Disciplinary Violence and its effects on children | Esha Sridhar | TEDxJuhu
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- Опубликовано: 4 авг 2024
- Miss. Esha Sridhar delves into sensitive topics and starts an important conversation about disciplinary violence and its effects on children.
Being a survivor herself, she talks about how she created her own little mental health first aid kit that helps her get through her mental health issues. Esha Sridhar is the Founder of the Plane Jar Welfare Foundation- A youth activism and outreach forum that provides socio-psycho-economic aid to survivors and those who need mental health support.
Esha is a survivor of physical brutality and strongly advocates for child rights and mental health aid. She also created the Child Abuse Awareness and Survivor's Assistance program (C.A.A.S.A.) that trains individuals to provide basic first aid to survivors and equips you with the knowledge and resources to provide further assistance to those in need. Esha believes that mental health care is too important to be left solely to psychologists and psychiatrists. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
victim to severe beatings, raised with fear and anxiety, not been given chance to make friends/socialize/play like other children, ignored emotionally. my parents ruined my life
Sorry Simon
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
I was a ✌️ victim of a severe beating from 2 years to 14 years beaten by cables sticks belts not only my parents but my teachers but I grew up a better person and I know the choices I have to make in my life depends on what punishment will come I'm am grateful for their love
@@mcbarca glad you're an exception, despite what happened to you! hope others don't have to live the way you did
@@medabot4003 are you Christian
I was spanked as a kid. I now, if I'm honest with myself, have a deep dark urge when angry, to hit those that contribute to my feelings in the moment. That particularly extends to kids throwing tantrums. This is wrong, and as a result I resonate quite strongly with everything the anti-spank circles purport.
Spare the rode spoil the child
@@jboysmith6374 🃏 There's a Cerebrum in the parking lot with its blinker on.. Is it yours?
@@atticusjones how does that have to do anything
@@jboysmith6374 I think it's better to spoil a child then turn them into a violent person.
@@jboysmith6374 do you know the context behind that saying
A lot of parents feel like it is finally their turn to decide who deserves violence.
That's why it's a Perpetual cycle that no one thought was bad because it was normalized and if you're saying what I think you're saying then yeah it might be a psychological thing that a child has held onto until they got older and thought I had to suffer now you do as well to their own children that is so f****** disturbing of course no one thinks that way consciously might be a little more but most of it's subconscious
Thats what it seems like
The hate cycle must stop
That's exactly why domestic abuse is strongly correlated to intergenerational trauma. You get hit as a child and subconsciously develop a desire for revenge which gets enacted when you become old enough to be the one holding the belt.
Just like other abuse cycles... ppl either Also become abusive or totally non abusive and polar opposite. I was hit a lot and I cannot imagine hitting my niece no matter how difficult it gets. I can't stand seeing kids hit either even if they're nusbehavinv.
You can see the clarity and social and emotional intelligence of this woman. I hope that this message continues to change the culture and preserve the dignity of children who are exposed to this scourge.
i myself went through physical abuse at the hands of my parents ....and today i have bpd..the thing that scares me is how normalised it is indian culture and how we all hav become desensitised to it
It kind of depends on the way you hit them
@@minhalyounus9239 yea it can either be discipline or abuse when it goes too far.
@@mr.games5883 It can have consequences if you rely on it too much and over use it
see i also get slapped and sometimes when i abuse beat someone or dont study
@@minhalyounus9239 just know that the psychology and evidence behind this issue is against you, from every angle. Every credible psychology expert is completely against beating kids. *DONT BEAT YOUR KIDS MINHAL*
My dad used to hit me in the face. Completely turned me off to having children.
That sucks
I am truly sorry.
No one should ever be hit.
Especially by someone who suspose to love them.
My heart goes out to you.
Same here. My reaction to being beaten as a kid was to not want kids. 49 years old and child free. No chance of the cycle continuing
@@331Grabber that’s really selfless of you ❤️ breaking generational curses but simply stop procreating. I’m 17 and I’m already thinking about not having children, I’ve been through so much trauma with my mom’s abusive boyfriend (now ex) that I don’t ever wanna put my future child in that same position. Besides this world is overpopulated anyways 🤷🏽♀️
Terrified of having children myself due to how I was raised.
I feel you. I was spanked and punished physically by my parents during my whole childhood and this was done sometimes without a clear warning. The only moment of peace I had was when I was sick and my parents treated me with care. The situation left a profound scar in my mental health causing anxiety with recurrent panic attacks and hypocondria.
What a brave person confesing this to the world. I feel that awareness need to be arised to prevent this happening in the future.
Its not parenting. Its laziness.
Some people also just don't know any other way to be. They just recreate the trauma they know and don't even think it's traumatic. They "do their best" with what they have. It doesn't mean they aren't still making choices and aren't responsible for them. But I feel this is how it is for many people, they abuse unintentionally. For example, my dad hit me to discipline me. I was afraid of him and disliked him. I hit my pets when I got angry at them. I was also a bully. Then I felt guilty. As I grew up, I developed more empathy, self reflected, and realized it was wrong. But my understanding as a child wasn't that you don't hit other people. It was that hitting was acceptable, that having power was important, that hurting others was an appropriate way to funnel my frustration. I didn't know you're supposed to have conversations instead, that wasn't modeled for me. I still feel the urge to hit and lash out when I'm angry, but I don't bc I understand now and can choose something else.
I’d say it’s better and more effective than telling kids to do chores. Literally every Asian in my class has grades of b and higher except for one from Vietnam. And there are these kids from the US crying about how their rank fell in game and how happy they are for a C. This is the side effect of chores. Chores only work if you are lucky to have a understanding kid.
@@tyyuu8452 abusing someone is not fine,either kids or adults
@@turkeymcduckin7909 No excuse
@@gojira4634 express your opinion all you want but the 2 billion + people won’t stop ever
Why is this not a more popular video? It’s so important. This is still an issue in the United States too.
No im a us kid who gets whooped im 13 and don't care
We do need to talk about it. In the US we just say everyone gets different discipline, when they don’t know why they get hit
@@jeffreyepstine7953 yeah because you’ve become used to it, and you you deserve better than that
@@him1517 no I was whooped but never abused. Abused by definition has to happen regularly. It was only if I did something really bad and it wasn’t more than 1 or 2 hits. It humbled me and gave me respect. All children are different though so you have to know. If your child is fragile then I wouldn’t recommend it but if your child is hard headed like me I don’t see a problem unless you are actually abusing them. If my parents never spanked me I would of gotten beaten up in real life no doubt about it from some of the stuff I did. Timeout, getting talked to, or being grounded never did anything to me because I knew those punishments were all mental games and I had a strong mental. You got to look at parenting sometimes like coaching... you have to know your players ... some players do better after getting yelled at, some learn better after having to run extra, or some learn better by simply just talking them through it. I think you have to figure out what type of child your kid is before you start punishing them. I was one of those kids/players that needed something physical to get through my head like having to do extra running or spanks got the message through my head and I wasn’t going make the same mistake twice. They would only spank me if I did something really bad not every time I got in trouble. I think some parents push it and whip their child after every bad thing they do which is abuse. but my parents treated punishment the same way as parent reward system they would give me something special if I did something really good but my parents aren’t going take me out for ice cream after every little thing I did good.
@@ij9466 You turned out fine in spite of being hit not because of it. I doubt people will respect you if you resort to being violent. A lot of people conflate fear with respect. You really can't have it both ways.
Seriously. My dad started hitting me when I was 5 and I was really scared of him my entire life. I think it's connected to my behavior later from ages 8-10. I would bully my classmate and I would be mean to my pets. I would distress them on purpose and hit them when they annoyed me. I was a mean little girl. I grew out of that once I started to become empathetic, I find no pleasure in hurting anyone, but I truly think I did it because I felt like I had no control at home and I enjoyed having that control with those more helpless than me. Today, I still feel the urge to take out my anger violently. Throughout school, I actually used to self harm, slamming my head into walls, as punishment for not being able to do my schoolwork. I also can't stand up myself. I was so hypervigilant about not making my dad angry that I became a little mouse and now I struggle to not be a human doormat. There are other factors at play but I think there are obvious correlations here.
You could simply have behaved better instead of blaming everything on him. I have a friend who was NOT spanked by his parents and now wishes he was.
Your self awareness is amazing though and I know you’ll continue to heal
I watched this video a few hours after crying bc my dad hit me with a belt bc i didnt quite understand ONE MATH PROBLEM :D.
I’m sorry to here that sweetie are you okay living with your dad ? What else does he do to you when he’s punishing you besides the belt ?
The belt is COOL!
i got hit by dad too
Life of Asian parents amiright
Your dad doesn't know when to hit you
Mi dad started lashing me with a belt at age 5. He did it until I was 12 and then I urinated on myself at school for failing a test (it meant a beating) so told a teacher I was afraid. The teacher spoke with my father, but he didn't stop. He then started breaking my toys with a hammer. He even smashed Hot wheels cars if he noticed I liked them. I was told time and time again that it happened because I provoked him and I was always the only one to blame. I am now 41 and I scream and weep uncontrollably every single day without exception. When I don't scream I have trouble sleeping. I have never been able to pair bond or recover. I have daily fantasies of killing my father. I have been going from therapist to therapist for the last 4 years and I feel hopeless.
Why does god allow physical violence
I'm really sorry to hear about your trauma. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I've been hit in my school multiple times throughout my childhood and even teenage by teachers for the most minor mistakes. More than the physical pain, it was the phycological pain of feeling constantly unsafe in a place that I was supposed to learn. Since it was coming from multiple sources, it cemented that idea even further that something must be wrong with me. I know it must feel really bleak, after having struggled with something for 41 years, but please don't lose faith. You are not alone. There are thousands of other people out there struggling with something similar right now who'd be happy to give you love, support and validation. I hope you find your own path to make peace with it. I wasn't your fault, none of it was your fault.
So sorry 😞
@@eagyinjection because it's his plan well that's what I hear
Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry.
My dad when he gets angry hits,me ,mom, my sister to make us "Learn"
He doesn't use physical abuse often but he is so mentally and emotionally absent to me I feel like I never had a father in the first place .Now that I think about it, I never actually hugged my father... Ironic isn't it.. I never received that love of a male role and never had that person to make me feel safe. He protects me yes but I Don't even feel safe with him anymore.
And I wonder why I get attracted to toxic men
Him hitting your mom is wrong
Both my parents used to spank me but I think my dad was the scariest to me. Not only that but he would insult me and my sister when he would do this and I remember my sister saying a part of her head hurt because of the beating that my dad inflicted on her. Seeing her go through the same thing I have was the most helpless I've ever felt. I thought he was going to k*ll her in all honesty and if I fought him, he would have lost himself to his anger and idk what he would do. I found myself trying to teach my sister how to make the ab*se more bearable by not giving a reaction so he would calm down and I hate that I did that because as a result I can't express myself the way I wish to anymore and I've been bottling anger and frustration for years. At the same time, I know my parents love me and I love them but I won't forget.
@@tyyuu8452 I wonder why this is only adressed about violence against men. I used to be hit by my wife. I was recommended to divorce her, even more after she (!) cheated on me, but I got a message from God not to (He hates divorce), and He led her to repentance and she would never hit me again. We however do spank our youngest one when he does wrong. I am sorry that this lady's father has no self control, but if you ask me, women are generally more toxic.
If I was in your position, I would forgive him. Jesus expects us to.
I don’t know how this video isn’t viral yet
Same way, I don't know how your beauty isn't viral yet!!
I was hit growing up and I hate my parents for it. Multiple swats with a belt is abuse. The first time I fought back I was around the age of 6 and the beatings got worse as I was “out of control” they only stopped when I grew old enough to hurt them physically as well.
This topic has a lot more to cover,props to the girl for bringing this up but there's a lot she could not cover,for example the rebellious nature seen in victims of child abuse
Itt depends on the predominant survival mechanism utilized:
Fight response: aggresion
Flight response: avoidance
Freeze response: panic attacks
Fawn response: people pleasing
@@cynzix my mom used corporal punishment to "discipline" my sister and I and for a while I would suffer from panic attacks / people pleasing/and avoidance while my sister dealt with it by becoming aggressive. I imploded while she exploded. People need to learn that just because something has always been done a certain way it doesn't make it right. Men used to legally be beat their wives in the name of disciplining then and there is a reason why we don't do that anymore. Because it's wrong.
@@FaithHope21 I was the one who was beaten and I'm a people's pleaser, while my sister (9 years younger) was the aggressive one since she was a toddler.
@@cynzix I've got 3 of those responses sadly. Im a people pleaser whos a bit agressive sometimes, and tend to avoid some of my family members. I have been raised with corporal punishment
I once hit my dad by accident a light hit and he slaped me multiple times and pulled my hair I felt like my jaw was about to get broken.
Sorry man but even for someone who gets hit with belts that's just plain abuse
Self defense
Your father tried to defend himself from you.
You simply could have apologized.
Just like how hitting children is illegal in some countries, scolding and punishment should be illegal too! Violance is not just physical. By punishing a child, the only thing you're teaching them is that might makes right and pain=love! Children aren't "bad" for no reason! The only reason why they are misbehaving is because they have a need that wasn't met so instead of focusing on the bad behavior, you should focus on what do they actually need and why do they have this behavior. To having boundaries but at the same time, caring about their feelings.
I think its our duty to activate and fight for children's right and make all kinds of kid punishment illegal and promote gentle respectful parenting.
Who is with me?
I hope you never have kids. Lack of dicipline will only teach the kids that they can get away with anything and manipulate people.
I am not alone.lots of people on the common section are like me.
the emotional neglect and physical punishment i had in my childhood made me a person who never wants to have her own kids.
I feel like I will cry every time when will see my own kids and it will remind me of my traumatized childhood.
I have a fear that I will also abuse my kids.
that's why I am not sure I would have babies even if I decide to have babies I will first learn how to raise them.
Anybody else feel like they weren’t traumatized because they didn’t think their parents weren’t actually trying to hurt them, just scare them or something? But once I realized that the purpose was very much to cause pain, I just saw it in such an entirely different way. Especially when you hear of how people make their kids do all this ritualistic stuff beforehand, it’s like they actually enjoy it. In the book To Train Up a Child it literally says psychological terror is equally as effective as the pain. People enjoy making their child feel pain as revenge for displeasing their parent
My mom always did this,i have a lot anxiety and trusting problems,at least my dad never did something like this
As someone who has semi-frequent episodes of self harm thanks to corporal punishment, I can relate to this.
Parents: Beats child for doing something bad
Children: "I wont do it again."
Children: Accidentally does something bad, back to back
6 years later
Child: Bubbled up feelings of anger
Ps: If I made you mad, sorry
My mom would go ballistic when it comes to punishments .. I can't remember what I did when I was little but my mom made me and kneel and she said if you get up you're going to get slapped👊🏽💥💥
So sad. This video should have billions of views!!!
Very insightful.
Wondered if anyone was punched, kicked, shoved in public and private when they are younger. For what, failing exams, from 7 years old?
Did something wrong, same beating.
Ojalá estuviera subtitulado en Español :( Lástima
I just got done watching a clip from Tik-Tok and it was titled the answer was right in front of us in regards to how to deal with unruly children and it was from a TV show or movie with a bunch of Victorian looking women on a train and a teenage daughter arguing with her mother saying she's not going to be an obedient daughter just because another neighbor's child is subservient and another woman on the train who apparently has no real connection to these two offers to assist the mother by repeatedly smacking the daughter across face and the commenters were all applauding this that this young woman desert physical punishment by standing up to her mother especially in a time when being a woman really f****** sucks and apparently the other women figures if we have to be miserable you have to be miserable too
ya talks actually works my parents talk to me all the time and it always works cuz when you beat a kid it makes them scared of you and im sure most parents wan't a good relation ship with there kids not one where they don't wanna be around you
I was punished most of the time for no reason 🙃 and then like like I always believed it was always my fault and then I realized I had look after myself but I relied on my parents( also was the middle :( so like they like control over me they like showing they do whatever they want to me so they put me in private so can be controlled and they act kind to other people while I'm the one who knows what's really going on finally they changed a little when I was a teen so like now I'm trying finally to socialize now I just wish they'd punish me for a real reason when I was a child
I was too I'm now 16 years old and well I thank God for this new life I have now we have to stop this
@@bunbuninthehouse8460 Forgive your parents. God wants you to.
Being punished for no reason is not a good thing. However, are you saying being punished for the right reason is bad also?
As someone Who has lots of past trauma from a physical punishments from lying ((I now can’t really lie or anything similar to it in fear of being a bad person) how would I deal with this like I’m quite quiet now in fear that any word I say may be a lie and that I’m a bad person
So sorry to hear this 😞😭
Well spoken.
at school this happens to me my grandparents never hit or beat me and i learned it was illegal to beat kids
A boarding school waking up kids early at 4 , is it abuse?
If you get 8-9 hours of sleep then no.
Hard to understand what she says .
I put up with it for to long it just had a toll on my mental health but I just roll my eyes when there not looking and act like I don't care and I always stand up for myself I've told them that its abuse they don't listen my mom tells me I'm a little s word she says the f word she says whatever you name it but she thought I was just crazy for telling her ...
YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING. DEFEND YOURSELF. GET THAT APE OF A MOTHER IN JAIL.
@@john-us4zwlol
I can relate....
Honestly Ik someone already said this but I was beaten when I was little and now whenever I’m mad it’s makes me want to hit the one that made me mad also my clinically diagnosed anxiety has gotten way worse than it was when I was younger I also have deep scars and permanent bruises from being hit it’s horrible
When i was a child i was punished with spankings and kneeling with hands up until my hands were sore . Only taught me to fear my parents and have mixed feelings on whether they love me or not.
My dad just told me that he didn't beat me well enough. I thought that at least he would be sorry:(
Well spoken
Can child abuse be a reason for an OCD?
Yes ocd can be caused by trauma
Self harm as well.
Yep, also for mentally illness, also for ADHD, plus the autism..
I’m not crying you’re crying
I think my parents are abusive. When I was a kid whenever I was fighting with my mom and miss behaving. My dad would spank me. Sometimes with my brother here. Yk I was a kid so I thought it was ok. He did apologize later but I’m laying here thinking about how he would say he loves me when he abused me a little when I was a kid.
How are your parents abusive? Simply respect your parents and you won't get spanked.
my parents rarely hit me so idk should i say anything or no
what i mean by rarely is just rarely because i don't really open up to them, most of the time when i'm out from school i'll not go outside,not read, i'll just go to my computer and play games, watch videos after some time if i have homework i'll do it. i don't really talk to my parents if i do it will be about the mot random topics, space, goverment, people you name it, if i talk about my feelings most of the time they won't understand. sorry for any spelling mistakes, my grammer isn't that good.
Seems like in general people confuse actual abuse with considered spankings.
Meanwhile in Singapore....
Caning is acceptable.
印度英语真的听不懂，我还以为说的是德语或者西班牙语
My parents would only hit me if I was violent first and even then, only proportionately. Seems like a fair reflection of the real world to me...
Hit the like button if the parents of this generation will not hit their children.
Are we not talking about how that would just recreate the events from 1678. Where they grew up and destroyed 7 cities in a year
@@The_Electric_54 No, it is about increasing our patience towards the children. Parents these days lose their temper quickly and their only solution for all is a either a slap or a belt hit on the kid's body.
@@josephdave008 It been like this for 100's of years, y'all are just the only generation to complain about it non stop
@@The_Electric_54 Of course, this video is made to evolve the parenting methods. The man handling and emotional scarring must stop. Even children have feelings. Would you hit your child if he made a tiny mistake? I would rather be patient with the kid and explain that it was not nice. I wouldn't give a whack and show myself as a monster.
@@josephdave008 Okay snowflake,
Hitting a kid with a belt isn't "Scarring and abuse"
Pain really helps drill important life lessons into your head- beat kids.
Kids are smart. I want my kids to think twice before doing something deemed bad idc if it’s out of fear of getting spanked or not. It could save their life one day thinking twice before acting.
Unfortunately, they may learn to fear you, or learn that violence is the answer to all their problems.
If you beat them for doing something wrong, that's a clear way of saying beating people is okay. An animal poops on the floor? Beat them. Their partner does something they don't like? Beat them. You do something they don't like when they get older? Then they beat you. I mean, it's only fair. You taught them violence solves their problems after all.
If you really care about your children, you'd sit them down and explain why what they did was wrong. If need be, you'd create a punishment designed to right their wrong.
@@penny4thought168 big if. They might just learn. Roll the dice lifes a gamble
@@penny4thought168 sometimes violent is necessaey as long as you know the line if they did something bad over and over again
@@penny4thought168 no. Parents are not at fault. It’s how the child perceives it. If a child learns what they do is bad, and you spank them, they will most likely learn not to do that. Not all parents want to hit their kids, but want them to learn from it. Ultimately it’s up to the kid to figure out why they were punished. I don’t think all children will think it’s to show violence is a common way to handle issues. It always ends up on child. They could be raised perfectly and end up a murderer. It’s up to the kid. If you talk to them and sing Kumbaya, they will eventually find out how easy they can get away with things. Physical discipline shows the child that bad behavior will not be taken lightly. And hopefully if the kid is smart enough, will stop doing it again. I’m 13, and I’ve seen what talking to’s can do to a kid. Just make them more of a brat knowing it will end up with them leaving Scott free. But like I said, it’s all on the child.
@@jimmycrackcorn1783 Do you listen to psychologists by any chance?
I think hitting should never be your first option. It should be your last.
If talking doesn’t help.
If taking privileges away doesn’t help
Then if you receive a spank then at least the child knows he/she has a chance to correct their behaviour.
Sure I didn’t do any bad things because I feared if getting hit but I sincerely hate humans because of it.
That last sentence is why it should never be an option. Take your kid to therapy if nothing is working.
@@fibonaccisequins4637 Yeah Well I don’t respect humans, I don’t respect other parents I just hate humans in general.
I got hit because I said something in the wrong tone, it wasn’t even offensive but the tone wasn’t liked and I could hear downstairs how my grandmother bragged about putting me in place. But the favourites in the family are never hit. Even if they did something bad like robbing a store or assaulted someone.
Ppl wonder why I’m not social simply because I despise humans, the more I deal with them the more unbearable they become.
@@fibonaccisequins4637 if every parent took their kids to therapy because they are misbehaving and not listening....that's all parents would be doing. There is not enough therapists in the world to put all the kids just in the U.S. that don't listen to their parents.
It should never been an option. Period.
@@monicaleond If your son robbed someone doesn’t he deserve a good slap in the face? He should.
I got whooped one or two times and realized I didn’t like it, after that I wasn’t bad enough to get whooped again, and I turned out fine
That’s because you get fear installed into you to fear doing anything wrong
You should never fear your parents going to hit you for making a mistake
@@saintshrooms9424 Why not?
@@andrewericjamesclark6808 Because it isn't healthy.
I was always spanked to be corrected not because of violence or anger. I'm so grateful to my parents for that
Yikes. Most of the time, parents hit out of anger. So, I doubt them doing so as "correction" and without anger makes it any better.
@@Moszan well maybe they are angered but it’s for the best of the kid.
My parents sparked me to correct me too.
I learned from them and I thank them for it.
I might’ve hated it as a kid but as I grow older, I understand that it was for the best of me.
@@puglover6113 Coporal Punishment is abuse.
Thank you
Apology to violence at its maximum. Violence towards defenseless children, which is even worse. Violence and anger are and will always be exactly that. How sad that you've come to normalize it and praise it.
Give plenty of advice to the children and If your children has commited almost serious mistakes, hit them hard in their feet or legs, and explain to them why you hit them with sincerw heart, in a thirdworld country we should always give importance on giving our child with physical and mental balance, too much comfort and pleasure are going to be bad for their wellbeing when they grew up.
Your wrong be a better human you monster
@@bunbuninthehouse8460 why is this so wrong?
Spare the rod spoil the child.
Watchu tryna say?
That's the punishment for a child when it does something wrong. What about when the parent does something wrong?
I feel that beating a child is just a parents way of exercising their power over their child. What's weird is that when the parent gets older and loses their youth, they won't like you treating them how they treated you. It's strange
They say they do it out of love… out of what? Love? Love and violence cannot coexist!
If I hit my wife out of love, is that discipline? Or is it domestic abuse? You tell me.
@@osmomosis9216 guess that kinda depends if yall are into kinky stuff but I do see what you're talking about 100%
The "rod" you are speaking of isn't a stick. A "rod" is a unit of measurement.
I say whooping helps a child to know the consequences of every wrong doing during childhood it's not fun at all but when you grow up you realise how much they loved you and made you a better person
I disagree. There will be lingering anger because of course physical violence will make you stop doing something, but there will always be better ways. Whooping your kids when they don’t fully understand what they did wrong is wrong.
Coward.
@@MissAce-tq9xu so they will have the power to talk back I was whooped as a child you think it will cause a mental breakdown or something that's not the case they will never lesh anger at you trust me after a whooping you will be OK if you grew up with this nonsense of unnecessary rights I don't man I want to say I'm African at school I was whooped so hard in 4th grade for a math I would not understand if not for that one beating I would have not understand I'm still not good at math besides the ones I was beaten for
@@MissAce-tq9xu it's not take you to hospital beating or scar you for life type if there is it won't kill yelling will give a kid to get a chance to talk back or silly threats from your child it's crazy since I came to the western countries it was all messed the teachers are literally having a time how tf are you running out the class while the teacher is teaching signs of people who were never whooped
@@MissAce-tq9xu they don't just go and beat it starts with warnings no it starts from 2 years old when they beat your little hands for choosing violence or picking up wrong I items as you grow up it gets harder and harder and extreme goes at the age of 14 and that's it you wouldn't care your parents would see it and that's where your part comes in yelling for a person who grew up with beating it's worse than a beating
It's not violence, discipline is not the same as abuse! I was a very bad child and believe me I deserved my spankings. And what is the parent supposed to do if they're child is misbehaving and having a temper tantrum, the only way to stop the tantrum is to spank them, it's not rocket science people.
its honestly sad that people like you support this kind of stuff, im not stopping you, but i think you should be reminded that theres psychological effects and the fact that theres other ways to teach how to behave a child other than practice corporal punishment.
@@fuzz489 well since you seem to know it all, what would you do if your kid was acting wildly out of control?
@@fuzz489 hey it's not my fault you can't distinguish the difference, and what psychological effects are you speaking of?
@@fuzz489 and it's honestly sad that people like you can't distinguish the difference between abuse and discipline
Why don't you go back to the dark ages ?
These new age fools want to eliminate all pain an adversity from life. How can anyone become stronger or learn without some pain and adversity?
Its called living life, which kids need to learn to do and not learn to live in fear
@@alexdavid6397 Living life literally means dealing with pain and adversity you genius
@@christiansoldier77 that is not wat living life means... im sorry uve been hurt in ur life but not everyone has to go through a bad childhood just because u did
@@alexdavid6397 Pain is a part of life . I dont know what planet you live on but on earth people have to deal with adversity
@@christiansoldier77 He’s trying to say that you shouldn’t do well out of fear but out of your own free will. Surely that’s something you can agree on. Hitting your kids does nothing but scare them into doing the right thing and traumatize them. Teaching them with love brings a much more effective result. The problem with that is that lazy parents don’t do that because it takes effort and they don’t want to try. Whereas a belt and a few slaps and problem’s solved, as far as they’re concerned. It’s not good to normalize inflicting pain in your children willingly.
Corporal punishment against children is justified because the parent is the head of the child at all times, under all circumstances! OBEY OR SUFFER!
Don’t ever have kids
@@PunkKittyWuver Yours are going to walk all over you.
@@nordscan9043 Don’t ever have kids.
@@PunkKittyWuver Reread my comment and stop being such an oversensitive snowflake.
@@nordscan9043 Just because some people prefer to not hit their children doesn't mean the latter is running all over them. Not hitting kids doesn't mean they're unruly and undisciplined.
So we are supposed to let kids be brats and terrible people because it's viewed as bad to punish bad kids
Fortunately, there's plenty of ways to discipline kids without inflicting intentional pain. Our brains are well wired to learn from positive re-enforcement and rewards. There'll be times where it's appropriate to be stern, and to punish a child, but fortunately no one needs to result to violence to do so. We live in a time where there's an enormous amount of educational texts on parenting, and alternative methods of discipline. If you're interested, absolutely have a read of some journal articles on the detrimental emotional effects of corporal punishment too!
There are other ways to discipline your kids than to physically harm them. Hitting kids should be an absolute last resort.
@@The_Electric_54 - You can have your own opinions on it, but I personally feel like it’s wrong.
@@The_Electric_54 If I hit my wife out of love, would you call it domestic abuse then?
@@The_Electric_54 why does this sound sadistic to me.."Gives enjoyment to the parent" lmao what?
And also that's kinda lazy but understandable ig
GOD disagrees with you. abuse and discipline are two different things. im sorry for the things that you've been through. most people who have endured physical punishments from parents are living completely normal lives. and there are many messed up people who have not endured physical punishments.
There are messed up people who endured physical punishment. Go to prison and see how most of the prisoners will tell you they were physically punished. The problem is a lack of intelligent parenting.
As a Christian you discipline your children but it doesn't mean beat them, you as a parent should be patient and not take out your anger out on your children because in the moment it's anger that motivates you to do that.“A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” Proverbs 25:28
And anyone who believes in an imaginary GOD in NOT normal.
@@Nowhere9 you might start a religious argument
Just the other day I saw an 11 year old tell his mother to shut tf up in front of everybody and she couldn't do anything about it. If that boy was getting the belt then he'd know to behave better. Beat your kids if that's what it takes to discipline them, let them experience adversity because that will make them stronger in the future.