My ex boyfriend got mad at me because I wouldn’t use my credit to co-sign for his business idea. I told him I wouldn’t because we wasn’t married. He was so mad and went cold with me.The relationship ended because of he wanted it to. Now years later, he’s constantly texting and calling about getting back together. Nope sir! I don’t want you back.
First and foremost Thank you for sharing!! Something kind of similar happened to me. The Father of my children had met some cousins in Washington State that he never knew before. He was 34 when he met them. To get to the point he said he was done with me. All because I would not give him my bank account# SS# so "We" could benefit from a PPP loan!!!🤯
Thank you for sharing! Wisdom kept me from this grown boy ex a loan to purchase him a new truck. He thought he could call me names that is not worth repeating but willing to act smooth like a raging wolf wearing sheep clothing to keep the door of my heart crack just enough so he can abuse me again verbally and ask for things without any regards to my well being. Tony is right, a man should NOT ask a woman for money. Also, don’t move in with this type of man either. Triple 🚩 red flags 🚩🚩🚩 Sis protect your peace and know you’re worth ❤. Don’t allow this opportunists to gain access to you and your money. Straighten your crown and wait for that Godly man!
Uncle tonyyyyy,❗️ Bless be the God who put you on earth , because you are a blessing to a ton of us❤️🔥😩❤️🩹 you always have some wisdom words to share with us and we lov-lov-loveeee ittttt
Taking s3x off the table before marriage is the only way to know if he's in it for the long run. A man who truly cares about you he will wait. Also not sleeping with a man will make it easier to leave if he cheats or starts misbehaving. Sleeping with a man creates a soul tie and this is why alot of women find it extremely difficult to leave a man when he's acting out. I also want to add that if he is sleeping around with other women then you need to cut him loose. Also alot of men will not go through all the trouble of marriage just to get s3x. This weeds out all the undeserving men.
True but he will still sleep around with other women until you give yours even if it is until marriage..you might wait and you think he is doing the same so this is tricky
@@Didi-fr5icthis. I think a lot of women miss that men will still date around and will choose to sleep with other women if sex is off the table. Fidelity isn’t owed when people are only dating, and why they say women are truly single until married. The boyfriend/girlfriend phase is a trap even when they both have an “agreement” to be exclusive. Covenants over “agreements”🙌🏾
I must admit, I’m sitting in my mess right now. Binge watching your videos for about a week now and because of you, I’ve read the Bible for the first time. I’m locked in and determined. Thank you brother 🙏🏽 You’ve helped me in more ways than one…I’m still a work in progress 🚧
Get it lady! Find a Biblical God Fearing Church Get baptized Keep on feeding on the Word and Sermons Find your joy in the Lord Jesus And Find the Real You in Christ!!! The rest will follow❤
23:26 I told my husband “sex was not on the menu” Unfortunately prior to him sex was on the menu. One of the biggest regrets of my life 😢 Virginity is virtue. We need to MVGA Make Virginity Great Again. Yes we ALL make mistakes but….. To the ladies who have not yet made that mistake; my best advise is “please don’t.” Giving yourself to a man/men who do not want to marry you and are not worthy of that most precious gift is not a good feeling. It’ll leave a hole in your soul.
I'm right there with you. My biggest regret was engaging in physical intimacy thinking it would make a man want to commit to me. Biggest lesson I've had the learn and learnt it the hard way.
I wish queens would learn to be by themselves, learn to enjoy your own company. Who cares what others say about your relationship status . Those same people are married and miserable while I’m single and satisfied 😉
@@saltycat662Some women don’t stay and put up with mess for the D… sometimes it’s b/c they want the kids’ dad around, sometimes it’s b/c they want companionship, so it’s b/c they want the status of being “taken” or claimed 🤷🏾♀️ sometimes it’s fear of living alone b/c of the security of money, living arrangements or whatever routine that they don’t want in upheaval… trust me, it’s not always the D… I’d venture to say majority of the time that’s not it.
I had a date night out dancing and before heading out he says, “do you have cash because I don’t have any to pay the cover” I let him know they take credit card and he was like “I guess I can stop at the 🏧 if necessary” and I was like “yep, your bank’s atm is literally a couple blocks away from where we’re dancing.” It was only $10 cover but it was a date and him asking me as we were heading out didn’t sit right with me at all.
@@teresadavis528 he’s blocked but showed up at church yesterday and we dated 4 months. I gave him a lot of grace for being human because Jesus did that but the more I unpack the relationship via TG and RC Blakes the more I see how much his head wasn’t in the game and I gave my all to someone who did not deserve the time, energy, and love I poured out. Having to see him yesterday was tough since I can’t block him from showing up to my safe place (church).
Girl yes they will try you “.. nice looking guy who I had just met and talking to had the nerve to ask me to send him money that’s like the biggest turn off like hell I need money my damn self
Tony I hollered when you said if he need a co pay for surgery he need to lay down figure it out and get a at home job if he can't move. 😂🤣 I love your wisdom and your sense of humor even when you not trying to be funny.
This message is extremely important. This was me. I was guilty saying that I have needs too & wanted it equally as the man. I thought it was normal & what we were supposed to do in dating. It is not normal to give our bodies away, thinking it’s showing love or to impress or keep a man. It was a waste of my body/God’s body & my integrity. I fell on my face. “Even while listening to Tony Gaskins videos.” The flesh & mind will still come up with an excuse Not to listen. Then it’ll be a regret. Then you’ll feel ashamed & wish you hadn’t done it but it’s too late. Now you have to start over your abstaining journey. Ladies, I’ve been there. Please take these videos seriously. Many of us women really need to hear this but so many are impatient of an hour video which is why I wish there was the “clip” option. I want to share a portion that, hopefully, will help my loved ones. The more I read the Bible & watch Tony Gaskins Jr videos, the easier abstaining gets & the more respect I have for myself. Abstinence Strong💪🏽
So true! When God told me to abstain to avoid pain I heard Him and handed God my body as a living sacrifice ...seggs was off the table until married. Amazing how many men who try hard to test that and once they know that you are not giving in they're in the wind 😊. I thank God for the wisdom to test their spirit💯
Being horny doesn't necessarily require therapy, unless, of course a woman is running around sleeping with every man because she wants to. Desiring sex is a natural desire, a better alternative would be for the woman to take more care and concern for her body. Find something else to do with that energy. Work out, garden, clean up, take a walk, etc
I think Tony meant that having spiritual knowledge and standards upfront of a thing can deter a thing- for example, “sexual energy.” however, if sexual energy does arise, you mentioned very good avert or combat strategies.
I’ve never known a grown adult man to need to borrow $$ from a woman? Never. I’m not wired to even see that, let alone be attracted to that. Grateful to my dad, he always worked, always paid. In my mind, a man provides, even posthumously. I can’t relate to this at all. Your wife sounds like my kind of woman Tony, secure. ❤
I agree! I was taught from a very young age that a woman doesn't give a man money. Unless they are married and even then the man is still the provider who goes above and beyond. He takes care of his family without a doubt.
Same here. My dad is a man’s man. My mama never went in her purse, when he was around. He took pride in providing for his woman. As his daughter, single for 21 years after divorce, won’t accept anything less. I’m good!
🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Preeeeeach Tony Gaskins! In my last relationship, I loaned a man $4k. It was the first time I'd done that and the last! He was supposed to pay me back within 3 months, and it took him 8 months! I learned a valuable lesson from that! NEVER loan or give a man money when you're dating! Ladies, we need to often say to ourselves...."I want a man who will marry and stay with me, not just lay and play with me!" Ladies, let's remain abstinent! Let's... M.I.U.M! (Make it Until Marriage)
@@suebaybee Same with my mom and dad, however they grew up with the mentality that certain conversations must not be shared with the kids and when it comes to relationships that was a subject I never learned about growing up,rather I learned it outside which comes with a lot of bad information
So true! I dated a man that upset about something, and I felt like he was going to cuss and raise his voice at me, and I interupted him and said if your about to cuss at me or raise your voice don’t, because if you do it will be your last. I said I don't cuss or raise my voice, and I expect the same, and he never did. We got along and communicated well. He just wasn't ready to marry, and I decided I wasn't going to wait around anymore, but it ended well, but that was due to a mutual respect we had for each other and good communication.
Tony, preach! You are so right! Do not give a man money! Don’t move in with this man. Lastly, closing my legs unto marriage is key! Avoid at all costs ungodly soul ties from uncontrollable lusts that bring diseases that robs your body and soul. This is where my strength and power lies. My heart is anchor in God! God can keep you if you want to be kept. ❤🙏🏽💪🏽
Tony keep doing what you're doing. As a divorced mom, from my daughter's father, she enrolled in law school at Howard University. She had just bought a condo, but the law school said she had to quit her job to be focused in law school. me, her dad, and my divorced husband had to pay her mortgage. Long story short, she practiced law. seventeen years later , she recently became a Judge for the state of Maryland. All I'm saying is to support your children and their goals and dreams because you never know who they will become! Whatever you lost and was stolen will be restored 1 million fold! You are about to blow up Tony and it will be exceedingly, and abundantly above all you ask or think! Now that's the word of God and you will see it in the land of the living! Let God's word be true and every other man against it be a liar! The gates of hell shall not prevail against you and your family!
I stand on this....When I am in sin, my blessings flow differently. I dont care how hard I'm working, my blessings decrease, when I'm not living right. As soon as I start living right, my blessimgs fall down on me so much that I KNOW it isnt anyone but GOD!!!
Tony i appreciate this message . Ladies, let's stop being so desperate for a relationship. Life is too short to settle with a guy who doesn't have it together and is being a hobo. Keep living and enjoying life and live your purpose. 2022 was a year of desperation but a lesson that made me finally surrender. 2023 has been filled with opportunities, great exposure, financial wealth, and happiness. The glow is real.
When l was a heavy smoker or a heavy drinker my mind was so lost my spiritual eyes was so drained like my spiritual eyes are more open to things are way better l been about one year soberity
Listened to RC last night about being a wife and the one area I fell down on over the years was what you're talking about: STANDARDS and by extension, DIGNITY.
Tony Tony Tony I am so grateful to have a message from you daily. I am 52 and still desiring marriage. I was married before for 20 years but we were very young and i divorced because of infidelity. I don’t listen to a lot of podcasts but I listen to yours. I’ve been following you for 4 years and every thing you say about men and relationships is so valid. I thank god for you because now I have clarity about relationships and Im waiting until the right one FINDS me!!!!❤
Tony, I know 10+ mistakes that a man makes when dating. Also, when a person displays aggression or abuse towards a woman, there is no second chance. She should respectfully run, block and pray
I did not know tony was this funny based on how serious he is when he’s being interviewed on other podcasts 😂😂😂. One thing he gone do is keep it real though!! 💯
@@lillysglamhouse Not exactly my thoughts. Mainly because your child is primarily your responsibility, even if things don’t work out for you and said person. Your child should always be good so having your own is essential
Omg you are speaking tonight directly to me. I was binging your videos still upset at my ex partner for not defending me in front of his mother at thanksgiving dinner that we hosted. I was like “now what if I put hands on her, then I’d be wrong and y’all would look at me like I’m the problem!”
Tony, I had a guy once ask me to buy him a Rolex, I asked him if I was his wife and he said No, I asked him has he bought us a house to live in and also a house for residual income, he said No… I laughed right in his face 😂😂😂 and told him keep dreaming…
The audacity! I had a guy keep highlighting my Rolex. He kept on bringing it up that I had a nice Rolex. Then he kept on bringing my nice things up then eventually started asking me to help him with things…I was out the door so quick!
When you say you went through several before finding your wife that resonated because I be just tired and want to lock in right away and cut off other ones.... I needed this message
I love your teachings Tony, "is it realistic noooo cuz we are nasty" "& if you are gonna use your mouth, you are no more than a MOUTH HOLE" I'm holleringggggg 🤣🤣🤣
This is confirmation. It has helped me understand how I made mistakes in my past so that I can make better choices now..great tips that I will share with my daughters when God blesses me.
The last 12 minutes really encouraged me. 🙌🏾🤲🏾💥 James 1:17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. Psalm 23:3 He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for His name’s sake. Thank you for sharing this with us. God bless you and your family.
I felt bad for paying for a date for a man on his birthday that was not my man. I just really wanted to go, couldn't go alone, and it was his birthday that Monday so I had an excuse to invite him. I feel like I gave desperate, though, just because I was so excited when we got there 😂. Smh
Tony you’re such a blessing… i replay videos from back in the day from years ago!!!! Even though i know you wanna retire from talking about love and relationships😂 I appreciate it !!!
1. do not give a man money. 2. do not let him yell or speak mean to you. 3.dont let him use you for money, or a place to live. dont take care of him for any reason,. 4, dont live together. dont let him live in your house. 5. dont let him use or hav your car. 6. dont need a man for money, nor a place to live. have your own money. 7. the ultimate goal, do not seep with a man before marriage. but, in our society today its not always realistic. 8. make a man wait 6 moths before intimacy. (or months and get a monogamy ring from him in my personal oponion) 9. dont let any man use any hole of yours unless he loves yu.! no casual sex.! dont be lose booty! 10. see and hear who that man is 11. dont be in sexual sin. 12. focus on an independant life, vs a relationship (good adice Tony) .respect, lovee, quality time, communication is the only thing to need from a man. dont be desperate
Brother Tony...you can apply for a passport through the embassy, since your son plays soccer it shouldn't be difficult for yall to be granted passports. My brother applied and after a few months was granted a passport and has been living in Europe for the past year in Portugal and LOVES it. After living in Portugal for about 6 months or so he was able to apply for dual citizenship and was granted that as well this year and plans on living there and here in the US throughout the years. God bless you all.
This is why I don’t see how people call Tony a simp. He calls out women and men. And I admit, as a woman some of this was hard to hear but it’ll only make me better.
I have been watching Tony for a while, and I really enjoy the videos. The perspectives he gives from a man, about men to help us women. Really is profound. ❤
Thank You so much Tony for all the videos you are doing for us. Keep doing what the Lord is guiding you to do. You are absolutely Blessed and Highly Favored.
Physical touch is my body language , I show my love and kindness through touch..I haven't been on a date in almost 3 years but I used to break the physical barrier before he did ( men I used to go on dates with) and I didn't know that can give a man an other idea so that will be a challenge for me moving forward in dating 😮
I jus cut a man off because his indirect conversion about using a woman whos rich for money it was casual conversation and thought red flag in my head then he ask if I could pay for dates n he pay for some half n half 😂
I cut a guy off like that..he mentioned to me that the last girl bought him so much things…I was giving him the side eye 😒then he started competing with me so feminine! He was blockt!
Things like havin a car home should be something a man has without having to ask their woman for a loan sign off on smh 🤦♀️ this is leader qualities this y I’m big on man meeting these basic qualities before even dating idc if he’s renting he must have it u not be down the line askn me to co-sign as a girlfriend and then we break up and u dissapear and the payments on me
3:51 I'm not buying any gifts unless we're an established couple. I wouldn't invest in a man's business because he should have his investors together before meeting me or outside of me.
I love you Brother ❤. You are bomb!!! You are so authentic, truthful, raw and transparent from a biblical standpoint. A good genuine man 😊. I concur with all of your thoughts, recommendations, advice, etc. Thank you for your content. It has helped me a lot in reinforcing my standards and boundaries. It’s pee in this dating pool for sure. This is why doing the work, loving yourself, utilizing wisdom, keeping your eyes and ears open and legs closed. Have patience ladies and have a life of your own. Become whole!!! Remember, God must be center. I can’t agree with you more Tony. May God continue to bless you, your wonderful family and the work you do for us ladies. Happy Holidays!!!
Thank you so much Tony. You are bringing so much wisdom and balance to our lives. So many relationships fail because of desperation and toxic codependency too soon. I feel so empowered to do things Gods way. God bless you Tony! Sending much love to you and your amazing family.
Fasting and prayer is the way to be successful in abstaining. You can try it all but you flesh is weak so you will need God's strength. Now dont get comfortable when you get married. This is when you work.
Amazing Teachings and Wisdom God has given To you Mr Gaskin!! You are so right in givIng insight and teaching to help get relationships right to ultimately help our communities!! One issue with this desperation is that there’s a shortage of men and men KNOW THIS AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT! Especially in the BLack Community! Like you said, ppl tend to give in to the media and let this dictate to them in relationships, etc. Thank you for teaching that we should still have STANDARDS! Shortage or not!! The ultimate biblical principle I believe is that we need to get ourselves together, I have had quite a few sobering dreams that THE LORD IS PREPARING HIS BRIDE FOR HIMSELF! This is the BODY OF CHRIST! Thank YOU Mr Tony! I believe this ministry you have is helping thousands upon thousands to get right in our relationships and for the Lord!!
I did allll of what Tony said. Lent money for business, sex before marriage and let me tell you, as a now married woman with 3 kids, keep yourself to yourself. Bury yourself in God and let him lead your husbqnd to you. Helped my ex start a now successful hardware, we have a son and he is the epitome of a douche, low character but I was 'in lurrvv', like a fool. I had to do heavy work to heal feom his Narcissistic abuse and controlling ways and constant accusations Sharing these with my daughter and sons because I refuse to see them make the mistakes and live the hell I did
Your wife is Jamaican right? Jamaicans and people from the Caribbean have easier access to moving to England, its easier to get a work permit with Caribbean ancestry. Much love from Trinidad.
I'm a beautiful lady got a beautiful biological daughter but she was adopted they still might let me chat with her during the holidays that's a blessing
Tony, your words are so true. I have made mistakes in the past because I ignored the red flags. Please, continue to allow God to use you. May God continue to bless you!🙏🏽
Yepppp..Mr. Tony is and will be here to level the playing field. The best channel ever! Where we build, grow and glow when we apply what's taught. Be blessed.
I'm so glad you said yes to God’s calling on your life Mr. Gaskin. Your videos have been such a blessing & confirmation for me. Questions: Do you think a woman should share up-front that she's abstaining until marriage - like at the 1st date? How would you address the argument some use..."I gotta know we are sexually compatible or that the sex will be good before marriage"? I'm single & abstaining - I'm hopeful & trust God's will to be done despite the fact that dating has been discouraging for a few of years now. Holy Spirit told me to pause dating and focus on my assignment & businesses. Im learning Contentment in this season as well preparing for when its time to date again.
He has addressed it in one of the videos, he said to tell the man that it's not his business. If a man is asking that he is up to no good. And reply only if he is asking, don't start that conversation, if he says something you have to say why are you asking me that? Whatever his explanation is tell him that it's not his business, and if worse come to worse and you have to answer say i don't know, right now I'm not ready if he asks when you will be ready tell him when I'll be ready when I'll be ready i right now I'm not. And if a man brings his TGs name up ask him who is that.
Tony your wife is beautiful and seems to be a excellent wife and mother! I hope all is good in the Gaskins household! Its nothing but devilment out here, stay where you are! Blessings to you both 🙏🏽
My ex boyfriend got mad at me because I wouldn’t use my credit to co-sign for his business idea. I told him I wouldn’t because we wasn’t married. He was so mad and went cold with me.The relationship ended because of he wanted it to. Now years later, he’s constantly texting and calling about getting back together. Nope sir! I don’t want you back.
So block him
First and foremost
Thank you for sharing!! Something kind of similar happened to me. The Father of my children had met some cousins in Washington State that he never knew before. He was 34 when he met them. To get to the point he said he was done with me. All because I would not give him my bank account# SS# so "We" could benefit from a PPP loan!!!🤯
Block
Thank you for sharing! Wisdom kept me from this grown boy ex a loan to purchase him a new truck. He thought he could call me names that is not worth repeating but willing to act smooth like a raging wolf wearing sheep clothing to keep the door of my heart crack just enough so he can abuse me again verbally and ask for things without any regards to my well being.
Tony is right, a man should NOT ask a woman for money. Also, don’t move in with this type of man either. Triple 🚩 red flags 🚩🚩🚩
Sis protect your peace and know you’re worth ❤. Don’t allow this opportunists to gain access to you and your money. Straighten your crown and wait for that Godly man!
He was just using you. He's a parasite.
He said close your legs, close your mouth, and close your hands!😂😂😂 Love it👏
“If you don’t want to feel the pain, abstain” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Exactly
That perfectly sums it up!
I love this saying!! T-shirt status💯
Uncle tonyyyyy,❗️
Bless be the God who put you on earth , because you are a blessing to a ton of us❤️🔥😩❤️🩹 you always have some wisdom words to share with us and we lov-lov-loveeee ittttt
Taking s3x off the table before marriage is the only way to know if he's in it for the long run.
A man who truly cares about you he will wait.
Also not sleeping with a man will make it easier to leave if he cheats or starts misbehaving.
Sleeping with a man creates a soul tie and this is why alot of women find it extremely difficult to leave a man when he's acting out.
I also want to add that if he is sleeping around with other women then you need to cut him loose.
Also alot of men will not go through all the trouble of marriage just to get s3x.
This weeds out all the undeserving men.
True but he will still sleep around with other women until you give yours even if it is until marriage..you might wait and you think he is doing the same so this is tricky
@@Didi-fr5ic This is true. He may tell you he's waiting but he's really sleeping around and the woman has no clue. There are no guarantees in life.
Absolutely
@@Didi-fr5icthis. I think a lot of women miss that men will still date around and will choose to sleep with other women if sex is off the table. Fidelity isn’t owed when people are only dating, and why they say women are truly single until married. The boyfriend/girlfriend phase is a trap even when they both have an “agreement” to be exclusive. Covenants over “agreements”🙌🏾
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You hit the nail on the head right here☝️
You are absolutely correct!
“Stop collecting bodies and sleep with no body.” 🤣 “Wait for marriage or you will rush into perish.” I’m having fun with this now 😂😂😂
I must admit, I’m sitting in my mess right now. Binge watching your videos for about a week now and because of you, I’ve read the Bible for the first time. I’m locked in and determined. Thank you brother 🙏🏽 You’ve helped me in more ways than one…I’m still a work in progress 🚧
Get it lady!
Find a Biblical God Fearing Church
Get baptized
Keep on feeding on the Word and Sermons
Find your joy in the Lord Jesus
And Find the Real You in Christ!!!
The rest will follow❤
@@christellen3077 thank you 🙏🏽🫶🏽
Proud of ya. Stay in the Word and keep listening to Tony’s videos
Welcome to reading the Bible. It is great
@@coachshenamajor Thank you, I will 🙏🏽
The wrong man in your life is like a stray dog you fed and can't get rid of.😣😣😣
yep. The ones that mean you no good is the hardest to get rid of.
Don't compare a stray dog with a wrong man. I would certainly fed the dog and keep him!
Oh wow
“Your partner should complement you not complete you because anybody who complete you can deplete you.”‼️
23:26
I told my husband “sex was not on the menu”
Unfortunately prior to him sex was on the menu.
One of the biggest regrets of my life 😢
Virginity is virtue.
We need to MVGA
Make Virginity Great Again.
Yes we ALL make mistakes but…..
To the ladies who have not yet made that mistake; my best advise is “please don’t.”
Giving yourself to a man/men who do not want to marry you and are not worthy of that most precious gift is not a good feeling.
It’ll leave a hole in your soul.
I'm right there with you.
My biggest regret was engaging in physical intimacy thinking it would make a man want to commit to me.
Biggest lesson I've had the learn and learnt it the hard way.
Women be taking on too much just to be in a relationship. Women keep them standards up and don't settle for less when you deserve the best.
And they're the ones who lose out the most. I'll never understand some women and their obsession with D. I'd rather be alone than miserable.
Yes we do
I wish queens would learn to be by themselves, learn to enjoy your own company. Who cares what others say about your relationship status . Those same people are married and miserable while I’m single and satisfied 😉
@@saltycat662Some women don’t stay and put up with mess for the D… sometimes it’s b/c they want the kids’ dad around, sometimes it’s b/c they want companionship, so it’s b/c they want the status of being “taken” or claimed 🤷🏾♀️ sometimes it’s fear of living alone b/c of the security of money, living arrangements or whatever routine that they don’t want in upheaval… trust me, it’s not always the D… I’d venture to say majority of the time that’s not it.
@@sweetumsDenise women need to stop lowering their standards.
I had a date night out dancing and before heading out he says, “do you have cash because I don’t have any to pay the cover” I let him know they take credit card and he was like “I guess I can stop at the 🏧 if necessary” and I was like “yep, your bank’s atm is literally a couple blocks away from where we’re dancing.” It was only $10 cover but it was a date and him asking me as we were heading out didn’t sit right with me at all.
wow....he really tried
To the left to the left ! 😂
I hope you blocked him after that.
@@teresadavis528 he’s blocked but showed up at church yesterday and we dated 4 months. I gave him a lot of grace for being human because Jesus did that but the more I unpack the relationship via TG and RC Blakes the more I see how much his head wasn’t in the game and I gave my all to someone who did not deserve the time, energy, and love I poured out. Having to see him yesterday was tough since I can’t block him from showing up to my safe place (church).
Girl yes they will try you “.. nice looking guy who I had just met and talking to had the nerve to ask me to send him money that’s like the biggest turn off like hell I need money my damn self
Tony I hollered when you said if he need a co pay for surgery he need to lay down figure it out and get a at home job if he can't move. 😂🤣 I love your wisdom and your sense of humor even when you not trying to be funny.
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@@k.alboyd9020 it really was 😂🙏🏾👍🏽
This message is extremely important. This was me. I was guilty saying that I have needs too & wanted it equally as the man. I thought it was normal & what we were supposed to do in dating. It is not normal to give our bodies away, thinking it’s showing love or to impress or keep a man. It was a waste of my body/God’s body & my integrity. I fell on my face. “Even while listening to Tony Gaskins videos.” The flesh & mind will still come up with an excuse Not to listen. Then it’ll be a regret. Then you’ll feel ashamed & wish you hadn’t done it but it’s too late. Now you have to start over your abstaining journey. Ladies, I’ve been there. Please take these videos seriously. Many of us women really need to hear this but so many are impatient of an hour video which is why I wish there was the “clip” option. I want to share a portion that, hopefully, will help my loved ones. The more I read the Bible & watch Tony Gaskins Jr videos, the easier abstaining gets & the more respect I have for myself. Abstinence Strong💪🏽
Great words! I'm so happy for you to walk this journey with GOD'S help!!! And yes, we all need to take this more seriously! So proud of you! GOD Bless
So true! When God told me to abstain to avoid pain I heard Him and handed God my body as a living sacrifice ...seggs was off the table until married. Amazing how many men who try hard to test that and once they know that you are not giving in they're in the wind 😊. I thank God for the wisdom to test their spirit💯
Def practicing abstinence now and it’s challenging but I know it’ll be worth it
Being horny doesn't necessarily require therapy, unless, of course a woman is running around sleeping with every man because she wants to.
Desiring sex is a natural desire, a better alternative would be for the woman to take more care and concern for her body. Find something else to do with that energy. Work out, garden, clean up, take a walk, etc
I think Tony meant that having spiritual knowledge and standards upfront of a thing can deter a thing- for example, “sexual energy.” however, if sexual energy does arise, you mentioned very good avert or combat strategies.
Absolutely 😊
I’ve never known a grown adult man to need to borrow $$ from a woman? Never. I’m not wired to even see that, let alone be attracted to that. Grateful to my dad, he always worked, always paid. In my mind, a man provides, even posthumously. I can’t relate to this at all. Your wife sounds like my kind of woman Tony, secure. ❤
Yess!! Even posthumously.. the Bible says a man leaves an inheritance for his family.
I agree! I was taught from a very young age that a woman doesn't give a man money. Unless they are married and even then the man is still the provider who goes above and beyond. He takes care of his family without a doubt.
Same here. My dad is a man’s man. My mama never went in her purse, when he was around. He took pride in providing for his woman. As his daughter, single for 21 years after divorce, won’t accept anything less. I’m good!
“You got to be still for lil bit and talk to the lord until you get the co-pay” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Preeeeeach Tony Gaskins!
In my last relationship, I loaned a man $4k. It was the first time I'd done that and the last! He was supposed to pay me back within 3 months, and it took him 8 months! I learned a valuable lesson from that! NEVER loan or give a man money when you're dating!
Ladies, we need to often say to ourselves...."I want a man who will marry and stay with me, not just lay and play with me!" Ladies, let's remain abstinent! Let's... M.I.U.M! (Make it Until Marriage)
Yes 🙌🏽 I love the way you put it
Absolutely 💯. Keep your standards up!
@@Youreapwhatyousew Thank you 😊
@@Blessed678-45 Thanks for the support.🙏🏽🙏🏽
That needs to be on a shirt. MIUM.
This is the information our parents should have been teaching us from young, especially for the ladies.
A lot of only provided what they lacked as well. My mom did the best she could & I appreciate her for that.
@@suebaybee Same with my mom and dad, however they grew up with the mentality that certain conversations must not be shared with the kids and when it comes to relationships that was a subject I never learned about growing up,rather I learned it outside which comes with a lot of bad information
They didn't know either😢
This maybe true but most of our parents don’t even know what a healthy relationship is
So true! I dated a man that upset about something, and I felt like he was going to cuss and raise his voice at me, and I interupted him and said if your about to cuss at me or raise your voice don’t, because if you do it will be your last. I said I don't cuss or raise my voice, and I expect the same, and he never did. We got along and communicated well. He just wasn't ready to marry, and I decided I wasn't going to wait around anymore, but it ended well, but that was due to a mutual respect we had for each other and good communication.
Tony, preach! You are so right! Do not give a man money! Don’t move in with this man. Lastly, closing my legs unto marriage is key! Avoid at all costs ungodly soul ties from uncontrollable lusts that bring diseases that robs your body and soul.
This is where my strength and power lies. My heart is anchor in God! God can keep you if you want to be kept. ❤🙏🏽💪🏽
Trust me 8 years no intercourse.😂. I'm feeling whole
Tony keep doing what you're doing. As a divorced mom, from my daughter's father, she enrolled in law school at Howard University. She had just bought a condo, but the law school said she had to quit her job to be focused in law school. me, her dad, and my divorced husband had to pay her mortgage. Long story short, she practiced law. seventeen years later , she recently became a Judge for the state of Maryland. All I'm saying is to support your children and their goals and dreams because you never know who they will become! Whatever you lost and was stolen will be restored 1 million fold! You are about to blow up Tony and it will be exceedingly, and abundantly above all you ask or think! Now that's the word of God and you will see it in the land of the living! Let God's word be true and every other man against it be a liar! The gates of hell shall not prevail against you and your family!
Bravo!! I would do this in a heartbeat for my son and I completely agree with you/ he comes first financially for me
I'm dying, this dude said get on FIVER until you get the co-pay. I'm literally CRYING 😭😭😭😭
I stand on this....When I am in sin, my blessings flow differently. I dont care how hard I'm working, my blessings decrease, when I'm not living right. As soon as I start living right, my blessimgs fall down on me so much that I KNOW it isnt anyone but GOD!!!
Tony i appreciate this message .
Ladies, let's stop being so desperate for a relationship. Life is too short to settle with a guy who doesn't have it together and is being a hobo. Keep living and enjoying life and live your purpose.
2022 was a year of desperation but a lesson that made me finally surrender.
2023 has been filled with opportunities, great exposure, financial wealth, and happiness. The glow is real.
Amen 🙏
Bingo🎯
When l was a heavy smoker or a heavy drinker my mind was so lost my spiritual eyes was so drained like my spiritual eyes are more open to things are way better l been about one year soberity
Listened to RC last night about being a wife and the one area I fell down on over the years was what you're talking about: STANDARDS and by extension, DIGNITY.
I watch RC Blake everyday. I just started watching Tony last week and I’m hooked!
Tony Tony Tony I am so grateful to have a message from you daily. I am 52 and still desiring marriage. I was married before for 20 years but we were very young and i divorced because of infidelity. I don’t listen to a lot of podcasts but I listen to yours. I’ve been following you for 4 years and every thing you say about men and relationships is so valid. I thank god for you because now I have clarity about relationships and Im waiting until the right one FINDS me!!!!❤
Same here hon
47 me too
“ because we are nasty “ 😂😂😂 ..he kills me !
Tony is out here saving us from heartache. God bless you bro
Tony, I know 10+ mistakes that a man makes when dating. Also, when a person displays aggression or abuse towards a woman, there is no second chance. She should respectfully run, block and pray
You got me rolling when you said "if you're horny, you need emotional regulation, therapy and prayer!" AMEN 👏😂
Abstinent 8 years. Feelin damn good.❤
Always fast and pray before making life altering decisions. Believe me I know.
I did not know tony was this funny based on how serious he is when he’s being interviewed on other podcasts 😂😂😂. One thing he gone do is keep it real though!! 💯
I cannot stress enough as a woman with my own child, you should have your own funds because you just never know.
Yes they will uP and leave you desserted
@@lillysglamhouse Not exactly my thoughts. Mainly because your child is primarily your responsibility, even if things don’t work out for you and said person. Your child should always be good so having your own is essential
Omg you are speaking tonight directly to me. I was binging your videos still upset at my ex partner for not defending me in front of his mother at thanksgiving dinner that we hosted. I was like “now what if I put hands on her, then I’d be wrong and y’all would look at me like I’m the problem!”
“You sure you don’t wanna do what swizz beats did?” 😂😂😂😂
Tony, I had a guy once ask me to buy him a Rolex, I asked him if I was his wife and he said No, I asked him has he bought us a house to live in and also a house for residual income, he said No… I laughed right in his face 😂😂😂 and told him keep dreaming…
Asked you to buy him a what? The audacity smh
Rolex are thousands wat in the world he want sugar momma
The audacity! I had a guy keep highlighting my Rolex.
He kept on bringing it up that I had a nice Rolex. Then he kept on bringing my nice things up then eventually started asking me to help him with things…I was out the door so quick!
@@Eraseyourmemory1yep he definitely wanted you to provide for him
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Brother Tony is a blessing. Definitely top notch therapist, counselor. Above all, Christian.
Tony, not only is it a 🚩for a man to ASK me for money... it's a 🚩when he asks how much I make and when I get paid. 😂
Uncle Tony, thank you for the transparency and taking the time to answer our questions. 🙏🏿
When you say you went through several before finding your wife that resonated because I be just tired and want to lock in right away and cut off other ones.... I needed this message
And this is why I still follow you after all these years. God is evident in your life Tony.
I love your teachings Tony,
"is it realistic noooo cuz we are nasty"
"& if you are gonna use your mouth, you are no more than a MOUTH HOLE"
I'm holleringggggg 🤣🤣🤣
This is confirmation. It has helped me understand how I made mistakes in my past so that I can make better choices now..great tips that I will share with my daughters when God blesses me.
The last 12 minutes really encouraged me. 🙌🏾🤲🏾💥
James 1:17
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
Psalm 23:3
He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for His name’s sake.
Thank you for sharing this with us. God bless you and your family.
Tony did like 5 benedictions 😂😂😂😂😂😂 he kept dropping gems 💎 I love it! God bless ya Brother Tony
I felt bad for paying for a date for a man on his birthday that was not my man. I just really wanted to go, couldn't go alone, and it was his birthday that Monday so I had an excuse to invite him. I feel like I gave desperate, though, just because I was so excited when we got there 😂. Smh
Tony you’re such a blessing… i replay videos from back in the day from years ago!!!! Even though i know you wanna retire from talking about love and relationships😂 I appreciate it !!!
1. do not give a man money. 2. do not let him yell or speak mean to you. 3.dont let him use you for money, or a place to live. dont take care of him for any reason,. 4, dont live together. dont let him live in your house. 5. dont let him use or hav your car. 6. dont need a man for money, nor a place to live. have your own money. 7. the ultimate goal, do not seep with a man before marriage. but, in our society today its not always realistic. 8. make a man wait 6 moths before intimacy. (or months and get a monogamy ring from him in my personal oponion) 9. dont let any man use any hole of yours unless he loves yu.! no casual sex.! dont be lose booty! 10. see and hear who that man is 11. dont be in sexual sin. 12. focus on an independant life, vs a relationship (good adice Tony) .respect, lovee, quality time, communication is the only thing to need from a man. dont be desperate
So true for women to stop chasing men for money, get your own bag and value yourself instead of trying to be dependent on someone else smh
If you want the pain dont abstain😂very funny!
So true
“Offset, NOT the migos” 😂😂😂
Brother Tony...you can apply for a passport through the embassy, since your son plays soccer it shouldn't be difficult for yall to be granted passports. My brother applied and after a few months was granted a passport and has been living in Europe for the past year in Portugal and LOVES it. After living in Portugal for about 6 months or so he was able to apply for dual citizenship and was granted that as well this year and plans on living there and here in the US throughout the years. God bless you all.
Very true I learned in my past relationship what not to do in my current relationship. And it’s working pretty well for me, I can sleep at night😂❤
T.G. said Accept the truth and know that you nasty! I am hollering over here because T.G. ain't cuttin no corners tonight.
When Tony get to imitating ppl with the eye rolling, I be so dead 😅
Great video!
Loose booty I’m weak, I love how you keep it real and raw with us we need to hear this. Amen!!🙏🏽 taking heed
That is good you let your wife in own your most vulnerable moment. That' s a form of the uptmost respect. God bless
Tony is real a lot of people can’t handle it it’s ok 👍 he’s not for everyone he’s for those who will listen
This is why I don’t see how people call Tony a simp. He calls out women and men. And I admit, as a woman some of this was hard to hear but it’ll only make me better.
I have been watching Tony for a while, and I really enjoy the videos. The perspectives he gives from a man, about men to help us women. Really is profound. ❤
Thank You so much Tony for all the videos you are doing for us. Keep doing what the Lord is guiding you to do. You are absolutely Blessed and Highly Favored.
Amen, Amen
"If you meet somebody and they won't sacrifice their fleshly desires for you then y'all marriage wasn't gonna last anyway."
Wow
Physical touch is my body language , I show my love and kindness through touch..I haven't been on a date in almost 3 years but I used to break the physical barrier before he did ( men I used to go on dates with) and I didn't know that can give a man an other idea so that will be a challenge for me moving forward in dating 😮
This! 🎯
Same. I like touch. So that kinda sucks lol
I love how u love your family Mr. Gaskins. U have set the bar. Thanks for good old fashioned common sense teaching.
We gotta have OUR OWN "MON-TEE" LADIES 🚺 💯💥❣️
I love your honesty Tony and realizing you need your accountability with your wife and keeping her informed
I jus cut a man off because his indirect conversion about using a woman whos rich for money it was casual conversation and thought red flag in my head then he ask if I could pay for dates n he pay for some half n half 😂
I cut a guy off like that..he mentioned to me that the last girl bought him so much things…I was giving him the side eye 😒then he started competing with me so feminine! He was blockt!
@@LA-wv7gfyes we are ks really changed the game for men
Things like havin a car home should be something a man has without having to ask their woman for a loan sign off on smh 🤦♀️ this is leader qualities this y I’m big on man meeting these basic qualities before even dating idc if he’s renting he must have it u not be down the line askn me to co-sign as a girlfriend and then we break up and u dissapear and the payments on me
Tony said he was bout to get off then spoke for another 40 minutes 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
3:51 I'm not buying any gifts unless we're an established couple. I wouldn't invest in a man's business because he should have his investors together before meeting me or outside of me.
Amen...the wages of sin is DEATH. Hey TG-Grateful for you and may YAH (God) continue to bless you and your family 🙏
I love you Brother ❤. You are bomb!!! You are so authentic, truthful, raw and transparent from a biblical standpoint. A good genuine man 😊. I concur with all of your thoughts, recommendations, advice, etc. Thank you for your content. It has helped me a lot in reinforcing my standards and boundaries. It’s pee in this dating pool for sure. This is why doing the work, loving yourself, utilizing wisdom, keeping your eyes and ears open and legs closed. Have patience ladies and have a life of your own. Become whole!!! Remember, God must be center. I can’t agree with you more Tony. May God continue to bless you, your wonderful family and the work you do for us ladies. Happy Holidays!!!
"So this why the relationship coaches are still single" -- A WHOLEEE WORD!!!!
13. dont lower your standards. stand on your standards. if man does not respect your standards, let him go and leave immediately.
Thank you so much Tony. You are bringing so much wisdom and balance to our lives. So many relationships fail because of desperation and toxic codependency too soon. I feel so empowered to do things Gods way. God bless you Tony! Sending much love to you and your amazing family.
Fasting and prayer is the way to be successful in abstaining. You can try it all but you flesh is weak so you will need God's strength. Now dont get comfortable when you get married. This is when you work.
This video ate and left no crumbs The spirit of God was flowing !!!!!!
Amazing Teachings and Wisdom God has given To you Mr Gaskin!! You are so right in givIng insight and teaching to help get relationships right to ultimately help our communities!! One issue with this desperation is that there’s a shortage of men and men KNOW THIS AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT! Especially in the BLack Community! Like you said, ppl tend to give in to the media and let this dictate to them in relationships, etc. Thank you for teaching that we should still have STANDARDS! Shortage or not!! The ultimate biblical principle I believe is that we need to get ourselves together, I have had quite a few sobering dreams that THE LORD IS PREPARING HIS BRIDE FOR HIMSELF! This is the BODY OF CHRIST! Thank YOU Mr Tony! I believe this ministry you have is helping thousands upon thousands to get right in our relationships and for the Lord!!
“Casual sex should not be on the menu.” TG
You tell the TRUTH!!! Praise God for you. Blessings to you and your family.
I got about almost one year soberity didn't know how l was going to make this far l can't believe l made it this far
I did allll of what Tony said. Lent money for business, sex before marriage and let me tell you, as a now married woman with 3 kids, keep yourself to yourself. Bury yourself in God and let him lead your husbqnd to you. Helped my ex start a now successful hardware, we have a son and he is the epitome of a douche, low character but I was 'in lurrvv', like a fool. I had to do heavy work to heal feom his Narcissistic abuse and controlling ways and constant accusations
Sharing these with my daughter and sons because I refuse to see them make the mistakes and live the hell I did
Your wife is Jamaican right? Jamaicans and people from the Caribbean have easier access to moving to England, its easier to get a work permit with Caribbean ancestry. Much love from Trinidad.
This convo hit so hard. Thx u for your godly words of wisdom and advice. ❤ 🙏
Not "you just sniffing each other booty" lmao😂 the co dependency part had me cracking up but its true
13:15 agreed, shacking up, isn't it. Never have or will.
I'm a beautiful lady got a beautiful biological daughter but she was adopted they still might let me chat with her during the holidays that's a blessing
Tony putting us on game for the new year!!!!! Wooo chileee this is perfect timing. Y’all better pay attention !!!
Tony is hilarious 😂😂😂😂
Tony came with the heat. 🔥 ❤️🔥
Tony, your words are so true. I have made mistakes in the past because I ignored the red flags. Please, continue to allow God to use you. May God continue to bless you!🙏🏽
Yepppp..Mr. Tony is and will be here to level the playing field. The best channel ever! Where we build, grow and glow when we apply what's taught. Be blessed.
I'm so glad you said yes to God’s calling on your life Mr. Gaskin. Your videos have been such a blessing & confirmation for me. Questions: Do you think a woman should share up-front that she's abstaining until marriage - like at the 1st date? How would you address the argument some use..."I gotta know we are sexually compatible or that the sex will be good before marriage"?
I'm single & abstaining - I'm hopeful & trust God's will to be done despite the fact that dating has been discouraging for a few of years now. Holy Spirit told me to pause dating and focus on my assignment & businesses. Im learning Contentment in this season as well preparing for when its time to date again.
He has addressed it in one of the videos, he said to tell the man that it's not his business. If a man is asking that he is up to no good. And reply only if he is asking, don't start that conversation, if he says something you have to say why are you asking me that? Whatever his explanation is tell him that it's not his business, and if worse come to worse and you have to answer say i don't know, right now I'm not ready if he asks when you will be ready tell him when I'll be ready when I'll be ready i right now I'm not. And if a man brings his TGs name up ask him who is that.
Tony your wife is beautiful and seems to be a excellent wife and mother! I hope all is good in the Gaskins household! Its nothing but devilment out here, stay where you are! Blessings to you both 🙏🏽
Right, like not dating long enough to have a better understanding of who that person really 😮 is, are what you really getting connected with 😢
Bro Tony you're so transparent I love it , thank you for all you're doing
That part Tony👍🏾 I am not a gold digger but I am use to guys giving me or helping me out not visa versa
If a guy gives you things and he's not your father or brother, he will expect you to pay it back in some way, usually sexually.
Thank you for saying that God develops our platforms slow I was wondering you always come thru