It is hard… it’s especially the ruminating nonstop and the dreams and all that just make it seem unbearable. I’m sad to see how people can be, even though I always say that we all need love, but sometimes you can’t change people or help them either… I just hope I find the love I deserve, someday, and that I heal
I couldn’t have said it any better! It is so sad to see this happen especially when you try to do everything you can to make it work. You are 1000% right, you can’t change anyone because it has to be them that both wants to and actually takes actions to do so. You will find someone who will love you the way you deserve. Right now it’s about you giving yourself that love so you can heal and move on from this
I go back every time. I even moved on because it was many months when he blocked me but I took him back and things were actually really different or different dynamic between us and then he said he needed space. He finally reached out yesterday after 2 weeks but I know I need run and move on. 3 strikes and he’s out this time. I really just have to as hard as it will be. We are so good together in every way and I think when he starts getting too close then he needs space but he always comes back. I feel so stupid for letting this keep happening but he’s like a magnet but like I said we are so good together in every way when we are together. I’m probably rambling at this point. Sorry. Thank you for your videos.
What is the problem if he as time for himself? You can do things for you, focus on yourself. Enjoy the moments when by yourself self and the moments together.
I thought this was supposed to be about my ex but it’s about me… she gave me so many chances and I blew it. I really want her back but it’s been a huge lesson. I hope she reaches out eventually despite my chasing and losing all self respect and dignity, either way - I do have to change for myself and love myself first before I can love someone else. Sad that it had to come to this.
There is something curious about their behavior. When you are trying to make things better and find a solution or when you are ("may God forbid) emotional about your concerns about relationship they say you are selfish and how can you expect to continue a conversation after all (but what after all means actually?). Then when you give them a clear acknowledgement that everything is over and when you are unavailable to them all of a sudden they want to reach you out. When I broke a contact with a girl I used to talk (or date, because she wasn't my girlfriend) she tried to reach me out through my brother with a passive-aggressive and aggressive message, but it was too late. I couldn't take the situation anymore because it started to have huge repercussions on my mental health and I was having nightmares and I had to stop all of that somehow. Every hope that everything is going to be like it used to be was starting to hurt me from inside.
Excellent-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
Amazing-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but I couldn't just let him go. I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back*
Coach Tynell: can you talk about what an Avoidant is going through internally when they have cheated and decide instead to save their primary relationship and they've cutoff/blocked the cheating love interest. In other words, how are they handling their feelings for the outside love interest in that situation and how susceptible are they to cave-in again? Do you have any tips for them in handling their break with their outside love interest they were cheating with, in order to stay strong and on the right path moving forward with their primary relationship they've decided to save and work on?
@indiana091 she's agreed to get DA therapy and on the strict conditions of my boundaries. This is the first time we've had that. Prior times I chased. This time I offered my way or the highway and no further chances if she messes up.
@@EvanEvansE3bro protect yourself first and foremost, stop allowing yourself to come up with these preconditioned terms for a faulty relationship. Let her go bro. You don’t need or want those types of problems in your life.
@EvanEvansE3 i hate to tell you this but it will happen again. Mine promised me the same stuff & after 5 months she would end up doing the same stuff again
@@JaqoBlaque thanks, and I totally get it, however we're 13 years married with 4 kids and otherwise very happy. And this is the first time we've had a healthy approach to this problem which has occurred several times in our crazy past (I was off the handle too in the first 3 years). So we'll go through these motions so if it does reoccur we can definitively end it. Maybe there's 5% hope, we'll see if she can heal herself before destroying our family.
If you honestly have moved on, they'll notice. If you're just trying to pretend you have, they'll see through your bullshit and it's going to backfire. Don't play games, just get better and live a better life - that's the real power move.
Stop reaching out to them. Cut off any access to them. Block them every where. Stop posting stuff for them. just live your life happily. Work on your self, focus on self love.Do things for yourself and forget about their existence. Try to date new people.They will understand you have moved on. @@RancidPetals23
@ If you're asking this question, you haven't actually moved on. If you've been together for years, they'll be watching you and they'll notice. If you've only dated a short time, just move on and try to find a better partner.
Usually they will at some point when the honeymoon phase of that new relationship wears off. Every person is different however, so it’s important for you to figure out what you need to heal from this. Because you deserve someone who wants to be with you, not someone who has shown they are not interested in trying to make things work
@ she’s been with him for 6 months, i learned through many people including his ex that he’s a narcissist and a womanizer who’s been going around saying he’s dating a doctor, it’s a small town, and she thinks what she’s heard are lies because he’s a pro. We were married and together for 23 years, and I am fearful that she won’t see through him as he also has been “working” our daughter
this man is telling truth. Always brings important topics.
This perspective resonates SO well! Not playing!
You add such an important & unique perspective to all the avoidant info out there. GOLD!
It is hard… it’s especially the ruminating nonstop and the dreams and all that just make it seem unbearable. I’m sad to see how people can be, even though I always say that we all need love, but sometimes you can’t change people or help them either… I just hope I find the love I deserve, someday, and that I heal
I couldn’t have said it any better! It is so sad to see this happen especially when you try to do everything you can to make it work. You are 1000% right, you can’t change anyone because it has to be them that both wants to and actually takes actions to do so. You will find someone who will love you the way you deserve. Right now it’s about you giving yourself that love so you can heal and move on from this
@ thank you for your reply. I am taking care of myself and glowing up 🤗 I’ll be better
10 months no contact post-discard. Haven’t said a word to her in 10 months.
I go back every time. I even moved on because it was many months when he blocked me but I took him back and things were actually really different or different dynamic between us and then he said he needed space. He finally reached out yesterday after 2 weeks but I know I need run and move on. 3 strikes and he’s out this time. I really just have to as hard as it will be. We are so good together in every way and I think when he starts getting too close then he needs space but he always comes back. I feel so stupid for letting this keep happening but he’s like a magnet but like I said we are so good together in every way when we are together. I’m probably rambling at this point. Sorry.
Thank you for your videos.
What is the problem if he as time for himself? You can do things for you, focus on yourself. Enjoy the moments when by yourself self and the moments together.
I thought this was supposed to be about my ex but it’s about me… she gave me so many chances and I blew it. I really want her back but it’s been a huge lesson. I hope she reaches out eventually despite my chasing and losing all self respect and dignity, either way - I do have to change for myself and love myself first before I can love someone else. Sad that it had to come to this.
There is something curious about their behavior. When you are trying to make things better and find a solution or when you are ("may God forbid) emotional about your concerns about relationship they say you are selfish and how can you expect to continue a conversation after all (but what after all means actually?). Then when you give them a clear acknowledgement that everything is over and when you are unavailable to them all of a sudden they want to reach you out. When I broke a contact with a girl I used to talk (or date, because she wasn't my girlfriend) she tried to reach me out through my brother with a passive-aggressive and aggressive message, but it was too late. I couldn't take the situation anymore because it started to have huge repercussions on my mental health and I was having nightmares and I had to stop all of that somehow. Every hope that everything is going to be like it used to be was starting to hurt me from inside.
Excellent-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked her up online, and I'm impressed
how will they know if i've moved on? we are no contact 3 months, i've reached out with no answer back! I won't reach out again..
Amazing-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but I couldn't just let him go. I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back*
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive!
thank you ❤
Coach Tynell: can you talk about what an Avoidant is going through internally when they have cheated and decide instead to save their primary relationship and they've cutoff/blocked the cheating love interest. In other words, how are they handling their feelings for the outside love interest in that situation and how susceptible are they to cave-in again? Do you have any tips for them in handling their break with their outside love interest they were cheating with, in order to stay strong and on the right path moving forward with their primary relationship they've decided to save and work on?
This relationship needs to be over. Never take a cheater back, especially an avoidant cheater! Don't be kidding yourself that this will work.
@indiana091 she's agreed to get DA therapy and on the strict conditions of my boundaries. This is the first time we've had that. Prior times I chased. This time I offered my way or the highway and no further chances if she messes up.
@@EvanEvansE3bro protect yourself first and foremost, stop allowing yourself to come up with these preconditioned terms for a faulty relationship. Let her go bro. You don’t need or want those types of problems in your life.
@EvanEvansE3 i hate to tell you this but it will happen again. Mine promised me the same stuff & after 5 months she would end up doing the same stuff again
@@JaqoBlaque thanks, and I totally get it, however we're 13 years married with 4 kids and otherwise very happy. And this is the first time we've had a healthy approach to this problem which has occurred several times in our crazy past (I was off the handle too in the first 3 years). So we'll go through these motions so if it does reoccur we can definitively end it. Maybe there's 5% hope, we'll see if she can heal herself before destroying our family.
I had 2 sub coz content is so good 😊
I appreciate it! Welcome to the fam! 😊
Nope! I’m not trash especially he jumped into new hole like I was nothing! I’m 18 years wife and we have kids together!
Not true. Avoidants will be relief from the emotional abuse.
How do I convince an avoidant for sure that I have moved 100% on?
If you honestly have moved on, they'll notice. If you're just trying to pretend you have, they'll see through your bullshit and it's going to backfire. Don't play games, just get better and live a better life - that's the real power move.
@@SD-qu3ydwhat if they won't reach out? how will they know if i've moved on and working on myself ..
Cut off all communication and access. Delete them. Block them.
Stop reaching out to them. Cut off any access to them. Block them every where. Stop posting stuff for them. just live your life happily. Work on your self, focus on self love.Do things for yourself and forget about their existence. Try to date new people.They will understand you have moved on. @@RancidPetals23
@ If you're asking this question, you haven't actually moved on. If you've been together for years, they'll be watching you and they'll notice. If you've only dated a short time, just move on and try to find a better partner.
Even if she is now dating and smitten with someone new?
Usually they will at some point when the honeymoon phase of that new relationship wears off. Every person is different however, so it’s important for you to figure out what you need to heal from this. Because you deserve someone who wants to be with you, not someone who has shown they are not interested in trying to make things work
@ she’s been with him for 6 months, i learned through many people including his ex that he’s a narcissist and a womanizer who’s been going around saying he’s dating a doctor, it’s a small town, and she thinks what she’s heard are lies because he’s a pro. We were married and together for 23 years, and I am fearful that she won’t see through him as he also has been “working” our daughter
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