Sometimes they don't talk! they just bombard you with flattery and oddities and questions. The last date two days ago tried to get me to drink his coffee when I had ordered tea. No, I don't want to drink from your cup and also I'm not mixing your coffee flavour with my tea flavour.....smh....
Bruh.. you just reinforcing the reasons I just don't date.. I'll just keep walking by the Spirit of God.. He's ALWAYS let me know if I should even deal with the person.. I'll keep following my inner GPS
You must check everything and everybody at the door. When a man is interested in me, I go to the Lord about him first before I go on a date with him, I ask the Lord who is this before me, show me they intentions and spirit.
The best thing you can do on a date is observe and let the other person be who they truly are. If you make the mistake of letting them know beforehand all your likes and dislikes, you may end up in a few months puzzled by this person's real character, wondering why did they change, how can they be so different now from the beginning. The answer is they didn't change, they just presented you with their best representative based on the treasure map you drew for them, they knew exactly what to do and not do to get you, then once they had you, they reverted to their real persona. Don't play yourself like this, the whole point is to meet someone who genuinely deep down is the one you are dreaming of, NOT to find a good actor !
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
What you say is completely true. I have first-hand experience of this. It is no fun when you get duped by a sophisticated operator. Listen to what Carmen says, as she hits the nail right on the head. Be wise and take your time. Don’t give away your blue print.
@@renettaburley6620 AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT!
Some good questions to slip into conversations during early dates: 1. What are your goals? What's your end game with us (partnership/ marriage)? 2. Do you have any kids - and what are their age? How involved are you with them? Do you have any major responsibilities? 3. Tell him what you're looking for/ask how he feels about it. 4. How long ago was his last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one? (To less likely be his rebound woman). 5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests? 6. How well are you with communication? (Listening and expressing) Are you easily frustrated or angry? 7. What do you think a good man is? 8. What's something you're working on to be the best version of yourself? (such as working on your impatience, procrastination, fitness level, building on finances, anger management etc). 9. What are you afraid to lose? (a way to see what's on his mind daily, are they material things, or people?) 10. What can't you live without? (very telling of his character).
Its so funny I went on a date with this guy and it was at first a fun situation but then he just spilled all his guts and I realized we were not a match. I politely texted him after that we wouldn't work. He said " sorry for scaring you off". I just said "good luck to you". I feel very empowered to leave situations so thank you for these videos they actually help me quite a bit.
@Priscilla I had to reject a man two days ago. In-person, face to face. Now, on the surface, he seemed like a nice man but we literally had nothing in common. And some of his views and the language that he used was triggering for me. I'm in therapy so I work a bit harder at how I treat people trying to balance my safety and integrity with their safety and integrity. I felt safe enough to tell him to his face that I felt little to no connection emotionally to him at all and I didn't see that changing and I didn't think it was fair to him to be with someone who didn't like him as much as he liked them. I said you should be free to date other women. Then he asked me if I was a jealous person. smh. To be fair I felt a bit like tony said "48 hours" he cornered me in the conversation asking how I really felt about "us"? And I just lost patience and thought if you don't say this now that there is little to no connection, you are leading him up or down the garden path. Lol! he was very upset and I went home and slept like a log. Woke up to him asking for a second chance the next morning. I mean he was an attractive man to me and if I was looking for a fling fair enough but not a life partner. A lot of men just want a woman/ women so that they don't have to be alone but they have no concept of how to make a relationship work or even how to make life work. They need to go on a mentorship course indeed. us women are sometimes no better.
Once again..Uncle Tony Is absolutely correct. But. Since watching these gems 💎 , I'm more on point.. I went on a first date.. I met him at the restaurant. I didn't allow him to pick me up or know where I live . When I got to the restaurant, he was irritated. I asked what was wrong. This man said "I find it funny you didn't allow me to pick you up. What you have something to hide ? I use to be a cop, you know how easy it is for me to find out where you live " He also said " if you're dating other guys, you need to cut them off and focus on just me " Ya'll when that date was over, I was so done with him. His aura was so off. Thank goodness I never told him my last name etc . Uncle Tony be on POINT .
It is rough in these streets. I'm taking a vacation from dating for my 40 birthday! Lol! I have stayed single for 7.5 years after leaving my former husband.
Kayla, Make a list bucket list of all the things you want to do like it is your last chance and focus on it and be joyful and look your best and be out on your own so guys are not intimated by you. Life to short love yourself and it will happen. I got approached and I was not looking. Have fun for you. Spoil yourself girl.
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! Yes INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I've learned to talk less and listen more. Being cool,calm and collected helps you to get just enough information to decide if you want to keep seeing a person or not. Thank you for this message TG
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
Mmmm thank you Tony have been waiting for a video like this ...you're right on time😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 I'm 24 and have been listening to you for a year now and have applied all your advice and now l have met a Godly man ...now I'm going through the videos again to make sure l don't make any mistakes .
“Im gonna try & tip toe around this… am gonna try to be a little easy with ya, but one thing I’ve noticed with a lot of single people, is that some of y’all is crazy.” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Speak one listen twice always. Put yourself on your feminine energy, listen, smile be nice,ask questions here and there listen more than talk, LISTEN for real what they are saying; people love to talk about themselves you will know the real intentions of someone by listening them. Thank you for the advises Tony!btw the roles playing are making me rollliiiiin 😂😂😂
“You know Barack Obama say he used to smoke you see his lips purple” 😂😂 when I tell you I almost spit my juice out everywhere in my car!! This man a whole fool out here lol
I was on a date like this. He was very surface level and all he did was ask questions so I felt like I was working the entire time. It was draining and I felt used. Definitely felt like an interrogation.
me two days ago. I could not find out who he really was. Dude even wanted to order the same thing as me. Thank God on the second and final date the waiter got the hint and suggested things for him to order. On the first date, I thought it was first date nerves to be so closed off....nope.. I still have no idea who he is as a person. despite speaking to him every day like Tony said to do after the date. He even said he was willing to change for me....which just gave me the ick. What 49-year-old man should be changing himself for a random woman?
You got me laughing. I just heard a new terminology, "lazy daters". Men and women not wanting to invest much into dating; money or time. This whole world is crazy. You have to be careful. Help me Lord!
I just know they ain't putting in the effort for whatever reason. I'm a person who put effort into everything unless there is something wrong with my spirit. Heck if I'm not putting in the effort, then I stop dating because something in my money body and soul is not in alignment. I practice mindfulness and I go to support and therapy group to get different perspectives. Even if I don't think something in my head intentionally, they know me well enough to pick up on my energy.
Observant, When you focus on evolving you will see what a person not doing for themselves. Which make the process of elimination much smoother. No harm no foul.
Oh my word! Thank you, Mr. Tony Gaskins. I thank God for preordaining and using you as a vessel of godly wisdom for healthy, loving, Christ -centered dating and marriage 💫! Also, your sense of humor and personality is so endearing 🤣!! Ladies, he is spot on ! I went on a five year inner healing journey seeking therapy, self-love, and physical and mental transformation, and it was painful and hard. I sought God's face, and it was worth it ! Now I am happy and whole and rotational dating (dating 3 men, while celibate) for marriage. I am having so much fun❤! On my dates we have fun! It's light and fun, and I bring my soft feminine energy and natural playful, cute nature! Men will let their walls down, and they feel so calm and trust me! I am defenseless, and I listen. If you're in your head before a date, do a few calming exercises like dancing, playing soft music, lighting candles, journaling, etc! You’ve got this lovelies 🌸🌹❤️🌷!
Questions on a first date are important, but it's more about listening than just asking them. Don't make the other person feel interrogated - be mindful and get out there to meet people!
The fact I’m seeing this two years later !! God knows my man is coming and prepping me .. I wanted to tell you how well you articulated what I have been doing when talking to not just men but women too for friendships ! I would get called I’m too nice but I literally feel like I have mastered this so well people don’t even know I’m reading them and ask why I’m so nice 😂
I'm coming Tony if you do the seminar lol. ATL is only 3 hours away lol Charlotte would be closer haha. But we definitely need a 25 and under session bc it's a lot of us now in here during the seminar.
I love Single and Ready videos :) I will love to see video about peoples energy on dates . Many singles today are in they head, very nervous, and in the rush to leave a good impression.
Good teaching, I thank God for 2yrs Christian counseling which was one of my saving graces after my Sep and 'D' which ended 10/2019, Blessings Bro Gaskins to you and your family
I appreciate your advise all the time. Since you give of yourself to advise people by keeping us on track and don’t let the loneliness get to us by over thinking to much. Great advise today. May God continue to shower you with blessing…..
Man the last date had the waiter order for him. lol! he wanted to order what I ordered. lol! I had the risotto....the waiter told him to go for a manly steak. lol! *Tears*
Thanks for this tony! I’m guilty of coming across as too judgmental and talking to much 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ i have to keep it flowing and natural with direct undertones bc I do need to find out all the car fax over time but not in a rushing way (date after date) lol
Thanks Tony!!!these are some great points for first dates because I always wondered on the first date what to wear , what to order at dinner, breakfast, or lunch. I am definitely using these tips Tony!!! Please keep these first date tips coming!!
Wear what you want and order what you want. Lol! Sometimes I wear a dress, if it's freezing outside I'm wearing thermal layers, pants/trousers and boots!! I make myself comfortable.
Tony you are so funny lol. I don’t know what people be tripping about. I been listening for a little over a year. This video series has been very helpful.
I just went on a date and Tony’s advice is on point…dude got cut of with the quickness he asked What are you looking for? Me: passed that one What qualifications do you want in a man? thanks Tony
When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Hey Tony, what are your thoughts on a man who will speak about his ex? Like why they broke up, etc. Is this appropriate on first date? When, how should such things even be shared? BTW your hilarious 😁
My boss drinks the whole bottle. Lol! She's a woman. lol! Man it messes with your weight when you do that! She was a size 4 at the beginning of the pandemic and now she's like a 10! I gained 10 pounds but I'm back to my pre-pandemic weight and still losing. Yes, I drank wine every day the first 12 weeks locked in my home. smh. I couldn't walk up a hill I used to run up in Summer 2020. November 2020 I said no more and I got myself a personal trainer outdoors in any weather we train! No excuses.
This video was sooo good...totally who-larious. Lol! 😁Tony my question is this, u teach us that we shouldn't talk too much and expose too much too soon, but what are we suppose to discuss when ur dating a guy and we're supposed to talk everyday for an hour? P.S. Can u please consider doing a live zoom Q&A for the 40 to 60 yr old age bracket? That would be nice. Thanks.
Tony this video has been so informative. 😂You are so funny which makes the video even more interesting to watch. Thank God for for wisdom and knowledge. God bless.
Spot on❣️😩 I prefer to ask questions when get to where we’re going, but they blurt it all out in the first phone call. 🤚🏾Hold up, playa. What happened to natural conversation? It’s like flashing cash to me. Slow down ⚠️
Yes! I’d love for you to do a seminar in Atl! Please have it for the under 30 crowd if possible! 🙏🏼🤞🏽. A singles retreat would be fun too! 🤷🏽♀️😁 just throwing that out there lol.
Hopefully, you'll take the time to reply Mr Gaskins. I find the question, "How long have you been single?" off putting. I have been in situations where men literally follow up with "Are you crazy? You must be crazy huh? Or What did you do to him to make him leave?" My question is why focus on how long a person has been single versus making sure they are single and not lying to you about it? I try to focus on the fact the person is available and not judging them for their past relationships. I hope I'm making sense.
because people who focus on the past relationships of the person that they are trying to date are insecure. This question doesn't bother me. I've been single for a long time because I've been working on myself and a lot of men have said that to me and I find that an acceptable answer. Now if they start insinuating that there is something wrong with you on the first date...nah cut them off. The last guy I dated said that I was stubborn so I cut him off. He actually said I was stubborn for telling him I had little to no emotional connection to him. If you know your own mind and your own identity then allegedly you are stubborn.....boy bye.
I’m there Tony I’m moving to Florida I’ll be close in Atlanta I’m not single but married for 27 years now and your advice is spot on I’m part of your tribe and one of your Life Coaches
Omg!! Yes!!!! These are the exact questions that are asked and being ran down just like that too lol..no causal convo over time to get these answers.just right away and upfront. It's important to know but learn as you go..body language and other details can tell you just as much on if it's even worth proceeding to learn all of that info.
Dating is not for mating, it is for collecting data - he talking 🗣️, and I'm listen👂🏽
Sometimes they don't talk! they just bombard you with flattery and oddities and questions. The last date two days ago tried to get me to drink his coffee when I had ordered tea. No, I don't want to drink from your cup and also I'm not mixing your coffee flavour with my tea flavour.....smh....
@@marleyhill34 wtf?
Right!
That part ☝🏽
Bruh.. you just reinforcing the reasons I just don't date.. I'll just keep walking by the Spirit of God.. He's ALWAYS let me know if I should even deal with the person.. I'll keep following my inner GPS
You must check everything and everybody at the door. When a man is interested in me, I go to the Lord about him first before I go on a date with him, I ask the Lord who is this before me, show me they intentions and spirit.
The best thing you can do on a date is observe and let the other person be who they truly are. If you make the mistake of letting them know beforehand all your likes and dislikes, you may end up in a few months puzzled by this person's real character, wondering why did they change, how can they be so different now from the beginning. The answer is they didn't change, they just presented you with their best representative based on the treasure map you drew for them, they knew exactly what to do and not do to get you, then once they had you, they reverted to their real persona. Don't play yourself like this, the whole point is to meet someone who genuinely deep down is the one you are dreaming of, NOT to find a good actor !
So true!!!🎯🎯🎯🎯
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
What you say is completely true. I have first-hand experience of this. It is no fun when you get duped by a sophisticated operator. Listen to what Carmen says, as she hits the nail right on the head. Be wise and take your time. Don’t give away your blue print.
You on point!!
@@renettaburley6620 AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT!
Some good questions to slip into conversations during early dates:
1. What are your goals? What's your end game with us (partnership/ marriage)?
2. Do you have any kids - and what are their age? How involved are you with them? Do you have any major responsibilities?
3. Tell him what you're looking for/ask how he feels about it.
4. How long ago was his last relationship? Are you ready to start a new one? (To less likely be his rebound woman).
5. What are your morals, beliefs, interests?
6. How well are you with communication? (Listening and expressing) Are you easily frustrated or angry?
7. What do you think a good man is?
8. What's something you're working on to be the best version of yourself? (such as working on your impatience, procrastination, fitness level, building on finances, anger management etc).
9. What are you afraid to lose? (a way to see what's on his mind daily, are they material things, or people?)
10. What can't you live without? (very telling of his character).
Its so funny I went on a date with this guy and it was at first a fun situation but then he just spilled all his guts and I realized we were not a match. I politely texted him after that we wouldn't work. He said " sorry for scaring you off". I just said "good luck to you". I feel very empowered to leave situations so thank you for these videos they actually help me quite a bit.
I’ve had a guy do that but he pretty much ran off himself lol
@Priscilla whatever feels good for you. If you want to call you should. I just knew text was the best option for me.
@@mariahconklin4150 lol!
@@Musicfreaklolduh lol! he did scare you off. Lol!
@Priscilla I had to reject a man two days ago. In-person, face to face. Now, on the surface, he seemed like a nice man but we literally had nothing in common. And some of his views and the language that he used was triggering for me. I'm in therapy so I work a bit harder at how I treat people trying to balance my safety and integrity with their safety and integrity. I felt safe enough to tell him to his face that I felt little to no connection emotionally to him at all and I didn't see that changing and I didn't think it was fair to him to be with someone who didn't like him as much as he liked them. I said you should be free to date other women. Then he asked me if I was a jealous person. smh. To be fair I felt a bit like tony said "48 hours" he cornered me in the conversation asking how I really felt about "us"? And I just lost patience and thought if you don't say this now that there is little to no connection, you are leading him up or down the garden path. Lol! he was very upset and I went home and slept like a log. Woke up to him asking for a second chance the next morning. I mean he was an attractive man to me and if I was looking for a fling fair enough but not a life partner. A lot of men just want a woman/ women so that they don't have to be alone but they have no concept of how to make a relationship work or even how to make life work. They need to go on a mentorship course indeed. us women are sometimes no better.
Once again..Uncle Tony Is absolutely correct. But. Since watching these gems 💎 , I'm more on point.. I went on a first date.. I met him at the restaurant. I didn't allow him to pick me up or know where I live . When I got to the restaurant, he was irritated. I asked what was wrong. This man said "I find it funny you didn't allow me to pick you up. What you have something to hide ? I use to be a cop, you know how easy it is for me to find out where you live " He also said " if you're dating other guys, you need to cut them off and focus on just me "
Ya'll when that date was over, I was so done with him. His aura was so off. Thank goodness I never told him my last name etc . Uncle Tony be on POINT .
Very scary 😨
Wow 😮
Glad you made it out safely! Luckily you can't hide crazy for too long.
Him being a cop is a red flag enough...
@@shirlsshirls8594 I guess you missed the part where you should reserve judgement 🙄
No sir, the WORST is when you're single after 17 years and don't even know to ask these questions....Please Lord show me the way.
It is rough in these streets. I'm taking a vacation from dating for my 40 birthday! Lol! I have stayed single for 7.5 years after leaving my former husband.
Kayla, Make a list bucket list of all the things you want to do like it is your last chance and focus on it and be joyful and look your best and be out on your own so guys are not intimated by you. Life to short love yourself and it will happen. I got approached and I was not looking. Have fun for you. Spoil yourself girl.
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Lmao this me I was in a relationship for 12 years I’m fresh meat out here 😂 but I ain’t stupid I tell you that I definitely know red flags not getting myself in another fucked up situation
Good points. Let that person speak, and don’t show judgmental responses. Allow them to be themselves, several times over.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! Yes INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I've learned to talk less and listen more. Being cool,calm and collected helps you to get just enough information to decide if you want to keep seeing a person or not. Thank you for this message TG
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
Amen! It has truly helped me to eliminate nonsense and walking away feels like a super power.
Listening more to men than talking has completely changed my life lol. I
I love the “don’t get picked up from your house part” thank you 🙏🏽 this is gold!
"I gotta hit me 3 glasses of wine, because stress is so workful." 😂😂😂 Humor mixed with great advice! Thanks, TG!!
😂😂😂😂 Tony’s humor is the best!!
Thought I was the only one that caught that 😂
Listening is humility. Answer the questions but don’t overshare. 💯
The role plays give me life lol! It’s real and so informative but hilarious all at the same time! Thank you for this truthful comic relief😂🤗🙏🏽
😂😂😂😂
This video had me screaming! 😂😂😂
Tony, the predators hate you! Keep going! 💪🙌
Mmmm thank you Tony have been waiting for a video like this ...you're right on time😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I'm 24 and have been listening to you for a year now and have applied all your advice and now l have met a Godly man ...now I'm going through the videos again to make sure l don't make any mistakes .
“Im gonna try & tip toe around this… am gonna try to be a little easy with ya, but one thing I’ve noticed with a lot of single people, is that some of y’all is crazy.” TG 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lmbo
I LAUGHED SO LOUD LOL
@@ShesAbsurd me too!!!!! 😂🤣
😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Speak one listen twice always. Put yourself on your feminine energy, listen, smile be nice,ask questions here and there listen more than talk, LISTEN for real what they are saying; people love to talk about themselves you will know the real intentions of someone by listening them. Thank you for the advises Tony!btw the roles playing are making me rollliiiiin 😂😂😂
Tony is funny 😆
The worst question, “Why are you single?” 🤦🏽♀️
Yessss 🤣 or when someone says “You’re too pretty to be single”
I’m like there’s a season for everything, it has nothing to do with my looks! Lol
@@Authenticleatrice Lol, yes seems like everyone asks that question.
I answer questions with questions.😉
That's easy for me. Because my last relationship didn't work out. lol!
@@deliteful1991 Nah don't do that. if his head is on straight, he gonna be gone. When men do that to me, I bounce.
“You know Barack Obama say he used to smoke you see his lips purple” 😂😂 when I tell you I almost spit my juice out everywhere in my car!! This man a whole fool out here lol
I was on a date like this. He was very surface level and all he did was ask questions so I felt like I was working the entire time. It was draining and I felt used. Definitely felt like an interrogation.
me two days ago. I could not find out who he really was. Dude even wanted to order the same thing as me. Thank God on the second and final date the waiter got the hint and suggested things for him to order. On the first date, I thought it was first date nerves to be so closed off....nope.. I still have no idea who he is as a person. despite speaking to him every day like Tony said to do after the date. He even said he was willing to change for me....which just gave me the ick. What 49-year-old man should be changing himself for a random woman?
🤣😂🤣😂 the role play is hilarious
For real🤣🤣🤣
Right! Lol 😂
It was "stress is so workful" for me😂
It’s the re-enactments for me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You got me laughing. I just heard a new terminology, "lazy daters". Men and women not wanting to invest much into dating; money or time. This whole world is crazy. You have to be careful. Help me Lord!
I just know they ain't putting in the effort for whatever reason. I'm a person who put effort into everything unless there is something wrong with my spirit. Heck if I'm not putting in the effort, then I stop dating because something in my money body and soul is not in alignment. I practice mindfulness and I go to support and therapy group to get different perspectives. Even if I don't think something in my head intentionally, they know me well enough to pick up on my energy.
Ahh, thank you Tony!
I went on a date last night and just listened. I learned so much and the date went well.
What happens when you’re the talker and you already know they’re more quite and less outspoken. We’re both gonna sit there in silent! 😂😂🤣🤣
I bout spit out my drink when I realized "which relationship coach" 👀her date listens too!😂😂😂
Lol! Dead.
Observant,
When you focus on evolving you will see what a person not doing for themselves. Which make the process of elimination much smoother. No harm no foul.
“Episode off first 48” I am hollering laughing 😝 I love your examples LOL keep feeding & educating us 💪🏽🙏🏽😇
Oh my word! Thank you, Mr. Tony Gaskins. I thank God for preordaining and using you as a vessel of godly wisdom for healthy, loving, Christ -centered dating and marriage 💫! Also, your sense of humor and personality is so endearing 🤣!!
Ladies, he is spot on ! I went on a five year inner healing journey seeking therapy, self-love, and physical and mental transformation, and it was painful and hard. I sought God's face, and it was worth it !
Now I am happy and whole and rotational dating (dating 3 men, while celibate) for marriage. I am having so much fun❤! On my dates we have fun! It's light and fun, and I bring my soft feminine energy and natural playful, cute nature! Men will let their walls down, and they feel so calm and trust me! I am defenseless, and I listen.
If you're in your head before a date, do a few calming exercises like dancing, playing soft music, lighting candles, journaling, etc! You’ve got this lovelies 🌸🌹❤️🌷!
"Some of y'all a little crazy". Lmbo!! 😭😭🤣😂🤣😂🤣
The Role Play🤣🤣🤣.. He telling the truth
I’m rolling 😂😂😂
“This question is gonna make you or break you” 🤣
“Stress is so workful “😂😂😂 that’s what happens when you drink that 🍷
A lovely way of changing a complaint to a positive way of thinking. Loved this Analogy.
“Listening is humility” TG. Yes.
Questions on a first date are important, but it's more about listening than just asking them. Don't make the other person feel interrogated - be mindful and get out there to meet people!
I'm done with Tony after this...I was laughing the entire time!! I promise you the crazy men be rocking back and forth too
The fact I’m seeing this two years later !! God knows my man is coming and prepping me .. I wanted to tell you how well you articulated what I have been doing when talking to not just men but women too for friendships ! I would get called I’m too nice but I literally feel like I have mastered this so well people don’t even know I’m reading them and ask why I’m so nice 😂
Lol he is so funny it’s the facial expressions for me ! Been listening to him for years though and he is always truthful and right on point
AAAAAAHHHHHHAAAAA !!!!!
I done hit the floor. TONY stop!!!
" See I need to just go on and get up!!!!"
Grateful for the laughs.
It was the Oprah expose for me. Lol!
@@marleyhill34 absolutely hilarious right!!!? Just rethinking about it, I'm laughing!
😂😂😂😂😂… this might be THE FUNNIEST (yet informative) advice video ever!…. “Cmon ma’am. You couldn’t have got a grilled chicken salad 🥗?!?” 💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣
I'm coming Tony if you do the seminar lol. ATL is only 3 hours away lol Charlotte would be closer haha. But we definitely need a 25 and under session bc it's a lot of us now in here during the seminar.
I love Single and Ready videos :) I will love to see video about peoples energy on dates . Many singles today are in they head, very nervous, and in the rush to leave a good impression.
I'm out to have a good time and relax when I go on dates! lol! Maybe I'm too old so not in a hurry to find someone.
Awesome video…would love to attend a seminar for the women over 35. Thank you Tony!
Let me tell you:
If the man has another date tomorrow - that's a red flag, too!!!!!!!
Not necessarily. He’s dating around. That’s the purpose dating, even you are single and not in a relationship 🤷🏽♀️
Good teaching, I thank God for 2yrs Christian counseling which was one of my saving graces after my Sep and 'D' which ended 10/2019, Blessings Bro Gaskins to you and your family
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i swear I love this man so much. Aside from the commentary thank you for the wisdom! Much needed. ❤
😭😂😂 this was hella funny how he was impersonating single females and males asking questions lmao
He said stress is so workful 🙋🏾♀️ we get you though. Thanks for all your hard work and advice we really appreciate it
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Will take this knowledge with me moving forward!🤓📝
If someone starts interrogating me on a date, I am getting up and taking myself home.
I love your videos because I know these are serious matters , but you have me crackin up at the same time! Thank you for all the good info.
I appreciate your advise all the time. Since you give of yourself to advise people by keeping us on track and don’t let the loneliness get to us by over thinking to much. Great advise today. May God continue to shower you with blessing…..
This was good. I sometimes be dumb founded on what to discuss on first dates. You're the real MVP Tony
I live in London England.. The weather is a safe gray topic. Lol! It's always gray!
This man is hilarious!! “Ya hear me?” *tony voice* FILEETTT MINONN SENT ME 😂😂😂😂
So MUCH PRACTICAL wisdom…. and aooo funny !!!--“Feel-let mig-none”-- I cannot !!!
Decency
How they treat the waiter
Communication
Man the last date had the waiter order for him. lol! he wanted to order what I ordered. lol! I had the risotto....the waiter told him to go for a manly steak. lol! *Tears*
Thanks for this tony! I’m guilty of coming across as too judgmental and talking to much 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ i have to keep it flowing and natural with direct undertones bc I do need to find out all the car fax over time but not in a rushing way (date after date) lol
Thank Tony. Needed confirmation on some of these things. I am 👂🏽.Continued blessings to you.
Yesss...."not an interrogation, having a nice conversation getting to know someone makes the atmosphere relaxed
Nice Tony....👍🏼
Getting ready for work, twisting my hair, I'm glad I found you.
Tony gives the best advice for dating. Thank you ❤
Thanks Tony!!!these are some great points for first dates because I always wondered on the first date what to wear , what to order at dinner, breakfast, or lunch. I am definitely using these tips Tony!!! Please keep these first date tips coming!!
Wear what you want and order what you want. Lol! Sometimes I wear a dress, if it's freezing outside I'm wearing thermal layers, pants/trousers and boots!! I make myself comfortable.
So true Tony you hit the nail on the head 🤣🤣 I laughed because I was asked once whether I work with the Police as a detective 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yessssss 🙌🏽😆
yes you do but don't let him know that. lol!
This was so funny and informative. Respect
Thank you Tony. Needed to hear how to take care in dating without pouring myself out and where to put the spot on. Thank you
LMAO, you're making some good points. I have to try to create a poker face because I am very blunt. 🤣
Me too, I’m just honest and it can be a lot for finaglers lol😂
Tony should do like a first date etiquette: like how and what to order out, breakfast, lunch, dinner, should you take home leftovers, etc.
Thats how I need to be on dates. The more I smile the more they want to mold me into the perfect dummy.
I try to be the dummy more but I do not have a poker face. Lol!
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Tony, your role play as both men and women is HEEEELARIOUS 😂 and IMPACTFUL 🙏🏾😎✊🏾
That scoff after the credit score question has me CRIIIIIIIIIINE!!😭😭
Tony you are so funny lol. I don’t know what people be tripping about. I been listening for a little over a year. This video series has been very helpful.
I just went on a date and Tony’s advice is on point…dude got cut of with the quickness he asked
What are you looking for?
Me: passed that one
What qualifications do you want in a man?
thanks Tony
You’re funny! But so educational at the same time!
Get an Uber there.
EVEN if you're a Trillionaire with 15 cars
To stay safe!
Great idea.
This is a fantastic IDEA!!… THX
Trillionaires have drivers trained to lose the paparazzi.
It was the adjustment in the chair for me !! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 YOU CRAZY !!🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂.. Some of y’all or crazy.. TG.. you ain’t neva lied..
When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Hey Tony, what are your thoughts on a man who will speak about his ex? Like why they broke up, etc. Is this appropriate on first date? When, how should such things even be shared? BTW your hilarious 😁
I RUN from men that talk about their ex
Watching this video for the umteenth time til this is all just second nature. Dating today is wild. Thank you!
🤣 stress is so workful Lol 😆 we need the tshirt Tony!
My boss drinks the whole bottle. Lol! She's a woman. lol! Man it messes with your weight when you do that! She was a size 4 at the beginning of the pandemic and now she's like a 10! I gained 10 pounds but I'm back to my pre-pandemic weight and still losing. Yes, I drank wine every day the first 12 weeks locked in my home. smh. I couldn't walk up a hill I used to run up in Summer 2020. November 2020 I said no more and I got myself a personal trainer outdoors in any weather we train! No excuses.
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This video was sooo good...totally who-larious. Lol! 😁Tony my question is this, u teach us that we shouldn't talk too much and expose too much too soon, but what are we suppose to discuss when ur dating a guy and we're supposed to talk everyday for an hour? P.S. Can u please consider doing a live zoom Q&A for the 40 to 60 yr old age bracket? That would be nice. Thanks.
Minute 1 is Gold: socialization, mental health, and meetups.
Bro Tony you are right on it with the impression of the woman verse the man voice 🤣🤣🤣. This is so good am Lmbo.
Good advice! I've found it takes at least 90 days for anything they've been hiding to show up, so take it slow.
Tony, You absolutely crack me up! 🙌😂
“This one is gonna make you or break you” 🤣🤣💀💀💀🤦🏻♀️ I’m guilty of this LOL.
Man he is funny but real 😂😂😂 “you got high before the date?!” Lol
This is good for new friends too.
Tony this video has been so informative. 😂You are so funny which makes the video even more interesting to watch. Thank God for for wisdom and knowledge. God bless.
Say it Bro Tony 🗣️ some of us single people are crazy 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I can't with Tony today 😁😁😁
Tony got jokes for days loll
Wow I can't believe those dating questions I am a newly single woman and I wouldn't dare ask all of that.
I needed this video. I go on a date with a guy I’m getting to know next week! It will be our first date.
Sooo funny 😂😂😂… so insightful too. Thanks Tony
Spot on❣️😩 I prefer to ask questions when get to where we’re going, but they blurt it all out in the first phone call. 🤚🏾Hold up, playa. What happened to natural conversation?
It’s like flashing cash to me. Slow down ⚠️
Stress is so workful? Lol. Never heard it put like that before. Luv it!
Yes! I’d love for you to do a seminar in Atl! Please have it for the under 30 crowd if possible! 🙏🏼🤞🏽. A singles retreat would be fun too! 🤷🏽♀️😁 just throwing that out there lol.
I swear Tony a trip!! 😂😂 the way he pronounced Filet Mignon !! Please do a tour or Meet n Greet!!
Scream.....Fil-let Mig-none. dead.
Hopefully, you'll take the time to reply Mr Gaskins. I find the question, "How long have you been single?" off putting. I have been in situations where men literally follow up with "Are you crazy? You must be crazy huh? Or What did you do to him to make him leave?" My question is why focus on how long a person has been single versus making sure they are single and not lying to you about it? I try to focus on the fact the person is available and not judging them for their past relationships. I hope I'm making sense.
because people who focus on the past relationships of the person that they are trying to date are insecure. This question doesn't bother me. I've been single for a long time because I've been working on myself and a lot of men have said that to me and I find that an acceptable answer. Now if they start insinuating that there is something wrong with you on the first date...nah cut them off. The last guy I dated said that I was stubborn so I cut him off. He actually said I was stubborn for telling him I had little to no emotional connection to him. If you know your own mind and your own identity then allegedly you are stubborn.....boy bye.
I’m there Tony I’m moving to Florida I’ll be close in Atlanta I’m not single but married for 27 years now and your advice is spot on I’m part of your tribe and one of your Life Coaches
Omg!! Yes!!!! These are the exact questions that are asked and being ran down just like that too lol..no causal convo over time to get these answers.just right away and upfront. It's important to know but learn as you go..body language and other details can tell you just as much on if it's even worth proceeding to learn all of that info.
Im glad I watched this before I went out 😭😭😭😂😂😂 I swear the woman to man list of questions is what I get asked by men. I feel like Im on first 48!