I don't think that you should loose sight of the fact in the last 2 years you've moved continents therefore dealing with a new language, culture, government (visas, rules, immigration taxes, etc.), got married, had a baby and are now renovating your home ... all during an unprecedented global pandemic. Any one of those things by themselves puts pressure on marriages and relationships. Remember to give yourselves grace and ride the wave. I think our generation is so caught up with trying to fix everything that we forget to just ride the wave of a rough time and understand it will pass.
Such mature and insightful commentary. I heard an interview with Antonio Banderas (sp?) once. He said that love in martial relationships are like waves at the beach ....they recede but if you're patient they return
Well said. Also hormone levels are still kind of all over the place even post-partum. Trying to be reasonable and rational during this time takes a lot more effort.
Beautifully said! I am so proud of Maya and Max and I love that you guys are real, Maya !you have thought me so much as a woman over 40 and Max! You are leading your family. 🙏🏾🪞🤎
Marrying and having a child after having years of single adult life requires patience and understanding that previous personal freedom is no longer. Being mindful of the source of one's discontent and grateful for the new love and life you share will see you through.
Excuse me but ummm.....CAN WE NORMALIZE IT BEING OKAY TO HAVE ISSUES EVEN WITHIN A MARRIAGE so that people don't feel like they are failing or not good enough etc.....I love this all of this - THIS IS REAL!!! and thanks for being so damn transparent this will help others whether married or not!....SENDING LOVE HUGS AND SOME GOOD ENERGY ALL THE WAY TO SWEDEN~
After I had my baby, something triggered in me to see my partner at the time differently. It caused separation and to be honest a yearning to leave him. But it happens to so many women as our mother senses grow. I had to learn to extend grace to myself and to him. If I could say anything, find the joy... find the love... and remember why you chose one another. Children will bring out all of your childhood trauma and everything you run away from. Speak with your inner child and let them know that they are safe... because that's what is at the root. Without knowing it, you may be acting out what you've seen as children. Know that it's okay to take a breath, live life on your own terms together and use your love to heal each other where you hurt. I wish you love and happiness eternally.
I'm glad to see that you both are working on yourself and in the union. Marriage is continual work. Ensure to make time for yourself as well. Much love.
Ya’ll are a beautiful couple and very self aware which is so important. Marriage is continual work from both people in the union and things drastically change when children come along. I think there is still a stigma around couples counseling and counseling in general that needs to be broken. There’s nothing wrong with counseling, going to see a therapist doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you care. Athletes have no shame in having a coach so why should there shame in having a coach in life and marriage? Coaching strengthens you. I also think its important to go during the good times too, even when you don’t think you need it. I honestly think everybody should do couples counseling before they get married I also like that technique of saying to your partner why your hurt and having to repeat it back to you because so often people only hear what they want to hear to further fuel an argument, rather than listen to understand and mend things. Feeling heard and valued is such an important element in a relationship for both men and women. I think people will get a lot from this video and you guys being so open. Ya’ll got this. Much love to the family ❤️
One thing that has really stood out to me in this video, is that from the moment Maya started to get teary eyed and Express her emotions, Max immediately caressed Maya's back. This may seem minor to some, but it hugely represents a divine connection between two people. Thank you for sharing your real and raw experiences. It's not easy but will get better for you individually, as a couple and as a family!
Aww bless you guys! Isn’t being a human crazy? God is amazing, and he allows us to grow appropriately at his perfect timing in our lives. You guys clearly love one another and it’s so beautiful to see how you guys are growing together. ❤️❤️❤️
Listen! My husband and I were so in love until the baby came. It changed everything for me and him too, I imagine. Babies change so much…the roles change and women change so much after children….and hormone changes. It’s a lot. I get it. But if you can make it through this challenging stage, it gets better. You two seem very committed to the your family unit that I believe it’s possible for you. Marriage and children are not easy and doing it in a foreign country away from family and friends just makes it so much harder. Love and blessings to you both as you navigate your way.
Aww, I think Saga witnessing good conflict resolutions examples is better than no conflict at all! Conflict, being angry is part of life and she will know that as well, and best you hope she got conflict resolutions and communications skills from you guys xx
As a mom of three, now 19,18 and 11, I am resonating with Maya’s emotions. This was me right after having my kids... especially the first child. After becoming a mom, I instantly had a whole new set of expectations for my partner. Grateful for my kids. Grateful for being able to make a living painting. Grateful for my home. Grateful for food. Grateful for water. Life is just so magical. Thank you Creator!
Thank you for sharing! I’ve learned so much from you two, and I’m grateful for that! Some things I’ve learned from you guys are: 1. Don’t let gender roles define you, and instead find a partner that provides what YOU need. 2. Keep growing and learning 3. Preventative therapy is wonderful, helpful, and not a sign of failure AT ALL 4. It’s okay to take time and space for yourself 5. Be shameless and put yourself out there 😉
I also realized when you see couples that make it many years, die together when their elderly, most people don't think a MAJOR accomplishment to marriage is they made it through this stage. We seem to always think of i.e. the "10 year mark" when marriages seem to get stale and people question their life w/out the other person, which leads to divorce. We need to hear more of how a new addition can break marriages as well. And that it takes strength and commitment to go through this phase what you two are going through. I hope you both make it and pray through it, God Bless
Tbh, it IS well known that the birth of a baby is a major pressure point in marriage. But I don't see that much advice on how to deal with it. And isolation may also be a thing for a new mother as well.
One thing no one told me about being a parent was how hard it is to hold your tongue when your child is around. Before kids, you could just argue with your spouse and then make up after, but now with a baby, we know we shouldn’t fight infront of him but it’s so hard! When emotions are high, it’s so easy to forget there’s a child there watching and absorbing what you are saying and how you are acting. And to you, you were behaving in the heat of the moment etc., but to the child, they are watching mommy and daddy fight and the last thing you want is your child to see any kind of negativity coming from you. It takes so much self control to be respectful to your partner infront of your child regardless of how you feel in the moment and man that is hard work!!!!! Self restraint is hard-freaking-work. I currently have a 6 month old and I am trying to learn this but it is hard. Solidarity to you guys💕
The vast majority of social media can have people out here thinking that if your relationship doesn't feel like a bubbly Sunday brunch every single day that there's something wrong with you or with your partner. Meanwhile the reality is all relationships have their gnarly bits and take work. Thank you for sharing the real ish!
It gets better...I mean like WAY BETTER. Something about the age that Saga is right now + working from home + the industry we work in...it brings out the crazy in us! Our boy is now going on 2 years old and it's SIGNIFICANTLY DIFFERENT! There's more margin in our brains it feels. I started to feel that margin around 1.5 years!
Diversify your income. Selling the details of your life online for currency sucks. Sharing the intimate details of your personal life for money isn’t worth it. Don’t get sucked into trading your personal intimacy for dollars.
When you put God first, everything does and will come into form. God’s way of doing things especially in marriage is all over the Bible. You’re dealing with two different people, different upbringings, different opinions sometimes and you need something outside of you to tell you what’s RIGHT. For me that’s God. It’s unfortunate a lot of people stray away from God and they don’t survive because they’d rather take it on themselves. Not saying Maya particularly but in general. The divorce rates are HIGH. The times were in are stressful, add a child to that too? We all need God I’ll be the few to say it ❤️
You both don't have to share the intimate details of your life and struggles, but I am so grateful that you do. I am incredibly grateful for the realness of the ups and downs of life in love. Don't worry Saga feels the love, because we can see it.
🥺 oh Maya when you were talking and crying about all the responsibilities as a mom and wife made me teary eyed because I felt the same when I became a mother. As new parents, there is just so much going on with everything. Moms need space, dads need space and even babies will too eventually. Therapy is always a great help. And having solo activities helps too. Max , what you say is true about going through difficult times. You are both going to be stronger than before :) Thank you for your great videos :)
I think you’ve both had an immense amount of transition, especially Maya. Someone who’s been able to just move & go as you please for so long, trust me, I get it. Give yourselves some grace… it’s a LOT that has changed in your lives. From being solo & free to having so many responsibilities absolutely makes a person feel restrained; & that’s not a good feeling for free spirited ppl. Your still & always an individual 1st & STILL deserve to have space just for you. I hope you find balance in it all🙏🏽 From one “runner” to another, I totally get it! xoxo
Maya- You are such a pure spirit. Be patient with yourself. It is so important to be selfish at times with yourself- doing things YOU enjoy doing. I remember becoming a mom and seeking out ways to feed myself with things that brought me joy- even as small as taking a dance class, going to a coffee shop and enjoying a cup of coffee, talking and laughing with friends, journaling/praying. I am a Taurus-so I understand the need to go for a walk and connect with nature when you’re heated- because we can really get heated..lol. Take care…
Don’t give up. Even when you are at your worst, they’re, or y’all are burnt out. Marriage is ebb and flow. Good and tough times. It always gets stronger and WAY better if you stick with it and grow together. Y’all got this!!
Didn’t know how much I needed this. The video and the comments. Gave birth about two years ago and wonder if we will ever get back to what we were. I lean into the love but it is hard
I never leave comments and do realise this was shared over a year ago but deeply appreciate this honest openness about your struggles; showing that no relationship (none at all!) is purrfect but above all, I pray that you both work out and grey out together for real! There's a genuine vibe and love between you two and gosh, do I pray to God that he keeps you both forever! amen!!!!
👍🙏I have a suggestion: you guys grew your love over the phone & away from each other. Separate into separate rooms or one goes for a walk or one stays inside and one goes outside then call each other on the phone AND TALK it through. Listening and restating / mirroring is important but more than what you say or do it’s how you make each other feel. 💝
Thank you for addressing the "romanticism" of having children. So many mothers do not admit this to themselves. These couples look so miserable and are not proactive by going to couple's therapy.
First, thank you for your raw honesty. You are literally in the trenches right now. I relate so much to you, because I too live in Europe and am from North America. It was tough, building a new community of my own and adjusting to marriage and kids so far away from family in a really different culture. I wish you all (Saga included), peace and clarity as you live out your vision of who you want to be as a family and as a couple. Lots of love and positive vibes to both of you.
Boy, you two are so honest and I am tearing up because boy, can I relate! As a brand new mama to my 6 month old daughter; me and my partner have had similar issues and arguments. And when it happens in front of my daughter, it breaks my heart. But at the same time, there’s so little time alone (if none some days), that it’s really not easy 🥺. We can only do our best as parents and have grace for ourselves in difficult transitions. It’s NOT easy at all 😥
Completely besides the point but Maya, I LOVE your hair! I always say I'ma act right and braid mine so it'll be a non issue for a few days but get distracted with how much time it takes and say forget it! LOL. Love it!
Aww babe🥺, you guys will turn a corner, especially you Maya, you have completely done a 360, you have moved to other side of the world to have mostly every girls dream ‘a family’ but not only are you a first time amazing mum, your having to adjust to a loving new husband, a new country, a new language, home renovations, body changes, super sensitive and emosh because of the hormones trying be regulated, you tube and no me time, not to mention you guys not having space as a family and your staying with Max’s supportive sister and your doing this ALL without your ‘SUPPORT SYSTEM’ ie: family/friends etc - Sssssheeesh! Babe you should be so proud of yourself honestly hun real talk! You have sacrificed a whole lot. I’am so impressed that Max suggested for a professional this shows true strength because that takes guts. Guys you will ride this wave as you are ‘trying’ and that’s all that matters. Sending big love from London 🇬🇧
I haven’t finished watching yet but had to pause to comment (I don’t usually comment) a huge thank you for being so open about the realities of marriage not being perfect. You guys are amazing and wonderful and hope you know how much you’re impacting others with your sharing❤️❤️❤️
The transparency and authenticity is everything ☺️ I think that’s why many of us love and appreciate when y’all make videos like this as well. Because we are always bombarded with mostly highlights and the positive sides of marriages, relationships, and motherhood on social media. Not many (esp couples) dive into the nitty gritty of the parts that tend to be more realistic and uncomfortable to share and experience. That’s the “shameless” impact that we still see and love; always being genuine and real regardless of what stage of life you’re in. But of course, we still love seeing you all progress and flourish as well despite the human/humbling parts of life that comes behind the scenes 😊💕
I completely understand where you two are coming from. I am also 40 with a 2 month old. This is our first child and my husband and I are constantly bickering. We finally had a heart to heart about our needs and it’s starting to get better. Every marriage has its challenges and I am happy you guys are working through it. Thank you for sharing.
I love how authentic you are as a couple. So many times couples present a perfect picture online then break up seemingly out of nowhere. I appreciate your journey and your imperfections. I love that you're not only discussing the problems but also talking about how you're working through them and the constant effort that goes into that process.
This is the most relatable video I've ever watched in my life so far. Currently going through this struggle as a wife and first time mother. We decided to seek counseling.
I love hearing about how you keep your marriage fresh and vibrant! I am here for love! There is always going to be challenges in marriage. Just keep on it, love, share and encourage each other. Rooting for you both!!!
This was the most beautiful video Ever to watch. To see the transparency and vulnerability is beyond measure. It would be nice to see the family doing content on things you love doing around the castle. I love this channel and it gets better with. Stay Strong Power Couple!!
👍🙏😭💝Everything WILL be okay. Keep talking through it. It’s when couples stop talking that the marriage is over. Remember to see each other as your friend and most loved dear one…when you think like that you let the ego go, you don’t want to hurt each other. Remember you’re not truing to win at the risk of losing each other and your marriage. Ask yourself what it costs you to “get your way” or “win an argument”? You guys are together 24/7/365 you have to do one or two things separately. I love you guys & I’m hoping and praying your marriage will be filled with love and last a lifetime. 🙏😭💝💖
Being young parents is very difficult and on top of that Maya is in foreign country learning a new language! That’s a lot!! I’m so happy you got help!! Thank you for sharing and your honesty! 💚🌿🌷
Aw, maya is so sweet. Like how deeply they want to protect that little girl, that’s a beautiful thing to share. As well as the care they have for one another. And the desire to keep holding space even in challenging moments. Life can be so hard and I can’t imagine how much more so with a kid. You guys are doing great.
I recommend Gottman Institue and or Esther Perel. I do not agree with everything but so much is put so well that you can grasp the main points. Does not replace a GOOD couples therapy of course. I can tell you Max, I want therapy before I get married to my bae because I see that we have unresolved childhood trauma that will come up. Better to be prematurly there than too late.
Omg! This is so healthy and wholesome! Saga is so lucky to have you guys as parents and I'm sure you guys feel the same about your baby girl. It's refreshing to see the both of you being transparent, being a team, and showing consistent growth. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're inspiring.
Although there are some couples that describe their relationship as “Easy” I think the hard conversations are helpful to earning a different level of love, respect and dedication to each other. Thank you for being honest. Wishing you all nothing but the best for every twist and turn life sends you. 🖤
Thanks for being so open and honest. I'm newly married, just a little over 1 year. It hasn't been easy and we haven't had children yet. Love from Jamaica 🇯🇲 ❤️
Y’all are so sweet 🥲 I’m crying with you Maya 😂🥲 I have 4 kids and it is beyond what I imagined in the best way but i come very very very last. I’m encouraged by you two and pray that you grow to get a hang of this thing called life and the new normal. Saga is blessed to have you both 💕 as long as we try to do better for them and yourselves it’ll all work out. Your hair is so pretty Maya and Max you are such a great guy ☺️I’m so happy you have found each other and choose to share with us your amazing life 😊🙏🏽💕
These conversations between couples, new parents are so important!!! Feeling stressed or frustrated is completely normal and being able to discuss it with one another is key! I love these real topics that Maya and Max discuss!!! Thankful for you guys, Saga is lucky to have you guys as parents! ❤
I LOVE yawl relationship! We aren't perfect, but you two seem perfect for one another. I love that you both are open to change. That's what I seek within a partner.
Maya, you have a good man who truly loves you and loves this family. It is so clear from this video that he is so deeply committed to you and that you are more inclined to walking away from it. Don’t lose your family based on temporary emotions and ego. Family and love is the greatest currency in the world, and u got that right here so hold on tight to it!!!
The best advice keep that authentic communication between you two open. From What I am saying you guys are already a head start and doing a great job. Make sure you also have couple time together without Saga as reminder of how you started. Remember one day your babies will grow up and you will be empty nesters staring at each other. Always pray over your marriage. You both are blessed couple...
Thank you for your honesty. This is a safe space for you both here which is quite unique my lovies. Day by day you (Maya) will put pieces of yourself back in place and have the wisdom to know some pieces will fit in new areas of your existence. Lastly go to your playlist and put 2 songs: one that reaches your soul and the other that makes you want 2 just dance. Wisdom & Blessings to you both.
I want my 25 year old daughter and her boyfriend to watch you two. You guys are the epitome of how valuable the work of relationships can be. I love how you share your vulnerability, insight, struggles and needs. You know that your relationship and family are worth fighting for. Yes, the need to establish one's autonomy while parenting a baby is paramount. The needs of infants are monumental. If we do not care for ourselves, physically, emotionally and spiritually, then we are not giving our children the best of us!! Love, love ,love your content!!
I honestly commend you both for even having the audacity, to expose your relationship on this platform. It must of taken a lot of raw courage and unity to employ this. You both are exponentially beautiful and your hearts are full with goodness!! I truly believe that this what we need in our society and community. This is my first view of your content, could not be anymore grateful you both Max & Maya. God Bless you. - Jodici
I think it's amazing that you've sought out couples counseling while your child is so young. I've seen a lot of marriages go downhill after parenthood, as people are changing and stress increases exponentially. Big thanks to you for sharing this part of the journey.
Even in the hard times your relationship reminds me that I should never settle for anything less than this level of emotional maturity, compassion and willingness to grow. Sometimes it feels like these are impossible to find in a potential partner but I see you guys and it gives me hope! Thank you for sharing these conversations
I feel like this is so normal but we’re constantly exposed to the highlight reels of social media and we forget that some parts marriage are as hard as they are beautiful! I think most couples go through this with big life changes, especially a new baby. It gets better ❤️ and therapy is the best!
You guys, thank you for sharing, I am preparing for marriage and this is very helpfull to get insight on how to work through hardship! Cause it is not always going to be roses. Thanks again and keep growing/going✨✨
Oh Maya, I have so much love for you and now for Saga and Max too. Thank you for sharing so generously and with such vulnerability and authenticity. This is a reminder (which you may not need) that you're not 'speaking into the void', that there are many people who are emboldened by your courage and that your intentionality ripples through time and space to reach us at the exact moment we need it the most. Big love from South Africa x
The first year after having a baby is the hardest. The feelings of loss of self, resenting our partner at times, pressures of new life amongst other things. It is truly hard but It gets better!!
This video came at the right time, many of the things you two discussed regarding communication are the same things my husband and I have been experiencing. I remember trying to tell myself I will always try to see my husband for who he is and his efforts, but still we all get tested differently. We’ve been married for 4 months so far and have been long distance ever since we talked. Regardless of how much time a couple has been with one another, communication is important in all relationships in our life, romantic or not ⭐️
The honesty is awesome, you guys do what is best for your love & family. I was watching like...when is Maya going to start crying - girl it is understandable. Enjoy your journey. Wi love unuh nuff nuff.
Children will test a relationship unlike anything you have ever experienced before. Please know that any strain you are experiencing in your relationship is normal especially if you're a fairly new (under 5 yrs) couple. Wishing you the best
I love love love the down-to-earth reality of this video. How you two opened up so vulnerably. I pray for the continuity of this deep love, connection and happiness you two have in your marriage.
POSITIVE isn't synonymous with PERFECT... so the REALITY remains, your connection is authentic, unique and very inspiring for outsiders looking in. Stay blessed and highly favoured Xxx
Hey Maya, I’ve been following you for years and then saw you’re in Sweden with a new family! Congrats! I’m from London and moved to Sweden to be with my partner. We live in Stockholm, London and Alicante part time. Relationships are hard for sure with the culture clash. Good luck and reach out if you’d like to catch up 🤗
I love both of you and how clear and surrendered and vulnerable you are! You both have made major changes and adjustments- this shift, reflection, growing pains of 2 becoming one are all normal! Good on you both for not running and walking it out in love together. I cried with you both almost the entire video. Thank you for being vulnerable in front of us and challenging us to grow by your example ♥️♥️
When Mya got emotional… before I even saw it Max reached out to comfort her. Could be editing but I’d like to think it was an energy shift that he felt and responded to. So sweet 🥰
Encouragement. You are in control of your life. You get to do life, marriage and parenting how you see fit. Allow yourself room to mess it up. It allows you to make it just the way you need it. Saga is a little human. They are far more forgiving and resilient than we give them credit for. You guys are doing awesome
Thank you so much for being willing to share this vulnerable site of y'alls marriage with us! This is so incredible relatable! I was going through something so similar with my husband. "I just want to be heard" 100000% yes to that! I'm a little emotional taurus (we have the same birthday btw :) and my husband is a logical scorpio and he always wants to find a solution after each fight - like NO! I just need you to listen and hear me out! Parenthood is a trip, I had my best highs and worst lows after becoming a mother!
5 things: my life 🙌🏽.. I’m still alive, my Dad (being able to take care of him before he passed, my mom, my friends that are my family, my doctors and my Lord ❤️
I have been married now for 21 years with 5 kids. its not an easy task and it takes a lot of work. as long as you love each other and willing to make it work you will be fine. Also take some time for yourself it really helps a lot
Best advice: be gentle with yourselves and each other. It’s okay to pause and come back to a discussion when you’re ready to have a meaningful conversation and remember that through your disagreements you teach Saga the tools to manage disagreements for her. I think you’re doing just fine, getting therapy now was an awesome decision(very mature). I am a fellow Taurus so I get the stubborn trait, lol. Last tip: remember the oxygen on the plane analogy: you can’t help others if you are depleted. A quick time away recharges you to continue in your journey as parents. Both alone and together. Keep all the videos coming!!
I’ve been watching you for so long Maya, i think before you shaved your head. I’ve watched so many of your ups and downs,relationships, all your moves and new ventures. I’ve watched you grow stronger after each of them. I feel like I understand your instinct to run away and start fresh because I am sort of that way. I hope things get easier for you , you have a lot on your plate and this is totally understandable. I hope you and Max can create the relationship you both want, because no matter who you are with it will always be a bit of a struggle sometimes, as long as you trust each other it will work out just fine and we will always love and respect you.
Guys, thank you so much for sharing your joys and challenges with us ❤🌿, as well as solutions, I think it helps a lot of people to see they are not alone with similar things. And so beautiful how you share love and add some humor and not being afraid to show genuine vulnarability. And btw it is not only about Sun signs, there is so much more to synastry, moon position is super important and other personal planets, and even Saturn and Jupiter )). I had a feeling Max has Moon in Cancer and some planets in Pieces (it's a lot of water /sensitivity and it can be beautiful and creative. Whereas Maya has some fire and air energy apart from earth (Taurus sun). I'd be happy to take a proper look at your charts, especially if birthtime is known. It can help to find even more understanding and harmony. Much love! ❤🌻
Right now is really a tough season in my life. A really tough one. But watching this video made me feel emotionally safe. It felt like I was safe and warm at home, even though my mind is currently controlled by my insecurities and the thought of uncertainties. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful for watching this video; truly listening & connecting out of love and not fear. Even if that feeling may go away, I'm grateful I got to experience it
You guys should check out the book. Men are from mars women are from Venus. It really helps in relationships, communication, and understanding the opposite sex.
You guys are great, working on your relationship constantly. Please know that you are not alone, what makes a good relationship is wanting it to be Good and doing what it takes to have that, never looking for the OUT is key, always wanting to keep the relationship going. As far as not wanting SAGA to see you guys angry...please, please don't keep this hidden. You guys are her reference to Life, how to deal with life. If she does not see that, then she has no reference. The most traumatic thing is when a child does see any conflict and the resolution and then see you go separate ways, this is very confusing - since they have not seen anything wrong. That is the makings for years of unpacking the WHY. So, of course be mindful of her during contrasting situations, but don't shut her totally out, and as she gets older you can talk about feelings, reactions and resolutions. I love you guys, I see you continuing to be happy and healthy in all areas of you life. A Good Life takes work - keep up the good fight, its worth it, you are worth it!
I don't think that you should loose sight of the fact in the last 2 years you've moved continents therefore dealing with a new language, culture, government (visas, rules, immigration taxes, etc.), got married, had a baby and are now renovating your home ... all during an unprecedented global pandemic. Any one of those things by themselves puts pressure on marriages and relationships. Remember to give yourselves grace and ride the wave. I think our generation is so caught up with trying to fix everything that we forget to just ride the wave of a rough time and understand it will pass.
I thought about that too. Maya has been through major life changes and is living in a country where it is easy to lose her sense of self.
Such mature and insightful commentary. I heard an interview with Antonio Banderas (sp?) once. He said that love in martial relationships are like waves at the beach ....they recede but if you're patient they return
Well said. Also hormone levels are still kind of all over the place even post-partum. Trying to be reasonable and rational during this time takes a lot more effort.
Beautifully said! I am so proud of Maya and Max and I love that you guys are real, Maya !you have thought me so much as a woman over 40 and Max! You are leading your family. 🙏🏾🪞🤎
Well said!!
Marrying and having a child after having years of single adult life requires patience and understanding that previous personal freedom is no longer. Being mindful of the source of one's discontent and grateful for the new love and life you share will see you through.
Love this! Thank you for sharing! (I needed to read this, too💗)
True!!!
Excuse me but ummm.....CAN WE NORMALIZE IT BEING OKAY TO HAVE ISSUES EVEN WITHIN A MARRIAGE so that people don't feel like they are failing or not good enough etc.....I love this all of this - THIS IS REAL!!! and thanks for being so damn transparent this will help others whether married or not!....SENDING LOVE HUGS AND SOME GOOD ENERGY ALL THE WAY TO SWEDEN~
Real couple goals, in my opinion. I love the transparency and the love they have for each other 🤎🪞
Big facts. Nobody is perfect and the best marriages have flaws.
After I had my baby, something triggered in me to see my partner at the time differently. It caused separation and to be honest a yearning to leave him. But it happens to so many women as our mother senses grow. I had to learn to extend grace to myself and to him. If I could say anything, find the joy... find the love... and remember why you chose one another. Children will bring out all of your childhood trauma and everything you run away from. Speak with your inner child and let them know that they are safe... because that's what is at the root. Without knowing it, you may be acting out what you've seen as children. Know that it's okay to take a breath, live life on your own terms together and use your love to heal each other where you hurt. I wish you love and happiness eternally.
well said, I was thinking this same thing..
Thank you for sharing this.
Powerful words.
inner-child healing is so important!
Powerful thoughts
I'm glad to see that you both are working on yourself and in the union. Marriage is continual work. Ensure to make time for yourself as well. Much love.
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Ya’ll are a beautiful couple and very self aware which is so important. Marriage is continual work from both people in the union and things drastically change when children come along.
I think there is still a stigma around couples counseling and counseling in general that needs to be broken. There’s nothing wrong with counseling, going to see a therapist doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you care. Athletes have no shame in having a coach so why should there shame in having a coach in life and marriage? Coaching strengthens you.
I also think its important to go during the good times too, even when you don’t think you need it. I honestly think everybody should do couples counseling before they get married
I also like that technique of saying to your partner why your hurt and having to repeat it back to you because so often people only hear what they want to hear to further fuel an argument, rather than listen to understand and mend things. Feeling heard and valued is such an important element in a relationship for both men and women.
I think people will get a lot from this video and you guys being so open. Ya’ll got this. Much love to the family ❤️
You said it perfectly, Jamie!
Well said Jamie ♥️
Thank you Jamie 🙏🏾🙏🏻
Well said, Jaime!
Therapy should always be seen as preventative action.
Allow Christ and Christ alone to be in the center of your marriage. Cry out to him and love him with all your heart. Praying for you all ♥️
One thing that has really stood out to me in this video, is that from the moment Maya started to get teary eyed and Express her emotions, Max immediately caressed Maya's back.
This may seem minor to some, but it hugely represents a divine connection between two people.
Thank you for sharing your real and raw experiences. It's not easy but will get better for you individually, as a couple and as a family!
I noticed that too.
His hands were already behind before I saw the tears.
That means he noticed the change in her voice and quickly came in.
Fabulous!
Aww bless you guys! Isn’t being a human crazy? God is amazing, and he allows us to grow appropriately at his perfect timing in our lives. You guys clearly love one another and it’s so beautiful to see how you guys are growing together. ❤️❤️❤️
Such a sweet and uplifting message 💛
Listen! My husband and I were so in love until the baby came. It changed everything for me and him too, I imagine. Babies change so much…the roles change and women change so much after children….and hormone changes. It’s a lot. I get it. But if you can make it through this challenging stage, it gets better. You two seem very committed to the your family unit that I believe it’s possible for you. Marriage and children are not easy and doing it in a foreign country away from family and friends just makes it so much harder. Love and blessings to you both as you navigate your way.
Aww, I think Saga witnessing good conflict resolutions examples is better than no conflict at all! Conflict, being angry is part of life and she will know that as well, and best you hope she got conflict resolutions and communications skills from you guys xx
🤔 never thought of it like that! Nice!
Thisssss
As a mom of three, now 19,18 and 11, I am resonating with Maya’s emotions. This was me right after having my kids... especially the first child. After becoming a mom, I instantly had a whole new set of expectations for my partner. Grateful for my kids. Grateful for being able to make a living painting. Grateful for my home. Grateful for food. Grateful for water. Life is just so magical. Thank you Creator!
Y’all I hope you understand how appreciative we are of you. Your wisdom is worth more than gold. Stay blessed 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you so much for your honesty
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing! I’ve learned so much from you two, and I’m grateful for that! Some things I’ve learned from you guys are:
1. Don’t let gender roles define you, and instead find a partner that provides what YOU need.
2. Keep growing and learning
3. Preventative therapy is wonderful, helpful, and not a sign of failure AT ALL
4. It’s okay to take time and space for yourself
5. Be shameless and put yourself out there 😉
This is so awesome to read
I also realized when you see couples that make it many years, die together when their elderly, most people don't think a MAJOR accomplishment to marriage is they made it through this stage. We seem to always think of i.e. the "10 year mark" when marriages seem to get stale and people question their life w/out the other person, which leads to divorce. We need to hear more of how a new addition can break marriages as well. And that it takes strength and commitment to go through this phase what you two are going through. I hope you both make it and pray through it, God Bless
Tbh, it IS well known that the birth of a baby is a major pressure point in marriage. But I don't see that much advice on how to deal with it. And isolation may also be a thing for a new mother as well.
One thing no one told me about being a parent was how hard it is to hold your tongue when your child is around. Before kids, you could just argue with your spouse and then make up after, but now with a baby, we know we shouldn’t fight infront of him but it’s so hard! When emotions are high, it’s so easy to forget there’s a child there watching and absorbing what you are saying and how you are acting. And to you, you were behaving in the heat of the moment etc., but to the child, they are watching mommy and daddy fight and the last thing you want is your child to see any kind of negativity coming from you. It takes so much self control to be respectful to your partner infront of your child regardless of how you feel in the moment and man that is hard work!!!!! Self restraint is hard-freaking-work. I currently have a 6 month old and I am trying to learn this but it is hard. Solidarity to you guys💕
Loved how Max responded by putting his arms around you when you teared up.
The vast majority of social media can have people out here thinking that if your relationship doesn't feel like a bubbly Sunday brunch every single day that there's something wrong with you or with your partner. Meanwhile the reality is all relationships have their gnarly bits and take work. Thank you for sharing the real ish!
It gets better...I mean like WAY BETTER. Something about the age that Saga is right now + working from home + the industry we work in...it brings out the crazy in us! Our boy is now going on 2 years old and it's SIGNIFICANTLY DIFFERENT! There's more margin in our brains it feels. I started to feel that margin around 1.5 years!
oh no...those ages are horrible with tantums...at 4 they get an attitude and think they can send you around.
Diversify your income. Selling the details of your life online for currency sucks. Sharing the intimate details of your personal life for money isn’t worth it. Don’t get sucked into trading your personal intimacy for dollars.
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When you put God first, everything does and will come into form. God’s way of doing things especially in marriage is all over the Bible. You’re dealing with two different people, different upbringings, different opinions sometimes and you need something outside of you to tell you what’s RIGHT. For me that’s God.
It’s unfortunate a lot of people stray away from God and they don’t survive because they’d rather take it on themselves. Not saying Maya particularly but in general. The divorce rates are HIGH. The times were in are stressful, add a child to that too?
We all need God I’ll be the few to say it ❤️
You both don't have to share the intimate details of your life and struggles, but I am so grateful that you do. I am incredibly grateful for the realness of the ups and downs of life in love. Don't worry Saga feels the love, because we can see it.
🥺 oh Maya when you were talking and crying about all the responsibilities as a mom and wife made me teary eyed because I felt the same when I became a mother. As new parents, there is just so much going on with everything. Moms need space, dads need space and even babies will too eventually. Therapy is always a great help. And having solo activities helps too.
Max , what you say is true about going through difficult times. You are both going to be stronger than before :)
Thank you for your great videos :)
Hello, how're you doing today?
There is so much pretending in the world. We desperately need these honest chats. Thank you for sharing. I pray love and joy for your family.
I think you’ve both had an immense amount of transition, especially Maya. Someone who’s been able to just move & go as you please for so long, trust me, I get it. Give yourselves some grace… it’s a LOT that has changed in your lives. From being solo & free to having so many responsibilities absolutely makes a person feel restrained; & that’s not a good feeling for free spirited ppl. Your still & always an individual 1st & STILL deserve to have space just for you. I hope you find balance in it all🙏🏽 From one “runner” to another, I totally get it! xoxo
Wow. The fact that Max could tell sis was about to tear up before we actually saw it made my heart warm.
Being so far removed from familiarity and family can't be easy as beautiful as it all is. Prayers for you both. All the best
Another very important factor they didn’t touch on. It really does take a village to raise a child.
Relationships and parenthood are hard work. Hang in there guys. You've got this!!
Maya- You are such a pure spirit. Be patient with yourself. It is so important to be selfish at times with yourself- doing things YOU enjoy doing. I remember becoming a mom and seeking out ways to feed myself with things that brought me joy- even as small as taking a dance class, going to a coffee shop and enjoying a cup of coffee, talking and laughing with friends, journaling/praying. I am a Taurus-so I understand the need to go for a walk and connect with nature when you’re heated- because we can really get heated..lol. Take care…
Don’t give up. Even when you are at your worst, they’re, or y’all are burnt out. Marriage is ebb and flow. Good and tough times. It always gets stronger and WAY better if you stick with it and grow together. Y’all got this!!
Didn’t know how much I needed this. The video and the comments. Gave birth about two years ago and wonder if we will ever get back to what we were. I lean into the love but it is hard
I never leave comments and do realise this was shared over a year ago but deeply appreciate this honest openness about your struggles; showing that no relationship (none at all!) is purrfect but above all, I pray that you both work out and grey out together for real! There's a genuine vibe and love between you two and gosh, do I pray to God that he keeps you both forever! amen!!!!
👍🙏I have a suggestion: you guys grew your love over the phone & away from each other. Separate into separate rooms or one goes for a walk or one stays inside and one goes outside then call each other on the phone AND TALK it through. Listening and restating / mirroring is important but more than what you say or do it’s how you make each other feel. 💝
Hormones still out of whack so relax some! Disagreements are normal! Relationships require growth and improvement so it takes time
Thank you for addressing the "romanticism" of having children. So many mothers do not admit this to themselves. These couples look so miserable and are not proactive by going to couple's therapy.
First, thank you for your raw honesty. You are literally in the trenches right now. I relate so much to you, because I too live in Europe and am from North America. It was tough, building a new community of my own and adjusting to marriage and kids so far away from family in a really different culture. I wish you all (Saga included), peace and clarity as you live out your vision of who you want to be as a family and as a couple. Lots of love and positive vibes to both of you.
Boy, you two are so honest and I am tearing up because boy, can I relate! As a brand new mama to my 6 month old daughter; me and my partner have had similar issues and arguments. And when it happens in front of my daughter, it breaks my heart. But at the same time, there’s so little time alone (if none some days), that it’s really not easy 🥺. We can only do our best as parents and have grace for ourselves in difficult transitions. It’s NOT easy at all 😥
Completely besides the point but Maya, I LOVE your hair! I always say I'ma act right and braid mine so it'll be a non issue for a few days but get distracted with how much time it takes and say forget it! LOL. Love it!
Aww babe🥺, you guys will turn a corner, especially you Maya, you have completely done a 360, you have moved to other side of the world to have mostly every girls dream ‘a family’ but not only are you a first time amazing mum, your having to adjust to a loving new husband, a new country, a new language, home renovations, body changes, super sensitive and emosh because of the hormones trying be regulated, you tube and no me time, not to mention you guys not having space as a family and your staying with Max’s supportive sister and your doing this ALL without your ‘SUPPORT SYSTEM’
ie: family/friends etc - Sssssheeesh!
Babe you should be so proud of yourself honestly hun real talk! You have sacrificed a whole lot. I’am so impressed that Max suggested for a professional this shows true strength because that takes guts. Guys you will ride this wave as you are ‘trying’ and that’s all that matters. Sending big love from London 🇬🇧
I haven’t finished watching yet but had to pause to comment (I don’t usually comment) a huge thank you for being so open about the realities of marriage not being perfect. You guys are amazing and wonderful and hope you know how much you’re impacting others with your sharing❤️❤️❤️
The transparency and authenticity is everything ☺️ I think that’s why many of us love and appreciate when y’all make videos like this as well. Because we are always bombarded with mostly highlights and the positive sides of marriages, relationships, and motherhood on social media. Not many (esp couples) dive into the nitty gritty of the parts that tend to be more realistic and uncomfortable to share and experience. That’s the “shameless” impact that we still see and love; always being genuine and real regardless of what stage of life you’re in. But of course, we still love seeing you all progress and flourish as well despite the human/humbling parts of life that comes behind the scenes 😊💕
Thank you, Max and Maya !! I learned that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage, and couples counseling is for every marriage.
I completely understand where you two are coming from. I am also 40 with a 2 month old. This is our first child and my husband and I are constantly bickering. We finally had a heart to heart about our needs and it’s starting to get better. Every marriage has its challenges and I am happy you guys are working through it. Thank you for sharing.
I love how authentic you are as a couple. So many times couples present a perfect picture online then break up seemingly out of nowhere. I appreciate your journey and your imperfections. I love that you're not only discussing the problems but also talking about how you're working through them and the constant effort that goes into that process.
This is the most relatable video I've ever watched in my life so far. Currently going through this struggle as a wife and first time mother. We decided to seek counseling.
I love hearing about how you keep your marriage fresh and vibrant! I am here for love! There is always going to be challenges in marriage. Just keep on it, love, share and encourage each other. Rooting for you both!!!
Awww, I’m crying, understand how you feel, what’s good is that you’ll are doing the necessary work
I’m a Runner too. I noticed the pattern in therapy. I love to run from hardship. Relationships, jobs and friendships. It takes time.
This was the most beautiful video Ever to watch. To see the transparency and vulnerability is beyond measure. It would be nice to see the family doing content on things you love doing around the castle. I love this channel and it gets better with. Stay Strong Power Couple!!
The transparency is EVERYTHING- thank you 💚
#grateful for my:
•faith
•family
•health
•friends
•employment
👍🙏😭💝Everything WILL be okay. Keep talking through it. It’s when couples stop talking that the marriage is over. Remember to see each other as your friend and most loved dear one…when you think like that you let the ego go, you don’t want to hurt each other. Remember you’re not truing to win at the risk of losing each other and your marriage. Ask yourself what it costs you to “get your way” or “win an argument”?
You guys are together 24/7/365 you have to do one or two things separately. I love you guys & I’m hoping and praying your marriage will be filled with love and last a lifetime. 🙏😭💝💖
Haven't watched this yet but I just want to say I'm sending you both so much love 💗 Standing by your side in spirit through this time.
Ohh same here, hi
How are you
There’s another RUclipsr that is candid about there relationship. I am glad that your working on your relationship & your self.
Being young parents is very difficult and on top of that Maya is in foreign country learning a new language! That’s a lot!! I’m so happy you got help!! Thank you for sharing and your honesty! 💚🌿🌷
Aw, maya is so sweet. Like how deeply they want to protect that little girl, that’s a beautiful thing to share. As well as the care they have for one another. And the desire to keep holding space even in challenging moments. Life can be so hard and I can’t imagine how much more so with a kid.
You guys are doing great.
I recommend Gottman Institue and or Esther Perel. I do not agree with everything but so much is put so well that you can grasp the main points. Does not replace a GOOD couples therapy of course.
I can tell you Max, I want therapy before I get married to my bae because I see that we have unresolved childhood trauma that will come up. Better to be prematurly there than too late.
Omg! This is so healthy and wholesome! Saga is so lucky to have you guys as parents and I'm sure you guys feel the same about your baby girl. It's refreshing to see the both of you being transparent, being a team, and showing consistent growth. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're inspiring.
Although there are some couples that describe their relationship as “Easy” I think the hard conversations are helpful to earning a different level of love, respect and dedication to each other. Thank you for being honest. Wishing you all nothing but the best for every twist and turn life sends you. 🖤
Thanks for being so open and honest. I'm newly married, just a little over 1 year. It hasn't been easy and we haven't had children yet. Love from Jamaica 🇯🇲 ❤️
Y’all are so sweet 🥲 I’m crying with you Maya 😂🥲 I have 4 kids and it is beyond what I imagined in the best way but i come very very very last. I’m encouraged by you two and pray that you grow to get a hang of this thing called life and the new normal. Saga is blessed to have you both 💕 as long as we try to do better for them and yourselves it’ll all work out. Your hair is so pretty Maya and Max you are such a great guy ☺️I’m so happy you have found each other and choose to share with us your amazing life 😊🙏🏽💕
These conversations between couples, new parents are so important!!! Feeling stressed or frustrated is completely normal and being able to discuss it with one another is key! I love these real topics that Maya and Max discuss!!! Thankful for you guys, Saga is lucky to have you guys as parents! ❤
I LOVE yawl relationship! We aren't perfect, but you two seem perfect for one another. I love that you both are open to change. That's what I seek within a partner.
Hello, how're you doing today?
Maya, you have a good man who truly loves you and loves this family. It is so clear from this video that he is so deeply committed to you and that you are more inclined to walking away from it. Don’t lose your family based on temporary emotions and ego. Family and love is the greatest currency in the world, and u got that right here so hold on tight to it!!!
The best advice keep that authentic communication between you two open. From What I am saying you guys are already a head start and doing a great job. Make sure you also have couple time together without Saga as reminder of how you started. Remember one day your babies will grow up and you will be empty nesters staring at each other. Always pray over your marriage. You both are blessed couple...
Thank you for your honesty. This is a safe space for you both here which is quite unique my lovies.
Day by day you (Maya) will put pieces of yourself back in place and have the wisdom to know some pieces will fit in new areas of your existence. Lastly go to your playlist and put 2 songs: one that reaches your soul and the other that makes you want 2 just dance. Wisdom & Blessings to you both.
what a beautiful message
I want my 25 year old daughter and her boyfriend to watch you two. You guys are the epitome of how valuable the work of relationships can be. I love how you share your vulnerability, insight, struggles and needs. You know that your relationship and family are worth fighting for. Yes, the need to establish one's autonomy while parenting a baby is paramount. The needs of infants are monumental. If we do not care for ourselves, physically, emotionally and spiritually, then we are not giving our children the best of us!! Love, love ,love your content!!
I honestly commend you both for even having the audacity, to expose your relationship on this platform. It must of taken a lot of raw courage and unity to employ this. You both are exponentially beautiful and your hearts are full with goodness!! I truly believe that this what we need in our society and community. This is my first view of your content, could not be anymore grateful you both Max & Maya. God Bless you.
- Jodici
I think it's amazing that you've sought out couples counseling while your child is so young. I've seen a lot of marriages go downhill after parenthood, as people are changing and stress increases exponentially. Big thanks to you for sharing this part of the journey.
Even in the hard times your relationship reminds me that I should never settle for anything less than this level of emotional maturity, compassion and willingness to grow. Sometimes it feels like these are impossible to find in a potential partner but I see you guys and it gives me hope! Thank you for sharing these conversations
I feel like this is so normal but we’re constantly exposed to the highlight reels of social media and we forget that some parts marriage are as hard as they are beautiful! I think most couples go through this with big life changes, especially a new baby. It gets better ❤️ and therapy is the best!
You guys, thank you for sharing, I am preparing for marriage and this is very helpfull to get insight on how to work through hardship! Cause it is not always going to be roses. Thanks again and keep growing/going✨✨
Oh Maya, I have so much love for you and now for Saga and Max too. Thank you for sharing so generously and with such vulnerability and authenticity. This is a reminder (which you may not need) that you're not 'speaking into the void', that there are many people who are emboldened by your courage and that your intentionality ripples through time and space to reach us at the exact moment we need it the most. Big love from South Africa x
The first year after having a baby is the hardest. The feelings of loss of self, resenting our partner at times, pressures of new life amongst other things. It is truly hard but It gets better!!
This video came at the right time, many of the things you two discussed regarding communication are the same things my husband and I have been experiencing. I remember trying to tell myself I will always try to see my husband for who he is and his efforts, but still we all get tested differently. We’ve been married for 4 months so far and have been long distance ever since we talked.
Regardless of how much time a couple has been with one another, communication is important in all relationships in our life, romantic or not ⭐️
Great video, 15 years ago I wish my husband and I were smart enough to get counseling after having my daughter, maybe we would have had a 2nd child.
The honesty is awesome, you guys do what is best for your love & family. I was watching like...when is Maya going to start crying - girl it is understandable. Enjoy your journey. Wi love unuh nuff nuff.
Children will test a relationship unlike anything you have ever experienced before. Please know that any strain you are experiencing in your relationship is normal especially if you're a fairly new (under 5 yrs) couple. Wishing you the best
Hello so true
I love love love the down-to-earth reality of this video. How you two opened up so vulnerably. I pray for the continuity of this deep love, connection and happiness you two have in your marriage.
Same here hello 👋
POSITIVE isn't synonymous with PERFECT... so the REALITY remains, your connection is authentic, unique and very inspiring for outsiders looking in. Stay blessed and highly favoured Xxx
Hey Maya, I’ve been following you for years and then saw you’re in Sweden with a new family! Congrats! I’m from London and moved to Sweden to be with my partner. We live in Stockholm, London and Alicante part time. Relationships are hard for sure with the culture clash. Good luck and reach out if you’d like to catch up 🤗
I love both of you and how clear and surrendered and vulnerable you are! You both have made major changes and adjustments- this shift, reflection, growing pains of 2 becoming one are all normal! Good on you both for not running and walking it out in love together. I cried with you both almost the entire video. Thank you for being vulnerable in front of us and challenging us to grow by your example ♥️♥️
When Mya got emotional… before I even saw it Max reached out to comfort her. Could be editing but I’d like to think it was an energy shift that he felt and responded to. So sweet 🥰
Encouragement. You are in control of your life. You get to do life, marriage and parenting how you see fit. Allow yourself room to mess it up. It allows you to make it just the way you need it. Saga is a little human. They are far more forgiving and resilient than we give them credit for. You guys are doing awesome
i just love you guys transparency and support for each other. This is true teamwork!
Thank you so much for being willing to share this vulnerable site of y'alls marriage with us! This is so incredible relatable! I was going through something so similar with my husband. "I just want to be heard" 100000% yes to that! I'm a little emotional taurus (we have the same birthday btw :) and my husband is a logical scorpio and he always wants to find a solution after each fight - like NO! I just need you to listen and hear me out! Parenthood is a trip, I had my best highs and worst lows after becoming a mother!
5 things: my life 🙌🏽.. I’m still alive, my Dad (being able to take care of him before he passed, my mom, my friends that are my family, my doctors and my Lord ❤️
Hi 👋🏾 beautiful family I’m not married but I know this beautiful life No! One is Prefect just Trust each other
Parenthood is not easy. Especially the first couple of years. Hang in there. It gets better.
I have been married now for 21 years with 5 kids. its not an easy task and it takes a lot of work. as long as you love each other and willing to make it work you will be fine. Also take some time for yourself it really helps a lot
Wow, how awesome y’all are for being so vulnerable and transparent! Saga has a great family, and y’all are doing more than enough.
Best advice: be gentle with yourselves and each other. It’s okay to pause and come back to a discussion when you’re ready to have a meaningful conversation and remember that through your disagreements you teach Saga the tools to manage disagreements for her. I think you’re doing just fine, getting therapy now was an awesome decision(very mature). I am a fellow Taurus so I get the stubborn trait, lol. Last tip: remember the oxygen on the plane analogy: you can’t help others if you are depleted. A quick time away recharges you to continue in your journey as parents. Both alone and together. Keep all the videos coming!!
That’s so true , , thanks so much
I’ve been watching you for so long Maya, i think before you shaved your head. I’ve watched so many of your ups and downs,relationships, all your moves and new ventures. I’ve watched you grow stronger after each of them. I feel like I understand your instinct to run away and start fresh because I am sort of that way. I hope things get easier for you , you have a lot on your plate and this is totally understandable. I hope you and Max can create the relationship you both want, because no matter who you are with it will always be a bit of a struggle sometimes, as long as you trust each other it will work out just fine and we will always love and respect you.
Guys, thank you so much for sharing your joys and challenges with us ❤🌿, as well as solutions, I think it helps a lot of people to see they are not alone with similar things. And so beautiful how you share love and add some humor and not being afraid to show genuine vulnarability. And btw it is not only about Sun signs, there is so much more to synastry, moon position is super important and other personal planets, and even Saturn and Jupiter )). I had a feeling Max has Moon in Cancer and some planets in Pieces (it's a lot of water /sensitivity and it can be beautiful and creative. Whereas Maya has some fire and air energy apart from earth (Taurus sun). I'd be happy to take a proper look at your charts, especially if birthtime is known. It can help to find even more understanding and harmony.
Much love! ❤🌻
Right now is really a tough season in my life. A really tough one. But watching this video made me feel emotionally safe. It felt like I was safe and warm at home, even though my mind is currently controlled by my insecurities and the thought of uncertainties. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful for watching this video; truly listening & connecting out of love and not fear. Even if that feeling may go away, I'm grateful I got to experience it
You guys should check out the book. Men are from mars women are from Venus. It really helps in relationships, communication, and understanding the opposite sex.
Love you braids girl. So naturally beautiful.
You guys are great, working on your relationship constantly. Please know that you are not alone, what makes a good relationship is wanting it to be Good and doing what it takes to have that, never looking for the OUT is key, always wanting to keep the relationship going. As far as not wanting SAGA to see you guys angry...please, please don't keep this hidden. You guys are her reference to Life, how to deal with life. If she does not see that, then she has no reference. The most traumatic thing is when a child does see any conflict and the resolution and then see you go separate ways, this is very confusing - since they have not seen anything wrong. That is the makings for years of unpacking the WHY. So, of course be mindful of her during contrasting situations, but don't shut her totally out, and as she gets older you can talk about feelings, reactions and resolutions. I love you guys, I see you continuing to be happy and healthy in all areas of you life. A Good Life takes work - keep up the good fight, its worth it, you are worth it!
Love the transparency and authenticity. These conversations are so important.
I highly recommend reading the book "Attached." About attachment theory, it literally saved my relationship, as well as The Four Agreements.