Oh my days. I do not know where to start. A lot I shared this day, I’ve never really shared on any public platform because I wasn’t comfortable (not even on my platforms) so a huge thank you Mpho & Caiah for creating such a warm space for, not just me, but so many others as well. This was such a necessary conversation and I am truly blessed and grateful to have been a part of it. Late to the party because my body was glitching a bit last week lmfao but ahh this was worth the wait ♥️♥️
I think Caiah and Mpho don't understand how much we need them everyday 😭❤. It's already painful to spend six days without a new episode, so when more days are added that's an emotional damage on it's own😔💔. This is a safe space for some of us 😭🫂❤, we get healing at some point and we become better versions of ourselves 🥺❤. Can we just have an episode every week 🥺❤ some of us we get to be happy and forget about how difficult this life is by just listening to you🥺❤ You guys have a huge impact in our lives 🫂🫂❤ and you are highly appreciated for that😭❤. We love you guys a lot😫❤
My childhood trauma is the need for academic validation. When i was in primary my father would pressure me so much and nothing was ever good enough for him . I was constantly compared with other learners .Right now i feed off academic validation, no mark is ever good enough for me . I cry at getting a missed distinction and it feels like my world is over😢
Im here as someone who never comments on RUclips vidoes. Theres no way i was gonna let this episode go by without me saying Caiah & Mpho? Thank you for creating this space for us. It is so beautiful to tap into different facets of myself weekly catalyzed by you ladies. I am truly humbled at how God is using you both as vessels for healing our generation. What a beautiful podcast. Thank you so much ❤️
Coffeenomilk when it came to traumas she just described me, this is what I’ve been going through but didn’t have the words for it and people used to think I’m a people pleaser but it was a trauma response of me trying to make things perfect or be perfect for the next person so they wouldn’t shout or insult me because I couldn’t take it
One thing that pushed me to forgiving my parents and having empathy towards them was this quote I once heard that says 'Just because your parents didn't break all the generational curses, doesn't mean that they didn't break any'
This podcast is HUGE ! ❤ Rampedi Media, please be a little more professional, check mics before the podcast starts ( the interference during the show is a bit disturbing) and please ensure the set is quiet out of respect for the girls, cause they doing great. Lastly, it would be great to keep a consistent schedule, if Mondays don't work out for you any more, let us as the audience know and be consistent with whatever other day is convenient for yall.
Using trauma to justify wrong actions: Whenever my mom did anything to my sis and I people would justify it because shes a widow. Id also bully people in primary because of trauma. Please never leave us again this show actually heals my inner child. Caiah , Mpho and Clarissa are the big sisters I never but wished had🥺💕💕
First of all, I commend you guys for being able to speak out publicly about your traumas like that (not even the president can get this information out of me) especially with it being on such a big platform. That is very powerful and it makes people like us who can't speak out to save our lives feel very validated and realize that we are not alone, we're not the first people to go through such and definitely not the last, so thank you. Secondly, not a single tear was shed, I believe that you guys are on the right path with healing and God is right there next to you guys. I relate to each of what you spoke about, all of it, I been through it and it's harder to heal when it is very much still my reality. I am trusting God with everything though, He has never failed and He won't start with me. This is really a great podcast and a very validating voice if I can say, especially for black girlies in South Ahh, so kudos to you guys, you are literally doing the Lord's work and may He expand your territory because you are definitely called for this.
Clarissa 🤦I have similar childhood trauma sis. My mom stayed through it all and my God I relate so much to what you shared cause I also had to walk on egg shells around my father and thst kept me in this bubble of feeling small wherever I am. I just joined the worship team at my church last week and I felt like I didn't even deserve to be on that stage when it's everything I've ever wanted. It manifested in so many areas in my life and thank you for making me aware of where it sterms from. God is working within me with building my confidence and affirming myself that I'm worthy of being heard and one day I'll have a platform to share my story too to encourage others the way you did for me❤
"Our experiences are really not unique" - what I was thinking the entire time. Clarrisa's telling my and my siblings' story bar for bar. God, however, has graciously provided me with the blessing of being surrounded by strong and integral men in _most_ parts of my life. May we continue healing❤❤
You couldn't have chosen a better guest guys for these topics guys😩🙌🏽!!! Clarissa is definitely the she think she is... It's so refreshing to see girls our age talking about the topics we all go through in our personal coners. THANK YOU SO MUCH🥺
coffeenomilk literally described me when she was talking about her childhood trauma and also caiah when she was talking about how she runs away from confrontation but runs to conflict
This just gave us a little piece of coffeenomilk. Thank you so much for opening up and thank you Mpho and Chaiah for giving her that space. God bless you guys❤
Yet another beautiful episode.❤ My plea is to Rampedi Media, please ensure that you’re consistent in posting the episodes to this podcast! These ladies are doing so well… they deserve the same respect, professionalism and priority given to ASM.
I love how Mpho keeps saying that we are not unique. So many moments of relating from all 3 of the ladies and now reading the comments, like wow. We really do have shared experiences. Which is obvious but can easily be forgotten. Otherwise this episode felt like a hug 🥺🫶🏾Thank you ladies. ❤
I got so emotional watching this episode but then it had me reflecting on a lot of things. New journal prompts and new things to work on🤗. Thank you for the free therapy guys❤
Caiah, the openness is so refreshing, I completely get and know where you're at! Pray God keeps and continues to hide you from anything that's not part of his plan. You ladies are amazing! Coffeenomilk is a fave of mine ke😍😍
My parents are also in a toxic relationship and i am suffering. I even fear being in a relationship with someone because that is how I view all relationships. Even seeing successful relationships feels so wrong to me. I cant wait for my parent to get divorced yohhh😭
This was such a powerful, eye opening conversation...I always say your experiences define how mature you are not your age, and you ladies keep proving that. May God continue working in and through you. May peace and healing locate you. Thank you for giving yourselves ❤❤❤
Congratulations to caiah 😭❤️ This is something most of us as Christians are struggling with..God definitely has big plans,The fact that you can trust him with this? Girl.
What a great conversation ❤out of it all let’s learn to be better parents to our kids and pray for your future husbands so that God leads us to right people❤❤
Oh my word this was amazing🥰 I could relate so much with Mpho I’m also a first born and trust me the relationship between us and our siblings gets better as they grow older, I’m 31 with two siblings who are 24 and 18 we are best friends now but I had to take a step to create the friendship over always being Deputy Mom 😅so honey it gets better with time ❤️❤️❤️
i wanted to comment on the point of forgiveness, so i was watching Rorisang Thandekiso’s Thursday lives and she was speaking on forgiveness. I understand that it can be hard to forgive sometimes but we MUST bc God brought His only Son into the world in order to take away our sins, basically forgiving us. Now, it is a MUST for us to forgive just as God forgave us. You can read about the story of forgiveness in Matthew 18:21-35.
Whatever Clarissa said about her mother and father 😢, is exactly what i wish for my mom and step father. I genuinely want them to separate cause they are hurting me and my twin brother because of the behavior. We literally have to beg him to support the twins and he earns double my moms salary
Yoh the sacrifice conversation especially lifestyle and love life is really a hard one and what Caiah explained is exactly how it feels(that time you had the best according to your standard and not God's), when you go through it and having to let go and trust God completely it's really really hard. Jesus warned us that he didn't come for peace but division of the world and also gives us peace that surpasses our understanding.
Love how you guys involve God so much!I love how our relationship with God mainly alters how you think,act,perceive and speak!😚And how the ladies give to God the glory on how they overcome their traumas.
Ahh guys 💋💋💋. Thank you for opening this space for us. It sure feels like home and y'all's experiences are so relatable omg, guess one is not so unique after all as Mpho said. Love you love you love you
I feel so validated 😭 saw this last week and then when I checked if the episode was up it was no longer there. This whole time I've been thinking I imagined it😢
We all have that childhood trauma that is holding us from moving forward or accomplishing our purpose but the is nothing that is bigger then God , we need to get closer to God to heal and pray for healing
Thank you for the wonderful podcast girls it is literary food for my soul keep up the good work Ciah coddles to you for making a hard decision like that it made me reflect also on my current situation thank you for that .......
As a Christian l kinda saw Caiah's relationship under the water especially when we saw his ego “ youtube beef” we didnt want non of that in our girl's environment ye ☺️
Beautiful episode guys. Message to the editor. Can we have the same font for the sparkles like at the beginning and please place the sparkles at the head of the presenters. It is a bit disturbing when it is at the middle of the screen pleaaaseeee. Love Thoughtie ❤️
True discipleship is complete surrender to His Will , and God is not unjust sis (@Caiah) He rewards, He Blesses & will Empower you to maintain such a heart of surrender. May the good Lord give you more grace and desire for His Will , in Jesus Name , Amen 😊❤️
Aggg… girl I wanna cry on your behalf (literal tears came out) because that man made you happy😭😭… I’m so sorry❤️❤️ sending love No one talks about how obeying God can break your heart😭😭 yoh I had a guy I loved (still love) with my entire being… my soulmate that one… and i remember the day God was like yall are gonna break up… I was like cap cause we were so happy😂😪❤️literally a month later😪😭… still hurts a bit but what can we do❤️😭 I just wish God could sometimes remove the memories cause why must my mind, my heart, my spirit remember him🌚🙄 when God Himself said we will break up like God please be serious 😪 I guess everything works out for the good of those who believe in Him😭❤️😪
This episode by far one of the most beautiful episodes I've ever watched from any podcast 🤍😭 I felt like ya'll were my voice, i felt like i was speaking through you or you through me iyo😭😭😭 so this is why I buy data kanti🙃
😂😂😂I wanted to say this, our parents grew up drinking raw milk from the cows but they aren't sick and are still alive,even amasi they make them on their own and when we go home we eat and drink that same milk, that comment was where I drew the line too😂😂😂
So guys when are you posting again , I rewashing episodes I miss you guys like I have been waiting for you guys to post again .... let's start the month on a good foot
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Oh my days. I do not know where to start. A lot I shared this day, I’ve never really shared on any public platform because I wasn’t comfortable (not even on my platforms) so a huge thank you Mpho & Caiah for creating such a warm space for, not just me, but so many others as well. This was such a necessary conversation and I am truly blessed and grateful to have been a part of it.
Late to the party because my body was glitching a bit last week lmfao but ahh this was worth the wait ♥️♥️
We love you so much bestie and marn we miss you🥹❤️❤️
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We love you so much❤❤❤❤
We love you so much❤❤❤❤
Watching this made me realise that a lot of us grew up in toxic households💔sending healing prayers 🕯️❤️
Hence I'm sceptical about having kids and or starting a family.
"My biggest fear is like being my mom in a relationship" same sis same😭😭
yooh sana😭😭I related so bad
This one hit home 😭😭
I think Caiah and Mpho don't understand how much we need them everyday 😭❤. It's already painful to spend six days without a new episode, so when more days are added that's an emotional damage on it's own😔💔.
This is a safe space for some of us 😭🫂❤, we get healing at some point and we become better versions of ourselves 🥺❤. Can we just have an episode every week 🥺❤ some of us we get to be happy and forget about how difficult this life is by just listening to you🥺❤ You guys have a huge impact in our lives 🫂🫂❤ and you are highly appreciated for that😭❤.
We love you guys a lot😫❤
Facts!!! This is our safe space fr!!😢
My childhood trauma is the need for academic validation. When i was in primary my father would pressure me so much and nothing was ever good enough for him . I was constantly compared with other learners .Right now i feed off academic validation, no mark is ever good enough for me . I cry at getting a missed distinction and it feels like my world is over😢
Im here as someone who never comments on RUclips vidoes. Theres no way i was gonna let this episode go by without me saying Caiah & Mpho? Thank you for creating this space for us. It is so beautiful to tap into different facets of myself weekly catalyzed by you ladies. I am truly humbled at how God is using you both as vessels for healing our generation. What a beautiful podcast. Thank you so much ❤️
Coffeenomilk when it came to traumas she just described me, this is what I’ve been going through but didn’t have the words for it and people used to think I’m a people pleaser but it was a trauma response of me trying to make things perfect or be perfect for the next person so they wouldn’t shout or insult me because I couldn’t take it
That's how I feel too. She really put it into words for me❤
One thing that pushed me to forgiving my parents and having empathy towards them was this quote I once heard that says 'Just because your parents didn't break all the generational curses, doesn't mean that they didn't break any'
Thank you Editor for the sparkles, the way we've been crying for them😂
This podcast is HUGE ! ❤ Rampedi Media, please be a little more professional, check mics before the podcast starts ( the interference during the show is a bit disturbing) and please ensure the set is quiet out of respect for the girls, cause they doing great. Lastly, it would be great to keep a consistent schedule, if Mondays don't work out for you any more, let us as the audience know and be consistent with whatever other day is convenient for yall.
Using trauma to justify wrong actions:
Whenever my mom did anything to my sis and I people would justify it because shes a widow. Id also bully people in primary because of trauma.
Please never leave us again this show actually heals my inner child. Caiah , Mpho and Clarissa are the big sisters I never but wished had🥺💕💕
First of all, I commend you guys for being able to speak out publicly about your traumas like that (not even the president can get this information out of me) especially with it being on such a big platform. That is very powerful and it makes people like us who can't speak out to save our lives feel very validated and realize that we are not alone, we're not the first people to go through such and definitely not the last, so thank you. Secondly, not a single tear was shed, I believe that you guys are on the right path with healing and God is right there next to you guys. I relate to each of what you spoke about, all of it, I been through it and it's harder to heal when it is very much still my reality. I am trusting God with everything though, He has never failed and He won't start with me.
This is really a great podcast and a very validating voice if I can say, especially for black girlies in South Ahh, so kudos to you guys, you are literally doing the Lord's work and may He expand your territory because you are definitely called for this.
Clarissa 🤦I have similar childhood trauma sis. My mom stayed through it all and my God I relate so much to what you shared cause I also had to walk on egg shells around my father and thst kept me in this bubble of feeling small wherever I am. I just joined the worship team at my church last week and I felt like I didn't even deserve to be on that stage when it's everything I've ever wanted. It manifested in so many areas in my life and thank you for making me aware of where it sterms from. God is working within me with building my confidence and affirming myself that I'm worthy of being heard and one day I'll have a platform to share my story too to encourage others the way you did for me❤
The comment about first born daughters from Mami touched me because I am in the same exact position.
caiah looks like tumi moloko here , maybe its because of hairstyles . im happy that you had our bestie as a guest🥺
Coffeenomilk is such a beautiful soul inside and outside. Her positive energy is so contagious ❤
"Our experiences are really not unique" - what I was thinking the entire time. Clarrisa's telling my and my siblings' story bar for bar.
God, however, has graciously provided me with the blessing of being surrounded by strong and integral men in _most_ parts of my life.
May we continue healing❤❤
You couldn't have chosen a better guest guys for these topics guys😩🙌🏽!!!
Clarissa is definitely the she think she is...
It's so refreshing to see girls our age talking about the topics we all go through in our personal coners. THANK YOU SO MUCH🥺
@@Chidzy.M appreciate you🥹♥️
coffeenomilk literally described me when she was talking about her childhood trauma
and also caiah when she was talking about how she runs away from confrontation but runs to conflict
This just gave us a little piece of coffeenomilk. Thank you so much for opening up and thank you Mpho and Chaiah for giving her that space. God bless you guys❤
Yet another beautiful episode.❤
My plea is to Rampedi Media, please ensure that you’re consistent in posting the episodes to this podcast! These ladies are doing so well… they deserve the same respect, professionalism and priority given to ASM.
You guys are so real and so raw man! ❤️🥹. Also please bring Clarissa back for another episode 🥺
Clarissa has to be the third Host 😅😅. Y’all make so much sense
This made me realize that the day I vent to my family,alot of them are not gonna look at me the same😭😂!But we thank God for Grace!!!!!💋
Coffee beans where you at?😍😅
You know bestieeee!!
I love how Mpho keeps saying that we are not unique. So many moments of relating from all 3 of the ladies and now reading the comments, like wow. We really do have shared experiences. Which is obvious but can easily be forgotten. Otherwise this episode felt like a hug 🥺🫶🏾Thank you ladies. ❤
I got so emotional watching this episode but then it had me reflecting on a lot of things. New journal prompts and new things to work on🤗. Thank you for the free therapy guys❤
Caiah, the openness is so refreshing, I completely get and know where you're at! Pray God keeps and continues to hide you from anything that's not part of his plan. You ladies are amazing! Coffeenomilk is a fave of mine ke😍😍
@@que_fela ahh bestie, I appreciate you 🥺♥️
My parents are also in a toxic relationship and i am suffering. I even fear being in a relationship with someone because that is how I view all relationships. Even seeing successful relationships feels so wrong to me. I cant wait for my parent to get divorced yohhh😭
We love you so much Clarissa ❤
This was such a powerful, eye opening conversation...I always say your experiences define how mature you are not your age, and you ladies keep proving that. May God continue working in and through you. May peace and healing locate you. Thank you for giving yourselves ❤❤❤
Please add coffee to the team this episode was so therapeutic ❤😭
Congratulations to caiah 😭❤️
This is something most of us as Christians are struggling with..God definitely has big plans,The fact that you can trust him with this? Girl.
What a great conversation ❤out of it all let’s learn to be better parents to our kids and pray for your future husbands so that God leads us to right people❤❤
Oh my word this was amazing🥰 I could relate so much with Mpho I’m also a first born and trust me the relationship between us and our siblings gets better as they grow older, I’m 31 with two siblings who are 24 and 18 we are best friends now but I had to take a step to create the friendship over always being Deputy Mom 😅so honey it gets better with time ❤️❤️❤️
Please I ran from Spotify after listening to the episode just to read the comments 😂😂😭😭😭whuuu what a heavy yet needed episode 😭😭✋🏼
Lets gather here if we are patiently waiting for the next episode 😭😭. A mouth without Thought Digest is an emotional damage
i wanted to comment on the point of forgiveness, so i was watching Rorisang Thandekiso’s Thursday lives and she was speaking on forgiveness. I understand that it can be hard to forgive sometimes but we MUST bc God brought His only Son into the world in order to take away our sins, basically forgiving us. Now, it is a MUST for us to forgive just as God forgave us. You can read about the story of forgiveness in Matthew 18:21-35.
This was such a beautiful and emotional episode, I enjoyed how vulnerable and cosy it was. It literally felt like we were catching up as besties 💋 💋
💋💋💋
that dress makes mommy dearest looks so scrumcious
Right? She looks like a ladyyy 😍🔥
Man y'all got thinking about tightening my grip with god , it's so inspiring . I thank you .❤
Thought digest don't leave us like that 😭😭we need you
Thato? You cooked my guy, thank you for this episode. Girls you did so well, thank you 💜
Clarissa’s reaction to Caiah’s love life. 😭😭
This combo is so healthy..❤
Give bestie her flowers💐❤️
My three favourite girlies in one video 🥹🥹🥹
Love to see it 🥹🥹🥹❤️
I’m part of the woman of the word ❤and thank you Caiah
Whatever Clarissa said about her mother and father 😢, is exactly what i wish for my mom and step father. I genuinely want them to separate cause they are hurting me and my twin brother because of the behavior. We literally have to beg him to support the twins and he earns double my moms salary
Not me being “men” as well since I still use dove and Vaseline 😂 but I’ll definitely add sunscreen to my routine, thank you for the tips.
Yoh the sacrifice conversation especially lifestyle and love life is really a hard one and what Caiah explained is exactly how it feels(that time you had the best according to your standard and not God's), when you go through it and having to let go and trust God completely it's really really hard. Jesus warned us that he didn't come for peace but division of the world and also gives us peace that surpasses our understanding.
Didn’t thought I will made it this far, but here I am💋💋💋 I even put my studying schedule aside lol😅 love the episode and love you all❤
This was such a good and impactful conversation. Definitely gave way for a needed self introspection.❤❤
Clarissa my dear ? I thought I knew you my coffee Bean i relate heavy on the long topic❤what a wholesome episode mxm
thank you guys for this was heart warming 🥰
Love how you guys involve God so much!I love how our relationship with God mainly alters how you think,act,perceive and speak!😚And how the ladies give to God the glory on how they overcome their traumas.
55:33 "I couldn't love my siblings because they were my responsibility". REAL.
Ahh guys 💋💋💋. Thank you for opening this space for us. It sure feels like home and y'all's experiences are so relatable omg, guess one is not so unique after all as Mpho said. Love you love you love you
Oww my God, I'm literally 56 seconds into the video and I'm getting so emotional 😭😭😭
This was up last week. Why was it deleted. Spent a week without thought digest😢, I'm emotionally unstable.
I feel so validated 😭 saw this last week and then when I checked if the episode was up it was no longer there. This whole time I've been thinking I imagined it😢
They are not consistent shem yooh
Didn’t they put it up on membership channel
Definitely Thato😢
I listened to it on podcast they forgot to take it down there😂😂
Here for coffeenomilk
1:08:42 How is Caiah and Clarissa so in sync 😂❤
Ohhh how i relate with Mpho, first born daughter traumas 🥺🥺🥺🥺
i love the entire conversation omg 😭😭😭😭
We all have that childhood trauma that is holding us from moving forward or accomplishing our purpose but the is nothing that is bigger then God , we need to get closer to God to heal and pray for healing
Goosebumps 🤥
Wholesome conversations ❤
Aww guys, please don't tell me we have to spend 2 weeks without an episode, one week was enough now 2 yohh😭
😭🤚🏽I’m gonna stop checking cause I can’t handle the heartbreak
Clarissa is so beautiful ❤
@@ms_lerato23 thank you bestie 🥹♥️
Thank you for the wonderful podcast girls it is literary food for my soul keep up the good work
Ciah coddles to you for making a hard decision like that it made me reflect also on my current situation thank you for that .......
As a Christian l kinda saw Caiah's relationship under the water especially when we saw his ego “ youtube beef” we didnt want non of that in our girl's environment ye ☺️
Beautiful episode guys. Message to the editor. Can we have the same font for the sparkles like at the beginning and please place the sparkles at the head of the presenters. It is a bit disturbing when it is at the middle of the screen pleaaaseeee. Love Thoughtie ❤️
I love thought digest I just feel cheated when every time they don't upload when they supposed to
True discipleship is complete surrender to His Will , and God is not unjust sis (@Caiah) He rewards, He Blesses & will Empower you to maintain such a heart of surrender. May the good Lord give you more grace and desire for His Will , in Jesus Name , Amen 😊❤️
Loved this episode ❤️
Aggg… girl I wanna cry on your behalf (literal tears came out) because that man made you happy😭😭… I’m so sorry❤️❤️ sending love
No one talks about how obeying God can break your heart😭😭 yoh
I had a guy I loved (still love) with my entire being… my soulmate that one… and i remember the day God was like yall are gonna break up… I was like cap cause we were so happy😂😪❤️literally a month later😪😭… still hurts a bit but what can we do❤️😭
I just wish God could sometimes remove the memories cause why must my mind, my heart, my spirit remember him🌚🙄 when God Himself said we will break up like God please be serious 😪
I guess everything works out for the good of those who believe in Him😭❤️😪
Y'all are so pretty❤😍
This episode by far one of the most beautiful episodes I've ever watched from any podcast 🤍😭 I felt like ya'll were my voice, i felt like i was speaking through you or you through me iyo😭😭😭 so this is why I buy data kanti🙃
I can't access membership perks/extended versions of the podcast. Please help
Cow milk doesn’t kill anyone bandla we drink that emakhaya for a living and no one’s ever died from that, my thick line is drawn there.
😂😂😂I wanted to say this, our parents grew up drinking raw milk from the cows but they aren't sick and are still alive,even amasi they make them on their own and when we go home we eat and drink that same milk, that comment was where I drew the line too😂😂😂
Please bring Clarissa back ❤🎉😊
The advert was for protex deep clean
Yoh!!!this generation doesn't bottle things up like us❤
Mammi I'm literally you right now with the dove soap and Vaseline😭 Which products do you use now ?
ATE with this episode.❤️✨
😂😂😂 Limpopo snakes is wild
My three favourite people in one place
Mpho looks gorgeous
🥹😭😭❤️this episode got me cryiing
We will camp here, since our boys podcast is lacking on commitment with episodes 😔💔
i honestly thought a tortoise is the one that cant jump.
“So where is your father?”😭😩😂
@@faithyyyMoreroa lmfaooooo🤣🤣🤣
Love coffeenmilk❤️
God bless y’all ✝️
Okay but why was the song not played to finish at the end, broke my heart. 😩
Wow ❤😢I loved this conversation
My mom and I got into a huge fight when she told me that she was pregnant. I didn't talk to her for weeks. I was even planning on leaving.
This podcast is amazing 👌🔥❤️
So guys when are you posting again , I rewashing episodes I miss you guys like I have been waiting for you guys to post again .... let's start the month on a good foot
Coffee no milk❤