My wife is PhD holder and now professor who earns double than me but we live happily. I don't find anything wrong if she earns more than me, she never make me feel that she is more educated and earn more money than me. And the best part is we are arranged marriage. In my opinion if you give respect than only you'll earn respect. I take care of everything for my wife so does she. There should be mutual respect.
I would like some financial advice from you. I have searched far and wide on internet but still haven't come across any useful advice about how to split expenses and money considering our cultural norms so that no one partner feels overwhelmed. In short how do you guys bear expenses, is it 50/50. Please give advice
@@RealDaniyalAhmed Basically I take care of the household expenses, starting from my baby's diaper to his food to grocery for the whole month. We are eight member in the family including my one year old son. I ask my wife to keep her salary in savings, and when i need extra money anytime she transfers me the money on my account, doesn't matter it's a small or large amount. Yes but the expenses are always legitimate.
Bhai my wife is doing her Phd and I am working on my CPA, we got married in 2012 and decided not to have kids until we are ready to have kids. You can imagine what type of questions we get from our relatives and friends... Thanks for highlighting this topic
@@namaloom7061 bro this hadith does not mean that women have less intellect than men. If it were true then you would not see 2/3 of the students in medical colleges being women, so on and so forth. It highlights the fact that woman have a tendency of doing naaz nakhra compared to men who are more straight forward in their approach.
Hello Junaid Sir, I'm from Agra, India and I want to tell you that I am your huge follower. I'm not your fan but a follower who takes every good advice of your's. I used to talk about you at dinner table in my house and now my sisters are used to listen you and your podcasts on a regular basis. Hope you are doing good, All the best!
My mom had a tough childhood and being the eldest among her siblings she became the man of the house at an early age of 18 by getting a govt job via SSC examination, Soon she was married to my father and being a part of an Indian family where she wasn't supported much she had to quit her job after my brother was born.... Growing up I've always seen my mother as an abundance of talent that never saw light of the day but she put all of that talent in raising her 2 sons and we dominated our school and adult life in college because of early grooming and mentorship of soft as well as hard working skills. My mom now teaches underprivileged kids and also writes books and set exam papers for IGNOU an open university in India. An educated women will not only help a family financially but also an educated house maker is equally an asset to a family. Women education is more important than a man being educated in my opinion. Love your videos From India.
Karan bhai auntyji ko 🙏 bolna. Jo unhone uss time pae krra hai vo bohot he difficult tha because of our society that time. She is a fighter and achiever .❤️❤️
I am astonished how just he covered a whole topic in just 15 minutes. Junaid Akram you are a GEM! Well the summary of whole video is that a man must have strong opinions to convince a women. We must need to level up.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793it's not happening with u Bec u r a WoMAN...A Man also faces it if he is 30 plus and not married...so stop showing that the WoMAN has to face these type of difficulties...
My Mom Is Divorced And When I Was 4 Months Old She Got Divorced But She Was Educated So She Start Working In A Hospital As A Jr. Doctor And Now Alhamdullillah We're On A Good Stage Just Because Of My Mother's Struggles And Now I'm 17 And I Will Be Starting Working Soon. And Yeah I Hate My Father Love You Mom♥️♥️
Education give you tolerance to survive in worst not to leave your path. One sided stories especially from the tongue of female would lead one to wrong judgement.
Lol what? Aj kal agar Pakistan mai aurat job karti ho ya os kai pas degree ho to saray ristai walai os kai liyai hi jatai hai. Beta ji tum kis zamanay mai rahti ho? Aj kal har koi pasai kamanay wali bahu ghar mai lati hai.😂
actually thats not true if girl is educated then she is not willing to compromise in marriage ....both boy and girl has to compromise in marriage which educated girls are not ready to do it
I completed my PhD when I turned 31. I was a single, happy, successful person from a good family. I had lots of friends and was sensible in that I had a lot of savings from the time I’d worked. My soon-to-be husband who had been divorced and had been taken to the cleaners by his ex-wife and was penniless, and who also came from a very different family to my own was told by his family that I wasn’t good enough for him and he could do better than me!!! Lol! To call them ulloo ke patteh is an Insult to both ulloo and patteh! Alhamdulillah my husband had a heart of gold which is what I fell in love with him for, ignored them all and we got married. Alhamdulillah my husband takes pride in the fact that I’m a Dr. His family looks the other way when he calls me Dr Begum in front of them.
Thank you for raising such an important topic, it's very important for women to be educated in today's time.we are five sisters and 2 brothers,my parents have been very supportive towards all of us,infact encouraged us to study nd made sure that their daughters not only studied but workd too. All of us sisters are working professionals including my brothers of course,four of them are married and none got married before the age of 28.My parents would hope that their daughters "settled down" when they reached the age of 25(yes the word settled needs to be highlighted bcz apparently no matter how successful you are,you aren't settled unless you are married)but never forced us.when my elder brother wanted to get married the only thing they cared about was, the girl should be educated and should be working. My parents didn't come from much,they were the only educated ones among their respective siblings.Hence they understood the importance of education. I come from one of the Tribal groups in India,and growing up we had no role models around except for my parents so they had to work extra hard on us,bcz we lived in a village and ppl didn't really care much about education,today my family is like a success story in my community.And I can proudly say that they look up to us. My parents could only support our education because they both worked, they were government teachers in a village next to ours, they have retired now and live a very peaceful and satisfied life knowing that they have raised their daughters to be strong independent individuals. Also want to mention my mom got married in her late twenties,she earned more than my dad did all her life, when they got retired my mom got retired as a principal but dad got retired as a teacher so even today, they both get pension from the government of India,but my mom gets almost double the amount than what my dad does. So yea strong educated women raise strong educated children. Thanks once again, Great admirer of your work, A lot of love from Delhi India.
I am studying bachelor engineering in Germany, and on leaving i paid a visit to my one of my school teachers. His wife said "Itna parh k kya karogi" #sadreality
I don’t see anyone laughing. So not really a joke. Women in Bangladesh are running their own businesses. Chahay woh fruit ka thela ho ya phir high class clothing store. This is one reason why their economy is better than ours.
You touched my heart. 06 minutes onwards I'm living the same Life. My unmarried and my younger sister is married. And exactly feeling the same in all family functions. They tell me I'm btameez and tez because I'm opinionated. Thanks for speaking my heart out.
The issue is mostly upper middle class male and female, if they're highly educated they don't even feel like considering Lower middle class educated male/female individuals. That's why our society is going backwards. The other issue is CLASS system, it doesn't matter if an individual is highly educated people don't see their education but they see what Class that individual belongs to.
@@ibizilong8907 there's always been multiple flaws in every society, but the thing is how a society act or plan to overcome those flaws. First of all we'll all have to eliminate our inner flaws on individual basis, only then we as a society will be able to make a difference for good.
Thank you for making these videos, as an 18 year old girl, im knowing the harsh realities which people dont tell you. Thank you for saying the things as they are without sugar coating!
It's not common sense bro. It's gained knowledge. He reads books on a vast number of subjects. He travels and he uses the internet to learn from credible sources. You can too.
Sir, your videos match my exact opinions completely. I just wish that people in society understands all this too, I wish that your videos can achieve a higher platform and it impacts society too. I really hope every single person in the world watches this and learns from it. I wish I could show this to every single person.
Junaid, you and other podcasters are doing what our journalists, media and entertainment industry should’ve been doing all along. You are molding our society from mud all over again. Hats off to you, my friend.
I am grateful that even though my mother was married off after her secondary education, she still tells my sister and I “pardh likh kar kuch bano” rather than imposing marriage on us at a young age the way it was imposed on her.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 I’m sorry that you are depressed by this, hope it gets better for you. This shaadi mentality is so annoying. Would it help if you joined a community of other single 30-year old women? I’m sure you can find them online through Reddit or Instagram etc. maybe it will be a way for you to seek solace with other women in your position
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 Well, I don't have any problem with you nor I'm a person with that Old mentality. But, I think your friends or family members probably want you to get married as soon as possible which is in the best interest of your own self. I mean If you wanna get married ( at some age of your life ) then you'll have to face many difficulties at that time as most people don't accept aged women ( which is another drawback of our cruel society ).
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 itni parhai ka faida jo confidence hi ni dy rahi... itna parh ky mae kisi ki baat na suno... main just grad ho ky lagta hai adhy moo band ho gaye... #sarkariMulazimInSelectedGov
Whenever I watch any of your videos, they make me think, question, research about the topics and discuss it with people. Please keep doing what you are doing, Guruji. You’re a teacher, we needed but never had.
Im 37 wth PhD. You spoke to my heart. Meri family me bh hur ek koi mjhe daikh k ladkio ko ziada nhn pdhana chah rh k meri trah shadi nhn hogi. Aur kbhi kbhar me bh khud bht depressed hojati hn y daikh k 😣.
Sis kabi b asy logon ki bato sat khud ko depress na kijyga. Pak k logon ko shadi k ilawa koi kam ni unki har soch har goal shadi k ird gird revolve krta ha...ap nay phd ki h ma shaa Allah ..Allah swt apko or kamyabi day. Ap mulk ka nam Roshan karain ameen..ap note kijyga jo log asi batain krtay han unho nay khud life na shadi or do bacho k ilawa kch ni kia hota
I m not into any kind of depression, Alhumdullilah I am aiming to be Phd n not afraid of being single for whole life because I know if I will not find anyone then there would be some other blessings for me by Allah.
Absolutely loved this topic! Spot on 👍🏼👏🏼…… Respect you as a man to promote these views that we , as women, have been trying to infuse in our generations for the last half a century! I was blessed to have a father who encouraged education and independence of women in thought and finances. Kudos to you!
My mum is well educated and my papa is a good man and that combo produced allhamdullilah a pretty good generation, I am doing Software Engineering, sis is doing Bio Informatics and lil brother is a Hafiz e Quran + in matric. Allhamdullilah.
Thank you so much for making this video... Im 30, I've been working for three years as a concept artist, Im killing it...and im happy like that its ok waqai sach baat hai har kisi ko mukammal jahan nahi milta....
CSS walay kya nation ko service dyty hon jo yeh banda dy rha hai. Honestly yeh public service hai such a beautiful msg. Stay blessed junaid bhai ❤ long live Pakistan 💚
Respect For ur guts for speaking ur mind on RUclips Love leasing to ur videos specially ur possitive thoughts 💭 I could relate to this video Am Indian well wisher of u 🧡
It is extremely important for women to be educated. Education plays a huge role when it comes to dealing with ups and downs in life espacially in case of women. Unfortunately it also has a downside, Some women think doing house chores or taking care of husband is a bad thing, which is totally wrong. Its totally fine if she has no issue in taking care of her home and her family.
Following are the qoutes from Stoic philosopher marcus aurelius: 1) It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinions than our own. 2) The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. 3) You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. 4) Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. 5) If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. 6)The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury. 7) Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize? Ponder at these qoutes. I also suggest stoicism for our Pakistanis.
Working on these principles of Stoicism is the only solution for all our problems. Unfortunately, In an Islamic country like Pakistan we can't see people working on these principles.
We're four sisters. My parents always supported us in our education and are supporting. Couldn't Thank Allah more. And bilkul theek baat hai throughout the journey I've faced such pathetic mentality, whether it was from Mard and aurat. Ye jumla bht baar sunny ko mila "ZIADA PARH LIKH GAI HO" . 😄
Just ignore these people. Hasad he yeh unki. Ayesha(r.a), the wife of prophet Mohammed (pbuh) was the most successful among other sahabas. She was a scholar, a teacher, and even lead a war campaign.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
Mashallah Junaid Bhai has every time inspired us from his podcasts and this time he has expressed his opinion for the betterment of our Pakistani Culture
Bhai I belong from baniya community of India .And humari community ab mostly jitni bhi marriages hoti hai .usmein pehli condition ye hoti hai ki ladki working honi chaiye.because as we see from future perspective agar apko apna living standard acha rakhna hai toh all the members who are young irrespective of male or female should be earning. Kyuki agar app earn kr rhe ho toh ghr ke kam toh maids bhi kr leti hai ,bss hath mein income honi chaiye. My cousin brother is in Google at a package 57 lakhs inr. My bhabhi is a surgeon in a private hospital she earns around 40 lakhs inr. At the time of marriage my brother was earning around 22 lakhs per annum and my bhabhi was earning just 8 lakhs. But she kept on studying further with family support. And in future she will surpass my brother. Agr iss talent se sirf ghr mein khana banwate toh . 30 saal bad bhi khaana hee banwate rehte.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
Junaid bhai I'm a dentist from a middle class family With 4 more sisters all from medical field with no brother ,my parents invested their all savings and life in educating us. Married to a business man ,who's a bsc graduate BUT AlhamdulAllah blessed with best mentality men My husband supports me in my practice and understands me, shares his responsibilities understanding that I'm educated.. I think men should educate first and broaden their mind towards female education ...
I feel very happy when I see videos as such from Pakistan. It's a testament to the fact that the religious dogmas and fanaticism hasn't taken over the country yet. Moderate and liberal(not pseudo) ones need to fight hard over dialogues to attain a peaceful and transparent society. Greetings from India. 💗
You always share something worthy of watching and i really respect what u do to make us more aware... Keep doing what u r doing u will definitely make a big difference in coming time...
I love the way you have covered this topic in just 15 minutes in such a beautiful manner. Nowadays it is reality that when you are more educated you feel more difficulties in society. I love the way you expressed the importance of choosing an educated life partner
Junaid bhai, thank you for talking about this topic and since I can (like many) relate to this I have some opinions/comments: 1. a boy observes his mother being submissive then why does he want to have same kind of partner. I am not at all saying the mother was wrong (it was her destiny/circumstances) but why does the boy have to repeat it? 2. I chose to have an educated wife. Because our culture (irrespective of religion) invests more in a son than the daughter, I was fortunate to receive this investment but I also know that my parents couldn’t afford similar education for my sis. But I feel for her loss. I tried to give her what she deserved when I became able, but because her mindset was already set as society’s upbringing, I failed. I won’t say ‘she’ failed but I failed. 3. When you spoke about the % male female and then drilled down, also note religious and sect divisions. The ratio will be less than a 1% 4. A Couple could be childless or choose to not have a child, these are two different things, but our society begins asking questions after a year of marriage. (Happens with us)! 5. Because what I observed in my upbringing that the women is the ‘bali ki bakri’ I try to support female education I can go on and on but thanks for talking about this. Our society needs it. Each drop makes a dent in a rock, someday things will change
Have a look at the 2 sides of the same mirror: The point of topic is educated females, who are unable to get married. Firstly, some people are confusing intellect with education. Intellect has a much broader horizon and getting higher education is one part of it. Please don't confuse that people who are educated must also be intellectual as well. Nope, you're mistaken. Education can't give you an intellectual mind, but an intellectual mind can make you well-educated. Unfortunately, many educated wives in our society are not intellectual, which is where many problems arise after they get married. Same goes for educated men too. (Read more about what intellect is before you comment). Secondly, he just pointed out the things in one direction. The reality is that many educated girls want things to be dealt with without any sort of understanding and sometimes want their decisions to be superimposed on many occasions without having the consent of their husbands, which is the root cause of many issues. We need to change the concept of how we think of what an educated wife is. Being an educated wife means now you're well-equipped with all those tools that are imperative for your family to become a more civilised one. You are better equipped with every skill that can make your family stand out amongst other when it comes to a progressive family with equal rights to husband, wife and children. Being an educated wife means now you're well-equipped with the real techniques to handle MENTAL STRESS (which is more strenuous than PHYSICAL STRESS) of your husband and children and now you're in a position to give valuable suggestions to your partner to deal with tough situations. If you are educated and you have other plans than the ones mentioned above, then sorry to say you're not here to form and nurture good family but to superimpose your decisions and doing things on your own without the consent of your husband or even your children if they are grown ups. In our society, if educated wife knows how to deal with the harsh situations being in a marriage then she is the best choice of many potential husbands. But unfortunately, they haven't understood the meaning of what an educated wife means for a family. P.S. There are many educated wives, who are doing their best and fulfilling their duties. My criticism is for the one who are educated, ready for marriage but don't have any flexibility or want to face the harsh reality when it comes to a married life.
Completely agree. I don't know why this guy stereotypes every middle class family. He thinks that every uneducated person is unculture.That is the problem with so called educated intellectuals.
so every woman has no aim besides bearing children and being a home maker??? are we in the 1800's again? giving autonomy to your wife is something that should be practiced. If in scenarios, women mostly should have the approval of their partner but their decisions shouldn't be up for allowance there's a very fine line there. Second mostly aap maan lein ye baat ke parhi likhi larkiyan isi liye nahi bahu banayi jati kyun ke apke maushre mein jahalat hay aur unke opinion yehi hay ke agar parhi likhi hay tou apni zubaan chalayegi. that is the reality isnt it? You cant just deny arrogance that's within your nation.
@@anosheym4566 ایسا کہاں ہوتا ہے ہم بھی اسی معاشرے میں رہتے ہیں اور اسی مڈل کلاس سوسائیٹی کا حصہ ہیں میں نے جہاں بھی دیکھا ہے لوگ پڑھی لکھی کو ذیادہ پریفر کرتے ہیں ایک تو اس لیے کہ اپنے بچے پڑھا سنبھال لے گی یا چار پیسے کما کر گھر پر لگائے گا دوسرا ٹرافی کلچر کی وجہ سے مطلب حاندان میں نام ہوگا کہ فلاں کی بہو اتنی پڑھی لکھی ہے۔ فلاں کی بیوی ڈاکٹر ہے یا بینکر ہے۔ میں دیہات میں رہتا ہوں یہاں لوگ زیادہ اتنے پڑھے لکھے نہیں ہیں لیکن پھر بھی اگر ان پڑھی لکھی بیٹی یا بیوی ہو یا بہو لائیں تو قابل فحر سمجھتے ہیں۔ بعض لوگ ذیادہ پڑھی لکھی سے شادی نہیں کرتے کیونکہ وہ سمجھتے ہیں کہ یہ ان کی حاندانی روایات کے حلاف جا سکتی ہے۔ اس کا یہ مطلب نہیں کہ وہ اس لیے نہیں کرتے تو کیونکہ وہ اس پر ظلم کر نہیں پایں گے۔یہ ان کی مرضی ہے وہ جہاں مرضی کریں آپ کو اچھا رشتہ مل سکتا ہے آپ کو لازم تھوڑی ہے کہ ان پڑھ حاندان سے رشتہ جوڑیں۔ حالات بہت بدل چکے ہیں آپ سٹار پلس ڈراموں سے نکل کر حقیقت میں اب آجائیں۔
Khuda ka khof kr bhai. Mental stress bardasht krvany klye shadi krni h. Superimpose her decision widout consent of her husband. Husband klye superimpose krna theek. Lrki ki jurrat k opinion rakhy. Men have the rt to divorce easily get remarried, allowed polygamy. Isilye tm logon ki akr khatam nahi horahi. Bivi ko life partner samjho lesser being nahi
Junnaid bhai ♥️ you are love Ap hamesha society ki bat krte hain jo ke sahi hoti or ap khali masla bata ke video khtm nhi krte ap solution bhi dete hain jis ki wajah se jo bhi depressed hota ha wo recover ho jata ha♥️🙏
Agree to all the points you jave mentioned above! In my comment i would rather talk about men who face problems halfway same as women! Mardon ko b baar baar ziada kamanay ki tajwez di jati hai ye bataya jata hai k kal ko koi beeti nahi dega etc etc. Masla yahan ye hain chahy aurat ho ya mard uspar zimidari thoopi jarahi hai bijaye samjhanay say! Larki agar parh b lay to zabardasti kitchen k kaam sikhaye jatay hain ussay ehsaas dilaya jata hai k beta apki jaga he yahi hai that is why most of the girls start hating homes and want to work outside to prove themselves. Same like that ghr par behtay huay mardon ko sunaya jata hai hatta k uska koi buisness b hona jo ghr beth k hosakay usko zabardasti bahir bheja jata hai, nokri karo kama k do, sahara bano etc etc! Jidki waja say woh b baaz okat kaam nahi karna pasand kartay! Also mardon ko amuman ghr main pani ka glass b nahi uthanay dia jata! Rather then pushing people to gender roles if we focus on the balance baat alaw ban jayegi
Ab ldkia bhi financially independent hona chahti hain or job krna chahti hain (and that is good..i also support women empowerment) lekin pehle mrdo ko ldko ko to job miley ...ldko k liye job ki itni kami ho gyi hai k ab pdey likhe mrd bhi berozgar bethe hn..or ek berozgar mard ko dunia khoob taany deti hai..abhi hmary pados me ek bhai ne suicide kr lia jbki wo well educated tha...govt itni job hi produce nhi kr paa rahi k jo deserve krte hn atleast unko to job mil jaaye chahy vo ldki ho ya ldka ..ese to women empowerment ka fayda km nuksaan zada hoga (same problem in both India & Pakistan)
@@arsalankakar8201 shukrya molvi sab magar baz log orat ko kam ki ijazat to dot orat ko gulam ya gar ki londi samjty hen khas tor py diobandi molvi extremest
I am happy that meri ammi ny master kia hy or abbu doctor hy ... Or thank god unki soch bakiyon se mukhtaliff hy .. abhi me 1st year kr rha hun to relatives ne bohut kaha hy fcs or phir pre engineering kru liken i am happy k mery Abbu ny unky samny unki is sooch ko galat kaha or sara right mjhy dia k mera kia dil hy .. or bas yh kaha k zindagi me jo kru dil se kru ... Or abbu humesha supporting kerty hy mjhy ❤
I am shocked that people actually stigmatize and condense women who are unmarried. Like what. May Allah forgive people like that because karma is a bihhhh. Those words come around SO FAST.
Literally every day we feel this pressure, irrespective of we are in age of marriage or not but just because I want to study, I have to keep all this shit in my mind
Sir g. muje aapse genuine muhabbat hai. ALLAH ne apko buht aqal o shaur se nawaza hai... dil se dua nikalti hai k ALLAH apko hmesha khush rkhe aur tman khushiyan dy ameeen! hum iss qadar khhoti (punjabi wala) qaum hai... aap jaisa Sher Dil shaks iss keechar ki safayi karne ki koshesh kar rha hai. ALLAH ne aapko iska reward abhi dyna hai.. iss dunya mein nai to agay jaa k to zrur zrur milega. ameen! May ALLAH shower countless blessings upon you.. ameen sum ameen
Only Parents can support and empower a girl to standout especially a Father. Only parents can teach humanity and respect for others, specifically women, to a boy; especially a Mother.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
Our teacher once asked us to describe our ideal wife. When we were done describing he said, "what you told is a description of a fashion model and not a wife". He then asked us to change our perspective. He said find a partner who is more likely to be a good mother to your children. I felt pretty ashamed that I didn't fulfill the ideals of being a good father. It struck me so hard that I had to remodel myself. Whenever I think of ideal wife my thoughts also go towards me becoming an ideal husband and a father. It keeps me motivated to stay positive. P.S Communication has never been my strength, so forgive me if my message seems confusing to you.
DISCUSSION TIME Hi, Faheem Here & I have a perspective to share in this Regard.. While many people believe that women who are arranged to marry have the trouble with pairing, the truth is that men also struggle and deal with rejection. Two year’s ago my parents started to look at proposals for me. I got very strange refusals such as these: Different social class, not enough income, not good looking enough, the family is too big can’t give the daughter away, or not an owner of enough property. I understand the option of choice, but being more attracted to material wealth is driving many to reject and often men don’t marry until the late 20’s and up. I feel it is unfair to remain alone because I do not possess great wealth. I am 29 and in business, so it’s not like I've nothing,I'm well enough but for now I await my perfect pairing.
Really good message for our families, our communities to make their children strong, decision makers, responsible and above all righteous. They should be strong enough to say no, and stand against something they know is right/ wrong.my husband has always said and practically proved the things you said in this podcast, he always stood up for me and my sister in law in front of everyone, he argued with my in-laws for right and wrong and always empowered us. My father is the same. He believed in us siblings and my mom.
At 10:30 you talk about Bacha apni marzi ki degree he nahi kr skta. Me personally along with so many others are a victim of this. Please do a podcast on this specific topic Junaid bhai , thanks a lot for every thing you do ❤️
you speak my mind thank you so much in shit chaos you talk about real issue do highlight more regarding these kind of basic issues. may Allah bless you
Waa this one hit pretty close to home. Growing up I have never seen a non toxic married relationship in my surroundings. I don't know if the people who are in it themselves reckon it as toxic or not. So I have a lot of problem with lots of things and it gets more shocking once I start talking to people that it's wrong. No one gets it. It's so weird.
I think we should promote the idea for financial independent women and men who do there house chorus themselves, so that people don't marry because they depend on some one for there needs. instead they should marry cause they love the person they are choosing.
Education is about mindset not holding degrees. I've seen several people regardless of gender with lesser education but having the highest understanding of moral and social values.
Junaid bhai a loud shout outfrom INDIA, ur only youtuber frm pakistan i watch. U have a very interesting persona i feel attached too. Problems u discuss in is not related to ur specific country but in general entire South Asian Countries. Keep on serving humanity. Request to pls add english subtitles for ur subscribers from india.
In my family it’s opposite. My brother tried so much for my sister in law to learn graphic designing with him so they can work together but she doesn’t want to work at all. She enjoys more family politics and drama. He asked her to learn something to keep busy but she prefers star plus.
@@tauriangurl what are you talking about ! Why Pakistani ego is so fragile. Nothing wrong for a husband to wish his wife become independent. Same way a good father makes his daughter independent. Because of your type of mentality many women in Pakistan struggle to survive when they don’t have men in their lives.
Good point but you presented only one side of the story.. The thing is that we don't do marriages,.. We actually do businesses, we invest in our child in the name of degrees, later jobs, and then started to launch product with terms and conditions... Marriage never works on terms and conditions, it works only on mutual respect and understanding ... You gave an ideal example of "Ummul Momineen Hazrat khadija R.A." but unfortunately it can't be fit in our corrupt society..
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
First. Oh yeh tou mera hee page hai.
1st
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Lol
😂 😂
Junaid bhai full trolling huh 😳👍
My wife is PhD holder and now professor who earns double than me but we live happily. I don't find anything wrong if she earns more than me, she never make me feel that she is more educated and earn more money than me. And the best part is we are arranged marriage. In my opinion if you give respect than only you'll earn respect. I take care of everything for my wife so does she. There should be mutual respect.
May Allah bless every women with a partner like you! Ameen.
More power to you
@@ayeshaa_rehaan Thanks sister.
@Aimelkhan353 Spot on.
I would like some financial advice from you. I have searched far and wide on internet but still haven't come across any useful advice about how to split expenses and money considering our cultural norms so that no one partner feels overwhelmed. In short how do you guys bear expenses, is it 50/50. Please give advice
@@RealDaniyalAhmed Basically I take care of the household expenses, starting from my baby's diaper to his food to grocery for the whole month. We are eight member in the family including my one year old son. I ask my wife to keep her salary in savings, and when i need extra money anytime she transfers me the money on my account, doesn't matter it's a small or large amount. Yes but the expenses are always legitimate.
Bhai my wife is doing her Phd and I am working on my CPA, we got married in 2012 and decided not to have kids until we are ready to have kids. You can imagine what type of questions we get from our relatives and friends... Thanks for highlighting this topic
Amazing bhai... hats off to your wife :)
❤❤
👍👍
Bhai ab bhot acha kaam kaar rhe ho. Duniya ka toh kaam hi hai khene ka.
Bro, so proud of you. Keep it going 👍
"There is no beauty over intellect" prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.s)
Hadith reference?
Type of hadith
"عورت ناقص العقل ہے" حضرت محمد.
@@namaloom7061 bro this hadith does not mean that women have less intellect than men. If it were true then you would not see 2/3 of the students in medical colleges being women, so on and so forth. It highlights the fact that woman have a tendency of doing naaz nakhra compared to men who are more straight forward in their approach.
@@namaloom7061 Producing things from your mind?? Hunhhh....
Hello Junaid Sir,
I'm from Agra, India and I want to tell you that I am your huge follower. I'm not your fan but a follower who takes every good advice of your's. I used to talk about you at dinner table in my house and now my sisters are used to listen you and your podcasts on a regular basis.
Hope you are doing good, All the best!
Are bhai mai bhi agra se hu
Much love to your family :)
bro modi gee ki advice le liya kro J.Akram se behter hay..lol
@@MuhammadKhan-cw5hk imran khan se behtar hai 😂.
@@MuhammadKhan-cw5hk Pakistan ka control military ke haath me hai PM to naam ka hai
My mom had a tough childhood and being the eldest among her siblings she became the man of the house at an early age of 18 by getting a govt job via SSC examination,
Soon she was married to my father and being a part of an Indian family where she wasn't supported much she had to quit her job after my brother was born.... Growing up I've always seen my mother as an abundance of talent that never saw light of the day but she put all of that talent in raising her 2 sons and we dominated our school and adult life in college because of early grooming and mentorship of soft as well as hard working skills.
My mom now teaches underprivileged kids and also writes books and set exam papers for IGNOU an open university in India.
An educated women will not only help a family financially but also an educated house maker is equally an asset to a family.
Women education is more important than a man being educated in my opinion.
Love your videos
From India.
I'm speechless but so happy
Your mom is a great person
@Gallert Grindelwald that's great
Karan bhai auntyji ko 🙏 bolna.
Jo unhone uss time pae krra hai vo bohot he difficult tha because of our society that time.
She is a fighter and achiever .❤️❤️
Your mother is an inspiration
MashaAllah great 👌👌👌👌👌👌
I am astonished how just he covered a whole topic in just 15 minutes. Junaid Akram you are a GEM! Well the summary of whole video is that a man must have strong opinions to convince a women. We must need to level up.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 Stay strong.
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793it's not happening with u Bec u r a WoMAN...A Man also faces it if he is 30 plus and not married...so stop showing that the WoMAN has to face these type of difficulties...
This man literally deserves 1millions subscribers.
💯
Whole Pakistan should watch him he deserves 200M subs
Absolutely
Nhi bhai isko kiyun dene han subscribers ham toh jannat mirza k 10 million karayein ge
Ham toh Jannat Mirza k karayein ge 10 million iske kiyun karane han yeh toh kaam ki baat krta ha
The most rational guy in Pakistan. Always love to hear your opinion, it makes so much sense !
My Mom Is Divorced And When I Was 4 Months Old She Got Divorced But She Was Educated So She Start Working In A Hospital As A Jr. Doctor And Now Alhamdullillah We're On A Good Stage Just Because Of My Mother's Struggles And Now I'm 17 And I Will Be Starting Working Soon.
And Yeah I Hate My Father
Love You Mom♥️♥️
I used to hate my father until I listened to his side of the story. Now i hate my mother.
@@salmanazhar5306 Good For You Brother
Education give you tolerance to survive in worst not to leave your path. One sided stories especially from the tongue of female would lead one to wrong judgement.
Go find your Father and ask him the other side of the story...
Shadi is a part of life. Why have they made it the point of life?
I have to stop right here and say: WHAT A BIG FREAKIN' COINCIDENCE !!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA love the dps
Damn I am laughing rn cuz of ur dps 😂😂😂
@@waqarsarfraz4205 high five!
@@waqarsarfraz4205 are you guys playing with each other same profile picture........
People don't want "parhli likhi girl" for their boy because she knows her rights and won't succumb to slavery and abuse in the name of marriage.
Lol what? Aj kal agar Pakistan mai aurat job karti ho ya os kai pas degree ho to saray ristai walai os kai liyai hi jatai hai. Beta ji tum kis zamanay mai rahti ho? Aj kal har koi pasai kamanay wali bahu ghar mai lati hai.😂
Iski abhi tk 90ss wali hi soch h😅
actually thats not true if girl is educated then she is not willing to compromise in marriage ....both boy and girl has to compromise in marriage which educated girls are not ready to do it
@@aamirrehman9687 compromise two way street hai. And most of the marriage mae female hi compromise krti hai
@@dhirendrasingh1787 Han compromise dono ko krna chahiye but mostly educated ni krna chahti
I believe when such kind of videos are trending then our country will be progressing at full pace.
I completed my PhD when I turned 31. I was a single, happy, successful person from a good family. I had lots of friends and was sensible in that I had a lot of savings from the time I’d worked. My soon-to-be husband who had been divorced and had been taken to the cleaners by his ex-wife and was penniless, and who also came from a very different family to my own was told by his family that I wasn’t good enough for him and he could do better than me!!! Lol! To call them ulloo ke patteh is an Insult to both ulloo and patteh! Alhamdulillah my husband had a heart of gold which is what I fell in love with him for, ignored them all and we got married. Alhamdulillah my husband takes pride in the fact that I’m a Dr. His family looks the other way when he calls me Dr Begum in front of them.
:D
That's awesome
Make a PODCAST on respecting AUTONOMY of CHILDREN'S....
Autonomy is always channeled; never given full!
@@videosakavidz1857 I KNOW bruh I commented THIS JUST for FuN...
Ohh yes.. Pleaseeee...
Yesss
@@MDM.Aviary idhar kamray ko kunda laga lo to bahir ghar ke Black Vigo ajati hay bhai
Thank you for raising such an important topic, it's very important for women to be educated in today's time.we are five sisters and 2 brothers,my parents have been very supportive towards all of us,infact encouraged us to study nd made sure that their daughters not only studied but workd too.
All of us sisters are working professionals including my brothers of course,four of them are married and none got married before the age of 28.My parents would hope that their daughters "settled down" when they reached the age of 25(yes the word settled needs to be highlighted bcz apparently no matter how successful you are,you aren't settled unless you are married)but never forced us.when my elder brother wanted to get married the only thing they cared about was, the girl should be educated and should be working.
My parents didn't come from much,they were the only educated ones among their respective siblings.Hence they understood the importance of education.
I come from one of the Tribal groups in India,and growing up we had no role models around except for my parents so they had to work extra hard on us,bcz we lived in a village and ppl didn't really care much about education,today my family is like a success story in my community.And I can proudly say that they look up to us.
My parents could only support our education because they both worked, they were government teachers in a village next to ours, they have retired now and live a very peaceful and satisfied life knowing that they have raised their daughters to be strong independent individuals.
Also want to mention my mom got married in her late twenties,she earned more than my dad did all her life, when they got retired my mom got retired as a principal but dad got retired as a teacher so even today, they both get pension from the government of India,but my mom gets almost double the amount than what my dad does.
So yea strong educated women raise strong educated children.
Thanks once again,
Great admirer of your work,
A lot of love from
Delhi India.
I am studying bachelor engineering in Germany, and on leaving i paid a visit to my one of my school teachers. His wife said "Itna parh k kya karogi" #sadreality
Phir aap ne Kiya jawab diya?
This is exactly why Bangladesh is so far ahead of us. Women empower!
Nice joke
Acha mazak tha
I don’t see anyone laughing. So not really a joke. Women in Bangladesh are running their own businesses. Chahay woh fruit ka thela ho ya phir high class clothing store. This is one reason why their economy is better than ours.
Yar Bangladesh ja k dekhiye. Bas 🇧🇩 is ahead of us.
@@waleedsarwarraja isme sharam wali bat Kya Bangladesh hum sa agay humari economy 285$billon jab ka unka 385$billion hai
You touched my heart. 06 minutes onwards I'm living the same Life. My unmarried and my younger sister is married. And exactly feeling the same in all family functions. They tell me I'm btameez and tez because I'm opinionated.
Thanks for speaking my heart out.
you're cute
The issue is mostly upper middle class male and female, if they're highly educated they don't even feel like considering Lower middle class educated male/female individuals. That's why our society is going backwards. The other issue is CLASS system, it doesn't matter if an individual is highly educated people don't see their education but they see what Class that individual belongs to.
sahi kaha jitna jyada padh lete he utna jyada arrogance hota he unme (exceptional is everywhere)
class system,where some schools prepare subjects and other produce rulers
@@mahjabeenmalik5306 i thought it existed in india only but wasnt knowing its among the muslims too
You have highlighted a very Major flaw in our society.
@@ibizilong8907 there's always been multiple flaws in every society, but the thing is how a society act or plan to overcome those flaws. First of all we'll all have to eliminate our inner flaws on individual basis, only then we as a society will be able to make a difference for good.
Do a podcast on life after marriage! A sort of training to keep things smooth.
watch zindagi gulzar hay
Yesss
Thank you for making these videos, as an 18 year old girl, im knowing the harsh realities which people dont tell you. Thank you for saying the things as they are without sugar coating!
He's a Gem 💎 watched all your podcast absolutely astonished I wish I have common sense like you sir .... love from Florence Italy 🇮🇹
Achaa g jnb milo naa fir kbhi
It's not common sense bro. It's gained knowledge. He reads books on a vast number of subjects. He travels and he uses the internet to learn from credible sources.
You can too.
Urdu kasa Smj aa jah thi hai
It's not common sense or knowledge.
It's vigilant observation ...
You see,you feel,you become wise.
@@MOHDALI-yd6ny Urdu mujhay aesay samajh aty Hain Q main ek Proud Pakistani ho aur Italy main phrta hu .
In India, we were taught this very early in school - “If you educate a woman, you educate a family, if you educate a girl, you educate the future."
People like you are the hope to change Pakistan.
Love from India.
Sir, your videos match my exact opinions completely. I just wish that people in society understands all this too, I wish that your videos can achieve a higher platform and it impacts society too. I really hope every single person in the world watches this and learns from it. I wish I could show this to every single person.
Junaid, you and other podcasters are doing what our journalists, media and entertainment industry should’ve been doing all along. You are molding our society from mud all over again. Hats off to you, my friend.
This guy is a freaking genius in talking about such difficult topics in such a way. Hats off. More power and support to you.
I am grateful that even though my mother was married off after her secondary education, she still tells my sister and I “pardh likh kar kuch bano” rather than imposing marriage on us at a young age the way it was imposed on her.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 I’m sorry that you are depressed by this, hope it gets better for you. This shaadi mentality is so annoying. Would it help if you joined a community of other single 30-year old women? I’m sure you can find them online through Reddit or Instagram etc. maybe it will be a way for you to seek solace with other women in your position
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 Well, I don't have any problem with you nor I'm a person with that Old mentality. But, I think your friends or family members probably want you to get married as soon as possible which is in the best interest of your own self. I mean If you wanna get married ( at some age of your life ) then you'll have to face many difficulties at that time as most people don't accept aged women ( which is another drawback of our cruel society ).
@@arsalrehman2891 no no not all I don't mind even I know it very well
@@bushrayasmeeneverydayvlogs2793 itni parhai ka faida jo confidence hi ni dy rahi... itna parh ky mae kisi ki baat na suno... main just grad ho ky lagta hai adhy moo band ho gaye... #sarkariMulazimInSelectedGov
I won't be wrong if would say that this Podcast is the "Podcast of the year".
Whenever I watch any of your videos, they make me think, question, research about the topics and discuss it with people. Please keep doing what you are doing, Guruji. You’re a teacher, we needed but never had.
this man always says the truth, or hmesha mre dil ki baat krte hn, khush rahen....
Im 37 wth PhD. You spoke to my heart. Meri family me bh hur ek koi mjhe daikh k ladkio ko ziada nhn pdhana chah rh k meri trah shadi nhn hogi. Aur kbhi kbhar me bh khud bht depressed hojati hn y daikh k 😣.
Sis kabi b asy logon ki bato sat khud ko depress na kijyga. Pak k logon ko shadi k ilawa koi kam ni unki har soch har goal shadi k ird gird revolve krta ha...ap nay phd ki h ma shaa Allah ..Allah swt apko or kamyabi day. Ap mulk ka nam Roshan karain ameen..ap note kijyga jo log asi batain krtay han unho nay khud life na shadi or do bacho k ilawa kch ni kia hota
If you are still single we can talk for marriage
Golden Words. This video should be shared among masses for educational purposes
I m not into any kind of depression, Alhumdullilah I am aiming to be Phd n not afraid of being single for whole life because I know if I will not find anyone then there would be some other blessings for me by Allah.
Absolutely loved this topic! Spot on 👍🏼👏🏼…… Respect you as a man to promote these views that we , as women, have been trying to infuse in our generations for the last half a century! I was blessed to have a father who encouraged education and independence of women in thought and finances. Kudos to you!
My mum is well educated and my papa is a good man and that combo produced allhamdullilah a pretty good generation, I am doing Software Engineering, sis is doing Bio Informatics and lil brother is a Hafiz e Quran + in matric. Allhamdullilah.
The 3rd one is eh, but other than that very nice, proud of you and your family
@@LinuxUser123 when you realize the third one is better than all, lol.
Thank you so much for making this video... Im 30, I've been working for three years as a concept artist, Im killing it...and im happy like that its ok waqai sach baat hai har kisi ko mukammal jahan nahi milta....
CSS walay kya nation ko service dyty hon jo yeh banda dy rha hai.
Honestly yeh public service hai such a beautiful msg.
Stay blessed junaid bhai ❤ long live Pakistan 💚
I am so happy and I want to appreciate that you're doing this podcast and creating awareness.
Meanwhile the awam: "dulhan" drama is trending right now😂
Respect For ur guts for speaking ur mind on RUclips
Love leasing to ur videos specially ur possitive thoughts 💭
I could relate to this video
Am Indian well wisher of u 🧡
Was scrolling fb. Just got the notification of new vid from junaid akram. Foran tap kia
same bro😅
same bro😅
It is extremely important for women to be educated. Education plays a huge role when it comes to dealing with ups and downs in life espacially in case of women. Unfortunately it also has a downside, Some women think doing house chores or taking care of husband is a bad thing, which is totally wrong. Its totally fine if she has no issue in taking care of her home and her family.
The Hero we need, but don't deserve. Hats off to you Sir for such amazing topics!!
Following are the qoutes from Stoic philosopher marcus aurelius: 1) It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinions than our own. 2) The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane.
3) You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. 4) Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. 5) If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. 6)The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury. 7) Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize? Ponder at these qoutes. I also suggest stoicism for
our Pakistanis.
Working on these principles of Stoicism is the only solution for all our problems. Unfortunately, In an Islamic country like Pakistan we can't see people working on these principles.
We're four sisters. My parents always supported us in our education and are supporting. Couldn't Thank Allah more. And bilkul theek baat hai throughout the journey I've faced such pathetic mentality, whether it was from Mard and aurat. Ye jumla bht baar sunny ko mila "ZIADA PARH LIKH GAI HO" . 😄
Will you marry me?
Just ignore these people. Hasad he yeh unki. Ayesha(r.a), the wife of prophet Mohammed (pbuh) was the most successful among other sahabas. She was a scholar, a teacher, and even lead a war campaign.
Much needed! Every single lady and their parents need to listen this!
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
Mashallah Junaid Bhai has every time inspired us from his podcasts and this time he has expressed his opinion for the betterment of our Pakistani Culture
Bhai I belong from baniya community of India .And humari community ab mostly jitni bhi marriages hoti hai .usmein pehli condition ye hoti hai ki ladki working honi chaiye.because as we see from future perspective agar apko apna living standard acha rakhna hai toh all the members who are young irrespective of male or female should be earning.
Kyuki agar app earn kr rhe ho toh ghr ke kam toh maids bhi kr leti hai ,bss hath mein income honi chaiye.
My cousin brother is in Google at a package 57 lakhs inr. My bhabhi is a surgeon in a private hospital she earns around 40 lakhs inr. At the time of marriage my brother was earning around 22 lakhs per annum and my bhabhi was earning just 8 lakhs. But she kept on studying further with family support.
And in future she will surpass my brother. Agr iss talent se sirf ghr mein khana banwate toh . 30 saal bad bhi khaana hee banwate rehte.
Banda batein Sachi krta hai yrr 👍 love from Dubai 🇦🇪🇵🇰✅
I love this man! We need longer videos! I'll literally pay for these.
let her live her dreams, let her marry when she feels she can.
The point of the video is you won't find anyone when you feel you are ready in this state....
Lol
@@HammasAli lol You have no brain to even understand the point of the video. He's talking about the ignorant and arrogant minded people like you.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
@@adam11099 wtf did I said that offended you so bad my dear KAREN!
OMG!! You have spoken my words!!
I'm in love with this!!
Junaid bhai I'm a dentist from a middle class family
With 4 more sisters all from medical field with no brother ,my parents invested their all savings and life in educating us. Married to a business man ,who's a bsc graduate BUT AlhamdulAllah blessed with best mentality men
My husband supports me in my practice and understands me, shares his responsibilities understanding that I'm educated..
I think men should educate first and broaden their mind towards female education ...
Just what I need to hear Junaid bahi. Thank you for the boost. Shaadi is not the only purpose of life.
You have given me awareness about everything more than my teachers did to me.❤
I feel very happy when I see videos as such from Pakistan. It's a testament to the fact that the religious dogmas and fanaticism hasn't taken over the country yet. Moderate and liberal(not pseudo) ones need to fight hard over dialogues to attain a peaceful and transparent society. Greetings from India. 💗
You always share something worthy of watching and i really respect what u do to make us more aware... Keep doing what u r doing u will definitely make a big difference in coming time...
Thanks for highlighting this topic much needed for our society 👍
My heart ufffff
What a truth ..... Bhai Behan Maa baap Even olaad Hum choose nai krte
Hum sirf partner choose kr saktey Hain
Another liberal, 🤮
@@arsalankakar8201 app ki educatio kya hai???
@@hammadali3457 o level q
@@arsalankakar8201 because i wanted to know your exposure and other thing by knowing your education.
True
I love the way you have covered this topic in just 15 minutes in such a beautiful manner.
Nowadays it is reality that when you are more educated you feel more difficulties in society.
I love the way you expressed the importance of choosing an educated life partner
Thank You Junaid Bhai for the wonderful Podcast
Junaid bhai, thank you for talking about this topic and since I can (like many) relate to this I have some opinions/comments:
1. a boy observes his mother being submissive then why does he want to have same kind of partner. I am not at all saying the mother was wrong (it was her destiny/circumstances) but why does the boy have to repeat it?
2. I chose to have an educated wife. Because our culture (irrespective of religion) invests more in a son than the daughter, I was fortunate to receive this investment but I also know that my parents couldn’t afford similar education for my sis. But I feel for her loss. I tried to give her what she deserved when I became able, but because her mindset was already set as society’s upbringing, I failed. I won’t say ‘she’ failed but I failed.
3. When you spoke about the % male female and then drilled down, also note religious and sect divisions. The ratio will be less than a 1%
4. A Couple could be childless or choose to not have a child, these are two different things, but our society begins asking questions after a year of marriage. (Happens with us)!
5. Because what I observed in my upbringing that the women is the ‘bali ki bakri’ I try to support female education
I can go on and on but thanks for talking about this. Our society needs it. Each drop makes a dent in a rock, someday things will change
Have a look at the 2 sides of the same mirror:
The point of topic is educated females, who are unable to get married.
Firstly, some people are confusing intellect with education. Intellect has a much broader horizon and getting higher education is one part of it. Please don't confuse that people who are educated must also be intellectual as well. Nope, you're mistaken. Education can't give you an intellectual mind, but an intellectual mind can make you well-educated. Unfortunately, many educated wives in our society are not intellectual, which is where many problems arise after they get married. Same goes for educated men too. (Read more about what intellect is before you comment).
Secondly, he just pointed out the things in one direction. The reality is that many educated girls want things to be dealt with without any sort of understanding and sometimes want their decisions to be superimposed on many occasions without having the consent of their husbands, which is the root cause of many issues. We need to change the concept of how we think of what an educated wife is. Being an educated wife means now you're well-equipped with all those tools that are imperative for your family to become a more civilised one. You are better equipped with every skill that can make your family stand out amongst other when it comes to a progressive family with equal rights to husband, wife and children. Being an educated wife means now you're well-equipped with the real techniques to handle MENTAL STRESS (which is more strenuous than PHYSICAL STRESS) of your husband and children and now you're in a position to give valuable suggestions to your partner to deal with tough situations.
If you are educated and you have other plans than the ones mentioned above, then sorry to say you're not here to form and nurture good family but to superimpose your decisions and doing things on your own without the consent of your husband or even your children if they are grown ups.
In our society, if educated wife knows how to deal with the harsh situations being in a marriage then she is the best choice of many potential husbands. But unfortunately, they haven't understood the meaning of what an educated wife means for a family.
P.S. There are many educated wives, who are doing their best and fulfilling their duties. My criticism is for the one who are educated, ready for marriage but don't have any flexibility or want to face the harsh reality when it comes to a married life.
Completely agree.
I don't know why this guy stereotypes every middle class family.
He thinks that every uneducated person is unculture.That is the problem with so called educated intellectuals.
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so every woman has no aim besides bearing children and being a home maker??? are we in the 1800's again? giving autonomy to your wife is something that should be practiced. If in scenarios, women mostly should have the approval of their partner but their decisions shouldn't be up for allowance there's a very fine line there. Second mostly aap maan lein ye baat ke parhi likhi larkiyan isi liye nahi bahu banayi jati kyun ke apke maushre mein jahalat hay aur unke opinion yehi hay ke agar parhi likhi hay tou apni zubaan chalayegi. that is the reality isnt it? You cant just deny arrogance that's within your nation.
@@anosheym4566
ایسا کہاں ہوتا ہے ہم بھی اسی معاشرے میں رہتے ہیں اور اسی مڈل کلاس سوسائیٹی کا حصہ ہیں میں نے جہاں بھی دیکھا ہے لوگ پڑھی لکھی کو ذیادہ پریفر کرتے ہیں ایک تو اس لیے کہ اپنے بچے پڑھا سنبھال لے گی یا چار پیسے کما کر گھر پر لگائے گا دوسرا ٹرافی کلچر کی وجہ سے مطلب حاندان میں نام ہوگا کہ فلاں کی بہو اتنی پڑھی لکھی ہے۔ فلاں کی بیوی ڈاکٹر ہے یا بینکر ہے۔
میں دیہات میں رہتا ہوں یہاں لوگ زیادہ اتنے پڑھے لکھے نہیں ہیں لیکن پھر بھی اگر ان پڑھی لکھی بیٹی یا بیوی ہو یا بہو لائیں تو قابل فحر سمجھتے ہیں۔
بعض لوگ ذیادہ پڑھی لکھی سے شادی نہیں کرتے کیونکہ وہ سمجھتے ہیں کہ یہ ان کی حاندانی روایات کے حلاف جا سکتی ہے۔ اس کا یہ مطلب نہیں کہ وہ اس لیے نہیں کرتے تو کیونکہ وہ اس پر ظلم کر نہیں پایں گے۔یہ ان کی مرضی ہے وہ جہاں مرضی کریں آپ کو اچھا رشتہ مل سکتا ہے آپ کو لازم تھوڑی ہے کہ ان پڑھ حاندان سے رشتہ جوڑیں۔
حالات بہت بدل چکے ہیں آپ سٹار پلس ڈراموں سے نکل کر حقیقت میں اب آجائیں۔
Khuda ka khof kr bhai. Mental stress bardasht krvany klye shadi krni h. Superimpose her decision widout consent of her husband.
Husband klye superimpose krna theek. Lrki ki jurrat k opinion rakhy. Men have the rt to divorce easily get remarried, allowed polygamy. Isilye tm logon ki akr khatam nahi horahi. Bivi ko life partner samjho lesser being nahi
True literally facing same situation as discussed in video Junaid bhai jazakAllah dil sy ap ky liye dua nikal rhi hai 🤲😇😊...Stay blessed n.happy🤲
Alhamdulliah - My family consider educated women's
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Junnaid bhai ♥️ you are love Ap hamesha society ki bat krte hain jo ke sahi hoti or ap khali masla bata ke video khtm nhi krte ap solution bhi dete hain jis ki wajah se jo bhi depressed hota ha wo recover ho jata ha♥️🙏
We wish we had an intellectual like you in India too. Please make videos on Indian topics too, we would love to hear, eagerly waiting.💚
Agree to all the points you jave mentioned above! In my comment i would rather talk about men who face problems halfway same as women! Mardon ko b baar baar ziada kamanay ki tajwez di jati hai ye bataya jata hai k kal ko koi beeti nahi dega etc etc. Masla yahan ye hain chahy aurat ho ya mard uspar zimidari thoopi jarahi hai bijaye samjhanay say! Larki agar parh b lay to zabardasti kitchen k kaam sikhaye jatay hain ussay ehsaas dilaya jata hai k beta apki jaga he yahi hai that is why most of the girls start hating homes and want to work outside to prove themselves. Same like that ghr par behtay huay mardon ko sunaya jata hai hatta k uska koi buisness b hona jo ghr beth k hosakay usko zabardasti bahir bheja jata hai, nokri karo kama k do, sahara bano etc etc! Jidki waja say woh b baaz okat kaam nahi karna pasand kartay! Also mardon ko amuman ghr main pani ka glass b nahi uthanay dia jata! Rather then pushing people to gender roles if we focus on the balance baat alaw ban jayegi
And again this man has my heart♥️
Completely agree. An educated mother will give educated and successful generation
You can see molvis making fun and joking on these educated women who do not get married early...🤷🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Hamary mashry ka nasoor shetan molvi hi he
@Fatima Goraya it not misogyny jahil liberal Quran has stated that women shouldn't work outside untill her father or husband can't earn
Ab ldkia bhi financially independent hona chahti hain or job krna chahti hain (and that is good..i also support women empowerment) lekin pehle mrdo ko ldko ko to job miley ...ldko k liye job ki itni kami ho gyi hai k ab pdey likhe mrd bhi berozgar bethe hn..or ek berozgar mard ko dunia khoob taany deti hai..abhi hmary pados me ek bhai ne suicide kr lia jbki wo well educated tha...govt itni job hi produce nhi kr paa rahi k jo deserve krte hn atleast unko to job mil jaaye chahy vo ldki ho ya ldka ..ese to women empowerment ka fayda km nuksaan zada hoga (same problem in both India & Pakistan)
@@arsalankakar8201 shukrya molvi sab magar baz log orat ko kam ki ijazat to dot orat ko gulam ya gar ki londi samjty hen khas tor py diobandi molvi extremest
@@arsalankakar8201 yeh kahan parh lia bhaaaeeee....😳😳😳😳?????
I am happy that meri ammi ny master kia hy or abbu doctor hy ... Or thank god unki soch bakiyon se mukhtaliff hy .. abhi me 1st year kr rha hun to relatives ne bohut kaha hy fcs or phir pre engineering kru liken i am happy k mery Abbu ny unky samny unki is sooch ko galat kaha or sara right mjhy dia k mera kia dil hy .. or bas yh kaha k zindagi me jo kru dil se kru ... Or abbu humesha supporting kerty hy mjhy ❤
I am shocked that people actually stigmatize and condense women who are unmarried. Like what. May Allah forgive people like that because karma is a bihhhh. Those words come around SO FAST.
Yaar in ke jese thinking sab me q nahi hai😭😭.... our society needs more people like you junaid bhai
Literally every day we feel this pressure, irrespective of we are in age of marriage or not but just because I want to study, I have to keep all this shit in my mind
Shukr hai Khuda ka, you talked about it. I have been trying to sxplain this to so many people in my friends and family. Thank you @Junaidakram.
Skill is the new degree, skill sekhlo skill is the future
Sir g. muje aapse genuine muhabbat hai.
ALLAH ne apko buht aqal o shaur se nawaza hai... dil se dua nikalti hai k ALLAH apko hmesha khush rkhe aur tman khushiyan dy ameeen!
hum iss qadar khhoti (punjabi wala) qaum hai... aap jaisa Sher Dil shaks iss keechar ki safayi karne ki koshesh kar rha hai. ALLAH ne aapko iska reward abhi dyna hai.. iss dunya mein nai to agay jaa k to zrur zrur milega. ameen!
May ALLAH shower countless blessings upon you.. ameen sum ameen
Only Parents can support and empower a girl to standout especially a Father.
Only parents can teach humanity and respect for others, specifically women, to a boy; especially a Mother.
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this
Junaid you are one of the best motivational speaker for our youth ❤️❤️❤️
This podcast is the best ever podcast I have ever listened too
Our teacher once asked us to describe our ideal wife. When we were done describing he said, "what you told is a description of a fashion model and not a wife". He then asked us to change our perspective. He said find a partner who is more likely to be a good mother to your children. I felt pretty ashamed that I didn't fulfill the ideals of being a good father.
It struck me so hard that I had to remodel myself. Whenever I think of ideal wife my thoughts also go towards me becoming an ideal husband and a father. It keeps me motivated to stay positive.
P.S Communication has never been my strength, so forgive me if my message seems confusing to you.
DISCUSSION TIME
Hi, Faheem Here & I have a perspective to share in this Regard..
While many people believe that women who are arranged to marry have the trouble with pairing, the truth is that men also struggle and deal with rejection.
Two year’s ago my parents started to look at proposals for me. I got very strange refusals such as these:
Different social class, not enough income, not good looking enough, the family is too big can’t give the daughter away, or not an owner of enough property.
I understand the option of choice, but being more attracted to material wealth is driving many to reject and often men don’t marry until the late 20’s and up.
I feel it is unfair to remain alone because I do not possess great wealth. I am 29 and in business, so it’s not like I've nothing,I'm well enough but for now I await my perfect pairing.
Really good message for our families, our communities to make their children strong, decision makers, responsible and above all righteous. They should be strong enough to say no, and stand against something they know is right/ wrong.my husband has always said and practically proved the things you said in this podcast, he always stood up for me and my sister in law in front of everyone, he argued with my in-laws for right and wrong and always empowered us. My father is the same. He believed in us siblings and my mom.
At 10:30 you talk about Bacha apni marzi ki degree he nahi kr skta. Me personally along with so many others are a victim of this. Please do a podcast on this specific topic Junaid bhai , thanks a lot for every thing you do ❤️
Very true depiction and reality ..Well explained
you speak my mind
thank you so much in shit chaos you talk about real issue
do highlight more regarding these kind of basic issues.
may Allah bless you
Simply awesome. Beautifuly described!!
SIIIR, you deserve more subscribers inshallah upcoming no.1 Pakistani RUclipsr. Not Coming Slow Gamez to app k hain.
Waa this one hit pretty close to home. Growing up I have never seen a non toxic married relationship in my surroundings. I don't know if the people who are in it themselves reckon it as toxic or not. So I have a lot of problem with lots of things and it gets more shocking once I start talking to people that it's wrong. No one gets it. It's so weird.
I think we should promote the idea for financial independent women and men who do there house chorus themselves, so that people don't marry because they depend on some one for there needs. instead they should marry cause they love the person they are choosing.
I agree
We need more people like you junaid uncle
There is a blue mark below the painting and I was cleaning my screen 😆
Btw good podcast as usual Junaid bhai👍
I saw that too... its just grabbing attention from junaid bhai 😄
😂😂😂
Its on the camera
@@MoneyMagnet031 no man its on the wall
Due to editing, it may be mistakenly written !
Education is about mindset not holding degrees. I've seen several people regardless of gender with lesser education but having the highest understanding of moral and social values.
Junaid bhai a loud shout outfrom INDIA, ur only youtuber frm pakistan i watch. U have a very interesting persona i feel attached too.
Problems u discuss in is not related to ur specific country but in general entire South Asian Countries.
Keep on serving humanity.
Request to pls add english subtitles for ur subscribers from india.
In my family it’s opposite. My brother tried so much for my sister in law to learn graphic designing with him so they can work together but she doesn’t want to work at all. She enjoys more family politics and drama. He asked her to learn something to keep busy but she prefers star plus.
Dun force her to work
@@tauriangurl I don’t think i mentioned in my comment that somebody is forcing her.
@@jjmir3565 that complain that she dsn wants to work triggered me... like man must not be lookin for wifes earning
@@MARTIN-101 thek ha betay begart ban k bewi ki kmai kha lena😘
@@tauriangurl what are you talking about ! Why Pakistani ego is so fragile. Nothing wrong for a husband to wish his wife become independent. Same way a good father makes his daughter independent. Because of your type of mentality many women in Pakistan struggle to survive when they don’t have men in their lives.
junaid bhai ap ki waja sy may alhamdullah boht mentally strong ho chuka hn thank you so much dude!!
Good point but you presented only one side of the story.. The thing is that we don't do marriages,.. We actually do businesses, we invest in our child in the name of degrees, later jobs, and then started to launch product with terms and conditions... Marriage never works on terms and conditions, it works only on mutual respect and understanding ... You gave an ideal example of "Ummul Momineen Hazrat khadija R.A." but unfortunately it can't be fit in our corrupt society..
I'm 30 and I'm unmarried but I'm forced by the society in fact my friends too teasing me for that k Bethe Bethe borhi hojaogi kya plus I'm also qabool soorat plus doing masters but what to do with this behavior of society hr chex ka waqt hota h koi ye nhi smjhta n I'm depressed with this