This Is What Trusting Someone Means
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- Опубликовано: 23 окт 2022
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Genuine trust is increasingly hard to come by these days with the amount of manipulation that goes on, even if you've known someone for an extended period of time, all it takes is one act of deception to render the relationship a facade.
I would challenge that. Not because it’s easy to find, but because it’s more durable than that, more possible to build with strength. True trust is the result not of a lack of mistakes, but of well cleaned up messes, and we’ll stewarded vulnerability. I.E. I show you a part of me that’s a little scary to show, and you respond in a kind way - you keep a secret, or you embrace a part of me others have rejected or mocked - something like that.
Real trust takes time, and it is built up in layers - like blubber on a whale in very cold water, if I can use a weird picture. Any relationship that’s been around for a while will look like an older one those whales - lots of scars and nicks and healed scratches, because they’ve been through some tough times. Maybe they got hit hard by a boat or a predator, but because of the layers and layers of trust, that bite took a chunk out, but it was blubber that was hit. It hurt. Maybe it bled. Maybe it needed to be tended to and to heal, but it never got to the flesh of the whale. It never cut the core of the relationship. Real trust doesn’t mean you’re invulnerable, but it means you can deal with and make it through some really tough times, and it can be built by two flawed people willing to clean up messes and be a bit selfless every day.
I tell the truth.sometime it isn't pretty but realizing someone is truthful is freeing.
@@vipe650r well said. I think. Problems arise when the wounds do not heal, or don't heal well. Or if the one who wounds cannot see the wounds they inflict.
If you can identify manipulation, you can avoid it. If you can't avoid it, play the game.
Trust can only come from interacting with persons of integrity
Sometimes people are so good at wearing the mask that You can know a person for a very long time before you realize that they are not a person of integrity because you've never actually seen behind the mask regardless of how long you've known them.
I met a woman one time who's father was a serial killer.
But because of how loving, generous, and caring, how he was with her, with her mother, her family, the community.
NO ONE knew until he was caught red-handed in the act of a Murder... I guess I should make note that she was in her 30s and his wife have been married to him for over 40 years but none of them knew that he was killing the whole time
@@shannonpendergrass7206 yes some people are very well at hiding their true nature. If this man can hide that for all these years. Just think what a person that cheats and relationship came to. Especially if you trust them. If you are a person of high integrity and loyalty. The easier you are manipulated and the easier you can fall prey to cheaters. Since you are a person of high integrity and loyalty we often assume that everyone else is as well. Just like a person that lies and cheats they often assume everyone's does as well. They are often the ones that are accusing their spouses and partners of cheating because they know what they are capable of.
Slightly different topic. A very close friend of mine his mom was killed by a serial killer in 1987 in Fort Walton Beach Florida the man's name was Frank Walls
He killed my friend's mom also he killed a young girl that a lot of my friends knew, I did not know her.
In all I think he killed seven people possibly more. This is easily proven with a quick Google search. Yes evil walks among Us. You never know what some people are capable of and they can keep their intentions hidden did very well.
@@jackmewhalle6937 exactly
Monsters walk among us but because they look like us they act like us they talk like us it makes it impossible to recognize that they are the monsters that they are inside
You wish it was THAT simple
Once betrayed it is extremely difficult to get that trust back, if ever
Thing is people are unique in their standards for trust. In general, if someone is good to others then trust them, even if it seems a bit fake/ try hard. That’s because them faking it means they at least somewhat care about manifesting good instead of whatever snakes they are capable of.
There’s a saying that goes, “ one lie has the power to tarnish a thousand truths.”
I've learned to never trust anyone. Not completely. Never give anyone anything they can use against me. People are awful.
The affair thing is so true. I literally saw my ex as totally different person that I could no longer trust.
It was as If he was a stranger.
I am like your ex to an extent in making mistakes. I will continue to make mistakes I am human. But my heart is my wife and I have hurt her. I owned it all and I’m not leaving. I never ever ever physically hurt or slammed doors punched holes in walls. ALL THE STUFF I SEEN AS. CHILD. It gives me the encouragement to suck it up and stick it out. Those paths didn’t work for those I saw do it. That’s why I don’t do it. But mentally overcoming everything is the current Goal. I do not quit she did and didn’t at same time. She never filed 10yrs ago 5 yrs ago but a month ago AFTER I BEGAN TO CHANGE she felt led to say to herself now or never. And oh crap he’s not leaving. Maybe he does love me but now I don’t want o be hurt again. So if she finds someone while still hurt she will repeat it alone. I refuse to allow her to do that on my side. I have work to do. But only One loves properly God alone. I will try and figure it out til He takes me.
Bcuz then he was
Yes, that’s how it felt for me too.!! I tried to make it work with him but I just couldn’t trust a thing he was saying and ultimately I had to leave. Even after he gave me all his passwords, I couldn’t trust him.
This man is so wise
Why do you say that..... for a change he's actually saying something real (most of what he normally says is bullshit) but it's bloody obvious - everyone knows this already but just because he's unnecessarily verbose you think he's wise
@@izzabelladogalini Way to be dude. Criticizing a doctor with 30 years of experience. Why don't You try analyzing people for at least 10 years and see what comes out of that? People are complicated and You're an idiot to assume, that most of what he normally says is BS.
@@izzabelladogalini not everybody's on the same level and he tries to speak in a broad way that helps the masses.
@@izzabelladogalini the op probably means that Jordan Peterson doesn't have gray areas in this area and his confidence reduces anxiety that you misunderstand something
@@izzabelladogalini Is your IQ higher than your shoe size?
This man can convey so much wisdom in such a short clip
This is exactly the case. If you do not trust somebody you run away screaming. And if somebody has betrayed you, sometimes it is impossible to trust them again. The relationship is done and non existant any more.
That's me .and I'm getting old not yet retired but very difficult to get along on my own. Stuck..
My comments is new Iza
Trust Noone run from everyone screw humans
@@cindyrobertson3798 yes but I m not letting anyone ever treat me bad.. I am dieing I suffer from lupus and since the wold rejected me and my husband beat me next husband best me I'm alone .I'm. Not going to be. A burden ..so I don t date I have noone in my life at all . Noone .noone checks on me .spent the last 9years alone for every single holiday the silence on Christmas day. Nearly kills me. U dk
Most people don’t know that integrity matters they don’t have it and they don’t appreciate it.
I know so there for e ihave 0 repsepct for u so go away I say
Building Trust - building security thru communicating truth ☘️
Just. Holy shit. He pierces through everything.
There is nothing like coming forward in full honesty in the beginning, making this an agreement, and then being betrayed.
his explanation is impressive. loyalty to a relationship that validates that trust, it's a daily choice to not do anything that breaks that ice, that shatters the reality that's been predicated on the trust that's been given to the people in the relationship.
This hits my current concerns on the head.
I often make this point at work among coworkers, including my bosses. Trust is crucial for the well functioning of a business. Once trust is gone it's all downhill from there. You've got to trust that what they say is what they mean.
Facts.
In my last relationship he fractured my trust so much that I lost my ability to trust myself to choose an optimal mate.
It hit me so hard that I will NOT even entertain a future relationship in spite of how lonely I am.
I’m sorry you have to go through this.. but I’m here to say, solidarity I understand your predicament.. Then I realize moving in silence and working on ourselves and not letting our guard down for anybody is the key!. I made the mistake of underestimating some friendships when I was involved with this person.. but now I’m back on track to building my support system!.
The days of trust (along with wisdom), die with the generations that grew up BEFORE every bit of human garbage was placed at everyone's fingertips.
Wisdom. Just wisdom. "If I trust you, I can take you by your word and YOUR WORD SIMPLIFIES you and MY WORD SIMPLIFIES me"
As a millennial, I've grown up almost exclusively with peers who do not understand themselves at all, and don't care too either. They are almost all incapable of introspection. And it is impossible to trust somebody who doesn't understand themselves, they always change where they stand. They make good cogs. They can fit where they are needed, but without the machine they are nothing.
That is scary... such ppl can be easily swayed into anything
you just describe human being right there, at least most actually. Sad
"An unstable person is unstable in all their ways."
I was born in 1998 and since middleschool everyone was like that, they move based on what is convenient to them, loyalty and emotions and trying and caring don't exist as concepts in their head, we are so lonely
Trust is the one thing I demand of anyone in my life if you break my trust I will let that person go and it has simplified my life because it keeps the bs away
hello j doubt you gett to read all these but for the record , Thank you, I don't know what motivated you to do these shorts, but please don't stop, it's currently helping me big time,
Jordan Peterson you rock in all aspects ... your a person that i feel makes people feel safe ...
That’s why it’s okay for friends or people in relationships to take each other for granted - the ultimate trust.
Any plan can be ruined if you trust someone to do what they say they will do and they don't that is not exceptible and can't be tolerated
I think ….! trust is mostly the confidence we have in an another person to react to a similar situation as you…. Different sceneries same results of expectations…!
Once someone lies to me about one thing that is important enough only on time, I’m out..
No trust No Love So true a wise old Cowboy told me that advice that will last forever ❤
I cannot trust people who i need to be trustworthy. I need help they say they'll help and they don't
that is SO well explained.
Well, you can trust that most people will betray you, as soon as they have any reason to do so.
People use to people failing like everyone not human
Trust no one
I hear what he’s saying and it’s not how I usually see trust. There’s value in his perspective, but what it misses out is when someone genuinely tries to stick to their words and then fail. I would trust that person. For example a drug addict might make a commitment to stay off drugs for a week. If they make it 4 days and then relapse, I trust that they tried (especially if they are daily users!)
YES!! SO PERFECT!! It is VERY DIFFICULT to LOVE without TRUST.🙏🎁💖😘
Brilliantly stated.
Yeah, you can call it getting “blind sided”. It’s a terrible thing
As far as I'm concerned you have to earn my trust. I just don't trust anyone cuz I don't want to run like hell later.
I Enjoy your videos keep them coming 😊
True ..in war ..is different…maybe us quick …but ..is true 😂🎉
Here's the big problem with people that are trustworthy. Like myself. I assume everybody else is that's why I got taken advantage of so easily that's why my life spun out of control because I trusted people. Mostly the reason I trusted people is because my mom kept telling me to ..She kept telling me how she never lied how women never lied it was men that did all the lying so I went out of my way to make sure I was trustworthy which I already was trustworthy. So they're women who took advantage of me. To all the women that cheat they think they're so f****** smart remember this it's easy as hell to cheat on somebody that trust you...... But that was a long time ago. But the damage was done. As I got older I have become a pretty good judge of character.
You are making it all about you. You even take responsibility for women cheating on you because you are trustworthy which "allowed you to trust them. Sounds like you think in chaos
@@marywinchester5323 that was a long time ago now I trust very few people. Especially when it comes to sex...... Of course I I'm going to make it about me because the things happen to me they didn't happen to other people they happen to me, now I can tell you some stories has happened to some other people ....... My buddy went offshore I told him most people that go offshore their wives cheat but to try to make him feel better I said y'all been married for 15 years y'all probably be okay. Nope his wife screwed their 19-year-old daughter's boyfriend. The kid was 19 she was probably about 36 at the time.. yes the world has jaded me.
Same thing happened to me, except I’m female. I was naive because we all just tend to think by our own moral standards and forget how dark others can be. Interestingly, bad people can justify their behavior to themselves because they think everyone else thinks as badly as them and so others deserve it.
It’s very hard to find trustworthy people of good moral character. It takes a long time to see if someone is trustworthy too. I learned that trust is earned, over time - and often the worst people demand it..
@@hadassah6085 it helps to be equally educated and u must be equally yoked
Trust is essential .
I trusted him for 30 years and I found out he’s been leading a double life for all of it. It was like he threw me off the cliff and left me to die. I’m not sure if I’ll ever come back from that.
The "perfect" people are often the worst, whether or not they intended it. Khomeini of Iran is a classical example, and Hitler's pre-war life is actually indicative of a gentle soul, loving animals and all that.
It is really the lessons that matter. Gods from monotheistic religions are the only perfect beings to ever exist
"A good name is more precious than silver or gold." " I would rather you fulfill your word to your own hurt than to not fulfill your word." Wisdom from the Bible, God is always right. To prophesy means to speak the Word of God🕊
My gawd I love you JP… you are such a wonderful man
Well said sir
Trust doesn't exist
That is so perfect and so perfectly well said. Thank you so much.
It hurts falling in love with someone only for them to hurt you later. Now it hurts worse than it would have if they'd did it sooner
After the betrayal you’re in a completely different place, now the past, the present, and the future all is questionable.
When you need someone but trust isn’t apart of their verbiage.
Thank you!
So good
Like a truce or white flag in a sense
I live on my own because I can agree with myself self but knowing I never steal off my. I never lie to myself. I think a lot about myself because I got myself to coincide. I appointed myself number one in my life. I glad I get food and water and a roof and other stuff for the shop. I consider myself queen of my home and thanks to my government I have one
Don’t ever talk about trust …. In an Intimate relationship…..just live your life …. The only being you can trust is a pit bull ….. no matter how big his opponent he will never run away … he’s gonna fight till the end
This is great
The loop is perfect 😍
I'm honest, and that tears my Japanese coworkers apart. We can joke about it, and work around it, because there's undeniable goodwill.
However, my fellow foreigners have misinterpreted the Japanese culture and just straight-up lie. I wouldn't trust these guys to tell me the weather outside the window.
Disposition is not the same as lacking a position.
Well said.
Mistake people make is to NOT LISTEN - people tell you WHO they are. TRUST what they tell you. There's no "forgiving" betrayal, there's only pretending that someone "didn't mean" to betray. Have the guts to believe what you experience and make your decisions accordingly. Someone who betrays you, only values you to that point. So, do you accept being this inferior pawn, or do you not.
People are way too complicated to handle.
To form relationships we say what we will do and then we do it. This way who we are becomes somewhat irrelevant.
To say one thing and do another means who we are is relevant again.. and it's way too complicated to handle.
AMEN!! I TRUST GOD AT HIS WORD!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤
So true!
My bf sent me this video because I got off early from work and didn't tell him. I work 12-16 hours a day not including commuting and needed some Me time ...I parked in a CVS parking lot and literally picked at my face and plucked wild hairs .... It's been 3 months ..... This is ridiculous
Your only as good as your wird
ضميري طلع عم يانبني لأنه كنت عم اتصرف ضده..كيف؟
كنت حاسس بالشفقة و باللطف الضعيف تجاه قطعة قذارة معفنة..ارجوك يا الله لا تجعلنا مثلهم و لا تشفقنا تجاه شرهم
What about people with trust issues? A lot of the time I do try to trust people but in the past it's never ended up well. I ended up regretting it all the time. The problem is not deciding to trust, the problem is to figure out who to trust.
Me who literally runs away from people screaming
Can someone please share the link, details about this entire talk? Please
Matthew 7:24-27. KJV
24 Therefore whosoever heareth
these sayings of Mine, and doeth them,
I will liken him unto a wise man,
which built his house upon a ROCK:
25 And the rain descended,
and the floods came,
and the winds blew,
and beat upon that house;
and it fell NOT:
for it was founded upon a ROCK.
26 And every one
that heareth these sayings of Mine,
and doeth them not,
shall be likened unto a foolish man,
which built his house upon the SAND:
27 And the rain descended,
and the floods came,
and the winds blew,
and beat upon that house;
and it fell:
and great was the fall of it.
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Our stability comes from a relationship with Christ Jesus, Our Rock and never the shifting sands around us
Trusting people is great until it isn't. Use contracts on paper for agreements.
Does anyone know which vid this clip is from?
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That’s why I don’t ever trust anybody.. including my own family. Let me tell you that’s fucking awful way to live your life not trusting anyone but boy is it gratifying to not having to let your guard down.. Usually at my first instinct I don’t trust anybody…. But it’s not like oh fuck the world is out to get me. It’s more like even if you’re out to fuck me up. You can try but you won’t succeed kinda thing.. if that makes any sense.. Stay alert my friends.
Without taking into account the other person's position on things, what would outcome look like?? Does this mean I already know I'm advance what other person's position is? Iguanodon!
Trust seems to be the Nexus of a stable relationship
I don’t want to trust it’s easier peaceful
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Guarantee if ever I get a large sum of money I will not do as I did in the past!
100%
But if you fail to keep your word then do better and correct your behavior, except in the case of cheating. Cheating is intentional and enjoyable, so be willing to suffer the consequences...while you are enjoying cheating.
And
To have trust in me as someone who cares well thats me i can be trusted well mabe i need you more than im needed thats oram i needed ? Good question lol you make me feel confused.
True, and modern feminist taught me to enjoy being a cuckhold so now im numb to even care if a partner cheats on me
Nope, do not trust! Trust is overrated!
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The next second your standing in a living hell
Did anyone else have a panic attack watching this?
The everyday underestimation of human complexity is discombobulating af.
I don’t trust anybody
Wait, it sounds like he is saying that trust isn’t enough. Is that right? Or am I misunderstanding?
Now extrapolate this to the "State"...what do we do? They have a gun to our head and have already told us that one wrong move will result in the gun being FIRED - W/ EXTREME PREJUDICE ... #consequencesrendered
I thought I had a good marriage .I do what's the normal for me to do. He did what he does then I got lies c I very up lies..I don't know if that trust will ever be restored.. how?
He lost me by the end of the clip.. 😂
If only he was talking about Jesus! He sums up trust SO WELL
but bitches betray him leading up to his sleeping w another woman so then she suies him for money!!!
Can I receive the full message Link?
It stopped right at the why next spot I need answer to!!!!
Go to his RUclips channel. This is a snip of a video in his biblical series.
@@squirrelbuddi thanks.
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How this is free its scary
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