I am pretty sure that BOTH of my parents have/had AuDHD. My Dad also had schizophrenia on top of that. Things were very difficult growing up. The house was filthy and filled with animals because of my parents special interests…but they didn’t really clean due to executive functioning. My basic needs were mostly neglected. I was rarely taken to the dentist or the doctor, barely had any clothing, was not taught basic personal hygiene, etc. As a middle aged person I am finally coming to realize that the way that I was raised was not ok, but also that my parents had some pretty severe issues that they were dealing with as well. My elderly Mother now lives with us so I see the extent of her own self neglect, executive functioning issues, and inability to function as a regular, well adjusted person.
2:53 I was always the one most prone to blurt stuff out, and he had experienced significant personal growth in that area before I was born (he is a fan of the Bible's description of the tongue as a fire), so I never noticed it in my dad early on, but it's quite clear where my own tendency came from 😂.
Sign number zero: Your teachers tried to have you tested for ADHD, and your dad refused, grumbling words to the effect of "pathologizing and medicating normal behavior because it's inconvenient for educators". My family goes by the motto (introduced by my mom), "All the world is *MAD* except ME and THEE, and sometimes I wonder about THEE," so I didn't really notice that my dad was "different" per-se, but it was obvious that me and him were cut from the same cloth.
My father was high masking, my mother low masking and I am unable to mask (though I do tend to camouflage at times). Unfortunately my parents have no knowledge/understanding of neurodivergence, worse my mother even refuses to acknowledge that high functioning autism exists !
Alright So i'd like to leave my personal thoughts on this video... Damn. my whole life just suddenly makes sense. I am currently 30y old. Undiagnosed with either ADHD or Autism. 3 years ago my nephew was diagnosed with ADHD-Inattentive. Ever since I've been diving myself into the topic and watched 100s of video's on ADHD by now. May of this year I have taken the steps myself to ask to get Diagnosed for ADHD-Inattentive (unfortunely that still hasn't happened yet due to waiting lists and Life) Due to the severe waiting time I totally dropped the interest in watching ADHD related videos. (because what if I don't get diagnosed) This led to a mental health crisis which kind of got worse over the year (reaching its peak just last week) I called in sick for the upcoming 3 weeks and taking the time to get my now totally disorganized and chaotic home situation under control. But the exact scenario which you are describing in the end of your video. is a reality for me right this moment. Severe healh issues - Check Substance abuse - Check Severe mental health issues - Check Not a one of thing but a recurring Pattern. (which seems so obvious and clear to me now) Troubled childhood with divorced parents - Who I can now see both show signs of ADHD and/or Autism. It feels like you just described my whole life in barely 13 minutes. You have no idea how validated that makes me feel being in the middle of all of these things right this moment. Last Thursday I started watching video's about people with AuDHD and its almost as if they're 1 to 1 copies of me.
I'm so glad you found others like you through the examples in this video. We aren't alone. There are others like us. Few and rare, but they're out there.
I am pretty sure that BOTH of my parents have/had AuDHD. My Dad also had schizophrenia on top of that. Things were very difficult growing up. The house was filthy and filled with animals because of my parents special interests…but they didn’t really clean due to executive functioning. My basic needs were mostly neglected. I was rarely taken to the dentist or the doctor, barely had any clothing, was not taught basic personal hygiene, etc. As a middle aged person I am finally coming to realize that the way that I was raised was not ok, but also that my parents had some pretty severe issues that they were dealing with as well. My elderly Mother now lives with us so I see the extent of her own self neglect, executive functioning issues, and inability to function as a regular, well adjusted person.
Thanks for sharing your story. And it’s admirable that you are caregiving to your elderly mother. ♥️
@@NeurodivergentMom Thank you. I don't really have a choice. My Father passed over 20 years ago now and I am an only child!
Pls upload one video once a week really helps 😊
2:53 I was always the one most prone to blurt stuff out, and he had experienced significant personal growth in that area before I was born (he is a fan of the Bible's description of the tongue as a fire), so I never noticed it in my dad early on, but it's quite clear where my own tendency came from 😂.
Sign number zero: Your teachers tried to have you tested for ADHD, and your dad refused, grumbling words to the effect of "pathologizing and medicating normal behavior because it's inconvenient for educators".
My family goes by the motto (introduced by my mom), "All the world is *MAD* except ME and THEE, and sometimes I wonder about THEE," so I didn't really notice that my dad was "different" per-se, but it was obvious that me and him were cut from the same cloth.
My father was high masking, my mother low masking and I am unable to mask (though I do tend to camouflage at times). Unfortunately my parents have no knowledge/understanding of neurodivergence, worse my mother even refuses to acknowledge that high functioning autism exists !
Alright So i'd like to leave my personal thoughts on this video...
Damn. my whole life just suddenly makes sense.
I am currently 30y old. Undiagnosed with either ADHD or Autism.
3 years ago my nephew was diagnosed with ADHD-Inattentive.
Ever since I've been diving myself into the topic and watched 100s of video's on ADHD by now.
May of this year I have taken the steps myself to ask to get Diagnosed for ADHD-Inattentive (unfortunely that still hasn't happened yet due to waiting lists and Life)
Due to the severe waiting time I totally dropped the interest in watching ADHD related videos. (because what if I don't get diagnosed)
This led to a mental health crisis which kind of got worse over the year (reaching its peak just last week)
I called in sick for the upcoming 3 weeks and taking the time to get my now totally disorganized and chaotic home situation under control.
But the exact scenario which you are describing in the end of your video. is a reality for me right this moment.
Severe healh issues - Check
Substance abuse - Check
Severe mental health issues - Check
Not a one of thing but a recurring Pattern. (which seems so obvious and clear to me now)
Troubled childhood with divorced parents - Who I can now see both show signs of ADHD and/or Autism.
It feels like you just described my whole life in barely 13 minutes.
You have no idea how validated that makes me feel being in the middle of all of these things right this moment.
Last Thursday I started watching video's about people with AuDHD and its almost as if they're 1 to 1 copies of me.
I'm so glad you found others like you through the examples in this video. We aren't alone. There are others like us. Few and rare, but they're out there.