you will never understand why this happens if you are not bilingual
I actually understood everything Adrienne said😂😍🙏🏽
I don’t speak Spanish can you tell me what she said?
@@yassqueenyass1850 "I don't know about you, Jeannie, pero, para mí, yo siento que cuando yo quiero hablo en Español. ¡Yo lo puedo hacer! Porque es mí primer idioma. Y cómo yo soy latina. Yo siempre que así puedo hablo en Español cuando comoquiera." (the part after that was inaudible to me)
By the way, I'm not a Spanish speaker and no formal training in the language, so, what I typed might be wrong. Someone please correct me
@@hannahwalmer1124 thank you 😊
Me too even tho my native language isn't spanish.
My native language is portuguese but SO MANY words are similar sounding and have the same meaning in portuguese too, that's why i understood what she said.
Question out of curiosity: since i (portuguese speaker) can understand 90% of spanish, can spanish speakers understand a little bit or many portuguese too? (sorry for my english, my english grammar is still a little bit poor)
I think it is rude. It's okay when it's among strangers but among friends and coworkers, it's bad manners.
Some people in this world really lack understanding! I'm going through the comments and so many people are saying things like "what's wrong with speaking a different language". Darling who the hell said simply speaking it was wrong? This is a very specific situation and there is no way to deny that making someone unable to understand a shared conversation is impolite or in other words, RUDE! It's the same thing as whispering to 1 person in a multiple person conversation! You may well be saying something normal that may or may not be private between you and that 1 person, but whispering when there are others participating is rude. The better thing to do would be 1. save the convo for when the two of you are alone or 2. if it's important, simply ask for excuse to speak.
You cannot have a 3 person conversation where only 2 can understand and not expect the LEFT OUT person to feel offended.
Absolutely no one is telling you not to speak your language, but the SPECIFIC situation being addressed was indeed rude!
NB I was a bit aggressive in my comment because I'm just a tad annoyed by some of the other comments.
+SwaggerChiick1 I agree with you.
4daluvofnikki thank you.
+SwaggerChiick1 Thank you. Some people even call it racist to ask for a translation. It's reactions like that that undermine real racism.
C Fas Exactly! You have no choice but to be saddened by their level of reasoning. They bring to the table things that have absolutely nothing to do with the topic at hand. Thank goodness I didn't see the ones about racism, which is a whole other ball game. Matter of fact, language isn't exactly synonymous with race...so where did that come from? looll
SwaggerChiick1 the better thing to do would be to learn the language
I can remember when i was in Suriname, i went with my cousin to hang out with her friends. I didn't understand a word of Dutch and they could've barely spoken english. They abandoned their language and tried their best to speak my language so i wouldn't feel left out and i really appreciated it ❤
Currently having that same problem and it is rude, Dont jump in my conversation and start speaking Spanish then start laughing and walk off. Makes me feel left out and it's a little unnerving when they just start laughing outta nowhere. But my boyfriend tries not to do that after I brought it to his attention. Besides he even confirm that on a few occasions, I was being 'tried'. Do what I did girl and say something
Loni said "No no no." lmaoooo
right
I absolutely live for Adrienne’s reaction
love when adrienne talk in spanish.... she has a great accent "te quiero bella"
I don't
Zzz S
No shade to Spanish speakers but i have realised that they do this a lot. I live in a foreign country that is non-Spanish speaking and the first thing i noticed about Spanish speakers is that they are perhaps the only ones who would just out of the blue speak Spanish to each other without translating to you and even laugh. Other people from different countries would pardon themselves and speak their language and then tell you what they were talking about. I find it rude but now i have accepted that Spanish people are just like that. They love their language and dont really consider people who cant speak it.
You got that right.
Spanish speakers are insecure. They love their language yet they never move to Spain. They always move to Spanish - speaking countries. They are also ignorant.
@@SuperRip7 Most of yall speak bad English and Spanish.
Son puros Chismes, Si quiere saber que aprenda español 😂
Hechos lol
ESO SÍ ADRIENNE!! ASÍ ES! LMFAO! I know it is really rude to speak Spanish in front of non native speakers though.
+VSX sara Pero si fueras tu en su lugar how would you feel? ☺She's only complaining because it's allll the time.Just saying
💋besos
+latina7292 Freak no!! it's not rude to speak my native language. How would she feel if they told her to speak Spanish only around here. That's not her place to make people speak a different language just to make her feel comfortable she is in their territory.
+Mloveblacque always it's not rude to speak your native language but it is kind of rude to do it in front of people who don't understand especially when you know they don't understand. That's just what I was taught from a very young age. And not just Spanish either. That really goes for all languages.
+VSX sara I really don't have a problem with it because I speak Spanish obviously but the people who don't speak your language don't know your not talking about them at that's the first thing that comes to mind. I mean there are always going to be people who complain so what are we gonna do.
+latina7292 It is definitely wrong if it is done intentionally to be rude to someone behind their back. Also, I think that foreigners moving to a new country should try their best to assimilate to that country's customs by speaking the native language. However other than those two instances, I have no problem with foreigners communicating in a different language, even in front of native speakers. I think languages are a part of what makes us who we are, and people shouldn't feel like they have to hide their culture in order to accommodate someone's insecurity.
Nah I’ll speak Spanish when and where I want lol
Yet you left your brown spanish country to live in a white country thst speaks english. Go back to mexico where everybody speaks your tiki tiki
Adrian B The US has no official language. And what makes you think she’s not American?
Still very rude, towards someone who doesn't understand what you are saying, and if you are talking about them.
Adrian B 🤣🤣
x Jsc2004 x Spanish people come to your country-been in the country for ages!... Still don’t want to speak the language of the Land they came to live in at 🤦🏾♀️, but they want others to speak their language instead! Say what! No we don’t need to learn Spanish unless we want to. How about y’all focus on learning the native language of the new land y’all came to start a new life in 😒! And, then! They want you to translate for them! No $££¥£! You learn the language just like I €%#£€€£ did! They’re so ungrateful! Always talking bad about America when America saves their £€%##!!! I have a problem with these people for real! Get on my nerve!!!
Y'all. I can not. Are you guys really that culturally unaware. If someone has family that only speaks spanish they're obviously going to speak spanish with them not english,also usually if that's someone's first language regardless if they're family speaks english as well they're still going to speak their first languages with family. hey maybe if you wanna be apart of the convo learn some spanish instead of being stuck in one language? and btw idk why y'all think everyone's talking bad about just when they speak in another language around you,get over yourself.
Same things goes for the "family" who only speaks Spanish. Learn some damn English! Especially if you live a predominantly English speaking country. You get over yourself, it's rude to speak another language and exclude someone from a convo when you know the language of the person being excluded. Jesus, at least translate the words being said by the person who doesn't know the language so they can be in the know or give input....that's only if you are a empathtic person who cares, though 🤷🤷🤷
@@oddly.alright529 Funny thing: how come Spanish speakers don't get mad at English speakers, and they don't say English speakers are talking bad about them secretly in English? But English speakers always think the Spanish speakers are somehow talking mess? Spanish speakers don't care what language you speak. They speak Spanish to each other. End of story. The only ones who care are people like you. If you have a problem with it, that's your problem. They don't need to learn English. They are able to prosper in this country even without knowing English. Why would they want to learn English anyway when the people they would then be able to talk to would just be unpleasant biggoted people as demonstrated by your comment? You're the one with the problem so the burden is on YOU to fix YOUR problem, not them.
Hsh1234 Agree with you to a certain extent. Spanish speakers are definitely very accommodating and if I speak my limited Spanish they tell me it’s ok and don’t worry if I make mistakes but at the same time...I live in Washington heights which is in the upper west side of nyc. It’s predominately Latino here and if you go to a supermarket all you hear is Spanish and a lot of times people address me in Spanish and I’m.....black. I’m just not very dark so they think I’m Dominican. But I’ve had some people get mad at me because I don’t understand them and then I say “I don’t speak Spanish” and then they get embarrassed...the problem is they shouldn’t assume everyone knows Spanish, especially in the USA. I remember once a guy was unconscious on the floor and everyone was panicking. I called 911 and the operator asked me vital questions like his age, if he’s breathing, etc and when I asked the people with him they didn’t know English...even in an emergency I couldn’t help them. Thank god one person ended up knowing English....but people have to remember English is the predominant language here
@@tyree3774 Yes that's a good point. I didn't think of that 🙏🏼
@Tyree That's the thing, you just described how thousands of spanish speakers feel when nobody understands them...so the real question is, why don't you learn spanish since you live in a place predominated by that language? Spanish speakers HAVE to learn english even when in there surroundings it ins't necessary. I get that if you live in a place that has a different laguange to yours you should try and learn it, but why be so hard and rude with those who don't...english speaking people just assume you have to know bc it's easier for them.
Im from Kenya 🇰🇪 .. And my English is mixed with my native language Swahili. So i just find my self speaking SHENG a combo of this two languages😊.
Mama Africa anyone relate???? 😂😂
Wakenya oeeeee😂
Im not kenyan but I mix spanish and english
It is a very common thing with people whom english is not their first language. We try to learn how to communicate with people who speak only English but the problem with these English speaking people is they are so stuck up and want you to learn a language to make them feel comfortable.
I will speak Spanish ehenever and however I feel like it. Tamar is too much with that attitude. I side with Adrienne on this one. Just like she said
Whenever*
Because you probably are hispanic and you have a bias towards what Adrienne is saying so obviously your gonna side with her.
Yeah probably lmao
Tamar gets on my nerves 😂
Raphael Ferrero You're really cute. 😏
''Y tambien HUEVITOS!" ...lol
It would make anybody "feel" excluded for that to happen to them regardless of the language spoken
I will speak Spanish where I want and that was funny 😂 Adrienne hahhahahaha
No it wasn't
geminidaprince84 i've seen you comment like 3 times, you're salty (:
"Cuando me da la gana"🤣🤣
facts😂😂😂
pues yo voy a hablar español todo el rato
it's very rude to speak another language in front of someone. luckily I speak spanish so if someone is talking crap about me they will know. Especially here in Dallas people think I am a regular black girl but no boo boo.
ehh... If I'm just going to ask my brother whether he took out the trash or not, I'm not switching languages because someone else in the room doesn't understand our native language. Yes, it'd be rude to interrupt someone else's conversation and start a conversation in another language, but if I just have something quick to say and it doesn't regard the other person, I'm not going to go through the trouble of speaking another language than the one I'm used to speaking with my fam. But you're right, being multilingual is the fucking best. No one's going to talk about me without me understanding lol.
RIGHT
todos ustedes deben entender que no son el centro del mundo, no cualquier que persona que este hablando español está hablando de ti 💀
It depends on the situation, but in general if the conversation doesn't include me, I don't care what language someone else is speaking in. If I'm speaking in Spanish to someone and the conversation doesn't include you, don't worry about it and carry on with your own business.
Being bilingual, my mom always told us to avoid doing that around others . If you know english perfectly and there are others around you, especially if it's only a few people, I believe it's best to speak the language everyone knows. My mom use to compare it to whispering, you wouldn't say it in the different language unless it's something you don't want others to here, so it is kind of rude.
It was so funny when Adrienne started speaking Spanish and I understood everything she said 😂
As someone learning spanish im so happy that i actually understand what Adrienne said :D
I think it's very rude. His sister knows that she doesn't understand what she's saying but she doing it anyway and intentionally leaving her out. It is a big deal and it's rude!
sanggurl16 nah. people tend to switch between languages without even realizing it. Either way, unless you're insecure or have done something wrong, you shouldn't think they're talking trash about you. Also, if theyre not speaking directly at you then mind your own business!
joanna sav It's her conversation that she's being left out of! Its rude! It's not okay that she's being left out of her own conversation. Mind her business?! It is her business! They said when she and her boyfriend are talking the sister will join in and speak Spanish. Why? To make her feel left out. If it's not done intentionally as you say then his sister could just as easily say it in English!
Why do people from other countries always have to adjust to talking English? Yall don't even try
Shely Colón amen
Carter's mom 9
"Check this out, i don't know that" lmao TAMAR
Yo hablo español y si no entiendes aprende. Así como yo aprendí inglés para entenderte 😅
Ahh. Aqui hay otra Dreamer a la que no le gusta Estados Unidos. No peude esperar hasta dejar mi nacion. No hay ingratos en esta nacion.
😂😂fr
EXACTAMENTE!
@@SuperRip7 no entendi lo que trataste de decir
Ignore mi ultima declaracion. Estaba cansado. Mi teclado no esta en Espanol.
Ahh. Aqui hay otro sonador al que no le gusta Estados Unidos. No podia esperar hasta que dejaras mi nacion. No hay ingratos en esta nacion.
Honestly Spanish isn't hard to translate depending on how fast you speak. My hubby can figure out what I am saying most of the time but then I also do tend to speak span-glish!
Jahnaia McGee Ummmmm Spanish is freakin hard af to learn at least for a Lotta ppl I know.
Jahnaia McGee I can’t stand when people speak Spanish and English if you need to know how to say something in English people can always ask us we have no problem translating as long as we know what your saying
soapqueen2008 Some People Find Jt More Comfortable To Talk In Their HOME language abd tbey shouldnt have tovadjust just because you dont know thier language
i speak two other languages beside english but its really rude talking one of these languages in front of somebody who i know doesn't speak that language because i think its rude cause that person might be thinking I'm talking about them when I'm really not
~ Ooooooooh, puuuhlease!! I freaggin' hate people whom "feel some type of way" just because they're not in on something. Its called being an INSECURE BASIC BITCH. Because why? You're that important that automatically because someone is speaking a language you dont understand than that has to mean they're talking about you? NOOOO. If you want to know soooo bad, then I say tell them to learn it like you did. So you go on with your bad trilingual self. 😀😀😀 Dont let anybody tell you how you should express yourself.
***** they don't tell me its rude i just fell like it is rude
i’m a native spanish speaker and i find it disrespectful to speak a language in front of someone that doesn’t understand it. my brother tries to speak english in front of my non-english speaking family sometimes and i always check him. i’ve been victim of that too and it makes me feel so left out.
Some hardcore American ignorance coming through on this clip. I'm disappointed in Tamar. Wow. I live in Canada where there are 2 official languages: English and French. I speak French and if someone ever told me NOT to speak French in one of the English provinces, I would shut them DOWN. Just because you don't know the language or what they're saying doesn't mean they're talking about you. People are so egocentric nowadays. I'm not saying it never happens that people will try to get away with it, but damn! If you don't know the language, LEARN IT. Especially if you live in the southern US where Spanish is very commonly spoken. Stop giving yourselves the right to remain ignorant while blaming everyone else for it.
agree
Honestly I don't care what you speak and where you speak it but if we are having a conversation and just randomly start speaking another language with a third party that's super rude. If it just slips out I understand but at least fill me in.
I speak Spanish and I feel like if I’m speaking with someone and Spanish and the conversation is not about you or it’s not your problem I will keep speaking Spanish because I’m not just going to speak your language so you could understand what I’m saying because the conversation it’s not even about and Spanish it’s my first language and I can speak Spanish when ever I want.
Tamera's laugh is so contagious 😂😂 Her laugh is so unique i love it!! Every time she had a peekaboo of laughter in between Tamar's comment I had to laugh along. she made it even funnier 😭
Yes very rude! I hate going to the Vietnamese nail salon and when I say something the ladies turn to each other and say something in Vietnamese and laugh. It makes it seem like they are laughing at me...
You have low self esteem and insecurities then and should work on yourself 🙄
@@anataliasantana1315 that doesn't necessarily mean she has insecurities nine times out out of 10 usually if you go into those types of salons in the women are talking and laughing under their breath they're most likely talking about you
It's hella rude. Point blank
Adrienne has a point, if my couple doesn't know spanish but I talk to my sister, I would talk to her in spanish! It's just comes out like that it's natural! It's how we speak everyday with eachother we ain't being rude its just comes out like that and if my couple wants to know then he asks and I'd be like: oh sorry we said blablabla but we don't do it to tease or offend, i think it's natural
I thought Tamar was gonna have Adrienne's back but glad she kept it real, this is so rude!
I mean, isn’t that what English speakers do to EVERY. OTHER. CULTURE? 🤔🤷🏽♀️
I can speak Spanish all I want if you don't like it learn Spanish if it bothers you that much.
People who learned Spanish took the time to learn, people should take that time they use complaining to learn since that would actually benefit them
U MAD ? Why so defensive? It's rude in my opinion. I'm fluent in 3 languages, and although I may not recognize it at that time, I feel bad whenever I speak to someone in a different language while someone is in the same conversation/room as me. I've been in the same boat where most people speak another language in front of me, and you kinda feel uncomfortable because you don't really know what they're saying. It's petty to tell someone to go learn your language, especially one that takes a while to master. Be considerate.
U MAD ? Be rude If you want to
zadose It's the same for any language. The Spanish speakers have to learn English and the English speakers learn Spanish.
Nah, don't suppress somebody's culture.
Adrianne tried it lol. As a bilingual myself if I’m talking to someone else mind you’re business but if it’s a group conversation like the girl said that it’s plain rude 🙄 I wouldn’t do that to anyone because I know how it feels
i totally agree with Adrienne! lol
I don't