Have you heard about how there are seven ways any person is? 1 by yourself, 2 with friends, 3 with family, 4 at work, 5 with your crush, 6 ?, & 7? Maybe it’s five ways? I just tried google😒 & of no help. If anyone knows what this is called please tell me.
@@samanthapetersen1587 I remember it being three ways, or having three faces, (one with acquaintances, one with family & close friends, and one when alone). I think it’s an old proverb or something
I’ve had the same realisation when I was in Italy with my boyfriend and spent so much of my time and energy trying to “look pretty for Instagram” and trying to get nice photos. My feet were in blisters because I had to wear a nice shoe that would go with the dresses I was wearing rather than wearing a practical, comfortable shoe. After the holiday I just asked myself why the fuck I was doing that and I turned off my Instagram notifications and barely go on it anymore and use my phone much less
this!!!! such an awakening moment. much easier said than done but I'm super proud of you for being able to make a change about that. it totally helps having notifications off too
Weirdly enough when I was travelling back to Italy in September 2021 from Edi, Scotland, I just asked an info to a girl at the airport, and then I kept conversing asking if she liked EDI, she then said no, that it was horrible. Long story short, I bumped into her again while queueing to take the second flight (on the same day) and she was posting and flexing her trip to Edi on IG... I'm personally not any socials apart from FB BCS I have amassed a bit of networking there, but I'm not checking in since a while now. I enjoy YT, I love the long-format and spotting trends from here.
One of the best commentary channels on youtube,carefully thought out and simplex thoughts. Moreover after watching ,you always learn something instead of feeling empty
Aw thank you you’re too nice!! Really appreciate the feedback 😭😭❤️ it means a lot as I do work really hard to make sure my videos are easy to understand!
"Being is replaced by having, and having is now replaced by appearing. It's no longger about actively living your life, instead it's all about appearing to experience life. All that was once directly lived has become a mere representation." so true.
Well you have to film everything and you always feel like you have to share something on a daily basis. I know it may sound atupid but it can become a problem bc instead of enjoying the moment you lose is by trying to film it. I would never want to be an influencer
well it does seem like a struggle, its already hard to plan things especially if it involves with money i dont have at first and also having people watching u with envious eyes. (strangers at that)
no one's holding them at gunpoint to keep doing that. but the money is comfy, so they will continue. and then monetize their misery, making their followers feel bad for them
indeed! I noticed lately as I've deleted social media (on and off) im able to connect with people in real life a lot more and it feels great. real human connection makes me sooo happy. like I feel fulfilled!
This is why I barely even post because I feel guilty that all I share are the pretty moments in my life, tbf I have stopped as I now show both to a degree but the guilt is still there. It’s sad that we are all being affected by the fakery of social media but go ahead and continue to deceive one another knowing exactly the feelings it causes in each other. Our validation really has to come from within and until it does this cycle will not stop.
Same here. Last year, I deleted all my instagram photos and havent posted anything till date except for stories of pictures that I take (food, nature, pets, beautiful things, interior designs that i love)
@@anothersomeone7008 I think I struggle with the same but I love sharing pretty pictures for others to see like I sometimes like seeing cute pictures that other people take. Sometimes it does get toxic tho
I definitely feel like more people are realising which is good! but at the same time I also feel like they only get better at designing the apps to be addictive
It’s so sad because all of it is just designed to sell ads for Nikes and Toyotas and paper towels. But people’s entire lives are being destroyed and postponed for years while they are in this rabbit hole… and they choose to do it.
This is why I left FB ages ago when it was at it's height of popularity, it was all an act. I've been so much happier without it in my life but now I feel strange because I'm like an outsider looking in and basically watching people performing as themselves online except they're literally and figuratively cropping out the stuff that actually makes us human, it's like people are trying to live like idealised versions of themselves (that don't actually exist) but are forgetting their own humanity. It's turned into some bizarro world where people are lost in their own manufactured reflections.
"figuratively cropping out the stuff that actually makes us human" love how you've worded it, thats exactly it! I remember reading something like that while researching for this video and I didn't get it at first but I totally get it now. these flaws and imperfections are part of life that we shouldn't pretend it doesn't exist :/
I did the same around 2015 (it was a process, honestly, to quit facebook) when I realized that people only looked at what I was doing in life as entertainment, and when I posted about things other than art or modeling, like opening up about mental health struggles, I was ghosted by everyone - including the people who “cared” about me. It was like they didn’t want to get infected with my issues, and would run away until I posted something pretty again. It always crumbles.
This is precisely why I don’t do most social media. Once “the influencer” really began, I couldn’t handle the fakeness, and deleted all my accounts. I’m not about to give myself undue stress to post pictures of my life for strangers. And I feel so bad for those who are caught in the cycle already. Also, I’m SOO so happy to see you again! You’re my favorite RUclipsr for how you expose the deceit by social media and Hollywood. I can’t wait for your next video 💛
Somehow, it seems like it is a privilege for having a stable life without using social media. It is saddening to me that some people need to fake an ideal lifestyle content to make end meets.
Indeed! Like especially in third world countries it’s very appealing to be an influencer and potentially make more money there than you’re regular 9-5. It’s just a matter of what you have to sacrifice to do that I guess :/
I just realised that I don't have any pictures with my best friend because we actually do things and have fun. We don't feel the need to prove that to the world and I'm so grateful after watching this.
I never post on social media anymore as I feel so much pressure to edit my photos. I see them as being "imperfect" compared to others. Tiktok particularly has been terrible for my mental health. I now try to avoid social media because most of it is fake - even if it's lightly edited Great video as always 👏
aw I hope you're doing much better for yourself nowadays! I'm proud of you for actively doing something about it tho and being aware of it. I definitely can't imagine my mental health if I downloaded tiktok lol, Im sure I'd be addicted and it'd mess with my head..
After watching a 2021 show called Fake Famous, I honestly have no words with what I've learned and the lengths some go to produce this fake life for social media. It felt like a fog was lifted, now I question who's actually living the life they share on social media and who isn't because it's that easy to show your audience one angle yet they don't see other angles. Or at least some people on social media don't show, or want to show other angles because of perfection or chasing a life they can't financially achieve or a host of other reasons.
thanks so much for your input and show suggestion I definitely wanna check that out, surprised I didn't come across it for this video!! and I agree with you. it still amazes me how easy it is to fake a perfect life online...
I think the levels of fakery make people generally untrusting of reality in daily life. It's kinda sad, I hadn't realised how much of a privilege it was to grow up before the internet. Great video 👍
Initially i thought this would be another unnecessarily paranoid videos about the dangers of social media. But i was caught off guard by the quality of this video. It made me think, and question. It made me pause and wonder. It provoked me to challenge myself. Thank you for this excellent piece ❤
the thing is with social media it will always get worse, i am interested where this will lead us to because it only been like i think 20 years since social media was invented, it is very interesting how it going to be like in the next decades.
Exactly! I often forget this too but I also fear how things will unfold seeing how it’s arguably being exploited particularly with users mental health and well being. I just hope the future is hopefully with social media though 🙏🏽
I find it also interesting how we literally brand ourselves with designer goods, like the label has to be showing you that I’m wearing Nike not just I like this shirt because I like it If you get what I mean
Something I appreciate about your videos it's that I always finish them feeling and thinnking about the topic. You're so good at creating high quality content. I'm always amazed by your skills, Ibrahim! As always, marvelous. About the topic, I realized after dating my boyfriend for months now that we actually don't have a ton of pictures together and I figured out the reason why: we're not on our phones while hanging out; quite the contrary. We're really present and in the moment, and I just think we kinda forget about taking pictures of those moments.
Awwwww this makes me soooo happy! Everything about it. Thank you for taking your time to share this with me, I’m so glad you really appreciate my work. I’m also sooo happy for you being so present with life and focusing on being in the moment!
“All that was once directly-lived has become a mere representation.” it took me a couple times through this video for that line to set in. my blood has run cold in the realization of its truth.
Hahah don’t worry even my siblings/friends had to do that too but it finally hit them and when it does it’s like “oh my god…” hahah I’m glad you finally got it too!
Last year my screen time and my obsession with 'being that perfect girl on the internet' was increasing day by day and I always found myself on my phone editing my instagram story or tryna make my posts look cooler, looking for fancier captions and 24/7 comparing myself to others. I'd go out with my family and friends and would get mad for not getting a good picture of myself or the food. Yeah I literally came to that stage of madness!! That's when one day it hit me that no this is not how i want myself to be. Even though being obsessed like hell, i deactivated my socials! It's been 11 months I'm not on any social platform and god damn, it's actually so peaceful and soothing for me now, I'm so happy I got out of that hole i digged for chasing perfection while I was just going down in it. I'm 19 now and I find myself in much peace when I sit at the dinner table with my family and I'm not looking at my phone! Or when I'm out with my friends and truly enjoying. Although some of my friends are still in that loop of 'acting perfect' but looking back and seeing myself in a much better place, i feel so grateful I changed. All this experience made me realise how precious are close one are and how important it is to spend time with them. This concept of 'best perfect life' blah blah just makes people more anxious and uncomfortable about their own lives. I'm not saying everyone should quit social media, NO! We should have a balance and have a hold of what we are doing. Thank you Ibrahim for making such wonderful videos and reminding all of us that yes reality can be achieved. Lots of love💗
Thankyou so much for this comment. It needs to be pinned. I am thinking of having a you tube channel of showcasing my everyday life, but I will be keeping the balance. also, very happy for you. Best of everything to you!
It's feels like we are in that type of generation where we only wanna CAPTURE everything and wanna make it MEMORIES for later but in reality we doesn't even live the REAL moment.......it's like at the end of the it's just you and your phone(ITS KIND OF DARK )
True enough, what we portrayed on social media were unnecessarily true. I have friends who seemed like they were living their best lives, showing it off on social media, but the reality is just, we’re just trying to keep up the appearances that everything is okay. Undeniably, I feel that we’re making less and less meaningful relationships with others. And that’s sad. Everything is just a copy of a copy of a copy.
This is scary true, and also pretty sad ngl . I have heard some people say “is anything real” and or “this is all a simulation “. / “nothing is real” (Things like that) . Those sentences make sense if anyone is living in a false created reality. (And not living out Of their true authentic self) which this video explains perfectly. Great job 👏🏻👏🏻
this really reminded me of emma chamberlains podcast where she talks about how she thinks there’s a cultural shift coming and how trend cycles and celebrities are different to how it used to be. i find it so fascinating how much the internet is influencing on our lives.
i really enjoyed watching this video. i think the constant use of social media and showing polished versions of ourselves all stems from us seeking approval, and once we get it, it feels good so we strive for it more and more. somehow we need to find a way to stop living for others approval, easier sad than done lol. it’s crazy how environments and what we consume can really affect our ways of thinking. thanks for this video!
We need to consider that most of the social media users are young people who usually don’t know themselves deep enough or yet and they follow the crowd in their early-stage development - which is normal. What’s concerning is when their reality has become this virtual world and they can’t seem to get out of it or take a break from it - that’s when we can say it’s an addiction or cause for concern. Also, sometimes, it boils down to wanting to be liked, to not feel left out or unwanted. So they seek validation wherever they can get it.
As much as the r/im14andthisisdeep subreddit has the weirdest, most inane posts that are supposed to “scare us straight,” I can’t even lie, those posts have more merit than some random person on Tiktok telling us to be “that girl,” or an influencer who lives on social media telling us to put our phones down. Anybody that has had a dream/vision for their lives knows that to earn anything, you need to go through blood, sweat and tears (no BTS intended). There’s rarely any candle lighting and retro filtering when you can barely sleep, since you’re working so hard for something you believe in. Thank you as always Ibrahim for making videos like this. It really is refreshing to see someone who cares about their own life and others around them. In moderation, social media is great but come on, you have a life to live and people’s lives to change :)
Wish everyday we could go back to basics. I stopped Facebook and Instagram two years ago,I feel more liberated,now I am more happy,but we still have some work to do. It is time start with thinking,what makes ME happy instead of would others be satisfied with my way of clothing,using make-up and so on....
I aspire!!!! hope that journey goes well for u. I definitely wanna do the same where I start doing things for me! I imagine it would be so liberating. I've deleted a lot of my social media apps and have felt sooo much better. even just deleting it off my phone has been good cause it limits me to only access on my laptop which is going out my way....
Wonderful video! Glad you're back! You summed up this issue so well. 4 years ago I tried to make it as an influencer because I was in a dead-end job I hated and saw it as a potential way to get rich (the whole 'other people are doing it so why can't you?' narrative was at play). Throughout that experience of constantly making content and trying to outdo myself every time, it was effecting my mental health and self-perception so I stopped. In 2019 I took a break from social media and focused on my real life. I made a career change and had a lot of personal growth that year. Now I've started posting again last year but I realized that I wasn't living as authentically IRL when my mind was constantly wondering "what's gonna look good on social media? what are people going to like to see from me? etc.". It's like that one influencer said, I couldn't just watch a sunset or enjoy my life without thinking about how to share it and how to polish my reality. I couldn't just be ME; I was turning into a socially acceptable, enviable, aspirational digital copy that didn't really exist and wasn't true to my SOUL. Authenticity has become the most important value I hold so I've had to let social media go. I don't prioritize it anymore and I'm finally in a place where I am living my life fully and I'm here for the pain and pleasure, joy and sadness, and everything in between that makes up my human experience. I'm trying to go back to living my life authentically, the way I would have if social media didn't exist: rewearing outfits, not looking aesthetically pleasing all the time, letting myself feel all my emotions, being fully present and mindful in my life. Real life is too precious to ignore for the sake of a fake digital reality that doesn't really matter anyway, and I wish more people understood that! I read a quote somewhere about how people today are using their real lives as a proxy for their digital lives. That people do things IRL for the sake of their digital lives *alone* and I think that's sad AF.
What a read! Thank you for taking your time to share this I really enjoyed this and can strongly relate. I’m so happy with how you made a change, became so aware of the situation and chose to live your life more authentically. It’s such a trap wanting to become an influencer especially if you live in a third world country.
Even though i don't use any social media apps other than youtube....this is f**king scary. I don't post anything and live in the moment but at the same time i feel like I'm missing out🙂🙂
This is exactly it! Social media makes it feel like you’re missing out if you’re not active or on there. People also start to get concerned for you if you’re not posting or inactive 😂
You make me delete all my social media accounts and I thank you for that! You're absolutely right, we live in such a fake reality, never really enjoying the moments and this is kinda sick. It's like a drug. Please never stop doing these kind of videos, you help us with that! Thank you❣️✨
Awwww thank you for your feedback. I get you haha even after I make these videos it scares Me away from social media or at least be more mindful with it. I’m glad I could help you with that!
You have to be the most well-researched, quality and thought-provoking commentators I've ever seen. Everything you're saying I completely agree with and a lot of it I've experienced before just didn't know how to put it to words and in this video, you explained it in such a perfect, dot-to-dot manner. love the connections you made and things you pointed out that I didn't even previously think of!
no joke, i missed you so much, i binge-watched your channel yesterday. i even got to the NON SUBTITLED Malay Mum ones and agonized because i wanna KNOOOOOOW!! i hear them mamas at the store or in the saunas, and they are telling the REAL news (or at least the interesting stuff because the ENTHUSIASM)…anyway…. yay! you bak!!
I quit ig a few years ago and honestly it has been really helpful for my mental health. Everything I used to do was dictated by it. The need to appear perfect was so much more important than everything else in my life. It got exhausting and I finally decided to delete my account. I wish I could say I no longer feel like a slave to social media but I'm at least glad it's not to the extent it used to be so I'm okay with that.
Wow dude, I couldn’t agree more! I thought about this issue deeply and came to the conclusion that I can’t live my life in the social media bubble anymore. I’m an 18 year old girl and I deleted my Instagram account 2 months back. Since then life has never been more peaceful and better. All my friends and kids my age are severely addicted to social media so much so that they had forgotten how to live in the reality and enjoy life. I was becoming like them too. I had joined Instagram pretty late as compared to others but still got addicted to it for two years straight. Got so much distracted that I had forgotten how it felt to be at peace. Was always restless to check my phone, jealous of other girls and their so called happy lives on social media. Though it wasn’t easy for me to get back to my normal life after leaving insta but with time things only got better. I would recommend everyone no matter their age to not overuse social media and focus on themselves and their real life instead.
I love this video so much I stopped using social media excessively for the past week and I’ve noticed a big boost in self-esteem and confidence it’s really not worth it once you get away from it
I used to have this huge pressure on me on what I should have on my feed. That everything needs to look perfect. I planned what my feed looks like all the time. I would tell myself that I shouldn't think about what people think but I was the most judgemental on myself. Everyone brands themselves to be authentic but I've totally lost the connection.
Social media always made me so insecure. I deleted everything one random day and never looked back. It has given me back my self esteem and confidence. I don’t judge and compare myself so much anymore. It definitely made me realise how toxic it was for me.
Girl, this is like something I didn't thought I didn't need. A Zizek, Baudillard and Debord quote in this video. I loooove ur videos so, so much, really
it's awesome to have u back! i'm always intrigued by the topics u touch on since i learn smth new every single time. thank u and keep doing what u do :)
Thank you soso much for making this video! I was thinking about these topics on my own for the past months and I am so glad to see that more and more people are getting tired of social media, it truly makes me happy and I hope we can return to the real world some day..
Love your intro & when you added Queen 's Bohemian Rhapsody I was so happy because ut fits so well with the video. I missed your videos so much you always give us such high quality content and you give such unique commentary. Keep up the good work✨
Indeed the best video explanation of why I don't want to use social media. It's virtually a waste of time. Unfortunately the youngsters at this generation are addicted to this sort of fake life we're living today, which is totally terrible and pity!
@@ibrahimkamityoutube hehe np, honestly i love all the topics you do particularly about the beauty standards and the effects of social media, but honestly you make any topic seem interesting with your videos!
YAY IBRAHIM IS BACK!!!! i always love your well researched videos & i leave learning something new every time. the best thing i ever did for myself was delete all my social media even though it feels extremely isolating being raised on the internet... it makes me sad because i feel like i dont have as many close genuine relationships as before like you said, an outsider looking in. but also it is freeing not having to feel the constant need to perform online.
You're actually so freeing. Because other content creators aren't talking about this. Everything we see in media is the best shot and if it's not. It's generic. Polishing and editing is what makes up media. Even the drab look that goes to Tim Burton movies took work and polishing. And with that being said. In life things don't go great 100% of the time and for some it doesn't go good 10%. And that's why people become immersed in illusion because it's where we want to be.
I commend you for this video. Jean Baudrillard and many of his peers in the mid to late 20th century have been figures in my studies before, but back then in their era they refer to billboards, posters, magazines, even news and journalism. Their ideas and the ones who are influenced by theirs continue to ring true and cautionary to this day.
I remembered when I began to constantly worry about the way that presented online (mainly Instagram) back during the end of senior year. I was going to more events and was constantly looking posting those moments more more often. I actually enjoyed getting the nice complements on my comment section and seeing the number of likes I got rising. I often felt as if I was cooler than how I was actually feeling. My senior year was pretty shitty because my home life and social life was deteriorating while I started dealing with depression and panic attacks, but if I showed you my Insta at the time it would like I was so happy. But then deleting that app (mainly because that app always somehow dragged me into drama) was the best thing ever. I stopped comparing myself to other people and felt like I can live somewhat live in the real life more. I did get a new Instagram account but I keep it a secret because I just need to be left alone if I want to have a good time on social media. I don't follow any models or fashion inspo pages. Just the few artists I like and a bunch of meme pages. I honestly do treat my Instagram account more like an actual photo dump so I can clear up space on my phone. I never felt more free on social media lol Also not having TikTok on my phone has done wonders lol.
Due to the pandemic and my family's economic situation, I was moved (evacuated) to live in the outskirts of the city with hardly any signal. I lived life like that for 2 years and found myself healing, not only that, I also gained confidence in myself now that I don't use social media that much. I totally recommend turning off notifications and not using social media at all. Outside of keeping tabs with your loved ones, it's toxic af
I love that you included the Truman Show in this. That movie was the reason why I deleted all my social media and questioned why I would broadcast my whole life online.
I realize this but ppl around me don’t and don’t try to recognize it, so it’s like im still stuck in this simulacra or even worse forced to be to fit in; bc if im not, then I’ll be seen as “too serious” or “boring”. I used to send this to ppl around me but they always ignored it or videos that discuss things like this. I’m sick and tired and I feel like im surrounded by fakes..
This is such an interesting video! Than you so much for making it. I’ve never honestly liked social media because I understood from an early age that a lot of is fake. And I felt what social media did with my mental health and my way of thinking. I feel like it’s really dangerous and there is so much to say about it. If you believe in this social media world and this fake reality that we made, we end up not appreciating the little things in life and our small accomplishements. Because you will end up comparing our imperfects lives with those “perfect” lives on social media. This can lead to depression and lack of confeidence in your self. It’s just incredibly unhealthy in my opinion. Just don’t follow pages that won’t give you anything and make you feel bad about your life. Be very careful of what you follow. And living without social media is maybe even better in my opinion. Oh and: if you’re one of those people who are making these fake images (on for example RUclips or instagram) you should understand that you’re not only being extremely unfair to yourself, but also to those people who are seeing you’re fake content. You’re having a bad impact on them. No need to lie to yourself or others, everybody knows the reality, why are we acting like we don’t?
your videos always bring about an eerie feeling in my gut, like i’m a player in a game but only waking up and realizing it. AND I LOVE HOW YOU DO THAT!
Great video! Personally, I consider myself lucky as I've always disliked social media so I don't use it. To me, it's always been clear that it was a fake version of reality.
Honestly social media has kind of helped me bc I saw that these people that I love watching are so positive, social, and never fight and so I took upon these characteristics and now I feel like a better version of myself. Even tho that may not be completely true ab the influencers and it could be an altered reality, I was still able to learn from them and turn my life for the better.
I now appreciate my decision as a teen to not engage so much with social media. In hindsight, I protected my self-image, self-esteem, and ultimately my mental health. I will no longer question this or whether I missed out. It's becoming clear that I missed out on a (borderline) tragedy
I literally cannot believe how much time people spend thinking about themselves, how they look, if they are acceptable to others etc. It must be awful! I'm so glad you highlight how obsessive and mental this all is.
Wish everyone understood this. Whenever i watch your videos, i feel like sharing it to the whole world and make them realise. Some people can't change..
Welcome back, as always your content is great. I have decided that having memories is more important than taking photos. I've been enjoying living in the moment so much more.
Very interesting when you said photo dumping is new..I guess in the sense of how it's used now it is new but we used to photo dump on Myspace and Facebook just to free up space on our phones lol great video though! Very interesting stuff
@@ibrahimkamityoutube Keep doing it, what you said is absolutely right and true. Never deviate from this path of truth, its hard but its what it is. God bless.
I’ve had identity crisis ‘s before. But that was when I was a people pleaser so I had no personality. Other people ran my life. Like social media does.
I struggle a lot with my self esteem and confidence and after a lot of trauma and psychological abuse I have been so emotionally tired to the point that I sometimes feel like I’m everything bad compared to everyone else, especially on social media. However I am trying to find therapy even if it’s hard to be listened to at times and I try to remind myself how much work influencers and even people do to present them self as high as possible and that many don’t actually show how they are when they are sad, frustrated, tired or just not doing their best. It’s always comforting to know that I’m not alone and that many of my thoughts and feeling no matter how stupid or small they are is something many can relate to and that I am not the crazy person who is typically mentally ill, but just in need of recovery and self love and acceptance
You are one of the best commentary channels who poses questions about social media, A.I, environmental issues, body issues and many more. I always get something new while watching your commentary channel. Idk ur research and all just makes me wonder. This video shows the depth of the topic. 😊🙌
Omg, you're finally back. I'm so glad that you posted a new video. I had been checking your channel for the past week for any new uploads. Can't wait to watch the video!!
Annnd the king is back. Great video essay as always! Definitely guilty of this and this year I really started thinking about how social media does influence my daily life and also what I want to do with my life. For example: do I really want to travel as bad as I think I do or am I just getting FOMO from everyone's travels too? Love the new hairstyle by the way!
Ibrahim your videos always blow my mind! Ever since I discovered your channel 2 years back I am really feeling like it would have made a huge impact for me, my personal journey during my teenage years and my life in general. Meanwhile I can even accept my body thanks to one of your videos 🙏 I would really like to see a video about bott culture and how algorithms are influencing our daily lifes and especially our decisions (so not only talking about TikTok, I am more thinking about bott wars in politics or things like Cambridge analytics). Hope you're having a great day whoever reads this :)
awwwwww this makes me sooo happy to know that I've been able to help you and your life journey. I'm so sooo happy for you!! ahhhhhh you've inspired me to make a video maybe about teenage to adult transition. omg to read your words is so unreal, I'm just so glad I can help you with body acceptance. Also thank you so much for your video suggestion, such a good idea will add that to my list!
aside from the great well thought-out content, the editing is absolutely fire, especially that intro. got me all pumped to improve in my editing skills too
Love this! For me, my moment was when my grandma was placed on hospice. It was very difficult and draining and I needed support. I went on Instagram and saw engagement photos of someone from middle school. It hit me. This person isn’t actually my friend and I just felt so lonely. I unfollowed most of the people on my Instagram and started following dog, animal accounts or positive mental health accounts. I go on Instagram now when I need some positivity. I don’t post any pics anymore. Still struggling to limit what I do on the internet’s and only use it to create or engage when I need support but still tough!
In my family my brother and I are the only ones who have social media. My parents & aunts and uncles don’t have anything, let alone my grandparents. I am so thankful I got to live a childhood free from social media (tho in the early 2000’s social media wasn’t really a thing yet), and I am thankful my family isn’t consumed by it either. Family events are almost never captured on video or camera, we just experience it and cherish the memories. I don’t really have social media anymore either. I only have youtube lol. I want to live a real life, not a performance for the invisible world that is the internet.
i agree with almost everything you said even though i like spending time in social media i know a lot of things are fake but i try to follow people who post interesting and authentic things. I’m not a person who posts a lot, and for this some people tell me that if I posted more I would have more followers but i really don’t care. It is my life and I would like to manage it as I like it, not as others would like. Sorry for my bad english i’m italian
don't worry you're English is great! there is definitely nothing wrong with using social media if it doesn't affect you negatively :) I also love using instagram to look for running inspiration and cooking 😂
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can u also put captions?
@@annmary8958 ooo okay I thought it was automated but I’ll look into doing that ASAP :)
Ur an artist 🧡🙏🏼✨🌱
you are amazing thank you so much for your work❤ sending you so many blessings and love we made it we made it we made it
The Truman Show it's such a good movie
“We aren’t our authentic selves when someone is watching” 😳 so true
That part!
Have you heard about how there are seven ways any person is? 1 by yourself, 2 with friends, 3 with family, 4 at work, 5 with your crush, 6 ?, & 7? Maybe it’s five ways? I just tried google😒 & of no help. If anyone knows what this is called please tell me.
@@samanthapetersen1587 I remember it being three ways, or having three faces, (one with acquaintances, one with family & close friends, and one when alone). I think it’s an old proverb or something
@Red Phantom that is also true. I guess the human personality is a bit of a mystery
Hawthorne effect!
I’ve had the same realisation when I was in Italy with my boyfriend and spent so much of my time and energy trying to “look pretty for Instagram” and trying to get nice photos. My feet were in blisters because I had to wear a nice shoe that would go with the dresses I was wearing rather than wearing a practical, comfortable shoe. After the holiday I just asked myself why the fuck I was doing that and I turned off my Instagram notifications and barely go on it anymore and use my phone much less
this!!!! such an awakening moment. much easier said than done but I'm super proud of you for being able to make a change about that. it totally helps having notifications off too
Proud of u
Nice!! You can take a few pictures for memories , but the most important is to live in the moment !!
Weirdly enough when I was travelling back to Italy in September 2021 from Edi, Scotland, I just asked an info to a girl at the airport, and then I kept conversing asking if she liked EDI, she then said no, that it was horrible. Long story short, I bumped into her again while queueing to take the second flight (on the same day) and she was posting and flexing her trip to Edi on IG... I'm personally not any socials apart from FB BCS I have amassed a bit of networking there, but I'm not checking in since a while now. I enjoy YT, I love the long-format and spotting trends from here.
Had the same realisation 2 years ago. Deleted IG snap and Facebook and never looked back.
One of the best commentary channels on youtube,carefully thought out and simplex thoughts. Moreover after watching ,you always learn something instead of feeling empty
Aw thank you you’re too nice!! Really appreciate the feedback 😭😭❤️ it means a lot as I do work really hard to make sure my videos are easy to understand!
I'm sorry, but what do you mean by "simplex" thoughts? Please and thank you.
@@dontbefatuousjeffrey2494 in this context, simplex means presenting complex thoughts in a simple way for better comprehension.
@@eillibhsilie3918 ahhhh interesting new word for me! thanks for sharing
amen
"Being is replaced by having, and having is now replaced by appearing. It's no longger about actively living your life, instead it's all about appearing to experience life. All that was once directly lived has become a mere representation." so true.
A really insightful realization, liked it very much too
“the struggles of being a full time content creator”…..what a world we’re living in.
I had to block him😒
Well you have to film everything and you always feel like you have to share something on a daily basis. I know it may sound atupid but it can become a problem bc instead of enjoying the moment you lose is by trying to film it. I would never want to be an influencer
@@Sewlexii who ??
well it does seem like a struggle, its already hard to plan things especially if it involves with money i dont have at first and also having people watching u with envious eyes. (strangers at that)
no one's holding them at gunpoint to keep doing that. but the money is comfy, so they will continue. and then monetize their misery, making their followers feel bad for them
I hope one day we will find a way to connect again...authentically.
indeed! I noticed lately as I've deleted social media (on and off) im able to connect with people in real life a lot more and it feels great. real human connection makes me sooo happy. like I feel fulfilled!
i don't think so.
@@Live-os7gu Why??
@@motomami6969 media & advertisement
is too good at indoctrinating individuals and promoting group think.
Char.
This is why I barely even post because I feel guilty that all I share are the pretty moments in my life, tbf I have stopped as I now show both to a degree but the guilt is still there. It’s sad that we are all being affected by the fakery of social media but go ahead and continue to deceive one another knowing exactly the feelings it causes in each other. Our validation really has to come from within and until it does this cycle will not stop.
I always ask what’s my motivation for posting…
Same here. Last year, I deleted all my instagram photos and havent posted anything till date except for stories of pictures that I take (food, nature, pets, beautiful things, interior designs that i love)
YES
@@anothersomeone7008 I think I struggle with the same but I love sharing pretty pictures for others to see like I sometimes like seeing cute pictures that other people take. Sometimes it does get toxic tho
I think that's what makes the whole thing so sad, because genuine interests and passions can't be shared without it feeling like an agenda.
I think we are reaching a point where people realize the effect of social media and are ready to quit
I definitely feel like more people are realising which is good! but at the same time I also feel like they only get better at designing the apps to be addictive
It’s so sad because all of it is just designed to sell ads for Nikes and Toyotas and paper towels. But people’s entire lives are being destroyed and postponed for years while they are in this rabbit hole… and they choose to do it.
Thank god. I really hope social media dies soon. I’m sick of this “jealousy competition”
Yes
This is why I left FB ages ago when it was at it's height of popularity, it was all an act. I've been so much happier without it in my life but now I feel strange because I'm like an outsider looking in and basically watching people performing as themselves online except they're literally and figuratively cropping out the stuff that actually makes us human, it's like people are trying to live like idealised versions of themselves (that don't actually exist) but are forgetting their own humanity. It's turned into some bizarro world where people are lost in their own manufactured reflections.
"figuratively cropping out the stuff that actually makes us human" love how you've worded it, thats exactly it! I remember reading something like that while researching for this video and I didn't get it at first but I totally get it now. these flaws and imperfections are part of life that we shouldn't pretend it doesn't exist :/
I did the same around 2015 (it was a process, honestly, to quit facebook) when I realized that people only looked at what I was doing in life as entertainment, and when I posted about things other than art or modeling, like opening up about mental health struggles, I was ghosted by everyone - including the people who “cared” about me. It was like they didn’t want to get infected with my issues, and would run away until I posted something pretty again. It always crumbles.
sooo true
Well said
This last sentence is beatiful I'm writing it down♥️
This is precisely why I don’t do most social media. Once “the influencer” really began, I couldn’t handle the fakeness, and deleted all my accounts. I’m not about to give myself undue stress to post pictures of my life for strangers. And I feel so bad for those who are caught in the cycle already.
Also, I’m SOO so happy to see you again! You’re my favorite RUclipsr for how you expose the deceit by social media and Hollywood. I can’t wait for your next video 💛
Somehow, it seems like it is a privilege for having a stable life without using social media. It is saddening to me that some people need to fake an ideal lifestyle content to make end meets.
Indeed! Like especially in third world countries it’s very appealing to be an influencer and potentially make more money there than you’re regular 9-5. It’s just a matter of what you have to sacrifice to do that I guess :/
Don’t want to sound over the top, but as someone with no social media i see myself as free while others truly live as slaves of their phones
I just realised that I don't have any pictures with my best friend because we actually do things and have fun. We don't feel the need to prove that to the world and I'm so grateful after watching this.
Same except the reason is that I don't have friends
I never post on social media anymore as I feel so much pressure to edit my photos. I see them as being "imperfect" compared to others. Tiktok particularly has been terrible for my mental health. I now try to avoid social media because most of it is fake - even if it's lightly edited
Great video as always 👏
aw I hope you're doing much better for yourself nowadays! I'm proud of you for actively doing something about it tho and being aware of it. I definitely can't imagine my mental health if I downloaded tiktok lol, Im sure I'd be addicted and it'd mess with my head..
same no social media just youtube
After watching a 2021 show called Fake Famous, I honestly have no words with what I've learned and the lengths some go to produce this fake life for social media. It felt like a fog was lifted, now I question who's actually living the life they share on social media and who isn't because it's that easy to show your audience one angle yet they don't see other angles. Or at least some people on social media don't show, or want to show other angles because of perfection or chasing a life they can't financially achieve or a host of other reasons.
Sounds interesting! Where can i watch this?
@@eemeli7093 HBO and Netflix as well I think.
thanks so much for your input and show suggestion I definitely wanna check that out, surprised I didn't come across it for this video!! and I agree with you. it still amazes me how easy it is to fake a perfect life online...
I think the levels of fakery make people generally untrusting of reality in daily life. It's kinda sad, I hadn't realised how much of a privilege it was to grow up before the internet. Great video 👍
Initially i thought this would be another unnecessarily paranoid videos about the dangers of social media. But i was caught off guard by the quality of this video. It made me think, and question. It made me pause and wonder. It provoked me to challenge myself. Thank you for this excellent piece ❤
Awwww this made me smile! Thank you so much for showing so much support and the feedback. Hope u have a lovely day 👌🏽❤️
the thing is with social media it will always get worse, i am interested where this will lead us to because it only been like i think 20 years since social media was invented, it is very interesting how it going to be like in the next decades.
Exactly! I often forget this too but I also fear how things will unfold seeing how it’s arguably being exploited particularly with users mental health and well being. I just hope the future is hopefully with social media though 🙏🏽
I feel like it's going to be like that black mirror episode, San Junípero
bro, you should be posting a new video every week 💯, your content is unique❤
@@asideofaioli4630 I think you meant Nosedive lol
@@justina4141 both!
I find it also interesting how we literally brand ourselves with designer goods, like the label has to be showing you that I’m wearing Nike not just I like this shirt because I like it
If you get what I mean
because "this is what makes me better and happier than you and I'm actually a part of society" mindset?
It’s actually cringe ngl 😭 like why are humans acting so brainless
I freaking hate visible logos on clothing😫
They look so tacky and often ruin the whole piece
Something I appreciate about your videos it's that I always finish them feeling and thinnking about the topic. You're so good at creating high quality content. I'm always amazed by your skills, Ibrahim! As always, marvelous.
About the topic, I realized after dating my boyfriend for months now that we actually don't have a ton of pictures together and I figured out the reason why: we're not on our phones while hanging out; quite the contrary. We're really present and in the moment, and I just think we kinda forget about taking pictures of those moments.
Awwwww this makes me soooo happy! Everything about it. Thank you for taking your time to share this with me, I’m so glad you really appreciate my work. I’m also sooo happy for you being so present with life and focusing on being in the moment!
“All that was once directly-lived has become a mere representation.”
it took me a couple times through this video for that line to set in. my blood has run cold in the realization of its truth.
Hahah don’t worry even my siblings/friends had to do that too but it finally hit them and when it does it’s like “oh my god…” hahah I’m glad you finally got it too!
Last year my screen time and my obsession with 'being that perfect girl on the internet' was increasing day by day and I always found myself on my phone editing my instagram story or tryna make my posts look cooler, looking for fancier captions and 24/7 comparing myself to others. I'd go out with my family and friends and would get mad for not getting a good picture of myself or the food. Yeah I literally came to that stage of madness!! That's when one day it hit me that no this is not how i want myself to be. Even though being obsessed like hell, i deactivated my socials! It's been 11 months I'm not on any social platform and god damn, it's actually so peaceful and soothing for me now, I'm so happy I got out of that hole i digged for chasing perfection while I was just going down in it. I'm 19 now and I find myself in much peace when I sit at the dinner table with my family and I'm not looking at my phone! Or when I'm out with my friends and truly enjoying. Although some of my friends are still in that loop of 'acting perfect' but looking back and seeing myself in a much better place, i feel so grateful I changed. All this experience made me realise how precious are close one are and how important it is to spend time with them. This concept of 'best perfect life' blah blah just makes people more anxious and uncomfortable about their own lives. I'm not saying everyone should quit social media, NO! We should have a balance and have a hold of what we are doing. Thank you Ibrahim for making such wonderful videos and reminding all of us that yes reality can be achieved. Lots of love💗
Thankyou so much for this comment. It needs to be pinned. I am thinking of having a you tube channel of showcasing my everyday life, but I will be keeping the balance. also, very happy for you. Best of everything to you!
It's feels like we are in that type of generation where we only wanna CAPTURE everything and wanna make it MEMORIES for later but in reality we doesn't even live the REAL moment.......it's like at the end of the it's just you and your phone(ITS KIND OF DARK )
True enough, what we portrayed on social media were unnecessarily true. I have friends who seemed like they were living their best
lives, showing it off on social media, but the reality is just, we’re just trying to keep up the appearances that everything is okay. Undeniably, I feel that we’re making less and less meaningful relationships with others. And that’s sad. Everything is just a copy of a copy of a copy.
This is scary true, and also pretty sad ngl .
I have heard some people say “is anything real” and or “this is all a simulation “. / “nothing is real” (Things like that) .
Those sentences make sense if anyone is living in a false created reality. (And not living out Of their true authentic self) which this video explains perfectly. Great job 👏🏻👏🏻
Indeed! It’s seems like such a bizarre statement but with social media it ain’t that crazy :/
Yes to all of your comment
this really reminded me of emma chamberlains podcast where she talks about how she thinks there’s a cultural shift coming and how trend cycles and celebrities are different to how it used to be. i find it so fascinating how much the internet is influencing on our lives.
i really enjoyed watching this video. i think the constant use of social media and showing polished versions of ourselves all stems from us seeking approval, and once we get it, it feels good so we strive for it more and more. somehow we need to find a way to stop living for others approval, easier sad than done lol. it’s crazy how environments and what we consume can really affect our ways of thinking. thanks for this video!
totally!!! it's definitely addictive and to have that mindset from a younger age must be so damaging
This video is SCARY good timing!
hahahah indeed! thank you
We need to consider that most of the social media users are young people who usually don’t know themselves deep enough or yet and they follow the crowd in their early-stage development - which is normal. What’s concerning is when their reality has become this virtual world and they can’t seem to get out of it or take a break from it - that’s when we can say it’s an addiction or cause for concern.
Also, sometimes, it boils down to wanting to be liked, to not feel left out or unwanted. So they seek validation wherever they can get it.
As much as the r/im14andthisisdeep subreddit has the weirdest, most inane posts that are supposed to “scare us straight,” I can’t even lie, those posts have more merit than some random person on Tiktok telling us to be “that girl,” or an influencer who lives on social media telling us to put our phones down. Anybody that has had a dream/vision for their lives knows that to earn anything, you need to go through blood, sweat and tears (no BTS intended). There’s rarely any candle lighting and retro filtering when you can barely sleep, since you’re working so hard for something you believe in.
Thank you as always Ibrahim for making videos like this. It really is refreshing to see someone who cares about their own life and others around them. In moderation, social media is great but come on, you have a life to live and people’s lives to change :)
Wish everyday we could go back to basics. I stopped Facebook and Instagram two years ago,I feel more liberated,now I am more happy,but we still have some work to do. It is time start with thinking,what makes ME happy instead of would others be satisfied with my way of clothing,using make-up and so on....
I aspire!!!! hope that journey goes well for u. I definitely wanna do the same where I start doing things for me! I imagine it would be so liberating. I've deleted a lot of my social media apps and have felt sooo much better. even just deleting it off my phone has been good cause it limits me to only access on my laptop which is going out my way....
Wonderful video! Glad you're back! You summed up this issue so well.
4 years ago I tried to make it as an influencer because I was in a dead-end job I hated and saw it as a potential way to get rich (the whole 'other people are doing it so why can't you?' narrative was at play). Throughout that experience of constantly making content and trying to outdo myself every time, it was effecting my mental health and self-perception so I stopped.
In 2019 I took a break from social media and focused on my real life. I made a career change and had a lot of personal growth that year. Now I've started posting again last year but I realized that I wasn't living as authentically IRL when my mind was constantly wondering "what's gonna look good on social media? what are people going to like to see from me? etc.". It's like that one influencer said, I couldn't just watch a sunset or enjoy my life without thinking about how to share it and how to polish my reality. I couldn't just be ME; I was turning into a socially acceptable, enviable, aspirational digital copy that didn't really exist and wasn't true to my SOUL.
Authenticity has become the most important value I hold so I've had to let social media go. I don't prioritize it anymore and I'm finally in a place where I am living my life fully and I'm here for the pain and pleasure, joy and sadness, and everything in between that makes up my human experience. I'm trying to go back to living my life authentically, the way I would have if social media didn't exist: rewearing outfits, not looking aesthetically pleasing all the time, letting myself feel all my emotions, being fully present and mindful in my life. Real life is too precious to ignore for the sake of a fake digital reality that doesn't really matter anyway, and I wish more people understood that!
I read a quote somewhere about how people today are using their real lives as a proxy for their digital lives. That people do things IRL for the sake of their digital lives *alone* and I think that's sad AF.
What a read! Thank you for taking your time to share this I really enjoyed this and can strongly relate. I’m so happy with how you made a change, became so aware of the situation and chose to live your life more authentically. It’s such a trap wanting to become an influencer especially if you live in a third world country.
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Even though i don't use any social media apps other than youtube....this is f**king scary.
I don't post anything and live in the moment but at the same time i feel like I'm missing out🙂🙂
This is exactly it! Social media makes it feel like you’re missing out if you’re not active or on there. People also start to get concerned for you if you’re not posting or inactive 😂
You make me delete all my social media accounts and I thank you for that! You're absolutely right, we live in such a fake reality, never really enjoying the moments and this is kinda sick. It's like a drug. Please never stop doing these kind of videos, you help us with that! Thank you❣️✨
Awwww thank you for your feedback. I get you haha even after I make these videos it scares
Me away from social media or at least be more mindful with it. I’m glad I could help you with that!
@@ibrahimkamityoutube ❣️❣️💯
the timing of this is so perfect. I'm studying several of these philosophers in my degree😭
That’s perfect!!! Glad this came at the right time for you!
You have to be the most well-researched, quality and thought-provoking commentators I've ever seen. Everything you're saying I completely agree with and a lot of it I've experienced before just didn't know how to put it to words and in this video, you explained it in such a perfect, dot-to-dot manner. love the connections you made and things you pointed out that I didn't even previously think of!
no joke, i missed you so much, i binge-watched your channel yesterday. i even got to the NON SUBTITLED Malay Mum ones and agonized because i wanna KNOOOOOOW!! i hear them mamas at the store or in the saunas, and they are telling the REAL news (or at least the interesting stuff because the ENTHUSIASM)…anyway…. yay! you bak!!
HAHAAHAHHA awwwwwwwww you are toooooooooo nice!!!! hahaha the fact you even watched my Malay videos 😭😭😭
I quit ig a few years ago and honestly it has been really helpful for my mental health. Everything I used to do was dictated by it. The need to appear perfect was so much more important than everything else in my life. It got exhausting and I finally decided to delete my account. I wish I could say I no longer feel like a slave to social media but I'm at least glad it's not to the extent it used to be so I'm okay with that.
Wow dude, I couldn’t agree more! I thought about this issue deeply and came to the conclusion that I can’t live my life in the social media bubble anymore. I’m an 18 year old girl and I deleted my Instagram account 2 months back. Since then life has never been more peaceful and better. All my friends and kids my age are severely addicted to social media so much so that they had forgotten how to live in the reality and enjoy life. I was becoming like them too. I had joined Instagram pretty late as compared to others but still got addicted to it for two years straight. Got so much distracted that I had forgotten how it felt to be at peace. Was always restless to check my phone, jealous of other girls and their so called happy lives on social media. Though it wasn’t easy for me to get back to my normal life after leaving insta but with time things only got better. I would recommend everyone no matter their age to not overuse social media and focus on themselves and their real life instead.
How the hell are you NOT at 500K subs yet ??? People, hit that damn button!
I love this video so much I stopped using social media excessively for the past week and I’ve noticed a big boost in self-esteem and confidence it’s really not worth it once you get away from it
I used to have this huge pressure on me on what I should have on my feed. That everything needs to look perfect. I planned what my feed looks like all the time. I would tell myself that I shouldn't think about what people think but I was the most judgemental on myself.
Everyone brands themselves to be authentic but I've totally lost the connection.
Social media always made me so insecure. I deleted everything one random day and never looked back. It has given me back my self esteem and confidence. I don’t judge and compare myself so much anymore. It definitely made me realise how toxic it was for me.
Girl, this is like something I didn't thought I didn't need. A Zizek, Baudillard and Debord quote in this video. I loooove ur videos so, so much, really
it's awesome to have u back! i'm always intrigued by the topics u touch on since i learn smth new every single time. thank u and keep doing what u do :)
awwwwww im sooo soo glad I could help you learn something new!! thank you for being supportive! hope u have a lovely day x
You're videos are always *chefs kiss*
Thank you soso much for making this video! I was thinking about these topics on my own for the past months and I am so glad to see that more and more people are getting tired of social media, it truly makes me happy and I hope we can return to the real world some day..
you're very welcome!! yes I agree, I love seeing more people discuss these concerns too!
Love your intro & when you added Queen 's Bohemian Rhapsody I was so happy because ut fits so well with the video. I missed your videos so much you always give us such high quality content and you give such unique commentary. Keep up the good work✨
Hahah love that you pick up such little details! Thank you for showing your appreciation and being patient with my videos 🙏🏽🙏🏽
So happy to see a video from you. I enjoy and appreciate your thoughtfulness and insight.
thank you!!!!!! such positivity. hope u have a lovely day!
Indeed the best video explanation of why I don't want to use social media. It's virtually a waste of time. Unfortunately the youngsters at this generation are addicted to this sort of fake life we're living today, which is totally terrible and pity!
yesss your back, i've been binge watching your older commentary videos because I love how you discuss relevant and interesting comments :)
hahaha happy to know someone was waiting! thank you for being here and supporting me!! let me know if u want me to explore and particular topic :)
@@ibrahimkamityoutube hehe np, honestly i love all the topics you do particularly about the beauty standards and the effects of social media, but honestly you make any topic seem interesting with your videos!
YAY IBRAHIM IS BACK!!!! i always love your well researched videos & i leave learning something new every time. the best thing i ever did for myself was delete all my social media even though it feels extremely isolating being raised on the internet... it makes me sad because i feel like i dont have as many close genuine relationships as before like you said, an outsider looking in. but also it is freeing not having to feel the constant need to perform online.
You're actually so freeing. Because other content creators aren't talking about this. Everything we see in media is the best shot and if it's not. It's generic. Polishing and editing is what makes up media. Even the drab look that goes to Tim Burton movies took work and polishing. And with that being said. In life things don't go great 100% of the time and for some it doesn't go good 10%. And that's why people become immersed in illusion because it's where we want to be.
I commend you for this video. Jean Baudrillard and many of his peers in the mid to late 20th century have been figures in my studies before, but back then in their era they refer to billboards, posters, magazines, even news and journalism. Their ideas and the ones who are influenced by theirs continue to ring true and cautionary to this day.
Dude.. This video was a reality check
I remembered when I began to constantly worry about the way that presented online (mainly Instagram) back during the end of senior year. I was going to more events and was constantly looking posting those moments more more often. I actually enjoyed getting the nice complements on my comment section and seeing the number of likes I got rising. I often felt as if I was cooler than how I was actually feeling. My senior year was pretty shitty because my home life and social life was deteriorating while I started dealing with depression and panic attacks, but if I showed you my Insta at the time it would like I was so happy.
But then deleting that app (mainly because that app always somehow dragged me into drama) was the best thing ever. I stopped comparing myself to other people and felt like I can live somewhat live in the real life more. I did get a new Instagram account but I keep it a secret because I just need to be left alone if I want to have a good time on social media. I don't follow any models or fashion inspo pages. Just the few artists I like and a bunch of meme pages. I honestly do treat my Instagram account more like an actual photo dump so I can clear up space on my phone. I never felt more free on social media lol
Also not having TikTok on my phone has done wonders lol.
Due to the pandemic and my family's economic situation, I was moved (evacuated) to live in the outskirts of the city with hardly any signal. I lived life like that for 2 years and found myself healing, not only that, I also gained confidence in myself now that I don't use social media that much.
I totally recommend turning off notifications and not using social media at all. Outside of keeping tabs with your loved ones, it's toxic af
I love that you included the Truman Show in this. That movie was the reason why I deleted all my social media and questioned why I would broadcast my whole life online.
I realize this but ppl around me don’t and don’t try to recognize it, so it’s like im still stuck in this simulacra or even worse forced to be to fit in; bc if im not, then I’ll be seen as “too serious” or “boring”. I used to send this to ppl around me but they always ignored it or videos that discuss things like this. I’m sick and tired and I feel like im surrounded by fakes..
I MISSED YOU SM I STARTED BINGE WATCHING UR OLD VIDEOS ALL OVER AGAIN
This is such an interesting video! Than you so much for making it. I’ve never honestly liked social media because I understood from an early age that a lot of is fake. And I felt what social media did with my mental health and my way of thinking. I feel like it’s really dangerous and there is so much to say about it. If you believe in this social media world and this fake reality that we made, we end up not appreciating the little things in life and our small accomplishements. Because you will end up comparing our imperfects lives with those “perfect” lives on social media. This can lead to depression and lack of confeidence in your self. It’s just incredibly unhealthy in my opinion. Just don’t follow pages that won’t give you anything and make you feel bad about your life. Be very careful of what you follow. And living without social media is maybe even better in my opinion.
Oh and: if you’re one of those people who are making these fake images (on for example RUclips or instagram) you should understand that you’re not only being extremely unfair to yourself, but also to those people who are seeing you’re fake content. You’re having a bad impact on them. No need to lie to yourself or others, everybody knows the reality, why are we acting like we don’t?
Honestly, this was sooooo refreshing to watch. I have been seeing and feeling the pressure to make my life socially acceptable and on trend.
your videos always bring about an eerie feeling in my gut, like i’m a player in a game but only waking up and realizing it. AND I LOVE HOW YOU DO THAT!
Dude istg the fact that this channel deserves atleast more than 10m suscribers. People need to see your videos.
Great video! Personally, I consider myself lucky as I've always disliked social media so I don't use it. To me, it's always been clear that it was a fake version of reality.
Thank you! That’s really lucky if you haha I hope more younger people will notice that too
This video is amazing, seriously so well done
BEST VIDEO EVER.
first time hearing of simulacra, fascinating asf
same with me haha but it took like 4 months to try and understand it hahaha it is interesting!
Honestly social media has kind of helped me bc I saw that these people that I love watching are so positive, social, and never fight and so I took upon these characteristics and now I feel like a better version of myself. Even tho that may not be completely true ab the influencers and it could be an altered reality, I was still able to learn from them and turn my life for the better.
I now appreciate my decision as a teen to not engage so much with social media. In hindsight, I protected my self-image, self-esteem, and ultimately my mental health. I will no longer question this or whether I missed out. It's becoming clear that I missed out on a (borderline) tragedy
so proud of you honestly!
@@fatimahh1006 thank you so much💓💓💓💓
Somebody decided to show up after 4 months
this should be shown at schools nowadays.
love your videos even tho this one depressed me. ^^
I literally cannot believe how much time people spend thinking about themselves, how they look, if they are acceptable to others etc. It must be awful! I'm so glad you highlight how obsessive and mental this all is.
Thank you. Just... Thank you.
Wish everyone understood this. Whenever i watch your videos, i feel like sharing it to the whole world and make them realise. Some people can't change..
Welcome back, as always your content is great. I have decided that having memories is more important than taking photos. I've been enjoying living in the moment so much more.
Thank youuu for being patient with my content! Indeed it’s so much better to take photos for yourself than worrying about how it will look for others.
This is so true I literally lived through others on social media imagining my life was like there’s since my life was boring
I always feel so much better after watching your videos. Thank-you man ❤️🫂
awwwwwww thank you!!!!!!! that makes me so happy :)) I'm glad im able to do that!
Social life is now appearing to have something. Absolutely spot on.
Ibrahim you are a pure treasure. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s important to keep the awareness goin’
Very interesting when you said photo dumping is new..I guess in the sense of how it's used now it is new but we used to photo dump on Myspace and Facebook just to free up space on our phones lol great video though! Very interesting stuff
To know so much at this age ( you look very young) is just phenomenal.
hahaha definitely a lot of researching and reading mainly since I started doing commentary for RUclips! its fun though
@@ibrahimkamityoutube Keep doing it, what you said is absolutely right and true. Never deviate from this path of truth, its hard but its what it is. God bless.
I’ve had identity crisis ‘s before. But that was when I was a people pleaser so I had no personality. Other people ran my life. Like social media does.
I struggle a lot with my self esteem and confidence and after a lot of trauma and psychological abuse I have been so emotionally tired to the point that I sometimes feel like I’m everything bad compared to everyone else, especially on social media. However I am trying to find therapy even if it’s hard to be listened to at times and I try to remind myself how much work influencers and even people do to present them self as high as possible and that many don’t actually show how they are when they are sad, frustrated, tired or just not doing their best. It’s always comforting to know that I’m not alone and that many of my thoughts and feeling no matter how stupid or small they are is something many can relate to and that I am not the crazy person who is typically mentally ill, but just in need of recovery and self love and acceptance
You are one of the best commentary channels who poses questions about social media, A.I, environmental issues, body issues and many more. I always get something new while watching your commentary channel. Idk ur research and all just makes me wonder. This video shows the depth of the topic. 😊🙌
I love how your videos feel informative and not just a person sharing their opinions
Ibrahim the west coast intro is everything!
Omg, you're finally back. I'm so glad that you posted a new video. I had been checking your channel for the past week for any new uploads. Can't wait to watch the video!!
Awwww I’m glad you’re here to enjoy the new video! thank you for being patient :)
Annnd the king is back. Great video essay as always! Definitely guilty of this and this year I really started thinking about how social media does influence my daily life and also what I want to do with my life. For example: do I really want to travel as bad as I think I do or am I just getting FOMO from everyone's travels too?
Love the new hairstyle by the way!
I have been waiting for this for AGES!!!
thank you for being here and patient!! ❤️❤️
Ibrahim your videos always blow my mind! Ever since I discovered your channel 2 years back I am really feeling like it would have made a huge impact for me, my personal journey during my teenage years and my life in general. Meanwhile I can even accept my body thanks to one of your videos 🙏 I would really like to see a video about bott culture and how algorithms are influencing our daily lifes and especially our decisions (so not only talking about TikTok, I am more thinking about bott wars in politics or things like Cambridge analytics). Hope you're having a great day whoever reads this :)
awwwwww this makes me sooo happy to know that I've been able to help you and your life journey. I'm so sooo happy for you!! ahhhhhh you've inspired me to make a video maybe about teenage to adult transition. omg to read your words is so unreal, I'm just so glad I can help you with body acceptance. Also thank you so much for your video suggestion, such a good idea will add that to my list!
aside from the great well thought-out content, the editing is absolutely fire, especially that intro. got me all pumped to improve in my editing skills too
aw hahaha thank you!! really appreciate the feedback!!
This was GREAT!
Lol that coffee commercial “mmmmMMMMM”
whoooaa... i had to watch this on a slower speed for my brain to be able to handle all this!! loved it 🤯🤯
hahahahahahah thats exactly what my siblings said hahah, thank you for watching it tho and glad u enjoy it!!
Love this!
For me, my moment was when my grandma was placed on hospice. It was very difficult and draining and I needed support. I went on Instagram and saw engagement photos of someone from middle school.
It hit me.
This person isn’t actually my friend and I just felt so lonely.
I unfollowed most of the people on my Instagram and started following dog, animal accounts or positive mental health accounts.
I go on Instagram now when I need some positivity. I don’t post any pics anymore.
Still struggling to limit what I do on the internet’s and only use it to create or engage when I need support but still tough!
Love your videos💗💗💗
This is so well done Ibrahim! Everything you discuss is so on point and hopefully we can initiate more candid conversations on the same 💞
In my family my brother and I are the only ones who have social media. My parents & aunts and uncles don’t have anything, let alone my grandparents.
I am so thankful I got to live a childhood free from social media (tho in the early 2000’s social media wasn’t really a thing yet), and I am thankful my family isn’t consumed by it either.
Family events are almost never captured on video or camera, we just experience it and cherish the memories.
I don’t really have social media anymore either. I only have youtube lol. I want to live a real life, not a performance for the invisible world that is the internet.
i agree with almost everything you said even though i like spending time in social media i know a lot of things are fake but i try to follow people who post interesting and authentic things. I’m not a person who posts a lot, and for this some people tell me that if I posted more I would have more followers but i really don’t care. It is my life and I would like to manage it as I like it, not as others would like.
Sorry for my bad english i’m italian
don't worry you're English is great! there is definitely nothing wrong with using social media if it doesn't affect you negatively :) I also love using instagram to look for running inspiration and cooking 😂
I also love cookings videos
It was worth waiting. Another great video. This is what I think but can’t put into words.
thank you for being patient and appreciating my content!!
@@ibrahimkamityoutube always