Sobriety Rocks - Who Knew! | Janey Lee Grace | TEDxNorwichED

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @mike_oflynn
    @mike_oflynn Год назад +80

    Focus, not on what you’re giving up but on what you’re gaining. Excellent line.

  • @leahevehumphries
    @leahevehumphries 3 года назад +399

    Love this ted talk! Got to 52 days sober but sadly relapsed. Now it's been 27 days of sobriety since then, and I'm doing so well. I even went to a party with my friends who are BIG on drinking and I didn't have a drop. I'm so proud of myself! ❤️

  • @thomassmitha4575
    @thomassmitha4575 Год назад +66

    I stopped in April 2009 and never looked back. The alcohol free trend is very heartening. It's a joy to go to a party, to dinner, etc., an never worry about drinking too much, hangovers, etc. For those of you thinking about stopping -- go for it. You won't regret your decision.

  • @avrilf4252
    @avrilf4252 Год назад +57

    Addiction is giving up everything for one thing, recovery is giving up one thing for everthing

    • @acook213
      @acook213 6 месяцев назад +4

      Yes, but in my experience as someone with 1 year of sobriety, I don’t feel like I “gave up” anything. I simply stopped doing something that I realized was only making me unhappy - in other words, I came to see there were ultimately no positives to drinking.

    • @thevivirose
      @thevivirose 5 месяцев назад

      Wow. Love this.

  • @r0b0m1r0
    @r0b0m1r0 3 года назад +120

    Fifty nine days alcohol free. After 21 years of beer and whiskey. Feels good. Thank you as i shed some tears of joy. Peace.

    • @lailachiguer6676
      @lailachiguer6676 3 года назад +3

      I started today. I'm so proud of you stranger!

    • @aaronjoseph2821
      @aaronjoseph2821 3 года назад +4

      I need to stop .. I've stopped today .. I don't think pepole understand its a problem

  • @JohnGeorge-pw2xo
    @JohnGeorge-pw2xo 3 месяца назад +83

    I started drinking since my teenage, got addicted to alcohol. Spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Alcohol addiction actually destroyed my life. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

    • @MorrisBasar-jm9lc
      @MorrisBasar-jm9lc 3 месяца назад

      No doubts shrooms are 100% blessings from nature. Indeed nature's little miracles

    • @ErnestoHorner88
      @ErnestoHorner88 3 месяца назад

      Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏

    • @CathieGomez-mp8sk
      @CathieGomez-mp8sk 3 месяца назад +2

      YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @FernandoSalinas-eq9oy
      @FernandoSalinas-eq9oy 3 месяца назад

      Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!

    • @Marylongor
      @Marylongor 3 месяца назад

      How do i find him? Is he on Instagram

  • @BP-1972
    @BP-1972 4 года назад +104

    It just blows my mind that drinking a poison is socially acceptable. Commercial, magazine ads, billboards, drinking is everywhere you look. There's a bar on every corner, basically a crack house on every corner. The amount of deaths per year because of alcohol is staggering. The relationships it ruins is staggering. How and why have we let it get to this point? Mind blowing.

    • @oysterlock3383
      @oysterlock3383 7 месяцев назад

      😊😊😊😊😊😊😊9😊

  • @mindsoulpower
    @mindsoulpower 4 года назад +84

    i never was an alcoholic, however i stopped drinking 5 years ago. the change of my life is incredible. the way i use my time is just another world. what i can say is besides alcohol being a poison, it is a WASTE OF TIME, ENERGY... be smart! don't get brainwashed into alcohol. many people try to ridicule me too.. they just ridicule themselves. they say i abstain, and restrain myself from enjoying... well i have other ideas of enjoying myself. i dont have to abstain. my body does not like/want alcohol. wake up!

    • @mdzmdz7329
      @mdzmdz7329 Год назад

      Agree, I say killing brain cells just dosnt sound like a good time. Awe the illusion of delusional thinking while practicing the poison is mind blowing.

  • @stephmstill
    @stephmstill 3 года назад +71

    I am 22 and 9 months sober. This talk reminded me of how important it is to not do this alone and to build connection!

    • @north_star_yt
      @north_star_yt Год назад

      Connection for me literally equals drinking. I have to stay away from most ppl or social drinking kicks in.

    • @harryhall5104
      @harryhall5104 Год назад +1

      I was the same, but alcohol free beers is the way to go for me

  • @gmnavarra
    @gmnavarra 4 года назад +103

    I quit drinking alcohol this past March right as COVID-19 began to take a stronghold here in the US. I had been sober curious for a few weeks leading up to that point, and when I stopped I didn't think I could give it up completely. I read several books about sobriety and watched many videos just like this one, and that really helped me to stay on track. Quite honestly, becoming sober was the BEST decision I ever made in my life. On the surface, I was not considered an "alcoholic," but I still drank enough on most occasions to the point where I experienced hangovers, headaches, and anxiety constantly. I feel so much more free, joyful, and strong without this substance that most people struggle to live without. Not every day is easy, but it is so worth it. And this video hit the nail on the head with the quote, "the opposite of addition is connection." Even 6 months later, I still take it one day at a time!

    • @michaelpa-c4217
      @michaelpa-c4217 4 года назад

      Love this! Congrats Gina 😊 hope you are continuing doing well!

    • @leahevehumphries
      @leahevehumphries 2 года назад +1

      I'm the opposite actually, my drinking problem _started_ then. But I'm glad I already recognise it and am working on it at the young age of 21. We've got this 💗

  • @drg2094
    @drg2094 11 месяцев назад +9

    I quit July 2019, it all started with a month. Best decision of my life, she’s so right in this talk. I’m even starting a new career. Life is definitely better for sure, sleep great like a baby and no hangovers. Hangover free is what keeps me going , praying for anyone struggling. You got this and for those who want to try the 30 day challenge, dry January is a great time to do it. Good luck, remember one day at a time 💓💓💓💓💓💓

  • @southcountysue3811
    @southcountysue3811 3 года назад +81

    Alcohol should not be in grocery stores. You should have to go to a liquor store only to get it. We dont live in that world though. Giving up alcohol now started yesterday.

    • @huntstoddard9322
      @huntstoddard9322 3 года назад +8

      The state of Utah has very restrictive hours and locations where booze can be bought. I always thought they were just prudish, or perhaps influenced by the Mormon Church. Now I'm beginning to think they're on to something...

    • @LoveGodOutloud
      @LoveGodOutloud 2 года назад +2

      It's like that in texas

    • @shubhamjadhav6702
      @shubhamjadhav6702 Год назад +2

      In india we have alcohol only in liquor shops. Guess what we still have alcoholics.

    • @JeffroJames
      @JeffroJames Год назад

      Right, because prohibition works

  • @nicolasjlorenzo
    @nicolasjlorenzo 4 года назад +64

    Alcohol is the only substance you can abuse and people think you don’t have a problem

    • @herodesees3767
      @herodesees3767 3 года назад +3

      Yeah in fact if you don't drink people think you're insane or something. I'm 19 and never had alcohol in my life. I like to keep it that way. My closest friends do respect that decision, But most people don't understand me

  • @AngelenaRouse
    @AngelenaRouse 4 года назад +61

    “The opposite of addiction is connection” Powerful aha moment.

  • @joshplog321
    @joshplog321 4 года назад +31

    20 days sober and couldn’t help but to agree with everything you said

  • @joshuapotter5808
    @joshuapotter5808 4 года назад +68

    Thanks for this, it just reminded me of why I’m sober. I’m a month and a half in, and could feel myself loosing the battle a bit. But feel slightly better after this! Thanks

    • @chrisodonnell7252
      @chrisodonnell7252 4 года назад +10

      Im four and a half years down the line from quitting drinking and its the best thing i ever did.
      I promise it gets easier.
      No headaches, fresh skin, slimmer and more level happier mood day in day out.
      Well done and know ifs so do able. You've done the hardest bit!

    • @r0b0m1r0
      @r0b0m1r0 3 года назад +3

      I hear you J. Potter. I couldn't contain myself a couple weeks ago. Drank for 21 years. Dec 8th at the age of 36 now. Just a couple months sober. Broke down to my 10 year old. Felt good to release my emotons to her. To let her know how the struggle is internal. Communication. Connections. Community. Peace.

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 3 года назад

      Stop battling, and start living in the solution. There are AA meetings everywhere. Go to three meetings a week for a month. If you don't like it your misery will be refunded in full!

    • @chrislewis73
      @chrislewis73 3 года назад

      If you read. Try allen carrs "easy way"

  • @PowerGurhl
    @PowerGurhl 2 года назад +16

    My partner joined a treatment center today after dealing with this for over ten years. I’m really proud of him and can’t wait to see him and build routines that will help us reach our goals together. It is hard to be in a relationship with someone who’s life is taken over by this and I know it’s harder for them. I’m hoping that I am able to help and encourage him to keep going.

  • @eneafinch8895
    @eneafinch8895 2 года назад +8

    She is a great speaker. I could have easily continued listening if her talk were longer. Entertaining, informative, inspiring.

  • @FitLifeSoberLife-NZ
    @FitLifeSoberLife-NZ 4 месяца назад +3

    I'm 12 days in at 31 years old
    I'm trying my hardest for my children and wife.
    I can't wait for what my new life has to bring.

  • @tomd8041
    @tomd8041 2 года назад +7

    6.5 years clean here. Everything she said is spot on !

  • @noelgibson5956
    @noelgibson5956 3 года назад +10

    I live in Australia. I gave up in 2016. I woke up on new year's day recently. It was a beautiful cool day. Everyone was hungover, but I wasn't. I got up at 7am and went about enjoying my day off from work....... feeling fresh and fantastic!

  • @gracejeanette7653
    @gracejeanette7653 4 года назад +19

    I absolutely love how calming her voice is

  • @bluesocks4403
    @bluesocks4403 5 лет назад +59

    Oh my goodness, Janey has nailed this TED talk. I believe in every word, she has got her point across so eloquently. Inspirational, FANTASTIC TED talk

    • @JaneyLeeGrace
      @JaneyLeeGrace 5 лет назад

      really appreciate it thank you

    • @1Jason
      @1Jason 4 года назад +1

      @@JaneyLeeGrace laughed out loud at the end

  • @fran6919
    @fran6919 3 года назад +13

    over 7 months sober, best thing ive ever done

  • @alexandracristinnn
    @alexandracristinnn 2 года назад +8

    I LOVED THIS. You can see she really did a lot of inner work on herself.

  • @tulioramirez1293
    @tulioramirez1293 7 месяцев назад +5

    I'm an alcoholic. I was sober for 6 weeks this year. And I felt so good. I want that lifestyle. It's so worth it .

    • @MrTavis1
      @MrTavis1 3 месяца назад

      How’s it going now?

  • @MAC88152
    @MAC88152 2 года назад +17

    I don't have a wine witch. I have and ipa witch. The romantic stage of my sobriety is waning and the negative voice is resurfacing. I must continue to remind myself that I've never regretted not drinking but almost always have regretted drinking. Good luck to everyone, we're on the right path!

    • @north_star_yt
      @north_star_yt Год назад +1

      Omg, Yes so true! I have never regretted not drinking but almost always regretted choosing to drink.

  • @scottcupp8129
    @scottcupp8129 4 года назад +84

    in my fridge there are cold bottles of water and Dr. Pepper now. I had started drinking back in 1999 6 years after my parents were killed. I was like "This will definitely help" Oh but I would never get behind the wheel while intoxicated. First and last DUI, wound up crashing my truck in to a ditch. This was in 2007. Alcohol would never have me in its grips. Oh how wrong I was about everything. That alcohol elevator had hit bottom and continued on through to the earth's crust in to the mantle taking me along with it. 3 years sober now

    • @taramaharaj4270
      @taramaharaj4270 3 года назад +1

      Great performance thank you

    • @scottcupp8129
      @scottcupp8129 3 года назад +1

      @@taramaharaj4270 Are you talking to me?

    • @davidschmidt270
      @davidschmidt270 3 года назад

      👏👏👏👏👀🤞🌮🌵

    • @leahevehumphries
      @leahevehumphries 2 года назад +6

      I'm so sorry for your loss, your parents will be so proud of you for staying sober. Keep it up, hope you're doing well 💗

    • @louisegoodyear2515
      @louisegoodyear2515 Год назад

      Well done, stay strong, keep believing in 'you' 👍

  • @rachelhamidou72
    @rachelhamidou72 3 года назад +22

    I love being sober! This video is just for moi.

  • @domd2001
    @domd2001 Год назад +13

    143 days sober and I have never resonated with a video so much, what a fantastic talk. Janey is spot on about all of the benefits, apart from the fact that as a bald man, I am still waiting on those sober locks 😂.

    • @backflipnuslip
      @backflipnuslip 6 месяцев назад

      yeah maybe for people like us we get sober skulls

  • @symondo5883
    @symondo5883 4 года назад +31

    28 days sober of alcohol here! 30 years old, and decided to give it up for life! Now I say I’m not an abuser of alcohol, but going a week or so and then having two bottles of wine and half a bottle of gin in one sitting, throwing up all over your bedroom, waking up the next day single as you’ve dumped your girlfriend by text, Lying to her that you cheated when in fact you didn’t, and you have no recollection of doing this! That was the moment I decided I’ve had enough. I’m not the person I was when drunk, I never will that “person” again! Stay strong everyone reading this.

    • @skypiev4438
      @skypiev4438 3 года назад +2

      Hope you're doing well.

  • @jennyclark9206
    @jennyclark9206 3 года назад +5

    Fantastic! Just listened to Janey on my way into work for motivation! Brilliant! I even found myself saying 'yes' out loud to myself (she was that inspirational). Every word Janey said resonated with me. I don't want to drink so, like Janey, I will be telling the Wine Witch to 'do one' tonight! Today is day 6 sober for me. Not been done before in years! We've got this!

  • @FreedomBaba
    @FreedomBaba 8 месяцев назад +1

    It's my time to quit alcohol. I'm watching lots of videos on quitting alcohol. I really enjoyed this one. Thank you

  • @janetthomson1288
    @janetthomson1288 5 лет назад +16

    One of the best TED talks I have seen. A great message delivered with integrity and passion. The principles Janey talks about can be applied to many other contexts. Well worth a watch especially if you have any habit you want to change.

  • @fourgoalfit4251
    @fourgoalfit4251 11 месяцев назад +1

    I went 2 years and 9 months sober relapsed at my favorite NFL team home opener a few years ago. Just downloaded a sober app choose not to drink for the next 24 hours. The one day at a time mentality helped me on my journal my first rodeo, I’ll be using the same mindset this time 🙏🏾

  • @susiesmith1290
    @susiesmith1290 4 года назад +3

    Janey! You're spot on! I'd lived in West London for 2 years (am from US -- crummy beer) and LOVED the cozy pubs and IPAs. Stopped drinking my poison. Gone to Christmas party with friends -- no alcohol served. So, we'd not stayed long. Your hair is beautiful!!

  • @ms.ppettigrew3167
    @ms.ppettigrew3167 Год назад +1

    I enjoyed the story telling of alcohol abuse. I drank alcohol for 22 years until one day, I not longer desired that felling, and it is now going on 28 years in December. My life is so much better and others including family and friends like being around me. I even love myself. 🙂

  • @esmeraldayachting
    @esmeraldayachting Год назад +4

    Agree 100%👏I gave up drinking and I feel way much happier and healthier!

  • @naomiveak5215
    @naomiveak5215 4 года назад +5

    Wow, Janie did not hold back with the truth! I love her approach.

  • @angiec8784
    @angiec8784 Год назад +1

    “I hear you. Thank you for sharing” I’m going to use that thinking in many other areas too😎

  • @jasonsmith4483
    @jasonsmith4483 3 года назад +23

    17 days without a drink. Quit for 1 year in 2007, 1 year in 2009 and 1 year in 2017. Went back every time fooling myself into thinking I could moderate and control my drinking. Starts out ok and builds and builds over time until drinking to excess twice a week. Sick of it. I really feel like I’m done. I’m 42. I really don’t want to wake up at 52 regretting another 10 years wasted on hangovers and missed opportunities due to this horrific poison.

    • @pokellaa
      @pokellaa 3 года назад +1

      Totally agree

    • @GlenAdamson101
      @GlenAdamson101 4 месяца назад

      Great comment this is me all day

  • @raymond-gold
    @raymond-gold Год назад +4

    7 weeks sober and I will definitely be on my guard of the wine witch.

  • @MindfulAgent
    @MindfulAgent 4 года назад +8

    Hung on (AND agreed with) every word!! Thank you for this message!

  • @bobbmann5
    @bobbmann5 Год назад +4

    Love this TED Talk so much i had to watch it 2 times. The end is classic! LOVE IT!

  • @jcisking8664
    @jcisking8664 4 года назад +51

    Allen Carr’s book “Quit Drinking The Easy Way” is awesome and life changing.

    • @airubysfernandez1103
      @airubysfernandez1103 4 года назад +2

      hi everyone ,if anyone else is searching for what is the safest way to give up alcohol try Elumpa Stop Drink Alchemist (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my mate got cool success with it.

    • @jasonjamaican
      @jasonjamaican 4 года назад +3

      very

    • @automandan3066
      @automandan3066 4 года назад +2

      world class book

    • @vinodhgideon5864
      @vinodhgideon5864 4 года назад +1

      Super.....

    • @srpsrp3649
      @srpsrp3649 4 года назад +3

      Carr’s book changed my life. Smoking and drinking. Incredible results

  • @jonathancarnell6772
    @jonathancarnell6772 2 года назад +9

    7 weeks sober at 23yrs old! Ive decided to quit for good! Ive had so much anxiety lately but i know it wont last forever and i do have tons of support thanks for the amazing speech, feel amazing knowing im not alone

    • @SophieBise
      @SophieBise 2 года назад +2

      Very proud of you! I love how each new generation becomes a little better, smarter, wiser an kinder than the previous one. It is such a relief 🥰

    • @jonathancarnell6772
      @jonathancarnell6772 Год назад +3

      @sbb7 exactly! Starting to see a significant difference in my mental health and im truely starting to be happy and i can finally start to properly take care of myself and am now a few days shy of 19weeks sober!

    • @SophieBise
      @SophieBise Год назад +1

      @@jonathancarnell6772 that's amazing and very inspiring!

    • @beatrixbrennan1545
      @beatrixbrennan1545 Год назад

      Magnesium glycinate works amazing for anxiety. Zero side affects as well.

    • @JustinLangley-y1z
      @JustinLangley-y1z Год назад +1

      Keep it up I didn’t finally get long term sobriety until 37 yo after relapsing for 9 years. Best to clean up young

  • @kodiejc4202
    @kodiejc4202 4 года назад +29

    This is what I needed to hear. I'm going sober and hoping this time it'll last, but listening to this ted talk really gave me the push I needed. thank you

    • @ellennixon1776
      @ellennixon1776 4 года назад +2

      You got this!!!

    • @kodiejc4202
      @kodiejc4202 4 года назад +5

      @@ellennixon1776 thank you! still sober now. It's been difficult, but I'm hoping to reach the one month goal and go from there.

    • @ellennixon1776
      @ellennixon1776 4 года назад +2

      Kodie Jc It is difficult but so worth it. Life is truly better sober 💕

    • @chillychese
      @chillychese 4 года назад

      I wish you the best on this journey, I've tried it but idk if sobriety is for me. It's just not something I can maintain.

    • @carlschleg5822
      @carlschleg5822 4 года назад +2

      DON'T BLINK AND change your playmates/playground.
      I needed more than what GOD and AA could offer so I picked up the ACCORDION and never looked back

  • @kremekaramel2734
    @kremekaramel2734 9 месяцев назад +1

    I can soo relate to this! I didn’t have any alcohol until I was 31 but after 3 years of drinking I started to realise that I had a problem and going T total for the foreseeable future was my best option. Now 2 months sober 😅 plan to be sober for as long as possible now 😁

  • @AllansStation
    @AllansStation Год назад +2

    Gave it up 20 years ago. Best ever move I made

  • @St.scotto
    @St.scotto Год назад +9

    I hope one day there’s a shift in our society and people realize how wack it is.

  • @OvercookedOctopusFeet
    @OvercookedOctopusFeet 8 дней назад

    It's crucial to understand that the "Monster" you're facing is an illusion. It only has as much power over you as your mind allows it to have. It's your creation-so uncreate it, let it go, and relax. When you do, there’s nothing left to fight. You are free.

  • @johnhughes1952
    @johnhughes1952 4 года назад +3

    What a brilliant ending! Everything that was said is so true. I know from personal experience.

  • @davidhopkins2318
    @davidhopkins2318 4 года назад +7

    Hey Janey, great TED talk. Well done - loved it!

  • @mangomosaics
    @mangomosaics 3 года назад +4

    So we're in Lockdown lll, and I've decided to abstain from alcohol during Lent (as well as bread n crisps) It's very interesting to observe the reactions I'm getting from friends regarding this, particularly the incredulity during this time. It is acceptable and approved of to get hammered right now, drinking to forget our shared pain of not going out (to the pub) I find it fascinating to observe my own thinking of this socially acceptable addiction.
    Thank you for your talk. Cheers 😉

  • @jacquieyeung5811
    @jacquieyeung5811 4 года назад +6

    I love this talk, and I love Janey’s podcast. So positive.

  • @god5535
    @god5535 Год назад

    Love her strong voice! Really shines her personality. Probably anciliary effect of quitting alcohol. :)

  • @regularguyreviews3048
    @regularguyreviews3048 Год назад +1

    Next time find people who were true alcoholics, this lady never had an issue. I can say the same , how I stopped over eating and it changed my life, just to be clear I never had an over eating problem to began with !

  • @robertmcdonnell4106
    @robertmcdonnell4106 5 лет назад +5

    Thank you so much for this talk, which itself will talk to so many people! I hope it has the impact you are so clearly passionate about, and I join you in this! Catherine

  • @shannonrivera3362
    @shannonrivera3362 10 дней назад

    Thank you for talking about the spread of it all.

  • @TonyKeepingItClean
    @TonyKeepingItClean 3 года назад

    I've listened to Janey on the radio for years. she's excellent. I didn't realise she had a problem with the booze though. nice speech Janey, and very well done.

  • @deagonfrost7786
    @deagonfrost7786 Год назад +1

    03-29-2005 The day I was given the gift of sobriety, the gift that keeps on giving one day at a time.

  • @magnustorque5528
    @magnustorque5528 2 года назад

    That was so eloquent, so good, and so true. That talk could also apply to people that use marijuana. She's talking about the brightness returning to your life. The shine coming back. It does happen exactly in the way in which she describes it.

  • @HInc7647
    @HInc7647 3 года назад +8

    Woop - over 4 months alcohol free now 👍

  • @creatingactivelives1
    @creatingactivelives1 5 лет назад +3

    Could apply to any negative behaviour! Worth a watch.

    • @JaneyLeeGrace
      @JaneyLeeGrace 5 лет назад

      absolutely, I've created a course for ditching the booze, but you're right it applies to anything

  • @rollandjoeseph
    @rollandjoeseph 2 года назад +1

    All true and well said ..Especially the end !51 days a/f and loving my new life ! Congrats to all in the same family 😉👍

  • @fluorosco
    @fluorosco Год назад

    Miss You, Tim and Steve
    I'll always,s Love the show

  • @TheNachoDaddy
    @TheNachoDaddy 4 года назад +5

    Great speech and brilliant ending!!!

  • @philbluebird
    @philbluebird 5 лет назад +9

    Inspirational, amazingly presented!!

  • @mellowray561
    @mellowray561 3 года назад +4

    Instead of focusing on what you are giving up, think about what you are gaining.

  • @totolhossain9039
    @totolhossain9039 5 лет назад +14

    I wish you you will have millions views on this video.

  • @christyclery6084
    @christyclery6084 3 года назад

    Really enjoy the UK talks as it feels more personal being from East Anglia. Janey Lee Grace says it perfectly and i lovew the honest shares as they give me hope! Thank you!

  • @carolinelyons8965
    @carolinelyons8965 5 лет назад +11

    oh I just LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!!! Really Well Done absolutely brilliant!

  • @trix8678
    @trix8678 2 года назад +1

    Thanks so much for this! I need the encouragement.

  • @jimmycain8669
    @jimmycain8669 Год назад +1

    18 years sober here. 6 DWI convictions, beat around another 6, jail often, six treatments, and I can’t identify with this girl at all. Zero trouble with the law since I quit drinking except for one speeding ticket. It took total surrender for me not a pep talk from some girl that looks like she never had a drink or served a day in jail.

  • @donovanvaz3289
    @donovanvaz3289 Год назад

    I had been listening to the "grey area" Ted talk in the background whilst "working". Obviously it was on autoplay and suddenly this voice came on and I thought "I know that voice" and I tried to conjure the face of a famous actor/TV presenter, but my "grey area" fuddled brain wouldn't play ball. So I gave in and looked at the video details. OMG!! Janey Lee Grace of Steve Wright in the Afternoon on Radio 2 fame! Because of Lockdown, I rarely drive any more and so haven't listened to the radio in years. But her voice is obviously still ingrained in my sub conscious.
    It feels so reassuring to hear that someone as "successful" as JLG was behaving the same as me. Again it goes to her point that from the outside people think we're functioning. Only we know the truth on the inside. I do dry January every year and never have any problem completing it (I even go beyond to the 1st Saturday in February). But I always have the reward of being able to drink in February (especially as that's when the 6 Nations starts and I always go to the pub with mates to watch it). I always say to myself that I'll be a social drinker and won't drink at home on my own . . . .but then the inevitable happens and within a few days, I'm drinking every night again. The thing is that the more I drink at home on my own, the more I can drink in each session. So, 1 bottle of wine will progress to 1 bottle of wine and a beer, and then 1 bottle of wine and 2 beers and so on.
    I am watching these videos in the hope that they inspire me to stop - although I'll be honest the thought of never drinking again is a scary thought. I wish I could just be a social drinker.

  • @JVLIVSPhotography
    @JVLIVSPhotography 3 года назад

    I thoroughly enjoy watching this. This past year during the pandemic my alcohol consumption dropped, I had money in the bank, had some energy, and I have boxes of booze in my basement UNOPENED! Heck, most of the time I forget I even have it. It’s to the point where I’m practically giving my stash away. After this past quarter century of downing booze like water, it’s like I’m done!
    Last few times I had a drink, I had one or two sips, and that was it for me.

  • @susanb1394
    @susanb1394 4 года назад +2

    Thank you for posting this. Important information.

  • @unconditionalfreedom
    @unconditionalfreedom 3 года назад +1

    so true all of it re: no drugs including alcohol makes life sooooo much better

  • @amixedgoddess
    @amixedgoddess 3 года назад +1

    This is wonderful!! Thank you so much for this!!

  • @AimeeDenise_bct
    @AimeeDenise_bct 3 года назад

    So much respect 🙌 to you for sharing your story to help others heal. 🦋 It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose in telling my story of borderline death ☠️ and life implosion 🤯 to healing my brain and body to get my life back! Much luv! 🕉 You can heal!

  • @paulsheridan7408
    @paulsheridan7408 Месяц назад

    30 days without a drink, i’ve been a regular drinker for about 25 years. After the second week ive noticed I’m handling stress so much better as got a high pressure job. Everything is easier not being tired all the time, gonna keep going as long as possible \o/

  • @mellowray561
    @mellowray561 3 года назад

    Yesssss! Thank you for those last words Mizz Grace.

  • @Lisa-ef4cw
    @Lisa-ef4cw 9 месяцев назад

    Love The Unexpected Joy of being Sober!!

  • @north_star_yt
    @north_star_yt Год назад

    I’m gonna try that the next time the “beer witch” comes out lol❤ And yes, alcohol absolutely does still joy of the spirit!

  • @MA777AYLOR
    @MA777AYLOR 4 месяца назад +1

    I think I've spent so much time in the gutter(drunk), that sobriety is heaven. Alcohol addiction is the worse guys. Your dealer is on every corner. In every restaurant. moderation people.

  • @veronicabryant2646
    @veronicabryant2646 3 года назад +3

    Alcohol steals your joy, agreed!

  • @justinguy9793
    @justinguy9793 4 года назад +2

    Best Ted talk ever, awesome ending, well done Jamie x

  • @janisdobrin3729
    @janisdobrin3729 3 года назад

    She has done brilliant! so inspiring me to continue on my journey.

  • @bugajk25
    @bugajk25 10 месяцев назад

    For me it was a habit not an addiction! Still hard to give up but I’ve switched from beers to seltzer and 🤷🏻‍♀️ fine! It’s been 52 days first break I’ve ever taken in 23 years and I didn’t realize the benefits to giving it up! Biggest thing I’ve learned is that I’m not depressed I don’t have depression but I do when I drink

  • @karienpenderis
    @karienpenderis 3 месяца назад +1

    LOVE this❤. The time has come to face the wine witch x

    • @MrTavis1
      @MrTavis1 3 месяца назад

      How’s it going? Did you stop?

  • @camskea
    @camskea 7 месяцев назад +1

    It's not until you stop, or on the many attempts to stop, that you realise how ingrained in society alcohol is.
    15 days sober, this time.
    Feeling like this might actually be the attempt that works.

    • @MrTavis1
      @MrTavis1 3 месяца назад

      Still going sober?

    • @camskea
      @camskea 3 месяца назад

      @@MrTavis1 yeah mate, nearly 4 months now

  • @DrRichardPiper
    @DrRichardPiper 5 лет назад +3

    Fabulous Janey! Love this.

    • @JaneyLeeGrace
      @JaneyLeeGrace 5 лет назад

      thanks and for all the work you do with Alcohol Change UK

  • @maggielauder5971
    @maggielauder5971 Год назад

    Great video - I am supporting my Brother ( 49 ) going to stop drinking . I don’t drink and when I go out and socialise ‘ and every time I get asked - did I have a problem with drinking- no I just don’t like it and I don’t need alcohol. To me it’s a poison simple

  • @4444moore
    @4444moore 3 года назад

    Fantastic talk! Engaging speaker. Well done

  • @1776Based
    @1776Based 3 года назад +2

    Best ending EVER.

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee Год назад

    Amazing talk, thank you!

  • @ianmurphy1391
    @ianmurphy1391 7 месяцев назад

    All said and done,its all down to ourselves,the buck stops with us and the first step is admitting what we are,only then can we s4art to recover,good luck to all👍

  • @lesleyjackson19
    @lesleyjackson19 5 лет назад +1

    Excellent talk Janey. Nailed it.

  • @jessicaroberts835
    @jessicaroberts835 3 года назад +2

    I didn't want to get sober.
    I definitely needed to get sober.
    I was forced to AA or lose my daughter. I thought, "fine. Ill stop drinking long enough to move away. That was thirty years ago. Some of it has been wonderful and some has been....not so much wonderful. Isn't that life?
    Just because you don't drink today isn't a commitment to not drink next week.....or tomorrow . Find a way of sobriety that works for you. Relapse does not have to be a part of your story. But if you are HERE, maybe check out a way or two of sobriety. You can always drink later.

  • @blendboss9198
    @blendboss9198 4 дня назад

    im getting back on the sober path again, and i completely agree with all the comments on here. though i have a question. some say that people abuse alcohol. but its normal to drink. and if you are sober then people look at you as if your crazy or they make fun of you or tease. my question is, when is it a good time to drink? when and how much would be a healthy option? im just curious if the big corperations arejust serving us booze for a higheragenda to keep our mental health on the brink, and brain washing us.