Are Your Parents Controlling? | Raj Shamani
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Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child.
Dude u got me , i m just drowned and feels that if i have my future gens they don't have to go through what i faced , breaking the cycle and healing myself up 🙂 it feels disgraceful
Yes people should go through mental test to have kid's both of them if you want a citizen ship
My parents don't deserve me🙂
@@shiny_star66 Agreed
Yha to papa office bhi ni Jane dete khud sath jate he wahi baithe rhte he fhir leke ate he Roj CL, EL , medical lagwate rhte he unhe dar laga rhta he ki ladki khud se dost na bana le kahi ghumne na chali jaye colg bhi ni Jane Diya kbhi coaching bhi ni sb ghr pe akele had ho gyi he life ab bolte ki 10 sal bade admi se shadi kr lo unki ijjat ki khatir
Sometimes parents can be really toxic and selfish. I have a very sad story to share. My mom always controlled my brother all his life, as a result he became shy, silent, nervous and low on confidence, I was always a child who gave back and never tolerated BS, so I was his only support, Recently last year he started liking a girl, but she was not from our caste, my mom created a whole scene and stopped eating, blackmailed us to kill her self all because he was marrying a girl without her choice and that she was not from our caste, bull shit. My mom keeps listening to bhajans and kirtans and all god stuff on TV 24*7 like literally 7am there's hanuman chalisa playing in my house loudly. yet shes so toxic. She couldn't see how madly he was in love with her, she couldn't see the charm lost on his face when she started all the drama and denied marriage. I felt disgusting. Then I took matters in my own hands and called all my relatives and announced his marriage...my mom then had no option but to agree. It's exhausting to have parents who can;t understand your feelings,, all she cared about log kya kahenge inter caste marriage. fuck son's happiness.
great inniciative ❤
Haha Great man..Keep kicking their ass, they should learn how to love according to you.
u made your mom powerless.. by anouncing in front of everyone.. 👍
Mine wants to satisfy society😂 not me
Same!
99% are like that...
😢
Mine too
Same sis... 😊
My parents don’t control me , they just decide my career path , my lifestyle , my clothes , my food and my life partner and if I don’t accept any of the following mentioned above then I’m a disappointment
😂😂😂😂
the worst type of control. I feel you
Same here dude
Same here
This is exactly what control is
After the neet exam i will be independent and i will leave my toxic family .
Thats my boi
HAHAHA TOXIC REALLY HAHAHA
GOOD luck Bro
Post mbbs here but the old things never change buddy 😂.!!! They will never change they will blackmail you emotionally if u play your cards properly at the end it’s a inevitable dark hole 😢
Same
Acha matlab hum hi pagal the soche the at least parents se toh unconditional love milega..yaha bhi terms n conditions aagayi
Haan Bhai💯
Bro listen fact ye h ki kuch log ki mentality hi giri hui hoti h unse pyaar expect krna utna hi shi h jitna ex se loyalty expect krna😐
@@Emma_FF777 💯💯🙌
Bhai parents pe nahi, type of person & mentality pe depend karta hai, kabhi kabhi tumhe ek stranger se baat karke bhi utna unconditional love mil sakta hai jitna parents se nahi mila 😢
Par sab parents aise nhi hote koi koi sach mai tmse boht pyaar karte hai❤❤
@@angelchandwani402 haa bro woh to hai but only in some cases...
Otherwise personally mai apna bta rhi ki mere parents sirf kehte hai "tmhare liye kr rhe" but actually m woh hmare liye ni hota qki jis chij me asal me hm intrested hi nahi chahe Jo karna hi nahi chahte woh chij me jabardasti bhejna gali galoj karke woh to sahi nhi hua na bhai🙂
It's not Business transaction to give and take. Why did you give birth to them in the first place if you can't take their responsibility !!!
Exactly
Exactly i just told them now 😅
When you were a sperm ... Why did you decided to take birth ... You had the choice ...
Exactly ,I am 20 years old how am I supposed to earn money without a degree
They won't undrstnd my frnd , best thing you can do is , try yourself to go on in your own life , try to earn yourself by up , live alone trust me its the best feeling in the world where there is just peace , i m just stuck due to low income and i was free 1 yr back post corona hit me hard thats y this happens
Moral of the short,Earn money and be independent and live your life as you want , FREEDOM 🚩
Your right 😢
Still not possible unless you leave your parents home, start a new life and get disowned. From personal experience
Mgs hai agar parents understand nhi kar paa rahe toh unko change karne se pehle kud ko better karo chahe studies se ya earn karke phir unko confidence aayega tum par aur phir unke perspective bhi change hogen tumhare liye ........unko sath Lena hai earn karke live alone type feel nhi .
Bhai I earn still controlled 😢
@@swapnil3718 agree
Yesterday I was listening to an English song and my mom took my phone and said "yes agrez ko dekhke hi tera dimaag kharab hua hai inki wajah se hi Tere kam number aye hai" even tho I am 20, they are too controlling,
The worst thing is that you cant oppose them its like a mental torture,
Now I get why some people prefer to live without parents
I earn my own money, still i feel my parents are controlling me.
How why?
Lol, true
Same here
Start opposing them with some valid points
But don’t let them think that You are argumentive.
It helps
@@amarmkulkarni thanks buddy with ur suggestions
Yeah...they aren't controlling you until your mental condition worst...
I am about 30 years old but I still feel like I am in a cage...I have been living in this condition for the last 10 years...feeling depressed 💔😩🥀
Same bro it strikes mentally
Soo truueee
This is true when your parents are unsuccessful but if they are successful then it will be really difficult to break their influence.
True👍
If your parents are successful, don't they teach their success secret to you?
Agreed, suffering right now🙂
@@codingiscreativity that's the problem, if your parents are successful in a certain field, they think the only way to be successful is to be like them, so they impose their interests on their child 😢
i dont have the freedom to do that. My parents control my every step. Its study, eat, sleap repeat. They dont even let me workout or even meditate which is good for me
😶🌫️😶🌫️
Same here 😭
hope u get away from them and never see their faces
Same, my parents told me not to workout and focus on my studies instead. And that i should stop caring about my looks (I was overweight and i needed to lose weight) and they didn't allow me!
I can feel for you. My dad don't like even i use hairdryer on my hair bro.
Not all parents want good for their children . There are many who literally hate their kids and want the worst for them . So I wouldn’t generalise please
HAHAHA PARENT NEVER HATE THIER KID THEY PROTECT YOU FROM WRONG. IN THIS WORLD ONLY PARENT LOVE
@@RONIT848t all are same please accept this. this comment is the reality and reality is bitter
@@cryinginrain ONLY PARENT THINK ABOUT THIER CHILD NO OTHER EVERY PARENT WANT THIER CHILD SUCCESFULL
@@RONIT848 so note this not every parent thing
@@RONIT848u are right but parents get toxic when you don't want to obey them. I am not like this guy, this guy is just sending people to their imaginary world and making them asleep. Make your own world what a joke. Then these guys will think my world is cars, expensive things and lots of villas and everything. You need you chasee your dreams . I want to be doctor personally. If you think higher and sitting in home scrolling like idiot then you are doing Very porogeresssss. You just need to work hard . Do studies not gym.
I work. I earn my money. I don't ask them money and I actually give them what I can.
I was told I was selfish for wanting to live on my own, that I was abandoning the family. I should according to my father want to stay with them forever, even when I am married I should still want to be with them.
I should also not need to see anyone outside the family. I shouldn't even want to go outside unless I need to.
I don't want to cut them off, but I feel like they want a doll who only lives to please them rather than a daughter.
Same here , but i am sure i am not earning high like you that i can abondon this cage and go free but trying my level best to not to come here again its for permanent
My apology...but these people are example of classic toxic parents. As I'm dealing with the same
That's a classic case of narcissistic emotionally abusive parents
Then start admitting that you are indeed selfish ...
U yourself should know what right you are doing .....
U should know whether u are selfish or not ...
They had one life spent controlling others ...
U have one life to spend happily and with as many people possible...
One thing I would like to tell based on my experience no offence ..
When u start interacting with people around u come across things u cannot even imagine ...both negative and positive ...
U should know whether u are right and it's helping u live healthy, better and happy....
@@kumkum66Then, yes, I'm a selfish individual for wanting what's best for me.
I'm also happier and healthier since I stopped caring for what they think or say.
One thing though, some people actually don't know if they are selfish or not. Especially if they have a history of being taken advantage of in their relationships. That's another thing you can learn from meeting different people. What's evident to you might be obscure to someone else or even unfathomable. Most beliefs come from experience, and some experiences can impair your ability to judge yourself or others properly. The beautiful thing is that when you get to experience the opposite, you learn to unlearn the bad things and reinforce the good ones.
I learned that there was no virtue in beating myself up for not living up to an imaginary standard of perfections. I learned that progress matters, and you don't have to start out with full on mastery and everything around you. And more importantly, I learned that my parents are human beings like me. They aren't any wiser than my older colleagues, more knowledgeable than the experts. They are just people operating from their own sets of beliefs, people who try to do what they deem best and fulfill their needs. I also learned that "best" is subjective.
I'm happier when I can go on a walk on Sundays, goof off with my siblings, learn something on the weekends to improve my work ability. That's my best. My parents "best version" of me is calm, always say intelligent things, never ask for anything, can do everything, know what they need and give it to them, never want to go out and see them as perfect. I'm not that. I'm stupid, I make mistakes. I'm proactive and help out, but 'y talents are in academics. I'm not a social butterfly. I'm an introvert who loves helping but is scared of hurting people. I'm just me. I would love to give my parents the joy of having what they want, but as they say "the most beautiful girl in the world can only give you what she has." I can't stretch and mold myself like I'm dough. I can only expand on what's already there, and build the best out of the tools I was given.
And, that's totally fine. That's what happiness is like to me. Devoting myself to bringing to life the best version of me, not cutting myself to fit someone else dreams.
If you have controlling parents as an adult I’m sorry but that’s abuse.
Stop normalizing abuse by saying parents have every right to control their adult children, they don’t. I’ve been independent gotten so many jobs paid for my own university tuition my parents still don’t allow me to have any autonomy.
Everything is money brother. Father, mother, sister, girlfriend, wife all these things are meaningless. If you have money every body run behind you like dogs and if you have no money then you live life like a dog.
If someone offers me a billion USD or more to cut ties with my parents i will slap them in their f*cking face. And choose my parents every single time. You know why i can confidently say that because my parents will do the same if someone asks them to part with their offspring. You might trade your parents for money but not everyone is as vile as you.
Also can you carry that money to afterlife? No you can't, but the stain on your soul for ditching your parents might go with you.
Well said
Bahot sahi kaha you don't need to prove anything once you get rich
True
Not everyone but 90% of Indians I agree
What If your parents are financially irresponsible and are always emotionally blackmailing you, demanding and feeling entitled to your hard earned money? You pay their bills? Even on your birthday go out for dinner and you’re expected to pay for everything? That’s what I’ve experienced. If you try to voice your feelings and emotions you’re shamed and guilted. To make things worse the more educated and wealthy aunts and uncles side with the narcissistic “ koi nahi maa Baap hai hamasha respect Karni chaye”. If anyone has ever experienced anything similar I’d say cut them off with no remorse. Everyone’s situation is different mate. Your family can be your worst enemy. Unfortunately some of us are met with greater adversity the more independent and accomplished we become.
Look you can establish some sort of minimum fund from them and tell them that is all they get from you, if they demand cut ties. If the relatives interfere tell them that duty goes both ways, a parent should fulfill their duties if they want the child to do their.
I saw their true colors when I had a diagnosis of endometriosis n my academics got spoilt and I was no longer a money making machine .they made me feel worthless I went under heavy depression and still facing anxiety n personality issue 😢 I am trying to slowly escape but I will say you at times I feel like ending myself so that no more controlling n shaming
@@Annak969 Hey are you alright now??
every child who feel they are not loved or listened or abused in any form - believe me these are the parents who are insensitive and are only investing in you for their returns back in future.
because the parents who love you are the ones who actually want to pour things for you out of love and not investment. they will listen to your goods and bads BOTH!. don't feel bad.
he is right --- try doing something for yourself and cut them off.
"Other people thoughts are none of your business."
and start craving the life you want the way you want.
U can't change their perspective
@@jesuslifefoundationwhy 😂 . Be the boss
Yes, they have their own world.
Becaue of my father toxicity and rudnees i lost respect from my relatives,neighbors and with my friends 😢😭
My parents interfere in my Every matter , I feel they are controlling me. I'm already 20 but still.
same bro 20 and still
Same Bro I am 19
Have you earned their trust? Have you tried to show them that you can behave like a responsible adult? Have you? When i was 20 they sent me to study far away from ( 14 hrs by train) without any relative or anyone they might know in that area. A year later they tell me that i have become mature and they trust me a lot, you know why? Beacuse i never abuse their trust. And my gpa while not being the top is still very good. They know that i fooled around with my friends and bunked some lectures to sleep. Despite that they tell me that i have become somewhat of a responsible adult capable of taking care of myself.
While previously when i was 16 i was onky allowed to meet my friends at places like malls or restaurants never their homes whether male or female.
This shows what trust and compromise can do. I have stronger than ever relationship with my parents after 2 years of drops and a hell lot of fights, crying and arguments. They trust me to never abuse their trust and i respect them too much to ever do so.
@@Exo-lCaratDeobiDiveFearnotMy I was also sent to another city for my college to go and live in a hostel. Just like you, I had no one in the city, and I was a straight A's student with very good gpa throughout my school and college life. I never indulged in partying or relationships or going out on a lot of trips, things that they despised, I never broke their trust, not even for once, yet when I'm home my parents would guilt trip me and shame me for the tiniest issues - like waking up 15 mins late than the time when they want me to wake up and make big issues out of nothing, they never heard my side. Mind you, even among my parents' colleagues and family friends, I'm known to be a very smart, polite and ideal daughter yet no one knows how I feel at home behind closed doors.
@@Exo-lCaratDeobiDiveFearnotMy I always obeyed the rules. I did my best in school without being told to. I behaved at home.
I was still never trusted to do anything on my own. I wasn't allowed to go out, unless they wanted me to.
I believed that if I did my best, I would be trusted. It never happened. I was given more and more expectations and pressure to do as they please. The more I gave, the more they asked.
They know that their behavior and the environment at home made me suicidal, but they mock me for trying to help myself telling me that I am wasting my time and should just spend more time with them, it will make me better.
You have good parents. Some parents are just controlling regardless of how their children behave.
You are making a one sided opinion. Sometimes narcissistic parents can also control their children, for fulfilling their own financial and emotional needs.
What's the solution because even after leaving the home they find a way to message or call. Say something so negative and just leaves us triggered
True. Also there are many parents who try to control their child's whole life whether they are independent and not..moreover make their children feel guilty for following their heart n mind 😢
If something is bad but society considers it good, then you have to do it even if you have no interest.😢
I am 40. Financially independent for past 14 years. Working in a great MNC and earn 6 figure salary. Still my parents control me. So this video is not entirely true.
Its bcz you let them to control
Yes it's a bitter truth
We are raised to always please them so we don't cut them off and so they try to control us. And moreover none other than those with same situation can relate , the society might say we are ungrateful but they didnot suffer but we did.
Feeling really sad for you buddy.. 40 years !!! Please start leaving your life it’s already half gone…
I never said to my parents that i need a laptop... Wifi.. or a tv for studying they sppend money and indirectly they say I'm helping you.... What is this help??? Seriously i never said i need electronics..... They are controlling me.
If they don't respect my decisions and opinions when I've nothing. And they start listening only when I've got "money" and "status", then did they ever really love me unconditionally??
My mom n dad are toxic , mom is narc and she thinks my entire world is to please her and live a life she wants just because she gave birth and me growing up with different life ideas no a big no. She torchures me mentally when I said I would never marry a Matrimonial guy.
They dont let me go out and keep friendships, they control everything but when it comes to my sufferings and pain mainly health issues n career issues no support at all only torchuring😢
Maa baap ko apne bacche ki kamjori aur dukh samjhana chahiye .....
They will and then they attack
i think my parents in their attitude towards me taught better than anything or anyone that i should never let myself be indebted to someone
its very unfair bc in this society when they havent prepared us or given us room to grow to be an individual with a job and a life and friends of our own how can we move out or not take money from them?my parents did not let me work until i was in my twenties.and even then i didnt find good oppurtunities bc we live in a ore secluded area.im not even taking money from them.i only live under my mother's roof.thats it.and she has an issue with when i go out or who i see or how i do everything.she does not give me any respect and speaks in a dominant manner to me always talking down to me and insulting me inbetween but the moment i say something she says dont talk back im ur mother!!n she believes she is always right. I am 26 years old and i will be getting married n moving to america soon,but the past year of my life has been so tough bc i have been stuck at home with a super controlling mother.if i do one thing she doesnt like she retaliates with silent treatment or getting violent or insulting me or just downplaying anything im happy about.it could be something as small as me getting my hair done at a place she does not approve of.
Lets make a community, People like us may need to team up worldwide.
My parents are smarter than your example... They don't give me their money... Take away all my hard earned money and then they control me..
Samee
Aisa bhi hota hai kya ??
What about you eating all their money since childhood ??
@@krishnamahawar319looks like you are a controlling parent
@@krishnamahawar319why to give birth at the first place?
Ehhh...I don't know. Some parents are actually horrible people who think they own their kids.
😂 they literally own their kids .. you are the product of their time energy and money man
Nah bruh it's not same for everyone 🙂
parents are different as people are different.
Just as there are bad people, there are bad parents.
I’ll keep this in my mind. Thanks. :)
Bhai mai to puri zindgi parents pe hi depend rehna chahta hu.. other than financial ways...❤ my parents are just pure love ❤ for me
You are blessed 🙂
My parents always says to me ki 4 log kya khenge bachpan se har baat pr merko ye kha h mere looks pr , kaam pr hr chiz m , jiski vajeh se abh mai bht jyada under confident ho gyi hu mai insecure ho gyi khudko leke hr chiz m mujhe sharm aane lgti h ki yr koi dekhega toh kya kahega hr choti chiz its very depressing abh mai apne looks ko bhi psnd ni krti kya hi kru iske alava bhg ulti seedhi chizen hi sikhayi h unhone merko kbhi meri baat suni bhi ni abh maine apne points unko btana hi bnd kr diya akeli ho gyi na apni marzi ke kapde na kaam na kuch ni bss phir bhi vo expect krte h ki mi life m ye krdu vo krdu apni glti kabhi accept ni kri humesha ego rkha h ki hum kaise glt ho skte h , bht dukh hota h jabh mai dusre bache or unke parents ko dekhti hu ki kitne ache h or kya badhiyanparvarish kri h unki or vo bde succeful bhi ho rhe h life mai (my cousins) 😢
Unko bolo paise chahiye ya kuch help chahiye char log nhi ayenge balki apna beta ya beti hi ayega
To build your own world you need their support not just financially but emotionally too....they never try to understand that study can't to everything to be successful...the worst thing is that if i put my opinion or my wishes my mom is always like " padhai kro in sb m kuch ni rkha sb pdhne se hoga" there is no point to argue too...she never understands...all her mentality is i should just study, eat and sleep....even just talking on call with my friend is wrong in her thoughts....now this made me loose all my true people...even if father takes my stand...a huge fight will start in them...i can't tell anyone what i am going through...its my 12th boards this year...and i am so stucked about what should i do...can't see a better path rather than dying..💔..out there people say mother is your first best friend but in my case my mother is my first and worst enemy...even if one day i got chance to be successful i would never come to her back again...just physical support is not parenting she is wrong and would be always🙂
You have to set an example in order to make them beleive on you!!!
It is not easy to escape the cage but once you do that ......🛫
Bro my parents are very controlling . Am just 17yrs old studying class 12th . What do u expect from me . Now pls don't give me advice in comment saying u can make videos in social media and make money and all those things . Am trying 🙏
Bro we're in the same boat and never seek advice on such issues from adults take advice from young adults only. Become most of the adults believe they cannot be wrong. So Become financially independent and leave them otherwise you will have psychological issues.
What field have taken? Was it you choice? If it wasn't your choice and your parents forced then research about what you actually want to pursue and what are the forms and qualifications for that. Slowly convince one of your parent or elder sibling that you want to do that, get someone on your side be it your relaive like your uncle or aunt. Have a discussion with your parents, about it.
If you haven't decided what you want in life then rake drop and prepare for any exam find what luke in that year and convince your parents via above mentioned steps.
I have to what you want to do in life i order to give you some sort of advice😅.
@@Exo-lCaratDeobiDiveFearnotMythanks a lot bro
Now i m depressed, frustrated, suicidal bcz all my life choices was never mine. Even things i love doing like going to gym rather doing yoga
True words dude🔥
Some parents try to control their children even after they are financially independent
Yes
Unka perspective is amount of money they have invested in you.
Yeah
How should an 18yr old girl handle this considering that parents are not understanding either?
See, irrespective of age indian parenting believes in their child, if and only if the child gives a glimpse of maturity to the parents.
And way to achieve maturity according to Indian parenting is to
1. Be educated,
2. Earn your own money
That's it . It is simple as that, but to achieve these itself, many have failed and got trapped in this parenting matrix.
So first give priority to one's education and earn money and get your freedom then there is no need the make anyone understand something, they will understand by themselves.
Even after doing these things there is a chance you would still be controlled, so what to do then?
Ans:- by that time, you are capable enough to take your decisions, so find the ways by yourself.
@@demonicwarrior1521 thank you :)
@@ananyan6721 😊👍🏻
I earn my own money, I give them money and still feel like im being controlled even though im 34+. I dont want to disrespect them but i feel angry inside
No one can control you unless you are getting controlled buddy.. I am taking my own decision going against my father since I was 15 years old.. that too I was his obedient daughter.. I still obey only when I agree.. education career marriage and your entire life should be in your hands once you are 20+
No one can control you unless you are getting controlled buddy.. I am taking my own decision going against my father since I was 15 years old.. that too I was his obedient daughter.. I still obey only when I agree.. education career marriage and your entire life should be in your hands once you are 20+
I am my parent’s favourite bdw😅 even though they know they can’t control me.. now ther are like do whatever u want to do because they trust me that I can take right decisions and they don’t need to worry about me.. less responsibility and headache for them
I am my parent’s favourite bdw😅 even though they know they can’t control me.. now ther are like do whatever u want to do because they trust me that I can take right decisions and they don’t need to worry about me.. less responsibility and headache for them
I think I'm lucky... My parents controlled my life till 10th after than they laid just four rules... 1. No smoking 2. No alcohol 3. No drugs 4. Respect everyone... And they never controlled and I did what ever I want, I study whatever I want, I spend time with my friends and they respected my choices too
@TOMMOROWxTOGETHER tum control mat Ho.. blackmail kare parents tabhi control mat hona.. ek bar unko aadat lagi to zindagi bhar control karte hai… marriage life bhi control karte hai… time rehte oppose karo and be charge of your life if you are 15+ 10th bad sab decision soch samaj k lena .. parents Ka opinion lena but forcefully kuch nahi karna
Then why are you listening to this video. Bug off
@@mswr3351But we are compelled to do what they want.
Bohot sahi baat bola hai yaar❤🎉
hahaha this is why I'm planning to move out to a different state.. study and work anywhere else and visit them sometimes
I tried to talk to my parents about bounderies.. they were all shock... all i got are curses yells and statement that i owe them my life. Im 30 years old i guess i let it happen. If i was brave enough when i was young to take my stand and be firm about boundaries.. i will never ont his position.
Absolutely correct 💯
my parents don't even care about my heath anymore. i tried following a routine for better sleep and my mum started shouting at me to when I'm trying to calm down and do journaling saying I didn't love her and ill never become good. they basically don't care a fudge about me and rather have me stay up to 2am studying then peacefully sleep.
to my father, I don't care if I live in a tiny apartment and work as a librarian or anything, infact, that's my dream life, I would have freedom!!!!
Trust me if I'll have lots of money and have achieved everything still I can't satisfy them. They don't want to see me succeed they want me to serve them give them money and lead every step of mu life with their will.
It really pinched me soo hard ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this reel !! Much needed.
Thanks sir for clearing the dilemma which was going in my mind.
Love this❤
how deeply u explained ... very nice :)
thank you
this opended my eyes
This is best advice!
1000% true i can relate😢
i am not taking any money from them or anything else.. but still they are controlling by deciding whom i have to marry
I don't mind that I don't get to choose my own clothes, my own hairstyles, and I don't even get to go outside of my home🥲 but the only thing I don't like is , that now they complain about myself to everyone that I always say pata ni to every question, and I also have no confidence, cuze I never get to choose my own things and get scared at everything and even then, they will complain. Also I was a fun loving kid , introvert but I had confidence, I used to go to stage and say shayaris and jokes but now i can't even give presentation in front my own class, and I have become zo quiet and then they say phones have made todays kids silent. Mere facial expressions bhi constant ho gaye hai , sad wale rbf usme bhi kabhi kabhi wo mujhe itna zyada daatne lagte hai ki kyu sad hai ya muh banara hai aur tab mujhe sabse zyada gussa aata hai
I am sending them money from last 15 yrs still when I come home they find fault in everything.
No Bhai not true always. Even when you are providing money, they still want to control you
I won't take anything from my father only if he allows me to go out n work
Absolutely right
That's a bitter truth 💯
Nope, I earn my own money and still my mother controls me. Doesn't even allow me to go buy grocery without getting questioned on what I intend to buy
Yes
Then sab sunegey and sab mangegey my family never helped but now i have net worth of all my reletives combined and my parents too,
Now They Understood me !
yeah lie more abt it. Coping mechanism... got it.
@@msasociality okkk bro think whatever you think
And i am just 21
@@simrandeepsaini3212 behen apka profession kya hai? Kyunki understood doesn't seem right.
So what's your profession buddy??
That last sentence. 💯
Ab hamne abhi tak kamaya nahin hai to ham kya kare. Aur parents agar bache ko khushi nahin de sakte to paida kyun karte hai excitement main
Bloody truth 😤
Lakin khud ka kuch karne me wo khud he barriers ha 😢
Nice lines 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Sahi baat bola hai bro ne
Mine just superiorise society, my happiness doesn't matters to them they control my life still expects me to be just perfect and feel lucky to have them.
But why? They are my parents they should love me unconditionally. Why always they want something? There could be my reasons of shining in life in another better way. Can't they trust? Why spying all the time? At the age of 17 It's too much depressing.
In this time
Parents are loosing their worth 😢
Baya aap ne jo v kaha right ha ...ma aik girl hu 12th complete kiya ab college jane k liye paise nhi ha na ghar wale support kr rhe ha ..na ma khud se earn kr sakhti hu na mujhe khi jane ki permission ha na kch ..
Ma aik neet aspirant hu mujhe form fill krne k liye v paise nhi milte ...
Mujhe health issues zaida aate ha pcod ha na ma medicine la sakhti hu na kch ..ye v life ha kya 😢iss se acha hota ma na aayi hoti iss duniya ma ..
Agr koi pad rha ha mera comment toh plz merai liye dua krna ki ma iss duniya se jldi chli javu 😭😭😭
My family members are most of the times mad, but really caring.
My mother is diagnosed with cancer, so everybody is pressuring me to get married soon.
Now can somebody tell me how is it appropriate to hand me over to someone else instead of supporting me to make my career strong?
Words of wisdom.
Partially Right !!
A gentle Reminder.
Without some money or support from family how do you build for yourself like that? ..it's not that easy in this generation in India..
that one 7 year old after an arguement watching this be like - "Im finally gonna run away , i ve faced this nonsense for tto long
I’m an educated and independent woman, I haven’t took a single penny from my parents but still they control me. Don’t even let me shift somewhere else
Absolutely right 👍 bro
thanks
I don't give anything or take anything from them, still they try to control me. Im sitting in a different city, still the torture continues.
No. Parents r also people. N people can be good or bad. Just because they birth u, u don't have to get numb to their bad towards u.
Very true 😢
This man is always talking about reality about what majority people are suffering from hats off
i earn lakh rs/month yet they control my life
Can relate
@jesus life foundation easier said than done my friend
@jesus life foundation better yet he should leave them in an old age home or the streets shouldn't he?
If you want to provide solutions then do so without trying to separate parents from their child. Seriously dude like wtf is wrong with people these days. You have jesus in your name yet you want to separate a family?
@jesus life foundation Fine you abandoned your parents. Bravo 👏 👏. What will you do with your pesky parents now? Leave them in an old age home to die without their family or just kick them out in the roads? Or better yet wait for them to die quickly so you can inherit whatever they have in their name?
relate brother.
Some parents think controlling child's life is a sanskaar doesn't matter either you are earning or not
Exactly Priya I earn still get controlled 😢
So true .....they do wt they think best fr us ...not wt is my perspective and wt I want
So real when you have a Job nobody can tell you nothing
I don't take money from my mother. But still she tries to control me and always disapproves my decision
You're right I earn still parents are controlling me😢
That's so true fr
Very sorted opinion sir