Needing Constant Reassurance & Attention Turns Women Off
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Why needing constant reassurance & attention from women turns them off.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a needy insecure guy who needs constant reassurance and attention from his girlfriend that she likes him and cares or he gets butt-hurt and mad at her. He is really struggling with the fact women are like cats and takes it personally. He gets upset and worried every time she appears to back away and lose enthusiasm for him. He takes her mood swings as a rejection and signal that he needs to “fix” something. His needy and neurotic behavior now has her asking for space and pushing him away because it’s disgusting and repulsive to her. He asks my opinion on why this is happening.
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Be glad women go quiet for days. Go work on your hobbies, visit your family, go workout, clean the garage, do something rather than rely on mommy to give you attention
100%
I do want that mommy attention pretty bad though cant lie haha needed this time to get to work 🔨
I’m 30 now and I hear these stories and think wow I’ve came such a long way I used to be like this guy. Thank god I found Corey’s work I’ve read the book 20 times in the last two years and I listen to it everyday before work. I attract and keep the women I want and their you know what stays as wet as the Pacific Ocean lol
Very nice brother. I to was like this guy and I see now how pathetic and desperate it makes you look to a woman. Hopefully this dude gets dumped by this girl and serves as the ultimate wake up call he needs to get his act together. For me mine came about 5 months ago. Had I knew about Corey's work prior I might have been able to get my ex back. Unfortunately it's too late. It was a hard lesson to learn but I feel it was meant to be.
Yeah, it's tough to look back isn't it? So obvious now.
When did you decide to stop being needy?
This video hits way to close to home for me. I was a insecure, needy, whiney baby to my woman of 2 and a half years. We are definitely on the rocks, we still live together. This is my story gentleman. Take this however you'd like! But use it as a lesson. When we first got together we were screwing like rabbits, orgasms left and right. The spark was there, the smile, the laughs, the connection and bond was STRONG. I even remember her talking about a song we could use for our wedding. Well, as time went on, we spent more time with each other and we started getting used to one another. The BIG key here is getting USED to each other. I started to see her tendencies and quirks and how she worked. I started to see the kind of person she was (in my eyes). I started to focus to much on her imperfections and what she doesnt do or why, I started to complain about it feels like everything is a chore for her. (My feelings wahh wahhh wahh, im a little bitch, basically) But I stopped seeing why I got together with her. I started to get insecure, needy, and emotional about why she doesn't do this or that or why we don't have the bond and connection we once use to have. I started to get wayyyyy to emotional about every little thing and making drama where there shouldn't have been any. Because like Corey says, I'm just trying to live a drama free life. Eventually, I got so upset (immature) that I started returning the same energy, instead of remaining in my center, and remaining calm, cool, relaxed, and masculine. I let her energy effect me way to much and she saw that. So she tested and tested in hopes of me coming around. I didn't come around, so things got rocky. To the point where we had talked the other day about separating and splitting up. I then realized, while watching one of Corey's videos about rekindling the love in a relationship what i had to do. I talked with her and owned up to my mistakes and fuck ups, I owned up to not being her rock, to not remaining in my center, I owned up to not being more mature and focusing on her more when I was hurting or feeling pain. I owned up to focusing on myself and my own needs and being selfish. I nearly quite literally pushed her away because of it. She was probably puking internally. I owned up to not being a man and listening to her and opening her up. I believe things are getting repaired, we still live together, I am letting her sleep on the bed and I am on the couch to show her that I'm willing to make this work if she's willing to work it out too. She's hurt because I wasn't in my center. I was too emotional and insecure and needed way to much reassurance. Thats on me. She's coming around, she still makes food for me, and still enjoys spending time with me. I figured we still have a chance because she did get emotional and cried when we had talked a couple times. She's just got a lot to figure out and told me that. So I am giving her space and letting her come to me as she wants and needs. You've got to give your woman space to figure it out. Let them think it out. I know now that I need to stay in my center and remain her rock. Not focus on labels or anything, just have fun and hook up. I have faith it will get better and can give you guys an update when I have one. Salute, gentlemen. Stay strong and in your center!
You should never ever sleep on a couch, while you have a bed! That is a big mistake man. Have you read Coreys book?
@Kaprlaalis yes, yes I have. 4 times so far. I'm letting her sleep in the bed because I fucked things up, I was the one to want to seperate with her. I'm doing the honorable thing in letting her take the bed. I get that I shouldn't, but when I fucked things up with her, I have to make it right. It would be different if she wanted to leave and call it quits and ended things. But I made it clear to her that I'm not done, and am not ready to throw in the towel. She knows. Women are like cats, you need to let them come to you as they want and need. It's not like I've left the house. She needs her space. I'm not gonna suffocate her. Giving her her space is the honorable thing to do. Especially when she had slept on the couch for the last couple of days before I did. Every situation is different and dynamic, that's why Corey does these videos for real life situations. I suffocated her, so I have to pay for it. When she'd ready for me to be next to her again in the bed, she will tell me. She's got to miss me and not being next to me. Allow for the space for them to miss you.
Nonetheless, I'd like to hear from you as to why you think I should not be sleeping on the couch when i fucked things up as bad as I did?
Ps. Don’t suffocate anyone !
Hope things work out.
Depending on how much you value your fuck ups, temporarily sleeping on the couch can be a way to show her you accept what you did and that you are willing to become better.
Obviously a tough situation for all involved, but if you can get yourself back on track, it will work out, since she’s clearly hanging there waiting to see you come back to life.
Good luck mate.
100%. Its actually really hard to do this when you’re only talking /hanging out with ONE woman…. You need more than one guys, the more the better.
Exactly … cannot get oneitis fellas , especially if u are just starting to date/hang out
5 years ago I had a rotation/hotation/practice squad or whatever you want to call it of 5 diff women.
All of them knew I wasn't looking for anything serious & for all I know they had their own practice squads. I didn't care because If they drifted off then so be it. Anyways I added a 6th girl. This one stood out & I liked her the best. But because I had other options I didn't have time or desire to make her my starter. So because of that she started wondering about me & started chasing. She found out I had other women & it made her want me even more.
I eventually made her my GF & we're still going strong. You are 100% correct. Having options is the best & keeps you from chasing & fixating/obsessing over one women
Or even if you don't have options you need to have the abundance mindset because it says you become what you think about yourself and that's in itself is an act of confidence. This works really good as well and especially if you are a kind of guy who believes in dating one woman.
@@dekai8415 yes that’s a good point! I had options but I also work a lot of hrs & have a lot of hobbies & interests that take up a lot of my free time. The girl I’m with now, I knew in the beginning I liked her but wasn’t always available to hang out when she wanted. I was at the firing range, going to football games, riding my bike etc. There just wasn’t enough hrs in the day & I fit her in when I could. Looking back it made her chase me even more but that wasn’t what I was trying to do.
She even told me multiple times in the beginning “you’re the busiest guy I know, can you please fit me into your schedule this week”
What if you have 2 kids with them
Guy who wrote in was definitely the type of dude who said "where's my hug at?" back in school lol
She’s a great woman, said she needed space but still offered to meet up on Sunday. She’s giving this guy a lot of chances.
“Check yourself before you wreck yourself” and “I’ll take care of myself for you, and you take care of yourself for me”. So great.
Whenever I do feel like reaching out I just do the Corey “mommy mommy” voice to myself and laugh and remember to be calm and patient. I get spoiled because i get called/facetime/text 3-4 times a day sometimes and when it doesn’t come my natural instinct is to “check in”
Needless to say - I wait, she reaches out with all her feminine energy and excited to talk telling me she misses me, loves me how am I etc.
Remember to see the chaos and emotions as beautiful. And if you slip, don’t go into a downward sprial, stop before you screw it up.
Same bro 👌
You're really the best, Corey. Your material has what it takes to save men from their own weaknesses.
I know some guys that have been smothering the day lights out of their wives for up to 8 to 12 years now, and the relationships are almost at their tipping point. I offered 3% man to them, and they utterly refuse to apply what's in the book.
It goes to show that, as individuals, we really can't blame society or women for our shortcomings when most of us refuse to help ourselves to begin with. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
Men are starved for attention so when we get it, we want as much as possible. I guess all we can do is fill up our lives best we can.
Great point @coachcorey how many hobbies did you have going on in your life when you were dating woman with confidence
You become needy when one particular woman is everything in your life and you can't imagine a life without her. Women should only be the icing on a cake in a mans life.
100%
I am actually going through this situation right now and, looking back at it now, I hate how stupid I've been. I reached out to one of my friends who referred me to Coach Corey and everything I've heard so far has made complete sense. I ordered the book and it's coming in the next few days and I'm excited to read it so I can avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
Thank you Coach for all your help. I used to be like this as well.
COACH COREY WAYNE IS THE BEST COACH .. and that’s fuckn FACTS
Agree 100000000000000000 %
@@arshdhanotia721 really smart really understands women and female feminine dynamics . It’s dope to see …
Coach’s ability to demonstrate ‘annoying’ is about the most annoying thing I’ve heard. Nailed it. Give that man an Oscar!
Yeah its rough. Being insecure can do this to a man. You have to learn to love and validate yourself first. Its a process but you need to do it. Relationships become easier when you do the work.
At some stage, most guys who overinvested emotionally in a woman go through this. It's ok. That said, cut your losses by not relying on others. Nobody is permanent and somebody will surely end up disappointing you on some front or the other.
Omg Coach Corey I am so glad you put this video out bc i am dealing with same type of guy and situation and i have tried to explain all of this to him but he never seems to get it sense I'm going to make him watch this video and hopefully he'll get it coming from you, 🤞🤞
Did your guy get his shit together?
In the dating world many men need to hear this message. Wish in the moment I could say these things. After two months of dating one weekend I needed to focus on work and wasn’t feeling good and stayed home and by the following week he was whining and complaining that there had been no phone calls and no in person visits. He texted 80% more than me constant updates of his schedule. I never went out with him again because his behavior was awful. Dude, find something else to do that weekend. Take care of your own stuff. See some friends. Don’t depend on me or expect me to be with you the whole weekend every weekend after 8 weeks. Had he gone about his business and let me have my time that week it would have been so much better.
Anxious vs avoidant
That’s what is really about. Disappointing that Corey did not point this out. Mind you, book 😢sales for him would drop along with video subs. Well done friend, seems like there are very few comments that understand this 🖖.
@@Nyumc99 there needs to be BOTH
game and attachment
An educated player
Not really bro. Most women are avoidant with desperate men. Follow Coach Corey Wayne's advice otherwise you will continue to chase women away
That women ain’t avoidant, she is just repulsed. An avoidant wouldn’t have given to the dude so many chances..
That jack in the box act was hilarious.😂
Spot on 😂
I'm not proud to admit it, but currently this video feels like it hits way too close to home. I know it's not about me, but it might as well could've been. Thanks for the bucket of ice cold water followed with a slap that could knock an elephant out, I needed that!
He's stuck to her like a suckerfish. Messed up the sexual polarity & it repulsed her.
Hopefully he's learned something during no contact & when he sees her on Sunday he doesn't vomit up his feelings. All he needs to do is : Hang out, Have fun & Hook up
He also needs to get a life, so instead of her being the centre of his universe, he's focusing on himself and his kids.
I totally get the message of the video and I actually keep my frame very well, but here’s a thing, if you’re in an actual committed relationship and you’ve done the things right and she’s chasing you and hounding you for attention? Then she’s not gonna take a week in between interactions, that long of pause in between interactions shows you that her desire is not in to you, but into somebody else, that’s obvious. I would never be in a relationship relationship with a woman who didn’t talk to me for four or five days and then gets back on board and I’m supposed to be OK with it? I wouldn’t say anything about it I would just simply tell him I’m no longer interested in move on. If they’re into you and they desire you, they’re not gonna have these big spaces in between interactions, it shows they don’t like you. The right compatible partner is going to show you attention and desire, if they don’t? It’s obvious they’re just not into you or they don’t have the personality that allows them to be an attention giver, lots of introverted women out there, a ton!
@@antoniomontana1975
Exactly. We need to be okay with a Woman bouncing off the walls and being unsure, because as a man, our role is to always be the immovable rock.
Affected by nothing.
Perturbed by nothing.
We run and lead the party bus, and if you’re on you’ll have a good time, and if you decide to leave because you think you can get better, then we’re okay letting you go.
We know you’ll be back, and if you’re not, then it’s all good.
Never get perturbed.
Masculinity is calm.
I was Hanging out with a girl and trust me I let her reach out to me and it works ,
I'm only a shoulder to cry on if I'm a face to sit on.
Great Video Coach Corey “☕️ No Drama “
"You can not lead what you need." - Jim Dornan
Another great video!
Thank you coach
Needed to hear this lmao thanks
Your videos are so damn funny yet inspiring and informative 😅🙏
Some disagreement here. Married 28 years. I have many hobbies. Hunting, backpacking, downhill mountain biking, skiing, building log cabin, bird hunting, mountain biking, lifting, 4x4ing. Have 3 businesses.
Corey talks about standards and expectations, and reciprocation. Some women don’t and they absolutely suck the fun out of everything.
@chironow: That’s because those type of women grew up in a broken, toxic, dysfunctional, & chaotic environment/household. When/if they’re in a calm, peaceful, & fun environment, they will create dysfunction, chaos, toxicity in that fun, social & enjoyable environment. Believe me, I know from experience.
14:21 we all knew what that text was like lol
Mine is quite the opposite I've been saying I love you and been sleeping with a man I've been in love with for ten years almost. No ring no tittle but we have lived together and kids are now out of the home...how can I get him to see that I'm the one for him?
LESS IS MORE
17:05 the jack in a box sketch is awesome 😂
So if u did things simillar to this guy at the end of ur reletionship and ur gf broke up with u coz she couldnt deal with it no more, how to fix it and get her back?
Damn bro this was me today being a be atch. Oh well lesson learned!
This can all really be classified as women playing manipulative mind games. I used "women" and "manipulative" in the same sentence?!? Shocker!
I need some advice or a veiw. This girl in my University class has a crush on me was communicating with me non verbally smiling at me. She was flirting and smiling vigorously and on constant basis but wasnt trying to talk to me all the time...but later on just showed signs of liking but didnt talk to me. What do i take from this ?
@@antoniomontana1975 Its more complicated than just that. First shes not fluent in english but understands...i talked once but then i tried talk some more but she kind of avoided but kept giving me signs of liking me...I wanted to understand where her position was in doing this flirtation and acting like she was in love (I cant give details it'll take two paragraphs ) while kind of avoiding conversations
this was me in my last marriage. 😂😂 what a chump i was.
"Balls the size of BB's..." 😂😂
Someone do a wellness check on this dude that sent the email lol
Read the book your so right Corey. Dont act needy pets on the head . dude get hobbies
Mommy doesn’t like me anymore 😞 hmm. Man do u and they will follow im here to keep my steel sharpened
Why did I find this guy after I lost the girl of my dreams and ended up in jail
so you don't lose the one that really matters in the future
@@CoachCoreyWayne your a prophet
You went to jail?
Beta:
I haven't heard from you today
Pretty girl:
Ive been so busy, it's nice to hear from you ☺️
Beta:
what's wrong?! Do you still love me?
Pretty girl:
Of course sweety I love you so much 🥰
Beta:
Whats wrong? Is everything okay?
Pretty girl:
yes, thank for the text it's the little things that count 😍
Beta:
Are you saying I'm little?! I need to know 😩
Pretty girl:
... 😒 F@ck off
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This guy sounds like a Joe Biden voter
funny thing is Corey actually supports trump lol
@@abcwarrior91No one is perfect.
be adored not the adorer. , come on man
Okay, so maybe she doesn't communicate as best as she should at times, but he is being a needy little punk. But still, she invited him over to the cookout that Sunday. She was giving him the chance right there. I hope he went there, had fun and didn’t talk about this stupid shit again.
If he didn’t do that, he deserves to lose her.
I miss ccw old background
Free Spirit= 304, a thot pocket, garden hos
Try this with an avoidant woman lmao.
take a surf trip to Mexico
Dr. Mommy LPC 😅
Bro definitely needs childhood trauma therapy - my favorite source is Patrick Teahan's channel.
Don't confuse dating help or dealing with the feminine, with sorting out childhood stuff - also David Deida says that.
I have Questions about affairs.
1 Is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not
2 can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex
3 .If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating
4 can i have affair without never never having sex.
5 is it really affair without having no sex
6 can i have emotional and physical affair without having no sex?
Go to a different youtuber to regurgitate this stupidity.
You've asked this exact same question several times & either you're retarded or a bot/troll
Of course there’s such thing as emotional cheating.
But to your question, it just depends. Does the bf know? If so, does he know what level of “friends,” yall are?
Honestly if my gf was hanging out with some other guy all the time I’d probably move on. 99% of the time the guy she’s hanging out with is carrying the torch waiting for her to give in to him.
I think it’s time for another Trump video Coach!
He should join a club to train with swords. I do it and love it. 🥹