Why You're Doing Self-Love WRONG (And How to Fix It) | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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  • Опубликовано: 29 дек 2024

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  • @matboggs
    @matboggs  Месяц назад +1

    Get coached by Mat Boggs TODAY: www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session?div=lr&RUclips&Social&MYM_EVG&CNT_video

  • @guaynabicha
    @guaynabicha Месяц назад +20

    I stay away from people that hurt or belittle me.

    • @Zara_Luna
      @Zara_Luna Месяц назад

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @matboggs
      @matboggs  Месяц назад +2

      Yes

    • @footyfan101ful
      @footyfan101ful Месяц назад +2

      I started doing that with someone. She belittled me once and brought back the trauma I went through 2 years ago. I did tell her what happened. Also her vibe isn't positive at all. Like it's my energy levels get depleted quickly from her presence.

  • @rezotydnic
    @rezotydnic Месяц назад +11

    Myths of self love.
    *Self care, massages, bubblebaths, etc. *It's selfish.
    *I've given up on finding love from someone else.
    *Self love is a quick fix.
    Self love is an essential part of the ability to give love. Setting the stage for the kind of love your worthy of.
    1. Self assertiveness.
    2. What do I need right now? Send yourself a beam of love and breathe.
    3. Be your own best friend.
    4. Release the need to be perfect.
    My practices to self love started with acceptance. I had low self esteem regarding my looks because of the past abusive relationship. Once I accepted myself and my looks, it was uphill from there.
    I do things I enjoy with people who are joyful and happy and loveable. That circle is important.
    I've learned no is an answer and an acceptable one.
    I'm still open to find love even though I'm not sure what that looks like. But I know what it should feel like.
    I have a 'friend' right now that I love hanging out with. We have lots of things in common and have a great time just being ourselves. It's very comfortable. Is there chemistry? No
    Could there be at some point? Absolutely. Not sure where this is going, if anywhere, but I'm good and will be ok.
    My problem is enjoying and not getting caught up in the 'could this develop into something more' and totally missing a guy that might be the one 🤔

    • @Joelina456
      @Joelina456 Месяц назад +2

      THANK YOU🥰

    • @matboggs9517
      @matboggs9517 Месяц назад +1

      Wow! What a beautiful summary...thank you 🙂

  • @trustoldpaths1415
    @trustoldpaths1415 Месяц назад +11

    Take care of your body , respect yourself. But give love. Don't keep it to yourself

  • @cynthiakk5966
    @cynthiakk5966 Месяц назад +3

    Oh, Mat and your video quality is extremely philosophically. It is not only just cover love and relationship. You are absolutely not only charming but also amazing mentor.

    • @matboggs9517
      @matboggs9517 Месяц назад

      So glad this was helpful for you. That's always my aim

  • @lauraleedouglas44
    @lauraleedouglas44 Месяц назад +2

    I'm not sure if this fits... but I'm trying to focus so much on gratitude that my mind isn't really on myself (or should I say my flaw/anxiety & depression). Thus, I'm not thinking bad about myself nearly as often,...I just see myself as equal to everyone else and thus it's not an issue. I'm at the beginning of this gratitude practice & hope to see that it's sustainable. And I can see that having gratitude really shifts me from criticalness and it's easier to give myself (well as giving to others) that beautiful acceptance we all crave. Love the concept of being my own best friend!!!

    • @matboggs9517
      @matboggs9517 Месяц назад

      Love that...the practice of Gratitude is the best way to instantly raise ones vibration

  • @jacirisser1623
    @jacirisser1623 Месяц назад +8

    Excellent content!

  • @bellaanthony464
    @bellaanthony464 Месяц назад

    It took a lot of inner work, paying close attention to what I tell myself all day and fine tuning it but I now love being with myself in silence or throughout the day. If I like being with me then others will like being with me too especially when it’s genuine. I think we should have more conversations and videos on self-love, it’s the foundation of relationships!

  • @tenaawii4571
    @tenaawii4571 Месяц назад +2

    Amazing video! Thank you so so much!

    • @matboggs
      @matboggs  Месяц назад +2

      Love that idea, thank you ❤

  • @bernadettecanuel6453
    @bernadettecanuel6453 Месяц назад +2

    You are the "BEST" !!!❤🎉❤🎉❤
    Thank-you Matt Boggs! We love you!😊

    • @matboggs
      @matboggs  Месяц назад +1

      Appreciate you ❤❤❤

  • @mikalemorris3219
    @mikalemorris3219 Месяц назад +2

    Trying new things and being willing to fail at them.

  • @anneellendevlin9814
    @anneellendevlin9814 Месяц назад

    Recognizing what gives me joy and happiness and finding time to put it into practice to get these feel good emotions.

  • @jeanettebrooks1963
    @jeanettebrooks1963 Месяц назад +1

    Self-love is multifaceted, but one important area now for me is to declutter and simplify as I just lost my keys tonight.

  • @tristamarie7115
    @tristamarie7115 Месяц назад +2

    Say 'no' to requests you don't want to do or requests you normally accept out of guilt/shame...for me, last minute requests give me anxiety and I feel pressured....I would say something like, 'Thank you for inviting me tonight, but unfortunately I'm not going to be able to make it. Enjoy ___________ and I hope you have a great time.'

  • @thithonguyen886
    @thithonguyen886 Месяц назад

    Thank you Mat, this is a wonderful video.

  • @rahrahei6413
    @rahrahei6413 Месяц назад

    You're great, and your concept is understandable, honesty am enjoying and learning while watching your videos, 👌👏🌺

  • @thegeexbee
    @thegeexbee Месяц назад

    This is solid advice even for people who don't date or do relationships (another form of self-love, in my not so humble opinion) so, thanks for that.

  • @drealinnae86
    @drealinnae86 Месяц назад +1

    Love this

  • @jennyyeo5974
    @jennyyeo5974 Месяц назад +11

    Surround yourself with people who love your company😊

  • @bitakhakbiz
    @bitakhakbiz Месяц назад

    I forgave myself then was able to forgave others. After that I found more self confidence, peace and love.

  • @DarlitaStephens
    @DarlitaStephens Месяц назад

    Good to know. I have no fear of commitment. I actually will thrive in a committed relationship vs an uncommitted one. My fear is that the depth and type of love (meaning healthy) that I have to give won't be reciprocated....that the relationship will become toxic. Been there, done that....I don't want or need another toxic man in my life.

  • @deviscott2879
    @deviscott2879 Месяц назад

    It's true ❤

  • @ancientwisdom108
    @ancientwisdom108 Месяц назад

    Joining Toastmasters!

  • @JoySpirit888
    @JoySpirit888 Месяц назад +1

    God's blessings and healing to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🍀🤗💜

  • @lyndamcmullen5506
    @lyndamcmullen5506 Месяц назад

    ❤❤❤

  • @offairhead
    @offairhead Месяц назад

    👍🏻

  • @edytak2664
    @edytak2664 Месяц назад +2

    I always think about how much God loves me and this is what increases my self-esteem and self-love.