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Avoidant are like that because of my asthma traumas or weed?

That makes sense. Thank you.

My ex broke up with me due to his parents disapproval we really loved each other and I really miss him 😭

In summary: 1. They are fearful of losing control. 2. Avoidant people process emotions slowly. 3. There is a push and pull dynamic going on.

A lot of the things that you're describing are narcissistic traits, not avoidant traits. And no, they don't always come back. My dismissive avoidant ex never came back. It's been a year and 2 months. I went into no contact and I didn't say anything to her to give her the space as she ghosted me after a 2-year relationship. I sent her a letter at the year. Mark and it was just asking her for understanding as to why she did the things she did but not attacking her. Nothing. Not a word. Like they don't always come back so I wish people would stop saying that they always do.

"And they are going to do everything within their power to keep it." yes yes they are. They have everyone else fooled. But the ones who get into relationships with these people know what they are capable of. It's so sad.

Cause the grass wasn't greener

Not worth it. They'll just leave again. Such a waste of time since they have a hidden agenda and want to be in complete control.

Women almost NEVER come/go back. Those are VERY rare cases they return. Women just have SO many options to explore and they find another man VERY easily. No need to come/go back.

NC is forever

Hi, my ex broke up with me because of his parents disapproval.. he wanted to live with me but then told me no that he wasn’t losing his family.. he changed all the passwords to his socials and I’m heartbroken we really loved each other. Will he ever regret this decision?

What about when he says I should move on? I say that not seeing each other less than once,/ month I should move on.

FOREVER BLOCK your avoidant ex on phone and social media. Although their attachment style is a legit disorder., treat them as if you’re taking it personally. Your sanity and self respect are worth it.

Let them rotten in their own toxic bubble! They are a true coward!

I love your videos

Absolutely not worth it.

Look these people are not right. They don’t see or feel things the way you do. Remember that first off. Second they live in a fantasy land. YOU are just a visitor to play with. It’s like they have a TV show and they are the star. You can be a guest star on the show but you can never be a co-star. They believe the relationship is doomed from the beginning. About the time you want to get married to them they are ready to go. Slow fade, hypercritical of criticism. You name it!!! They are like terminal cancer. You want to save them!! So Bad!! Look get all the sex and fun in before the first six months mark. After that start packing their things up. Because they are leaving. Now also remember they love to rewrite your history together. You’re gonna be the bad guy no matter what. So ask yourself again, why do you want them back??

How do i heal my avoidant personality 😢

I suspect my ex looks at my FB stories and posts using his brother’s page. He deleted his own page sometime last year. I’m guessing to throw me off the scent. Should I block his brother? I never met the brother, and his brother is not active on FB at all, however I see him come up as a suggestion all the time. Recently the profile pic changed from his picture with his wife to a scenery pic. I had his number once but I don’t sync my contacts to FB. We have no friends in common, and I know his brother is often overseas and lives in Jersey, last I knew, I’m in Brooklyn. Last year his wife’s father and other family were always a suggestion as well.. it was so weird. I blocked them. Sometimes I view my ex’s stories anonymously and I see he will mirror my posts by posting something similar and a few months ago posted a pic of a guy spray painting- “meeting you was the best thing to happen to me and I think about you all the time” but he still keeps his distance, and recently ghosted me for no reason. After the discard, we had a situationship for awhile, but I told him we have to break this pattern, he apologized and since won’t see me in person. Yet text me that he was on my neighborhood working AFTER the day was over a couple months after our last encounter. He behaves so strangely. Hot and cold, it’s to exhausting. I just wish I could have a real conversation with him about his actions, I don’t even feel the need to get back together. Especially with him acting like this

So the party of least interest is in control, is that what I’m hearing?

When they have you they dont want you...but when you are gone they breadcrumb

It's refreshing to hear someone say that an ex has to change as well. Most relationship coaches say we have to change, the reason they probably say that is because they know our avoidant exes don't watch break-up content. We are their target market so they can sell us their break-up recovery kit or program.

Lord so true. He said he wanted to be friends.. so I tried that.. but the minute I try to have a non relationship conversation he ghosts me AGAIN. So ridiculous. There’s no point engaging with someone that thinks leaving someone trying to be kind to them on read for no reason is ok behavior. What’s worse is he has told me how he has had people stop responding to him.. so he knows how it feels, so he seems to think it’s what people do. He’s punishing me for crimes of other people. Guess that makes him feel in control. Mavel Tov! He burns bridges everywhere he goes, because of his traumas and insecurities..No longer crushes me..I have plenty of people that can communicate like a damn adult. His loss.

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What if my avoidant ex told me his feelings for me had gone (but made him feel weird saying it and made him feel crap) - I then removed him from instagram and unfollowed him too - then i caught him watching my stories, then a few days after Christmas he blocked me. What does that mean?

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some coaches tell u they may not comeback some say they dont and you say they always do . why do u play with the broken hearts just stop feeding off of us and tell the truth.

That's the perk of it. They don't fight, they weed themselves out. You don't have to do nothing. Let them ... do whatever.

This is some classic DA behaviour, but, what is almost never mentioned in conjunction with this is that DAs love the rush of a new relationship, fresh validation without the burden of commitment - they are dopamine junkies, and often serial daters… So the whole narrative of them returning when you move on is, in my experience and to my knowledge, further down the list. If they don’t move on immediately with someone, they’ll eventually feel the need for a new partner, if they miss you after a few months they’ll seek to avoid that and hook up with whoever is a available and suitable. Returning to you means danger for the avoidant, it means confronting their fears, externalising everything, they have to be prepared to admit their wounds and open up… orrr, just distract from all that, (especially if they genuinely loved you and you were significant) get a new person and enjoy yet another low pressure honeymoon phase. A returning avoidant will be an FA, or a DA who hit rock bottom and is prepared to address it, try at least. My DA ex had done years of work, was very aware and open about it… she still deactivated and ran, after 2.5 years, and all in the matter of 2 months, after a very secure and happy relationship. As she walked away she said I was the love of her life and that she’d never loved anyone more, she’d never had a happier relationship… 3 months later she’s dating some new guy. Even the most honest and loved up avoidant will distract and run. Prepare for an extended period of torture if you allow them back in.

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The avoidant/emotionally unavailable ex broke up out of a sudden. And me dealing with the breakup for 3 weeks and listening to maybe 1000 podcasts and videos by now, I find your content the most helpful. Thank you so much!

Let them rotten in their own bubble! Stay away from their toxic abuse! Not your problaim! If they come back to bread crumb you shut them down ! They fear rejection but not fearing dish out to you! They have dark aura dark energy's bring you down to the ground if you let them its feel like demonic!

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.

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Because i am hyper independent and have avoidant attachment... im constantly assessing your worth in my life. Everyone is worthy of love but not my love. If we're having fights im looking at the types of fights. If you're more trouble than you're worth im out. I NEED you to know i may love and care for you but it's not enough to tolerate any bullshit. I dont want a "normal" relationship. I want my ideal relationship or i dont want it at all. But don't worry babe. Turn around and spit. Every single woman in the world is better than me. You'll find your person but I'm not it

every person is diffrent it can take 1 day to months or a year, even had a ex where it took 2 years

When you give then space and no contact they return after a month or more but just to check if you still accept them and not moved on. You get same cycle of rejections and selfishness from them (breadcrumbing). Don't fall in trap. Nothing will change. Set boundaries and move on. You don't have time to wait for their probable therapy time.

Great and simple explanation of DAs. Had 5 of them and I know.

Exact explanation!

This is bullshit. I’m an avoidant and I’ve fought a few times, only made it worse.

I think this video accurately portrays avoidants really, really well- and I’ve seen many. It’s a sad push/pull. I love a DA but I can’t tell him bc I know it’ll cause him to panic and/or deactivate. He’s said it to me in his own ways but it is not often. When I expressed I wanted to work toward exclusivity, he pulled away and said l”it’s complicated” after initially calling ME complicated. I’ve had this convo twice in the two years we have been involved. I won’t enable so I am keeping my distance even though he’s trying to pull me back in. He made a lot of steps forward in opening up but it’s a painfully slow process. Not for the weak… I’m a very patient person but it is becoming a bit much for even me. Boundaries are so important in general but even more so when you’re with an avoidant.

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Okay, so you have to be SO secure that you don't ask him for anything because you can get it yourself. Don't call him, don't text him ever because you might just be infringing upon his personal space. You're going out, possibly having good sex but don't do anything other than be damn glad to see him or hear from him. Don't complain, just compliment and take care of yourself for Goodness sakes. Hmmm, I believe I can do that. I mean, as long as I know what the rules are, I can play a game. I can also keep my little black book full of the friends I had before I met this avoidant dude.

So let me get this straight… Girl: *dumps you* You: …(no contact-silence) Girl: “Oh no! I might lose him!(?)” Are you high bro? She’s already off with Chad, Brad and Deshaun. She isn’t worried about losing what she threw away.

Wow!!! What a mess!!! Don’t want to do anything for the relationship but leave. Blame you for everything trying to change their mind trying to change their life when all you wanna do is be part of it. They believe the relationship is doomed from the beginning. Man sounds like fun to me. Mine told me she loved me for 6 months then phone blocked me and never spoke to me again. Nice!!!!!

I wondered why my ex treated me like i was the enemy. Dude, im on your team. Fk it.

If you're trying to heal only to get your ex to regret leaving you, you already lost dumbass

Not necessarily that they don't want to feel any emotion, they just don't want to be overwhelmed with emotions and feelings etc... they need space and distance to thrive. Of course they won't reach out instantly because they just finally got what they needed. And if they feel that you actually would never give them the space they need and are just using this space as a way to trick them into coming to you, then yeah they might see that as a way out. Instead of accusing people of being bad, let's just say people weren't compatible and need to find someone they're compatible with. We expect them to completely change otherwise they're bad, well why don't you change for them then if you're not bad?

Keep up the great work. people need learn this