Compliments from women are far more superior😭😭🥰I also love it when people tell me I smell good😩likey my day gets better knowing people think I smell good and like my perfume :)
Sorry if im wrong but aren't compliments from men more truthful because they would never tell an ugly girl that she's pretty unless their like your father or something?
@@princessaroyale keep in mind that there’s a lot of men who will fuck anything warm with a hole💀💀💀so how seriously can we really take their compliments? Women tend to put a lot more detail into their looks on average and are sometimes the harshest critics. So if a woman compliments me I feel like it holds more weight.
experiences with jealous men: one time me and this guy were talking. i forgot what about, but likely style, as he would always compliment my outfits. but we were talking about something fashion related and out of the blue he said “yeah but white toes are overdone.” i look down. i’m wearing flip flops and white nail polish. and i just agreed with him bc i honestly was on the same page. i only chose the color bc i did my nails last minute and i didn’t like any other polishes i had and white toes is a trusty old faithful. but him trying to knock me down a peg by telling me my *nail polish* is too basic was insane 😭 i also had a male boss who was lowkey giving the vibes that he wanted me and seeking my validation but at the same time would micromanage me and making my job a living hell by forcing me to do all the jobs i hated. other bosses would work with my strengths and preferences, but he would put me in the most undesirable positions then be mad when i wasn’t excelling like when i was allowed to do what i’m good at. he constantly called me out and expected more out of me than everyone else. i ended up quitting bc he was always doing too much, but i could see how satisfied he was that he finally got to me. i’ve also experienced a lot of negging and social sabotage without realizing it when i was younger.
compliments from children + teens are superior. they always make my day 💞 edit: 35:47 i’d love this. i have all brothers but i have a lot of younger girl cousins i want to get closer to by doing girly stuff and makeovers like i did with my aunts and cousins as a kid. those were a lot of my favorite childhood memories. 🩷
It’s sad I still struggle to see myself as beautiful and feel confused when a random person tells me I’m pretty. I’ve even gotten compliments on my gapped teeth (which I find strange) but hey I’ll take that compliment.
This! I was walking around this summer and my hair was looking super light and blonde bc of the sun and these two preteen dsbg stopped me and were like "omg your hair's so pretty!". They must have been about ten or eleven so it was a really nice, sincere compliment.
I remember there was a time I bleached my hair blonde and i looked so pretty people and kids would just stare at me. I once caught a little girl talking to her older brother of how pretty I was 🥹that made my day!! Some other day I remember I went to a bakery and this little kid started at me with in aww I was so flattered
Me and my daughter were walking the other day and when went past a group of three women my daughter said they were throwing us some right mucky looks. I avoid making eye contact with women like that their the type who wanna fight you cos your pretty to mess up your face lol.
i think it’s also key to OWN ur beauty and not think about it too much. i used to go out get dolled up because i wanted men to come up to me and they didn’t. now i get dressed up i’ve had women come up to me out of the blue telling me i look like a model, i’ve had men ask if im married, the other day a man stopped his car just to say i made his day walking down the street coming from WORK LOL! i also get more compliments with my hair down always, and always whenever i feel good usually. inside = outside
Exactly . I think if people go out only with the intention of some man coming up to them, their self esteem will actually go DOWN if it doesn’t happen. It should always be about how the woman feels on the inside first and foremost
Reminds me of this time this guy cat called me driving down the street and had the nerve to turn around trying to get my attention trying to drive through construction and traffic. Was so strange and freaked me out bc I didn’t want him stalking me.
lol men hate when women act like them! So many absolutely rank guys think they’re 10s but when women even hold ourselves with confidence there’s always some creep trying to humble us. I was in a restroom once and a little girl saw me and exclaimed, “Wow, she’s pretty!” Her friend said, “All girls are pretty.” And she retorted “Yeah, but she’s GORGEOUS!” It made my day and I told her that! For the last 15 years or so I’ve been in hiding. I’m a self employed artist and usually wait until I do an art show to get dolled up. Many people don’t recognize me if they know me from everyday life. 😂 But now I want to claim my beauty for myself and see how it can further me along. I also act and have made some short films of my own. Seeing myself on screen gave me an idea of what I’d like to address, such as facial volume, skin texture, and overall fitness. I used to model but back in the ‘90s there wasn’t a demand for darker skinned models. I’m Native American BTW. And now there’s way more Native cinema and such. Even though I’m no spring chicken I want to put myself out there anyways. Love your content! Ahe’hee. ❤
Everywhere I go, I get men's attention (smiles, compliments, chasing). And side eyes or bad looks from women. For a long time, I was hidding / shrinking myself, especially because of my mother who would get out of her way to hide me (or protect me?). Now that I'm far away from her, I enjoy my femininity, enjoy myself. But I also protect myself : men would go out of their ways to get my attention, sometimes, it becomes overwhelming/ aggressive. And women are literally violent and don't hide their jealousy. So you gotta be careful. Also you gotta protect yourself from your surroundings: your own BF or husband can be the reason why you don't evolve and he can want to sabotage your life/ beauty / career to keep you to himself. Many men are drown to you to nurture themselves and benefit from your beauty, kindness, grace, attention and it can be draining as well. Beauty priviledge is a sort of power you gotta protect at all costs and move smoothly. Last but not the least: a good way to see if your surroundings are good to you is to see if your beauty glows / thrives around them or it fades away.
One of the best compliments i received was from an ex boyfriends mother lol while running into the store, i ran into an ex's sister and mother. I was catching up with the sister and all of sudden she was like "my mom asked who you were, cause she thought you were so gorgeous and should date her son". Little did she know, i been there done that, aint going back. His loss 😂😂
The other day I had on some simple black booty shorts and a v neck in Home Depot. Just running an errand with my boyfriend. The exotical cashier said “okay Barbie!!!” And I was so flattered lol. Best compliment I’ve gotten in a while.
@@angieang26 It's not a woman's job to police our clothing just because married m¤les may be around. A m¤n's self-control and loyalty to his wife is his own perogative and his own responsibility. Furthermore, she literally said that she was WITH HER OWN BOYFRIEND. Why wouldn't you assume that she was wearing the booty shorts for her own m¤n's gaze as opposed to a bunch of other women's husband? This is just another problem that pretty women encounter on a daily basis. We're constantly being blamed or made to be responsible for men's desires when we are simply just living our life. Like damn, can't we just live?!😅
@angieangiel2666 Clearly, you're just here to disagree and gaslight because I already answered your question in the exact comment you are responding to. Beautiful women are NOT obligated to dress-up or dress-down for other women's husbands. ALL M€N are responsible for their own actions and they should be able to exercise self control. It's not that difficult.🙄 Don't come over here trying to police other women. You don't like booty shorts, don't wear them. Simple.🤷♀️ Also, the woman we're referring to was WITH HER OWN MAN. Your apparent jealousy is causing you to suffer from cognitive dissonance, sweetheart.😏
Unambiguous black gal here. Unambiguous and loving it. I think the best compliment i got was from an Asian lady, like she was fresh off the boat because she had a thick accent. It was at Walgreens and she kind of followed me around a corner to tell me i was beautiful and elegant. It really meant a lot because im darker and physically bigger than the typical Asian aesthetic (I'm not "plus size," I'm thick/slim thick by black standards). Once this older Asian man with a thick accent told me i was beautiful, and i was overweight at the time. This could be because I do always wear dresses and dress feminine, and have a doll-ish look. Big eyes, short stature and super super clear skin. I think subconsciously I try to dress doll like to tone down my "sexy body."
As a 17 year old light brown girl this channel is amazing and made me feel better about myself and not hate myself like i use to.in the past i struggled with my confidence and how i felt about how i looked.but what made me realize i wans't ugly was when older adults would compliment me and say i was very pretty it made me feel better or random kids would just stare and smile at me.but on this journey to self love i realized alot and i except myself for who i am .❤
I really love the growth mindset from this 😭 😭 I honestly thought that pretty privilege was only men complimenting you. I dont really pay attention to kids that much but now i will. For me, compliments from people of diffrent upbringings hit different since they probably have a different idea of what is beautiful. I remember the other day I decided to walk the long way to my street and an Indian Man went out of his way to tell me 'good afternoon'. I know its not a compliment but they typically keep to their own race here in Guyana
I’m the “but you have such a pretty face” girlie so I’ve been afforded pretty privilege to an extent. I’m notorious for gaining weight in relationships but now that I’ve decentralized men (thanks to channels like yours) I am fully focusing on weight loss and fitness because why not? Now that I’m not focused on some dude why not be the total package for myself and cash in on all the privileges?
This is another great video & perspective. I listen when cleaning up my house & it’s always refreshing to hear content that advances women’s lives rather than all this other low vibrational content. Furthermore, I love it because as a wife & working professional - I’ve been fortunate that it’s been a plus in my career and in dating my husband prior to marriage. It’s a good reminder to amplify your pretty privilege and pick it up if it ever gets forgotten. I’m learning that myself.
When I was a little girl about 8 years old, there were two girls at my church that o wanted to befriend but as soon as I talked to them they started making fun of me and my outfits. My mom would make my clothes so obviously I had a quite different style. But years later I saw the girls again and the older one had an outfit similar to mine and my same hairstyle, back then I had long straight hair, bangs and my hair is naturally black. They were blonde, but that last time I saw her she had that same haircut and hair color. It was crazy, all those years of bullying from those girls and it just turns out they were just jealous of me
Bullies are something else, they hate the creativity they envy😪 The red dress and matching hair accesory , an elegant combo💃🏼❤ It's good you didn't give up on style because of them💅🏼
@ExoticalsUnited Very true. It's just a little "odd" to me. I had a student who would keep telling me I had a big nose. It was very annoying and hurtful.
@@aisnow5788I was bullied in school and girls bully when there’s something they are jealous of plus something they know they can pick on. Ask them why they would be so ugly in behavior
That's very honest and I appreciate you sharing that. I bet the kids and teens have no clue about what "beauty" is. Mature people appreciate true beauty.
I think it may be the same for me. I usually get older people compliment my beauty(i’m more so a cute/ classic style). People my age (early 20’s) just find me cute but guys seem to like it 🤷🏾♀️
Every video I watch on your channel is so insightful and opens up a different way of thinking that definitely challenges my own internal biases but also expands my mind in to “this is how I can choose to see myself instead” Thank you for making these and having these conversations!
I love when other people pay my way, weather that me in line, cash apps from friends both male and female, or someone originally going to charge me but gave me whatever for free or discounted instead. Getting out of trouble, tickets or into ticketed events for free. Being taken out by my friends and them paying. I get to cut line. The male gaze.
I love this video, particularly when you briefly spoke on losing pretty privilege. I would love you to do a video about losing and gaining back pretty privilege.
There are moments that I feel like should be a sign that I’m considered attractive but I feel kinda average looking. That’s why I just choose not to worry about attention or what attention I get (especially from men). If you like me you like me. I feel like I’ll tire myself out trying to read the signs. I also have a hard time believing women’s compliments bc sometimes it feels like an obligation bc an insecure person makes people uncomfortable. I think most are genuine though but that’s my own distorted view of reality.
hey Pretty Girls ..before I continue sweet thank you to Exocticals who have given us girls the space to express ourselves! I will always honor and give credit to the First lady of the Pretty Girl club ! PT 2 The NABW tries to brag about her good thang... Monday April 8th I then asked ..... trying to shift the energy back on to her > " well what brings you to the mall on this eclipse Monday she then says .. gurlllll to buy some perfume for my daughter she then shows me a picture of the perfume , (its Carolina H the perfume with heel for the bottle design) , i tell her ohhh nice " how much does it cot she says..... gurrrrrrr about 150 .. i said wow ! but then I thought to myself wait ... why am I insane for spending that much on perfume for MYSELF but she's not ?? hmmm that's odd. I even went in to say .. "that's very kind of you. I have a daughter too and I was just looking at those diamond necklaces over in that shop ", thinking about buying my daughter a diamond necklace ( which I was ) but I know my daughter would just be like mommmm ..... save your money " she then whips out her phone and shows me her daughter i was almost tempted to do the same. her daughter was beautiful but also appeared to be a bit mixed , guess she had to show me that she could make pretty babies too. but then i didn't show off my daughters IG although I did show the girls in Macys .. hmm go figure. in fact i show off my children all the time but in this instance i stayed reserved . she them went on to ask if i were married . i said no divorced , she asked why .. i just giggled . and said why not . lol she went on to show me her fiancé mind you her fiancé was handsome and i did say so he was also Latino , as she was darker skinned woman , attractive but not in the pretty girl privilege kind of way (if you will ) i asked her what made her divest she said i just choose who ever choses me .. i said hmmmm... she went on " If they like me i like them ", she then jumps back to , "you should be married " - , i said um no thank you . as time went on in the conversation she began to reveal more details about how controlling her finance had been over the car he just bought her , she went on to say how hed get in the car and start nick picking on her and pressing her about making sure she was putting enough gas or the cleanliness of the car ,she went on to detail his other controlling behaviors he had , and that she stated how she assumed he was jealous of her . and asked me if had experienced men being jealous of me , i simply answered by saying.. " jealousy has no gender rhyme or reason " . but I hear you , surely i had gone through hell including jealousy with men but I didn't want to dive into such topics as i was flying high on my self discovery pretty girl outing ! but as I allow her the freedom to express herself i listened . she then goes into telling me the derails on what kind of car he had just bought her.. (side bar : but remember i don't know too much about name brand or high end things, cars shoes, clothes , I'm not saying i haven't ever heard of some things but other things just don't peek my interest and cars are one of those things although i do like Jags they are my fav but the old models .. in other words I'm more of a woman with a taste for ventage class and taste O also enjoy Noir movies black and whites and some westerns lol not modern class and tase been that way since a kid . so whatever she told me i just said oh okay .. i could tell she was bragging and was eager to let me know the make and model of the new car but due to my ignorance i couldn't appease her need to feel important ! my bad lol she went on with her low key interrogations almost felt like i was being put on a min trail , a feeling that the girls in Macy's did not even show a hint of giving me . her whole energy constantly shifted from ... i like her.... but I don't .... i like her but i don't lol . she stood there chatting with me for about 15 min only to say , hmm you remind me of a woman i use to know , " the way you speak and carry yourself" , . I was puzzled because the way this woman spoke of this other woman she "use" to know , was covered up by what seem to be jealousy . she then said......abruptly "besides Perfumes 'what else are you here to get "?'... ( mind you , this all happened before I got my toes done ) so i said .... " . ohh just passing the time before i go in to get a pedi ? and pointed to Nail salon that sat in the corner . by me pointing it gave a clear view of my nails she indeed she saw them, looked back at hers (which were numbs) lol and went into explaining to me why she doesn't wear long nails . but I cut her short and said...."well i get paid for mine" , =) ( by this time I could feel my dark femininity rising up inside of me , hehe ..so yeah i said it with a bit of sass ! .be back with the close . pt 3
hey there pretty girls! ,,,PART 1 this ones gonna be a long one dont know if it will be allowed (fingers crossed ) how did everyone embrace the eclipse hehe ... as for me I decided to spend all day at the mall yesterday pampering myself (or at least trying too ) I went to Chanel for the first time ever ! yes!! and chit chatted with several of the make up girls ! who were btw way pretty girls them selves I even recalled telling one of the girls that if i were only a bit younger id apply for a gig like this ! then one of the pretty girls came from around the corner and said you can still apply i just smiled bashfully and said ..well maybe but first id have to get my teeth fixed , they just smiled back being polite and poised and said you are beautiful , surely these girls were there trying to appease me so that id feel a sense of confidence and actually purchase a perfume , Im in sells myself so i get it ! but any who as i began my quest to find the perfect perfume for me I enplaned to the girls i get migraines and needed something that would not trigger my headaches , So the girls went into action pulling out out several perfumes from Gucci and Marc Jacobs ( i found i didn't seem to like Marc Jacobs to well although i did like the design of the bottle very girly and dainty ! i ended up testing about 7 perfumes lol and i was leaning more towards Guilty Gucci...ohh man what a good smelling perfume!! i also reminded the girls that i was looking for a perfume that was old school but wouldn't make me smell like a old church lady lol .. they just giggled , and being that I'm a Cam Model i knew i wanted something erotic, but classy if that makes sense. sidebar : !yes i told them i was a Cam Model , and to my surprise they actually knew what it was lol they just gave me my props lol and continued to help me . i felt so playful with these girls that were as young as my 25 year old daughter , i even remember feeling a sense of sadness that came over me as i asked myself like why didnt the women in my family ( of who i looked up to and who were pretty too) why did they not teach me these things , any way ,, I ended up trying out both Guilty Gucci on one wrist and Chanel #5 on the other , they were my 2 favs! I totally love Chanel BUT ..wait for it ..... I didn't purchase any them lol and hares why ... the girl said i could walk around in the mall do more shopping , this would give the perfumes time to settle into my skin and see how they combine with my ph balance , I said omg I didn't know i could do that ( in other words these girls were not hard selling me they really did cater to my needs ..it was like this is what happens when SECURE pretty women work together to get a particular job done! I was feeling so happy and pretty and even accepted by this whole experience they did not judge me for not knowing and asking questions and i had LOTS! of questions I was probably high off all the perfumes i had inhaled lol but I even had the audacity to go into a Mac store yes ! didn't buy a thing there either lol BUT i did let the MAC pretty girl help find my perfect shade .i told her too , that was a Cam Model and needed foundation that would last all day without me having to keep re-applying foundation ,as I do sit under lights and online for houuuurrssss lol ( to my surprise she too knew what Cam modeling was and did not judge. she went right in and tested my face to color match my tone , she even gave me a tiny little sample to take home with me to see how it does during my broadcast. another gem I found out was that, make-up changes color once it hits the air and rest on a warm body i was in awe of all the things i learned that day like ooooooo wow .. no wonder i loved science so much in high school ! then wait for it ......... as im winding down my day here comes a NABW who walks up to me as I'm munching on my corn dog and dipping mustard , and says .. hey you are so adorable , as she stared me up and down she flattered me with "false compliments " it almost felt like the same spirit i had dealt with from the women in my family who often gave me backhanded compliments . but as time went on and i allowed this woman to try and alter my good mood , it was clear she did NOT like me , she questioned my style of dress what I was eating , and even compared herself to me as I told her I had just left Macys and was deciding what perfumes to buy , she uttered , whaaatt you didnt buy it ?" i said no . she said guuuuur good cus you must be insane to pay all that money on a bottle of perfume " be back with part 2 ....mhmmm it gets interesting
@@ExoticalsUnited haha I waiting for you to say that ! i was trying to post the close can i paaaleassse ..lmbo! but yes your channel does it to me every time! i was just on the phone with my daughter and mentioned you she was like smh mom get your own page she went on to say ..."Exocticals need to make you have only a 2 paragraph MAXIUM" lol .but I mean well . i actually was thinking of placing my stories on amazon turning them into audio books ??? i swear i got stories for days like the time i dated man with no teeth . lmao! and to make things worse he said he was 46 turn out he was 66! he would get pist off when i watched him eat , but I often wondered why he didnt invest in dentures lol any who and yes I gave him some lol I was down bad lol but thats another story for another day. I love writing. but I I also like sharing because i know Im not the only one who has gone thru it ... its almost like Resee Tesa aint got nothing on me when it comes to my pick meesha days ! nothing worse than a pretty girl whos a pick meesha ! any who ..nuff said . enjoy the rest of your Tuesday Pretty Girl ! 😘🤗
I’ve always suffered insecurity once puberty started and I entered middle school and could talk to boys and then date later on. I’m an endomorph so I was larger than most girls meaning I would never wear a size 6 shoe or dress. The smallest I was was 16 in misses or 14/16 in women’s. My mom and her sisters wore a size 10 shoe and 12-16 in clothes. They were hourglass shaped with big bootys. But to me, the guys were going for the smaller build girls. I’m going to assume I wasn’t pretty in the face for most guys. I was complimented more on my personality once a guy got to know me or chatted with me. I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup, I kept my hair done or wore ponytails with earrings and lipgloss. Unfortunately, the area I live in my peers are vain. You have to wear this label, drive this car, hang with this person, etc. All the women look the same and diverse styles aren’t complimented. I like being different and I like some of the popular styles. I’m 50 now, and I’m still hard on myself. I never get compliments. It sucks. Oh funny you say “staring”. I get that from women and men and I can’t decipher why they’re staring and other times, I’m overlooked or ignored. Good conversation.
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It’s the million mile stares from toddlers & babies for me. I feel like a goddess every time 😌☺️🤣 and my dog! Lol
yes! one time a little girl pointed at me and was like "she looks like a princess!" i was so happy 😂😂😂💅
IT IS SO SWEET
TRUE I do not care about male validation AT ALL from broke, old or/and fat men. ONLY FROM SUCCESSFUL MEN- of any age lol! ❤❤❤
Yes and I have to also be attracted to him in order to care 😂
I’m finally learning this at age 32 😌
Compliments from women are far more superior😭😭🥰I also love it when people tell me I smell good😩likey my day gets better knowing people think I smell good and like my perfume :)
yes! i love when other women compliment me! 😂
Sorry if im wrong but aren't compliments from men more truthful because they would never tell an ugly girl that she's pretty unless their like your father or something?
@@princessaroyale keep in mind that there’s a lot of men who will fuck anything warm with a hole💀💀💀so how seriously can we really take their compliments? Women tend to put a lot more detail into their looks on average and are sometimes the harshest critics. So if a woman compliments me I feel like it holds more weight.
experiences with jealous men:
one time me and this guy were talking. i forgot what about, but likely style, as he would always compliment my outfits. but we were talking about something fashion related and out of the blue he said “yeah but white toes are overdone.” i look down. i’m wearing flip flops and white nail polish. and i just agreed with him bc i honestly was on the same page. i only chose the color bc i did my nails last minute and i didn’t like any other polishes i had and white toes is a trusty old faithful. but him trying to knock me down a peg by telling me my *nail polish* is too basic was insane 😭
i also had a male boss who was lowkey giving the vibes that he wanted me and seeking my validation but at the same time would micromanage me and making my job a living hell by forcing me to do all the jobs i hated. other bosses would work with my strengths and preferences, but he would put me in the most undesirable positions then be mad when i wasn’t excelling like when i was allowed to do what i’m good at. he constantly called me out and expected more out of me than everyone else. i ended up quitting bc he was always doing too much, but i could see how satisfied he was that he finally got to me.
i’ve also experienced a lot of negging and social sabotage without realizing it when i was younger.
compliments from children + teens are superior. they always make my day 💞
edit: 35:47 i’d love this. i have all brothers but i have a lot of younger girl cousins i want to get closer to by doing girly stuff and makeovers like i did with my aunts and cousins as a kid. those were a lot of my favorite childhood memories. 🩷
@@leachanel1204 thank you 🥺🩷 you’re so sweet
@@leachanel1204 🩷🩷🩷
It’s sad I still struggle to see myself as beautiful and feel confused when a random person tells me I’m pretty. I’ve even gotten compliments on my gapped teeth (which I find strange) but hey I’ll take that compliment.
This!
I was walking around this summer and my hair was looking super light and blonde bc of the sun and these two preteen dsbg stopped me and were like "omg your hair's so pretty!". They must have been about ten or eleven so it was a really nice, sincere compliment.
I remember there was a time I bleached my hair blonde and i looked so pretty people and kids would just stare at me. I once caught a little girl talking to her older brother of how pretty I was 🥹that made my day!! Some other day I remember I went to a bakery and this little kid started at me with in aww I was so flattered
Awwwww ! 😍
Angry stares are soooo real from old, fat, women & men who know I wouldn’t look their way unless the man was rich & respectful
Me and my daughter were walking the other day and when went past a group of three women my daughter said they were throwing us some right mucky looks. I avoid making eye contact with women like that their the type who wanna fight you cos your pretty to mess up your face lol.
i think it’s also key to OWN ur beauty and not think about it too much. i used to go out get dolled up because i wanted men to come up to me and they didn’t. now i get dressed up i’ve had women come up to me out of the blue telling me i look like a model, i’ve had men ask if im married, the other day a man stopped his car just to say i made his day walking down the street coming from WORK LOL! i also get more compliments with my hair down always, and always whenever i feel good usually. inside = outside
Exactly . I think if people go out only with the intention of some man coming up to them, their self esteem will actually go DOWN if it doesn’t happen. It should always be about how the woman feels on the inside first and foremost
Reminds me of this time this guy cat called me driving down the street and had the nerve to turn around trying to get my attention trying to drive through construction and traffic. Was so strange and freaked me out bc I didn’t want him stalking me.
lol men hate when women act like them! So many absolutely rank guys think they’re 10s but when women even hold ourselves with confidence there’s always some creep trying to humble us.
I was in a restroom once and a little girl saw me and exclaimed, “Wow, she’s pretty!” Her friend said, “All girls are pretty.” And she retorted “Yeah, but she’s GORGEOUS!”
It made my day and I told her that!
For the last 15 years or so I’ve been in hiding. I’m a self employed artist and usually wait until I do an art show to get dolled up. Many people don’t recognize me if they know me from everyday life. 😂
But now I want to claim my beauty for myself and see how it can further me along. I also act and have made some short films of my own. Seeing myself on screen gave me an idea of what I’d like to address, such as facial volume, skin texture, and overall fitness.
I used to model but back in the ‘90s there wasn’t a demand for darker skinned models.
I’m Native American BTW. And now there’s way more Native cinema and such. Even though I’m no spring chicken I want to put myself out there anyways.
Love your content! Ahe’hee. ❤
Same here .. I would also have these same ideas for content in hopes I can collaborate with link minded ppl
Everywhere I go, I get men's attention (smiles, compliments, chasing). And side eyes or bad looks from women.
For a long time, I was hidding / shrinking myself, especially because of my mother who would get out of her way to hide me (or protect me?).
Now that I'm far away from her, I enjoy my femininity, enjoy myself. But I also protect myself : men would go out of their ways to get my attention, sometimes, it becomes overwhelming/ aggressive. And women are literally violent and don't hide their jealousy.
So you gotta be careful.
Also you gotta protect yourself from your surroundings: your own BF or husband can be the reason why you don't evolve and he can want to sabotage your life/ beauty / career to keep you to himself.
Many men are drown to you to nurture themselves and benefit from your beauty, kindness, grace, attention and it can be draining as well.
Beauty priviledge is a sort of power you gotta protect at all costs and move smoothly.
Last but not the least: a good way to see if your surroundings are good to you is to see if your beauty glows / thrives around them or it fades away.
So true. Just like money or any other social capital.
I love the last line❤ I'll pin It somewhere
One of the best compliments i received was from an ex boyfriends mother lol while running into the store, i ran into an ex's sister and mother. I was catching up with the sister and all of sudden she was like "my mom asked who you were, cause she thought you were so gorgeous and should date her son". Little did she know, i been there done that, aint going back. His loss 😂😂
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The other day I had on some simple black booty shorts and a v neck in Home Depot. Just running an errand with my boyfriend. The exotical cashier said “okay Barbie!!!” And I was so flattered lol. Best compliment I’ve gotten in a while.
Aw ❤️❤️❤️❤️ yes ! Compliments from women and teenagers make me feel more special like I’m in style or something 😂
Booty shorts in home Depot where married men shop at. You must was looking for attention.
@@angieang26 It's not a woman's job to police our clothing just because married m¤les may be around. A m¤n's self-control and loyalty to his wife is his own perogative and his own responsibility. Furthermore, she literally said that she was WITH HER OWN BOYFRIEND. Why wouldn't you assume that she was wearing the booty shorts for her own m¤n's gaze as opposed to a bunch of other women's husband? This is just another problem that pretty women encounter on a daily basis. We're constantly being blamed or made to be responsible for men's desires when we are simply just living our life. Like damn, can't we just live?!😅
@@sophiam9886 yes y'all can live but why wear booty shorts in public.
@angieangiel2666 Clearly, you're just here to disagree and gaslight because I already answered your question in the exact comment you are responding to. Beautiful women are NOT obligated to dress-up or dress-down for other women's husbands. ALL M€N are responsible for their own actions and they should be able to exercise self control. It's not that difficult.🙄 Don't come over here trying to police other women. You don't like booty shorts, don't wear them. Simple.🤷♀️ Also, the woman we're referring to was WITH HER OWN MAN. Your apparent jealousy is causing you to suffer from cognitive dissonance, sweetheart.😏
Unambiguous black gal here. Unambiguous and loving it.
I think the best compliment i got was from an Asian lady, like she was fresh off the boat because she had a thick accent. It was at Walgreens and she kind of followed me around a corner to tell me i was beautiful and elegant. It really meant a lot because im darker and physically bigger than the typical Asian aesthetic (I'm not "plus size," I'm thick/slim thick by black standards).
Once this older Asian man with a thick accent told me i was beautiful, and i was overweight at the time.
This could be because I do always wear dresses and dress feminine, and have a doll-ish look. Big eyes, short stature and super super clear skin. I think subconsciously I try to dress doll like to tone down my "sexy body."
Aw that’s cute
As a 17 year old light brown girl this channel is amazing and made me feel better about myself and not hate myself like i use to.in the past i struggled with my confidence and how i felt about how i looked.but what made me realize i wans't ugly was when older adults would compliment me and say i was very pretty it made me feel better or random kids would just stare and smile at me.but on this journey to self love i realized alot and i except myself for who i am .❤
Ive been doing more of a dolly style makeup with like rosy red cheeks and a Mexican man whistled at me at work😂
8:39 Exactly! Appreciation for our own attractiveness doesn't automatically mean we think that we are better. Thank you for another great video. ❤
I really love the growth mindset from this 😭 😭
I honestly thought that pretty privilege was only men complimenting you. I dont really pay attention to kids that much but now i will.
For me, compliments from people of diffrent upbringings hit different since they probably have a different idea of what is beautiful.
I remember the other day I decided to walk the long way to my street and an Indian Man went out of his way to tell me 'good afternoon'. I know its not a compliment but they typically keep to their own race here in Guyana
I’m the “but you have such a pretty face” girlie so I’ve been afforded pretty privilege to an extent. I’m notorious for gaining weight in relationships but now that I’ve decentralized men (thanks to channels like yours) I am fully focusing on weight loss and fitness because why not? Now that I’m not focused on some dude why not be the total package for myself and cash in on all the privileges?
Definitely my main one is healthy hair. Trying to gain back my physical health again tho, I’m a pcos girly (iykyk) .
Nettle tea supposedly helps w that
This is another great video & perspective. I listen when cleaning up my house & it’s always refreshing to hear content that advances women’s lives rather than all this other low vibrational content. Furthermore, I love it because as a wife & working professional - I’ve been fortunate that it’s been a plus in my career and in dating my husband prior to marriage. It’s a good reminder to amplify your pretty privilege and pick it up if it ever gets forgotten. I’m learning that myself.
When I was a little girl about 8 years old, there were two girls at my church that o wanted to befriend but as soon as I talked to them they started making fun of me and my outfits. My mom would make my clothes so obviously I had a quite different style. But years later I saw the girls again and the older one had an outfit similar to mine and my same hairstyle, back then I had long straight hair, bangs and my hair is naturally black. They were blonde, but that last time I saw her she had that same haircut and hair color. It was crazy, all those years of bullying from those girls and it just turns out they were just jealous of me
Bullies are something else, they hate the creativity they envy😪
The red dress and matching hair accesory , an elegant combo💃🏼❤
It's good you didn't give up on style because of them💅🏼
@@dearbrave4183 thank you darling ✨🤎
I think kids and teens find me ugly. Usually, it is older people who find me attractive.
That’s still a compliment ! Most people go through life invisible 🫥
@ExoticalsUnited Very true. It's just a little "odd" to me. I had a student who would keep telling me I had a big nose. It was very annoying and hurtful.
@@aisnow5788I was bullied in school and girls bully when there’s something they are jealous of plus something they know they can pick on.
Ask them why they would be so ugly in behavior
That's very honest and I appreciate you sharing that. I bet the kids and teens have no clue about what "beauty" is. Mature people appreciate true beauty.
I think it may be the same for me. I usually get older people compliment my beauty(i’m more so a cute/ classic style). People my age (early 20’s) just find me cute but guys seem to like it 🤷🏾♀️
I love classic beauty, so compliments from elderly people are nice.
Every video I watch on your channel is so insightful and opens up a different way of thinking that definitely challenges my own internal biases but also expands my mind in to “this is how I can choose to see myself instead”
Thank you for making these and having these conversations!
I love when other people pay my way, weather that me in line, cash apps from friends both male and female, or someone originally going to charge me but gave me whatever for free or discounted instead. Getting out of trouble, tickets or into ticketed events for free. Being taken out by my friends and them paying. I get to cut line. The male gaze.
Yes ! Even older women have been nice to me (non jealous, nice women )
I love this video, particularly when you briefly spoke on losing pretty privilege. I would love you to do a video about losing and gaining back pretty privilege.
There are moments that I feel like should be a sign that I’m considered attractive but I feel kinda average looking. That’s why I just choose not to worry about attention or what attention I get (especially from men). If you like me you like me. I feel like I’ll tire myself out trying to read the signs.
I also have a hard time believing women’s compliments bc sometimes it feels like an obligation bc an insecure person makes people uncomfortable. I think most are genuine though but that’s my own distorted view of reality.
Aww look who it is on the thumbnail🤩
Right?? She’s glowing!
Who is that?🤍
@@Loveiskindloveiskind a baddie in her ✨pretty privilege ✨bag!
@@Loveiskindloveiskind one of the subscribers😊
I thought that was her! Looking gorgeous!
I love the kawaii aesthetic too😝💞
hey Pretty Girls ..before I continue sweet thank you to Exocticals who have given us girls the space to express ourselves! I will always honor and give credit to the First lady of the Pretty Girl club !
PT 2 The NABW tries to brag about her good thang... Monday April 8th
I then asked ..... trying to shift the energy back on to her > " well what brings you to the mall on this eclipse Monday she then says .. gurlllll to buy some perfume for my daughter she then shows me a picture of the perfume , (its Carolina H the perfume with heel for the bottle design) , i tell her ohhh nice " how much does it cot she says..... gurrrrrrr about 150 .. i said wow !
but then I thought to myself wait ... why am I insane for spending that much on perfume for MYSELF but she's not ?? hmmm that's odd. I even went in to say ..
"that's very kind of you. I have a daughter too and I was just looking at those diamond necklaces over in that shop ", thinking about buying my daughter a diamond necklace ( which I was ) but I know my daughter would just be like mommmm ..... save your money " she then whips out her phone and shows me her daughter i was almost tempted to do the same. her daughter was beautiful but also appeared to be a bit mixed , guess she had to show me that she could make pretty babies too. but then i didn't show off my daughters IG although I did show the girls in Macys .. hmm go figure.
in fact i show off my children all the time but in this instance i stayed reserved . she them went on to ask if i were married . i said no divorced , she asked why .. i just giggled . and said why not . lol she went on to show me her fiancé mind you her fiancé was handsome and i did say so he was also Latino , as she was darker skinned woman , attractive but not in the pretty girl privilege kind of way (if you will ) i asked her what made her divest she said i just choose who ever choses me .. i said hmmmm... she went on " If they like me i like them ", she then jumps back to ,
"you should be married " - , i said um no thank you . as time went on in the conversation she began to reveal more details about how controlling her finance had been over the car he just bought her , she went on to say how hed get in the car and start nick picking on her and pressing her about making sure she was putting enough gas or the cleanliness of the car ,she went on to detail his other controlling behaviors he had , and that she stated how she assumed he was jealous of her . and asked me if had experienced men being jealous of me , i simply answered by saying..
" jealousy has no gender rhyme or reason " . but I hear you , surely i had gone through hell including jealousy with men but I didn't want to dive into such topics as i was flying high on my self discovery pretty girl outing ! but as I allow her the freedom to express herself i listened . she then goes into telling me the derails on what kind of car he had just bought her..
(side bar : but remember i don't know too much about name brand or high end things, cars shoes, clothes , I'm not saying i haven't ever heard of some things but other things just don't peek my interest and cars are one of those things although i do like Jags they are my fav but the old models .. in other words I'm more of a woman with a taste for ventage class and taste O also enjoy Noir movies black and whites and some westerns lol not modern class and tase been that way since a kid . so whatever she told me i just said oh okay .. i could tell she was bragging and was eager to let me know the make and model of the new car but due to my ignorance i couldn't appease her need to feel important ! my bad lol
she went on with her low key interrogations almost felt like i was being put on a min trail , a feeling that the girls in Macy's did not even show a hint of giving me . her whole energy constantly shifted from ... i like her.... but I don't .... i like her but i don't lol .
she stood there chatting with me for about 15 min only to say , hmm you remind me of a woman i use to know , " the way you speak and carry yourself" , .
I was puzzled because the way this woman spoke of this other woman she "use" to know , was covered up by what seem to be jealousy . she then said......abruptly
"besides Perfumes 'what else are you here to get "?'... ( mind you , this all happened before I got my toes done ) so i said ....
" . ohh just passing the time before i go in to get a pedi ? and pointed to Nail salon that sat in the corner . by me pointing it gave a clear view of my nails she indeed she saw them, looked back at hers (which were numbs) lol and went into explaining to me why she doesn't wear long nails . but I cut her short and said...."well i get paid for mine" , =) ( by this time I could feel my dark femininity rising up inside of me , hehe ..so yeah i said it with a bit of sass !
.be back with the close . pt 3
Cross-cultural appeal is something I could listen to you talk about for hours.
Oooooweeeee you are getting to it THANK YOU!
I literally thought it's only measured by what you can get for free from people,specifically men.
Yeah some women have a male centered view of pretty privilege but it can be used in other ways besides just dating
hey there pretty girls! ,,,PART 1 this ones gonna be a long one dont know if it will be allowed (fingers crossed ) how did everyone embrace the eclipse hehe ... as for me I decided to spend all day at the mall yesterday pampering myself (or at least trying too ) I went to Chanel for the first time ever ! yes!! and chit chatted with several of the make up girls ! who were btw way pretty girls them selves I even recalled telling one of the girls that if i were only a bit younger id apply for a gig like this ! then one of the pretty girls came from around the corner and said you can still apply i just smiled bashfully and said ..well maybe but first id have to get my teeth fixed , they just smiled back being polite and poised and said you are beautiful , surely these girls were there trying to appease me so that id feel a sense of confidence and actually purchase a perfume , Im in sells myself so i get it ! but any who as i began my quest to find the perfect perfume for me I enplaned to the girls i get migraines and needed something that would not trigger my headaches ,
So the girls went into action pulling out out several perfumes from Gucci and Marc Jacobs ( i found i didn't seem to like Marc Jacobs to well although i did like the design of the bottle very girly and dainty ! i ended up testing about 7 perfumes lol and i was leaning more towards Guilty Gucci...ohh man what a good smelling perfume!! i also reminded the girls that i was looking for a perfume that was old school but wouldn't make me smell like a old church lady lol .. they just giggled , and being that I'm a Cam Model i knew i wanted something erotic, but classy if that makes sense.
sidebar : !yes i told them i was a Cam Model , and to my surprise they actually knew what it was lol they just gave me my props lol and continued to help me . i felt so playful with these girls that were as young as my 25 year old daughter , i even remember feeling a sense of sadness that came over me as i asked myself like why didnt the women in my family ( of who i looked up to and who were pretty too) why did they not teach me these things , any way ,, I ended up trying out both Guilty Gucci on one wrist and Chanel #5 on the other , they were my 2 favs! I totally love Chanel BUT ..wait for it ..... I didn't purchase any them lol and hares why ... the girl said i could walk around in the mall do more shopping , this would give the perfumes time to settle into my skin and see how they combine with my ph balance , I said omg I didn't know i could do that ( in other words these girls were not hard selling me they really did cater to my needs ..it was like this is what happens when SECURE pretty women work together to get a particular job done!
I was feeling so happy and pretty and even accepted by this whole experience they did not judge me for not knowing and asking questions and i had LOTS! of questions I was probably high off all the perfumes i had inhaled lol but I even had the audacity to go into a Mac store yes ! didn't buy a thing there either lol BUT i did let the MAC pretty girl help find my perfect shade .i told her too , that was a Cam Model and needed foundation that would last all day without me having to keep re-applying foundation ,as I do sit under lights and online for houuuurrssss lol ( to my surprise she too knew what Cam modeling was and did not judge. she went right in and tested my face to color match my tone , she even gave me a tiny little sample to take home with me to see how it does during my broadcast. another gem I found out was that, make-up changes color once it hits the air and rest on a warm body i was in awe of all the things i learned that day like ooooooo wow .. no wonder i loved science so much in high school ! then wait for it .........
as im winding down my day here comes a NABW who walks up to me as I'm munching on my corn dog and dipping mustard , and says .. hey you are so adorable , as she stared me up and down she flattered me with "false compliments " it almost felt like the same spirit i had dealt with from the women in my family who often gave me backhanded compliments . but as time went on and i allowed this woman to try and alter my good mood , it was clear she did NOT like me , she questioned my style of dress what I was eating , and even compared herself to me as I told her I had just left Macys and was deciding what perfumes to buy , she uttered , whaaatt you didnt buy it ?" i said no . she said guuuuur good cus you must be insane to pay all that money on a bottle of perfume "
be back with part 2 ....mhmmm it gets interesting
girl i hope you tell storytimes on yout channel!
@@ExoticalsUnited haha I waiting for you to say that ! i was trying to post the close can i paaaleassse ..lmbo! but yes your channel does it to me every time! i was just on the phone with my daughter and mentioned you she was like smh mom get your own page she went on to say ..."Exocticals need to make you have only a 2 paragraph MAXIUM" lol .but I mean well . i actually was thinking of placing my stories on amazon turning them into audio books ??? i swear i got stories for days like the time i dated man with no teeth . lmao! and to make things worse he said he was 46 turn out he was 66! he would get pist off when i watched him eat , but I often wondered why he didnt invest in dentures lol any who and yes I gave him some lol I was down bad lol but thats another story for another day.
I love writing. but I I also like sharing because i know Im not the only one who has gone thru it ... its almost like Resee Tesa aint got nothing on me when it comes to my pick meesha days ! nothing worse than a pretty girl whos a pick meesha ! any who ..nuff said .
enjoy the rest of your Tuesday Pretty Girl ! 😘🤗
Wow interesting I always wondered why kids & old ppl loved me makes sense now😂😂😂
000 😂 I found myself pretty but I am the only one. At least I am not running after other people approval
THIS🎤🎤🎤💯💯💯🎯🎯🎯🙏🙏🙏!
Another great session!❤💯✍🏼
I’ve always suffered insecurity once puberty started and I entered middle school and could talk to boys and then date later on. I’m an endomorph so I was larger than most girls meaning I would never wear a size 6 shoe or dress. The smallest I was was 16 in misses or 14/16 in women’s. My mom and her sisters wore a size 10 shoe and 12-16 in clothes. They were hourglass shaped with big bootys. But to me, the guys were going for the smaller build girls. I’m going to assume I wasn’t pretty in the face for most guys. I was complimented more on my personality once a guy got to know me or chatted with me. I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup, I kept my hair done or wore ponytails with earrings and lipgloss. Unfortunately, the area I live in my peers are vain. You have to wear this label, drive this car, hang with this person, etc. All the women look the same and diverse styles aren’t complimented. I like being different and I like some of the popular styles. I’m 50 now, and I’m still hard on myself. I never get compliments. It sucks. Oh funny you say “staring”. I get that from women and men and I can’t decipher why they’re staring and other times, I’m overlooked or ignored. Good conversation.
É deste lado do youtube que quero ficar ☺🤩
❤Great❤