vanhan kansan loitsu Olivialle: Mikä on pahin piruista? Painainen pahin perkeleistä. Tuleppa tähän tupaan, Vetäänny tähän huoneeseen, Täällä sun sulkasi sulaa, Höyhenesi heltijää. Nyt kun ei loitsukirja kerro enempää, nii pitää sooloilla: kaikkea parasta Olivialle! 頑張れ!
I don't know how you do it ,but somehow you seem to be able to find always the best Cafe and food places 🎉😅, and i hope you were really able to get some rest and health in the last time ✌️
Oh no Olivia, I knew you'd make me teary again this week 🥺 Yeah, I don't know how I do it either. I'm happy by myself (and utterly disinterested in men, lol), but sometimes something happens that triggers me and reminds me that we're not meant to be by ourselves. Like moving or assembling furniture, as trite and trivial as that sounds. I don't have shelves on my walls or curtains because I couldn't do it by myself, and I cried like a baby the other day after it took me 2 hours to get my new coffee table out of its packaging (it was heavy and encased in a solid woodframe, a nightmare.) Earlier this year, different friends on different occasions praised me for living the life I chose (childfree and nomadic, at the cost of my relationship), and seemingly doing just fine. My younger friends think I'm some kind of role model and I hate that because yes, I do have a great life, but it was never supposed to be like this, that was never my plan. I was supposed to be forever with the man I loved, and now it's just me and it's almost like I jumped into an alternate universe where I've been single my entire life, as if the life I had before never existed, and yet that's all I ever knew. It's a bit hard to explain and I'm not sure where I'm going with this lol 😅But rest assured you're not doing worse than the average single/living alone person. In fact, I would argue you are doing GREAT. We don't see everything but we do see the evolution. One thing that does wonders for my mental health and I would recommend is to not just to journal but do "morning pages". The goal is to do a brain dump, not avoiding expressing negative feelings but always focusing on the positive too. I tried a gratitude journal but couldn't sustain the forced positivity; this is the in-between version that did more for me than anything else, I believe, and I've tried pretty much everything. I always had a diary but this is different because it's purely meant to help you face the day ahead, and take each day at a time. The point is to pinpoint right away anything that troubles you and could be an obstacle to a good day, what you can do about it, and remind yourself of all the good things big and small. I always note down my mood as well, and I'm amazed to say I've been on a plain and boring "good" streak for longer that I have ever been. I know I will have downs again but it's inevitable so I focus on making good times last longer, and making bad times as short as possible. You already journal so this could maybe work well for you too. You said last week you are doing better now, I hope it's still the case and I'm sending you lots of friendly vibes in any case ♥ How was the book, btw? I'm a big fan of Japanese fiction and cinema, this one is on my TBR. Thanks for reading my little novel of the week :) Fany
Hi Fany ❤️ I have to start off by saying your comment made me really happy, thanks for sharing about yourself and the challenges you're facing on such a personal level. It's definitely nice to hear that I'm not alone with my struggles! And aww sending you a virtual hug!! The struggles of moving single! I definitely feel you with others praising/idolising your life - not to say that I wouldn't be grateful for everything that I have but as you know, it definitely has its challenges as well. I've always seen myself as a very independent person but after my breakup and being so used not being alone, it has definitely taken a lot of getting used to and in some ways learning to accept that I'm not as strong as I like to imagine myself to be. Sounds like you went through a massive life shift as well when you started your single life 🥺 Can empathise so so well ❤️ Hope you feel that you're on the right path despite everything xx And thanks for sharing your tips on how you do your morning pages! Recently I've been making sure I have time for some mindfulness every morning but haven't been writing things down - your suggestion sounds like a great alternative :) Will have to try! The book was great! Something about how it was written felt quite thought-provoking and the ending felt kind of plaintive. Would recommend! Yes, currently feeling all the good energy! Sending lots of love your way 🫶
@@oliviaimamura Thanks. After reading that wall of text again, it feels like I'm making this too much about my own situation and myself maybe, when I was indeed trying to illustrate how I relate and how you shouldn't feel your struggles are abnormal or shameful. (I was also very impressed with all the typos, lol. Forgive me.) I won't get into the details here but we actually broke up several years ago now, after spending 17 years together, joined at the hips (yes, you read that right.) It was a very long and painful grieving process for me especially. I've dated since but that too felt like part of the process, I never fell in love again. He's got 2 little girls now (didn't waste *any* time!!) It's only been a year since I've made peace with the loss, even though I'll always be sad about it. We're still close though, however weird that might sound. It was always the plan, to remain close, but it was HELL to get to a point where we are both at peace with the past and each other. You are strong, it's obvious. Crying and feeling like you can't do it sometimes doesn't mean you aren't or you are not "as strong" as you thought. I think I followed you because I was impressed at the things you did for yourself after the break up, that looked to me as if you knew what was good for you and would help you not to drown in the heartbreak. I was like "who's that girl who plays violin and sings and does jam sessions in freaking TOKYO?" I don't really follow vloggers so I don't know why you popped up on my page but you struck a chord for sure :) Btw I'm also a freelancer and also do digital marketing, lol. And I have a life-long relationship with Japan and East Asia. I'll be in Tokyo in October actually, if you feel like meeting up with a subscriber :) Wall of text over.
@@reelsad3849 17 years! And the kids and staying in touch - that's insane I can only imagine how big the change was for you 🥺❤ Haha thanks for the kind words, I try my best. Happy you came across my vids and that they resonated with you 🫶 And hello fellow freelancer! Would be lovely to grab a coffee when you're in Tokyo! Can you send me a DM on Instagram?
looking for a "happy medium" takes time. You just need to find YOUR happy place. As for me, I would be grabbing something at that bakery and sneaking it into Jazz Saloon Cafe looked like my kinda' vibe
I would hug you gently and say ‘It’s all right’. I understand how you feel. I never reach out to anyone in these kinds of situations, same reason. And so - my cat calms me down, truly. That quiet companion who can say ‘It’ll be okay, you’re okay’ with just her eyes and a gentle touch. It’s insane how well she understands. Also, it’s important to stop from time to time. Look up, stare at the sky. It’s so huge and slow, you remember to breathe deeply again, trust me. Take care, Olivia. Luv ya
Aww thanks for sending a virtual hug, sending one back ❤️🩹 Having your cat as mental support sounds amazing 🥺 Maybe again another reason for me to consider getting a cat haha Yes, recently have really started realising how important it is to stop and listen to your body. Hope you're having a great week, sending love your way xx
Olivia you should try a mousse or a curling lotion for your hair to make the curls pop a little more ;) Your natural hair looks so healthy & nice there is plenty of them who don’t make the hair feel heavy, greasy or stiff! You should give it a try :) Sending you a big hug also thank you for always being so vulnerable with us, seeing you cry made me want to just give you a big hug 🥹 I’m also currently obsessed with Billie’s album rn 😭 Love the darker hair on you looks so nice! I’m glad to hear you are feeling better now 🫶🏻 Sending you lots of love & positive vibes your way✨
Hey girl ❤️ I'm currently using this spray from Cocunat that I had bought while I was still in Finland but they don't deliver to Jpn so need to try a new one! Any specific recs? :) Aww thanks, just hearing that makes me feel loved 🫶 I love Billie's vibe so much! Definitely a fan 🥹 Thanks for the lovely comment again, sending lots of love your way as well
Thanks for the upload. I’m physically tired from a gig yesterday and I’m leaving tomorrow for a five day event. My only plan for the day is to begin packing and picking up my check. This heatwave in nyc isn’t helping. But I love being a musician, so I’ll make it all work out somehow. Can’t wait until the next video, but you take care of you first. I can wait. lol
Hey! Thanks for leaving a comment and sharing something about yourself and your situation :) Haven't been to nyc but the music scene there seems so interesting! Cool that you get to do what you love! Mental and physical rest is so important, hope you'll be able to find time to wind down and that you'll enjoy the event. The heat in Tokyo is currently sooo intense.
Thank you hun ❤️ Tokyo life is full of amazing things! I really enjoy experiencing nice spaces with a lovely ambiance, whether it's a cafe or a restaurant or art gallery or something else :) Loove Japanese tea houses!
Sorry to see you injured yourself but looks like you’re recovering nicely. One thing I’ve wondered about, what are your goals living in Tokyo? Is this just a temporary place to experience for a couple of years? Because while you do have lunch/dinner once in a while with friends, you seem isolated. As you mentioned, when one is injured or sick living alone without support isn’t so great. When you returned home last year, you seemed happier and much more connected to other people.
Thanks, yes, currently much better than back in May when all of this happened :) Although I'm open to the idea of moving somewhere else, I have no plans to move elsewhere and I don't think I'll ever return to Finland. I think you're correct, and it has to do with me not being able to build those deep friendships yet that I have back in Finland. I think there's many reasons for it, and for example my breakup strongly affected the friendships I had. Many of the people I used to be close to are not in my life anymore. So I kinda needed to start from scratch again and friendships take time when you don't have an environment where you meet others automatically. Very recently I've been able to meet new lovely people so hopefully in the future things will be different :)
This video speaks to me because I'm currently feeling the burnout lol. I feel like I go through a stage of feeling "burnt out" about every 30-40 days. Knowing this, I try to plan around the 30-40 day mark to do something special for myself and also to just relax and give my brain a rest. I think so many people don't listen to their body, and they ignore the stages of feeling burnt and try to power through. It's a bad idea. EVERYONE needs some form of stress relief after a certain amount of time.
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a burnout and that it's something that keeps reappearing in your life 🙏 Definitely important to have patience with yourself and listen to your body. Sounds like it might make sense for you to try and reconsider your lifestyle on a more extensive level if it's something that keeps happening? Or try and have a longer holiday period when you don't push yourself at all? Hope you'll feel better soon xx Take it easy, prioritise your health!
Oh man!! So sorry to see that you got stitches but hopefully you will heal up mentally and physically soon💜 Thank you for such a vulnerable video and I hope July is full of good times for you atm!
Can’t tell you how much getting enough sleep helps with the balance aspect. I don’t think it gets any “easier” living alone, but you have to really double down on that self-care stuff and not feel guilty when you’re not “achieving” as much as you feel you can in your head. It sometimes feels really hard to accept that differential between what you know you can do in a day and how much your poor body and willpower can realistically keep up with that. One foot in front of the other!
This is so true! I've been really into sleep health and hygiene actually after listening to Matthew Walker's audiobook Why we sleep. Great to hear your thoughts on this as well - helps me to truly understand and prioritise self-care when I realise that it's not just me facing challenges of wanting to do more and struggling with finding a good balance. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🫶
So sorry to hear ❤️🥲 Totally feel you. You just need a lot of patience and giving into what ever your body needs whether it's just lying still, weird food cravings or binging on netflix. Have compassion for yourself - once you get over that phase you'll get your energy back. I feel like journalling also really helped me :)
I love your videos so much. Especially when you get more personal and open. As a former tokyo girl who misses japan basically every day, your videos help ease the pain haha.
This is so nice to hear 🥹 Sometimes I wonder whether I should cut down on sharing the personal stuff and just focus on showcasing Tokyo but happy to hear this kind of content also resonates 🫶 Love Tokyo! Hope you get to visit again sometime :)
Don't push yourself too hard. Listen to your body and ask for help from others. Your health should come first 🫶
vanhan kansan loitsu Olivialle:
Mikä on pahin piruista?
Painainen pahin perkeleistä.
Tuleppa tähän tupaan,
Vetäänny tähän huoneeseen,
Täällä sun sulkasi sulaa,
Höyhenesi heltijää.
Nyt kun ei loitsukirja kerro enempää, nii pitää sooloilla: kaikkea parasta Olivialle! 頑張れ!
@@fisuk Melkonen loitsu! lol
Hyvää viikkoa sinne kanssa :)
I don't know how you do it ,but somehow you seem to be able to find always the best Cafe and food places 🎉😅, and i hope you were really able to get some rest and health in the last time ✌️
Thanks :) a sixth sense perhaps?
@@oliviaimamura I would not be surprised by that 😁😎😅
@@stephanl.1909 Haha! And thanks, I'm truly feeling a LOT better right now compared to when the footage for this vlog was filmed ☺
I am glad you have recovered from the burnout situation. Sending you positive vibes from Barcelona. I love your videos.
Thank you ❤️ Ohh I've been to Barcelona once, such a beautiful city with amazing architecture and ambiance! Hope you're enjoying the summer there :)
Oh no Olivia, I knew you'd make me teary again this week 🥺
Yeah, I don't know how I do it either. I'm happy by myself (and utterly disinterested in men, lol), but sometimes something happens that triggers me and reminds me that we're not meant to be by ourselves. Like moving or assembling furniture, as trite and trivial as that sounds. I don't have shelves on my walls or curtains because I couldn't do it by myself, and I cried like a baby the other day after it took me 2 hours to get my new coffee table out of its packaging (it was heavy and encased in a solid woodframe, a nightmare.) Earlier this year, different friends on different occasions praised me for living the life I chose (childfree and nomadic, at the cost of my relationship), and seemingly doing just fine. My younger friends think I'm some kind of role model and I hate that because yes, I do have a great life, but it was never supposed to be like this, that was never my plan. I was supposed to be forever with the man I loved, and now it's just me and it's almost like I jumped into an alternate universe where I've been single my entire life, as if the life I had before never existed, and yet that's all I ever knew. It's a bit hard to explain and I'm not sure where I'm going with this lol 😅But rest assured you're not doing worse than the average single/living alone person. In fact, I would argue you are doing GREAT. We don't see everything but we do see the evolution.
One thing that does wonders for my mental health and I would recommend is to not just to journal but do "morning pages". The goal is to do a brain dump, not avoiding expressing negative feelings but always focusing on the positive too. I tried a gratitude journal but couldn't sustain the forced positivity; this is the in-between version that did more for me than anything else, I believe, and I've tried pretty much everything. I always had a diary but this is different because it's purely meant to help you face the day ahead, and take each day at a time. The point is to pinpoint right away anything that troubles you and could be an obstacle to a good day, what you can do about it, and remind yourself of all the good things big and small. I always note down my mood as well, and I'm amazed to say I've been on a plain and boring "good" streak for longer that I have ever been. I know I will have downs again but it's inevitable so I focus on making good times last longer, and making bad times as short as possible. You already journal so this could maybe work well for you too.
You said last week you are doing better now, I hope it's still the case and I'm sending you lots of friendly vibes in any case ♥
How was the book, btw? I'm a big fan of Japanese fiction and cinema, this one is on my TBR.
Thanks for reading my little novel of the week :)
Fany
Hi Fany ❤️ I have to start off by saying your comment made me really happy, thanks for sharing about yourself and the challenges you're facing on such a personal level.
It's definitely nice to hear that I'm not alone with my struggles! And aww sending you a virtual hug!! The struggles of moving single! I definitely feel you with others praising/idolising your life - not to say that I wouldn't be grateful for everything that I have but as you know, it definitely has its challenges as well. I've always seen myself as a very independent person but after my breakup and being so used not being alone, it has definitely taken a lot of getting used to and in some ways learning to accept that I'm not as strong as I like to imagine myself to be. Sounds like you went through a massive life shift as well when you started your single life 🥺 Can empathise so so well ❤️
Hope you feel that you're on the right path despite everything xx
And thanks for sharing your tips on how you do your morning pages! Recently I've been making sure I have time for some mindfulness every morning but haven't been writing things down - your suggestion sounds like a great alternative :) Will have to try!
The book was great! Something about how it was written felt quite thought-provoking and the ending felt kind of plaintive. Would recommend!
Yes, currently feeling all the good energy! Sending lots of love your way 🫶
@@oliviaimamura Thanks. After reading that wall of text again, it feels like I'm making this too much about my own situation and myself maybe, when I was indeed trying to illustrate how I relate and how you shouldn't feel your struggles are abnormal or shameful. (I was also very impressed with all the typos, lol. Forgive me.)
I won't get into the details here but we actually broke up several years ago now, after spending 17 years together, joined at the hips (yes, you read that right.) It was a very long and painful grieving process for me especially. I've dated since but that too felt like part of the process, I never fell in love again. He's got 2 little girls now (didn't waste *any* time!!) It's only been a year since I've made peace with the loss, even though I'll always be sad about it. We're still close though, however weird that might sound. It was always the plan, to remain close, but it was HELL to get to a point where we are both at peace with the past and each other.
You are strong, it's obvious. Crying and feeling like you can't do it sometimes doesn't mean you aren't or you are not "as strong" as you thought. I think I followed you because I was impressed at the things you did for yourself after the break up, that looked to me as if you knew what was good for you and would help you not to drown in the heartbreak. I was like "who's that girl who plays violin and sings and does jam sessions in freaking TOKYO?" I don't really follow vloggers so I don't know why you popped up on my page but you struck a chord for sure :)
Btw I'm also a freelancer and also do digital marketing, lol. And I have a life-long relationship with Japan and East Asia. I'll be in Tokyo in October actually, if you feel like meeting up with a subscriber :)
Wall of text over.
@@reelsad3849 17 years! And the kids and staying in touch - that's insane I can only imagine how big the change was for you 🥺❤
Haha thanks for the kind words, I try my best. Happy you came across my vids and that they resonated with you 🫶 And hello fellow freelancer! Would be lovely to grab a coffee when you're in Tokyo! Can you send me a DM on Instagram?
@@oliviaimamura I will! xx
looking for a "happy medium" takes time. You just need to find YOUR happy place. As for me, I would be grabbing something at that bakery and sneaking it into Jazz Saloon Cafe looked like my kinda' vibe
Totally agree! Yess the bakery is so good!! :)
I would hug you gently and say ‘It’s all right’. I understand how you feel. I never reach out to anyone in these kinds of situations, same reason.
And so - my cat calms me down, truly. That quiet companion who can say ‘It’ll be okay, you’re okay’ with just her eyes and a gentle touch. It’s insane how well she understands.
Also, it’s important to stop from time to time. Look up, stare at the sky. It’s so huge and slow, you remember to breathe deeply again, trust me.
Take care, Olivia. Luv ya
Aww thanks for sending a virtual hug, sending one back ❤️🩹
Having your cat as mental support sounds amazing 🥺 Maybe again another reason for me to consider getting a cat haha
Yes, recently have really started realising how important it is to stop and listen to your body.
Hope you're having a great week, sending love your way xx
Olivia you should try a mousse or a curling lotion for your hair to make the curls pop a little more ;) Your natural hair looks so healthy & nice there is plenty of them who don’t make the hair feel heavy, greasy or stiff! You should give it a try :)
Sending you a big hug also thank you for always being so vulnerable with us, seeing you cry made me want to just give you a big hug 🥹
I’m also currently obsessed with Billie’s album rn 😭
Love the darker hair on you looks so nice!
I’m glad to hear you are feeling better now 🫶🏻
Sending you lots of love & positive vibes your way✨
Hey girl ❤️ I'm currently using this spray from Cocunat that I had bought while I was still in Finland but they don't deliver to Jpn so need to try a new one! Any specific recs? :)
Aww thanks, just hearing that makes me feel loved 🫶
I love Billie's vibe so much! Definitely a fan 🥹
Thanks for the lovely comment again, sending lots of love your way as well
Thanks for the upload. I’m physically tired from a gig yesterday and I’m leaving tomorrow for a five day event. My only plan for the day is to begin packing and picking up my check. This heatwave in nyc isn’t helping. But I love being a musician, so I’ll make it all work out somehow. Can’t wait until the next video, but you take care of you first. I can wait. lol
Hey! Thanks for leaving a comment and sharing something about yourself and your situation :) Haven't been to nyc but the music scene there seems so interesting! Cool that you get to do what you love! Mental and physical rest is so important, hope you'll be able to find time to wind down and that you'll enjoy the event. The heat in Tokyo is currently sooo intense.
Great video Olivia!!!! What is your most favorite thing to do in Tokyo???? Beautiful curls girl!
Thank you hun ❤️ Tokyo life is full of amazing things! I really enjoy experiencing nice spaces with a lovely ambiance, whether it's a cafe or a restaurant or art gallery or something else :) Loove Japanese tea houses!
Your openness with your emotions is comforting 💞 Hope you are doing better!
Thanks for leaving a nice comment 🫶 I’m much better now thanks :) hope you’re having a nice day!
Sorry to see you injured yourself but looks like you’re recovering nicely. One thing I’ve wondered about, what are your goals living in Tokyo? Is this just a temporary place to experience for a couple of years? Because while you do have lunch/dinner once in a while with friends, you seem isolated. As you mentioned, when one is injured or sick living alone without support isn’t so great. When you returned home last year, you seemed happier and much more connected to other people.
Thanks, yes, currently much better than back in May when all of this happened :)
Although I'm open to the idea of moving somewhere else, I have no plans to move elsewhere and I don't think I'll ever return to Finland.
I think you're correct, and it has to do with me not being able to build those deep friendships yet that I have back in Finland. I think there's many reasons for it, and for example my breakup strongly affected the friendships I had. Many of the people I used to be close to are not in my life anymore. So I kinda needed to start from scratch again and friendships take time when you don't have an environment where you meet others automatically. Very recently I've been able to meet new lovely people so hopefully in the future things will be different :)
This video speaks to me because I'm currently feeling the burnout lol. I feel like I go through a stage of feeling "burnt out" about every 30-40 days. Knowing this, I try to plan around the 30-40 day mark to do something special for myself and also to just relax and give my brain a rest.
I think so many people don't listen to their body, and they ignore the stages of feeling burnt and try to power through. It's a bad idea. EVERYONE needs some form of stress relief after a certain amount of time.
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a burnout and that it's something that keeps reappearing in your life 🙏 Definitely important to have patience with yourself and listen to your body. Sounds like it might make sense for you to try and reconsider your lifestyle on a more extensive level if it's something that keeps happening? Or try and have a longer holiday period when you don't push yourself at all? Hope you'll feel better soon xx Take it easy, prioritise your health!
Oh man!! So sorry to see that you got stitches but hopefully you will heal up mentally and physically soon💜 Thank you for such a vulnerable video and I hope July is full of good times for you atm!
Thanks for the love 🫶 the scar is healing and mentally I've been in such a good place recently, it's like night and day! :) Hope you're doing well xx
@@oliviaimamura Oh heck yeah! That’s good to hear😊
Nice 😊 what do you work
My main source of income is freelance digital marketing consulting!
Can’t tell you how much getting enough sleep helps with the balance aspect. I don’t think it gets any “easier” living alone, but you have to really double down on that self-care stuff and not feel guilty when you’re not “achieving” as much as you feel you can in your head. It sometimes feels really hard to accept that differential between what you know you can do in a day and how much your poor body and willpower can realistically keep up with that. One foot in front of the other!
This is so true! I've been really into sleep health and hygiene actually after listening to Matthew Walker's audiobook Why we sleep. Great to hear your thoughts on this as well - helps me to truly understand and prioritise self-care when I realise that it's not just me facing challenges of wanting to do more and struggling with finding a good balance. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🫶
I’m already in it… burnt out big tiiime 🥵
So sorry to hear ❤️🥲 Totally feel you. You just need a lot of patience and giving into what ever your body needs whether it's just lying still, weird food cravings or binging on netflix. Have compassion for yourself - once you get over that phase you'll get your energy back. I feel like journalling also really helped me :)
I love your videos so much. Especially when you get more personal and open. As a former tokyo girl who misses japan basically every day, your videos help ease the pain haha.
This is so nice to hear 🥹 Sometimes I wonder whether I should cut down on sharing the personal stuff and just focus on showcasing Tokyo but happy to hear this kind of content also resonates 🫶 Love Tokyo! Hope you get to visit again sometime :)