I am in residential treatment for alcohol and mental health. Many residents ask WHY so many salads? WHY yoga? WHY mediation and art? WHY gardening and sewing, etc. This TED TALK explains the reasons why in such a simplistic and optimistic way. I am going to pass this link to others in my community. THANK YOU! 82 DAYS SOBER FOR ME TODAY!!! Looking forward to yoga tonight at 6pm :)
You are a strong woman! That takes strength and you are an inspiration to people who have drinking problems, who are alcoholics or even people who don't have issues with alcohol, just the fact that you overcame something tough in life is an inspiration to everyone. I'm not an alcoholic but you inspire me with your story to quit smoking. Congrats!
Healing in Reach, that's great. Best of luck. Andrew Hubermam, PhD has a very good podcast on RUclips and he did one on alcohol consumption not long ago that kinda blew me away. I haven't had a drink since Christmas day and I was drinking every day for years.
i can fully agree, After 40 years of regular and quite heavy drinking, i just decided for no particular reason - enough of that- 12 years ago and still on the wagon. That was it as simple as that.
Like so many people in the comments... she has perfectly described where so many people find themselves. I am one of them, first week for me, but determined to make this work. 🙏🏻
Love this , I am 1005 days without alcohol, I didn't quit when I was rock bottom, I quit when I was flying high with health, it was the last thing to go :)
How did you do it?! Struggling with the battle of choosing to drink or not to drink daily. I have a good job, incredible family support behind sobriety but I cant seem to shake the alcohol... any tips or subtle things you did to help?
1677 days for me - this is the closest description of what I experienced that I have ever heard. I did have a BIG moment some may call rock bottom but it was not jail or anything like that. It was a spiritual rock bottom and THAT changed my life!
Super engaging and informative. Jolene cuts through the cutesy "mommy juice" wine culture to address the gray area of drinking. I loved this because I understand exactly what she means. Thank you.
Grateful for the opportunity to see this 🙏💯💪.. I'm 32 months sober now and looking forward to the rest of my life sober. ( Very informative and interesting )
I really relate to this. The next time my sister-in-law asks me to explain to her why I quit drinking, yet again, I'm going to direct her to this video. LOL! Coming up on 22 months for me.
I suspect she's in the grey zone, and wants to give up too, but can't remember how to explain it to her husband. Maybe your brother needs to watch it as well so he does support her changed lifestyle by taking her to the beach or forests.
Omg! Jolene just described exactly my situation and the reasons why I stopped drinking 1.5 years ago! I intuitively started meditating, chanting, and doing yoga, but never thought of it from the point of neurotransmitters! Great encouraging message! There is so much beauty in being fully sober! It brings purity to so many aspects of life! Thank you!
Love this as well. I didn't quit drinking because I was at rock bottom, either. I just didn't like the trend line I was seeing in my life. The biggest benefit, among many: the quality of my sleep is so much better!
Another benefit. When I got sober, I was already a few years into menopause. During my drinking years, I also was exercising a lot and that offset the calories a lot. However since I stopped drinking, I probably have saved thousands of empty calories which lead to weight gain, especially in post menopausal women.
Gray area drinker here. Age 71. Your story is so much like mine. I was a health care worker as well. I eat well and exercise regularly but drink too much too often. My 38 year old son passed away 2 years ago and the fall out from that has made reining in the drinking that much harder but to be honest I had a problem with liquor prior to Matt's death. I think I'm at a crossroads right now. Time to get serious about this before it's too late. Thank you. Great presentation.
I want to send you my deepest condolences. A parent having to bury their child is too much. My heart goes out to you. I pray we all see our loved ones again soon. We can get healthy and your not alone.
To all of you working on getting sober, I am so proud of you. I grew up with an alcoholic parent and it's hard. I wish you all the best, you can't change anything you don't acknowledge so making this choice for yourself is all the different verses you being forced to give up drinking when you really don't want to. Be kind to yourself, it's progress and not about perfection. You are not a bad person, the addiction is the bad guy and you can and will break free if you trust yourself, your mind and your body. Whatever it takes, everyday is a progress. Even if there's bumps along the way you are not a failure just keep pushing forward. You've got this. I can see things from a dual perspective and I've seen how someone can hit rock bottom grasping for their life at a single strand perhaps thinner than a string on a spider web. That was my father. The illness affected the entire family and even at 39 years old, I can see how it affected me as a child all the way up until now. It's all in my subconscious mind when certain things happen that bring me back to memories that haven't thought about in years. There's help and support in so many different paths and you just have to find the one that works for you. Be kind to yourself, as humans we are resilient and take advantage of that before it's too late whether it's affecting your family, your job, your life, your health. Do not let this become the reason you are on your Deathbed one day. The the body and mind are amazing at healing themselves or repairing themselves. The 10 steps with alcohol anonymous can be applied to anything in life whether you are spiritual, religious or whatever. Fill in the wording to suit you. The 10 steps can even help people with stopping smoking or binge eating, anything. Put on your seatbelt it's going to be a ride but the destination is worth it and you will think yourself for doing it sooner and not later. Perhaps you will ask yourself why you haven't done it sooner. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself and you may be scared of what life will be like without alcohol but the gaps that you are uncertain of, how living life without alcohol will be enjoyable, they will definitely fill in with the better version of you. You have made the decision and that is a big percentage of your recovery. Keep a journal, make voice recordings to yourself from yourself, make a video of you talking just to you and save it like a video diary. When you know that drinking alcohol is not adding anything worthwhile to your life, even if it seems like it at the moment, you have nothing to lose. Don't be afraid of life without alcohol, like I said newer and better things will fall into place to fill those voids. You can look it up, each and every one of us, the chances of us even existing or being born is one in 400 trillion. You are here for a reason stronger than you will ever know. I'm sorry to anyone who is reading this, has gotten to the point where it's become a problem. But on the bright side, every problem has a solution and this one is pretty self-explanatory.
It was awesome! I am 4 years sober and counting. I always considered myself more of an "emotional" drinker. After something tragic or too hard for me to deal with is when I would start drinking, I have seen a few therapists in my lifetime. But, there was one that I only got to see once, she was transferred, she was great and made me feel comfortable enough to get on anxiety medication and start meditation. I have been sober ever since I just stop never thought about it again. Thank you.
I hope Ms. Jolene Park will know how grateful I am for her "talk". Because of how alcohol has killed my twin sister and two of my friends, I felt the need to dismiss consuming alcohol myself because of the tragedies in my life. But there are times when I crave for a beer to get a buzz, only to regret it later. This is the first time for me to hear about neurotransmitters and how to boost them and living a better and healthier lifestyle. I have always been a believer and user of natural remedies and I would rarely consider taking pharmaceuticals as a remedy for me or for anyone I cared about. I am sharing this video on my FB post and emailing it to my church small group as some of us struggle with drinking but would like to stop. Thank you a million for sharing your knowledge with the world! Hope is just a TedTalk away!! God bless always!
Excellent. Pragmatic. It is a breath of fresh air to hear that you simply want to get healthy! NOT that you are a desperate drunk. Gray area is a difficult beast, probably more difficult than rock bottom. Not all people seem to be able to rely on catastrophe to change behavior. MINDFUL decisions. I love that.
Brilliant talk. I quit alcohol around 3 months ago and although I was a 'grey drinker' like Jolene, and would waste my weekends with the bottle or two of wine and then the two day hangover (in my 40s!!). Over the three months I have felt the changes in my body as I readjust neurologically around sleep, anxiety, moods and digestion. I also had a big life change to deal with, but we all have stuff going on, so it may or may not have made a difference to the process. Some days I would bounce out of bed and some days I would crawl. Some days depressed and some days elated, just average human moods and I could function normally, but they would colour my day. Over time, things are levelling out and I am becoming more consistently happy, focused and calm, not the grouch I could often be. It is wonderful to have this short and clear explanation of what is happening and what to do to about it. I was doing all of those things, but knowing that they actually do make a difference rather than just guessing that it might work is really motivating. It works and now I know why. Thanks Jolene :)
I quit eight years and four months ago. I had cut back gradually for the two years before I quit. I didn’t have a physical dependence, I never got in trouble with the law, never drove drunk, never went to work drunk. However I gradually became emotionally dependent on my wine ( beer, occasional scotch) a bit too much. I think millions of people fall into this grey area drinking. I know I did.
After listening to your video on how to give up alcohol, I was encouraged by your talk, where I know that I have to give up alcohol as it's getting out of control.
I love this talk. Awesome context about the neurotransmitters. "Creating an internal zone of resistance" is something I have been actively focused on the past two years. I have been unemployed for much of this period and never felt happier because i have been NOURISH-ing 🙂 I am working on building my own business. I do still struggle with grey area drinking and have been more and more vocal with friends and family about my desire to quit drinking for good. I think it is an unconscious attempt to make sure I have the support when I finally get it right. The longest I managed to quit was 6 weeks, a year ago.
okay, I think I'm gonna do it. I'm 21 and I'm exactly what she's talking about and it's been that way for years. I'm ready to make a change. I hope I can make it..
Thank you for this video! I'm in the struggle part of wanting to be done with wine. Stop for 3 days to 4 weeks but then go back. I love these ways to work my way out by using healthy practices.
I dont like AA either, I feel it depressing, some just talk about their great stupidities while drinking, but if not, I think it's something great to be with others who don't drink and can relate.
So much respect 🙌 to you for sharing your story to help others heal. 🦋 It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose in telling my story of borderline death ☠️ and life implosion 🤯 to healing my brain and body to get my life back! Much luv! 🕉 You can heal!
Im 31 and Ive had many rock bottom moments but today and this year is not one of them. Im starting my sobriety journey because i want to enjoy life without sickness and temptations from alcohol. I started drinking at 14 and my parents are not to blame. Today im not a heavy drinker but i feel bad when i do over drink, last night was one of those nights.. I dont want to regret not stopping sooner before i hit another rock bottom. I drink 2 beers regularly but never get anything done on my to do list. Once a week usually on my day off ill drink 8 beers. Nothing concerning but some can relate that alcohol is used to relax the mind and body but it does not help me to meet my yearly goals. Im taking control of my future.....
One thing at a time. Dont overwork your self, find something even a walk that relax you and you enjoy...try to disminuish your drinks first instead of drinking too much once in a while, then try to give more space beetween drinking.
Love this, Jolene. Thank you so much. I needed so much to hear this. I stopped drinking but I am feeling very unmotivated and tired. I told my husband I needed more walks in nature about a month ago but never started. Now's the time. :) I have been doing yoga intermittently as well as meditation and it is certainly helpful.
Gray area drinking seems to exist and telling people that 2 a day is fine gives them an excuse to drink. Anxiety is such a tricky thing. Any company that sells an addictive substance needs to donate a % to the rehab programs in each state. Rehabs have waiting lists or people do not have the insurance to even get on the lists.
I woke up one morning to the sound of my mother yelling for me. I ran downstairs to see my father dead in the living room with a pool of blood coming out of his mouth. He was a severe alcoholic that we tried to help any way we could. I then drank alcohol myself to suppress my PTSD. A few weeks later I had a profound dream of my father and I sitting in his truck. At some point I realized he was dead and that I’m dreaming. He then looked at me and smiled. I said “oh my god I love you and I miss you so much.” Then I woke up. It was so overwhelming I started crying. I still don’t quite get what happened, but I will always remember that dream. To rationalize this I thought of it as him saying “it’s okay.. I’m okay” It was an amazing and relieving experience.
Look for the similarities not the differences. If you want to be sober and this works for you GREAT!!! I've been sober 40 years this month. I had no desire to get sober, but I really needed to be sober. AA has worked for me, even though I am not a joiner nor am I religious. Do whatever works. Keep going until you find what works; this, church, TSM, church, AA... Relapse doesn't have to be a part of your story. I didn't want to get sober, yet it is not a part of my story. If AA, for instance, is not working like you want it to work you can try the next thing before you try a drink.
I found the video that I have been seeking to motivate me to stop drinking. I am a grey area drinker. Each day l battle in the car whether l need to drive home after a long day or after a long day stop at the liquor store. I am going to fight to make this decision to choose to be a better me
Definitely resonates with me. 7 days in when I saw this video . It helps we have a alcohol ban in RSA but I'm worried about when it's lifted. Hope I can re main strong.
Im in grey area, i make my own wine, i look healthy and younger than i am. I am not as healthy as i look. I drink alone to relieve anxiety or boredom, retired to get through the day, without intoxication because of adaptation. I am a careful but excessive drinker and try to offset it with good nutrition and exercise. Im afrai d to quit completely due to a heart condition. Surprising i am goint to try 3 days on and 3 days off...its amazing how little withdrwal i feel on this first day. You quit smoking worst is over in 3 days, alcohol it just builds the withdrwal...so its tough. One simple hint. Take a warm bath and stay in for as long as you feel good. Its soothing effect must be gaba.
This is my 6th month of sobriety from alcohol, and 4 months without weed. It’s been hard, but I have educated myself to the point I will never go back to either. I understand now…
After 2.5 years of daily meditating I naturally stopped drinking. I want to live and feel life completely and its awesome. One of the things that I say to clients is: You Can Pick Your Rock Bottom. Cheers!
It could take decades to hit rock bottom . As a nutritionist you have an interesting View on alcoholism . I wouldn't rule out psychological impact on physiological changes in the brain . I do think nutrition has role . Intriguing TED Talks thanks .
Hi Jolene. I loved your Talk on great area drinking. And love the idea of nourishing your nervous system. Do you have more information on this or have you written a book?
I just clicked on this because of her beautiful outfit. I don’t drink anymore and I am proud to say that I don’t crave it either but it’s just been replaced by other addictions.
And now get this to the clinics over the world. I’m sober for a year now. I have been to a clinic twice in my life. 13 years ago and last year, but they don’t know about the grey area… (Or maybe don’t want to know about it). I’am very fine not drinking anymore. I love bekng sober and have a lot more connection with myself and the world. Even the negative feelings, those also make me feel alive. but i didn’t had any training in both clinics how to give myself this kind of Nourish-ment… The clinics don’t select with a “Grey-Area, actually your always a alcoholic when your there for a intake-appointment. That’s actually there best argument!!!! (Could it be a business-model? Ofcourse it is). Last year i got more and more stress and feeling worse every now and then. I can handle it, but i do in many times live against the edge of what i can handle. However, i will not drink. I don’t and never had/ have any cravings. I love life sober. Now i really know for sure NOURISH is going to help me now to get to the best point in my life again. It must be the last straw i needed to get healthy again. Thank you in forward Jolene🫶🏼
Alcohol Free for over two years thanks for Craig Beck (The Stop Drinking Expert on youtube), Annie Grace and William Porter. Their videos on youtube helped me and are the reason I was finally able to quit drinking.
been a gray area drinker for a while.. but after transitioning into my vegan lifestyle a few months ago, i can honestly say that i have been drinking considerably less and less without even meaning to and i can almost fully attribute this natural occurrence to eating radically better than i ever did when i was consuming baby cow growth formula, chicken periods, and animal flesh. i think i'm just about turned off from self inducing liquid poison now, too.
I'm in the grey area..my drinking habits don't fit anything..I drink..I don't drink..mostly Winter and boredom in missouri USA..the weather and sunshine plays a role
I am in residential treatment for alcohol and mental health. Many residents ask WHY so many salads? WHY yoga? WHY mediation and art? WHY gardening and sewing, etc. This TED TALK explains the reasons why in such a simplistic and optimistic way. I am going to pass this link to others in my community. THANK YOU! 82 DAYS SOBER FOR ME TODAY!!! Looking forward to yoga tonight at 6pm :)
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You are a strong woman! That takes strength and you are an inspiration to people who have drinking problems, who are alcoholics or even people who don't have issues with alcohol, just the fact that you overcame something tough in life is an inspiration to everyone. I'm not an alcoholic but you inspire me with your story to quit smoking. Congrats!
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I am three weeks sober. I feel encouraged by all the amazing changes i feel and that i am living.
Woohoo!
Healing in Reach, that's great. Best of luck. Andrew Hubermam, PhD has a very good podcast on RUclips and he did one on alcohol consumption not long ago that kinda blew me away. I haven't had a drink since Christmas day and I was drinking every day for years.
i can fully agree, After 40 years of regular and quite heavy drinking, i just decided for no particular reason - enough of that- 12 years ago and still on the wagon. That was it as simple as that.
Your story is similar to mine. But I got sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm two 15 days sober, not because rock bottom, because I want to live better..🎉
Like so many people in the comments... she has perfectly described where so many people find themselves. I am one of them, first week for me, but determined to make this work. 🙏🏻
More power to you!
Love this , I am 1005 days without alcohol, I didn't quit when I was rock bottom, I quit when I was flying high with health, it was the last thing to go :)
Lady Wadey 1134 days. Yea for us
I discovered your video on Monas Miracle Fix - there's lots useful videos there that should help out
Still obsessed enough to count the days, though. Let it go.
How did you do it?! Struggling with the battle of choosing to drink or not to drink daily. I have a good job, incredible family support behind sobriety but I cant seem to shake the alcohol... any tips or subtle things you did to help?
@@DaBrewCrew22 12 step program.
1677 days for me - this is the closest description of what I experienced that I have ever heard. I did have a BIG moment some may call rock bottom but it was not jail or anything like that. It was a spiritual rock bottom and THAT changed my life!
Super engaging and informative. Jolene cuts through the cutesy "mommy juice" wine culture to address the gray area of drinking. I loved this because I understand exactly what she means. Thank you.
Well put!
Today is my 1st day of sobriety
How are you making out?
Mine too!!!
Keep going you are entering a wonderful word a world without booze.
Update please
charlotte d today is my 1st day of sobriety. I won’t give up. Ever!
Grateful for the opportunity to see this 🙏💯💪.. I'm 32 months sober now and looking forward to the rest of my life sober. ( Very informative and interesting )
I really relate to this. The next time my sister-in-law asks me to explain to her why I quit drinking, yet again, I'm going to direct her to this video. LOL! Coming up on 22 months for me.
I suspect she's in the grey zone, and wants to give up too, but can't remember how to explain it to her husband.
Maybe your brother needs to watch it as well so he does support her changed lifestyle by taking her to the beach or forests.
Hope you're still going strong!
@@ricardogarcia2972 Thank you. I am! Now almost 4.5 years AF 😃
Lol!
Omg! Jolene just described exactly my situation and the reasons why I stopped drinking 1.5 years ago! I intuitively started meditating, chanting, and doing yoga, but never thought of it from the point of neurotransmitters! Great encouraging message! There is so much beauty in being fully sober! It brings purity to so many aspects of life! Thank you!
Anastasia Bashuk I was called a High bottom drunk. Lol. I have over 3 years. I saw my chronic parents and thought that's not Me!! Well it was,,😂 ♥
Anastasia Bashuk see my post above.
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Yoga helped me a lot.
Love this as well. I didn't quit drinking because I was at rock bottom, either. I just didn't like the trend line I was seeing in my life. The biggest benefit, among many: the quality of my sleep is so much better!
Another benefit. When I got sober, I was already a few years into menopause. During my drinking years, I also was exercising a lot and that offset the calories a lot. However since I stopped drinking, I probably have saved thousands of empty calories which lead to weight gain, especially in post menopausal women.
Yes most definitely agree,I’m one month al alcohol free and my sleep is much better.
@@karenkaren3189 Yes, and drinking causes hot flashes too - so uncomfortable!
Gray area drinker here. Age 71. Your story is so much like mine. I was a health care worker as well. I eat well and exercise regularly but drink too much too often. My 38 year old son passed away 2 years ago and the fall out from that has made reining in the drinking that much harder but to be honest I had a problem with liquor prior to Matt's death. I think I'm at a crossroads right now. Time to get serious about this before it's too late. Thank you. Great presentation.
I want to send you my deepest condolences. A parent having to bury their child is too much. My heart goes out to you. I pray we all see our loved ones again soon. We can get healthy and your not alone.
@@amixedgoddess thank you
so sorry to hear your tragedy ! May Jesus spare everyone from standing by their offsprings' grave ! Amen . from Nepal
@@devendrakaranjit8151 thank you.
Hoping you are well.
To all of you working on getting sober, I am so proud of you. I grew up with an alcoholic parent and it's hard. I wish you all the best, you can't change anything you don't acknowledge so making this choice for yourself is all the different verses you being forced to give up drinking when you really don't want to. Be kind to yourself, it's progress and not about perfection. You are not a bad person, the addiction is the bad guy and you can and will break free if you trust yourself, your mind and your body. Whatever it takes, everyday is a progress. Even if there's bumps along the way you are not a failure just keep pushing forward. You've got this. I can see things from a dual perspective and I've seen how someone can hit rock bottom grasping for their life at a single strand perhaps thinner than a string on a spider web. That was my father. The illness affected the entire family and even at 39 years old, I can see how it affected me as a child all the way up until now. It's all in my subconscious mind when certain things happen that bring me back to memories that haven't thought about in years. There's help and support in so many different paths and you just have to find the one that works for you. Be kind to yourself, as humans we are resilient and take advantage of that before it's too late whether it's affecting your family, your job, your life, your health. Do not let this become the reason you are on your Deathbed one day. The the body and mind are amazing at healing themselves or repairing themselves. The 10 steps with alcohol anonymous can be applied to anything in life whether you are spiritual, religious or whatever. Fill in the wording to suit you. The 10 steps can even help people with stopping smoking or binge eating, anything. Put on your seatbelt it's going to be a ride but the destination is worth it and you will think yourself for doing it sooner and not later. Perhaps you will ask yourself why you haven't done it sooner. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself and you may be scared of what life will be like without alcohol but the gaps that you are uncertain of, how living life without alcohol will be enjoyable, they will definitely fill in with the better version of you. You have made the decision and that is a big percentage of your recovery. Keep a journal, make voice recordings to yourself from yourself, make a video of you talking just to you and save it like a video diary. When you know that drinking alcohol is not adding anything worthwhile to your life, even if it seems like it at the moment, you have nothing to lose. Don't be afraid of life without alcohol, like I said newer and better things will fall into place to fill those voids. You can look it up, each and every one of us, the chances of us even existing or being born is one in 400 trillion. You are here for a reason stronger than you will ever know. I'm sorry to anyone who is reading this, has gotten to the point where it's become a problem. But on the bright side, every problem has a solution and this one is pretty self-explanatory.
Maybe don't go it alone! Almost every town has AA and you can use out of their litany what works for you. Best of will power and success!
I’m 23 and ready to make the leap. This talk is so inspiring!
How are you going? :)
@@katrinamareen still going strong, thanks for asking :)
Can't wait.
The twenties are the last decade to change bad habits easily.
25 and 11 days in. we got this
It was awesome! I am 4 years sober and counting. I always considered myself more of an "emotional" drinker. After something tragic or too hard for me to deal with is when I would start drinking, I have seen a few therapists in my lifetime. But, there was one that I only got to see once, she was transferred, she was great and made me feel comfortable enough to get on anxiety medication and start meditation. I have been sober ever since I just stop never thought about it again. Thank you.
I am a gray area alcoholic! Thank you for sharing!!!! I have has 24 hrs sober.
This reminds me of goodwill hunting. Robin Williams telling Matt Damon it's not your fault so many times they cry together, so inspirational
I hope Ms. Jolene Park will know how grateful I am for her "talk". Because of how alcohol has killed my twin sister and two of my friends, I felt the need to dismiss consuming alcohol myself because of the tragedies in my life. But there are times when I crave for a beer to get a buzz, only to regret it later. This is the first time for me to hear about neurotransmitters and how to boost them and living a better and healthier lifestyle. I have always been a believer and user of natural remedies and I would rarely consider taking pharmaceuticals as a remedy for me or for anyone I cared about. I am sharing this video on my FB post and emailing it to my church small group as some of us struggle with drinking but would like to stop. Thank you a million for sharing your knowledge with the world! Hope is just a TedTalk away!! God bless always!
One of the smartest and most relevant TED talks I have ever seen. Well done. 👏👏👏👏
Agreed!
Excellent. Pragmatic. It is a breath of fresh air to hear that you simply want to get healthy! NOT that you are a desperate drunk. Gray area is a difficult beast, probably more difficult than rock bottom. Not all people seem to be able to rely on catastrophe to change behavior. MINDFUL decisions. I love that.
Brilliant talk. I quit alcohol around 3 months ago and although I was a 'grey drinker' like Jolene, and would waste my weekends with the bottle or two of wine and then the two day hangover (in my 40s!!). Over the three months I have felt the changes in my body as I readjust neurologically around sleep, anxiety, moods and digestion. I also had a big life change to deal with, but we all have stuff going on, so it may or may not have made a difference to the process. Some days I would bounce out of bed and some days I would crawl. Some days depressed and some days elated, just average human moods and I could function normally, but they would colour my day. Over time, things are levelling out and I am becoming more consistently happy, focused and calm, not the grouch I could often be. It is wonderful to have this short and clear explanation of what is happening and what to do to about it. I was doing all of those things, but knowing that they actually do make a difference rather than just guessing that it might work is really motivating. It works and now I know why. Thanks Jolene :)
You got this!
I am 64 now and glad that I stopped drinking 8+ years ago. Sleep better and has helped me keep my weight down.
142 days of sobriety for me...thank you for sharing your experience.
Just what I needed to confirm what I had been dwelling on for months! Thank you!!!!
This may be of great value, particularly to those who abuse alcohol but are NOT truly alcoholics.
I quit eight years and four months ago. I had cut back gradually for the two years before I quit. I didn’t have a physical dependence, I never got in trouble with the law, never drove drunk, never went to work drunk. However I gradually became emotionally dependent on my wine ( beer, occasional scotch) a bit too much.
I think millions of people fall into this grey area drinking. I know I did.
After listening to your video on how to give up alcohol, I was encouraged by your talk, where I know that I have to give up alcohol as it's getting out of control.
Best perspective on drinking I’ve ever come accross.
Thank you being specific about the nervous system. It was a spot on explanation that hit home!
I love this talk.
Awesome context about the neurotransmitters.
"Creating an internal zone of resistance" is something I have been actively focused on the past two years.
I have been unemployed for much of this period and never felt happier because i have been NOURISH-ing 🙂
I am working on building my own business.
I do still struggle with grey area drinking and have been more and more vocal with friends and family about my desire to quit drinking for good.
I think it is an unconscious attempt to make sure I have the support when I finally get it right.
The longest I managed to quit was 6 weeks, a year ago.
Yes. Yes. Yes! Finally someone! Thank you. I have said all this but unable to cross the barrier of speech! You said it perfectly!
Best Ted talk I've ever listened to.
Amazing talk! She really touches a subject not often talked about, but oh so real...
such an important message--high-functioning drinkers have such a harder time, I think. Thank you!
Wow! I’m going to watch this video again and again. Thank you so much for posting!
Wow. Sis just changed my life.
Omg this is so relatable!!! The grey area ..... now I know where I was!
Thank you. This video was awesome and inspiring. I can so relate. Time to get off the merry go round 🙏
The TEDx talk on the Sinclair Method is quite remarkable on tapering away from alcohol slowly (>3 million views)
okay, I think I'm gonna do it. I'm 21 and I'm exactly what she's talking about and it's been that way for years. I'm ready to make a change. I hope I can make it..
really clear helpful advice whether you have been a drinker or not. Thank you
Thank you. I needed this. It was a difficult first week but i made it.
Congrats. I am on the 22nd day
how you guys doing? you're never alone in suffering.
Thank you for this video! I'm in the struggle part of wanting to be done with wine. Stop for 3 days to 4 weeks but then go back. I love these ways to work my way out by using healthy practices.
wow! we relate. how r u doing?
Excellent message that is so important. Thank you for sharing and helping spread awareness and power.
3:15--I'm thankful that I do talk to others about it. I go to AA even if I don't think I belong there, and I talk to my family about it.
I dont like AA either, I feel it depressing, some just talk about their great stupidities while drinking, but if not, I think it's something great to be with others who don't drink and can relate.
Finally. This was so incredibly informative. Thank you.
Great talk Jolene! Simple, actionable information here.
7 days in. Feeling ok
Good for you! Don't give up!🙏
This is a truth for me. I am relieved to here this.
I feel like this is a message that God wanted us to hear.
So much respect 🙌 to you for sharing your story to help others heal. 🦋 It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose in telling my story of borderline death ☠️ and life implosion 🤯 to healing my brain and body to get my life back! Much luv! 🕉 You can heal!
Im 31 and Ive had many rock bottom moments but today and this year is not one of them. Im starting my sobriety journey because i want to enjoy life without sickness and temptations from alcohol. I started drinking at 14 and my parents are not to blame. Today im not a heavy drinker but i feel bad when i do over drink, last night was one of those nights.. I dont want to regret not stopping sooner before i hit another rock bottom. I drink 2 beers regularly but never get anything done on my to do list. Once a week usually on my day off ill drink 8 beers. Nothing concerning but some can relate that alcohol is used to relax the mind and body but it does not help me to meet my yearly goals. Im taking control of my future.....
One thing at a time. Dont overwork your self, find something even a walk that relax you and you enjoy...try to disminuish your drinks first instead of drinking too much once in a while, then try to give more space beetween drinking.
Love this, Jolene. Thank you so much. I needed so much to hear this. I stopped drinking but I am feeling very unmotivated and tired. I told my husband I needed more walks in nature about a month ago but never started. Now's the time. :) I have been doing yoga intermittently as well as meditation and it is certainly helpful.
Your energy will come back. And probably a bit of exercice or walking into nature or doing something you like will help.
If not, talk to your doctor about it.
This talk so resonated with me. Thank you for sharing your story.
I’m totally a gray area drinker. I definitely relate to all this!
The Sinclair Method stopped my alcohol use almost immediately
Gray area drinking seems to exist and telling people that 2 a day is fine gives them an excuse to drink. Anxiety is such a tricky thing. Any company that sells an addictive substance needs to donate a % to the rehab programs in each state. Rehabs have waiting lists or people do not have the insurance to even get on the lists.
Thank you so much for explaining this so clearly, wonderful job and information!
I woke up one morning to the sound of my mother yelling for me. I ran downstairs to see my father dead in the living room with a pool of blood coming out of his mouth. He was a severe alcoholic that we tried to help any way we could. I then drank alcohol myself to suppress my PTSD. A few weeks later I had a profound dream of my father and I sitting in his truck. At some point I realized he was dead and that I’m dreaming. He then looked at me and smiled. I said “oh my god I love you and I miss you so much.” Then I woke up. It was so overwhelming I started crying. I still don’t quite get what happened, but I will always remember that dream. To rationalize this I thought of it as him saying “it’s okay.. I’m okay” It was an amazing and relieving experience.
Look for the similarities not the differences.
If you want to be sober and this works for you GREAT!!!
I've been sober 40 years this month. I had no desire to get sober, but I really needed to be sober. AA has worked for me, even though I am not a joiner nor am I religious.
Do whatever works. Keep going until you find what works; this, church, TSM, church, AA...
Relapse doesn't have to be a part of your story. I didn't want to get sober, yet it is not a part of my story. If AA, for instance, is not working like you want it to work you can try the next thing before you try a drink.
I found the video that I have been seeking to motivate me to stop drinking. I am a grey area drinker. Each day l battle in the car whether l need to drive home after a long day or after a long day stop at the liquor store. I am going to fight to make this decision to choose to be a better me
Wonderful talk. I love how actionable it is!
Love this... Just Awesome, Thank you so much Jolene Park for sharing your honest and inspirational story!! ;>)
Definitely resonates with me.
7 days in when I saw this video . It helps we have a alcohol ban in RSA but I'm worried about when it's lifted.
Hope I can re main strong.
I’m ready for a life without alcohol. Committed to going alcohol free for the summer. 3 weeks down feeling great.
Somewhere I quit drinking while I was having fun and started drinking to have fun. Then, at some point it wasn’t fun anymore.
Some great content here, love it so far!
Thank you for the good and relevant information.
Thank you, I needed to hear this.
Im in grey area, i make my own wine, i look healthy and younger than i am. I am not as healthy as i look. I drink alone to relieve anxiety or boredom, retired to get through the day, without intoxication because of adaptation. I am a careful but excessive drinker and try to offset it with good nutrition and exercise. Im afrai d to quit completely due to a heart condition. Surprising i am goint to try 3 days on and 3 days off...its amazing how little withdrwal i feel on this first day. You quit smoking worst is over in 3 days, alcohol it just builds the withdrwal...so its tough. One simple hint. Take a warm bath and stay in for as long as you feel good. Its soothing effect must be gaba.
Best one I've seen yet thank you
This is my 6th month of sobriety from alcohol, and 4 months without weed. It’s been hard, but I have educated myself to the point I will never go back to either. I understand now…
After 2.5 years of daily meditating I naturally stopped drinking. I want to live and feel life completely and its awesome. One of the things that I say to clients is: You Can Pick Your Rock Bottom. Cheers!
Very great video. I heard about "Nourish" for first time. Thanks! :)
It could take decades to hit rock bottom . As a nutritionist you have an interesting View on alcoholism . I wouldn't rule out psychological impact on physiological changes in the brain . I do think nutrition has role . Intriguing TED Talks thanks .
People that have heavy drinking for long years often have vitamins (B-complex and D vitamins) needs to ensure.
Absolutely incredible talk ......
I needed to watch this
Alcoholism is the slowest form of suicide...like Maude says..LIVE...L..I..V..E...!!!
Very good and informative speech!
One day, never having drunk much alcohol, I just said "Never again!". That was almost a year ago! I no longer drink alcohol.
Excellent advice especially for the functional alcoholic!
WONDERFUL!! Thank you!!
Excellent talk.
Hi Jolene. I loved your Talk on great area drinking. And love the idea of nourishing your nervous system. Do you have more information on this or have you written a book?
Wow! She describes my relationship with wine. Time for a change beyond diet and exercise.
I am also an addict. I am doing my best to become sober
I just clicked on this because of her beautiful outfit. I don’t drink anymore and I am proud to say that I don’t crave it either but it’s just been replaced by other addictions.
And now get this to the clinics over the world. I’m sober for a year now. I have been to a clinic twice in my life. 13 years ago and last year, but they don’t know about the grey area… (Or maybe don’t want to know about it).
I’am very fine not drinking anymore. I love bekng sober and have a lot more connection with myself and the world. Even the negative feelings, those also make me feel alive.
but i didn’t had any training in
both clinics how to give myself this kind of Nourish-ment… The clinics don’t select with a “Grey-Area, actually your always a alcoholic when your there for a intake-appointment. That’s actually there best argument!!!! (Could it be a business-model? Ofcourse it is).
Last year i got more and more stress and feeling worse every now and then. I can handle it, but i do in many times live against the edge of what i can handle. However, i will not drink. I don’t and never had/ have any cravings. I love life sober.
Now i really know for sure NOURISH is going to help me now to get to the best point in my life again. It must be the last straw i needed to get healthy again. Thank you in forward Jolene🫶🏼
Alcohol Free for over two years thanks for Craig Beck (The Stop Drinking Expert on youtube), Annie Grace and William Porter. Their videos on youtube helped me and are the reason I was finally able to quit drinking.
AA folks it’s great!
So helpful. Thank you!
I have been in the sychward 12 times now I thank joycemeyrs for my 2. Months of sobriety
This video is Awesome
Outstanding !
i'm not agreeing so much but i'm respectful so im hitting like
been a gray area drinker for a while.. but after transitioning into my vegan lifestyle a few months ago, i can honestly say that i have been drinking considerably less and less without even meaning to and i can almost fully attribute this natural occurrence to eating radically better than i ever did when i was consuming baby cow growth formula, chicken periods, and animal flesh. i think i'm just about turned off from self inducing liquid poison now, too.
Wow lol day made by chicken periods. I cant stop laughing 😂
My yoga practice helped me a lot. I realized that drinking too much was making me less steady, and I wanted to be healthy. Eight plus years sober.
Many heavy drinkers are missing a lot of vitamins, especially D and B-complex
awesome explanation
Started drinking heavily at 15. Now 22. Let’s see where this journey goes. Someone drop me a comment in a few months and I can see where I am then.
So where are you now?
I'm in the grey area..my drinking habits don't fit anything..I drink..I don't drink..mostly Winter and boredom in missouri USA..the weather and sunshine plays a role
Four months today.
Struggle with this and the first time hearing a name for it